@@iche9373 If you go and apply for a job with your resume what are the chances you get hired ? Do you have control over whether you get accepted ? Then if you can't even control the result of whether you get a job how can you control even an aspect of another human's life ?
I know Im randomly asking but does someone know of a method to get back into an Instagram account?? I was stupid forgot my login password. I would appreciate any help you can offer me
Holy shit man, this right here, you're going to get real big, and when you do, help millions. you are what this community needed, a gamer therapist, and a damn brilliant one too.
Never felt this much relief after watching a video, such a powerful speech it completely crushed my anxiety & procrastination, now I get finally get back to studying in peace.
it's like finding out the huge pile of work you thought you had to do is mostly not your responsibility. It still affects you to some degree, but the actual amount of work/things you have to worry about is a fraction of what you thought it was.
A guy who almost became a school shooter later admitted he only didn't commit because a few days before an acquaintance came in and showed that he cared for the guy. Guy did a Ted Talk, I believe.
This is so refreshing especially coming from my background in tech sales. These people are always trying to “control” the conversation. I’m sitting here thinkin, “that isn’t how conversation works man”.
9:26 - 10:00: "The first thing is where did you get that expectation? And understand that a lot of our suffering comes from the expectations which we automatically make for ourselves. And that those expectations and standards that we set for ourselves are based on our emotions in the moment. Guilt, guilt doesn't make you think right. Shame doesn't make you think right. Fear doesn't make you think right. Everyone knows this. Yet, we do not question the conclusions that come out of these emotions. So, first question that conclusion." 10:15 -10:25 : "So, the next important point to understand is: just because you don't see the effect of your support and love doesn't mean it doesn't have an effect." 11:38 - 12:05: "So, remember that in order to help someone, they don't necessarily need to take your help. I think one of the most important things that you can offer another human being is the knowledge that you care about them, that you love them, and that you support them. They just have to know that; they don't even have to take your help. So one of the most important things that I think people underestimate is that [people] don't think [they're] helping someone because they don't seem to be changing, but [they] don't realize how much of an effect that has on that person." 15:42 - 18:15: "Now we come to the biggest source of suffering in the world [...] which is your fucking arrogance, that you can control things for another human being. That you can actually control your life; that you can control outcomes. When I apply for a job, and I really want that job, there's a part of me that says that "if I work hard enough, I can get that job". Incorrect. You do not control whether you get that job. You just don't control it. You can work as hard as you fucking want to. I'm not saying you shouldn't work hard, what I'm saying is: be careful about the expectation you create in your mind about the result. You can love your child with addiction; you can't get them to quit. You can love your mother, you can support your mother; you can't keep her from losing it. You do not control that; it's fucking arrogant to think that. The depth human arrogance is to think that you can control another human being, let alone your own life. As a human being, you're entitled to your actions, not the fruits of your actions. I'm entitled to ask a girl out, I'm not entitled to her saying yes. I'm entitled to apply for a job, I'm not entitled to get it. I'm entitled to my actions. The more you recognize that, the more your life will fucking turnaround. Because people get so caught up in the outcomes of their actions. When that girl says no, I get devastated. I get fucking depressed, I feel ashamed, I don't leave the house. Why? Because you felt like you were in control. "If I was different, she would've said yes!" "If I was more studly, she would've said yes!" "If I was a fucking Chad, she would've said yes!" Right? "If I was ... she would've said yes!" "I'm not good enough because she did not say yes." - THAT'S the fucking problem. Devote yourself to your actions. You don't control whether she says yes. You don't control whether your mother takes your help, you don't control whether your mother loses it. You don't control whether your loved one gets recovery from addiction or not. You do not control that. All you control is WHAT YOU DO. You get to control showing up - that's all you get. You get to show up. Today, I showed up. Today, you guys showed up. That's what you control."
Holy shit, this is a huge revelation. Life is solo queueing. Any gamer who had to realize that they need to focus on their own play to start climbing ranks actually has already made the most important realization there is to make.. they just need to figure out that it applies to the rest of life too :O
Something I learned when I graduated from high school and went straight into retail, even though I didn’t want to do that for the rest of my life, I put in so much work to try and impress the managers. A little bit later I had a break down that sunk me deep under. I was doing so much and felt like I needed to do more. I felt like I could do that and also work on other things . I realize that I did not have to do that much work for a job that I didn’t really see a potential career. Instead I should have put that time into things that really did matter to me. I thought I could do everything when in reality there’s so much you can do and it’s to much your health may suffer. No matter what take care of yourself so you can keep going for longer.
i had this exact same situation with my dad who. the most important thing to him is just getting drunk, its split our family apart and now my dad is homeless and going through all sorts of shit. He really wanted to come up and visit me now that ive moved on in life, I had to turn my dad down because we had just bought and renovated a new house together and I was aware that taking my dad in would basiucally stalemate my life and I knew my dad would do his dambest to take advantage of me and just get drunk all day and guilt me. Ive been dealing with these guilty feelings for quite some time. Thank you Dr. K this was very powerful for me.
I don't have time to watch your streams, but I've been watching your VODs. I've been dealing some issues and I find this type of content really helpful
I'm going to repeat this video multiple time so it stick in my head. Often i get so anxious over the result i can't concentrate on the things i ought to do.
Just wanted to say that even though I'm not a gamer... I absolutely love your content. I think it's getting me through some really rough times through my life ❤
Bet every action you do, you do with the goal in mind. And if you fail your goal enough times it starts to matter. The outcome is exactly what you are after. You are never doing the action for the sake of the action. The reason we hurt so much when our action fails is because the pain is trying to teach us not to expand our energy in foolish ways.
Very profound statements. My only issue with it is if you don't control your outcomes how do you stop whatever things you strive for from being ultimately a waste of time? I get the feeling that the answer is something like "you can't, but you might get something you didn't expect instead"
Well you answered your own question. You can't control your outcomes, and that includes things you may put a great deal of time and effort into. I think it's just part of life. But you can try to assess whether your actions are likely to bear fruit or not. Ultimately you have to make a decision, but regardless of the choice you make, you have to be happy that your actions are correct and productive, rather than be happy on the condition that the actions lead to a positive outcome.
0:00 Arrogance is a strong word. I think it's misguided love in many cases. It's not wrong to say arrogance, but it's a little harsh for people who are just trying to help to hear. I know you speak off the cuff a lot so I'm not trying to be overly critical with that. I just think misguided love would land better on the ears sometimes.
I had the same thought that it would probably hurt my feelings or at least hurt my ability to keep an open mind to the discussion if I was in this person's shoes and hear repeatedly that I'm being arrogant when you just want to do your best.
The way Dr K get riled up in this video is the reason why so many people i talk to say they dont like his videos , cause they get put off by the way the speaks. Thats what they control. And Dr K controls how he express himself. Like shouting at chat calling them arrogant.
I wonder how this and some of the other HealthyGamer videos would have influenced me a few years back when I was in puberty and addicted to video games. Cool project!
I dont think this'll get anywhere but anyways.. mother has an unlimited debt, i didnt finish highschool, dad passed away, i try my best and give all the money i get to my mom, i have a decent enough pc and i am looking forward to being a league pro, i am pretty confident i will make it, but uncertainty always comes and i just hesitate to do everything. i get this rushes sometimes, to just do and stop thinking where i absolutely focus on the game, while working and stuff, but yet i feel like its impossible and life wont let me.
I’d not conceptualised that before, that guilt isn’t a sign that you’re making the wrong choice. You can do the right/fairest/kindest/most logical thing and still feel guilty about it.. huh
I want to add to that: If you try to improve at a game like chess where it's only you you still aren't in complete control over your wins and losses. Because what determines the outcome of a match is your ability to think ahead, use experience ro recognize patterns etc. But these abilities come from training. Without them it is impossible to play the game at a higher level. So even though you only make decisions in chess which are based only on you you're still not completely in control. The thing you can control however is how and how much you practice. Nonetheless that is only an indirect influence.
What, then, becomes the point of taking action at all? If both action and inaction can likely have the same outcome, and inaction is surely easier than action, what should compel us to do something over just doing nothing?
you're missing the point you should still do whatever it is you need to do, because that's the only way you have a *chance* to get the outcome you want. the point is you can raise your odds, sometimes to 99%, but never 100%. hard work is still necessary but the point is to understand life always has an element of uncertainty, so don't let yourself get caught off guard when you get a reminder that you don't have absolute control.
This and I think other two or three videos made me change so much my perspective on life...... Its Just beautiful. Life still sucks tho 😂 but not as much as before
But well... You can control them. Like... if you take away other alternatives, the choice you want is gonna be the only choice they will make. Though it is not the best option.
is funny how i apply this knowledge to dota 2 like i dont get mad or upset when i lose because i know that im not in control of other people or the future of the game, but i still get frustrated and upset on my life because i feel that i can control my future and creating this huge expectations on my life.
15:43 i'm not arrogant, I know I can't. Life just fucking sucks. You can do everything right and lose. Be happy though right? But yea... stoicism and uh.... Be happy with what life gave you and shit right? Fuck that. 17:23 Actually doctor K. It's because I wan't something I can't have. What makes me feel in control about having no control over her saying no? If she says yes to someone else, these statements are true. " if i was him she would say yes" is an accurate statement. The consequences are the part that matters. If every action you take results in a shit life..... well??????? 18:45 how does this fix my problems?
If we have zero control of the outcome, then what the fuck are we even doing?? What are *you* doing? Why do anything?! Why is it arrogance to believe that something may happen if we do the right actions? Am I missing something?
I think the point he's getting at is that you have influence but not total control. I could train to become a pro athlete and do everything right but through no fault of my own get run off the road by a drunk driver and become paralyzed, for example. the possibility of failure isn't a reason to not make an attempt, though. if you don't try the chance of not getting it rises to 100% trying to do things is about RAISING your odds but you have to accept that there's always a chance of failure. just a chance though, not a certainty does that make more sense?
Unfortunately this is a semi privileged take. For someone who is marginalized or doesn't have access to good wellness program, or the wellness programs of full of the meanest, most non-caring workers there are, they *have* to be the best person to take care of them, *objectively.* It doesn't matter if a place has better resources to take care of someone if they aren't willing to take care of you. Sometimes it's not about arrogance, it's just what we're left with. Sometimes you imperically don't have a choice.
this would be good to ask on stream or post to the subreddit, I'd like to see what his answer would be if you can't rely on institutions. someone I know gave up on her doctor because despite having access to this person's medical records they still act like my friend is unhealthy because of bad habits and not the hormonal imbalance that's on her freaking chart
People control others all the time, it’s not necessarily arrogance. Trying to control your mother to stop alcohol abuse isn’t arrogance. You’re wrong buddy.
The depth of human arrogance is to think that you can control another human being, let alone your own life. Love this quote.
Sounds good, but why is it arrogance?
@@iche9373 If you go and apply for a job with your resume what are the chances you get hired ? Do you have control over whether you get accepted ? Then if you can't even control the result of whether you get a job how can you control even an aspect of another human's life ?
control is an illusion.
amen
I know Im randomly asking but does someone know of a method to get back into an Instagram account??
I was stupid forgot my login password. I would appreciate any help you can offer me
"You are entitled to your action, not the result." Needed this
this is similar to stoicism, it's great and it's the key to living in contenment, not happiness nor joy or anything, but contentment and calmness
@@JLchevz Stoicism is a philosophy of non-bounding, and a life without bounding is an affront to life.
Bhagavad Geeta Chapter 2 Verse 47
Holy shit man, this right here, you're going to get real big, and when you do, help millions. you are what this community needed, a gamer therapist, and a damn brilliant one too.
aged well
@@konstantinjovanovski2754 yep
aged very well.♥️
aged really well ❤️
Aged really, really well ❤️
'Guilt, shame and fear won't let you think right' - These 3 emotions define my day. It has been the way since I was 10.
These same feelings have been prevaling on me this past year up to now.
same here m8. bummer
And who is in control of that?
@@Moose92411 how can they control it when no one has showed them how?
@@jamesgentry13 if you’re aware of what’s controlling you, it becomes your responsibility to use the tools available to address it,
Never felt this much relief after watching a video, such a powerful speech it completely crushed my anxiety & procrastination, now I get finally get back to studying in peace.
Did you study? How did your exams go?
Erixus25 he still can’t stop studying. Might reply you in 10 years after he earns his second PhD.
Lavish Flower has become an unstoppable force of nature now
Lavish Flower is preparing his own rocket to space mission so don't expect him answering anytime soon.
Do update your comment once you have terraformed and colonized Jupiter
You'd think it'd be demotivating, but there's something surprisingly inspirational about hearing the whole 'you can only control your actions' thing
Well, it’s called stoicism and it’s the foundation of cognitive therapy.
it's like finding out the huge pile of work you thought you had to do is mostly not your responsibility. It still affects you to some degree, but the actual amount of work/things you have to worry about is a fraction of what you thought it was.
@@iche9373 The "foundation" is a big claim.
A guy who almost became a school shooter later admitted he only didn't commit because a few days before an acquaintance came in and showed that he cared for the guy. Guy did a Ted Talk, I believe.
This is so refreshing especially coming from my background in tech sales. These people are always trying to “control” the conversation. I’m sitting here thinkin, “that isn’t how conversation works man”.
“Guilt doesn’t make you think right”
Peter Parker: o shit wait a minute
9:26 - 10:00: "The first thing is where did you get that expectation? And understand that a lot of our suffering comes from the expectations which we automatically make for ourselves. And that those expectations and standards that we set for ourselves are based on our emotions in the moment. Guilt, guilt doesn't make you think right. Shame doesn't make you think right. Fear doesn't make you think right. Everyone knows this. Yet, we do not question the conclusions that come out of these emotions. So, first question that conclusion."
10:15 -10:25 : "So, the next important point to understand is: just because you don't see the effect of your support and love doesn't mean it doesn't have an effect."
11:38 - 12:05: "So, remember that in order to help someone, they don't necessarily need to take your help. I think one of the most important things that you can offer another human being is the knowledge that you care about them, that you love them, and that you support them. They just have to know that; they don't even have to take your help. So one of the most important things that I think people underestimate is that [people] don't think [they're] helping someone because they don't seem to be changing, but [they] don't realize how much of an effect that has on that person."
15:42 - 18:15: "Now we come to the biggest source of suffering in the world [...] which is your fucking arrogance, that you can control things for another human being. That you can actually control your life; that you can control outcomes. When I apply for a job, and I really want that job, there's a part of me that says that "if I work hard enough, I can get that job". Incorrect. You do not control whether you get that job. You just don't control it. You can work as hard as you fucking want to. I'm not saying you shouldn't work hard, what I'm saying is: be careful about the expectation you create in your mind about the result. You can love your child with addiction; you can't get them to quit. You can love your mother, you can support your mother; you can't keep her from losing it. You do not control that; it's fucking arrogant to think that. The depth human arrogance is to think that you can control another human being, let alone your own life. As a human being, you're entitled to your actions, not the fruits of your actions. I'm entitled to ask a girl out, I'm not entitled to her saying yes. I'm entitled to apply for a job, I'm not entitled to get it. I'm entitled to my actions. The more you recognize that, the more your life will fucking turnaround. Because people get so caught up in the outcomes of their actions. When that girl says no, I get devastated. I get fucking depressed, I feel ashamed, I don't leave the house. Why? Because you felt like you were in control. "If I was different, she would've said yes!" "If I was more studly, she would've said yes!" "If I was a fucking Chad, she would've said yes!" Right? "If I was ... she would've said yes!" "I'm not good enough because she did not say yes." - THAT'S the fucking problem. Devote yourself to your actions. You don't control whether she says yes. You don't control whether your mother takes your help, you don't control whether your mother loses it. You don't control whether your loved one gets recovery from addiction or not. You do not control that. All you control is WHAT YOU DO. You get to control showing up - that's all you get. You get to show up. Today, I showed up. Today, you guys showed up. That's what you control."
Holy shit, this is a huge revelation. Life is solo queueing.
Any gamer who had to realize that they need to focus on their own play to start climbing ranks actually has already made the most important realization there is to make.. they just need to figure out that it applies to the rest of life too :O
I can't even control how much space Windows 10 updates take up.
deleting the update cache can give you back a few gb sometimes
18:03 Everyone seriously needs to internalize this. Life changing wisdom right here.
I’m absolutely loving your videos. Keep up the great work.
"you can love and support your mother, you can't keep her from losing it." Dude are you talking to me
i love you man you're helping so many people... i know you're helping me
Same
I'd hit a block before I found your videos and suddenly the platitudes of be in the moment and expectations have been made clear. Thank you.
Something I learned when I graduated from high school and went straight into retail, even though I didn’t want to do that for the rest of my life, I put in so much work to try and impress the managers. A little bit later I had a break down that sunk me deep under. I was doing so much and felt like I needed to do more. I felt like I could do that and also work on other things . I realize that I did not have to do that much work for a job that I didn’t really see a potential career. Instead I should have put that time into things that really did matter to me. I thought I could do everything when in reality there’s so much you can do and it’s to much your health may suffer. No matter what take care of yourself so you can keep going for longer.
i had this exact same situation with my dad who. the most important thing to him is just getting drunk, its split our family apart and now my dad is homeless and going through all sorts of shit. He really wanted to come up and visit me now that ive moved on in life, I had to turn my dad down because we had just bought and renovated a new house together and I was aware that taking my dad in would basiucally stalemate my life and I knew my dad would do his dambest to take advantage of me and just get drunk all day and guilt me. Ive been dealing with these guilty feelings for quite some time. Thank you Dr. K this was very powerful for me.
Thanks as usual Dr. K.
I don't have time to watch your streams, but I've been watching your VODs. I've been dealing some issues and I find this type of content really helpful
Damn. Dr. K Thank you thank you for this. It's a breath of fresh air.
The first 30 seconds felt like my dad yelling at me but if he actually made sense
I'm going to repeat this video multiple time so it stick in my head. Often i get so anxious over the result i can't concentrate on the things i ought to do.
The range of topics you cover in your videos is very helpful!
My man got fired ALL the way up about this one. I absolutely loved this entire video. Beginning to end.
10/10 as always
This is where it starts, I’m taking action for once. Forget expectations, I’m going to go do things
good luck!
This was the video I needed today.
Just wanted to say that even though I'm not a gamer... I absolutely love your content. I think it's getting me through some really rough times through my life ❤
Your help is priceless.
I'm not addicted to video games, but I *am* getting addicted to these videos.
Holy bro. I'm 30 seconds in and already being hit in the feels. Ur the best Dr. K!
LOVED THIS ONE 🔥🔥🔥 THANK YOU!
I miss when Dr K was going this hard
"If you're in the deep end, it's tough" Such a strong and clear line
Really good talk thanks! Really made me feel enlightened
My problem was that I thought it was my fault if I endured injustice.
damn i didn’t come here to cry in front of everyone at work
the art of livig in the presennt of Buddism
This video needs to be watched by millions of people
I needed to hear this so much right now 😭
one of the most important videos on TH-cam
Bet every action you do, you do with the goal in mind. And if you fail your goal enough times it starts to matter. The outcome is exactly what you are after. You are never doing the action for the sake of the action. The reason we hurt so much when our action fails is because the pain is trying to teach us not to expand our energy in foolish ways.
Very profound statements. My only issue with it is if you don't control your outcomes how do you stop whatever things you strive for from being ultimately a waste of time? I get the feeling that the answer is something like "you can't, but you might get something you didn't expect instead"
Well you answered your own question. You can't control your outcomes, and that includes things you may put a great deal of time and effort into. I think it's just part of life. But you can try to assess whether your actions are likely to bear fruit or not. Ultimately you have to make a decision, but regardless of the choice you make, you have to be happy that your actions are correct and productive, rather than be happy on the condition that the actions lead to a positive outcome.
All I got to say is whoa. The advise here really resonated with me
Man that opening statement hit super hard.
This video is gold ty
0:00 Arrogance is a strong word. I think it's misguided love in many cases. It's not wrong to say arrogance, but it's a little harsh for people who are just trying to help to hear. I know you speak off the cuff a lot so I'm not trying to be overly critical with that. I just think misguided love would land better on the ears sometimes.
I had the same thought that it would probably hurt my feelings or at least hurt my ability to keep an open mind to the discussion if I was in this person's shoes and hear repeatedly that I'm being arrogant when you just want to do your best.
The way Dr K get riled up in this video is the reason why so many people i talk to say they dont like his videos , cause they get put off by the way the speaks. Thats what they control. And Dr K controls how he express himself. Like shouting at chat calling them arrogant.
Sometimes you need that.
last 10 minutes was legendary
I wonder how this and some of the other HealthyGamer videos would have influenced me a few years back when I was in puberty and addicted to video games. Cool project!
I dont think this'll get anywhere but anyways..
mother has an unlimited debt, i didnt finish highschool, dad passed away, i try my best and give all the money i get to my mom, i have a decent enough pc and i am looking forward to being a league pro, i am pretty confident i will make it, but uncertainty always comes and i just hesitate to do everything.
i get this rushes sometimes, to just do and stop thinking where i absolutely focus on the game, while working and stuff, but yet i feel like its impossible and life wont let me.
Hang in there bro and take care of yourself, I believe in you.
16:00 future refrence
Thank you for this video...
I’d not conceptualised that before, that guilt isn’t a sign that you’re making the wrong choice. You can do the right/fairest/kindest/most logical thing and still feel guilty about it.. huh
Dr.K is a little more intense in this clip than normal lmao
wow man such a great inspiration!
The AoE Healing is leveling up :)
i love this video so much, so accurate
I want to add to that: If you try to improve at a game like chess where it's only you you still aren't in complete control over your wins and losses. Because what determines the outcome of a match is your ability to think ahead, use experience ro recognize patterns etc. But these abilities come from training. Without them it is impossible to play the game at a higher level. So even though you only make decisions in chess which are based only on you you're still not completely in control. The thing you can control however is how and how much you practice. Nonetheless that is only an indirect influence.
The best video i´ve ever seen.
What, then, becomes the point of taking action at all? If both action and inaction can likely have the same outcome, and inaction is surely easier than action, what should compel us to do something over just doing nothing?
No kidding lol
you're missing the point
you should still do whatever it is you need to do, because that's the only way you have a *chance* to get the outcome you want. the point is you can raise your odds, sometimes to 99%, but never 100%.
hard work is still necessary but the point is to understand life always has an element of uncertainty, so don't let yourself get caught off guard when you get a reminder that you don't have absolute control.
But if I can not control anything... how do I know what should I do?
This and I think other two or three videos made me change so much my perspective on life...... Its Just beautiful.
Life still sucks tho 😂 but not as much as before
22:09 you gave me 10% of the game, i'll make it 100% for me
Pause everytime he is just about to say if
Yooo thank u
Right now when my country is fighting the invader, I need any moral help I can get. You are great, Dr. K, love from Ukraine
they're fighting your country's attempted genocide of a minority ... and they're winning at that bye bye shitkraine 👋👋
This is helping me alot. Would be a dream to get interviewed on stream too.
4:13 Does anyone know if he ever eventually did that?
Great video
Big true
Still not sure how to apply this.
This almost made me cry..in good way :)
Pog Dr. K
But well...
You can control them. Like... if you take away other alternatives, the choice you want is gonna be the only choice they will make. Though it is not the best option.
Preach Alokkkkkkkkk
I love your channel and understanding ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️💔💔💔
i see my past me spam emotes in twitch chat ...
6:40 has anyone seen Good Times? xD
What a genius.
6:30 , 9:30 , 15:50
is funny how i apply this knowledge to dota 2 like i dont get mad or upset when i lose because i know that im not in control of other people or the future of the game, but i still get frustrated and upset on my life because i feel that i can control my future and creating this huge expectations on my life.
so is the tl:dr dont care for the result?
awesome 👍👍
jeez, thought i came for my stress, instead, wow
This video was fuckin great!
15:43
i'm not arrogant, I know I can't.
Life just fucking sucks. You can do everything right and lose. Be happy though right?
But yea... stoicism and uh.... Be happy with what life gave you and shit right?
Fuck that.
17:23
Actually doctor K. It's because I wan't something I can't have. What makes me feel in control about having no control over her saying no?
If she says yes to someone else, these statements are true. " if i was him she would say yes" is an accurate statement.
The consequences are the part that matters.
If every action you take results in a shit life..... well???????
18:45 how does this fix my problems?
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If we have zero control of the outcome, then what the fuck are we even doing?? What are *you* doing? Why do anything?! Why is it arrogance to believe that something may happen if we do the right actions? Am I missing something?
I think the point he's getting at is that you have influence but not total control.
I could train to become a pro athlete and do everything right but through no fault of my own get run off the road by a drunk driver and become paralyzed, for example.
the possibility of failure isn't a reason to not make an attempt, though. if you don't try the chance of not getting it rises to 100%
trying to do things is about RAISING your odds but you have to accept that there's always a chance of failure. just a chance though, not a certainty
does that make more sense?
....
damn.
Unfortunately this is a semi privileged take. For someone who is marginalized or doesn't have access to good wellness program, or the wellness programs of full of the meanest, most non-caring workers there are, they *have* to be the best person to take care of them, *objectively.* It doesn't matter if a place has better resources to take care of someone if they aren't willing to take care of you. Sometimes it's not about arrogance, it's just what we're left with. Sometimes you imperically don't have a choice.
this would be good to ask on stream or post to the subreddit, I'd like to see what his answer would be if you can't rely on institutions. someone I know gave up on her doctor because despite having access to this person's medical records they still act like my friend is unhealthy because of bad habits and not the hormonal imbalance that's on her freaking chart
Wtf is stool transplant
People control others all the time, it’s not necessarily arrogance. Trying to control your mother to stop alcohol abuse isn’t arrogance. You’re wrong buddy.