my life is over part 2: he left for good and we're not getting back together
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- TRIGGER WARNING: This video is really hard to watch. The worst has happened. We're getting a divorce and there is no coming back from this. My world is shattered, my heart broken. It was all a house of cards on a bed of lies. I am struggling to make it through this and afraid of what I'm doing to myself. Thank you for your support during this time.
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Cindy you have to understand... If he was able to cheat on you while also having a pregnant wife, he's not your soulmate and neither a father material.
Stop what I’m only at the start of the video girl what
@@Nic0Dr4ws Girl I couldn’t believe either 🤬
@@Nic0Dr4ws How about you not read comments before watching then duh.
Remember these true words Cindy
He’s a fcking parasite bum who always let Cindy pay for everything. I can guarantee she paid for that cabin they stayed in that was all part of his plan. Imagine THAT being the father of your child. THAT!
He has no respect for Cindy cause she has no self respect herself, men do this to girls that will always forgive them and take them back. He knows this damn well, so he keeps contact to keep her on the back burner incase im he gets sick of the new life and gf.
And the worst part is. As much as I love Cindy. I don’t believe for a second if he sent her a big msg confession g his love for her, that she would ignore it. Look what happened when he text before, she got in the car and damn well drove to Colorado ffs. He’s laughing at you girl. He’s fcking vile.
1. Throw out the alcohol.
2. Being alone is better than being with a person like Andrew.
3. You are not going to be alone for the rest of your life and you will be happy again.
4. Let this take TIME.
Andrew leaving is something bad that ultimately brought more good to your life
This!! @lifepluscindy your viewers care about you.
we have an expression in brazil: "there are evils that come for the better"
meaning sometimes, bad things happen so better things come!
@@ember9361 yes this is very true or as we say here in the uk - a blessing in disguise.
Great advice!
We are all trying to help but the person who needs it has to start it with them selfs, like maw maw used to say if you don't like what I say then don't ask or tell me whats no your mind. I find watching g Soaps helped me though bad times.
Now, not only was he cowardly enough to cheat on you, but he unlocked a new level of cowardice by telling you through a message. He saw that you were healing, that you were getting over the break-up, little by little, and he approached to break you again. THAT is abusive behavior. Cindy, we all know here that you are strong and brave, and a coward and gaslighter cannot beat a woman like you. It will hurt, of course, but you will get out of there for yourself, for those who truly love you, and to not give a coward the satisfaction to bring you down again.
Exactly, she crawls up and he does this.. not tactical.
@@ColleenKelly-yj6kl You sound judgmental. I hope no one ever hurts you like that.
@Colleen Kelly RedRose probably cheated (or still cheats) or took back a cheater, which is why she's offended by a completely normal comment people make about cheaters.
All the videos from the first breakup to now all I could think was that I didn’t see Cindy as being abusive to him over the years. Her bpd didn’t seem to interfere much in their lives. But the comment sections were filled with support of Andrew which I didn’t get. I blamed him from the start finding it cruel that he ghosted and blamed her. Something did sit right. Now we see why
As someone else stated, please get screened for all STIs possible. Cheating in a long-term relationship has led to many an innocent person getting an STI
I SECOND THIS!!!!!
YES!!! GET TESTED AS SOON AS POSSIBLE! I know it's expensive, but PLEASE, FOR YOUR SAFETY AND THE SAFETY OF ANOTHER POTENTIAL PARTNER, GET TESTED!
@@manaspajamas5071There are free testing sites in Arkansas and pop up sites as well that are free.
They can also cause infertility if left untreated for a long time.
@@manaspajamas5071no it’s not expensive if you go to a clinic like planned parenthood or even the health department.
The way this guy had the nerve to say "I dOn'T tHiNk I'aM rEaDy To TrUsT yOu YeT" The audacity!!!!!!!
It makes me sick
He reminded me of my narcissistic ex.. argh what a piece of work..
How does that line go? “The Lion, the Witch, and the Audacity of this b!tch”.
I felt something was wrong and like she was being manipulated by him and blaming herself too much. But if you dared to suggest something was off about him and what he did, you would get people jumping to defending him and attack you...
It's sickening. To put the onus on someone else to change when you yourself are behaving in a way that makes you unworthy of trust is disgusting and manipulative.
Don't waste your time on him anymore
Literally!! I second this!! 🥺
Period.
Word!!! He doesn't deserve Cindy's time!!!
You're right!!
@@mbtriple1 He threw away a beautiful woman. He is not worth a thought in her head.
Cindy, that „Jack” guy cheated on his girlfriend emotionally by telling you he loved you while he was still in a relationship with her. And he was probably willing to cheat on her physically if you were up for it. Don’t fall for another cheater, girl.
This!!
Great point.
Exactly this! He sounds like another Andrew.
Yeah and I know people who have been in toxic relationships sometimes turn to someone similar to the previous toxic person (not even on purpose!) So I hope she is careful obv I'm not the boss of her tho
Excellent point here. Emotional cheating is still cheating, and if a person will cheat with you they will cheat on you.
The fact he felt he "gave you the gift of moving to AR" really set me off. That's some crazy shit. For him to take credit for something you had already been looking to do the first time he left you is awful. You CAN do this Cindy. Stay safe, stay healthy and I'm sending all the love and healing your way.
Exactly. It's like he's trying to have some moral high ground here.
Straight up psycho behavior.
He's trying, but he has none.
Fu.k that guy!! Please believe me you WILL get over this I promise you! You won’t be alone for the rest of your life just get your life sorted and work on you, there are better days ahead 🙏😘
This guy its an asshole
I remember you tryin’ to defend him in past videos
He dont even deserve that
Talk to a lawyer before you talk to his Mother or anyone that you mutually know about what you may or may not be planning. He can no longer be trusted to do the right thing. Period. Time for you to be one step ahead of him. Make sure you have what you need. Deal with the rest in court. The only thing you need to say to his Mother is that he can contact you through your lawyer regarding anything.
Cannot agree with this more. She needs to protect herself 100%
Agreed. You don't have to talk to anyone he wants you to talk to. His lawyer can talk to your lawyer. Period.
This!!
@@vmm44 👏👏👏👏👏
i agree. Cindy might get stuck paying alimony. that would stink
He was totally using your BPD as an out when he left initially. He wanted to leave and avoid the guilt but also didn't want to come clean so he made up some bullshit excuse and when that didn't work he had no choice but to tell you the truth, but he did so in the most cowardly way. I'm so sorry you don't deserve that kind of person in your life and as hard as this is now I can't help but think you'll be better off without him in the long run.
and this is what kills me :(
with me, it was depression.
he had a fucking problem but made me feel like i was the crazy one and was driving him away
You're right! It is so sick that he was trying to blame Cindy for everything but he was the one cheating on her, he was the problem.
💯 I feel the same as the above comment
You are going to be ok. Give yourself time to heal.
I was married for 18 years and also got a text message that the marriage was over.
It is not going to be easy, and you will have your ups and downs.
Sending love ❤
@@kaz3322 it’s so insane to break up with someone over text especially after so long. My ex broke up with me over text after a four year relationship, I can’t imagine this happening while being married.
he 100% only suggested this move so he could get cindy out of the house so he can live in it. all of this sounds so off the way he pretended everything was fine.. its disgusting. i feel sick to my stomach that people like him exist in this world
As someone with avoidant disorder, this is so extreme to me. To fabricate repairing a 15 year marriage, signing a lease on an apartment, getting a new job, abandoning all your belongings... I cannot rationalize any of it. None of it makes sense. You were already on your way to packing up, buying your own car and moving back to Hot Springs before Andrew dropped the bomb of getting back together. I don't believe what he did for you was a gift, it was extremely messy.
This! I've quit jobs without warning, dropped out of more classes than I can count, and ghosted pretty much every friend I've ever made, but the one person I would never do that to in a million years is my husband. It's never even crossed my mind. I think he did her a favor in telling her because she deserves so much better, but the way he went about it was so incredibly manipulative, selfish, and just plain bizarre.
this wasn’t for her, it was for himself. it was selfish of him.
I have bpd and i definitely had relationships where people stayed with me because they thought i was going to kill myself. She said she was close to doing it several times when he left for that month. I wonder if she told him about it because that'd explain this weird behavior
@@oliverxhmll and now he doesn't care anymore? I mean, I could understand he feared that she hurt herself if she told him, but the fact that she says she wouldn't do that now doesn't mean she couldn't change her mind (though of course I hope she doesn't because she can totally fix her life).
What I think is he had something going on and he wasn't sure It was going to work, so he selfishly decided to give his marriage a chance. Then the person waiting in Colorado said she was in and he dropped everything and just left like a 13 year old boy, by text. Text! Ending a long term marriage by text. It's unbelievable!
Cindy, had he stayed, he would have made you unhappy for the rest of your life. You deserve better. You are young and you have good things coming. It's just a bad phase
@@mariagonzalezdepaz.9770 Giving him the benefit of doubt, it's possible he felt better this time about leaving her because he knows she has family there who will check in on her, and a close friend. Whereas in CO she was alone apart from him.
I watched this twice now and I just can't freaking believe it. He took her to all of the spots they used to go together, took her out and shared her interests letting her think that he was all in when he wasn't.
I've never felt so much rage in my life. Hopefully those places aren't permanently tainted by his shitty actions.
All I can think of is how they hiked. I mean, couples usually hike together. Him? He is always ahead of her, leaving her behind and then moving ahead. He was not into it, and he didn't care that she was in lots of pain. I am sorry, but I saw how good men care. I had a friend whose husband took his shoe off for his wife to wear during a walking tour while he was walking around in his socks. Men do more than observe their spouses in pain. I always found his behavior odd, but that hike was so odd to me. I told myself he might be camera shy even though we saw him many times smile to the camera and not shy at all.
Same!
He was on his phone the whole time too. I kind of saw this coming the moment she said they were getting back together. Them signing a new lease together really made me anxious.
He is an ass. This was all planned. He was worried that she might do some thing (self harm wise) and so he took you to be where he thought thought she would be safe and happy near her family and friends before blindsiding her with this so if anything were to happen it wouldn’t be on his conscience. He is a coward indeed. 🤦🏻♀️
@@ABirdOnTheMoon I am really, really out of shape and my lovely partner is always checking on me (plus I am super sensitive to heat and have some chronic illnesses). Even if it's a damn flight of stairs he'll take care of me. You're so right. A loving partner will keep an eye out.
That fact that he gaslighted you the first time with saying he couldnt trust you but kept that entire secret hidden shows how much of a coward he is. He doesnt deserve happiness but you do. Trust me you will figure out how to move on past this just take your time. You have the biggest support right here.
YES EXACTLY GASLIGHT
exactly.
he made her belive it was just her. when it was him who was the biggest problem
He planned this. I do think he felt very guilty about leaving you in Colorado because you were unhappy there.
Cindy, you are a very resilient woman, and I aspire to have your cheerful outlook on life. I’m glad you’re home and I am so sorry that you were blindsided by this.
This is exactly what I am thinking... It's truly cowardly of him honestly.
I agree.💯 He planned this even possibly used her body🤬. This is too much. I felt like they should try to work it out but I'm glad to see she is choosing divorce.
Right? I did think it was bad that he left her alone the first time but now that we know the rest of the story it is obvious it was planned, he's a disgusting person, he just made her suffer much more than she had to.
@@tiaplaya3508 you’re so right, I didn’t even think of that. 😞
I agree that he planned this. He helped you move to Arkansas then moved back to Colorado.
the fact that he sent this over a text message is ridiculous. be a man and speak to the woman you claim to love to her face. insanely cowardly behavior.
also, from what you insinuated, he has a pornography addiction, which far too often gets out of hand and blends into the real world. you were correct for having an issue with this from the beginning. you saw the signs.
@@Tourettes0 my friend's ex had that. They ended up with no sex life and she ended up leaving him. The guy was a "nice guy" on the surface but was shitty, unsupportive and actively discouraging her from pursuing her goals, because he thought at the age of 24 "she should be thinking about settling down and growing up, not traveling the world".
Get a divorce lawyer ASAP and get every penny you can. So many of us guessed he was cheating but we were all hoping we were wrong
I thought so too deep down I knew it. I never commented that, though. I tried to remain hopeful for her. But if you’ve been cheated on before you can kinda tell the signs. I felt like maybe it was someone he worked with.
@@drea97994 I kind of had that feeling too. I was hoping my gut feeling was wrong though 😔This was a hard one to watch, I don't like seeing people sad and talking about suicide.
Same! Something definitely felt off. He was so detached.
I kinda had a funny feeling that might of been the case but I’m just a bystander
I'm confused . He was cheating just before she was preganant she had said. Did she say he was currently cheating too?
Man did he gaslight her. I thought he was this quiet man that would not hurt a fly and that it was Cindy that had her Bpd issues but i must say this,when he was singing that first song on karaoke i did wonder hhmmm so he is not the quiet lil mouse i thought he was,it does take a special type of person to go up and sing that specific song in public.
Now i can definitely say he is the quiet type that has a cupboard full of skeletons and those types of people are the worse because you do not see it coming and it hurts more.
I definitely think he has met someone else he wants to be with and he wants cindy out of the way so that he can live his new life. Maybe i'm wrong. Maybe he really did want to see her stable before he could walk away.
I am losing faith in men, seriously.
Whatever you do Cindy do NOT turn to alcohol. Make sure you stick to therapy. We're all rooting for you girl ❤
I don't really blame her for initially doing it the day that she found out.. something like that is incredibly Earth-shattering. The important thing is that she picks herself up after sobering up and doesn't begin to turn to alcohol for smaller disappointments. The problem is that binge drinking can make someone feel depressed for days afterwards, so I do hope that she doesn't make it a habit.. it always does make things worse
@@yespls4184this is so true, I deal with anxiety and prolonged/regular drinking (even just a couple drinks several days in a row) just builds up in the system and ratchets up the anxiety. I’d imagine it’s not dissimilar for other mental illnesses - it doesn’t have to even be binge drinking to have a negative cumulative effect.
But Cindy is so strong and resilient, and she feels things so strongly and truly (also a strength) but sometimes that can make the lows real low - but I know she’ll get back to herself.
@@88kayleigh it's true.. for me, the worst part of hangovers in the past has been the intense anxiety and depression-- and sometimes that lasts for days. I never dealt with full-on alcoholism, but just have had some bad episodes of binge drinking..
Just because if she drinks it doesn’t necessarily make her an alcoholic people have different ways to cope 🙄
Don't let him keep the house! Make sure he isn't living in it!!!!!
THIS!!
!!!!! Period
And the fact this guy wants his mommy to handle the legal issues. He can’t get more pathetic. I hope she gives all his shit away and I’m sure guitars would sell for good money.
I’d have to go back and look, but didn’t Cindy say that moving was his suggestion on a whim?
@@lauren000005 he really only did this to get her out, I feel that he’s not gonna sell the house, go back and live there by himself
It’s the audacity that he thought he was goi g to be CHASED so HE turns HIS phone off and makes rules on not to contact him or call his family . Boy please
Exactly, he acts like a kid too, I know Cindy is hurting right now but she's going to be so much better without his toxic behavior. And the fact that he wanted an entire man cave for himself and Cindy would've gotten only a corner for herself is ridiculously self-centered and unfair. It was time for him to go
@@agnespataki4118 Yes, that man-cave thing was so bizarre considering she works from home and needs more space and he works outside of the house
Yeah, because this woman is OBSESSED with this a-hole!
Remember when he said “You can’t be trusted”… That was pure and insane projection from him. Damn girl… I feel like things actually make way more sense now though. At least you aren’t sitting there wondering what’s really going on. Knowing the truth is a massive weight off your back, and the REAL healing process can finally begin.
Right? Even at the time, that rubbed me the wrong way and came across as such a manipulative thing to say to someone with BPD, especially someone like Cindy who does everything to improve herself and tries so hard. Real scum. I hope Cindy can find peace without that absolute piece of shit.
Your life is not over.
Spending the rest of your life with someone who treats you like shit is not a life. It’s a prison sentence.
Spending the rest of your life with someone who treats you like you are replaceable mentally, sexually, physically, and emotionally is not a life. It’s abuse.
Spending the rest of your life with someone who purposefully deceives, lies, and manipulates you is not a life. It’s betrayal.
Wow amazingly well said!!! 👏
Well put!
100x this.
Omg, this is so good! Well said! ❤❤❤
No matter what your brain is trying to tell you going back to abuse is not the best you can do, and it's better to have nothing than live like this. Our nature is a cruel prison, because we have a mind that preffers what we already know over anything that might be better but unknown.
I hate to be that person but please please please prioritise getting yourself tested for any potential STIs asap. He was honest to you about two women who knows if there were more? You can’t exactly trust his word on this. I’m so sorry this has happened to you, Cindy. Please take care of yourself and reach out to your therapist, family members or friends if you find yourself getting into a really dark place again.
I was also thinking that. The first thing I did when I got cheated on during a long term relationship was go get tested and screened for absolutely everything.
Yes he put her health at risk!
Exactly my 1st thought. She's been exposed to who knows what?
Yes she needs to get tested 😔
There were def more!!! Moreover I’ll bet you ANYTHING he ran back to someone in Colorado!!!
The fact that he made you out to be the one causing him incredible pain during your relationship, when the guilt he must’ve felt from cheating is probably what hurt the most. I can’t believe this man.
What I believe he's saying about "you shouldn't forgive him, and he wants no contact cause he can't face what he did" ....I believe is more likely he's still seeing someone else and he just thought if he got you moved away- he can go back to where he previously was at during your breakup and resume his affairs or whatever HE wants to do... without having to see you and dealing with your heartbreak 💔
Straight up that’s so fucking evil🤢🤢🤢 this sounds exactly what was happening
a tip for letting go of someone: write down all of his flaws, all of things that he did wrong to you and i'm pretty sure you will get over him in no time. he doesn't deserve you and he's not loyal to you
This right Here! Focus on the negative things about him and his wrong doings, and why you will be better off without him in the long run. Living independently is a learning curve everyone starts somewhere. There will always be things we don't know how to deal with or how to handle. A good support system of family and friends can be a great guide of references and morale support. You can do this !!!! Please stop drinking and taking pills, it may feel numbing now, but in the longterm you are creating a very unhealthy and destructive obstacle for yourself and that is not what you need, and is not going to solve anything.
This whole trip and moving to Arkansas feels like a huge manipulation from him to get you out of the house/state to drop you off and go home to avoid everything. You do seem soooooo much more confident and handling everything better this time. Keep pushing through therapy. Your future is bright because you can focus on what's the most important: YOU.
This sounds true.
I said the same thing when she said he told her this was his last "gift" to her. This wasn't a spontaneous decision on his part to move. He planed it from the start to get her out of Colorado. That's incredibly fucked up.
@@Lanaaaaa45 yes the thought of that being a gift made me straight up rage
not to play devil's advocate but it might not have been that darksided -- she said in the first video that she threatened suicide and threw herself on his car when he tried to leave the first time. maybe he wanted to leave but felt like he couldn't without endangering her. this way she's back where she has wanted to be and she's surrounded by her support network. she's safe in arkansas and she might not have been in colorado. not saying it's the right thing to have done or that it's good or whatever but it's something to consider.
Your 100% on the mark....gwen
The fact that he cheated on you while you were pregnant speaks to his character. I am sorry to have to go through this. It hurts, but you will heal.
I cannot get over how cruel Andrews behaviour is. How can you bait someone in this way, by promising a new beginning and fresh start for your relationship and knowingly keeping the fact that you are done with the relationship and have been cheating. He lured Cindy to Arkansas to then disappear and drop a bombshell admission on her with no contact anymore unless it is through his mum? What a coward.
Didn't he also talk about couples therapy and so on?
@@agatazietek9098yep
Yes, he did. But he never even gave it a chance. We were supposed to go to the therapy place TODAY to setup an appointment.
@@LifePlusCindyI am just so sorry Cindy, his behaviour is inexcusable despite his mental health or issues that you mentioned. It is a total lack of respect for you and your marriage. You can absolutely heal from this, just have faith that there are good people out there and when you least expect it your love will come along and can make you realise how much better off you are without Andrew. ❤ You are so loved
@@LifePlusCindy I guess the upside is that if he didn’t intend on working things out, you didn’t waste your time, energy, and money in couples therapy. Not much of a comforting thought right now, I know, but maybe in time it will be ❤
That man is insane. I cant believe he made you look like you were the one in the wrong, but it turns out that he had a disgusting secret all along and he dragged you around for weeks to this magic and beautiful trip just to leave you like this. He knows that you have bpd, and still decided to broke up with you in the worst possible way and at top of that, confessing such a a serious matter thru a text. girl, i would go insane, youre not alone in this.
no literally. I hope she heals
I know it's unbelievable
I would’ve thrown something at him. But she’ll heal and come out so strong.
Look on how far you’ve gotten. The weight loss. The self-discipline with your diet. You bought yourself your own car. You finally moved to another state. You are capable & you can be independent! Not only that, you’re a GOOD genuine conciderate attractive person who will attract like-minded people, and all that good energy will be restored. Don’t lose yourself Cindy ❤️
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🏋️♀️🏋️♀️👍👍👍
Put the drink down...now. sell his guitars and donate his personal belongings. Girl your not alone. What he did and the way he handled it.was totally wrong.
if men have anything, it’s the fucking audacity
What he did was pure evil. I had a feeling he was up to no good. Save your texts messages about the cheating and hire a good divorce attorney. He doesn’t deserve much of anything from what it sounds like.
You need a lawyer also Cindy!! Forget his mom, you need to make sure he doesn’t run off with all the money and that you get your share of everything!
Hope you can find a good lawyer soon ❤
I'm so happy she hearted this comment!! I've thought about this so many times now since watching the video. I hope she keeps her money safe from him, I don't want him to hurt her anymore than he already has :(
Also if he left behind any paycheck stubs. Social security number, info on the house you guys own in Colorado. Make sure you have all that info when you go to a lawyer. He may have a 401K he put into that half of would go to you. It is now a business and legal transaction that you are entitled to get half of. Stay strong!
Please don't drink and take pills or get into a new relationship before you are out of the old one.
You are a strong woman, you can do this. ❤
how do you get out of the old one tho? 😖
@@DrivingAway1
It is hard work, having a normal day and going through it all in your head.
You go from sad to mad and then you are ready to put it behind you and start something new.
Drinking dossent help it makes it worse the next day, people can't proses problems when drinking alcohol.
I'm not the bedst to help, I think your therapist can help you to start with a healthy proses.
Big hugs from Denmark 🇩🇰💝💝
@@DrivingAway1 By learning to be by yourself and do everything by yourself and not try to be in a relationship at all costs.
Amen!
Forget Andrew, Jack, or any other romantic pursuits. They will not help you. Working on yourself should be your only focus now. Please take your time with it or else everything's gonna fall apart again.
Oh Cindy. You haven’t been robbed. You’ve been given the opportunity to find real happiness. Hugs hugs hugs
I know this probably isn't going to mean much right now but you absolutely can do this without him. You have already been doing it since he left the first time, and your personal growth is so evident. Stay strong. You deserve the absolute world, you really do.
Cindy, please don't harm yourself or become an alcoholic for this man. It's not worth losing yourself over someone who treated you like this. You deserve better than this. Take your pain and transform it into something beautiful and meaningful. When I felt like my life was over after going through something similar, I decided to promise myself that I will rebuild my life into something a million times more amazing than the future I envisioned with him. Avoid those rebounds until you've healed! Lean on your friends, stick to therapy and make the relationship with yourself your #1 priority. You may not believe it, but you can ABSOLUTELY give yourself the love that you want and desire so desperately. You do not need another person to give that to you. Stay strong, you will get through this!
Well said! 🙏🏻
@@madamepoutine2807 PREACH 🎉agree with this 100%
This is great advice.
Success is the best revenge.
Couldn't have put it better myself. Amazing advice.
My boyfriend says, "He can deliver his pizzas straight to hell."
Yessssss 😂 exactly
Amazing 💯💯
Cindy, he doesn’t just have problems, the fact that he faked being back in the relationship with you to drop you off in Arkansas is indicating to me rottenness at the very core. A normal person, even deeply flawed, doesn’t concoct plans like that. An impulsive decision is much more forgivable than something planned. He essentially was playing chess and was treating you like a piece to move around. Gross. The worst of it was not that though, it was that he was cheating while you were trying to get pregnant! I sincerely doubt he asked the women he got with to get tested, and even with protection things can be transmitted. And infections are really bad for baby especially if you don’t catch it early. That is reckless behavior endangering the health of a human life.
This is a presumption, but I have been wondering if a large part of why you want things to be okay between you two is because of your child and you want to have children in the future. I only say this because I experienced a similar thing with my boyfriend, we broke up in January. It felt like I still could cling on to a part of my lost child if I was still with him, and that soon I could have more children and I would be happy again, even though I would always feel loss. At first, when we broke up, I was distressed because even though I am young enough that there’s no rush to conceive, we were so codependent and I am not social at all and I thought I would never meet anybody. I watched your videos and I thought it was a little crazy that someone that I’d been watching for a long time was going through something similar, and although I’d already resolved to stay strong, the videos were a reminder. My ex was a lot like Andrew in that he was avoidant and acted like he was doing it for me. Some people are just like that, saying they want to leave you alone or not hurt you when really they’re just projecting what they want and are being selfish. I decided I wouldn’t make a fool of myself and have not contacted him since. All this to say, the end of that relationship was for the best and I’m stronger because of it and I think the end of your relationship is the same. No relationship is better than a shitty one.
Please continue working on yourself, I don’t think you were the main problem here but I think it would make you feel better if you continued therapy and discontinue the drinking, I know it’s hard. But you were doing better with having coping mechanisms!
I do think I remember you saying that you do only want to have biological children but I just wanted to put it out there that you can take things into your own hands instead of waiting around for someone with a ticking clock. Not now, I think you need to continue therapy, but eventually if you wanted to and were stable financially, I see no reason why you would be denied fostering. I 100% understand that it’s not everyone’s thing but it is a journey to motherhood that doesn’t have a looming expiration date. Again, I know it’s not for everyone and it might not be for you, but you don’t have to feel like you need a man to help you asap for this, things are not hopeless.
Thank you for sharing your story ♥ going off of the motherhood point, I wanted to add that it is absolutely possible doing it alone! One of my closest friends was adopted when her mom was in her mid 40s. No man, completely independent, and who also experienced a devastating heartbreak years earlier. Her mom is now in her 60s and has since found her dream man who treats both her and her daughter amazingly. She did it, and so can you (of course only if you want to) Cindy!
@@GabrialleTurner It's true. I used to talk to my ex's ex wife all of the time, and she is now with someone else. Even if she does have two daughters with my ex. So yes, another man will come along, who will want children just as much as Cindy does. A genuine one, the next time around.
Definitely don't reach out to "Jack". First of all, if he's in a relationship or has family, you'll most likely get him into unnecessary trouble. Second, you're not ready. You're not stable enough, developed a drinking problem, broke off a marriage and don't know what you're doing.
What you should be doing is keep up with your therapy sessions and have a schedule of productive things to do and learn to be a functional adult.
You can do this Cindy! 💪
Also Cindy, be careful with Andrew and the divorce. He seems to have been calculated about many things so keep all texts and all proof of his cheating... He might have already put all assets to his mother's name as soon as he hit sent.
it is probably best to not keep any alcohol in the house at all. if it is there, you will drink it. at least until you get out of this terrible rut. so much love to you, Cindy.
Let him file for divorce! He can pay for it .. get a lawyer and yourself together.. don’t give him anymore power! Stop taking any blame.. he chose to leave .. let him go.. you are a strong person with lots to give this world.
Give him 2 weeks to get his stuff.. then sell it on marketplace ! Take back your control! You’ve got this !
THIS! Start fresh and flourish! Don’t give him any power.
One word: ALIMONY!
I'm sorry but if a man cheats on you and you have been faithful to him, he OWES YOU! He's at fault and all this time he's blamed you. He also gave you false hope, which was cowardly of him. Sometimes there are simply consequences.
I'm so sorry, Cindy. Life is so unfair sometimes. I'm so happy that you're home. Stay away from the booze though. That will only create more problems. Don't let him destroy you that way. Blossom where you are planted. Thrive! Be happy that you are no longer under the burden of a relationship with somebody who is toxic. ♥️🙏
This. Living well is the best revenge.
She has enough evidence too. He told her he cheated. It’s his price to pay for the pain he caused.
@@ABirdOnTheMoon in text, so there's evidence!
Plus he just dipped. This is abandonment. The courts do not look kindly upon people who abandon their spouses in general, I would want to see the judges face when they hear that he put on the performance of a life time to trick her into moving away from him so he could run.
Didn’t she say he quit his job? I wonder how he’s planning on making a living
Your life is not over. It is just starting. Yes, the dating pool is way different in your 30's and 40's than in your 20's. I was single for 13 years after my divorce. My ex husband valued chasing women more than being part of a family, and NOW I am married to a better man and I got married again at 48 years old. He was my friend for years and now my husband, and a better father figure to my boys(all now grown) than their dad has ever been. This man may have done you a favor. You need a man that values YOU!
Yes! However small the dating pool may be, you only need to find one right person. But the most right person has to always be yourself, that’s the number one person to love and take care of!
Well said.
not to sound like a hypocrite, but the dating pool for men is far worse do to the fact that most women would look at us as to what we can braved instead of valuing us. My ex-wife had cheated on me time and time again over the cores of 16 years and she never once cared.
@@aloneinthedarkl159 There is good and bad on both sides. Just set the things you are looking for in a woman. Not all women are looking for a sugar daddy. I have been married for 6 years and my husband and I have separate accounts. I take care of my bills and he takes care of his and we share what is in the middle.
same! i’ve been single for 13 years and just now starting to want to date again. it’s a hard and winding road
I'm not a lawyer but I do know that the law can be very complicated, so please get a legal consultation in both Colorado and Arkansas. Laws are different in different states and, due to your recent move, there might be some odd rules that will be hard to navigate alone. Colorado and Arkansas seem to have very different laws so it's worth making sure you don't get screwed over during this.
Also, while you can't take back what you've previously said, please be careful about admitting fault in this. If your divorce is completed under "at-fault" laws, it could seriously financially hurt you.
If it’s in Colorado, cheating is just a legal activity that caused irreconcilable differences. If it’s in Arkansas, he will be put in stocks in front of the courthouse.
Don't wait, FILE asap, get alimony because he was supporting you. He TRICKED YOU. It's OK to be hurt and angry, it's normal. BUT just don't stay in that, concentrate on getting past those emotions IN TIME. And I'm sorry, I've been there... it hurts 💔 You WILL rebuild your life! Just take it one HOUR at a time!
Allimony sounds right in this situation, but something makes me think she will make excuses for him after he weasels himself back into contact with her trying to make it easier for himself in divorce(especially financially). I hope I’m wrong.
Keep your head up Cindy, don’t give up, and stand your ground. You deserve all the best and more.
@@amandagrasmane9479 Yep. Cindy seems to fall when he contacts her. She needs someone strong to help her do things and stay no contact.
The whole trip to Arkansas and the mental cruelty of how he played you will not speak well of him in court. Plus, you’ve got it all on video ( of which he participated in) This is the best thing that could have happened. Don’t drink, don’t rebound, don’t spiral. Keep on the good path you’ve started
this is vile. the way he was like “i can’t be with you” and cheated SEVERAL times. you deserve WAYYYYY better cindy. we’re here for you girl
I was thinking the same thing. It's horrible
@@brian7624 LITERALLY it’s vile
@@lizmowrey9866 !!!
Cindy listen to me KEEP ALL TEXTS AND PROOF OF HIS CHEATING, take him to court with the divorce. Things work out in your favour since he did that to you.
This!! I believe she can file for temporary support and petition for alimony as well.
YES take screenshots!!!
Yes and also that you signed the lease just bevor he left and ghosted you and basically left you with handling the financing of the flat. I don't know if you can keep up with rent on your own but if not, he should take at least some responsibility for that.
YES DO THIS CINDY
Andrew is financially responsible for half the rent on Cindy's apartment if he signed the lease and Cindy is owed half the equity in their house in CO.
My ex left me 14 years ago. I was coming home for Christmas with our 3 year old, and I called him to let him know we made it to our layover. The first words out of his mouth were divorce . I cried my eyes out, holding my little girl. We are so much better without him. It may seem dark now, but the sun will shine again. I promise. ❤
I am so sorry Cindy. You deserve so much better! Seems to me he had second thoughts about getting back together and needed a way out. Coming clean was his way out. I am sorry he put you through this emotional roller coaster. You're better off without him.
I think this is exactly it. Thank you.
@@LifePlusCindy I can't find words to express how much I understand all this. As someone with BPD who had been cheated on and blamed for it, I reassure that it's never your fault. Somehow you will get through this pain and feel better one day. Not today, not tomorrow. But don't stop trying. One day you will be free. Love from Argentina. 💜 If u ever need vacations I'd be glad to help 🥺
@@LifePlusCindy i'm so sorry you have to deal with this Cindy, but i'm so glad you realize it's NOT your fault at all!! He's a piece of shit for doing this to you, but know that you're not alone! We're always here for you ❤
I'm so angry he made you feel like you weren't good enough. That's incredibly cowardly! Ugghhh my blood is boiling
@@LifePlusCindy that action alone on top of the infidelity is enough to value yourself more and not to let him return to your life. He chose to tell you because he wanted to leave not because he actually felt guilty, that’s cowardly.
I am sorry you probably don’t want people to be so harsh on him as we don’t know him but I just hope you know how brave you have been and watching you grow has shown me how resilient people can be.
Frr I don’t buy the “I felt guilty”! You felt so guilty about cheating that you decided to do it several times? I 100% agree with you Cindy deserves and is better! ❤
You’re not rebuilding your life from nothing, dear. You worked HARD on YOURSELF for YOU and you’re set up for the rest of your life. I have a feeling that the beginning of 2023 was the worst and the end of 2023, specifically October will be your moment to THRIVE. Hang in there. You are not the problem. He is.
100%
sorry for the question but why specifically october?
@@marcosmencaramartin4061 I have no idea. I’m right about these things a lot for some reason
To think that Andrew didn’t even have the guts to tell Cindy in person but just sent her a text message.
How low can you go!
It'd be a cowardly way to break up with someone you've been dating for a month. To break up with your wife of 15 years that way is unfathomably cruel.
@@plastichouseplant Cruel is a massive understatement.
That’s even sucky when people do that in silly little teenage/ highschool relationships. I couldn’t even IMAGINE texting someone to get a divorce, wtf?
The fact that he manipulated you into thinking you were starting your life over together is such a new kind of low. Especially since he made you believe that this was all your fault to begin with, which of course it isn’t at all! Cheating is the biggest form of betrayal in a marriage in my opinion and what he did is absolutely disgusting! Im so so sorry you had to find out the way you did, and the fact that you would have even been willing to work with him through this through therapy, just shows that you’ve got such a big and loving heart. He clearly didn’t deserve you, because you didn’t deserve this! I totally 100% get what you meant when you said he wasted your time because that’s exactly how I’d feel in that kind of situation. I am happy that you’re in a place that you love with your support system, but it didn’t have to end that way.
None of this was your fault. He knew exactly what he was doing. He brought you home so he could drop this bomb on you and leave. I'm so sorry you are going through this. You are such a strong person. I wish only the best for you.
How do you know, he did this on purpose?
@@Marutschkakaif we’re talking about the cheating part, you don’t exactly trip and fall into another woman’s bed.
If we’re talking about the taking her out to Arkansas part, we aren’t privy to anyone’s thoughts unless they share them, so we’ll never know for certain if that was his intention. We can only take the information we have and extrapolate from there - sometimes this is really accurate, sometimes it’s not.
@gundi maybe he lied about transferring...had he even started..they just got there..may be he took time off his job back in Colorado to give him some time..pretended he transferred but really didnt..curious if she called his old job and found out he never truly quit.
I knew he was gonna do this. Everything in me knew he was gonna do this. It was all moving very quickly and so suddenly. I knew he was going to drop her home and do this. I feel so terrible for her. 😞
What a psychopath. Driving out there with her and staying in the cabin knowing the whole time he was gonna do this. How do you sleep at night dude
The reason he didn't say this face to face is so there was no choice for you to say you wanted to be together still. He made his mind up he does not want to be with you that's why he said you shouldn't forgive him he's not worth it. For him to leave all his stuff and leave with nothing but him is crystal clear he wanted out and fast. Cindy you felt all this before but you ended up so much better the days you stopped talking to him... you went to therapy, took a bus home from therapy, learned to grill, cleaned the yard up and bought a car all so you can be independent! You can do this we all saw how fast you adapted to putting yourself first!
so true 😢 i feel so bad for cindy
Please don't jump into a new relationship while you are vulnerable. You need to heal and put yourself in first place. Learn to love yourself and learn you don't need a relationship to be complete, because you already are complete. If you start something now, you'll attract the wrong kind of person.
From Cindy to Cindy
@@mistyfreya Just from a very different part of the world.
He wasn't even mature enough to come and tell you in person about his infidelity, he had to send a text. After YEARS of marriage he just sent a text and that was it. What a coward.
Karma is coming for him, don't worry, girl. Just learn how to love yourself and live independently first.
What in the actual FUCK. Here you are doing your absolute best to get better for yourself and he just throws that in the trash?! I’d be so angry and you have every reason to feel the way you feel. Please do not blame yourself for this. EVER. Fuck Andrew. You are one of the strongest people I’ve ever seen. We are all here for you❤
Wow. Are we allowed to call him a piece of shit now? Because I can't think of a worse possible way to handle dropping this kind of news on someone you've been with for 15 years. And how lovely of him to just skip out on your financial responsibilities together! I'm so sorry, Cindy. You don't need that. You deserve so much better. Please, please keep going and taking care of yourself. You're doing so well and you're strong and you can get through this!!!!!!!!!!!
How is she going to afford the apartment, which is much too big (and expensive) for one. Hopefully his name is on the lease, then he will be obliged to pay his share even if he is not there.
@@lil-al hopefully she will get the house too, then she could sell it and still live in Arkansas(?)
It's time to find a lawyer and start protecting yourself legally and financially. Do not talk to his family. Your only communication with him should be through a lawyer if he'd going to a god d**n coward.
I agree 100%
Cindy my heart is breaking for you, what he did is absolutely horrendous. But please please don't give in to alcohol or pills, you are a smart and strong woman and you WILL get through this.
Also Cindy "love number 4" needs to be YOU.
Be safe and stay strong ❤
The way my heart shattered when I saw the notification... This was something I did not want to see... I cannot express how horrible I feel for you Cindy. I am so SO sorry for you! You are going to get what you deserve very soon! I promise you that! Don't forget, moving forward is something that you want to prepare for if something like this was to happen! Please do not, DO NOT, resonate on this forever! I understand that it will take some time to fee better about it, but it will come! We all love you so much and we all know you are going to be on top at the end of the day! You are going to win this war!!❤️
Thanks for saying the words I couldn't! I'm so broken by the notification that I can't even start the video omg
@@xarzneimittel8220 I hate this for her but I cant wait to see the glow up🙏🏾 she is going to be stronger
@@tiaplaya3508 yes! I watched a TED-Ed video about muscle growth and this quote just stuck with me:
"Meaningful growth requires challenge and stress." - TED-Ed
@@tiaplaya3508 THIS! I honestly give Cindy about 2-3 months and she's gonna be a SNACK
@@ABMS721 She's already a snack. She's gonna be a whole MEAL
SELL his stuff, throw it away, do something with it!! do not torture yourself!! if he doesnt want his items then just sell what you can and donate the clothes. you dont need this!
That’s what I was thinking. If it were me, all that shit would’ve been burnt up in a fire or sold at a pawn shop
Exactly!! Sell it and pay his part of the rent.
she could get in trouble legally for this y’all come on 😭
Not the best idea. I’ve seen to much Judge Judy.
I was thinking that too but legally you could get into trouble. Get legal advice first. Put his stuff in one of the storage cupboards you have and lock the door.
You’ve gotten your closure. Now you know, it will never work out and you never have to wonder if should try with him again. You have your answer and now you can move on. As someone who has been through a divorce in her 20s you are going to be okay. Life does not end here. You have all the freedom in the world and the world is your oyster. Embrace it.
Why would your life be over now? It sounds like it is about to start!
Cindy, those sleeping pills and alcohol are a bad idea during this time. It's a very dangerous game and I am sure many people agree that we would rather hear from you than about you. There are a lot of people here that care very much about you.
This!!!! Stay strong Cindy, we are rooting for you
I know the loss of your baby was really hard on you, but maybe the silver lining is you never have to deal with this man ever again. If you had a kid with him, things would’ve been so much more complicated for both you and the baby. Sending love. We have multiple soulmates on this earth, they are there to make us learn lessons… hurtful ones even… but there’s better people out there. You got this!
yes! I hope no one takes your comment in a bad way, because i totally get what you're meaning
👍👍👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Just the ability to recognize and say that you deserve better is proof of how much you've grown throughout this journey. You've made it through so much and faced so many of your worst nightmares, things you thought you could never do. You're so much stronger than you think even if you don't feel like it.
The vlogs have shown so much growth from Cindy, I’m so impressed with how strong she is.
Begging you to go no contact with him and get it touch with an attorney immediately. I'm so sorry, Cindy.
Cindy I'm so sorry no one deserves being cheated on
OH MY GOD D:
That was a huge spoiler but for ONCE I'm not mad 😭
@@xarzneimittel8220I'm so sorry sweetheart but I was just so sad and shocked and must of all angry.
and SEVERAL TIMES TOO??? scum of the earth, holy
Andrew definitely does tbh
About jack: you have to learn how to be alone first, girl. You have to work on your life first. After that, get in touch with him but not now. As we say in Brazil: garota reage e bota um cropped!!! ❤
Ela realmente precisa reagir e botar um cropped logo! Espero que nunca volte com esse homem. Sending love from Brazil ❤ 🇧🇷
I feel like this mindset is damaging. We don't tell people they need to learn to love being hungry, or that they need to learn to enjoy sitting alone at lunch with no friends, before they can handle eating with a group of people. We also don't tell people they need to be comfortable with being dehydrated before they deserve to drink water. Love and companionship are a NEED, not a WANT. Humans need closeness and companionship just as they need to eat. Please stop spreading this damaging opinion. It's just not helpful
Let’s not encourage her to get in touch with someone who is perfectly fine with cheating…. We don’t want her ending up with another Andrew.
@@Jilly-Sammy-Bean no one is encouraging anything. She needs to make her own decisions. She still deserves a companion
@@JessiTheBestiGaming she does deserve a companion, but she's clearly not in the mental state to bring someone else into her life when she's suffering like this. She needs to become independent, she needs to heal, learn how to be a person on her own again. She's been a wife, a girlfriend, and not just Cindy the individual for way too long.
Humans do need closeness, but we need to be healthy and responsible about it.
I have yet to find a man who doesn't have an addiction to p*** and hasn't cheated on me. You can give them all they want, and they'll turn around and cheat on you the minute something flips. You suffered through loss of miscarriage and he left because of it. That's pathetic and you deserve the WORLD cindy. You'll get it!! Hold on please!!
Fr, porn can be so destroying. Literally “dated” a guy for not even a week where he would CONSTANTLY get off games with me or stop texting me to go watch porn, he ended up ghosting me not even a week after. Literally dodged a nuclear weapon
PREACH! Tried going on a couple of dates with my best friend with this addiction, and he started talking to other people after some months. We weren’t exclusive, but he had told me all of these promises, confessed his love, and got my hopes up… just to reveal he didn’t really know what he even wanted. A horrible heartbreak. We’re still very close, and he’s in therapy now, but the level of resentment I have can only fade with time. I still love him a lot, but I have so much fear thinking of trying again with him ever. Never gonna bother with men who watch 🌽 anymore.
You know, after the first break-up, I tried to see the good things in him. But now.. Girl.. no. This man is a piece of sh**, and maybe it's not my place to say that, but it makes me so angry. How can a grown ass man act like this? Not even talking to you in person and just running away?!
Cheating is one of the worst things you could do to a person. But to tell you over a text and then run away to deal with all the repercussions, emotional and practical, is another level of disrespect. He's a child. You deserve so much more and when the time comes, demand more. Take your time to heal. You've got this. Your community is here, with you.
DON'T go in for "love number 4"!!!! DON'T reach out to that guy - you are not in the right frame of mind and it would be unfair for both of you. You need time to sort out your baggage - nobody needs your baggage. Please take the time to work on yourself and deal with this crisis. You are home, with friends and family, in a place you can heal. Concentrate on that. The future will happen, be ready to meet it.
You could do a livestream and you would see many people from all around the world, who care about you and are out here to support you through this emotionally charged time.
I plan to do one soon. Thank you. I think it will be good for me to talk to everyone.
Love that idea and I’m so there for it I hope your doing ok Cindy I keep thinking of you and checking to see if you are ok
@@LifePlusCindy very good idea. Will you allow us the honor of bashing him for the first livestream? Then we’ll stop. A livestream will show you how universal cheating is. Think of how the most beautiful successful women have been cheated on.
you don't need a relationship to be a complete person.
How dare he tell you something so world shattering and not even have the decency to give you the respect of saying it to your face. You deserve so much unconditional love and support. I'm so sorry you've had to endure so much heartbreak and trauma. I love you and so many others truly love you and we know you are finally free now to be the amazing, vibrant woman that YOU want to be. It's your time now. Do whatever you want and need to make your heart sing again. We will be here lifting you up💖
Aren't you in love with who you thought Andrew is, not who he really is. Keep up with therapy. Lean on friends and family! Take care!
YAS
Woah, hold up. So he broke up with you and left you hanging and wondering what was happening for weeks. Then he took you back and swept you off your feet on a romantic getaway with the promise of a fresh start back home, encourages you to sign a lease, and then drops that bombshell on you and leaves? Sounds like a conniving plan to get you out of 'his house' and out of his life. I'm so sorry Cindy. I can't imagine how painful this must be. It's one thing to think it's over because 'im too difficult to live with'. This is on a whole other level. It makes one wonder, who really has the personality issues here.
Oh Cindy, MULTIPLE men are into King Gizzard and shrooms and life philosophy and even some are into spirituality! If you get over this messy situayion and ever end up wanting to travel the world and come to Europe, I could introduce you myself!
Thank you.
I know at least 5 dudes like that and even more super cool women that are and would make amazing friends without all the bs. He aint special, but you are Cindy.
He manipulated you from the beginning making you think you were in the wrong. You’re amazing and we as a community love you and care about you 💓
I feel like I just got punched in the stomach. My heart completely shatters for you, Cindy. I legitimately cannot even imagine how much pain you must be feeling right now.
I don’t think I can say anything that would even suffice, but I am so terribly sorry for you Cindy. You absolutely don’t deserve any of this.
What a piece of work!! This is so damaging, especially for someone with BPD. It’s monstrous that he strung you along and blamed you. I’m so infuriated for you.
This is so disgusting. I kind of felt like you were “pink clouding” a little when you said you were back together and moving with him. It felt very off. I never thought you two should have gotten back together but I’m so sad that I was right about it. I am so enraged for you that he signed a lease with you and then dipped. I don’t know how much you make, but I’m guessing you were approved for that apartment based on both of your incomes and I’m wondering if you can afford that apartment without both incomes? It’s beyond disgusting of him if he left you in an apartment you can’t afford. Hopefully he didn’t secretly take himself off of the lease so that at the very least, he’d be legally liable for half the rent should you have trouble affording it. Though I’m not sure how he could have without you having to re-sign the lease. Did you guys sign the lease together, or separately on your phones? Rent is so expensive nowadays that that’s so worrisome.
I also wanted to say there are so many ways to have children that doesn’t involve having a partner, if that is something you truly want in life, there are other options and you can be a mother if you want.
I might have to revive my Sims channel to afford it, but I will make it somehow. He is on the lease, but I am the primary on it. He is just listed as my co-tenant, I guess you could say. I can easily take him off. Thank you for your comment. I'm still deciding what to do about everything. It's hard to make these decisions alone, but I'll figure it out.
@@depinguin No, I'd do them for both. I won't make them if I don't feel like playing the game.
@@LifePlusCindy the good thing about youtube is that you can do whatever you want and we will still watch it, cos we watch your content for YOU first queen!
if you are worried about posting sims videos and then deciding to stop after a while, that's ok. i just say that cos i know how it feels to feel pressured to continue doing something you're not passionate about anymore, or feeling bad about coming back to something you stopped doing for a while!
whatever you choose to do, we will support you! i know i will be watching all of your vids regardless! 💫
@@LifePlusCindy Have you thought about possibly doing some freelance editing? I know some content creators who do this for extra income. I also feel like if he's still on the lease, he is required to help with the rent. Imo. But I understand not wanting the help from him. Sending you love and light.
youre free now cindy. as much as it hurts, youre free. you deserve the world and im so incredibly sorry you have to go through this.
He's so lame for texting you instead of telling you in person. You deserve so much better than this, sending you tons of love ❤
Made a fucking fool of himself that...not nice man
My 3 aunts lived long productive lives without men. Being alone isn't a punishment. You actually need a lot of time by yourself to work on yourself. Get into AA meetings as soon as you can. That will help your mental health and give you supporters. As for kids, you can still have a child once you get your life sorted out. You can foster/adopt or surrogate. You are still hurting right now and still trying to figure out your own mental health. Focus on that right now. Toss out the alcohol, continue seeing a therapist, continue working out, love your animals, love yourself. You will pull through this. One day at a time. Hugs
Do not be afraid of being single. I know it will be hard at first, because you've been together for so many years, but with the new life you'll have an opportunity to meet new great people, make friends and this will make you not feel alone ❤
Edit: besides that, if you don't know something in that whole "adult" thing, you always can ask the community. We are all here for you, even if just through the screen ❤️
💔 this is devastating. You are so loved. We’ve got you sweetie. Fuck Andrew. I can’t believe he did this to you
I can’t believe it either. How could he do this….
incredibly immature of him with how he handled it too
@@riggamorrischan Immature doesn’t even begin to describe the horrible actions of that man.
My heart is breaking and hurting for her 💔
@@riggamorrischan immature, selfish, fucked all understatements. Don’t even think there are right words to describe it. Either way Cindy didn’t deserve any of it.
Your independence and growth wasn’t a lie. You might have been lying to us and to yourself but you really did practice the skills you need to be independent. You put in the work and you will reap the benefits of what you’ve sown. It’s not going to be easy but you aren’t at 0. You have a lot of skills you’re not giving yourself credit for. This again feels impossible but you’ve gotten through so many impossible things. Nothings impossible except the last thing and this isn’t the last thing Cindy.
I’ve been a follower of yours for such a long time from way back in the sims days and then I followed you to your new channel. I owe you so much. It’s because of you that I had the courage to lose weight. When you started your weight loss journey it made me realize that if you could do it then so could I. I followed your journey of trying to have a baby and I celebrated along side you and I mourned the loss of what could have been. What Andrew did was disgusting and wrong on so many levels. I can’t imagine how you must feel having felt like you knew him so well only to have him spit it all back in your face.
You’ve been an inspiration to me and it hurts to see the events that are playing out in your life currently. I want you to know that you’ll make it through this and come out so much stronger on the other side. When I went through my extreme depressive phase, the realization that once you hit bottom you can only go up, was the only thing that pulled me out. I know you’re hurting real bad right now but there are a lot of people here rooting for you and hoping for a brighter tomorrow. We love you so much. I know that you have so much life left to live and I can’t wait to see you smiling again one day cause your smile really brightens a room.
I know I’m just a stranger on the internet but if you ever need help please feel free to reach out.
I did want to say too, Cindy, make sure you get your stuff that was left from Colorado. Maybe his mom can mail it to you, but make sure you have all the things that are important to you. Just because he wants to act like this doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be able to get your belongings!
If my grandmother can find someone she's been with for a decade in her 60's, you can find someone who makes you happy eventually and works out.
Stay away from the booze. It's just gonna cloud your judgment and make you go back to him hun , don't do it
This woman has gone through so much I’m praying for you
From a legal aspect you need to protect yourself.
He left the marital home.
Go to the bank tomorrow.
Pull out the cash and put it into your own account.
Pay all bills out of your joint account.
Keep a good record of this for court.
He’s making unfair and irresponsible decisions. Regardless of what has happened it’s not fair to drop his obligations and dump on you.
When you guys got back together I always had a bad feeling but I kept that to myself as you seemed very happy and so at peace and I could never imagine dampening your mood, I'm happy you've moved back home to Arkansas so you have people you can rely on, I hope you can support yourself and still afford your apartment because it's so beautiful. You're a lovely human being who does NOT deserve the pain and stress he put you through, I know you're a strong woman who'll live and thrive and everyone of us here, apart of your virtual community will support you to the moon and back. We love you Cindy❤❤❤
Literally same, I had this off feeling, but I felt like it was not my place to say anything :(
I felt the same way but hoped I was wrong.
I thought it was just me! The way he talked about a girl at work once gave me a GUT FEELING that something was off. I feel so bad for Cindy she does not deserve this and he does not deserve her that’s for sure!!!
Me too ☹️
Same, but mostly because I went through something similar and I had a period of "honeymoon before the storm" and I was so worried he was as cowardly as I expected him to be based on how he was always running away/leaving instead of facing problems, and whenever Cindy wanted to know if he was dedicated to saving their marriage, he wasn't really saying that.