It may have seemed odd when honeys mom cheered to know her daughter's diagnosis, but it made me remember how happy and RELIEVED I was when my son was finally diagnosed profoundly deaf. Knowledge can set us free, and with a diagnosis, you can finally know what to do about it.
I totally hear ya - no pun intended! I too cheered and cried with relief when our son was diagnosed with autism...it was the not knowing and not knowing what to do or how to help him.
I have to deal with neighbours who jump on there trampoline jumping naked i’m like “Hm, whats going on outside?” “Oh, the naked kids are outside again back to bed.”
It’s a disgraceful shame that children must appear on a TV programme before medical professionals take a case seriously enough to actually do something about the problem. Years of undiagnosed misery for both the sufferers and carers. Appalling.
@@odd_shoesWhy? They said nothing wrong. I've already said this but I'll say it again. My grandson has Autism. He tried to act like this but we didn't allow it. A child needs boundaries and discipline. It causes the child to feel safe. When a child is told where to be, when to be and what they should be doing, they are great. When you allow any child, regardless of what they are going through to run free, all you have is chaos. Children act out because nothing is set for them. So they don't feel safe. All children need structure. Without it, you have this! The Bible says it best, Spare the rod and you will spoil the child. You must have discipline and boundaries. The more you have, the better the child is.
Oh Lillie what a blessed life you must live. May trouble never come to your door. The bible preaches love, Beating is cruel but most especially cruel for children born with a disorder. Compassion, love and care are gifts that you can pray for
I think Emma, Theo's mother, might have been less "lazy" than worn out, fed up and depressed. With structure and new effective ways to improve her parenting skills and her son's behavior, things will just keep getting better and her mental and physical health will be back on track.
Professor Roundbottom I completely agree with you! She's definitely depressed, if she take or truly wants her son to change his behavior than she'll take your advice!
I love what this documentary did with the girls family. It hinted towards "Oh its not autism this family is just bad at parenting" which gets people who think like that hooked and pulls a 180 showing hey it is autism and this is how you know. Getting the facts out to the people who need to hear them instead of preaching to the choir.
I could tell right away that it was more serious with honey. Other 3 kids perfectly fine, she tore up the entire bookshelf when a normal angry child would just throw 2 or 3 books, banned from school due to violence, doesn't like people but animals, etc... I'm not sure how they didn't get a diagnosis sooner. With Theo, nan seemed to have no problems with him, just with mum, so that's quite telling. Ignoring his school mornings so she could sleep in, and still relies on her parents to provide for her and take care of her responsibilities, that's just ridiculous. No wonder.
jane jan but with theo the grandma could also be a problem. From what i know, grand parents spoil their children. He sees his grandparents everyday. Mum doesn't have that role. What if theo acts like this around grandma because she spoils him? Instead of helping her daughter with his meltsdowns, the grandma just sits there like "oh she needs to be firmer". Accusing your daughter doesn't help anything, if he is a little angle with you.
They need a behaviour analyst in that situation. Find out what environmental factors (parental and grand-parental behaviours, etc.) are triggering and maintaining those behaviours.
Kittyklawz123 no it would be angel, i did make a spelling mistake, but i didn't mess up singular and plural. If you were to correct me, at least do it the right way 😂
I can understand to a degree how Honey’s mom felt. To finally have answers when you have just been brushed off and blamed as the problem by medical professionals and those around you for years for something that you had no control over is a huge relief. Because eventually you start to wonder if you’re crazy, but then to get the validation that you’re not crazy and that this was something that you couldn’t control is a very heady feeling.
I was diagnosed with chronic fatigue and the relief was immense. I was being forced to do things that other people were doing when I had no energy. It was to the point that I couldn't do any homework because I passed out as soon as I got home. So when I got the diagnosis, people started taking it seriously. Of course there were people who just said, "that's a made up condition" but generally, things improved after I was diagnosed.
You could do what my grandma did to me once: Record them having their tantrum and show the footage to a therapist, because I guarantee you, the embarrassment alone is enough to change a kid.
yo if your mom abuses you every day dont show it to her boss show it to cps or something, no sane abuse victim wouldn't try to contact cps at least once
Well if she is realy mean like that I would understand why you would want tk ruin her life and get her fired bit be shor you have a somewhere to go before you make her have no mony
I was judged by everyone as I raised my daughter. She’s one of five children and the rest were well behaved. It wasn’t until she was 18 that finally a diagnosis came. She’s on the autism spectrum, she has ADHD and OCD. I totally relate to honeys mom cheering at a diagnosis. Once a diagnosis comes then we can better help our children. And people around them tend to be more tolerant and understanding, which helps all of us feel less like failures.
Sheila. As you had children how did you ever come across the time to ask everybody if you were being judged or not? Why didn't you spend more time with the children, research like that, being a research myself, will take around two years to get a correct Analysis-worth just in the town I live in and then you personally would've missed people out. So that's the first thing, secondly there is no such thing as ADHD, that's just an excuse, and thirdly why did it take so long to diagnose that she was on the autistic spectrum primarily and most importantly that she has OCD. Why were you so busy doing other things when you had a child with such severe mental disorders?? And by the way that's not a judgement - that's the truth.
@Sheila Hatch Getting an autism diagnosis for girls is still to this day tricky. Finding someone who is clever enough to recognise it is a challenge. It's awful you had to go through that and your daughter too would be damaged by not having the support she needed. I'm a late diagnosed Autistic myself and people have been cruel and judgemental. Good on you for staying strong and supporting your daughter and good luck for the future. ❤️
As an autistic person, all my diagnosis led to was abuse through ABA “therapy”, C-PTSD, Ableism, and more people who think that “people with autism” are just violent and defiant.
I have Aspergers and so does my brother, I could tell straight away in the first 5 minutes that Honey was on the Autism spectrum and Theo wasn't. I don't really even know how but I just knew, so many of the mannerisms and the little details of the situation were familiar.
Shedonista Shamanatrix I couldn't care less what they call it, this world is so sissy afraid of "labeling", I'm here to say that I have Aspergers and I'm proud of it!
great now the grandma will be like " i told you you are a bad mom" they shouldve told the granny as well that she needs to stop undermining ehr daughter especially in frnt of the kid
Theo’s mom is super patient, Idk how she was so calm during his tantrums. I did notice that after she got the white noise app and he was asleep at 7pm and she came down to tell her Mom, the Mom said “oh you must be so proud of yourself!”. Passive aggressive much? I suspect Nanny got some sort of pleasure in seeing Theo act like an angel with her and be a terror with his mom. And I’m super happy for Honey’s parents. The relief at the diagnosis gave me chills. All those years when they were blamed and they finally got vindication ❤️❤️
It breaks my heart that the public school system didn't help the parents catch Honey's autism at a MUCH younger age. As a public elementary school teacher in the US for 27 years, I find it appalling that this little girl was essentially thrown away by the professionals that are supposed to be her advocates. Her parents should be applauded for not giving up and continuing the search for someone to help.
But we have to understand at the same time they have other kids to take care of. And the school esp can't have her her in proximity because of her threatening other kids and being a "potential" danger
That's a good point. I had a school friend from the first grade to the seventh grade, and only towards the end of that seventh year did he tell me he finally got diagnosed with ADHD. He's had a serious stutter as long as I've known him, so much so that it sort of takes a while to get used to ignoring it and speaking to him normally. I really am confused as to why no one caught on to something being wrong earlier.
Why does everyone assume autism and ADHD cause misbehaviour?! My brother has both ADHD AND AUTISM and he is a nice, friendly, loving and hyper intelligent young child
AtomicCookieGaming my sister has autism and she is so sweet and really amazing at music too with very limited communication with everyone but I hate the fact that she is labelled rude and badly behaved often (at least from what I have found) because of badly behaved children who have parents that don't want to admit that they don't keep control of there children
AtomicCookieGaming it depends onnthe Autism. Theyre are many on the spectrum. Ive watched those that were aggressive and others that were passive. It all depends
AtomicCookieGaming you have to know there autisic first and then what kind and its methods. You can expect parents to know that. Many don't learn until later in life. Many of them are frustrated because they can't understand emotions and lash out because of it. The struggle is unavoidable. Its no fault of anyone just the reality
Honey 's artistic skills continues to improve ,as she makes an amazing sculpture down in the end of the film of a little girl in a dress. Her parents and teachers really need to nurture and build her art skills. Theo shows great improvement and he has an amazing family support. Honey is also lucky to have creative parents .
Honey's parents are so loving. The moment i started watching the interactions, i knew there was something wrong with the child's behaviour and not for once believed the parents were to blame. I'm glad they got the diagnosis to help her for a much better life :)
Autism isn’t a behavioral issue based disorder. There’s nothing wrong with autistics behaving the way autistics do. The problem is from inappropriate treatment and reactions from those around us to our normal traits.
Boy!!! Listening to Honeys parents describe her brought me to tears, it really did. My daughter is turning 9 soon and she was diagnosed ASD just last year. My little baby girl was also kicked outta school and had the school threatened her with police and hospitals, it absolutely broke my heart (and hers) every single day. Her being kicked outta that school was the very best thing that could've happened, she now goes to a therapeutic day school, has ALL kinds of therapist and is doing SO so much better. I really do understand the struggle that Honeys parents had to go through, and it does get better. You just gotta keep fighting for your kiddos, and be a really good advocate for them.
If y’all watched to the end you would see that the professionals gave actual solutions to their problems and improved life for both families. It was really nice to see the improvement Honey and Theo made, and the improvement wasn’t because anyone started hitting them.
@@michaelaelizabethx Just gotta love it when people watch only a glimpse of almost an hour long, or even longer video, etc. Then instead of watching it all, they just assume that from their 60 to 180 seconds of watching the video, they now know it ALL -&&- have a right to give their idiotic, un-informed opinions of the child or situation🤣🤣. It's honestly hilarious to me, -&&- quite comical because then those people end up looking like morons/idiots all while at the time they thought they were giving some of the best parenting/life advice that they've ever given, while suddenly becoming a keyboard warrior/degree-LESS Google doctor🤣🤣. Jokes on them, they're the ones who end up looking downright idiotic -&&- ridiculous🤣🤣.
For the first one I can see a big problem. Mainly the fact that we didn't see her congratulate him whenever he did something good. I'm not saying do it all the time. But the nan congratulated him and he was a 'little angel'
I was really impressed with the way these experts managed to convey to Theo's mum that she can help him, without making her feel defensive and upset. They were so understanding and encouraging, and she did not feel like they were blaming her at all.
Theo seems like the most cheerful and funny little boy. I'm glad his mother got professional help. HER mother meant well but we all know how utterly judgemental mothers can sound and it's so, so overwhelming to be a mom to begin with! She was right in saying het daughter needed to be more form but the way the professionals put it, acknowledging Theo's mom's struggling and insecurity and giving her positive reinforcement, that was so much more effective than "She's lazy and nerds to do better parenting." It's easy to judge, it's not easy to change.
She really needs to start getting up at the same time as her son. It's no good saying her mother is judgemental when daughter is happy to rely on her to mind Theo while she's sleeping in late every day. What kind of message does that send to the child also? No wonder he kicks off when she appears. Being more independent from her family would help as well.
@@Lul81028 I wonder if poor lady isn't suffering from some major sleep deprivation. And maybe depression. I love how the team looks for the sleep disorder in the child. . I loved the non-judgemental approach--and Theo looks to be doing well with it. But I really agree with you on her dependence on her family. I can see why, otoh, this can't be entirely good (might situations where it would be great). But it seems quite one way.
@@susanyates4233 You know, I wish people would look at the date to ask questions like that. Can't even recall the details. It's been 8 months. Generally yes.
i was recently diagnosed with autism, pda and adhd at the age of 15. honey’s story helped me realise i needed to get assessed and it helped me find out what pda was which explained so much about my life, i can see how scared the poor girl is which people mistake for a misbehaving child but i completely understand how she feels in that moment, being told to do something or asked a simple question is absolutely terrifying to me and i always thought i was just broken but finding out there is a genuine reason was the best thing in the world
Honey seems like a wonderful person. Just me er got the actual comfort she so badly needed. Her parents are great, trying to cuddle her back into reality instead of punishing. Trying to reassure and guide her as best as they could without any help. They all got so much judgement from people who had NO idea what they were taling about. Imagine being that scared all the time! I'm glad she got some real help there.
Mike Puorro Hihihi I'm here laughing . So that each time the kid does something embarrassing they'll go like oh yeah the doctors said she has this so we'll let her be. Lack of parenting skills just.
Mike Puorro The behaviour should be noticeable when the kids are toddlers! When kids start pushing boundaries at two or three that’s when the parents need to put things in place not wait till they are this old.
Maureen, super nanny has helped dysfunctional families by the thousands. She is very good at family assessment and teaching parents to actually parent. The UK and the world owe her a lot. Your insult can only be seen as utter stupidity.
Threatening to KILL fellow students is wild. I don’t blame the school for permanently excluding Honey (the violence and rage isn’t safe for other children). However, just kicking her out with no plans to continue her education was neglectful and horrible
Shut up? My grandson is autistic and that behavior is NOT acceptable at all and he gets in trouble for clowning like that. No one caters to him at all. Absolutely not.
These parents need to stop throwing around "Autism" and "ADHD" because they have no idea what it means, and it is *NOT* an explanation for bad behaviour.
It isn't in explanation. Autism and ADHD can increase the likelihood of misbehaviour, but it is up to the parent to discipline them. The parents in this video are *far* too soft, and they are the ones responsible for the bad behaviour.
You can't stop an autistic child from having meltdowns with discipline. Autistic meltdowns aren't bad behavior. They result when the child is overwhelmed and the animal fight or flight instinct kicks in. They're basically panic attacks. Trying to discipline a child in the middle of a meltdown will only make it worse and further traumatize the child.
There is a difference between a meltdown and downright cheeky misbehaviour. I agree it's a bad idea to attempt discipline during a meltdown, though. I know all too well what it's like to have such a panic attack as a child.
Did anyone notice* Honey's AMAZING art/ drawing skills and sense of perception ? She draws a picture I had to go back to observe, it was obviously a picture that looks strikingly similar to the doctor Ravi in the suit . the great dark brown skin as well ! - I also notice that the children are well behaved or better behaved at least in the presence of other people.
I thought with Theo it was very encouraging to show how correct parenting strategies DO WORK! good on the mom and family for sticking to a good strategy and figuring out the problems
ŽĽËĖPÝHEAD Yeah, a Mexican-American friend of mine said her mother was a terror when using ‘La Chancla’ (the flip-flop, or thong) to smack her, her brothers, and even her dad to keep them disciplined. Present day, living in Northern California, she won’t allow flip-flops in her house because of the memories of her mom’s beatings that always began with a sharp smack from the chancla.
Im so happy for Honey that she got the right help now. She was not mean she was terrified. It must have been so difficult for her parents to hear that it was their fault, but all kids live in the same family and have the same parents, but her siblings were normal, obviously it was someting wrong with Honey. I hope all the best for her in the future and that she get help to learn hove to handle her anxiety.
I understand her, i think many people feel the same. She understand the animals but have problem with social interactions with human, so she feel safer with the animals.
I LOVED this very loving documentary of "family". It is so refreshing that this amazing team of professionals are avoiding drugs and/titles to quickly stop the problems which is obviously a short cited answer and no answer for a lifetime. There for a no quick fix. It's a group effort of love for children and family. No abuse whatsoever just patience and love
I agree. I think we need more doctors and professionals like this. They genuinely seem to care about the kids they help. And they're not quick to label them either. Kids don't fit a box.
edit for people only seeing this now: I made this comment 3 years ago and have come to realize I was, in fact, abused as a child, and that pretty obviously colored my outlook. I can't say I stand by my original comment, but for posterity, I didn't change it. Original comment below: there's rarely any blanket solution to child rearing, but I really believe that much of the (non-medical) behavioral stuff tends to be caused by a lack of consequences. My mom never made a threat she didn't follow through on, and I immediately learned that the boundaries are concrete. If you give in to a child's tantrums even ONCE it creates a skinner box where they're constantly pushing for the occasional payout.
Romantic Outlaw The behaviour doesn’t just start out of nowhere when kids are as young as 2 that’s when they start pushing boundaries. What were the parents doing when the kids were young?? All kids have tantrums at 2-3 years old.
BellRain Sorry but no, all kids do not have tantrums at 2-3 years old. Plenty of kids are loved, happy and have their needs met without ever having to scream and throw a crying fit. There are plenty of instances of that wonderful mix between a healthy child, and a good loving parent who knows how to distract their toddler in a fun happy way! At least, that's what I've seen in my life.
@@themudpit621 I agree with you there; My three kids never had temper tantrums and neither did my brother's children, and they've turned out to be well adjusted adults with children of their own, without temper tantrums and meltdowns.
Girl is also damned if she doesn't lose weight now. If childhood obesity isn't treated right away, those kids typically continue to become obese adults. Diabetes type II also knocks at door before age 30.
I'm so pleased for these parents. Honey is such a sweet little girl when she isn't scared, and Theo is quite endearing as well, especially when he understands his boundaries.
Superstar Candy autism is a huge spectrum, there is many different types. My friend has autism and she's sweet and polite, but there's a kid in my class that has autism and he's gotten multiple steps and referrals and it's only the third week of school, he's had ISS three times, and he's on the brink of OSS.
Some people are more on the angry side of ADHD and some are just hyper activity, when I was little I was violent and angry I would kick holes in walls and doors I was a devil child and now I’m hyper I still get angry but it’s way calmer. Everyone’s different
Aside from a serious diagnosis, a bad behavior on a child speaks directly to how is he/she being raised and the problems at home, and specially the parents, if it is a single mom or dad this behavior is more noticeable, I don't have children neither I want, but I was a child and I realize that sometimes people isn't fit to be a parent and telling this to mom or dad might sound hurtful but it's true. Children having children is making this behavioral problem in kids more relevant, because neither are they prepared to raise a them properly, because they're mostly childs still.
I am glad these children got appropriate diagnoses. Re: Honey: I have seen first-hand the anxiety reaction of anger and withdrawal from new situations. My friend was like that. Now I understand. On this video they did say it was life-long diagnosis, and for sure, my friend suffered her whole life. She didn't seek help, but would get an antidepressant from the doctor. Yet that didn't address her underlying problem, just a bandaid one-size-fits-all approach. Also nice to see the little boy just needed more consistent rules and timeouts and better sleep with the help of white noise machine. No drugs. Bravo!
It is a relief to get a diagnosis but honestly, the "treatment" for ADHD and autism is usually just clear discipline dressed up as therapy. I know the disorders really do exist but after 18 years with my son with ADHD I realised that the therapy was simply very well defined, coached, good parenting. Most parents can make do with 75% good parenting but if you have a child with these disorders your parenting has to be on point 100% of the time.
I’m autistic and for ages when I was around her age (and like Theo my brother has adhd too) I struggled majorly at school. I remember one day where to get someone’s attention I pulled their hair. The teachers tho sent me to another class for the afternoon which didn’t help keep me calm at all. My behaviour throughout my childhood constantly got me into trouble at school, and so Ik what is going through Honey’s mind. My meltdowns were similar to hers. I’m now 17 just turning 18 and have obviously matured loads and know how to deal with things lots better.
Autism is neurological but not an excuse to be a brat. Yes their brains are wired differently, but you said you pulled someone's hair for attention. That is something a neurotypical child would do.....act out for attention. We can't blame all bad behavior on autism. For many kids and in many homes kids.... 1. Have a lack of boundaries and consequences 2. Are not getting enough sleep 3. Are on high sugar diets 4. Are allowed to be disrespectful to parents and teachers
@@ashlieleavelle I was a challenging and troubled autistic child. I pulled someone’s hair because I did not know how to get on with others. It then became a meltdown. I was trying to talk to this girl and she walked off. Wouldn’t you have felt a little annoyed? Imagine how is is when your challenges and feelings are way more magnified and extremely tricky to navigate through. Imagine how you may deal with it then. Well I can tell you, not really that well. I was 8 years old. Yes a neurotypical child pulls hair too, but not in the way I did. Usually a kid will have stopped pulling hair then. I actually remember seeing another autistic child pull their sister’s hair at 10. And not only that, hair pulling is one of the many self-stimulating or self-soothing activities used by lots of individuals with autism to self-regulate. In seeking sensory stimulation or sensory soothing, there is a tendency to target sites where there are many nerve endings such as the hands, feet, mouth and scalp. When I did it, it was anger that this girl ignored me. But the autism mixed with anger does not go well. I was in a state of anxiety that whole afternoon being forced into a whole new classroom with whole new surroundings and whole new people. The worst way to handle it is force the child into a state of change. It escalates the meltdown mode. Change is incredibly overwhelming for us. I am not making excuses to be a “brat”. I am saying that just because neurotypical kids do it too doesnt mean we do it like they do. And you saying we act out for attention is actually very wrong. It is absolutely not us acting out, its the sensory overload, panic and anger all mixed up together and ready to explode from us.
Born different YES there are few people but born naughty NO or even bad no such thing. It's a man made behavior. If a child is naughty means the parents spoiled them starting at their early age or the child got mental disorder that needs medical attention. It's easier to treat just being naughty than suffering from any kind of disorder. Bad behavior can be changed with proper training. A fact.
Skyler Paris There's is a BIG DIFFERENCE between JUST BEING NAUGHTY and people SUFFERING FROM A DISORDER, didn't I mention it before? IF a person is suffering from a disorder WHATEVER THEIR BEHAVIOR WAS IS TO BE RESPECTED by anyone no matter what.
Maybe if they cleaned up and organized poor honeys home, then perhaps it would help organize her thoughts and comfort her mind. Have a place for everything that way she can take part in controlling her own environment. I mean that just seems like common sense …..
but.. ppl are different.. what might work with some ..might not with another..besides.. i said i notice one thing..lack of discipline. that doesnt mean..there is not more to it.
I see no issue with having children out of wedlock, you can't blame it on that. Some people who are single want to have children too and raise them on their own.
Notice how in both cases, the adult male runs and goes out of the house, leaving it to the woman to handle the child. interesting how that is found in common in BOTH situations.
When you have a child that misbehaves that much you have no energy after dealing with them. My house looked like that when my daughter was misbehaving like that. I was just exhausted all the time. I would clean and she would destroy it. Now that she’s calmer my house is cleaner bc I have energy and she’s not destroying it
Nicholle Dye Medication would do her lots of good also no Sugar helps out too No these kids are most likely Autism or Aspergers Adhd meds calms these kids down School has to take them under Se classes and help
Deleted deleted no they won't. Why settle for settling and having children and pushing them to pursue your dream. You could just not settle and pursue your own dream. Thousands of children are born a day, nothing special about children.
Robin Brand there's nothing wrong with making the life choice to not have children but don't exclude yourself from such a lovely gift when most of the time if you do the right thing your kid is fine
Theo doesn't get enough positive attention from his mom. He will get negative attention if he can't have positive. He can behave because he showed it with grandma. Mom just needs to let him know she is the boss and in control.
Its funny....Mom thinks Theo is just this uncontrollable terror, but yet when I see him with his grandmother he is obedient, he listens to her and he doesn't seem out of control. I also found it very telling when they said Theo lives with his SINGLE mother and his grandparents and while Mommy sleeps late, Grandma is up at 6:00 in the morning getting her grandson dressed, reading to him, putting his hearing aid in and he only gets upset when Mom finally comes down and then she's shouting at him.
"Do you mind stopping" That seems like a problem right there. Should be "stop that or such and such will happen", whatever will be effective that she really won't want. Obviously not violent.
Why are all these homes messy and cluttered? Maybe if things were cleaned up and organized the children would feel a bit better. I know I feel better after the house is cleaned.
I was thinking the same thing. Theo's house isnt that bad, but Honey's is awful!!! Im not the world's best housekeeper, but dang! Their house is a mess!!!
I am also diagnosed with PDA it’s got a lot better now I’m an adult. But when I was a child and teenager I was a real handful. The anxiety is crippling. You have anxiety doing the simple things “what if I do it wrong” “what if it’s not up to standards. My anxiety is still awful with appointments but I can now handle it instead of kicking off. But as honey gets older she will learn to cope with the extreme anxiety instead of having meltdowns
This mother is doing EVERYTHING WRONG. You don't bargain with kids. When you say "this is your last chance" it never is the last chance, and there's never a defined consequence that actually happens. Theo's mom is the perfect example of this. The kid doesn't need drugs. She wants the lazy way out - just drug him. But the difficult way, the way of consistent discipline that you see on Nanny911 will fix the problem. But the mom has to face her own issues. I don't know about Honey.
But she changed, remember? Near the end of the video, she seemed to realize (with the help of specialists) the correct way to discipline Theo, so it all worked out in the end. You make it seem like the problem wasn't resolved.
Thats what i was thinking too. I have adhd and it was clear he does not just by the rapid switch when mom took over care. He knew who he could get away with being naughty with and who he couldn't.
Theos definitely not adhd. The fact he is an angel for his gran and a devil for his mum just speaks volumes. Even his nan called her own daughter lazy and said she gives him too many chances.
Agreed, but it looked like the entire story wasn't exactly portrayed accurately. For instance, when she was pointing out Theo's door, how he had thrown his toys at it, there's no way. If you look at the door, (pause the vid), there are big gauges in it, he was doing more than just throwing toys. I hope the toys were red, something was dripping red on the door as well and it didn't go high up the door. How was he allowed that much time to destroy a door that badly? How was he allowed that much time to crack the window? According to her, he was only to be in a 6 minute time out. He did that much damage in 6 minutes? Entirely unsafe and dangerous for that child. I hope they keep working with her, they seemed to just scratch the surface and told her what a great mom she is, instead of laying out the truth and telling her to get her tail out of bed in the morning and quit making her mom take on her responsibilities, maybe then her Mom wouldn't be quite so critical.
It may have seemed odd when honeys mom cheered to know her daughter's diagnosis, but it made me remember how happy and RELIEVED I was when my son was finally diagnosed profoundly deaf. Knowledge can set us free, and with a diagnosis, you can finally know what to do about it.
I felt relief when honey was diagnosed, I was never diagnosed and she reminded me of myself as a child.
How can you NOT know your Son was "Profoundly' Deaf? 🤯
@@chi8185 he was probably an infant at the time you knit wit. Stop and think before you ask such stupid questions next time.
I totally hear ya - no pun intended! I too cheered and cried with relief when our son was diagnosed with autism...it was the not knowing and not knowing what to do or how to help him.
@@chi8185 There's a world of difference between a Mom "knowing" something and having a diagnosis.
I feel sorry for the neighbours
"Morning ahhhh, so tired.."
"What's outside the window?"
"Oh god a naked boy on the roof.... Iam moving"
NuclearFruit lmao
Comment award for the funnyist comment ever
I have to deal with neighbours who jump on there trampoline jumping naked i’m like
“Hm, whats going on outside?”
“Oh, the naked kids are outside again back to bed.”
NuclearFruit kk
Lol
It’s a disgraceful shame that children must appear on a TV programme before medical professionals take a case seriously enough to actually do something about the problem. Years of undiagnosed misery for both the sufferers and carers. Appalling.
@@dianehess5520 How dare you say that. What a horrible thing to say.
@@odd_shoesWhy? They said nothing wrong. I've already said this but I'll say it again. My grandson has Autism. He tried to act like this but we didn't allow it. A child needs boundaries and discipline. It causes the child to feel safe. When a child is told where to be, when to be and what they should be doing, they are great. When you allow any child, regardless of what they are going through to run free, all you have is chaos. Children act out because nothing is set for them. So they don't feel safe. All children need structure. Without it, you have this!
The Bible says it best, Spare the rod and you will spoil the child. You must have discipline and boundaries. The more you have, the better the child is.
I think' train wreck' is not the best way to describe a naughty child, or anything else, given previous history of rail disasters in the world.
Oh Lillie what a blessed life you must live. May trouble never come to your door. The bible preaches love, Beating is cruel but most especially cruel for children born with a disorder. Compassion, love and care are gifts that you can pray for
@@lilliebrown6320 thank you. Too many people like to jump on the bandwagon and judge, like their opinion is the only one that really counts.
Oh my gosh, when Honey said "I want to be less angrier and not have a melt down every single day"
Melted my heart a bit 🥺❤
it made me cry please stop 😢
And she doesn't now!!
I think Emma, Theo's mother, might have been less "lazy" than worn out, fed up and depressed. With structure and new effective ways to improve her parenting skills and her son's behavior, things will just keep getting better and her mental and physical health will be back on track.
Professor Roundbottom I completely agree with you! She's definitely depressed, if she take or truly wants her son to change his behavior than she'll take your advice!
Professor Roundbottom on the contrary, kids with autism can be very kind and loving towards animals and small children
Johanna Perez
I didn't say anything about the boy, just said I think his mother was depressed rather than lazy.
I agree
Nah she is lazy
I love what this documentary did with the girls family. It hinted towards "Oh its not autism this family is just bad at parenting" which gets people who think like that hooked and pulls a 180 showing hey it is autism and this is how you know. Getting the facts out to the people who need to hear them instead of preaching to the choir.
The focus was clearly on PDA, not autism.
I could tell right away that it was more serious with honey. Other 3 kids perfectly fine, she tore up the entire bookshelf when a normal angry child would just throw 2 or 3 books, banned from school due to violence, doesn't like people but animals, etc... I'm not sure how they didn't get a diagnosis sooner.
With Theo, nan seemed to have no problems with him, just with mum, so that's quite telling. Ignoring his school mornings so she could sleep in, and still relies on her parents to provide for her and take care of her responsibilities, that's just ridiculous. No wonder.
jane jan but with theo the grandma could also be a problem. From what i know, grand parents spoil their children. He sees his grandparents everyday. Mum doesn't have that role. What if theo acts like this around grandma because she spoils him? Instead of helping her daughter with his meltsdowns, the grandma just sits there like "oh she needs to be firmer". Accusing your daughter doesn't help anything, if he is a little angle with you.
They need a behaviour analyst in that situation. Find out what environmental factors (parental and grand-parental behaviours, etc.) are triggering and maintaining those behaviours.
Rafaela Scheiwiller it's angles not angle
Kittyklawz123 no it would be angel, i did make a spelling mistake, but i didn't mess up singular and plural. If you were to correct me, at least do it the right way 😂
Its like me i have 3 normal sibalings and i have autisam realy bad ☺☺
I can understand to a degree how Honey’s mom felt. To finally have answers when you have just been brushed off and blamed as the problem by medical professionals and those around you for years for something that you had no control over is a huge relief. Because eventually you start to wonder if you’re crazy, but then to get the validation that you’re not crazy and that this was something that you couldn’t control is a very heady feeling.
I was diagnosed with chronic fatigue and the relief was immense. I was being forced to do things that other people were doing when I had no energy. It was to the point that I couldn't do any homework because I passed out as soon as I got home. So when I got the diagnosis, people started taking it seriously. Of course there were people who just said, "that's a made up condition" but generally, things improved after I was diagnosed.
Well if you keep telling him "don't do that please" he's gonna keep misbehaving because he knows his actions will have no consequences.
Nukez235
Yep. Kid needs a response cost.
Nukez235 ikr
Give him a spankin that's the least she could do omg
Memester EXACTLY
Nightfall
Were you born stupid or have you just been practising a lot lately?
You could do what my grandma did to me once:
Record them having their tantrum and show the footage to a therapist, because I guarantee you, the embarrassment alone is enough to change a kid.
smart
Agreed
yo if your mom abuses you every day dont show it to her boss show it to cps or something, no sane abuse victim wouldn't try to contact cps at least once
That's true call the cops
Well if she is realy mean like that I would understand why you would want tk ruin her life and get her fired bit be shor you have a somewhere to go before you make her have no mony
My ovaries just shriveled up with fear.
Gypsy K8 Same here fam.
Yup same here
SpriteBanana haha... That's what he said... And I...
Wait srly
SpriteBanana U can say ur IMAGINARY ovaries shrivelled up with fear 😏
I was judged by everyone as I raised my daughter. She’s one of five children and the rest were well behaved. It wasn’t until she was 18 that finally a diagnosis came. She’s on the autism spectrum, she has ADHD and OCD. I totally relate to honeys mom cheering at a diagnosis. Once a diagnosis comes then we can better help our children. And people around them tend to be more tolerant and understanding, which helps all of us feel less like failures.
Similar suituation with me its the mum that usually gets most of the criticism.
Sheila. As you had children how did you ever come across the time to ask everybody if you were being judged or not? Why didn't you spend more time with the children, research like that, being a research myself, will take around two years to get a correct Analysis-worth just in the town I live in and then you personally would've missed people out. So that's the first thing, secondly there is no such thing as ADHD, that's just an excuse, and thirdly why did it take so long to diagnose that she was on the autistic spectrum primarily and most importantly that she has OCD. Why were you so busy doing other things when you had a child with such severe mental disorders??
And by the way that's not a judgement - that's the truth.
@@karendegenerous8044 You are living up to your name, Karen...
@Sheila Hatch Getting an autism diagnosis for girls is still to this day tricky. Finding someone who is clever enough to recognise it is a challenge. It's awful you had to go through that and your daughter too would be damaged by not having the support she needed. I'm a late diagnosed Autistic myself and people have been cruel and judgemental. Good on you for staying strong and supporting your daughter and good luck for the future. ❤️
As an autistic person, all my diagnosis led to was abuse through ABA “therapy”, C-PTSD, Ableism, and more people who think that “people with autism” are just violent and defiant.
I have Aspergers and so does my brother, I could tell straight away in the first 5 minutes that Honey was on the Autism spectrum and Theo wasn't. I don't really even know how but I just knew, so many of the mannerisms and the little details of the situation were familiar.
What if she has a anxiety disorder? It can seem similar.
That's effectively what pathologic demand avoidance is, it's rooted in the spectrum but it causes severe anxiety.
Aspergers isn't even diagnosed or recognized any longer. That must feel odd, huh? 🤔
Bud Charles I agree, I also have Aspergers
Shedonista Shamanatrix I couldn't care less what they call it, this world is so sissy afraid of "labeling", I'm here to say that I have Aspergers and I'm proud of it!
great now the grandma will be like " i told you you are a bad mom" they shouldve told the granny as well that she needs to stop undermining ehr daughter especially in frnt of the kid
I thought the same thing!
ThiaPhine whoes that troll at click bait
Theo’s mom is super patient, Idk how she was so calm during his tantrums. I did notice that after she got the white noise app and he was asleep at 7pm and she came down to tell her Mom, the Mom said “oh you must be so proud of yourself!”. Passive aggressive much? I suspect Nanny got some sort of pleasure in seeing Theo act like an angel with her and be a terror with his mom. And I’m super happy for Honey’s parents. The relief at the diagnosis gave me chills. All those years when they were blamed and they finally got vindication ❤️❤️
I agree grand ma was very bad to her daughter. Maybe a narcissist
Her mum reminds me of my step mum. Very opinionated, seems to think she knows better and is over critical.
yep the mom is a narcissist
It breaks my heart that the public school system didn't help the parents catch Honey's autism at a MUCH younger age. As a public elementary school teacher in the US for 27 years, I find it appalling that this little girl was essentially thrown away by the professionals that are supposed to be her advocates. Her parents should be applauded for not giving up and continuing the search for someone to help.
Exactly, well said.
But we have to understand at the same time they have other kids to take care of. And the school esp can't have her her in proximity because of her threatening other kids and being a "potential" danger
Yeah
That's a good point. I had a school friend from the first grade to the seventh grade, and only towards the end of that seventh year did he tell me he finally got diagnosed with ADHD. He's had a serious stutter as long as I've known him, so much so that it sort of takes a while to get used to ignoring it and speaking to him normally. I really am confused as to why no one caught on to something being wrong earlier.
There are so many things teachers have to jump through to even suggest it, unfortunately :/
Why does everyone assume autism and ADHD cause misbehaviour?! My brother has both ADHD AND AUTISM and he is a nice, friendly, loving and hyper intelligent young child
AtomicCookieGaming That's easy, shows like this. Ones which only show the worse cases. These shows are the cause of ableism to an extent.
AtomicCookieGaming my sister has autism and she is so sweet and really amazing at music too with very limited communication with everyone but I hate the fact that she is labelled rude and badly behaved often (at least from what I have found) because of badly behaved children who have parents that don't want to admit that they don't keep control of there children
AtomicCookieGaming it depends onnthe Autism. Theyre are many on the spectrum. Ive watched those that were aggressive and others that were passive. It all depends
Alayha Ferron that's not autism itself, its actually the parents who don't know how to deal with autism
AtomicCookieGaming you have to know there autisic first and then what kind and its methods. You can expect parents to know that. Many don't learn until later in life. Many of them are frustrated because they can't understand emotions and lash out because of it. The struggle is unavoidable. Its no fault of anyone just the reality
Honey 's artistic skills continues to improve ,as she makes an amazing sculpture down in the end of the film of a little girl in a dress. Her parents and teachers really need to nurture and build her art skills. Theo shows great improvement and he has an amazing family support. Honey is also lucky to have creative parents .
yes I noticed that
She chose animal care instead of art, but still enjoys it as a hobby
Narrator: Does he need discipline or medical help?
Me : HE NEEDS JESUS
Gaming With Marie XD
honey does too 😶
*H E N E E D S T H E S U C C*
Jesus?
𝐌 𝐈 𝐋 𝐊
"He can be a little bugga" -Theo's grandma
Didn't she say fuc ker?
Hayley Kandlikar
I do too, but I also care more about other people than myself, so... Much more low-key version of Honey
She said bugger
So heartwarming to see Honey and her parents smiling at the end 💜 Sending much love to both of the families
Honey's parents are so loving. The moment i started watching the interactions, i knew there was something wrong with the child's behaviour and not for once believed the parents were to blame. I'm glad they got the diagnosis to help her for a much better life :)
If the parents started cleaning up the garbage all over the yard and home would help Honey too.
Autism isn’t a behavioral issue based disorder. There’s nothing wrong with autistics behaving the way autistics do. The problem is from inappropriate treatment and reactions from those around us to our normal traits.
Boy!!! Listening to Honeys parents describe her brought me to tears, it really did. My daughter is turning 9 soon and she was diagnosed ASD just last year. My little baby girl was also kicked outta school and had the school threatened her with police and hospitals, it absolutely broke my heart (and hers) every single day. Her being kicked outta that school was the very best thing that could've happened, she now goes to a therapeutic day school, has ALL kinds of therapist and is doing SO so much better. I really do understand the struggle that Honeys parents had to go through, and it does get better. You just gotta keep fighting for your kiddos, and be a really good advocate for them.
If y’all watched to the end you would see that the professionals gave actual solutions to their problems and improved life for both families. It was really nice to see the improvement Honey and Theo made, and the improvement wasn’t because anyone started hitting them.
ive been watching this channel for like a month now and people always seem to do this. watch 2 minutes, write angry comment, exit video 🤣
@@michaelaelizabethx Just gotta love it when people watch only a glimpse of almost an hour long, or even longer video, etc. Then instead of watching it all, they just assume that from their 60 to 180 seconds of watching the video, they now know it ALL -&&- have a right to give their idiotic, un-informed opinions of the child or situation🤣🤣. It's honestly hilarious to me, -&&- quite comical because then those people end up looking like morons/idiots all while at the time they thought they were giving some of the best parenting/life advice that they've ever given, while suddenly becoming a keyboard warrior/degree-LESS Google doctor🤣🤣. Jokes on them, they're the ones who end up looking downright idiotic -&&- ridiculous🤣🤣.
For the first one I can see a big problem. Mainly the fact that we didn't see her congratulate him whenever he did something good. I'm not saying do it all the time. But the nan congratulated him and he was a 'little angel'
More like a stupid devil
Honey: "I like animals more than people"
Me: "Same"
Edit: but animals(almost any domestic and indomesticated animals) don't judge you.
thats sad.
I wouldn't trust any of these kids around any type of animal. Result: one dead animal
I agree ,There nicer
Zethrael of Teldrassil *ten
Because They Can't Share Their Feelings Properly.
Theo = Meghan Trainor CONFIRMED!
My Name Is NO!
My Sign Is NO!
My Number is NO!
- Meghan Trainor 2K16
ikr lol
Nooooooo
TD Fan the girl is built like Meghan tainor 😂😂😂
TD Fan uh you need to let it go
No Is literally short for number.
Why its “No” and not “Nu”, i dont know.
11:34 "I threatened to kill them"
Dude: *facepalm*
xD
Lmmaaooooooo xD
kleeorg LOL
kleeorg 11:33*
kleeorg wdddcxx
Hearing Honey laugh makes me smile because you can hear the pure joy in her laugh.
I was really impressed with the way these experts managed to convey to Theo's mum that she can help him, without making her feel defensive and upset. They were so understanding and encouraging, and she did not feel like they were blaming her at all.
Theo seems like the most cheerful and funny little boy. I'm glad his mother got professional help. HER mother meant well but we all know how utterly judgemental mothers can sound and it's so, so overwhelming to be a mom to begin with! She was right in saying het daughter needed to be more form but the way the professionals put it, acknowledging Theo's mom's struggling and insecurity and giving her positive reinforcement, that was so much more effective than "She's lazy and nerds to do better parenting." It's easy to judge, it's not easy to change.
She really needs to start getting up at the same time as her son. It's no good saying her mother is judgemental when daughter is happy to rely on her to mind Theo while she's sleeping in late every day. What kind of message does that send to the child also? No wonder he kicks off when she appears. Being more independent from her family would help as well.
@@Lul81028 I wonder if poor lady isn't suffering from some major sleep deprivation. And maybe depression. I love how the team looks for the sleep disorder in the child. . I loved the non-judgemental approach--and Theo looks to be doing well with it. But I really agree with you on her dependence on her family. I can see why, otoh, this can't be entirely good (might situations where it would be great). But it seems quite one way.
@@515aleon But aren`t Theo and his mother living with her parent, respect for other peoples` property should be taught.
@@susanyates4233 You know, I wish people would look at the date to ask questions like that. Can't even recall the details. It's been 8 months. Generally yes.
i was recently diagnosed with autism, pda and adhd at the age of 15. honey’s story helped me realise i needed to get assessed and it helped me find out what pda was which explained so much about my life, i can see how scared the poor girl is which people mistake for a misbehaving child but i completely understand how she feels in that moment, being told to do something or asked a simple question is absolutely terrifying to me and i always thought i was just broken but finding out there is a genuine reason was the best thing in the world
I would act like Theo too if you tried to make me play golf
True
LOL, same!!
ghk128 I hate you
Honey seems like a wonderful person. Just me er got the actual comfort she so badly needed. Her parents are great, trying to cuddle her back into reality instead of punishing. Trying to reassure and guide her as best as they could without any help. They all got so much judgement from people who had NO idea what they were taling about. Imagine being that scared all the time! I'm glad she got some real help there.
*me er was supposed to say *never. Stoopid Dutch autocorrect!!
Parents are 'eager' for a diagnosis so they they don't have to take personal responsibility for the damage they've caused their children.
Mike Puorro Hihihi I'm here laughing . So that each time the kid does something embarrassing they'll go like oh yeah the doctors said she has this so we'll let her be. Lack of parenting skills just.
Mike Puorro The behaviour should be noticeable when the kids are toddlers! When kids start pushing boundaries at two or three that’s when the parents need to put things in place not wait till they are this old.
Mike Puorro no they just need a diagnosis to fix their child’s problem
"The Lady dost protest too much methinks."
facts.. but look at all you weak parents getting butthurt...
Where's super nanny
Alaina Handley that's what I thought XD
dead
Lmao yes
super nanny is just a lie
Maureen, super nanny has helped dysfunctional families by the thousands. She is very good at family assessment and teaching parents to actually parent. The UK and the world owe her a lot.
Your insult can only be seen as utter stupidity.
Threatening to KILL fellow students is wild. I don’t blame the school for permanently excluding Honey (the violence and rage isn’t safe for other children). However, just kicking her out with no plans to continue her education was neglectful and horrible
Why does the school want honey to not continue her education and make her even more dumb?
The thing is, once you are permanently excluded, no schools etc will take you on!! Culture shock. And when you have SEN, it's even worse.
That’s life no one wants to teach a criminal or someone who threatens you
pretty normal in special ed though lol
@@alexthepapaking did u miss the point of the entire documentary or are u being obtuse on purpose??
Who else thought this was a super long condom commercial?
No
LOL!
Iris DeGarmo Baker no
wait, it wasn't?
lol good one
"If it is not autism, what is it?" Unskilled parenting. Duh.
mckt007 It's autism. She got diagnosed. Now kindly shut up.
Shut up? My grandson is autistic and that behavior is NOT acceptable at all and he gets in trouble for clowning like that. No one caters to him at all. Absolutely not.
mckt007 it’s adhd if it’s not autism
Asburgers is another. All these disorders are often given the word Spectrum as a second word to describe their complexity and range.
mckt007 ADHD
These parents need to stop throwing around "Autism" and "ADHD" because they have no idea what it means, and it is *NOT* an explanation for bad behaviour.
Technically yes it is an explanation but it is not an excuse.
It isn't in explanation. Autism and ADHD can increase the likelihood of misbehaviour, but it is up to the parent to discipline them. The parents in this video are *far* too soft, and they are the ones responsible for the bad behaviour.
You can't stop an autistic child from having meltdowns with discipline. Autistic meltdowns aren't bad behavior. They result when the child is overwhelmed and the animal fight or flight instinct kicks in. They're basically panic attacks. Trying to discipline a child in the middle of a meltdown will only make it worse and further traumatize the child.
There is a difference between a meltdown and downright cheeky misbehaviour. I agree it's a bad idea to attempt discipline during a meltdown, though. I know all too well what it's like to have such a panic attack as a child.
U guys are all wrong. I should know , I have ADHD and highly functionaling autism (asd)
1. Send them to school 2. Pack all the furniture 3. Leave the house forever
Crunchy KitKat/ that would frighten the kids to death, the police would track you down and you would be in prison for child neglect
Lol
Got Some unresolved daddy issues?
XDD
Did anyone notice* Honey's AMAZING art/ drawing skills and sense of perception ? She draws a picture I had to go back to observe, it was obviously a picture that looks strikingly similar to the doctor Ravi in the suit . the great dark brown skin as well !
- I also notice that the children are well behaved or better behaved at least in the presence of other people.
I thought with Theo it was very encouraging to show how correct parenting strategies DO WORK! good on the mom and family for sticking to a good strategy and figuring out the problems
If he had my mom she would have hit him with a chancla
ŽĽËĖPÝHEAD Yeah, a Mexican-American friend of mine said her mother was a terror when using ‘La Chancla’ (the flip-flop, or thong) to smack her, her brothers, and even her dad to keep them disciplined. Present day, living in Northern California, she won’t allow flip-flops in her house because of the memories of her mom’s beatings that always began with a sharp smack from the chancla.
Im so happy for Honey that she got the right help now. She was not mean she was terrified. It must have been so difficult for her parents to hear that it was their fault, but all kids live in the same family and have the same parents, but her siblings were normal, obviously it was someting wrong with Honey. I hope all the best for her in the future and that she get help to learn hove to handle her anxiety.
Lol, did anyone explode when she said; "I love animals more than people."
Tyler Neri no
i did
buts thats cuz i like animals more that people as well
I understand her, i think many people feel the same. She understand the animals but have problem with social interactions with human, so she feel safer with the animals.
I LOVED this very loving documentary of "family". It is so refreshing that this amazing team of professionals are avoiding drugs and/titles to quickly stop the problems which is obviously a short cited answer and no answer for a lifetime. There for a no quick fix. It's a group effort of love for children and family. No abuse whatsoever just patience and love
I agree. I think we need more doctors and professionals like this. They genuinely seem to care about the kids they help. And they're not quick to label them either. Kids don't fit a box.
edit for people only seeing this now: I made this comment 3 years ago and have come to realize I was, in fact, abused as a child, and that pretty obviously colored my outlook. I can't say I stand by my original comment, but for posterity, I didn't change it. Original comment below:
there's rarely any blanket solution to child rearing, but I really believe that much of the (non-medical) behavioral stuff tends to be caused by a lack of consequences. My mom never made a threat she didn't follow through on, and I immediately learned that the boundaries are concrete. If you give in to a child's tantrums even ONCE it creates a skinner box where they're constantly pushing for the occasional payout.
Yeah I couldn't agree more. These kids are getting away with murder they need a firm hand!
Romantic Outlaw The behaviour doesn’t just start out of nowhere when kids are as young as 2 that’s when they start pushing boundaries. What were the parents doing when the kids were young?? All kids have tantrums at 2-3 years old.
BellRain Sorry but no, all kids do not have tantrums at 2-3 years old. Plenty of kids are loved, happy and have their needs met without ever having to scream and throw a crying fit. There are plenty of instances of that wonderful mix between a healthy child, and a good loving parent who knows how to distract their toddler in a fun happy way! At least, that's what I've seen in my life.
@@themudpit621 I agree. My daughter is an adult now,but she never threw a temper tantrum. She KNEW from an early age there would be consequences.
@@themudpit621 I agree with you there; My three kids never had temper tantrums and neither did my brother's children, and they've turned out to be well adjusted adults with children of their own, without temper tantrums and meltdowns.
Theos favourite word is NO!!!!!
An favrot thing is getting on the roof nakickd
goldenflame slayer it is not a no it's a NO NO!
i know
DID YOU SEE THEO
Then you accidently say No when someone is giving you 1million dollers and then you regret it xD
this might never happen so dont say anything about it
Honey has such loving parents. Good on them.
Honey is actually a pretty good artist for a 9 year old
10/10 for Honeys art
Dont let accidents happen... Use protection, use Trojan
Why did they forget
Zach Fotofili my man's parents didn't really plan for him, but he turned out fine ... wonderful actually
Nora It was just a joke chill
Zach Fotofili my kid is 2 and she’s quiet, calm, chill and can entertain herself well.
They’re not all batshit crazy
Zach Fotofili Nora was perfectly chill. You seem to have an issue with any hint of criticism. Maybe you need to chill.
Even Grandma says her daughter is lazy
#1 Grandma👩
*Applause
Girl is also damned if she doesn't lose weight now. If childhood obesity isn't treated right away, those kids typically continue to become obese adults. Diabetes type II also knocks at door before age 30.
Tepadj How can the dad keep up with his kids? They need to change their lifestyle
@@Yogirliej4dee the dad weighs more than the whole family combined
She appears to me that as a child with ASD and with this can be low muscle tone. This paired with genetic component is a worry.
'I like animals more than people'. We're actually the same person. Minus everything else.
The whole time I was wondering why Honey can’t just go to a school with animals! What a great ending for her!! ❤
I'm so pleased for these parents. Honey is such a sweet little girl when she isn't scared, and Theo is quite endearing as well, especially when he understands his boundaries.
I have adhd and I don't act anything like these kids do
Iris The puppy same, it's really annoying I love my mom
Iris The puppy sssaaammmee
Same, People are always so judgemental!
Iris The puppy adhd dosient affect anger issues also I bet you have at least once
I don't have this, I'm just bored, but I'm a good kid.
Just living in that second family’s filthy, cluttered home would cause me tremendous anxiety! I’d also check into the family’s nutrition habits.
They need some milk
Penny Thomas XD
Alexander Hamilton thanks for the info Mr. Treasurer of the US' bank
Penny Thomas ARRMMYYY
Alexander Hamilton okay they need some 2% milk
Penny Thomas no they need a snickers bar
I have autism and i don't act bad at home
They just have bad parents
Superstar Candy autism is not about anger problems
Superstar Candy autism is a huge spectrum, there is many different types. My friend has autism and she's sweet and polite, but there's a kid in my class that has autism and he's gotten multiple steps and referrals and it's only the third week of school, he's had ISS three times, and he's on the brink of OSS.
Ya ur lucky they talking about adhd
Superstar Candy you probably don't know what autism means
I will tell you, watching these children I was exhausted! I'm amazed these parents lasted as long as they did. Good luck to you all and God bless 🙏
I think I know where you can get some straight jackets for cheap.....
Venus Schreave hahahahahaha!
Neon ChocoKitten lol. Thanks I guess?
lulu I I'm sure it would. Plenty of fun colors too!
Venus Schreave does it come in green...I need one for my nephew
Choir Fandom Cooking Rants and Random Channel
Sure. Army green, lime green, or bright green??
Im ADHD and i don't act like that come on!
Not everybody acts the same even if they have the same condition though tbh. Some are more severe in different areas than others are and vice versa.
Some people are more on the angry side of ADHD and some are just hyper activity, when I was little I was violent and angry I would kick holes in walls and doors I was a devil child and now I’m hyper I still get angry but it’s way calmer. Everyone’s different
Liar
K-Pop Hyena no I don't wanna have a condition having my extreme lack of muscle iron is enough
that's not nice : /
Why is nobody talking about how Theo climbed up onto the roof? That must have been so scary
Aside from a serious diagnosis, a bad behavior on a child speaks directly to how is he/she being raised and the problems at home, and specially the parents, if it is a single mom or dad this behavior is more noticeable, I don't have children neither I want, but I was a child and I realize that sometimes people isn't fit to be a parent and telling this to mom or dad might sound hurtful but it's true. Children having children is making this behavioral problem in kids more relevant, because neither are they prepared to raise a them properly, because they're mostly childs still.
Your comment is reasonable. Well done. So many reactionary comments here, but yours isn't one of them.
Absolutely! People expect kids to raise themselves with no effort on their own part.
Yep and from my experience kids that were raised by a single parent were more obedient and less bratty than those that had two 🤷🏻♀️
@@themudpit621 Nah, this is one of the reactionary comments. I think you've got it the wrong way around.
I am glad these children got appropriate diagnoses. Re: Honey: I have seen first-hand the anxiety reaction of anger and withdrawal from new situations. My friend was like that. Now I understand. On this video they did say it was life-long diagnosis, and for sure, my friend suffered her whole life. She didn't seek help, but would get an antidepressant from the doctor. Yet that didn't address her underlying problem, just a bandaid one-size-fits-all approach.
Also nice to see the little boy just needed more consistent rules and timeouts and better sleep with the help of white noise machine. No drugs. Bravo!
It is a relief to get a diagnosis but honestly, the "treatment" for ADHD and autism is usually just clear discipline dressed up as therapy. I know the disorders really do exist but after 18 years with my son with ADHD I realised that the therapy was simply very well defined, coached, good parenting. Most parents can make do with 75% good parenting but if you have a child with these disorders your parenting has to be on point 100% of the time.
Honeys parents aren’t to blame if they tried to fix and tried their best they are great parents for caring about her
LyraTheEspeon X3 finally a decent comment xx
THATS what i was talking about
Nicole Trujillo autism is not a parents fault my parents where strict and I have it it's what you have when you a born
Theres nothing like an old spankings method couldn't fix. Lol
Where did honey get the potty mouth from? And who allows her to talk like that.?
Those bunnies need waaayyy more space. Its cruel.
What did I watch for this to be in my recommend?
Personally it was the apprentice.
for me it was Supernanny
Sir_Snipeington wxactly
I hate the word naughty it sounds so weird
WHY ENGLAND
Another "Why England", in my opinion, anyway, is why do they call their mothers "mum"? I HATE that for some reason. It's just stupid.
how is it stupid?
Same
desicatz why do you call them mom.
P.s northerners say mom and us east anglians say mum
Bradyn Bradventures The word Jell-O is weird af to me.
WHY USA🇺🇸
Their fridge needs child lock😂😂
Yup 😂
That’s not funny
_alish_ Kawaii_ ,
JB Channel u are very RIGHT
The kids can die what if you have kids and get locked in the fridge will you leave it or save it 😝😝😝😝😒😒😒😒
I’m autistic and for ages when I was around her age (and like Theo my brother has adhd too) I struggled majorly at school. I remember one day where to get someone’s attention I pulled their hair. The teachers tho sent me to another class for the afternoon which didn’t help keep me calm at all. My behaviour throughout my childhood constantly got me into trouble at school, and so Ik what is going through Honey’s mind. My meltdowns were similar to hers. I’m now 17 just turning 18 and have obviously matured loads and know how to deal with things lots better.
Autism is neurological but not an excuse to be a brat. Yes their brains are wired differently, but you said you pulled someone's hair for attention. That is something a neurotypical child would do.....act out for attention. We can't blame all bad behavior on autism. For many kids and in many homes kids....
1. Have a lack of boundaries and consequences
2. Are not getting enough sleep
3. Are on high sugar diets
4. Are allowed to be disrespectful to parents and teachers
@@ashlieleavelle I was a challenging and troubled autistic child. I pulled someone’s hair because I did not know how to get on with others. It then became a meltdown. I was trying to talk to this girl and she walked off. Wouldn’t you have felt a little annoyed? Imagine how is is when your challenges and feelings are way more magnified and extremely tricky to navigate through. Imagine how you may deal with it then. Well I can tell you, not really that well. I was 8 years old. Yes a neurotypical child pulls hair too, but not in the way I did. Usually a kid will have stopped pulling hair then. I actually remember seeing another autistic child pull their sister’s hair at 10. And not only that, hair pulling is one of the many self-stimulating or self-soothing activities used by lots of individuals with autism to self-regulate. In seeking sensory stimulation or sensory soothing, there is a tendency to target sites where there are many nerve endings such as the hands, feet, mouth and scalp. When I did it, it was anger that this girl ignored me. But the autism mixed with anger does not go well. I was in a state of anxiety that whole afternoon being forced into a whole new classroom with whole new surroundings and whole new people. The worst way to handle it is force the child into a state of change. It escalates the meltdown mode. Change is incredibly overwhelming for us. I am not making excuses to be a “brat”. I am saying that just because neurotypical kids do it too doesnt mean we do it like they do. And you saying we act out for attention is actually very wrong. It is absolutely not us acting out, its the sensory overload, panic and anger all mixed up together and ready to explode from us.
Born different YES there are few people but born naughty NO or even bad no such thing. It's a man made behavior.
If a child is naughty means the parents spoiled them starting at their early age or the child got mental disorder that needs medical attention.
It's easier to treat just being naughty than suffering from any kind of disorder.
Bad behavior can be changed with proper training. A fact.
Nayr Inneb Ogaitnas no that's wrong I have adhd and it doesn't just go
Nayr Inneb Ogaitnas Studies show there are genetic links though.
im a genetic link ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
Nayr Inneb Ogaitnas true
Skyler Paris There's is a BIG DIFFERENCE between JUST BEING NAUGHTY and people SUFFERING FROM A DISORDER, didn't I mention it before?
IF a person is suffering from a disorder WHATEVER THEIR BEHAVIOR WAS IS TO BE RESPECTED by anyone no matter what.
Maybe if they cleaned up and organized poor honeys home, then perhaps it would help organize her thoughts and comfort her mind. Have a place for everything that way she can take part in controlling her own environment. I mean that just seems like common sense …..
in watching this I notice one thing... lack of discipline.
did you notice the siblings were fine?
but.. ppl are different.. what might work with some ..might not with another..besides.. i said i notice one thing..lack of discipline. that doesnt mean..there is not more to it.
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Lexiaa Forever why just the ladies?
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I see no issue with having children out of wedlock, you can't blame it on that. Some people who are single want to have children too and raise them on their own.
Stranger X because the ladies are usually the ones who are left alone with the child.
Notice how in both cases, the adult male runs and goes out of the house, leaving it to the woman to handle the child. interesting how that is found in common in BOTH situations.
StaceyC OBrien stop making this a sexist issue, more important things are happening in this clip.
StaceyC OBrien . thats because you are not allowed to actually Make a child do right these days.
notice that these mothers shouldn't have had kids with deadbeats #trojan
Notice how in both cases no penguins are to be found
Oh geez a feminist "faux psychologist" making a biased observation... because: equality!
ADHD = Aint No Daddy At Home Disorder.
Honeys family need to clean up their home inside and out...
Pauline Sciberras thats what i thought
When you have a child that misbehaves that much you have no energy after dealing with them. My house looked like that when my daughter was misbehaving like that. I was just exhausted all the time. I would clean and she would destroy it. Now that she’s calmer my house is cleaner bc I have energy and she’s not destroying it
Ady P lol
Nicholle Dye
Medication would do her lots of good also no Sugar helps out too
No these kids are most likely Autism or Aspergers
Adhd meds calms these kids down
School has to take them under Se classes and help
Pauline Sciberras I think in general
I have autism and instead of anger I burst into tears and get angry but I only want to hurt myself never others
That theo kid neefs a SWAT team when he wakes up ;)
This is why I'm not gonna have children, they just make life so difficult
Deleted deleted no they won't. Why settle for settling and having children and pushing them to pursue your dream. You could just not settle and pursue your own dream. Thousands of children are born a day, nothing special about children.
Robin Brand Depends if your a good parent. xD
Robin Brand there's nothing wrong with making the life choice to not have children but don't exclude yourself from such a lovely gift when most of the time if you do the right thing your kid is fine
Robin Brand AMEN
say that to your numerous future mates.
Theo doesn't get enough positive attention from his mom. He will get negative attention if he can't have positive. He can behave because he showed it with grandma. Mom just needs to let him know she is the boss and in control.
I wrote this 5 min into the video. Saw the ending and was confirmed. Good for them!
Its funny....Mom thinks Theo is just this uncontrollable terror, but yet when I see him with his grandmother he is obedient, he listens to her and he doesn't seem out of control. I also found it very telling when they said Theo lives with his SINGLE mother and his grandparents and while Mommy sleeps late, Grandma is up at 6:00 in the morning getting her grandson dressed, reading to him, putting his hearing aid in and he only gets upset when Mom finally comes down and then she's shouting at him.
"Do you mind stopping" That seems like a problem right there.
Should be "stop that or such and such will happen", whatever will be effective that she really won't want. Obviously not violent.
if that kid had a nerf gun his mum would be dead
how
super swag mhm
super swag nerf or nothing... I chose nothing I hate nerf
super swag good then she couldn't reproduce
Why are all these homes messy and cluttered? Maybe if things were cleaned up and organized the children would feel a bit better. I know I feel better after the house is cleaned.
When I was little I would get anxious and mean when the house was cluttered.
There's no organisation the house being a dump just can't help its chaos
Regulargirl Anonymous I was thinking the same thing.😏
Pepa Cloughley I am so sorry hun is there any way you can get help to organize the rest of the house?
I was thinking the same thing. Theo's house isnt that bad, but Honey's is awful!!! Im not the world's best housekeeper, but dang! Their house is a mess!!!
Omg imagine if Honey played fortnite 😂😂
Edit: thanks for everyone that liked
Rogue_Killer03 jeeezz😂
Oh god
I am also diagnosed with PDA it’s got a lot better now I’m an adult. But when I was a child and teenager I was a real handful. The anxiety is crippling. You have anxiety doing the simple things “what if I do it wrong” “what if it’s not up to standards. My anxiety is still awful with appointments but I can now handle it instead of kicking off. But as honey gets older she will learn to cope with the extreme anxiety instead of having meltdowns
This mother is doing EVERYTHING WRONG. You don't bargain with kids. When you say "this is your last chance" it never is the last chance, and there's never a defined consequence that actually happens. Theo's mom is the perfect example of this. The kid doesn't need drugs. She wants the lazy way out - just drug him. But the difficult way, the way of consistent discipline that you see on Nanny911 will fix the problem. But the mom has to face her own issues. I don't know about Honey.
StaceyC OBrien or jo frost. She’s a nanny who fixes these sort of problems
But she changed, remember? Near the end of the video, she seemed to realize (with the help of specialists) the correct way to discipline Theo, so it all worked out in the end. You make it seem like the problem wasn't resolved.
Truth!
Thats what i was thinking too. I have adhd and it was clear he does not just by the rapid switch when mom took over care. He knew who he could get away with being naughty with and who he couldn't.
Good eye
Theos definitely not adhd. The fact he is an angel for his gran and a devil for his mum just speaks volumes. Even his nan called her own daughter lazy and said she gives him too many chances.
Theo definitely has some mental problem. No belt or hand will solve it. I hope he doesn't end up in jail as teen for something really bad.😐
I got the hand and the belt it hurt a lot and sometimes I got both at the same time so I ame a chill child
Don't watch this is you're pregnant. Too late for second thoughts...
Holly Smith Lol I do hope this is a joke and you're not serious. If it's a joke then hehe but if you're serious then oh dear.
learn how to spell dumbass .-. like forreal is you dumb ??
+babyylinaa ._x are you*
Holly Smith did you get a photo with LDshadowlady
Soph Cel she.met.her.at.a.event
The first mum did well but I think she needs to yell at him and not just sweet talk him!!
Little_sage_jr Palomino not yell, yelling is counter productive... she needs a mommy voice.
Kyla Luv
If you mean a quiet but authoritative voice... yes. Agreed.
The reason the gran has no issues is that Theo singles his mum out.
Agreed, but it looked like the entire story wasn't exactly portrayed accurately. For instance, when she was pointing out Theo's door, how he had thrown his toys at it, there's no way. If you look at the door, (pause the vid), there are big gauges in it, he was doing more than just throwing toys. I hope the toys were red, something was dripping red on the door as well and it didn't go high up the door. How was he allowed that much time to destroy a door that badly? How was he allowed that much time to crack the window? According to her, he was only to be in a 6 minute time out. He did that much damage in 6 minutes? Entirely unsafe and dangerous for that child. I hope they keep working with her, they seemed to just scratch the surface and told her what a great mom she is, instead of laying out the truth and telling her to get her tail out of bed in the morning and quit making her mom take on her responsibilities, maybe then her Mom wouldn't be quite so critical.
Uncle Tom seems like a legend
Honey’s behavior reflects her living conditions of the home. A big mess! Their home, inside and out is absolutely filthy.
high five to these parents! Seriously I wish my parents were a little bit more open to help when I was younger.
That’s what I’m saying !!
Why is it always British kids anyone else wonder
Or where ever these kids are from
Because this is a British Programme,unlike your horrid kids in Supernanny.
Gwh9 Gaming I'm not British or anything I'm canadian
AgilityG4 Exactly.
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