How to Free Yourself From Constant Doubt and Worry
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Fear is an inner obstacle that stands between you and all you hope to do, or have or become. I’m talking about “fear” in the broadest sense - an anxiety, or an inhibition inside that stops you from freely living and authentically: Instead, you doubt yourself. You feel mortified every time you say what you really think. You stay small. Yet there is so much nonsense out there about what fear is -- but very little that teaches you how. In this video I'll teach you exactly how to get free of unnecessary fear.
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Hi. I never comment but I really want to thank you. I found your channel last year, I think around May... Your technique of daily practice helped me a lot, as well as the fact that I found Bright line eating through you and have never felt better.
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yup... FEAR of success, fear of failure, fear of fear.
Each minute is like living on a knife edge with constant fear of making a mistake and being criticised and shouted at and being in trouble. My inner child is terrified because if I make a mistake or upset someone I’m a bad person, a failure and I punish myself because I’m not good enough.
Exactly!
Me too ❤
I can 100% relate to what you're saying. Me, too.
yes, me too. My 'inner baby' is screaming for attention. I was an unwanted child, had to fit in to the limited space provided. I've had to find that very little boy, and embody the panic and terror and then nurture him. I'm 64, so would love to have happened earlier, but so relieved I've got him now. Look up embodiment techniques such as Craniosacral therapy which saved my life. There are others. CCF is wonderful but sometimes you need a mix of help.
You summed up EXACTLY what it’s like for me too. Thank you for writing this.❤ I haven’t tried the daily practice yet as anybody reading this tried it?
I am close to 70, and found this channel just a few years ago. Yikes! Wish I had known about this 40 years ago.
You've found it now xx
it’s okay, i don’t think anyone was talking about this stuff. and if they were, we didn’t have youtube to spread awareness. 💜💜
me too! I wish I new about it 45 years ago!!! (I found it just over 2 years ago.)
I'll report back in 40 years and let you know if it helped long term
I have recently discovered Anna Runkle and this video. I stumbled on to it and listened the first time out of pure curiosity as to what could a CRAPPY CHILDHOOD FAIRY be exactly? I am sure the words crappy childhood caught my attention. Well I am so sorry I didn’t find her sooner but I have found her now. It is never too late to heal if we can on the inside. Thank you Anna. You have changed my heart and I hope the two of us still have time to change parts of my life. I listen to you each day and you have been so helpful.
Wake up with fear from I don't even know what!! Just fear in general. My mind keeps making things up and convinces me of all these fears.
So afraid of being wrong. Wrong feelings, wrong ideas, wrong beliefs, wrong perspective, wrong love, wrong, wrong, wrong.
Yes, this is hard but Daily Practice can help and I would encourage you to give it a try. It is a great way to process fears and resentment. Here is the free course: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
Literally. It’s what holds me back in EVERY way. I KNOW it. I acknowledge it. I KNOW what to say to others when they have the same issue…but I have NOT been able to figure it out for myself.
Yes. I hear you. I'm exactly the same way.
Same here precious soul!!💜but I trust we can make it!!don t give up!sending u a big hug
🤜ditto..you are not alone ❤
My fear is change. Being stuck feels good and secure.
Can I relate!!!!
Absolutely agree, changes are horryfying, but may be because of that we stuck in our old life 😢
But it also feels like a rope around my neck.
Yes. I tolerate change but very gradual and love routine. I fear the sound of phone ringing
I cleaned houses for 12 years because anything beyond scrubbing toilets terrified me. I'm about to go start my first shift at my new job and the fear is almost crippling, I can't stop shaking.
I recently had to covertly record audio at work, someone gaslighting me.
Hearing myself speaking to others I was suprised to discover that I sounded like a perfectly normal, pleasant person! I discovered that I was gaslighting myself into thinking I was a bad person.
It's changed my life.
Cool!
That’s awesome that you saw yourself as you are, and not what’s been projected onto you :)
@@ShintogaDeathAngel thank you ❤
Good to record self. And if with a narcissist. Record them too for posterity and see how far you've come
Why is it that, after years of online searches and talking to people, I could never find more information on this exact issue and no one could relate to me so I felt completely alone? It's frustrating that it took this long, but relieving to finally find a video that seems to address every issue I have perfectly, and I suddenly feel a little less hopeless and abnormal.
Well said!
Her descriptions are amazing right?? Sending you best wishes!
This is coming at a very good time.
My past instilled the feeling in me that I always need to be prepared for worst case scenarios to happen at any moment.
My parents kept themselves in a state of emergency for years.
And now I know that the actual worst case was living in constant fear of a catastrophe that never actually comes.
And even when it eventually happend in the form of my fahters fatal accident, we managed that.
Yes! I totally get it!! Well sad!
I said to my psychologist last week that even as I deal with the everyday anxieties, there’s a constant background noise of paralysing fear. It is usually either a terror of a medical crisis or a feeling that I’m too ugly to be seen in public. Even as my anxieties and abilities to function in everyday life have improved with therapy, my health anxiety has become so severe that I lose several hours a day ruminating on my health concerns, and don’t do the creative things that might make me happy, like painting or sewing or creative writing. So much of my energy goes into the fears that I have nothing left over. 😢 My psychologist was the first one to suggest that it was c-ptsd. She highlighted how my parents neglected my health needs as a child (among many other things), something that I had not consciously noticed before. It is encouraging to know there are ways to tone down those anxieties enough to be able to actually live without fearing all the time. I am in my 40s and hate the thought of my life just disappearing because I was too scared to do anything. 😔
It's not too late to heal! I encourage you to try Daily Practice which is a great way to process fears and resentment. You can try it free here: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy thank you! I’ll definitely check out the course. 😊
💜🌹 I'm With You!!! I feel the Same!! Always have! & I Too, am in my 40's! So funny how I seen this! I'm Sending you a BIG HUG!! & A little bit of Self Work Every day, goes a Long way!🙏 Praying Helps! Doesn't take Everything away at once, but it helps.😇💙💜🌌🌙🌠🌠⭐⭐🌷🌷🌸🌸💞💞😘💗💗💯 God Bless!🙏💛 Take Great Care!😀💕💕
@@heathermahony110 thank you 🙂 yes I find prayer helpful. 🤗
I'm 65 and do the same thing. Because of the cost, etc. I avoid doctors.
I feel like you can see me 😂. I'm struggling with exactly this right now. Afraid to visit my friend and generally afraid of everything. Something has gotten on top of me when I used to be relatively at ease.
Lost i feel
I have been doing the daily practice the past four years, and it is absolutely worthwhile.
I have changed my routine to have an extra 30 minutes in the morning for it.
It is a subtle change, but over time I have noticed every aspect of my life improves, and keep improving.
im crippled by fear
One major key to getting over fear is to first become aware of when it happens then finding out why the Inner child is fearful. One really good way to build this awareness is through practicing mindfulness meditation. But this takes time and persistence, it's not a quick fix. Once you start to understand why you are so fearful THEN you can begin to investigate why the Innerchild is so fearful. As you start this you can then question the Innerchild and reassure it that it has nothing to fear.
Other ways that help break the fearful cycle is to start dancing, exercise and yoga. Movement does a lot to relax the body which helps the mind relax which helps the body feel secure.
Journalling (daily practice) helps the body connect with the mind and see/realize that these fears are not present but are a memory stored deep inside your nervous system.
"No one tells you HOW"
It's one thing that the average person wouldn't be able to elaborate further than 'just let go' or 'what's the worse that can happen'. It's a whole other thing that many assermented therapists also do not know any better, and tell you repeatedly that 'it's all because of your negative core beliefs'.
Thank you for this video.
I think most of us would love to "just let it go", but we don't know HOW! If we could have done it by now, we would have. Thank goodness Anna gives us an actual blueprint for what to do!
Something that has allowed me to take one step toward healing is that that voice in me of “you can’t make mistakes, you are worthless, you can’t make decisions on your own” aren’t mine. They’re my parents voices
Great insight! Thanks for sharing!
Nika@TeamFairy
We are warriors!! Think about the strength & courage it takes to endure the fear inflicted in us, give yourself the credit you deserve- especially if no one else will.❤❤❤
Well said!
ABSOLUTELY!!!👍🙏💕💕 My Thoughts, as Well.....😀💯
What a gift she brings. I found it mesmerizing to listen to her describe my experience so far in my 74 years of life. It's humbling to know I'm not unique and energizing to learn how to make the most of the rest of my life. I want to drop the weight of shame, second guessing myself, and resentment.
Sending you all my love ❤ you are not alone, keep bringing light to this world!
Im 63 and still struggle with fear .
The Daily practice is helping me incredibly .
Good job with the Daily Practice! We're here to support you!
Nika@TeamFairy
This was so me basically all my trajectory. I’m now 55, and still struggling, but not as bad as in my teens, 20’s, 30,s, and 40’s.
I just want to say thank you.. ever since I found your channel. I have been healing so much . Slowly but healing. I didn't know I had ctpsd but everything you say is what I worry about everything day. The work you're doing here is amazing and I hope you never stop ❤ You got a subscriber for life ❤
And I love what she calls herself: the Crappy Childhood Fairy!!! I love that name.
I’m 62 and everything you talked about in this video is me , wow ! Living a false life , being trapped in your mind is torture , thank you for talking about this
Thank you for watching! You're in the right place.
Nika@TeamFairy
Im 61 and here i am im afraid of everything my whole life is trapped in fear😢
I am 72, widowed twice, and am paralyzed by fear. I want to move to a more supportive area, but cannot decide where to go and am overwhelmed and terrified at the thought. And so I cancel appointments and sit here unable to get myself going. My C-PTSD background is similar to yours - alcoholic abusive father, petrified mother. At 72, I sometimes wonder if it’s worth it to try anymore, but I will try your daily practice.
Pray to your higher self for decision making guidance. It works for me. I struggle with decisions too. But when I surrender and pray Unexpectedly a flow state occurs and I find a way to act . It doest happen immediately though.
@@sreddy914For me, pray to God/Jesus and ask for guidance on what to do.
The fact that you wrote this comment means you are very enlightened, brave and kind person. Please don't deny the world from such a person. We want to enjoy your presence as much possible!! I lost a few friends in their twenties, I always feel like my life might end soon as well. It's normal, so do I even have time to change? I'm 37, I live as if I might die in a few years and I want to change that. A person in their 90s would wish they were 72, keep going! We need you.
Fear has been my life. After the last 3 years I've be paralyzed by fear. My husband of 22 years cheated, divorced so he could marry her 5 months after our divorce was final.
I never had children because he had 2 and didn't want anymore. My step kids stopped all communication.
I was caretaker to my sister who unexpectedly pasted away 3 years ago, 6 months into my ex husband cheating and filing for divorce.
My friends are non existent. I have pushed them away after I felt they were tired if my drama.
I retired early because I could not take anymore pressure and my boss was on me
So at 57 I am alone, isolated, broke, confused, dislike everything I am and regret so many decisions I made that brought me here.
Fear is my only friend and I would love to bid it farewell.
Thank you for sharing your experience with us. I encourage you to try Daily Practice, if you haven't already. It is a great way to process fears and resentment. You can try it free here: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
@CrappyChildhoodFairy Thank you. My parent were alcoholics until I was in middle school maybe 11 or 12. They had a very dysfunctional relationship. I think my own dysfunction in relationships are a result of not knowing how to do it right i.e., friendships, family relationships and romantic relationships
@@annelbeab8124thank you
It's so true. I always thought it was better to do for others and never balanced it with taking care of myself. Thought I had to earn love, but with all the work I sit alone regretting my decisions and wasted time.
Thank you for your insight.❤
I am 57 and I can relate to your life. I also had alcoholic parents. I'm divorced from an unfaithful husband. I never had children, by choice. Crappy Childhood Fairy is so helpful.
Life can take a toll on us but it's fine for we are kindred spirits learning the ways of love through trial and error. You deserve peace and freedom. You are important and wanted even when you feel you aren't. The divine current loves you, always. Hugs ❤️🤗
My fear is crippling me at the moment. I have a thought about an action I'd like to take, and then I have a million thoughts that paralyse me into inaction. Currently I'm obsessing about being completely misunderstood by someone with whom I have a mutual friend. I'm fearful she has misrepresented something I once said to her to that mutual friend and made that friend think badly of me. But I am fearful of even asking the former about the comments she made to me in case it in some way backfires and I am even more misunderstood. So instead I have been overthinking and not sleeping, trying to work out what exactly to think. My gut tells me to let it go entirely. I hate drama, and I worry putting a spotlight on it will turn it into this. I'm trying to let go of my obsessive thoughts about not being understood. I had a lifetime of narcissistic parents telling me I was a person I wasn't, that I had thoughts I didn't, that I had done and said things I had not, gaslighting me and making me doubt my own sense of self. With much online therapeutic help (esp. here and Dr Ramani), I thought I had overcome this abuse, but I realise I am still so triggered by being misunderstood but too scared to confront the issue head on in case I make things worse (in this case, the two women are closer with each other than I am with either). Ugh. I literally have been losing sleep. I have written and rewritten a text to the first girl to try to understand what she meant when she said the things to me she said, to see if I can rectify any misgivings, but I haven't the courage to send it. Eugh.
Please begin trauma therapy. It's the beginning of a way out. XXOO
Be kind to yourself. We just had a massive lunar eclipse which typically confuses the mind. It will pass . You have indeed Made progress .
We absolutely understand. Daily Practice (a free course) can be a good first step. If you want to go deeper, Anna has a whole course on Healing Childhood PTSD.
Free Daily Practice: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Healing CPTSD course: bit.ly/CCF_HCPTSD
Nika@TeamFairy
@@sreddy914so true. Seems like the eclipse was a precursor to the issues still going on for some people a month later.
I lived so much of my life in fear. I began to find a way forward when I accepted how I felt instead of trying to combat it, and not to feel defeated by the awareness of fear. I also want to say to others who feel fear, give yourself a pat on the back to start with, ironically you have so much more courage to get through life than those who are fearless. Fearlessness is not courage.
Great insight!!!! Allowing oneself to experience the feel , observing - not trying to fight it or push it away - thank you! ❤️
I've developed the mindset, where as long as I'm being honest and kind to others, I don't give a crap what certain others think any longer. I've been fortunate to be able to work from home for the past few years, sparing me from so much drama from the workplace. Going no-contact with toxic family has been a huge plus as well. Doing my part, while allowing the rest of the world to do as they do, and reap their own consequences of poor choices, while I enjoy a much deserved peace.
Neurofeedback treatment is really helping my dysregulation, I feel calmer and able to cope with normal stresses of life.
My husband did neurofeedback with great success for cptsd from narcissistic trauma in family of origin
Is this something you need to work with a therapist to get?
@@nessiemour4750 I don't believe so, in my experience, many talk therapists haven't even heard of neurofeedback although the treatment was developed in the 1960's and has been used very successfully on many people since the 1970's. You should look for practitioners in your area and contact them. My neurofeedback practitioner advised that talk therapy can be a useful accompaniment to the treatments but not necessary. Please read "The Body Keeps The Score" by Bessel Van Der Kolk, there is a chapter about neurofeedback (that's where I first read about it).
@@godzillamanstreb524 I'm glad it worked for your husband, I have cptsd from my childhood so I can relate. These intense childhood experiences appear to rewire the brain, neurofeedback rewires it back to a more optimal range.
I have started doing the daily practice for about a week and I noticed something interesting. The first few times I wrote a lot of resenments. I notice now that I have been putting less resentments and more fears. I will probably have times where more resentments pop up depending on what is going on in my life, but I was surprised by how much of my suffering comes from my own fears. I also see how some of my fears lack nuance or aren't rational.
I feel like im always " in trouble " or im going to be. I cant stop it.
Yes, it's one of the fear's "faces". If you haven't already, try Daily Practice. It is a great way to process fears and resentment. You can try it free here: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
Yes! It’s a horrible feeling! I can so relate. Wishing you well!
I have listened to this 100 times because it bears soooo much truth...
Sooo much truth in just around 14 minutes.
Fear is debilitating. When one learns how to get out of fear. Life can be Sweet.It’s been hard to work on myself and leave fear behind.
My marriage was with a Narcissist. I stayed in it for 29yrs.When I left I was consumed with fear CPTSD., etc,.
With meditation,eating and eating well plant based foods,exercising for sometime,Watching educative videos on fear has really helped.I feel better now.😊😊❤️❤️❤️
Thank You for the work you are doing to help us.
All Thy Blessings 🙏🙏🙏💕💕💕
Keep up the great work! We're all rooting for you.
Nika@TeamFairy
It’s absolutely true all you say about dear…it’s made me look like a complete crazy, psycho, unstable, sporadic or whatever other name I’ve heard…of people and family. I hate trying to negotiate environments. I’ve hated myself for so long…I don’t even know what or who I am anymore. The last good memory I had as a carefree person was when I was a kid on my horse in the back 40…I stayed away from people then…if dying were as easy as pushing a EASY button…I’d have broken the button…
You’re such a beautiful human. Thank you for all you do to help so many.
Wow, thank you
There’s an old saying about the tallest trees getting the axe. It feels safer being small and inconspicuous.
Thank you. I have the fear of being alone but also being rejected. I'm single at 47, even if i enjoy being alone, sometimes it's difficult, we need companionship. I have friends but at this age we don't see them very often. But I know this feeling is inside me.
Great topic. Fear is the most powerful energy I've known. It takes everything to push through it.
I want Anna to adopt me and be my mum 😆 I am 48 so that may be a problem. In all seriousness, she has such a beautiful and compassionate vibe and I have so much love for her ❤
The Daily Practice does help so much! I was always told I was always so fearful but it didn’t click…I was so numb to fear because of how I was raised. I am changing that now.
Absolute Truths Resonating here - Fear- Anxiety- Anger (Glad it's not just me :D )
I am one of those people who has constant fear in your system.
Your listener, and I listen releasing music.
I try and try.
You always bring me back to reality… thank you for uploading these videos
How does Anna know me so well? 🥺
I feel like fear is the main emotion i feel most of the time. It's usually really subtle. I can most of the time keep it to a dull roar. But there's SO many things I've lost to fear. I wrote a book, i won't even try to publish it. I'm great at my job and have so many certifications, but i won't even apply for a promotion. If i DO try, i am completely tongue tied when talking to others that I'm so convinced I'll mess up the interviews. I literally worry every single hour of every day that I'm not a good enough mom and someday my kids will hate me for so my inadequacies. I have full blown panic attacks at the grocery store, or when i feel like I've made a mistake, like i forgot an ingredient or something. Little things are so stupidly frightening. I can't even imagine how much relief I'll feel if i call tame fear.
PTSD and worry are my daily prison.
100% authentic. You have been there too. I now know every second of my life was affected - not just the 'bad' bits. But I'm still here and sober.
Always insightful, always thorough, always comprehensive, always comforting. Those are the words I use to describe this channel. Thanks.
It's more than fear - sometimes it's just outright terror.
we can't keep caring what other people think. that is what had held me back and isolated for way too long. I have finally decided to say F. it, I am so tired of not living so I just don't care anymore.
Yes, I’ve heard that caring less about life is an antidote to feeling overwhelmed by it. I’ve been trying it, and it does seem to help. Instead of working hard to make sure I get a raise, I just simply try to work hard now. I like having a high standard. There’s no need to put an expectation on it that has no guarantee.
It also puts life into a better perspective, allows me to enjoy the present moment more, and helps me be a healthy mix of confident yet humble.
Caring about what Others Think, has CRIPPLED ME FOR YEARS!! I'm in my 40's! & It's STILL HARD! Even with Positive Self Talk! 😞
So true for me about 60% of the time. I have become better.
Progress is precious...it's always worth the effort. :)
Keep up the great work!
Nika@TeamFairy
50 and still stuck. Thank you for this. Even just acknowledging this helps me. No one else understands this that I know of personally. It makes me feel even more alone in it all the time.
You're not alone! If you haven't already, try Daily Practice. It is a great way to process fears and resentment. You can try it free here: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
My biggest change since finding you, is recognizing people who mistreat me. I've let many old 'friends' go. I now know that I am worth taking care of, keeping myself safe is not selfish or cruel to others. I'm 66. Better late than never.
You are my sister. Let this comment be a hundred percent affirmation of your correctness. I do the DP daily, and it has been such a help to me. Please continue your work. It is a true life saver for me personally. It is a God send.
Thank you. Good to see you here again!
I suffered from acrophobia for years after a lifetime of narcissistic abuse
This came right on time.
It’s also hard on those who are in a relationship with the fearful spouse. I feel like I’m always under investigation and our relationship is so fragile and broken.
Thank you🙏🏼 Today i have really truble to live… But you give me hope❤
Hope is real.
You are amaizng, and you are helping others, thank you so much🥺 lots of hugs🤗🤗❤
You really are a blessing. Thank you so much for educating yourself on psychology alongside your experiences, such that you can help all of us through the help you’ve given yourself, too. I relate so much. I’m about to graduate with my degree in psychology. I work in a psych lab in preparation for grad school and my dream is to use my experience and knowledge to help people too ❤
Wonderful plan! We wish you the best!
Nika@TeamFairy
You were never awfull dear Anna. Damm i can relate to this.... this is such a relief.
I'm frozen with fear.
Daily Practice is a great way to process fears and resentment. Give it a try if you haven't already!: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
Yes. And now I just own that I chose to be alone. Sad, yes. But at least I don’t have 50 shades of fear to deal with.
Yeah, that one really sucks.
I often had (and still sometimes have) severe doubt about basically anything and anyone.
I only realized shortly, but my life was directed by doubt.
Doubt about if i'm right at the point i am at, doubt about if i really have found the right way of income, doubt about if i can actually share something like that with others and many more.
I used to get backlash for basically anything i did, as a Kid/teen.
Really has been messing with me for my life so far.
Working through it is quite a hassle. 😬
Thank you for watching and for sharing your experience with us. You may like Daily Practice, the method Anna recommends at the end of the video. It is a great way to process fears and resentment. You can try it free here: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
Fairy! I finally understand dating! It was the hardest concept ever, but I finally wrapped my head around it. Took me two solid years of binge watching your videos daily, doing the daily practice and failing a few times but I got it! It's fun and interesting. You go on a nice date, you feel good and precious about your self, you do sports, the daily practice and go to meetings and you check in with yourself, tell guys no, get told no, it doesn't mess with your selfworth, you're not flooded with guilt. You get to know different kinds of people, you sit your ass down on your throne, you let information come to you, you don't operate out of a scarcity mindset and desperation. You know, nothing rides on this, it will happen eventually. It's just dating⭐️
Oh I love you fairy!
Yay! It’s so good to hear success stories like this! Thank you so much for sharing! You are doing a great job on both, your healing and sharing encouragement for others in our community here! We appreciate you!
Nika@TeamFairy
That was soothing ❤ overcoming childhood trauma for 3 years now (I’m 50now) I often feel there will never be a healed life. But I came far jet, and sometimes I just need someone who tells me that I will be okay. I never heard these words😢… so thanks ❤
We're all sending you encouragement :) -Calista@TeamFairy
I have spent (wasted) ten years of my life hiding at home after a really bad DV relationship which affected my children badly, that I feel so guilty about. I have become something I didnt want to be. A broken weirdo? Yeah, someone evil, that society shuns as selfish, but Im actually not. Ive given up so much for kids and partners that Ive done zero for me. I dont want to contact anyone, not even my adult children. I have no motivation to develope anymore relationships with them because Im just so tired of feeling guilty and trying to make up for my mistakes. I feel like just going away and not contacting anyone, disappearing. If I dont make the effort to contact people, then no one contacts me and Im just so over it.
This does sound so hard, because there are so few resources for men who have been involved in DV. Having grown up in such a family, where both mom and dad were violent (and then some of my sibs grew up to be in violent relationships too), I know well both the trauma and pain that's under it, and the pall of shame that hangs over it. Many people shut down to deal with it, but some find a way to heal and transform. I encourage you with all my heart to reach out and find friendship and fellowship with other men who are healing from this. Sometimes we need help and guidance from people who have done it before. I've done terrible things and it was just such people, who understood and had walked out of the pit, who gave me the extra insight and support needed for my good intentions to set things right -- to actually set things right! It's hard to do alone. I encourage you to take my free course, the Daily Practice, which can give you a way to process the haunted feelings and "open a window" for fresh air to come in. I wish you well!
I am afraid every day. The world is not safe to me, I've been through enough. And its tiring.
Yes, locked out of my life, exactly. Not being allowed to be part of life. Always in one way or another listening to anxiety.
Your voice is sooo comforting..
I'm so appreciative of your work and teaching me this practice. Over the last month it has helped me arrive back in myself after being overwhelmed by hurt and anxiety.
Combined with better understanding of the inner child, acknowledging and integrating my shadow self I'm now more aware of my emotions and better able to handle confrontations. It's a practice and the work never ends as awareness never ends, being more present however helps, and I notice how much of our blockages and bad behaviour is fear driven.
So thanks, forever grateful, with grace dignity, compassion and curiosity in in the light of truth.
I adore you, and truly appreciate your guidance. You’re changing our lives 😩🙌❤️
I keep telling myself “it’s okay” “it’s OKAY” “it’s going to be OKAY”. It helps. Also “it’s good ENOUGH”. “You are lovable even if you make a mistake”.
One thing I’ve noticed is that when I do this, anyone who still feels this way (works double-time, everything’s perfect, etc) sometimes will expect me to be like this (like on a committee) and I say no. I maintain my boundaries. I don’t give excuses, I just say “no, thank you, I can’t do that”.
Fear is not accurate. "Sheer terror" is a better description
I’ve been an employee running other people’s businesses my entire life and want to work for myself. I know what I want to do and have taken initial steps to prepare myself but am a constant victim of self sabotage via procrastination. The procrastination leads to shiny object syndrome and off to the next potential business idea after investing much time, effort and money.
I hear you. You have a good reason to stop the procrastination! Daily Practice can help with it by giving you clarity about what’s most important to do today. You can try it here: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Good luck!
Nika@TeamFairy
Your a gift Anna Runckle. 💝 Thank you from the bottom fo my heart.
Mortified-absolutely. I haven't even watched this yet and I'm SOOO looking forward to it, bc you just Totally Get It..and put words on it, which helps me. You help me so much. Thank you Anna! 💓
Incredibly eloquent - you hit the nail on the head! You’ve been able to put into words these profound forces controlling me and gripping me. My biggest fear is fear of horrible things happening. Catastrophe. Disaster. Etc. Thank you ❤
You are in the right place.
Nika@TeamFairy
Wow🤯No-one has ever understood my conundrum this well!! I really appreciate your videos and teachings!! Thank you so much for getting this information to me and the world! Thank you thank you!
You are in the right place! Thank you for taking the time to comment!
Nika@TeamFairy
I live in constant fear of random things. I’ve always been afraid of… basically being alive. I don’t understand it. I never try anything new out of fear.
Anyone else have this?
Oh good lord, thank you so much, this is a keeper, am just downloading as mp3 so I can put it on a loop!
Seeing that even this beautiful brilliant woman can struggle with this type of fear, in a way makes me feel so so so much better about myself and feels almost crucial to see someone else succeed for me to even believe i can... I feel better simply hearing those words.. its great. Thank you.
Love your videos, you have been helping me so much! ❤
Thank you for your work. I feel that you sincerely care, and I wish I had teachers or mentors like you growing up ❤
I so needed this video right now, thank you. I wish I would have known about this channel years ago
I appreciate you for showing up for us despite a bad throat ❤ Hope you feel better 😊
Listening to this made me cry at work😢Been avoiding this channel for so long Finally decided to listen
We're all sending you support and encouragement :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Thank you so much. I have so much love and gratitude for you and your offerings. You have helped me transform my life. And you inspire me to share healing with others. ❤
Wonderful! Thank you too!
Nika@TeamFairy
CCF family, i would like to share that my healing came mostly from Jesus...finding everything i need in Him...comfort, love, identity, guidance, strength, peace, forgiveness, JOY, etc...Shalom. (nothing missing, nothing broken.) 😊
Jesus? Shalom? Messianic Jew? 🙄
Whatever works for you .
the only way to relieve anxiety is to accept it. you are fighting yourself. put your hands down.
Therapy helped me also. I was really 💪🏾 in self critic on myself now the voice doesn’t do that much😊
I relate to this so much and needed this.
Another of your videos that is SO what I’ve dealt with.
Thank you , Irrational fear that you dont know where it coming from sucks
Oh yes. If you haven't already, try Daily Practice. It is a great way to process fears and resentment. The free course is here: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
thank you ❤ This kind of fear is a fantasy and not in the real world. I have also tried meditation to let fear flow naturally in my body，it also works
See, here's my problem. I know everyone makes mistakes. I would rather hide from the world or blow it all up so I never have to deal with people hurting me with their mistakes. I know I'm choosing to be right over being happy, but how else to deal with an inherently crappy world? I shouldn't have to live a world where bad things happen. Its not ok.
I understand what you mean about people making mistakes. Something that helped me was realizing that I also hurt/affect people with my mistakes. When my husband makes a mistake that affects me, I ask myself: If I had done this (ex. left the backdoor open and now we're late to go get our taxes done because we have to get the cat back in which can be very frustrating) how would I have wanted him to treat me? It's helps us develop more patience towards people and also remind ourselves we also aren't perfect.
The best way to deal with others: love (an action, not feeling), joy, peace, patience, goodness, kindness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Galatians 5:22-23
You also make mistakes and make bad things happen, you arent any different.
I understand this. I feel like I have burns all over my body. I just want to isolate because of how much emotional pain I am in all the time not only in fear or being hurt but in reacting irrationally.
@@szzk7937 Yup, and if there were any justice in the world, I'd pay for my mistakes too.
Sitting in my car in a car park absolutely trembling with fear for my first shift at my new job. I'm nauseated with anxiety and want to cry.
No more staying small 🤗💕
I am 68 years old. I told my psychiatrist that I suffer from Childhood PTSD. He said that I don’t. He says d that I do have PTSD. He also said that at my age I should not be getting what he called “ heavy duty treatment”. So he put me on Trintellix and Diazepam. I have been taking the Trintellix but I refuse to take the Diazepam. My husband and I have split up. We were fighting and yelling at each other a lot over the past few years. My ex is selfish. He doesn’t care about what I went through as a child or my mental health. Yet he cares about his friends who also suffer from Mental Health issues. My psychiatrist said that is why I have PTSD. Because of my husband. I hate the idea of taking antidepressants, but what choice do I have!?
Thank you Anna... i want to thank you from the deepest of my heart...you could "do" this subject in such a 'understandable '' less than 10minute ((13+min)) format...I will cherish 😍 this ❤