1. dont expect anything 2. know what your boundaries are before you start. Dont be flexible on your standards. 3. Dont take things personally. if he doesnt like you, it's not failure. 4. Know when to walk away. Dont hold on to a dream. Holding on ruins your life.
As a former victim of narcissism abuse, the best piece of advice i can give to every lady out there, is to always live the relationship based on reality! Do not fall in love with the idea of a man but for what he is. It will save you a lot of heartbreak. Tune to your logical side and don’t make decisions based on emotions all the time. If you are stuck, look at your relationship from a third person pov. Love people for what they are and not for what you fantasise them to be in your mind. You can’t turn a pile of sh*t into gold
1.Never be expectant of new guys. 2. Stick to your boundaries and create a top 5 first. Always be willing to walk away. 3. Don't take things personal, move on or make the corrections. 4. Don't hold on when it's time to let go
Expectations are just premeditated resentment. Be happy=don’t expect anything from anyone. Go with the flow and just enjoy each other. I mean yes let them know how you feel but don’t scare each other away.
Number 1 rule is: stop wasting time on online dating/texting with men, who use it for fantasy so it's easier for them to get sex(or relationship if they ever wanted it 🙄). Just meet him irl after 48h and then wait for another date. ; - ;
Bingo! These guys just want some attention and as long as you are willing to play their games they are happy. And never get fooled by them using words like Queen and Beautiful into thinking you are the only one. If you can’t meet me in person and go on a date in a reasonable timeframe then you are a catfish in my eyes.
@@TheBlkcherry Wow... I'm using online dating, but I'm definitely not using it just for "attention"- I'm using it to really meet men & see if I can make an actual "connection" with someone!!! So me talking to a guy who just wants "attention" is NOT going to benefit me at all! 😞😞😞
Kev. Hit it out of the ballpark again. You have a direct and clear message and entertaining communication style. You’re doing a real service through your TH-cam channel. This is the kind of wisdom mothers used to pass on to their daughters, but nowadays the moms need to listen to you too.
I put your videos on a loop before my dates. I've learned so much from you and it has genuinely changed the way I approach men and dating. You've helped me keep my feelings in check and recognize the red flags. Thank you! Keep them coming.
This is so true! And this is how I got hurt!! I expected him to be the man he was showing me in the beginning! And he was good at pretending! I mean really good at it! Had me fooled and I got hurt!! Smh, never again!! This is sooo true!!.. Ladies set your standards and stick to it!! Its crazy because I'm a hard nut to crack! But soon as I start being nice a bit, it hurts me in the long run!!..Now I'll just wait and let God reveal to me if he's the 1!!!..in the meantime I'm throwing my heart in the ocean!!..
@@jayc5756 This is true! The guy I’m dealing with has said a mouth fool with some partially/no action. I’m honestly ready to Cutt it where it’s at and not allow it to linger any longer. Been with home since last year September and I feel I’ve about had enough already litterally. Especially, the not believing part omg the worst.
I like that you say you don't expect too much and everything else is a bonus. Thats got to be liberating. I think that's why women get disappointed so much and so often. Expect only after witnessing. That bugs bunny cartoon was good (what you will or won't accept).
He's young enough to be my son and I'd be so proud of him and his looks Only compliment his innerG. He is a very handsome young man. And has an adorable baby look abt him. Him and his Queen make such a beautiful couple too.
"You can't just wing it with your standards and boundaries " OHHHHH MY GAHHHH I needed to hear that. You know? I've NEVER thought about it like that, but I do indeed "wing it". 😭 That stops TODAY 😤
The jewelry 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾! This message is not only for a potential suitor or partner, but for Frenemies and frauds too, who pretend to have your best interest at heart.
Makes sense>> These tips & advises has made my dating life soooo much easier when applied... its unbelievable. I love it here. Good job Kev 🙌 you're a lifesaver 👏👏
I needed to hear this.... I am SO guilty of these-- feeling disappointed from "expectations", taking any rejection from a new guy "personally" & attempting to "hold on" when a new guy seems to change & begins acting indifferent or unresponsive towards me.... Ugh!!!!! 😔😔😔
Salaam and Happy Tuesday! The may be one time I disagree with you, Ibn. Maybe because I'm a little Seasoned I look at this slightly differently. I do EXPECT back what I give out. The energy and effort I give is damn sure what I expect back!! I notice lately in life that the "Dont expect anything" theory is giving people a pass in advance to be assholes. They start off saying "Well you shouldn't expect anything from people.." so they can intentionally be manipulative and abusive. However, I do agree with you a thousand percent that if my expectations are NOT met I don't get all depressed or hung up on it or try to make it work out. I just cut my losses and move on to someone else who will hopefully meet them.
Glad that a man is saying this, it makes me feel better. I’m 22 and a virgin (I prefer to wait till marriage), and at times I feel like I’m missing out on something by not being more sexually experienced. When I tell guys early on that I’m a virgin, they go ghost. But I will continue to keep the kitty in the box to honor my future husband and won’t compromise on my beliefs.
If only I would've been able to hear this message 2 days ago. As always, Kev's videos are always real & a tool on making wiser decisions..I really was HOLDING ON to expectations. It hurts like hell though. But I'm learning. Pick myself up & carry on- you Know Better You'll Do Better 💙🙃💪
My TH-cam brother again has come throughhhhh dropping bombs. I replayed this 3x on my tv first time I wasn't listening listening, opening mail. But Kev caught my attention and I this is what I needed to hear. This video is important to understand and know this abt ppl, it will allow more grace for myself when ppl don't know how they should treat me.
Good afternoon new to your channel I really really appreciate your advice I just cut it off in a 5 years relationship where I was the one being taking advantage of because very very native it was somebody from my past. I'm learning slowly but I'm learning
Kev this video was so timely!! I needed to be reminded that anything I try to force isn't in alignment with my continuous growth. Plus, this was a nice surprise after a mentally draining, long day at work. Thank you for always being a voice of reason.
Not gonna front, I was a little disappointed when footage of someone holding onto a bumper wasn’t provided.🤪🤣 But everything you said per usual is VERY true. Going to write all of these down for a daily reminder and or refresher when someday I start dating again. These aren’t things we just listen to once and then feel like “we got this!” Gotta embed them into our brains. Cus when them feelings used to kick in, the OLD me was quick to forget and let 💩 slide too much. I probably drew those boundary lines across the Great Wall of China before I left the relationship YEARS ago. 🤦🏽♀️🤣🤣🤣
I believe that fourth rule is the most important rule and critical life skill that everyone needs to understand. Resistance doesn’t necessarily mean to be more persistent.
You’re the best dating coach on TH-cam. #3 and #4 are truths I want tattooed to my hand. (Not really, that font would need to be TINY, but your advice is golden).
Thanks Kev, this advice really helps put things in perspective. I can relate to all of the dating mistakes as I used to struggle with codependency. I have been watching your videos and have made great changes within me. I now feel more whole, healthy, and attractive from within due to my new life changes.
@@wowso4 Hi Sandra: I have been getting some coaching by a certified Life & Relationship Coach. I have also been spending some time with myself to meditate, saying affirmations, yoga, exercise & focus on my nutrition. One of the current practices that I am trying is 'detaching from outcome.' Kev Hicks has a good point; Letting go of expectations. I hope this helps. Codependency takes time to detach from, so it's important to be patient with yourself.
I'm so guilty of the 4th one. Thanks for this Kev, I managed to let go of a man that was capitalizing on the fact that I was holding on and started becoming emotionally abusive to me because of that. Thanks Kev, I really needed to hear this🥺
Girls nowadays are lucky to have TH-cam & keV to listen to about what & what not in a dating phase. I just hope these girls will actually listen. Coz I know some who they already are being cheated on with their knowledge & still thinks the guy will change. 7 years after, she still complaining about the same problem which she could have gotten rid off long ago.
Needed this thank you I have a date this week as well super nervous but this video made me feel better and got me thinking about what I want and all thank you so much 😊
This information given here needs to be replayed several times for future reference, cause some things just don’t stick the first time. Unlearning the nonsense that we as women think is real versus what a genuine man is telling you what actually is, the difference between thinking you’re loved and actually seeing love demonstrated towards you. Don’t be confused.
Don't hold on to a dream. I love that truth. I had to let go of what I believed it could be based on what we once had. The relationship made me crazy. I walked away without notice and blocked him.
That's complete emotional detachment and self love, which is so hard to achieve especially to people with unhealed trauma. So basically, investing in healing before indulging in relationships is the way to go. Thank you ❤
Thank you for helping many of us understand man and woman better and to know what's best for us. It seems easy to understand but sometimes we forget or don't know how to do our best. Blessing to you
Hey Kev! Can you do a video on empaths and dating? I used to be a broken person and my empathy for broken men leads me to a deeper understanding and overcompensated compassion for his situation and journey... I want to find someone like me who is already healing and stop giving all these chances to men who WANT to change, but just aren't ready yet... Bring a horse to water, right? Love your vids!
I agree but i never give a man money lmao. Stop right there sir ! And yes this all Facts ! I don’t expect anything from sex unless we are together. I don’t have a lot Of sex anymore . It’s messes up your judgment. And creates unnecessary soul Ties. And if i make a mistake and slip Up and the man isn’t on my Level. I cut them off. And keep it moving !
I still need help understanding this how do I not have expectations but still have standards? I’ve always seen them as one in the same. My standards are what I expect of a guy I’m talking to. Please help?!
1. dont expect anything
2. know what your boundaries are before you start. Dont be flexible on your standards.
3. Dont take things personally. if he doesnt like you, it's not failure.
4. Know when to walk away. Dont hold on to a dream. Holding on ruins your life.
So true!
Thank you!!
@@marilynking527 a1p0qw0
Helpful summary of key points. Thanks!
Thanks so much dear. 😍
As a former victim of narcissism abuse, the best piece of advice i can give to every lady out there, is to always live the relationship based on reality! Do not fall in love with the idea of a man but for what he is. It will save you a lot of heartbreak. Tune to your logical side and don’t make decisions based on emotions all the time. If you are stuck, look at your relationship from a third person pov. Love people for what they are and not for what you fantasise them to be in your mind. You can’t turn a pile of sh*t into gold
That’s very true. Don’t fall in love with your imagination.
I love that last line, "You can't turn a pile of s#"t into gold!"🙌🙌🔦
So true . Denial has burned me .. smarter now .. taken me 40 years
@@tulinbeyduz920 happy ur out 🙏
Golden.
“Giving the kitty up on credit”
Whew chile...
Baaaaaby....!!!!
I put that in my notes. 😂
Rule 1: 0:22 no expectations
Rule 2: 3:46 have established boundaries
Rule 3: 6:02 don’t take it personal
Rule 4: 8:42 be able to walk away
What a man does is his problem, what you allow yourself to actively accept is yours....kev you are most insightful, prudent beyond your years👌🏽👌🏽
🤯 that summed up everything!
Yes...yes...and YAAAAASSSS!!!
Thank you
1.Never be expectant of new guys.
2. Stick to your boundaries and create a top 5 first. Always be willing to walk away.
3. Don't take things personal, move on or make the corrections.
4. Don't hold on when it's time to let go
"Expectations kill every form of relationships" -Kev Hick 🙌v
I had this problem BAD.
I am starting to date after being in a long relationship and was feeling like a fish out of water. I needed to hear this, thanks.
Same girl. After 10 years i got into a fwb ... yikes
Expectations are just premeditated resentment. Be happy=don’t expect anything from anyone. Go with the flow and just enjoy each other. I mean yes let them know how you feel but don’t scare each other away.
Number 1 rule is: stop wasting time on online dating/texting with men, who use it for fantasy so it's easier for them to get sex(or relationship if they ever wanted it 🙄). Just meet him irl after 48h and then wait for another date. ; - ;
I totally agree I deleted everything I’m so done with the Internet trolls
Bingo! These guys just want some attention and as long as you are willing to play their games they are happy. And never get fooled by them using words like Queen and Beautiful into thinking you are the only one. If you can’t meet me in person and go on a date in a reasonable timeframe then you are a catfish in my eyes.
@@TheBlkcherry Wow... I'm using online dating, but I'm definitely not using it just for "attention"- I'm using it to really meet men & see if I can make an actual "connection" with someone!!! So me talking to a guy who just wants "attention" is NOT going to benefit me at all! 😞😞😞
Kev. Hit it out of the ballpark again. You have a direct and clear message and entertaining communication style. You’re doing a real service through your TH-cam channel. This is the kind of wisdom mothers used to pass on to their daughters, but nowadays the moms need to listen to you too.
I put your videos on a loop before my dates. I've learned so much from you and it has genuinely changed the way I approach men and dating. You've helped me keep my feelings in check and recognize the red flags. Thank you! Keep them coming.
This is so true! And this is how I got hurt!! I expected him to be the man he was showing me in the beginning! And he was good at pretending! I mean really good at it! Had me fooled and I got hurt!! Smh, never again!! This is sooo true!!.. Ladies set your standards and stick to it!! Its crazy because I'm a hard nut to crack! But soon as I start being nice a bit, it hurts me in the long run!!..Now I'll just wait and let God reveal to me if he's the 1!!!..in the meantime I'm throwing my heart in the ocean!!..
Yeah. Gotta get better at feeling a man out. Actions gotta match your words. Gotta watch it. IJS
Ya, definitely! Date a man you are looking for. Don’t think so much on how he feels about u, but on how You think about him.
@@sarahmitchell4010 Exactly!!
@@jayc5756 Yup, so true!!..
@@jayc5756 This is true! The guy I’m dealing with has said a mouth fool with some partially/no action. I’m honestly ready to Cutt it where it’s at and not allow it to linger any longer. Been with home since last year September and I feel I’ve about had enough already litterally. Especially, the not believing part omg the worst.
I was able to walk away much quicker recently and Im soo proud of myself. It feels really good to be able spot things and move on quickly.
👍. I tried dating, it’s hard to turn someone down, because you don’t like them any kind of way. But it needs to be done. Don’t settle.
I like that you say you don't expect too much and everything else is a bonus. Thats got to be liberating. I think that's why women get disappointed so much and so often. Expect only after witnessing. That bugs bunny cartoon was good (what you will or won't accept).
It's so easy to be captured by his words with that handsome face of his😍😍
He's young enough to be my son and I'd be so proud of him and his looks Only compliment his innerG. He is a very handsome young man. And has an adorable baby look abt him. Him and his Queen make such a beautiful couple too.
"You can't just wing it with your standards and boundaries " OHHHHH MY GAHHHH I needed to hear that. You know? I've NEVER thought about it like that, but I do indeed "wing it". 😭 That stops TODAY 😤
The jewelry 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾! This message is not only for a potential suitor or partner, but for Frenemies and frauds too, who pretend to have your best interest at heart.
I'm always telling my roommate to TELL me things, don't expect me to read your mind. You can never ASSUME anything. Very wise advice, Kev!
Makes sense>> These tips & advises has made my dating life soooo much easier when applied... its unbelievable. I love it here. Good job Kev 🙌 you're a lifesaver 👏👏
My dad passed when I was younger & u putting me onto a lot of wisdom I never got. I wish I had found ur videos years ago
I needed to hear this.... I am SO guilty of these-- feeling disappointed from "expectations", taking any rejection from a new guy "personally" & attempting to "hold on" when a new guy seems to change & begins acting indifferent or unresponsive towards me.... Ugh!!!!! 😔😔😔
Salaam and Happy Tuesday!
The may be one time I disagree with you, Ibn. Maybe because I'm a little Seasoned I look at this slightly differently. I do EXPECT back what I give out. The energy and effort I give is damn sure what I expect back!! I notice lately in life that the "Dont expect anything" theory is giving people a pass in advance to be assholes. They start off saying "Well you shouldn't expect anything from people.." so they can intentionally be manipulative and abusive.
However, I do agree with you a thousand percent that if my expectations are NOT met I don't get all depressed or hung up on it or try to make it work out. I just cut my losses and move on to someone else who will hopefully meet them.
You're not even allowed to date. This channel is for people who date.
So true on the women that holds on to unnecessary baggage with these men that don't give a damn about them. Its really very pathetic tbh. SMH! IJS
And it shows low self esteem
@@amandas1183 True
Why are you here? To judge women & what? You're not offering constructive criticism, you're just being rude. Go work on yourself, how bout that? 😤
@@misscyanic2484 👌
A man here and i would advise the ladies to raise the bar high for them guys to get your kitties. Make sure they can wait.
Glad that a man is saying this, it makes me feel better. I’m 22 and a virgin (I prefer to wait till marriage), and at times I feel like I’m missing out on something by not being more sexually experienced. When I tell guys early on that I’m a virgin, they go ghost. But I will continue to keep the kitty in the box to honor my future husband and won’t compromise on my beliefs.
You're not missing anything. You're doing the right thing and the right Man will wait and honor you. Good for you.
If only I would've been able to hear this message 2 days ago. As always, Kev's videos are always real & a tool on making wiser decisions..I really was HOLDING ON to expectations. It hurts like hell though. But I'm learning. Pick myself up & carry on- you Know Better You'll Do Better 💙🙃💪
I realize I'm much happier expecting the worse from people.
Your laugh made me laugh lol. You really are one of the best dating coaches out there, I've learnt so much from you
My TH-cam brother again has come throughhhhh dropping bombs. I replayed this 3x on my tv first time I wasn't listening listening, opening mail. But Kev caught my attention and I this is what I needed to hear. This video is important to understand and know this abt ppl, it will allow more grace for myself when ppl don't know how they should treat me.
Good afternoon new to your channel I really really appreciate your advice I just cut it off in a 5 years relationship where I was the one being taking advantage of because very very native it was somebody from my past. I'm learning slowly but I'm learning
Expectations hurt me with my last situation. Just over it
Put God in-front of everything you do.
Kev this video was so timely!! I needed to be reminded that anything I try to force isn't in alignment with my continuous growth. Plus, this was a nice surprise after a mentally draining, long day at work.
Thank you for always being a voice of reason.
Not gonna front, I was a little disappointed when footage of someone holding onto a bumper wasn’t provided.🤪🤣 But everything you said per usual is VERY true. Going to write all of these down for a daily reminder and or refresher when someday I start dating again. These aren’t things we just listen to once and then feel like “we got this!” Gotta embed them into our brains. Cus when them feelings used to kick in, the OLD me was quick to forget and let 💩 slide too much. I probably drew those boundary lines across the Great Wall of China before I left the relationship YEARS ago. 🤦🏽♀️🤣🤣🤣
Your not the only one sis! Lol 😩
I believe that fourth rule is the most important rule and critical life skill that everyone needs to understand. Resistance doesn’t necessarily mean to be more persistent.
I can't believe this is for free. Like, i'm already suscribed. Thank you so much, Kev, i neededdd
You’re the best dating coach on TH-cam. #3 and #4 are truths I want tattooed to my hand. (Not really, that font would need to be TINY, but your advice is golden).
Mr. Kevin...you are "generations" of wisdom. Ancestors reside in your soul. Thank you...a great many of our women require you..right now.
Thank you for this video. Nothing but the truth 🙌🏼
This advice is GOLD! Thank you very much, so needed to hear this in the way you articulated it.
That is so true! Zero expectations!
Thanks Kev, this advice really helps put things in perspective. I can relate to all of the dating mistakes as I used to struggle with codependency. I have been watching your videos and have made great changes within me. I now feel more whole, healthy, and attractive from within due to my new life changes.
that's great to hear darl, I really struggle with dependency myself too, how did you overcome it?
@@wowso4 Hi Sandra: I have been getting some coaching by a certified Life & Relationship Coach. I have also been spending some time with myself to meditate, saying affirmations, yoga, exercise & focus on my nutrition. One of the current practices that I am trying is 'detaching from outcome.' Kev Hicks has a good point; Letting go of expectations. I hope this helps. Codependency takes time to detach from, so it's important to be patient with yourself.
What a great video, Kev!
Keep them coming ☺️
I'm so guilty of the 4th one. Thanks for this Kev, I managed to let go of a man that was capitalizing on the fact that I was holding on and started becoming emotionally abusive to me because of that. Thanks Kev, I really needed to hear this🥺
I really needed to hear this today.
This is exactly what I needed to hear! Thanks
Thanks Kev, you're a time and life saver. Please keep doing what you're doing, you're a 💎.
Please make a video on how to set boundaries when already within a relationship. Thx
Yes. Really good idea
@@moonstruck562 thank you 😌
I don't have expectations not even from myself , lol, just never know what next minute will bring you and how you yourself will react.
Girls nowadays are lucky to have TH-cam & keV to listen to about what & what not in a dating phase.
I just hope these girls will actually listen.
Coz I know some who they already are being cheated on with their knowledge & still thinks the guy will change.
7 years after, she still complaining about the same problem which she could have gotten rid off long ago.
it s really well put together.
you are 100%right!
Kev thought he was at work giving a presentation, lol
Lol
I know, he started laughing and it made me start laughing.
i'm in love with this kind of mindset. aren't y'all too?
Every word Just on point! Boundries and aythenticityyy 👌💪🔥
Needed this thank you I have a date this week as well super nervous but this video made me feel better and got me thinking about what I want and all thank you so much 😊
The older brother I needed! Thank you I have been learning so much from you❤️
Best to you,
This information given here needs to be replayed several times for future reference, cause some things just don’t stick the first time. Unlearning the nonsense that we as women think is real versus what a genuine man is telling you what actually is, the difference between thinking you’re loved and actually seeing love demonstrated towards you. Don’t be confused.
Bottom line is “ ALWAYS KEEP YOUR EXPECTATIONS OF PEOPLE LOW, THAT WAY YOU SUFFER LESS DISAPPOINTMENT!”
Don't hold on to a dream. I love that truth. I had to let go of what I believed it could be based on what we once had. The relationship made me crazy. I walked away without notice and blocked him.
Thanks for this video because it’s hard set boundaries meeting new guys
That's complete emotional detachment and self love, which is so hard to achieve especially to people with unhealed trauma.
So basically, investing in healing before indulging in relationships is the way to go.
Thank you ❤
« Good morning TH-cam.. » I was like « who is this guy? Where is Kev? » 🤣
😂😂😂😂😂
Wow. 😮 This is the one. You just changed my life with this one Kev. Eye opening and life-changing information. God bless.
Thank you for helping many of us understand man and woman better and to know what's best for us. It seems easy to understand but sometimes we forget or don't know how to do our best. Blessing to you
Let me tell...you hitting on something! Yesterday and today! Universe is looking out for me !!
Hey Kev! Can you do a video on empaths and dating? I used to be a broken person and my empathy for broken men leads me to a deeper understanding and overcompensated compassion for his situation and journey... I want to find someone like me who is already healing and stop giving all these chances to men who WANT to change, but just aren't ready yet... Bring a horse to water, right? Love your vids!
I fugg with this! Thank you for the lessons Kev.
I am CRINE at this Bugs Bunny reference yo
😂😂😂😂
@@shylosymone3714 LOL
Always great information kevin. Thank you.🥰🥰🥰
I agree but i never give a man money lmao. Stop right there sir ! And yes this all
Facts ! I don’t expect anything from sex unless we are together. I don’t have a lot
Of sex anymore . It’s messes up your judgment. And creates unnecessary soul
Ties. And if i make a mistake and slip
Up and the man isn’t on my
Level. I cut them off.
And keep it moving !
I'm always thankful for the advice you give.
Man this timing is impeccable 🤔
Ok. That "Good Morning" really freaked me out. Lol
Thank you Kev, I needed this. It was right in time.
Very sound advice; thanks, Kevin.
love this, I have found that the assumption is mainly from them on me
Yeah sometimes that can be true
Thank you Kev😔
I’m holding onto Jesus’ unchanging hand.
Lmaooo..
Best idea, girl. Jesus is my new best friend. ❤
Yaayyyy another video ! Thanks Kev
On point. Love this!!!!
I don't like guys that are very demanding getting rejected I'm good no hard feelings nothing new in this world of dating!
I'm definitely gonna follow this advice, hes never wrong xx
Thank YOU soooooooo VERY much for this video.
Simple. And BRILLIANT. Thanks. I'm learning, I'm learning.....
#2 though!🙄👏🏽 AL👏🏽 READ👏🏽 Y!
I needed that reminder! Thank you!
You are amazing bro. Absolutely to the point but well explained. Thank you
Hey Kev great video. 😄
I gave up the kitty on credit-that man was FIIIINE😫
Thank you for this reminder
Your the shit ! So right about all of this 🤍
its it a red flag if he says" im not looking for a relationship right now but ultimately thats what i want" ?
Thanks Kev your on point as usual
Best video yet!
You crack me up Kev 😂
Giving the kitty up on credit 😂
Lots of us giving up the kitty on credit....😂..
That one ooh
Thank you so much for sharing such excellent advices and deep wisdom ! Very helpfull : )
Thanks Kev!
I still need help understanding this how do I not have expectations but still have standards? I’ve always seen them as one in the same. My standards are what I expect of a guy I’m talking to. Please help?!
I took it as
Don’t expect him to follow your standards/boundaries, but If he doesn’t then walk away
So profound, especially the end point