You sound so much wiser than you were before. When my ex-husband left me for his supervisor, I remember that my friends thought I should stay single for years . . . but I never would have met my current husband of 13 years who is absolutely wonderful. Sometimes waiting is good but when you move forward with fresh eyes, eyes wide open, committed to not ignore the red flags, it can turn out beautiful. Move forward with eyes WIDE open, knowing you have all the potential in the world.
Yes absolutely! My ex of 6 years ghosted me right after I got us a house together. I felt like I’d never date again. I was so scared of starting all over and “what if I never find someone as good as him” lmao how naive was I. After so long I started Tinder with interest in just dating and I met the most amazing caring understanding loving man I’ve ever met in my whole life. We are literally a perfect match and in the healthiest relationship I’ve not only been in but seen anyone in in my life. Now I can’t STAND when I see people in abusive and toxic relationships cause liek NOOO THERES SOMEONE OUT THERE FOR YOU PLSSSS. It’s crazy how we get so entangled with someone they can treat us so bad and we don’t even want to leave. Sometimes the best things these guys ever did for us was end it however they did cause we end up better off and they end up losing the best person they ever had.
Someone I care abt just a crush but I genuinely cared about him ghosted and banned me from his twitch stream im glad I got closure from this situation but I keep learning the hard way sometimes life is deadset on keeping two ppl away from each other it hurts like helll but he brought up in me allll my childhood wounds it was unbearable I cared abt him for many years actually im 29 tho so im still young but I know deep down that I have to move on from him even though I e never wanted to I got attached to him bc he made me aware of my intuition which I'd say I've always been in tune w just not consciously but really it was me all along that taught me my lessons not him I shouldn't just say he inspired me altho he did but he didn't go out of his way to share the knowledge I knew amd found it on my own
a lot of these questions seem somewhat condescending and judgmental. so happy to see you letting it roll off your back. i know so many other viewers have said this but your progress is so wonderful to see. thanks for allowing us to be a part of your journey cindy !
You have grown so much since you started TH-cam and specifically since you started Life Plus Cindy. It is an honor to see your growth over these few years. The woman you are now compared to even a year ago is so much more evolved. You are stronger, wiser, happier and healthier! TH-cam has had it's ups and downs for you, just as it has for many content creators on here. You have adapted, learned, grown and challenged yourself which is so amazing to see. A Q&A video is a big step for your channel and is something quite personal to us viewers to be able to ask questions that may be a bit personal or intense, but you are sitting down and talking us through things and keeping a level head. You are so inspiring to me and many others I'm sure. Always so proud of you Cindy. Keep on keeping on and most importantly, KEEP BEING YOU!
Girl watching your progress is inspirational. Proud of you❤ I watched your my life is over video yesterday bc it autoplayed and I was stunned. You are so strong and powerful, wishing you all the best on this journey and grateful you're taking us along to watch❤❤
So, I literally just started this and the bpd question at the start feels hella ableist to me. I know bpd is a lot & can do a lot of damage, but the way I see it is as long as the person you are dating is somewhat aware and you are making an effort to work through it. I don't think it should stop anyone from living so to speak.
Around 7:40 cracks me up, does people NOT CLEAN THEIR HOUSES? LMAO I do it whenever I'm having any guests, thats why I hate when people show up without asking me first. Cindy, you're not alone and please continue cleaning your place!!!
Cindy I am so proud of you! You have grown so much as a person. I cannot believe the questions people ask!!!! The honesty and strength you have in answering the questions is amazing!!! It’s your life and nobody else. I just love you ❤ You are a wonderful person and I am so happy for you!
People that do not have sugar addictions just do not understand the extremely difficult struggle with food that those of us who have that issue have. It is so easy for them to tell you how to eat and what to eat and that a little isn’t going to kill you. I see food and sugar addiction as an addiction. No different than an alcoholic is with alcohol. Cindy, you have to do what is best for you so that you know I don’t feel good mentally but physically. Please do not let people pressure you into what you should do. Whatever works for you stick to it.
it's so inspirational seeing how you've managed to pick yourself up despite all that you've been through, you're really taking life by the reins! you're in such a better place, and it shows.
I don't know how many times you have said on previous videos that you're just dating and having fun. Why do people keep asking about a relationship? It's annoying, lol.
If you do Q&A's again: What advice would you give to your younger viewers who look to you for advice sometimes. I'm glad your doing better stay Strong and thank you for being here with us you have no idea how much you've helped me in tough times
Thanks for answering so much. I got the clean templates for sims 2 to work and glad you were transparent towards sims. I’d be burnt out after a while as well. I’m so proud of you and can’t wait to see where you and your channel go. 😊
Yes spend as much time with ur family as u can don't wait cause u never know I lost my baby brother in 2016 and just lost my sister 2 days ago it's so hard to lose someone but when it's your siblings or parents it's a whole different kind of grief I'm sure a lot can relate to that so all I wanna say is call ur mom ,dad sister, brother right now and tell them u love them
Morty and Bella will have helped get you through the bad times. Thanks for being so open and honest with us hun, you are amazing you have come so far, and you are an inspiration 💖
you are much more lucid and aware of yourself now cindy :) i feel like you're truly healing and becoming wiser, and the tools you're using seem useful!
I've mentioned before, but I lost my husband last year and I got "better" much easier and faster that one would think. I don't know how but I was stronger and happy only after about 5 months. I'm of course not over him since he passed away, I'll always still love him. But I've moved on with my life and haven't let it get me down too much. 💗
I don't know how I missed this channel.. for some reason I was looking for your vlogs in your other channels and therefore I thought you were taking some time off. I hope you're doing well Cindy, I'm glad to see you're going to therapy and doing what's best for you. I'm gonna catch up by binging on your content now😆🖤
The "leave him right now" thing was exactly what I've been thinking throughout this whole situation hah, and I'm actually a bit sad it turned out to be the right thing to do solely because... who would want something like that to happen to someone. I'd much rather be just wrong.
This was an excellent Q&A. Thank you. You are so articulate unlike myself, lol. I find it such a blessing that you are able to help others because of your own struggles. Dang, you could be a therapist! Love and Blessings to you and I wish you the very very best ❣
It's so weird that like, Friendships are a form of relationship, so it wouldn't be wrong to call it a relationship. But if you do, people are gonna take it out of context. 😓
I am not gonna lie, I cried. I also suffer from BPD and c-ptsd and have lots and lots of trauma and I understand the feeling of just taking it one breath at a time, and it was so nice to hear someone who has been in the same position as me. I don't feel so alone and I can't thank you enough for that. So thank you Cindy! You understand things that a lot of people around me don't even understand. I really love how honest and open you are. You sound a lot more confident in yourself and I am so proud of you and how far you have come!!
It's been a while since I commented, but I just wanted to let you know that I have been rooting for you every step of the way during the last 6 months. Watching your "divorce plans" vlog the other day... wow. I remember you crying in the kitchen saying your life was over, and to see the woman you've become... you are simply radiant and exude grace and humility. Always a pleasure watching your vlogs.. sending love
14:27 wow thank you for saying this- I’ve needed to hear this advice for so long!! ❤ I’m an extremely anxious, overthinking people pleaser and I think with my emotions. I ALWAYS jump to these made up conclusions in my head about other people or situations and internally spiral about NOTHING.
even though i sit here silently watching, with no questions or comments, i need you to know that you have no idea how much you have helped me. im sure ive told you this before. if you come to Australia i would love to catch up fopr a coffee.xx
You have to respect the past self that dealt with Andrew. Do not beat yourself up over what you did. Being a person who believes in a person who did you wrong is not on you. In order to become completed, we have to fully accept the past versions of ourselves. You did nothing wrong. People are mirrors. Those who judge you have issues within themselves that cause them to lash out at you.
The amount of progress and healing and self improvement you've done is inspiring. You've done so much in just a YEAR. That's crazy! And look how long your hair is getting! You've made me feel like I really can find new friends and have a life like that again. Some of those questions though lol. There's nothing wrong with cleaning your home before a date or guests comes over or wanting to look nice for your date lol. That's not changing yourself for someone c'mon hahaha.
When I tell you your progress inspired me so much to change my life and my habits... Months ago I was taking so many medications, now I'm a much healthier person, I eat better, I exercise more and I'm down to one pill (metformin) and supplements for my PCOS... I lost hair, I lost weight, I lost emotional baggage, I gained go much confidence, self love, awareness and appreciation for my space. You were my ✨magic mushroom 🍄 lmao Hey, maybe that could be our fandom name, "the magic mushrooms"!
Cindy, I just wanted to say that you are a strong woman honestly. You have also helped me through some tough times, just sitting down and watching your videos have taught me that I should keep going and that life will get better. Thank you Cindy.
I second the person that recommended Crazy Ex-Girlfriend! It's a fantastic show and one of my favorites (If you don't mind semi-musicals). It does a great job of showing someone dealing with her own mental illness in a light-hearted way. I'm actually seeing Rachel Bloom's stand-up tour tonight, funny that came up in a Q&A.
You are such an inspiration for me! Ive been struggling with my mental health and recently started on antidepressants for the first time. Watching you work trough your problems, taking care of your dogs and your apartment gives me motivation and hope for myself. Thank you and good luck! :)
Since I'm seeing reccomendations for Crazy Ex Girlfriend I also reccomend Fleabag, such a hilarious show but also very healing for people who have struggled with romantic relationships in the past
Cindy, it's been awhile since I've watched because I've been dealing with issues of my own. I'm so glad I decided to click on this when I saw it pop up because you've made my day! The Cindy in this video is a completely different Cindy than the one I saw last. Even your voice is different. It sounds the same but you are so much more confident. It's amazing honestly. You look happier and you sound happier. I'm so proud of you girl! 💛💛 Oh and you look great too! The new life looks amazing on you!
I totally understand.. when you have that type of traumabond/codependent relationship and you find out that they’ve betrayed you in that way and your all alone stuck with your thoughts… it will drive you crazy. Your sitting there blaming yourself, wondering what they’re doing and who with, and screaming internally because any control you had was ripped away and now everything seems like a lie. Its a hard spot to be in but i’m so proud your not blaming yourself anymore and you’re finally moving on ❤❤
Everytime my in laws say they’re on their way over, I jump so fast off the sofa and start cleaning cause I don’t want them to think I love living in my dirty hole😂😂
I love that with time and insight you would've told your past self exactly what we all were trying to tell you ♥ most of us just furiously want to protect you. Also this is your sign to make peace with B cause life's too short and nothing is that serious ♥
You can truly see your growth as a person when i first started watching you i wasn't hopeful for your change but now Im so glad i kept watching your channel i can tell your therapist gave you so much helpful ways to heal LOVE SEEING YOUR HEALING AND GROWTH❤
I also don't know how I lived past high school honestly. The comment about it being human nature is very true. I guess it's just the curiosity of "I wanna see what's next no matter how fucking awful it's gonna get". The only real way to live through traumatic events is to constantly work on your thoughts, and it's not the same path for everyone either, but you gotta just remember that a) your thoughts help you cope and survive, your world can't always be sunshine and rainbows, sometimes coping isn't pretty or nice and there's no shame in that b) your thoughts shape your reality. But they do that ALONGSIDE OTHER PEOPLE'S THOUGHTS. You need to adapt. Create a sort of "mental shield" appropriate for the events you are going through. And then as soon as you get out of a situation you're in start working on throwing these defensive mindsets away, if it's possible (sometimes ptsd happens and well, you still need some habits to survive) I'm no psychologist, I am just simply a broken man myself who still lives thanks to what I did and how I did it.
So got to see how far you came, and so inspired by you. You seem very much wiser and very happy now. I’ve seen you grow over past year! Keep on moving Cindy!
i feel like some of her follows are a bit toxic and have a problems with this women moving on and making her own choices ...or are way too invested I've only started watching 2 months glad i did ...but alot of the push seems very parasocial
One thing about your diet that might work for you - and I’m not concern trolling, I’m a survivor of an eating disorder and have a child with ARFID so I’m pretty well read about nutrition but not a professional dietician or anything - if you can tolerate the idea of only eating vegetables that grow above the ground, and also exclude grains (which includes the corn /maize family) that might be tolerable for you mentally as well as beneficial physically. Roots and tubers tend to be the ones highest in carbs. I have to tell you, my heart sang when I saw you make that guac with tomatoes and lime juice, because a serve of that a couple of times a week will have enough vitamin C (I really think you need to revisit your thoughts about scurvy, you’ve been misinformed if you have been told you can get that from the animal foods you were eating. Your bruising is more likely from low VitC than VitK, because K is fat soluable so you can get it from meat, C is water soluble and destroyed by heat
I’m so proud of u! I was just thinking the other day that you’ve grown sooo much! And I always knew you could do it yay ❤ Also I’m soo happy that you love living in Arkansas
Thank you for your honesty. You are so strong and it is amazing how you had grown in the last few months. You can be proud of yourself that you did not return to your toxic relationchip again. I was in a toxic relationchip for about four years when I was still in university. My Ex had narcisstic tendencies and because of this my low self esteem went even lower. After I had the strenght to move forward and end the relationship it gave me a lot of room to improve on my self and my self esteem. By the way: Short after the breakup I was casually dating a guy, because I wanted to see if there were any nice men out there. I was not even interested in a new relationship. When I first dated this guy I thought he was not interested in me, because I had never dated such a good looking guy before 😂. Now we are together for seven years and married for three years. ( English is not my first language, but I hope you could unterstand me. Greetings from Germany 💜)
You rocked those questions!! Good for you! People really think they know you and I find that funny and creepy. You obviously are doing better and I am so happy for you.!! Much love from Iowa. ❤️🦋❤️🦋❤️
That third (?) question (series of questions) was ridiculous lol! "Are you cleaning your apartment for him?" Everybody cleans when someone is coming over! It's the nice, polite thing to do! As for appearance and dietary changes due to him, I feel like this is par for the course. Speaking more on the appearance side here, of course you would want to look nice for him and wear nice clothes while you're on a date. People don't exist in a vacuum; we exist alongside other people, so it's only obvious we edit or modify our behavior when we're around others. Everybody villainizes even the slightest change in appearance or demeanor when you have a new romantic interest, but those "changes" are not negative in any sense just because you're "changing" an aspect of yourself in the first place. As I said, we exist alongside others in the world. Why would you NOT change into a dress for a date? Sure, when we're alone might only wear pajamas, but let's not pretend like other people don't exist and that it's not nice to look your best in front of others. I don't see how "changing" or wearing makeup on a date versus none when you have a day in at home is negative. Not that you wear pajamas all day and never wear makeup outside of dates lol but I figured I would compare some common behaviors of others here in their more extreme sense. It's only natural you want to look your best for a new romantic interest. It's only NATURAL you would want to take his opinion into consideration and his actions towards you (i.e. eating the salad he made you). And of course it's only natural you would clean for him when you would have otherwise not done a deep dive on the apartment that day. Anybody who tries to scare you out of this relationship by convincing you that you are repeating old patterns clearly do not understand that we are social creatures, so of course we "change" aspects of ourself in front of others versus when we're alone. This hyper individualistic attitude is getting old. Not everything exists independently of you, and neither do behaviors.
I just found your channel. I'll definitely be binge watching in my spare time. I think you're a doll, a natural motivational speaker. Life is hard. It's great to see you thriving.
Cindy, thank you So much for your honesty and humor. And ability to self- reflect, which is only growing. I am wondering, do you see your therapist in person or online? I am considering but don't have much money. Again, thanks for your transparency.
I see her online. She's the therapist I used to see in-person in Colorado, but now we just do online sessions. But there are a lot of online services where you can find low-cost therapists if you are in need of one.
@@LifePlusCindy Thanks! I'm glad that online works for you. I think the fact that you saw her in person first probably helped you to immediately have a good online connection. I'm happy for you. I may try it...
So proud of you, Cindy!!! ❤️❤️ SN: As a native Arkansan myself I fully understand not wanting to leave 😩😩 that’s one of the reasons I don’t visit often either
Cindy everything you said - you are speaking to me on some deep level. Maybe it’s because I’m so raw. Because I came last Saturday night after being gone one hour with my fiancé and my kitten was dead on the floor- leaving his bonded brother. I’m off work and I am mind reading
I don't think these people know what a lolcow is. I think they're more into spilling tea and drama which isn't the same thing. Think Chris-chan vs Creepshow Art. It'll never not be weird to me how people keep trying to die on that hill. Either way, I'm super glad to see the progress. These are the sort of changes that will stick.
@@MistressElf Yeah. I've said it a lot but I'm pretty sure they just got bored with the lull in content from other youtubers that are lolcows and needed someone to compare themselves to and be better than, so they encountered Cindy at the perfect time. It's easy to shit all over someone hitting rock bottom and struggling with a toxic relationship, but not so easy when that same person shows that they're learning and improving.
I tbh didn’t know what lolcow meant till I looked it up. But you are right, they seem more interested in spilling and getting tea. And are probably really bored.
Cindy, you are absolutely amazing, and so much stronger than I think u realize, I absolutely adore you, I feel like I’ve known you forever, I wish I could actually talk to you face to face, I feel like we’d be such good friends, I hope you see this comment and just know you definitely have a friend here in Ohio, sending you love and positivity to help you continue being the truly beautiful wonderful human being that u are, can’t wait to see how things keep getting better for you. You are 🔥🔥🔥lots of love from Ohio.😊
Hey I am a little behind and I'm just now watching your livestream from this week. Just wanted to say if your looking for more games to play on stream try geoguesser. Its a guessing game where you have to figure out where you are in the world from a picture. Also jack box party games are really fun to play with other people as well. They have a lot of different options for games to play and anyone can join as long as they have a phone. 🙂 Just wanted to share some for you because I really enjoy watching the livestream replays after you do them. 😃
Having boundaries in a relationship is crucial. Me and my partner have been in a relationship for almost a year now wow, and we are having a very fun queer platonic relationship.
I just wanted to add when you say what helped you get thru such a difficult time.. is also social media. It's not all bad. It's easy to forget that. But i do think your subscribers sitting thru so many live streams with you kept you company and helped you not to feel so alone, also it's cathartic to vent and talk about your problems. Just wanted to point that out.. hope you don't stop being so vulnerable It's what made so many drawn to your channel and also we need more vulnerability in this world so we all don't feel so alone!
@@LifePlusCindy no thanks needed my friend. I have been watching for some time and had been cheering on every victory and sending positive vibes during the set backs. Don’t ever stop being you Cindy, you are an amazing spirit and deserve so much happiness.
Hello Cindy! Love the video!!!! Got a quick question. What kind of web cam are you using? I need to get a new one and the videos yours are putting out seem like great quality.
I feel your answer to "How you got through it" was maybe an oversight on your part to Not see how your channel maybe has what helped you through this, and it's kind of proven...that talking about it, does wonders.
I have the original Ariel doll!!! If it's not ruined. Lol. She's in a box with all of my old barbies in my parents shed unless they threw them away. I'll have to look and see the next time I go and I'd love to send her to you!
The pursuit to maintain your independence is wonderful and on top of proving your strength will also keep your romance passionate! You're becoming such an independent girlboss and I am LIVING for it!! 💕🙏
You sound so much wiser than you were before. When my ex-husband left me for his supervisor, I remember that my friends thought I should stay single for years . . . but I never would have met my current husband of 13 years who is absolutely wonderful. Sometimes waiting is good but when you move forward with fresh eyes, eyes wide open, committed to not ignore the red flags, it can turn out beautiful. Move forward with eyes WIDE open, knowing you have all the potential in the world.
Yes absolutely! My ex of 6 years ghosted me right after I got us a house together. I felt like I’d never date again. I was so scared of starting all over and “what if I never find someone as good as him” lmao how naive was I. After so long I started Tinder with interest in just dating and I met the most amazing caring understanding loving man I’ve ever met in my whole life. We are literally a perfect match and in the healthiest relationship I’ve not only been in but seen anyone in in my life. Now I can’t STAND when I see people in abusive and toxic relationships cause liek NOOO THERES SOMEONE OUT THERE FOR YOU PLSSSS. It’s crazy how we get so entangled with someone they can treat us so bad and we don’t even want to leave. Sometimes the best things these guys ever did for us was end it however they did cause we end up better off and they end up losing the best person they ever had.
Someone I care abt just a crush but I genuinely cared about him ghosted and banned me from his twitch stream im glad I got closure from this situation but I keep learning the hard way sometimes life is deadset on keeping two ppl away from each other it hurts like helll but he brought up in me allll my childhood wounds it was unbearable
I cared abt him for many years actually im 29 tho so im still young but I know deep down that I have to move on from him even though I e never wanted to I got attached to him bc he made me aware of my intuition which I'd say I've always been in tune w just not consciously but really it was me all along that taught me my lessons not him I shouldn't just say he inspired me altho he did but he didn't go out of his way to share the knowledge I knew amd found it on my own
I hope you do more of this in the future! You ate them haters and left NO crumbs. Love you Cindy! Thanks for Answering!
a lot of these questions seem somewhat condescending and judgmental. so happy to see you letting it roll off your back. i know so many other viewers have said this but your progress is so wonderful to see. thanks for allowing us to be a part of your journey cindy !
You have grown so much since you started TH-cam and specifically since you started Life Plus Cindy. It is an honor to see your growth over these few years. The woman you are now compared to even a year ago is so much more evolved. You are stronger, wiser, happier and healthier! TH-cam has had it's ups and downs for you, just as it has for many content creators on here. You have adapted, learned, grown and challenged yourself which is so amazing to see. A Q&A video is a big step for your channel and is something quite personal to us viewers to be able to ask questions that may be a bit personal or intense, but you are sitting down and talking us through things and keeping a level head. You are so inspiring to me and many others I'm sure. Always so proud of you Cindy. Keep on keeping on and most importantly, KEEP BEING YOU!
Girl watching your progress is inspirational. Proud of you❤ I watched your my life is over video yesterday bc it autoplayed and I was stunned. You are so strong and powerful, wishing you all the best on this journey and grateful you're taking us along to watch❤❤
So, I literally just started this and the bpd question at the start feels hella ableist to me. I know bpd is a lot & can do a lot of damage, but the way I see it is as long as the person you are dating is somewhat aware and you are making an effort to work through it. I don't think it should stop anyone from living so to speak.
Wow, 42 minutes. That's dedication. I appreciate to go to that length and your honesty.
Around 7:40 cracks me up, does people NOT CLEAN THEIR HOUSES? LMAO
I do it whenever I'm having any guests, thats why I hate when people show up without asking me first. Cindy, you're not alone and please continue cleaning your place!!!
That had me crying too because I was like damn I am crazy for cleaning before guests show up?
😂🤣They probably don’t. I’d do the same for guests, myself and my other half if i lived by myself.
You’re really rude
@@alexandramoyer8785How are they rude? They're just speaking facts
It's sad that you and B are having a tiff. I hope all that gets sorted out. He's a great friend!
Cindy I am so proud of you! You have grown so much as a person. I cannot believe the questions people ask!!!! The honesty and strength you have in answering the questions is amazing!!! It’s your life and nobody else. I just love you ❤ You are a wonderful person and I am so happy for you!
Hell yeah she ate them up on that first question!! 🙌🏼
Awesome response! I heard therapists say the same thing!
Definitely did her thing with that one🙏🏾💪🏾
She totally did great
People that do not have sugar addictions just do not understand the extremely difficult struggle with food that those of us who have that issue have. It is so easy for them to tell you how to eat and what to eat and that a little isn’t going to kill you. I see food and sugar addiction as an addiction. No different than an alcoholic is with alcohol. Cindy, you have to do what is best for you so that you know I don’t feel good mentally but physically. Please do not let people pressure you into what you should do. Whatever works for you stick to it.
it's so inspirational seeing how you've managed to pick yourself up despite all that you've been through, you're really taking life by the reins! you're in such a better place, and it shows.
I don't know how many times you have said on previous videos that you're just dating and having fun. Why do people keep asking about a relationship? It's annoying, lol.
You can really tell that you have an excellent therapist - so much progress !
AND that Cindy is putting a lot of hard work in! You get out of it what you put into it!
If you do Q&A's again: What advice would you give to your younger viewers who look to you for advice sometimes.
I'm glad your doing better stay Strong and thank you for being here with us you have no idea how much you've helped me in tough times
Thanks for answering so much. I got the clean templates for sims 2 to work and glad you were transparent towards sims. I’d be burnt out after a while as well. I’m so proud of you and can’t wait to see where you and your channel go. 😊
Yes spend as much time with ur family as u can don't wait cause u never know I lost my baby brother in 2016 and just lost my sister 2 days ago it's so hard to lose someone but when it's your siblings or parents it's a whole different kind of grief I'm sure a lot can relate to that so all I wanna say is call ur mom ,dad sister, brother right now and tell them u love them
Morty and Bella will have helped get you through the bad times.
Thanks for being so open and honest with us hun, you are amazing you have come so far, and you are an inspiration 💖
you are much more lucid and aware of yourself now cindy :) i feel like you're truly healing and becoming wiser, and the tools you're using seem useful!
I've mentioned before, but I lost my husband last year and I got "better" much easier and faster that one would think. I don't know how but I was stronger and happy only after about 5 months. I'm of course not over him since he passed away, I'll always still love him. But I've moved on with my life and haven't let it get me down too much. 💗
I don't know how I missed this channel.. for some reason I was looking for your vlogs in your other channels and therefore I thought you were taking some time off. I hope you're doing well Cindy, I'm glad to see you're going to therapy and doing what's best for you. I'm gonna catch up by binging on your content now😆🖤
The "leave him right now" thing was exactly what I've been thinking throughout this whole situation hah, and I'm actually a bit sad it turned out to be the right thing to do solely because... who would want something like that to happen to someone. I'd much rather be just wrong.
cindy you’ve inspired me to pursue getting my BPD diagnosis and get the help I need
This was an excellent Q&A. Thank you. You are so articulate unlike myself, lol. I find it such a blessing that you are able to help others because of your own struggles. Dang, you could be a therapist! Love and Blessings to you and I wish you the very very best ❣
It's so weird that like, Friendships are a form of relationship, so it wouldn't be wrong to call it a relationship. But if you do, people are gonna take it out of context. 😓
I am not gonna lie, I cried. I also suffer from BPD and c-ptsd and have lots and lots of trauma and I understand the feeling of just taking it one breath at a time, and it was so nice to hear someone who has been in the same position as me. I don't feel so alone and I can't thank you enough for that. So thank you Cindy! You understand things that a lot of people around me don't even understand. I really love how honest and open you are. You sound a lot more confident in yourself and I am so proud of you and how far you have come!!
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It's been a while since I commented, but I just wanted to let you know that I have been rooting for you every step of the way during the last 6 months. Watching your "divorce plans" vlog the other day... wow. I remember you crying in the kitchen saying your life was over, and to see the woman you've become... you are simply radiant and exude grace and humility. Always a pleasure watching your vlogs.. sending love
14:27 wow thank you for saying this- I’ve needed to hear this advice for so long!! ❤
I’m an extremely anxious, overthinking people pleaser and I think with my emotions. I ALWAYS jump to these made up conclusions in my head about other people or situations and internally spiral about NOTHING.
even though i sit here silently watching, with no questions or comments, i need you to know that you have no idea how much you have helped me. im sure ive told you this before. if you come to Australia i would love to catch up fopr a coffee.xx
You have to respect the past self that dealt with Andrew. Do not beat yourself up over what you did. Being a person who believes in a person who did you wrong is not on you. In order to become completed, we have to fully accept the past versions of ourselves. You did nothing wrong. People are mirrors. Those who judge you have issues within themselves that cause them to lash out at you.
The amount of progress and healing and self improvement you've done is inspiring. You've done so much in just a YEAR. That's crazy! And look how long your hair is getting! You've made me feel like I really can find new friends and have a life like that again.
Some of those questions though lol. There's nothing wrong with cleaning your home before a date or guests comes over or wanting to look nice for your date lol. That's not changing yourself for someone c'mon hahaha.
When I tell you your progress inspired me so much to change my life and my habits... Months ago I was taking so many medications, now I'm a much healthier person, I eat better, I exercise more and I'm down to one pill (metformin) and supplements for my PCOS... I lost hair, I lost weight, I lost emotional baggage, I gained go much confidence, self love, awareness and appreciation for my space.
You were my ✨magic mushroom 🍄 lmao
Hey, maybe that could be our fandom name, "the magic mushrooms"!
Cindy, I just wanted to say that you are a strong woman honestly. You have also helped me through some tough times, just sitting down and watching your videos have taught me that I should keep going and that life will get better. Thank you Cindy.
Your growth is incredible. So proud of you. Keep being a beacon of light for all of your subscribers! ❤
Thank you for this tip to face the facts when you feel like you are going to have a anxiety attack/melt down. I so needed this. Thank you. 😊
I second the person that recommended Crazy Ex-Girlfriend! It's a fantastic show and one of my favorites (If you don't mind semi-musicals). It does a great job of showing someone dealing with her own mental illness in a light-hearted way. I'm actually seeing Rachel Bloom's stand-up tour tonight, funny that came up in a Q&A.
You are such an inspiration for me! Ive been struggling with my mental health and recently started on antidepressants for the first time. Watching you work trough your problems, taking care of your dogs and your apartment gives me motivation and hope for myself. Thank you and good luck! :)
Since I'm seeing reccomendations for Crazy Ex Girlfriend I also reccomend Fleabag, such a hilarious show but also very healing for people who have struggled with romantic relationships in the past
Cindy, it's been awhile since I've watched because I've been dealing with issues of my own. I'm so glad I decided to click on this when I saw it pop up because you've made my day! The Cindy in this video is a completely different Cindy than the one I saw last. Even your voice is different. It sounds the same but you are so much more confident. It's amazing honestly. You look happier and you sound happier. I'm so proud of you girl! 💛💛 Oh and you look great too! The new life looks amazing on you!
I totally understand.. when you have that type of traumabond/codependent relationship and you find out that they’ve betrayed you in that way and your all alone stuck with your thoughts… it will drive you crazy. Your sitting there blaming yourself, wondering what they’re doing and who with, and screaming internally because any control you had was ripped away and now everything seems like a lie. Its a hard spot to be in but i’m so proud your not blaming yourself anymore and you’re finally moving on ❤❤
I have to agree with you about your sense of humor, it's golden.
Everytime my in laws say they’re on their way over, I jump so fast off the sofa and start cleaning cause I don’t want them to think I love living in my dirty hole😂😂
Great Q & A!! Thanks for being so open and honest with us. Love these little chit chats!
I love that with time and insight you would've told your past self exactly what we all were trying to tell you ♥ most of us just furiously want to protect you. Also this is your sign to make peace with B cause life's too short and nothing is that serious ♥
This is a really nice video! That you for sitting down and answering these.
Seeing you answer these questions… Cindy you’ve grown so much! Keep it up I’m so proud of you ❤️
You can truly see your growth as a person when i first started watching you i wasn't hopeful for your change but now Im so glad i kept watching your channel i can tell your therapist gave you so much helpful ways to heal LOVE SEEING YOUR HEALING AND GROWTH❤
Cindy, I love how you said that if we all had to be perfect with our mental health before dating then we'd all be single. Amen to that. 100% true.
I also don't know how I lived past high school honestly. The comment about it being human nature is very true. I guess it's just the curiosity of "I wanna see what's next no matter how fucking awful it's gonna get".
The only real way to live through traumatic events is to constantly work on your thoughts, and it's not the same path for everyone either, but you gotta just remember that a) your thoughts help you cope and survive, your world can't always be sunshine and rainbows, sometimes coping isn't pretty or nice and there's no shame in that
b) your thoughts shape your reality. But they do that ALONGSIDE OTHER PEOPLE'S THOUGHTS. You need to adapt. Create a sort of "mental shield" appropriate for the events you are going through. And then as soon as you get out of a situation you're in start working on throwing these defensive mindsets away, if it's possible (sometimes ptsd happens and well, you still need some habits to survive)
I'm no psychologist, I am just simply a broken man myself who still lives thanks to what I did and how I did it.
I haven't been diagnosed with BPD but I can relate to you so much.
So got to see how far you came, and so inspired by you. You seem very much wiser and very happy now. I’ve seen you grow over past year! Keep on moving Cindy!
i feel like some of her follows are a bit toxic and have a problems with this women moving on and making her own choices ...or are way too invested I've only started watching 2 months glad i did ...but alot of the push seems very parasocial
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Yes sadly. She handled them really though.
One thing about your diet that might work for you - and I’m not concern trolling, I’m a survivor of an eating disorder and have a child with ARFID so I’m pretty well read about nutrition but not a professional dietician or anything - if you can tolerate the idea of only eating vegetables that grow above the ground, and also exclude grains (which includes the corn /maize family) that might be tolerable for you mentally as well as beneficial physically. Roots and tubers tend to be the ones highest in carbs. I have to tell you, my heart sang when I saw you make that guac with tomatoes and lime juice, because a serve of that a couple of times a week will have enough vitamin C (I really think you need to revisit your thoughts about scurvy, you’ve been misinformed if you have been told you can get that from the animal foods you were eating. Your bruising is more likely from low VitC than VitK, because K is fat soluable so you can get it from meat, C is water soluble and destroyed by heat
I’m so proud of u! I was just thinking the other day that you’ve grown sooo much! And I always knew you could do it yay ❤
Also I’m soo happy that you love living in Arkansas
Can't wait for Q&A part 2
Thank you for your honesty. You are so strong and it is amazing how you had grown in the last few months.
You can be proud of yourself that you did not return to your toxic relationchip again. I was in a toxic relationchip for about four years when I was still in university. My Ex had narcisstic tendencies and because of this my low self esteem went even lower. After I had the strenght to move forward and end the relationship it gave me a lot of room to improve on my self and my self esteem.
By the way: Short after the breakup I was casually dating a guy, because I wanted to see if there were any nice men out there. I was not even interested in a new relationship. When I first dated this guy I thought he was not interested in me, because I had never dated such a good looking guy before 😂. Now we are together for seven years and married for three years.
( English is not my first language, but I hope you could unterstand me. Greetings from Germany 💜)
You rocked those questions!! Good for you! People really think they know you and I find that funny and creepy. You obviously are doing better and I am so happy for you.!! Much love from Iowa. ❤️🦋❤️🦋❤️
you are looking incredible!! happy to see you much happier ❤
Thank you for answering my questions ❤️ I can see your point of view much better now 💞
Also sorry for the weird wording, English is my third language 😵💫
@@lilacheaven222 No weird wording- you're doing wonderfully!
That third (?) question (series of questions) was ridiculous lol! "Are you cleaning your apartment for him?" Everybody cleans when someone is coming over! It's the nice, polite thing to do! As for appearance and dietary changes due to him, I feel like this is par for the course. Speaking more on the appearance side here, of course you would want to look nice for him and wear nice clothes while you're on a date. People don't exist in a vacuum; we exist alongside other people, so it's only obvious we edit or modify our behavior when we're around others.
Everybody villainizes even the slightest change in appearance or demeanor when you have a new romantic interest, but those "changes" are not negative in any sense just because you're "changing" an aspect of yourself in the first place. As I said, we exist alongside others in the world. Why would you NOT change into a dress for a date? Sure, when we're alone might only wear pajamas, but let's not pretend like other people don't exist and that it's not nice to look your best in front of others. I don't see how "changing" or wearing makeup on a date versus none when you have a day in at home is negative. Not that you wear pajamas all day and never wear makeup outside of dates lol but I figured I would compare some common behaviors of others here in their more extreme sense.
It's only natural you want to look your best for a new romantic interest. It's only NATURAL you would want to take his opinion into consideration and his actions towards you (i.e. eating the salad he made you). And of course it's only natural you would clean for him when you would have otherwise not done a deep dive on the apartment that day.
Anybody who tries to scare you out of this relationship by convincing you that you are repeating old patterns clearly do not understand that we are social creatures, so of course we "change" aspects of ourself in front of others versus when we're alone. This hyper individualistic attitude is getting old. Not everything exists independently of you, and neither do behaviors.
Your hair looks so luscious 😍
it is like night and day seing you now vs January. you look so confident.
I just found your channel. I'll definitely be binge watching in my spare time. I think you're a doll, a natural motivational speaker. Life is hard. It's great to see you thriving.
Cindy, thank you So much for your honesty and humor. And ability to self- reflect, which is only growing. I am wondering, do you see your therapist in person or online? I am considering but don't have much money. Again, thanks for your transparency.
I see her online. She's the therapist I used to see in-person in Colorado, but now we just do online sessions. But there are a lot of online services where you can find low-cost therapists if you are in need of one.
@@LifePlusCindy Thanks! I'm glad that online works for you. I think the fact that you saw her in person first probably helped you to immediately have a good online connection. I'm happy for you. I may try it...
You are one smart cookie and speak so well! You definitely will be an inspiration to others!
Your hair is looking really good it seems like it's feeling in on top please don't color it The color is absolutely beautiful
You gave some really good advice in this vid!! I found it very helpful, thanks and hope your doing well 😊
Unrelated from the questions, but I feel like Bella was staring right into my soul in the beginning of the video. ☠️
I too just cleaned my house before my guests come over, totally normal haha
So proud of you, Cindy!!! ❤️❤️
SN: As a native Arkansan myself I fully understand not wanting to leave 😩😩 that’s one of the reasons I don’t visit often either
Cindy everything you said - you are speaking to me on some deep level. Maybe it’s because I’m so raw. Because I came last Saturday night after being gone one hour with my fiancé and my kitten was dead on the floor- leaving his bonded brother. I’m off work and I am mind reading
I don't think these people know what a lolcow is. I think they're more into spilling tea and drama which isn't the same thing. Think Chris-chan vs Creepshow Art. It'll never not be weird to me how people keep trying to die on that hill. Either way, I'm super glad to see the progress. These are the sort of changes that will stick.
It's also kind of bizarre how excited they are to lump her in with those people.
@@MistressElf Yeah. I've said it a lot but I'm pretty sure they just got bored with the lull in content from other youtubers that are lolcows and needed someone to compare themselves to and be better than, so they encountered Cindy at the perfect time. It's easy to shit all over someone hitting rock bottom and struggling with a toxic relationship, but not so easy when that same person shows that they're learning and improving.
I tbh didn’t know what lolcow meant till I looked it up. But you are right, they seem more interested in spilling and getting tea. And are probably really bored.
Cindy, you are absolutely amazing, and so much stronger than I think u realize, I absolutely adore you, I feel like I’ve known you forever, I wish I could actually talk to you face to face, I feel like we’d be such good friends, I hope you see this comment and just know you definitely have a friend here in Ohio, sending you love and positivity to help you continue being the truly beautiful wonderful human being that u are, can’t wait to see how things keep getting better for you. You are 🔥🔥🔥lots of love from Ohio.😊
Your hair looks beautiful.❤
Hey I am a little behind and I'm just now watching your livestream from this week. Just wanted to say if your looking for more games to play on stream try geoguesser. Its a guessing game where you have to figure out where you are in the world from a picture. Also jack box party games are really fun to play with other people as well. They have a lot of different options for games to play and anyone can join as long as they have a phone. 🙂 Just wanted to share some for you because I really enjoy watching the livestream replays after you do them. 😃
Having boundaries in a relationship is crucial. Me and my partner have been in a relationship for almost a year now wow, and we are having a very fun queer platonic relationship.
Thank you Cind, this was helpful for me too
The Stanley Hotel!!! Are you going to do the Shining tour?
I just wanted to add when you say what helped you get thru such a difficult time.. is also social media. It's not all bad. It's easy to forget that. But i do think your subscribers sitting thru so many live streams with you kept you company and helped you not to feel so alone, also it's cathartic to vent and talk about your problems. Just wanted to point that out.. hope you don't stop being so vulnerable It's what made so many drawn to your channel and also we need more vulnerability in this world so we all don't feel so alone!
Thank you so much for answering my questions cindy loved the video a d take care of yourself
I love your answer to the first question, spot on 💯💯
Your hair are still improving 😂 I have to check old videos to see what are you using
I enjoy watching you grow and thrive my friend!!!
Thank you!
@@LifePlusCindy no thanks needed my friend. I have been watching for some time and had been cheering on every victory and sending positive vibes during the set backs. Don’t ever stop being you Cindy, you are an amazing spirit and deserve so much happiness.
you're doing great ❤
Thank you so much!
Hello Cindy! Love the video!!!! Got a quick question. What kind of web cam are you using? I need to get a new one and the videos yours are putting out seem like great quality.
I feel your answer to "How you got through it" was maybe an oversight on your part to Not see how your channel maybe has what helped you through this, and it's kind of proven...that talking about it, does wonders.
Thank you for the video! Sending angel energy to you
I adore your videos and your company! The evolution and progress in your outlook and attitude towards life is insane. Thank you for this video.
QUEEN!!!
There you go my little pocket rocket. You are becoming the woman you shoud be and going from strength to strength. Go get ‘em 🇬🇧🙏🏻🤓💕
YOU GO GIRL. That's it that's all.
Btw do you make your own shampoo or conditioner? Your hair looks so silky.
Love how u answered everything. U know your worth girl❤
Uncle acid is so good live!
If you make it down to Australia make sure you come to Brisbane! We have the most beautiful (clean) city lol
Really proud of your progress Cindy! ❤
I have the original Ariel doll!!! If it's not ruined. Lol. She's in a box with all of my old barbies in my parents shed unless they threw them away. I'll have to look and see the next time I go and I'd love to send her to you!
you rock, cindy ❤
The pursuit to maintain your independence is wonderful and on top of proving your strength will also keep your romance passionate! You're becoming such an independent girlboss and I am LIVING for it!! 💕🙏
Love the Q&A❤