"If You've Been GHOSTED By Someone, WATCH THIS!" | Jay Shetty
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- Here’s the thing, some people are good at starting something but they are not equipped to
follow through. You can’t keep filling in the blanks they left for you with answers from your own
imagination. There are only so many excuses you can make for someone who is consistently
absent. The more you make excuses for their mistakes, the more likely they are to keep making
them. So ask yourself, is it really worth protecting them at the expense of your own well-being?
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If you’ve been ghosted celebrate! It’s the universe putting you back on your purpose ☄️
I’m probably gonna get hate on this comment but I just wanted to say I’ve got a podcast called Moving Mindsets with Marley and it would honestly mean the world to me if you could check it out! I love inspiring, motivating and just helping others so if you have time it would mean so much to me if you could check it out!
That's sort of true.
1st Take:
"My advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier."
Yours sincerely,
Sheryl Sandberg, chief operating officer of Facebook
2nd Take:
“My music is always going to make a woman feel like a bad bitch. When you make a woman feel like she’s the baddest bitch in the room, to me, that’s female empowerment.”
Decently yours,
Cardi B.
My Humble Take:
What most simps, feminist fe/males, white-knights, betas and conservative guys fail to realize: bad boys provide excitement, novelty, unpredictability and fun (fear, roller-coaster drama) to a new level. In other words, stability and commitment (no longer) won't cut it for today's 🦄. Why is that? Before she was your girlfriend, wife or lover, she already had been "run through" so many guys. And each time she slept with someone (both wo/men), she lost a part of her psyche, well-being or mind/soul/spirit. In other words, she is no longer able to have emotional attachment in a healthy or committed way.
*The Rational Male Series* by Rollo Tomassi
*The Manipulated Man* by Esther Vilar
*Anatomy of Female Power* by Chinweizu Ibekwe
*Men on Strike* by Helen Smith PhD
*Silent Weapons for Quiet Wars: An Introductory Programing Manual* by Anonymous
True
Awesome attitude. 👏
It's not rejection, it's redirection 🙏🏼
So true!!! I’m probably gonna get hate on this comment but I just wanted to say I’ve got a podcast called Moving Mindsets with Marley which is available on Spotify, Amazon music and Spotify it would honestly mean the world to me if you could check it out! I love inspiring, motivating and just helping others so if you have time it would mean so much to me if you could check it out
@@marleywinstrom7901 What do you talk about on the podcast?
YES! Exactly! 👏
I feel the same way 💯
It is rejection lol
If someone ghosts you, they don't deserve you. Just close that door & walk away!
Exactly
Am Walking away.. From Troubles In My Life, Am walking Away.. To find A Better Day (Craig David - Walking Away)
Exactly! You deserve the person who stays. ❤️
Easy to say when you’re not ‘in’!
@@user-pq4uw6pe4k it's actually the lesson I learned from experience... But I agree, it's not an easy thing to do, to walk away when we're emotionally invested. But with experience, we learn to value ourselves above the "dream" of that ideal partner/relationship. When they ghost us, they are showing their true colors. It's up to us to not accept their bad behaviours & walk away. We deserve better.
I ghost nobody. I just tell a person straight up if it's not working. People need to be honest 🙄.
It hurts so much! I've been fwb for someone for 4 years.. I love him and care so much but a week ago i told him that if i don't answer his calls or texts that im ghosting him 2 hours later i went n changed my # hurt so much 😥
Ja but people are playing :(
Exactly!
Society would be so much healthier n happier if everyone did that. Ghosting is so traumatic
Honesty Integrity is always the best policy
There is never any good enough excuse for ghosting someone. It is cowardly, disrespectful behaviour.
Correct
Agreed
Truth!
and that shows you that in reality you lost nothing, cause you never had something. Be thankful to reailize the truth and take your experience to realize the red flags earlier each time you run into worthless relationships again. Heads up and stay strong, you will gain self worth out of this.
@@simoneseiami5938 Roger that.
Don't get caught up in the idea of falling in love with the idea of someone. Fall in love with who they prove themself to be.
Hey all hopes not lost I urge you to make use of the greatest relationship expert he can certainly put a smile on your face
He is very perfect at reuniting broken relationship I am a living testimony of the great spellcaster
Sucks when nobody is who they say they are💯
Yes,Fall in love with the real person not a fake person.✌👍
Thats so true.
Never wait for someone who has ghosted you to comeback! Let it go they don’t deserve you anyway!
Been ghosted is the worse abuse while getting to know someone
True
@@IshaSharma11 facts
Yes, it's hard, but being ghosted also makes room in your life for those who bring you more happiness ❤️
@@jayshetty you ain't lying. Cheers to that
@@jayshetty Jay, I was ghosted by someone who happens to live on the same apartment with me. We were supposed to have a discussion after he got back from a weekend visit and he came home and stopped talking to me. He declined my calls and pretty much hid from me. That was the first week in January. Now, he comes to the kitchen when I am there and says nothing. I tried to get him to talk to me last week but he said nothing. He refused to speak. I view his behaviour as cowardice, disrespect and immaturity. I honestly almost lost my mind when I realized what he was doing to me because I was in fact giving him a second chance after he had previously hurt me. Some people are just callous with other people's feelings.
And when they show up...say...goodbye.
Exactly
Easier said than done...
But yea, must have the courage to say Goodbye.
Well he showed up ad he said "i didn't deserve you yet".
@@lindaachege7541 that’s a nice line, but most of the time, they’ll go back to behaving the same way. Words are pretty, but even the most sincere men have trouble expressing these types of emotions. Actions are where men shine though. Hope this guy proves it to you (if you’re considering a reconciliation).
Um!!!!!!! How bout NOoooo!!!!!!
Some people are good at starting something but they are not good at coming through.
Guess what? Totally true.
Exactly
💯
That's a good one. Real cowardly
That’s me, for sure. I’m working on changing that!
A decent person will never ghost you. They will at least let you know why they no longer want to see you/be with you and give you that closure. Being ghosted has nothing to do with you and more to do with the other person being selfish which means you dodged a bullet and escaped potential weeks/months/years of pain.
Don't settle. Wait for someone who values you without you having to make them. Being valued is just the most fundamental thing in love.
You are spot on!
Exactly or the intermitting ghostingm i sent him a sweet textm he replied on monday with a ❤
It seems nice but I felt: texting me from obligation.
Can be my own confusion but still. It added up in a pattern.
One.time when I cried at nlght, I tpld him I was done bc it felt like a game not leading to anything.
He reolied that he understood my doubts and asked me for one more chance to have a coffee. But then he unexpectedly stayed abroad longer
Ok. Can't blame him for that but on top of it all silences of 3 days. I feel so hurt it's only been 4 months but still you think you build a bond and he seemed decent but not in communication after all. He is starting a business. I ruled out catfish bc he lives near my location and we spoke on the phone. Rationally I know I deserve better but bc he spoke about meeting up asap and build sonething beautiful together and also the click I felt in interactions it's extra painful. It triggers my own insecurities too.
I am aware that that's not how he sees me, irs my own reaction to being ignored.
I sent him a text once to express my confusion and opinions.
3 days later he replied; no worries, you are sweet, I didn't read your text on purpose bc I wahted to keep my positive feeling about you".
I fell arrogance plus: I am positive but bc he ignored me for days I fell bad all weekend! It almost felt like he enjoyed my upset text.
The problem with text and few calls is we have to go by words and energy but we can't rely on that always bc nobody knows what's in someone's head. Fact is, it's cruel to leave someone hanging while you claim tp have feelings for them!
He admitted he's a disaster in relationships and his honest words and he never spoke rude to me that makes it so confusing with the cold silences
Last Thursday i said sonething sweet to him.
No reply.
When will I finally learn to step away earlier bc I saw the signs from the start.
Being ghosted is always a NO. Avoidance is a sign of emotional immaturity. Remember that what you endure in relationships is what you allow. If you want a committed partner then state that to the universe, and don't allow anything otherwise.
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Thank you, I needed that🥰
If you don't mind what is being ghosted
@@muhiibrahim4977When you stop talking to someone without explaining and then ignoring them as if they never existed.
@@user-of9bx1uk3u thank you
When someone walks out of our life, it’s because, God never intended for that person to be in it. What is intended for us, stays🙏
Your right then why do they come back
It's a common narc trait. Don't ever allow someone like this to destroy your self worth.
Yes it is
RUN!!!! Ghosting is a very immature person who has no decency! They did you a huge favor!
It's not just romantic relationships. Especially friends who ghost hurt more ..
Feel you. My best friend, which I know since Kindergarten ghosted me. Still hurts after 2.5 years of being ghosted. I really don't know what I did wrong. A Friendship of 20 years is gone. It is way more painful, than being ghosted by someone you date.
@@stefaniem812 mine was not so long a friend, but because of her, I ignored my bestie, though my bestie told she didn't feel good about this new person. And I regret it 3 years after. My bestie is still with me, and since this incident, I've developed serious trust issues.
@@stefaniem812 I can totally relate with you. Even my bestie ghosted me after 8 years of friendship. It hurts knowing that I was the one who was deeply loving her while she hated me all this while.
But this is life. We gotta accept what it offers and move on and hope for a beautiful tomorrow. Stay strong, hon.
@@stefaniem812 Same To same every single word... I wrote about it in this comment section with a long ass paragraph..
Keep Going...
They can all get fucked Just stay true to you..
In middle school my best friend didn’t really ghost me. But she excluded me when inviting our group of friends to Taco Bell after school. We all road on the same bus and get off at the same stop. Imagine how I felt when they all got off at the Taco Bell stop without me. I went home crying my 13 year old eyes out to my mom. I freaken ghost her after that day. Never used that bus or that stop again. Caught a ride to school with my cousin instead. I also refused to acknowledged her after that. I was so hurt. But now 30 years later when I look back I was some bad ass girl! I let her only hurt me once. I never gave her another opportunity. She did try to approach me later on in the year. I blew her off. I heard from a mutual friend that I hurt her when I blew her off. But I didn’t care at that point.
It's extremely painful. One of the most painful experiences next to losing a loved one
What I am going through right now😭😭😭😭😭😭😭it's hurts
For me, it’s even more painful than grieving someone who passed away because the person chose life without you
It is. But look at what we REALLY lost and be grateful.
That's a bit dramatic
No shit.
Friend or romance, if they don't keep their word, they're not worth your time.
Being ghosted from a narcissist was the worst I had expirienced, but then you get stronger and better.
That happened to me also its the worst thing but you become stronger 💪in the long run
Yep...
Yup after dealing with it from family you sadly become numb too it
Snap the pain was severe, especially when you think you knew a person.
Going through that narcisstic person right now, we live together, he just got back from his 2nd trip, and is ghosting me as we speak, he sends text messages when we live in the same house, tells me to get out, I dont respond back, I see it as tell me to my face, or is it that you cant because of your guilt, they are childish, manipulative, crazy, evil, have no emotions or care for anyone BUT THEMSELVES!!!!
i'm a simple person. if you ghost me long enough, don't ever come back and expect me to welcome you with open arms. I'm not Mr available whenever you please.
Ghost them right back. 👌🏼
I hope they got the message
@@sophiasmith5949 yeah. I never allow them back in my life. It's so narcissistic to ignore people and talk to them when you feel like it.
Amen!!
This is what I need to learn. To not give my response while they left me hanging for days.
At least she got closure. Didn’t get closure. I love how she stands up to him.
Never trust a guy who can’t or won’t answer your questions. 😖
Or your calls...
Ok
Eventually i remembered i had people who loved and cared deeply about me...
& it gets better, i get stronger❣️
I’m probably gonna get hate on this comment but I just wanted to say I’ve got a podcast called Moving Mindsets with Marley and it would honestly mean the world to me if you could check it out! I love inspiring, motivating and just helping others so if you have time it would mean so much to me if you could check it out!
Yes! Loved ones will certainly keep you strong in your continued healing ❤️
Indeed
@@jayshetty ghosting by frnds is dangerous...we think we have got people who understands us and care for us... things which we cannot tell our parents or family ... we share with our frnds but then after some years they stop talking..sometimes i think is it too hard to text your frnd or call them atleast once a month.. they used to wish on birthdays but now they dont....
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Disconnect yourself from someone who is ok letting you go
Self worth and self respect above all 🙏🙏🙏
I’ve been ghosted so many times it’s taken all the excitement I would naturally feel when meeting new people. I don’t know if it’s healthy for me or not to lose that.
I'm feeling the same too,
Same .. i gave up on meeting someone. I'm tired of being hurt
Omg same
I lost trust with new people and I worry if drama and problems will arise down the road. I feel lonely but I don’t know when I can find the right good of friends
Same
If they ghost you, take it as a blessing.... they don’t deserve you anyway!
This is the common reality of today’s world.
So true... 💯%
Ghosting is the height of cowardice. NEVER give that person another chance.
True
So sad. Smh
True.. I have faced it . They come back like nothing had ever happened
No woman or man should have to put up with foolishness
in any relationship. once you start to see the red flag don't think twice let them go. Don't waist your time and energy on them.
There is someone else out there for you.
Well said
This is actyally the reason why i’m not ready for any relationship i just experienced this one month ago, but i knew that i deserved better so I just leave him...Girls we all deserve someone who will truly love us we are not toys ❤️
I’m sorry you had been ghosted. But guys get ghosted too. Ghosting is a crappy thing to do to someone. If you aren’t interested, just say it and be done with it. This way is crappy too, but it’s the lesser of the two evils. At least in my opinion anyway.
1st Take:
"My advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier."
Yours sincerely,
Sheryl Sandberg, chief operating officer of Facebook
2nd Take:
“My music is always going to make a woman feel like a bad bitch. When you make a woman feel like she’s the baddest bitch in the room, to me, that’s female empowerment.”
Decently yours,
Cardi B.
My Humble Take:
What most simps, feminist fe/males, white-knights, betas and conservative guys fail to realize: bad boys provide excitement, novelty, unpredictability and fun (fear, roller-coaster drama) to a new level. In other words, stability and commitment (no longer) won't cut it for today's 🦄. Why is that? Before she was your girlfriend, wife or lover, she already had been "run through" so many guys. And each time she slept with someone (both wo/men), she lost a part of her psyche, well-being or mind/soul/spirit. In other words, she is no longer able to have emotional attachment in a healthy or committed way.
*The Rational Male Series* by Rollo Tomassi
*The Manipulated Man* by Esther Vilar
*Anatomy of Female Power* by Chinweizu Ibekwe
*Men on Strike* by Helen Smith PhD
*Silent Weapons for Quiet Wars: An Introductory Programing Manual* by Anonymous
Boys Aren't Toys Eather There Are Boys Like Me Crushed By Girls
However I Will Never Say It's A Gender Thing
Good Boys Gets Hurt By Bad Girls
Good Girls Get Hurt By Bad Boys
I Was Crushed Once But I Won't Let It Happen Again
I Will Find That Person Who Is Ready To Die For Me And Will Be With Me Forever
TBH I Don't Talk To Girls I Fear Em Because Of Boys Hurting Them And Making Me Feel Like Boys Are Just Bad......
I Feel Like Girls Are Always Above Me / Better Than Me Who Is A Boy .......
I Am Scared TBH
I ....
Idk
However I Promised Myself If A Girl Loves Me From Bottem Of Her Heart I Will Do Anything To Make Her Happy
I Wanna Make Her The Luckiest Women In This World
I Have Only 2 Friend ....
Bad Past
Being Shamed For Bad Handwriting In A Good School In Front Of Class At Age Of 8
Speaking My Primary Language In An English School I Was Taken To Principal At Age Of 11
But
I Was The One Who Talkes English Most And Was Reported To Principal By By Own Friend Because I Said One Word In My Primary Language Which I Didn't Knew The English Word
I Was In a Point Where I Thought Why Am I Still Alive All Hate Me
I Hate People
I Just Wanna Die
I Was Depressed From 13-15 I Still Don't Know How I Survived It
I Was In Depression For Over 2 Year When A Girl I Loved Rejected Me
I Thought She Liked Me She Always Made Me Feel Safe She Was There For Me .....
I Still Respect Her Because She Helped Me Make Friends Which I Have Now As I Said 2 Friends.....
She Blocked Me Because I Was Chatty
After All I Am Just 17 Now And Those 2 Friends I Have Now Made Me Feel Special And Now I Am Happy :-)
@@BG-sq7zf I Wish I Was Girl When I Was Young Because Girls Are IDK I Always Felt Girls Are Always Above Boys
My Mom Told Me I Should Never Hurt Girls Insted Of Never Hurt Any Living Things
( Talking Just About Girls Like Don't Hurt Girls Makes Me Feel Like All Girls Are Queen And Boys Are Just Nothing But Low Life )
But
I Am Lucky To Be A Boy Because There Is More Good Girls Than Good Boys So I Won't Be Heart Brocken Again .......
Idk All Boys Aren't Same
Some Boys Have 5 Girl Friends
I Have 0
@@BG-sq7zf Same With Me I Don't Wanna Have Sex With Many Women
I Am Happy With A Women Who Can Help And Support Me And Will Love Me From Bottem Of Her Heart Even Though She Will Never Have Sex With Me !!
I Just Want Someone To Love Me (｡•́︿•̀｡)
"ILL START TO VALUE AND TAKE CARE OF MYSELF THE WAY I WANTED HIM TO"
I like this!
The worst thing is that they still dare to say 'l love you' but the act the opposite of what they say.
Because most people who say: I love you are liers...
Anyone can say: I love you
Just find someone who show they care about you with the way they act..
Narcissist behavior. Lying, avoiding, then pretending nothing happened. I fell for one of these jerks. Total waste of time
My ex boyfriend did that to me his a piece of work
I'm saying
@@topkat8268 I think every one of us dated someone like this at least once. I know I did. Once you are out of it, you can very clearly see what a useless jerk the person was. But when in it, you keep making excuses for them. The trick is to never let another one get you again.
I find it sad that someone intentionally breaks a heart.Cruel people out there.
Talk with God, no breath is lost. Walk with God, no strength is lost. Wait for God, no time is lost. Trust in God you will never be lost. God is not an option, He is a necessity. Trust in him
@@Kreizi1 wow. Don’t say “sky daddy,” that’s disrespectful. Honestly just respect Christianity, it isn’t the same as supporting. 😑
Amen
You keep talking to your imaginary friend in the sky! Deluded!
Do I love God as a handle? 💯🔔🔚
Beautifully spoken❣
Prime example to not always be readily accessible for people who didn't earn it in the first place 💜💚❤
I’m probably gonna get hate on this comment but I just wanted to say I’ve got a podcast called Moving Mindsets with Marley which is available on Spotify, Amazon music and Spotify it would honestly mean the world to me if you could check it out! I love inspiring, motivating and just helping others so if you have time it would mean so much to me if you could check it out
You are correct!
I got ghosted by my bf, I know him since 5 years.
That's why self love is important. Know your worth and continue to move forward in life. These toxic people are reaping karma always even in the next life! 💯
If not in next life definitely in this one. Karma is a very real thing.
Karma is self inflicted. Only decent people experience karma because they actually feel guilt over the bad shit they do. Narcissists and other mal adapted people never think what they do is wrong These are the people that never fully apologize either. It's always "I'm sorry if you feel..."
This woman was so happy. She really loved that guy. It's so sad what he did to her. I really admired the courage she had at the end.
It can really do alot of damage to a person. I really pray for people like that.
if you're ghosted, that is simply a NO, a big friggin' NO.
Got ghosted last year n it hurts pretty badly but u know what it only makes me stronger.... People out there whoever is going thru this...stay strong and keep going in life,there's so many people who loved n care deeply for you 😊sending u all my ♥ n hugs
Relatable
Thankyou.. Love you so much stranger. Virtual hugs 🤗
@@muskanvarshney8233 love you too stranger ....stay happy 😊❤
It's happening to me right now😭😭😭😭😭💔💔💔💔
@@izzymosokwe2737 please move out of that toxicity. I know it might seem impossible for you today. But after time, you will realise moving on was the best decision you took.
Jitni jldi bahar aa jaogi, utna dard kam hoga ❤
I have felt ever emotion in this video. Getting ghosted by someone you love almost feels like grieving a death. I never want to go through that again.
When a person treats you like this, move on right away... be thankful you ve been showing who you were involved with. Somebody who doesn t care for your feelings and who has no porblem to hurt you on purpose. Never go on with somebody who treats you like this. They just given you a preview of what is comming... imagine you go on having a child with someone like this. You and your child will be ghosted one day. And this is a pain and dimension you don not want to experience.
Last 5 years of my life like this. Finally left but still sometimes I think and still cry!!
My heart goes out to you! I hope you find what you're seeking ❤️
@@jayshetty thank you!!
I got my ex lover back without no delayA man helped me out
He can also help you too
Text him on whatapp for directive
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I was ghosted and I had even thoughts of hurting myself. I was so desperate and empty. I just wanted to know why he stopped talking with me. I did 6 months therapy and I'm much better now but I still have bad days. People don't realize how devastating is not knowing. Please never ghost. Say something, anything but don't ghost.
🙄🙄🙄 most guys just used social media to play games and ghost ...
You might ended up going crazy if another guy ever ghost you. You better not get in any relationships..for your own good and mental health.🦿
Currently going through this
Agreed. 9 months out, and I still think about it every day.
I was ghosted and wasn't even mad, I always wish people the best in life. Learned a long time ago to bounce back. I was living a wonderful happy life before I met him and was just fine when he left. Keep busy doing your on thing , get up and go forward! Hobbies!!!
People are being ghosted simply because they are no longer interested on someone who cares too much. They only way is to care most about yourself and your life more than your partner or your friends.
You’re onto something there. Someone could offer these people the world and it is not enough for them. How counterintuitive that is when dealing with love and relationships. But you’re right, we have to love ourselves first and care about ourselves. Not in the same way these “ghosts” love and put themselves first though. Sometimes, we have to extend that love and care for ourselves to do the decent thing to others so you can help them reach the same peace you have reached even if it means your actions may disappoint them. 💕
Not true when the ghoster reappears and u can't get rid of him ...that's very confusing and when will there ever be a repremand for people who do fucked up shit like that tho? Instead it's always the ones with good intentions that have to learn how to avoid the problem instead of trying to hold the assholes accountable?
Ghosting is so immature
You have to BUILD the self awareness and self RESPECT to notice these situations and cut them off. It can be hard and we make mistakes with noticing these things but ultimately it's best to step back and evaluate as if it were someone else in your situation, and always treat yourself like someone you love.
1st Take:
"My advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier."
Yours sincerely,
Sheryl Sandberg, chief operating officer of Facebook
2nd Take:
“My music is always going to make a woman feel like a bad bitch. When you make a woman feel like she’s the baddest bitch in the room, to me, that’s female empowerment.”
Decently yours,
Cardi B.
My Humble Take:
What most simps, feminist fe/males, white-knights, betas and conservative guys fail to realize: bad boys provide excitement, novelty, unpredictability and fun (fear, roller-coaster drama) to a new level. In other words, stability and commitment (no longer) won't cut it for today's 🦄. Why is that? Before she was your girlfriend, wife or lover, she already had been "run through" so many guys. And each time she slept with someone (both wo/men), she lost a part of her psyche, well-being or mind/soul/spirit. In other words, she is no longer able to have emotional attachment in a healthy or committed way.
*The Rational Male Series* by Rollo Tomassi
*The Manipulated Man* by Esther Vilar
*Anatomy of Female Power* by Chinweizu Ibekwe
*Men on Strike* by Helen Smith PhD
*Silent Weapons for Quiet Wars: An Introductory Programing Manual* by Anonymous
Yes! It's always a process & compassion for yourself is key ❤️
I can feel her tears, the million questions, and the feeling of not knowing what to do next. I hope I will be better soon. I will be able to forgive myself for loving someone who was fake, to be able to get myself back. it's tough but I will smile again.
Being ghosted is a painful experience, remember that it’s a statement about who they are as a person.
God’s way of removing someone who didn’t deserve you and redirect you to what you deserve!!
No response IS a response. This has been happening to me and I finally came to my wits end. Let go of the wrong one, so the right one can come into your life. ✌️
Did the right one cone? Did you forget him? I am being ghosted 3rd time now, same man ...that's it now 😢
@@ritapeters1330 I've decided to stay single for now. But walking away was the best thing I ever did. I feel free from worrying, wondering, disappointment, etc...🤗
The pain is hell
I can't tell you how many times this has happen to me for no good reasons. It's really sad that we live in a world where most people just don't give a dam about your feelings. But I see rejection as God's protection and with patience, the right one will show up and it will be worth it. Good luck to anyone who's heart has been broken...your day will come...
When bad things happen to good people, learn from it, never, ever go backwards and love yourself wholeheartedly
Being ghosted is so mean and painful especially when you were dating the person. Thank you for this video , really helped me feel better.
Someone that ghosted you is immature and disrespectful, no one should be treated this way! It just shows and proves what kind of person they are, do not put that burden and fault on yourself because of them.
nAH, just disrespectful to me. They will find someone they really want and give them all of their good side. Sad reality of the world.
When someone ghosts me I respect them when they get back in touch and act like there dead
I’m glad she broke it off with him. He needed a wake up call that playing around wasn’t acceptable. She set a good boundary. This happened to me years ago and I wish I did the same
Love yourself... don't fake or lie that you love yourself... Love yourself
People think ghosting is bad during the talking phase, but I got ghosted after two years in a committed relationship. And we were long distance towards the end so I never got closure. I just had to get over it. Thankfully I thought so little of him after that it was easy. My current partner isn’t perfect of course, but he’s a genuinely good guy and we are planning to move in together within the next couple of months. It is such a relief to not have the deal with the emotional termoil of someone who didn’t even have the decency to tell me he was afraid to commit to me. Life gets better when those kinds of people are out of your life.
You are strong and still have love for another person. After 2 Years! Omg...its been 3 months into this relationship. He ghosted me and after 3 days i stopped crying andy healing has begun.
Thank you for sharing. I have hope
Same here @honeybee17. You're a full year ahead of me now. It is so difficult. I dealt with closure myself, believing "The only closure I need is the closure I provide." People who ghost are some form of cowardly, immature, mentally ill, lacking in self awareness and empathy (even human decency). Is it really wise to seek closure from someone so fundamentally unstable?
I got ghosted and blocked after a year relationship off a matrimonial website. My anxiety is through the roof and I am barely making it through the day. I didn’t expect this from my partner who I consider my friend. What I am going through right now is indescribable.
its easy to say I Love You, but its hard to prove it true 💔🙏
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If you have an adequate self-esteem when someone ghosts you-you go No Contact. Period. NO CONTACT FOREVER. 💪
As much as it hurts, we cant take it personal! Its never really about us thanks Jay. We all deserve someone who is accountable and has respect for us✌️💕
It hurts, mentally and physically, it’s easy to say words like move on etc, but especially after a long period of a relationship, ghosting can cause trauma, our emotions are not a game, many can be devastated and traumatized more than breaking up, people who are ghosted will start questioning themselves, blaming themselves, feeling up and down, get worried about the other etc just because the one who ghosted isn’t brave enough to face them and him/herself. Some people are abusive in which sometimes it’s understandable but if the other person was truly a good one, please have the courage to end things, don’t lead them on with the “I love you” then disappear. Most of the time people will get over it but many can’t easily, or it will haunt them in their unconscious mind if they couldn’t move on in a good way.
true, i’m currently experiencing this. i felt guilty for so long… as time goes by, i get comfortable with him but i’m not ready to date … because i still have to prioritize some things besides date
Loving yourself is vital for your happiness and well being then you can spread that love to others. Positive vibes to everyone ❤️🙏😁.
‘Some people are good at starting something but not equipped to follow through’ resonated ... it gets easier
This happens all too often these days unfortunately, and is highly frustrating...single women who desire a relationship are most vulnerable...their attention is taken away by men who are already in relationships or married...not on the same page! Pain to follow...
Damn that’s deep
Why the fuck are women disproportionately attracted to guys who already are in relationships in the first place. I've experienced similar firsthand. Ffs. Herd mentality at its finest. And it doesn't inspire much respect.
Men are generally different, in the sense that they more often just don't care if the woman is in a relationship.
And that says at lot about them more than you.If there not loyal to there wife's Or babies mamma's do you really think there going to treat you any better. HELL TO THE NO!!!!!!!!
I've dated women who do this too lol.
Most guys I've found on dating sites aren't single in the first place. It's like playing Sherlock Holmes. Their intentions aren't to get into a monogomous relationship in the first place. You'll just he a bit on the side. Usually infrequently as they try and fit in other unaware women. Modern dating isn't worth bothering with. Too many players now.
If he or she keep on ghosting you it means he or she is not sure on you, relate much the video!
Words should convert into actions or it gets unhealthy & toxic. Takecare !
1st Take:
"My advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier."
Yours sincerely,
Sheryl Sandberg, chief operating officer of Facebook
2nd Take:
“My music is always going to make a woman feel like a bad bitch. When you make a woman feel like she’s the baddest bitch in the room, to me, that’s female empowerment.”
Decently yours,
Cardi B.
My Humble Take:
What most simps, feminist fe/males, white-knights, betas and conservative guys fail to realize: bad boys provide excitement, novelty, unpredictability and fun (fear, roller-coaster drama) to a new level. In other words, stability and commitment (no longer) won't cut it for today's 🦄. Why is that? Before she was your girlfriend, wife or lover, she already had been "run through" so many guys. And each time she slept with someone (both wo/men), she lost a part of her psyche, well-being or mind/soul/spirit. In other words, she is no longer able to have emotional attachment in a healthy or committed way.
*The Rational Male Series* by Rollo Tomassi
*The Manipulated Man* by Esther Vilar
*Anatomy of Female Power* by Chinweizu Ibekwe
*Men on Strike* by Helen Smith PhD
*Silent Weapons for Quiet Wars: An Introductory Programing Manual* by Anonymous
This isnt called ghosting, this is called he’s not that into you because he’s with someone else. They clearly aren’t in a relationship and he clearly keeps making up excuses for important events such as meeting her parents. Ghosting is when you are with someone for a good amount of time and then all of the sudden disappear. My ex disappeared on me after 8 months and he met my family , did all the stuff people do in relationships then found someone else. He dropped me like I was a piece of trash without an explanation, that’s ghosting
Am sorry that happened to you.
@@mariamhasham7926 thank you! I don’t wish this on anyone. I can’t imagine this happening to anyone who has been with someone for many years. It’s taken me a long time to get over this, meanwhile he’s living his life happy with someone else and not a care of what he did to me. Sometimes I think when someone does this they always wind up happy and the other person that gets hurt suffers. Does Karma ever serve them?? I have abandonment issues now and always have a fear that another guy will do this to me.! 8 months isn’t long but it’s amazing what damage someone can be done in such a short period of time.
@@Beautytrends77 you should be grateful he left when you guys were still in dating stage and not much commitment was made. It would have been hard for you if you guys were engaged or married or had kids together. Just be grateful you learnt what kind of a person is earlier than late. Take it as a lesson next time do better in picking up a partner and watch out for the red flags early on. And often times people walk away from our life because the space is meant to be filled by someone else. Look at it as God was preparing you for another person. Just grow and bloom; be the best you can be by yourself. Cultivate other relationships such as genuine friendships or family. Enjoy those who sincerely love you and stand by you. Learn what you can and can not tolerate in relationships going forward and never compromise. Currently take it as a blessing, be by yourself and be very happy. Happy that you get to discover yourself and chose a better partner. As you grow each day don’t make a decision to pick someone who will mistreats you. Raise your standards and don’t take any less than you deserve. Cheer all this freedom you have to discover yourself.
@@mariamhasham7926 thank you for your kind words and I do understand where you are coming from, however I’m 44 yrs old and I think I’ve had about all the lessons I need to learn. My ex was not a bad person, no he wasn’t perfect but he did not treat me bad. He did a lot for me. When the pandemic hit he went out of his way to go food shopping for me, he fixed my car when need be, he made my birthday and holidays special among other things. My family even liked him and that says a lot. I was very shocked about what he did because out of anyone I’ve been with I never thought he would do that to me. I have standards and he didn’t treat me like shit. I’m also a very independent woman and I have my stuff together so it was nice for once for someone to do stuff like this for me. Yes it was a short time but it was also everyday we spoke to each other. No he was not perfect by all means but I feel like if he could do this to me then anyone can. Also I know what red flags to pick up on a partner, I’m not new to this. Honestly there weren’t any. Once again thanks for taking the time to write such a wonderful comment. I really appreciate it
@@Beautytrends77 oh am so sorry that should be so hard. I went through what you did. The only difference in my case is he was more bad than good. So it was easy for me to let go. But those who are meant to be in our lives will not leave. So at the end we just need to move forward. Nothing you did wrong, it was his choice and your choice is now to forgive him and yourself and cultivate another life without him. You don’t know what the future holds, go into life knowing everything is possible and maybe down the road you will find someone again. Someone that won’t leave. 💕
You can justify someone's actions and give them benifit of doubt only until a certain point. There's always a saturation point.
We settle at the level of our self esteem.
Appreciate when those people ghost. Don't internalize it as something being wrong with you UNLESS it was really you that was the problem. Do self-reflection, learn the lesson, and let go. In time, you'll feel more empowered. The sooner they leave, the sooner you realize they are not dependable or reliable. Imagine how much it would've hurt to have invested more time, energy, and resources with said person for them to completely disappear without explanation. There's usually signs to tell whether a person is using you out of convenience. Always try to mirror their energy until you feel it's time to completely remove yourself. Then, ghost them. You'll see how much effort they TRY to put in when you pull your energy back. But don't entertain them because it's usually because they either want to redeem their ego or get something from you. Its awful to feel like you're disposable but if someone is not prioritizing you or putting the same effort in, pull your energy, time and effort back.
I'm victim of ghosting! Till this day he keep tapping from time to time. I had to learn the hard way not to deal with him anymore and I create life change for much better this day. No more expectations and answer I was always wanting to know.. =WHY =No answer also an answer. Was not about me but him!
This is why being rejected is infinitely better than being ghosted. You find out that the person doesn't want you and while it stings initially, you can eliminate this person from your life, stop wasting time and mental power on them and get on with life as opposed to have a million and one ''what ifs?'' and false hopes running through your head that reach nowhere and putting you in limbo. Enough already!
And also, ghosting is a massive turn-off anyway.
It’s so cruel a game
This probably sounds silly, but it would be nice to have an official website for “GHOSTERS” who choose to ghost Kind & Decent individuals, without any valid reason/s. We could make their names publicly known👍👀😂
An intriguing idea! 😂
Jay Shetty absolutely! And you heard it here first🙂
I was just thinking I would never want to a date a person that could ghost others. People like that need to come with warning labels!
This is actually a good idea. A website where ex-partners of ghosters post the ghosters to warn others. Kinda like a wall-of-shame website for ghosters 😂
ikyu6791 exactly! Cheaters as well😁
Fall in love. With who they prove themselves to be.
Mic drop. Sending you and your wife digital hugs
I won't shed a tear on someone who disappear just like thin air, I'll be like scr*w that peace of sh*t I'm better without him, and I did that a lot of times
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That is so well said. Some ppl are good at starting something, but flake out before anything is completed. If someone can disappear and put you through weeks and months of heartache, then tries to welcome themselves back into your life, it's best to keep them out. It's so selfish how they just pop up one day thinking they can easily be a part of your life again.
I never knew about this before it happened to me but I realize I'm worth more than that and I deserve better! After getting no closure I felt I could not move forward but I'm healing from this and I've moved forward from this situation! 💔💖😊🙏.
I've never been ghosted . But I can imagine the pain of rejection and the feeling of being unwanted by someone you fell for . The person that does that to another person has no heart.
I've been ghosted so many times that I can't remember now. I don't know why people choose to do like this. My very first being ghosted broke me into million pieces. Then things started to feel ok again. Then I went back to believe in people, giving a second chance as I still chose to see good side in a person. Then after being ghosted for the second time. That second time...well...it was devastating and did break me down badly...I'm not sure if this has led me to a good way or bad way but after that second time, I feel like nothing whenever being ghosted. I just feel like a part of me had already dead. I stop looking forward to sharing with people. I guess practice makes perfect. Being ghosted too many times might not be a bad thing you know. I guess it will help strengthen yourself more. I hope that whoever gets ghosted will find peace within yourself. I know how hurts it is.
I feel the same . How are you doing now I’m broken
@@sharnashields7118 I'm so sorry to hear that. Well, I'm doing okay and all. You don't deserve to feel like this. Just keep moving forward and take care of yourself as much as you can. Shift the focus from them onto you. They are the one who choose to ignore us so our work is done here. They chose to leave first. The door is open. Feel free to go. You don't need people like that in your life. Better them leave now rather than later. You got this. I know how difficult it feels right now but you can move through this.
Much needed video at this point.. thank you!! Ghosting means NO so accept and move on..❤
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@@IshaSharma11 😊
The is nothing that hurts most than being ghosted.i have been ghosted it hurts like hell, I think a person who ghost you disrespect you and doesn't have balls to tell you it is over
Spot on. Ghosters are ball-less wonders up in their heads and ego. It’s always about them, their lame excuses, and (us) stroking their egos. I ended my situation after 6 months of on/off emotional abuse and a pattern of ghosting.
Actions speak louder than words
😍😍😍 being ghosted is a lesson for us to move forward, and to thank Universe for the lessons learned.
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I’m probably gonna get hate on this comment but I just wanted to say I’ve got a podcast called Moving Mindsets with Marley which is available on Spotify, Amazon music and Spotify it would honestly mean the world to me if you could check it out! I love inspiring, motivating and just helping others so if you have time it would mean so much to me if you could check it out
I’m probably gonna get hate on this comment but I just wanted to say I’ve got a podcast called Moving Mindsets with Marley which is available on Spotify, Amazon music and Spotify it would honestly mean the world to me if you could check it out! I love inspiring, motivating and just helping others so if you have time it would mean so much to me if you could check it out
You are definitely right. I'm walking away now. Thank you so much for your wise words, Jay.
Being ghosted is the worst ever.....went thru this for years in my marriage.... got out of this marriage and the universe sent me a wonderful new man.... if they ghost get out, they don’t deserve you.
I was ghosted so know the feeling. It taught me self worth. No going vack. Value urself and set healthy boundaries. Move on, focus on ur healing and experience unconditional self love
This is my current situation... being ghosted is cruel... it hurts, and no one deserves this... it made me feel worthless and i thought it was something I did, they come back with lies and mind games... I’ve pulled my energy back and I’m healing 😭💔💔💔
Same here, stay strong🥰🙏
@@jennifermcgregor5417 thank you so much.... a part of me want him back and a part of me don’t ever want too see him again..
@@tinateeteehill7398 I was married to a narcissist for 20 years! I’m a 52 year old retired EMT from Seattle. All we can do is take the love we gave to them, and put it into us. You need to be selfish, and put yourself first. Now he is sniffing around trying to love bomb me🤮 take the L out of Lover, it’s OVER! Best of luck to you🥰
@@jennifermcgregor5417 your absolutely right... I’m hurting so badly.. but everyday that I don’t talk to him , it gets easier for me..
It takes time sis but the pain will get better. Your worth is more than their lies. To me ghosting =lies.
If you ever feel like something is off about your relationship, please believe and trust that feeling! Sooner than later the truth comes out and you will know. This happened to me recently and he kept making me feel like I was being crazy but nope I ended up being right so basically if you're ever questioning where you stand with someone just know you already have your answer.
You say exactly what im experiencing now. He makes me feel like im crazy.. I have a feeling something is off in our relationship..
My name is lidia and this is exactly what I told my ex who left me just bc he thought the grass was going to be greener on the other side. Gave plenty of chances but not I’m giving my self a chance. No one is not an object for anyone. We all deserve to be loved for us.
Agree
Very true
Sometimes its not romantic but from your best buddies, family, someone you know will always be there... And its equally heartbreaking... Stuck with the unknowns and may bes for so long... Finally i know it was the end...
Thanks for the lesson 🙏
Lol. Its funny that i was ghosted by a Guy i thought he was into me. We were in a long distance relationship it started out real Good. But gradually he started distance himself just like the video i cried and cried until i was in the state of depression. I prayed and prayed but God already new the future before i did. So now im slowly getting back to normal. Im feeling alittle happier but i know i have a long way to go. But i also know that God has better. Because if they wanted you they would i fought for you. But its there lost ladies and gentlemen. Not ours , so get back up and wipe those tears and know that God has better.
Amen !!! And well said..
Thank you
I always tell myself that the Universe just helped me dodge a bullet.
I was ghosted 2x it's how they finished with me and I know how it feels, it's one of the cruelest way to end up relationship. I cried a lot but years passed away and today I am grateful that I didn't end up in relationship with these kind of people who never appreciated me and most probably never loved me.
I have been ghosted twice and trust me initial days were seriously bad and worst .but later when I accepted d fact d journey was very very stress free n beautiful..Thank u God
Guys can be on the receiving end too,been there ,felt the emotional hurt,still trying to get over that person who ghosted me when I held her with high regards ...
Truthfully I’ve been ghost so so many times that it’s almost like I expect people to do that now. But I know there’s good people out there!
I am so Grateful from the bottom of my heart for your advice Jay Shelley‼💯❤ I am going through this very second of being ghosted😪 but watching this has made me realise I deserve better‼💯 so now I'm ready for when he comes to my door‼💯
Thank You🙏
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I was ghosted in November wish I had been smart like the girl in the video cause he came back in December only to ghost and block me again in January. No contact for 3 months. It hurts pretty bad
i thought i was the only person in the world that was being ghosted. a friend of mine for more than 10 years, just started avoiding me with any excuse she could find. eventually, she just stopped answering my texts. I tried so many times to find out if i did anything wrong and she only came up with excuses not to meet or to answer my texts. I eventually understood she didn't want to be my friend. I stopped sending messages and she never contacted me again. I guess I was ghosted!! it's very painful because I thought she was my friend 😔
I would just like to say from experience - there are those that struggle with mental illness that try to date and end up hitting a rough patch. I might really like someone, but am embarrassed if I can barely get out of bed. It does mean ppl aren’t ready. It’s not fair. I just chose not to get to involved...being ghosted hurts ppl