Why Girls Put You In The Friend Zone Even When There Is Chemistry
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Sometimes a girl will put you in the friend-zone even when she's attracted to you. And what many guys do is stay there because they're afraid of ruining the "friendship" and hope that one day she'll come around. So here's what to do so you're never that guy who waits for nothing.
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“Stop chasing the wrong one. The right one won't run.”
*True*
I fucking hate my life she said your one of my closest friendsss and then said I love you man 🥺🥺🥺
@@Flexyfnr wow
@@Flexyfnr not as bad as the girl the cuddled with me and lead me on and did so much more just to tell me I’m a good friend and that she misses her ex. Life feels so cold and this is happening to me after being cheated on after dating a girl 2 years
@@danpyell7508 ahhh hope you feel better soon
This girl in college friendzoned me after a couple dates, i told her that “i don’t do friends”.
Never been chased so hard in my life after that.
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That's the way friends with benefits even if lowkey benefits
Ah interesting
If we can’t be lovers we can’t be friends
When they put you in the FRIEND ZONE, put them in the END ZONE.
just act shocked and friendzone them back :) worked for me
ROFL...........Bless.......
@@spacepod100 act shocked?......???
@@spacepod100 That does work sometimes 💯🤣😅
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I was stupid forgot my password. I appreciate any tips you can give me!
One way to get out of the friendzone: leave the friendship.
The only way indeed. Walk away period
I left and got called a piece of shit and a asswhole. I found it quite amusing....this about 9 months of hanging out at bars with the same social circles..
Yep, walk away from them if you're not trying to date or get married to them.
Choose the woman, who chooses YOU.
The thing is don’t put all your eggs in one basket
Have your own life , your own passions and don’t be a simp. Don’t force yourself on no one. Just move on
Given how many guys suffer from this illness, this video should be taught in schools!
Poor guys, including me, so clueless and subjecting themselves to so much pain.
I had oneitis and was rejected. I developed PTSD. For a whole straight month, I was waking up at 3am with my subconscious waking me up to different bad things she has done to me.
Preach Reverend Tripp! 2 years of my life have been wasted on one woman that friendzoned me after she got out of an abusive relationship. I was there for her, I was the shoulder, I was her friend. I did all the work and now, at the 11th hour, some asshole gets to swoop in and not have to do any of the work and gets the girl. No woman deserves what I gave her.
The irony of you calling someone else an asshole 🤣
@@zx6r79 unbelievable aren't they just?
@@Vixyvix01 hey! your misandry is showing.
I lost my soulmate because of fear of rejection, lack of confidence, I didn't make a romantic move, if she rejects you, you simply state your purpose, walk away, leave the door open. never reach out again. you state your romantic interest call her out on her bs, be a boss and state your boundries make her miss you. cory wayne is the boss on this, you cant worry about loosing her, or who she is talking to, youre the catch not her! she wont respect you and move on to someone else. be confident, you cant strong arm out i spent 2 years as well its awful and emotional
@@jpurvis79bronco Corey Wayne is the GOAT, remember when choosing a woman who chooses you make sure to find out what she truly wants to avoid getting used for value or resources. Peace bro
Some guys talking about ignoring women. Dude if she never was Physically attracted to you in the first place then she won’t care. You are actually doing her a favor. The number 1 reason women friendzone you is because she doesnt like the image of getting Physical with YOU! Nothing more nothing less.
Facts
Yep
She also likes to use you for your resources and emotional tampon
Hard truth but it’s still the truth
@@betterthanemril988 true
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The less attention you give them, the more they want you. Don’t act like one of her girlfriends, be the masculine energy they crave.
I knew it I mess up again 😟😟😟
that's stupid logic
@@polpol1005 It's the best logic. If they don't text or call to make any plans with you. Then she doesn't want anything to do with you, since it's just time to move on.
@@theaarongarcia depends on the situation, no? And what's wrong with being a friend?
@@polpol1005 Nothing wrong with being a friend if that's what you're looking for, but that's not the point of this topic. We're talking about dating or having some sort of romantic connection here and not just friends. Being in the "Friend-zone" when you want more is a waste of time and ultimately painful for the guy that has feelings.
Friend zone means you have interest in him/her romantically but you are acting as her platonic friend. This is usually due to fear of rejection so you are afraid to ask them out. If you’re interested, just ask them out. If they say yes, great. If they say no, then back off and stop texting/calling them, find other people. Either way, you’re no longer in the friend zone.
mate ur absolutly spot on and u definatly opened my eyes u said exactly what im going thru right now .thanks for your wise words i gotta get my head back together and work on myself
Good Job, Tripp this is a very hard subject in dating. I really struggled in this area about two years ago with someone who I really liked who I would flirt with and give attention to while she was in a really toxic relationship. I would get some strong flirtatious tension from her at really convenient times when she would be out of the relationship. What I mean by tension is long prolonged eye contact smiling at one another, imitate physical touch like her squeezing my bicep or stroking my back, and overall making an attempt to get my attention because you're right attention can be really addicting. The biggest mistake I made was holding back and not speaking how I was feeling about it and when things came out on the social circle she got pissed and we cut each other off. As much as I can say what I experienced was real, it wasn't real genuine attraction and all it caused was me getting hurt and had to go through counseling to rebuild from that experience. What I have learned from this experience is as men you have to be intentional of what you want from a girl and be masculine with the risk of being rejected. Men go into the friend zone because they are afraid communication and unapologetic masculinity will offend a girl who they treat like a friend. Do not be a safety net for a girl who just likes your attention but doesn't actually want to be romantically invested in you.
As soon as she says buddy or good friend, she’s out of my life!
When she calls you bro lmao
Run for your life mate
@@Lacamiste me and a girl literally fell out because of that and we never spoke again lol
@@terrywallace3975 may the odds be in your favour pal
@@terrywallace3975 same here
Spoke straight to me with this video. I mean nailed every aspect of what I'm currently going through, or well at least was going through. I just squashed that whole situation a few days ago. Bad part is I work with this girl (although we don't necessarily work together, just in the same department. So we at least see each other sometimes) so it maybe awkward at times but I'm definitely going to be better off in the long run. I knew it from the start but one of those things where I just couldn't end it till I just couldn't take it anymore, like you pointed out....it's never going to happen. I was in the friend zone and that's where I was going to stay
shit hurts bro. these woman usually have major issues tho and its prolly a blessing to you
@@el-hp1lj True
Good job my brother
Thank you tripp for posting this video. I needed to hear this. Will definitely look into the hooked program
Awesome man
@@TrippAdvice no problem man. If I have questions I'll definitely send you an email. I appreciate your work brother.
Listen.. there is one grand make all - do all, and that is get in the gym and get fit. Even if it takes you a year or two, get in the damn gym, eat good and make yourself look better. I went from a nobody having nobody, to "pick as I please" in a matter of 15-20 months.
Youre not getting far with initial attraction if you cant sport atleast a decent body, if your health permits it.
Better yourself mentally AND physically, and the rest will come, I fucken guarantee it.
Thanks dude for the motivation :)
No gym needed, just do floor exercises,a few free weights,run. No gym needed. Oh, eat better, no soda.
It’s just not worth it. I’ll die anyway whether it be by my own hand soon or from all the drugs in my body. Love isn’t real anymore
this is truth, and even if you don't want to get fit fit, even just being not "skinny fat" will really get you far.
This is such a load of BS. Gym doesn’t change your face nor does it make your penis larger.
Omgosh... this makes so much sense. Thanks for helping me see how the Friend Zone works 👍
It DOES NOT MATTER what you do or how you do it. The bottom line is if she just doesn’t find you attractive or you’re not her type, she’s not going to give you any chances of being her BF. You can’t force her to like you, u can’t! All you can do is be yourself and hope that it’s good enough. There’s absolutely no guarantee in anything. Period. I hope y’all understand that!
Thanks Tripp. This is one of the very best lectures I’ve ever heard on any dating site!
this logic is stupid IMO. If she's just not interested in you for more than a friend, accept it and live with it. You can still be a friend what's wrong with that?
@@polpol1005 It only builds up your feelings or your/her resentment from constant rejection. Friends these days are purely transactional, and a one way street will never work out. You just want more orbiters.
@@MrMalicious5 it's case by case but my point is,
there's nothing wrong with having many friends, I know so many people who were friends and then they came together and become a couple or even marry.
Blocked a girl who friendzoned me. Even though it took me a embarrassing amount of time for me to do it. I’m Manning up now. From a Teen to a Young Man.
Good start
@@marcusmvpgoat1236 I forgot about this comment 😂, But yeah, I’ve definitely grown up since this. Hell, I don’t even look at Girls now.
Better late than never
You're amazing, I relate to everything you've said here, it tells me you've actually been there, and you understand what I'm going through!!!
*If she didn't want you in your prime, you don't need to accept her in her decline.*
Remember that gents. 😘😏😉
Just let time destroy them. ✌
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youre still a beta male. lmao you were never the prize.
Due to the friendzone, talking with women very well even on a date doesn't mean anything. Shoot! Even sex doesn't mean anything.
I feel like even if you do everything right it doesn’t matter regardless of what you do or say if a girl is just not attracted to you there’s nothing you can do about that you can’t convince someone but the feelings definitely do need to be mutual and reciprocated
A woman doesn't put you in the friendzone: YOU put you in the friendzone.
Learn this, or suffer. Your choice.
I had a girl who was my friend I always had feelings for her until I told her my feelings and she didn't feel the same way! It was my fault because I allowed her to manipulate me! she started going out with this guy who for me was a dick. She would always complain about how bad he treats her knowing full well how I felt about her almost like a knife in the dagger I told my self that I could still be friends with her which was just plain torture until I couldn't anymore and took the decision to ghost her and focused on my goals and dreams and met the woman of my life and we are now married and planning a family together. I still had this "friend" on my social media so she could see everything about my life. months before my wedding she messaged me saying that I made her depressed for ghosting her and on my wedding day she messaged me with a "happy for you" and then blocked me hah!
Best experience I have ever got!
I am in the same situation right now, she is dating other guys too and I screw it up by becoming needy for her attention and she ghosted me. Was her good friend for about 6 years and had a crush on her since then I am a couple years younger than her so I thought we were not possible but it really hurts to see someone you like so much not in your arms.
@@Sniperkiller560 walk away that's my advice focus on your goals ambitions and yourself etc women will line up eventually 2 things will happen if the girl you like is still single she'll notice you and maybe you can start a relationship but that scenario will most likely not happen. But you can feel better about yourself because you didn't allow a girl to manipulate you. Hope this makes sense lol
so what? she's just not interested in you for more than a friend, accept it and live with it. You can still be a friend what's wrong with that?
no she wasnt manipulating you. you kept inserting yourself into something that had nothing to do with you. She didnt want you
the fact is, you weren't being manipulated, someone not having the same feelings as you but keeping you as a friend is not manipulation
Tripp, I dont know if you made this video after seeing my comment during a live chat but your advice got me in a different relationship which caused my first threesome with my "friendzone girl" and my new girlfriend, Thank you, keep doing what you do best.
Nice! I could only dream of that!
Nailed it. Thanks.
I like how this dude just straight up pretends like women don't realize that you like them. She's not stupid she knows you like her she doesn't like you back or she would say she does but she certainly not going to tell you she don't like you because you buy her things and take her places you're her shoulder to cry on when her boyfriend f**** around and f**** her best friend. I like how this dude likes to put all of the blame on the man. I'll go as far as saying men put themselves in the friend zone but women keep them there. Ladies if there's a dude that you absolutely know is in love with you but he's too afraid to say it just tell him you're not interested and let him move on. Keeping him around as your little pet is cruel.
Yep, this guy makes it seem like he knows all the possible variations, then covers it in a blanket statement to seem like it is a solution for every possible person on person relationship. Women should just drop this friends crap and be brutally honest with the guy instead of using him, teasing him, stringing him on , etc. This is such bull shit on the part of women that they need to be called out for it. Which I did with the latest woman by telling her straight up to stop the nonsense and that I was taking a hike because I was I love with her and she lead me on.
I watched this twice and is the best advice on this situation I’ve found online thanks mate, i have recently just been in this situation which has really rattled me so cheers for taking the time to make this video.
Listening to this ten times!
Very good advice ! Thank you !
Literally just happened to me. She was in the midst of a divorce and made it clear that she didn't want to date anyone, was in a bad place to do this and yet would call, message all the time and because she was saying she didn't want anything I didn't try. I respected her wishes. Find out last night that she started dating. It's like a knife to the heart. It just goes over all those feelings of thinking that I'm a piece of shit, that I'm not good enough, that being nice gets you last. It's seriously wounded me.
Mate rule number one is that women never want to be single. If they say they don't want to date they are lying, they mean they don't want to date with you.
@@simonh6371 well, thats just hurt me all over again... I get it. Cheers pal.
@@GinoDeBlasio Sorry but deep down you know it's true. Gotta be cruel to be kind. Just remember that with very few exceptions women are always in at least 1 relationship.
Divorced or children is instant red flag for me. Guys can still be the same with age, not women, most women even realize this by the time they approach their 30s lol
your video is the most informative video I have ever seeing, I am also buying your program, you are the best.
I love the way Tripp ends the video. That is the real talk.
When a woman friend zones you, it's her polite way of saying she is not interested in dating you. You can't force attraction.
Sometimes you gotta make a mistake of not making a move a few times to see that it was really you who “fucked up”. I was always too “polite” and thought she might find it a bit too hungry but i wish i had made a move.. So that’s what we are going to do from now on
Keep your head up kings!
11:50 HOW I WISH I LEARNED THIS EARLIER. Otherwise, I wouldn't have wasted so many years of my life. What is left from that now is 2 these 2 lots: 1) I learned a lot about why they behave the way they do and can detect when they lie, when they tell the truth, when they feel threatened and are going to screw you or just retreat and many other things. 2) I wish I had more female friends in order to get better social circles but the only 2 I think of as friends, I now cannot care less about them than I would for, let's say, the security guard at work.
At some point during the interaction with any Chick, make a move. In other words, break the touch barrier. Breaking through barriers is every man's purpose
i would say be careful with touch. Talk about it and communciate. dont' assuem every girl wants to be touched especiall early on.
@@JB-jg3he I don't mean inappropriately
You gotta be careful man not every girl likes to be touched depends on you’re approach and the context of the situation
@@adrianchico8886 like I said, partner. I don't mean inappropriate touch
@@ihatefacebook31184 just light touches and playful with it don’t be too rough on her she’ll let you know if she does or doesn’t liked to be touched
I know most of your viewer are in the process of learning, however more experience guys has no problem just. Being in agreement to a friendship but only the way she defines it. I don't believe in the attitude of 'all or nothing". This is a way of basically making her choose to your convenience and most people in general don't like that. More mature people accept a friendship but a distant one while they continue running their lives normally not limiting themselves at all. No initiating contacts and always avoiding encounters. When she feels like calling just wait till I have the time to respond back or I feel like it also, exactly the way friends do.
or just they waiting for the pussy someday
You got the definition of friend zone wrong!
Friendzone is after rejection!!!
Not necessarily
Love you, man.
If you do everything right as Tripp says in the video and you are still in the friendzone... do this one thing to break out. All you have to do is AGREE and then say, " You are so awesome .. who do you know that would love to be with a guy like me?" .. This does two things... this now stirs up sexual attraction from her or she will actually think of someone that she knows who might like you. The friend zone is nothing to be afraid of if you know how to use it to your advantage!
That's great advice, thank you!
Lmao 🤣
Bro you need to be teaching class instead
That's a terrible advice
Don't ask her any question
Just tell her thank you
Move on to someone else
Don't even bother to understand what she will ever think about you or who is going to be her next bf
There's millions of girls out there
You are onto something here but it needs to be rephrased somehow, think, think..........Bless.........
I've never understood the fear of rejection. 9/10 times you don't get rejected anyway. Shoot your shot gentlemen, it's always worth it and in the end you'll learn what works and what doesn't.
I’m 0/3 rn
@@j.c.t3617 ha me too dude 😂. Exactly 3 rejections in a row within the last year. Whatever.
9/10? Lmao. Only if you are Chad.
The internet has blown 4's egos up to the side of a mountain. Hence the generations of 49'ers. (4's who think they are a 9).
You mean 1/10 times you don’t get rejected?
@@adamteller6685 I think the "9/10 times you don't get rejected anyway" is a reference to the "you miss 100% of the shots you don't take".
Once you're dubbed "best friend" and listening to him talk about all the other women he'd like to get with really kills any chance he'll see you as date or partner potential... became total heartbreak
I know so many people who were friends and then they came together or have something sexual. It’s not the best way to get with women I will also not do this but it is possible. My cousin an his wife were friends before and now they are married . A lot of examples showed the opposite of you say but you are right in many cases.
Met a girl, hooked up. Stated texting for the week following the hooking up. She called me friend, I said no you don’t call me friend. “She then says, well what can I call you, baby?” I said yes yes call me baby but I’m not your friend. She’s now In love with me and can’t stop texting me - it’s been a month now, seeing her once a week and having sex. Be the man, make your stand and she will submit. She tested me that moment and I passed.
lmaoooo
So then why tf are you watching these videos lmao
@@aceman0000099 😂
strange logic but ok
But your here watching these vids 💀💀
If you don't know if you are in the "friend zone" guess what you are in the friend zone. :)
Not necessarily
Tao Paille-Paille you can says that to pretty much every statement. But it's 9/10 of the time yes this is true
@@RealSoranikki Im gonna assume that ^ is probably young because any grown man knows when a woman is into them, its obvious.
2 possible reasons guys end up in the friendzone either 1. She’s not interested in him romantically/ attracted to him or 2. She already has a bf and etc. possible reasons
I have always had a crush on a girl and i thought she loved by how she is talking to me and saying i am beautiful and today in school she came and she said she want to confess that she love me so i got shy and didn’t say anything and there was other people around and I couldn’t just stay like that and when i came back i felt i need to face her so i messaged her saying were you joking or no because i have the same feeling and she answered back saying ahahah i was joking don’t worry that hurt me so much couldn’t stop crying although i am 17 years old but i have cried for hours and i feel that my heart is broken don’t want to live anymore
Don't give up man.
You need to focus on improving yourself. N
Not chasing a women.
@@natestathes you are right
You rejected her and with your shyness you showed her that you are afraid of her . After that you asked her if she is really serious about you and you show her again that you are not confident. A confident guy don’t ask a woman if she is really attracted to him. This question showed her that your self esteem is low and that’s the reason why she lost interest in you . Time heals everything and don’t worry about that in Africa people have nothing to eat and drink and most of them die every day. You will laugh at this one year later . Don’t forget that and look some red pill videos who will show you how female nature works and what you should never say or do with women. I wish you the best 😎.
nah you fucked up you gave her the cold shoulder in front of everybody when she confessed to you an you embarassed the hell outve her an your a nervous wreck you got alot to learn sadly
Jeez you're the one who screwed up
I’m sooo dumb bruh. How are these girls so good at these illusions
I had someone express their feelings - and I wasn’t feeling it and PUT him in the friend zone as it’s either that or nothing - I don’t like him the same way.
Ladies have an obligation to tell them when they are not interested.
It’s ok to have female friends as long as you are not attracted to them. You learn about women and they also provide feminine energy that’s nice, helps stay sharp when you do meet a girl you like. I have to disagree with some advice he gives on this one
It's okay as long as you don't actually care to be with them or express your desire to date them. Which probably means they are unattractive.
I agree with you. Having a circle of women, makes you more confident, that guy that gets women, and they get you! I talk to some women I am not fully attracted to attending cultural events, talking about business ideas, current events, movies, books. I do know they dig me more than I dig her, but I don't mind the attention and the conversations are also interesting. You also get to ask them specific questions about what makes them tick in a purely platonic way. You should have lovers, friends, acquaintances, business partners who are women to build your self identity as true lover of women! Once a woman gets the vibe you just enjoy her as a woman for the sake of her just being woman (without manipulative sexual intent)...watch out!!! A woman on the street knows instantly you are the guy that just gets it, and will sleep with you and make all excuses for your bad behavior.
@@imoretullv243 You couldn't have said it better. Tripp needs to rephrase this lol
Wrong. Even if you are not attracted, you will possibly fall for her. There are countless experiences like that on the reddit r/dating forum.
@@ZelenoJabko WHAT? I've never ever fallen for a girl that I'm not attracted to. This may apply for those who don't have options...
in simple terms if your interested in her leave if you want to remain as friends continue to talk to her ideal for remaining as friends if shes married , dating one of your best friends etc
Straight up this situation is hellish. Would love to connect with others who need emotional support. This is crazy.
Really hated recognizing myself in this video, but the truth is the truth. Thanks man. Now I know to move on👍
It depends on how much time you are actually together and how the friendship started. Sometimes the girl will make the first move. But you must tell her how you feel too. So you are trying to diminish hopes. Its not a done deal.
If you’re not around her often you’re not friends. You’re acquaintances. He’s talking about people who are actual friends.
The typical friendzone the nice guy, then they choose toxic relationship over you, then they say all men bad, some even end up turning bisexual. The ones that turn bisexual, still end up in a lesbian toxic relationship. It's just wild to me.
The bottom line is that if a girl/woman pours out her heart to you about relationships, she is toxic. I have good female friends and they never ever do that, they know to go to their female friends for that. I'm not in a friendzone with them, we are real friends.
@@simonh6371 ahh so you are one of the girls. I mean... congrats i guess??
@@reese3861 No lol didn't you read my comment? They talk about man problems with their female friends not with me. If they talk about man problems with a bloke, he's one of the girls, or he's friendzoned, neither is good. These female friends of mine are just ex work colleagues and a bunch of us just get together every few months, guys & girls, for a drink or barbeque.
If you want a date a girl and she starts saying the Friend word.. just run don't look back.
I am a Woman and I am in the Friend Zone even when I do make a move. I think I'm seen as that girl nextdoor type of girl the ones where the guys get comfortable enough to tell me they have to poop. Which I want a guy to feel comfortable around me, but they get to comfortable and forget I'm a girl and that I get crushes and fall in Love too and here recently I was giving off some strong signals and I thought he was back, I think he was, but he freaked out and tried to pull the whole " I thought we were friends" so we quit talking for a month, but I catch him trying to see where I am or watching me, I'm thinking "Dude you passed, don't even act like you care".
So far; everything I’ve found has blamed me even though I’ve done everything right according to the ideas of “experts” I’m just done.
A person dosent owe you "a chance" it dosent matter how much you do "right" if a person dosent want you why is it that hard to RESPECT that? If you dont respect them, they arent truly your friend....
I am a girl in the reverse situation. I guess I friend zoned someone and friend zoned myself in the hopes he wouldn’t stay a friend. This video is good advice that guys have to get themselves out of the friend zone. In my case I won’t make the first move because I am afraid of rejection but it would allow me to move on. Other girls are smart and will make a move because they don’t want to keep wasting their time. So telling the other person you like them will lead to necessary rejection or reward. Not me I am going to keep wasting my time until someone else comes along.
this hurts so bad
Just happened yesterday and like 4 times😪
Bro explained my situation perfectly bruv
Men in the friend zone. The only way out is by her letting you out. She has the 🔑 . When she is done being run through by all the men she wanted then she looks at you to see if you are stable or would be able to help her get what she wants.
No…If she has the key, then I’m kicking the door down and getting the hell out. What do I mean by that?
I will just forget about her completely and leave her behind. I won’t waste my time with her any longer standing around for her to suddenly come round. It’s pretty much over once you get put in the friend zone. That kind of woman can’t do anything for you so you have nothing to lose by walking away from her.
Just get out of there, move on and find someone else.
Best way to get out of the friendzoned is leave and cut it off. I was in the friendzoned with a woman but it was my fault that I put myself into it but I ended up cutting it off and then I met my beautiful wife and i got married to last year. My friend that I was pissed off was mad about it and called my phone privately and left a voice message saying black men and their cave beckys.
I hate this guy for how correct he is!
Sometimes I give hints, but yet I don't get back anything
Interesting stat. Research shows 70% of relationships start as friends.
Yeah this video is like 15 minutes of only one perspective/scenario.
By his maths, I wouldn't be happily married with child because we started out as friends. 🤷🏼♂️
Seeing people in the "friend zone" is dating coaches bread and butter. That along with people who were dumbed and in no-contact. They make it out to be a horrible thing but in reality it often ends up being a good thing. Often the "friend zone" is a place where you are put because someone really likes you a lot but might feel intimidated or is trying to build something special with you before moving to a relationship. Especially people who were hurt badly in the past. But it's not a place you can stay forever. Eventually you need to make your feelings clear and if you don't want just friendship you ether need to walk away which is actually quite attractive to women, or just be content in the friendship. But it's certainly not the horrific place these youtube dating gurus make it out to me. Often it is but often it isn't. I was put in the friendzone by a woman who was really hurt from a previous relationship. She just wanted to know she could trust me and get to know me. I sort of sensed this however. After around 8 months I asked to move things passed friendship and she agreed. Still seeing one another romantically 4 months later.
@@Quixote1818 I agree with your take on it. What I didn't like about the video was the constant harping on about guys supposedly being in the friend zone for the sole reason that they don't express their feelings for their friend - I think that's unlikely to be true. I believe lots of guys (or girls, for that matter) who are in this situation do express how they feel but the sentiment unfortunately often isn't shared by the other person. As you said, they can then choose to accept this and move on or stay but as friends.
Generally I'm open to friendship with a guy that I enjoy spending time with but there is deal breaker for a relationship. Example, he doesn't want to have kids. That's something that's a no go for a relationship but we could still be friends 😊
I guess that I've just never had a good friendship before. Damn
If you’re wondering if you’re in the friendzone, you are. If you’ve hung out twice and haven’t kissed or done anything physical, you’re in the friendzone. And once you’re in the friendzone you’re there forever unless you bounce lol
Exactly happened to me she is not even wanted a hug she said religion reason
Because the guy didn’t show enough intent just because you ask someone out you still have to be a bit flirtatious with them and show them you’re physically attracted to them
What about those instances where you hear friends became lovers and then ended up together?
Rare
Happened to me until I messed it up haha and yes I regret it now
@@TrippAdvice let's just simplify it to "never". In the rare case it happens is when she ages and realizes you might be the best she is going to get. She settles for you. Would you want that?
Look for a girl that has genuine desire for you! She is not it.
Rare and terrible most of the time
@@ZelenoJabko not rare, I know lots of cases
Me & this girl were hookin up she wanted me to stay at her place all the time went on dates etc then randomly says shes talking to another guy & she said she doesnt wanna lose me as a friend and i said no thanks you can be friendzoned even if you were physical with her
Good on you. It’s happened to me. I actually think getting physical with a girl only to be friend zoned afterwards is worse than never getting physical at all.
Literally just happened to me
@@TheSnoozeFox keep it pushing dawg
Females are usually attracted to me in the beginning but once they get to know me they always end up friend zoning me😔
Nothing wrong with being in the friend zone but as a man make boundaries with the lady. Don't listen to how her day went, don't fix up her house, don't loan her more than $20, and talk about and date other women in front of her. Women like men who other women want.
You have said the most intelligent thing l have ever heard, girls don’t want a soft man, @ least the hot ones, they want an edgy man, mysterious. A man that exudes power & danger they are attracted to the excitement. Don’t ever let a girl make you her problem reliever, once u do that, it’s over, trust me l know 1st hand. Don’t be her Father or her Therapist & u r fine!!!!
or how about simply just leave the friendzone and cut ties with her?!
Leave her and don’t loan her anything
Or be a normal person and respect that she doesn’t want you
Fresh and fit podcast.. enough said!
Basically, it's so many different types of behaviors or behavioral-based things guys have to know or learn that make or break their success with women, socializing-based, etc.
Women just have to be attractive
How I know she likes me? You already got the answer there. If a girl likes a guy, she will make it very clear.
This girl told said I’ve been in the friend zone for 2 year wen one of my friends asked if we was dating. She also said her standards are high and that she would never
I’m a African American male who weighs 257 and is 6ft(kinda overweight)
She’s a slim white women who consistently invited me to her house and even offered for me to spend the night on multiple occasions and
obviously I should have known based on her amount of exes but my judgment was clouded, and unfortunately I had let myself get caught in my emotions.
So now I stopped talking to her cause she said it infront of a lot of people.
(I’m in a Highschool Senior btw)
Basically I’ve been in an emotional relationship for nearly a year with a girl 47 , I’m 59 . She lives with a controlling slob who likes to use his hands when he doesn’t get his way . She won’t kick him into touch and I’m in the friend zone even if I don’t like to admit it . For months now I haven’t initiated contact and already have another girlfriend ( nothing heavy or serious) I’m also open to other girls who might be interested. It’s interesting how the girl I’ve been’ friend zoned ‘ by always comes back either n a few days or a week at the very most , reaches out or wants to meet up . I have adopted a couldn’t care less approach although I’m always polite and respectful and truthfully this is the only way to be in this situation, I feel as though it’s working, I think she suspects I’m talking with someone else and can’t fathom my being distant, she will have to make a move otherwise I’m gone and I know for a fact she would be crushed, she atm hasn’t got the balls to change her own situation but it will cost her if she leaves it too long because I am now the catch not her
Friendzone--the place men go to die !
Robert Swift ->What a great statement! U need to make tshirts and bumper stickers out of that one.
Pretty sure war is where men go to die. Stop being so dramatic and weak - your male ancestors didn’t die during war so their male descendants would be weak enough to cry over not getting to stick their dick into everyone and everyone. Rejection is a part of life - man up and accept it and move on.
@@BehindTheBush96 wiped out by the spanish and swine flu...but thanks...only a simpleton would accept friendzone
I put this guy in the friend zone because he wasn’t putting in no effort and I feels I’m not attracted to him. We really get alone, but I’m not feeling the chemistry at all, then I feel he is playing games.
You spitting fr
You had me then lost me as soon as you said “you think women put you there when really you did”. I won’t lie I did put myself in a friend zone at one point in Highschool out of fear for rejection from one girl I liked while being her friend. However; there are times when a guy puts themselves out there only to be met with Friendzone by her. Meaning a guy took a shot and they were placed as a friend. That recently happened.😟☹️🥺
He is stating that if you are choosing to fulfill the "friend-level obligations" you are choosing to be in the friend zone. It doesn't matter where the origin of the friend zone is, if you are letting yourself operate in the friend level, you are being compliant with the dynamic; regardless of if you chose it initially or if it was thrust upon you.
We’ll look at the last thing you typed bud. Those emoticons won’t win a women by being feminine
I don't ignore the women im friends with but if they want to be friends then i treat them exactly like my other friends. Meet up maybe once every 4 to 6 weeks and a text every 3 weeks or so just to "check in". Anything else is asking me to be more than a friend defeating the definition.
That way you keep the moral high ground by not being perceived as a man-child in not being able to handle rejection (which you clearly can, more maturely than any other guy she'll probably get single mothered by) and more importantly the trash takes itself out eventually for lack of effort they feel entitled to. A win win.
Stop making friends with ladies, fellas.
What should I be making then? Enemies?
@@methlokaijufan9729 acquaintances.
@@Iyadkay What is that?
This literally just happened to me today. After two dates "hangouts" I asked for clarification from the girl and she clarified I am indeed friend zoned. So I cut off whatever we had immediately. I'm not interested in chasing after a damn girl like this.
Yeah. I could feel the tension between myself and a girl I knew for a while, when I was 22 and she was 19 it peaked. I never made a move on it. Fast forward wayyy ahead and I asked her out when we are in her 30s. Rejected, of course. Wanted to be friends. It can be there and then completely be gone if you don't act on it. it sucks for us men when it happens when we are young and oblivious. In hindsight it was fucking clear as day and my action (inaction) was taken as a rejection her way Im sure. She had to move on and has.
You were put in the friendzone cause you are needy,fat, poor or ugly. This goes both ways. Confident,fit, resourceful and put together can take you a longer way.
So true!
I've never felt the need to have a female friend my male friends can do everything better in my opinion their just more fun to be around of course without the affection so if I don't get affection eh I'm good.
My situation was kind of different because I went for it, we dated for a while and she told me she didn’t have romantic feelings for me🤷🏾♂️..
She wanted to be friends but I was like nah..I’m good.
She didn't want to see you anymore anyway. No such thing unless you were already friends. Another way of saying have a nice life but you are not the one I will marry so why waste my time ?
Thomas Gallegos yea I guess that why she keeps contacting me.. idk women r weird🤷🏾♂️
Bro exactly the same with me, she told me she sees me as a friend, l really like her but l am gonna bloke her & will c w@ happens with time
@@dylanmushonga8544 bloke her?
This is great advice that makes a lot of sense ... unless a guy is cursed with the mentality of a demisexual who by nature, are inclined to start all intimate relationships as slow burn friendships. We are incapable of functioning in any other way and it is such a fucking trap!!!
fuck ive been friend zoned for a long time and I didnt even fucking realize it until I got high and opened my MIND!!!. Talk about no self awareness. It hurts knowing that I was the shoulder all this time, and getting rejected. Now... do i pull out and create a strict boundry to remain friends( I do feel like i was really her best freind, now that i think about it) she even told me i was her best friend and it never even registered to me. Or do I close the door shut and move on to someone who truely desires me , without keeping her a friend. Moral choice I guess.
Many years ago I have really noticed that I wouldnt bother being friends with a girl who I didn't find somewhat at least reasonably attractive. And Tripp also explained in a another video that friendzone for women would be with a guy at attraction level of around 70% while at 50% women wouldn't even bother at all
Yep. I been saying this since I was a teenager. Most women wouldn’t befriend you or even bother being around you if they didn’t Atleast somewhat find you attractive.
It’s just the way life is
Huh? You’re thinking like a man and assuming that as a man you can apply the way you think to the way women think. They don’t think like men - men and women are completely different. All but one of my closest male friends are men I’m not attracted to.
Not friends, aquaintences is the appropriate word. Otherwise she is going to see you as utility.
These hos make my head hurt
Been friendzoned for 7 years can't get her off my mind
If you prefer to be friends with the woman and you are absolutely OK with that then by all means you do you however for me I feel it’s just best to go your separate ways and almost pretend like you never even knew each other. And I’ve had to make some tough choices not talking to beautiful women that I really liked but all it was going to do is cause this long-term pain and activate insecurities especially when they find someone they do fall for