I pray to Mahadev for your health and prosperity. What you are doing is a work of Brihaspati, of giving pure unfiltered clarity. I am blessed that whatever issues are plaguing my mind , the sword of your knowledge destroys the web of confusion in my life. Your content has shattered my redundant belief system which had caused me only pain and self pity. My life now is on an upward trajectory. Jai Mahakaal!!
I'm 22 and I believe I'm very lucky b'coz I'm at starting of new phase in life...where I'm looking for job, financial knowledge, family knowledge etc etc...and my parents were busy themselves fighting entire life.. and I used to hate marriages b'coz of watching them... bt now I think I'm slowly becoming a good human... ur videos helping a lot sir... we as the next generation parents will make u proud ✨❣️
When your close relationship like siblings are the cause of maximum pain and distress in life you sort of don't see much value in them. There are plenty of siblings who don't talk to each other, can't stand one another and are a source of constant pain. Then again it's life and no one rule can apply.
Very well said, i have three kids and they are very close and bonded. I feel satisfied, though I had to leave work. But when I see my kids I feel so proud and satisfied.
In middle class families, resources get divided between siblings, this gives birth to rivalry. Parents also favour one sibling over other like boy over girl, younger over elder which breaks down the sufferer mentally. This is very very common in India. Plus relatives also compare who is fair and who is dark, who is smart and who is average. This things spoil sibling bond in young age, they get jealous of each other. Instead of giving support to each other they become each others rivals. I hv seen many examples in real that single child grew up in a responsible citizen with lots of Companionship
@@amansrivastava3524 No bro. If everyone family will have two children, the population will not decline as it is happening in developed countries. It will be stable.
@@amansrivastava3524😂😂. But this type of freedom will have negative consequences. People have moral responsibility to next generation and have to create some order to move in life.
Thats called bad parenting, even the single child can become spoiled. I’ve seen many single child people who are just being spoon feed by their parents.
Most of the urban house now a days is a 2 BHK, ab ismein 2 bacche kaise rahenge I don’t understand. This 2-3 kids family makes sense if you are living in a rural setup or a b city with good income.
Guruji, i am a working indian woman 27 years. My parents have started looking for a husband for me. I was scared not very supportive about getting married, getting children, and other things like job. Your videos have hit the nail on the head and aapki videos ne bohot achi bate ki hai. You have told me what i really need to know. My parents my have said some of these things but i never listened to them. My parents have also watched your videos and loved them! Thank you sir for your knowledge which is applicable for indian society
I am a single child and when i was young i craved for a sibling. I saw my friends and relatives having siblings. We were cousins but never shared as much bonding as siblings do. And i used to feel this pain when i saw my friends and cousins enjoyed in summer vacations. I always spent my vacations with my books.
I am a single child, i feel like i am in a much better state than my friends who are all 2 or 3 kids. Our family is better even though my friends are earning more because they have to take care of the other sibling. Also one honest fact is none of them is even close to their sibling as much they are to me. Maybe to they will do things for them as duties but not happily.
Bhai behen agar supportive ho...vo ek dusare ke sukh dukh me saath de rahe ho to thik hai...but Aaj kal to Bhai behen hi dushan Bane hai....ek dusare ki tarakki se unhe jalan hoti hai...ab pehle jaise rishte nahi rahe na pehle jaisa pyar....sad but truth....most of cases me yehi dekha jata hai
@@loveshell007 i agree that you would have had a lovely hate-love relationship, but my only point resources is distributed among 2 or 3 kids and today's child definitely compare themselves with their peers and think if I was a single child my life would have been better. And I just want to highlight one more point here, i never pay to beggars who have kids in their hand, the reason is because I feel that if this people who are so in humane and give birth to a child without thinking about their own financial condition, why should I help them.
Even siblings got busy with their own lives noone have time for other person .family is spouse and kids nothing more than that and everyone provide or could find time for them rest relations are formality .even if ur bond is great as in sisters sisters they are bond in their homely responsibilities .and bro bros are the biggest enemies aftr marriage .
Sir u r right .parents should give sibling to kid.problem is that if wife is ready then husband refuse for second kid.i am working in bank.i support my husnand financially emotionally.many times I feel that family load bhi husband ki comparison se Jyada le rahi hu.hw refused to give second kid. If I start to explain this side,he stop conversation otherwise he walk away
I wish you had made this video 10 years ago and I'd watched it then. My parents told me same things but I didn't listen to them. But today when it is too late I realize I should have listened to them.
The worst feeling a parent can have is when he comes to know that their kid is telling his friends "yaar mere baap ne kuch nahi kiya yaar life mai, ek ghar bhi nahi kharida aur hum puri zindagi bekar society mai rahe. Ab toh mai Bengaluru chod ke yaha nahi reh sakta inke sath". All this is when the kid a good kid. If the kid is spoiled then that would be worst for the parent.
Aap ki batein sun kar bahut shanti mili kyuki mwre bahu bete ka funda hai bachee nahi karna. Aap amar raho aap ki batein bahut soothing hai thankyou sir
I think everyone here should watch a movie "Capernaum" in which a child lodges a case against their parents for not giving them a fulfilling life. I think you are not looking from a child's perspective that how he feels when he sees his friends families are in better position and can afford better house, car and travel. I have seen this is many kids eyes and dont want to see this in my child. I think one should afford a child when they are better than the near and dear ones.
Movies suvies are just that....movie suvie...in practicality that doesn't happen...if parents are really not upto that upper mark then how their child can have exposure to those "rich" neighburhood...?
These limitation will never end ! And it more important to teach them values of what they have rather than having that kind of mindset. its not their age to compare and ask for same thing , their age is to learn just learn ! and its parents job to teach them so.
If you don’t have money, please don’t have kids… what if you die or get sick and unable to work. How will you feed your kids. Rich and wealthy must have more kids not poor. I know sounds harsh. Its important to make quality humans than quantity.
Sir, the essential targets that you have set in this video and elsewhere (e.g. having child, having two of them, having them at a young age) are honorable. The only issue is that these common goals like marriage, kid and house are not easy. May be, we sometimes confuse our inability with decision. You are doing a great job at representing married and successful people.
Yes this is true..as I myself was third child of my parents...and my father died early,and as I had taken admission in medical field as doctor... everything taken long time..i did marriage at 30....then after marriage got infertility issue...so did IVF... Four times... become father at age of 37... brought my house at age of 36... And my two big brother was just teacher but there all theses goals they achieved at right age... So sometimes circumstances in life.. make life not that easier for some people
I am a single child and my life has always been much better than any other kids. Yes when I was young I used to crave for a blood sibling but as I grew older I didn't because I understood that if I have had another blood sibling my resources would have been divided between us two. So I am very happy. And on top of that I am a girl child. So I feel very lucky that my parents never even thought to have another kid. Both my parents were working and they were the best role models that I got. My parents have set a very high standard in my mind for how a couple should be. So I feel lucky. So moral of the story is that whatever this guy is saying in this video, he is saying from his own perspective. Not that he is wrong. But the time has changed a lot. And only you know your own situation. So think about your situation and take your decision based on that instead of listening to any tom dic & harry on TH-cam in making important life decisions.
Also i completely agree that one should get married because companionship is important in life but kid is a burden. Earlier days there was not much to do but in today world there is enough to explore with your spouse. Be happy, keep them happy and keep your and their parents happy.
Amit ji is there any room to consider that maybe the society has matured in raising 1 child now that's its more common and are balancing the discipline, expectations and general looking after child better then what it was maybe 30yrs ago. However what I do feel is that the notion of giving BEST to your child has creeped to a level that parents don't have the mental and physical capability to look after more than 1 child. I mean children in Urban cities are being brought up mostly (not a blanket statement, I am saying this with lots of responsibility) being bubble wrapped. Exceptions to the rule definitely do exist. Although there are many layers to this new trend coming from what one has experienced like when parents haven't had fruitful relations with there siblings or ones own relationship aren't good with siblings,society and expectations. This topic needs more deep delving but definitely a good start.
There is lot of issue between siblings... Lot of fights.. once they grow up property dispute... There are some advantage and disadvantage of both side having two kids or one kid
I cannot think of having a 2nd kid because my in laws and parents are not supportive. I don't want to have another career break. Guruji, Please suggest.
Don’t listen to him . 2 kids will ruin your career . A lot of young people especially in Mumbai have 1 kid and they are absolutely fine . Quality over quantity
Genrally..I don't comment on videos but guru ji you willingly forced me to do so.. i was searching answer in video ,in life for having 2nd child or not or when it should be as i am 32, working woman and my 1st child is 5 year.. finally you cleared my doubts..thank you for making such types of videos ..😊
Amit ji, What is your opinion on adoption? Everyone talks about their own biological kids. We as humans always have this urge to have our own genetic material as our offspring. I stand contrary to it, and honestly think that those who are not sure about having their own kid should at least try to adopt one, and if possible two kids such that at least those abandoned lives can be mended and helped to grow into better citizens of the world.
Then why people adopt babies more and small girls? Not boys of age 6 years and above? Their adoption rate is lowest. Even those who advocate and promote adoption roughly all the times adopt either small babies or children of age 1-2 yrs only and that too girls only, not boys above 5-6 yrs old and about boys above 10 yrs unka toh bhul hi jao koi adopt hi nhi krta. This shows the hypocrisy of people who promote adoption claiming they want to create a better society. Jbki aise orphan boys jinki age 6 years se zyada hai inka number actually zyada hota hai.
eas hisab se to jo bachhe raste pe bhik mangte he unke ma bap ne bhi sahi kiya , jjin parents ne ego ke bajese bachho ki child life kharab ki vo bhi sahi he , mental trauma mein bachhe aur insecure ho gaye vo bhi sahi he , jo bhai behen court mein property ke liye lad rahe hain vo bhi sahi he ... jitana ideal aap bol rahe ho aisa to real life mein kabhi nhi dekha ...
Har video mein bola hai bhaisahab ne that his audience is middle class and agar aap ke pass khane tak ke paise nai hai sorry content not for you. Sun liya kar thoda.
There are two kids in the house who are not connected... Also finances matter a lot if you hve an upper middle class lifestyle. If family does not support in kids growth... It becomes tough for the couple to manage and india is not a country where women take a break for long else unemployable ... So if you have support and u dont hv such a hi fi lifestyle then u can have two kids
sir can you please make a video on should we eat veg or non-veg and the consequences said by vegetarian people on people eating non-veg I want to know your opinion on this.
Hit like if you also want a video like that Guruji I'm born in 20.04.1998. Currently working in PSU earning 60 thousand per month. What should I do? Is it the right time? But the thing is I do not have any girlfriend or anything. Should I go for arranged marriage, wait a while or what? Please guide.. Make a video if possible.
Settling means reaching optimum level in terms of salary and status. If a boy or girl marries at 22 or 23..he or she may not get good person..now a days ladies too are ambitious and earning which is a challenge to boys...
Fantastic topic. Every Indian couple should produce a child only after 5 years of marriage. There is no joy in having a child. Indians should produce only one child in the interest of the nation. No brother sister now a days. Everybody wants money only in todays World. Sir plesase dont false information Indians need to produce 2 children.
What about adopting a second child. One will be able to give security to a lot of displaced kids and at one point there will be a lot less orphanages. What's your opinion on this.?
Stress of not having children is less than that of having children Choose wisely 🙏 Its better to not have children and not have any joy rather than having children and take stress in jobs to continuously fulfill their needs If you are rich its definitely fine to have children
I hv experienced that Saasu ma does not want grand children from their daughter in law. She says "Bacche nahi hone chahiye." Or " agar aap ko bachha hua to unhealthy bachha hoga - Aisa kundali me likha hai" or simply makes daughter in law eat papaya everyday. Or in case if daughter in law gets concived she says " bachha plan karane se pahale hame pucha kyu nahi? "😢 Where as she wants grandchildren from their daughters as early as possible. What is this mentality or what exactly can be a thought behind doing all this? Can you pls discuss about it. 🙏
The biggest factor, is that with one child, if something bad happens to the child or they make some bad choices in life, the whole family lineage is lost with that single child. Statistics is at play here, also single child usually tend to be a lot more spoilt.
I don't agree with you that agr 22-23 saal me settle nhi hue toh nhi ho sakte..kitne aise log hai jo late 20s me kaafi ache se settle hote hai..living example mere bhaiya hi hai jo 29 yrs ke age me Govt Job me selection ho gaya..abhi he's 30 and expecting 1st child
Sir, I have a practical example. There is my office colleague, whose name is kumar reddy an engineer already married and also have a children. But, his children are studying in school with his parents money. In today's world, no men live more than 65 years and his father's age is 60 years, his wife has now become housewife despite graduation in commerce.
Being a wife after good education is not uncommon in India, and no, average age of man is not 65. More like 85. People in the city tend to live more these days because of better facilitiesand care. Commerce graduate is an average course.
गुरुजी मे दूसरा बच्चा रखना चाहती हू और आर्थिक स्थिति भी ठीक ठाक है और हम ज्वाइंट फेमिली में रहते है उसमे मुझे पहिले बच्चे के वक्त बहुत तकलीफ हुई मुझे मेरे पति से भी पैसे नहीं कमाती करके बोलना खुदका घर नही ये बोला गया। फिर आज मै अच्छी जॉब में हू।।। एक तरफ से मेरे ससुराल वाले जॉब ना करने के प्रेशर करते है एक तरफ पति पैसे ना कमाती करके बोलते।।। मुझे मेरे बच्चे के साथ रहना था ५ साल तक जॉब नहीं करना था इसलिए मेरा जॉब मे भी मन नही लगता और घर में रहू तो झगड़े।।। मैं क्या करू मुझे तो कुछ समझ नहीं रहा।।या जेसे चल रहा चलने दू।।।। दूसरे बच्चे के बारेमे खयाल आता है लेकीन लेकिन बहुत कन्फ्यूज हू अब मेरा और मेरे पति कि उमर भी ३० ऊपर है।।। Plz give me a solution...
His money our money my money my money. Sir ispe ek.videos banaya pls. Ladkiya apna paisa apne pass rakhi hay AUR husband ki saari kamai khatam hoti hay at end husband has zero assets wife has all assets and bank balance even though both are earning and husband is earning twice and spending 100% of his income. Wife ki saving me husband ka share to Hoga na fir. Lakdiya kehti hay agar Mae job leave karu to bhi tum utna hi kamaogay so I am earning for myself. Fir to ladka usi ladki SE Shaadi karega Jo Ghar bethay uske bacchay dekhe and 100% household.dekhe. wife ki kamai usi ki hay to ladke ko Shaadi SE pehle pata hona chahiye. Isn't it unfair wife is spending zero.
मैंने आजकल आपका वीडियो देखना बहुत कम कर दिया है। इसकी वजह है आपका बार बार शादी और बच्चे को लेकर ज़ोर लगाना। समाज बहुत बदल चुका है और बहुत तेज़ी से बदल रहा है। पहले की बात और थी, जहां कोई चारा नहीं था। नारी पुरुष पर आश्रित होते थे और शादी करना ही एकमात्र रास्ता था। शादी के बाद लगातार बच्चा होते रहना स्वाभाविक था। और यह व्यवस्था ठीक भी था क्यूंकि उस ज़माने में पेशा परंपरागत खानदानी हुआ करता था। आज इंसानों की विशाल जनसंख्या ही इंसानों के बहुत सारे मुसीबतों का कारण है। और नारी आज मौलिक रूप से पुरुष पर आश्रित नहीं है। फिर भी मैं शादी के खिलाफ नहीं हूं, क्यूंकि एक उम्र के बाद पत्नी ही साथ निभाती है। और पति पत्नी का साथ होना परिवार की न्यूनतम व इस दौर में सबसे उत्तम परिभाषा है। फिर भी जो सक्षम है और इच्छुक भी है, मैं उनका बच्चा पैदा करने को सम्मान करता हूं। परंतु मैं यह नहीं समझ पा रहा हूं, आप किस वजह से इस विषय पर जोर दे रहे है?
Sir, Appreciate for the content. Could you please make a video what people should do if they are not able to conceive, should they do adopt, go for costlier infertility treatment? I have few relatives who are in this stage and it will give a limelight about these..
Siblings are equally irrelevent as old parents . Because sab apne life mein struggle karte hain. And Husbands siblings are harmful to husband itself, so i dont know the reason to have siblings.. either side
Aaj kl acchi baat koi sunna hi nhi chahta ab uncle ji ko hi dekhlo itna accha content hai inka kitna kucch batate hai k life me kya kya krna hai hr ek point smjhate hai or aisa ho bhi rha hai reality based content hai koi bhi real life ki baat nhi krta hai but fir bhi log unko hi dekhna kyu psnd krte hai to socho kaise log hai or kya hoga agr aise hi hota rhe to??
@Fashion- it is everyone's choice but if everyone has only 1 child then better everyone will be happy both financially and also in family because if some one marry a person with sibling it is an added interference nowadays we are no longer in olden times where siblings tolerated each other so as not to create more issues for parents since parents were already under stress
Fir किसके लिए कमा रहे, किसके लिए भाग दौड़ कर रहे, जब सिर्फ अपना स्वार्थ और अपनी खुशी ही देखनी है, एक time के बाद ये सब बेमानी हो जाता है, ऐसी सोच समाज को किस ओर ले जाएगी, सोचो
@@ArunKumar-ks4pz who told having child is must or responsibility? @tanu87 childfree is fine but not just for sake of it. reason should be clear why not and what you fill with life with. child is definatly a life filling thing but not any responsibity or purpose.
Aazkl ke sibling childhood tk thik hai jaise hi 15 16 sal ke huye they start living alone after marriage they became the envy of each other for their properties Apne mother and mamu ji ko dekh lo And apne papa and buaa ka relation dekh lo dekhta chla hai
Fir chota bhai bade bhai ka gala katne ke liye tyar rahta h money aur ghar sampati ke liye. Maa bap chote bhai ki padhai likhai ki jimedari bade bete per dal dete h. Vo apna baccha paida kare ya apne chote bhai ko padhaye
@@tejigill8062 ji ha. Hamare sath esa ho chuka h.. bade bhai ne to chote ko 12 saal padhaye bhi tab bhi chote ne uski bejati ki aur thore se paise ke liye sambandh bhi tor diya
Ladkiyon ko bacche lene se pahle itni saving karni padti ki wo 1saal tak ghar par baith sake taki pregnancy ke waqt use pati ke bharose baithna na pade warna bhikhari jaisi halat ho jati h roz tane padte h isliye ladkiyon ki mazaboori h ki pahle wo job karke apne liye saving karein kuch saal ghume duniya dekhe aur itna kamaye ki saving karke rakhe taki aise waqt me survive kar sake itna khade hone me 27 -28 lag jati h. shadi ke pahle agar thoda apne hisab se jindagi na ji sako toh shadi ke baad jo chid aur depression hota h wo pati aur khud baccho ki bhi zindagi barbaad kar deta h
Sibling क्यों चाहिए? रिश्तेदारों के बच्चों से भी दिल❤ लगाया जा सकता है। और जरूरी नहीं है जो हमारा सिबलिंग होगा/होगी वो भविष्य में हमारे दुखों का कारण ना बने? Gaurantee किसी बात की नही इस दुनिया में😏🤪 Harsh but truth🥲
I pray to Mahadev for your health and prosperity. What you are doing is a work of Brihaspati, of giving pure unfiltered clarity. I am blessed that whatever issues are plaguing my mind , the sword of your knowledge destroys the web of confusion in my life. Your content has shattered my redundant belief system which had caused me only pain and self pity. My life now is on an upward trajectory. Jai Mahakaal!!
What a blessing in guise of beautiful words. He deserves it for bringing value and change in life of too many people.
Best gem of India
I am 34 and father of 2, a daughter - 2.5 years and son - 4.5. I must tell you sir, things are lovely! Thanks for bringing this touchy topic 👍
No one rule applies to all. Do as per your situation and resources. Accept and be happy with life. Be grateful.
I'm 22 and I believe I'm very lucky b'coz I'm at starting of new phase in life...where I'm looking for job, financial knowledge, family knowledge etc etc...and my parents were busy themselves fighting entire life.. and I used to hate marriages b'coz of watching them... bt now I think I'm slowly becoming a good human... ur videos helping a lot sir... we as the next generation parents will make u proud ✨❣️
that right, I used also think same like you. but I now understand How life work
So true..
@@valodymirzelensky9627 abe donkey see what miserable life these elders are living in Japan। Their dead bodies remains in apartment for months
When your close relationship like siblings are the cause of maximum pain and distress in life you sort of don't see much value in them. There are plenty of siblings who don't talk to each other, can't stand one another and are a source of constant pain. Then again it's life and no one rule can apply.
Very well said, i have three kids and they are very close and bonded. I feel satisfied, though I had to leave work. But when I see my kids I feel so proud and satisfied.
In middle class families, resources get divided between siblings, this gives birth to rivalry. Parents also favour one sibling over other like boy over girl, younger over elder which breaks down the sufferer mentally. This is very very common in India. Plus relatives also compare who is fair and who is dark, who is smart and who is average. This things spoil sibling bond in young age, they get jealous of each other. Instead of giving support to each other they become each others rivals. I hv seen many examples in real that single child grew up in a responsible citizen with lots of Companionship
@@amansrivastava3524 No bro. If everyone family will have two children, the population will not decline as it is happening in developed countries. It will be stable.
@@amansrivastava3524😂😂. But this type of freedom will have negative consequences. People have moral responsibility to next generation and have to create some order to move in life.
@Sunita Rathod I agree with you..
I agree
Thats called bad parenting, even the single child can become spoiled. I’ve seen many single child people who are just being spoon feed by their parents.
Sir , please discuss the neglect done by parents after having a child??
Yes sir is topic pr
Yes it's most required one topic 👍. Sir ji please 😁😁👍👍
Most of the urban house now a days is a 2 BHK, ab ismein 2 bacche kaise rahenge I don’t understand. This 2-3 kids family makes sense if you are living in a rural setup or a b city with good income.
Yes
Guruji, i am a working indian woman 27 years. My parents have started looking for a husband for me. I was scared not very supportive about getting married, getting children, and other things like job. Your videos have hit the nail on the head and aapki videos ne bohot achi bate ki hai. You have told me what i really need to know. My parents my have said some of these things but i never listened to them. My parents have also watched your videos and loved them! Thank you sir for your knowledge which is applicable for indian society
please make video on " Should we make our children sleep in seperate rooms? If so from what age, the PROS & CONS
I am a single child and when i was young i craved for a sibling. I saw my friends and relatives having siblings. We were cousins but never shared as much bonding as siblings do. And i used to feel this pain when i saw my friends and cousins enjoyed in summer vacations. I always spent my vacations with my books.
Being a single child, I totally agree with this 😅. But I recognized this issue with me and working on it.
I am a single child, i feel like i am in a much better state than my friends who are all 2 or 3 kids. Our family is better even though my friends are earning more because they have to take care of the other sibling. Also one honest fact is none of them is even close to their sibling as much they are to me. Maybe to they will do things for them as duties but not happily.
Bhai behen agar supportive ho...vo ek dusare ke sukh dukh me saath de rahe ho to thik hai...but Aaj kal to Bhai behen hi dushan Bane hai....ek dusare ki tarakki se unhe jalan hoti hai...ab pehle jaise rishte nahi rahe na pehle jaisa pyar....sad but truth....most of cases me yehi dekha jata hai
@@loveshell007 i agree that you would have had a lovely hate-love relationship, but my only point resources is distributed among 2 or 3 kids and today's child definitely compare themselves with their peers and think if I was a single child my life would have been better. And I just want to highlight one more point here, i never pay to beggars who have kids in their hand, the reason is because I feel that if this people who are so in humane and give birth to a child without thinking about their own financial condition, why should I help them.
I agree i m also single child i have lot of cousins with good bond it should depend on couples who should have 2 kids or not
You're mistaken they will forget you in some days, but siblings are for life.
Even siblings got busy with their own lives noone have time for other person .family is spouse and kids nothing more than that and everyone provide or could find time for them rest relations are formality .even if ur bond is great as in sisters sisters they are bond in their homely responsibilities .and bro bros are the biggest enemies aftr marriage .
Sir u r right .parents should give sibling to kid.problem is that if wife is ready then husband refuse for second kid.i am working in bank.i support my husnand financially emotionally.many times I feel that family load bhi husband ki comparison se Jyada le rahi hu.hw refused to give second kid. If I start to explain this side,he stop conversation otherwise he walk away
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Forget how many people Earth can feed. Pay attention to how many people you can feed I.e., help your dependents in leading a comfortable life.
I wish you had made this video 10 years ago and I'd watched it then. My parents told me same things but I didn't listen to them. But today when it is too late I realize I should have listened to them.
The worst feeling a parent can have is when he comes to know that their kid is telling his friends "yaar mere baap ne kuch nahi kiya yaar life mai, ek ghar bhi nahi kharida aur hum puri zindagi bekar society mai rahe. Ab toh mai Bengaluru chod ke yaha nahi reh sakta inke sath". All this is when the kid a good kid. If the kid is spoiled then that would be worst for the parent.
Aap ki batein sun kar bahut shanti mili kyuki mwre bahu bete ka funda hai bachee nahi karna. Aap amar raho aap ki batein bahut soothing hai thankyou sir
Sir for a young er generation you are best advisor. Your channel can change atleast some one mindset for marrying or having kids.thanks🙏
I think everyone here should watch a movie "Capernaum" in which a child lodges a case against their parents for not giving them a fulfilling life. I think you are not looking from a child's perspective that how he feels when he sees his friends families are in better position and can afford better house, car and travel. I have seen this is many kids eyes and dont want to see this in my child. I think one should afford a child when they are better than the near and dear ones.
Movies suvies are just that....movie suvie...in practicality that doesn't happen...if parents are really not upto that upper mark then how their child can have exposure to those "rich" neighburhood...?
These limitation will never end ! And it more important to teach them values of what they have rather than having that kind of mindset. its not their age to compare and ask for same thing , their age is to learn just learn ! and its parents job to teach them so.
One child is always an instrument of balckmailing spot of parents and that leads to miserable life of child also.
Samjh nhi aya bhai kya kahna chahte ho?
I don't think this is a correct statement to make. Let's not generalise. Saying from experience
Agar kisi vajah se pati patni alag hue to bo bachha kisi ek k pas hi jayega aur vo most of the cases wife k pas kata hai.
Not necessarily u should learn about discipline n things cums with lots of effort..life is not easy going.
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Amazing views. Opened my perspective. Please also guide on parenting. How to be good parents .
Sir please make a video on how to raise a child, what parents need to do, how to make them a good person and ready for future
100% right on all points , including single kid, and of course medically age of conception and complexities is well documented
If you don’t have money, please don’t have kids… what if you die or get sick and unable to work. How will you feed your kids. Rich and wealthy must have more kids not poor. I know sounds harsh. Its important to make quality humans than quantity.
This channel is for the middle class audience
It's not harsh but fact and practical approach. Completely agree 👍
Absolutely true fact 💯
We are not addressing poor people in this channel.
What Priya said is absolutely true👍
Bahut hi important topic hai.... Sp Aajkal ke bachchon Mein..... Thanks u touch topics of my choice
Sir, the essential targets that you have set in this video and elsewhere (e.g. having child, having two of them, having them at a young age) are honorable. The only issue is that these common goals like marriage, kid and house are not easy. May be, we sometimes confuse our inability with decision. You are doing a great job at representing married and successful people.
Yes this is true..as I myself was third child of my parents...and my father died early,and as I had taken admission in medical field as doctor... everything taken long time..i did marriage at 30....then after marriage got infertility issue...so did IVF... Four times... become father at age of 37... brought my house at age of 36...
And my two big brother was just teacher but there all theses goals they achieved at right age...
So sometimes circumstances in life.. make life not that easier for some people
I am a single child and my life has always been much better than any other kids. Yes when I was young I used to crave for a blood sibling but as I grew older I didn't because I understood that if I have had another blood sibling my resources would have been divided between us two. So I am very happy. And on top of that I am a girl child. So I feel very lucky that my parents never even thought to have another kid. Both my parents were working and they were the best role models that I got. My parents have set a very high standard in my mind for how a couple should be. So I feel lucky. So moral of the story is that whatever this guy is saying in this video, he is saying from his own perspective. Not that he is wrong. But the time has changed a lot. And only you know your own situation. So think about your situation and take your decision based on that instead of listening to any tom dic & harry on TH-cam in making important life decisions.
finally got a sensible comment . similarly if you feel you are not made for maerriage then u should listen to your heart and not destroy other lives
Also i completely agree that one should get married because companionship is important in life but kid is a burden. Earlier days there was not much to do but in today world there is enough to explore with your spouse. Be happy, keep them happy and keep your and their parents happy.
What are you gonna explore? Life on exoplanets? Or hedonistic self pleasures?
So true I agree with ur points
Amit ji is there any room to consider that maybe the society has matured in raising 1 child now that's its more common and are balancing the discipline, expectations and general looking after child better then what it was maybe 30yrs ago. However what I do feel is that the notion of giving BEST to your child has creeped to a level that parents don't have the mental and physical capability to look after more than 1 child. I mean children in Urban cities are being brought up mostly (not a blanket statement, I am saying this with lots of responsibility) being bubble wrapped. Exceptions to the rule definitely do exist. Although there are many layers to this new trend coming from what one has experienced like when parents haven't had fruitful relations with there siblings or ones own relationship aren't good with siblings,society and expectations. This topic needs more deep delving but definitely a good start.
There is lot of issue between siblings... Lot of fights.. once they grow up property dispute... There are some advantage and disadvantage of both side having two kids or one kid
I cannot think of having a 2nd kid because my in laws and parents are not supportive. I don't want to have another career break.
Guruji, Please suggest.
Don’t listen to him . 2 kids will ruin your career .
A lot of young people especially in Mumbai have 1 kid and they are absolutely fine .
Quality over quantity
Genrally..I don't comment on videos but guru ji you willingly forced me to do so.. i was searching answer in video ,in life for having 2nd child or not or when it should be as i am 32, working woman and my 1st child is 5 year.. finally you cleared my doubts..thank you for making such types of videos ..😊
Amit ji,
What is your opinion on adoption? Everyone talks about their own biological kids. We as humans always have this urge to have our own genetic material as our offspring. I stand contrary to it, and honestly think that those who are not sure about having their own kid should at least try to adopt one, and if possible two kids such that at least those abandoned lives can be mended and helped to grow into better citizens of the world.
Please make a video on adoption. To fix the society we need to ensure orphans are raised with LOVE and CARE. Focus on QUALITY rather than QUANTITY.
Then why people adopt babies more and small girls? Not boys of age 6 years and above? Their adoption rate is lowest. Even those who advocate and promote adoption roughly all the times adopt either small babies or children of age 1-2 yrs only and that too girls only, not boys above 5-6 yrs old and about boys above 10 yrs unka toh bhul hi jao koi adopt hi nhi krta. This shows the hypocrisy of people who promote adoption claiming they want to create a better society. Jbki aise orphan boys jinki age 6 years se zyada hai inka number actually zyada hota hai.
eas hisab se to jo bachhe raste pe bhik mangte he unke ma bap ne bhi sahi kiya , jjin parents ne ego ke bajese bachho ki child life kharab ki vo bhi sahi he , mental trauma mein bachhe aur insecure ho gaye vo bhi sahi he , jo bhai behen court mein property ke liye lad rahe hain vo bhi sahi he ... jitana ideal aap bol rahe ho aisa to real life mein kabhi nhi dekha ...
Har video mein bola hai bhaisahab ne that his audience is middle class and agar aap ke pass khane tak ke paise nai hai sorry content not for you. Sun liya kar thoda.
There are two kids in the house who are not connected... Also finances matter a lot if you hve an upper middle class lifestyle. If family does not support in kids growth... It becomes tough for the couple to manage and india is not a country where women take a break for long else unemployable ... So if you have support and u dont hv such a hi fi lifestyle then u can have two kids
sir can you please make a video on should we eat veg or non-veg and the consequences said by vegetarian people on people eating non-veg I want to know your opinion on this.
Wahh sir. Ham to murid ho ghe apke.mein app ki sari video dekhti hu. Baykeya app ne to aaina dikha diya. Thank so much sir
Hit like if you also want a video like that
Guruji I'm born in 20.04.1998. Currently working in PSU earning 60 thousand per month. What should I do? Is it the right time? But the thing is I do not have any girlfriend or anything. Should I go for arranged marriage, wait a while or what? Please guide..
Make a video if possible.
Settling means reaching optimum level in terms of salary and status. If a boy or girl marries at 22 or 23..he or she may not get good person..now a days ladies too are ambitious and earning which is a challenge to boys...
very eye opening.... out of box thinking......
Each word is True. Great sir
Another piece of wisdom🙏
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Rightly pointed out 👌
Heart touching topic, would love to see more topics like this.
Kids should not be delayed. Serving persons can take loan from pf. Can take loan
from office as festival advance cycle advance
बडी अच्छी तरह से समझाया सर जी आपने यंग जनरेशन को.....
Fantastic topic. Every Indian couple should produce a child only after 5 years of marriage. There is no joy in having a child. Indians should produce only one child in the interest of the nation. No brother sister now a days. Everybody wants money only in todays World. Sir plesase dont false information Indians need to produce 2 children.
What about adopting a second child. One will be able to give security to a lot of displaced kids and at one point there will be a lot less orphanages.
What's your opinion on this.?
Never adopt when you already have a biological child
@@SangoLifeSutraswhy so?
@@SangoLifeSutrasplease elaborate why not...I am planning to do so
@@vedvyasmudgalkarpravachan8262 very noble decision
@@SangoLifeSutras clarity chaiye
We must have 2 kids.
In the long run one child if he or she needs financial help he or she can seek help.
Stress of not having children is less than that of having children
Choose wisely 🙏
Its better to not have children and not have any joy rather than having children and take stress in jobs to continuously fulfill their needs
If you are rich its definitely fine to have children
Pls cover topic on choosing a girl/boy for marriage.
Even though having a younger brother we were brought up until 18yrs of age like single children in different houses, cities, countries.
Main agree nahi Karti aapki ye baat ki do bachelor hone chahiye ,….everything depends on different things ….can’t say ki wo Asia hi hoga but noooo……
I hv experienced that Saasu ma does not want grand children from their daughter in law. She says "Bacche nahi hone chahiye." Or " agar aap ko bachha hua to unhealthy bachha hoga - Aisa kundali me likha hai" or simply makes daughter in law eat papaya everyday. Or in case if daughter in law gets concived she says " bachha plan karane se pahale hame pucha kyu nahi? "😢 Where as she wants grandchildren from their daughters as early as possible. What is this mentality or what exactly can be a thought behind doing all this? Can you pls discuss about it. 🙏
I think that. You should be the member of infinity foundation. #rajivmalhotra #infinityfoundation
True ek baccha waala aur insecure ho jaata hai jab siblings na ho 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Toh phir ek bhi mat karo
Do hote hai to aur bhi insecure hota hai, jealous hota hai, Ladai hoti hai property me 😁
@@milanpatel2660ryt🤪😂😂
I have one3.5 year old daughter I had her when I was 27 but with high risk. Now I am afraid for second child
The biggest factor, is that with one child, if something bad happens to the child or they make some bad choices in life, the whole family lineage is lost with that single child. Statistics is at play here, also single child usually tend to be a lot more spoilt.
Not necessarily spoilt .. depends on the parenting and dynamics between husband and wife
I don't agree with you that agr 22-23 saal me settle nhi hue toh nhi ho sakte..kitne aise log hai jo late 20s me kaafi ache se settle hote hai..living example mere bhaiya hi hai jo 29 yrs ke age me Govt Job me selection ho gaya..abhi he's 30 and expecting 1st child
Exactly...sabka ek time aata hai best performance ka..
I got settled after 35
@13:28 flow flow Mai sahi bat 😁😁 great sir
I have bad experiences with relatives. They are just supply seekers.. no value add to ur life!
With India touching 140 crores population...is it advisable?
Sir, I have a practical example. There is my office colleague, whose name is kumar reddy an engineer already married and also have a children. But, his children are studying in school with his parents money. In today's world, no men live more than 65 years and his father's age is 60 years, his wife has now become housewife despite graduation in commerce.
People live upto 80 what are u talking
@@NA-vt6mz Those who live in village area. If they reside in city area, where pollution remains always high and lifestyle also get changed.
Being a wife after good education is not uncommon in India, and no, average age of man is not 65. More like 85. People in the city tend to live more these days because of better facilitiesand care. Commerce graduate is an average course.
गुरुजी मे दूसरा बच्चा रखना चाहती हू और आर्थिक स्थिति भी ठीक ठाक है और हम ज्वाइंट फेमिली में रहते है उसमे मुझे पहिले बच्चे के वक्त बहुत तकलीफ हुई मुझे मेरे पति से भी पैसे नहीं कमाती करके बोलना खुदका घर नही ये बोला गया। फिर आज मै अच्छी जॉब में हू।।। एक तरफ से मेरे ससुराल वाले जॉब ना करने के प्रेशर करते है एक तरफ पति पैसे ना कमाती करके बोलते।।। मुझे मेरे बच्चे के साथ रहना था ५ साल तक जॉब नहीं करना था इसलिए मेरा जॉब मे भी मन नही लगता और घर में रहू तो झगड़े।।। मैं क्या करू मुझे तो कुछ समझ नहीं रहा।।या जेसे चल रहा चलने दू।।।। दूसरे बच्चे के बारेमे खयाल आता है लेकीन लेकिन बहुत कन्फ्यूज हू अब मेरा और मेरे पति कि उमर भी ३० ऊपर है।।। Plz give me a solution...
His money our money my money my money. Sir ispe ek.videos banaya pls. Ladkiya apna paisa apne pass rakhi hay AUR husband ki saari kamai khatam hoti hay at end husband has zero assets wife has all assets and bank balance even though both are earning and husband is earning twice and spending 100% of his income. Wife ki saving me husband ka share to Hoga na fir. Lakdiya kehti hay agar Mae job leave karu to bhi tum utna hi kamaogay so I am earning for myself. Fir to ladka usi ladki SE Shaadi karega Jo Ghar bethay uske bacchay dekhe and 100% household.dekhe. wife ki kamai usi ki hay to ladke ko Shaadi SE pehle pata hona chahiye. Isn't it unfair wife is spending zero.
What is your take on having the 1st child of your own and the 2nd one adopted..?
Never
Mentioned by sir himself in one of the earlier comments
Ans is never ever do that.
Aapne relax kar diya mujhe main bhi is kashmakash mein tha
मैंने आजकल आपका वीडियो देखना बहुत कम कर दिया है। इसकी वजह है आपका बार बार शादी और बच्चे को लेकर ज़ोर लगाना।
समाज बहुत बदल चुका है और बहुत तेज़ी से बदल रहा है। पहले की बात और थी, जहां कोई चारा नहीं था। नारी पुरुष पर आश्रित होते थे और शादी करना ही एकमात्र रास्ता था। शादी के बाद लगातार बच्चा होते रहना स्वाभाविक था। और यह व्यवस्था ठीक भी था क्यूंकि उस ज़माने में पेशा परंपरागत खानदानी हुआ करता था।
आज इंसानों की विशाल जनसंख्या ही इंसानों के बहुत सारे मुसीबतों का कारण है। और नारी आज मौलिक रूप से पुरुष पर आश्रित नहीं है। फिर भी मैं शादी के खिलाफ नहीं हूं, क्यूंकि एक उम्र के बाद पत्नी ही साथ निभाती है। और पति पत्नी का साथ होना परिवार की न्यूनतम व इस दौर में सबसे उत्तम परिभाषा है।
फिर भी जो सक्षम है और इच्छुक भी है, मैं उनका बच्चा पैदा करने को सम्मान करता हूं। परंतु मैं यह नहीं समझ पा रहा हूं, आप किस वजह से इस विषय पर जोर दे रहे है?
This video has given me clarity what to do now, main chah Rahi thi koi samjhaye ki kya karu.... Thanks
Sir, Appreciate for the content. Could you please make a video what people should do if they are not able to conceive, should they do adopt, go for costlier infertility treatment?
I have few relatives who are in this stage and it will give a limelight about these..
Siblings are equally irrelevent as old parents . Because sab apne life mein struggle karte hain. And Husbands siblings are harmful to husband itself, so i dont know the reason to have siblings.. either side
Aaj kl acchi baat koi sunna hi nhi chahta ab uncle ji ko hi dekhlo itna accha content hai inka kitna kucch batate hai k life me kya kya krna hai hr ek point smjhate hai or aisa ho bhi rha hai reality based content hai koi bhi real life ki baat nhi krta hai but fir bhi log unko hi dekhna kyu psnd krte hai to socho kaise log hai or kya hoga agr aise hi hota rhe to??
How about adopting one more child when you have already adopted one?
I like this idea
Sir well said
Miane delay kia ..or aaj bhi. Situation vaise hi h ....
Main apne college life me hoon or khual bolta kamse kam 2 bache bayda jarur karoonga yadi son nahi to 4 bhi karoonga
Why do we need kids !why can't we live childfree life?
@Tanu87 Don't want to fullfill your responsibility or burdened already with so much work ?
To have a sense of purpose in life.
@Fashion- it is everyone's choice but if everyone has only 1 child then better everyone will be happy both financially and also in family because if some one marry a person with sibling it is an added interference nowadays we are no longer in olden times where siblings tolerated each other so as not to create more issues for parents since parents were already under stress
Fir किसके लिए कमा रहे, किसके लिए भाग दौड़ कर रहे, जब सिर्फ अपना स्वार्थ और अपनी खुशी ही देखनी है, एक time के बाद ये सब बेमानी हो जाता है, ऐसी सोच समाज को किस ओर ले जाएगी, सोचो
@@ArunKumar-ks4pz who told having child is must or responsibility? @tanu87 childfree is fine but not just for sake of it. reason should be clear why not and what you fill with life with. child is definatly a life filling thing but not any responsibity or purpose.
Why don't you bring a doctor in your live session
Sir ji Guruji aapne
Ankit Inspire India ki videos dekhte ho na😍
Very informative content uska bhi
Sibling k sath lena dena ....makes sense
First agar apna ho to 2nd kid adopt karle opposite gender ka ? Ya apna kare ? Kya better hai.
Sir my inlaws don't want us to have children .. wat can be the reason
They don't want you to be together or don't see your future together. Having children will only make the problem worse.
Good information given you.
Aazkl ke sibling childhood tk thik hai jaise hi 15 16 sal ke huye they start living alone after marriage they became the envy of each other for their properties
Apne mother and mamu ji ko dekh lo
And apne papa and buaa ka relation dekh lo dekhta chla hai
Fir chota bhai bade bhai ka gala katne ke liye tyar rahta h money aur ghar sampati ke liye. Maa bap chote bhai ki padhai likhai ki jimedari bade bete per dal dete h. Vo apna baccha paida kare ya apne chote bhai ko padhaye
Very confuse
आपके साथ हुए ऐसे plz batye
@@tejigill8062 ji ha. Hamare sath esa ho chuka h.. bade bhai ne to chote ko 12 saal padhaye bhi tab bhi chote ne uski bejati ki aur thore se paise ke liye sambandh bhi tor diya
@@milisingh3155 bda Bhai ab kaha hai
Safe hai
@@milisingh3155 plz b
Batyen
Please make a video on toxic dad.
Sir agar baccha hi na kre....Kya ye shi h.
Nice explanation given sir with clarity, which will break myth in society of delaying kids..
So relatable sir
Ladkiyon ko bacche lene se pahle itni saving karni padti ki wo 1saal tak ghar par baith sake taki pregnancy ke waqt use pati ke bharose baithna na pade warna bhikhari jaisi halat ho jati h roz tane padte h isliye ladkiyon ki mazaboori h ki pahle wo job karke apne liye saving karein kuch saal ghume duniya dekhe aur itna kamaye ki saving karke rakhe taki aise waqt me survive kar sake itna khade hone me 27 -28 lag jati h. shadi ke pahle agar thoda apne hisab se jindagi na ji sako toh shadi ke baad jo chid aur depression hota h wo pati aur khud baccho ki bhi zindagi barbaad kar deta h
World is not worth living place
bachhe 7 sal tak hi aache lagte hai baki sal only responsibility
You have convinced me for a second child!!
Same
I know my comment in one of your videos is o e of the reason for making this one
Meri salary 1lac hai sir , single earning ho , ek beti hai 11 saal ki , Kya Meri financial condition Mai dusara kid hona chahiye, ya sir bilkul nahi
please don't, you make no more tha 30k per head and are one med ergency away from bankruptcy
Sibling क्यों चाहिए?
रिश्तेदारों के बच्चों से भी दिल❤ लगाया जा सकता है। और जरूरी नहीं है जो हमारा सिबलिंग होगा/होगी वो भविष्य में हमारे दुखों का कारण ना बने?
Gaurantee किसी बात की नही इस दुनिया में😏🤪
Harsh but truth🥲
Sir make video on mumma boy in marriage...