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15 things to be a true lady. As for society has varied standards for men and women being a lady is more of a dream. We all need to know what forms the core of a lady mindset. females look at and understand social interactions differently and no matter what there ought to be some difference in expected behaviour from the society's point of view between a gentleman and a lady.
@@alux Note: introversion has less than zero effect on conventional skills, it's about being drained in crowds and recharched when by yourself, the opposite of extraverts.
Interested but dont have 22 minutes? I got you. 1. Have your life figured out 2. Be well read, educated and informed 3. Master the art of presentation 4. You let your actions speak for yourself 5. Understanding that life is about serving others not serving yourself 6. Be punctual 7. Master the art of conversation 8. Never get drunk or wasted when you go out 9. You do not embarass your partner 10. Go after what you want without sacrificing your morality 11. Compliment your date 12. Be in good health and clean 13. Speak well of others and avoid gossip 14. Do not offer unsolicited advice 15. It’s the little things My pleasure, have a nice day :)
That’s why we have video notes: Alux.com/rules-gentleman The list is not the valuable part in this video but our interpretation of it and the way we explain it. We’re disappointed when people post it the way you do, because it’s not providing the audience with the value. We worked hard to get all the points across in a way that will make a difference and stick around, otherwise we would’ve just published the list. You’re doing more harm than good.
I agree with Banaanipassi. I used to watch full videos when it was ~10 minutes or under 15 minutes. Anything more is sometimes not easy and I skip through all the points, of course, the bonus as well. I really appreciate your effort. And, thanks for the video notes.
Respect. I had someone I worked with once tell me after several political conversations we had that he didn't agree with anything I said but that he appreciated the conversations because I made what he considered to be logical arguments and I never tried to over talk him. After watching this vid I now realize that he was a gentleman and I was on my way. Also, "Principles" is a great read.
We shouldn't get confused with a gentleman and a nice guy. It's easy to be the 'nice' guy but being a gentleman takes effort in self development that comes with time. Thank you Alux
There’s nothing more appealing than a man of good character. That will never go away. It’s classic. They know their behavior can ruin their happiness or enhance it.
#RESPECT People lose their etiqutte because they let it, constantly checking social media, upgrading apps but not their own knowledge and personality. Tech for me is neither good or bad, just like science, it is on the way you utilize and apply it. Thanks Alux for another motivitional Sunday video, 3:58am here in my place and what a way to start the day! 😊
Moises..Well said & very true. Everyone is exactly what they choose to be, or allow themselves to become.. Life is not always fair, i know this well..but i have never let that re-define me, fundamentally change my beliefs, or justify any wrongdoing to others, that have not well & truly earned it, by willfully violating the private boundaries of life or person. The pink floyd song, "On the turning away" is a good example.. MINDSET is key, helped by the courage of your convictions.. Beyond that..as Heracles said.."A man's character is his destiny..this decides his path..and, ultimately, his fate". If you ever had anything..you only truly lost it because you lost interest & chose to give it up, or to stop fighting to protect it.. This is true with a child & a toy.. This is true with personal beliefs.. It remains true with morals, values & principles.. And it remains true for you too.. Anything you ever had inside you, you can get back..it was not a posetion that could truly be stolen, you just gave it up.. Free again, that which was never caged, but by you, in your own mind. Do not turn away, do not turn cold.. Turn against those sick twisted bastards, ready your weapons, and be ever vigilant, ever faithful, and ever prepared to...Light up the darkness! "Lest we forget"
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Respect. I personally think that we have lost the meaning of being a gentleman in our culture because we value winning at all costs over anything else. In our hyper competitive society, we are raised in a very binary manner. We’re either winners or losers. Winners supposedly reap the rewards. It is this mindset that makes us completely write off and even hate those who disagree with us. If I have the choice of being right or being kind, I’d prefer to be kind. It’s the way we should all be living instead of choosing short term gains over long term success.
The video should be called "15 RULES For Being A GENTLEMAN and A LADY". I think we all can beneficiate from these rules. Just as men, we should be Have our life figured out, be well read educated and informed, be punctual, never get drunk and embarass your partner, avoid gossip, be in good health, etc. Great video! Respect
I believe a lot of people now, are not willing to invest time on polishing themselves and become better quality individuals by taking in all the information that we have available now days. We are like a classical guitar, and we can tune ourselves to play the most beautiful masterpieces....keep growing 🤗🤗🤗
RESPECT! Thank you so much Alux, I really needed this video. I WILL improve in all areas necessary, I tend to get prideful and offended about everyone and everything, so I really needed to hear this. Who better to help improve my life than you Alux! This is probably by far my favorite sunday motivational video. Much appreciated, thank you!
MIKE K I grew up with no father. I have manners. I had a poor attitude about it when I was younger, but then I decided to change that; now I consider myself fortunate to have the opportunity to build my metaphorical castle with stones from many different quarries, able to choose the best qualities from respectable men and women to integrate into myself and use as tools in life. This approach has helped me create a well-rounded self that is very adaptable and resilient.
I believe one of the most important overlooked categories in basic manners is how to be a good guest. Whether crashing on a couch for a night or staying the week with your inlaws, there are basic behaviors and actions for being someone who will be welcomed back. Respect indeed!
Respect. Unfortunately we live in a very selfish and narcissistic society. We talk the talk but rarely walk the walk ( unless others are watching). Social media has brought out that narcissism is alive and well unfortunately. Be considerate, compassionate, empathetic, generous educated and well groomed . You’re now a great human being. Rare!
Respect. I think that people have lost respect for themselves and for others. One of the main things is how their parents bought them up. A lot people do not take pride in themselves. That is where it starts.
Hmm, I think you didn´t get the point of introversion. I am an introvert. What doesn´t mean that i don´t have great communication skills. I am actually pretty good in talking with others. But i just don´t want to talk my whole day. I enjoy it to be allone. What is wrong with that?
I think the bigger point is that you know what you like and have the ability to point it out. That to me is a much better place to be in then being a wet blanket in the wind and not having any convictions
If you are homeless, in poverty, middle income, just getting by, a high roller, CEO, POTUS or the Queen of England whatever you are everyone deserves the same level of respect.
To me this is one of the best commentary videos that I've seen thus far. Great job! There are more than a handful of things that I will take from this segment...
That's such a great idea! 15 signs/rules for being lady. The world wants us to be as good as we can(or cannot). Let's talk about ladies, without malevolence.
Respect to everybody in the commentary section, it really feels nice to check out and see everybody sharing happy thoughts and encouraging messages. Thank you all for the good vibes and have a great rest of your day
Love the video, but from my understanding of psychology i think your definition of introversion is quite off and just comes out silly, someone can be an introvert and still be a master of conversation. being an introvert is not a disability. Respect.
I just was writing a response to that part of the video when I saw yours, TOTALLY agree with you! While I do believe some people hide behind the guise of being introverted when they are really shy, introversion IS a real thing and there plenty of social introverts.
Thats why in the video it said, it's like walking, no one is born knowing how to walk, its a skill you learn. So, being an introvert is an actual thing but the video says that you can train yourself to be better at talking with others. Its not disrespectful, it's just a comment. It never said being an introvert is a disease. I am an introvert by the way, and I have learned to have bettter conversations, as the video says introverts can.
Prince X: Can't argue with that. Don't know what other word they could use to make it clear though to the male viewers that need help getting the message. Can you suggest a word that all male viewers will understand in the context 'loser' was used? Sincere regards
Yes... of course.....+Athan Kosmo - because anytime a man fall's short (starts or stops doing something), it's ALWAYS a woman's fault, right? Listen, when an Alpha man looks at this, he never says that it ended because women just SUDDENLY stopped appreciating it because he knows that women would never stop appreciating what is in their best interest. But to a Beta male, your excuse would make sense because beta males are notorious for failing to reflect inward and instead look outwardly to find another group to take the blame. Here's the thing - Alpha men do not let other people dictate how they behave or who they should be proud to become. Instead, they simply adopt certain attributes (usually attributes that they would be proud of their son's for having) and this way only the people who are worthy of their time and are of the same caliber will be attracted to them. All others will be uninterested and will go away on their own. In other words, they use their chivalry as a way to weed out the unworthy - they don't STOP being chivalrous just to gain the interest of the masses because that's counterproductive to a good quality of life! So if you've looked around and noticed that women CEASED (not seized) to appreciate a gentlemen's manner then it's quite possible that the women you were watching were of less quality than the women you SHOULD HAVE been paying attention to. Just food for thought. Be well.
Not all women, but a lot. I still show the utmost respect to all. I hold doors, speak, assist, even when not required, and I still notice the lack of appreciation. I was once told "you can help me, but you're not getting my number". I politely told the lady "My wife was the one who told me you were struggling, so I didn't come here for that". The embarrassment on her face was priceless, but saddening that she couldn't take some help when she was in real need.
I think your comment and the replies prove that Gentlemen and manners have disappeared for many. Note how everyone here essentially said, "No, you". As to the cause of the problem. Feminist women are just as much the fault for lack of Gentlemen as feminized men who aren't willing to stand up for themselves or instill values in their children. Both parties are at fault and until we can take ownership of our own shortcomings rather than point the finger, the problems will remain.
RESPECT” is something that always had for others but a lot of people don’t seem to like respect in this trouble times but I’m going to keep it within me” thanks alux.!
@@marcanthonyferman5725 Thanks brotha. Update: in my third year. Mom passed away right in the middle of my second year, so I’ve built up what I lost and I’ve surpassed the point where my life fell apart.
None of these say you have to be a push over or let people walk all over you. Don't mix up these rules, first you must love and respect your self in order for others to respect you and in order for you to respect other. Serving man kind doesn't work if you don't serve yourself first.
They made one of those before this one I’m pretty sure. Titled “How to be a millennial lady. Both my fiancé and I are trying to make a transformation. This is a good video. You should have your woman check out the other one.
Alchemica Blackwood No, the only difference is that fiancé is still a French word but used in american language meaning ' to get engaged'. This video surely didn't seem to help you act like a gentlemen because you sound rude and misinformed. Spread women hate elsewhere.
It's all the above. From high school, l saw people who are respectful are regarded as weak and those who are brash seems to be respected. The media appears to highlight people who are macho-- not strong as preferable traits and people who are meek are protraided as weak. People mistakenly believe meekness is weakness. So many men who do not want to be labeled as weak would subscribe to this way of thinking. I know I have. But it's the truly strong who are able to resist this.
The problem is that a real gentleman isn't a "nice guy". A true gentleman doesn't get stepped on or pushed around. They have confidence and will take charge. "Nice Guys" are cowards that participate in propitiation and would call letting another dude take their girlfriend in their own car to a movie that they paid the ticket for "gentlemanly".
Sadly true. Most people just accept it as the new norm in the times but I strongly disagree with it. You think required etiquette classes in all schools might help?
Hey Alux.com this video was amazing. I think the internet has changed the culture. I was wondering if you where going to do a reverse video for women. RESPECT.
Yes and I'm on a journey of self improvement. For my own sake, not anyone else. My next step is quitting all social media, giving up most entertainment, etiquette lessons and proceed to the things that are too long to list. I am determined to be the best possible version of me and accomplish my goals! Warm regards :)
RESPECT : The culture change because people change itself. Being Gentlemen makes people think its a weakness and people can be run over because they are good even somebody is already taking advantage of being good.
Respect! I still have work to do, and I feel encouraged that although some of my life choices are sometimes out of line, my core values are holding me accountable for improving my standard. Thank you Alux for reminding me of who I chose to be and what I really stand for!
Culture is changing because of the media. See what the #METOO and Feminism are doing to being a man. In the UK some groups are pushing for the word 'Gentleman' to be abolished. #Respect
The culture has changed because people made being a gentleman to be synonymous with being a snob, but people tend to take things too far. So when we, people, took being a gentleman too far, it looked more honest and sincere to not be one. Now we see the same in reverse. Nowadays we look at being a gentleman as it was intended - someone kind and well mannered. The sincerity of being more casual (bad boy and bad girl trope) is seen as pretentious because it currently is. Generally speaking, people don't like dishonesty and like genuine characters. This is why the trends 'what kind of person you want to be' change so much along the years.
Nice work! "Respect!" About the question: "Why do you think the culture has changed?" The only point permanent in life is change! If for better or worse it depends on what we add to it by the actions that we make in our private life. As we can learn with Carl Gustav Jung at his work on Collective Unconscious.
Ladies do too! Gender is irrelevant..the same personal qualities in a male, that must be present and accounted for, to qualify him as a legitimate man..much less a true gentleman.. Are exactly the same degree of personal qualities that must be equally present in a female, for her to be properly considered a genuine woman...much less a lady! Respect, just like trust & love are things EVERYONE must EARN, of their own accord, in their own right..and by their own inner sense of immpecability
The culture hasn't changed, It's just that the weak have grown in numbers, the strong are in a short supply nowadays. You know what weak and strong means, right.
A gentleman is less than 15 rules. He carries himself with respect, dignity, and character. He is also well educated, dresses neatly, comfortable in his own skin, and handles everything with the right attitude based on the situation. Nice video none the less.
Well spoken. A good way to develop confidence by self affirmation of being a gentleman. This also encourages personality development. All must work on their few lacking traits. I only disagree with you on the outlook of an introvert. Respect.
@@marcanthony6144 My guess is that he's speaking on it from multiple layers: The fact that society is so immoral that people don't want to change; due to social media, our attention span is so short we pay little attention to 20+ min videos; and that because of media, even when we're told what's required and actually important, our "default" goes back to what prevailing society has taught us (in this case, that "bad boys" are superior to "gentlemen") Of course that is my interpretation. I could be completely off. Hope it helped regardless 👍🏿
These tips sound less like ways to be a gentlemen and more like ways to be good, considerate, decent person period, regardless of if you're male or female!!!
My Spoken Story 'S really? Its only b-roll, don’t let that simple oversight detract from the quality advice in this video. If they were film- makers then yes this would be shoddy work, but most of their videos revolve around the spoken content/advice given, as opposed to the still images
Women's etiquette guides: there are a dozen types of sitting positions, your legs should never be open, your makeup hair and wardrobe should be fine tuned yet effortless and classy, speak slowly but eloquently, no human noises when in public, you should be funny but in a sexy way but at the same time not to sexy or you'll just be tacky. Every single inch of your body should be modified so that it looks like it's been professionally curated yet you didn't professionally curate it and just so happened to wake up like Kate Middleton. Men's etiquette guides: shower, don't fart in public, not loudly at least.
Alux.com number 14 hit home for me. I can give advice on certain things because either I lost something or Inhave gained something. People take advice for granted because it's free and they don't really want your advice. They just want to waste your time and have you around for bragging rights. I cut those people off. I've been told to stop giving away free advice. Build the company. Gain marketshare. The, people will pay to hear my experiences.
As far as to why people have lost their etiquette, I feel that, in alot of circles, being gentlemanly is considered unmanly or "simpish". I think that the rap culture especially has memorialized being crude and / or thuggish.
Respect. I believe the reason being a gentleman isn't respected in today's world is because many believe that they are thankless tasks. I think many low vibrational and mediocre people turn down their nose at real gentlemen in some cases to the point where it demotivates the younger men in society.
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I dont think there are anymore rules since women now feel they are equal to men. No more holding doors or chairs. They can pay for their own meals and change their own tires
I don't know where you're from but here in the United States it sounds hard to many men when Americans prefer the easy and convenient above all else even if it's not worth it in the end. Men and women are guilty of this. None the less, I appreciate actual gentleman. I'd date/marry nothing less. And I'd rather be alone with a fulfilling career and child I adopted than lower my standards in a partner too. Too many PEOPLE settle for low standards whether for themselves, at work and in their choice of partner. I myself am working on improving myself and I'm feeling great about it. Warm regards.
Number 5 is my favorite 😃😎 Great vídeo 👏 Why have people lost their etiquette? Because there is a lack of standards in society and a lack of love and respect.
I like her rule number two! I’m gonna work on this one in 2023. I’m embarrassed to say that sometimes I let my mouth talk about things that I’m not the most knowledgeable about. This is changing today.
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Alux.com how about the art of conversation.
The art of conversation would be great
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15 rules of being a lady ??
15 things to be a true lady.
As for society has varied standards for men and women being a lady is more of a dream. We all need to know what forms the core of a lady mindset. females look at and understand social interactions differently and no matter what there ought to be some difference in expected behaviour from the society's point of view between a gentleman and a lady.
Respect☺️
My 7 year old said he was kind to his girl classmate "because I watched alux videos that told me that. All smiles I love u Alux.
That's lovely to hear!
@@alux Note: introversion has less than zero effect on conventional skills, it's about being drained in crowds and recharched when by yourself, the opposite of extraverts.
@ It did indeed.
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Interested but dont have 22 minutes? I got you.
1. Have your life figured out
2. Be well read, educated and informed
3. Master the art of presentation
4. You let your actions speak for yourself
5. Understanding that life is about serving others not serving yourself
6. Be punctual
7. Master the art of conversation
8. Never get drunk or wasted when you go out
9. You do not embarass your partner
10. Go after what you want without sacrificing your morality
11. Compliment your date
12. Be in good health and clean
13. Speak well of others and avoid gossip
14. Do not offer unsolicited advice
15. It’s the little things
My pleasure, have a nice day :)
Thanks, you too buddy!
That’s why we have video notes: Alux.com/rules-gentleman
The list is not the valuable part in this video but our interpretation of it and the way we explain it.
We’re disappointed when people post it the way you do, because it’s not providing the audience with the value.
We worked hard to get all the points across in a way that will make a difference and stick around, otherwise we would’ve just published the list.
You’re doing more harm than good.
Thank you !
I agree with Banaanipassi. I used to watch full videos when it was ~10 minutes or under 15 minutes. Anything more is sometimes not easy and I skip through all the points, of course, the bonus as well.
I really appreciate your effort. And, thanks for the video notes.
Aju Vignesh Agree. The 10 minute long video is still watchable but in 22 minutes you almost lose your interest already.
Respect. I had someone I worked with once tell me after several political conversations we had that he didn't agree with anything I said but that he appreciated the conversations because I made what he considered to be logical arguments and I never tried to over talk him. After watching this vid I now realize that he was a gentleman and I was on my way. Also, "Principles" is a great read.
We shouldn't get confused with a gentleman and a nice guy. It's easy to be the 'nice' guy but being a gentleman takes effort in self development that comes with time. Thank you Alux
RESPECT
Nice vs. " nice". Plenty of info. Online for the definitions.
You couldn't have said it any better.
Well said. Never arrogant. Nor a bully. But that doesn't mean being a push-over.
@@stephencutler2239 " Be a gentlemen, not a doormat. "
There’s nothing more appealing than a man of good character. That will never go away. It’s classic. They know their behavior can ruin their happiness or enhance it.
So you are saying that I'm a a bad human
"Ok, let's start."
1. Have your life figured out.
"I failed."
f s 💀😂 same
Same
Don't start at #1. Rather start from the last and you have a better chance. Good luck!
Mastering the act of conversation , I use to think I was an introvert but you just made me know that I’m the one actually holding myself back
same
#RESPECT
People lose their etiqutte because they let it, constantly checking social media, upgrading apps but not their own knowledge and personality. Tech for me is neither good or bad, just like science, it is on the way you utilize and apply it. Thanks Alux for another motivitional Sunday video, 3:58am here in my place and what a way to start the day! 😊
Plus everyone wanna be famous now, Instagram, Facebook etc the easy way, I don't wanna be famous I gonna be successful....
Moises..Well said & very true.
Everyone is exactly what they choose to be, or allow themselves to become..
Life is not always fair, i know this well..but i have never let that re-define me, fundamentally change my beliefs, or justify any wrongdoing to others, that have not well & truly earned it, by willfully violating the private boundaries of life or person.
The pink floyd song, "On the turning away" is a good example..
MINDSET is key, helped by the courage of your convictions..
Beyond that..as Heracles said.."A man's character is his destiny..this decides his path..and, ultimately, his fate".
If you ever had anything..you only truly lost it because you lost interest & chose to give it up, or to stop fighting to protect it..
This is true with a child & a toy..
This is true with personal beliefs..
It remains true with morals, values & principles..
And it remains true for you too..
Anything you ever had inside you, you can get back..it was not a posetion that could truly be stolen, you just gave it up..
Free again, that which was never caged, but by you, in your own mind.
Do not turn away, do not turn cold..
Turn against those sick twisted bastards, ready your weapons, and be ever vigilant, ever faithful, and ever prepared to...Light up the darkness!
"Lest we forget"
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Respect. I personally think that we have lost the meaning of being a gentleman in our culture because we value winning at all costs over anything else. In our hyper competitive society, we are raised in a very binary manner. We’re either winners or losers. Winners supposedly reap the rewards. It is this mindset that makes us completely write off and even hate those who disagree with us. If I have the choice of being right or being kind, I’d prefer to be kind. It’s the way we should all be living instead of choosing short term gains over long term success.
Respect.
People have changed because society has become lazy...and it becomes justified.
RESPECT!!!!!
As one of my college professors told me: : "Good taste never goes out of style."
Listening to it like a Bible. Thank you, Ma'am!
I applaud you if you're a man
The video should be called "15 RULES For Being A GENTLEMAN and A LADY". I think we all can beneficiate from these rules. Just as men, we should be Have our life figured out, be well read educated and informed, be punctual, never get drunk and embarass your partner, avoid gossip, be in good health, etc. Great video! Respect
Excellent point.
Absolutely being a gentleman and a lady are two sides of the same coin
I believe a lot of people now, are not willing to invest time on polishing themselves and become better quality individuals by taking in all the information that we have available now days. We are like a classical guitar, and we can tune ourselves to play the most beautiful masterpieces....keep growing 🤗🤗🤗
At the end of the day, being a gentleman never goes out of style. Live it, own it.
How much of that bullshit did you fall for?
RESPECT! Thank you so much Alux, I really needed this video. I WILL improve in all areas necessary, I tend to get prideful and offended about everyone and everything, so I really needed to hear this. Who better to help improve my life than you Alux! This is probably by far my favorite sunday motivational video.
Much appreciated, thank you!
Respect is the most important for a gentleman!
Society has changed in the last 50 years because so many have grown up without fathers in the house to create discipline in their personalities.
MIKE K I grew up with no father. I have manners. I had a poor attitude about it when I was younger, but then I decided to change that; now I consider myself fortunate to have the opportunity to build my metaphorical castle with stones from many different quarries, able to choose the best qualities from respectable men and women to integrate into myself and use as tools in life. This approach has helped me create a well-rounded self that is very adaptable and resilient.
MIKE K agreed
@@BULLTRONHERO same brother, being raised by my uncle's and Grandpa's I've mixed the best parts of their characteristics into myself
I had a similar thought when she was talking about how to dress beyond jeans and a tee shirt.
I believe one of the most important overlooked categories in basic manners is how to be a good guest. Whether crashing on a couch for a night or staying the week with your inlaws, there are basic behaviors and actions for being someone who will be welcomed back. Respect indeed!
Good point, Bravo.
Respect. Unfortunately we live in a very selfish and narcissistic society. We talk the talk but rarely walk the walk ( unless others are watching). Social media has brought out that narcissism is alive and well unfortunately. Be considerate, compassionate, empathetic, generous educated and well groomed . You’re now a great human being. Rare!
Respect. I think that people have lost respect for themselves and for others. One of the main things is how their parents bought them up. A lot people do not take pride in themselves. That is where it starts.
Hmm, I think you didn´t get the point of introversion.
I am an introvert. What doesn´t mean that i don´t have great communication skills. I am actually pretty good in talking with others.
But i just don´t want to talk my whole day. I enjoy it to be allone.
What is wrong with that?
nothing wrong. We introverts are more comfortable being alone. We can interact if we want, but prefer our own thoughts.
@@locutusdborg126 precisely
I think the bigger point is that you know what you like and have the ability to point it out. That to me is a much better place to be in then being a wet blanket in the wind and not having any convictions
It takes great courage to stand alone!
Introverts arent leaders
If you are homeless, in poverty, middle income, just getting by, a high roller, CEO, POTUS or the Queen of England whatever you are everyone deserves the same level of respect.
To me this is one of the best commentary videos that I've seen thus far. Great job! There are more than a handful of things that I will take from this segment...
Awesome!! can we have the woman version of this.?
That's such a great idea! 15 signs/rules for being lady. The world wants us to be as good as we can(or cannot). Let's talk about ladies, without malevolence.
@@vitokhait9696 What in the world is "molevolense"?
@@MakeWay4CJ german english sorry about my grammar)
Yes please!!!!
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Respect to everybody in the commentary section, it really feels nice to check out and see everybody sharing happy thoughts and encouraging messages. Thank you all for the good vibes and have a great rest of your day
Love the video, but from my understanding of psychology i think your definition of introversion is quite off and just comes out silly, someone can be an introvert and still be a master of conversation. being an introvert is not a disability.
Respect.
Sure how to win friends and influence people is a nice book
Warren Buffett
Is introvert
@WoshD..., ' ...and just comes out silly,'.. THIS STATEMENT IS DEROGATORY,YEA IN THE SPIRIT OF THIS FAMILY/COMMUNITY.WISH U CAN UNDO ITS IMPACT.
I just was writing a response to that part of the video when I saw yours, TOTALLY agree with you! While I do believe some people hide behind the guise of being introverted when they are really shy, introversion IS a real thing and there plenty of social introverts.
Thats why in the video it said, it's like walking, no one is born knowing how to walk, its a skill you learn. So, being an introvert is an actual thing but the video says that you can train yourself to be better at talking with others. Its not disrespectful, it's just a comment. It never said being an introvert is a disease. I am an introvert by the way, and I have learned to have bettter conversations, as the video says introverts can.
Much value to the old adage, "Speak ye little, listen much!"
Respect. Also a gentleman uses punctuation, appropriate syntax, is semantically correct and does not use abbreviations.
Ease up mate..
There's nothing wrong with an occasional abreviation..
incorrect.
Respect.
It's refreshing to hear this, in a time when following the rules is seen almost as something shameful
some good advice here but stop using the term looser. unprofessional. another gentleman trait is never put others down
Loser* :)
well said !
You win some, you lose some. A true gentleman states the obvious when asked.
So true
Prince X: Can't argue with that. Don't know what other word they could use to make it clear though to the male viewers that need help getting the message. Can you suggest a word that all male viewers will understand in the context 'loser' was used? Sincere regards
I would love to see a vedio on ,how to master the art of conversation
The crown emoji where did you find it
I claim and attract a perfect gentleman husband into my life right now. Amen.
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8:29 I absolutely love this point. This is such a problem these days.
The culture changed because contemporary women ceased to appreciate a gentleman's manners....
Truth ✌...
When women got enough matured ..
They start running behind #gentlemen😎
Yes... of course.....+Athan Kosmo - because anytime a man fall's short (starts or stops doing something), it's ALWAYS a woman's fault, right? Listen, when an Alpha man looks at this, he never says that it ended because women just SUDDENLY stopped appreciating it because he knows that women would never stop appreciating what is in their best interest. But to a Beta male, your excuse would make sense because beta males are notorious for failing to reflect inward and instead look outwardly to find another group to take the blame. Here's the thing - Alpha men do not let other people dictate how they behave or who they should be proud to become. Instead, they simply adopt certain attributes (usually attributes that they would be proud of their son's for having) and this way only the people who are worthy of their time and are of the same caliber will be attracted to them. All others will be uninterested and will go away on their own. In other words, they use their chivalry as a way to weed out the unworthy - they don't STOP being chivalrous just to gain the interest of the masses because that's counterproductive to a good quality of life! So if you've looked around and noticed that women CEASED (not seized) to appreciate a gentlemen's manner then it's quite possible that the women you were watching were of less quality than the women you SHOULD HAVE been paying attention to. Just food for thought. Be well.
Exactly right. Feminazis going off on a guy for opening the door for her....
Not all women, but a lot. I still show the utmost respect to all. I hold doors, speak, assist, even when not required, and I still notice the lack of appreciation. I was once told "you can help me, but you're not getting my number". I politely told the lady "My wife was the one who told me you were struggling, so I didn't come here for that". The embarrassment on her face was priceless, but saddening that she couldn't take some help when she was in real need.
I think your comment and the replies prove that Gentlemen and manners have disappeared for many. Note how everyone here essentially said, "No, you". As to the cause of the problem.
Feminist women are just as much the fault for lack of Gentlemen as feminized men who aren't willing to stand up for themselves or instill values in their children.
Both parties are at fault and until we can take ownership of our own shortcomings rather than point the finger, the problems will remain.
RESPECT” is something that always had for others but a lot of people don’t seem to like respect in this trouble times but I’m going to keep it within me” thanks alux.!
Respect.
As usual, another educational experience with Alux. Time well spent. Thanks, it's appreciated.
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Respect. Starting law school for a second time after taking time off to deal with my mom's death
KEEP PUSHING ‼️🙏🏽
@@marcanthonyferman5725 Thanks brotha. Update: in my third year. Mom passed away right in the middle of my second year, so I’ve built up what I lost and I’ve surpassed the point where my life fell apart.
My respect towards you and everyone who has watched this until the end. Let's become better people and do only good.
None of these say you have to be a push over or let people walk all over you. Don't mix up these rules, first you must love and respect your self in order for others to respect you and in order for you to respect other. Serving man kind doesn't work if you don't serve yourself first.
How to handle setbacks and rejection in work-social life
This art is highly underappreciated. I am astounded that such videos exist on TH-cam! I enjoyed this presentation very much. Best wishes, D.D.
RESPECT, and I really respect this community and what you doing. Thank again for sharing the wonderful tips with us!
I’d like to see the video on “how to be a lady”.
They made one of those before this one I’m pretty sure. Titled “How to be a millennial lady. Both my fiancé and I are trying to make a transformation. This is a good video. You should have your woman check out the other one.
Mark McGee Sounds good. Of course now I’d like to see the video - “How to be a millennial man!” 👍🏻
feminists won´t agree
Alchemica Blackwood No, the only difference is that fiancé is still a French word but used in american language meaning ' to get engaged'. This video surely didn't seem to help you act like a gentlemen because you sound rude and misinformed. Spread women hate elsewhere.
Alchemica Blackwood A marriage isn't a currency exchange but a partnership.
Respect!.Saying: It takes a gentleman to teach a boy how to be a gentleman.
It's all the above. From high school, l saw people who are respectful are regarded as weak and those who are brash seems to be respected. The media appears to highlight people who are macho-- not strong as preferable traits and people who are meek are protraided as weak. People mistakenly believe meekness is weakness. So many men who do not want to be labeled as weak would subscribe to this way of thinking. I know I have. But it's the truly strong who are able to resist this.
The problem is that a real gentleman isn't a "nice guy". A true gentleman doesn't get stepped on or pushed around. They have confidence and will take charge. "Nice Guys" are cowards that participate in propitiation and would call letting another dude take their girlfriend in their own car to a movie that they paid the ticket for "gentlemanly".
RESPECT!! 43rd view🙌
Been waiting for hours for this notification, I thought you guys are already on a Christmas break😂😂
As usual excellent content
Shoutout to all my man's who searched up this video , you make the world a better place
Respect. I am sorry to say the only rule I follow in this is being punctual. People are rude about cell phones. They are intrusive and disrespectful.
Sadly true. Most people just accept it as the new norm in the times but I strongly disagree with it. You think required etiquette classes in all schools might help?
Etiquette died because of lower than expected standards. I went to a boarding school and I am grateful for how Inhave turned out.
Robert Lee James Welch How was boarding school?
I have two sons 6 & 9 and I would love them to be a true gentleman’s in the future. Thank you for the video it was great to listen with my boys.
Thank you Alux for the work that you do. RESPECT!
Hey Alux.com this video was amazing. I think the internet has changed the culture. I was wondering if you where going to do a reverse video for women. RESPECT.
Does anyone else feel like they've been living their life like this unconsciously?
Yes and I'm on a journey of self improvement. For my own sake, not anyone else. My next step is quitting all social media, giving up most entertainment, etiquette lessons and proceed to the things that are too long to list. I am determined to be the best possible version of me and accomplish my goals! Warm regards :)
@@elizabethlovett4318 congrats
@@elizabethlovett4318 i hope you have all the luck in the word bevause you will need it :)
RESPECT : The culture change because people change itself. Being Gentlemen makes people think its a weakness and people can be run over because they are good even somebody is already taking advantage of being good.
Respect! While I have a handle of a few of these points, I definitely have room for improvement on most (if not all) of them.
I upgraded from suits to T-shirts and Jeans a few years ago and I never regretted it.
Yes suit is not the most comfortable thing to wear out
Respect! I still have work to do, and I feel encouraged that although some of my life choices are sometimes out of line, my core values are holding me accountable for improving my standard. Thank you Alux for reminding me of who I chose to be and what I really stand for!
Respect...
Culture is changing because of the media. See what the #METOO and Feminism are doing to being a man. In the UK some groups are pushing for the word 'Gentleman' to be abolished. #Respect
Only Manchurian media would want to eliminate the term gentleman.
There is a media war on men of values.
The culture has changed because people made being a gentleman to be synonymous with being a snob, but people tend to take things too far. So when we, people, took being a gentleman too far, it looked more honest and sincere to not be one. Now we see the same in reverse. Nowadays we look at being a gentleman as it was intended - someone kind and well mannered. The sincerity of being more casual (bad boy and bad girl trope) is seen as pretentious because it currently is. Generally speaking, people don't like dishonesty and like genuine characters. This is why the trends 'what kind of person you want to be' change so much along the years.
Nice work! "Respect!"
About the question: "Why do you think the culture has changed?" The only point permanent in life is change! If for better or worse it depends on what we add to it by the actions that we make in our private life. As we can learn with Carl Gustav Jung at his work on Collective Unconscious.
I’ve been waiting on this! Time to show my fiancé!
In my opinion, it is lack of positive male/female role models. Now the culture, media, entertainments tel us what being a gentleman is. Respect.👊🏿
Gentlemen need good manners.
Ladies do too!
Gender is irrelevant..the same personal qualities in a male, that must be present and accounted for, to qualify him as a legitimate man..much less a true gentleman..
Are exactly the same degree of personal qualities that must be equally present in a female, for her to be properly considered a genuine woman...much less a lady!
Respect, just like trust & love are things EVERYONE must EARN, of their own accord, in their own right..and by their own inner sense of immpecability
Gentlemen possess good manners.
The culture hasn't changed,
It's just that the weak have grown in numbers, the strong are in a short supply nowadays.
You know what weak and strong means, right.
A gentleman is less than 15 rules. He carries himself with respect, dignity, and character. He is also well educated, dresses neatly, comfortable in his own skin, and handles everything with the right attitude based on the situation. Nice video none the less.
And a quality watch 😆
Well spoken. A good way to develop confidence by self affirmation of being a gentleman. This also encourages personality development. All must work on their few lacking traits.
I only disagree with you on the outlook of an introvert.
Respect.
The problem with society is that, someone even after clicking on this video asks for a video on how to be a bad boy
You did not explain what the problem is with Society just pointed out someone asked for a video about bad boys so what's the problem with Society?
@@marcanthony6144 My guess is that he's speaking on it from multiple layers: The fact that society is so immoral that people don't want to change; due to social media, our attention span is so short we pay little attention to 20+ min videos; and that because of media, even when we're told what's required and actually important, our "default" goes back to what prevailing society has taught us (in this case, that "bad boys" are superior to "gentlemen")
Of course that is my interpretation. I could be completely off. Hope it helped regardless 👍🏿
Just watch HowToBasic. He will teach you.
The thing about introvert is, being introvert doesn't necessary means you can't talk. You could actually talk with others while being an introvert.
Thank you I sent this to my sons I heard it to the end, I love it thank you 🙏🏽
"R.E.S.P.E.C.T. Tell me what it means to me!" Amen.
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If this thread is still taking input....the world changed by just not caring.
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Somebody mentioned what it is to be a lady. In my eyes it would be the same principles.
And yes, I've met women who are like that.
These tips sound less like ways to be a gentlemen and more like ways to be good, considerate, decent person period, regardless of if you're male or female!!!
RESPECT: Excellent video, thanks for sharing!
5:38 that computer isn’t even plugged in. Complete loss of credibility when your B roll has actors playing with powerless computers.
My Spoken Story 'S really? Its only b-roll, don’t let that simple oversight detract from the quality advice in this video. If they were film- makers then yes this would be shoddy work, but most of their videos revolve around the spoken content/advice given, as opposed to the still images
Women's etiquette guides: there are a dozen types of sitting positions, your legs should never be open, your makeup hair and wardrobe should be fine tuned yet effortless and classy, speak slowly but eloquently, no human noises when in public, you should be funny but in a sexy way but at the same time not to sexy or you'll just be tacky. Every single inch of your body should be modified so that it looks like it's been professionally curated yet you didn't professionally curate it and just so happened to wake up like Kate Middleton.
Men's etiquette guides: shower, don't fart in public, not loudly at least.
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First you have a list about being your own self and now this? Respect Alux!
Respect! Amazing video! Thanks you Alex. But how about a Lady video?
Alux.com number 14 hit home for me. I can give advice on certain things because either I lost something or Inhave gained something. People take advice for granted because it's free and they don't really want your advice. They just want to waste your time and have you around for bragging rights. I cut those people off. I've been told to stop giving away free advice. Build the company. Gain marketshare. The, people will pay to hear my experiences.
I listened this this as I sewed my YSL sleeve back to normal. Thanks for more inspiration.
As far as to why people have lost their etiquette, I feel that, in alot of circles, being gentlemanly is considered unmanly or "simpish". I think that the rap culture especially has memorialized being crude and / or thuggish.
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I am a future billionaire.
God bless!
Respect. I believe the reason being a gentleman isn't respected in today's world is because many believe that they are thankless tasks. I think many low vibrational and mediocre people turn down their nose at real gentlemen in some cases to the point where it demotivates the younger men in society.
&The most important thing his Faith on himself must be Flawless🔘.•°
Why everyone wanna comment first without saying anything important?
Because they aren't important
And your message was important? It didn't relate to the video at all, lol.
@@50shadesofskittles9 you tell me
Alux u guys are the best things that as ever happened to me in my life many will not understand I am proud to be a alux I have been with alux since 2018 up till now I love u guys I pray we meet one day
Gentlemen vanished by the greasers and hippies
I dont think there are anymore rules since women now feel they are equal to men. No more holding doors or chairs. They can pay for their own meals and change their own tires
Doesn't mean men should lose their good traits.
Seems like this should be common sense for most, but it never hurts to watch a refresher video to help you be a better human!
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Do something really hard
Wow, being a gentlemen seems hard.
I don't know where you're from but here in the United States it sounds hard to many men when Americans prefer the easy and convenient above all else even if it's not worth it in the end. Men and women are guilty of this.
None the less, I appreciate actual gentleman. I'd date/marry nothing less. And I'd rather be alone with a fulfilling career and child I adopted than lower my standards in a partner too. Too many PEOPLE settle for low standards whether for themselves, at work and in their choice of partner. I myself am working on improving myself and I'm feeling great about it. Warm regards.
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Alux replaced my dad xD
RESPECT!!! For Others, Family, and myself.
Number 5 is my favorite 😃😎 Great vídeo 👏
Why have people lost their etiquette? Because there is a lack of standards in society and a lack of love and respect.
15 rules being a Lady. Or ladylike
I like her rule number two! I’m gonna work on this one in 2023. I’m embarrassed to say that sometimes I let my mouth talk about things that I’m not the most knowledgeable about. This is changing today.
respect! This was one of the best videos Ive seen from you guys!! cheers Aluxers!
People lose their moral values because of social media, music etc
That actually happened to me. I don't want that to happen again.
It depends on what kind of music. Jazz (for exemple) can't make someone loose his manner
There is no music that can make someone lose their moral standard.
DEPRESSING ANGRY MUSIC!
Videos like this make people lose their Moral Values. 😏
If i think i can change , i will not ! I will evolve because i have faith i can