Why I Don't Have a Girlfriend in Thailand....
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 24 ต.ค. 2023
- In this video, I'm diving into a question from one of my awesome subscribers: Why don't I have a girlfriend in Thailand, and do I see myself settling down with a Thai woman in the future?
Join me as I share my thoughts on this intriguing topic and discuss my experiences and perspectives. Relationships and dating can be a unique journey, especially in a diverse and culturally rich place like Thailand. I'll be candid about my personal choices and the dynamics of dating in this beautiful country.
If you've ever wondered about love and relationships in a foreign land, or if you're just curious to know more about my personal life, then this video is for you! Don't forget to leave your thoughts in the comments below - I can't wait to hear from you! 💬💕
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I am 72 married 3 times, divorced 3 times, no kids and I have lived alone, happily, for 37 years.
I understand and support everything you say.
If a woman won't put a penny in the communal pot that is a deal breaker for me.
It is better to live alone than be with someone who makes you wish you were alone.
I have be to over 88 countries, I always travel alone - no hassle and no grief.
I still drive long distances 2500-3000 miles in 4-5 days, drive, eat, sleep, drive, eat sleep no moaning, no hassle, no grief. I am alone, not lonely.
Stick with the plan. 🙏
Nice, as long as you're happy 👌👌
Are you cool with dying alone and no one knowing until they smell your corpse?
Good on you single life great
I guess it wouldn't matter if you were dead. @@commonsenseisntcommon1776
@@commonsenseisntcommon1776you sound a bit triggered, why should he care once he’s dead anyway? or anyone for that matter
As a woman, I say live life exactly as you wish. If the kind of love and commitment comes your way, you will be happy to take the leap. Until then, enjoy life! Love the walk!
Well said! Thanks for sharing 🙏
Great answer
You got that right on all levels!
I've had 3 girlfriends in Thailand and none of them wanted money. You just need to find the right person and drop any women who starts asking for things or expecting you to improve her lifestyle. Sure these aren't the prettiest and most in demand women but they make good partners.
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I agree they are fantastic partners
Correct😊
Agreed ...enjoy 💖
They just use foreigners
Since my divorce being alone has never bothered me. Being single again gives me back the freedom I had lost. No more having to explain this or that to someone who thinks they own you. At the end of the day we all pass to the "other side" alone so no big deal.
Well said 👌
'Only mad-dogs and Englishmen go out in the mid-day sun'!
I'm married to a Thai woman, and there are some cultural differences, but to be honest money isn't one them. The first day we met she bought me dinner, then sent me a vape the following day as I'd mentioned I was trying to get off the cigs. My Mrs worked until she got pregnant, at which point I told her to stop. She's university educated, has a masters degree, and is a certified accountant - so she was very much used to providing for herself. I think it really depends on the kind of woman you hook up with, obviously a bar girl is going to be very different from a regular Thai woman, and the expectations they have will be equally different! Nice vid mate, thought I'd chuck in my 2 pence!
Nice one mate! Thanks for sharing 👌👌
Exactly. If she is a regular working person she is already taking care of her family. Bar girls are some of the only ones that want you to take care of their family, because you want to remove them from the bar scene.
the benefit to a relationship is companionship and nookie. a lot of guys in the west have very limited options in the dating market and have to take whatever they can get and put up with whatever treatment they get. Out in Thailand you can have two - three dates a week with different friends, your companionship and nookie requirements are met without having to give up all your time, money and freedom
This comment hit the nail on the head! 100%
Single life and married life here in Thailand are very different. I spent my first 20 years single and the last 26 married. I am glad to have found true love and companionship. I grew up in a single income family so I feel very comfortable supporting my wife. I do understand that is not as common these days.
You've been on both sides of the fence, so great to hear your views mate. Thanks.
I'm almost 40 Wayne and im not interested in romantic relationships for the same reason, it's too big of a commitment and it costs so much money just to date , never mind to support a wife or live in GF. Also im highly introverted and I'm quite happy being alone.
Kudos 👏💐
I fully agree not very tolerant of people but love animals and never feel lonely with my own company
Thanks for sharing mate!
Gee wiz I'm you're female version🤣🫶🫣
Well said
Hey Wayne, I like the topic of today's video. I'd say one thing I've experienced in my dating life here is Thai ladies are very good about letting you know if they really like you. If you stick around long enough and keep at those dates, I promise you'll run into a lady who'll like you so much you'll be surprised what she's willing to do to make things work. On the other hand, many ladies here are looking for more of a business arrangement type thing (long or short term). How much she's willing to bend away from Thai cultural norms can depend on her family status, background, experience with foreign men and western culture.
If a Thai woman really likes you and love you she will follow you blindly. Cultural will be second thing she thinks about. You will be the first.
Also, date your own age with 5 years difference max and 80% of the "need support" issue will not be mentioned and maybe she even pay for dinner 😀
Finding women that like me, isn't a problem mate. It's the other way around. Thanks man, hope all is well 👌
Wayne, Once Again, Your Politeness Shines Through in These Candid Videos, and I Truly Appreciate Them.
Thanks buddy 😊
Everything you say is spot on Wayne. I can confirm that first hand. Keep doing what you do and enjoy. Excellent video and not easy to be put across so well done man. 🤩
Thanks buddy 👍
Convincing them that money does not grow on trees and financial security is important and to live for tomorrow not just today was not easy.@@WalkAboutWayne
I remember a guy many years ago in Thailand. He had stayed single for 12 years, and he wouldn't change that. I thought that was strange back then, but now I think he was a very clever man.
Very wise man indeed 👌
I understand, Wayne. It would be nice to have a long-term partner, and I think when you both work toward whatever goals you have, it makes the relationship stronger. It is easier with someone from your own part of the world, because you understand more of what made your partner the way they are. You're a very interesting and kind man, and you will find who you're looking for. I have faith.👍
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Wayne, relationships almost always become a huge burden, a kind of sad dead end...For those of us that have figured out how to navigate the world solo, the world is an excellent adventure with no chains to bind us. You know the saying mate... Those that are married wish they were single and those that are single wish they were married. Stay free, brother. Stay free.
Yep, can't win either way mate 🤣. Thanks
spot on
Bang on there mate
Good saying
Hello Wayne ... another interesting video. And loved your vids on Lampang and Hua Hin. Hope to be in Chiang Mai soon - will definitely buy you a green tea or two. Cheers ... Keith from Adelaide.😎🇦🇺
Thank you Keith, much appreciated for watching the channel 👍
Great video. Been in Thailand for about a year and agree with your assessment completely.
Thanks buddy!
Good video Wayne, but you’ve met some great ladies in Thailand that has there own business like a cafe. So if you find a nice woman that own her own business you guys can work together and support each other!
Keep up the great videos and keep doing your adventures. Stay safe!
I meet some awesome ladies mate, no complaints with meeting ladies 👍. Cheers mate.
Thailand rocks, i lived there 20 odd years ago, i started a business there and employed my thai girlfriend so i just paid her wages and gave her a place to live, same as i did in Indonesia and Cambodia, i always ran business even in my home country as i like to do things my way with out a boss telling me what to do, so many opportunities to start and run businesses in asia and enjoy a simpler life style,
Nice! Sounds like you had a good life in Thailand. Thanks for sharing.
I noticed relationship between Thai -Thai is more equal or 70:30 or 80:20. More realistic shopping, eating , drinking venues . In some cases even the women is supporting the man. But it changes in a Falang / Thai relationship
Yes, Thai with Thai is defo more equal.
Would love to hear about older Thai women. Your info is awesome!!!
Older single ladies are the best way to go. Thanks
@@WalkAboutWayne What part of town are they in & is it safe??
Totally hear where you’re coming from. Have experienced same firsthand from my Thai girlfriends. But I expected as much knowing what to expect from the Thai culture.. Great hat, go Raiders! 14:02
Yep, you soon learn the difference in cultures. Thanks.
Spot on and very logical opinion in my view. Relationships costs money and I don’t think that the juice is worth the squeeze. Plus, I find this romantic relationship too much intrusive in my personal space. You have to share a lot. It’s not that I am some run away fugitive but I don’t like to be answerable to anybody. And there’s no way you can cool off your heels man. I am willfully unemployed for the last three years after 5 grueling years as a deep sea welder and now enjoying what life has to offer. I am no way rich but can I do it if I am in a relationship? No way. And women, no matter from what country, wouldn’t date a man who doesn’t like to work much lol.
Hey @dhruvd8953, you comment resonates. I find myself in similar situation but focusing more on trying to find another career online. But I find myself longing back to the stable carpentry work I used to do.
How have you occupied your time during the 3 years?
Great comment mate, thanks for sharing 👍
I think I know what you mean.
@@popmop1234 I am learning men’s shoe-making. I don’t know where it will go, but I love shoes and always wanted to get into the technical side of it.
@@dhruvd8953 hell, not what I was expecting but I do know what it means to get lost in an activity. Glad you found something.
Watching some vids of making leather shoes it's really interesting to see the different tools involved compared to carpentry
"Mad dogs and English men go out in the Midday sun",a "song" by the genius of Noel Coward,believed to be originally coined from Rudyard Kipling.
That's the one, not sleeping dogs haha. I can't recall that song, I'll have to look it up.
The canal is looking great 🤩 have they extended it across the road yet? I was hoping you'd keep going right down to the bottom. And do you ever get round to Jethro's Lounge? The owner Chris is a good lad and it's a nice chilled spot for an evening 😎
The Canal is looking amazing now, they have been doing bits to other sections, yes. I've never been to Jethro's lounge.
Good on you Wayne. The culture may be different yet in the end you still get to choose, and if the choice is simply to be happy, let that be enough. There's enough anger / misplaced "us and them" in the world right now, so if you can exude happiness, you just never know what that may bring back into your path. Be well. 🙏
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You can always have a gf in Thailand. Its just a different one everyday 😂
Good man 🤣
Yaaaass 😂😂😂😅
Agree as long as you show respect❤❤
Do what makes you happy !
Nothing wrong with being single and doing an ocasional “ short time” date.
Thanks! Yes, I agree.
Mate you made some very valid points. My advice though is build a valuable online skill, especially with the amazing value in Thailand which is almost unmatched by almost every country.
In that way you have "options", not based on how much you make even/alone, but you are not at the mercy of a boss aka financially independent.
Already do mate. My income is passive. Cheers buddy!
After years in Thailand including one year with a Thai girlfriend I concur with your assessment 100%. Currently doing casual dating also.
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Definately i agree, fantastic partners, will look after you
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You have to slay the dragons before you get the princess Wayno 😅 good video 👍🏻
Very true mate 👍
Good thoughts Wayne, thanks. When you say it's more about 50-50 with the English girl, I can see that. The English, Scots and Aussie gals I've known were definitely more fair and balanced than the the American, German and Italian Girls I dated, and while life with the Aussie and English ladies I felt would be comfortable, things were a bit more interesting with the Italian and German gals. The longest I was with a woman was a Thai gal and she was the best when it came to cooking and moral support, but it was hard to connect heart-to-heart, and like we were always strangers. I dated several Japanese Gals when i was in Japan and they were more like the 50-50 you describe, dedicated but a little complicated, stubborn and demanding, but usually in a good way, and for good reason that can force you to a better person. I liked the Malaysian Chinese girls, as many inherited the English colonial sensibilities and culture of fair play, with positive Asian attributes, dedication and frank honesty, and often a bit more practical of a life partner and buddy than the Thai or Japanese girls in general.
Northern and provincial ladies from China can be pretty good partners too, and thinking back to China, I met some girls that the first thing they asked was how much money I had and made, and others who were more interested in the person I was and If I wold be respectful and dedicated to a relationship, and I think with Thai Ladies a lot are not all hung up on status, money or income, but like-minded life partner, but maybe not so much a close buddy.
Great write up mate, thanks for sharing 👍
Alias Don Juan...
@@randyirvine5858 Well, if ya gonna be a Bullfighter, you get in the ring...
@@WalkAboutWaynesingle life is great
Been to Thailand a couple of times, one boys trip in my 20s which was wild and later with my gf from Australia. It is an interesting country and the food is amazing. Looking forward to visiting again someday and seeing Chiangmai.
Cheers mate 👍
Nice one buddy! Hope you can come back again soon.
I absolutely love watching your videos as I can relate so much, but unlike yourself your more able to articulate exactly how you feel. I’m fortunate that I met a Chinese women with a European mindset even though she never lived abroad before meeting me. A marriage is a partnership and should be 50/50 not always in terms of money but value. To meet someone with a similar mindset you need to meet a middle class Thai who already has money but is looking for love. In China a women over 30 who isn’t married finds it more difficult to find love. It maybe similar in Thailand. I’ll be in Chiang mai for a week in March. Would be good to meet up for a beer
Nice one Chris, great to read your comment. Thanks for liking the videos mate, hope to see you around Chiang Mai.
Godspeed Bradda
Salute
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Great information...
Nice one 👍
Agree completely Wayne I'm an old git and had a Thai lady friend for nearly ten years it was great but I'm relieved it's over the freedom is Brilliant. I meet ladies all the time and enjoy their company but don't bother or want any commitments,
I still haven't found this place your doing this Vlog, give me the location please
Nice one mate. Location for the Canal is in the description buddy.
Seriously though, I work hard for my money, bought a house, raised my two kids, travelled and done all the things most people do. I am not about to jeopardize my independence and assets for the sake of assuming responsibility for someone else. Hence my plan to live in Chiang Mai. Its ME time-Yaaaay!!
Sounds like a great plan!!
Damn the topic today….. I want to do this walk next time I come 👍🏾
🤣🤣 it's a nice walk 👍
Nail! Head! Brother, bang on it! I m now 62 and been 18 years here, two kids who.I ve raised on my jack, since they were toddlers. I wouldn't have a long term Thai woman for all those reasons you said. Also there's no craic with them. Lived most of my life in relationships with birds back home, shared so much books films music friends hobbies sports etc etc. Never the same here!! Cheers Wayne stay free.
Thanks man 🙏
I’ve been with my Thai wife 15 happy years. Yes any mate costs money. Even if she works she’s going to expect you to have the ability to provide just to show you are a man. I grew up in a time when my mother stayed home and never worked in the US. My grandmothers never worked out of the home but took care of the home and their men. It’s all different now of course in the west and I don’t like it. I like taking care of my woman and providing for my family. It gives my life a purpose and meaning greater than myself. Now I’m fortunate in that money will never be an issue for me and I have a great lady. But I simply do not want my wife having to work unless she just wants to. All relationships have a monetary aspect to them because money making ability is the substitute for the old ability to hunt and put food on the table. It’s perfectly natural and is what truly makes a man a man along with the ability to give her children. Men today don’t get it and are far more self absorbed, feminized and relationship gun shy. Western women are far too entitled and want things both ways without having to take care of a home or her man as she should. We can blame feminism which of course has created many issues but it’s also men letting it happen instead of insisting on certain basic things from women like respect and appreciation in return for our support. Thai women are more open to this and if you get the right one, have the willingness and ability to support her then it can work. Not that there aren’t many other cultural challenges but all in all I’m very happy in my relationship and taking care of my girl. And in return she loves and appreciates me for it. She’s much younger than me and I know as I age she’s got my back and will take care of me. That’s an important thing to consider especially if you live here in Thailand.
Sure, everyone provides, but you both work at it, where I'm from. In the times when women stayed home taking care of everything......that's working together also. I don't mean it's all about money. Cheers for the comment, nice read.
I Totally agree with you. Western women are far to entitled.
They are never happy, no matter how much attention you give them, pamper them, wine and dine them, nice holidays, look after them financially etc.
I was married for 23 years to a Western girl, had another serious relationship and lived together with another Western Woman for 7 years.
I found a Thai girl and have been with her for 5 years now. Once you have had Thai there is no going back.
You have luck to get good Thai lady,Poor Thai ladies from north eastern Thai are most poor or some not but they are trained or advised to have white guy cause every thing runs by money, except you get the educated Thai lady who doesn't need money from man but you have to show your ability to cope with smart Thai lady.
You are totally right!
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Wayne, have you been to the Philippines? If so, is the culture there much different than in Thailand? I personally believe the large language barrier in Thailand makes communicating, building a bond and falling in love much more difficult. This is solely based on watching videos, as I have no first hand experience (yet). The better infrastructure and similar cost of living in Thailand (among many other things) is what makes me want to live there over the Philippines. But the warmth and friendliness of the Filipinos and Filipinas toward foreigners just feels more genuine.
Hi, yes I've been to The Philippines a few times. In fact, that's where I used to go before Thailand.
The language barrier is alot easier in The Phillips and the people are nice, but Thai people are also.
It all depends on alot of things......food, accommodation, lifestyle, budget. I still think Thailand is the best full package.
Thanks
You're absolutely right!
Thanks.
You are truly a nice guy and also completely a free man.
Nice one 🤟🏻
Your right sir...just the way my own thinking is...
Thanks 👍
I miss that spot , that river has a cool vibe at night .
Yes, it's looking really good here now 👍
Well said Wayne, "Your in their culture and that's how it is." If you want to enjoy the benefits of living in this country you have to adapt. If you can't adapt don't expect them to adapt to your expectations. Pure and simple.
Yep, that's about it, in a nutshell 👌
Good on ya mate.
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Hi Wayne, in Thailand 🇹🇭 there many successful ladies who no need support. When you are (online) dating ask the same question ‘What is your job?’. Successful ladies are happy to tell anyone. My girlfriend picked me up in her BMW at my Bangkok hotel seven years ago 😉
Sure, as I mentioned, it's the culture, they have no problem answering them questions. It's not in my nature to ask before saying how's your day though. Cheer Man.
That's a nice canal walk, I will be in chang mai mid December and I am aavid walker, is the canal in Old Town? Good channel bud, .
It's just outside the old city . Thanks for liking the channel 👍
Same here .. two months in Thailand.( Dental trip ) ..no sex...just go along ....Proper relationship is hard to find in real.Just everyday go about .., listen, look & discover ! No regrets!!! see you sometime next year again!
👍👍 Nice one Jack
I met a great Thai girl who would get put out if I paid. She has several of her own businesses. She's a beauty too. Leaves me asking myself while I'm spending summer back in Australia? I must be mad!
She is with her Thai BF right now.
🤣 Get that plane ticket booked Rob.
Yea we'll believe you😂😂
Mate, spot on. I was in a relationship with a Thai girl and when I went to stay with her family, I was thinking along western lines where the hosts cover costs for the guest. While they did provide lovely meals, there was certainly the expectation I would buy certain goods etc. In hindsight this makes sense of course but at the time, I (naively perhaps) was caught by surprise. As you say, not that one way is right and one way wrong. Just different. And again as you say, *we* should adapt as we're in their country. Fair enough. 👍👍
That's right buddy. It's just a difference in culture .
I’m a few behind on your vids but the title made me jump ahead to this one. Ha.
You’re no dummy, Wayne, thinking things through is the way to go. You’re clearly able to enjoy an amazing life as is. If you wanna shack up in your 60s or 70s don’t worry about getting it up.. they’ll have an app for it by then that’ll send a signal to Mr. Happy. 🚀
Haha thanks man. Yes, we could have an AI app by then that does everything 🤣.
Respect, man.
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Good on you Wayne! My days of feeding dependents are over. I have been single since 2014, after many years of marriage, and have finally found solace without the chaos of live. Great vlog as always. Cheers mate!
Thank you buddy!
Hello from California! I miss Thailand! When you meet the one… you will just know when you least expect it.
Hi Pam, a big hello to you in California 🙏. Thank you for the nice comment 😊
Wayne in regard to not having a girlfriend in Chiang Mai. Maybe you just need to meet a girl like Bove from your earlier video. You remember her the nurse. She has a profession and earns a salary. So she is the type who would be wiling to share a life .
🤣 She was a nice girl Bovy. 👍👍
Funny how alot of passport bros make it seem like western women are the Worse kind of women and almost glorify a Thai wife or a Southeast Asian wife....Cause their the prefect kind of housewife...U pointed out some good points and thanks for being honest about the money involved...alot of men Leave that part out...
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Loved this vlog, cheers Wayne.
Been coming to Thailand for 12 years. Looked for love for the first few years. Thought i had it, then lost it. My buddy was asking me if i had a missus in conversation and my reply was "still looking". His reply was for me was to stop looking and do what you love and I'll happen. Learning some Thai helps a tonne
Nice one buddy! Maybe I'll start looking one day. Until then, I'm happy being Jack the Lad. 👌
Love your state of mind . .be free my friend and be happy. .
Thanks 🙏
@@WalkAboutWayne but i did laugh at humpty dumpty comment. 😂
Seriously, really surprised by your views in this episode. I too am from the Southwest of England and I've never been on a date where I would not expect to pay for the lady. Okay, I'm older and it was how i was brought up! Once your in a relationship, its different, then the lady might offer, or go halves. Especially when you compare your income and the average wage in Thailand, its generally around 300Baht, you would probably spend that on a meal with a beer or two. That is her days wage, if she is a shop girl etc. So perhaps think of things from her view point too! But love your laid back vlogs mate, so keep up the good work. Just think of me here eating a pasty! 😉 Wife and I are heading to Thailand in just over a week, so leave us a few Leo's!
In a relationship is what I'm talking about buddy. And I don't mean both counting out the coins to pay for a meal 🤣. I'm talking about working together in a relationship 50/50, not just meaning going Half's on fish and chips.
No worries mate, hope you have a great time , I'm sure you will 👍 Thanks for liking the channel, much appreciated 🙏
Ps, I could eat a nice Pasty now 😁
555, I learned another Britishism from you today... Jack the Lad. Never heard that one. That's as good as one I remember from Paddy Doyle, "Let's have a little nosey." Ah, Wayne, how could I not comment on this topic of Thai dating? But you know more than anyone watching, after all your time here, exactly how most Thai relationships work. I think there are roughly two categories of guys coming here and two categories of women. There are the bar girl/freelancer/money-grubber women, perfect for the quys who come over for casual intimate relationships. As long as they are straight with each other, fine, they are welcome to each other. But I'd say many Thai Women are sincere, family-oriented partners who would never cheat or initiate leaving their partner if he is treating her properly. You often don't get that same thing in the west. Happily there are many western men coming who also want a sincere and caring partner, so perfect for each other assuming the guy can adapt to Thai culture and expectations. You accurately summed up the expectation many have that as the guy you will be the breadwinner. To me, it is like America (and maybe Europe too) in the 50s and 60s when one partner worked and one cared for the home, both working hard in their own way. So I don't look at it at all as if the woman is taking advantage of the man, rather each working hard in their role. Good topic today, Wayne. Til you find the right woman, keep up with your Jack the Lad options...
Nicely worded as always Randy. And now you know what a "Jack the Lad" is 🤣 Thanks 🙏
You speak the truth again bro.
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It comes from the song Mad Dogs and Englishmen by Noel Coward. “At high noon, the natives swoon, no further work is done. But mad dogs and Englishmen go out in the midday sun”
That's the one 👍
Totally agree with you bud .. my wife Thai and 50 / 50 in uk but her money 1/4 her wage goes home so you right in both ways buddy I respect your views .. you 100% right buddy .. I love my wife the best but I’m not going to lie
Nice one mate! Hope all is well back in the UK.
Thumbs up 👍 Wayne
Thanks 👍
Lol love the comment at the 48 second point. Vlog done 😅
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In my experience it's really just that the odds of meeting a woman of comparable income is just so much lower. It's not that they won't contribute at the same level, it's that they simply can't and they also likely have the yoke of their Thai's family obligation/expectation of receiving money every month. There is no (meaningful) national pension / social security in Thailand. This is what keeps old people off the streets. That said, there is a small percentage of Thai women in families who certainly do pull down as much or more that average westerners. Finding someone in this socio-economic bracket takes more skill of course but at the same time, they're not going to have the same need to shake you down for a living. I married a upper class Thai trans girl and it's been the best decision of my life. We've been together for 22 years now.
Great comment mate. Very good points. Hope life is good , as long as your happy 👌👌
Don't worry mate, when the times right the girl you're supposed to be with will appear, trust me, it will happen. I found it best to not force it, they are there but very hard to find. She'll probably find you.
Never looking buddy. Doubt I’ll be settling down until 60+
I’m 57 and have been to Thailand many times ,
I will be relocating in 3 years, I’m taking care of myself let alone the a family .
Be lovely to meet a nice lady ect .
But the more stories I see & hear ? 😮 .
Hmm , not sure…
I'm sure you'll meet a nice lady John, just depends what your looking for. 👍
I never wanted to get my heart broken all over again but i love traveling still 😂
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I agree with everything you said bro.. I say that to myself every time.. I wouldn’t mind a Thai woman who occasionally would say.. let me buy this. Out of about 80 Thai woman.. I did meet one.. she worked in real estate in Chiang Mai and offered to buy me dinner occasionally.. the only one.. she was selling condos, houses etc.. in Chiang Mai.. she was well off. I dumped her though because I wanted to be a “Jack the lad” but looking back.. she was the one I should’ve kept.
Nice mate, I've been out with some that share but none that I really wanted to be with . Cheers man
Hi m8,
Find someone that loves you for who you are and not for what you have.
Learn some Thai which will be a bridge bewteen the two of you.
Do not go looking for ladies in the night life, once in that life translate to always in that ilfe style.
Nothing wrong with supporting a nice decent lady as along she does her best to take care of you and also appreciate what you are doing for her.
Taking care of somone does not cost anything but only time and love.
Relationship is a two way street.
Yes mate, that's what the vlog is about. Cheers 👍
That canal looks SOOO dangerous! No guard rails, and if you fall in, nothing to grab on to to keep from drowning or to climb out!
Yep, no health and safety here 🤣🤣
Hi Wayne, thinking about a video of yours I saw some time back about dentist, I'm coming to chiang mai in January, I need a crown done that has fallen off an implant, is it possible you could ask your dentist about a price? It's the third last tooth on the top left, the titanium nail is still in place, just the crown is needed, if you can thanks much appreciated.
Hi, I won't be going dentist for a few more months. You can find all prices online for Dental4U in Chiang Mai. They have a website and Facebook page. 👍
I have several friends who are married to Thais, they are just as happy with gold and money, as long as you are nice and can try them ..I have told my wife that I am a millionaire so I can't try your family, they have to say themselves and they do. yes, I pay a lot, but I also often tell my wife that she has to pay for the food and other things. and in Thailand, everything is cheap, but if you find a nice girl, she must have a job, have her own money and be able to handle herself, yes, and can sleep a little, so you can have a good life together for little money. you're also an extrovert like me, we're used to living life others lead, but if you come to Thailand you can live differently and for little money
Oh sure, many nice Thai ladies about. Maybe when I'm old, I'll settle with a nice woman.
you said the other day that you would give your arm if you could for an English newspaper, I can probably get hold of one per newspapers in the airport , do you want it..i will come to chiangmai on saturday@@WalkAboutWayne
You do you until you find a beautifull compassionate and kind Thai lady that will love you for the wonderful person you are as I think you will be a fantastic partner and not for what you can do for her financially good example is David and Annie from 90 day fiance, love your channel, and how great you are with the locals and children I am a old lady 71 years old from south Africa who will be coming to
Thailand in April 2024 as we love Thailand, the people and the great food, hopefully we will be lucky enough to run into you as we will be in cha am and hui hin our best place to visit in thailand❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you for liking the channel Lorraine, hope to see you in Thailand. ♥️♥️
Having a girlfriend cost smoney whenever your are, In Thailand its just more.I have had a rich Thai girlfriend and she was probably the only girl that didnt want to be taken care of, still had to pay for meals and stuff etc but only because I wanted too. Being taking care of doesnt make them a bad and person its like you say its how it is. I can count the number of times I have gone 50/50 on a bill on one hand. One thing is a lot of Thai ladies already have children, your'e expected to look after them and their family which makes things even harder. Dont change, stick to what you want.
Cheers buddy! Yeah, 50/50 don't mean splitting a bill. It more means doing things in general more equal.
I agree with you about the culture its 1000% different from the West. I was talking to a 44 year old Thai lady that wanted me to support her and her daughter fully plus pay her a 30,000 Baht salary every month 😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣Mind you this lady worked a government job good salary owned her house out right no mortgage and drove a 2020 Toyota truck, Thai women's MOTO is what's mine is mine what's yours is mine !!!!!!
🤣🤣🤣 Great to read this comment, I can relate to this also 👍
Back in Thailand myself, feeling great, nice to know you're back, too. Yeah, you're right, most long term stay youtubers in Thailand seem to have a gf or wife and the relationship is probably 99% as you say. However, where I'm from (japan) my generation (gen x) of leftover women are single exactly for that reason since the decline in economy has disabled men to support the gf/wife/family solo, in short, 50/50 support is inevitable.
I never left buddy 👍. I always wanted to go Japan, one day I will. Thanks
Good discussion mate - the cultural differences & connection sometimes may not be something everyone understands especially new travellers.
Nice work WW
Nice one Ant 👍
Great video, enjoying your content. Retiring to Jomtien Beach in 13 days! Chiang mai was my favorite city, on my last visit, back in 2005. also liked Hua Hin and Khon Khan. Will give Jomtien a few months, but I bet I wind up in chiang Mai! I'm a streamer, so will fire up my channel after I get settled. I had a thai "palaya" way back when. Made the foolish mistake of bringing her to the USA, and also expecting the type of connection I have with my Western Wife. Never happened. Huge cultural chasm, and for me, we had an intellectual divide as well. Save your money, live peacefully. Short time when the fires burn!
Thanks for the great comment, great to read. I hope it all goes well in Jomtien. I might be down that way myself soon.
cheaper, more freedom and less stress lol It's normal first question 'what do you do?'.. in HK it's even more direct, some even ask you 'how much do you earn/what's your salary?' and from that they decide if they wanna know you or not.. even friends sometimes.. its ridiculous.. but in Thailand and VN and that part of the world its completely normal that the man supports the family, the woman builds the home..and its just part of the culture.. I have dated a couple of times while living in that part of the world and it was discussed in terms of the culture difference, I always pick up the first check.. but then see if its just expected after that... if it is, it ends pretty quick!! there are of course, some who have and want their own careers and are happy to go 50/50.. just depends on the woman.. it used to be like that here in UK though to be fair.. until mid 60's/70's it was the same.. each to their own I guess....
Yep 👍
I can see your point. I wonder how it is with Thai men and western women? In my early 20s I dated a guy and would offer to leave tip when we went out or cook for him at my house. I see in a lot of youtube videos that the girls want the man to pay for everything, which I don't agree. Seems like a lot of them want a free permanent vacation.
I've seen a few Thai man and western lady couples here, but very rare. That could be a god subject for a future video. I agree, the myth of a Thai girl not paying for anything is not true. Most guys are looking in the wrong places I think. I've just not met one that is a good match for me. Thanks
Dear Wayne,
Please may I correct you on one point of view why Thai lady asking Farang or expecting Farang to pay for their meal on the first date-or asked what you do for living? and I, A Thai lady happened to married to one of yours people “The Brith” over 15 years. We started as a-friend first then got married after 2 years, guess what? We did exactly what you’ve said to make our relationship work and we still do. Back to what I want to say most Thai lady are wanting to make sure that “ You are the one! Mr right! Who she can cry on the shoulders , always there when she need you of corse goes both way she also willing to be with you when you need her too, please don’t take it in a wrong way. I also agreed for some they are a player, and yet they are everywhere in the world .
Good luck for finding someone, the gems. Thank you for staying in thailand and show the word about our great country. Enjoy. ❤
That's right, as I mentioned in the video, she want to know if someones stable. Thank you for the message and thanks for watching ♥️
Yeah, it's tricky one Wayne. Even here in N. America it's often about man supporting women. I'm from UK originally and it was different there. And I suppose to be fair if older bloke with younger women then suppose there has to be something to balance it out. I started out skint in a council house up north but worth a couple of million now and there's no way I'm married and giving half of it away.
I hear you mate, it would take a lot to share my hard earned pennies. I worked hours in a crappy job, to save what little I have saved.
50:50 doesn't matter in the ideal relationship when you and your partner are as 'one'. But that's often too idealistic. Sometimes one has to lower one's expectations and take risks. But this can be hard for Western males in Asia who have options and are addicted or used to the excitement of new potential relationships and freedom. The problem is though that things can all of a sudden go wrong and you find yourself with much fewer options. Not good. Of course, some people get into relationships out of loneliness or fear of being sick, alone, childless in the future, etc., which is understandable and practical - the typical mentality of developing societies who are closer to struggle. I'd say that the main thing about being single is not having children, which can have a material/practical and mental impact when you are older, after it's too late. I have missed loads of chances of marriage in Asia. I was picky, didn't fancy taking a risk, and had too many options. But one's reality can change on a dime, like mine did.
I think it takes Woking together to get to that "as one " though. Great comment though, thanks for sharing 🙏🙏
100% @@WalkAboutWayne
Dunno when the last time you went on a date in the UK was Wayne but the times have changed my friend. Dates now feel more like a job interview than anything else. Especially with women our age. 35 to 50. The women try to be subtle but every question is them trying to work you out rather than genuinely getting to know you. Especially when the women are older and have been through some stuff. It's like all the trust is gone. Even in the UK these days women will happily let you pay for the dates and won't think twice about ordering the surf and turf. In my experience and it's only happened to me twice but when they insist on paying you're not getting another date. In Thailand yes you are paying for everything and supporting someone but you should be getting some caring and most of all the thing you won't get in the west these days is some submission to your authority as a man and some respect.
You're better off out there mate. I will be joining you shortly.
Not too long ago buddy. Every relationship I've had has been a joint effort. I gave up on one to come to Thailand. Thailand isn't a bed of roses either , but it's a better life than back home for sure. Thanks mate 👍
Morning from England . I ve spent lots of time in Thailand and Asia . IMO all relationships cost you . If you came back to the UK and tried to find a suitable GF around your sort of age , you d more than likely have her baggage to deal with financially , (kids and grandkids and debt etc ) , with the majority of marriages breaking down nowadays and the cost of living going through the roof . I have a beautiful female friend of mine who is 17 yrs younger and has told me honestly that she would much rather marry an unattractive man with money behind him than a good looking binman with no money behind him . Financial security is a fact of life in all cultures . I ve been through all the mish mash of trying to connect with a suitable lady here in the UK , but weighing it all up , i ve just retired and will be retiring to Asia ( probably Thailand ) with enough behind me to keep one eye open for a suitable companion if I choose to . I find that when you have experience of both cultures you can use that to your advantage . All the best to you Wayne ✌😊
Nice one buddy! Still totally different in how they think though. I agree all women want stable though, or a man who can provide. Say hi to Blighty for me mate. 👍
@@WalkAboutWayne hello from a drab rainy autumn day in Blighty 👋The old kipling phrase comes to mind " east is east and west is west and never the twain shall meet " therein lies the paradox . I m open to a European lady friend with a similar culture to watch a few sunsets with in an ideal world . Top of my list to retire so far is the Sunshine international retirement residences in Hua Hin whose CEO is English , its on You Tube . Try spending some time in North east England where in my town most of the girls are harder than the blokes 🤣and femininity is a thing of the past ,then the selection of ladies in the Hua hin area ( as you ve discovered ) will become a pleasant contrast to contemplate
Dear Wayne, I would consider having a part time cook or housekeeper or both, then change out as needed, much better to pay as you go or rent as needed
Sounds perfect to me 🤣
5:00 those kids were so polite and funny
Yes, they was so funny 🤣
For a self reality check, I like to ask myself, if the lady is financially secure enough to look after her basic needs, would she be still interested in me? If I think the answer is no then I would be being her sponsor much more than being her boyfriend. There's nothing wrong with being single.
Spot on mate 👍
Hi Wayne, out of curiosity what is the age range of the women you are meeting that you are experiencing this dynamic with? Because if the age gap is big enough, don’t you think that would play into feeling like you are having to take care of someone too?
I've met and dated many different ages. Some lovely ladies 👍
Do or not to do, that's the question.
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I got mine in Malaysia, and I'm kina split between the UK and Malaysia.
Nice 👍👍
Pretty funny psyche out in the beginning. Well done. So how much does it cost to have a girlfriend? I heard you have to pay all her meals and expenses plus give some extra for her family...
😂😂. That's a question I can't answer buddy. Everyone is different.
Wayne. ..Peter, "Thailand Bound" has a partner who makes her own money. And I have read about similar relationships in Thailand. But the problem for Peter has been her extreme jealously. I have seen this in other Thai ladies. Also not being really fluent in Thai or English can be a problem. Like no real in depth social problems to discuss. Uh, a good thing? But I did read about a couple there where each did not speak the other's language. Also maybe a good thing? Anyway, I know some C. M. girls that need help with dying dads, poor families, "brothers", etc. They will be happy to show you Isan. Very happy. Being eye candy helps us, of course. But I have also been "eye wallet".
no need for peter examples...
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Please tell me what else I "don't need". OK? Obviously, Peter was just a example. Other expats have similar issues. But we all have issues, don't we?
Interesting video Wayne.
So its going to be hard for a woman to tie your arsh down long term for the time being 😉
It will take a firm Arsh, to tie me down mate 🤣