A lot of you didn’t watch the video for 2 minutes. Yall are telling me connecting is what we’re supposed to do as humans and that I’m full of myself for not talking but I quite literally said that I want deep connections….so obviously I do talk and have close bonds with ppl. yall are annoying
Don't let it get you. Someone told me to stop care and stress about things I have no control over, it breaks you. Life is easier and less stressful that way, you keep your cool and you will learn to be patient and let things go theyre way. Patience is something that takes time to learn. Keep goin! Greets from Germany 🇩🇪.
For the life of me, I can’t understand why more people from my generation find fear in being alone and being lonely. Use that time and space to heal yourself and know what you want instead of allowing others to steer your path for you.
I’d only partially agree. We need to make an important distinction between aloneness and loneliness. It’s difficult to focus on oneself and healing when they don’t have the option of connection. After all, in the case of loneliness (which one seldom chooses) connections between people are a big factor in that healing and self discovery. So it’s no wonder many aren’t okay with loneliness. But being okay with aloneness is a completely different thing and can be really beneficial. A lot of people seem to group those two words together far too simply when they mean different things.
@@marshmelloo356I understand that. I kind of meant in a way to not be in the wrong crowd once you think you’re ready to socialize again. Because what if you end up with a friend or a partner and they ruin that healing for you as a scenario? Learning that discernment during your isolation period could prevent that. But yes, alone ≠ lonely. It’s good to be alone if you need to be but not lonely. That hurts a bit more. But don’t force yourself to be in bad company to deny loneliness.
@@vibe9155It is paralyzing, but also being around people who wish on your downfall is traumatizing. Learning to be alone (not lonely) for a temporary period is way better.
When the average person can’t figure someone out, they get uncomfortable, because many people are use to playing people according to the matrix, many people want to get what they can get from people, gain, not necessarily love
It’s so peaceful being alone, I wouldn’t dare break it for someone who doesn’t match my vibe. Also without distractions or obligations, I can fully focus on being my best self and enjoying my own company ❤
I'm 37 years old and I'm an introvert. Not anti social but socially selective. It takes me a while to feel people out. It's such a extrovert world and it feels like lately I been forcing myself to be more extrovert. It feels like a lot a people talk just to avoid silence. You are like the female version of me
A lot of people are use to coming across aggressive black people, although people accept Asian people for their stillness and cerebral stoicism, when black people do it, most people don’t have a mental recollection of black people being zen
I’m like that. Sometimes it spooks people out. It was worse when I was younger. Found online they call it Selective Mutism. Learned live with it. It’s my super power
Hi. You are totally right about holding your ground on wanting authentic relationships. You remind me so much of me. I totally relate. You just popped up on my channel feed. Even if they think you are a b..it's great to get to the point where you are ok with being misunderstood and misjudged. The reason they ask you if you are ok all the time..is because they aren't ok with your silence. Are these people asking you about you as far as who you are? Are they trying to get to know you on a spiritual level? And yes. So many black women are the loud friendly ones and talking 1st and making others comfortable..so when you are a black woman that is an introvert..you make them uncomfortable. Keep on being authentic
Always be your authentic self, Elevated being. You never have to explain to others why you are not like them. I live alone in the mountains and my phone is always on airplane mode. I love it! It protects my energy and keeps me high vibrational. We are energetic beings and will vibrate like our surroundings. Do we want to become chao/drama/complaining.... or do we want to find our peace, happiness and joy? When you find that, you start walking your purpose.
as long as it doesnt turn into judging everyone else and seeing yourself as above them, thats narcissistic, and happens often when we stay to ourselves and judge everyone else
A lot of people in America associate people being alone with being on time out as a kid, for doing things you should not do, plus some people think it’s narcissistic to focus on your self too much, which in many cases, it’s true, yet being alone can build self accountability and self discipline
i resonate a lot with this video. i also struggled with “shyness” growing up and just always being questioned because i too just don’t feel like talking lmaooo. i am now growing comfortable with my CHOICE in how and who i interact with.
“Being alone makes you a visionary” I used to feel so bad about keeping to myself even though I’m not even introverted but you get the advantage of being from the outside looking in.
Yeah this definitely me. Its even hard when you're dating. I was dating this woman recently and she's a good person , i don't have anything bad to say about her but she broke things off with me because she couldn't connect with me all the way , she felt that there was times i was being too reserved and that confused her. She wanted me to initiate conversations more , call her more frequently rather then just texting. We went on our first date and she explained to me how i was only creating small talk. I reflected back on it tho and i can understand to a certain a degree , but im just a very laid back introverted person. Its some things i would like and currently improving on but overall im just a simple person. I can start and have a conversation with you but not for long 😅 like i can't even yap to you about the things i really like fr , i get tired of talking quickly 😂. Sorry for this book i wrote...i think i needed to get this off my chest 🤣🤙🏾
I understand exactly we’re your coming from. I’m a loner silent and intense but can open up to certain ppl when the energy is genuine. For me it has to be a real feeling or meaningful for me to open up just to conversate but I just wanted to say thank you for this video. Bjork - All is full of love
You are the girl version of me. I’m just too authentic to the point where some ppl just don’t understand or want to comprehend how I am as a person. This is the root reason for why I don’t have much friends or even lack of romantic relationships
You're me! lol. I wish we lived in the same country, you are a beautiful black girl. Being alone can be nice sometimes, but for me it's mostly hell. Wherever I go I'm alone. I feel bad when I see people having fun or talking together, and that's why everywhere I go turns into hell. I'm socially awkward, the bad thing is that because I don't communicate with anyone, no one realizes my potential or abilities. It's been like this my whole life and it will be like this. I don't want to meet anyone because I can't find anyone like me. I don't care at all about the things people like, the movies they watch, the music they listen to or their hobbies. If you're not from the majority, life will just be torture. Also, people don't understand your desire to be alone of your own free will. It's like everyone has to be like them. Who determined this? Not everyone has to be like them.
I relate to this one hundred percent. I just don’t connect with most people. Never met anyone like me. Not trying to sound like a snowflake just being honest.
Most people.. oh look at that Asian person enjoying nature by themselves, also most people, what’s that black person doing in the park all by themselves for.. 😢
Great video! Being a loner is good. I also only want deep connections & not superficial ones. People enjoy the “play” or “ games” of conversations in someone’s face. Keep It Champagne 🥇🏆🍾
this resonates SO much with me omg, it's crazy i found this randomly when trying to find videos to watch while doing work. what you were describing, with ppl thinking you always have an attitude and that you come off as intimidating as a Black woman/fem, this is exactly how i've been feeling for awhile. i think i like to say i enjoy being alone, but i'm definitely not there yet and am in the process, because i honestly do wish i didn't come off that way as times. but i realize it really is a gift to only attract people into your life that see past that. anyway, glad i found your channel! :)
I feel this . I talk when I want to or somebody intrigues my interest . I don’t mind small talk cause I try to make it fun. I love being alone and need my space. When I get in a friendship I get too consumed with the other person. I think that people project on quiet people !
Im like the opposite of shy , I'm like super projected when I speak , unfiltered asf , I talk to ppl like I've known them my whole life 😂😂😂😂but I tend to be a loner
I feel like us meeting in real life would be a fun experience because I relate to a lot of the things you say. (Side note) id like to think I’m socially comfortable but a lot of the times I notice I put up a front at first with meeting anyone, like you it takes me a while to reveal all of me to someone,at the same time I am very comfortable in my own presence and for most people my social battery does have a limit but bro I just want some genuine connections someone I can share these life experiences with, I’d like some community.
You just said and explained exactly how am I and the way I got o this point now, I’m only 15 a freshman in high school and it’s been so hard for me to fit in bc people my age are not as open minded as myself .. being on a spiritual journey and discovering myself has made realize I’ve tried so hard to fit into the standards/ eyes of others. A lot of people make effort to try to get to know me but in the moment I’m akward and may not know how to respond due to me overthinking or even just not knowing how to pretend to be interested about what they have to say or what they have going on.
I’m trying hard to learn how to express myself mire with just saying the things I wanna say or not overthinking the things that could happens ahead of time if I make or say a certain thing
You're very beautiful and intelligent...people will try to get 100% out of you during every interaction and it's draining. Big reason i prefer to be in my own space most of the time
Yea, like myself I appreciate my own solitude and quietness, then when I feel like engaging with others I’ll make the effort. When I was younger I tried making friends but realized it was a waste of energy giving up my identity and integrity for social acceptance. I’m not gonna say there are times I haven’t given into peer pressure, but after that I decided I’d rather be my own person.
ur so beautiful and inspiring. i relate so much of what u said but a lot of these parts of me i want to change and am deeply ashamed of. Hearing this out loud from another person with so much self love healed something in my brain
Watching this post work as I roll my post work j. Your videos bring me so much peace and they remind me of my friend who passed last year. Thank you for all that you do and sharing your beautiful thoughts for us
After a number of years of being rejected and kept at arms length I’ve had no choice but to keep myself to myself,bring alone gives me ultimate and tranquility and I don’t miss peoples bitching and putting me down.
I've felt this way since the second half of my high school years till now (2nd yr uni). Imma call it "micro-FOMO" and it's real. Rn though I don't really care, I just be chilling fr. Trying to make people like me is so cringe, I'd rather die ngl (nah but I'm actually lying).
Someone. Gets. Me. I literally can only do deep connections or nothing. I’m a deeply feeling and loving girl but only to the right people you know, like as you said, no offense but I just don’t have the tolerance for stupid people 😭 also I have learned the people who talk the most always have the least to say
Growing up I grew up so shy same as you but now I talk when I please and I’m comfortable. I use work at Walmart and I rarely made awkward small ! People are uncomfortable with silence and love to project because they don’t know what you’re thinking it’s more of us insecurity . me person don’t feel like putting on a façade just to fit society standards.
Hey being alone is a superpower it allowed me to grow my relationship with God and also I was set free from anxiety depression fear of the unknown etc.. best time of my life l highly recommend praying and fasting if whoever reads Is interesting in that God bless everyone.
Intensity is what attractes me as well. It is a very rare quality because most people want no potential conflict. I had to chuckle as you talked about cursing like a sailor. I myself can be very temperamental in this regard. Most people would not think this about me because I mostly come off as shy not angry or arrogant.
the amount of times I said clock that tea at everything you said! being a black girl and also introverted… ouuu they gone hate real bad. I can literally be happy asf and somebody would come up to me and be like “are you okay” and then I overthink about it all day because I hated how ppl perceived me as mean but now I just don’t have the time to keep proving myself to people anymore.
Healthy healed people dont mind being alone. Obviously people need social interaction. But these people who fear being alone above all else are spiritually injured and looking for someone to keep them together.
Miss Zion, you seem a beautiful individual most people seem to want to mould people into what they want. It's a blessing that you keep them guessing. Live you, Be you, and F those who don't understand real people. Bless
I get what you mean about feeling like its a race thing. Im half black (wm/bm) and my mum and her side of the family always think I have a problem because of my face. I love friendship but no one is ever interested becoming my friend, but I'm a very friendly person and it kinda hurts. I think I would be more comfortable with having only one friend if my parents weren't always poking fun at me for it.
I love the authenticity in this video. You don't see this a lot. You remind me of myself, and i can relate so much. This is what I need to watch more often. I am subscribing immediately.
Being alone wasn't something I wanted..but God wanted it for me. To grow and learn myself, and get stronger. To be ready for the right woman to come along. I see the purpose of it now. It's a blessing
My wife can testify that these exact words have and still come out of my mouth regularly. Its oddly conforting to know someone else feels these things as strongly as i do. Introversion is my gift.
I resonate with how you are when you meet new people. I take the first couple of times meeting them to gauge who they are and how they act. At first im quiet and probably wont talk to them besides a few words. If they give good energy Ill open up more.
I always keep to myself, not that I can't make friends but I prefer solitude and silence instead of noise. Most say I never smile or I'm intimidating to approach, something I do on purpose to keep people off, I do perfectly fine on my own and I'm much happier that way. I'm with you on this 💯. Be yourself and do what makes you happy
if you're ever in Southern California? wanna grab a coffee and go Hiking and enjoy nature... don't worry i'm a lone Wolf too i won't bring a lot of People with me only my little Dog Mya. lol
i could never be alone most times growing up until i was put into a season of loneliness and i realized that i rely on my happiness from others which is why i hated being alone.
OMG YOUR COMMENT IS SOOO TRUE!!!!! I find myself laughing by myself and wanting to share my humor with a friend or family because I can be really silly and I love to laugh and talk
One thing I’ve learned about people is that it’s very normal to judge one another, it’s a human trait. If you can grasp this concept, you’ll not only learn yourself but others as well.
I feel it... Ain't easy looking good and having color on your skin these days bb girl keep yo head up I deal w the same hate all the time they just jealous cuz they ain't us
I understand you 100 percent. lol. Sometimes I’m concerned at the fact that I like to be by myself 95 percent of the time because folks give me sht about not talking lol
I must let you know Zion girl that your hair is your strength so am telling you that you must grow your hair it's your beauty and you are an beautiful angel 🌟
For so long i thoughts it was my weaknesses, only to discover that it's my strength. In my a lone time ,i have learnt new skills and made decision that my admire . Lets stop judging others everyone is special
I sip a pre-workout and go stomp around in the wood. Many times, under the moon and stars. Was listening to Jim Rohn. He said he had a motorhome and motorbike and would go to trails out in nature away from everyone.
🙏🏾✊🏾😌 exactly tho, plus most fam that were close to me since I was a youngin been leavin me hangin every since I been focused on bettering myself spiritually and that's how I am I don't like unnecessary talking
A lot of you didn’t watch the video for 2 minutes. Yall are telling me connecting is what we’re supposed to do as humans and that I’m full of myself for not talking but I quite literally said that I want deep connections….so obviously I do talk and have close bonds with ppl. yall are annoying
Don't let it get you. Someone told me to stop care and stress about things I have no control over, it breaks you. Life is easier and less stressful that way, you keep your cool and you will learn to be patient and let things go theyre way. Patience is something that takes time to learn. Keep goin! Greets from Germany 🇩🇪.
please tell me you're a taurus?! or a earth sign in general 😣
@@mikejurgens1013 patience is something I’ve been learning alot lately, thank you from charlotte North Carolina!
@@davedashawn1599 who? me?
I’ll be your deepest darkest friend 😂. Nah but I’m the male version of you fr. Quiet is peace, fuck the haters. Masking is way too draining anyways.
For the life of me, I can’t understand why more people from my generation find fear in being alone and being lonely. Use that time and space to heal yourself and know what you want instead of allowing others to steer your path for you.
I’d only partially agree. We need to make an important distinction between aloneness and loneliness. It’s difficult to focus on oneself and healing when they don’t have the option of connection. After all, in the case of loneliness (which one seldom chooses) connections between people are a big factor in that healing and self discovery. So it’s no wonder many aren’t okay with loneliness. But being okay with aloneness is a completely different thing and can be really beneficial. A lot of people seem to group those two words together far too simply when they mean different things.
@@marshmelloo356I understand that. I kind of meant in a way to not be in the wrong crowd once you think you’re ready to socialize again. Because what if you end up with a friend or a partner and they ruin that healing for you as a scenario? Learning that discernment during your isolation period could prevent that.
But yes, alone ≠ lonely. It’s good to be alone if you need to be but not lonely. That hurts a bit more. But don’t force yourself to be in bad company to deny loneliness.
@@afrofaeries Loneliness is paralyzing
@@vibe9155It is paralyzing, but also being around people who wish on your downfall is traumatizing. Learning to be alone (not lonely) for a temporary period is way better.
Solitude is key to introspection.
Small talk is like reading a cover of a book
worse. the book cover makes me wanna read the book. small talk...tuh. i hope i understand what you meant
Why are people online cooler than people offline
Because being online = vulnerability for most people
Cuz I can do this 😎
Because it’s captured moments edited and presented in the most palatable way not raw even they themselves aren’t that cool offline lmaoo
@@thealchemist1951Lol facts real life is called that for a reason
@@NgqabuthoLloydMafu yup
I feel the same way. I hate small talk. I have no issue being alone I love more organic connections and I’m a deep thinker.
Yes!!!
Yup I just be in my space thinking and writing lool
you just like me fr. I just be chilling 🙏🏾
💯
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When the average person can’t figure someone out, they get uncomfortable, because many people are use to playing people according to the matrix, many people want to get what they can get from people, gain, not necessarily love
judging everyone will lead to judging yourself and a reclusive life
It’s so peaceful being alone, I wouldn’t dare break it for someone who doesn’t match my vibe. Also without distractions or obligations, I can fully focus on being my best self and enjoying my own company ❤
I'm 37 years old and I'm an introvert. Not anti social but socially selective. It takes me a while to feel people out. It's such a extrovert world and it feels like lately I been forcing myself to be more extrovert. It feels like a lot a people talk just to avoid silence. You are like the female version of me
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@@JackDahl-lr8ui🤷♀️😂😂
😂😅@@JackDahl-lr8ui
Did anyone ever let you know that you are absolutely gorgeous!!?
I’ve heard before 😭 and thank you ❤️
A lot of people are use to coming across aggressive black people, although people accept Asian people for their stillness and cerebral stoicism, when black people do it, most people don’t have a mental recollection of black people being zen
Girl we should be friends, I hate ppl always making judgments b4 actually knowing me
I’m like that. Sometimes it spooks people out. It was worse when I was younger. Found online they call it Selective Mutism. Learned live with it. It’s my super power
I felt and still feel this way. People always thought I was conceited too, I’m just quiet and reserved.
It really doesn't bother me if I hardly have any friends. People drain and they take from you. I enjoy the peace and the solitude for the most part!
Hi. You are totally right about holding your ground on wanting authentic relationships. You remind me so much of me. I totally relate. You just popped up on my channel feed. Even if they think you are a b..it's great to get to the point where you are ok with being misunderstood and misjudged. The reason they ask you if you are ok all the time..is because they aren't ok with your silence. Are these people asking you about you as far as who you are? Are they trying to get to know you on a spiritual level? And yes. So many black women are the loud friendly ones and talking 1st and making others comfortable..so when you are a black woman that is an introvert..you make them uncomfortable. Keep on being authentic
judging others has led to this, but you want others to accept you as you are.
@@AaronD313Exactly, people want to be understood but fail to understand others mate.
Always be your authentic self, Elevated being. You never have to explain to others why you are not like them. I live alone in the mountains and my phone is always on airplane mode. I love it! It protects my energy and keeps me high vibrational. We are energetic beings and will vibrate like our surroundings. Do we want to become chao/drama/complaining.... or do we want to find our peace, happiness and joy? When you find that, you start walking your purpose.
as long as it doesnt turn into judging everyone else and seeing yourself as above them, thats narcissistic, and happens often when we stay to ourselves and judge everyone else
A lot of people in America associate people being alone with being on time out as a kid, for doing things you should not do, plus some people think it’s narcissistic to focus on your self too much, which in many cases, it’s true, yet being alone can build self accountability and self discipline
I genuinely thought i was the only person like this, it’s so relieving knowing there are other people just like me.
i resonate a lot with this video. i also struggled with “shyness” growing up and just always being questioned because i too just don’t feel like talking lmaooo. i am now growing comfortable with my CHOICE in how and who i interact with.
heavy on the im always irritated!!!!
@@keeperofkeyzget over yourself
@@AaronD313 NO DEVLIN! GET INTO YOURSELF!
@@keeperofkeyz fine but stop judging everyone else, thatll turn you into a narcissist if it hasnt already
@@AaronD313 lmaooo are u trolling me devlin 🤭
"Get the time to know me instead of assuming"💯💯so true!
I say “fuck them”. You just gotta live your life the way YOU want to. Fuck everyone else.
“Being alone makes you a visionary” I used to feel so bad about keeping to myself even though I’m not even introverted but you get the advantage of being from the outside looking in.
The way u talk in these videos, are exactly how I be talking to my self 😭ur so real, thanks for sharing ur thoughts/rants. It’s comforting in a way
Yeah this definitely me. Its even hard when you're dating. I was dating this woman recently and she's a good person , i don't have anything bad to say about her but she broke things off with me because she couldn't connect with me all the way , she felt that there was times i was being too reserved and that confused her. She wanted me to initiate conversations more , call her more frequently rather then just texting. We went on our first date and she explained to me how i was only creating small talk. I reflected back on it tho and i can understand to a certain a degree , but im just a very laid back introverted person. Its some things i would like and currently improving on but overall im just a simple person. I can start and have a conversation with you but not for long 😅 like i can't even yap to you about the things i really like fr , i get tired of talking quickly 😂. Sorry for this book i wrote...i think i needed to get this off my chest 🤣🤙🏾
I understand exactly we’re your coming from. I’m a loner silent and intense but can open up to certain ppl when the energy is genuine. For me it has to be a real feeling or meaningful for me to open up just to conversate but I just wanted to say thank you for this video. Bjork - All is full of love
I feel you being reserved and staying out the way is best. To many snakes and fakes. Always do what’s best for you cause if you don’t who will.
Where can i find people like you
Exactly
Usually we’re just chilling at cafes, bookstores, parks, or thrift/record shops. Or just a homebody bc everyone else is annoying
I’ve been looking them for years!!
@@afrofaeriesliterally
Sometimes it feels like u always have to be "entertaining" I just wanna meet chill people where we're not saying anything but saying everything
I don’t know if I’m autistic but I relate to all this. Like everythingggggggggg
Girl, yes. Just yes, I completely resonate growing up very introverted and quiet.
You are the girl version of me. I’m just too authentic to the point where some ppl just don’t understand or want to comprehend how I am as a person. This is the root reason for why I don’t have much friends or even lack of romantic relationships
You're me! lol. I wish we lived in the same country, you are a beautiful black girl. Being alone can be nice sometimes, but for me it's mostly hell. Wherever I go I'm alone. I feel bad when I see people having fun or talking together, and that's why everywhere I go turns into hell. I'm socially awkward, the bad thing is that because I don't communicate with anyone, no one realizes my potential or abilities. It's been like this my whole life and it will be like this. I don't want to meet anyone because I can't find anyone like me. I don't care at all about the things people like, the movies they watch, the music they listen to or their hobbies. If you're not from the majority, life will just be torture.
Also, people don't understand your desire to be alone of your own free will. It's like everyone has to be like them. Who determined this? Not everyone has to be like them.
I relate to this one hundred percent. I just don’t connect with most people. Never met anyone like me. Not trying to sound like a snowflake just being honest.
I can relate 100%
What makes you so different from others?
@@Barcodez5555 Nothing. People just aren't like me.
I understand your perspective coz I am just like you I don’t take people BS and people misunderstood us as we talk more…❤️🧿
Most people.. oh look at that Asian person enjoying nature by themselves, also most people, what’s that black person doing in the park all by themselves for.. 😢
Yup. I get this all the time and it’s funny too cause I’m actually Black and Asian lmao
Me at the park chilling with animals, some people walking by .. give me your energy, or I won’t like you.. me: leave me a voicemail 😂
As a capricorn and loner i really can relate... i only like talking to the people i grew up with and my children.
Yessss I’ve tried to be socially likable like bubbly and charmisatic but I just don’t feel genuine.
Great video! Being a loner is good. I also only want deep connections & not superficial ones. People enjoy the “play” or “ games” of conversations in someone’s face. Keep It Champagne 🥇🏆🍾
this resonates SO much with me omg, it's crazy i found this randomly when trying to find videos to watch while doing work. what you were describing, with ppl thinking you always have an attitude and that you come off as intimidating as a Black woman/fem, this is exactly how i've been feeling for awhile. i think i like to say i enjoy being alone, but i'm definitely not there yet and am in the process, because i honestly do wish i didn't come off that way as times. but i realize it really is a gift to only attract people into your life that see past that. anyway, glad i found your channel! :)
I feel this . I talk when I want to or somebody intrigues my interest . I don’t mind small talk cause I try to make it fun. I love being alone and need my space. When I get in a friendship I get too consumed with the other person. I think that people project on quiet people !
Im like the opposite of shy , I'm like super projected when I speak , unfiltered asf , I talk to ppl like I've known them my whole life 😂😂😂😂but I tend to be a loner
You make such sense
This is so relatable! I love this!
I feel like us meeting in real life would be a fun experience because I relate to a lot of the things you say. (Side note) id like to think I’m socially comfortable but a lot of the times I notice I put up a front at first with meeting anyone, like you it takes me a while to reveal all of me to someone,at the same time I am very comfortable in my own presence and for most people my social battery does have a limit but bro I just want some genuine connections someone I can share these life experiences with, I’d like some community.
She's so pretty
Thank you love
You just said and explained exactly how am I and the way I got o this point now, I’m only 15 a freshman in high school and it’s been so hard for me to fit in bc people my age are not as open minded as myself .. being on a spiritual journey and discovering myself has made realize I’ve tried so hard to fit into the standards/ eyes of others. A lot of people make effort to try to get to know me but in the moment I’m akward and may not know how to respond due to me overthinking or even just not knowing how to pretend to be interested about what they have to say or what they have going on.
I’m trying hard to learn how to express myself mire with just saying the things I wanna say or not overthinking the things that could happens ahead of time if I make or say a certain thing
You're very beautiful and intelligent...people will try to get 100% out of you during every interaction and it's draining. Big reason i prefer to be in my own space most of the time
Yea, like myself I appreciate my own solitude and quietness, then when I feel like engaging with others I’ll make the effort. When I was younger I tried making friends but realized it was a waste of energy giving up my identity and integrity for social acceptance. I’m not gonna say there are times I haven’t given into peer pressure, but after that I decided I’d rather be my own person.
What a beautiful day wherever you’re at
ur so beautiful and inspiring. i relate so much of what u said but a lot of these parts of me i want to change and am deeply ashamed of. Hearing this out loud from another person with so much self love healed something in my brain
Watching this post work as I roll my post work j. Your videos bring me so much peace and they remind me of my friend who passed last year. Thank you for all that you do and sharing your beautiful thoughts for us
After a number of years of being rejected and kept at arms length I’ve had no choice but to keep myself to myself,bring alone gives me ultimate and tranquility and I don’t miss peoples bitching and putting me down.
I've felt this way since the second half of my high school years till now (2nd yr uni). Imma call it "micro-FOMO" and it's real. Rn though I don't really care, I just be chilling fr. Trying to make people like me is so cringe, I'd rather die ngl (nah but I'm actually lying).
Someone. Gets. Me. I literally can only do deep connections or nothing. I’m a deeply feeling and loving girl but only to the right people you know, like as you said, no offense but I just don’t have the tolerance for stupid people 😭 also I have learned the people who talk the most always have the least to say
Growing up I grew up so shy same as you but now I talk when I please and I’m comfortable. I use work at Walmart and I rarely made awkward small ! People are uncomfortable with silence and love to project because they don’t know what you’re thinking it’s more of us insecurity . me person don’t feel like putting on a façade just to fit society standards.
Hey being alone is a superpower it allowed me to grow my relationship with God and also I was set free from anxiety depression fear of the unknown etc.. best time of my life l highly recommend praying and fasting if whoever reads Is interesting in that God bless everyone.
Intensity is what attractes me as well.
It is a very rare quality because most people want no potential conflict. I had to chuckle as you talked about cursing like a sailor. I myself can be very temperamental in this regard. Most people would not think this about me because I mostly come off as shy not angry or arrogant.
the amount of times I said clock that tea at everything you said! being a black girl and also introverted… ouuu they gone hate real bad. I can literally be happy asf and somebody would come up to me and be like “are you okay” and then I overthink about it all day because I hated how ppl perceived me as mean but now I just don’t have the time to keep proving myself to people anymore.
Healthy healed people dont mind being alone. Obviously people need social interaction. But these people who fear being alone above all else are spiritually injured and looking for someone to keep them together.
its ok you are a good soul stay strong queen
I get you ❤👍🏾👍🏾 I’m always thinking so it’s like interrupting me with me
Only the strong stay alone. Keep it up!
You have a feminine demeanor which is a plus in my book. Nice post thanks for sharing.
I feel every word you saiddd loll. Sometimes I just don’t want to talk, and I’m learning that’s totally fine.
Miss Zion, you seem a beautiful individual most people seem to want to mould people into what they want. It's a blessing that you keep them guessing. Live you, Be you, and F those who don't understand real people.
Bless
I get what you mean about feeling like its a race thing. Im half black (wm/bm) and my mum and her side of the family always think I have a problem because of my face. I love friendship but no one is ever interested becoming my friend, but I'm a very friendly person and it kinda hurts. I think I would be more comfortable with having only one friend if my parents weren't always poking fun at me for it.
I'm 54, I wish I had your wisdom when I was your age
I love the authenticity in this video. You don't see this a lot. You remind me of myself, and i can relate so much. This is what I need to watch more often. I am subscribing immediately.
thank you for taking time out your day to watch me ramble ❤️
Being alone wasn't something I wanted..but God wanted it for me. To grow and learn myself, and get stronger. To be ready for the right woman to come along. I see the purpose of it now. It's a blessing
Finally someone gets it
My wife can testify that these exact words have and still come out of my mouth regularly. Its oddly conforting to know someone else feels these things as strongly as i do. Introversion is my gift.
I love this 😂 had to subscribe
I resonate with how you are when you meet new people. I take the first couple of times meeting them to gauge who they are and how they act. At first im quiet and probably wont talk to them besides a few words. If they give good energy Ill open up more.
I can relate to this video 100%
I always keep to myself, not that I can't make friends but I prefer solitude and silence instead of noise. Most say I never smile or I'm intimidating to approach, something I do on purpose to keep people off, I do perfectly fine on my own and I'm much happier that way. I'm with you on this 💯. Be yourself and do what makes you happy
Being ‘consistent’ is exhausting especially in a full time relationship, just need me space to recharge. Thanks for the video
Wow I identify with pretty much every word and I am a 46 year old white male from the UK. Sending much love and positive vibes from across the pond..
if you're ever in Southern California? wanna grab a coffee and go Hiking and enjoy nature... don't worry i'm a lone Wolf too i won't bring a lot of People with me only my little Dog Mya. lol
This resonates with my whole life
Another bjork listener here🎧
A band right... i love the song " Young Folks "
I'm alone most of the time, but I got used to it. It's better than sticking around with the wrong people. Good video! 👍
I have had people tell me that they thought I was “smug” when they met me.
You might be a fellow INTJ 😊
i could never be alone most times growing up until i was put into a season of loneliness and i realized that i rely on my happiness from others which is why i hated being alone.
OMG YOUR COMMENT IS SOOO TRUE!!!!! I find myself laughing by myself and wanting to share my humor with a friend or family because I can be really silly and I love to laugh and talk
Do you....and don't apologise for it. You don't need validation from anyone
One thing I’ve learned about people is that it’s very normal to judge one another, it’s a human trait. If you can grasp this concept, you’ll not only learn yourself but others as well.
I'm a proud solo bird and old soul for life. 💯
Love your videos, there really comforting. I’m allso a huge Björk fan! 😻
Thank you for watching :)
I feel it... Ain't easy looking good and having color on your skin these days bb girl keep yo head up I deal w the same hate all the time they just jealous cuz they ain't us
I like you, I understand you 100%
I understand you 100 percent. lol. Sometimes I’m concerned at the fact that I like to be by myself 95 percent of the time because folks give me sht about not talking lol
I relate a lot to your personality
I must let you know Zion girl that your hair is your strength so am telling you that you must grow your hair it's your beauty and you are an beautiful angel 🌟
For so long i thoughts it was my weaknesses, only to discover that it's my strength. In my a lone time ,i have learnt new skills and made decision that my admire . Lets stop judging others everyone is special
There’s a lot of people that are intimidated by strong and aware people
Because they know they can't push you around like they do with other people
I sip a pre-workout and go stomp around in the wood. Many times, under the moon and stars. Was listening to Jim Rohn. He said he had a motorhome and motorbike and would go to trails out in nature away from everyone.
I hate small talk a lot of people don’t have personality they all got social media brains
Heyy Zion hope your day is well . Thanks for letting us into your life journey
Tuned in❤
Great video 💚💙❄️🥶👀👂💯💯💯💯💯🎯
🙏🏾✊🏾😌 exactly tho, plus most fam that were close to me since I was a youngin been leavin me hangin every since I been focused on bettering myself spiritually and that's how I am I don't like unnecessary talking