Real Families Unraveled: The Root of Problematic Behavior in Kids
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- The doctors meet Thomas, who finds it hard to socialise and is obsessed with Lego. And two-year-old Jensen hardly eats any solid food. Extensive tests reveal where the problem lies.
It’s thought that 1 in 20 children aged between five and sixteen has a ‘conduct disorder’. Sadly, this often goes undiagnosed and those afflicted children are branded ‘problem children’ and their struggling parents left to fend for themselves. Using sophisticated tests and experiments, it is now
easier than ever to explain a child’s difficult or anti-social behaviour. Are they suffering from a behavioural disorder? Or has their environment lacked the necessary discipline? Either way, our experts are here with cutting edge treatments to help lift these children and their p
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Thomas's family are lovely, they are all helping him get his own retreat room together. The relief on his parents faces when they had a definite diagnosis was profound. Thomas's Dad was already being proactive by taking Thomas to the special needs exercise class, something that Thomas was so excited to attend and where he felt comfortable. I enjoyed watching this, first time I've seen the show.
hah i thot his dad was his moms dad....thats gross
d3g3n3r4t3 just because you wouldn’t want their relationship, it doesn’t mean that you should call people gross. I imagine you’re young, but one day you’ll realise that what you think about others really doesn’t matter. Not everyone wants the same thing.
They were both on an age gap relationship programme, I think it was channel 5?
d3g3n3r4t3 grow up
Thomas's father need to be sensitive to his son but be firm with him too.
So thrilled for wee Thomas and his family on his diagnosis! And im so glad Jensons mum has been able to let go of her worries regarding his health!
I used to refuse to eat green beans because they burned my mouth. My mom thought I was lying because they were cold. I'm actually very allergic to green beans. I'm glad they checked the kid first to be safe.
LadyLenaki Damn I’m sorry, green beans are one of my favourite vegetables
LadyLenaki his name is Jensen
@@keegan2207 I can’t stand green beans but my son loves them.
Im allergic to pineapple and kiwis. It sucks cuz they tatse good.... but my mouth burns and throat closes up
@@doeeyes2 🙁So sorry Ally. They are both delicious like you said. Now, I’m not allergic, but pineapple and some other citrus makes me get cracks on the corners of my mouth once in a while. I think, not sure though, that it’s because they’re so acidic. Try adding a bit of water to your pineapple juice. Or, maybe you can eat the fruit with plain yogurt or cottage cheese. Those help me because the dairy seems to balance the acid. Cheers from Boston 💚
I love how his family made him his own little play house to get away from noise and stimulations.
Yeah, that almost made me tear up. So sweet and loving.
I think it would help if they could keep the house tidy. It was a bit of a disaster. I don't mean this negatively but i think if the house was picked up and clean, he might be more at ease...
After seeing this, I’m going to do the same thing for my son. He’s on the spectrum, and almost identical to Thomas. However, my son is a technology WIZ! I love it!! I think he would do really well with his “time out space”.
@@lianealbert7728 perhaps its messy because of the child.
That really touched me! What a loving family
I love Jensen's penguin hat
He's picking up his mother's anxiety. Kids can tell if you're scared, and they will learn abject terror of anything you're even a little nervous of
Because of my mom's disdain for mushrooms and her fear of bees, I've spent my childhood feeling the same. Only later I've grown to actually enjoy cooked mushrooms and not be afraid of spiders or bumblebees and know to recognize wasps and how to behave around them not to get stung. I agree that as kids we do get influenced by our parents' reactions and emotions.
Just like I was told many times a baby will get fussy if the person holding them is nervous around babies. Don't know if it's true but it's like they can sense, with empathy I presume, someone's energy.
I thought this as well. They don't help the situation whatsoever projecting their fears. They should hide them in front of their kids.
As a preschool teacher it is very concerning that no one picked up on Thomas' diagnosis earlier! Shocking!
Jo Mc I’m a preschool teacher as well...it seemed pretty to pick up on his diagnosis
I am 61 years old and I just found out that I have high functioning Asperger and Autism. I was told that I am "retarded" at school when I was a kid. It took me a long time, right into adulthood to find out that I am not "retarded" However I knew something was off and I was always judged harshly by my family for that.I am often overwhelmed by noise and smell and I still have problems understanding some social clues etc, I did not know why I had certain difficulties I just thought I was a freak Therefore I suffered a lot. Now that it dawned on me what is really happening with me I can finally relax and know why I am the way I am.
AnnemieM I have sever social anxiety and sensory processing issues...my coworkers totally understand when I’m overwhelmed and need to go on a short break to calm myself down...I started crying today at work it sucked...all my teachers in high school always told me I was so stupid and said I’d never amount to nothing in life....my teachers hated me and made me well aware of it....and wanting to end my life and ended up dropping out of school a few months before graduation...now I’m 27 I went back to a school for adults with disability’s and was able to graduate....
AnnemieM we are all different and even if we don’t know it we might all have some sort of something “wrong or off” if that makes sense. Glad you were able to get help...family can be so mean sometimes
@@AnnemieM I'm so sorry you had to go through that! Glad you know what's happening now, its great to have a little clarity
So awesome, kudo's to Thomas' Dad for making him his own space and having him help with that process. My grandson is autistic, my son had him help build a chicken coope and other projects. Time spent together, learning new things, all giving the boy a sense of self accomplishment. Well done mom and dad for pursuing a diagnosis and solutions to help him along, he'll be fine.
Dr Ravi seems like such a lovely bloke. I'm glad there are guys like him out there to help these kids get through some of their most sensitive years and have the best chance at a happy life.
Thomas looked like he was smiling (as though he knew the doctor was having him on a bit) when the doctor suggested the LEGO plant could be a hairbrush. It wasn’t as though he got angered by it. Also the mum who keeps making different things like toast and fish fingers seems to be fuelling the boy.
yeah, aspie here - it doesn't always cause a meltdown, it's more of us aspies thinking 'wow you're silly, that's clearly a plant.'
@@LemonSte absolutely. fellow aspie here. just let the plant be a plant and a brush a brush. aspies can act as if a brush were a plant and the other way round if they want to, but if thats not the game then why waste time with this kind of sillyness :)
@@lizvlx yep exactly
My daughter dated an an “aspie” as you call yourselves. If I tried to tease him, he would just roll his eyes at me and make a friendly face of “geesh!” And shake his head! Then we would ALL laugh! It was EXACTLY that! Why should he waste his time but he liked us so he wasn’t really angry ! Unfortunately he had never been diagnosed (he was in his 40’s.) so we were just working on what we “thought.” He ended up breaking up with my daughter and he has probably never gotten any help. It’s too bad. His obsession was weather. Can’t even tell you! It has been years but I think of him often....
maybe the pyjamas are scratchy or the label feels horrible
Bless these doctors and families for loving these precious children and helping them reach their full potential.
It's great they can actually see them in their own homes and discuss their diagnoses with each other. It should always be like this.
Thomas rubbing his face and trying to be alone on xmas day made me cry. It really must be horrible for him all that noise and stimulation. Lovely family.
I was quite similar to Thomas as a kid, I really feel for him honestly. I can still barely go to a stimulating store without having a mental meltdown, I couldn't imagining having to go home to a busy house as well.
Same, tho mines is not as bad, i actually found out in highschool when my paretns took me to a therapist for deppresion and stjff cause i was failing all my classes. Really crowded stores give me anxity and get me really angry. Like i get really angry for no reason and such and like oof
Them laughing at him for getting excited for simple things like building and vacuums. Hit the feels right there, don't get frustrated with him being different realize the benefits of his keen interest and give him books, bring him to people who can teach him more and how the world works with some one on one time, have him spend time with other adults instead of kids for awhile and have them explain what their doing and what other people are doingin public and why so they'll have a better understanding of socializing
Me too, everytime I have to go to Ikea and can't find what I want and get out within 20 minutes I want to throw myself on the floor in a proper temper tantrum, which unfortunately isn't acceptable for a 40 year old... I remember hiding under the bed when my mother's loud family came to visit and having my Mum tell me this wasn't normal for a 6 year old. I don't have autism, I'm introverted with sound colour synesthesia... But my point is, being social 24/7 just isn't for everyone, but our society seems to think it should be. Now I work from home as a translator and have enough energy left for an active social life. And I'm happy that my 3 year old can now express his needs and asks his friends "Can you please go now?" after they came over and have been playing for a while.
@@blueraspberrylemonade32 Right? I hated the way Thomas's family talked about him - "But Tom, why do you think they pick on ya?" Instantly putting the blame on the victim. Living in the clutter and chaos must have been horrible for him, it's no wonder he was getting so stressed out. Poor little boy, I hope he's doing well now.
Immediately knew the first boy is on the spectrum.
Everybody seems to be on the spectrum lately.
His stilted manner of speech, along with the very even tone, are pretty indicative. At least in my (NONprofessional) experience.
@Mister Squiggles Yep. My 4 year old son is on the spectrum ( I knew since he was 1 and even was different as an infant and even pictures you can see his eyes change to looking through or off the the side of you) and my sister (PDD-NOS which is on the spectrum again in the US but was told if she was tested a few years earlier than 9 she would’ve been actually diagnosed as Autistic Disorder) but I do believe I may have it also but masked a lot. Never had any friends or 1 then she moved and I had none from when she moved in elementary school up till 10th grade but my parents insisted I had friends and I was lying. I always played alone at recess and didn’t really talk to other kids at all. I also had speech issues where even at 4 and 5 a lot of people couldn’t understand me but my parents could. When other kids had stopped playing with certain toys like Barbies (no one played with them even at 8 in 3rd grade but I did). I hated skirts and dresses because of how they felt by 8 or 9 but ironically when I was younger than that I would only wear skirts or dresses because I didn’t like shorts or pants. I was bullied really bad and by 9 was depressed 25% of the time and by 11 50% of the time and by 12 almost 100% of the time (which I’ve heard depression can be a sign in girls but obviously not all at all). I never got along with other kids and even now I can talk and talk and talk to someone about the same thing forever and I know people get annoyed sometimes but it takes a while for me to pick it up. Plus an extremely high pain tolerance.
@@pincel64 true, the boy is rude and badly spoiled, but not actually is in the spectrum, my niece ABSOLUTELY loves something and completely change after 6 months or so.
I still build Lego.....
amazing how much a difference a professional educators can make...no child is hopeless...all can learn to enjoy and learn and thrive
Poor Thomas , he is just reacting to a world that he doesn't understand . 💕
I wonder if theres a local Lego enthusiast club he could join? Kindred spirits.
@Shawnee Scorpion no there isnt these days im autistic too
I really enjoyed this video.Thomas is just delightful young man.. so smart and I’m surprised he wasn’t diagnosed earlier .. but I’m very glad he has his own space and he should be happier now that everyone knows what’s up..
Teared up at 33:07 “This is my version of jogging”. And Thomas’ lovely giggle as a reaction. Happy for him that he feels everyone in that sports group is his friend.
Mairiam DeBron poor Thomas. It must be a lonely place for him with no friends who understand him. I grew up with epilepsy, and children can be cruel. They get afraid of what they don’t understand. I really hope Thomas is doing well.
Pommie bears hoping the same for you.
Mairiam DeBron thank you, that’s lovely 🌸
This is so wholesome. Its so sweet he is understanding to them, such a precious kid 😭
My son has aspergers and recently told me as soon as kids realized he was different they didn't want to b his friend. I didn't know this when he was growing up. It broke my heart.
So happy for Thomas's parents. Getting that diagnosis is a HUGE relief after fighting so long for support!
Are there not ASD diagnostics in the UK?
@@lindagray1809 I found an autistic book, as I call such as the following, in my local library called George and Sam. It's by a mother with 2 sons who are autistic and 1 who isn't. They live in England and the book was published in 2003, but the last time I went to the library I saw it there still. I'm not British, but since I've read that book and Daniel Isn't Talking, another autistic book, but fictional about a little boy who's autistic with an older sister who isn't, I know they got some diagnostics. This channel became known to me when a video from them was mentioned on my sidebar.
Thomas just absolutely melts my heart, what a sweet & special boy he is💕
My experience with Essex County Council's assessment and support for my special needs son was 100% positive, absolutely wonderful. I couldn't rate them more highly.
When I moved to Norfolk, the exact opposite was true. Techniques were poor, old-fashioned and staff extremely biased. Things became so very bad, I reported the doctor in charge of our case and my family was forced to move in order to escape the constant intimidation and threats issued by this doctor and her inadequate team.
Oh my goodness!!! That is outrageous!!! I don’t understand how the service can vary so much from one area to the other. Don’t they all fall under the responsibility of the same minister at the national level? That is absolutely shameful!!! So sorry for you and your family!!!
The sad thing is nobody even wants to be friends with Thomas. If I was in his class, I’d be more than happy to be his friend.
My son has Aspergers, he's taught me so much in life, he's amazing! Really enjoyed this, thank you for sharing :)
I have aspergers syndrome
I wish both of you a lifetime of pure happiness. I believe that people with autism and Asperger’s syndrome are extremely special people. There is a book that I’ve read about a young man with Aspergers called House Rules, written by Jodi Piccoult. I was intrigued by the character in this book. Maybe you’d both be interested. 🌸
My son has aspergers and I have always accepted him for who he is.
I'm seeing a lot of me in the kids with Asberger's syndrome. I'm almost sure I've got it. I get very explosive anger over nothing. I have major social anxiety. 90% of people my age I don't get along with at all. They usually end up bulling me. I totally shut down, and just sit and stare at nothing at all. Can do this hours at a time not moving. When my anxiety gets up I end up shutting down as well as can have a seizure. I have a lot of other things that are hand in hand with Asberger's. ADHD, OCD, ADD, are just a few of them.
So I have a cousin with Aspergers and don’t exactly know what it is, do you think you could explain it to me???
I cannot tell you the relief I felt when I finally saw Thomas's mother smile at him at 40:42... Until that moment she had seemed almost totally detached emotionally. It was heartbreaking. When I saw how she looked at him then, I was able to exhale. I still found myself constantly wishing she would put her arm around him, or touch his hand... just attempt even some small gesture of physical connection to, and affection for, this beautiful boy she gave birth to...
@Janine M I understand what ur saying, but we have no idea what the mother has gone through or what she has/hasn’t tried in the past. Could also be anxious because there are cameras there… Also, touching or hugging someone on the spectrum may or may not be helpful, depending on their individual sensitivities.
The important thing is that the father certainly seems to be supportive, Mom is coming around and things are improving for Thomas…
I'm the only one who is thinking the mom is also on the spectrum?
Autistic children sometimes only want cuddles on their terms, sometimes my son wants cuddles sometimes not.
She was exhausted I think. Lot of love there.
My sister was a terrible eater. Mum saw the doctor. "She's not losing weight so she's fine", said the doctor, and that was that. She's now 60 and hasn't starved to death. Take it or leave it was the 1960s ethos.
“This is my version of jogging.”
I really freaking love that young man!
Gorgeous too!
Awesome families! Their love and care, will be rewarded! My granddaughter graduated last year in Child Psychology. Her desire was to understand better, the condition of her own children, who are autistic! I admire all the parents for responding to their children's needs! May you all have the victory, so deserved...
God bless! 🌹
Doctors really need to listen and watch out for signs. Being diagnosed makes life so much easier for the child and the family
My son got his diagnosis of ASD with learning difficulties just 2 short years ago at 14 years old.
I think all staff in every school should be trained to spot behaviours that may lead to a diagnosis of Autism, A.D.H.D etc so that instead of fobbing parents off and saying, they don't believe that (which happened to us 6 years previously in a different school), that they would support the family as a whole. That way specialist support is put in place early, to give that brighter future to kids on the spectrum. My son is doing fantastic with his education now after supports have been put in place to us as a family but more importantly to him. He is attaining much better in a smaller school for children with specialist needs.
I struggled to get my ADHD diagnosis. All through school I struggled and hated class work. The teachers thought I was just slacking off in class and I spent way to many evenings arguing with my parents about my grades. Only two teachers picked up on it my year 10 science teacher and my year 11 English teacher. My science teacher picked up on the fact that I had top grade (excellence) answers and understanding but was writing them out a a fail or basic pass grade (achieved or not achieved). The way my English teacher would describe me was "hi, I'm and I've got 20 tabs open on my laptop, doing crotchet, talking and concentrating on classwork." As well as that I was incredibly impulsive. I would do things ( start making another project while there were another 3 in the corner)
In august last year I had ADHD testing done and got the results of it saying that I had ADHD. Although looking at me, most people wouldn't realize it (apart from a few twitches which happen throughout the day). My ADHD affects me more when it comes to processing info and writing tests and exams.
I whole heartedly agree that teachers need to be more aware of people with learning issues rather than just labeling them as "problematic"
As a teacher with ADHD, I do confront parents with this kind of information, but so many of them don't want to acknowledge it. I have had a 7 year old who clearly has ASD, but the father is in denial because the mother died and he thinks she babied him. He is in major denial... as are my own parents!
Thomas's family are doing their best and being very lovely, but their house seriously needs to be tidied. There are way too many people, pets and just THINGS everywhere. Just looking at all the messy things is making me nervous.
I was thinking along these same line - I know both parent's are busy, esp with a newish little one, but that place could have used a good tidy up. A place for everything and everything in it's place. Esp with all the ppl who live there, organization is key.
Well kids make messes and people with asd have more needs....
WHY dont people eat round a table with their chidren anymore?
Breast or bottle, just eat around your children and include them!
Its not Rocket Science...
Yeah, that's what I thought
I think it is down to how expected it is to have children if you're partnered up. But......not everyone finds interacting with children to be enjoyable or interesting especially when you want to eat and they're at an age where you have to assist them. You can't really focus on your own food. So a habit gets started of helping them eat and then making a separate eating time for yourself. Then when they're old enough to feed themselves, people will eat in front of the TV because children can be quite boring for some people in the same way a very intelligent adult might not enjoy hanging out with someone quite dim. I think a lot of people who don't really enjoy kids go ahead and have kids anyway.
@@ThePimmy11 As much as I wish it wasn't like this... I think I agree with you.
@@ThePimmy11 That might explain it sometimes but in this case they seem to like doing stuff with him and playing and seem really happy with him. Which makes it even weirder that he has to eat alone, and that he eats in the living room. How can he learn how to behave at a meal if no one's eating with him?
Exactly
So happy for Thomas & his family, may their journey continue to flourish😊
I am glad to see families who love and support their children and recognize that there is a need that is not being met and have found a way to get them the tools that will help them function and strive. What a beautiful video. It was done quite well with class and respect. I believe that it is important to educate people who are oblivious to things like this and who have no experience with things like this because they might not need to know this information but if they cross paths with someone who could benefit from it, they can relay it like a message and inevitably help someone else by passing on the information, that they otherwise may have never gotten, had this video not been made. This is brilliant. Bravo! Maybe they could supply a phone number at the end of the video for people who might like to contact someone who could point them in the right direction.
It's crazy that Jensen's regular pediatrician didn't refer him for allergy testing after peanut butter sent him to the emergency room at only one year old. My child's pediatrician referred him for full allergy screening just based on rashes. If he wouldn't have, I could have, on my own accord, brought him to a specialist for testing. It sounds like the medical system in Jensen's area is severely lacking.
I find it a shame it took so many years before Thomas being diagnosed. To anyone that is around children to know normal behavior would ergo see he had an underlying issue of the brain. It shouldn't have taken him being seen by specialist at age 10. by five at most he should have been tested of the doctors had given parents any trust in knowing he was behaving differently. As a nurse I work with doctors of many personalities and I find those that think because they went to medical school and a patent hasn't they know nothing. I am a huge believer in listening to the parents as they are with this child all the time, they tend to have that insight when a child isn't "normal" compared to others of the same age or along with sibling behaviour. At least now they have a place to start in getting him extra help and changing things at home so he isn't so stressed. He's a handsome young man with a very bright future ahead of him and extremely loving parents and siblings to help him along. I wish both families well
Yes! A documentary with a happy ending! I especially enjoy when the story is about troubled children who end up doing well!
Thomas’ parents are so good! They pushed for a diagnosis and you can see how much they love their family
Does anyone remember Thomas' family from supernanny on the road?? They went to the shopping centre where Jo Frost gave tips. They were already asking for advice.
Thomas' baby sister is just the cutest little thing!
Good Lord that mum is causing a real fuss about food. Make him a mini buffet bits of cheese slices of fruit cucumber etc. Leave it on the coffee table, put on his favourite tv show and leave him alone. Poor boy what a fuss
Even better, ditch the highchair, get a booster seat which slips on a dining chair seat, hooks over the back of a dining chair or clips to the table. They fold up very small as well so you can travel the world with them, use them anywhere.
Jen And Urwin agreed. Part of the problem is he was sill being treated like a baby. Bottles of milk like are baby formula meal replacement, pacifiers, hichair. He needs to feel like a big boy. Sippy cups, silverware, table and chair, remove the pacifier.
But why should he eat alone in front of tv? Why don‘t they have mealtime together?
@@jutta3782 hardly any families in the UK eat together at the table other than special occasions like Christmas and New Years Day. It's just an outdated tradition that's been replaced by food on the go and meals infront of the TV
Both of these children had wonderful, loving parents.
I saw Thomas family on another television show about age gap love.
omg thank you!! I KNEW they looked familiar!
Oh yeah!
Mary Jane Love YES...so did I. I just couldn’t place them. It’s a fair few kids for a man of his years. He must have the patience of a saint. But, they’re still together and I think that’s wonderful.
At times the wife looked as if she were Thomas' older sister.
What's the show called
Thomas's dad seems much older then the mom. Like well over 20 years older.
My sister was 12 when she finally stopped believing in Santa, but we just let her be and live like a child.
My son is also on the Autism Spectrum, and high functioning. Watching Thomas was just like watching my Dustin. I can tell you, once you get that diagnosis, it’s SO MUCH EASIER to handle. I still get very frustrated trying to deal with Dustin’s rigid thinking, but that is to be expected. I do not have the help I need with him, as it is difficult to get through the community. (We are in the USA, and we live in California. Since he was born in Alaska, the help is more difficult to get. He would be privy to all sorts of help, had he been born in California.) we do have a 504 plan for his school, but that was such a fight. The teachers and school psychologist don’t have enough experience with Autism to know how to treat them without shaming them for reacting in ways that “aren’t normal”. I have explained that Dustin’s reactions to being overstimulated are indeed, normal in his world. My thought and prayers are with Thomas and his family. They have a very special young man, and to have the opportunity to see the world through Thomas’s eyes is such a blessing and a true gift!
Some kids are so lucky to have mothers who are loving and sympathetic.
I am not a medical doctor but I have taught in education for over 35 years. I can spot a student on the autism spectrum within one day. It is ridiculous that it took the family over four years to get a diagnosis and special Ed placement for their son.
It does seem to be surprising it took so long. By the age of 9 he must have had 4 or 5 different teachers, I would have thought that one might have noticed. The other children have certainly spotted something is not quite right.
Something is questionable about that family...
My son would only eat a few foods when he was small. He used to smell everything and I think he genuinely couldn’t handle the taste of a lot of things. He grew out of it thankfully . My little brother was the same but mum made meals into a nightmare trying to force feed him, he grew from a tiny prem baby into a healthy 6 foot man who will eat anything and loves food!
I've fallen in love with this boy! I love this program.
My 27 year old daughter was an extremely difficult child. At the age of 17 she had a massive breakdown set off by the breakup of her first boyfriend. She eventually was seen by CAMHS (Child and Adolescent Mental Health Service) and diagnosed with Pure O OCD. With hindsight when I look back the signs were all there from the age of 2, but I obviously had no experience of what to look for. She did get the help she needed, but it will never go away, she just learns to manage it. The important thing is getting a diagnosis as I know people who haven’t been diagnosed until their 40’s, at which time it has been allowed to fester, become too deep seated, making it much more difficult to be treated.
Loving caring parents, just want the best for their children.
Can I just say those children are fabulous little painters. So much better than I am and I am grown. 💘💘💘 this family and their support for their beloved brother and son.
Watching the other aspie kids reminds me of my childhood as an undiagnosed aspie
LOL Thomas' mum and dad actually spoke to Jo Frost in season 2 of Extreme Parental Guidance when she went on tour...
I thought I saw them at that mall on that show and how interesting was they problem the time was Thomas sleeping?
Hello fellow Autistics stalking the comment section :) What are your special interests? Mine are sci fi (especially Doctor Who and the Hitchhikers' Guide to the Galaxy;, and theatre, especially acting
I love sci fi, but more like the Trekkie part I think.
I also love to collect lighters (have no clue why, but I want them) And all the books from Stephen King.
I am obsessed with Puddles pity party and I have autism
Video games, sounds really typical for a interest. But I could write a book on the plots/history/social contexts of games just from memory. I am also into architecture and royal family trees
Building and creating
Hey good on all you guys you are just perfect the way you are !!
Thomas’s dad has to be at least in his 60s.
maybe he is, maybe he isn't; how is that at all relevant to anything?
Love is Love
Older men have babies who have health problems. My dad was 63 when my brother was born. My mom was 36. MY brother was born with a heart defect and mental defect as well as short stature. Just because a man can impregnate a woman doesn't mean he should.
@@sharynkoren2744 i totally agree. We have family friends who had a boy/girls twins at 49. One twin is very intelligent and functions perfectly normally. The boy twin is on par with a 2 year old and is nonverbal autistic. Their doctors warned them of their increased risk to have children with mental or physical disabilities. They are overly stressed out 24/7 and their autistic child is becoming to large to control and violent.
He's 92
Leave him alone until he’s hungry.
Thomas's father is ancient. Studies show paternal age may increase the odds of autism in their children. Very sad, because there is a lot of that in the UK.
@Gina Davis 10 more years and he's at retirement age, 15 more years and he fits the definition for elderly. Not exactly ancient, but very close.
no way is he in his 50s, definitely over 60.
Why is it so sad to be autistic? Apart from people being annoying regarding my sensory needs, meltdowns, and executive functioning problems it hasn't been as terrible as some people make it out to be for me at least
@@carryonmywaywardsam7513 I think it's just because people still don't fully understand it.
@@selobee4831 Yeah I know, it's just annoying when people think my existence is a bad or sad thing. There's just so much misinformation out there.
Thomas does not pick up on social ques.
everyone in the comments talks about the kids when I question why the chameleon is in a glass tank :/ (12:43)
In cold places it better to keep them in glass tanks as a screen cage loses huminity way to quick. You just meed to make adjustments like live plants, hols to ventilat the air and maybe a small fan of some sort.
you're not the only one. They need mesh enclosures, not tanks! As long as they are misted enough, mesh is better in my opinion.
I need a Dr Ravi in my life, he’s amazing!
I was a mom who's kids ate what I cooked and they never complained. But one day my daughter said the apples made her mouth itchy, I said nonsense, you eat apple pie, she just avoided eating apples. One day my son said the that eating raisins made his face feel funny. Again never having allergies or taking them serious, I just said then dont eat them. Until one day the school phoned me and my son was being rushed to the hospital, he was having an anaphylactic attack to one bite of a raisin cake, (he thought it was chocolate chip cake) and having a kid that's deadly allergic to anything is absolutely life changing. We could have lost our boy that day, it was that bad. Parents for the love of your children, if your kid isnt a fussy eater and they tell you something is off....LISTEN TO THEM. Strangely our daughter is only allergic to uncooked apples, but she just stays away from them completely. Our youngest daughter is allergic to avacados, a vegetable we rarely see in Northern Canada. We only found out because all three children were tested. My kids are now adults and we can laugh about my ignorance back then, but I still hate myself for not believing them.
Re: Jensen Everybody thinks their kid is special.
Everyone’s kid is special
@@janmeyer3129 I agree.
As a mom of two now teenagers if I have learned anything it is to trust your gut when it comes to your kiddos and push until you find somebody to help. Both of my kids would have died as toddlers had i not taken this to advice to heart from those with much more wisdom than myself.
I saw Thomas as an astrophysicist stationed on the top of a mountain observing the stars. Or as a lecturer on a brilliant subject that interests him
My oldest son was a challenging child to around the age of 6. He loved causing mayhem including wanting to do the food drama but my husband and I refused to participate. He didn’t have to eat everything on his plate. He had to try a new food before refusing it. Throwing your food on the floor got him removed from the table and there was no more food until the next meal. We didn’t make a big deal about it. No chastising, yelling, or begging him to eat. We always ate dinner together as a family. When it sunk in that he would be in his room while his older and younger sisters were at the table with us, eating, talking, and laughing seeming not to miss him at all, he stopped with his food nonsense. He created more drama in other areas and we just dealt with him with firmly but with love.
I have special needs I had severe dyslexia in 90s when in primary school. My mom got me all of support I needed. Last year I got told have combined type ADHD.
It so adorable Jensen and his mom have the same blonde curls 🥰
I think a BIG help would be to not have a tv in his bedroom! Geesh.....
also kids should not be watching TV while eating. Video games shoulod be limited (too stimulating for some kids) also addictive and obviously NO violent video games.
Haha Thomas is funny at sport class. Just how my kids (both ASD oldest PDA) are at sport class .
I like that.
Allergies are uncomfortable. I have mold and elm tree pollen reactions, but every few months I do have a reaction to something I always ate ok. So as an adult I know I probably developed mild reaction to wheat, or a fruit, and have to skip it a while to tame the gut upsets. Kids can't do this. As a kid I ate what I was given, and next day might have explosive gut issue. I could not link the two, although my older sister was diagnosed to have milk and wheat allergies. 1950s!!!!
Jesus. I thought he was her dad or grandpa!
Kim K. She must have been a child when they got together. I found it rather disturbing..
I thought he is her grandpa!!!
Goodness, what is wrong with you people? As if half a century constitutes some sort of age difference! =D
Same. Very shocked.
Same here. Very disturbing.
My middle son wanted to throw all his food on the floor. I bought a shower curtain. I spread it out under his high chair, and he happily dropped all his food on the floor (covered by the clean shower curtain). After he was done. I put him on the floor, removing the high chair, and he happily ate his food. I then washed the baby, the high chair, and the shower curtain. This went on, no crying or fussing, until he figured out how to use the spoon on his chair. No problems, no arguments, no difficulties. Happy baby/toddler, happy Mommy.
I relate a lot to Thomas! I'm undiagnosed, but I'm also pretty sure I'm autistic. I used to have major meltdowns as a kid, which is now mostly shutdowns where I can barely talk, think, or function. I could talk on and on about Danganronpa, Club Penguin, and pretty much any of my interests non-stop, and they change every few years. I also have sensory problems, where certain noises and specifically loud noises physically hurt, strong smells hurt, and I get dizzy and motion sick very easily.
I have an appointment with my doctor related to testosterone (I'm also trans) and my ADHD next week, and I have 2 self-assessment forms that indicate "mild" autism. I'm going to write down every single trait I have and explain them for my doctor when I bring it up because if I get diagnosed, it might make things easier for me in the future, especially when I go to university.
They will eat when they are hungry
its nice they got the diagnosis young. my uncle was only recently diagnosed with autism and he’s in his 50s
Thomas's mum looks very depressed
Anyone would be if they were married to their gramps!
If you ever waited 10 years wondering what was wrong with your beautiful boy, you'd be depressed too
Think I'd be depressed being married to my grandad and having so many kids! At his age, he can't possibly be much help around the house so it's all on her.
Thomas and those kids are adorable
Thomas seems like such a sweet boy. I find it disturbing how his mother seems like she'd have been in her teens when she got together with a 60 something man. Maybe the kids tease him because his dad is more like his great grandad?
Something else is going on in that family....
Oh no, I was the WORST fussy eater when I was young, but NOW (though I'm vegan) I enjoy a whole range of lovely food. It's preference. That pasta looked too dry and so did the bread. He obviously loved the fish fingers and peas A LOT. That first boy needs some of his OWN space .. we ALL do. Maybe I should be the therapist because I'm just like those subjects. 💖
Obvious Thomas is on the autistic spectrum to me as we also have a 10 year old on the spectrum who is very similar.
Darling Thomas!
14:15 that's clever that they used Lego to describe what autism is
The beginning all summed up is “the kids who don’t know how to live”
Take the baby bottle's away from Jensen!
Dad looks more like granpa with 2 grandkids , so weird !
Thomas dad is like what? 40 years older than his mother
What kind of nut puts a high chair over carpet? I had to do that at one of our apartments so I got a big plastic tablecloth to put under it. Worked great. I’m very surprised the carpet wasn’t horribly stained up too.
People with autism usually avoid eyecontact, but Thomas had beautiful eyecontact and good language. Being a midsibling also affects a childs behaviour.
My girlfriend feels like this all the time with the older 2 children she ask the Dr for help she said go back to school and get parenting advice this was before we moved
15:05 bye bye balloon lol
I could imagen my mom calling these people to find out my obsession with the military, and ww2 lmao.
Panzer Krieg haha sounds like my little cousin. He’s not little anymore, 14, but he’s loved learning about ww2 and the military his entire life. So much so that when my grandpa passed away he had given my cousin his dog tags and all that.
same issues with my daughter diagnosed asd at age 12, not been to school since age 11 due to extreme anxiety and constant bullying by other kids and having no true friends , she would much rather be surrounded by animalls, horses ,cats and dogs in particular
The real families TH-cam channel is the best to me British people are amazing and they have wonderful kids
Actually Im amazed at the ridiculous problems they seem to have. Seems like they tend to coddle their children way too much. These shows are interesting tho
@@lolalopez7657 very
@@joshuabulger3156 , not for nothing, a prime example is on this very show. They presented Jensen as if this problem was out of the ordinary for a toddler being finicky with his food. Instead of mom saying okay he is trying to play a pissing contest with me and I can't let him win, she coddles him to death and so he plays games with her!
@@lolalopez7657 that's sad how he's acting i would ground him
This video was likely recommended to me *because* it hits so close to home... After watching Thomas's diagnosis, I'm more confident than ever that my youngest - and likely my older daughter as well- is on the spectrum.
My mom was finally diagnosed not terribly long ago, in her late 40s/ early 50s. It's unfortunate that an already complicated process now feels nearly impossible due to the pandemic.
Every time I see a parenting show like this, it's depressing how dumb the parents are. Spoiling their kids around food, treating mealtime like a game, emotionally feeding. The parents asking Thomas why doesn't he think the other kids play with him....don't they KNOW? The other looks asleep and tired of the whole thing, and does not discipline him at ALL, and the father isn't tough either. It's not the kid's fault, it's the parent's. He's NINE! Parents are supposed to parent, eke out a few guidelines and discipline if the kid got off the rails, as they always will. He's left totally alone in the room, the parents could be reading to him, playing learning games, being regular with him. Not asking him what he wants.
Tordy Clark - they could start by cleaning up
Their home. I didn't see a clean surface anywhere. Junk piled up everywhere. No wonder he is freaked out with his home environment. It's utter chaos.
I find myself wishing men had something like a menopause quite often. He should be a grandparent already, not a father of kids. Revolting.
Anyone else thought Thomas' mum looks like Gilly from Game of Thrones?? Where's she hidden baby Sam?
I wish it had been this easy for me I didn’t get my diagnosis or autism till I was 12 and after years of fighting I’m now 15 and have only just started getting the support I need but I’m on my last gear of secondary school and we still have to fight for skit of support
Better late then never though!
The important thing is that something is being done finally. As long as you make *LITTLE* strides over the next couple years, you're doing what you're supposed to.
My partner has an uncle that grew up in the 70's/80's and he is still just "mentally retarded" his parents are so old fashioned they don't even realize they can figure out exactly what his diagnosis is and how to embrace it. He's a very big guy, they need to be mindful of his needs, but regardless, I know it's not the same exactly, but my point is that you're growing up in great times where the docs are learning new things about autism every day.
You'll be just fine :) you've got my love and support for sure, good luck in the future!
Interesting that the adults didn't pick up on the difference between what he likes (peas) and didn't like (heavy carbs). Wish they had offered other veggies and fruits. May have gotten to the bottom of the issue quickly.
I used to LOVE my mum's Henry hoover. I would have tea parties with it and dress it up.