They start to miss you once they can’t find you in their new relationship (Edit: I moved happily from my ex until she found out where I was working and continuously started going there and started to lead me on for a 2nd time. She said she didn’t want a relationship with anyone but gets a bf a week later and blocked me. I’m now talking to a great woman. Just move on guys, it’s worth it)
I hope that works in my case she's already came back once when she had gotten with someone new. She was back for a 1/ 2 years now she's gone again and with someone else :(
@Penny Sparks I just watched it. I guess that means she really not going to come back again. Like I said she left once and was with someone new then came back 3 months later. We were back together for a 1 1/2 and now she's gone again. Only this time shes moved out and has her own place now. :(
If they left you to seek sexual experiences with other people.. They have Betrayed you & are Not Trust Worthy! Love yourself & move on with your life.. Believe me.. They will regret there Betrayal!!!
scott filbey I went through it.. My ex came back after a couple of months while she was with someone else. I did No Contact because i was done with her. She was crying & begging for me to take her back.. I said No Fucking way.. She came back not because she loves me.. Only as a back up plan.The grass wasn't greener after all, & her life got worse with out me.. Her loss. I'm MGTOW for life!!!
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Malik Best Miller And the two years meant something to your ex too. She won’t forget about it. With time it’ll cause her to remember all the memories. Just trust time and move on focus on yourself it’ll be ok:)
My ex called it of with me 9-6-19 because she felt that I was unappreciative she felt lonely she felt like I took her for granted I don’t she where I did those things she was never the type to talk about her feelings smh I tried to work stuff out temerity her she said she doesn’t love me any more but she was the one that was the most effectionate I was effectionate too but she was overly effectionate she say she wants to be single she’s happier without me I’m been in no contact for about 5 days now do I have a chance to get her back Days are hard I think of all the possible outcomes I could have done to avoid this I feel as die I could have loved her better
@@sickathanyouraverage4404 Nothing cold about it! Why contact someone who told you nty am good! It's up to them to change their mind! Why go back for another dose of rejection for us and a boost for them again! Smile and wave and keep walking 👋👋 You'll soon see them scratch their heads and have a buzzled look on their faces!🤣😋
You wondering about you ex?? Just stop. Its self torture. Ex means you exited the relationship. You can't heal stalking their social media and another areas of that persons life. I know this sounds corny but you have to keep busy. Work more hours, workout, visit friends and family. Keep each day filled. Don't talk about the person with anybody and I promise you, you will heal. It won't take long either.
nofy bn if it don't go away it's because you don't want too. You must want to be miserable. Life is choices, you have to decide who do you love the most, them or yourself and if its them. You been a lost soul long before you met that person.😔
1. Freedom/weight lifted off. Thinking about it for weeks 2. Guilt/ Not attractive 3. Confused, what to do?/ Experiences 4. Expecting me to be sad 5. Decision, Happy w/out my ex or not? Did she make the wrong chose? 6. She contacts. Depending on what she says, ask to meet up. If not go NC. Be patient.
Mine has been putting up quotes about how I'm gonna regret losing her. Wtf does that mean?? Im the dumpee! I just said that we can't be friends. Why am I the bad guy??
Blax Poitation Don’t over think it. I don’t wanna give my input but go NC and focus on growing. If needed schedule a call with Rory and watch his videos and LEARN from them not just watch them. Good luck.
He left me for his ex. I did no begging or pleading. I'ma let him live his best life with his ex. He's already expressed regret for what he did and said he can't throw our 4 years away..Well, too late. HE threw those years away when he left me for her.
imshrrj you gotta forgive him Doesn’t mean you have to trust him again But please forgive him because this crap he did will make you bitter and harden your heart and effect future relationships
@@azazel3944 you're absolutely right but if you shut the fuck up and stop worrying about that human they may come back in your life just focus on yourself ✌😌
In 2017 I dumped my first love for another. That didn’t work out for me. And so I made sure to learn and grow from those mistakes of mine. In Oct 2019 I got into a relationship after finally becoming better for my sake, then that new guy dumped me in September 2020. Worst pain ever. And on top of that, I been thinking about my first love, wanting to apologize and to thank him for everything. But I can’t, he’s moved on, with another, he’s happy. But yes, even 3 years after the break up- I thought about reaching out. Wow, karma is a unavoidable. Everything I did has come back to bite me in the ass. Everything my recent ex did and said when leaving me was exactly what I said to my first love when I dumped him. It felt like a slap in the face! Damn you karma.
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Hows that going now..i hope you can resolve with your first ex..., not to get him back..just to cut out the bad karma for good...well however you owe him an apology and explanation..a sincere and honest one..
Mine made the decision on his own. Everyone else thought we were pretty happy, including our friends, families, etc. There were just some problems he thought would fix themselves on their own after which he'll regain the attraction but he didn't. He's been thinking about this decision for a while all on his own.
I see some people liking this comment. It's been a while since I've been broken up with and sometimes it still hurts. But I feel much better now that I've regained myself. 3 months since then, I feel much happier and better. I found someone who I'm thinking of starting a new relationship with. One where I'll be loved and cared about unlike the other by the end of it. It is hard to accept betrayal but it's important to understand that life never stops going. There's lots of love in the world and everyone will find their own eventually.
Honestly speaking if someone broke up with you and left you 4 another person, walk away n never look back look at what you did that contributed to the break up work hard on yourself focus on ur career n focus on ur body n you will meet new people n avoid rebounds
The dumper always has a plan B and I haven't seen a man yet that dumps someone that doesn't already have another girlfriend. Like the old sayn a man never throws away his only pair of shoes. Believe me another woman got him all confused with his weak mind that he thought the grass was greener and messed up probably a good thing. That's my two cents on it.
I finished my relationship without lining anyone else up, im guessing im far from the only guy, impossible to generalise like this & only adds more anxiety to people already struggling, alot of guys who have been dumped by women think & say the same about being cheated on rather than reflect & take accountability for their own behaviour during the relationship..
I think most people that get dumped don't know what to do because we made them want to leave us and we don't know how to handle. Especially hearing well just don't do it with your next relationship. We don't care if we do in our next one because it won't be with the one we lost.
My ex (The Dumper) is hurt and going thru pain as well. Recently admitted she tried meeting new people , but wasn't working out well. Said she is still not happy. So both sides definitely feel the pain of the split.
I Am Chedda I’m so sorry man my wife and I went through a rough patch for a year or so she then asked for a separation in July she told me I love you I’m not in love with you I love her I would take her back in a minute but that phrase was literally a bullet to my heart
I Am Chedda ex’s think the dumpee is the cause of their unhappiness so they get rid of us. They then realize oops , wasn’t them, still unhappy but they have that pride that keeps them from admitting it. I have zero sympathy for them & their callous smug ass selves.
Ces you are totally wrong. I’m certain that I made the right choice, but of course we miss people that were in our lives, if you have a heart! If the person was totally bad you would never date them. Everybody has a good side and that’s what we miss much. But life is made of choices. Your ego is hurt. Stop hating them. Its part of life. One day you are dumped and in the other day you dump them.
Good advice, spot on with your analysis. In England we have a saying "let them stew in their own juices". Let them go through their own 'emotional spectrum' and world of pain, in order to realise just exactly what they have sacrificed and thrown away. The grass is always greener on the OTHER side.........
If you dumped a narcissist and have been abused, you feel anxiety and hopelessness. The worst is the cognitive dissonance in which you tell yourself you want them back, but know at the same time, they abused you and will do so again and remain no contact. It gets better over time, but it takes a lot of work and patience with yourself. And narcissists hate being dumped... they try to come back to regain control.
Sarah Z I dumped my narc but came back. Only reason she took me back was so she could punish me before she dumped me. The bitch. Did my head in. Am ok now, dont want her back now, I almost hate her, so thats good.
7months ago I went through a bad breakup, like the worst one till now. And I've realized that there's still a small part in me which still loves her and respects her. I'm happy on my own now, kinda loving this independent life. But sometimes it feels like there's still a connection or a chain attached to both of us. Am I thinking too much or is it okay to feel so? It's not like I can't live without her or so. But like idk how exactly to put my feelings in words
Thank you for that closing statement. I constantly have to remind myself that he is human and capable of mistakes. Just like I want him to forgive me, I need to forgive and let go of the hurt this breakup has caused me.
I broke up with my ex not bc I wanted to but bc he just always put me as his last priority to everything and eventually replaced me, so I had to leave for my own sake. I was the dumper, but i felt like the dumpee.
Same, I left not because I wanted to, but because she we both had psychological issues that we had to attend to. The break up was mercy, she was so unhappy but she loved me so much she wouldn't say anything.
We were married Almsot 3 in a half years. He was cold the last year or so. And i couldnt take it anymore and i left and then hes the one who filed the divorce!!!! And i was begging and crying for like 2 months and nkw im finally doing no contact.
Pretty sure I'm at the phase with my ex where she's beginning to wonder if she's made the right decision. I've been No Contact for awhile now and she's just recently reached out again. After letting her know I don't want to be friends and that I still have feelings for her. Been working a whole lot on my physique and I think she's noticing. We were to mert up for some coffee this past weekend but we never met up. She's dating someone new and told me she'd feel "guilty" if she met with me. I jokingly got her to admit that she missed me a bit but that was that. Back to No Contact and doing my grind. Rory, you've been an amazing help and I really do trust in your process. I'm still in this battle of winning my ex back, but I think I'm making the right choices because of your advice. Thank you again
If my ex actually left me for his ex, or he'll end up with someone else, i hope he will be forever get the second best in his life. Because no one in my position would accept him with her right mind. Not to say that im the best girl he ever had (which he said it himself) but i actually accepted him for who he is together with his bad sides.. Then he actually dumped me just like that through text?? He didnt even had the guts to pick up my calls and talk. The cheapest way to get out. Talk is cheap, text is freaking cheaper.. Sure, part of me miss him as hell.. But there's also a part of me, just glad that i dodged the bullet.
Marcy Allison Depending on the breakup, they also move on. They will miss you or find out that you’re actually not right for them. Nothing wrong with that.
I wish I could just figure out exactly what’s on my ex’s (dumpers) mind. It’s been two months and I don’t necessarily want her back unless she makes the LDR worth it again, but I guess I just want to know if I’ll be a good memory to her, that she cries about me as much as I did about her. I guess it’s a little screwed up to say, but I take a little joy in knowing she’ll never replace me completely. To think that I used to have a photo of her glued to an ace of hearts in my wallet, I guess I wasted that corny idea on her but I got plenty more. I don’t normally comment on videos, but you are probably my favorite relationship coach. I have taken all your advice to heart, and if she comes crawling back cool, but if not I won’t ever lose another girl I truly care about again due to neediness, and distance. Thanks for the great advice, whether or not i get back together with her you helped me mentally mature faster.
I know this post was 10 months ago but I read it and it is seriously identical to mine. LDR. Were looking for a place and she was about to move here. Admit I was probably too needy but I treated her so well. It's been 7 weeks no contact for me. Initially begged and pleaded but 48 days no contact right now and nothing. Said she wanted space but then admitted to getting with a married guy. Miss her every single day and think about her always but needs to be her to reach out if she ever does which I think is unlikely. Would just really love to know how your situation turned out if you could let me know. Hope you're doing good
@@topgunner1962 hi...ldr situation here...too..he broke up within me almost two months ago...distance was never an issue.. It's more of our old issues.. Arguments... Didn't fight for him..my emotions have been up and down.. Right now... I'm spiralling down..
@@topgunner1962 you will have a better chapter in your life and sorry you had to go through that...it hurts me to know he's been breadcrumbing me and today he asked me how I am since I'm going through some health problems. But when I replied he never gave a response like he used to..unlike two weeks ago.. I get why we broke up but I took responsibility for my actions and he acts like I'm solely responsible for the demise of our relationship when both of us are responsible for the it..he lied to me about the fact he had been contemplating on breaking up with me for three months and in those three months I told him I loved him more than before and he kept being his sweet and cheesy self while texting me and doing video calls..liar...when he ended this he said he would still be there for me...he said it many times..I already came to terms that we are never getting back together but he lied about the fact about being my support system at a time a need one...it's bad enough he lied to me before it's worse lying to me about being there for me when I'm having health issues.. Sory for this long message.. Really need to let it out
@@schuylerwednesday4679 please let it out. I am sorry for short reply. Just out at moment but would love to talk more when you are free. My update is that is still have heard nothing from her. It's been just over 4 months. And it's getting worse. Miss her more than anything. She hasn't said a single word to me in over 4 months. Is it a lost cause for me or could she still reach out? Don't know what goes on in a woman's head
@@topgunner1962 I think gender doesn't have anything to do with how the course is driven...it's more of her own personality and character...I've seen some videos like how a man's mind works and it doesn't seem to apply to my ex..so I think it really all comes down to how the person is...to be on the safe side and for the sake of your mental health.. Just expect nothing at all...really hard to do but you will get there...thanks for replying...
Ecstatic to hear that you're going to be active in uploading videos Rory. Your advice help me a lot on the process of breakup recovery. Bless you. 💕🙏 Thank you.
My ex just dumped me 3 days ago for me being "emotional and not able to change". Mind you during our relationship my grandma and grandpa died unexpectely and my dad was in hospital for 3 weeks. We were together for 1.5 year. Now it's no contact time and to prove myself i am not weak and can do better without him.
@@ahmedmacadato2077 lol i forgot that i even made this comment. Hello kind stranger^^ I am still in the process of moving on but i don't need him anymore. He found him self a rebound while i am finding myself
@@IntrophyGamer holy crap somebody replied to this comment. I'm doing much better. When people tell you time heals it really does. Now i'm in much better relationship and upgraded myself. Lost some weight, travelled around and learned a lot. The guy i am with right now is such a sweetheart and has so much empathy towards me and my past troubles. So all good. What has brought you here to this video and my comment from last year?
My boyfriend just informed me that he isn't in love with me anymore...but wants to be friends. I cant just be his friend..because I'm still in love with him. When he asked me to be friends...I said it was time to say goodbye and blocked him. Now I must go through pain...but it would be far worse to be his friend...hearing about his new woman. I don't believe people in intimate relationships can just be friends. What is your take on this subject?
Tracy Williams my ex of 8 years jumped in a rebound relationship a month after we split and it hurt me heaps and she would still meet up with me and said she would still like it if we stayed friends if I accepted and at first I wanted to but I’m just not gonna make any contact with her and let her really feel the breakup. So I still want her? Yeah I’m still in love with her but it’s gonna be hard taking her back after all the baggage she’s collecting in this new relationship but eh I guess time will tell
There's only 1 instance in which you can remain friends with an ex. If it's a mutual breakup and both parties agree on it. It's rare, but it happens. Otherwise, if one party still has feelings for the other, it's very unhealthy to remain friends...for obvious reasoning. Offering friendship after a breakup anyways is an insult to your value as a individual. Expecting the dumper to demote a bond with the dumpee shows not only that the dumper wants to obtain the power in the situation, but also reduce the affect of the emotional trauma on their end. It's subconsciously selfish, and friendship should never be accepted because it will only make the dumper move on faster and easier from the separation.
my ex and i were together for 9 months. i loved her deeply. i told her that everyday. we were so close and intimate, we did things most couples do, and things many wouldn’t do. she was my darling, and i would take a bullet for her. i am young, immature, naive. i have a huge anger management issues. we started fighting after 6 months, the fights last short but it was perpetual. i tried to change, i ate anti-depressants, i control myself. sometimes i fall back to my old ways. she couldn’t take it anymore. she was hurting, and i was too. all i wanted was time, i needed time to quit smoking, quit drinking and quit my clubbing acts but i manage to do all that. i manage to control my anger, even for a bit, but i did it. i know i can change and i need some time. she left me, she left me broken hearted. she said the relationship took a huge toll on her, and she never want to go back to that place again. all i wanted to say was i’m sorry i brought you so much pain. i love you, and i just need time to improve. i am willing to do anything to get her back. but it seems like she doesn’t want me anymore. my heart shatters every night thinking of the good memories. thinking of her smiles and her beautiful voice, and how she used to sing love songs to me. now it’s over. i want her back not because i love her, but because i know i am capable of giving her security, love, and whatever she wants in a partner.
no sorry but if someone leaves you (especially for someone else) then they are not worth taking back. My ex gf who I was with for 3 years left me for someone else for about 7 months now. The reason you should not allow them to come back is because they will see that you let it slide and eventually they will consider maybe doing it again because they will expect you to take them back. I know how much you want to take them back because you love this person and I feel the same way but I know logically if i were to ever accept my ex back im setting myself up to be hurt again and possibly even worse. fight the good fight
Yeah your right my ex has left me 3 times now for basically no reason just because she’s a miserable depressing bastard and all 3 times I’ve went back and it’s hurt more each time . This time is the last because this time I’ve left her
Chioma Ononiwu I could be wrong yes. But I’d rather be safe than sorry in a situation like that especially bc I’m the one who got did wrong but I would also be open to allowing her to prove herself to me. I go based off my gut feeling so she would need to really convince in order for me to consider giving her another chance
Omg!!!!!!! I have a update well after following all the rules I have my ex back she was so worry that I've moved on.. But I told her I was busy working and she was ok with that so now we are communicating even though she's far from me but I will be getting my own apartment soon so she will be able to live with me!
@@lalisasmr I went only 3 days of no contact and also I did the radio silence method as well! the stuff really works me and my ex dated for only a month but since it was a short term relationship I'd recommend going 3 or 10 days of no contact litterally . don't even attempt to text or call your ex and trust me they'll start to feel the effects. that's only if you 2 guys didn't break up in a bad term though....... it may work only in some cases but if y'all broke up in a minor situation it will definitely work!!!!! Me and my ex broke up because she moved 2 hours away and did say she only wants to be friends as of (now) but we're planning on getting back to together in the future once I get my own apartment. So as at this moment we are communicating through facebook and snap chat . I did also beg plead before we broke up and that cause her to back away so that's when I did the no contact and radio silence method and it works like magic* she text me by day 3 of no contact. Remember we didn't break up in a bad term. now If it was bad term she probably would of text me by day 21 or 30
@@EJayyDreadHead I'm not sure how much NC actually played in you guys talking again. You dated for a really short time and I think that had more to do with it than 3 days of NC. I think being physically away from you is what motivated her to reach out. But either way, congratulations. Hope it all works out! My situation is completely different, so any results will take longer to happen.
@@lalisasmr you're right me not being in her presence is what cause her to reach out That's why lately she's been posting depressing quotes on facebook .. But we all good now thanks once again I hope your situation get better !!!!!!!* just go 30 or 150 days of no contact and do radio silence stay off social media like facebook Instagram Snapchat focus on yourself
I follow magnet of success blog which I find really good. No nonsense articles. There’s one on stages a dumper goes through. Plenty of evidence and material on stages of loss for the dumpee but hardly any on the cycle of a dumper. Seems to be in reverse to the dumpee with feelings of true nostalgia, comparisons and curiosity occurring way down the road, and very dependant on what life throws at them down the road.
I think it can be done. Never make plans to do something where you know that they will be there. You might see them accidentally somewhere and that's okay just get out of there as soon as possible.
my ex and I were together for 6 years and she wanted to break up because of all the arguments that were going on. She said she needed to love herself before she can love someone else. After our break up I find out she’s talking to another guy, a guy who in fact I had my suspicions of and she told me not to worry about while we were together. I grieved for a month didn’t go out just went to work and focused on my classes and about a week ago I went out with some coworkers had a good time and early in the morning the next day my ex went around asking if I was with someone new, expressing her anger with me in “putting myself out there”. The next day she went on social media blocked me (even though I was no longer following her) along with people she didn’t want to know about her personal life and posted a photo of her and the guy she’s talking to all hugging up on each other with a ♥️ in the caption like she used to do with the photos she posted of us. This is just a month and a half after our break up. Also I’ve been in no contact with her I have not reached out to her. Has she made the decision that she’s better off without me and moved on like the video said or is she still confused and doing what she thinks is best for her right now? Thanks
I feel you on this Dianne Barrett my ex left after 30+ years. Was seeing two women at the same time. Got his pick me girl now. That's what I call her. It's what their lacking in character so your better off without him. Cheaters have a lot of unresolved issues within themselves. Their relationship is based on dishonesty and that is a faulty foundation. Best to you.
So after three and a half years and three break ups my ex broke up with me again. Two months later he sent me a FB message saying I wasn’t something he wanted to put in the past. He asked to meet me in person and when I did he expected us to be friends! I said no way! I can’t be friends with someone I’m in love with. He became very upset with me. I left. Two days later I texted and asked him to come get his remaining items from my home and now he won’t even reply. Now what?
I’m really struggling to get over it she got with someone and moved them in straight away and we were only a month apart especially after she said she loved me
That's shitty. I'm so sorry. But in the end she may have done you a huge favor. The silver lining in this cloud is if she did it to you.. she'll do it to him. Be happy it's over and that you're not wasting anymore time on this pos.
Woot, excited for your book, Rory. I want to ask to set a date to meet, but I am afraid it will seem like an ultimatum. Honestly, I'm out of hope at this point, but these videos help me immensely.
Well when you love them as hard as you can and treat them like a king and turn around and stab your heart what else do you expect ? Men teach us to love their wallet, after he trashed my heart, it will be all about money
My ex left me stating she wasn't ready for a relationship and claiming she wasn't being herself, even saying the relationship made her feel bad. Still having a hard time figuring all of this out... It's tempting not to blame yourself. I really loved her, and I was devastated when she broke up. It's been two months. Any similar experience worth sharing or advice to spare?
Guilherme Zanetti I can sorta relate man , my ex told me she stopped loving me two months ago prior to the break up and then she told me she mentally broke up with me a week ago prior to the break up, but yet shit was good, like there were no signs at all. And she spilled out the real her on that night. It messed me up so bad and it’s only been little over 2 months now. It’s a hard road brother and you will always question yourself and the relationship. I do no lie. Experience likes this change people , for better or for worse. In our case we will be the better people. My ex cheated on me with 14+ guys off tinder and started to do that two days before we broke and she did not care till I found out two days later after we broke up. It’s people like her that will go through another relationship do what she did to me and she will suffer the consequences. I wasn’t physically or verbally abusive , I can’t speak for the next person.
Evidently if we are watching this video then we are all focused on our ex one way or another. Everyones situation is different and only you know. I hate the negative comments..ugh
I broke up with my girlfriend and have had zero contact and just reached the 1 year anniversary of that seperation. In my case there is no going back because she was verbally abusive. You are spot on about all the things I would be wondering and asking. That one bad trait (uncontrolable temper) is enough to negate all the wonderful and positive things we had. I only wish WOMEN would do as I did and just LEAVE immediately at the first sign of an abusive partner.
@@sacrealen A temper is something that is instilled in you. You can never get rid of it. With therapy you can hope to contain it but when you're in your late 40's who wants to commit to therapy.
JuniorMorin72 Sometimes people suffer from unresolved issues and they need help, not abandoning. Be compassionate towards such people. And yes, temperaments do change :)
He left me when I asked him some question and didn't hear him for 5 days from now, we been dating for 6 months now, we're on LDR I know our relationship is not that long to get hurt but I feel it, I begged him , keep sending him a message for 3 days on whatsapp, and also send his an email but I didn't get respond at all, I feel desperate and broken hearted.😥
I broke up with him for fear of abandonment and cause I was desperate. We were in a LDR and I felt like my values and his don't align. I don't want to live in the US, he prob doesn't want to come here and live with me. I regretted the decision immediately the day after and came back, but it was already too late. I made the mistake of not going into NC immediately and I hurt him even deeper trying to make conversations fun. I shouldve had more faith in relationships and my connection with him. Now I'm full of regret. I feel he's better off without me. He deserves someone better than me.
Hi there! I have been following some of your videos, I am 20 days in no contact and he doesn’t have any social media ( and he doesn’t view my status on Whatsapp), I don’t think he cares at all..... so I reconnect with him after 30 days or should I wait for him? Thank you
Hey , Just wanted to know.after our Break up I had seen my ex in a mall .It's been more than 1 year I had seen him.but I didn't reach out to him .is it correct to reach out to him first in a public place ?
Broke up 1 week ago. When he broke up i broke down crying. 3 days later he brought my stuff and i asked him questions and let him know why i was confused about the breakup(without tears and calm). I asked him to think about for a week, 2 days before the week ended i send him a message saying i didnt want him to think longer because i agreed with the breakup and explained him why(just like he did). I cant go completely NC because my ex is in my same friendgroup. We see eachother and say shortly hi when we go out once a week. But sometimes one of us skips a week and its 2 weeks. I dont message him and other then saying hi when we are in our friendgroup we have NC. He does know it will hurt me if he will start dating or doing something with other girls (he said he doesnt care if i did). I do show him i have fun with friends when he sees me going out. Will NC work like this? He broke up with me because he didnt see a future with me because hes more ahead of me and wants to focus on kids(hes 26). Which honestly doesnt make sense to me because i just started a new education i will pass in 2 years and will get a steady job(im22). Its not like if he meets someone else he will have kids right away. I always treated him well in the relationship, i lied at the start about 1 small thing(involving work) but came out for it and told him the truth weeks later. He met me in the worst period of my life(being unemployed because of a burnout). But thats different now, i have a job and starting my 2 year study next month. And he knows that.
Hi Rory!! I’m so excited you will be doing videos every week!! Question-been in no contact for 57 days and haven’t contacted him and he hasn’t contacted me. He got into a rebound relationship within 2 months after we broke up. I believe he met her a month after. We haven’t talked since they made it fb official. As of 3 days ago he blocked me from fb!!! Out of the blue. I’ve noticed his new gf has blocked me and unblocked me a few times now. But he just did it out of the blue. Could it be possible she blocked me from his Facebook maybe while he was sleeping??
Hi Sarah! I agree with the above comment, it could be what's happening but ultimately we don't know for sure. Be careful, this is mind reading! At the same time I want you to begin weaning yourself off of checking social media everyday. I believe we talked about that in the coaching!
Thank you Rory! Yes we discussed it. So hard cuz it’s like an addiction. But I’m doing better! The less I know the better it is for me. I need to keep this mind set, otherwise I will drive myself insane! You’re the best!!
@@sarahboyd7754 an ex I thought was the love of my life ended up with his coworker and after the break up he made a new fb profile and blocked me from the new one, even tho I wasnt bothering him at all. They were daring for 4.yrs and after braking up I noticed he unblocked me... AFTER 4 YRS! so it could be that she is preasuring him, but even if she is, he is allowing it so u need to move on and not think of him, work on yourself, do whatever makes you happy, chase any thought that comes and its connected to him, and u'll feel much better. I broke up 10 days ago, during of the most difficult time of my life, so trying this mindset of focusing on myself and my stuff kinda makes me feel better:)
The problem with my breakup is that I broke up with her due to fear of her leaving me during the week of our 10 year anniversary. We got back together after some drama and agreed to work it out but she then broke up with me after a weekend getaway with her friends that I couldn't go to due to work saying I "opened a can of worms" when I broke up with her and that she broke up with me because I broke up with her. She said that on the trip she realized that she is happier without me and accused me of not liking her friends or people in general and stated that she can't build her social circle with me in her life and that she has to do what is best for her. I have been in NC for 38 days and feel totally hopeless because I told her that I was going NC. HUGE MISTAKE! Never tell your ex your going NC! We were together for 10 years with one breakup at year 5 but got back together. She made me move out, signed the car we bought together over to me, and kept the dog. I love her so much and don't see how I turn this around. I am convinced she is happier without me. I am lost.
First off why did you have a fear that she was going to leave you? You essentially pulled a fake breakup that completely backfired. I don't think it's hopeless but you shot yourself in the foot.
Does this work for short term relationships? It was almost 4 months and she ended it due to my lack of confidence, my insecurities and me forcing my feelings. I realized what I’ve done but I feel she’ll never contact me again. Her ego is too big. We work together too and having to see her every day kills me but ive been looking strong with every encounter I have with her. I wonder if us working together would make her not want to get back together...someone help. Still have a lot of love for her :(
I have been left buy a guy that I found to be a very good man. We weren't together long this weeks to month and everything was going good when I thought. For me him find me the way out to leave me which one thing but the worst thing was that he called me toxic which I'm not. I was very good to him and I'm finding it harder get over him calling me back then leaving me. Why would any man do that it was so hurtful
my ex told me she met another guy ( "shes helping him " yea right ) and after i told her how i feel she act as bad person even more i told my self i wont talk to her any more , but after 2 weeks from that time i saw her i got got call ( i couldn't answer it it was ring and hangout i dont know the word for it in english ) from a number i know , after little bit digging i finally found out who was it , it was my ex work phone number , why would she do this , most of my friends told me it was on purpose , some say maybe it was on mistake maybe she wanted to delete speed dial but after 4 month? it really wired . i didnt call her back what you think was it a mistake call or on purpose??
I wasn’t officially back with my ex. But he’d taken me out to a steak dinner for my birthday and I assumed we’d be each other’s valentine. I found out he was buying flowers for someone else. I called him and flat out told him that I am moving on, I won’t wait for him anymore and that he has nothing to offer me. That was almost a month ago. I realized he called me on Wednesday at midnight but I was asleep and so into my own life I didn’t notice until 2 days later. I’m actually surprised because he is egotistical and prideful. I realized he was drunk because of mutual friend snap chats. Crazy.
After 8 weeks of being without her I’ve realised that she added nothing to my life, was really annoying and had a hidden borderline personality disorder. I’m worth way better and the girls keep coming since word got around I’m single again.
I am having a hard time finding anything on the internet about my situation. Can you make a video about being dumped in the middle of a fight? My ex didn't have a break up planned. He just got angry and dumped me out of the blue because we were fighting. It's been actually one month. And he texted me once after two weeks and just asked me why I wasn't talking to him. I didn't answer, because I was hurt and he knows the reason. He broke up with me in a really shitty way. He was sending out a feeler text. And for my own mental health, I needed to not respond. That text was at midnight, which is really rude in itself. Two weeks after that he tried calling me at midnight. I was asleep. Didn't leave a voicemail. I'm just confused. So, could you please make a video about being dumped when you're partner is angry. I don't see anything on this. We were really good together
@@user-wf7li5rl3m not at all. I don't see anything about it on the net :( I think that sometimes people get mad and react, and then breakup with you. A lot of these videos say that people have been thinking about it for awhile, but, sometimes, it just happens in the heat of anger. I hope someone does a video on this topic. If not I will
Sometimes, it's not about the dumper coming back, but rather its about them receiving their share of the mourning, and I don't mean them feeling guilt. I mean them feeling a loss. If they don't feel it, cest la vie...
I broke up just 5 days ago.. bz he was having sexual relationship with his bestfriend for past 3 yrs I have never got intimate with him and I dint kw abt it since then I have not contacted him 😑 neither texted him.. but before breaking up he said many hurtful things which really made me feel hurt... I just want to kw whether my absence will still make him come back ? Pls help
What do you do if you already did the pleading? Like, my grandma just died before my ex dumped me, so I was mentally all sorts of fucked. I've already begged and pleaded. My ex used to be obsessed with me, but I feel like I completely fucked up.
Hi Rory, What about manifestation, does this work a lot of people say that it works or is it just manipulating the mind set in a fake way to believe it will happen? How on earth will manifestation bring back our ex, can you do a video on this?
Hello, i got my Lover back with the help of Dr. Maharaj. Email him at (vashistmaharaj55@gmail.com) He's the best spiritual doctor to work with and can bring back your love.
this guy i met 2-3 months ago who i came close with, he often vented to me a lot, as we're both depressed and.. kind of lonely. we became close within venting to each other, and i was always there for him helping him giving him support and being there for him he called me his dream girl, and everything and now about 4 days ago he blocked me on snapchat, and soundcloud with no reason i dont know if i did something wrong but i feel so used... i helped him so much and he told me, he made me feel like he had a purpose on this earth because of me. when he blocked me, i noticed 10 mins later and texted asking if everything is okay.. he never replied, then the next day i texted asking why he's doing this, and he's hurting me, and i'm confused, and i said i understand if he doesn't want to talk to me anymore, but i'm confused.. he still hasn't replied.. i had feelings for him developing and i thought he felt the same since everything he told me on the phone/the deep conversations we had... then he just cut it off! i don't know if it's his depression,..... but what should i do? please help. i feel so broken and used. Since he didn't or hasnt replied (i don't think he will honestly) should i keep with no contact? We met online by the way... (we aren't dating, we just became really close, and i have feelings for him, and i think he did too) Should i just be patient?
Honestly i dont understand why some people do this.. but just forget about him and focus on yourself.. you deserve better things in your life someone who is also willing to help and support you through your hard times it's about mutual love and understanding if you think its his depression then give it some time but i think it's not his depression because if it was so he'd at least replied you by asking you to give him some space it's that easy to communicate but he blocked on you on snap and SoundCloud which is weird because nobody does that unless they just wanna ignore you.. and you can't really tell what are true intentions of that person.. i know this is bit harsh but its true.. I have been depressed for 4 years and sometimes i ignore people but i do tell them that i need space and i will come back to them when I'm doing fine (at least tell the one's who really mean alot to me) you're doing your best you did nothing wrong but gave your love and support be proud of it! that even through your hard times you have so much love to give to people
@@tem6238 I don't understand either, i was there for him through so so much, even on his birthday, he had nobody and since him and i live on opposite sides of the world i texted him happy birthday at 12 AM on the dot for him in september 27th. and i was there for him through-out so so much. i would type paragraphs when he felt lonely, or depressed, or sad, or wanted to hurt himself he told me he would just cry and listen to music to fall asleep. i was there every single day. i don't know if he got sick of me, talking to me every single day on snapchat messages, or if he found someone else. i'm scared maybe i wasn't enough. him and i never have said anything mean to each other, or fought. and i'm scared by him doing this it's creating some 'problem' to begin. like he just left me, and i dont understand why - he never told me, he hasn't said anything yet. STILL no reply. it's been almost a week now i think. i'm still hurting. He would always talk about how his in real life guy friends treated him shitty and how they were two-faced. backstabbers, and lowkey i saw an instagram post of him with them smiling, and i guess he just left me because maybe he associates me with 'problems' since he would always vent to me, and be sad to me. and i would be avaliable.. :( i'm really heartbroken, and hurting immensly. i don't think he cares or notices. even though i told him he was hurting me, when i texted.... i'm giving it time, and not making any moves, im trying to stay lowkey on SoundCloud so he doesn't know that i'm being sad or still sad. im scared if he knows, he won't come back. Thank you so much for replyng to this, i have no one else to talk to about it. and your heartfelt words have meaning to me. Thank you so so much. i'll try and focus and keep busy. even though things are so hard for me now.
@@owmeow i know what you're going through and you will think that it is your fault and it's natural when we truly feel for someone we always pick our flaws and blame ourselves for everything but let me tell you it's not your fault you did nothing wrong i know you gonna blame yourself for this but it's not.. and trust me it'll get better by the time
@@tem6238 Thank you so so much, i don't really know how to pm in here, but if you could PM me? i hope things get better, i'll try and keep myself busy. i've told some of my friends about how i'm feeling but ... honestly.. their advice is just 'forget him' 'move on' and i just feel like it's all a lost hope becuase i still do care about him but your advice was so so indepth and actually made sense, i still have some hope that he might miss me, or need space, and come back. and realise that i was there and only cared about him.
I told my ex bf not to come back when he regrets things whilst he was breaking up with me. I was calm during it though and clearly showed him I wanted to try to fix things but I’m so scared I f’d things up for him to come back casue of that
Hello, i got my Lover back with the help of Dr. Maharaj. Email him at (vashistmaharaj55@gmail.com) He's the best spiritual doctor to work with and can bring back your love.
but what when when she brake ups with u, her best friend(male) that she wasnt talking with comes back , and starts to be friends with her again, and coment on every photo of her, and he is being there for her? U think she will still give a damn about me, or thing about me or miss me???
Count me as being "done" with any break-up...no second chances here...get your act together or get gone. I will deal with the pain and I will get busy living my life. A year after the breakup ask yourself this - "Would I trade my life today for the one I had before?" My answer has been a resounding ""No Way!!"...thank God I got dumped my a deranged person. They did me a favor...no bitterness here but great relief and thanks for the opportunity to have my life back.
I don't believe in someone leaving you for someone else.If that happens is because there was no true love to begin with, or there was love but he/she was not happy and saw no future in the relationship.
They start to miss you once they can’t find you in their new relationship
(Edit: I moved happily from my ex until she found out where I was working and continuously started going there and started to lead me on for a 2nd time. She said she didn’t want a relationship with anyone but gets a bf a week later and blocked me. I’m now talking to a great woman. Just move on guys, it’s worth it)
That happened to me once already with my ex, hopefully it'll happen again with her :(
I hope that works in my case she's already came back once when she had gotten with someone new. She was back for a 1/ 2 years now she's gone again and with someone else :(
Exactly
@Penny Sparks I just watched it. I guess that means she really not going to come back again. Like I said she left once and was with someone new then came back 3 months later. We were back together for a 1 1/2 and now she's gone again. Only this time shes moved out and has her own place now. :(
That is 100% true
I've met someone much better, I thought it would be impossible, but it happened!!! :)
Really happy for you.
Congs
Lucas Marcal 👍
How did you do it?
I hope it lastes forever
1. Freedom
2. Confusion
3. Curiosity
4. Decision
5. Contact
If they left you to seek sexual experiences with other people.. They have Betrayed you & are Not Trust Worthy! Love yourself & move on with your life.. Believe me.. They will regret there Betrayal!!!
How can you be so sure? I was betrayed that way and some regret and a little pain for her would be excellent
Well put!! 💯
scott filbey I went through it.. My ex came back after a couple of months while she was with someone else. I did No Contact because i was done with her. She was crying & begging for me to take her back.. I said No Fucking way.. She came back not because she loves me.. Only as a back up plan.The grass wasn't greener after all, & her life got worse with out me.. Her loss. I'm MGTOW for life!!!
Luke Skywalker good man, you made the right choice.
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Trust me time is on your side!
What do you mean? We were together for 2.5 yrs....
Malik Best Miller And the two years meant something to your ex too. She won’t forget about it. With time it’ll cause her to remember all the memories. Just trust time and move on focus on yourself it’ll be ok:)
Thank you so much!!!!!
My ex called it of with me 9-6-19 because she felt that I was unappreciative she felt lonely she felt like I took her for granted I don’t she where I did those things she was never the type to talk about her feelings smh I tried to work stuff out temerity her she said she doesn’t love me any more but she was the one that was the most effectionate I was effectionate too but she was overly effectionate she say she wants to be single she’s happier without me I’m been in no contact for about 5 days now do I have a chance to get her back
Days are hard I think of all the possible outcomes I could have done to avoid this I feel as die I could have loved her better
@@ett2 updatee???
I have said this and will say again...NEVER SURRENDER TO YOUR EX! NEVER!!! NC TILL DEATH!!!
Chris Bryant agreed
Totally 😎
Another intake on till death do us apart! 😜
Cold but true. Most don't have the guts for no contact forever.
@@sickathanyouraverage4404 Nothing cold about it! Why contact someone who told you nty am good! It's up to them to change their mind! Why go back for another dose of rejection for us and a boost for them again! Smile and wave and keep walking 👋👋 You'll soon see them scratch their heads and have a buzzled look on their faces!🤣😋
You wondering about you ex?? Just stop. Its self torture. Ex means you exited the relationship. You can't heal stalking their social media and another areas of that persons life. I know this sounds corny but you have to keep busy. Work more hours, workout, visit friends and family. Keep each day filled. Don't talk about the person with anybody and I promise you, you will heal. It won't take long either.
ILoveSweets Always how do u know it won't take long🤔
Thanks I needed this
BS. It doesn't help and it might never go away.
nofy bn if it don't go away it's because you don't want too. You must want to be miserable. Life is choices, you have to decide who do you love the most, them or yourself and if its them. You been a lost soul long before you met that person.😔
Sounds true
I’m gonna be honest if she dates another guy I’m no longer interested.
Eric Fang I agree with this too. I’m not interested in an ex if she thinks she can leave, hook up with someone else and then come back...no way!
Same way I feel.
1. Freedom/weight lifted off. Thinking about it for weeks
2. Guilt/ Not attractive
3. Confused, what to do?/ Experiences
4. Expecting me to be sad
5. Decision, Happy w/out my ex or not? Did she make the wrong chose?
6. She contacts. Depending on what she says, ask to meet up. If not go NC. Be patient.
Mine has been putting up quotes about how I'm gonna regret losing her. Wtf does that mean?? Im the dumpee! I just said that we can't be friends. Why am I the bad guy??
Blax Poitation Don’t over think it. I don’t wanna give my input but go NC and focus on growing. If needed schedule a call with Rory and watch his videos and LEARN from them not just watch them. Good luck.
What if it’s a LDR?
He left me for his ex. I did no begging or pleading. I'ma let him live his best life with his ex. He's already expressed regret for what he did and said he can't throw our 4 years away..Well, too late. HE threw those years away when he left me for her.
imshrrj you gotta forgive him
Doesn’t mean you have to trust him again
But please forgive him because this crap he did will make you bitter and harden your heart and effect future relationships
@@azazel3944 not if she still has strong feelings for that guy then it isn't necessary..
@@azazel3944 you're absolutely right but if you shut the fuck up and stop worrying about that human they may come back in your life just focus on yourself ✌😌
Exactly!
Going back with your ex,its like eating your own vomit.
In 2017 I dumped my first love for another. That didn’t work out for me. And so I made sure to learn and grow from those mistakes of mine. In Oct 2019 I got into a relationship after finally becoming better for my sake, then that new guy dumped me in September 2020. Worst pain ever. And on top of that, I been thinking about my first love, wanting to apologize and to thank him for everything. But I can’t, he’s moved on, with another, he’s happy. But yes, even 3 years after the break up- I thought about reaching out. Wow, karma is a unavoidable. Everything I did has come back to bite me in the ass. Everything my recent ex did and said when leaving me was exactly what I said to my first love when I dumped him. It felt like a slap in the face! Damn you karma.
Hello, i got my Lover back with the help of Dr. Maharaj. Email him at (vashistmaharaj55@gmail.com) He's the best spiritual doctor to work with and can bring back your love.
Hows that going now..i hope you can resolve with your first ex..., not to get him back..just to cut out the bad karma for good...well however you owe him an apology and explanation..a sincere and honest one..
They don’t operate in a vacuum. They take friends. They develop a support system before they leave.
jlkdr hahahahahhahaha true
Mine made the decision on his own. Everyone else thought we were pretty happy, including our friends, families, etc.
There were just some problems he thought would fix themselves on their own after which he'll regain the attraction but he didn't. He's been thinking about this decision for a while all on his own.
I see some people liking this comment. It's been a while since I've been broken up with and sometimes it still hurts. But I feel much better now that I've regained myself. 3 months since then, I feel much happier and better. I found someone who I'm thinking of starting a new relationship with. One where I'll be loved and cared about unlike the other by the end of it.
It is hard to accept betrayal but it's important to understand that life never stops going. There's lots of love in the world and everyone will find their own eventually.
Once they go into a rebound, let them go!!!
You mean for good?
Best break up coach on the net I've come across. Humorous, passionate, on the ball , very real analysis and the psychology is spot on.
Honestly speaking if someone broke up with you and left you 4 another person, walk away n never look back look at what you did that contributed to the break up work hard on yourself focus on ur career n focus on ur body n you will meet new people n avoid rebounds
The dumper always has a plan B and I haven't seen a man yet that dumps someone that doesn't already have another girlfriend. Like the old sayn a man never throws away his only pair of shoes. Believe me another woman got him all confused with his weak mind that he thought the grass was greener and messed up probably a good thing. That's my two cents on it.
Is this true...?
Tonya Lieteau truth !!!
True.
Esa. Bb. Si. Es muylinda
I finished my relationship without lining anyone else up, im guessing im far from the only guy, impossible to generalise like this & only adds more anxiety to people already struggling, alot of guys who have been dumped by women think & say the same about being cheated on rather than reflect & take accountability for their own behaviour during the relationship..
I think most people that get dumped don't know what to do because we made them want to leave us and we don't know how to handle. Especially hearing well just don't do it with your next relationship. We don't care if we do in our next one because it won't be with the one we lost.
:(
An ex is an ex. Don’t look back.
Words of wisdem
Shinigami117 S then why are you on this channel
My ex (The Dumper) is hurt and going thru pain as well. Recently admitted she tried meeting new people , but wasn't working out well. Said she is still not happy. So both sides definitely feel the pain of the split.
I Am Chedda I’m so sorry man my wife and I went through a rough patch for a year or so she then asked for a separation in July she told me I love you I’m not in love with you I love her I would take her back in a minute but that phrase was literally a bullet to my heart
@@timothyperry3850 yeah it's rough. I wish you the best man.
I Am Chedda I was the dumper. I now we wont work out together, but I’m fucking missing him, even I knowing that we wont work together
I Am Chedda ex’s think the dumpee is the cause of their unhappiness so they get rid of us. They then realize oops , wasn’t them, still unhappy but they have that pride that keeps them from admitting it. I have zero sympathy for them & their callous smug ass selves.
Ces you are totally wrong. I’m certain that I made the right choice, but of course we miss people that were in our lives, if you have a heart! If the person was totally bad you would never date them. Everybody has a good side and that’s what we miss much. But life is made of choices. Your ego is hurt. Stop hating them. Its part of life. One day you are dumped and in the other day you dump them.
Good advice, spot on with your analysis. In England we have a saying "let them stew in their own juices". Let them go through their own 'emotional spectrum' and world of pain, in order to realise just exactly what they have sacrificed and thrown away. The grass is always greener on the OTHER side.........
The grass is rarely ever greener on the other side.
If you dumped a narcissist and have been abused, you feel anxiety and hopelessness. The worst is the cognitive dissonance in which you tell yourself you want them back, but know at the same time, they abused you and will do so again and remain no contact. It gets better over time, but it takes a lot of work and patience with yourself. And narcissists hate being dumped... they try to come back to regain control.
Sarah Z I dumped my narc but came back. Only reason she took me back was so she could punish me before she dumped me. The bitch. Did my head in. Am ok now, dont want her back now, I almost hate her, so thats good.
What is a narcissist?
7months ago I went through a bad breakup, like the worst one till now. And I've realized that there's still a small part in me which still loves her and respects her. I'm happy on my own now, kinda loving this independent life. But sometimes it feels like there's still a connection or a chain attached to both of us. Am I thinking too much or is it okay to feel so? It's not like I can't live without her or so. But like idk how exactly to put my feelings in words
Same
Sam Martin i feel the same way.
Me 2 baby
Me too
Soul connections
Thank you for that closing statement. I constantly have to remind myself that he is human and capable of mistakes. Just like I want him to forgive me, I need to forgive and let go of the hurt this breakup has caused me.
I broke up with my ex not bc I wanted to but bc he just always put me as his last priority to everything and eventually replaced me, so I had to leave for my own sake. I was the dumper, but i felt like the dumpee.
Same, I left not because I wanted to, but because she we both had psychological issues that we had to attend to. The break up was mercy, she was so unhappy but she loved me so much she wouldn't say anything.
Vi Dao saaaaaaaaaaaame and its hard to find a video on that!!!!!!!!
We were married
Almsot 3 in a half years. He was cold the last year or so. And i couldnt take it anymore and i left and then hes the one who filed the divorce!!!! And i was begging and crying for like 2 months and nkw im finally doing no contact.
I broke up with the SITUATION. He broke up with the PERSON. As in me. I didnt brwak up with HIM i left the situation but he left ME.
Mickey Frenchie that’s how I felt too :(
Pretty sure I'm at the phase with my ex where she's beginning to wonder if she's made the right decision. I've been No Contact for awhile now and she's just recently reached out again. After letting her know I don't want to be friends and that I still have feelings for her. Been working a whole lot on my physique and I think she's noticing. We were to mert up for some coffee this past weekend but we never met up. She's dating someone new and told me she'd feel "guilty" if she met with me. I jokingly got her to admit that she missed me a bit but that was that. Back to No Contact and doing my grind. Rory, you've been an amazing help and I really do trust in your process. I'm still in this battle of winning my ex back, but I think I'm making the right choices because of your advice. Thank you again
Any update?
If my ex actually left me for his ex, or he'll end up with someone else, i hope he will be forever get the second best in his life. Because no one in my position would accept him with her right mind. Not to say that im the best girl he ever had (which he said it himself) but i actually accepted him for who he is together with his bad sides.. Then he actually dumped me just like that through text?? He didnt even had the guts to pick up my calls and talk. The cheapest way to get out. Talk is cheap, text is freaking cheaper.. Sure, part of me miss him as hell.. But there's also a part of me, just glad that i dodged the bullet.
This is scary similar to my situation, she left me for her ex after I was there for her through everything. Lifes cruel sometimes
They have regrets.
Marcy Allison Depending on the breakup, they also move on. They will miss you or find out that you’re actually not right for them. Nothing wrong with that.
I wish I could just figure out exactly what’s on my ex’s (dumpers) mind. It’s been two months and I don’t necessarily want her back unless she makes the LDR worth it again, but I guess I just want to know if I’ll be a good memory to her, that she cries about me as much as I did about her. I guess it’s a little screwed up to say, but I take a little joy in knowing she’ll never replace me completely. To think that I used to have a photo of her glued to an ace of hearts in my wallet, I guess I wasted that corny idea on her but I got plenty more.
I don’t normally comment on videos, but you are probably my favorite relationship coach. I have taken all your advice to heart, and if she comes crawling back cool, but if not I won’t ever lose another girl I truly care about again due to neediness, and distance. Thanks for the great advice, whether or not i get back together with her you helped me mentally mature faster.
I know this post was 10 months ago but I read it and it is seriously identical to mine. LDR. Were looking for a place and she was about to move here. Admit I was probably too needy but I treated her so well. It's been 7 weeks no contact for me. Initially begged and pleaded but 48 days no contact right now and nothing. Said she wanted space but then admitted to getting with a married guy. Miss her every single day and think about her always but needs to be her to reach out if she ever does which I think is unlikely.
Would just really love to know how your situation turned out if you could let me know. Hope you're doing good
@@topgunner1962 hi...ldr situation here...too..he broke up within me almost two months ago...distance was never an issue.. It's more of our old issues.. Arguments... Didn't fight for him..my emotions have been up and down.. Right now... I'm spiralling down..
@@topgunner1962 you will have a better chapter in your life and sorry you had to go through that...it hurts me to know he's been breadcrumbing me and today he asked me how I am since I'm going through some health problems. But when I replied he never gave a response like he used to..unlike two weeks ago.. I get why we broke up but I took responsibility for my actions and he acts like I'm solely responsible for the demise of our relationship when both of us are responsible for the it..he lied to me about the fact he had been contemplating on breaking up with me for three months and in those three months I told him I loved him more than before and he kept being his sweet and cheesy self while texting me and doing video calls..liar...when he ended this he said he would still be there for me...he said it many times..I already came to terms that we are never getting back together but he lied about the fact about being my support system at a time a need one...it's bad enough he lied to me before it's worse lying to me about being there for me when I'm having health issues.. Sory for this long message.. Really need to let it out
@@schuylerwednesday4679 please let it out. I am sorry for short reply. Just out at moment but would love to talk more when you are free.
My update is that is still have heard nothing from her. It's been just over 4 months. And it's getting worse. Miss her more than anything. She hasn't said a single word to me in over 4 months. Is it a lost cause for me or could she still reach out? Don't know what goes on in a woman's head
@@topgunner1962 I think gender doesn't have anything to do with how the course is driven...it's more of her own personality and character...I've seen some videos like how a man's mind works and it doesn't seem to apply to my ex..so I think it really all comes down to how the person is...to be on the safe side and for the sake of your mental health.. Just expect nothing at all...really hard to do but you will get there...thanks for replying...
if there not in love with you then they couldn't care less
Your voice is meant for radio, it's easy listening and not annoying at any way
chris cline , agreed! He sounds so sexy! I wonder how does he looks like🤪
Ecstatic to hear that you're going to be active in uploading videos Rory. Your advice help me a lot on the process of breakup recovery. Bless you. 💕🙏 Thank you.
My ex just dumped me 3 days ago for me being "emotional and not able to change". Mind you during our relationship my grandma and grandpa died unexpectely and my dad was in hospital for 3 weeks. We were together for 1.5 year. Now it's no contact time and to prove myself i am not weak and can do better without him.
man your ex is heartless asf bro just move on and find someone new
@@ahmedmacadato2077 lol i forgot that i even made this comment. Hello kind stranger^^ I am still in the process of moving on but i don't need him anymore. He found him self a rebound while i am finding myself
@@katarinajokanovic1872 I hope you've moved on completely and feeling much better now! Let me know about it.
@@IntrophyGamer holy crap somebody replied to this comment. I'm doing much better. When people tell you time heals it really does. Now i'm in much better relationship and upgraded myself. Lost some weight, travelled around and learned a lot. The guy i am with right now is such a sweetheart and has so much empathy towards me and my past troubles. So all good. What has brought you here to this video and my comment from last year?
@@katarinajokanovic1872 did your ex ever come back
My boyfriend just informed me that he isn't in love with me anymore...but wants to be friends. I cant just be his friend..because I'm still in love with him. When he asked me to be friends...I said it was time to say goodbye and blocked him. Now I must go through pain...but it would be far worse to be his friend...hearing about his new woman. I don't believe people in intimate relationships can just be friends. What is your take on this subject?
Tracy Williams my ex of 8 years jumped in a rebound relationship a month after we split and it hurt me heaps and she would still meet up with me and said she would still like it if we stayed friends if I accepted and at first I wanted to but I’m just not gonna make any contact with her and let her really feel the breakup. So I still want her? Yeah I’m still in love with her but it’s gonna be hard taking her back after all the baggage she’s collecting in this new relationship but eh I guess time will tell
There's only 1 instance in which you can remain friends with an ex. If it's a mutual breakup and both parties agree on it. It's rare, but it happens. Otherwise, if one party still has feelings for the other, it's very unhealthy to remain friends...for obvious reasoning. Offering friendship after a breakup anyways is an insult to your value as a individual. Expecting the dumper to demote a bond with the dumpee shows not only that the dumper wants to obtain the power in the situation, but also reduce the affect of the emotional trauma on their end. It's subconsciously selfish, and friendship should never be accepted because it will only make the dumper move on faster and easier from the separation.
I tried it. It didnt work at all for me. I tortured myself and couldnt hide it.
Just remember that nothing last for ever...most likely it's just infatuation and that's not love..
Marialta If you think like that, then it will be true....
Check in with yourself and see how YOU ARE doing. I love that
my ex and i were together for 9 months. i loved her deeply. i told her that everyday. we were so close and intimate, we did things most couples do, and things many wouldn’t do. she was my darling, and i would take a bullet for her. i am young, immature, naive. i have a huge anger management issues. we started fighting after 6 months, the fights last short but it was perpetual. i tried to change, i ate anti-depressants, i control myself. sometimes i fall back to my old ways. she couldn’t take it anymore. she was hurting, and i was too. all i wanted was time, i needed time to quit smoking, quit drinking and quit my clubbing acts but i manage to do all that. i manage to control my anger, even for a bit, but i did it. i know i can change and i need some time. she left me, she left me broken hearted. she said the relationship took a huge toll on her, and she never want to go back to that place again. all i wanted to say was i’m sorry i brought you so much pain. i love you, and i just need time to improve. i am willing to do anything to get her back. but it seems like she doesn’t want me anymore. my heart shatters every night thinking of the good memories. thinking of her smiles and her beautiful voice, and how she used to sing love songs to me. now it’s over. i want her back not because i love her, but because i know i am capable of giving her security, love, and whatever she wants in a partner.
This is exactly my story man
Update guys??
Your ex is feeling no pain. Most likely already in another woman's face.
I feel blessed that I found your videos.. it helped me a lot in my anxiety and tough times. And to become better and stronger ❣️
I had break up.. I m just stuck in my past what can I do
I have been ghosted for no reason
But his lose not mine
There is alot of fish in the sea
There's also lots of rubbish and pollution in the sea
@@billn7891 😂😂😂👍
At this rate of overfishing and overpopulation, fishes will soon become scarce
no sorry but if someone leaves you (especially for someone else) then they are not worth taking back. My ex gf who I was with for 3 years left me for someone else for about 7 months now. The reason you should not allow them to come back is because they will see that you let it slide and eventually they will consider maybe doing it again because they will expect you to take them back. I know how much you want to take them back because you love this person and I feel the same way but I know logically if i were to ever accept my ex back im setting myself up to be hurt again and possibly even worse. fight the good fight
What if you are wrong? What if she came back to be with you for live?
Yeah your right my ex has left me 3 times now for basically no reason just because she’s a miserable depressing bastard and all 3 times I’ve went back and it’s hurt more each time . This time is the last because this time I’ve left her
And they will usually do it again.
Chioma Ononiwu I could be wrong yes. But I’d rather be safe than sorry in a situation like that especially bc I’m the one who got did wrong but I would also be open to allowing her to prove herself to me. I go based off my gut feeling so she would need to really convince in order for me to consider giving her another chance
Mrs. Hy thanks for the concern :) I’ve met someone knew and life’s good
I’m not happy about the situation.... but it was only right 😔.
Omg!!!!!!! I have a update well after following all the rules I have my ex back she was so worry that I've moved on.. But I told her I was busy working and she was ok with that so now we are communicating even though she's far from me but I will be getting my own apartment soon so she will be able to live with me!
Share your story! How long were you broken up? Did you do NC?
@@lalisasmr I went only 3 days of no contact and also I did the radio silence method as well! the stuff really works me and my ex dated for only a month but since it was a short term relationship I'd recommend going 3 or 10 days of no contact litterally . don't even attempt to text or call your ex and trust me they'll start to feel the effects. that's only if you 2 guys didn't break up in a bad term though....... it may work only in some cases but if y'all broke up in a minor situation it will definitely work!!!!! Me and my ex broke up because she moved 2 hours away and did say she only wants to be friends as of (now) but we're planning on getting back to together in the future once I get my own apartment. So as at this moment we are communicating through facebook and snap chat . I did also beg plead before we broke up and that cause her to back away so that's when I did the no contact and radio silence method and it works like magic* she text me by day 3 of no contact. Remember we didn't break up in a bad term. now If it was bad term she probably would of text me by day 21 or 30
@@EJayyDreadHead I'm not sure how much NC actually played in you guys talking again. You dated for a really short time and I think that had more to do with it than 3 days of NC. I think being physically away from you is what motivated her to reach out. But either way, congratulations. Hope it all works out! My situation is completely different, so any results will take longer to happen.
@@lalisasmr you're right me not being in her presence is what cause her to reach out That's why lately she's been posting depressing quotes on facebook .. But we all good now thanks once again I hope your situation get better !!!!!!!* just go 30 or 150 days of no contact and do radio silence stay off social media like facebook Instagram Snapchat focus on yourself
People don't even have time to work on themselves and realise what they've done in three days.
I follow magnet of success blog which I find really good. No nonsense articles. There’s one on stages a dumper goes through. Plenty of evidence and material on stages of loss for the dumpee but hardly any on the cycle of a dumper. Seems to be in reverse to the dumpee with feelings of true nostalgia, comparisons and curiosity occurring way down the road, and very dependant on what life throws at them down the road.
I think a video on how to handle living nearby an ex during the healing process would be beneficial.
I think it can be done. Never make plans to do something where you know that they will be there. You might see them accidentally somewhere and that's okay just get out of there as soon as possible.
Does your ex fight their own feelings ?
my ex and I were together for 6 years and she wanted to break up because of all the arguments that were going on. She said she needed to love herself before she can love someone else. After our break up I find out she’s talking to another guy, a guy who in fact I had my suspicions of and she told me not to worry about while we were together. I grieved for a month didn’t go out just went to work and focused on my classes and about a week ago I went out with some coworkers had a good time and early in the morning the next day my ex went around asking if I was with someone new, expressing her anger with me in “putting myself out there”. The next day she went on social media blocked me (even though I was no longer following her) along with people she didn’t want to know about her personal life and posted a photo of her and the guy she’s talking to all hugging up on each other with a ♥️ in the caption like she used to do with the photos she posted of us. This is just a month and a half after our break up. Also I’ve been in no contact with her I have not reached out to her. Has she made the decision that she’s better off without me and moved on like the video said or is she still confused and doing what she thinks is best for her right now? Thanks
Don't put your life on hold hoping she'll return.
My ex after 20 years left me last year just found out that he's now engaged to be married next year to the person that he left me for
Dianne Barrett not going to work out rushed into it pure rebound after 20years with you
So sorry to hear that😭. May god heal our broken hearts!
agree
I feel you on this Dianne Barrett my ex left after 30+ years. Was seeing two women at the same time. Got his pick me girl now. That's what I call her. It's what their lacking in character so your better off without him. Cheaters have a lot of unresolved issues within themselves. Their relationship is based on dishonesty and that is a faulty foundation. Best to you.
@@jesmec9753 thank you, faulty foundation I never thought about that.
So after three and a half years and three break ups my ex broke up with me again. Two months later he sent me a FB message saying I wasn’t something he wanted to put in the past. He asked to meet me in person and when I did he expected us to be friends! I said no way! I can’t be friends with someone I’m in love with. He became very upset with me. I left. Two days later I texted and asked him to come get his remaining items from my home and now he won’t even reply. Now what?
I’m really struggling to get over it she got with someone and moved them in straight away and we were only a month apart especially after she said she loved me
That's shitty. I'm so sorry. But in the end she may have done you a huge favor. The silver lining in this cloud is if she did it to you.. she'll do it to him. Be happy it's over and that you're not wasting anymore time on this pos.
Woot, excited for your book, Rory. I want to ask to set a date to meet, but I am afraid it will seem like an ultimatum. Honestly, I'm out of hope at this point, but these videos help me immensely.
What does the dumper go through ? The next guy's wallet ... lol
Sexist and wrong! You have issues with women to work on.
Well when you love them as hard as you can and treat them like a king and turn around and stab your heart what else do you expect ?
Men teach us to love their wallet, after he trashed my heart, it will be all about money
Nice! Should have more likes. And the chick who didn’t like your comment should lighten up. She must have done similar so it burns her to read it.
The dumper could be the guy. Gees no wonder you.have women leave you with that rotten attitude toward women thinking you poop don't stink.
Absolutely. When I stopped paying for everything he "needed", he quickly turned mean.
That’s exactly what I did. Let him walk away.
Update?
My ex left me stating she wasn't ready for a relationship and claiming she wasn't being herself, even saying the relationship made her feel bad. Still having a hard time figuring all of this out... It's tempting not to blame yourself. I really loved her, and I was devastated when she broke up. It's been two months. Any similar experience worth sharing or advice to spare?
Guilherme Zanetti I can sorta relate man , my ex told me she stopped loving me two months ago prior to the break up and then she told me she mentally broke up with me a week ago prior to the break up, but yet shit was good, like there were no signs at all. And she spilled out the real her on that night. It messed me up so bad and it’s only been little over 2 months now. It’s a hard road brother and you will always question yourself and the relationship. I do no lie. Experience likes this change people , for better or for worse. In our case we will be the better people. My ex cheated on me with 14+ guys off tinder and started to do that two days before we broke and she did not care till I found out two days later after we broke up. It’s people like her that will go through another relationship do what she did to me and she will suffer the consequences. I wasn’t physically or verbally abusive , I can’t speak for the next person.
Rory, you are always spot on in your good advice ,keep up the great work.
Evidently if we are watching this video then we are all focused on our ex one way or another. Everyones situation is different and only you know. I hate the negative comments..ugh
Guys is it cheating/infidelity if your ex starts dating some 6 days later after you broke up? We were together for 1 and half years. was also engaged.
no
I'm sure he was already seeing her while in your relationship
Thank you Rory for discounting your services
I broke up with my girlfriend and have had zero contact and just reached the 1 year anniversary of that seperation. In my case there is no going back because she was verbally abusive. You are spot on about all the things I would be wondering and asking. That one bad trait (uncontrolable temper) is enough to negate all the wonderful and positive things we had. I only wish WOMEN would do as I did and just LEAVE immediately at the first sign of an abusive partner.
Maybe she improved herself and now she's a better person than before :)
@@sacrealen A temper is something that is instilled in you. You can never get rid of it. With therapy you can hope to contain it but when you're in your late 40's who wants to commit to therapy.
JuniorMorin72 Sometimes people suffer from unresolved issues and they need help, not abandoning. Be compassionate towards such people. And yes, temperaments do change :)
i love you. been watching ur vids to sleep
I would agree E R ... But what happens when it's his Heart that is stabbed and guess what his investment was all for nothing .
He left me when I asked him some question and didn't hear him for 5 days from now, we been dating for 6 months now, we're on LDR I know our relationship is not that long to get hurt but I feel it, I begged him , keep sending him a message for 3 days on whatsapp, and also send his an email but I didn't get respond at all, I feel desperate and broken hearted.😥
I broke up with him for fear of abandonment and cause I was desperate. We were in a LDR and I felt like my values and his don't align. I don't want to live in the US, he prob doesn't want to come here and live with me. I regretted the decision immediately the day after and came back, but it was already too late. I made the mistake of not going into NC immediately and I hurt him even deeper trying to make conversations fun. I shouldve had more faith in relationships and my connection with him. Now I'm full of regret. I feel he's better off without me. He deserves someone better than me.
Hi there! I have been following some of your videos, I am 20 days in no contact and he doesn’t have any social media ( and he doesn’t view my status on Whatsapp), I don’t think he cares at all..... so I reconnect with him after 30 days or should I wait for him? Thank you
Hey ,
Just wanted to know.after our Break up I had seen my ex in a mall .It's been more than 1 year I had seen him.but I didn't reach out to him .is it correct to reach out to him first in a public place ?
I am thinking about going on dates I am not wait in for my ex no more I am moveing on
Broke up 1 week ago. When he broke up i broke down crying. 3 days later he brought my stuff and i asked him questions and let him know why i was confused about the breakup(without tears and calm). I asked him to think about for a week, 2 days before the week ended i send him a message saying i didnt want him to think longer because i agreed with the breakup and explained him why(just like he did). I cant go completely NC because my ex is in my same friendgroup. We see eachother and say shortly hi when we go out once a week. But sometimes one of us skips a week and its 2 weeks. I dont message him and other then saying hi when we are in our friendgroup we have NC. He does know it will hurt me if he will start dating or doing something with other girls (he said he doesnt care if i did). I do show him i have fun with friends when he sees me going out. Will NC work like this? He broke up with me because he didnt see a future with me because hes more ahead of me and wants to focus on kids(hes 26). Which honestly doesnt make sense to me because i just started a new education i will pass in 2 years and will get a steady job(im22). Its not like if he meets someone else he will have kids right away. I always treated him well in the relationship, i lied at the start about 1 small thing(involving work) but came out for it and told him the truth weeks later. He met me in the worst period of my life(being unemployed because of a burnout). But thats different now, i have a job and starting my 2 year study next month. And he knows that.
Hi Rory!! I’m so excited you will be doing videos every week!! Question-been in no contact for 57 days and haven’t contacted him and he hasn’t contacted me. He got into a rebound relationship within 2 months after we broke up. I believe he met her a month after. We haven’t talked since they made it fb official. As of 3 days ago he blocked me from fb!!! Out of the blue. I’ve noticed his new gf has blocked me and unblocked me a few times now. But he just did it out of the blue. Could it be possible she blocked me from his Facebook maybe while he was sleeping??
She could be pressuring him to erase you completely from his life or he might be trying to really move on.
Hi Sarah! I agree with the above comment, it could be what's happening but ultimately we don't know for sure. Be careful, this is mind reading!
At the same time I want you to begin weaning yourself off of checking social media everyday. I believe we talked about that in the coaching!
Thank you Rory! Yes we discussed it. So hard cuz it’s like an addiction. But I’m doing better! The less I know the better it is for me. I need to keep this mind set, otherwise I will drive myself insane! You’re the best!!
@@sarahboyd7754 an ex I thought was the love of my life ended up with his coworker and after the break up he made a new fb profile and blocked me from the new one, even tho I wasnt bothering him at all. They were daring for 4.yrs and after braking up I noticed he unblocked me... AFTER 4 YRS! so it could be that she is preasuring him, but even if she is, he is allowing it so u need to move on and not think of him, work on yourself, do whatever makes you happy, chase any thought that comes and its connected to him, and u'll feel much better. I broke up 10 days ago, during of the most difficult time of my life, so trying this mindset of focusing on myself and my stuff kinda makes me feel better:)
What trash who would dump a beautiful blonde😪
The problem with my breakup is that I broke up with her due to fear of her leaving me during the week of our 10 year anniversary. We got back together after some drama and agreed to work it out but she then broke up with me after a weekend getaway with her friends that I couldn't go to due to work saying I "opened a can of worms" when I broke up with her and that she broke up with me because I broke up with her. She said that on the trip she realized that she is happier without me and accused me of not liking her friends or people in general and stated that she can't build her social circle with me in her life and that she has to do what is best for her. I have been in NC for 38 days and feel totally hopeless because I told her that I was going NC. HUGE MISTAKE! Never tell your ex your going NC! We were together for 10 years with one breakup at year 5 but got back together. She made me move out, signed the car we bought together over to me, and kept the dog. I love her so much and don't see how I turn this around. I am convinced she is happier without me. I am lost.
First off why did you have a fear that she was going to leave you? You essentially pulled a fake breakup that completely backfired. I don't think it's hopeless but you shot yourself in the foot.
Does this work for short term relationships? It was almost 4 months and she ended it due to my lack of confidence, my insecurities and me forcing my feelings. I realized what I’ve done but I feel she’ll never contact me again. Her ego is too big. We work together too and having to see her every day kills me but ive been looking strong with every encounter I have with her. I wonder if us working together would make her not want to get back together...someone help. Still have a lot of love for her :(
NecroKnight00 don’t mix business with pleasure next time but I hope you find this time to work on yourself and find the woman of your dreams
Crystal Mitchell she is the woman of my dreams
I relate with you
Could this also apply to a short term relationship? We only dated for 3 Months..
I have been left buy a guy that I found to be a very good man. We weren't together long this weeks to month and everything was going good when I thought. For me him find me the way out to leave me which one thing but the worst thing was that he called me toxic which I'm not. I was very good to him and I'm finding it harder get over him calling me back then leaving me. Why would any man do that it was so hurtful
my ex told me she met another guy ( "shes helping him " yea right ) and after i told her how i feel she act as bad person even more i told my self i wont talk to her any more ,
but after 2 weeks from that time i saw her i got got call ( i couldn't answer it it was ring and hangout i dont know the word for it in english ) from a number i know , after little bit digging i finally
found out who was it , it was my ex work phone number , why would she do this , most of my friends told me it was on purpose , some say maybe it was on mistake maybe she wanted to delete
speed dial but after 4 month? it really wired .
i didnt call her back what you think was it a mistake call or on purpose??
Thanks for all your vids. Really helpful. Will be in touch
I wasn’t officially back with my ex. But he’d taken me out to a steak dinner for my birthday and I assumed we’d be each other’s valentine. I found out he was buying flowers for someone else. I called him and flat out told him that I am moving on, I won’t wait for him anymore and that he has nothing to offer me. That was almost a month ago. I realized he called me on Wednesday at midnight but I was asleep and so into my own life I didn’t notice until 2 days later. I’m actually surprised because he is egotistical and prideful. I realized he was drunk because of mutual friend snap chats. Crazy.
She said she was still in love with me she’s just tired of arguing and feeling trapped is she coming back ?
yes
did she?
I'm in the same situation. Did she end up coming back?
Oh no mine is a nacisstic. He doesn't give a damn.
Same
Run and never look back from a narcissist. They will never miss you only play you for supply.
After 8 weeks of being without her I’ve realised that she added nothing to my life, was really annoying and had a hidden borderline personality disorder. I’m worth way better and the girls keep coming since word got around I’m single again.
usually they go through a couple of holidays, they also go through a couple of fun jobs and a couple of fun activities basically a fun time
Yaaay!!! 4 days a week!!!! Where can I get the book!! Thank you for everything
I'll let you know when its out!
Wow this is the best stuff ive heard since we've split in nov thanks bro 1love
Rory, does this apply for several breakups with the same person???
Rory..I love you and your videos..really helpful!! Thanks so much..💝💝🎁🎁🎈🎈🐦🐦
The no contact thing is tricky if you used to live together and hate mutual friends. You are forced to have contact. I hate it so much.
I am having a hard time finding anything on the internet about my situation. Can you make a video about being dumped in the middle of a fight? My ex didn't have a break up planned. He just got angry and dumped me out of the blue because we were fighting. It's been actually one month. And he texted me once after two weeks and just asked me why I wasn't talking to him. I didn't answer, because I was hurt and he knows the reason. He broke up with me in a really shitty way. He was sending out a feeler text. And for my own mental health, I needed to not respond. That text was at midnight, which is really rude in itself. Two weeks after that he tried calling me at midnight. I was asleep. Didn't leave a voicemail. I'm just confused. So, could you please make a video about being dumped when you're partner is angry. I don't see anything on this. We were really good together
Hi there. Do you have an update? I have a similar situation
@@user-wf7li5rl3m not at all. I don't see anything about it on the net :( I think that sometimes people get mad and react, and then breakup with you. A lot of these videos say that people have been thinking about it for awhile, but, sometimes, it just happens in the heat of anger. I hope someone does a video on this topic. If not I will
@@asteriamoon1817 Hi there! My ex and I had been fighting a lot so he dumped me but out of anger. What's the update now?
Sometimes, it's not about the dumper coming back, but rather its about them receiving their share of the mourning, and I don't mean them feeling guilt. I mean them feeling a loss. If they don't feel it, cest la vie...
I broke up just 5 days ago.. bz he was having sexual relationship with his bestfriend for past 3 yrs I have never got intimate with him and I dint kw abt it since then I have not contacted him 😑 neither texted him.. but before breaking up he said many hurtful things which really made me feel hurt... I just want to kw whether my absence will still make him come back ? Pls help
I don’t see the point of asking them out lol , if they didn’t even contact why even talking to them ?
My ex dumped me for a man on hangouts. Who lives in germany can there new relationship work???
What do you do if you already did the pleading? Like, my grandma just died before my ex dumped me, so I was mentally all sorts of fucked. I've already begged and pleaded. My ex used to be obsessed with me, but I feel like I completely fucked up.
Are there a difference with this is it was a separation? My ex split from me mainly because of long distance in the future.
Hi Rory,
What about manifestation, does this work a lot of people say that it works or is it just manipulating the mind set in a fake way to believe it will happen?
How on earth will manifestation bring back our ex, can you do a video on this?
Complete garbage! Fake news! Don't buy it!
Please forget it l have tried it many times but still he never called me.
Once the mirror is broken..cannot fix !
Yes, but we are not mirrors. We actually heal and give second chances.
My ex dumped me on my birthday. I'm so glad I'm done with that douche bag. There's a real man out there for me.
Hello, i got my Lover back with the help of Dr. Maharaj. Email him at (vashistmaharaj55@gmail.com) He's the best spiritual doctor to work with and can bring back your love.
this guy i met 2-3 months ago who i came close with, he often vented to me a lot, as we're both depressed and.. kind of lonely. we became close within venting to each other, and i was always there for him helping him giving him support and being there for him he called me his dream girl, and everything and now about 4 days ago he blocked me on snapchat, and soundcloud with no reason i dont know if i did something wrong but i feel so used... i helped him so much and he told me, he made me feel like he had a purpose on this earth because of me. when he blocked me, i noticed 10 mins later and texted asking if everything is okay.. he never replied, then the next day i texted asking why he's doing this, and he's hurting me, and i'm confused, and i said i understand if he doesn't want to talk to me anymore, but i'm confused.. he still hasn't replied.. i had feelings for him developing and i thought he felt the same since everything he told me on the phone/the deep conversations we had... then he just cut it off! i don't know if it's his depression,..... but what should i do? please help. i feel so broken and used. Since he didn't or hasnt replied (i don't think he will honestly) should i keep with no contact? We met online by the way... (we aren't dating, we just became really close, and i have feelings for him, and i think he did too) Should i just be patient?
Honestly i dont understand why some people do this.. but just forget about him and focus on yourself.. you deserve better things in your life someone who is also willing to help and support you through your hard times it's about mutual love and understanding if you think its his depression then give it some time but i think it's not his depression because if it was so he'd at least replied you by asking you to give him some space it's that easy to communicate but he blocked on you on snap and SoundCloud which is weird because nobody does that unless they just wanna ignore you.. and you can't really tell what are true intentions of that person.. i know this is bit harsh but its true.. I have been depressed for 4 years and sometimes i ignore people but i do tell them that i need space and i will come back to them when I'm doing fine (at least tell the one's who really mean alot to me) you're doing your best you did nothing wrong but gave your love and support be proud of it! that even through your hard times you have so much love to give to people
@@tem6238 I don't understand either, i was there for him through so so much, even on his birthday, he had nobody and since him and i live on opposite sides of the world i texted him happy birthday at 12 AM on the dot for him in september 27th. and i was there for him through-out so so much. i would type paragraphs when he felt lonely, or depressed, or sad, or wanted to hurt himself he told me he would just cry and listen to music to fall asleep. i was there every single day. i don't know if he got sick of me, talking to me every single day on snapchat messages, or if he found someone else. i'm scared maybe i wasn't enough. him and i never have said anything mean to each other, or fought. and i'm scared by him doing this it's creating some 'problem' to begin. like he just left me, and i dont understand why - he never told me, he hasn't said anything yet. STILL no reply. it's been almost a week now i think. i'm still hurting. He would always talk about how his in real life guy friends treated him shitty and how they were two-faced. backstabbers, and lowkey i saw an instagram post of him with them smiling, and i guess he just left me because maybe he associates me with 'problems' since he would always vent to me, and be sad to me. and i would be avaliable.. :( i'm really heartbroken, and hurting immensly. i don't think he cares or notices. even though i told him he was hurting me, when i texted.... i'm giving it time, and not making any moves, im trying to stay lowkey on SoundCloud so he doesn't know that i'm being sad or still sad. im scared if he knows, he won't come back. Thank you so much for replyng to this, i have no one else to talk to about it. and your heartfelt words have meaning to me. Thank you so so much. i'll try and focus and keep busy. even though things are so hard for me now.
@@owmeow i know what you're going through and you will think that it is your fault and it's natural when we truly feel for someone we always pick our flaws and blame ourselves for everything but let me tell you it's not your fault you did nothing wrong i know you gonna blame yourself for this but it's not.. and trust me it'll get better by the time
@@tem6238 Thank you so so much, i don't really know how to pm in here, but if you could PM me? i hope things get better, i'll try and keep myself busy. i've told some of my friends about how i'm feeling but ... honestly.. their advice is just 'forget him' 'move on' and i just feel like it's all a lost hope becuase i still do care about him but your advice was so so indepth and actually made sense, i still have some hope that he might miss me, or need space, and come back. and realise that i was there and only cared about him.
@@owmeow it's not showing the PM option but you can text me on snap or ig if you want I'll share my username
If the break up just happened a couple of weeks ago but I have reached out to him and told him how I feel, will that mess up the no contact rule?
I told my ex bf not to come back when he regrets things whilst he was breaking up with me. I was calm during it though and clearly showed him I wanted to try to fix things but I’m so scared I f’d things up for him to come back casue of that
Hello, i got my Lover back with the help of Dr. Maharaj. Email him at (vashistmaharaj55@gmail.com) He's the best spiritual doctor to work with and can bring back your love.
Have you moved on?
but what when when she brake ups with u, her best friend(male) that she wasnt talking with comes back , and starts to be friends with her again, and coment on every photo of her, and he is being there for her? U think she will still give a damn about me, or thing about me or miss me???
Count me as being "done" with any break-up...no second chances here...get your act together or get gone. I will deal with the pain and I will get busy living my life. A year after the breakup ask yourself this - "Would I trade my life today for the one I had before?" My answer has been a resounding ""No Way!!"...thank God I got dumped my a deranged person. They did me a favor...no bitterness here but great relief and thanks for the opportunity to have my life back.
I don't believe in someone leaving you for someone else.If that happens is because there was no true love to begin with, or there was love but he/she was not happy and saw no future in the relationship.
It's my birthday!
Happy birthday!
Happy Birthday! I also had a birthday in October.