I used your method almost 2 years ago with my little boy when he was 4 months old and it worked sooo well with him! He was stubborn but I stuck it out and it was the best decision of my life. Now I share your video with anyone who asks how to get their child to sleep through the night. ❤️
So pretty much in short, feed them, put them in their bed, let them cry for a bit, come back in and shush them, leave again, keep doing this until they sleep
I did this, but never looked at it as sleep training. Just knew they needed their sleep, and so did I. I love that you, and others have a name for this.
Hi Elle, I have been following you for a year now and I just wanted to say a big THANK YOU under this video that I watched when my firstborn arrived in March 2018. Your advice worked like magic! He is almost 3 months old now and has been sleeping a solid 10 to 11 hours every night for the past 2 months. He is a happy and content baby 😊 Thank you so much again for sharing your life with us. You are an inspiration. Love from France
Hi, I'm a mom to 3 now young adults (born in 1995, 1996 and 2001). What you say in your video is exactly what I did and I feel completely in line with you. Children of any age need to know "who is the boss" - not meaning dominating them, but LEADING them. And this is even true with my 2 girls, aged 22 and 20 today: they're not yet economically autonomous so their parents still have their say about some topics in their lives. Also, our youngsters RESPECT me because they feel that I'm able to stand up for my own needs, too. And they are able to RESPECT THEMSELVES. Well done, keep on track!
Thanks Elle! Your video convinced my wife to tough it out and give our 9 month old a try. Only took less than 30 min. I was in the room doing my thing. Wife was downstairs. This beats holding the baby for 2 hours until my wife's arms and back break + sleep deprivation.
I just tried my first time sleep training my 8 month old baby tonight using this videos tips. It took exactly 18 min with a pick up to comfort in between and it's only going to get better. For those saying you shouldn't let your baby cry, it's only for a few minutes at a time for 5 days probably less. You should know if your baby really needs attending to. I suppose it's really just routine. Best video ever! Definately sharing this to family and friends.
Best video ever! Our son started sleep regressions around 4 months after sleeping the through the night with no problems. We suffered through 6 weeks of sleeping a couple of hours a night and we were both at our wit's end. We research about dozen videos and liked this one the most. 9 MINUTES!!! IT TOOK 9 MINUTES OF LETTING HIM CRY AND HE SLEPT THROUGH THE NIGHT!!! That was March 2017 and I can count on one hand the number of nights we've had to get up with him since then! Thank you so much, Elle!
Sleep training night one, it's so hard hearing him cry but 8 months without a whole night of sleep has me needing to do this for both of us. Thanks for your tips. I used it to keep busy between going in to check on him ❤️ Finally, he's sleeping. Night one....
I implemented this right from the get go when my baby was 4 days. The 5 hour sleep stretch is the key in those early days. It totally worked! Now my baby is almost 5 months and whenever there is a sleep regression due to teething, travelting etc i redo the sleep training steos and everything falls back in place. Thank you Elle!!
This was great, I have been researching "how to put your baby to sleep" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Ever heard of - Qeysaiah Baby Bangka - (search on google ) ? Ive heard some interesting things about it and my mate got amazing results with it.
This was great, I been tryin to find out about "baby to sleep on their own" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Ever heard of - Qeysaiah Baby Bangka - (do a search on google ) ? Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my m8 got amazing success with it.
This was great, thanks, been searching for "getting baby sleep through the night" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about - Qeysaiah Baby Bangka - (do a google search ) ? Ive heard some decent things about it and my work buddy got great success with it.
We are going to start sleep training our 11 month old tonight! Super nervous but we all need it!! She wakes up about 4 times a nights!! So ready to get our sleep back! I'm super nervous!!! But I'm going to stay strong!
Thank you so much! The 1st night was okay, but *spoiler alert* nights 2 & 3 were hard and apparently that is common. Last night, night 5, he slept over 9.5 hours! If it wasn't time for me to get up for work and feed him, I'm sure he would have slept even longer! Thank you, thank you, thank you!!
Thank you so much for this video Elle. Tried this on my 8months old baby who wakes up 4-6times to breastfeed overnight and wakes up at every slightest noise.Well, all that is in the past now😄 I am super excited to say he now sleeps for straight 10-12hrs without waking up for feeds from the 2nd day. He cried so much on the first day though but just a little on the 2nd day. It took him just 2days to get used to it. God bless you for sharing this with us😘😘
Starting this today! My 2 1/2 year old has never slept in her own bed and my 9 month old still nurses all night long. After a week of 3-4 hours of sleep, I’m fed up and want them in their own beds and rooms asap! Thanks for the tips!
You said it best! It's a very LOVING thing to do, to teach your child to sleep. Good sleep is so important for health and helps everyone in the family.
Thank you!!!! Your video helped me so much. I was finally ready for my baby to stop sleeping with us, but I didn't know how to do it. I followed your instructions and IT WORKED!! I'm so happy. He is finally sleeping through the night. (He was nursing about 6 times at night) Thank you!! Thank you!!
Omg my daughter is 3months and i totally know the struggle of waking up 6times a night!!! I am really hoping this works, im gonna try it starting tonight!
Thank you thank you thank you for this video! My daughter was sleep trained from the very beginning and then teething started around 6 1/2 months. She would only fall asleep with me in the bed. We resorted to letting her sleep in our bed because we couldn't fight the fight anymore. Bad idea! She's now 8.5 months and fully trained in 3 days! She doesn't even wake up at 3am for her night feed! We have our bed back and couldn't be happier. Sharing this video with all my co-sleeping mommy friends!
This is totally on point! My son Kieran is 8 weeks old and we have him napping and going to bed for the night at the same time as his older sisters who are 2.5 and 1.5. He still wakes a few times at night but goes right back to sleep after feeding. Sleep training has been a life saver for us... There is no way I would survive having 3 kids without everyone getting sleep. Love your channel and your family! :-)
Thank you for this video. I originally sleep trained my baby and he was sleeping by 9 weeks old but then he started teething a few weeks later and he stopped sleeping through the night and I've been rocking him to sleep since... he's 10 months old... This just encouraged me and I'm going to sleep train him again! Thanks a bunch!
It’s worked!!!!!!! My 10 month old daughter who was breastfed would wake up 5-6 times a night just to nurse for like a minute and then I would have to carefully lay her back. First day, (her 2nd nap in the afternoon) she cried for about 30-45 minute off and on. She fell asleep and it lasted for 10 minutes. When it was time for bed, she cried 3 minutes!!! My husband and I couldn’t believe it! She woke once that night at 1am and cried for about 2 minutes and then it stopped..I went in and checked and she had put herself back to sleep and didn’t wake up until 8:30 when I went in and woke her up. All naps on the second day she cried a MAX of 3-5 minutes. 2nd night she slept all night long! I am amazed! Thank you for making this video!
This saved my life! No joke, i was going nuts. Thanks for saying it’s ok to pick them up. So many sleep training techniques are sooo against that and it was making sleep training harder for us. Took us a good week and now our bedtime routine went from the most dreaded part of my day to my absolute favorite!
You have some really good advice and some not so good. The science behind baby cry is proven and it can actually change their nerve system, the way they bond with people later in life, their trust (or lack of it) to people, etc. I have 3mo old and I've never let him "cry out". Babies don't cry for no reason. They're helpless and they need you. Yes, there are times when moms feel frustrated, but noone said it was going to be easy (at least not anyone who had a child). A baby is a little person, an individual, who a mother needs to get to know and need to learn their signs and it takes time and A LOT of effort. Good luck to everyone who have troubles teaching their baby to sleep. Having a video nanny system may help you a lot to see how your baby sleeps and react accordingly.
I know this is an old video but I am expecting and want to be prepared from day one on how to get my baby to sleep. I have friends and family who have children who still do not sleep well throughout the night and this mama will NEED sleep, just like we all do. This video has been the absolute best at explaining what I plan to do, I just didn't know how to go about it. thank you!!!
Thank you for not being "ditchy!" so many mom's get on one side of the ditch or the other and I'm also a firm believer in taking bits from every philosophy and doing what works for each individual child. I first found you with your "10 tips for a natural labour" and now I am slowly watching all your other videos. It is just so refreshing to find this video. Thanks. :)
I think it's great that you are encouraging parents to teach their children good sleep habits through your methods!😊 It's beneficial not only for the parent but also for the child. With my first, I read The Baby Whisperer, and she is a wonderful sleeper to this day. She falls asleep within a few minutes of laying down and sleeps soundly and peacefully through the night. She is 8 years old now and wakes up with a positive attitude every morning, and I don't have to make her wake up as she willingly gets up. Now, having more experience and knowledge from teaching my first child, my one month old lays down quietly and quickly falls asleep for each nap and at night for his bedtime. He also only wakes up once through the night if I haven't tanked him up enough throughout the day or he is going through a growth spurt. His 1st cluster feed is at 8 pm then his last one is at 10 or 11, depending on how long I want to stay up or spend time with my partner that evening. Then, he sleeps until 7 am. Unless, like I said, he needs that one more feed because of a growth spurt. I love it because it will quickly and increasingly get better. At three months, last feed is at 7 and bedtime 7:30 with still one dream feed and wake up at 7. Then, at 7 months, bedtime is 7:30 with no dream feed and wake up is 7. I love this program and so do my kids!!!! Yay for us understanding the importance of quality sleep and teaching our kids, lol!😊
I swear I've watched this video like 10 times :D :D We haven't let him cry, but just a night time routine has really helped our baby to get to sleep and stay asleep.
This video was a life saver for my first!! She slept 12 hours a night from 3 months on. Now my second is 6 months and sleeping terribly... realizing that I needed to revisit this, because I'm doing so much wrong lol. I did newborn part with not letting her nap more than 3 hours in the day and she did sleep better then. But now I nurse her and pick her up through out the night. The last few nights regressed even worse and she woke up at 12pm last night and every other hour after... I'm over it! Can't wait to get her back on track!
Thank you! My 7.5 month old cannot sleep without me holding her and I'm SO over having her sleep in my bed. I'll try this this week! They only obstacles are that we all share a room, so letting her cry it out might wake up my toddler. We'll see how it goes!
just found this video today by accident but I feel it's God leading me to teach my little man to sleep through the night lol I jest but in all seriousness it's time and this is one of the best videos I've come across and starting today we are trying it. I have to say I'm shocked by some of the negative comments - everyone is entitled to their opinion but to "lose respect for" etc because someone wants to train THEIR child differently from how you train yours wow just WOW! I 100% know this will work for my child (and all children really) because I believe children thrive in discipline and schedule so here is to a perhaps tough week and full night sleeps from next week. thanks for the video you dedicated have a new subbie in me
Wow this is so great, I was just going crazy. My first child was so easy to get to bed, the second not so much. Following your advice the first night was rough but it has gotten easier.
Thank you so much for this... my 5 week old is slowly stretching out her 5 hour sleep block (which I moved to night time following this video, weeks ago ) by herself due to not letting her sleep too long during the day. Last night she slept for 7 hours !!!!!
I love this video. my son is 19 months old and I'll be weaning him from the breast in the next few days, he falls asleep while breastfeeding, and I've been looking for a sleep training method that it's not the cry it out method. he is a great sleeper and on most night he will sleep through the night, sometimes he wakes up because he learned a new word(s) and wants to talk or something but he is mostly a great sleeper, let's hope this helps with the falling asleep part
I CANNOT thank you enough for this video 😍 I followed a feeding schedule for my daughter in order to also help with sleep training and we both hated sticking to the clock, just didn’t work. I’ve had the hardest time finding the feed on demand yet ALSO sleep train. So thank you! So glad to see it can be done!!
wow i watched this video for my newborn but turns out he taught himself. he sleeps exactly all the times you mentioned. im currently up right now for his 4am feeding and he went to bed at 11 by himself
New subscriber here! I did the exact same thing with both of my daughter's one was sleeping through the night at 3 months and the other at 7 weeks (we only needed to sleep train when she learned a new skill, especially rolling over!). I think the best tip you gave was for people to find the difference in their baby's cry, it is so true! Great video!
New comment for an old video😋 my daughter isn't awful about getting a good night sleep; most nights. She's turning 3 months today. My situation is tough as we have another one under one as well. She's great but he us not and he's 11 months. I've been doing a few of the things you've said already but not all. I will definately be trying everything on both babies. Thank you so much for the advice I'm wishing myself luck 😂😅💜
Hi Elle, I found your video really helpful and inspirational. My LO is almost 7mths old and I am currently on day2 of training him to fall asleep on his own...from newborn loved being rocked over so I was sure he would not do this however he has now put himself to sleep EVERY nap and nighttime and I am so proud as he is getting too heavy for me to rock over. He was up twice through the night the first night so hopefully that will improve over time. Many Thanks
Last night Alexander slept through the night for the first time ever! He stirred at 5.15 but put himself over again I never left my bed which is a first! I'm nervous but excited to see how he does tonight. Can I ask how long I would do this training in his own bed before it would be ok for him to nap elsewhere I spend quite a bit of time at my mums house but have stayed in our house so far to put him in his own bed each nap.x
My baby had more than one 5 hour stretch of sleep until she was like 4 months. She still slept through the night ( from 1 month ) 12 hours. I never woke her up during the day. To me a baby's sleep shouldn't be disturbed on purpose. And needing you for confort is still a need. I peacefully teach my babies to sleep but never let them cry it out. This is just for all the other out there that want to do it peacefully but still want to sleep. It is possible, but it takes longer than a week, and there will be regressions. But that's parenting...
GOD bless you mightily for sharing the great encouragement, wisdom, insights, your experience in what has worked for you and what hasn't worked in sleep training your precious little one(s). We are first time parents with a 6 weeks and 5 days old -beautiful boy at the time of posting this, early in the morning of 01/25/17. Thanks so much!! My wife and I just decided to buckle down and dive in to start implementing the "business only" care within an hour of watching your video, and we're believers! It works!! I timed that screaming cry and soothed him for about 5 minutes after he went for about 8 or so almost at the top of his lungs, which was tough to listen to, but kept the interaction and 5 minute soothing I mentioned "business only" as you encouraged. With only one false start he self -soothed on the second attempt! Praise GOD! We've also been working to establish the feeding schedule as taught by Babywise, and we're now so encouraged by the hybrid approach we'll end up having; using some of Babywise's and your insights ... We're certainly not naive that baby will challenge the new regimen, however we'll keep chugging up the mountain!! So grateful and blessed. What a beautiful and precious family you have by the way! You're blessed and highly favored! [Pardon my excitement! I see and envision incredible, energy- filled, revived and refreshed days ahead! 😄😅😀 Return of some sanity and normalcy!! 🎉🎊🏇 Wohooooo!! Praise JESUS!! This was divinely orchestrated that we watch and land on your videos and your channel today, and we subscribed!👍👊🙌] Have blessed remainder to your week with the family. Thank you!! Don't stop encouraging and uplifting others!! Don't mind or give a thought to the naysayers! GOD will greatly increase this and HE's super proud and pleased by your precious and beautiful heart! > 1 Corinthians 15:57-58, Judges 6:2-16
Hi Elle. I have doing this training to my 5 month baby, and she has made tremendous progress, being able to sleep all by herself. The only thing to notice is that she still wakes up once every night, around 1am, and cries a lot for at least 20-40 mins. I suspect it is hunger, bit I dont know if it is counterproductive to feed her in the middle of the night. I appreciate your comments! Thanks
Great tip! Thank you, I am going to try this asap. My baby is almost 8 months old and not sleeping through the night. She normally goes to bed at 10pm, then ill feed her around 12/1 then at one point fduring night, I am so ready to have more restful sleeps at night.
Hi there, I just wanted to thank you for your video and advice. I think I watched it about 50 times and from all my research on sleep training your "method" is the simplest and most effective (I've tried the chair one but it didnt really work for us). I've started sleep training my 8mo old boy and I started by making small changes in the bedtime routine (Ive noticed that if I fed him dinner too late he wouldnt settle to sleep very well) anyway DAY ONE put him down at 7pm as usual and he slept through after a total of 25 min crying (10 min- 15min). I did the "business check", calmed him down (in my case I picked him up but put him back in the crib once he calmed down - but completely awake) :) repeated my key words and left the room. I did this in two intervals and mentioned before. Then I went to bed and when I woke up I realised he had slept through. He woke up early but I am counting as victory because he didnt wake up three or four times (or 1 time for 3 hours) as he used to. DAY TWO - nap 1 and he cried for 10 min. T E N M I N U T E S !! I know it might be "beginners luck" but I will stick to the schedule I set for us and I will come back in a week to let you know. So far things are working, I'm amazed how afraid I was for no reason, he cried a lot less than I expected. Now I am expecting things to get more difficult but consistency is key. Thank you I, like you also choose sleep! I am a better mum when I am rested. xxx to you and Forde!
I don't even have kids yet, hopefully soon, and when the time comes (God willing), I am SO coming back to this video! I feel like this is a sound way to go about it, and like you said, this is what worked for you and Forde. May not work for everyone, but it might be worth a shot! Excellent video, madam :)
My mum has four children me being the youngest and she has told me pretty much the exact same thing. Loving your videos! In many ways they're very inspiration :) Forde is going to be an absolute gentlemen when he grows up!
Hi, thank you for the video! I have done exactly the same way with my baby from the beginning and my baby also sleeps very well and through the night. It is very nice to see that this kind of training works because I did it on my own instinct but I never haven't had any references to it, so thank you for putting it all together in one video. I will defenetly share it to another new moms as they ask for advice!
Omg thank you for this video! I've been losing so much sleep with my little one, it was causing stress for both my husband and I. I haven't begun training yet, but this is super useful!
Excellent tips....It's great that you said you kinda combined all the methods. I feel the same although I have 4 kids and they all shared the bed with me and I never had problems. I know that doesn't work for most of you but it worked great for me. Mine were 4 and 10 years spaced out so there never was 2 babies sleeping in my bed at the same time.
I am pregnant right now. And the sleeping routine is my biggest fear. I truly loved your advice and I will try my best to follow them because you seem to know what you are talking about.
you know I saw this video when I as pregnant and I've been using a lot of ur techniques with my baby from the get go. he ll still nurse in the night but I'm getting a decent amount of sleep. the business feed one lol yep I just nurse Bo talking or any.. burp n he's back to sleep .. he's almost 3 months old now. he likes his sleep too.. just that I can't get him to nap well in the day time.
Some thoughts.. 1)Regarding "babies have one 5 hour sleep stretch from birth", my son's was pretty close! He would sleep one 4-hour chunk at night and one 4-hour chunk during the day. Other than that it was always just 40 minutes to an hour & a 1/2 all throughout the day and night. But we breastfeed so that may have something to do with his waking. 2) once he hit about 3 months old, he started screaming bloody murder every night at 7 p.m., for the simple reason that he was tired and did not understand 'if I just close my eyes and relax, sleep will come'. He's 1 year now, and still nurses "part-time" and wakes 2 or 3 times during the night only very quickly ("business" like you said) and right back to sleep. Until he's done nursing I don't really want him to sleep through the night because then I have to get up and be bothered with pumping so that I don't go too long without nursing and affect my supply. I often wonder - once he weans, if he'll have a problem sleeping through the night. Only time will tell! Maybe I'll come back and let you know :)
Loved this video - very logical and not too teacher like! Our bubster is 8 weeks in a few days and we are going to start trying this - wish us luck! Thanks for the great advice and tips xx
I did with my twins and it worked. I started when they were 2 weeks old. I always put them to bed at 7 pm. We never had a problem. When they got up, I just feed them and put them back down. I never played with them.
I put commitment and I definitely start to sleep training my 1month old baby boy after seeing this video. At 2 weeks old I also went to see a doctor and check if he feel sick or something might gone wrong with him, but the doc just said: i need to teach him to soothe himself and he is completely healthy and a very strong baby. But as he is my first son, I couldn't do it (only first night only) and after a while now he become more and more unstoppable, Every night at the same time around 10:30-11pm, he starts crying and nothing I do or anyone do Would soothe him, no matter what I do. I try to sing him a song, feed him (though he is still hungry, but he is not), check his diaper, or maybe the room temperature is too hot or too cold, put him down or even if I hold him he is still crying. I have no idea what he want. Here I come to the point that no one can sleep at night. When the night come, I feel worried and always pray for him to give me a good night sleep for once. The least we could sleep at night is 30min and max 3h (10-15min here and there, total 3h. There's time I alway faint during the day because the lack of sleep and rest). The problem is not only about my sleep, I love my son, really, but when I look at him, I feel that he is tired too, he couldn't sleep, his brain keep functioning, at this stage he is suppose to sleep, feel happy and have a good rest. It's not good for him to stay awake and sleep 10-15min and wake up and sleep again, it's just a mess. So I make up my mind again after watching this video, I have to sleep train him immediately. It's for both of us. For him to get a good sleep at night and for me to have time to rest after a whole day with housework + with him. Today is the second night, my mom is a bit mad at me after I left him cry it out. But what can I do, I have to watch him all day, do all works, my husband often traveling away for his office works, rarely at home. There was a time when I feel so sad seeing my own son and got scared of him because I am so new at this and I have no idea what to do. :/ I pray for this to work. I know all babies are different but I really want my baby to have a good night sleep liked others and even he does not sleep much at daytime, it's okay for me too. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Ka Dyna did it work? My 3 months baby is just like yours, i got scared every night because i dont know whats wrong im doing everything im supposed to do as a mother and it gets me frustrated to hear him cry and with thisw difficulties for sleeping
Thank you for the tips! I am now starting out sleep training my 2 month old baby. And I want to do this now. I dont want her sleeping with me till she's 6 months then it will just get harder to get her to sleep on her own
Braver than me. 4 kids with the 5th on its way and I have never had to sleep train a single one. They are also awesome sleepers. letting them cry was never something I could or would do.
I literally started sleep training our son when he was about to be 9 months and now he's going to be 10 months in 5 days and he's been sleeping in his own crib in his own room and he's been doing great and I did the cry-it-out method obviously not to the point of torture however I can tell by his cries that it was just for my attention because he was so used to it. First three months of his birth we were co-sleeping because I was feeding on demand and it was just easier for me for being a first-time parents it help me sleep and then when I physically couldn't sleep like that anymore after the 3-month. I moved him to his crib and I was still waking up in the middle of the night nursing him but he wasn't waking up quite as often because he was finally sleeping in his own space. Then of course at almost 9 months we moved into his own room and as soon as that happened it was sleep training time and he's been sleeping through the night for quite some time however is just nice that my husband and I get to have us time without having to tiptoe in her own room. And everyone get a white noise machine for your child that is a lifesaver. Now we have a second baby on the way it is our baby girl and I'm watching this video because I want to start training her as soon as possible I feel that I'm more comfortable now to do so. Thank you for this video.
It is a general sugestion to start to sleep train most babies around 3 to 4 every baby is different as when they just new it important they know your there for them
Elle! Hands down, this IS the best sleep help video I've found on TH-cam! My little guy is almost 20 weeks old and we've just begun trying your sleep training techniques because the hubs ad I need our sleep in order to function. Zombie-status no more! Honestly, it's very difficult to hear him cry, which I'm doing right now as I type this, but I've gone in to check on him every 5-10 minutes. Yes, he's giving me that same look that Forde did to you... "HOW DARE YOU..." LOL Anywho, thanks again!
Yay! Haha stay strong. You'll get through it. At 20 weeks it's possible he needs nighttime feedings still. If he's still crying after 10 mins it may in fact be hunger. If by 6 months he's still crying at night it's time to introduce solids and phase out the night feed!
Oh how I needed to hear you tell me to "stay strong" today! I'm praying that our night is a restful one. Typically, he wakes up at 2am & again at 5am to nurse. The problem is that after the 5am feed ready to party. Well, mama is about to stop all that. :) Yes, we will start introducing solids at 6 months to help phase out night feedings. Do you, by any chance, have a list of which solids to introduce first? Also, what's the purpose of waking him up again for the 10pm feeding since he's already in night-night land? Thanks, Elle. You're officially part of my "Mommy-Tribe!" :D
We are working on this same exact thing. However we are trying to skip the evening nap... maybe we should try to skip the morning nap instead.. then do his two hour long nap.. then he'll do his normal 8:30 to bed... would you suggest skip morning or evening nap. I think he is ready to just skip it. Last night he did just fine without an evening nap but then woke up wide awake at 3 am. He's now 9 months. We kept him in our room until 7months and after his open heart surgery. Otherwise we would have started this way sooner!
Thank you I’m struggling with the middle of the night wake up. Going to try the all business method tonight. No one coming in the room with mommy and daddy at 3 am
I’m currently doing cry it out method and I’m on day two and it worked great me and my spouse let him cry and checked him on him every ten to 30 minutes so far day one he cried for 1 hour in a half then day two he only cried for 30 mins and I checked on him at the 10 minute and he is currently out after 30 mins
I loved how real you are in this video!!! My only question is my son will be 6 weeks old tomorrow...is he really old enough to do the "crying" at nap time thing. I always did it at about 4/5 months with my other 2 but I'd love to get my 6 week old on a schedule now. He wakes up to eat at least every 2 hrs right now at night and it's 3oz every time. I'm dying with no sleep and 2 older kids to chase during the day. Thanks for your help!
Hi Elle, should we follow the sleep training during day time as well or just night? When tried this sleep training, if baby gets up in middle of the sleep, should we go and soothe the baby?
Im doing this, I just started last night. Baby cried for 1 hour but slept the entire night! I just put him down for a nap day 2, and he cried for 28 min. I did go in a sooth him, I did not pick him up. I just shhh him and rub his back, his hair and layed him down :) wishing to get more restful nights.
Elle did you swaddle the boys when they were younger infants? Did you put them in the crib/bassinet/pack n play from the beginning? We use a rock n play right now so I am curious if your boys started on a flat surface. Thanks for the video
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I will try this again for the week...I am sooo dreading the crying. I did it for a day and let my daughter cry for about 4 minutes before I had to "rescue" her. LOL She falls asleep on her own here and there and night time sleeping is going well, but I do want her to be able to do it easily for her daytime naps without help from me. Will report back!
Thanks for the video. Do you use a pacifier? When did you get rid of it? And how did you do it? Somehow I managed to do exactly same thing how you are training, BUT her night sleep got much worse recently and from waking up once at night, we are now waking up 3 times 😤. She will be turning 6 months soon and I want to get rid of the pacifier, put her in her room and eliminate all night feelings. Not sure if I should do it all at once or what would you recommend? Thank you in advance!
My newborn is 4 weeks old. should I be putting him in his crib for day naps too? Or would it be okay to put him in a bassinet in our living room/kitchen?
We are trying this now! Thank you for all the insight! Question - our baby is 6 months old - should we eliminate the late night feeding when she cries in the middle of the night? I know you spoke about infant sleep training.
I have a 7month old who is waking up 3,4 sometimes 5 times in the night and I swear he will not settle until I feed him. I know in my head he doesn’t need food in the night, but I’m just so tired I can’t seem to figure out what to do. I will give your method a really good go and let you know how it’s working.
My son sleeps all the night from 4 months thanks god I did what u said literally The problem when he grow up like age 6 + he needs me to stay with him until he fall asleep and I discover that he was very scared of everything it was tiring but after he ages 1 year and half he stopped to be scared and sleep on his own I'd like a video that teaches us how to make baby sleep on his own from the first day coz u know if he fed he will sleep and maybe he will sleep in the bathtub so What's the key to let him up till u put him in his bed Thank u🌹
Im a first time mom and I got a lot of useful information out of your video, I have a seven month old baby boy, and he's still not sleeping through the night, I think because he doesn't take naps at the same time every day, my problem is that I don't know when he's supposed to take his naps or how long they are supposed to be, is their a chart that you can give me with times by any chance? That will help me a lot!!! Thank you!!!
Hai Guys! its too good to watch ur most lively Posts and way u guys are living too good along with your Alle.......May god bless you guys with more and more Happiness......
Hi there. I have just watched your video and believe all your tips will works, sounds wonderful! Just have one problem, my baby wants to fall asleep with her bottle day and night, she drinks max 3 bottles during the night from 9pm till 7am. I want to know how to stop that with your training tips. My baby will be 8months with in 2 weeks. She has not slept through since birth. Thanks in advance.
I used your method almost 2 years ago with my little boy when he was 4 months old and it worked sooo well with him! He was stubborn but I stuck it out and it was the best decision of my life. Now I share your video with anyone who asks how to get their child to sleep through the night. ❤️
So pretty much in short, feed them, put them in their bed, let them cry for a bit, come back in and shush them, leave again, keep doing this until they sleep
152,631 desperate parents. including myself.
Scott Stacy 😂😂😂
Yep me lol!
365k now! Lol
+Elle Lindquist I've been studying getting your baby to sleep and found an awesome resource at Calmer Fixer Blueprint (google it if you're interested)
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I did this, but never looked at it as sleep training. Just knew they needed their sleep, and so did I. I love that you, and others have a name for this.
Hi Elle, I have been following you for a year now and I just wanted to say a big THANK YOU under this video that I watched when my firstborn arrived in March 2018. Your advice worked like magic! He is almost 3 months old now and has been sleeping a solid 10 to 11 hours every night for the past 2 months. He is a happy and content baby 😊 Thank you so much again for sharing your life with us. You are an inspiration. Love from France
Hi, I'm a mom to 3 now young adults (born in 1995, 1996 and 2001). What you say in your video is exactly what I did and I feel completely in line with you. Children of any age need to know "who is the boss" - not meaning dominating them, but LEADING them. And this is even true with my 2 girls, aged 22 and 20 today: they're not yet economically autonomous so their parents still have their say about some topics in their lives. Also, our youngsters RESPECT me because they feel that I'm able to stand up for my own needs, too. And they are able to RESPECT THEMSELVES. Well done, keep on track!
Thanks Elle! Your video convinced my wife to tough it out and give our 9 month old a try. Only took less than 30 min. I was in the room doing my thing. Wife was downstairs. This beats holding the baby for 2 hours until my wife's arms and back break + sleep deprivation.
I just tried my first time sleep training my 8 month old baby tonight using this videos tips. It took exactly 18 min with a pick up to comfort in between and it's only going to get better. For those saying you shouldn't let your baby cry, it's only for a few minutes at a time for 5 days probably less. You should know if your baby really needs attending to. I suppose it's really just routine. Best video ever! Definately sharing this to family and friends.
Best video ever! Our son started sleep regressions around 4 months after sleeping the through the night with no problems. We suffered through 6 weeks of sleeping a couple of hours a night and we were both at our wit's end. We research about dozen videos and liked this one the most. 9 MINUTES!!! IT TOOK 9 MINUTES OF LETTING HIM CRY AND HE SLEPT THROUGH THE NIGHT!!! That was March 2017 and I can count on one hand the number of nights we've had to get up with him since then! Thank you so much, Elle!
Sleep training night one, it's so hard hearing him cry but 8 months without a whole night of sleep has me needing to do this for both of us. Thanks for your tips. I used it to keep busy between going in to check on him ❤️ Finally, he's sleeping. Night one....
I implemented this right from the get go when my baby was 4 days. The 5 hour sleep stretch is the key in those early days. It totally worked!
Now my baby is almost 5 months and whenever there is a sleep regression due to teething, travelting etc i redo the sleep training steos and everything falls back in place.
Thank you Elle!!
Amina Don't worry about the hate love! Keep doing you. It's awesome this works for you and your baby 👶All the best xx
This was great, I have been researching "how to put your baby to sleep" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Ever heard of - Qeysaiah Baby Bangka - (search on google ) ? Ive heard some interesting things about it and my mate got amazing results with it.
This was great, I been tryin to find out about "baby to sleep on their own" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Ever heard of - Qeysaiah Baby Bangka - (do a search on google ) ? Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my m8 got amazing success with it.
This was great, thanks, been searching for "getting baby sleep through the night" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about - Qeysaiah Baby Bangka - (do a google search ) ? Ive heard some decent things about it and my work buddy got great success with it.
Amin
We are going to start sleep training our 11 month old tonight! Super nervous but we all need it!! She wakes up about 4 times a nights!! So ready to get our sleep back! I'm super nervous!!! But I'm going to stay strong!
Thank you so much! The 1st night was okay, but *spoiler alert* nights 2 & 3 were hard and apparently that is common. Last night, night 5, he slept over 9.5 hours! If it wasn't time for me to get up for work and feed him, I'm sure he would have slept even longer! Thank you, thank you, thank you!!
Thank you so much for this video Elle. Tried this on my 8months old baby who wakes up 4-6times to breastfeed overnight and wakes up at every slightest noise.Well, all that is in the past now😄 I am super excited to say he now sleeps for straight 10-12hrs without waking up for feeds from the 2nd day. He cried so much on the first day though but just a little on the 2nd day. It took him just 2days to get used to it. God bless you for sharing this with us😘😘
Hi Maureen :) for how long did your baby cry? the first time?
than you :)
Starting this today! My 2 1/2 year old has never slept in her own bed and my 9 month old still nurses all night long. After a week of 3-4 hours of sleep, I’m fed up and want them in their own beds and rooms asap! Thanks for the tips!
You said it best! It's a very LOVING thing to do, to teach your child to sleep. Good sleep is so important for health and helps everyone in the family.
Thank you!!!! Your video helped me so much. I was finally ready for my baby to stop sleeping with us, but I didn't know how to do it. I followed your instructions and IT WORKED!! I'm so happy. He is finally sleeping through the night. (He was nursing about 6 times at night) Thank you!! Thank you!!
Maggie Mendoza how
How old was your baby? Howlong did it take?
Xantia Farley he was 10 months it took me 4 days.
Omg my daughter is 3months and i totally know the struggle of waking up 6times a night!!! I am really hoping this works, im gonna try it starting tonight!
10 months? I'll have to try this! My daughter is 9 months and I'm desperately in need of sleep 😭
Should i try it before every nap or only before nightslee0
Thank you thank you thank you for this video! My daughter was sleep trained from the very beginning and then teething started around 6 1/2 months. She would only fall asleep with me in the bed. We resorted to letting her sleep in our bed because we couldn't fight the fight anymore. Bad idea! She's now 8.5 months and fully trained in 3 days! She doesn't even wake up at 3am for her night feed! We have our bed back and couldn't be happier. Sharing this video with all my co-sleeping mommy friends!
This is totally on point! My son Kieran is 8 weeks old and we have him napping and going to bed for the night at the same time as his older sisters who are 2.5 and 1.5. He still wakes a few times at night but goes right back to sleep after feeding. Sleep training has been a life saver for us... There is no way I would survive having 3 kids without everyone getting sleep. Love your channel and your family! :-)
Amen to that!! You sound like such a great mom! 👍🏻☺️
this is by far number 1 video about sleep training i saw on youtube. You are so real and right and i agree with everything 100 % !!
Thank you for this video. I originally sleep trained my baby and he was sleeping by 9 weeks old but then he started teething a few weeks later and he stopped sleeping through the night and I've been rocking him to sleep since... he's 10 months old... This just encouraged me and I'm going to sleep train him again! Thanks a bunch!
It’s worked!!!!!!! My 10 month old daughter who was breastfed would wake up 5-6 times a night just to nurse for like a minute and then I would have to carefully lay her back. First day, (her 2nd nap in the afternoon) she cried for about 30-45 minute off and on. She fell asleep and it lasted for 10 minutes. When it was time for bed, she cried 3 minutes!!! My husband and I couldn’t believe it! She woke once that night at 1am and cried for about 2 minutes and then it stopped..I went in and checked and she had put herself back to sleep and didn’t wake up until 8:30 when I went in and woke her up. All naps on the second day she cried a MAX of 3-5 minutes. 2nd night she slept all night long! I am amazed! Thank you for making this video!
This saved my life! No joke, i was going nuts. Thanks for saying it’s ok to pick them up. So many sleep training techniques are sooo against that and it was making sleep training harder for us. Took us a good week and now our bedtime routine went from the most dreaded part of my day to my absolute favorite!
How old is your baby? I wanna start training mine soon she just turned 7 months!
You have some really good advice and some not so good. The science behind baby cry is proven and it can actually change their nerve system, the way they bond with people later in life, their trust (or lack of it) to people, etc. I have 3mo old and I've never let him "cry out". Babies don't cry for no reason. They're helpless and they need you. Yes, there are times when moms feel frustrated, but noone said it was going to be easy (at least not anyone who had a child). A baby is a little person, an individual, who a mother needs to get to know and need to learn their signs and it takes time and A LOT of effort. Good luck to everyone who have troubles teaching their baby to sleep. Having a video nanny system may help you a lot to see how your baby sleeps and react accordingly.
I agree. This mama has the sleep best ideas! This is the way I trained our seven little ones.
I know this is an old video but I am expecting and want to be prepared from day one on how to get my baby to sleep. I have friends and family who have children who still do not sleep well throughout the night and this mama will NEED sleep, just like we all do. This video has been the absolute best at explaining what I plan to do, I just didn't know how to go about it. thank you!!!
When you said how much your baby sleeps my mouth dropped. I am so sleep deprived I really need to try some new methods
did it work for you?
ANNA GINO it worked for me... my baby was 1 week when i started
Haha same here. Mine is 2 years old and still wake at night
Me too
Thank you for not being "ditchy!" so many mom's get on one side of the ditch or the other and I'm also a firm believer in taking bits from every philosophy and doing what works for each individual child. I first found you with your "10 tips for a natural labour" and now I am slowly watching all your other videos. It is just so refreshing to find this video. Thanks. :)
THANK YOU! Glad you're enjoying the channel!
I think it's great that you are encouraging parents to teach their children good sleep habits through your methods!😊 It's beneficial not only for the parent but also for the child.
With my first, I read The Baby Whisperer, and she is a wonderful sleeper to this day. She falls asleep within a few minutes of laying down and sleeps soundly and peacefully through the night. She is 8 years old now and wakes up with a positive attitude every morning, and I don't have to make her wake up as she willingly gets up.
Now, having more experience and knowledge from teaching my first child, my one month old lays down quietly and quickly falls asleep for each nap and at night for his bedtime.
He also only wakes up once through the night if I haven't tanked him up enough throughout the day or he is going through a growth spurt. His 1st cluster feed is at 8 pm then his last one is at 10 or 11, depending on how long I want to stay up or spend time with my partner that evening. Then, he sleeps until 7 am. Unless, like I said, he needs that one more feed because of a growth spurt.
I love it because it will quickly and increasingly get better. At three months, last feed is at 7 and bedtime 7:30 with still one dream feed and wake up at 7.
Then, at 7 months, bedtime is 7:30 with no dream feed and wake up is 7.
I love this program and so do my kids!!!! Yay for us understanding the importance of quality sleep and teaching our kids, lol!😊
I'm preparing to head back to work, I will need to start sleep training my daughter who will 2 months soon. Wish me luck :)
Capri82 about two months now
How was your experience?
Capri82 b/
I swear I've watched this video like 10 times :D :D We haven't let him cry, but just a night time routine has really helped our baby to get to sleep and stay asleep.
This video was a life saver for my first!! She slept 12 hours a night from 3 months on. Now my second is 6 months and sleeping terribly... realizing that I needed to revisit this, because I'm doing so much wrong lol. I did newborn part with not letting her nap more than 3 hours in the day and she did sleep better then. But now I nurse her and pick her up through out the night. The last few nights regressed even worse and she woke up at 12pm last night and every other hour after... I'm over it! Can't wait to get her back on track!
Thank you! My 7.5 month old cannot sleep without me holding her and I'm SO over having her sleep in my bed. I'll try this this week! They only obstacles are that we all share a room, so letting her cry it out might wake up my toddler. We'll see how it goes!
just found this video today by accident but I feel it's God leading me to teach my little man to sleep through the night lol I jest but in all seriousness it's time and this is one of the best videos I've come across and starting today we are trying it. I have to say I'm shocked by some of the negative comments - everyone is entitled to their opinion but to "lose respect for" etc because someone wants to train THEIR child differently from how you train yours wow just WOW! I 100% know this will work for my child (and all children really) because I believe children thrive in discipline and schedule so here is to a perhaps tough week and full night sleeps from next week. thanks for the video you dedicated have a new subbie in me
Wow this is so great, I was just going crazy. My first child was so easy to get to bed, the second not so much. Following your advice the first night was rough but it has gotten easier.
This was SUPER helpful as a full time nanny to a 3 month old! Thanks, Elle! Always love your tutorial videos!
Awesome Marisa! Glad you found it helpful!
Thank you so much for this... my 5 week old is slowly stretching out her 5 hour sleep block (which I moved to night time following this video, weeks ago ) by herself due to not letting her sleep too long during the day. Last night she slept for 7 hours !!!!!
honestly this was the most helpful video I've seen on sleep training!
Amber Loudy I totally agree! She is so matter of fact and clear!!
I needed this 4.5 years ago!!!! #I didn't sleep for 4 years 😫😫😫
I love this video. my son is 19 months old and I'll be weaning him from the breast in the next few days, he falls asleep while breastfeeding, and I've been looking for a sleep training method that it's not the cry it out method. he is a great sleeper and on most night he will sleep through the night, sometimes he wakes up because he learned a new word(s) and wants to talk or something but he is mostly a great sleeper, let's hope this helps with the falling asleep part
I CANNOT thank you enough for this video 😍 I followed a feeding schedule for my daughter in order to also help with sleep training and we both hated sticking to the clock, just didn’t work. I’ve had the hardest time finding the feed on demand yet ALSO sleep train. So thank you! So glad to see it can be done!!
wow i watched this video for my newborn but turns out he taught himself. he sleeps exactly all the times you mentioned. im currently up right now for his 4am feeding and he went to bed at 11 by himself
How many feeds do you do for your newborn throughout the night. Is 5 hours ok to hold off for a feed?
bump
have twins got this assholes to sleep after 5 months of hell
New subscriber here! I did the exact same thing with both of my daughter's one was sleeping through the night at 3 months and the other at 7 weeks (we only needed to sleep train when she learned a new skill, especially rolling over!). I think the best tip you gave was for people to find the difference in their baby's cry, it is so true! Great video!
Glad you enjoyed it'
Thank You :) 22 weeks pregnant with our first. Need more tips like these :)
Woohoo! You must be getting so excited :)
I just love your video ...it gives hope for a better sleep for my little one and for me ...cause we both need it
New comment for an old video😋 my daughter isn't awful about getting a good night sleep; most nights. She's turning 3 months today. My situation is tough as we have another one under one as well. She's great but he us not and he's 11 months.
I've been doing a few of the things you've said already but not all. I will definately be trying everything on both babies. Thank you so much for the advice I'm wishing myself luck 😂😅💜
Hi Elle, I found your video really helpful and inspirational. My LO is almost 7mths old and I am currently on day2 of training him to fall asleep on his own...from newborn loved being rocked over so I was sure he would not do this however he has now put himself to sleep EVERY nap and nighttime and I am so proud as he is getting too heavy for me to rock over. He was up twice through the night the first night so hopefully that will improve over time. Many Thanks
That will totally improve over time. You're doing GREAT! Stay consistent and you'll be successful
Last night Alexander slept through the night for the first time ever! He stirred at 5.15 but put himself over again I never left my bed which is a first! I'm nervous but excited to see how he does tonight. Can I ask how long I would do this training in his own bed before it would be ok for him to nap elsewhere I spend quite a bit of time at my mums house but have stayed in our house so far to put him in his own bed each nap.x
My baby is nine months and is in dire need of sleep training. I'm going to try all your tips! Hoping for a good night sleep sometime soon!!
Awesome!! Let me know how it goes!
My baby had more than one 5 hour stretch of sleep until she was like 4 months. She still slept through the night ( from 1 month ) 12 hours. I never woke her up during the day. To me a baby's sleep shouldn't be disturbed on purpose.
And needing you for confort is still a need. I peacefully teach my babies to sleep but never let them cry it out.
This is just for all the other out there that want to do it peacefully but still want to sleep. It is possible, but it takes longer than a week, and there will be regressions. But that's parenting...
GOD bless you mightily for sharing the great encouragement, wisdom, insights, your experience in what has worked for you and what hasn't worked in sleep training your precious little one(s). We are first time parents with a 6 weeks and 5 days old -beautiful boy at the time of posting this, early in the morning of 01/25/17.
Thanks so much!! My wife and I just decided to buckle down and dive in to start implementing the "business only" care within an hour of watching your video, and we're believers! It works!! I timed that screaming cry and soothed him for about 5 minutes after he went for about 8 or so almost at the top of his lungs, which was tough to listen to, but kept the interaction and 5 minute soothing I mentioned "business only" as you encouraged. With only one false start he self -soothed on the second attempt! Praise GOD! We've also been working to establish the feeding schedule as taught by Babywise, and we're now so encouraged by the hybrid approach we'll end up having; using some of Babywise's and your insights ...
We're certainly not naive that baby will challenge the new regimen, however we'll keep chugging up the mountain!! So grateful and blessed.
What a beautiful and precious family you have by the way! You're blessed and highly favored! [Pardon my excitement! I see and envision incredible, energy- filled, revived and refreshed days ahead! 😄😅😀 Return of some sanity and normalcy!! 🎉🎊🏇 Wohooooo!! Praise JESUS!! This was divinely orchestrated that we watch and land on your videos and your channel today, and we subscribed!👍👊🙌] Have blessed remainder to your week with the family. Thank you!! Don't stop encouraging and uplifting others!! Don't mind or give a thought to the naysayers! GOD will greatly increase this and HE's super proud and pleased by your precious and beautiful heart! > 1 Corinthians 15:57-58, Judges 6:2-16
Hi Elle. I have doing this training to my 5 month baby, and she has made tremendous progress, being able to sleep all by herself. The only thing to notice is that she still wakes up once every night, around 1am, and cries a lot for at least 20-40 mins. I suspect it is hunger, bit I dont know if it is counterproductive to feed her in the middle of the night. I appreciate your comments! Thanks
Felipe Monsalve please feed her. She is just 5 month old. They are still hungry !
Great take on sleep training!! I've been reading up on it a bunch since I am expecting my first child near the end of summer.
11k likes! I'm glad I'm not the only one losing my mind from lack of sleep.
Great tip! Thank you, I am going to try this asap. My baby is almost 8 months old and not sleeping through the night. She normally goes to bed at 10pm, then ill feed her around 12/1 then at one point fduring night, I am so ready to have more restful sleeps at night.
Hi there, I just wanted to thank you for your video and advice. I think I watched it about 50 times and from all my research on sleep training your "method" is the simplest and most effective (I've tried the chair one but it didnt really work for us). I've started sleep training my 8mo old boy and I started by making small changes in the bedtime routine (Ive noticed that if I fed him dinner too late he wouldnt settle to sleep very well) anyway DAY ONE put him down at 7pm as usual and he slept through after a total of 25 min crying (10 min- 15min). I did the "business check", calmed him down (in my case I picked him up but put him back in the crib once he calmed down - but completely awake) :) repeated my key words and left the room. I did this in two intervals and mentioned before. Then I went to bed and when I woke up I realised he had slept through. He woke up early but I am counting as victory because he didnt wake up three or four times (or 1 time for 3 hours) as he used to. DAY TWO - nap 1 and he cried for 10 min. T E N M I N U T E S !! I know it might be "beginners luck" but I will stick to the schedule I set for us and I will come back in a week to let you know. So far things are working, I'm amazed how afraid I was for no reason, he cried a lot less than I expected. Now I am expecting things to get more difficult but consistency is key. Thank you I, like you also choose sleep! I am a better mum when I am rested. xxx to you and Forde!
Gigi Loop I can really relate to this!! How are things going with your baby sleeping?
I don't even have kids yet, hopefully soon, and when the time comes (God willing), I am SO coming back to this video! I feel like this is a sound way to go about it, and like you said, this is what worked for you and Forde. May not work for everyone, but it might be worth a shot! Excellent video, madam :)
This makes me so happy to hear! I can't WAIT to hear when God blesses you with a child!
My mum has four children me being the youngest and she has told me pretty much the exact same thing. Loving your videos! In many ways they're very inspiration :) Forde is going to be an absolute gentlemen when he grows up!
So glad you're loving them Hannah!
Hi, thank you for the video! I have done exactly the same way with my baby from the beginning and my baby also sleeps very well and through the night. It is very nice to see that this kind of training works because I did it on my own instinct but I never haven't had any references to it, so thank you for putting it all together in one video. I will defenetly share it to another new moms as they ask for advice!
Omg thank you for this video! I've been losing so much sleep with my little one, it was causing stress for both my husband and I. I haven't begun training yet, but this is super useful!
Hi Ellie. What was the sleep routine you had used for his naps?
Excellent tips....It's great that you said you kinda combined all the methods. I feel the same although I have 4 kids and they all shared the bed with me and I never had problems. I know that doesn't work for most of you but it worked great for me. Mine were 4 and 10 years spaced out so there never was 2 babies sleeping in my bed at the same time.
I am pregnant right now. And the sleeping routine is my biggest fear. I truly loved your advice and I will try my best to follow them because you seem to know what you are talking about.
+Amandine Njonkou thank you!! I'll be doing an updated step by step one w my newborn soon
you know I saw this video when I as pregnant and I've been using a lot of ur techniques with my baby from the get go. he ll still nurse in the night but I'm getting a decent amount of sleep. the business feed one lol yep I just nurse Bo talking or any.. burp n he's back to sleep .. he's almost 3 months old now. he likes his sleep too.. just that I can't get him to nap well in the day time.
Some thoughts.. 1)Regarding "babies have one 5 hour sleep stretch from birth", my son's was pretty close! He would sleep one 4-hour chunk at night and one 4-hour chunk during the day. Other than that it was always just 40 minutes to an hour & a 1/2 all throughout the day and night. But we breastfeed so that may have something to do with his waking. 2) once he hit about 3 months old, he started screaming bloody murder every night at 7 p.m., for the simple reason that he was tired and did not understand 'if I just close my eyes and relax, sleep will come'.
He's 1 year now, and still nurses "part-time" and wakes 2 or 3 times during the night only very quickly ("business" like you said) and right back to sleep. Until he's done nursing I don't really want him to sleep through the night because then I have to get up and be bothered with pumping so that I don't go too long without nursing and affect my supply. I often wonder - once he weans, if he'll have a problem sleeping through the night. Only time will tell! Maybe I'll come back and let you know :)
Hi Elle, GREAT video! QQ's - 1) do you recommend a night light? 2) How old was Ford when you did the 3 nights of sleep training? Thanks lady!
Loved this video - very logical and not too teacher like! Our bubster is 8 weeks in a few days and we are going to start trying this - wish us luck! Thanks for the great advice and tips xx
I'm so so happy I stumbled upon this video because we have a 7 month old who suddenly will not sleep! thank you!
+Angel Rosee Hope it helps!!
I did with my twins and it worked. I started when they were 2 weeks old. I always put them to bed at 7 pm. We never had a problem. When they got up, I just feed them and put them back down. I never played with them.
Tamu Bracken one question .. did you breastfeed or used formula?
I'm only 26 weeks right now, but this is so relieving.
I'm late in my daughter 's sleep training. I really don't know what to do but your video helped! I'll try it out! Thanks!
So helpful. Starting tonight 😩😩. Wish me luck
I put commitment and I definitely start to sleep training my 1month old baby boy after seeing this video.
At 2 weeks old I also went to see a doctor and check if he feel sick or something might gone wrong with him, but the doc just said: i need to teach him to soothe himself and he is completely healthy and a very strong baby. But as he is my first son, I couldn't do it (only first night only) and after a while now he become more and more unstoppable, Every night at the same time around 10:30-11pm, he starts crying and nothing I do or anyone do Would soothe him, no matter what I do. I try to sing him a song, feed him (though he is still hungry, but he is not), check his diaper, or maybe the room temperature is too hot or too cold, put him down or even if I hold him he is still crying. I have no idea what he want.
Here I come to the point that no one can sleep at night. When the night come, I feel worried and always pray for him to give me a good night sleep for once. The least we could sleep at night is 30min and max 3h (10-15min here and there, total 3h. There's time I alway faint during the day because the lack of sleep and rest).
The problem is not only about my sleep, I love my son, really, but when I look at him, I feel that he is tired too, he couldn't sleep, his brain keep functioning, at this stage he is suppose to sleep, feel happy and have a good rest. It's not good for him to stay awake and sleep 10-15min and wake up and sleep again, it's just a mess. So I make up my mind again after watching this video, I have to sleep train him immediately.
It's for both of us. For him to get a good sleep at night and for me to have time to rest after a whole day with housework + with him.
Today is the second night, my mom is a bit mad at me after I left him cry it out. But what can I do, I have to watch him all day, do all works, my husband often traveling away for his office works, rarely at home. There was a time when I feel so sad seeing my own son and got scared of him because I am so new at this and I have no idea what to do. :/
I pray for this to work. I know all babies are different but I really want my baby to have a good night sleep liked others and even he does not sleep much at daytime, it's okay for me too. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Ka Dyna did it work? My 3 months baby is just like yours, i got scared every night because i dont know whats wrong im doing everything im supposed to do as a mother and it gets me frustrated to hear him cry and with thisw difficulties for sleeping
Hello, I'm confused on exact method..go back in after how long when they start to cry?
Thank you for the tips! I am now starting out sleep training my 2 month old baby. And I want to do this now. I dont want her sleeping with me till she's 6 months then it will just get harder to get her to sleep on her own
Braver than me. 4 kids with the 5th on its way and I have never had to sleep train a single one. They are also awesome sleepers. letting them cry was never something I could or would do.
That's amazing that you have 4 great sleepers!!!!
I literally started sleep training our son when he was about to be 9 months and now he's going to be 10 months in 5 days and he's been sleeping in his own crib in his own room and he's been doing great and I did the cry-it-out method obviously not to the point of torture however I can tell by his cries that it was just for my attention because he was so used to it. First three months of his birth we were co-sleeping because I was feeding on demand and it was just easier for me for being a first-time parents it help me sleep and then when I physically couldn't sleep like that anymore after the 3-month. I moved him to his crib and I was still waking up in the middle of the night nursing him but he wasn't waking up quite as often because he was finally sleeping in his own space. Then of course at almost 9 months we moved into his own room and as soon as that happened it was sleep training time and he's been sleeping through the night for quite some time however is just nice that my husband and I get to have us time without having to tiptoe in her own room. And everyone get a white noise machine for your child that is a lifesaver. Now we have a second baby on the way it is our baby girl and I'm watching this video because I want to start training her as soon as possible I feel that I'm more comfortable now to do so. Thank you for this video.
It is a general sugestion to start to sleep train most babies around 3 to 4 every baby is different as when they just new it important they know your there for them
Elle! Hands down, this IS the best sleep help video I've found on TH-cam! My little guy is almost 20 weeks old and we've just begun trying your sleep training techniques because the hubs ad I need our sleep in order to function. Zombie-status no more! Honestly, it's very difficult to hear him cry, which I'm doing right now as I type this, but I've gone in to check on him every 5-10 minutes. Yes, he's giving me that same look that Forde did to you... "HOW DARE YOU..." LOL
Anywho, thanks again!
Yay! Haha stay strong. You'll get through it. At 20 weeks it's possible he needs nighttime feedings still. If he's still crying after 10 mins it may in fact be hunger. If by 6 months he's still crying at night it's time to introduce solids and phase out the night feed!
Oh how I needed to hear you tell me to "stay strong" today! I'm praying that our night is a restful one. Typically, he wakes up at 2am & again at 5am to nurse. The problem is that after the 5am feed ready to party. Well, mama is about to stop all that. :) Yes, we will start introducing solids at 6 months to help phase out night feedings. Do you, by any chance, have a list of which solids to introduce first? Also, what's the purpose of waking him up again for the 10pm feeding since he's already in night-night land? Thanks, Elle. You're officially part of my "Mommy-Tribe!" :D
We are working on this same exact thing. However we are trying to skip the evening nap... maybe we should try to skip the morning nap instead.. then do his two hour long nap.. then he'll do his normal 8:30 to bed... would you suggest skip morning or evening nap. I think he is ready to just skip it. Last night he did just fine without an evening nap but then woke up wide awake at 3 am. He's now 9 months. We kept him in our room until 7months and after his open heart surgery. Otherwise we would have started this way sooner!
Thank you I’m struggling with the middle of the night wake up. Going to try the all business method tonight. No one coming in the room with mommy and daddy at 3 am
I’m currently doing cry it out method and I’m on day two and it worked great me and my spouse let him cry and checked him on him every ten to 30 minutes so far day one he cried for 1 hour in a half then day two he only cried for 30 mins and I checked on him at the 10 minute and he is currently out after 30 mins
can you make a video about your daily routine? are you feeding him before or after bath time?
Our first baby is due in before Thanksgiving and I am very happy I found your channel. I loved this video! Thanks for the tips! I will use this!
Aww CONGRATULATIONS!! That's so exciting!
I loved how real you are in this video!!! My only question is my son will be 6 weeks old tomorrow...is he really old enough to do the "crying" at nap time thing. I always did it at about 4/5 months with my other 2 but I'd love to get my 6 week old on a schedule now. He wakes up to eat at least every 2 hrs right now at night and it's 3oz every time. I'm dying with no sleep and 2 older kids to chase during the day. Thanks for your help!
I don't have a baby and don't plan on it any time soon but I loved this video. It was so interesting and hopefully i can go back to it when I need it
+NicoleO woohoo!!
Hi Elle, should we follow the sleep training during day time as well or just night?
When tried this sleep training, if baby gets up in middle of the sleep, should we go and soothe the baby?
Im doing this, I just started last night. Baby cried for 1 hour but slept the entire night! I just put him down for a nap day 2, and he cried for 28 min. I did go in a sooth him, I did not pick him up. I just shhh him and rub his back, his hair and layed him down :) wishing to get more restful nights.
Elle did you swaddle the boys when they were younger infants? Did you put them in the crib/bassinet/pack n play from the beginning? We use a rock n play right now so I am curious if your boys started on a flat surface. Thanks for the video
I'm due next month and I can't wait to try the newborn method you mentioned! No sleeps beyond 3 hrs during the day😎
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I will try this again for the week...I am sooo dreading the crying. I did it for a day and let my daughter cry for about 4 minutes before I had to "rescue" her. LOL She falls asleep on her own here and there and night time sleeping is going well, but I do want her to be able to do it easily for her daytime naps without help from me. Will report back!
Let me know how it all goes!! Praying for good sleep in her future!
Thanks for the video. Do you use a pacifier? When did you get rid of it? And how did you do it? Somehow I managed to do exactly same thing how you are training, BUT her night sleep got much worse recently and from waking up once at night, we are now waking up 3 times 😤. She will be turning 6 months soon and I want to get rid of the pacifier, put her in her room and eliminate all night feelings. Not sure if I should do it all at once or what would you recommend? Thank you in advance!
My newborn is 4 weeks old. should I be putting him in his crib for day naps too? Or would it be okay to put him in a bassinet in our living room/kitchen?
We are trying this now! Thank you for all the insight! Question - our baby is 6 months old - should we eliminate the late night feeding when she cries in the middle of the night? I know you spoke about infant sleep training.
I love this video! I would like to hear breaking bad sleep habits (specifically going to sleep and waking).
Did you swaddle by 2 months and if so was it a full swaddle or did you leave the arms out?
I have a 7month old who is waking up 3,4 sometimes 5 times in the night and I swear he will not settle until I feed him. I know in my head he doesn’t need food in the night, but I’m just so tired I can’t seem to figure out what to do. I will give your method a really good go and let you know how it’s working.
My son sleeps all the night from 4 months thanks god
I did what u said literally
The problem when he grow up like age 6 + he needs me to stay with him until he fall asleep and I discover that he was very scared of everything it was tiring but after he ages 1 year and half he stopped to be scared and sleep on his own
I'd like a video that teaches us how to make baby sleep on his own from the first day coz u know if he fed he will sleep and maybe he will sleep in the bathtub so What's the key to let him up till u put him in his bed
Thank u🌹
Im a first time mom and I got a lot of useful information out of your video, I have a seven month old baby boy, and he's still not sleeping through the night, I think because he doesn't take naps at the same time every day, my problem is that I don't know when he's supposed to take his naps or how long they are supposed to be, is their a chart that you can give me with times by any chance? That will help me a lot!!! Thank you!!!
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Do you have a video of nap training? How do I put my baby down for naps?
Hi there. I have just watched your video and believe all your tips will works, sounds wonderful! Just have one problem, my baby wants to fall asleep with her bottle day and night, she drinks max 3 bottles during the night from 9pm till 7am. I want to know how to stop that with your training tips. My baby will be 8months with in 2 weeks. She has not slept through since birth. Thanks in advance.