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Damn Josh, you were a lunchbox back then
Rollo Tomassi da facking gd fadda! Lol Mr. Redpill
Haha, Josh rung the redpill bell. You guys are saving mens' lives!
The White Wolf visits :)
Don’t be thirsty
Don’t be thirsty
She didn’t change. She just got tired of pretending and the real person came out.
That my friend, is the very definition of "changing" it doesn't matter if she changed from a fake one to a "real" one or vice versa, it IS change.
Yep, too draining
Well said
That's why its better to be yourself from the beginning
@@vanessak7069
If women were themselves from the beginning they’d be alone forever
Why does he look 35 in that old picture and now he looks 25, this guy is reverse growing lol
The strange case of Benjamin Button
It's a n-1 recursion loop
Lost his testosterone and reverted to pre puberty
@SEEK - R Unfortunately, the chances of finding a wife that loves you unconditionally with all her heart is harder than winning the lottery 100 times in a row.
Because he's single now.
Never enter a contract with someone who gets paid to break it
Lmfao truu
marriage is just womans life insurance
Pre nup
@@jb6167 it doesn't work, worse more the government messed up the system even more for men
so right
I'll never understand why people say others who don't wanna be married or have kids are selfish??
misery loves company... they also get jealous seeing childless adults living their best lvies..
If you ask me getting married is extremely selfish, you basically are claiming ownership over another human being. Same with having children oh, many people have children who are not financially or emotionally ready and their children will lead terrible lives.
"Sign this form that benefits ONLY ME at your expense or YOU are selfish." That's the logic being hurled at men. Children are even worse. If you want custody, you better have a vagina, because people with those win 85% of cases. I always suggest a man to adopt his own kid if he wants one so he has guaranteed custody no one can later take away from him. All the orphanages full of abandoned kids have ensured that a man doesn't even need a woman to have a kid. If he creates his own, he is taking a huge risk of the mother taking it away from him. And he'll have to PAY HER for 18 years as well. It's much safer for a man to just adopt. So bottom line for men today is, no reason to get married, no reason to reproduce.
only a mad man get married today
I think its odd I mean having a bunch of kids and not really wanting it is selfish because the kids suffer so if you know you don't want kids and don't have them isn't that the least selfish you can be? You're not ruining someone elses life you know who you are and live by it ! Lol :)
Women get into relationship hoping a man will change, men get into it hoping the woman doesn’t change
Facts
Facts!
Yes
Eli in reality the woman don’t really want you to change
Unconditional love DOESNT EXIST at least from a woman's perspective.
Josh is monitizing his divorce, meanwhile people trashing him in the comments are actually helping this video bc the youtube algorithms favor interactions...GG Josh and hope you dad is doing better
Yay, let's help monetize ☺️👍 I also hope your dad is doing better, and that you are feeling better, stay strong!
absolutely.
Like tech lead did?
@@kei2142 NOOO tech lead is shady af dont trust that man.
@@kei2142 well it's similar in the way that they both monetized their divorce...I just don't like tech lead anymore
His life, his choice. His choices aren’t hurting anyone- you do you Josh!
@Precious Erving-Frimpong lol wtf? He's explaining why he won't get married again. And he literally said at the beginning if marriage is your thing than do to it. So how is he influencing people? Get your head out your ass.
Does he have to do you!?
@Precious Erving-Frimpong but you have your own brain and you are responsible for your own choices so , truth is, no he is not. If anything he is showing them a choice, God Forbid. I chose not to marry or have kids. I own my own house and car. I am not in debt . I have my profession . I’m independent.
A lot of people my age are now getting divorced since their kids are in college, etc. Many are financially ruined. It isn’t all sunshine and roses doing what ‘society expects of you’ which is to get married and have kids.
The problem is he isn't behaving like the utility he is supposed to be.
He failed natural selection though. Its still all good, no one told you to pass natural selection.
I know that a lot of people claim they don't want to hear about your personal anecdotes. "get back to the career advice blah blah blah" but the primary reason I am subscribed to the channel is for the tea, the drama, and the sage advice. I want a video on how to avoid being trapped in shitty friendships.
As long as the content is informative or entertaining in an engaging and relatable way, I'll watch.
Your career will be crap if you get married - so this is career advice. You'll be a blue pill slave to your wife - they value SECURITY over growth and moving UP.
People that come to Josh for "career advice" should just stick to some self improvement con artist/productivity hack/businessmen self-biography crap.
I come to Josh for real talk about the bitter truth that your company don't give a crap about you and your goal, and you hang around for mutual interest. It is a breath of fresh air in a industry where everyone expects you to have undying passion and expects you to grind your personal well-being away for extra productivity that disproportionately profits them over you.
Unsolicited stranger's experience: Bad friends are easier to cut off because you can do the slow fade or quick release. Either way a blocked number or change of address is the best way to go if they're too much. I usually wait years before even revealing my address nowadays.
Start with the obvious stuff like being put down and discouraged from following dreams. They can be pragmatic and ask questions about the reality of accomplishing things. If they tell you you just can't do things because you're too stupid or something subjective then it's time to cut the line.
Lots of self-reflection and strong boundaries are needed on your part. Sometimes you feel most comfortable being treated like shit because of your past so you have to know your triggers too.
As well as a watchful eye. Just like Josh's wife flipped friends can do that too and you need to see if it's a pattern or a bad day. Seeing how they act around other people and when others are not watching is important.
Preach brother
Jeez if my "wife" called me a "beta male simp" that means she's probably cheating with someone who uses Reddit, I'd be done
Who called people "beta male simp" outside of reddits and certain TH-cam channels😂. If someone called their man that in real life, I will judge them first based on that.
Beta male simp are new and useful terms that have been developed in the mansosphere to describe how self-destructive and badly men have been acting for the last few generations. But yeah they should be off limits for women to use especially against their men. That just ain’t right.
if a woman ever calls a man a beta male simp, it's highly likely he is, because no alpha would tolerate any disrespect ever.
Exactly. Normal people don't use that vocab.
😂😂😂
Disney, movies, and music have destroyed many lives.
Please, can you explain?...
agreed
Yes
@@kayodeadechinan5928 those movies, etc make people dream about impossible scenarios. They hardwire us to live in a fantasy world and when none of that works out it causes us depression. Hope is fine but those Disney movies provide us with False Hope!
@@kayodeadechinan5928 the Princess Syndrome
I come back to this every six months to remind myself why I didn't get married. Thanks Josh!!
@VVE - Viral Video Edits what's weak about not being a slave on the "plantation" called marriage? VVE....you are weak for judging someone with different values than yourself.
@Kangaroo3000 No we are Awake to the marriage trap and the reason it's not worth it. The Divorce laws and family law courts bias against men. Having your kids taken from you. Then women are encouraged to leave their marriages. Totally insane for any man to get married in 2023
@VVE - Viral Video Edits why is not wanting to get married weak?
Why would you need to do that? Just don’t get married it’s that simple
@vve-viralvideoedits2533not being able to educate and think for yourself and understand the ROI of marriage is weak…..
His wife had that “let me speak to your manager” hairstyle🤣😂😂
His wife just started spewing the Karen energy 😂
First thought I had too 😂
Hahaha
@@Sandeep-cz7ls yes thats it
Karen. Thought the same thing.
I'm 67 years old, never been married, never regretted it
gay
@@ginmador9824 lol.....not necessarily true.......but funny response...
You are not alone!
@@ginmador9824 GAY men marry too, what a stereotype... ah c'mon...are we still doing this in 2021
@@ginmador9824 Stupid
A lot of women want to be married but don’t want to be wives..
They want the status but not the mutual submission. They want to add the status of marriage to their lives without taking the life of the man needed for that status into account.
Sadly this is so true :( Marriage was OK for most people after feminists destroyed it.
@@harley6867 Of course men do. The thing is that for generations all the blame for cheating was on men. We are finally seeing the nature of women, now that they have been "empowered" with the pill, women's liberation, the sexual revolution and now Tinder, that they are less faithful and more able to play the opposite sex. It is not that men are seen as good, just that women were, and it was wrong. Many men, me included, believed the PR that praised the virtues of women, and found out to our cost that it was wrong.
@@josephang9927 Feminism hasn't ruined marriage. Women stayed in abusive as f marriages for centuries, now no one has to handle that bullshit and that's it.
@@harley6867 the female sex is the majority of the problem.They don't take it seriously.
i remember my dad telling me, "a wife is like a hand grenade, remove the ring and your house is gone." back then i did not understand it because i was young, but now after seeing whats happening to ppl i know, i understand what he meant.
That's a great analogy. Wise father!
Marriage is a 3 ring circus .....first there's the engagement ring , then there's the wedding ring , then there's the suffering ....
Married women have a grenade of their own. It's called the "Fat Grenade" and once they have landed a sucker / husband, they are quick to pull that pin and get fat and stay fat LOL! And like any grenade, if you cannot get away in time you're caught up in the explosion!
@@mgtowmonger2729 what?
@@kingglitchez6851 After a marriage is secured, women let themselves go... (gain weight). What's a man gonna do?
I see a lot of people who have kids for their own selfish reasons.
There is no other reason to have a kid. The kid isnt alive yet. You make the decision for your self.
There is no social security in some poor countries, so the poor people gamble on having children. They hope their sons/ daughters would be successful and support them financially when they retire, but most of the poor parents can't give their children good education
Yeah lol. My selfish reason is (ironically) so my parents shut up about it. 😂
So true and then they expect or demand financial assistance.
Only few People should Make Children ,It would be Better.
I have a lot of respect for you choosing not to get married again because believe me it's overrated.
Way overrated. I’ll never get married again. Mgtow
I'm single so just wondering, how is it overrated? I'm in no rush to get married so it'd be interesting to hear someone else's take
@@abeltesfaye_ .... watch ^ ^ & listen to this video.
@@abeltesfaye_ Yes, pretty much everything he says is true. Medical insurance is literally the only practical reason for marrying these days (at least in the states), and that's just not enough for some.
That or if your trying to help someone gain citizenship... 🤷♀️
Bro zero regrets subscribing, this guy is one of the realist people out there, thank God that you’re open enough to share your experiences
@teflontelefon who says you can control your fate? You wish you did.
He is the realest guy on TH-cam, so relatable whether you're a programmer or not. 💯
Genesis 2- the mystery of marriage... it is beautiful!!!
"There's nothing that I get being married, that I don't get by just being in a long-term relationship"
~ Joshua Fluke, 2020
The thing about lack of intimacy after marriage.... 100% true.
What if your wife's body still bangs into her 50's?
@@Westcoaststyling then the pool boy Chad is banging her
@@zoomman96 u must have been conceived at the greyhound in exchange for a bus ticket so your mother could skip town. Sorry you never knew your father.
Pfff I love my hubby 10 years in
@@MyGreenNest why are you gay?
My sister told me one day, " The reason you stayed young is, cuz you got divorced young and stayed single". I am 51 and i get told i look 30s!
I’m married in the common law, and I support choosing not to get the paperwork. I’ve been with my partner for 8 years, and I truly feel that the legal paperwork can take all the fun out of it. My husband and I never did the legality stuff and we get mistaken for early 20s. He’s almost 40, and I’m 33. It’s better for us to not do the draining, unromantic paperwork, and I feel that if you haven’t been together long enough to receive common law status, you can’t say you are ready for marriage. I’m glad you learned early that the whole marriage model isn’t for everyone.
Why do ALL the people that say this NEVER have a face pic?
@@MaffyTaffyHaffy because its horse shit!
Yes yes yes.
So true! I’m one of the single guys in my friends group who is told doesn’t age.
I didn’t bust my ass in engineering school, pay off my new truck within 2 years and save frugally over the years so that someone can have a retirement plan through me when they decide to leave when they wake up and say “I’m NoT hApPy”.
There is somebody for everybody. Matches are made in Heaven.
God will help those who help thyself - seek and you will find
just wondering----what does an engineer make ?
...or if they say "I've got to find myself".
Ahahahahhahahahaah
I've watched his marriage video.
He married when he was only 19 and with a girl from a foreign country (Finland) and moved there, without previou knowledge of the culture, language, etc.
He was also a student and the wife was working and being the only bread winner.
A lot of struggles and incompatibilities lead to a painful experience.
Exactly. I got married young but never experienced any relationship issues solely because I found someone that I am compatible with.
This video definitely seems to be shifting the blame to sound a bit more favorable.
@@losthope98 ive watched quite a few of his videos on his relationships and I gotta say, I dont really feel bad for this guy. A lot of his excuses are ignoring his mistakes. He is pretty self centered and the most painful part is he doesnt seem to understand how that effects relationships./
@@brrguitarist Absolutely. He kept showing up in my recommended I cant stand his content. It is one thing to play the victim and I'm almost always down for a good pity party, but the lack of accountability seems to naturally lead to a very MGTOW type of audience that floods his comments. People keep shitting on his ex wife but refuse to acknowledge his faults. I can't stand someone who let's their fans shit on women who refuse to have bums for husbands.
@@losthope98 look at the video talking about his recent gf cheating. The signs were there. She even attempted to get him to engage to rekindle the relationship and he ignored her. It sucks she cheated, but he didnt do much to prevent it.
@@vaughanbaker1177 being a better partner definitely helps
You own a business. She would own more than a half in a divorce settlement.
@@jamesv3309 facts
@Super loyal to their options
@@og-sq8xt Lol. He was humiliated and bullied by his ex-wife. She was trying to trick him into cheating so she can force him into divorce. He didn't wanna divorce because he wouldn't be able to stay in the country and finish and get his degree. He would have lost years of his life for nothing. She actively kept him reliant on her and didn't even attempt to help.
It was a case of emotional abuse and all around a horrible situation that he had to make the most of through getting his degree at the very least. Talk about being dishonest.
@@og-sq8xt cause she turned the tables on him. She was playing mind games. Watch the episode of him being married and divorced and returning to America
And you still need to pay her even after she leaves.
Marriage licenses need to be like driving licenses, they should be renewed every few years. That way you can choose to renew or terminate without all the legal crap !!
That’s such a good point! It really should be like that!
Great idea!!!
That’s kinda genius.
Yep excellent idea
Yes good idea
Josh is realistic, not pessimistic. I am the same way, and find that people always confuse the two.
Because reality is harsh
Same. Jesus I get told I have a negative mentality. I'm like no, I'm just brutally honest with myself
People see me as always being negative but for years I've been a self-confessed realist. People like to live in a fantasy world, which is fine to a degree, but when shit needs to get real, I'll be the first to tell it like it is.
@Mr. Green got all that demon action YEEEEEAAAAH
I want to like this 10 times. Even after I explain it to people they still stick to believing I'm just being negative. How precise in my speech must I be before they understand?
I'm going to be 56yo, married once, no children. About to get divorced,... Will NEVER get married again. Do not regret the no children thing. There are people out there who never should have had kids. I knew it wasn't for me. "You owe yourself some joy". Amen. 👌
I don't think grannies are in high demand on the dating market, not to worry
The irony is people who want kids have issues making the kids. The ones that are irresponsible and get pregnant and struggle are the ones reproducing at higher alarming levels.
I dont understand the whole "you're selfish" if you dont have kids. The people i know with kids for the most part have them for their own ego reasons.
The wise words of Daniel Tosh, "MMMMMMmmmm. I fucked up. You try!"
Bringing life here in this world just to experience suffering is more selfish
Facts
Ive noticed most people have kids for 2 reasons: either because thats what society forced them to do or because they think a child will fix their lives. A kid should be a compliment to your life.
Well, it's pretty obvious why choosing to not have kids is thought of as selfish. You want more time, sleep, space, things, opportunities, and most of all, money... for yourself. What's not to understand?
HOW DARE YOU MAKE DECISIONS ABOUT YOUR OWN LIFE SHAME SHAME SHAME
@Blackpilled Saint the person was actually referring to the fact that he got mad that she started changing...why does he feel like he has to decide how her hair is going to look like?
@@MrSmileeey get real, short purple hair is disgusting. You don't have to fit a mold, but most dudes don't dig that and sexual attraction is important if you're serious about a relationship.
@@anotherguyonthepc5 It's disgusting for you, not everyone thinks the same as you... sorry to break it down for you.
If you really like someone does it matter if they have green, purple, whatever hair? please.
Clearly, he didn't even like her in the first place and has the necessity to feel like he can control her choices.
@@MrSmileeey that's a lot of words just to say you're in denial, I've been through a similar situation and felt the same way. You gonna tell me if I went from my current lifter physique to a fatass and gave up that my wife/gf wouldn't have the same right to not be attracted to it? Get over yourself
@@MrSmileeey sorry for yourself.
Marriage is a bad business contract. Period.
No ring will plug a hole....
Facts, especially if you live in California.
Only beneficial to Women
@@ibetternotseeyousimp556 100% CORRECT!!
What about when you're sick in a hospital and now your gf/bf can't A. visit because they're not considered family, or B. can't make medical decisions for you because you're unconscious and there's no one else?
My wife & I have been together approx 18yrs but at the store we're still the couple holding hands, laughing, etc - admittedly, we lucked out!
You guys are part of the lucky few.
My first marriage anniversary is approaching and I'm still stoked that I married my favorite person. I can't wait to look back on 18 years .
@@losthope98 that's fantastic! I'm super happy for you both! YT is terrible about notifying me about replies but if you ever wanna hear my thoughts on relationship advice lemme know =)
Hope I can find that too
Splitting assets is stupid.
Smart men don’t get married now a days.
Neither do smart women.
They don’t live with women either
True
the truth!
@@ladybird491 Sure they do, let's not kid ourselves
You just killed marriage execution style. Most logical break down I've heard so far.
Was it executed like the spanish inquisition?
@@crashlee9585 probably the Moors invasion...
The Moors killed more people in two days then the entire Spanish Inquisition.
Serial killer. :)
It’s logical if you have his mindset. Not everyone feels that way. I have had horrible experiences in marriage, but I still believe in marriage and believe that it can add benefits to your life. Nothing is 100% good or 100% bad.
@@crazeekids9744 what value does it have for you to be married vs just in a relationship?
I'm 78 years old. Never married and never regretted it.
No kids?
Any kids?
@Tamás Orosz I was not implying that should've been the main reason
Nope. That honestly sounds lame. "I need to see a mini me in order to have value in life!" LoL sounds like you're living a boring life if you need that.
@Tamás Orosz Holy Shit! That is sooo cynical XD
Be careful Josh, she can still come back to take your money once you become successful. Dont let her know anything about you.
After the devoce and paper work she cannot take shit from him as long there no children involved
@@coreytheisen6948 Depends on the length of the marriage. Some courts leave the case open.
He was married in Finland, dumbass. The boy had nothing back then and his wife was the one supporting him because he was studying. Until the divorce was finalized she was still financially supporting him.
She didn't get one cent for marrying him also also didnt get one cent for divorcing him.
He has an older video about how he got married by the age of 19 with a Finnish woman.
This kind of narrative attracts a herd like audience but certainly it wasn't his experience.
@@coreytheisen6948 that's not true.
And how can that happen can u explain to me thx.?
Being forced to pay alimony is so degrading. Hardest thing I've ever had to do.
Why wouldn't you want to help support your kids? Are you that horrible of a person?
@@abeltesfaye_ you know nothing about me. I have my daughter 4 days a week. I pay child support AND alimony to a lazy deadbeat.
@@abeltesfaye_ Go and check your testosterone levels...
@@n3phalem754 lmao wut
@@cardsfanlv9371 k
Someone admitting they’re selfish- but not having kids- is not only totally cool, it’s admirable in my book. I can’t stand people who have kids then are self-centered and lousy parents. It’s like, don’t have kids if you’re not going to commit to doing it well
Me neither then innocent parents are loosing there kids to the state by lies falsifying court documents. And so much more . It happen to me and so many people I know personally . The system destroys relationships marriages turn the parent against the other parent turning the kids against both parents by a form of gaslighting narcissistic abuse and brain washing you do not even need a college degree to kidnapped people kids they hire cps workers that just got out of high school.
I think it isn't selfish to have kids
I can’t stand the parents who dress their kids in the same damn outfit they dress themselves in like those matching outfits lol 😂 reminds me of a Barbie doll I had where it’s little Barbie doll matched. Yuck 😂
Lol. What a low bar you've set.
I bet you're a loser that sets low expectations.
“It’s better to be selfish and recognized it than to be selfish and have kids”
Soooo true! Then you bully your kids because they get in your wasy
Exactly what happened to me...it is no fun growing up feeling and knowing your unwanted...
@@jaimisbb dude the same situation here, I can feel your pain being a unwanted seed is no fun 😩😩😩😥.
I hate kids and i wont have any
@@maedre9330 not a fan of other ppls kids...never wanted any but ended up having one... love my kid...shes awesome...she was an easy baby...still is at 15...well behaved..mannerful..but ya...i do not like other ppls kids lol
@@jaimisbb im happy for u. I really hate when other people act like its my duty to play or be interested in their kid. Wtf, hes not my kid
I'm 45 years old, never married, no children. I'm focused on myself. I love being single, staying single as long as I live. No alimony, no drama, no debts, no child support, no stress, no divorce, no divorce lawyers, don't have to worry about losing all of my assets.
sounds boring
@@JeriDro No at all
@@JeriDro True. Paying alimony is what makes men feel alive. Some even kill themselves over it because of just how alive it makes them feel you know? It's an amazing experience, you should try it sometime.
@@0verride881lol lol 😅😅
Marriage has never been about love. In fact the word love is no where to be found in the marriage contract
💯
Statistically with anonymous surveys it was found 75% of women married for money and not love. That should be enough to hesitate. That means 75% percent of the time they wont care about your happiness but what they are getting from you one way or another. They've decided they want someone to carry them through the rest of their life and that's it. Odds are they will cheat as well because they don't actually desire you, but what you do for them.
That’s what happens when you’re giving your attention/ soul to a female. Relationships do that to you, better off single!
Deep yep
Bro, this is probably the realest advice Ive ever Came across. So much Points to not fall in to these traps..
Man i stumbled on your channel yesterday and holy shit. Take it from someone who spends waay to much time on youtube.
You're probably one of the realest , honest, most genuine people out there. The way you honestly speak about everything while still being respectful. You're classy, respect
I just wanted to say that if you cohabitate with a woman, even if you are not married, you can be seen as married under the common household law and still lose all of your assets.
No kidding that's what I was going to say lol...its literally still the same but without your commitment being said outloud to people and having an expensive party... either way.
Also I think the commitment idea is nice it can definitely backfire and I definitely dont think it's for like 20 year olds lol but I think the commitment of being together and working through shit can happen married or not. Still nice to have the party though!
Yup, common law marriage is 12 years in California.
Only in specific states. If my state is even rumored to adopt such policies, splitting up on the spot.
Cohabitation agreement
Luckily my state does recognize it www.ncsl.org/research/human-services/common-law-marriage.aspx
I'm in my late 40's. I was married for about a decade, with 2 children. I can't say I married too young. I had a rough childhood with an abusive parent. After years of therapy I THOUGHT I was OK and knowing what I really want and need. It turned out wrong. I married an extremely abusive and narcissistic woman, which only came clear a couple of years after we got married.
It's been several years since we separated and I have been alone since. Not even a single date. I can't say I am too happy. I'm still a man, I'm not made out of stone. I see beautiful women out there and couples and it does pinch my heart. but I am very weary of getting into a relationship again, for the following reasons:
I've been so hurt and abused, something in me just broke and I feel it can't be fixed. I cannot bring myself to trust women OR myself again.
I'm a very sensitive person, I can't just DATE. Even in my 20's I rarely dated just for sex/fun, things need to have a meaning. The family unit had a very big value for me, and now it is broken. Forever. I believe not by my fault, but it still makes me feel ashamed. I know many divorced people go out on the market, date, *uck like crazy and have fun. That's just not me. I really can't.
I am very weary of bringing a new woman into my life, out of genuine concern for my kids. She'll have to get along with my children, maybe she'll have children of her own. I DON'T want to be one of those mixed families, I can't be a father to a child that isn't mine, I cannot take the place of his father and any potential woman cannot be the real mother of MY children.
This world has become very cynical and cruel. We live in a post-feminist society. Women today assert their power over men - which is fine to an extent - but when just a word to the police is enough to get you arrested and removed from your home for weeks without repercussions on false claims, when everything is replaceable, tinder dates are like consumer products... I don't want to be a part of that world. Men especially today are being dealt a very raw deal and stand a lot of lose for bringing a woman into their life.
I agree love is a beautiful feeling, and I've been there for a while. It is the elixir of life and probably the best thing you will experience in this life. But sometimes, things just get so broken you can't turn back. Any woman that comes into my life in the future will have to be a proper angel. Very slim chances of that happening and I'm not sure I even want that.
Sorry for the TLDR (but if you got here, you DID read - so thank you).
I'm sure many men here (and women) can relate.
A woman does not exist to be a man's "perfect angel" - she exists for herself and her own ambitions and dreams just like a man. Why should only men get to have the career and the control - I watched my mother growing up, she was the old frumpy housewife who had to do all the drudge work while my father controlled the money and her. I swore I would never be the Slave to any man. Women don't need sex like men do - we can be single and be fine. We aren't ruled and destroyed by our genitals.
@@christineb.8475 Dear Christine, you are making a very jarring inclusion about all men which is just wrong. Nobody should be ruled by nobody, man or woman.
Also, as a man who has been through all this mess above and otherwise, I have been totally alone for the past 3 years (and not looking nor dating at all, I'm done) , I occasionally enjoy female company which is strictly friendly and I only got intimate with one single woman in all this time, Once. My ears didn't fall off, I didn't go crazy and I havn't started climbing the walls. I am very much ok alone, you'll be amazed to know I am not 'led by my crotch' and there are tons of men like me out there . I have every good reason to label women as golddiggers and fickle - I don't. So by the same token, don't you make all men sex crazed 'dogs'. You know better. I wish us all peace of mind.
@@christineb.8475 girl stop. Just becuase your dad was an asshole doesn’t mean all men are. You bought into the cheap feminist lie to brainwash you into being some career woman and have no husband or family to grow old with. Learn to pick your men based on their CHARACTER and be the type of woman such a man would want in the first place. Successful caring and generous men would prefer to come home to their loving wives instead of an empty house that’s all run down with childrens or their own messes cause she’s gone working all day like him.
Good men want to take care of you as long as you are worthy in the traditional sense. *SELFISH EVIL MEN* are none of these things!
As a woman I see nothing wrong with that. I rather take care of my HOME AND FAMILY then slave away for measly dollars while my house falls apart cause i married my career instead. No thanks ! Btw, you can have both if u work remote but not all jobs can accommodate that so choose wisely.
Ma Che Cazz, I've examined your story and determined there's nothing wrong with you. You are completely normal.
@@christineb.8475 that was worth a LOL.
I've never wanted marriage nor children and people think something is wrong with me. I laugh because I'm happy and know what I want and don't want. Marriage and a family never appealed to me. I love women but I love my freedom more. Of course, people call me selfish or assume I'm gay. No, I'm straight, just don't want a relationship and enjoy freedom.
Can relate so much. My family pushes so hard and I'm like no way. Funniest thing is they are all divorced, almost the whole family, parents, grandparents etc and they all praise marriage and having kids... and being called gay by family just because of this shows their true colors really.
how dare you no boomer tsk tsk tsk
Duded Dude that makes absolutely no sense . So the people that have kids and have them taken away because there such bad parents aren’t failures ?
@Duded Dude Ok boomer
@Duded Dude Chance to be good? There'r zillions of galaxies in the universe and so is there the chance to be good on earth. U don't have to treat ur fuck results right to be the ultimate saint, rather quite the contrary. If u treat others good then u can be the one of the ultimate saints. Treating own descent good ain't generous enough, it's selfish.
"I can't even be with myself sometime", that hit the spot. Man, we are different race from different country, but feelings are mutual.
Only I see that comment as super racist?
Zaur Begiev even that is offensive to the internet ?
@@RobotBoyZzz Moron
Not racist at all. Seeing racists where there are non is becoming a bigger problem then racism itself.
Zaur Begiev yes
Her hair is pre-Karen. Once she gets comfortable, it will be her life's mission to make everyone else uncomfortable.
Stay single & stress free brother!!
After our daughter left the nest, I realized I had been so busy raising a family & my husband had been building his career, we didnt even know each other anymore!!! But like you said, divorce would have been difficult.
We found a MARRIAGE COACH! BEST thing ever! Not only did we reconnect, we learned more about each other & ourselves! We had our 33 wedding anniversary this past fall ♡♡♡
How is a coach different from a counselor?
@@zergslayer69 well we went to counseling & they didnt do anything just listened. Our coach had is sit knee to knee & talk. Then we had to repeat what we heard. You'd be shocked to the difference. She gave us weekly exercises to do, like making lists for each other, the good, the bad & the ugly. Our first date, I remember sitting at Applebees for over an hour talking about the weather. We weren't allowed to talk about the kids, grandchildren or work.
She really taught us communication skills♡ And I think that's where alot of relationships go wrong. We still use those skills & last fall had our 33 anniversary. Being married isnt always easy.
@@jdbfortney congratulations ☺️
I think marriage needs change according to the person’s stage of age.
Being married after 50 is different than being married in your 20s.
In your 20s you have so much to explore and is hard to find compatibility with someone else. After 50 you want to relax and companionship is important.
That's great! Happy for you! :)
Whenever I want to get depressed I come here. You never fail me! Thanks man!
Same here
This guy right here giving me mental stability for days
@@darkbrowniris9643 🤣
LMAO!!😂
You should be given the congressional medal of honour. 🤣
Thanks !!!
Lived together for 20 years, had 2 kids, THEN got married - still together 20 yrs later.
Nice👍
Awesoome
You broke the game
@@melodylocklin5608 you actually believed the story?
@@betht840 no but it sounds good
I don't know why everyone thinks they have any right to ask "why" about anything you do.
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Divorce is so ugly and marriage is too easy to get into. I do remember sitting in my bedroom thinking......is this it....is this it? Truth is, spouses are hard to find and most people are not for you. Being human is strange.
R. Lucas so strange.
@@Midnight_Rain_Wolfgang-Telos Speaking of strange 😘
Damn I just read this and thought of this and its very strange that I want to do human anatomy how our brains are really wired as in nature not man made
I think he’s made excellent points. It is difficult to maintain your independence and maximize your potential when you feel obligated to compromise your aspirations. Marriage isn’t for everyone especially if you don’t care about having kids. Happiness and self-fulfillment is not achieved in the same way for everyone. You do you.
There’s no reason to involve government in ur intimate life
Except if you're a communist 🤣👌🏻
Naw Fam have you ever heard about Tax Deductions? If you find your actual soul mate I say go for it, but maybe that’s just because I’ve seen marriages that actually work in my own life
if you plan on having kids or expecting a woman to follow you here and there, I'd disagree. Otherwise, why marry?
@@DillonRust Is it really worth risking your entire life savings and a significant chunk of your future income for, at best, a few hundred dollars extra a year.
I understand this cynicism but dam it's depressing it has become like this.
yeah i was thinking the same thing. i can't argue that his points are wrong. But it's depressing and makes me lose hope lol
@@Nicole-rq8ix Women are guilty of this for the most part
@@robertoamarillas yup
Lol its never not been like this
@@SB-py5iu maybe, I have only been on earth for 30 years.
I will never get married, thank you for your thoughts.
Don't forget she has no responsibilities period. She cheat, men pays. She devorce you men pays. You have children and you are financially responsible but not her. It's a one sided deal.
Yep
I’ve known women that had to pay, it depends on the laws in your state.
@@hollyisalwayshopeful2688 That's the exception to the rule. Men rarely get the better/equal end of the stick. Family court prove it time and time again.
Recently saw a case where a man abused a lady for visa, there were blatant contradictions in his statements in the court and for his visa application and a few other contradictions and it was obvious that he just needed access to the children to extend his visa and he haf made no attempt to support them prior to that. Despite all that, the shit head tot away with it and still didn't have to support the children financially and got access to them to help him complete the fraud cycle he had started. The legal system in some places is a lot more fu**** than you'd anticipate. With so many loopholes, shit heads can abuse them and get away whilst wrecking up lives. These shit heads can either be men or women.
@@hollyisalwayshopeful2688 lmaoo 🤡
I was married almost 17 years. I'll never do it again
Yup. Me? 10 and then 7 also = 17.
god bless
10 years - also never again.
I haven't need married, but I'm not stupid.... I mean I won't do it.. If she wants to date, that's cool, have kids also cool... Marriage, no!!!
Sweet
PS: I actually haven't had a girlfriend for over 5 years and I'm super happy that I have my life sorted to a good extent..
The last girlfriend I had was kinda OK, but I hope that she found what she couldn't find in me...
Sweet
Keep well and be safe everyone!
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You are a smart guy. My boyfriend and I have agreed we don't want to get married because things are great the way they are. Several years in, we're still crazy about each other. We're older, so no worry about kids. We see all the benefits you listed of not marrying and are happy.
You are completely right dude. Marriage is broken
“She pulled a Britney Spears on me” 😂😂😂
ahahaha i was dead :D
Bro I spit out my drink when he said that haha 😂🙌
Pretty shallow. He never should have gotten married.
Achievement unlocked: The Red Pill.
😂
Exactly what I was thinking bro
Hooray!🤯🥳🥳🥳
Duuuuude what a savage i like it
Ahah ah))
I’m married with five kids. It’s expensive and stressful but I’d be an empty, depressed soul without them. You can have a good relationship without being married tho. I hope everyone finds happiness. Josh is an inspirational guy and I like him a lot.
You’d be depressed without them? How would you know? I’m sure if something bad happened to them of course you would. But you don’t know what life would have been like had you not had them. You don’t know what you don’t know.
@@alex124241 he knows that his love for his family keeps him going. And so he knows without that he would be empty.
I've been married for 27+ years...it's been challenging at times...but way worth it... and I'm a better person because Of my family.
Only because you have built your world around them. But if the world was yanked out from underneath your feet, you're a man, you would survive. You would survive for the sake of your children.
@@alejandropreciado1814 Good for him. We aren't all that way. I'm mid 40's and I never had kids and never ever had even a fleeting desire to have them. Do I feel empty for not having a kid? Nope, not at all. Do I fear growing old and being alone? Hell no. The saddest thing is watching people you've known your whole life dying off, or getting together with them and bringing shit back up that make you miss the past. I live for the here and now. The past is just the pain of knowing what's gone, and a reminder how much less you'll be able to do with each passing day. On a deathbed alone, the only person getting hurt then is just you.
I’ve always been blessed to miss that marriage bullet.. I look at how miserable people are being married, To always remind me what I’m not missing...
There was a time when I wanted a family and get married, not anymore. The game is toxic and will make men sick. I'd rather adopt a pet and she will give me more love than any woman.
Just don't try to have sex with the pet. That wouldn't be cool or legal.
ALL relationships with humans cause trauma, one way or another. It has been proven that pets make much better 'partners' - a pet owner's stress levels goes down, they feel loved, depression lifts, they feel safe, content, they feel appreciated, pets even affect one's health in a positive way - everything one dreams a partner will provide, but in real life doesn't...with humans there is ALWAYS a cost, drama, unfairness, heartache, etc....even if you really love the other person, the love is always unequal...one partner ALWAYS loves the other more....it is never equal. Pets love unconditionally, most humans don't.
@@lynette599 AMEN
Haha, just don’t get a Basenji if you’re really wanting it to love you more. I actually got my Basenji because I don’t like neediness and clinginess. Very independent dog. He can be affectionate at limiting times, which is perfect as I’m about cuddles and showing affection at about 2-5min tops.
You got it right, Bro.
im 38, making 150k year, netwroth 600k, drive 2011 camry with 222k miles. when someone tries to shame me, i simply say "why dont you mind your business". i dont care about being nice or peoples feeling. i dont wanna waste my time on this bs
People who are insecure have to make up for it in other ways. Often by showing off to others even if it costs them more than they can afford
I admire freethinkers like you 🙏
What do you do I'm about to graduate high school and trying to find the best career
You are doing well for yourself keep doing your thing!
You know, I've been married twice. I wouldn't do it again. Never ever.
Same!
Dam bro fucked up twice
Kids?
Why'd you do it the second time?
Twice?! Did he just say twice?!
Don't ever apologize for having sense. Less common than people like to think.
You made me realize why I look 33 when I’m 43. Not married. No kids. only my own inner struggles to deal with. 💜
I've seen a 60 yr old lady who looked young and was married 🤷♀️
@@pear1ycur1y83 east Asians doesn't count
@@vikumwijekoon3166 they're not asian. There's sucha thing as proper diet and if you know how to manage your stress, even better.
@@pear1ycur1y83 Either unicorn genetics or spending her husbands money to stay looking young to bang the pool boy...
@@sorryociffer your negative comment says everything about you people. Maybe you wouldn't meet such ppl if decided to change your outlook and be less toxic to yourself
Edit: btw someone who can manage their stress wouldn't be shitting on their husband. She was trying to get him to be on the same diet plan but he didn't want to so now he regrets it
I have been through 5 divorces with family. Most people need to find themselves before they even think about marriage. Most people have no idea who they really are inside. How do you find yourself? Time. Marriage was designed by lawyers for lawyers. It is a legal criminal organization.
You're sentence about finding yourself first, that's the key to everything, but nobody tells us this, nobody, and here we all are, dating, not even knowing who we are, putting on heirs, and learning the hard way
Not one or two, but five times! Surely you'd learn after divorce number 2. Unreal.
@@joebloggs619 I used to think people were stupid who get married divorced that many times; well it's not my call, maybe they are maybe they aren't.
But I stopped judging because I've known some very nice people who after 3 divorces said never again and then just dated until they died lonely and alone, and others who kept marrying divorcing and finally met someone they're happy to have married and it works for them, they've been together for couple decades and happy.
The problem with your comment, and I can say this because I used to think the same thing is, you believe that they should only get married X times because X is right and more than that is "unreal"..
The problem with that is there's the right X and then there's reality.
Reality is... everyone has their own path, and we don't know all the ups and downs ins and outs hurts and joys that shape someone to be the way they are.
I'm not telling you what to do, but I'll tell you I don't judge people who get married "too many times" anymore; they have their reasons, they might even be stupid, but it's not my call/business to label their choices unreal because we all make stupid decisions, but we decide to make a big deal out of some and act like others are totally fine.
These days with feminism, cancel culture, the decline and evisceration of manly men, the rise of manly women who are never happy/satisfied, it's a literal miracle anyone can stay happily married, to me that's unreal, whereas before I would have wholeheartedly agreed with you.
Not attacking you, just asking you to open your mind
For some finding themselves mean sleeping around until get bored 😆
Accurate
It's the fact that you look way better now than you did back then. Funny how freedom can change a man's life.
Now the question is, if he looked like this back then, would he be divorced?
Why ppl let go of themselves when they are married is the question...
I agree with completely
She's not yours. It's just your turn
I made the same mistake and also planned on never getting married (my GF is of the same mindset) but I'm getting older and have needed medical help that would have bankrupted me without insurance. Long story short I wanted to chase my dream but it meant taking jobs with no insurance the GF recommended we get married so she could add me to her insurance so after living together for 11 years we got married. We have been married for years and have no issue's but I think the key was we knew each other and didn't enter it with any plans on anything changing. So it worked for me but I wouldn't recommend marriage unless you have lived with your other for 8 or more years, unfortunately, marriage is often pushed by people that think you should get married before you even know the other.
Mike Leduc they are plenty of people who know each other 1 week to three months and knew they wanted to be together forever in marriage. 50 plus add years later still happily married.
It’s all about the connection between the two.
But you being with someone for that long to marry them is also inspiring I think. 🌟
Bro ngl your girl doesnt sound anything at all like the kind of woman that anyone here is talking about.
Mike Ledu, great your marriage worked. I'm in a similar situation you described. Met a wonderful woman its been less than a year but she is already talking about plans for marriage. I'm for a long lasting relationship, but I don't know about signing paper work to make it official
There's so many men in our generation opting out of marriage and family that being lonely when I'm older is of zero concern to me.
It will be a large amount of older singles....compared to the past
I'm 29 and going through a divorce now. I'd like to be in a long-term relationship, but it doesn't have to involve marriage. I'm with you. A lot of women don't want to be married anymore so I don't think that legally binding relationships will be the norm in the near future.
You mean, no longer the norm?
It’s not worth it as a man to get married, only a fool would make such a risk.
When my cousin got married it was obvious it was for all the stupid reasons. He immediately introduced into every conversation "Well my wife and I......" just to make sure that every last person he talked too knew that he was completely normal and married, just like them. He's divorced, and so are every single one of my friends that got married.
Bloody heck
@@animelytical8354 fokkin 'ell m8
I did the math and I only have one main friend out of 8 that's gotten married within the last 6 years that's remained married till this day. It's fkin ridiculous how people treat marriage like if its so significant/sacred and then in a year its over, laughable. Idk but people now date for a year and feel like they truly know somebody smh.
EDIT: Had to correct the timeframe it was actually shorter lol
@@UtdG01 were turning into kuntz
Do NOT donate your seed to any cause. Donors are being sued for "kid support" now.
🤦♀️
@@Eche888 ...it's true.
Lies
@@imtheprize ....Not lies. Tom Leykis did an extensive radio show about it already years ago. Look it up if you don't believe it.
@@theSword- sry my emoji was in regards to that happening, not you saying it. Sadboii times.
She straight up did the "bait and switch"
Always the female plan. Get your condom on, get in there and leave - quick
No, she was struggling with the relationship too, trying to figure out how to be an individual and be a couple is very hard.. Most men grow beards without asking their partner for example..
Josh was very fair, but notice how he got defensive when thinking about a woman controlling his money, but hated the idea of a woman going out and spending money the way she wanted.
@@indy2316 No woman will EVER control my money.
@@mikeking683 Is she allowed to spend her money?
@@indy2316 Yes. After she pays some bills.
One thing about this guy, is that he's not "perfect," but compared to a lot of people who bash him, he's actually going through personal growth.
I married two of my friends once in a custom ceremony they asked me to perform.
They made their marriage vows by saying that they'd choose each other every day.
It was a beautiful rite of passage that was about keeping the commit fresh.
They just celebrated their 10th.
So your in a polygamous relationship huh?
@@funkyguy99 no he married them, he was not in the marriage he certified their marriage
@@funkyguy99 gotta read bro.
I feel the exact same. I don't know why it bothers so many other people in my life that I am so against marriage just for me. I was married, my husband passed away in a accident on the job in 2015, making me a 30 year old widow with children. After that, I srsly will never get married again or want to be married again..and if that's ok for me then no one else should care. Not all women or men need that piece of paper to be loyal or to be happy with the same person for many years.
Sorry for your loss. Sending you hugs from Scotland x
Sorry for your loss. Also sending hugs from Scotland
@@animelytical8354 simps on the loose
vgnhdhe that word lost all meaning at this point.
@@NotMarkKnopfler awe thanks I appreciate it, people can be jerks online and it's good to see some empathy every once and a while. Hugs back from Oregon🤗
The thing with fairytale movies is that they only show the couple's lives up to the point where they get married. But they don't show the things that come after lol. Relationships are not only fairytales...
@Sezumi Hey, what about Shrek? Their marriage isn’t perfect and they had out of control triplets.
Marriage propaganda.
Underrated comment
STAY RED PILL MY FRIEND!
Can't tell you how many times I didn't have the time to explain these points to people when they bug me about not wanting kids. I'll just send them this video next time it happens.
Their is nothing wrong or weird about not wanting to have kids. Especially with the mayhem going on now. I have 3. We enjoy them. However definitely see both sides of the coin
Hi five 🖐 im the same. Dont want em
I am married and don't have any of his problems. You sound damaged like him.
Exactly. Got divorced years ago and dont regret it....without going into detail I got stabbed in the back multiple times. Everybody says you better get married again....um no thank you. When stabbed next time I can run not stay and go through court
@@ladybird491 your saying that because your from another generation of boomers....this a new age and if you don’t see somethings wrong with society then your sleeping...dating for was easier and commitment but everything changed since feminism and so on
Dude, I am actually concidering breaking up with my GF after this video. I do not want kids and do not want to marry. My GF is pressuring me for both. We are 6 years together.
You know what to do.
You should. Let her be free to find someone who wants what she wants so she can be. happy. Only then will you be happy to find someone who wants the same as you do.
I was in your exact shoes, we broke up
I was also in your shoes 6 years in, pressure to marry, got engaged, I called it off, she hung around for another 6 years... now I’m single, and dating multiple women and living my passions, break it off man
Run Forest Run.
You're smart bro, marriage is suicide for men today. My dad has been married to my mother for 34 years, I watched my dad bust his ass day in and day out working to support his family. My mother was never happy with herself, she ends up divorcing my dad and took 60% of what he owns. She also takes half of his pension and she gets 4 of his houses that he worked so hard to gain throughout his time saving and working as a contractor. She divorced rape the hell out of him, never seen my father so broken ever in my life.
Not only that my college bro just got divorced, not only does his wife keep the house, the kids, child support, and alimony. She also moved the man she was sneaking around with into the home. So as long as she dont get remarried, she can still collect alimony, while she can sleep with any man she wants. So my college bro is financing her, while she has another man in his house around his two kids. Until family and divorce court is fair for men, then its fucking stupid as a man to get married.
I am a single father raising a daughter, the only blessing is the fact that my baby mom give our daughter to me without a fight and I have full custody and haven't heard from her ever again. Joshua you are smart bro!
A good friend and coworker of mine has parents that are married but hate each other. Her mom has a boyfriend and her dad refuses to divorce because he knows that his wife will just screw him over with alamoney.
Never getting married, never having kids.
If I'm dumb enough to get married I'm signing a prenup.
Edit: I just won't get married period.
looool
Good let them illegalls replace you
@@petartisma8609 Then why don't you step up to get ramrodded by the divorce courts you simp?
@@petartisma8609 By illegals you mean natives?
😂😂😂
A rose is red, just like how
marriage is dead.
I never want to get Married again either and having children is heartbreaking and exhausting
THE REALEST COMMENT EVER!!!!
I made the mistake of getting married way too young, but luckily I didn't get trapped with any kids, although she did try to make me pay child support for her 1st husbands 2 kids with her.
Long term relationships are hard though. It’s not really a ‘marriage’ issue. People are complicated, have needs, change in so many ways, and go through huge life altering events. As time goes on, it is always going to be a grind. Also, if you are going into a long term relationship thinking that you are not close enough to share your money, there’s no hope. It’s good to realise that you’re selfish, but really, that’s the main reason your relationships are going to fail. You HAVE to put the other person ahead of you at least some of the time (and expect that in return).
Convenient that women don't pay alimony so they simply don't have that financial slavery expectation.
"then she pulled the britney spears on me" XD
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 had to get a knew pair of pants after this comment.
Lol yes that was funny ....how did she go from blonde bob to purple and shaved...the phrase ' youve changed' does not cover it. More like who the hell are you?
it’s a major turn off, most girls look like 12 year old boys shaven
Yeah, and then what are you supposed to do? How are you supposed to respond? "It's my hair. I have the right to do what I want with it." Well, yes, you do, but it shows how much you care about my input. Loud and clear.
Long story short, Fluke married a nut job.
I'm beginning to think this dude doesn't want to get married... or have kids.
One year later, Josh marries HR Lady! 🤣
tskjesusfreak he has a girlfriend 😂
@@Tanya-yu6mf have you missed the video about her cheating? I did not see the HR lady videos yet
nice plot twist lol
hr lady probably already married
@@enriqueshockwave8869 oh yea, cuz that stopped every affair in the past.....
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You're not selfish at all Josh. You're an amazing person and your decisions should be respected
You've learned what it took me two marriages to figure out.
I'm at zero marriages and I'm already there, I learn from others mistakes quick. It's a horror show out there
@@anotherguyonthepc5 Exactly, smart man. It's good to learn from your mistakes but even better to learn from others mistakes moreso.
My parents never legally got married. Yeah they had a party but other than that they have been together for 20 plus years and file taxes on their own. Because of this I never really been interested in marriage either lol
Real love needs no papers.
@@myvideosetc.8271 Unless you live in a state with Common-Law Marriages.
eddieisfiction it really depends. Many states don’t have Common Law marriage, like my state (WA)
Your parents exercised the ability to think for themselves, congratulations.
Non state marriage does exist. Just have to be on the same page of the exit strategy
Bro, I’m with you. Being married is a scam. Marriage last 49% of the time. That means the other 51% is out there and you are messing out.
and is very probable that half of the 49% are not happy
I understand your feelings. I’ve been married 20 years and I still enjoy being married. Everyone is different.