@@CrappyChildhoodFairy I've come through a long period of the last 5 years of recognizing a lot of things, and a few of which were crimes. The question now is literally what to do with this information? There are no statutes of limitations in Canada for crimes against children, and I have the power to inflict great pain and torment on those who tormented me. Shall I be Old Testament or New? And what would be gained, other than a principle? I'm at a crossroads, and all directions are as attractive as the others. I keep thinking of two songs, one of which I shared before: No One Is Alone from Into The Woods. I also think of Children Will Listen from the same show. Babs did a complete recording of all the verses and choruses (the show did not) and I include it here... preaching to the choir, I know... th-cam.com/video/hiTaDJ9E1I0/w-d-xo.html
I learned from Ross Rosenberg the horrible loneliness inside comes from not being connected to ourselves as kids. Our innocent brains were too busy figuring out how to keep us safe. Once I got this I began a path of healing. I am also a Christ follower and He is doing a work in me!
This practice is changing my life. The Daily Practice helps me have boundaries with the fear and resentments and not carry them around all day. It's freedom and allows me to truly show up between writings. I choose to no longer carry them around. God will remove them, just be patient. It took me 7 days of writing about the same fear and then my answer, my miracle came. There is freedom from fear, shame, judgment, insecurity, discontentment, etc. This practice opens the door for God to do His miracles in us. Thank you so much for sharing this.
It IS a miracle. I'm always in awe when I see the evidence that I can share what I learned with someone I've never met, and we both have a similar release into freedom.
I heard the first step in the "Daily Practice Techniques" which, is to write down my fearful and resentful thoughts; to take a personal inventory. However, I did not hear the second technique. Anna, would you clarify that for me please? Thanks and blessings! 😊😊
I woke up so sad. I didn't fall asleep until well after the sun came up. I'm so glad I found this channel. I still feel alone, but at least there's some semblance of a community. I'm trying to work up the nerve to leave the house and go to the gym. If I don't, I'll feel like I failed my one social task for the day. Anyway, thanks for being here.
@@spidersense92 Aww thank you! I've been feeling much better since this post. I decided to commit to my nutrition, which gave me much needed energy. Then I recruited an old friend to dress up with me on Sundays to go to brunch. Turns out she was going through a similar thing so getting together and putting in an effort with our appearance has really helped us both. I have few friends left but all I need is one or two good ones and it makes a world of difference. Thanks so much for your kind words and support. I hope you are doing well yourself. Sending you much love!
Hey, hope you are doing better. I know when we are at this state it feels like we are going to remain stuck forever, and this thought feels you with fear and anguish. But its not true. Forever is a looooong time, and in the time I can almost guarantee you something is going to change. And just believing in that will already take you a long way.
A friend sent this to me today that I'd like to share. The daily writing reminds me of this scripture: "Don't be pulled in different directions or worried about a thing. Be saturated in prayer throughout each day, offering your faith-filled requests before God with overflowing gratitude. Tell him every detail of you life, then God's wonderful peace that transcends human understanding will guard your heart and mind through Jesus Christ. Keep your thoughts continually fixed on all that is authentic and real, honorable and admirable, beautiful and respectful, pure and holy, merciful and kind. And fasten your thoughts on every glorious work of God, praising him always." Philippians 4:6-8 The Passion Translation
Do not skip the meditation part! It's critical...I thought I could just do the writing but you need to soothe yourself after you do this otherwise you'll just be in the vortex of those thoughts. I've done it with the mediation and without and I won't be skipping the meditation anymore!
That's right - meditation is important! Appreciate you sharing that insight to encourage others to stick with it. Glad you've felt the difference. - Ashley, Team Fairy
Where can I find the meditation or a guide for daily practice beyond listing fears and resentments and releasing them to God? Is there a sample or a copy of the meditation somewhere?
I've been doing this practice religiously for a little over a month. It has truly changed my life for the better. I start the day in a more quiet and balanced way, even when my tasking list is long and ever growing. I am much more able to be responsive rather than reactive when my plans for the day change suddenly, and I have the kind of job where sudden changes are the norm. After about a month, I have noticed a couple of other things; I have more energy. I am better able to start something and follow through without feeling overwhelmed. Like many of us, I have had a tendency to look at everything that needs to be done or that I want to do, and becoming overwhelmed, then I get disregulated and frozen, and don't get ANYTHING done, which eventually feels overwhelming and...well...you get the picture. I noticed this past weekend that I was able to focus on one thing at a time, start a task and follow through. I felt a much greater balance between tasking and leisure. I noticed that some small things have made a huge difference in the way my home environment feels, which is encouraging me and fueling my desire to keep moving forward. I have an awareness of a sense of increased space and time in my work day, and am able to be mindful of that, and find myself speaking my gratitude aloud as I drive from one appointment to another--"Thank You for this beauty; thank You for this peace." Instead of feeling like I am working right up until I go to sleep, I know that I will be doing my evening practice, and my husband and I have just created space for that to happen. In fact, he is joining me in slowing down and getting more quiet, preparing ourselves for sleep. The amount of energy that I am NOT spending dealing, consciously or unconsciously, with constant spinning thoughts is enabling me to see my patterns of response more clearly, which is allowing me greater choice in how I respond to things, simply by having a greater awareness of the fact that I do get triggered, and what kinds of things trigger me. I am someone that has long processed by writing. I do journal, and I have meditated. I am sharing this because THIS PRACTICE IS DIFFERENT. It is NOT journaling. The combination of the writing and meditation is a very, very, very effective tool for quieting the brain weasels. Do yourself a favor, and try it. And Anna, I bow to you, and every experience that brought you here.
Found your channel through a narcissism video. Im on Day 4 of No Contact with my wife of 3 years (7 yr relationship).. Im a strong stoicism oriented old soul but younger man (38).. this woman sucked my energy. I survived a rough 90s divorce between my parents. They used us (older possibly narc brother and younger sister) against each other. Ive been a lover AnD a fighter my whole life. Like a knight and a Casanova. But ive always been easily sucked into toxic relationships whole heartedly always thinking id found that damsel in distress. They always get me hook line and sinker. This time I finally see it and get it. Gods grace finally put the right YT recommendations 🙌
Oh God, I'm crying watching this video, you just put a huge missing peice of the puzzle together for me, I had childhood CPTSD but I didn't realise, then when I was 31 my Grand mother began her journey towards death I went to look after her and My mother was with us and just being abusive to me the whole time, I started to get really ADHD, I couldn't keep my thoughts together and then my health collapsed, my face aged overnight and I couldn't cope with that on top of everything else, loosing my looks meant that I would never be loved and ultimately I would die all alone. That was it my whole world collapsed, I was chronically mentally and physically ill for 10 years. I'm 40 now and really struggling to get my life back, it's hard because I'm really short on resources and not well enough to start working again, I don't even know what kind of job I can do. I'm so grateful for these videos, thank goodness this information is getting out there, thank you ❤
You can get back. Start slow, pick up any job that you can find doesn’t matter. Parallely start daily practice, eating healthy, getting some exercise if you can and sleep discipline. If you end up making enough money, then go to therapy. I’m sure you’re smart enough to figure things out once you get back on track. Hope you turn your life around. I’m counting on it.
I just signed up last night and I started the writing and meditation before I went to bed. This morning I got up feeling relaxed and grateful. My list of fears and resent was very short! Thank you!
Isn't it amazing that so many psych medical professionals recommend meds plus therapy for 100 years yet there are so many ppl out there still traumatised
I love your wisdom, generosity, and clarity. Sometimes it cuts too close to the bone. It's still hard to face some of the crazy without the fear of drowning in it.
Thank you 🙏 journaling is only thing that helps me. So many people have tried to stop me writing in my life very strange but this video has confirmed alot regarding my writing and coping with my C-PTSD....I'm now 45 finally got my own little place now I'm taking little consistent steps 👣 to healing you help me alot...you are appreciated 💜⚔️💜
Im so proud of your determination and touched by your bravery and willingness to reach out to offer hope to others through your sharing! Your suggestions have been liberating and healing to me! Thankyou and bless you!
Hey Anna! Thanks for sharing all your videos, insights and techniques! I recently, after a lifelong of depression anxiety and (in the past) chronic suicidal ideation, coupled with limerence and unfulfilled romantic life. I can now put a word on what i was going through...cause it wasn't simply depression or anxiety or even psychosis (which i experienced). I have been practicing meditation for the past 6 years, and taking good care of my body (eating healthy, sleeping well, exercising) and in general trying to be kind and compassionate with myself, but still even after years of mindfulness and self care, your videos are helping integrate all that and understand what i had and still am going through (although my symptoms are very mild). Ii get deregulated (new word for me but perfectly on point) if i don't follow my self care routine, yet i never knew how to explian to others how important it is for me to have that routine (even though on the outside i look like a pretty happy and healthy young person). Also, i just wanted to point out and alternative for the writing exercise in case anyone is interested. Since i have a tendency to get sucked into negative thinking (and spiral down), i instead try to focus on Hope and Gratitude (as opposed to fear and resentment). I wrote down my resentment today, and it was a pretty long list hehe, so instead i tried to focus on what i am grateful for, which i have a long list of as well. It feels good to write it down and get a perspective on how far i've come.
I am making a promise to myself to commit to the daily practice. After three therapists who didn’t know what to do with my dysregulation, and a psychiatrist waiting in the wings, I’m tired of feeling the way I do. The highs and lows, the difficulty focusing, the emotions that feel so heavy like I could just die from them. Thank you for helping us, Anna. ❤
your videos always give me hope, thank you for your advice. i'm in a very dark place mentally and this makes me feel like i do have at least some hope for the future
ME TOO!!!! This was 100% my experience. I was someone who needed the Daily Practice (which is my step 4 & 10) before 12- step meetings because I could NOT be there. It's completely different now that I do the Daily Practice every day- I really enjoy the meetings and pass this on to anyone who wants it bit.ly/3608opl -Cara@TeamFairy
I found 12 step recovery difficult to engage with, as I found being in relationship with people so difficult. I saw people working fine with their sponsors, but for me it was so loaded. I did get other good things from it (I hope to go back to it) but I realise I need help with the human/ relational aspect first.
I’ve been recommended not to try one for the same reason I’m not recommended to be in therapy anymore. Too unsafe (for myself and then as a result for others), too damaging, no potential to be worked through to be made helpful.
12 step programs for me also were plenty of mean sick people who were exposed to me in AA. which I felt sad, until I no longer went & started to feel better & bring up my self-esteem. Of course I'm still sober over 30 yrs. Thank God
@@jasond.b-w Was it a 12-step program that recommended you don't go? I think the expectations in 12-step programs are usually way different than therapy. Of course some therapists could be recovered or invisibly struggling, but many of them being able to get through school won't have had the lived experience(s) your having. They may fear the unexpected reactions due to their inability to relate. They might fear their lack of skill development to know how to handle those situations. They come from institutions where those policies were the norm. I also think they are working in isolating conditions that make crises more dangerous for them. From what I've heard from people who have attended AA, many of them have been street-involved, etc, and have behaved in unsafe ways themselves. AA groups welcome people where they're at. They have probably been through something similar before. People probably feel safer in a group environment because there's a greater likelihood someone there will know how to respond in a crisis. When I worked at a place that catered to a lot of street-involved youth, our ideal crisis responses involved multiple people so different people could take on different roles. One person might be talking to a person in distress, one might be leading others in an activity to not get distracted by or pulled into drama happening nearby, one might be looking up necessary resources, one might be a liason communicating to others that a room was currently occupied if people were approaching, one might be providing or seeking medical assistance. I don't know if anyone was ever permanently banned. What might happen is if someone is in a state of being unable to negotiate they might be sent away for *that day* and told they are welcomed back when they are experiencing a state that they are able to negotiate keeping things safe. Something valuable I was taught working there is that often when people are unleashing anger on you it is because they have had to keep it pent up in other places and feel you are a safe enough place for them to let that out. I recognized myself doing that when I was being kicked out of an abusive home. It wouldn't surprise me if therapy might illicit some reactions as a response and it would be difficult to feel trust if every safe becomes closed to you when you are taking a risk being vulnerable in order to heal. My hope is there will be many 12 step type places that are familiar with this phenomenon. I've also heard jokes about how vastly different the attendees are--from homeless drug addicts to high powered lawyers to wine moms. It is something addressed about how they are all working in solidarity together each with the common goal of healing. All to say, I can't gauruntee, and not all 12 steps groups are the same, but I think you might find many that are a different experience than therapy if you feel the program might be useful to you. Either way, I hope you find something that provides you some healing.
I am not able at this time, to write the fears. It is too overwhelming. But I can ask myself, in my own mind, and answer myself. This seems to help a lot.
"I had an issue with sanity and survival...." that's why I Love your posts. I can relate soooo much. Doctors and counselors are at a loss how to help me.
I started doing it a few days ago only. So I am doing it for a tiny, tiny moment. I meditate for over a year regularly. Here is what is happening to me: It was pretty interesting. I never had this experience of almost seizure-like waves of emotions of disgust and pain going in the rhythm of 60 seconds during meditation. It was gross. I realized that strong emotions come in waves. Noramybi would talk to myself, tell stories to sooth myself. I would detach a lot from daydreams. Now I feel so much better afterward. Sitting with those feelings is no fun; I don’t always ‘understand’ them, but I don’t go to the story. I finally have a gist of what it means to sit with your feelings. They can leave the system thanks to writing. Otherwise, I am so great at shifting my attention away from the pain; the ‘normal’ meditation, body therapy, nor talk therapy didn’t help as much; I still think for me, it is essential to have talk therapy, and I am making the daily practice a part of daily routine. thank you so much Anna for sharing those tools! 💖
MRS ANNA i am trying my best to heal and not to give up i started seeing a therpist , i am 45 just learning about myself , i want to heal for i can help others
Gosh! This really hits close to my heart and home. I’ve gotten better from acute ptsd symptoms over the years but some of the less obvious symptoms like ADHD and “getting lost” on the way to store etc... these are still happening. Thank you for sharing, it helps guide me to the next healing steps.
It's day 5 of doing the daily practice, and I'm starting to feel calmer. I look forward to it. I wonder how much better I'll feel after 30 days? It's exactly what I needed to do. Thank you.
That's great. Happy to hear that you're making time for the Daily Practice. I have a feeling you're going to feel even more amazing after 30 days. Definitely report back! - Ashley, Team Fairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairyI just completed 7 days. I notice I feel more centered, less stressed about doing, doing, doing. I will continue until the month ends, and look forward to making progress. Thanks for this useful tool.
We have very, very similar stories!!! I'm an ACA, mom was A also, same relationships, etc. I love your energy. Going to watch all of your videos. Going to walk the Camino de Santiago to regulate my system and then when I'm back do your courses! THANK YOU
This Daily Practice is a new concept for me. I've written twice so far, a few days apart. It's difficult to start a new habit with a short-term memory like Dust in the Wind. ADHD? I thought so for decades. C-PTSD seems more likely the case. At the end of the first Writing, I wrote my release similar to how the Scriptures describe throwing my burden on God and letting Him give me peace. I folded the page between my folded hands, lightly rumpled the page, and opened my hands heavenward and said, Thank You. Being the Sappy Mush that I've always been, grateful tears of relief trickled down my face. I then did something kind of odd: Instead of reaching for the nearby tissues, I used the rumpled paper to wipe the tears, opened my hands heavenward again, then let the wet paper fall into the trash can. This was like a visual representation of throwing my cares onto God and not taking them back onto myself. It seemed appropriate, so I treated today's Writing the same way. Shortly afterward, when I watched one of the teaching videos and Anna said to destroy the page after signing off, I thought about the rumpled wet paper that I let fall into the trash can. Yep, that works. And yep, Sappy Mush that I am, grateful tears of relief are trickling down my face again as I write this comment. Learning about C-PTSD and Prefrontal Cortex imbalances and how to reregulate has started my healing process. My childhood was mildly crappy in comparison to some, and still crappy enough to have injured my mind. Humans are surprisingly resilient creatures. Our loving God made us in such a way that our injuries can be healed. And he has reassured us that the day is coming when he will wipe every tear from our eyes, and neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. (Revelation 21:4) These former hurtful things will not be called to mind. His original purpose for mankind will happen. Soon. Very Soon.
Thank you Anna, I've just had a one-two punch in the gut recently. I've had some obsessive thinking out of hurt and feelings of injustice but didn't freak out and get overly emotional. I am accepting the situation and letting it all go. I know it's all for the best. Thank you so much for your techniques, they truly help and I'm so greatful for you!
I watched the whole video, but I never did hear how to do the practice. I have that sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach that you get when you realize that you just spent a valuable chunk of your time trying to get some information you really needed, only to find out at the very end that you were just watching a long commercial for something you were going to have to buy. 😢
It's annoying that it's not clear in the video, but she goes into detail in the Daily Practice course which is free. You just sign up with your email and immediately get a PDF with details on how to do it, plus some more videos about how she discovered it etc. But the pdf is all you actually need to get started. (I'm not affiliated with her at all, just going through her videos myself and noticed the same thing you did!)
I’m sorry Carla Many do that nowadays Look it’s just all about writing down the things that happen One lady told us how she loves it Sk just have someone to hear your writing 🖋️ Wishing you much happiness and success
@@MildExplosionWhat a name you have 😅Anyway you’re kind to share for Carla I’m already in Groups that do healing together I have too many but i’m not fan of writing why because my programming is auditory- digital which means I do it in my head i have mini computer up there
So between a couple of other things and your videos I think I’ve figured it out. I’m not scared or flushed with overwhelming waves of fear anxiety and panic . I’ve spent 22 years living with these feelings not understanding why I was doing things and how they where just feeding this cycle of these feelings. There was a time I was shocked when I made it past the age of 27 because I’d figured I’d be dead by this point . So thank you because you where one of the factors that helped me choose to live, and to live freely without daily shame and fear .
Thank you so much for sharing! Have you checked out the Daily Practice yet? courses.crappychildhoodfairy.com/courses/daily-practice If you do, please click on link to be emailed about zoom calls and we can meet :)
Great advice about the daily inventory. I have used 12 steps and belonged to and worked a programme and not all 12 step programmes are for alcohol or substance abuse, there is a broad spectrum.
I am so grateful that I stumbled onto your channel, THANK YOU!! I have been able to identify with so much and it has and is helping me to heal and grow ❤
Personally, I detest 12 step programs, especially the religion part. I also hate the conformist mentality and the way people repeat the same bs statements. I don't think going to them makes you sober, I think people just switch to being addicted to meetings. What I hated most was the "sit down and shut up" message to new people from people who had been sober longer and supposedly knew it all. I also think talking about drinking all the time is not healthy. I get that I cannot drink and do not need to be reminded. People who are survivors of abuse do not need some other ignorant authority person ignoring what they have to say and making them follow rigid rules. AA and its rules and steps were developed back in the 1920's for arrogant alcoholic men who needed to be broken down. We have learned a lot in the last 100 years, but AA has stayed the same.
~Yes, i left in tears each time i went to AA~I also refused to constantly re-affirm being an addict outloud with my name~I really think that is damaging~I quit on my own~Re-living the glory days of drugs every day did not seem like a good treatment to me at all, so i did all the things id missed out on cuz i was on drugs, and that made me really happy & excited about life!~☆~
@@kathyingram3061 I've been a binge drinker for years. I don't now like spirits at all and only have 1 to 2 small glasses of rose wine per week, if that. Feel so much better. Labelling ppl is damaging. We are all persons!!...who used a crutch, till we don't need it anymore. xxx to you.
PTSD is real.... couldn't remember a telephone number string until the end of the number..😐 Flung into a parallel universe by my brain chemistry ... glad I'm back from the abyss...such a deep lesson I can say I was asleep until then and the disconnection from self shook me awake, ironically...I thank the Universe ... and thank you 🙏🏻 Anna for all you do. I'm back for a refresher on the Daily Practice
Hello❤ When I first learned I had CPTSD and started doing a daily practice, it worked really well. For the first time, I felt a sense of regulation that I had never experienced before. But over time, because of my self-sabotaging tendencies, I gradually returned to old patterns. Now, I’m doing the daily practice again, but my CPTSD mind, which turns everything into something destructive, has twisted this practice as well. I’ve started doing it in a perfectionistic way, treating it like a task I have to perform flawlessly. Since I don’t feel good after doing it, I keep repeating it over and over throughout the day. Instead of feeling regulated, I’m stuck in a cycle of burnout and overwhelm. At the same time, I can’t let go of this technique because I know it’s supposed to be helpful. I’m caught in a perfectionistic daily practice loop. What should I do? How can I make the practice work for me again, in a way that truly benefits me?
I would strongly recommend that you attend a Daily Practice call where you can ask Anna or one of our coaches this question directly. Here's a link to the call calendar: bit.ly/DailyPractice_Calls -Calista@TeamFairy
I recently noticed that if I practice yoga daily, I mentally feel better and can stay present. This realization is my motivation to continue to take care of ME and everything else will fall where it's meant to be.
I got ptsd diagnos after the war i was in Bosnia. During emdr discovered i even childhood ptsd. Im heald but still there is comming some unconscious part.
I am really happy that you have found such wonderful balance and that you can help so many people. I too have found my own happiness in a very traditional way - very simple - two hours of prayer a day. Yes, but it is a discipline which is difficult to do but has transformed my life and I cannot live without it. However, the tradition I work in is also very traditional, and does not anticipate a 'happy ever after' which how your solution comes across. It means dealing with the reality, pain and difficulties of life with serenity, with a submission to the Divine Will and with a 'willingness to stay, but a happiness to go' because, the Christian tradition is that this is a 'veil of tears'. Again, there are cultural differences Americans have 'the pursuit of happiness' in their Constitution, we Brits like moaning with our cloudy weather. So in 'this veil of tears' (which by the way all the Classical writers like Cicero wrote about) there is courage, and fellowship and a willingness to go. This is what Freud would could the 'death wish' - that there is a part of us that wishes to die. Thus, being able to live serenely through the 'slings and arrows of outrageous fortune' seems to me to be a more realistic, certainly, a more European style of thought. So willing to stay, to serve God and others, but a true desire to leave and be with God - this is an intense desire and pleasure, but encompasses all the grief of life, and particularly those who had traumatic childhoods. You are clearly a person gifted with a good heart, you had this already, and you found the love of your life - please do not give the impression that this is the only possible goal for happiness. It really is not and you were also lucky to have found the man of your dreams. It really does not happen to everyone. Reading the Saints is truly an inspiration - they are simple and very often very neurotic - like St. Theresa of Avila o r St. Theresa of Liseux who lost her mother at 4 and died of TB at 24 but conveys true love by cultivating simple kind gestures, not finding a man. Gestures done for God, not for self. Happiness, like life is fleeting, comes and goes, ebbs and flows. It is not in itself a goal. The goal is to become as much like God as possible whilst recognising our absolute broken ness. I still think you are doing a great job, but please put the finding the man equation with happiness a little further down your agenda.
And yet, God said in Genesis 2:18: “ It is no good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” Genesis 2:24 “ Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” It seems, from a religious point of view, that humans need companionship . It does not guarantee that you’ll be happy though. Life is little complicated …
I wish I could afford your courses. I am 27 and hearing people write to you who are in their 60s scares me a little. I don't want to go one more day like this.
The Daily Practice can help you see things clear, as they really are, so many people struggling with limerence have benefited from this method. Nika@TeamFairy
Hi Anna! I've started to do the daily practice now for about the last week now. I usually manage to get once a day in. What I'm noticing is that when I get up and start my day I normally don't have a lot of fears and resentments on my mind. When they really come out is when I go to my job and start working. I've had mornings where I've written some of them down but sometimes I feel like I'm forcing myself to come up with them rather than them just being there. Did you have this experience? What do you recommend? Thank you!
Hi @Be -- no need to force them! And though you're at work, if there's a way for you to write WHEN the fears are up, that would be ideal. Then again in the evening. Before dinner is a good time.
Hi Anna! I came across your channel today and I am so glad I did! It was just what I needed. You said in the video that the writing down of your resentments and fears was only feeding the disregulation and the PTSD. (At 5:25) So in which course do you show how you overcame disregulation by adding in what you needed to to make your process treat your regulation? 🙏🏼 Thanks!
Hmm. Not sure what you were hearing. I teach twin techniques to heal dysregulation, one is a specific writing technique. You can learn all this in my free course -- it's in the description section of all my videos. Also on my website, same name as channel. The Daily Practice.
2:56 My God that hit me with a ton of bricks. I tried to explain this feeling to the ppl around me, but they couldnt understand why. No one took it seriously until i had a seizure from lack of sleep ( didnt sleep for about 4 days).
Ouch, that is awful! This Practice will surely help with that, it took about a year for me but I also had terrible insomnia and it lifted -Cara@TeamFairy
OMG 😲 I can totally relate! I've been looking for help here and I just feel like I'm still spinning my wheels! Wow! I grew up in Northern California too!
I love you, Anna! You are so sweet and fun and explain things well and give me a harbor to feel safe in. I have been doing your Daily Practice now for 2 weeks and it does seemt to help even if i cannot quite stick "religiously" to it (dependent critters in the morning need attention so i get to it a bit later than i would want to; at night i sometimes just can't make it🙄). Anyway, i am giving it my best and it helped calming me down and i have the feeling i can stay more focused throughout the day. Thank you for that!! Now i do have a Q: when i am meditating i have issues popping up who i would have loved to write down but didn't think of when writing fears and resentments. I tell myself to let them go now and to write them down next time but by then they are forgotten or don't seem as pressing anymore. Does that happen to you as well? What to do? Quickly scribble them down? Deep healing and love to all. ❤❤❤
Hello !! I was wondering if you could explain the "signing off" part at the end the writing. What you personally do. I didnt pick that up in the daily practice series. Ok thank you very much !❤😊
As far as HOW to do the sign off, that's in the last five minutes of the "The First Technique: How to Write Your Fears and Resentments" in the free Daily Practice course at this link: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice There's also the #2 FAQ in the course, "Why is the Sign-Off (Release Statement) So Important?"
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy I jotted down the things that arouse my bad feelings. It's strange that they seemed gone because the frequency of recalling them was reduced, or even forgot them.
Would it not be better to write down our "worries" not "fears" since fear means something very different than worry/anxiety. FEAR is a reaction, an intense physical response to an immediate danger. On the other hand, anxiety is worry or unease about something that may happen. This trips me up and I want to make sure I am doing the daily practice in the best possible way. Thank you.
The daily practice is a free course Anna offers that teaches several techniques for calming stress and increasing mental focus. Here is the link if you want to check it out: courses.crappychildhoodfairy.com/daily-practice -Calista@TeamFairy
I tried the daily practice but it doesnt work for me. Im out of balance when Im tired and sleep deprived. Regulation for me is putting myself back in balance by proper physical self care aleep food etc. But when Im overworked and have no time to rest then its again difficult.
I have tried this, but more than fear and resentment, what I struggle with is sadness and sorrow. Can you describe a way this exercise could be used for this?
Hi, after doing this for a while there are no fears at times to write about, what do you do in this instance? Also, is there a daily practice to reaffirm the positive daily instead of fears? The meditation after the practise rally help.
Any thoughts we have that nag at us at all is a "fear", anything we think we "should" do in this context is a fear. There are at least always 2! For me, the freedom of having fear itself generates quite a bit of positivity :) -Cara@TeamFairy
I don't believe in miracles, but I believe in Anna.
Oh @Leftatalbuquerque you goofball me. How are things with you?
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy I've come through a long period of the last 5 years of recognizing a lot of things, and a few of which were crimes. The question now is literally what to do with this information? There are no statutes of limitations in Canada for crimes against children, and I have the power to inflict great pain and torment on those who tormented me. Shall I be Old Testament or New? And what would be gained, other than a principle? I'm at a crossroads, and all directions are as attractive as the others. I keep thinking of two songs, one of which I shared before: No One Is Alone from Into The Woods. I also think of Children Will Listen from the same show. Babs did a complete recording of all the verses and choruses (the show did not) and I include it here... preaching to the choir, I know...
th-cam.com/video/hiTaDJ9E1I0/w-d-xo.html
Maybe try believing in yourself, I know it can be hard but it's better than putting others on a pedastal
What you said about not being to focus on a sentence, resonates with me.
You can believe in both, right?
You know I never knew others went through the same thing I do in the same way. It feels less lonesome.
I learned from Ross Rosenberg the horrible loneliness inside comes from not being connected to ourselves as kids. Our innocent brains were too busy figuring out how to keep us safe.
Once I got this I began a path of healing. I am also a Christ follower and He is doing a work in me!
xoxox ❤
This practice is changing my life. The Daily Practice helps me have boundaries with the fear and resentments and not carry them around all day. It's freedom and allows me to truly show up between writings. I choose to no longer carry them around. God will remove them, just be patient. It took me 7 days of writing about the same fear and then my answer, my miracle came. There is freedom from fear, shame, judgment, insecurity, discontentment, etc. This practice opens the door for God to do His miracles in us. Thank you so much for sharing this.
It IS a miracle. I'm always in awe when I see the evidence that I can share what I learned with someone I've never met, and we both have a similar release into freedom.
I heard the first step in the "Daily Practice Techniques" which, is to write down my fearful and resentful thoughts; to take a personal inventory. However, I did not hear the second technique. Anna, would you clarify that for me please? Thanks and blessings! 😊😊
@@lesleaschofield5992check the link under the video description
I woke up so sad. I didn't fall asleep until well after the sun came up. I'm so glad I found this channel. I still feel alone, but at least there's some semblance of a community. I'm trying to work up the nerve to leave the house and go to the gym. If I don't, I'll feel like I failed my one social task for the day. Anyway, thanks for being here.
If not today then that’s fine you can do this ❤
@@spidersense92 Aww thank you! I've been feeling much better since this post. I decided to commit to my nutrition, which gave me much needed energy. Then I recruited an old friend to dress up with me on Sundays to go to brunch. Turns out she was going through a similar thing so getting together and putting in an effort with our appearance has really helped us both. I have few friends left but all I need is one or two good ones and it makes a world of difference. Thanks so much for your kind words and support. I hope you are doing well yourself. Sending you much love!
@anonymouse6703 sometimes self care, self love & just one friend is all we need ❤ its a start to better things
Hey, hope you are doing better. I know when we are at this state it feels like we are going to remain stuck forever, and this thought feels you with fear and anguish. But its not true. Forever is a looooong time, and in the time I can almost guarantee you something is going to change. And just believing in that will already take you a long way.
A friend sent this to me today that I'd like to share. The daily writing reminds me of this scripture:
"Don't be pulled in different directions or worried about a thing. Be saturated in prayer throughout each day, offering your faith-filled requests before God with overflowing gratitude. Tell him every detail of you life, then God's wonderful peace that transcends human understanding will guard your heart and mind through Jesus Christ. Keep your thoughts continually fixed on all that is authentic and real, honorable and admirable, beautiful and respectful, pure and holy, merciful and kind. And fasten your thoughts on every glorious work of God, praising him always." Philippians 4:6-8 The Passion Translation
that translation makes much more sense than the usual.
This translation is easier for me grasp. Thank you very much.
Amen 🤍✝️💜
Hallelujah! How beautiful ❤
Thank you🙏❤️💫
love this honest woman .
Yeah...me, too.
Do not skip the meditation part! It's critical...I thought I could just do the writing but you need to soothe yourself after you do this otherwise you'll just be in the vortex of those thoughts. I've done it with the mediation and without and I won't be skipping the meditation anymore!
That's right - meditation is important! Appreciate you sharing that insight to encourage others to stick with it. Glad you've felt the difference. - Ashley, Team Fairy
Where can I find the meditation or a guide for daily practice beyond listing fears and resentments and releasing them to God? Is there a sample or a copy of the meditation somewhere?
@@CrappyChildhoodFairyhow do I access the daily practice and meditation?
Do I have to pay? How much?
I like to told up front.
@@marialinklater6174I think it is free. There is a link in the description and you need to put in your email address.
I@@marialinklater6174 it's all in the daily practice course
I've been doing this practice religiously for a little over a month. It has truly changed my life for the better.
I start the day in a more quiet and balanced way, even when my tasking list is long and ever growing.
I am much more able to be responsive rather than reactive when my plans for the day change suddenly, and I have the kind of job where sudden changes are the norm.
After about a month, I have noticed a couple of other things; I have more energy. I am better able to start something and follow through without feeling overwhelmed. Like many of us, I have had a tendency to look at everything that needs to be done or that I want to do, and becoming overwhelmed, then I get disregulated and frozen, and don't get ANYTHING done, which eventually feels overwhelming and...well...you get the picture.
I noticed this past weekend that I was able to focus on one thing at a time, start a task and follow through. I felt a much greater balance between tasking and leisure. I noticed that some small things have made a huge difference in the way my home environment feels, which is encouraging me and fueling my desire to keep moving forward.
I have an awareness of a sense of increased space and time in my work day, and am able to be mindful of that, and find myself speaking my gratitude aloud as I drive from one appointment to another--"Thank You for this beauty; thank You for this peace."
Instead of feeling like I am working right up until I go to sleep, I know that I will be doing my evening practice, and my husband and I have just created space for that to happen. In fact, he is joining me in slowing down and getting more quiet, preparing ourselves for sleep.
The amount of energy that I am NOT spending dealing, consciously or unconsciously, with constant spinning thoughts is enabling me to see my patterns of response more clearly, which is allowing me greater choice in how I respond to things, simply by having a greater awareness of the fact that I do get triggered, and what kinds of things trigger me.
I am someone that has long processed by writing. I do journal, and I have meditated.
I am sharing this because THIS PRACTICE IS DIFFERENT. It is NOT journaling. The combination of the writing and meditation is a very, very, very effective tool for quieting the brain weasels.
Do yourself a favor, and try it.
And Anna, I bow to you, and every experience that brought you here.
Glad you are getting that distinction- the practice is not journaling! I'm so glad that you are finding relief!
-Cara@TeamFairy
Your answer IS helpful Indeed, but what should do writing down m'y fears and meditate twice a d'Ay ? I am a bit Lost. Thank you
click the link in the description and enter your email address, Anna will send you step] by step instructions on how to do the daily practice
Thank for sharing yr experience. I'm inspired to start again. Evening practice better for me too.
@wendyembertonbyrne4000 Do you do it twice a day?
Found your channel through a narcissism video. Im on Day 4 of No Contact with my wife of 3 years (7 yr relationship).. Im a strong stoicism oriented old soul but younger man (38).. this woman sucked my energy. I survived a rough 90s divorce between my parents. They used us (older possibly narc brother and younger sister) against each other.
Ive been a lover AnD a fighter my whole life. Like a knight and a Casanova. But ive always been easily sucked into toxic relationships whole heartedly always thinking id found that damsel in distress. They always get me hook line and sinker. This time I finally see it and get it. Gods grace finally put the right YT recommendations 🙌
Oh God, I'm crying watching this video, you just put a huge missing peice of the puzzle together for me, I had childhood CPTSD but I didn't realise, then when I was 31 my Grand mother began her journey towards death I went to look after her and My mother was with us and just being abusive to me the whole time, I started to get really ADHD, I couldn't keep my thoughts together and then my health collapsed, my face aged overnight and I couldn't cope with that on top of everything else, loosing my looks meant that I would never be loved and ultimately I would die all alone. That was it my whole world collapsed, I was chronically mentally and physically ill for 10 years. I'm 40 now and really struggling to get my life back, it's hard because I'm really short on resources and not well enough to start working again, I don't even know what kind of job I can do. I'm so grateful for these videos, thank goodness this information is getting out there, thank you ❤
Thank you for sharing with us- and for being here!
Worship helped me pray Jesus steps into you situation amen
Hi, how are you doing now?
You can get back. Start slow, pick up any job that you can find doesn’t matter. Parallely start daily practice, eating healthy, getting some exercise if you can and sleep discipline. If you end up making enough money, then go to therapy. I’m sure you’re smart enough to figure things out once you get back on track. Hope you turn your life around. I’m counting on it.
I just signed up last night and I started the writing and meditation before I went to bed. This morning I got up feeling relaxed and grateful. My list of fears and resent was very short! Thank you!
A beautiful reality. To be continued. Thanks for sharing!
I don’t ever expect recovery I do expect to learn how to live with this.🌸
A modest goal!
How to do the daily practice is not in this video. You must sign up to get the details.
Yes, it's a free, 40-minute mini-course. You can sign up here: bit.ly/2pUeGYz
So glad you put this comment! Really appreciate knowing ahead of time. Thank you!
Isn't it amazing that so many psych medical professionals recommend meds plus therapy for 100 years yet there are so many ppl out there still traumatised
Being financially independent helps a lot with helping mental illness.
I love your wisdom, generosity, and clarity. Sometimes it cuts too close to the bone. It's still hard to face some of the crazy without the fear of drowning in it.
Thank you 🙏 journaling is only thing that helps me. So many people have tried to stop me writing in my life very strange but this video has confirmed alot regarding my writing and coping with my C-PTSD....I'm now 45 finally got my own little place now I'm taking little consistent steps 👣 to healing you help me alot...you are appreciated 💜⚔️💜
Thats awesome. Keep up the consistency. Jack@TeamFairy
Thank you 🙏🌹
Wow! Good for you. I wish you all the best on your journey,
Praying resulted in the miracle of my lupus going in remission. It is like that since 2014....thankful
that is lovely to read. thank you for sharing.
Im so proud of your determination and touched by your bravery and willingness to reach out to offer hope to others through your sharing! Your suggestions have been liberating and healing to me! Thankyou and bless you!
Thank you for these kind words! The best part of my life is know people like you have benefitted. I appreciate that you told me.
Hey Anna! Thanks for sharing all your videos, insights and techniques!
I recently, after a lifelong of depression anxiety and (in the past) chronic suicidal ideation, coupled with limerence and unfulfilled romantic life. I can now put a word on what i was going through...cause it wasn't simply depression or anxiety or even psychosis (which i experienced).
I have been practicing meditation for the past 6 years, and taking good care of my body (eating healthy, sleeping well, exercising) and in general trying to be kind and compassionate with myself, but still even after years of mindfulness and self care, your videos are helping integrate all that and understand what i had and still am going through (although my symptoms are very mild). Ii get deregulated (new word for me but perfectly on point) if i don't follow my self care routine, yet i never knew how to explian to others how important it is for me to have that routine (even though on the outside i look like a pretty happy and healthy young person).
Also, i just wanted to point out and alternative for the writing exercise in case anyone is interested. Since i have a tendency to get sucked into negative thinking (and spiral down), i instead try to focus on Hope and Gratitude (as opposed to fear and resentment). I wrote down my resentment today, and it was a pretty long list hehe, so instead i tried to focus on what i am grateful for, which i have a long list of as well. It feels good to write it down and get a perspective on how far i've come.
Anna.... you are a treasure. Thank you for what you bring to a hurting world. . . Love, Hope and Healing. May God continue to bless you.
Thank you so much for the kind words for Anna
-Cara@TeamFairy
I am making a promise to myself to commit to the daily practice. After three therapists who didn’t know what to do with my dysregulation, and a psychiatrist waiting in the wings, I’m tired of feeling the way I do. The highs and lows, the difficulty focusing, the emotions that feel so heavy like I could just die from them.
Thank you for helping us, Anna. ❤
The way you explained the emotions is the same way that I experience them too. They're so intense that it feels like they're going to swallow me up
your videos always give me hope, thank you for your advice. i'm in a very dark place mentally and this makes me feel like i do have at least some hope for the future
12 step programs were torture for me because of my severe social anxiety. It was another added trauma in my case. I wouldn't say it's for everyone.
ME TOO!!!! This was 100% my experience. I was someone who needed the Daily Practice (which is my step 4 & 10) before 12- step meetings because I could NOT be there. It's completely different now that I do the Daily Practice every day- I really enjoy the meetings and pass this on to anyone who wants it bit.ly/3608opl
-Cara@TeamFairy
I found 12 step recovery difficult to engage with, as I found being in relationship with people so difficult. I saw people working fine with their sponsors, but for me it was so loaded. I did get other good things from it (I hope to go back to it) but I realise I need help with the human/ relational aspect first.
I’ve been recommended not to try one for the same reason I’m not recommended to be in therapy anymore. Too unsafe (for myself and then as a result for others), too damaging, no potential to be worked through to be made helpful.
12 step programs for me also were plenty of mean sick people who were exposed to me in AA. which I felt sad, until I no longer went & started to feel better & bring up my self-esteem. Of course I'm still sober over 30 yrs. Thank God
@@jasond.b-w Was it a 12-step program that recommended you don't go? I think the expectations in 12-step programs are usually way different than therapy. Of course some therapists could be recovered or invisibly struggling, but many of them being able to get through school won't have had the lived experience(s) your having. They may fear the unexpected reactions due to their inability to relate. They might fear their lack of skill development to know how to handle those situations. They come from institutions where those policies were the norm. I also think they are working in isolating conditions that make crises more dangerous for them.
From what I've heard from people who have attended AA, many of them have been street-involved, etc, and have behaved in unsafe ways themselves. AA groups welcome people where they're at. They have probably been through something similar before. People probably feel safer in a group environment because there's a greater likelihood someone there will know how to respond in a crisis. When I worked at a place that catered to a lot of street-involved youth, our ideal crisis responses involved multiple people so different people could take on different roles. One person might be talking to a person in distress, one might be leading others in an activity to not get distracted by or pulled into drama happening nearby, one might be looking up necessary resources, one might be a liason communicating to others that a room was currently occupied if people were approaching, one might be providing or seeking medical assistance. I don't know if anyone was ever permanently banned. What might happen is if someone is in a state of being unable to negotiate they might be sent away for *that day* and told they are welcomed back when they are experiencing a state that they are able to negotiate keeping things safe.
Something valuable I was taught working there is that often when people are unleashing anger on you it is because they have had to keep it pent up in other places and feel you are a safe enough place for them to let that out. I recognized myself doing that when I was being kicked out of an abusive home. It wouldn't surprise me if therapy might illicit some reactions as a response and it would be difficult to feel trust if every safe becomes closed to you when you are taking a risk being vulnerable in order to heal. My hope is there will be many 12 step type places that are familiar with this phenomenon. I've also heard jokes about how vastly different the attendees are--from homeless drug addicts to high powered lawyers to wine moms. It is something addressed about how they are all working in solidarity together each with the common goal of healing.
All to say, I can't gauruntee, and not all 12 steps groups are the same, but I think you might find many that are a different experience than therapy if you feel the program might be useful to you. Either way, I hope you find something that provides you some healing.
I am not able at this time, to write the fears. It is too overwhelming. But I can ask myself, in my own mind, and answer myself. This seems to help a lot.
Small steps, good for you!
Relate so much!!! You have no idea! So happy I found you!!!
Thank you Anna for all the help you are giving me and everyone out there who is struggling with this condition. You are a Miracle. Xx
Thank you for the support. We are happy to have you around. Jack@TeamFairy
"I had an issue with sanity and survival...." that's why I Love your posts. I can relate soooo much. Doctors and counselors are at a loss how to help me.
I started doing it a few days ago only. So I am doing it for a tiny, tiny moment. I meditate for over a year regularly. Here is what is happening to me: It was pretty interesting. I never had this experience of almost seizure-like waves of emotions of disgust and pain going in the rhythm of 60 seconds during meditation. It was gross. I realized that strong emotions come in waves. Noramybi would talk to myself, tell stories to sooth myself. I would detach a lot from daydreams. Now I feel so much better afterward. Sitting with those feelings is no fun; I don’t always ‘understand’ them, but I don’t go to the story. I finally have a gist of what it means to sit with your feelings. They can leave the system thanks to writing. Otherwise, I am so great at shifting my attention away from the pain; the ‘normal’ meditation, body therapy, nor talk therapy didn’t help as much; I still think for me, it is essential to have talk therapy, and I am making the daily practice a part of daily routine. thank you so much Anna for sharing those tools! 💖
MRS ANNA i am trying my best to heal and not to give up i started seeing a therpist , i am 45 just learning about myself , i want to heal for i can help others
Good! Glad are here!
Gosh! This really hits close to my heart and home. I’ve gotten better from acute ptsd symptoms over the years but some of the less obvious symptoms like ADHD and “getting lost” on the way to store etc... these are still happening. Thank you for sharing, it helps guide me to the next healing steps.
Great to hear, thank you!
I just want to thank you for this amazing tool! Every time I do it, it is such a relief!
Great to hear!
I did it. It works. What a relief! And it was free. God bless Anna richly.
Big hugs to you!
This life of peace is something I am striving for.... Thank You for sharing these techniques....
🙂
It's day 5 of doing the daily practice, and I'm starting to feel calmer. I look forward to it. I wonder how much better I'll feel after 30 days? It's exactly what I needed to do. Thank you.
That's great. Happy to hear that you're making time for the Daily Practice. I have a feeling you're going to feel even more amazing after 30 days. Definitely report back! - Ashley, Team Fairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairyI just completed 7 days. I notice I feel more centered, less stressed about doing, doing, doing. I will continue until the month ends, and look forward to making progress. Thanks for this useful tool.
We have very, very similar stories!!! I'm an ACA, mom was A also, same relationships, etc. I love your energy. Going to watch all of your videos. Going to walk the Camino de Santiago to regulate my system and then when I'm back do your courses! THANK YOU
This Daily Practice is a new concept for me. I've written twice so far, a few days apart. It's difficult to start a new habit with a short-term memory like Dust in the Wind. ADHD? I thought so for decades. C-PTSD seems more likely the case. At the end of the first Writing, I wrote my release similar to how the Scriptures describe throwing my burden on God and letting Him give me peace. I folded the page between my folded hands, lightly rumpled the page, and opened my hands heavenward and said, Thank You. Being the Sappy Mush that I've always been, grateful tears of relief trickled down my face. I then did something kind of odd: Instead of reaching for the nearby tissues, I used the rumpled paper to wipe the tears, opened my hands heavenward again, then let the wet paper fall into the trash can. This was like a visual representation of throwing my cares onto God and not taking them back onto myself. It seemed appropriate, so I treated today's Writing the same way. Shortly afterward, when I watched one of the teaching videos and Anna said to destroy the page after signing off, I thought about the rumpled wet paper that I let fall into the trash can. Yep, that works. And yep, Sappy Mush that I am, grateful tears of relief are trickling down my face again as I write this comment.
Learning about C-PTSD and Prefrontal Cortex imbalances and how to reregulate has started my healing process. My childhood was mildly crappy in comparison to some, and still crappy enough to have injured my mind. Humans are surprisingly resilient creatures. Our loving God made us in such a way that our injuries can be healed. And he has reassured us that the day is coming when he will wipe every tear from our eyes, and neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. (Revelation 21:4) These former hurtful things will not be called to mind. His original purpose for mankind will happen. Soon. Very Soon.
Thank you Anna, I've just had a one-two punch in the gut recently. I've had some obsessive thinking out of hurt and feelings of injustice but didn't freak out and get overly emotional. I am accepting the situation and letting it all go. I know it's all for the best. Thank you so much for your techniques, they truly help and I'm so greatful for you!
Anna, you’re a life saver. Thanks for your generosity.
I'm so glad the channel has been helpful :) -Calista@TeamFairy
I'm so grateful God blessed you and put you in position to help me. Thank you
Your awesome and I really appreciate finding you.
Thank you!
I watched the whole video, but I never did hear how to do the practice. I have that sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach that you get when you realize that you just spent a valuable chunk of your time trying to get some information you really needed, only to find out at the very end that you were just watching a long commercial for something you were going to have to buy. 😢
It's annoying that it's not clear in the video, but she goes into detail in the Daily Practice course which is free. You just sign up with your email and immediately get a PDF with details on how to do it, plus some more videos about how she discovered it etc. But the pdf is all you actually need to get started.
(I'm not affiliated with her at all, just going through her videos myself and noticed the same thing you did!)
I’m sorry Carla Many do that nowadays
Look it’s just all about writing down the things that happen One lady told us how she loves it Sk just have someone to hear your writing 🖋️ Wishing you much happiness and success
@@MildExplosionWhat a name you have 😅Anyway you’re kind to share for Carla I’m already in Groups that do healing together I have too many but i’m not fan of writing
why
because my programming is auditory- digital which means I do it in my head
i have mini computer up there
So between a couple of other things and your videos I think I’ve figured it out. I’m not scared or flushed with overwhelming waves of fear anxiety and panic . I’ve spent 22 years living with these feelings not understanding why I was doing things and how they where just feeding this cycle of these feelings. There was a time I was shocked when I made it past the age of 27 because I’d figured I’d be dead by this point . So thank you because you where one of the factors that helped me choose to live, and to live freely without daily shame and fear .
Thank you so much for sharing! Have you checked out the Daily Practice yet? courses.crappychildhoodfairy.com/courses/daily-practice
If you do, please click on link to be emailed about zoom calls and we can meet :)
Thank you from the Deepest of my heart ❤
You are so welcome! Thanks for watching :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Great advice about the daily inventory. I have used 12 steps and belonged to and worked a programme and not all 12 step programmes are for alcohol or substance abuse, there is a broad spectrum.
Yes.
Thank you so much for sharing your videos they came right on time! God bless you 🙌🏾
Thanks for listening!
-Cara@TeamFairy
This was amazing, you put into words so many things i was never able to describe.
I am so grateful that I stumbled onto your channel, THANK YOU!!
I have been able to identify with so much and it has and is helping me to heal and grow ❤
Thankyou for the work you do and sharing it with the world...this step/practice has helped me immensely ❤
That's wonderful! Thanks for sharing :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Anna, this has helped me so much. (And I've only been doing it for a few days.) Thank you. ❤️
Oh good! Relief!
Thank you for Transparancy!!❤
Anna is a miracle ❤
Thank you thank you thank you. There are no words to describe my gratitude for this video
You’re to strong and doing incredible work 💜 I’ve been wanting to try your practice since I first came across this video and i’m starting it tonight
You are such an inspiration and hope for me.
Thank you so much! So glad you're watching this video!
Personally, I detest 12 step programs, especially the religion part. I also hate the conformist mentality and the way people repeat the same bs statements. I don't think going to them makes you sober, I think people just switch to being addicted to meetings. What I hated most was the "sit down and shut up" message to new people from people who had been sober longer and supposedly knew it all. I also think talking about drinking all the time is not healthy. I get that I cannot drink and do not need to be reminded.
People who are survivors of abuse do not need some other ignorant authority person ignoring what they have to say and making them follow rigid rules.
AA and its rules and steps were developed back in the 1920's for arrogant alcoholic men who needed to be broken down.
We have learned a lot in the last 100 years, but AA has stayed the same.
spot on. totally agree. AA is full of predators posing as serene gurus
@@jamesmoore1089 I am scared of authoritarianism.
~Yes, i left in tears each time i went to AA~I also refused to constantly re-affirm being an addict outloud with my name~I really think that is damaging~I quit on my own~Re-living the glory days of drugs every day did not seem like a good treatment to me at all, so i did all the things id missed out on cuz i was on drugs, and that made me really happy & excited about life!~☆~
@@lisasmith516 Yes. They ARE traumatising!!
@@kathyingram3061 I've been a binge drinker for years. I don't now like spirits at all and only have 1 to 2 small glasses of rose wine per week, if that. Feel so much better. Labelling ppl is damaging. We are all persons!!...who used a crutch, till we don't need it anymore. xxx to you.
Love you dear you are light🌺🇮🇳
PTSD is real.... couldn't remember a telephone number string until the end of the number..😐
Flung into a parallel universe by my brain chemistry ... glad I'm back from the abyss...such a deep lesson
I can say I was asleep until then and the disconnection from self shook me awake, ironically...I thank the Universe
... and thank you 🙏🏻 Anna for all you do. I'm back for a refresher on the Daily Practice
Good luck on your healing journey!
Nika@TeamFairy
I just took the free daily practice course and started doing the writings. Thanks for sharing this!
That's wonderful! -Calista@TeamFairy
Hello❤
When I first learned I had CPTSD and started doing a daily practice, it worked really well. For the first time, I felt a sense of regulation that I had never experienced before.
But over time, because of my self-sabotaging tendencies, I gradually returned to old patterns.
Now, I’m doing the daily practice again, but my CPTSD mind, which turns everything into something destructive, has twisted this practice as well.
I’ve started doing it in a perfectionistic way, treating it like a task I have to perform flawlessly. Since I don’t feel good after doing it, I keep repeating it over and over throughout the day.
Instead of feeling regulated, I’m stuck in a cycle of burnout and overwhelm. At the same time, I can’t let go of this technique because I know it’s supposed to be helpful.
I’m caught in a perfectionistic daily practice loop. What should I do? How can I make the practice work for me again, in a way that truly benefits me?
I would strongly recommend that you attend a Daily Practice call where you can ask Anna or one of our coaches this question directly. Here's a link to the call calendar: bit.ly/DailyPractice_Calls
-Calista@TeamFairy
Really tou heal my soul
:)
I recently noticed that if I practice yoga daily, I mentally feel better and can stay present. This realization is my motivation to continue to take care of ME and everything else will fall where it's meant to be.
Magic formula: Daily practice of writing down resentful and disregulated emotions on paper to take the edge off ❤️
I got ptsd diagnos after the war i was in Bosnia. During emdr discovered i even childhood ptsd.
Im heald but still there is comming some unconscious part.
You are saving my life
Yea, I feel the same. There IS Hope. Know You Are Loved and not alone. Who would have thought?
wow, live this
such is our brave hearts !!
daily practice..to regulate heal
growth!!!!! yes!!!
Yes!
I am really happy that you have found such wonderful balance and that you can help so many people. I too have found my own happiness in a very traditional way - very simple - two hours of prayer a day. Yes, but it is a discipline which is difficult to do but has transformed my life and I cannot live without it. However, the tradition I work in is also very traditional, and does not anticipate a 'happy ever after' which how your solution comes across. It means dealing with the reality, pain and difficulties of life with serenity, with a submission to the Divine Will and with a 'willingness to stay, but a happiness to go' because, the Christian tradition is that this is a 'veil of tears'. Again, there are cultural differences Americans have 'the pursuit of happiness' in their Constitution, we Brits like moaning with our cloudy weather. So in 'this veil of tears' (which by the way all the Classical writers like Cicero wrote about) there is courage, and fellowship and a willingness to go. This is what Freud would could the 'death wish' - that there is a part of us that wishes to die. Thus, being able to live serenely through the 'slings and arrows of outrageous fortune' seems to me to be a more realistic, certainly, a more European style of thought. So willing to stay, to serve God and others, but a true desire to leave and be with God - this is an intense desire and pleasure, but encompasses all the grief of life, and particularly those who had traumatic childhoods. You are clearly a person gifted with a good heart, you had this already, and you found the love of your life - please do not give the impression that this is the only possible goal for happiness. It really is not and you were also lucky to have found the man of your dreams. It really does not happen to everyone. Reading the Saints is truly an inspiration - they are simple and very often very neurotic - like St. Theresa of Avila o r St. Theresa of Liseux who lost her mother at 4 and died of TB at 24 but conveys true love by cultivating simple kind gestures, not finding a man. Gestures done for God, not for self. Happiness, like life is fleeting, comes and goes, ebbs and flows. It is not in itself a goal. The goal is to become as much like God as possible whilst recognising our absolute broken ness. I still think you are doing a great job, but please put the finding the man equation with happiness a little further down your agenda.
Fancy criticism.
And yet, God said in Genesis 2:18: “ It is no good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”
Genesis 2:24 “ Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”
It seems, from a religious point of view, that humans need companionship . It does not guarantee that you’ll be happy though. Life is little complicated …
I have never felt so validated.
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-Cara@TeamFairy
I wish I could afford your courses. I am 27 and hearing people write to you who are in their 60s scares me a little. I don't want to go one more day like this.
Take the free course!
Thanks so much for sharing. This really helped me today.
Hi @Killthesnake! Looking forward to your podcast!
Does this practice helps with limerance?
The Daily Practice can help you see things clear, as they really are, so many people struggling with limerence have benefited from this method.
Nika@TeamFairy
buddha...nature....recovering. fear depressed shame addict. isolation. junkie
infatuation. junkie, yup
thank you Fairy!!!! hearts opening NOW!!!!
wonderful!
I have heard the old saying "If you don't take care of it..... It takes care of you.."..
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Hi Anna!
I've started to do the daily practice now for about the last week now. I usually manage to get once a day in.
What I'm noticing is that when I get up and start my day I normally don't have a lot of fears and resentments on my mind. When they really come out is when I go to my job and start working. I've had mornings where I've written some of them down but sometimes I feel like I'm forcing myself to come up with them rather than them just being there. Did you have this experience? What do you recommend?
Thank you!
Hi @Be -- no need to force them! And though you're at work, if there's a way for you to write WHEN the fears are up, that would be ideal. Then again in the evening. Before dinner is a good time.
Hi Anna! I came across your channel today and I am so glad I did! It was just what I needed. You said in the video that the writing down of your resentments and fears was only feeding the disregulation and the PTSD. (At 5:25) So in which course do you show how you overcame disregulation by adding in what you needed to to make your process treat your regulation? 🙏🏼 Thanks!
Hmm. Not sure what you were hearing. I teach twin techniques to heal dysregulation, one is a specific writing technique. You can learn all this in my free course -- it's in the description section of all my videos. Also on my website, same name as channel.
The Daily Practice.
2:56 My God that hit me with a ton of bricks. I tried to explain this feeling to the ppl around me, but they couldnt understand why. No one took it seriously until i had a seizure from lack of sleep ( didnt sleep for about 4 days).
Ouch, that is awful! This Practice will surely help with that, it took about a year for me but I also had terrible insomnia and it lifted
-Cara@TeamFairy
OMG 😲 I can totally relate! I've been looking for help here and I just feel like I'm still spinning my wheels! Wow! I grew up in Northern California too!
I love you, Anna! You are so sweet and fun and explain things well and give me a harbor to feel safe in. I have been doing your Daily Practice now for 2 weeks and it does seemt to help even if i cannot quite stick "religiously" to it (dependent critters in the morning need attention so i get to it a bit later than i would want to; at night i sometimes just can't make it🙄). Anyway, i am giving it my best and it helped calming me down and i have the feeling i can stay more focused throughout the day. Thank you for that!! Now i do have a Q: when i am meditating i have issues popping up who i would have loved to write down but didn't think of when writing fears and resentments. I tell myself to let them go now and to write them down next time but by then they are forgotten or don't seem as pressing anymore. Does that happen to you as well? What to do? Quickly scribble them down? Deep healing and love to all. ❤❤❤
It's OK to quickly scribble. I have a lot of this too. Good question.
Having CPTSD is terrorizing !
Congratulations to you and Thank you, Ms. Anna, for sharing your daily methods !
thanks!! Getting better already.
You kind of have to try it to believe that something so simple can be so powerful, right?
Thank you so much for sharing, I love you.
Thanks💜🌹🕊
I thank god for Anna I really do ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Hello !! I was wondering if you could explain the "signing off" part at the end the writing. What you personally do. I didnt pick that up in the daily practice series. Ok thank you very much !❤😊
As far as HOW to do the sign off, that's in the last five minutes of the "The First Technique: How to Write Your Fears and Resentments" in the free Daily Practice course at this link: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
There's also the #2 FAQ in the course, "Why is the Sign-Off (Release Statement) So Important?"
I trust you, and will do it.
Please let me know how it goes!
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy I jotted down the things that arouse my bad feelings. It's strange that they seemed gone because the frequency of recalling them was reduced, or even forgot them.
Would it not be better to write down our "worries" not "fears" since fear means something very different than worry/anxiety. FEAR is a reaction, an intense physical response to an immediate danger. On the other hand, anxiety is worry or unease about something that may happen. This trips me up and I want to make sure I am doing the daily practice in the best possible way. Thank you.
I highly recommend the CPTSD book by Pete Walker.
Anna recommends it too :)
-Cara@TeamFairy
I would love to try the daily practice if I could figure out what it is. . .
The daily practice is a free course Anna offers that teaches several techniques for calming stress and increasing mental focus. Here is the link if you want to check it out: courses.crappychildhoodfairy.com/daily-practice -Calista@TeamFairy
Thank you God bless
Thank you too
I tried the daily practice but it doesnt work for me. Im out of balance when Im tired and sleep deprived. Regulation for me is putting myself back in balance by proper physical self care aleep food etc. But when Im overworked and have no time to rest then its again difficult.
Thank you
I didn’t actually hear her explain the daily practice step by step. Can someone link the video for that?
We had a 12 step CODA group in my area that I attended for several years but unfortunately the group disbanded due to lack of attendance...
That's a great way to get support and it is available by zoom now, thanks to the pandemic, things don't have to be local.
Thanks anna
What is the daily practice? I heard you mention something in one second about writing something down. What do you write down?
You can check out the free course here: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
-Calista@TeamFairy
Hi Anna thank you so much for your good work. How can i see daily practice. Can you help me
It's in the description section beneath all my videos. You can also go to my course page: courses.crappychildhoodfairy.com
I have tried this, but more than fear and resentment, what I struggle with is sadness and sorrow. Can you describe a way this exercise could be used for this?
Ma’am I owe you my life
When you talk abou desrugilation do you mean nervous system dysregulation ? Being stuck in fight flight freeze
Hi, after doing this for a while there are no fears at times to write about, what do you do in this instance?
Also, is there a daily practice to reaffirm the positive daily instead of fears?
The meditation after the practise rally help.
Any thoughts we have that nag at us at all is a "fear", anything we think we "should" do in this context is a fear. There are at least always 2! For me, the freedom of having fear itself generates quite a bit of positivity :)
-Cara@TeamFairy
can relate to all of this.....
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