Why you always feel so mentally drained.
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When we constantly sweat the small stuff it has implications on our happiness, the quality of our relationships and, if we aren’t careful, it can even impact the outcome of really important decisions... like choosing where to invest our money or deciding if you should take that job in a new city. Let’s talk about decision fatigue and how it might be ruining your life.
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tldw: wear the same shirt everyday.
it's as easy as that
I love you
True. Been wearing the same outfit the past week. Clean every day, no extra decision to make haha.
I have the feeling that you are my doctor that tells me what to change. btw: yes you are a god in minimalism.
I made this decision this year and it rocks! Plain black or dark grey t-shirts all day, everyday yeah!
I'm still always blown away by the cinematography on this channel, Matt is in another league.
Thanks, Archie!
Truly
@@mattdavella he's at least at 70k decisions a day!
He loves his craft. He brought his film making tier production quality to these TH-cam content streets.
Ikr
He blurred out the background
So we don't get distracted n just focus on him
Decision fatigue is clearly an important factor in this collective mental breakdown that we're experiencing. But, in my opinion, the biggest factor is the overstimulation of our brains, not just decision, but all the incredibly irrelevant information that we're subjected at all times. It's interesting to see this overstimulation in an era that thinks so little.
Yes, Paulo!
Exactly! Thank you
yep i completely agree
Yes, but also it felt like my mind woke up from just everyday when I started listening to an interesting podcast each day. I forgot that it can be fun to make the brain work a little. 😅
What are some ways we can reduce this stimulation in our everyday lives?
For all those who do not want to wear the same thing every day: Put the clothes out in the evening. Then you save the energy in the morning!
I always do this, definitely helps
Or you can also simply have an order in which you wear clothes. Like I wore A yesterday, B today and will wear C tomorrow and then repeat.
I myself wear anything that I see first and then move on to procrastinating on other things.
THIS. I ALWAYS DO THIS
But what if you are too tired in the evening???
I don't like the evening, it's always where I get tired or the sun causes me some headaches
Noting to myself
1. Reduce the amount of decisions
Ex: reduce to-do list from 20 to 10, say no to all irrelevant projects, social gatherings.
2. Automate processes
Ex: be like Matt, wear the same shirt
/don't waste your time on choosing outfit./
3. Make most important decisions first thing in the morning
Note to myself: let's decide on the issues of my life that need to be fixed rather than pondering whether it is appropriate to like the post of my schoolmates(with whom I lost contact 7 years ago.
Screenshot to myself 📸
Tks for that
*Cause:*
Decision fatigue
*Solution:*
Reduce the amount of decision
Automate decisions
Make your important decision in morning
Matt's sense of humor as its finest lately. I laughed a lot with this one.
All these amazing people wearing the same shirt…
Yeah, totally agree. Timing of comedy is getting really good here! (Not to mention the quality of the content in itself)
Definitely, always add a touch of levity to his videos.
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I believe meditation should be a practice we all do on a daily basis to have more energy and feel relaxed, totally changed my life. I gave up on it like 7 times but once I really understood what worked for me it became so powerful. I got rid of anxiety, low energy, boosted my self esteem and confidence. Wish you all an amazing 2022
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What works for you? What's changed?
Yea what worked for u?
I work as a dispatcher. Decisions are all I do. And that's true when I'm coming back home I'm not able to think straight. Two days ago my wife asked me if I preferred lego set or a coffee mug as a present because her sister didn't knew what to get me. I've crumbled, this little question at the end of the day destroyed me. Now I understand what happened more.
What present did you get in the end?
@@KeepingOnTheWatch Oh, she waited too long and didn't get me anything in the end. But I got a surprise Lego (75280) from my own sister which was extremely nice, felt like a kid again.
@@traktorek3675 Ah, that model is a Star Wars set - Nice! Your exterior is mature because of the years but the kernel inside - the real you - is still a kid.
I had the same work a few years ago.. Now I understand why even deciding what to eat next would put my in an existential crisis.
What's interesting is that I've been mentally trained to make quick, snap decisions, from my time in kitchens.
It's more of the "how do we fix this right now right now" and worry about the repricusssions later.
My wife hates it.
Hahaha underated comment!
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Haha! You have to do that to survive in a kitchen 😅 although I can see how that would have some negative repercussions at home 😬
Same. My husband ends up calling me impatient.
That is why meditation is often felt like such a relief (among other things). For a time, the mind can rest from the "pulling and pushing" of decisions
Completely agree with you my man, just came here to post about meditation haha.
For me, the more that I've reduced social media from my life and stopped getting any input from the news, the more clear I feel. Great video Matt
Agree 100% social media detox man, life changing.
How do you do it being a content creator? I feel like all I want is to avoid social media, and yet I need to make myself present all the time in order to sell and scale my business
Rich coming from you considering you comment on every bloody youtube video going
Now reduce Matt D’Avella from your life
Completely agree
I'm betting people who just finished Christmas shopping would fail the ice water test immediately
Ayy glad to see you here. This is very similar to your “Willpower is for losers” video. Great stuff! :)
dude
I saw your video "will power is for losers" Loved it. As usual your videos are superb!
just "ye- no. i quit."
Damn, Matt, this week I was just trying to explain this weird feeling to my therapist, this mental exhaustion that was even stopping me from answering people on WhatsApp! And we couldn’t figure it out what the problem was haha but that’s it, decision fatigue! Thanks Matt, you just saved me some therapy sessions😂😂
I think i have same problem.. i am feeling like i live in world when i have to pick side all the time till i get lifeless
@Dalton Black not everyone, what about jordan Peterson
@Dalton Black man of knowledge i see, nice
Can Music save your mortal soul th-cam.com/video/-uexjy4sWu4/w-d-xo.html
It’s late at night, and I read your comment thinking that your therapist stopped messaging you on whatsapp because of it.
I always come back to this channel (and have done for years) whenever i'm struggling to stay focused. The honesty and transparency you offer as a creator is second to none.
I’m a single mother of a disabled child, run my own household, and am a small business owner of a few businesses. Because I have to make so many decisions throughout the day that can definitely impact others, I eliminate some of my daily minor decisions. Such as: I eat the same exact thing for breakfast, I take my coffee the same exact way (black), I have the same three things to pick from at work to eat for lunch, I utilize smart devices set on a specific schedule for lights/charging/cleaning, and I often wear what looks like the same exact thing everyday (mostly fitted black monochrome clothing.) Not needing to waste time and energy thinking about minor things like these gives me more energy to focus on other more important things. It’s also very important for me to take a quick 5-7 minute break in playing a dorky Snapchat Bitmoji game to break up the monotony and give myself a laugh-which helps me refocus on tasks at hand. Sometimes, I secretly do a bunch of quick jumping jacks in the bathroom to burn up some physical energy. It’s important to energize yourself with natural-good feelings and laughter every once in awhile. 😂😊
Helpful tip that’s changed my life: putting a sticky note on my desk that says, “NO.” I heard it from someone on an episode of The Daily Stoic podcast. I think it was Robert Greene or Steven Pressfield.
What does it do?
@@helsbels says no
@@nori106 well yes obviously that, but what's the effect?
No what? No banana? No notes?
the fact that i took five major courses this term and started waiting at least 3 working days to reply to most people... definitely decision fatigue at its worst
This is so interesting to me. I’ve been struggling with intense intrusive thoughts since about 2016. It’s so mentally draining and I’ve been looking for a solution for years. I’ve been trying low stress scenarios to no avail. It’s really hard to stop focusing so intensely on stupid or made up things. I love this video. I should try this method as I always end up completely exhausted.
Reading The Untethered Soul may help
What I learned in middle school, prepping your clothes and books the night before will give my mind time to start-up for the day. Not draining mental energy that I'll need for the rest of the day.
Living with a narcissistic parent has mentally exhausted me drained any form of happiness from my soul.
I think Matt should write a book. I think the less decisions we make through out the day the happier we can be. I'm 20 years old and I'm happy I found you on TH-cam a couple years ago because of you I have become minimalist and I'm much more happy
Motivation is temporary, discipline is forever
If removing clothing choices seems daunting to you, start off small. I've started leaving clean socks and t-shirts out for myself in advance of certain days, so I'm out and clothed easier. Obviously if you have some big, corporate event you should be putting more effort into it, but for normal days? You know yourself better than anyone else and what clothes will work for you productively.
My decision making has gotten worse over the years and I can tell. I find myself taking longer to make the smallest decision or no decision at all. We as a Society definitely needs help.
The opening cinematography was particularly fantastic. 👌😊 I've been watching your videos since my teen years-thank you for consistently wonderful work, Matt!!
Thanks, Alina! :)
Noticed this as well. The more options we have, the less satisfied we are if we let the choices paralyze us. We need to practice more awareness in our decisions - for they shape how we will live short term and long term.
The challenge is, we don't know how to be satisfied deeply anymore, or we've been programmed to want it all.
Really cool book - must read in my opinion: Thinking fast and slow (pretty sure lot of you guys might heard of it). Talking 'bout fatigue etc. will be explained using the two systems of thinking (psy.) we have and use. The more our cognitive energy drains over time - like matt explains - the more dificult it actually gets to stop us from making impulsive descisions.
That hit me differently. A week ago I noticed that I was taking (no exagerattion) 1-2 HOURS to choose what outfit I would wear in a day.
I always took so long choosing that at the end I was so exhausted that I didnt even wanna leave the house anymore LOL.
Now what I started doing is putting the first outfit I think of and EVEN if I dont really like it I just go do other things, like brushing my teeth, putting contact lenses, doing my hair, etc. And then when I look back at the mirror I end up realising that I actually like the outfit I'm wearing, or at least I dont give it that much thought: "Ah, its ok. It doesnt really matter". This has been helping me a lot .
Try a capsule wardrobe. It doesn’t really matter the number of items, just make sure everything goes well with everything else. You could also write some outfits on paper, cut them so you get some cards and shuffle them. Every day you take one and whatever is written is what you wear.
@@carolc2574 this is such a brilliant idea!
Honestly I think I have been doing the whole "Decision making avoidance" strat for months now. Especially around December. Thanks for defining it for me to assist me with understanding and identifying it!
I'm tired because I don't have much to do but nothing seems fun and interesting too me anymore either and no I'm not depressed either.
Don't compare your 2. chapter to someone elses 20. You might think your story is not good enough but it is not over yet. *Keep dreaming and putting in the work. I believe in you...*
One of my favorite videos from you!! Wow
When we’re poor in making decisions we can easily get into people pleasing mode. To help me make better decisions I prioritise my goals for the day and be clear on my goals for the week. That way when people ask for my help, I’m clear on what I can and can’t do and I communicate that clearly. Thanks for today’s video
Loving the content lately
Wassup bro, can you tell my name 😅
Mix decision fatigue with alcohol and this is the problem with weekends 😂
Honestly Matt, I have reached a point in my life where I know what I want and no one changes that for me. I make a list and stick to it.
I’ve always wondered how the decision fatigue research lines up with folks who do their best / creative work later in the day (night owls).
Like musicians and poets
I guess their days are shitty because they don't get a lot done.
Chill, eat, chat, then comes the night.
*Like I always say*
*Believe in yourself*
*You can do it*
*Stay positive*
*&*
*Keep smiling* 💛
@BasementDiaries 😂😂
You talking about all of those choices we make in a day with the music in the background is exactly what anxiety feels like
I always struggle with trying to simplify my life. Let’s just say 2022 is gonna be a habit breaking year!
Habit’s are the energy saving thing our brain has developed! They don’t cost anywhere bear the same energy as decisions.
I would recommend making more efficient habits.
@@olord7426 makes sense!
Totally blown away by the fact that we make THAT MUCH decision making a day. No wonder we're always tired.
Loved this one. The fact that impulsivity is affected by overthinking the small stuff... so relatable! This gave my a lot of clarity.
Hi Matt,
I am one of those people who rarely comment & one of those who rarely laugh about jokes because my brain anticipates most of them and therefore kills the element of surprise.. but I can honestly say that I love your humor! Your jokes are clever, lovingly crafted down to the last detail, and perfectly embedded in the story of the video. So glad you decided to spice up your videos by putting in some of that awesome sense of humor. Greetings & merry christmas from Germany!
The rock joke made you laugh ? It was pretty basic tbh
A very important skill, especially if you're going to be a self-starter is learning how to make a decision, to pull the trigger, because it's one thing to fill decision fatigue, it is entirely another to not able able to make A decision.
I find that the best you are at making INFORMED decisions QUICKLY, the more likely you are to handle decision fatigue. Kinda cool!
I think the struggle is between being too careful and throwing caution to the wind.
i’ve been wearing the same pair of black jeans, one of about twenty white tees and the same boots everyday for years now .. if i post a photo from spain taken two years ago, or a photo from paris last week; i look exactly the same - and matt, i cannot tell you how much this and yourself have helped me just in this aspect alone
Before starting the vid I already feel like I needed this. I’ve been feeling weighed down and feel like my mind isn’t in the right headspace.
The videos you make are so great and feel like I can disconnect and connect to this when I’m feeling mentally drained.
THE DOMAIN ACTUALLY EXISTS props on commitment
It amazes me that the timing of your content release relates on my current situation most of the time. It kinda feels uplifting. Thank you.
Matt this is a YT video not a documentary. You have no chill.
The quality of these videos are incredible.
This video reminds me of Buridan's Donkey.
The donkey is faced with two different bales of hay. The bale's are identical, but the donkey can't decide which one to choose. The Donkey eventually starves to death.
This is how most people live their life, they either can't choose, or when they do choose they spend all their time thinking about the other bale.
Trust you've made the right choice and keep going, you got this 💙
This is so me, and to a very critical point that i am getting severe headaches and apathy because of it. Now i understand the correct term for this, thank you matt
*Everything negative around you is an opportunity for you to rise up. Stop caring about what others are thinking, just start putting in the work. I am cheering for you...*
I have obsessive compulsive disorder and it's even worse. Because banal decisions for me become a matter of life or death. If I have to choose between two completely identical objects, it takes time to understand which of the two is a threat to my health or that of my loved ones. It is a matter of hunch. It's completely exhausting.
WOW, this gave me a whole new perspective and I feel like am a different person now. Much appreciation Matt!
Decision fatigue is very real! I’m only just pulling through the other side of a decision burnout
“You just throw both of them in the car and hope for the best” That is right in more aspects in life. This is such a good video and I really enjoyed the cinematography. Really hoping that one day I will be on your level. Thank you 🙏🏼
Modern worlds biggest conundrum is consumer anxiety/ decision fatigue. Reasons why sometimes countries that limit the market might run more efficiently.
How would you like your coffee??? ARIANA GRANDE?!?? 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Yes, with sweetener
Just by watching your videos, i can tell that u are a reader. You speak in a very profound way and your videos has a lot of research and work. Keep going!
- I just want to let anyone who’s reading this, and going through a tough time know that it’s going to be okay. You’ll get through it! ✨
To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, your dream is not dead. Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️.
When he said "I would say no to the rock straight on his face" I got extremely worried until he went "of course i will"
My decisions usually get better as the day goes on
*“It’s not always that we need to do more but rather that we need to focus on less.” - Nathan W. Morris*
I love this one because it all makes sense to me. This is not a content that you usually see on youtube because Matt really did his research. Kudos to you man 🥂
“venti, grande, Ariana Grande” 😂 very funny Matt, enjoyed the video and the laughs. Automating decision seems such a simple idea, like clothes to wear etc, I don’t know why I haven’t done it!
Focus on Yoursef and everything will become better!Have a great day guys!
I live for Matt’s content! You do such an excellent job and you always provide value in every video and/or side hustle you have.
Thank you for continuing posting! You’re truly inspiring!
This is why parenting is so hard. You need to make the decisions not only for yourself)
I've found that with unavoidable decisions building momentum can also be helpful - like not allowing decisions to sit there for ages and build up but instead dealing with them head on when they emerge, then maintaining that momentum as you tackle more throughout the week/month. I make goofy videos about life and the universe and that's one of the topics I've covered - I'd love for you guys to check them out and let me know what you think if you get the chance! 🌟
Im glad you mentioned nurses. I am a nurse who works 12 hours shifts, and by the end of my shifts my brain is completely done. It is difficult to make decisions towards the end of my shift.
Matt which is more better ? a risky business that you love or a stable safe 9 to 5 job that you don’t love.
I have adrenal fatigue, and for a while now, ever since I got my Llewellyn calendar, I dress according to the colour of the day. On each day of the month, there is a colour written down. It's there to inspire. So before I open my drawer to figure out which top to wear, I look on the calendar, it narrows down the options and choices. I had not consciously thought of it in this way, it just became easier and faster to choose what to wear and helps with my routine which already drains me enough as it is.
*"Everything in life is easier when you don't concern yourself with what other people are doing."*
The chances of you seeing this comment is pretty low, but if you did, *I hope you have an amazing day.* 🖤
holy epic opener. Your attention to detail does not go unnoticed
*Well, ur not prioritizing on the foundation like diet, exercise and sleep* 🙏❤️
Or perhaps ur just doing sth that u hate and u don’t know what ur passion is…yet 😊
Thai guy needs to make a video about this haha.
That coffee shop (The Well) at 0:23 is right around the corner from me in Nashville, TN!
That was my fiance in the shot, we go there all the time so I had to include it in the vid! (I work for Matt btw haha)
@@ZachMayfield Very cool! Just subbed to your channel Zach. Thanks for replying :)
@@MattRagland of course man!
Most important decisions in the day: *morning.*
Brain feeling creative and everything is coming to me: *night.*
I've been having headaches for the past week, what a coincidence how this popped up.
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This videos validates what my mum smirks me when she said “nothing good happens after 10pm, so go home”. Nice.
How much of life are you missing out on because you’re scared to take action???
This tracks so well with why so many of us have been experiencing more decision fatigue during the pandemic -- all of a sudden we have 100 more decisions to make about once-automated parts of our lives. If going to the grocery store (or home for the holidays) requires half our daily decision making power, of COURSE we feel exhausted halfway through the day. My TLDW: cut yourself a break.
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Virtual hugs haha, awesome comment!
omg, the banana and sunglasses bit. And then they're sitting there on the coffee table. I love it.
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I work in crowd control and emergency management where 10k people can pass through in a 2 hour block. There are many questions (from the high volume of people asking questions but also your follow up questions to determine the best path for them) and decisions in routing that person to solve their immediate issue (many additional variables can determine what you decide your answer for them will be) that must be decided, that by the end of the day, many of my team mates do have decision fatigue. When I am looking at my personal to-do list, things suddenly become too difficult and start adding up to unfinished decisions.
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LOL, I often skip through sponsor messages. On this one I went back to see the whole thing. Brilliant!
i literally paused the video to comment and praise how brilliant the video is and back ground is excellent
You rock Matt
The intro is so true. Unfortunately, we do not usually realise that :(.
I'm sure this video will have a huge impact on my life and a lot of people watching this. Thanks Matt!
Yes, likewise
1) reduce
2) automate
3) make decisions when fresh (probably in the morning)
Thank you for your advice… but my question is: isn’t it possible to TRAIN OURSELVES TO BE A BETTER DECISION-MAKER, without wasting so much energy ? Sometimes “no” is not an option…
This video can transform lives. Thank you! Great The Rock jokes too!
Damn !! I needed this . Kind of the best time to have this video . I am going through a phase in life - where I am about to get married in just about 3 days , decisions - what to wear , what to pack , a new house , a new car and then of course the day - day decisions . Thanks @Matt . Saying “No” does help !!
I realize now why I'm so exahusted everyday, because my position demand me to making decision everyday. This video is gonna change my mindset about making decision. Thanks for the advice matt! 😊
THE ROCK IN THE ACORNS ADD AT THE END MADE MY NIGHT!
I just started listening to your podcast and at the end, you asked every interviewee if they are connected to The Rock. And here, after so many years, The Rock still rocks!