Each Time Mother-In-Law Babysits My Son Comes Back Sick & Today I Find Out She's Been Secretly...

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  • @kimberlyterasaki4843
    @kimberlyterasaki4843 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +198

    MIL: "You're poisoning my grandson against me."
    Witch, you're literally poisoning by feeding him his allergies!

  • @Starryfina
    @Starryfina 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +129

    Husband is more scared of his mother than the health of his child…

    • @joimumu
      @joimumu 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

      This is one of those time were ultimatum is justified he can either pick his mother in his life or his child

  • @aduckofsomesort
    @aduckofsomesort 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +64

    “My son is an adult and can make his own choices“ well apparently not since you overrode his decision for his birthdaymeal

  • @Clyde-S-Wilcox
    @Clyde-S-Wilcox 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +210

    Story 1: MIL needs to be in jail. Husband needs to be an ex. His mother is hurting his son and he does not care. And don't bother having a doctor explain anything to him. His mommy is his only authority.

    • @Eppon6
      @Eppon6 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +28

      I don't know, it might work. My family called me lazy for years, even AFTER official diagnosis showed my perceived laziness was a symptom of a major disorder. It took a social worker I'd hired actively TELLING my mother this info I've told her many times beforehand to make her understand and, by extension, make her spread the ' news' throughout the family to sway the relatives who'd always stood by her former opinion. Because a stranger with a degree saying things is much more valid to those who are willfully ignorant than the same exact words from their less important relative whose dealing with the issue.
      The only other thing that might work is making HIM responsible for childcare each time his mommy makes the kid sick. But that method is not viable because then the kid suffers.
      The most extreme and sure-fire way is to do as you recommended. The husband is not a partner. He's an enabler.

    • @jenniferdaniels701
      @jenniferdaniels701 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +27

      She should have taken LO to the doctor after the last time. Vomiting multiple times, up until 2 am. This isn't just a stomach ache.

    • @themayhemofmadness7038
      @themayhemofmadness7038 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +25

      I’m sadly reminded of the coconut oil story. When the grandmother didn’t listen to her daughter and put coconut oil in OP’s twin daughters hair, fully knowing one was highly allergic and the other one at least slightly allergic. She then put them to bed (OP and her husband were out of town at the time), and only one of them ever woke up. She, her husband and even her father all immediately cut OP’s mom out of their lives.
      And even he is just lactose intolerant, if a person throws up constantly they will develop ulcers, which can in turn, cause them to eventually develop esophageal and/or stomach cancer. I knew a man that developed cancer this way and passed away from it.
      Grandma should never be allowed around their son or any other child unsupervised.
      Also, OP most definitely has a husband problem as well. I hope she realizes this and gets her son out. And also lets the courts know that he is defending his mother’s abuse of her son so that OP can put a restraining order up against MIL to keep son safe.
      And if his father is insistent on letting MIL near the kid, he also needs to be on supervised visitations only.

    • @lwolfstar7618
      @lwolfstar7618 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +16

      Glad to see someone who sees the severity of the situation

    • @MrBeevee5
      @MrBeevee5 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      That' last statement tells me more than I want to know about YOU. A doctor's backup is very important in this case.

  • @patrickdix772
    @patrickdix772 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +108

    Story 3: OP: "Son, what do you want for your birthday? No, not that one, pick somewhere else."
    Seriously, OP constantly was pressuring their son to not go with the restaurant he wanted, and got upset when he finally relented to OP's pressure. Then got pissy that the restaurant OP wanted to go to wasn't as good as advertised.

    • @TheQuantumWave
      @TheQuantumWave 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +18

      I can't understand how a person could write all that out and think they weren't a complete a-hole. OP is living in another reality.

    • @Konoko2000
      @Konoko2000 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

      @@TheQuantumWave because as in their words "son is an adult and can make his own choices" despite the fact he DID make his own choice like 5 times and she wouldnt stop pressuring for other locations, to ppl like that they see that as legitimately still a choice desopite it being a poisoned one

    • @AliceMothapo
      @AliceMothapo 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      ​@@Konoko2000 that made me laugh seriously 😂😂😂😂

    • @catsmeow5566
      @catsmeow5566 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      Yup. In some ways it reminds me of my mother. When buying new clothes I'd show her what I liked and she'd sneer and say "you don't like thaaaaat". And then she'd point out something hideous that I hated and I'd say tell her I didn't like it and next thing I knew she'd be yelling at me that I obviously "don't want anything" and that I was "being a brat". When my brother was trying to pick an instrument for band class she shot down every instrument he suggested and then kept mentioning clarinet (which is what her parents made her get when she was in school). My brother quickly realized that she would not accept anything but clarinet as the instrument for him to play. So the kid with asthma was forced to get a wind instrument. Anyway, OP is a flaming AH who made everything about herself. The fact that she said they were "attacking" her shows she is a melodramatic narcissist.

  • @4mobius280
    @4mobius280 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +100

    Husband needs to grow a pair and protect his kid

  • @GreyfoxRaposa
    @GreyfoxRaposa 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +90

    S1: I know people say reddit is too quick to "just divorce", but this is divorce worth for me.
    But not before getting every message from husband phone to his mom about him endangering his own kid life, so it can be made very clear in court that he's not to have unsupervised visitations, because it's clear that he does not care for his own son's health.
    Any parent who goes out of their way to endanger their kids life should not be left unsupervised with them.

    • @themayhemofmadness7038
      @themayhemofmadness7038 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +16

      @@GreyfoxRaposa Not just divorce worthy, but restraining order against grandma (MIL) worthy, and possibly supervised visits only for dad if he’s insistent of letting his abusive mother near their son.
      And yes, I said abusive. What else do you call poisoning a child by giving them food that makes them violently ill?

    • @stephaniereuscher7246
      @stephaniereuscher7246 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

      ​@@themayhemofmadness7038personally, I think grandma is torturing the poor child. Who does that to a child?

    • @catsmeow5566
      @catsmeow5566 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Agreed, and OP should contact CPS to let them know that her husband is letting his mother harm their child.

    • @catsmeow5566
      @catsmeow5566 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      @@themayhemofmadness7038 That was my assessment as well. CPS needs to be notified and the MIL should have no contact and if the father tries to let her have access to the kid to poison him then he should lose any custody rights.

  • @Hybrid301
    @Hybrid301 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +102

    Dude, your child is in pain!!! Hubby needs to Step up and be a parent instead of a son.

    • @user-wr3vt8uq4s
      @user-wr3vt8uq4s 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +17

      No kidding, OP has a husband problem first. Who lets their kid get sick so Mommy can be right?

    • @MrBeevee5
      @MrBeevee5 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

      @@user-wr3vt8uq4s First of all, I kind of think he is agreeing with his mother. No way, he can be allowing his mother to make him sick. He thinks the food has nothing to do with the stomachaches.

  • @maurer3d
    @maurer3d 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +89

    Story 3: YTA, "I didn't want to bore our guests", WTF does that mean?
    I mean really? I could go to the same restaurant ever week for my entire life and never get bored, even if I ate the same thing every-time I went.

    • @KadeStringer2.0
      @KadeStringer2.0 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      The son should have shut up

    • @mbyerly9680
      @mbyerly9680 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +25

      OP wants what OP wants and is looking for any excuse to go anywhere but where her child wants.

    • @SPJPapasan
      @SPJPapasan 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +29

      @@KadeStringer2.0 Right. Because it wasn't HIS birthday or anything, right, right, RIGHT?

    • @kaziered
      @kaziered 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +21

      The son got pestered into the "choice". I got tired just listening to her reasoning. Even if you go to the same restaurant twice, there's so much on the menu, you shouldn't get bored, the OP should have outright said "I'm choosing the restaurant for your birthday, you can choose when I'm not here"

    • @condorboss3339
      @condorboss3339 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

      I want to go back to the restaurants I like.

  • @miss_mish
    @miss_mish 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +32

    You constantly pestered him about the restaurant. You complained about the food but then when everyone else did you are yet again the victim.

  • @yamairad1
    @yamairad1 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +63

    Story 1. How did you allow this to happen more than once? How did you not call the police? I literally can't stand people that put adults feelings above the health and life of a child. The feelings of adults just don't matter when it results in a child getting hurt.

    • @brookelynnwu8016
      @brookelynnwu8016 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

      While I get your sentiment. Police won’t do anything in this situation maybe if it was a severe peanut allergy. If they ask MIL she will just say oopsie I forgot this had dairy in it! Silly me! And they won’t do anything besides telling OP to stop allowing her to babysit.

    • @samanthasmiles9112
      @samanthasmiles9112 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      👏👏👏👏

    • @DrownedInExile
      @DrownedInExile 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

      Exactly. All the adults, including OP, have failed this kid.

    • @alricaneshama
      @alricaneshama 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Absolutely.
      I am beyond sick and tired of these wretched disgusting doormat cowards.

  • @pamelalejeune2424
    @pamelalejeune2424 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +43

    So who stayed up with your son till two in the morning you or your husband because the next time your kid comes home sick it’s your husband’s job to take care of him. He can take off work and he can waste his time doing something that your mother-in-law knows that your grandson is deathly allergic to. It’s time to get the police involved.

  • @annem7806
    @annem7806 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +83

    MIL can no longer babysit. Get a letter from PEDIATRICIAN & publish it.

    • @annem7806
      @annem7806 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

      She's a step sister. Enjoy your wedding. Good for you. Adulting 101. Pin codes on all wedding plans.

    • @annem7806
      @annem7806 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

      It's his choice for HIS BIRTHDAY. WTF Dad? Such a POS to your son. Just wow. Myob. Why even ask.🖕darvo

    • @annem7806
      @annem7806 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Your parents need to STFU or deal with their own bills.

    • @lwolfstar7618
      @lwolfstar7618 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

      Id get evidence and file against her for child abuse

    • @HelleVirenfeldt
      @HelleVirenfeldt 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Problem is, if OP gets a divorce and there Are 50/50 costody, or Even every second weekend, MIL Will still have access to OP's son, and the cycle Will continue, until the son is old enough to denie the costody arrangement.

  • @SenatiaA
    @SenatiaA 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +42

    The MIL was escalating the abuse because she was trying to “cure” him or to prove to OP that she was making this up.

  • @margaritap.9459
    @margaritap.9459 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +48

    First OP is seriously under reacting!

  • @Jargonecius
    @Jargonecius 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +26

    Oh my God, all of these stories are driving me crazy. First the grandmother who's literally poisoning her grandson. Crazy controlling woman who's destroying her son's birthday...

  • @Clyde-S-Wilcox
    @Clyde-S-Wilcox 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +80

    Story 3: YTA. Whose birthday was this again? Oh yeah NOT YOURS. Ditch the main character attitude. Poor widdwe mommy doesn't like being "disrespected" over her control freak action. 🙄

    • @pickle_pup8187
      @pickle_pup8187 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +26

      Yes. She kept attempting to change the restaurant and the son/one whose birthday it was finally gave in. THEN she plays offended and wounded and it was all her fault.

    • @lexiburrows8127
      @lexiburrows8127 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@pickle_pup8187 I wonder how far she would have gone if the Son had NOT given in at that point. Mum was running out of cuisines, surely. What next? The Klingon restaurant on the Promenade on Deep Space 9? The Restaurant at the End of the Universe? Also, SHE wanted to go to that Italian for HER birthday, but I bet she won't now after being 'scammed.' What's betting they go to that Indian for HER birthday after all that.

  • @alleycatalog
    @alleycatalog 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +26

    S3 Mom wanted it to be about what she wanted.

  • @judymetzger7387
    @judymetzger7387 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +26

    Sorry your mom became one of those pathetic parents that once they remarry the only thing that matters is keeping the stepchild happy. Happy wedding God bless have a wonderful day and a wonderful life. Tell Mom look she may be your golden child and the most important thing in the world to you. But that's not how we feel get over it.

  • @Elleffante
    @Elleffante 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +10

    Please, please let the son choose the restaurant for his birthday. 😅

  • @maurer3d
    @maurer3d 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +33

    Story 2: NTA, if she wants to be there, it is 100% on her to change or cancel whatever her plans are for that day. Weddings are usually planned months to years ahead of time, so I am assuming it isn't in the next few weeks.

    • @mbyerly9680
      @mbyerly9680 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

      But, but, she has a spa day planned!

    • @nerdygeekgamer5528
      @nerdygeekgamer5528 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      I would have told my parent that I am so sick and TIRED of CATERING to their FAVORITE CHILD for everything

    • @velvety2006
      @velvety2006 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      I am giving the stepsis the reasonable doubt vote, there is no mention of her hating on op and her brother, and she might have just as been as annoyed with the forced interactions as op and her brother did. that said maybe she does not even want to attend

  • @crazylarryjr
    @crazylarryjr 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +18

    story 1, You should have took your son to the doctor (especially after the last one) get a doctors opinion then filed charges on her. Allergies can get worse and this could kill your son, so your MiL is threatening his life with her shenninagans. See her try to prove she is helpful when you witness the aftermath

  • @trash-hime
    @trash-hime 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

    3: YTA. "He's an adult who can make his own decisions" except OP constantly pressured him to make a different choice because she didn't want to go to the restaurant he choose. The only reason he agreed was because he was likely tired of her doing so, so he's 100% NTA for taking enjoyment out of OP's restaurant choice being utter crap.

    • @jerrystauffer2351
      @jerrystauffer2351 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      She talks about 3 strikes when suggesting 6? 7? Restaurants?

  • @Symphonia30
    @Symphonia30 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +21

    The first story clearly has a mama’s boy written all over it if he’s prioritizing his mama over his own kid

  • @YvonneFobbs
    @YvonneFobbs 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +13

    Story #3: YTA!! He repeatedly told you what he wanted and you ignored him!! Then when you basically forced him into choosing what you wanted, you still complain and then gaslight him into a apology! What a selfish, victim playing witch!!

    • @justine8387
      @justine8387 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      When she got to the Greek restaurant I was like SHHHUUUTTTT UPPPPPPP

  • @DrownedInExile
    @DrownedInExile 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    S1: WTAF. If OP isn't willing to declare WW3 to protect her child from being literally poisoned??? She has failed as a mother, just like her pathetic sonsband.

  • @RepellentJeff
    @RepellentJeff 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +15

    Story 3: Good night, OP sounds exhausting. 🙄

  • @monkeynumbernine
    @monkeynumbernine 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +14

    Lots of luck getting grandparents rights...a judge will laugh her right out of court and possibly charge her with a crime against the child.

  • @maurer3d
    @maurer3d 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +24

    Story 4: NTA, (Granted you should have moved out with your wife immediately when she did), Your parents are complete AH's, demanding you move in to save them money, then treating you and your wife like children, and worst inconveniences.

    • @condorboss3339
      @condorboss3339 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

      Agree. OP doesn't explain why his parents are in a financial bind in their retirement, but it is not his wife's or his responsibility to shore up their finances.

    • @philwill0123
      @philwill0123 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Yeah, wouldn't trust the parents at all. First they sabotage OP and wife enough so they have to pay to stay in another place, then they run the bills, then they want to move to the studio (while OP is on lease), have op pay bills at their house and no doubt bills and rent on the studio. Time for OP to walk away, it's a crap deal for him

    • @velvety2006
      @velvety2006 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

      sounds like they were just trying to chase off the wife so op could stay as a atm

  • @cocomo3141
    @cocomo3141 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +14

    I'd let the husband deal with the next call out of work ......
    Why would you poison your grandchild lady?????

  • @briangarrow448
    @briangarrow448 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +17

    Show your husband this post about dairy allergies. Maybe he will get the message. And make the doctors appointment for your son and your husband! Tell everyone else to stuff it!

    • @mbyerly9680
      @mbyerly9680 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      It's not about the allergies. It's about pleasing his mommy.

  • @lwolfstar7618
    @lwolfstar7618 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +12

    S3 op is a Karen. Plain and simple.

  • @hvymax
    @hvymax 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    OP should take son to the hospital and report MIL for deliberately trying to poison him.

    • @davidknight3249
      @davidknight3249 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Most parents I know would have taken their child to the hospital when he couldn't stop throwing up. The kid could have had a seizure from dehydration.

  • @TheScaletIbisNW
    @TheScaletIbisNW 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    Omg the mom is annoying as hell. That poor boy.

  • @east-endjustice7883
    @east-endjustice7883 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +12

    Wow the toxic and evil parents can't afford to live but after jeopardizing their sons marriage by moving in with them to carry their dead weight, then they insult and sabotage the wife but can't understand why they don't care or how they'll make it!!! I wouldn't care how you make it after ruining the situation and trying to control, extort, and make the wife miserable lol. Don't contact me anymore, I have to go fix my marriage but clearly you all know better and don't need us.

    • @Valecto
      @Valecto 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I would have been a lot meaner as the wife… just turn the hot water off while MIL is showering. After the third cold shower, she would get the message.

  • @nimisilverbird1239
    @nimisilverbird1239 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    Nta. Mil is poisoning the child. Your husband needs to get on board or divorce him. He is allow8ng his mother to harm your child. Let her try for rights. Then show how she repeatedly harmed the child

  • @seabreezeblank1513
    @seabreezeblank1513 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    If the mom and father are still together you can't get grandparent rights You can't get grandparents rights when you deliberately try to poison the child every time you have it

  • @east-endjustice7883
    @east-endjustice7883 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +14

    The marriage can't work, the mom will never be forgiven, she will resent the op and it will be a marriage of sabotage, I wouldn't forgive or excuse the complicity of betrayal to my loved ones either, just cancel this relationship asap so the fiance can find her true partner.

  • @kmbaldwin5325
    @kmbaldwin5325 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Why even bother asking your kid where they want to eat for their birthday if you’re just going to keep pestering him until he picks the restaurant you want? 😳

  • @CouncilEstateRach
    @CouncilEstateRach 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    The damage done to that poor chulds colon could be irreversible and could cause severe ailments.
    Straight to a dr and get proof and threaten granny with the law.
    Its very bad to purposley give a substance you know will make someone ill.
    Its not like the 70s when people found it hard to get dairy alternatives.

  • @breezy3392
    @breezy3392 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

    Story 1: Is the husband the boy's bio-father? He needs to be an ex. His neglect is dangerous

    • @nancyomalley6286
      @nancyomalley6286 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      And ONLY supervised visits so he can't sneak in any treats from "Grandma" that will have dairy in them

  • @Sienna6164
    @Sienna6164 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    Story I- NTA- Sounds like poor Joey is lacktose intolerant . OP needs to call the police and the divorce lawyer.
    Story II- NTA- OP and her fiancé set the date, it’s on the step sister to change the date. Why is OP even inviting the mom in the first place if she’s so obsessed with the step daughter? Does she want the step daughter to upstage OP? Cause it sounds like she does.
    Story III- YTA- OP sounds like a horrible. Sounds like she wanted the party to be about her. OP simply got Karma at the restaurant that she forced down her son’s throught.

  • @patrickdix772
    @patrickdix772 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Story one: I hope that neither OP nor any of their children ever have life threatening allergy (I'm assuming the child in this case is severely lactose intolerant rather than truly allergic), since both the MiL and husband seem the type to assume any allergy isn't real and maybe sneak the allergen into food.

  • @kathleenmcfarlane2555
    @kathleenmcfarlane2555 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    Story 3: OP's A-hole parents need to be responsible adults and get jobs. They need to live within their means

  • @desertgirl8647
    @desertgirl8647 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    Story 1 - Does anyone remember the coconut oil story? The grandmother didn't think it was a legitimate allergy, rubbed the oil on the childs hair, and the child wound up dead.😢 Allergies are real!

  • @DaremoKamen
    @DaremoKamen 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    If OP's mom couldn't expose a cheater because it might hurt her career, would she have been able to turn down a cheater's advances without hurting her career? Is there a possibility she may have been a participant instead of merely an observer?

    • @philwill0123
      @philwill0123 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      Ridiculous comparison. This comes under "none of her damn business". Its not her job to get into work colleagues Marriages. For all she knows, wife knew about the cheating and she gets taken to HR and fired. This is om not getting involved in gossip and politics at work.

    • @conniemkreyes3054
      @conniemkreyes3054 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      Yup, I was wondering the same things!

    • @davidknight3249
      @davidknight3249 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      @@philwill0123 She did get involved when she had the affair partner in her house.

  • @ven7165
    @ven7165 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Remember that story where the guy realized his girlfriend's parents knew about cheating and refused to tell anyone nor distance themselves from the cheating couple, and the guy told his girl to convince her parents to change or cut them off, she didnt, and he broke up with her? Then reddit slammed the guy, accusing him of being controlling and having mental issues/trauma, saying she was better off without him and she and her parents are allowed to do their own thing and the cheating was none of his business.
    Well now it's a girl who realized her boyfriend's parent knew about cheating and refused to tell anyone or distance herself from the cheater, and the girl wants to cut the parent out from any future events, and the boyfriend is so far refusing to. Guess what reddit says. Reddit tells him he needs to reconsider his position, and if he doesnt then she shouldnt marry him because the situation is going to affect his future situation with family and fiance.
    So when a guy does it, he's the bad guy. When a girl does the same thing, the guy is still the bad guy.

  • @lorisewsstuff1607
    @lorisewsstuff1607 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    OP needs to get screenshots of her spouses messages telling his mom not to worry about OP being mad about their child being poisoned. Then, she should consult a divorce lawyer. Abuse of a child is a justified reason for divorce. Documentation of her husband's approval of their son being poisoned by his grandmother should be enough to get her sole custody, and he and his mother restricted to supervised visits only. Why should she care if in the in-laws get upset? Her son's life and health are at stake.

  • @borountree4539
    @borountree4539 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Repeated exposure to allergens can cause increasingly severe reactions until the slightest exposure is deadly. MEL'S behavior is criminal.

  • @MrBeevee5
    @MrBeevee5 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    Last Story - Mom actively accommodating the affair makes her guilty. I agree for OP's sakes that the wedding be called off and find himself another bride. Future will be hell for him, otherwise. No coming back from that. I, however, am okay with her staying out of it, but having them at her house is not "staying out of it".

    • @MrJpaynebb
      @MrJpaynebb 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      OP definitely has a difficult choice, fiance or mom. Mom is definitely in the wrong not because she just knew about the affair but was a little to buddy buddy about it as a coworker. I do understand though her being in a tough spot because the market isn't huge for I am guessing a 50 or 60 something marketing executive and even tougher for a woman. That boys club is quick to close ranks and would shut her out which could include forcing her out of her job.

  • @SCUBASUEReynard
    @SCUBASUEReynard 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Husband needs to clean up the vomit and take a day off work she is running that poor child’s digestive health.

  • @MrHorselover23
    @MrHorselover23 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    What kind of an asshole father is ok with his child being purposely made sick twice a week ????? He would get a damn good divorceing !!!!

  • @sandyberger-r9j
    @sandyberger-r9j 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Story 1: MIL has never had to deal with the consequences- OP should let the kid stay overnight and let MIL clean up the mess.

  • @daynechastant
    @daynechastant 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    11:15 ...Seems like OP is doing a lot of reflecting ALREADY.

    • @SPJPapasan
      @SPJPapasan 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Not really. People like that rarely change. That is just the best comeback she could think of. Bet the very next week she was talking about what she wanted to do (for whatever).

  • @freddiehansen7324
    @freddiehansen7324 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    #1 the MIL needs to go. Maybe the husband too. #2 the Mom "picking" her son's restaurant and then being mad, is a cow - straight up. #3 The hubby needs to man up.

  • @aubreymorgan9763
    @aubreymorgan9763 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    so who stays up with the kid all night when hes in pain and throwing up? I can say its NOT the father. he doesn't care because he doesn't' deal with the consequences.

  • @lorealsp.o.v.4607
    @lorealsp.o.v.4607 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Story 1. Everytime mil & someone said I was wrong for keeping mil for son. I'd say, "You/She is making my son sick with food he allergic too, & making him. & I have deal with him. Because his father thinks it's ok for the boy to be poisoned". I wouldn't be upset if she went to the cops.

  • @crossedwires2629
    @crossedwires2629 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    restaurant story: 1. This cannot possibly be a real post. Made up. 2. If it's real, the OP cannot possibly be more self-absorbed/ridiculous/selfish/narcissistic. That poor son. "He's an adult who can make his own decisions" ... yes, ma'am. So why don't you let him MAKE HIS OWN DECISIONS?! Honestly, seeing a NC in her future. That poor poor son.

  • @MrBeevee5
    @MrBeevee5 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    S2 - I have commented on this topic before. When a parent tries to FORCE a relationship with a step-sibling, then resentment will often happen. It must occur naturally unforced. This story is another example of trying to force a relationship and the resentment built over time.

  • @Faeryrose618
    @Faeryrose618 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I'm sorry if someone gave my child something that made them so ill that they were throwing up after I've explicitly told them multiple times not to do so I would be involving law enforcement and I would be taking my child to the hospital to have this crap documented every single time it happens and I would be immediately filing for divorce because the husband obviously couldn't care less about his child

  • @TheQuantumWave
    @TheQuantumWave 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Story 1: Document, document, document, divorce. Allow the ex to have supervised visitation only and cut off MIL completely. A man who doesn't defend his son's life is a pathetic excuse for a man.
    Story 4: OP is lucky his wife let him move in with her. I would have refused if I were her and made him stay with his parents.

  • @mariem8705
    @mariem8705 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    S3- I hate to be that person but op sounds like a narcissist. Everything has to be about her and what she wants. It’s annoying. Op is the AH

  • @kathleenmcfarlane2555
    @kathleenmcfarlane2555 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Story 1: OP is not the A-hole. You go Mama bear.

    • @davidknight3249
      @davidknight3249 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

      She is for letting it continue multiple times. Once is an accident, twice is assault.

  • @minnarosenqvistmr
    @minnarosenqvistmr 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Sue mil,and divorce your crappy "husband"!!

  • @1COMIXMAN
    @1COMIXMAN 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Tell the hubby and Milo to drop it or CPS will get involved. Mil has been poisoning her grand baby and daddy doesn't care. Id start stuff equally in husbands food so he sees what son is going through.

  • @eldeano9964
    @eldeano9964 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    S1: Yeah, only someone that entitled and controlling can condition her son like that to not be concerned about their own kid's health.

  • @michawilliams1521
    @michawilliams1521 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Last story: All of that want Op to not invite him mom and only family member to his wedding are crazy. I too don't like what mom did either but, he Op and mom has a point. If she tells and they try to push her out who then will take care of her when she's unemployed? Not the fiance's family. Yes, Op is in a trick situation. The wedding needs to be halted asap if this is the hill the fiance wants to die on because, she will hold this over Op and his moms head for a very long time.

  • @natashamwangi4890
    @natashamwangi4890 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Everyone is saying husband is spineless but OP kept sending her son somewhere he was being poisoned. She only wants to stop now that she's stayed up till 2 am. They are both inadequate parents

    • @cheekyftoro8962
      @cheekyftoro8962 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Look the are both bad but op has at least been trying. Not hard enough but at least she has been trying to stop it talking to the mil trying to get the husband on board ect The husdand is doing nothing and is OK with it. So while they are both inadequate, one is far better than the other.

  • @83gemm
    @83gemm 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    I’m so tired of everyone acting like you have to tell on cheaters even if it threatens your career.
    Uh, no.

    • @philwill0123
      @philwill0123 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      Exactly, reddit loves "if you don't go scorched earth, you 100% condone cheating". No, it's not on mom to get involved. Imagine she got involved, told fiancees family, cheater runs to HR, mother loses job, and OP is dumped anyway because moms the messenger. It's meaninless.

  • @xandan1668
    @xandan1668 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    As someone who suffers a shellfish allergy.
    Its started with simple itchy throat then it escalated to straight up asthma attacks.
    Food allergies are no joke it starts small bit gets worse with every exposure.

  • @ginabell694
    @ginabell694 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    "My son is an adult that can make his own decisions" he did and op made him change it.

  • @StilltheAp0llyon
    @StilltheAp0llyon 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Story 1
    She doesn't have a MIL problem, she had a husband problem. Her child is being poisoned and her husband didn't care.

  • @browniewin4121
    @browniewin4121 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    1) No way in hell would I allow my son to stay with MIL when she is ignoring food sensitivity and making the child ill. Husband is a worse problem that he is ok with this, goes behind OP's back and thinks it ok for his mom to make his son sick. OP needs to prioritize his son's health, not his mother's feelings and stupidity. I'm thinking if he continues to take this lightly and endanger their son OP should report this abuse to the police and get away from him and his mother.
    2) Nope, OP need not plan her life around one person, especially someone OP resents because of the favoritism and being pushed toward a relationship they did not want while they were growing up. Mom can accept this or uninvite herself.
    3) OP so much YTA. Why ask someone what they want for their birthday and then keep annoyingly pressure them over and over to change their mind and go somewhere else. No he is not being disrespectful, OP is a selfish, obnoxious narcissist. Shame on OP.
    4) OP YTA for allowing them to abuse his wife. He better make amends to her and let her know he will no longer expect her to suffer for their sake.
    5) I agree that it is disgusting that mom was an enabler for cheating. It's too bad OP's mom felt she needed to do this for her career. If OP's fiancee hates his mother he better realize he is not in a situation of needing to choose a side, either accept having his mother out of his life or have this partner out of his.

  • @tinygabriel9760
    @tinygabriel9760 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    The biggest issue here is not just the MIL but the husband... wtf?!

  • @mintyaquagreen1675
    @mintyaquagreen1675 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Story 1: To the Husband, MIL, and the monkeys calling OP the AH: It's all fun and games when the doctor gets CPS involved and have the law tearing you apart and taking away that child.

  • @naruto456431
    @naruto456431 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    With sensitivities, intolerances or allergies they can actually get quite worse the longer the sufferer is exposed to what's making them ill they can have life not stomach issues as a result of repetitive exposure. Exposing a child to something their stomach can't handle won't cure the intolerance its close to poisoning since she's repeatedly exposing the son to something his stomach has a violent reaction too! Go no contact op and maybe get a restraining order or protection order for the son that's just cruel!

  • @ginabell694
    @ginabell694 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    For our b'days we pick what we want for dinner and my middle sister prepares it. Ive picked the same thing for the past few years and no one complained it was boring. They just wait to pick what they want on their bday. For years before it closed i picked the same Mexican restaurant. No one complained it was boring or tried to convince me to change it. Before that restaurant, growing up it was Chi-Chi's until they closed. The dish i pick for my sister make is Tex-Mex. I like Mexican food.

  • @paulineisme
    @paulineisme 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Birthday dinner story: my brother recently moved to my city. For his namesday we went to a restaurant. It was nice. For my nephew's birthday we went to the same restaurant. For another family meal he hosted we ordered from the same restaurant. Never once did it occur to me to be bored of trying the same restaurant because my host graciously offered me food and it was decent food, and when I host I am free to choose whichever restaurant pleases me. I'd be heartbroken if my nephew were forced to pick a different restaurant than the one he likes for his birthday only to appease me.

  • @seabreezeblank1513
    @seabreezeblank1513 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Your kid has a severe allergy to dairy quit going to MIL and take your kid to a doctor

  • @evelynberrios8164
    @evelynberrios8164 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    S1: NTA, you are the mother. Your MIL is hurting your child. I would go to the police to get an opinion. If your husband continues to be ignoring his mother hurting his son, then perhaps you need to leave him.

  • @lwolfstar7618
    @lwolfstar7618 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    S1, Mil is abusing that child, and hudband is enabling it. Period. Id be filing against her and getting full custody against the father too.

  • @moonlady3000
    @moonlady3000 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Feed the husband expired food once a week. It's only a stomach ache for a few hours, hell be fine. (This is sarcasm folks, don't um actually me about the differences thanks).

  • @Sarcastic165
    @Sarcastic165 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Can’t the tween kid say no if given dairy? My kids would know enough to say no if it was going to make them sick.

    • @nancyomalley6286
      @nancyomalley6286 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Sometimes, the dairy ingredient is hidden if it's part of a recipe, like in a cake. And if the creator of that recipe is as devious as the MIL, they will make sure the allergic recipient won't know a dairy product is in the food until it's too late

  • @reginafarley1325
    @reginafarley1325 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    S1. It's time to stop being nice & let mama bear take over. Your mil ENJOYS HURTING your CHILD & your husband & the rest of his family enjoy hearing about your son's pain & watching him cry. If this continues, it will be your fault for letting it happen.

  • @kristinwiebold2433
    @kristinwiebold2433 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I don't know how OP'S mom could just sit there, knowing her co worker is cheating on his wife and not say anything. From the sound of it, it wasn't just once bbut many times. I get her career is man based but does that really excuse cheating people? What makes it even worst was that the cheater was the uncle of Op's Fiancee. Op's Mom knew and said nothing. I cant blame the fiancee for not wanting Op's mom there at the wedding. I would be mad at her, Uncle and whomever the mistress was. truly I don't think the marriage between fiancee and OP is going to work if OP sides with his mom.

  • @jaydee_0079
    @jaydee_0079 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    RE: Dinner Out
    OP is a total AH. Add to that it's clear that OP can read minds, knowing everyone else's motives.

  • @alricaneshama
    @alricaneshama 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Story 1:
    YTA for staying with such a scumbag.
    Birthday dinner story:
    YTA you narcissistic witch.
    Last story:
    YTA for choosing to take up for a cheater apologist.

  • @SNixon14
    @SNixon14 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    The 1st story, the husband really blew my mind in this story, like he's more concerned about his mother being upset than his own child's health? I don't get him. His own mother was making his child sick but just told OP she was overreacting? How was she overreacting? His mother was literally poisoning their child. And then OP's MIL to threaten to take her to court. Those commenters were right, OP's MIL would be laughed right out of the court room. Anyways, if OP's husband keeps defending his mom when it comes to their child, then I really think OP should think to herself if this is the kind of environment she wants to raise her son in and if she wants to even stay married. OP is NTA. And OP needs to block anyone who continues to harass OP about MIL.
    The last story, OP's mom is a moron, yeah she was all best pals with the fiancee's uncle but she claims she didn't want to tell the fiancee's aunt because she didn't know her which is a load of crap. I've heard of so many people who've contacted people who've been cheated on through social media and these are strangers. They believe the partner should know. Like the aunt in this story, she deserved to know. I get that OP's mother's job would be on the line if she "snitched" but this also makes her look like she is fine with people who cheat. And now OP's fiancee doesn't want his mother at their wedding, totally understandable but OP needs to make a decision, but to me, I can't imagine this wedding will even happen. OP is the AH.

  • @JO_Artificial
    @JO_Artificial 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I had a dairy Allergy, animal protein Allergy and only meat I could eat was chicken until I was about 18 years, an itchy rush(for days) , running stomach and Red eyes wash the penalty for consuming those items. Allergies are real for those who don't believe they are.

  • @JB-bj3fl
    @JB-bj3fl 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Op in story one picked a loser as a partner

  • @nimisilverbird1239
    @nimisilverbird1239 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Nta. Making everyone miss out bc of one person is crazy and abusive. Did stepdaughter have to ever move her stuff around or completely miss out. Go nc with mother and you siblings can have holidays without the steps

  • @catsmeow5566
    @catsmeow5566 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Son's b-day Restaurant fiasco: YTA. Seriously, WTF? OP accused the son and family members of being disrespectful when the OP clearly didn't want to eat at the Indian restaurant and did everything in her power to convince the son NOT to eat where he wanted to eat but then she got mad that it didn't turn out the way she wanted-- and she's being pissy and nasty with the son on his friggin' birthday. Way to make it all about yourself OP. You suck! Ugh OP keeps saying she was "attacked". It's NOT attacking. OP even admitted they were joking about stuff. OP effed up and now reaps the consequences and is playing the victim after she was disrespectful of the son's wishes for his birthday . And the poor son, who did nothing wrong, is trying to placate her but she's too much of a witch to care. Main character syndrome. Possibly some narcissism. Ugh.

  • @Rj-ij6ko
    @Rj-ij6ko 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Story 1: So like does your pathetic husband have ANY good qualities or…?
    NTA but like…start making your husband stay up and take care of your son since “it’s not a big deal” right?

  • @videofan1010
    @videofan1010 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Story #1 is abusive.

  • @zeevanatashazazhinne3136
    @zeevanatashazazhinne3136 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Story 1: "All kids get stomach aches." I bet Joey's father and a lot of relatives had a lot of stomach aches as kids because they were fed dairy products! Story 2: NTA. If it's THAT important step-sister can change HER plans for that day. Story 3: YTA. And are you eff-ing kidding me with that attitude? Why bother asking your son what HE wanted to do if you are not going to believe him and come up with all these other ideas? If I were your son, I would NEVER spend my birthdfday dinner with you again. Story 4: They need to sell their home, downsize, and consider moving into a retirement community they can afford. I agree. You need to go home, thank your wife, and stick to your guns. Your parents are toxic as fxck. Story 5: What a mess! Your fiancee hates your mom. I do not know how you and fiancé will be able to get past this.

  • @zombiechicken7114
    @zombiechicken7114 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Joey needs to learn to control his own intake and allergy. Husband is the main issue. Mil no better tho. Get away from them both.

  • @Dilligaf-m7s
    @Dilligaf-m7s 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Story 4 sorry I think the wife is an ah to herself letting op move in with her to get away from his parents. She should have said nope your house, your parents so your problem.

  • @me297035
    @me297035 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    U should go with fast food from now on

  • @seabreezeblank1513
    @seabreezeblank1513 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Oh my God you ask your kid where he wanted to go for his birthday and then you tried to ram 10 of the restaurants down his throat because you didn't want Indian food no one says you have to eat sit there whatever your country you're in have that food

  • @zombiechicken7114
    @zombiechicken7114 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Lol. My son made his own decisions says the person who bullied him repeatedly into not going to his choice. Ouch. You are awful.