I'll speak for myself, with an assuredness that I represent many other women. If I met a man who, especially after only a short while, made me feel that he needed _me_ in order to: Be fulfilled Be happy Get by Complete him I would feel absolutely put off by him. I need to know that my man has stolen his key from his mother, slayed his dragons and walked contentedly on his own before my heart will love him and my body will want him. Now...a man who feels great being on his own, a man who needs for nothing, _that_ is the man who I could safely attach my heart, body and mind to. Does it make more sense when I say it like that?
@@JenniferMoleski Succinctly put. I share Psalm 27 & 144 with all. Ever wonder how many lives you have positively impacted without ever knowing? Ever wake up not knowing whether your dreaming or awake? Safe Journeys
@@JenniferMoleski I call it the daddy syndrome. Men have to become adults to be loved. Women can behave like children and still be loved. Simple as that. I have my 2 kids and know better then to believe in the fairy tale.
It's true (in spite or Moleski's stumbling over words to express it). Start leading with confidence as if you could not care less (confident but not an a-hole). If she threatens divorce you say go for it. Act as though you don't need her and she will be on you like white on rice. THAT is why bad boys get women. Not because they are jerks (synthetic confidence), but because the hottest girl on earth could be at the table and if she acts like a child they will get up and leave. Confidence. There is nothing unChristian about that. The church is as effeminate as anywhere else these days. Downstream from culture. Die for your wife has nothing to do with being a door mat. Been there done that. Didn't work.
I know a lot of men feel like they're being punished for being what they were told was a good person. Every woman they wanted went for someone who wasn't that
Guys often make the mistake of asking women what they want. She probably won't give you a straight answer. Instead, she'll tell you some "feel good bullshit". If you take it at face value, you're going to be very disappointed.
@@NathanSmutz the key phrase is "what they were told was a good person". Which, for men basically means a being selfless altruist who is content as a third or fourth class citizen. If being a doormat didn't get you what you want, don't be bitter about it, just observe that that makes perfect sense and adjust your behavior according. Be who you want to be not what women or society say you ought to be because they don't have your interest or wellbeing at heart.
P.S. There's a place in the Bible, Where it is said -" Better for a man to live alone in the wilderness, than with a Quarrelsom , Contencious Woman " - SO TRUE !
I moved to NH 6 years ago...live in the woods, fish, hike, read, work on the house, garden, play with my dog....ride my motorcycle...and guess what? I don't miss that bitch who fucked my head up ONE BIT!! In fact, I secretly dance a jig whenever I think she may be struggling and eeking out some living...TO THE STREETS!!! 🤣
Besides money, women are attracted to men that gives 0 F's. The fewer you give, the more they want you to give an F' about them. Mind you, this WILL NOT get you quality women. That all comes down to luck. Face it guys, women are such great actresses, you don't know what you've got until YEARS after it's too late.
@jennifer women want to work to earn a man's attention and validation. Money and looks are number one and two tho. But yes if he has an abundance of women and romantic options that is the guy she will pick.
It's just mincing words. Like saying "women are crazy and men are stupid; women are crazy because men are stupid and men are stupid because women are crazy." When really people are just crazy and stupid and need to be needed and want to be wanted.
Men want women (and they marry them) all the time. Women, having everything provided, are unsatisfied and still leave him. Sorry Jennifer, it doesn’t work that way. Men also want to be wanted. And men need women as well.
@@krumpelschtiltzkeen hilarious summary. Cheers. By the grace of God and my conscious unction, I step forward in faith in hopes to not find knowledge or understanding but the divine Wisdom humanity was given. May we all chill and know why to reconcile.
The female superpower you describe is called hypergamy. “I didn’t think he was that cute but then I found out he ... “Is the lead singer in a band” “Is a doctor” “Is a lawyer” “Drives a Lamborghini” “Plays for the Broncos” “Owns a penthouse”
Women are attracted to status or image a man presents to society. Sometimes that a positive image othertimes its a negative. Either way it can't be generic. She wants the name brand.
@@kabysummit5801 Hello! In my opinion, if a woman is picking which Scriptures to honor and which to disregard, she is not in subjection to God or man. 1 Corinthians 11: 3 usually levels the playing field. Submission is natural, as feminine energy yields to masculine energy. However, some women find submitting to their husbands easier when they realize God prefers the Patriarchal arrangement. And easier yet when they feel loved. The household has peace when everyone knows their God given roles, feels the happiness that comes as a result, and the security of order. It isn't wise to marry a woman that will be combative and bring discord into your home. This type of woman will tear down your efforts, and not respond to/respect your goals, discipline, or decisions. Godspeed! 🌸🌷🌸
Maybe you've checked out the vids by " Strong Successful Male " Also, Coach red pill, and Roy Sheppard - I agree, Women are a no-win endevor- most are spoiled, selfish, Entitled. Cheating Golddiggers - Maybe there's a few good ones out there, but that's like Ice Cream in Hell - NO MORE BLUE PILL ! -( For a laugh, check out the song " Bachelors Hall" sung by Alan mills - songs of New foundland )-
Damn bro do you want to die alone? The feeling of your kids hugging you is the best feeling in the world. The beauty of being married with children and leading them with strong values and direction is the meaning of life. Living just for yourself and material things is a very sad life.
At this point in my life, the most important thing is peace of mind not piece of ass. If any woman even puts a ripple in my serene pond I pass and never question it. It feels soooo good. Funny thing is when I was much younger, my 20's, I thought the same way that I preferred my serenity, but I thought I had to be with a woman because that was what I was supposed to do. Took me 3 decades to realize I was on the right track. There is no price on serenity!
People simply put conditions on their state of being. In your case, it was the woman. People just think they need to achieve or reach some level in their lives where they will be content, and until then, they don't allow themselves the pleasure. It's sad that this isn't taught to kids on time, before they become "the hungry ghosts".
I think Jennifer is sincere but guilty of the human tendency to project. She knows how she thinks and assumes most other women are like her. I submit that they are not. The commenter is question is spot on with regard to at least 90% of women and the unicorns are already married.
Meh. Bet your wife is nothing like her, speaking of projecting. ...unfortunately you're point has a lot of truth. Moleski has gifts. Her mind to analyze, contemplate, ect how other's might think, feel, desire, and to put herself in their shoes. Pretty talented at assessing how most of us (healthy, quality) men think, and an even more impressive gift of communicating it. ...so. here's another bizzarro bit of truth- the more we (in good faith, with honest effort, and quality focus) attempt to put ourselves into someone else's shoes..... the more reliably we can predict how different people will act. Ya know, so we can determine "most of the time" how different situations will "most likely turn out" decide weather or not we want to put work toward, or be involved in any way whatever situation. Shhhhhhhhhhocking that could be useful "projecting" ourselves into places, conversations, relationships that are reliable, desirable, enjoyable. ....I mean what kinda advice you lookin' for guy? Some that isn't logical, that MIGHT work in some way, in some rare, one-off relationship with an aberrant minded woman? Hmmmm... do as you will. I'ma project myself into more rarefied situations.
Respectfully, I would suggest that Jennifer is right about how women truly are, and women in the US tend to be misled about who they truly are. This is why they seem different.
@@Lawskipper Perhaps. The vid is however essentially telling men in the US that they are not really observing what they think they are observing. I'm not arguing absolute nature, or the cause of the differences. I'm only saying that she doesn't fully understand what men in the US are contending with.
@@SomeGuy-xf9bc agreed...the current generation of girls in their 20s to mid 30s in the US is just lost. You just need to watch 1, 2 episodes of freshnfit podcast ... I am glad this mindfuck has not reached Germany too heavily yet...only the under 26 segment is influenced by this bs over here. I find women in their mid 20s very attractive physically, but this fucked up mind makes them unbearable. Jennifer maybe is a tad too old (no offense 😉) to know that.
Well, sure. There is a lot of, I hate to say- trash. Trash thinking. Trash intentions. Trash actions (by all people). Soooooo... wanna focus on all that? Make it all that exists in any meaningful way in your mind? Standards my friends. That all we can truly control is our reactions. We can govern ourselves (more to greater degrees than others). How about "we" sack up, quit indulging the trash we find out and inside ourselves, reward the quality people with quality intentions and behavior. Call it myopic, or call it focusing on the target. There is no certain outcome to any venture, romantically or otherwise. Cowards can SIT AROUND WATCHING and criticize. Jenifer's out in the field WORKING to bring the game to some level the... bystanders can allow themselves to join in. Go ahead, put it in the air. Ya might just find your higher self smiling, hand in hand with a real neat chick. But ya gotta kick the gremblins to the curb first. ...first time you heard this? Good, then it'll be the easiest time to do it.
Women are biologically attracted to tall, handsome, and genetically gifted men, and smart phones, dating apps and social media has made it much more difficult for average men to meet women
Maybe get off the dating apps? A charming, witty guy meeting in real life will do very well because he is real and present. Get a dog and go to a popular dog park: there’s tons of eager and pretty women out there
Yep, one rule......don't. No reason a western man needs that kind of liability 🤷♂️ signing a contract where the other party benefits from it's dissolution is pure insanity
@@davelight2220And nothing that implies an official connection...no joint bank accounts, no joint loans, no personal loans, no co signing contracts for any reason.
@@MrBobDobolina How true, give them nothing, ice them out and ghost them out! At one point in time in my life I didn't think like this but modern women changed my mind.
Taking relationship advise from people who found someone worth being with is like getting financial advice from someone that won the lottery and thinks they are a financial genius.
@@Syrin23 Perhaps it’s more like something in between. For starters, finding a suitable partner is one thing. But sticking it through thick and thin with your partner and coming out intact on the other end is an entirely different thing. Getting advice on how to find and attract the best partner only helps you get to the starting line. You also need solid advice on how to run the race. Two totally separate things. Not to mention, some people will literally luck out and just stumble into a “perfect” partner. So… where was I going with this? I dunno. Better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. Get back in the saddle. Plenty of fish in the sea. And all that malarkey. Where’s my beer?
@@basedlifeform5413 I read a book about dating, found out later that author is a blonde, blue eyed skinny young flight attendant aspiring actress - her “put yourself out there, just be yourself, you can only fall upward, pick the best date out of many choices” might have genuinely worked for her. Maybe the book should have mentioned the prerequisites for the advice to work.
"it sets her free" ... it sounds like you're saying women have no responsibility in the relationship ... so, can you really depend upon such a person? She'll stand by her man so long as he provides, leads, and asks nothing of her. Once he needs something, then it's just too much and she'll bail? Sounds like a raw deal for the guy.
Jennifer: My experience with women in general is that they have a feeling, then make up a narrative to explain to themselves why they feel that way. Men on the other hand have an experience then a feeling based on it. We're opposites in that way. So.. women seem to be story-generation machines, and men reporters of reality. I wonder if this explains the 'synthetic happiness' that women can so easily experience? Maybe that's the superpower you speak of, at least in more traditional females. It comes with a downside, which I jokingly call the auto-blamer. I often catch my wife looking for reasons to blame me for the tiniest thing, and try to quickly script a story to fit. She's aware of it now and doesn't get so irritated when I point it out, but man, some women are just brutal to their guys in this respect.
I was going to say this is absolutely correct. And this is what gets women into major trouble. Their feeling is not based on a solid foundation. It’s often based upon a fairytale like dream (tall dark and handsome). They later regret their decisions. I think some women know that their decision making is faulty, and that is why they consult other women. But other women have the same crappy decision making advice. Friends, this is why up until modern times fathers made the marriage decision for the daughter. I do not know why people mock this method of mate selection.
I will never understand as long as I live that my need for a woman makes me not marriage material. So let's say I don't need her and we get married because I want her. So while we sip our morning coffee, go to bed at night, I remind her that I don't need her? How "romantic." Oh that is what she wants but she doesn't want to be told that? That is then a game. Men and women were designed by God to need each other. What you say is likely true, but that doesn't make it right.
So I have to be a complete asshole, I need to physically and verbally abuse women, I need to have zero respect for women, I need to lie and I need to cheat on women, sell drugs for a living and I have to be thoughtless, careless and rude. I think I got it!! These are the qualities I'm lacking and these appear to be the qualities most women go for. I should be good to go from here forward. Thank you for the great advice!!
Ask five women if they could be in a relationship with a man 5' 3" or shorter. Ask five men if they could be in a relationship with either a very short or a very tall woman. Jennifer I think what you are saying is often true, but when the poster of the question says that he's "in the dating world", I think he probably mostly means in the online dating world. People don't get a chance to spend an hour, let alone a day, with each other to build the type of attraction that you're talking about in the online dating world. Women have very strong/selective filters over whom they'll even communicate with online, so most men that aren't tall and have a good looking face don't get a chance to build the type of superpower attraction.
Bro I’m 5’5 married with two kids. When I was in my twenties I was knocking them down. Ever read blue ocean strategy? Basically you want to find women where most people aren’t. Don’t use social media dating apps or go to clubs. Join groups and meet ups on things you like. Go on hiking groups. Church. Shit most of my girls I met at the book store because I love to read!
You're talking about extreme outliers though. 5'3" is extremely short. There is an evolutionary reason why women usually don't go for extremely short guys. That's what one had to accept. This normally isn't the problem but the increased entitlement in women. And it's not that we as men are free from this behavior too. I see many men dating for looks first. That this isn't a good basis for a relationship is self evident I think.
@@storyeatermichael9046 Agreed. There is nothing to gain on Tinder for the average guy. You can't show good male qualities by exchanging text messages.
@@EbonyPope Thank you for your reply EbonyPope! Extreme outliers are perfect for my example; that's why I used it. A sizeable portion of men WILL be willing to accept women that are in some ways statistical outliers as their girlfriends, wives, or other types of long term mates. Some small portion of men even have preferences for some types of statistical outliers. I agree that dating just based on appearances is generally not a good idea. Even among men that date for "first looks" though, there is a wider variety of appearances that men are attracted to compared to what women are attracted to.
@@PsychedelicChameleon Yes but it's still heavily based on appearance. No matter what particular taste the man happens to have. That is clearly a preference in mate choice in men. That this is clearly also a contributing factor is rarely even discussed in the let's say red pill adjacent channels.
I'm a super handsome man who owns a small company and an average size tool, can't find a woman and don't want one! Thank u social media, u killed dating
So, I have to play a GAME in order to get a woman's attention. Act like you don't like her, like you don't need her. What if she doesn't get it? See, this is just one reason why I don't date anymore: women play GAMES and act like children but if men do it we're called children. Bullcrap, I'm just sick of it all. I don't need nor want a woman in my life.
No. I never said act like you don't like her. I said _need._ You have to ACTUALLY not need her. There's a difference. If it's a game to you then it wouldn't be true and good luck to you. When you meet a woman you like do you act like you need her?????.............. ............. Do you need her? You shouldn't. Oh, you don't!?! Then you're on the way to being a self possessed man that women will be attracted to because you're a leader and you're *fine* without her. You're either in your 20's or never had anyone mentor you.
You may not want a girl in your life, but you definitely want a woman in your life. Quit masturbating, keep your seed, keep your power, and trust in divine timing king.
A women needs a man to curb her crazy, and a man needs a women to curb his stupid. It's not a game, it's regulating her emotions. My wife needs drama from time to time. It's like releasing pressure from a system before it blows up. I sometimes (3-4 times a year) pretend to get angry over something simple. We argue, I leave, hang out with the boys. I come home, apologize, we make up, then we "make up". Personal observations. Men like things simple, strait forward, clear. Women like to over analyze, complicate, and are emotional. It gets under our skin, I get it. But if you can accept that it comes with the package, you can predict the storm, navigate through it, and eventually manufacture mini storms to give her the drama she needs in her life. It's NOT a game, it's relationship management. You don't have to agree, but I am a very happy husband, and things have only gotten better over the last 17 years.
@@respectfuldiscourse9011 You sir could be 100 years old and still be wise beyond your years! That was brilliant, probably the best relationship advice I've ever heard. Are you ever going to tell her about it?
“Women need to be wanted” then a three minute explanation of how if you show her you want and need her then she leaves you. Makes zero sense. What’s happened to you?
You missed the point. You said "want" & "need" in the same sentence as if they're interchangeable but they're not lol. That's the whole point. If you come off as too needy, you will lose your frame as a man & that's unattractive. If you maintain your frame & ALLOW HER to enter your life, then you are much more attractive to her because now it shows that you like her (aka want), but don't actually need her. Hope that helps
When I was in my 50's I worked as a handyman and as it happened, almost exclusively for women. My policy was never get involved with a client. I was in good shape, a good sense of humor and could easily converse with these women. But I was not remotely good looking beyond that. Yet I was hit on by pretty much every single one of them. I lost customers because I didn't have sex with them! Not rich, cute or a bad boy. Life can be pretty hilarious.
I'm experiencing the same thing with my new business. I'm 45, looker and fit, funny and can keep the conversation rolling. 95% women, in nice and huge homes all alone, starved for attention. I'm never biting on anything, just want to make the money.
@@cordfortina9073 The only states of being I need after the cumulative damage done intentionally by malicious lazy others is: Comfort (basic to moderate monetary fortitude) Quiet (from fefail fembots of destruction and the peace it brings)
Lol, I have demonstrated, I don't need a woman. Then we both concluded: why do I need her? I make 5 times what she does, I cook, clean, mow the grass, watch the kids, camp, hike, etc.
After knowing things.. women are not interesting at all anymore. Only one thing attracted me and the price for it is simply not worth it. The freedom that comes with that realization is bewildering and I'm so grateful for it 🙏🏼
You are great! So glad I found your channel. I feel so sorry for a lot women today who were lead astray. You are doing very important work, please keep it up, think of all the people you are helping, Some guy said one time, "Look around you, everything you see, roads, buildings etc. was built by a man". Then a woman responded, "Yeah, look around you, every person you see, was born by a woman!" What a great combination we make, and working together have risen to the top of the food chain on the planet. I haven't seen enough of your videos to know if you have, (you probably have) but the only suggestion I might make is to include the quality of love. The love of a man for a woman and that of a woman for a man. That true love is the answer to all problems.
Hey Jen, I really like your lure metaphore, never thought of it that way, and looking at other relationships (some were toxic some were healthy) that analogy really makes sense! Thanks J-boss!
I was lookin' for love in all the wrong places Lookin' for love in too many faces Searchin' their eyes Lookin' for traces of what I'm dreaming of Hoping to find a friend and a lover I'll bless the day I discover another heart Lookin' for love
@@Decoder2040 There are men who go to bars to find wives? Bars aren't even the best places to pick up girls for temporary understandings, because they are there with their friends who will block you.
The only woman a man should engage with is Rosy Palm. The financial risk is minimal, and men have full clarity afterwards. Real love comes from the creator or maybe a golden retriever.
I'm very new to your channel but I'm enjoying it. Thoughtful stuff especially for me now, being single for about 10 years at 52, working, and caring for older parents in our home we share. Dating has been sparse. But I'm not unhappy or lonely. I'm enjoying your point of view, please keep it coming. Thank you.
Hi Jennifer. I have been watching your videos for some time. "Men want to be needed; and women need to be wanted" is quite profound. Keep up the good work.
I'm not a bad boy, I'm currently living off $180 per week, I'm kind and caring, I'm 50. I attract many woman, so the main thing I can say is, be happy with yourself and get off the couch and be slimish and fit and take care of yourself(haircut,shave or trim the beard, shower) , wash and vacuum your car, clean your house or bedroom, present yourself at your best, when talking to a woman talk about your plans for the future, but pickup when she is loosing interest and ask her a question (I watch my 15 year old son talking to girls and he just talks and talks about something he is into and she can't get a word in, he is super handsome and girls through themselves at he and he doesn't see it)
@@jonathanfarley2023 Yes, he is 15 6'1" solidly built, and very good looking. And yes young girls throw themselves at him. One day he will need to up hus game
@@geoffreymoulton5707 No, he won't, because the confidence he will develop will enable him to continue to get women and the fact women want him will make other women want him.
Hi Jennifer. I agree with your assessment of men and women entirely. That is the dynamic that my wife and I have, and we will celebrate our 41 wedding anniversary this coming October. I just stumbled across your channel today and you've got yourself a new sub. I look forward to your future posts.
No woman is history has EVER said "I saw his (personality, inner self, inner worth/value) from across the room and just had to be with him". NEVER! Women WILL go with the harley'd bad boy then turn around and complain that he treats her bad or doesn't pay attention to her or doesn't listen, etc. I know because women used to tell me this about their bad boy boyfriends all the time. I also make it a point to read many , supposedly female mags and resources to see what females write about and to each other. So what this guy wrote to you is true. Deny it all you want to and blame the men and say it's because of what we are lacking. But women write this and say this when no men are around or they think so anyway.
I would agree with this 10 years ago but not in today's dating culture. Today, most women want attention, not to be wanted. As soon as they have a man's attention and they feel validated, they lose all interest.
Hey Jennifer. I’ve been watching your videos for some time now and enjoy your content. I’ve got a somewhat personal question relating to attraction, but I’m sure it echoes what a lot of men experience. To preface a bit: I’ve got most my ducks in a row as far as the more superficial traits of attraction. I’m 27, have a house, decent car and job, and have been staying in great shape (to the point where there might be some body image issues, but I digress). I’m also in recovery, and have been sober almost 8 years (November 10th’s my birthday). I’ve grown a lot spiritually in these last years being of service in 12 step groups and otherwise (with plenty of room to grow still) however I have trouble taking myself too seriously/coming off to determined. Some people have observed I come off as intimidating (I also have a resting bitch face) yet I rarely lose my temper. I thought by now my better traits would have at least attracted a decent woman by now, but I still find myself putting more effort into the relationship when it comes to dating (Not that I’m overly competitive or score keeping. That’d make me a jerk, right? Haha). I find when I am to be more stoic/ goal minded, the women I’m with claim I’m distant or cold. Getting suspicious or hurt. When I try to make myself vulnerable/ be honest about how I feel, they claim I’m clingy or rushing things, and feel bored/suffocated. It’s like no matter what I do I’m never enough in their eyes. As a result I’ve never been in a serious relationship. So when, where, how is it okay for a man to be honest/share how he feels, if ever? I’m a firm believer in self ownership and refuse to believe they’re the only ones making mistakes, and I find the old ‘you just haven’t found the right one’ platitude empty and unhelpful.
Hi, could you please make a video where you elaborate further the rule you layed out in this video. It seems very interested but I giot mid way in understanding it fully. Much appreciated. Best regards.
I respectfully disagree with you. When so many guys have had similar experiences on the type of guys women go for, especially in their 20s - there is a level of truth men have experienced. Sure, after 35 suddenly women go for a different type but it is often too late by then.
And even the over-35 women still want the bad boy. They just have come to terms with the fact that the bad boy doesn't want them. So they are willing to "settle" for us (even though we are settling for *them*).
You were both partially correct. The commenter is wrong on looks, they don't matter too much. What women are attracted to most in men is confidence. Women are more attracted to confidence than anything else. Whatever caliber a woman thinks she is, when you approach her with confidence, she already thinks that you are used to getting women of her caliber or better. And always be prepared to not care if you are rejected. That's part of being confident as well.
you're partially right but looks matter. Many times you can be confident as you want but you will run into many superficial women. looks can be powerful as they can get you into the door first but then your personality and confidence will need to shine.
@@za1pp that's true. But that's why I said they don't matter too much. Instead of saying they don't matter at all. The way I look at it the very superficial woman is doing you a favor if she's not interested in you because of looks. She has assisted you in the weeding out process.
I think your advice is good, but I think I've just given up to the point of not caring any more. I watch these videos because this is admittedly a painful aspect of my life and I'm disappointed at what the outcome has been (single), but at the end of the day I feel unwanted by women. Four minute videos don't overcome years of women not wanting or needing me. I can only throw my hands up and come to terms with the reality that I'm not what women want and accept that. The sad part is that videos like these end up coming across not as motivating like they intend, but rather perpetuating a false sense of hope for people like myself. It might be a better idea for me to just stay away from videos like this.
Somethin that I've learned over the many years of my life is that, a man or woman can move too fast and be a little too forward about certain things. I do agree with many of the things that you brought up in this video. A lot of men and I can only speak for myself, will either be out spoken or not sure if they should say what's on their minds or even in their hearts to a woman because of the "rejection" factor that has happened to me more times than I care to speak about. However, I haven't given up on the right "lady" to be in my life. I've just been learning more about how to really be myself and let it happen.
Looks, money and status are all trumped by game. All of them. This is a universal truth, and accepting that truth will transform your relationships with women. You are the prize, fellas.
Praise the blursed 420 video length. OK, so: "Women need to be wanted." But at the same time most of them like to be psychologically toyed with, kinda like a kitty cat, to amuse their primal side; and most of them like to trade up up up, until they can't imagine bagging one higher, to appease their primal side (you successfully did it yourself). So there's more than one rule, is what it looks like. Then, as you mentioned, most of them want to want the guy more than the guy wants them, so "need to be wanted" is not even the whole story; it comes with a paragraph or three of fine print, and has something of a paradox running through it -- but hey, most goils seem to exist in a socially-reinforced 24/7 paradox of cognitive dissonance anyway, so we'll just chalk it up to the same sort of time-honored toxic femininity that gave us such much-older-than-we-are classic quips as "it's a woman's prerogative to change her mind," and "the heart wants what it wants," and "I didn't mean to do it, it just sort-of happened." I wouldn't be surprised if there is some blackp!ll evolutionary rationale for it, to ensure that men never get so comfortable that they begin to rest on their laurels. Nature doesn't care whether we live Happily Ever After, after all.
The only reason men don't understand the meaning of this video is because they are unaware of male and female psyche. Women love attention (they need to be wanted) and men desire respect (want to be needed). A woman can only be a woman when she is submissive to you. This can only happen if you don't need her. How do you do that? You build yourself up in all aspects of your life until you ooze confidence and the "bad boy vibe" which translates to being yourself and not giving a f***. When you don't need her, she will respect you for that and submit to you by showing you her true feminine side. And then keep the frame (respect) by showcasing that your actions and believes align. She has to respect you more than she loves you. If you don't understand this stuff, go watch some red pill content by men on TH-cam.
Here is what I think....she isn't a dude in the dating scene. The shear amount of self-centered, shallow, delusional women in the dating market is staggering to the point i stopped bothering. People in general have mostly forgotten what it means to be loyal. Right before the pandemic hit the most Googled phrase in my state was "I cheated on my boyfriend" in some form or another. There is a reason why there are so many unhappy 30 and 40 somethings right now. Its sad but unfortunately what is happening. I can't tell you how many friends and coworkers I've listen to complain about the dating market or loneliness.
These is no "love" for both sexes, it's just the best option available. If you're not the best option available for the opposite sex you're attracted to, do not waste your time because the moment a better option comes about you're doomed. So, always find ways to get better and stronger in every part of your life without attaching to the outcomes. It's about you, not about others.
I think about the women that I thought I liked but who didn't want me and in pretty much all cases I thank God every day I never was able to attract and keep those women. I will admit that I don't need anyone. But, I have found someone who is the same. We just plain get along and it works. Both of us are totally capable of taking care of our selves and need no one. It is just a choice we both made to be together and enjoy each other's company. She works and has money and I work and have my own money. Either could survive alone financially. I think it works because neither of us needs anything so we can focus on other things in the relationship like actually being best friends.
I live authentically. By that I mean I live as true to soul and or spiritual purpose as I can. I don't need anyone's help. I bust ass at making me. I have many hobbies and career success, even without college, nothing stops me, I am busy pushing myself to be the best me I can. Because of this, I live happy. I'm a lone wolf type; highly resourceful. I don't need anyone to complete me. I am complete and I love life. I also love to share it with someone who is like ne. We see others like us; it's like filtering everyone out that doesn't resonate with our frequency. So by being complete, I will only see people who are complete. I don't see the shallow blingy girls anymore. I see successful complete people and dismiss the gamey types. You don't have to play a game (act like you don't want a woman) when you really don't focus on them. It's not a game until you decide to act instead of living authentically. You don't need someone to make you whole. That's an unfair burden you put on you self, not your girl. Cheers, you got this! Edited for clarity and accuracy
A really strong question (from a group of guys who want to detach themselves from blame as to why they CAN’T get the girls), but an amazing and really high EQ response from you. More gold as usual, Jenny!! X x
Sometimes it's hard to be a woman Givin' all your love to just one man You'll have bad times, and he'll have good times Doin' things that you don't understand But if you love him, you'll forgive him Even though he's hard to understand And if you love him, oh be proud of him 'Cause after all, he's just a man Stand by your man Give him two arms to cling to And somethin' warm to come to When nights are cold and lonely Stand by your man And show the world you love him Keep givin' all the love you can Stand by your man Stand by your man And show the world you love him Keep givin' all the love you can Stand by your man
Jennifer, thanks for your video. Makes total sense. Can you consider a video digging deeper into “A woman needs to be wanted”. The simple part is for a man to send flowers, tell her he loves spending time with her, show that he is attracted to her. The hard part is that if he sends flowers and gifts too often it seems like a “hard sell”, or tries to spend too much time with her it seems like he’s got nothing else going in his life, or if he’s constantly saying “You’re beautiful” it can come off as a suspicious con, like “What do you really want, buddy?” The balance is frustrating for us. Thanks for any clarification or tips. Burps
Look: there have been multiple statistically significant studies done and it always boils down to the same thing. The average male has a list of 3-5 things that he looks for in a future wife. In contrast, the average female has a list of 30-50 things she is looking for in a future husband. This can be quickly verified by watching a few dozen TH-cam videos featuring young women having group discussions talking about what they want and they all have very similar bullet points with similar attributes. It cannot be boiled down to one thing or principle.
What I would add to your conclusion is "most of the time". A woman should need a man most of the time, but there are times when she might want him, like in the bedroom or when she makes a rational decision that he is her choice even if she doesn't need anything at the moment. A man should be independent enough to want a women most of the time. But when a man is in need and the women, instead of being there for him, she is being repelled by the situation, she must go. No two ways about it! Relationships carry choices and obligations and any partners' obligation is to be there when needed whether they enjoy it or not. If the man stays in the state of need for too long then something is off, I agree. Then, on a rational level, both partners need and should also want each other, but to different degrees.
The reason many men think women want that which we don’t have. If you are tall and fit she wants money. If you have money she wants tall and fit. If you are rich tall and fit well she wants a bigger DIK. You Money looks and big DIK she wants a funny guy etc etc etc. no women are here to test a man. We are order we build ourselves and there will always be the one women that will test you and that’s good because is the way we get push ourselves to improve our fitness our money situation and at the end we learn to love ourselves because there is no way to be all for them
Sometimes I just feel like a stupid idiot. Does it all just boil down to a game? Do women not want to feel needed? God knows I need a woman around here: I have a house, two dogs, a cat, a small business with a pile of equipment to maintain, and two vehicles to keep on the road. It is all on me, and just between you, me and the fencepost, I only make it by the grace of God. So yeah, I need a woman... But, I'm supposed to pretend that I don't need a woman in order to get a woman. One time in my life I lived with a woman, and we were a great team. It just made life easier... richer... better. People need people: what is more raw, fundamental and visceral than that? Jennifer, you are a wise and wonderful person. The way your mind works fascinates me, but in your quest to reduce things down to their simplest, most pure form, I think you just turned life into a game with hoops to jump through. I have to reject this.
I'm very self sufficient. A couple of years into our marriage my wife said to me, "I wish you needed me. It would be nice to have to take care of you sometimes." My response was that it is actually a bonus, she doesn't have to worry about me, someone she has no control over, but only take care of herself which she has complete control over and that in itself makes me happy and adds to the greatness of our relationship.
You've said a lot of interesting things here, if true I would have to say that in general The female today is something I want nothing to do with. I'm not interested in playing games so that I can be in a relationship. Life life is difficult for the majority of us. So when I come home and ask my now ex wife why she hasn't cooked clean or done laundry, I'm perceived as needy. We all can't just marry a wealthy man and goof around all day making videos.
I really don't think women want bad boys. I think women confuse bad boys with strong confident guys. I don't even mean strong physically although that helps. I mean strong mentally.
Very Good, "What is the importance of creativity? Creativity opens the mind. A society that has lost touch with its creative side is an imprisoned society, in that generations of people may be closed-minded. It broadens our perspectives and can help us overcome prejudices."
Perhaps the best 4 minute video on youtube. Concise and to the point. And very helpful. My question for guys is why do you want the girl that goes for the bad boy with money ? She doesn't sound like a woman of character to me.
Be the best man you can be. Step 1 is to never listen to others about how to be a better man. Certainly don't listen to social media. Certainly don't listen to women. They're whacked in the head, even the enlightened ones. It's like a man giving advice on postpartum depression to women. We can study the subject and sound enlighted, but we really have no understanding of the subject. You come pre-wired to know how to be a man. You just have the block out the crap that gets in the way of that innate understanding.
Attracting a woman is not the issue. Attracting the right one is the challenge. It took me a decade after my service in the Navy to find one I was interested in taking home to meet my parents. No, I don't live in their basement. Yes, I did ask her father before asking her. We had the relationship shown in the movie "Up". It takes a special lady to fill the role. They are very rare.
Hmm. I agree with most of your thoughts honestly but for me it's more about respect. A woman has to respect me in order to get my love and desire. I am not saying that's the only thing needed but that is number one. If she doesn't respect me then I simply can't have any feelings for her. This is why most of my relationships have failed. Women have a hard time respecting men in today's world
Women are not attracted to 80 plus % of guys. Most, not all, perceive their relationship as settling. Jennifer appears to like to highlight the exceptions.
@@johngalt6838 that's just their nature. And since in most areas women can get what they want (because guys are thirsty AF), they either keep male orbiters for when the time comes or they just straight up cheat on their man if they have the opportunity
Trying to translate this for the younger guys because I know I would struggle with this concept as a 20 somethings guy. Think of it on a date. You want your date to be successful, you want to get to know her better, you want to take it further eventually, but you know if it doesn't work out everything will be fine and you will still have options at the end of it. Think of the entire process is that you are selecting her out of long list of other options even if you don't have any -- because ultimately, if the date goes wrong then you'll be fine. You can get back to your hobby and work and do stuff and all will be well - essentially you don't *need* her - this is what attracts them and where so many younger guys fail (I did too btw) sometimes we want it to work out too much and give her too much power. She is interviewing you, but you need to realise that you are interviewing her also! Then the last part - easy lay's. So many psycho's out there. Be careful where you put it lads. Think of it as the economy: If everyone had $1000 and everytime you spent some of that $1000 it was topped back up -- do you think you would *want* money badly? Another way of looking at it is the hope diamond, biggest diamond in the world, worth millions. Would you want it? - in those two scenario's which would you rather have? The same can be said for women -- if you give your dick out loads, or are just an easy catch, as in you'd choose anyone, then it's not something most sensible women are going to want. What about if your selection process is brutal and only 1 or 2 make the cut? - yeah, women are going to try and get that for sure. We go on about how some women having 1000 cocks is sooo unnatractive, but it's the same for men. Having 1 or 2 previous partners is good - but not hundreds
I believe you're correct in your basic assessment about not needing women. But I've found as I've become a completely independent and successful man the thought of a relationship has become like choosing to put an anchor around my neck and jump into the ocean. I actually don't need a woman so what could a woman contribute to my life besides drama and tribulation? Companionship is great and sex can be as well but at what cost? Once you choose to add someone to your life, especially intimately, they expect something in return and now I have a burden on my hands where before I had none.
I definitely agree with you. I am not the best looking guy in the world, but it shocks me how many women display signs of attraction toward me. I think that it is a function of two factors: (1) I am secure. No, that doesn't mean that I use confident body language. Rather, it means that I am secure down to the bottom of my subconscious mind. (2) The "mere exposure effect". In other words, if I encounter a woman over and over, my inner security tends to trigger her "super power" (as you call it) without me trying to do anything in particular.
That is a new saying to me and I thought it was interesting. There was a part that bothered me the more I thought about it. The transition from women not wanting to be needed and “need(ing) to be wanted” sounds very much like they don’t want the responsibility of being needed because that would make them accountable. I don’t think this is totally true but something about it seems accurate. Also, I’m not sure what the women’s super power was… is it the ability to find a reason to like someone or something… ?
When my wife and I first met we were friends with benefits. She came to me three months in and said "I want more". I sat her down and said "This is how I am and this is how things are going to be. If you don't like it at any time there's the door don't let it hit you in the ass". March 19th will be 10 years since our first date.
What? Sorry.
"Women need to be wanted".
But...are attracted to a man that doesn't need a woman.
No wonder.
No wonder...
I'll speak for myself, with an assuredness that I represent many other women.
If I met a man who, especially after only a short while, made me feel that he needed _me_ in order to:
Be fulfilled
Be happy
Get by
Complete him
I would feel absolutely put off by him. I need to know that my man has stolen his key from his mother, slayed his dragons and walked contentedly on his own before my heart will love him and my body will want him.
Now...a man who feels great being on his own, a man who needs for nothing, _that_ is the man who I could safely attach my heart, body and mind to.
Does it make more sense when I say it like that?
@@JenniferMoleski Succinctly put. I share Psalm 27 & 144 with all.
Ever wonder how many lives you have positively impacted without ever knowing?
Ever wake up not knowing whether your dreaming or awake?
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@@JenniferMoleski I call it the daddy syndrome.
Men have to become adults to be loved.
Women can behave like children and still be loved.
Simple as that.
I have my 2 kids and know better then to believe in the fairy tale.
@@astralpx what does your response have to do with mine?
Are we starting a new topic?
It's true (in spite or Moleski's stumbling over words to express it). Start leading with confidence as if you could not care less (confident but not an a-hole). If she threatens divorce you say go for it. Act as though you don't need her and she will be on you like white on rice. THAT is why bad boys get women. Not because they are jerks (synthetic confidence), but because the hottest girl on earth could be at the table and if she acts like a child they will get up and leave. Confidence. There is nothing unChristian about that. The church is as effeminate as anywhere else these days. Downstream from culture. Die for your wife has nothing to do with being a door mat. Been there done that. Didn't work.
I know a lot of men feel like they're being punished for being what they were told was a good person.
Every woman they wanted went for someone who wasn't that
Guys often make the mistake of asking women what they want. She probably won't give you a straight answer. Instead, she'll tell you some "feel good bullshit". If you take it at face value, you're going to be very disappointed.
Exactly.
Serves them right for being what they were told was a good person and expecting something in return.
@@krumpelschtiltzkeen Eh, expecting not to be punished for it is reasonable. Thinking you'd have to become a bad person to have a chance kinda stinks.
@@NathanSmutz the key phrase is "what they were told was a good person". Which, for men basically means a being selfless altruist who is content as a third or fourth class citizen. If being a doormat didn't get you what you want, don't be bitter about it, just observe that that makes perfect sense and adjust your behavior according. Be who you want to be not what women or society say you ought to be because they don't have your interest or wellbeing at heart.
P.S. There's a place in the Bible, Where it is said -" Better for a man to live alone in the wilderness, than with a Quarrelsom , Contencious Woman " - SO TRUE !
I moved to NH 6 years ago...live in the woods, fish, hike, read, work on the house, garden, play with my dog....ride my motorcycle...and guess what? I don't miss that bitch who fucked my head up ONE BIT!! In fact, I secretly dance a jig whenever I think she may be struggling and eeking out some living...TO THE STREETS!!! 🤣
Damn, now you tell me
Mr Mark
That is true. That Scripture is in Proverbs. And Proverbs will teach you Wisdom to live a good life.
Hence men voting with their feet increasingly every year for 2+ decades.
@@jhondoe233 thanks for reminding me of that scripture. I’ve been looking for the catalyst to start my divorce, this is it!
Besides money, women are attracted to men that gives 0 F's.
The fewer you give, the more they want you to give an F' about them.
Mind you, this WILL NOT get you quality women.
That all comes down to luck.
Face it guys, women are such great actresses, you don't know what you've got until YEARS after it's too late.
Wisdom of the day wise one 👍
True comment!!
@jennifer women want to work to earn a man's attention and validation. Money and looks are number one and two tho. But yes if he has an abundance of women and romantic options that is the guy she will pick.
Amen
Giving zero f's about their games? Absolutely. But, to be interesting, you will give many f's about yourself and others.
"Men want to be needed and Women need to be wanted"
A Sum-up of humanity relationships. Thanks Jennifer
That's not a new saying. I've heard it all my life.
@@The_Chairperson No, because women cheat on their "safe secure" man ALL the time
It's just mincing words. Like saying "women are crazy and men are stupid; women are crazy because men are stupid and men are stupid because women are crazy." When really people are just crazy and stupid and need to be needed and want to be wanted.
Men want women (and they marry them) all the time. Women, having everything provided, are unsatisfied and still leave him. Sorry Jennifer, it doesn’t work that way. Men also want to be wanted. And men need women as well.
@@krumpelschtiltzkeen hilarious summary. Cheers. By the grace of God and my conscious unction, I step forward in faith in hopes to not find knowledge or understanding but the divine Wisdom humanity was given. May we all chill and know why to reconcile.
A man that doesn't need the woman he's with has options.
A man that doesn't have options is subconsciously communicating that she could do better.
This is spot on.
The female superpower you describe is called hypergamy.
“I didn’t think he was that cute but then I found out he ...
“Is the lead singer in a band”
“Is a doctor”
“Is a lawyer”
“Drives a Lamborghini”
“Plays for the Broncos”
“Owns a penthouse”
Well said 👏 Long live the RedPill!
hahaha ... You forgot one more ... He was in prison:)))
@@HornetBojan Exactly...
Women are attracted to status or image a man presents to society. Sometimes that a positive image othertimes its a negative. Either way it can't be generic. She wants the name brand.
"Other women want him"
“Women need to feel loved, and men need to feel respected." Ephesians 5:33
Your F--ing Right, and stop the entitlement program.
Right on.
But most Western women misinterpret this very scripture. Why? Because it uses the word Submit.
Hello! This is true. The Bible gives the formula for successful marriages. Thank you for sharing that Scripture.
@@kabysummit5801 Hello! In my opinion, if a woman is picking which Scriptures to honor and which to disregard, she is not in subjection to God or man. 1 Corinthians 11: 3 usually levels the playing field.
Submission is natural, as feminine energy yields to masculine energy. However, some women find submitting to their husbands easier when they realize God prefers the Patriarchal arrangement. And easier yet when they feel loved.
The household has peace when everyone knows their God given roles, feels the happiness that comes as a result, and the security of order. It isn't wise to marry a woman that will be combative and bring discord into your home. This type of woman will tear down your efforts, and not respond to/respect your goals, discipline, or decisions. Godspeed! 🌸🌷🌸
Men dont waste your time , work on self , money , and stay single . there isnt anything in it for us , ill keep all of my stuff .
best advise here
Playing games to get a women who will drop you on a whim. No loyalty. No appreciation. I have to strongly agree.
Absolutely true. Singleness, solitude is BLISS. I recall the Bahamas last time. Wow. Being alone and not lonely was AMAZING there.
Maybe you've checked out the vids by " Strong Successful Male " Also, Coach red pill, and Roy Sheppard - I agree, Women are a no-win endevor- most are spoiled, selfish, Entitled. Cheating Golddiggers - Maybe there's a few good ones out there, but that's like Ice Cream in Hell - NO MORE BLUE PILL ! -( For a laugh, check out the song " Bachelors Hall" sung by Alan mills - songs of New foundland )-
Damn bro do you want to die alone? The feeling of your kids hugging you is the best feeling in the world. The beauty of being married with children and leading them with strong values and direction is the meaning of life. Living just for yourself and material things is a very sad life.
At this point in my life, the most important thing is peace of mind not piece of ass. If any woman even puts a ripple in my serene pond I pass and never question it. It feels soooo good. Funny thing is when I was much younger, my 20's, I thought the same way that I preferred my serenity, but I thought I had to be with a woman because that was what I was supposed to do. Took me 3 decades to realize I was on the right track. There is no price on serenity!
Wisdom!
People simply put conditions on their state of being. In your case, it was the woman. People just think they need to achieve or reach some level in their lives where they will be content, and until then, they don't allow themselves the pleasure. It's sad that this isn't taught to kids on time, before they become "the hungry ghosts".
@@vladimirdosen6677 This hypergamous trend will never change and will get much much worse. It's a massive trend shift.
@@papinoo1159 People need time to adapt and change, given enough consequences.
@@vladimirdosen6677 This trend change will take centuries to reach a new equilibrium!
I think Jennifer is sincere but guilty of the human tendency to project. She knows how she thinks and assumes most other women are like her. I submit that they are not. The commenter is question is spot on with regard to at least 90% of women and the unicorns are already married.
Meh. Bet your wife is nothing like her, speaking of projecting.
...unfortunately you're point has a lot of truth. Moleski has gifts. Her mind to analyze, contemplate, ect how other's might think, feel, desire, and to put herself in their shoes. Pretty talented at assessing how most of us (healthy, quality) men think, and an even more impressive gift of communicating it. ...so. here's another bizzarro bit of truth- the more we (in good faith, with honest effort, and quality focus) attempt to put ourselves into someone else's shoes..... the more reliably we can predict how different people will act. Ya know, so we can determine "most of the time" how different situations will "most likely turn out" decide weather or not we want to put work toward, or be involved in any way whatever situation. Shhhhhhhhhhocking that could be useful "projecting" ourselves into places, conversations, relationships that are reliable, desirable, enjoyable. ....I mean what kinda advice you lookin' for guy? Some that isn't logical, that MIGHT work in some way, in some rare, one-off relationship with an aberrant minded woman? Hmmmm... do as you will. I'ma project myself into more rarefied situations.
Respectfully, I would suggest that Jennifer is right about how women truly are, and women in the US tend to be misled about who they truly are. This is why they seem different.
@@Lawskipper Perhaps. The vid is however essentially telling men in the US that they are not really observing what they think they are observing. I'm not arguing absolute nature, or the cause of the differences. I'm only saying that she doesn't fully understand what men in the US are contending with.
@@SomeGuy-xf9bc agreed...the current generation of girls in their 20s to mid 30s in the US is just lost. You just need to watch 1, 2 episodes of freshnfit podcast ... I am glad this mindfuck has not reached Germany too heavily yet...only the under 26 segment is influenced by this bs over here. I find women in their mid 20s very attractive physically, but this fucked up mind makes them unbearable. Jennifer maybe is a tad too old (no offense 😉) to know that.
Well, sure. There is a lot of, I hate to say- trash. Trash thinking. Trash intentions. Trash actions (by all people). Soooooo... wanna focus on all that? Make it all that exists in any meaningful way in your mind?
Standards my friends. That all we can truly control is our reactions. We can govern ourselves (more to greater degrees than others). How about "we" sack up, quit indulging the trash we find out and inside ourselves, reward the quality people with quality intentions and behavior. Call it myopic, or call it focusing on the target. There is no certain outcome to any venture, romantically or otherwise. Cowards can SIT AROUND WATCHING and criticize. Jenifer's out in the field WORKING to bring the game to some level the... bystanders can allow themselves to join in. Go ahead, put it in the air. Ya might just find your higher self smiling, hand in hand with a real neat chick. But ya gotta kick the gremblins to the curb first.
...first time you heard this? Good, then it'll be the easiest time to do it.
Women are biologically attracted to tall, handsome, and genetically gifted men, and smart phones, dating apps and social media has made it much more difficult for average men to meet women
Maybe get off the dating apps? A charming, witty guy meeting in real life will do very well because he is real and present. Get a dog and go to a popular dog park: there’s tons of eager and pretty women out there
Wrong. Women are biologically attracted to men who act like men. Have a masculine attitude, get ripped and join a mma gym.
@@rickyaz8640 Most women at dog parks are there with men. Most of the single women there are closed off to average men.
I'm pretty sure dating apps are a scam by big tech anyways. There's no guarantee they're even showing you to any good women.
@@MrKrushgutz Quit crying
Yep, one rule......don't. No reason a western man needs that kind of liability 🤷♂️ signing a contract where the other party benefits from it's dissolution is pure insanity
Yeeeeesssssss.
Here are the rules, No marriage, No Co habitation and No children.
And continue benefitting for àn indefinite time after it ends.
@@davelight2220And nothing that implies an official connection...no joint bank accounts, no joint loans, no personal loans, no co signing contracts for any reason.
@@MrBobDobolina How true, give them nothing, ice them out and ghost them out!
At one point in time in my life I didn't think like this but modern women changed my mind.
Taking relationship advise from people who found someone worth being with is like getting financial advice from someone that won the lottery and thinks they are a financial genius.
Correct.....they most probably are the exception and market it as if its the rule.
@@Syrin23 Perhaps it’s more like something in between. For starters, finding a suitable partner is one thing. But sticking it through thick and thin with your partner and coming out intact on the other end is an entirely different thing. Getting advice on how to find and attract the best partner only helps you get to the starting line. You also need solid advice on how to run the race. Two totally separate things. Not to mention, some people will literally luck out and just stumble into a “perfect” partner. So… where was I going with this? I dunno. Better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. Get back in the saddle. Plenty of fish in the sea. And all that malarkey. Where’s my beer?
@@basedlifeform5413 Absolutely.
@@basedlifeform5413 I feel ya mos def. 👊👊
@@basedlifeform5413 I read a book about dating, found out later that author is a blonde, blue eyed skinny young flight attendant aspiring actress - her “put yourself out there, just be yourself, you can only fall upward, pick the best date out of many choices” might have genuinely worked for her. Maybe the book should have mentioned the prerequisites for the advice to work.
"it sets her free" ... it sounds like you're saying women have no responsibility in the relationship ... so, can you really depend upon such a person? She'll stand by her man so long as he provides, leads, and asks nothing of her. Once he needs something, then it's just too much and she'll bail? Sounds like a raw deal for the guy.
Jennifer: My experience with women in general is that they have a feeling, then make up a narrative to explain to themselves why they feel that way. Men on the other hand have an experience then a feeling based on it. We're opposites in that way.
So.. women seem to be story-generation machines, and men reporters of reality.
I wonder if this explains the 'synthetic happiness' that women can so easily experience? Maybe that's the superpower you speak of, at least in more traditional females.
It comes with a downside, which I jokingly call the auto-blamer. I often catch my wife looking for reasons to blame me for the tiniest thing, and try to quickly script a story to fit. She's aware of it now and doesn't get so irritated when I point it out, but man, some women are just brutal to their guys in this respect.
You are absolutely right about this and it's the reason why I'm going through a divorce
I was going to say this is absolutely correct. And this is what gets women into major trouble. Their feeling is not based on a solid foundation. It’s often based upon a fairytale like dream (tall dark and handsome). They later regret their decisions. I think some women know that their decision making is faulty, and that is why they consult other women. But other women have the same crappy decision making advice. Friends, this is why up until modern times fathers made the marriage decision for the daughter. I do not know why people mock this method of mate selection.
Absolutely, sir!
@@jonm57 Because it's about Power and Control as well as Freedom...
how can you just have a feeling out of thin air though? feelings are usually reactive, no?
I will never understand as long as I live that my need for a woman makes me not marriage material. So let's say I don't need her and we get married because I want her. So while we sip our morning coffee, go to bed at night, I remind her that I don't need her? How "romantic." Oh that is what she wants but she doesn't want to be told that? That is then a game. Men and women were designed by God to need each other. What you say is likely true, but that doesn't make it right.
Yes, men need women and women need men.
Men there's a bus by every five minutes.
So I have to be a complete asshole, I need to physically and verbally abuse women, I need to have zero respect for women, I need to lie and I need to cheat on women, sell drugs for a living and I have to be thoughtless, careless and rude. I think I got it!! These are the qualities I'm lacking and these appear to be the qualities most women go for. I should be good to go from here forward. Thank you for the great advice!!
To be fair , that's not what she's saying ( yes, i get your sarcasm because there's an essence of truth in it with a lot of women )
Ask five women if they could be in a relationship with a man 5' 3" or shorter. Ask five men if they could be in a relationship with either a very short or a very tall woman. Jennifer I think what you are saying is often true, but when the poster of the question says that he's "in the dating world", I think he probably mostly means in the online dating world. People don't get a chance to spend an hour, let alone a day, with each other to build the type of attraction that you're talking about in the online dating world. Women have very strong/selective filters over whom they'll even communicate with online, so most men that aren't tall and have a good looking face don't get a chance to build the type of superpower attraction.
Bro I’m 5’5 married with two kids. When I was in my twenties I was knocking them down. Ever read blue ocean strategy? Basically you want to find women where most people aren’t. Don’t use social media dating apps or go to clubs. Join groups and meet ups on things you like. Go on hiking groups. Church. Shit most of my girls I met at the book store because I love to read!
You're talking about extreme outliers though. 5'3" is extremely short. There is an evolutionary reason why women usually don't go for extremely short guys. That's what one had to accept. This normally isn't the problem but the increased entitlement in women. And it's not that we as men are free from this behavior too. I see many men dating for looks first. That this isn't a good basis for a relationship is self evident I think.
@@storyeatermichael9046 Agreed. There is nothing to gain on Tinder for the average guy. You can't show good male qualities by exchanging text messages.
@@EbonyPope Thank you for your reply EbonyPope! Extreme outliers are perfect for my example; that's why I used it. A sizeable portion of men WILL be willing to accept women that are in some ways statistical outliers as their girlfriends, wives, or other types of long term mates. Some small portion of men even have preferences for some types of statistical outliers. I agree that dating just based on appearances is generally not a good idea. Even among men that date for "first looks" though, there is a wider variety of appearances that men are attracted to compared to what women are attracted to.
@@PsychedelicChameleon Yes but it's still heavily based on appearance. No matter what particular taste the man happens to have. That is clearly a preference in mate choice in men. That this is clearly also a contributing factor is rarely even discussed in the let's say red pill adjacent channels.
I'm a super handsome man who owns a small company and an average size tool, can't find a woman and don't want one!
Thank u social media, u killed dating
So, I have to play a GAME in order to get a woman's attention. Act like you don't like her, like you don't need her. What if she doesn't get it? See, this is just one reason why I don't date anymore: women play GAMES and act like children but if men do it we're called children. Bullcrap, I'm just sick of it all. I don't need nor want a woman in my life.
No. I never said act like you don't like her. I said _need._ You have to ACTUALLY not need her. There's a difference. If it's a game to you then it wouldn't be true and good luck to you.
When you meet a woman you like do you act like you need her?????..............
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Do you need her? You shouldn't.
Oh, you don't!?! Then you're on the way to being a self possessed man that women will be attracted to because you're a leader and you're *fine* without her.
You're either in your 20's or never had anyone mentor you.
You may not want a girl in your life, but you definitely want a woman in your life.
Quit masturbating, keep your seed, keep your power, and trust in divine timing king.
A women needs a man to curb her crazy, and a man needs a women to curb his stupid.
It's not a game, it's regulating her emotions. My wife needs drama from time to time. It's like releasing pressure from a system before it blows up. I sometimes (3-4 times a year) pretend to get angry over something simple. We argue, I leave, hang out with the boys. I come home, apologize, we make up, then we "make up".
Personal observations. Men like things simple, strait forward, clear. Women like to over analyze, complicate, and are emotional. It gets under our skin, I get it. But if you can accept that it comes with the package, you can predict the storm, navigate through it, and eventually manufacture mini storms to give her the drama she needs in her life.
It's NOT a game, it's relationship management. You don't have to agree, but I am a very happy husband, and things have only gotten better over the last 17 years.
If I "actually" dont need a woman, then I have no reason to be with her and I won't waste time on her.
@@respectfuldiscourse9011 You sir could be 100 years old and still be wise beyond your years! That was brilliant, probably the best relationship advice I've ever heard. Are you ever going to tell her about it?
You don't ask fish how to catch fish. You ask a fisherman.
“Women need to be wanted” then a three minute explanation of how if you show her you want and need her then she leaves you. Makes zero sense. What’s happened to you?
Exactly what I was thinking too.
Paused at 1.20 in disbelief and went to comments. Shaming the guy for some basic red pill. Times have changed...
"What's become of you, Tron... ?"
You missed the point. You said "want" & "need" in the same sentence as if they're interchangeable but they're not lol. That's the whole point. If you come off as too needy, you will lose your frame as a man & that's unattractive. If you maintain your frame & ALLOW HER to enter your life, then you are much more attractive to her because now it shows that you like her (aka want), but don't actually need her. Hope that helps
@@jakubantal2546 Not all red pill advice is good advice for men. Most of it is. But some is bad. If you want truely good advice, read the bible
I take it a step further beyond "not needing women" and say that it's a man who has control over his life... no matter what life throws at him
No matter what *wife* throws at him
Y'all are saying the same thing
When I was in my 50's I worked as a handyman and as it happened, almost exclusively for women. My policy was never get involved with a client. I was in good shape, a good sense of humor and could easily converse with these women. But I was not remotely good looking beyond that. Yet I was hit on by pretty much every single one of them. I lost customers because I didn't have sex with them! Not rich, cute or a bad boy. Life can be pretty hilarious.
I'm experiencing the same thing with my new business. I'm 45, looker and fit, funny and can keep the conversation rolling.
95% women, in nice and huge homes all alone, starved for attention. I'm never biting on anything, just want to make the money.
I've been there, as well. I attributed it to bored housewives. Some of them were really overt, though. That was awkward.
"the handyman" is one of their fantasies. i'm sure that had something to do with it as well.
good point
@@cordfortina9073 The only states of being I need after the cumulative damage done intentionally by malicious lazy others is:
Comfort (basic to moderate monetary fortitude)
Quiet (from fefail fembots of destruction and the peace it brings)
Women need men, unfortunately most modern women are taught to be self centered users, instead of caring nurturers, as they once were.
This was well-timed tough Iove. Thank you!
Fighting the good fight, Jen! Rock on. Keep it up.
Lol, I have demonstrated, I don't need a woman. Then we both concluded: why do I need her? I make 5 times what she does, I cook, clean, mow the grass, watch the kids, camp, hike, etc.
After knowing things.. women are not interesting at all anymore. Only one thing attracted me and the price for it is simply not worth it.
The freedom that comes with that realization is bewildering and I'm so grateful for it 🙏🏼
Most guys aren't all that either
VERY intriguing and thought-provoking video! Thanks for the upload, Jennifer.
Your insights are priceless Jennifer and your delivery is superb.
I've been single for over ten years. I have absolutely no idea how to attract women at this point. I've pretty much completely given up.
You are great! So glad I found your channel. I feel so sorry for a lot women today who were lead astray. You are doing very important work, please keep it up, think of all the people you are helping,
Some guy said one time, "Look around you, everything you see, roads, buildings etc. was built by a man". Then a woman responded, "Yeah, look around you, every person you see, was born by a woman!"
What a great combination we make, and working together have risen to the top of the food chain on the planet.
I haven't seen enough of your videos to know if you have, (you probably have) but the only suggestion I might make is to include the quality of love. The love of a man for a woman and that of a woman for a man. That true love is the answer to all problems.
Hey Jen, I really like your lure metaphore, never thought of it that way, and looking at other relationships (some were toxic some were healthy) that analogy really makes sense! Thanks J-boss!
This is so true. Also, too many men look for high quality women where low quality women congregate.
I was lookin' for love in all the wrong places
Lookin' for love in too many faces
Searchin' their eyes
Lookin' for traces of what I'm dreaming of
Hoping to find a friend and a lover
I'll bless the day I discover another heart
Lookin' for love
And where do the high-quality women congregate? Church? Low-quality women are there, too, as well as women who will reject you.
@@jonathanfarley2023 not at the bars
@@Decoder2040 There are men who go to bars to find wives? Bars aren't even the best places to pick up girls for temporary understandings, because they are there with their friends who will block you.
Earth
The only woman a man should engage with is Rosy Palm. The financial risk is minimal, and men have full clarity afterwards. Real love comes from the creator or maybe a golden retriever.
Your life is going to be very miserable if you truely believe that.
Go hit the gym, you might gain some self-worth.
Oh please.
Relaxin Maxin - I agree with you, friend!
Her name is Handgela.
I'm very new to your channel but I'm enjoying it. Thoughtful stuff especially for me now, being single for about 10 years at 52, working, and caring for older parents in our home we share. Dating has been sparse. But I'm not unhappy or lonely. I'm enjoying your point of view, please keep it coming. Thank you.
Awesome video. Insightful analysis.
Hi Jennifer. I have been watching your videos for some time. "Men want to be needed; and women need to be wanted" is quite profound. Keep up the good work.
What is closer to TRUTH is: women NEED love. Men NEED respect.
I'm not a bad boy, I'm currently living off $180 per week, I'm kind and caring, I'm 50. I attract many woman, so the main thing I can say is, be happy with yourself and get off the couch and be slimish and fit and take care of yourself(haircut,shave or trim the beard, shower) , wash and vacuum your car, clean your house or bedroom, present yourself at your best, when talking to a woman talk about your plans for the future, but pickup when she is loosing interest and ask her a question (I watch my 15 year old son talking to girls and he just talks and talks about something he is into and she can't get a word in, he is super handsome and girls through themselves at he and he doesn't see it)
So you're telling us your son, who doesn't follow your advice, has girls throwing themselves at him.
@@jonathanfarley2023 Yes, he is 15 6'1" solidly built, and very good looking. And yes young girls throw themselves at him. One day he will need to up hus game
@@geoffreymoulton5707 No, he won't, because the confidence he will develop will enable him to continue to get women and the fact women want him will make other women want him.
Hi Jennifer. I agree with your assessment of men and women entirely. That is the dynamic that my wife and I have, and we will celebrate our 41 wedding anniversary this coming October. I just stumbled across your channel today and you've got yourself a new sub. I look forward to your future posts.
If a Man does not need a Woman then why is he dating her Jennifer ?
No woman is history has EVER said "I saw his (personality, inner self, inner worth/value) from across the room and just had to be with him". NEVER! Women WILL go with the harley'd bad boy then turn around and complain that he treats her bad or doesn't pay attention to her or doesn't listen, etc. I know because women used to tell me this about their bad boy boyfriends all the time. I also make it a point to read many , supposedly female mags and resources to see what females write about and to each other. So what this guy wrote to you is true. Deny it all you want to and blame the men and say it's because of what we are lacking. But women write this and say this when no men are around or they think so anyway.
Finally some one that agrees with me. Even better tell some u did 10 years in prison that always perjured up then even if u didnt
I would agree with this 10 years ago but not in today's dating culture. Today, most women want attention, not to be wanted. As soon as they have a man's attention and they feel validated, they lose all interest.
That is very true.
Fact fact fact.. Your energy is so positive. Thanks.
Have a pleasant weekend.
Great Insights Jennifer,
Can you please expand on "Stolen the key from his mother" please?
Hey Jennifer. I’ve been watching your videos for some time now and enjoy your content. I’ve got a somewhat personal question relating to attraction, but I’m sure it echoes what a lot of men experience.
To preface a bit: I’ve got most my ducks in a row as far as the more superficial traits of attraction. I’m 27, have a house, decent car and job, and have been staying in great shape (to the point where there might be some body image issues, but I digress).
I’m also in recovery, and have been sober almost 8 years (November 10th’s my birthday). I’ve grown a lot spiritually in these last years being of service in 12 step groups and otherwise (with plenty of room to grow still) however I have trouble taking myself too seriously/coming off to determined. Some people have observed I come off as intimidating (I also have a resting bitch face) yet I rarely lose my temper.
I thought by now my better traits would have at least attracted a decent woman by now, but I still find myself putting more effort into the relationship when it comes to dating (Not that I’m overly competitive or score keeping. That’d make me a jerk, right? Haha).
I find when I am to be more stoic/ goal minded, the women I’m with claim I’m distant or cold. Getting suspicious or hurt. When I try to make myself vulnerable/ be honest about how I feel, they claim I’m clingy or rushing things, and feel bored/suffocated. It’s like no matter what I do I’m never enough in their eyes. As a result I’ve never been in a serious relationship.
So when, where, how is it okay for a man to be honest/share how he feels, if ever? I’m a firm believer in self ownership and refuse to believe they’re the only ones making mistakes, and I find the old ‘you just haven’t found the right one’ platitude empty and unhelpful.
Try a different ocean?
No answer from Jennifer because women are screwed up in the head.
I grew into a man the day I stopped wanting what I didn't need.
Hi, could you please make a video where you elaborate further the rule you layed out in this video. It seems very interested but I giot mid way in understanding it fully. Much appreciated. Best regards.
Great video...you just earned a new sub.:)
I respectfully disagree with you. When so many guys have had similar experiences on the type of guys women go for, especially in their 20s - there is a level of truth men have experienced. Sure, after 35 suddenly women go for a different type but it is often too late by then.
And even the over-35 women still want the bad boy. They just have come to terms with the fact that the bad boy doesn't want them. So they are willing to "settle" for us (even though we are settling for *them*).
You were both partially correct. The commenter is wrong on looks, they don't matter too much. What women are attracted to most in men is confidence. Women are more attracted to confidence than anything else. Whatever caliber a woman thinks she is, when you approach her with confidence, she already thinks that you are used to getting women of her caliber or better. And always be prepared to not care if you are rejected. That's part of being confident as well.
Bingo !!
It's always about you ,it's almost never about her
You get back what u project in the world quite literally
you're partially right but looks matter. Many times you can be confident as you want but you will run into many superficial women. looks can be powerful as they can get you into the door first but then your personality and confidence will need to shine.
@@za1pp that's true. But that's why I said they don't matter too much. Instead of saying they don't matter at all. The way I look at it the very superficial woman is doing you a favor if she's not interested in you because of looks. She has assisted you in the weeding out process.
You are right-on ! This is certainly a very valuable video.
Very well said Jen… You nailed it…
I think your advice is good, but I think I've just given up to the point of not caring any more. I watch these videos because this is admittedly a painful aspect of my life and I'm disappointed at what the outcome has been (single), but at the end of the day I feel unwanted by women. Four minute videos don't overcome years of women not wanting or needing me. I can only throw my hands up and come to terms with the reality that I'm not what women want and accept that. The sad part is that videos like these end up coming across not as motivating like they intend, but rather perpetuating a false sense of hope for people like myself. It might be a better idea for me to just stay away from videos like this.
It might be.
If my videos bring you down in some way then it would be sad to see you go, but I understand. I want the best for you!
The videos give me a good feeling the way "The Hobbit" does. It's not our world at all, but it is entertaining.
When the narcissist texts you 9 months later, that ain’t attraction hahah.
Somethin that I've learned over the many years of my life is that, a man or woman can move too fast and be a little too forward about certain things. I do agree with many of the things that you brought up in this video. A lot of men and I can only speak for myself, will either be out spoken or not sure if they should say what's on their minds or even in their hearts to a woman because of the "rejection" factor that has happened to me more times than I care to speak about. However, I haven't given up on the right "lady" to be in my life. I've just been learning more about how to really be myself and let it happen.
Looks, money and status are all trumped by game. All of them. This is a universal truth, and accepting that truth will transform your relationships with women.
You are the prize, fellas.
Praise the blursed 420 video length.
OK, so: "Women need to be wanted." But at the same time most of them like to be psychologically toyed with, kinda like a kitty cat, to amuse their primal side; and most of them like to trade up up up, until they can't imagine bagging one higher, to appease their primal side (you successfully did it yourself). So there's more than one rule, is what it looks like.
Then, as you mentioned, most of them want to want the guy more than the guy wants them, so "need to be wanted" is not even the whole story; it comes with a paragraph or three of fine print, and has something of a paradox running through it -- but hey, most goils seem to exist in a socially-reinforced 24/7 paradox of cognitive dissonance anyway, so we'll just chalk it up to the same sort of time-honored toxic femininity that gave us such much-older-than-we-are classic quips as "it's a woman's prerogative to change her mind," and "the heart wants what it wants," and "I didn't mean to do it, it just sort-of happened."
I wouldn't be surprised if there is some blackp!ll evolutionary rationale for it, to ensure that men never get so comfortable that they begin to rest on their laurels. Nature doesn't care whether we live Happily Ever After, after all.
The only reason men don't understand the meaning of this video is because they are unaware of male and female psyche. Women love attention (they need to be wanted) and men desire respect (want to be needed).
A woman can only be a woman when she is submissive to you. This can only happen if you don't need her. How do you do that? You build yourself up in all aspects of your life until you ooze confidence and the "bad boy vibe" which translates to being yourself and not giving a f***. When you don't need her, she will respect you for that and submit to you by showing you her true feminine side. And then keep the frame (respect) by showcasing that your actions and believes align. She has to respect you more than she loves you. If you don't understand this stuff, go watch some red pill content by men on TH-cam.
Through marriage you already break that frame.
How do you show attention to a woman AND also show you don't need her?
Kinda hard when you develop a crush and have butterflies and shit going on.
Here is what I think....she isn't a dude in the dating scene. The shear amount of self-centered, shallow, delusional women in the dating market is staggering to the point i stopped bothering. People in general have mostly forgotten what it means to be loyal. Right before the pandemic hit the most Googled phrase in my state was "I cheated on my boyfriend" in some form or another. There is a reason why there are so many unhappy 30 and 40 somethings right now. Its sad but unfortunately what is happening. I can't tell you how many friends and coworkers I've listen to complain about the dating market or loneliness.
Actually in this short video you hit the nail on the head ! 💪🏽
These is no "love" for both sexes, it's just the best option available. If you're not the best option available for the opposite sex you're attracted to, do not waste your time because the moment a better option comes about you're doomed. So, always find ways to get better and stronger in every part of your life without attaching to the outcomes. It's about you, not about others.
I think about the women that I thought I liked but who didn't want me and
in pretty much all cases I thank God every day I never was able
to attract and keep those women. I will admit that I don't need anyone.
But, I have found someone who is the same. We just plain get along
and it works. Both of us are totally capable of taking care of our selves
and need no one. It is just a choice we both made to be together and
enjoy each other's company. She works and has money and I work and have
my own money. Either could survive alone financially. I think it works because neither
of us needs anything so we can focus on other things in the relationship like
actually being best friends.
Happy for you. Sounds like a healthy relationship!
Sounds Perfect! Congratulations!
Gosh I love listening to you share your wisdom and experience.
Yet another great short and sharp truth bomb and so true!!!
I live authentically. By that I mean I live as true to soul and or spiritual purpose as I can. I don't need anyone's help. I bust ass at making me. I have many hobbies and career success, even without college, nothing stops me, I am busy pushing myself to be the best me I can.
Because of this, I live happy. I'm a lone wolf type; highly resourceful. I don't need anyone to complete me. I am complete and I love life. I also love to share it with someone who is like ne.
We see others like us; it's like filtering everyone out that doesn't resonate with our frequency.
So by being complete, I will only see people who are complete. I don't see the shallow blingy girls anymore. I see successful complete people and dismiss the gamey types.
You don't have to play a game (act like you don't want a woman) when you really don't focus on them.
It's not a game until you decide to act instead of living authentically.
You don't need someone to make you whole. That's an unfair burden you put on you self, not your girl.
Cheers, you got this!
Edited for clarity and accuracy
A really strong question (from a group of guys who want to detach themselves from blame as to why they CAN’T get the girls), but an amazing and really high EQ response from you. More gold as usual, Jenny!! X x
This has to be one of my favorites!!
I think that you are Spot on. Absolutely no question about it.
Love how she nonchalantly addresses "Darth Bane" 😂
Sometimes it's hard to be a woman
Givin' all your love to just one man
You'll have bad times, and he'll have good times
Doin' things that you don't understand
But if you love him, you'll forgive him
Even though he's hard to understand
And if you love him, oh be proud of him
'Cause after all, he's just a man
Stand by your man
Give him two arms to cling to
And somethin' warm to come to
When nights are cold and lonely
Stand by your man
And show the world you love him
Keep givin' all the love you can
Stand by your man
Stand by your man
And show the world you love him
Keep givin' all the love you can
Stand by your man
Jennifer, thanks for your video. Makes total sense. Can you consider a video digging deeper into “A woman needs to be wanted”. The simple part is for a man to send flowers, tell her he loves spending time with her, show that he is attracted to her. The hard part is that if he sends flowers and gifts too often it seems like a “hard sell”, or tries to spend too much time with her it seems like he’s got nothing else going in his life, or if he’s constantly saying “You’re beautiful” it can come off as a suspicious con, like “What do you really want, buddy?” The balance is frustrating for us. Thanks for any clarification or tips. Burps
Good question
i appreciate your outstanding remarks on this facet of dating. You are superb jennyfer...my hats off to you.
Look: there have been multiple statistically significant studies done and it always boils down to the same thing. The average male has a list of 3-5 things that he looks for in a future wife. In contrast, the average female has a list of 30-50 things she is looking for in a future husband. This can be quickly verified by watching a few dozen TH-cam videos featuring young women having group discussions talking about what they want and they all have very similar bullet points with similar attributes. It cannot be boiled down to one thing or principle.
Look up in the sky
It’s a Bird - It’s a plane
Hell no it’s that crazy lady who thinks she Super Chick
If she can fly she might be.
a time she went for the "bad boy"??? nope, its all the time. the only thing I am lacking is a prison record
This was actually really informative. I never thought of it this way.
What I would add to your conclusion is "most of the time".
A woman should need a man most of the time, but there are times when she might want him, like in the bedroom or when she makes a rational decision that he is her choice even if she doesn't need anything at the moment.
A man should be independent enough to want a women most of the time. But when a man is in need and the women, instead of being there for him, she is being repelled by the situation, she must go. No two ways about it! Relationships carry choices and obligations and any partners' obligation is to be there when needed whether they enjoy it or not. If the man stays in the state of need for too long then something is off, I agree.
Then, on a rational level, both partners need and should also want each other, but to different degrees.
Agree with everything you said here
The reason many men think women want that which we don’t have. If you are tall and fit she wants money. If you have money she wants tall and fit. If you are rich tall and fit well she wants a bigger DIK. You Money looks and big DIK she wants a funny guy etc etc etc. no women are here to test a man. We are order we build ourselves and there will always be the one women that will test you and that’s good because is the way we get push ourselves to improve our fitness our money situation and at the end we learn to love ourselves because there is no way to be all for them
Sometimes I just feel like a stupid idiot. Does it all just boil down to a game? Do women not want to feel needed? God knows I need a woman around here: I have a house, two dogs, a cat, a small business with a pile of equipment to maintain, and two vehicles to keep on the road. It is all on me, and just between you, me and the fencepost, I only make it by the grace of God. So yeah, I need a woman... But, I'm supposed to pretend that I don't need a woman in order to get a woman. One time in my life I lived with a woman, and we were a great team. It just made life easier... richer... better. People need people: what is more raw, fundamental and visceral than that? Jennifer, you are a wise and wonderful person. The way your mind works fascinates me, but in your quest to reduce things down to their simplest, most pure form, I think you just turned life into a game with hoops to jump through. I have to reject this.
I'm very self sufficient. A couple of years into our marriage my wife said to me, "I wish you needed me. It would be nice to have to take care of you sometimes." My response was that it is actually a bonus, she doesn't have to worry about me, someone she has no control over, but only take care of herself which she has complete control over and that in itself makes me happy and adds to the greatness of our relationship.
You've said a lot of interesting things here, if true I would have to say that in general The female today is something I want nothing to do with. I'm not interested in playing games so that I can be in a relationship. Life life is difficult for the majority of us. So when I come home and ask my now ex wife why she hasn't cooked clean or done laundry, I'm perceived as needy. We all can't just marry a wealthy man and goof around all day making videos.
I really don't think women want bad boys. I think women confuse bad boys with strong confident guys. I don't even mean strong physically although that helps. I mean strong mentally.
Very Good, "What is the importance of creativity? Creativity opens the mind. A society that has lost touch with its creative side is an imprisoned society, in that generations of people may be closed-minded. It broadens our perspectives and can help us overcome prejudices."
Perhaps the best 4 minute video on youtube. Concise and to the point. And very helpful. My question for guys is why do you want the girl that goes for the bad boy with money ? She doesn't sound like a woman of character to me.
Be the best man you can be. Step 1 is to never listen to others about how to be a better man. Certainly don't listen to social media. Certainly don't listen to women. They're whacked in the head, even the enlightened ones. It's like a man giving advice on postpartum depression to women. We can study the subject and sound enlighted, but we really have no understanding of the subject.
You come pre-wired to know how to be a man. You just have the block out the crap that gets in the way of that innate understanding.
Brilliant! I never thought of it that way.
Attracting a woman is not the issue. Attracting the right one is the challenge. It took me a decade after my service in the Navy to find one I was interested in taking home to meet my parents. No, I don't live in their basement. Yes, I did ask her father before asking her. We had the relationship shown in the movie "Up". It takes a special lady to fill the role. They are very rare.
Hmm. I agree with most of your thoughts honestly but for me it's more about respect. A woman has to respect me in order to get my love and desire. I am not saying that's the only thing needed but that is number one. If she doesn't respect me then I simply can't have any feelings for her. This is why most of my relationships have failed. Women have a hard time respecting men in today's world
Women are not attracted to 80 plus % of guys. Most, not all, perceive their relationship as settling. Jennifer appears to like to highlight the exceptions.
@@johngalt6838 that's just their nature. And since in most areas women can get what they want (because guys are thirsty AF), they either keep male orbiters for when the time comes or they just straight up cheat on their man if they have the opportunity
@@Dan-rh7in Sad state of affairs.
Trying to translate this for the younger guys because I know I would struggle with this concept as a 20 somethings guy.
Think of it on a date. You want your date to be successful, you want to get to know her better, you want to take it further eventually, but you know if it doesn't work out everything will be fine and you will still have options at the end of it. Think of the entire process is that you are selecting her out of long list of other options even if you don't have any -- because ultimately, if the date goes wrong then you'll be fine. You can get back to your hobby and work and do stuff and all will be well - essentially you don't *need* her - this is what attracts them and where so many younger guys fail (I did too btw) sometimes we want it to work out too much and give her too much power. She is interviewing you, but you need to realise that you are interviewing her also!
Then the last part - easy lay's. So many psycho's out there. Be careful where you put it lads.
Think of it as the economy:
If everyone had $1000 and everytime you spent some of that $1000 it was topped back up -- do you think you would *want* money badly? Another way of looking at it is the hope diamond, biggest diamond in the world, worth millions. Would you want it? - in those two scenario's which would you rather have?
The same can be said for women -- if you give your dick out loads, or are just an easy catch, as in you'd choose anyone, then it's not something most sensible women are going to want. What about if your selection process is brutal and only 1 or 2 make the cut? - yeah, women are going to try and get that for sure.
We go on about how some women having 1000 cocks is sooo unnatractive, but it's the same for men. Having 1 or 2 previous partners is good - but not hundreds
Exactly
Big disparity berween 1or 2 and hundreds. A dozen (or two ) is still OK in my book.I want a women that enjoys s*x.
I believe you're correct in your basic assessment about not needing women. But I've found as I've become a completely independent and successful man the thought of a relationship has become like choosing to put an anchor around my neck and jump into the ocean. I actually don't need a woman so what could a woman contribute to my life besides drama and tribulation? Companionship is great and sex can be as well but at what cost? Once you choose to add someone to your life, especially intimately, they expect something in return and now I have a burden on my hands where before I had none.
then don't bother with it! more and more people are opting out.
I definitely agree with you. I am not the best looking guy in the world, but it shocks me how many women display signs of attraction toward me. I think that it is a function of two factors: (1) I am secure. No, that doesn't mean that I use confident body language. Rather, it means that I am secure down to the bottom of my subconscious mind. (2) The "mere exposure effect". In other words, if I encounter a woman over and over, my inner security tends to trigger her "super power" (as you call it) without me trying to do anything in particular.
Actually a man's super power is to make his own decisions without the "influence" of a woman who is more a bully than a partner
That is a new saying to me and I thought it was interesting. There was a part that bothered me the more I thought about it. The transition from women not wanting to be needed and “need(ing) to be wanted” sounds very much like they don’t want the responsibility of being needed because that would make them accountable. I don’t think this is totally true but something about it seems accurate.
Also, I’m not sure what the women’s super power was… is it the ability to find a reason to like someone or something… ?
Its Jennifer attempting to change the mindset of women.......it wont change nature of the majorities, however.
great observation!!!
I like these short clips. Jen just gives you her opinion, and with the camera up close you feel as if you are chatting with her in person.
When my wife and I first met we were friends with benefits. She came to me three months in and said "I want more". I sat her down and said "This is how I am and this is how things are going to be. If you don't like it at any time there's the door don't let it hit you in the ass". March 19th will be 10 years since our first date.