I was an EMT for years. People ask "what's the worst thing you've seen?". Worst thing I saw was a man sitting next to his wife's bed in a nursing home, weeping, saying "Please tell me my name, please say you remember me". Brutal.
...They say "Don't commit suicide! It gets better!" Forgetting everyone and everything, and the body deteriorating doesn't feel like "getting better" to me. Getting old sucks, lol. It's becoming harder each year for me to hold out hope.
It must be hard to see glimpses of her true self and she remembers you and then doesn't. But, he sure did make the best of it and she did show love back. I wish him well, and sorry for his loss. RIP
That's selfish. Imagine how she feels. She doesn't know... can you imagine the torment? I'm sure he was accepting as he is an amazing human being and knows it isn't her, but it is a disease.
We all have a tendency to ask those with dementia such questions as "Do you know who I am?" or "Do you recognize me?" Dementia care experts encourage us not to ask these type of questions as they can be very difficult for those with dementia and make them feel worse. It is normally best simply to introduce ourselves in greeting, "Good morning, Beth. I am Nate, your husband, and I love you."
My wife had dementia for the last 6 months of her life. Fortunately, I was able to look after her, at home, and not in a nursing home. She was bed-ridden, so I didn't have worry about her wondering off. She was on a lot of meds, so when I went in to give her meds, she remembered me being her husband and fought with me on taking them. (I was the bad guy.) But when I joked around with her, she forgot I was her husband and thought I was her boyfriend. (The good guy.) So, every couple of weeks, as her "boyfriend", I would propose to her, asking her to leave her husband and marry me, instead. She would get this big grin on her face and said, "YES". Toward the end, she thought I was her doctor. And she would ask me every night (with a big look of concern on her face), if I could spend the night with her and I would tell her that I assigned all of my other patients to another doctor and that she was my only patient and YES, I would be sleeping right next to her. She would get this big look of relief on her face. We were married 34 years. Dear God, I miss that woman. I ask Jesus everyday to tell her that I love her and that I miss her.
I'm so sorry for what you went through and I'm deeply sorry for your loss. It sounds like you 2 had some pretty good days at the end. Do you mind me asking how old she was?
@@ricardcluter4765 so sorry to hear about this Ricard! You took such good care of her; I just know that she is appreciating all that you've done for her from heaven! I wish you a very healthy and happy rest of your life, and I hope you find inner peace. Sending my kindest regards ❤️
I know this is very late, but her spirit has certainly known what you've done for her and I know she loves you to this day and knows the love you had and have for her. You are a good person.
I currently live with both my parents, who have dementia, my Dad is 87 and Mom is 80. Some days are really hard and humbling. I am 50 and people put me down for living with my parents, but they need help and protection, I do all the cleaning, cooking, yard work, etc., no support from my brother. I do the best I can, it is hard.
When my Mom was diagnosed, I will never forget what the Doctor told me. "Alzheimer's has the unique distinction of being the only disease that makes you say goodbye twice. First you say goodbye to the person you love, then you say goodbye to a stranger " 😔
My mum has it atm. She’s just turned 60 today. You broke my heart reading this because it’s so true. It’s the worst disease in the whole world. It’s so fucked up. I’m 29. Life is unfair.
I met a lady who told me her husband got Alzheimer’s at 36. She said one day he got lost coming home from work (he had worked there over 10 years) and by the time his diagnosis came, he was in an advanced stage. He passed away two years later and she said his parents and grandparents never had it.
My wife and I were just arguing in the kitchen over stupid cat litter box, I came to the garage and utube took me here. When I finish crying I’m going back in and tell my wife how much I love her and cherish our moments. Life is too short.❤️
You should understand you are blessed to not only have her in your life but the cat as well. Non human animals live a very short life, stop causing so much discord in your house for her and the animals. Men like you are trash.
My girl seems to have a pretty bad memory as it is now and she’s 18 😂 so I know once we get old I’ll have this heart break. I jokingly say it now but I already know what typa timing it is
crist tamiel I disagree. There are some little things that jog in the brain and she will have a brief memory of him, the active communication shows that. You can see when a person with dementia doesn’t recognise you, they are usually a little frightened like a very old person who can easily get upset. My grandmother had it and didn’t know me at all (I’m the youngest and as an adult I look nothing like I did as a child). She would always look at me suspiciously and be very wary of me. When she got to the stage of complete off with the fairies she was suspicious of everyone and scared of everyone. Usually it seems if you recognise someone you’re warm to them, you’re not just warm naturally with dementia as it is a confusing and frightening state.
@@MasteringSilence Would you really want dimentia to be the way your friends and family remember you? My grandmother has severe alzheimers and she can't even recognize her own son. She could be spending all day with my dad and she'd repeatedly ask him "who are you" in a suspicious tone. Once my aunt (who's house she was living at for a while) told her she can't dump hot ashes from the fireplace in the trash. My grandmother got very aggressive and made death threats against my aunt over this. The only semblance of the person she used to be is her annoying laugh and her still impressive skill at NYT crosswords. Alzheimers is terrifying and I'd rather be euthanized than live while my brain rots away and I don't know who anyone is and have no memory of anything more than 10 seconds ago. Any memories your family would make with you will be of sadness, as you cease to be the person they love.
@@kennyg5235 , Medical Medium is a charlatan. Although heavy metal toxicity has been linked to neurological injury and may very well play a role in one's development of Alzheimer disease, Alzheimer disease is now clinically recognized as type -3 diabetes / insulin resistance of the brain. Anyone not acknowledging this fact at this point, has an agenda or is completely ignorant of the current facts and evidence . Either way, they are incompetent and shouldn't be taken seriously.
Zen Mind If science has “recognized” the true cause of Alzheimer’s disease then where are all the recovered people? If they figured it out then millions should be recovering right now, considering every 3 seconds someone develops the disease. Why does science and research not have a handle on this disease if they know what causes it? Claiming to know the cause or name of a disease doesn’t heal anyone. It’s just confusing. Just because someone doesn’t praise science doesn’t mean they are a huckster. Clearly Anthony has some knowledge considering there are thousands upon thousands of healing testimonials and photos. You are just going to say they are actors getting paid right? Lmao. Give me a break. No one gets the results Anthony does. Science just claims faulty genes and your own body attacking itself is what causes illness. What a joke medical science has become. This is the truth about Alzheimer’s ~> Studies prove that mercury causes three of the hallmark symptoms of Alzheimer’s disease - proof provided below in video. Cheers! th-cam.com/video/8AQxkIcXrt0/w-d-xo.html
@@hq2t554 Even in an older person you can see a rapid change. Our mom was in her early 70's when diagnosed, when we look back at the pictures we can see such a difference.
As a current researcher in drugs against Alzheimer's disease I really feel that this is a field of research that deserves much more attention and focus from relevant institutions. AD is such a horrible disease for everyone around the patient. I have so much respect and compassion for everyone who have gone through something like this with someone they love.
BS. If he is such a good husband, why can’t he keep her at home with some hired help to let her stay in her own home? He has to pay for her to live away from him. She goes all the way up to greet him when he come to visit while he doesn’t even advance 1 step to meet her. Best husband. What a laugh!
The Crusader, I wouldn’t joke about something as serious as this. I just think he could keep her at home instead of putting her away. He could take care of her himself. He looks young enough. He could hire some help so she could stay home instead of putting her in a place.!
My grandmother who passed last March, had this and it got to a point where my parents didn't even let me go because everytime I saw her I would nearly break down crying, one time I did and my grandmother said "Charlotte (she forgot my name) please don't cry, you're a lovely young lady, I don't want to see you cry" That just increased the tears so my parents drove me back home. I saw her 2 days before she passed just so I could say my goodbyes, the last words she said to me were "I don't know who you are, but I know that without a shadow of a doubt, I love you"
Her last essence inside her knew you were someone near and dear to her heart the love you was her confirmation sorry the tears in my eyes hurt so much ,😔🙏be well stay strong with love always you keep them close to your heart 😊 always blessed one...
I'm sorry for your pain and loss and I'm sure your grandmother thought the world of you until the end and knew that even without being able to place a name to your face.
The way her husband handled this was absolutely incredible. With Alzheimers, it’s about the emotions you feel, not what you remember. As long as she’s comfortable, having someone that can give her the feelings of love and care is as much as you could ask for
I worked in an Emi dementia care home as an activities co-ordinator, you're so right about emotions etc. I had a visitor complain to me about playing the same songs alot ...but he didn't realise that most of the residents would react the best to those songs and be transported back in time, they would even get up and dance with eachother ...sometimes even the most 'far gone' would come to life .
I'd prefer they'd kill me rather than let me rot away in such a pathetic way. At least spare my dignity and remember me the way I was, not as a blundering idiot. I truly don't understand why people cling so much to life when it's not worth it.
@@mrkiky It's your life, so your choice. But don't judge others for choosing differently. It's his wife, they've been together for half of their lives, of course he doesn't want to just end it all. He'd rather care for her, and see her smile, and go through this together, however long she may have left. I bet if it was somebody you loved with all your heart, you wouldn't be so cold-blooded about it.
I'm still angry over losing my Dad to Alzheimer's in 2017. I watched this incredibly sharp, quick witted man fade away. I still can't talk about him without crying.
@@Januarybla no...this is a horrible disease which causes a reverse effect on your cognitive abilities. Think of the persons brain shrinking, they become like a child then as helpless as a baby. Can hit a person at any age at any time. Its not just a memory loss like forgetting stuff...its a shutting down of the brain till the person can no longer think right. They eventually lose the ability to eat, drink, till finally...breathe. Everything just starts shutting down. I hope that answers your question.
My great grandmother is 96, and I went through this with her. I write short novels and when I was younger and she was still herself, I would always tell her stories. As her dementia worsened, I had to shorten them to help her remember, and then I started to realise that she had forgotten the story I told her two weeks ago (I would visit her on the weekend every two weeks). Because I knew that she would forget the story by the next time I came, I remembered which one she enjoyed the most and told her that same story every time I saw her. I did that for years. Unfortunately, she’s not in a state to understand me now so I can’t tell it anymore. Eventually she forgot who I was, that I was related to her, but still remembers me as ‘the girl who tells stories’, and that made me so happy. I think she really enjoyed our time together, as much as I did.
I literally am in the same place. I'm here to say I'm sorry, i understand. Mine is around 93 years old but she's so cool no one truly know? I love her more than anyone else because she literally raised me. I wouldn't be alive without her. Shes the strongest and most beautiful human i know. My mother , grandmother, and by blood funnily enough, great-granma! Mi abuelita. I was her Bordon , her muñequita, preciosa. I slowly started to see her fade around 2016 , then in 2019 she broke her hip and has been bed ridden since. I break down so badly at the thought of losing her, it's hard even writing this. A year ago we had seen her reach her death bed, but just this year she went on and beat COVID by herself without infecting anyone and having complications.. she's just amazing. But i feel horribly lost without her. She only remembers me as a child and asks for me to be looked after constant. It sears Mt hear honestly I'm broken but seeing this here. I can face her now. I'm not a monster for hiding from this painful thing. I don't know how but I'll go sooner And start trying to build more idk. Something or maybe nothing ever gets better because i don't think it can but. I want to hold her. Christ i can't keep writing but it felt right. I'm so fucking sorry this is happening to us and i want to hug you like I'd hug myself . I'm here. I remember. I'll never forget.
So if she always remembers you as the girl who tells stories why did you stop telling stories is because you felt like she didn't realize it she just told you she realized it by calling you the girl who tells stories I'm sorry you gave up on telling stories you shouldn't have I'm not judging you I'm just saying you could have done better
@@GudJonnyCakes her dementia is so bad now that it’s hard to keep a conversation with her, most of what she says is just nonsense. If I begin to tell her her favourite story, by the second line she is already confused by what I’m saying, so I stopped in fear of confusing and scaring her. Thank you for your kind words ❤️
@@GudJonnyCakes seriously? your response is “you could have done better”? that’s really no way to respond to someone going through that situation. either be helpful or be quiet.
I'm sure she was dyeing hair before. He skins stayed luminous but her eyes started to lose their spark. It was most sad when she responded with "I love you," & she wasn't sure who he was. Wonder if she even knew what love means...she could be like a child and not even know the meaning of words, just hears them and repeats them. What a lovely man to stay by her side in all this.
@z but he still visited her. If this happened to me, I would except it but hope the woman respected what my husband and I had and always treated him kind.
@z but he can have a gf or not? He take care of his wife with AH but I don't think its unfaithful to feed the own needs. Common, must he hump on his wife who's probably not even experiencing sexual needs anymore? Just beeing realistic here no sugar no Disney endings
What a sweet lady. This disease is so sad. Her husband is an angel for all the love, patience and care he showed her. And even though condition was deteriorating, you could still see so much love in her eyes when she looked at him.
@@kaylabillings785 she needed help. Not everyone can take care of someone suffering so badly. It doesn’t mean they don’t care. He might be very busy with life and not be able to support her as much as she needs.
@@damienholland8103 , if you have money. Also the medicines dont work for everyone. Plus if you combine HIV/AIDS with something else like diabetes, or any other infection, they can decline fast. People still die from complications of Aids.
For those who have loved ones with dementia - this husband is a model example of how to treat those who have it. Correcting their word salad and asking them “don’t you remember this!?” is scary and unhelpful for them. The man in this video handled such a devastating illness with such love and grace. This is beautiful and devastating in equal measure. Thank you so much for sharing this 💗
My wife left me 5 years ago because I lost my job , we had only been married 4 years , but while I was working and giving her 1000 bucks a week everything was fine , but one small bump in the road and oh I'm a loser pos , got to go , I tried to tell her that everything was going to be fine , I was only unemployed for about 5 months , she wouldn't hear it , well she told me to leave , I wound up sleeping on a cot in a rented room living out of a travel bag , but I found another job making more than I had ever made in my life and now I'm debt free except for living expenses , single and stacking cash , and minus one gold digging ex wife .
I love how he says “Do you know who I am? Not so much today, huh?” it’s so endearing and said with such love. I lost my Grandpa to Alzheimer’s and had to quickly get used to someone you love simply having no idea who you are at times. It’s an absolute rollercoaster of an illness - sometimes even funny at times when they come out with odd and out-of-character behaviour (which is seen in this video), but overall an awful and cruel condition that rids people of their independence and personality. This video is great because it shows that often the most horrible circumstances can bring out the best in people❤️
I never, ever asked my grandmothers such a question. I popped in the doors of their respective rooms and announced myself by name and relation (Good morning. I'm ____ and I am your ______.) My visits went much smoother than those of our relatives who insisted on asking over and over again, "Do you know me?" Or "Do you know who I am ?"
My Mom died last month after her struggles with Dementia for 7 years. She hadn't known who I was for a long time. It's been hard to feel sorrow at her passing, yet the woman who was my mom left me years ago. I visited with her weekly at the care facility; for the past 18 months, she was coldly polite, or ignored me, or asked why I was bothering her. I used to take her a bag of her favorite M&M's every week, and she called me "the candy person". Then she started throwing the bag back, saying she didn't like M&M's and refused to eat them. Then, this woman who couldn't kill a fly, became violent, attacked an aide, began throwing things, and back-handed me. Dementia and Alzheimers are horrible diseases which rob us of our loved ones long before they die.
I'm so sorry for your experiences. My 86 yr old mother is getting forgetful, short tempered at times and often rude, but nothing like this. I'll count my blessings and pray you are healing at this point in time. It must be awful. Hugs and best wishes.
@@Mouseythegreat There is no dispute the condition exists or that it could have evolutionary advantages. But to" think depression is a similar thing, an internal switch to cause someone to kill themselves when they aren't as effective towards supporting the group" [because women are post-reproductive] is just wild, unfalsifiable conjecture. Men aren't post-reproductive and they have roughly the same rate or early onset dementia as women do.
As a psychiatric nurse practitioner who specializes in treating persons with dementia, I thank you with all my heart for letting us into your life. This is a poignant video which truly demonstrates the long goodbye. You have helped others to understand this terrible disease.
I know this is heartbreaking, but she was loved and cared for. I worked in a nursing home for eight years, so many dementia patients not one family member came. She was blessed to have those that loved her, until the end. If she could watch herself as it happened, i’m sure she would feel so grateful and loved.
@@Nthstar The really sad part is, they already took everything and then left them to rot in a nursing home. When you put a family member into a nursing home, a family member will get “ power of attorney”. That means even if you are still alive, you can no longer take care of yourself so all of your things and finances goes to the person that files for power of attorney for you. So they already got the money, so they just let them die. It’s absolutely heartbreaking and disgusting.
TH-cam: “Wanna cry?” Me: “Not really.” TH-cam: “What was that? You say that you’re taking everything you have for granted and need a reality check?” Me: “What?”
My mom also died from early-onset frontotemporal dementia. Caregiving was the best and hardest work I ever took on. Our local chapter of the Alzheimers Foundation was extremely helpful with respite care, a support group for caregivers and other resources.
My lovely mum has this cruel disease .She’s 83 I have to be strong for her .my family want to put her in a home . I’m saying NO. Please pray for me everyone that everything will be okay 🌸
My dad just turned 58 and he's had Alzheimer's since 50. They've been giving him medication for his memory and for some reason he can talk better as time goes on, before I had to translate almost everything. He used to be a truck driver. I was in highschool when he started acting different. Burning food, laying on the couch all the time, asking the same questions over and over and over. He pissed me off soo many times until one morning I just stopped being mad and thought of the possibility that something was very wrong. I waited for him to act normal again so I could resume my anger, but it never stopped and kept getting worse. Family dismissed my concerns and blamed drugs. Neither of us were wrong, he had a spice addiction and probably other shit I didn't know about. I'm the only daughter who visits him, along with my grandparents. Everyone else treats him as if he's already dead. I love my dad despite the things he's done, I just wish he made better choices.
My dad passed in '91 after a 5-year battle with Alzheimer's Disease. Started with undeniable forgetfulness. Things like arriving home from work, but leaving the car running with the door open. Then progressed to not being able to put on a t-shirt. Several car accidents mistaking the accelerator for the brake. Talk about denial. We took care of him as long as we could before assisted living. Really makes you appreciate sanity and realize just how volatile it actually is. So sad, this poor woman was so young. Thanks for sharing the video.
My opinion on the “Do you know who I am?” question and (lack of) answer: Based on watching her pawn over her husband through most of this video I think she knew EXACTLY who he was but just couldn’t verbalize it. Like a long day out drinking for us lucky ones. She obviously loved him but couldn’t verbalize WHO he was by name. Sad topic but such a GREAT video.
That's exactly why this disease is so nasty! My mother-in-law had five months of it, going from normal every day to not knowing her son and daughter before finally forgetting how to eat and drink. We were I suppose lucky that it progressed so quickly as the doctor called us in to advise she had a few weeks or perhaps a month or so but she actually went to sleep that night and never awoke. She had always said she didn't want a care home as we were to get the family home but at the end she couldn't look after herself and we weren't capable of supplying the required care so her last seven weeks were in a lovely care home at £1,000 a week. She got her wish that we would I inherit the house!
Nope. When she doesn't know who he is, she doesn't know who he is. That doesn't mean he doesn't represent the same things to her like comfort and caring for her. My mom has dementia and it's a profound learning experience to see someone going through it. It's not always horrible, but it is really hard and sad at times. 👍
@@guitarista67 Well in her five months my mother-in-law just went downhill quickly as two months in, she stopped recognising anyone in photographs be that grandchildren, friends or family. Especially hard on my wife and her brother as they would just sit with her trying to make conversation as she tugged and pulled at her clothing while constantly complaining about THIS, although she couldn't explain what THIS was. She was being fed and changed after four months after which there were no more lucid moments ending up totally oblivious to her son and daughter. Just one horrendous disease!
I suppose the only solace in this is knowing that they aren't physically hurting like with a cancer or ALS or something along those lines, this hurts those around the patient.
God bless? Don't be such a tit. After all, god created this disease, and chooses who gets it. Don't bless god, you should be bad at such a malevolent sky genie. Luckily it's extremely unlikely he even exists. Imagine thanking someone for giving you such a disease.
This is so incredibly sad and at the same time absolutely beautiful. What an amazing husband to be there for her and love her through the rest of her life. God bless you!!
Lost my wife to cancer at 39, was diagnosed with MS when I was 45, and my older brother is 56 and has advanced alzheimers. It doesnt even run in our family. Life's full of trials, and even on best days, it's easy to feel robbed. But troubles also remind us to treasure what we have, because it can all be gone in an instant. Our 💘 is one of the few things over which we truly have control.
@@slaqualquercoisamemo5117 as Peter said, it's Multiple Sclerosis. It's a disease where the immune system eats away at the protective layer of nerves, which makes them much more susceptible to damage. You begin to lose feeling at the extremities, and you feel really tired. It generally gets worse over time.
I used to work as a nurse, and I worked in a home specifically for dementia and Alzheimer’s patients. I had a woman in her 40s who had early onset dementia and it was so sad. Her husband came to visit her every single day.
Dementia took my grandpa really fast.... less than a month. He didn't know anyone except for me. We watched point break together and he was loving it. RIP Gpa.... take care of my mom up there.
I lost my mom in June of 2017. I just watched as she slowly let us, and I couldn't do anything to help. These videos just bring the sadness back. I love you Mom.
I feel your pain brother, but I don't know how to deal with it. My dad was diagnosed 2 years ago it still doesn't seem real, but the signs are really starting to show.
I'm a social worker in a long term care home. Dementia is a nightmare. There are a few who are lucky and are "pleasantly confused" but the majority of dementia patients are constantly terrified, paranoid, angry, frustrated, confused and lost. They spend their days seeing and hearing things that are scary to them, they wander the halls like zombies looking for loved ones who they will never find, sitting on chairs waiting for buses to take them home that will never come or screaming and calling out in terror because they are confused about where they are. Please, take it from me, if your country has a Medical Assistance in Death program, talk to your loved one early enough to sign up for it so that they can die with dignity when the time comes. The slow death due to dementia is a torture and no way to spend your last days.
I told my husband this that if I ever get to this point, I would want to die peacefully. While I live in a country where death with dignity exists, the person must take the medication themselves and I don’t know if that is possible when dementia is too far advanced nor do I know if dementia would qualify for medicated death to be an option. I’ll have to look into it once I’m older as I’m only in my 30s now. I watched my grandpa die from a related disease (Alzheimer’s) and it’s horrible both for the affected and those around them.
0:48 "God has blessed us together" - pathetic; aside from 'god' being an invisible, unevidenced mythology book character... - did it not therefore occur to you that if the sewer rat god 'blessed you together' it also GAVE HER DEMENTIA?! - pathetic, uncritical, credulous mindset of the religious is ridiculous
@@tendiesoffmyplate9085 This person is making reference to those good times, and how positive and loving she seemed, despite the situation. You are correct, we don’t get the full picture, but even then, you still make make inferences on these things.
My uncle that recently passed, had Alzheimer’s, he was on the last stage, didn’t remember anyone anymore but he was always so happy & welcoming to “new” faces, we miss him tremendously but know he lived a wonderful, fulfilling life 🤍
My father was diagnosed at 54. I was not even 20. It‘s such a hard goodbye. A death you cannot really grief for, as the person you love is still with you.
Man, this just broke my heart in little pieces I was arguing with my wife and looking at this just made me realize I have everything and there’s no enough reasons for fighting her, you mr you are a real man, hope god gives you a hand and a miracle happen to you.
3:48 I once looked after a patient in her early fifties, as a carer during my nursing degree, who exhibited the same level of functional ability in terms of mobility and speech. However, she was deeply unhappy - whatever trauma she suffered in her younger years meant she was always seeing people from her past. I still remember her incessant screaming to this day. She had been newly admitted to the acute medical unit. We tried all kinds of distraction therapies to help her; she did not respond to anything (she threw the radio across the room and broke it) and even her son could not console her. I still clearly remember her screaming and thrashing about in her wheelchair as the nurses and security team escorted her to the mental health unit. It was horrible and I felt so sad for her. Since meeting that lady I have had a deep fear of early-onset dementia. We really need to improve research funding for all forms of dementia.
I'm 15 and since 13 years old, my grandma is starting to lose all memory too. Last time I visited her, I broke down in tears because my whole family had to be re-introduced to her even though we've all been seeing her for as long as any of us can remember. Cherish your loved ones
I lost my granda to it when i was the same age. I'll never forget going to visit her and she couldn't remember any of us. I remember the last days when she had lost her mind completely, and I could not go. I broke down in the car on my last visit. She would look after me while my mum was at work, take me to school and make homemade biscuits when i got back. For her to not even know who I was hurt so bad when I was young, that I never wanted to see her like that again. My thoughts are with you and your family.
My mom has dementia. And she doesn't talk a lot. But when she gets her medication she is more relaxed and THEN she talks. So I took the opportunity and asked her if she knows who I am. She said no. So there's that.
Well that's kind of a stupid question to ask a family member is it? That's what I always think when I talk to my alzheimers father it's all the normie ppl like you my mother that treat him like shit trying to test him and put on the spot in the hot seat. You'll get alzheimers too for your indiscretions bish
@@TheOne-tl6nj Wow you must be the biggest disrespectful fuckwit I have ever seen. Relatives ask this question to see if a family member still recognizes them. And here you are, talking shit about something like that. Just fuck off.
I feel so sorry for this couple also it's making me depressed I don't want to get depressed and anxiety I'm being treated for that cuz my father suicide in 2015 and man I am so scared of getting Alzheimer's or dementia I just couldn't finish this video and I'm not going to watch anymore he knows shirt stuff cuz it bothers me
James Edwards the ignorance 🤦🏼♀️ It’s not a damn competition. They’re both equally devastating diseases, who are you to determine which is “worse” than the other?
I lost my mom to cancer. Obviously a very different disease, but the physical wasting and the distant, wandering stare remind me of her in her final month of life. It is so daunting to be a caregiver like this in the final stages of an incapacitating illness, but boy it teaches you the strength true love gives you. God bless this man and may her soul rest in peace.
Yeah, that's not really true in a lot of cases. My uncle and aunt were a great couple but the more my aunt's dementia progressed, the more often she would get aggressive with my uncle when she didn't recognize him. Poor guy had to endure this till he died. Alzheimer's is worse than cancer in my opinion.
@@B4its2L8guy no, it doesn't. What neurons it has are in the peripheral nervous system, so no connection to cognition or conscious processing. I think you might be thinking of the enteric nervous system anyway, which is actually in the stomach. But again, that has no relation to your memory. Memory is mostly contained in "engrams" that are scattered throughout your cortex, the wrinkly layer on the outside of the brain.
@nordhorny last time I checked, the Bible makes no mention saying God is doing control of your actions, after all it literally says that he gives us the power free will, he just knows your actions and knows what's going to happen according to the Bible, as well as the Quran and other religious texts so I don't know why you're trying to play the blame game
Augustine Daudu If your god knows everything before it even happens, why did he create a bunch of bad people (and regular people who disbelieve) knowing that they were destined for eternal fire and brimstone before the universe was even created? Why did he even bother placing the forbidden fruit in the garden of eden? If your god is real (100% improbable!) then he’s a complete asshole!
@@Izakokomarixyz all of that were people's choices. Why do you think people get murdered? Because people choose to do things like a murderer, you can't blame others 4 things that people decide to do. Literally everything that happens is because of people's choices. That is unless you're not choosing to write this comment to try and degrade people rather than focusing on the fact that a woman died from early onset dementia
I'll never get over watching my grandmother deteriorate from what was a bigger, healthier woman to a skeleton like figure, only her skeleton was destroying itself. She worked out daily, took care of herself yet she ended up getting PSP (Ik it's not dementia) One of the worst things I've ever had to witness, was her crying wanting to speak, wanting to get words out while we all were crying and saying goodbye for the last time. We gathered around telling stories, you can tell she remembered them, by her heart rate accelerating and her making noises trying to communicate. All she could do was react. It was so unbelievably depressing to witness. I'm so glad, she isn't suffering anymore. But God damnit I wish she was here still
When he asked her if she knew who he was and said "not so much today." How hard that must have been and how sweet he is to her! That's the definition of love. That man is an angel to his wife. Lots of men could learn some lessons from this video.
Maybe it would have been best if he didn't post this. Makes people feel real bad. Not nice. There's a lot of nasty illnesses out there with wonderful agencies trying to find cures worldwide without a hurtful delivery. Please help and contribute to find cures.
i work in a long term care facility on a ward that is only for people with dementia. Sadly 90% of my residents never have any visitors. It breaks my heart when the family just dumps them there and forgets about them.
My grandfather died of it and my mom is in early stages, it is a very hard thing to deal with and most people can only handle seeing a loved one decline for so long, while it is sad I don't blame people for not wanting to deal with watching this happen to someone you love and until you walk in those shoes...
they don't come because they hate seeing their love one like this, can't communicate with them. Families need help in dealing with and understanding the needs of patients. Hugs mean a lot, patient just can't express it. Sad, hope there's a cure soon.
they don't come because it does hurt. On the other hand it helps with the patents memory and improves their quality of life as well as their activates of daily living. You would be shocked how much one visit from a loved one who they seem to not remember will improve the rest of the day of them
yes, I do believe that, I worked at a place like that also. Patients do react to this by actions but can't express it with words, and that's what family members do not understand. Sad
Sometimes its not that they "forget". Some of these people, like my parents become violent, malicious and literally crazy. Plus some of these elderly people, even when they were healthy, weren't very good parents and were abusive. So some people just move on.
So sad. My dad was diagnosed about 15 years ago. I quit my job to take care of him full time, he had a good retirement as a fire captain so I could get by with that money coming in. My great wife worked full time and put her life with me on hold so I could do this for him. As my father went through all the stages of the disease I was so glad my mom was gone before him, I do not believe she could have watch it happen to him. It was the Hardest thing I ever had to do. There were days I felt as if my heart was going to stop with the unbearable weight of sadness that was upon me. I had my dad with me for 6 years before he was at rest with my mom. I remember the joy and sadness I felt when he went home. It took months for me not to wake up and run to see if he was ok after he was gone. I still feel guilt that maybe I could have done better for him but I did the best that I could. He was always feed, clean and cared for. But I guess we who have gone through such A horrible disease with our loved ones always feels that way. God Bless us who care for them.
You were a good son and I'm sure you're Dad would've appreciated everything you did, though he could never tell you. I'm glad he's at rest with your Mum. Take care of yourself and enjoy your life. You've also earned it.
Im sure he was thankful for everything you've done, knowing it means really a lot, especially to him. I'm glad he wasn't left behind. Do you feel ok these days?
You did a great thing. My brother and I quit our jobs, willingly, to take care of our mom in her home 24/7 from January 2019 until her passing July 2021. Our dad passed away unexpectedly in Jan 2019. Seeing what happened to our mom would have killed our dad if he were still alive. My brother and I, months later, are still trying to adjust from the 24/7 monitoring we did to keep her in her home. I rented my house to pay for my bills and my brother worked part-time. I lived with mom, my brother came over every day for at least an hour to give me a break and he covered Sat to Mon mornings.
@@mobilehomelife4028 You and your brother are Amazing people!! Yes, I understand that was your parent but still it's a mammoth undertaking. One that requires a LOT of sacrifice and dedication. It's pure heart-driven love!!💜
I'm presently watching my mother go downhill with Alzheimer's. Our family doctor diagnosed it a year ago; I had taken Mom to see him due to some troubling issues like her memory and getting lost driving. He said she'd covered it up pretty well due to her intelligence but it was starting to really affect her life. I kept a close eye on her behavior over the next few months and sure enough, she stopped using tech (computer, tablet, texting on phone, dvd player, cable TV) and her driving habits got more erratic; she got lost trying to find my house (bad) and got lost trying to find the grocery store (worse), and even got lost several times in her own apartment complex (which I only found out about from another resident later). Then she forgot how to start her car. It all came to a head when the cops called me one night to tell me that she was found wandering around downtown this past April, in freezing weather, only a thin sweater for warmth. They brought her back to the apartment and she was pretty incoherent. I don't know if she'd taken extra medication (she was on several things for other health issues) but husband and I ended up spending the night sitting in her apartment waiting for morning to call the doctor's office and get advice on what to do. The doctor recommended that we take her to the hospital. But she couldn't be roused enough to be taken down to our vehicle, so we had to have an ambulance come get her. So she was in the hospital being stabilized for over a month while medicare/insurance red tape went on (I did NOT have financial power of attorney, only the healthcare variety, my mistake). She acted out in a feisty manner but still knew who I was. The hospital staff had to start giving her antipsychotic medications. Finally we found her a spot at an Alzheimer's facility with secure doors. She has recently started thinking that I'm her sister, and she talks of the facility as if it were right across the street from a certain school she went to in junior high. While I was getting my guardianship over her and her estate, the court lawyer paid her a visit to determine if she could attend the court hearing. Nope. She wandered around her room with an article of clothing, trying to find where the (obvious, right there) closet was. Mom had started forgetting to lock the wheels on her walker when sitting on it. They gave her a wheelchair instead so she would have less chance of falls. But she fell anyway a few days ago, and this time broke her hip. Back to the hospital for surgery (done 2 days ago). Doctor was kind and informative but also did not sugarcoat his prognosis for her. He said that typically Alzheimer's patients who have osteoporosis and break a hip, even after hip replacement surgery, have a survival outlook of perhaps a year. This is going to hurt her next younger sister worse than me for sure. I've made my peace with it but my aunt's far away and unable to travel, so I dread the day I have to deal with Mom's demise. What bothers me even more than seeing Mom's decline is knowing that it could happen to me/already be in there, doing slow damage until the day I get lost trying to find a totally familiar place. I really hate that the burden will be on my husband (we have no children). Or he might go first and I'd be at the mercy of whatever entity had to make decisions for me. I will need to look into writing a living will addressing these concerns. Folks, tell your loved ones you love them. Every day if you can. If they get dementia, they might forget how to drive, what your name is, where they live, even who they are.... but they will remember love.
sorry but at the end it was not here anymore. Just a mindless zombie with automatic responses . I love you she responded back was just an automatic response . She didnt knew who he was. He was just a sack of meat
Autumn Spring That's exactly what I realised. My friend's mum has had this disease for 15 years. Her husband adores her and she knows absolutely nobody but him and the love between them is incredible to witness. When he walks into the room she opens her arms to hold him close. She doesn't notice her children or her siblings.
Autumn Spring so true!! Even though this ladies brain forgot her heart sure didn't and thats so beautiful yet heartbreaking to me,these two people where robbed of a future together,jeez,life can be so cruel,what a dreadful condition this is!!
Mil Els even loved some people become aggressive. My great gran was the sweetest person ever and then dementia attacked her. She became suspicious, and physically alternative. It was heartbreaking. Thankfully she didn’t get dementia until almost 90 and after breaking her femur. Most of my memories are they happy times.
If your father has forgiven you, and I'm sure he has because he understands. My belief is that no one can enter Heaven without first forgiving all the little wrongs that were done to them in life, just as they did little wrongs to others. He is most assuredly resting in peace and smiling down upon you.
Watching how everything just slowly started to take over was quite heartbreaking. You are such a strong loving and wonderful husband to her! Both my grandparents were a little over 90 when they passed away but they were just barely on the verge of Alzheimer’s: my grandma just a few weeks before her death started calling us random names and not finishing her sentences and also would start cooking at like 4 am thinking it was 7am, which was when she would usually cook my grandpa and us kids breakfast. My grandpa was still going very strong, he would occasionally forget our names but he still even drove to the same store and gym every other day with no problem. I hope that that will pass down to me and my siblings and we won’t have to go through this.
this is my night mare. every day i wonder how long until my mind leaves me. we can all only hope we will have someone with their faculties in place that will love and care for us like this woman has found. so many people with minds clouded by dementia and schizophrenia will lose themselves being a walking shadow of the person they once were. the long good bye. staring into that black pit. this video is encouraging thank you.
My thoughts exactly. I lost my brother suddenly last year at 32 years old. I'm 29. I know now I have no one to rely on but myself to take care of my parents when they get sick and pass. The full consequence of this hasn't fully set in because of grief, but I know. I am single, probably will be for the rest of my life, so it's all on my shoulders. A medication I'm taking has early onset dementia as one of the side effects, so if my parents die, who will take care of me, when I can't do it myself? Life is cruel.
When he asked, 'do you know who I am?' You can tell by the way her face lights up, she knows full well who he is but just can't remember his name! I've worked with elderly people suffering with various forms of dementia, including Alziemers and I can honestly say the person you once knew is still there, you just have to look a bit deeper. At first it tends to be the very short term memory that is lost, so I use to work with their family and create a memory box using photos, of a fav pet, or wedding photos, holiday snaps, items of a fav place, fav possessions, a fav book etc etc Use music as a tool, or did they play a musical instrument, singing, fav films etc A person's past occupation or fav hobby could be another way to connect with them! Often they'll be able to tell you all sorts about their life from years gone past and remember details like the day they got married, or what song was played at their wedding, or a child's birthday etc but forget where the loo is or what day of the week it is! Just remember the person you loved has not gone anywhere, they are still there, it's just reconnecting with that person is a little more challenging.....
No that’s not true, my grandmother used to say I can’t remember what my memories are of or whom they’re of, she lost her sense of taste and smell and spiralled into depression because she knew that all the parts and memories of whom she was had fragmented and she couldn’t get them to fit, Alzheimer’s is cruel and vile and trying to pretty it up does no service to families trying to cope. It’s like the base board of a jigsaw puzzle the frame is there and so are some pieces but there isn’t enough to make a full picture and what is made makes little to no sense to either the person with Alzheimer’s or their families and friends
@@laurendeaves376 Just because a person can't remember things or gets confused, or can't make sense out of anything, doesn't make them any less of a person. My point is still valid, that person is still there, it just becomes more challenging! I'm not trying to 'pretty' it up as you suggest, it's not easy at all, it's very difficult for the families as well as the person suffering with dementia, it is a very cruel condition.
Agree I also work in hospital with dementia, I played football and bantered with an elderly gentleman who used to be a professional footballer. He at times was like a cabbage but others times he would banter and play really skillfully in the corridor. Show love, make them laugh and comfortable.
@@paradisebreeze1705 Absolutely! I worked on a secure mental unit where the elderly guys had challenging behaviour and mental issues on top of also suffering with dementia. My role included organising activities, keeping them busy, engaged and exercised, trips out and encouraging personal interests and hobbies. So it was a very challenging role, before I arrived they did nothing but watch tv argue, bounce off the walls, smoke and were generally lazy and unfit. Plus they all looked miserable. I'd get them out in the garden, we had a small net and football, we'd have kick abouts, penalty competitions, domino and card game tournaments, picnics, we did gardening, planted veg, grew our own tomatoes and peas, grew beautiful flowers, some of the guys were avid gardeners and enjoyed just watering, weeding and tending to plants etc Trips out included trips to the pub, meals out, just feeding ducks by the river or lake etc We even went to an airport and watched helicopters and planes landing and taking off from the cafe there, just simple things like thats, was really all they needed to keep them occupied etc It would break my heart to see some families who would hardly ever visit, they'd hardly spend 10 mins with their loved one, sit there staring at each other barely a word spoken, I think often they expected their family member to be pleased to see them, strike up a conversation or engage with them in some way. Quite often they have lost that ability, I heard the wife of one chap say, 'It would be better if he was dead', like it was an inconvenience to visit him! I just thought that was such a horrible thing to say, so uncaring! Christmas time, I'd personally make sure everyone had a present 🎁 me and my wife would wrap up dozens of presents and purchase them out of my own pocket, funds were woefully inadequate at work for such things! My wife would even bake cakes and make biscuits for me to take in! One thing that really surprised me was how the guys enjoyed art and being creative, making stuff. I'd set out tables with paints, coloured pens, pencils, paper, brushes etc and they'd sit and do their own thing or watch intrigued as I showed them how to print patterns, make flowers 💐 some just enjoyed colouring in with those intricate colouring books aimed at adults. The creative part of the brain is one of the last affected by dementia. They were all waiting for me to turn up and looking forward to my sessions with them. Maybe it was the homemade cakes and biscuits? But I'd like to think they enjoyed my sessions with them! A very rewarding job, not in terms of money, it was minimum wage, but I didn't do it for money, I did it to help others, do my bit.. It was super stressful sometimes but mostly it was a lot of fun, some of the conversations we'd have were incredible, some of the stories and life experiences they had were fascinating, I like all that stuff and always made it part of my job to find out about the person, their background, from family, from them and from their notes. We had a guy who was a rear gunner in Lancaster bombers during ww2, a spitfire pilot, someone who had been working the landing craft on D-Day etc what a privilege to be amongst such men! 👍
Both my grandmother and grandfather suffered from Alzheimer's/Dementia but it was crazy too see how it affected them differently. My grandfather would forget who I was and constantly ask me the same question every few minutes or so. However, my grandmother would hide her belongings around the house and would end up in tears thinking that someone was stealing from her. The person who she thought who was stealing from her was me. She would write these notes that said that I would never have luck if I never returned the things she thought I had stolen and it was really heart-breaking for me but whenever I saw her in person she would be ecstatic. It was like the person who she thought was stealing from her was a different version of me. I miss them both a lot but man am I glad they both no longer have to go through that hell on earth.
getting younger and younger. All the toxic crap in our environment is responsible for that. Use Round-up ? STOP it...it will do this....and give you cancers......lots of crap in the atmosphere , in the food and in the vaccines. Also use your brain, a lot......both sides.....play an instrument, learn an extra language......Make the brain work out.
This is exactly what "Everywhere at the end of time" represents. Its been a loooong while since a video made me this emotional, and I'm 9 years late to this. I wish peace for her and her family
Kendra Lynne - New Life on a Homestead .....man.....what a wonderful amazing man. Loves her truly unconditionally. Very rare to see that kind of devotion anymore.
du Bb at some stage this is kinder as she needs professional care please don’t judge as someday we all may be forced to make this same very difficult decision
I remember the last time I saw my grandfather, the first person close to me I ever lost. He died from cancer, and I think it was all the meds he was on that messed with his memory. He didn’t recognize my brothers, but when he saw me he said “Hey, you’re the ramen noodle girl!” Every time we would visit, he would make me ramen because I loved it so much. I cannot imagine watching your loved one slowly fade away over time, we only had to bear it during his final days. This disease is probably one of the most heartbreaking to experience/witness. I feel so deeply for everyone that has to live with or around this.
Seeing this video and now reading through all these comments from years past has me holding back tears. I work in a retirement community and I have seen my fair share of dementia and Alzheimer’s. I will never forget when a few years back this could sat down in the dining room to have lunch and the wife started yelling and cussing out her husband when she didn’t remember him and the way he cried. He knew she was gone and she has never remembered him and they were the sweetest couple. He would always visit her in memory care but she never remembered him. Never stoped him though. He is such a loving and brave soul. She passed away earlier this year. This all has just opened up old wounds and I can no longer hold back my tears while typing this.
God you speak for God ! How dare you bring an invisible sky ghost into the mix. If God exists then he is nothing but evil and out to destroy our lives on earth. Save it for your church.
@@1220b ...and satan, the true source of all misery and wickedness, laughs at another blind fool casting recriminations into the face of a gracious, yet just God! Well done deceiver, you caused another of His creations to never consider your hand in the whole lot.
I've taken care of well over a hundred alzheimers patients, one of which got an alzheimers diagnosis in their late 40's. This is a sad journey. I'm happy to see she had a stalwart companion to the end.
I hope the father's side can cancel it out, I doubt it will, however. That's why women can't get certain diseases which men can, as women have two X chromosomes, one to cancel out the other, whereas men have one X one Y.
Morte Vicious Scientists are looking into the possibility that Alzheimer’s can be passed via mitochondrial DNA, but so far there are no clear conclusions. However there are other types of diseases that definitely have been shown to pass this way.
Nagihan Göt Mitochondria are structures inside the cell that have their own DNA which is separate from the DNA in chromosomes in the cell nucleus. Mitochondrial DNA Is always 100% inherited from your mother.
I have a family member that’s in a very sever late stage. Little communication at all, but when she says things, it’s all coherent. She can’t walk at all at this point or do anything at all on her own. Her 90 year old husband, Chaz, has been taking care of her through all this, still at their own home. He’s honestly the strongest man I know, and I’ve never told him that. I’ll change that tomorrow morning. There’s so much to this story… he took her off some of her prescriptions a few years ago and literally everything about her improved. Note where I said she is now, the meds were making her worse, to an extent. The two of them have been probably the most kind, companionate and down to earth humans I’ve ever know. It’s sad to see my great aunt lose most of her lively traits, but it’s nice that she still has her personality.
I worked in an Alzheimer's/dementia unit at a nursing home, I specialized with those people and I preferred them. They were such sweet and caring people, although watching them decline was so difficult for me, but knowing that I was the one to take care of them every day was so rewarding! I loved doing little extra things for each resident because they usually remembered that and remembered they're feelings towards me. Great video!!
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Nah. Its beautiful. One can only hope he/she goes through the entire life cycle. My brother did 7 years in prison, and paroled out to a halfway house in December. He was out for 3 months (and in the halfway house the entire time) and died in a car wreck on the way to work. His girlfriend was driving, and shes basically a vegetable. Crazy. And even more crazy is that my brothers dad (we have the same mom but different dads) died in 1999 in a car wreck at the age of 31. Life is short. Doesnt matter if you're a stillborn, die of crib death at 7 months old, die as a teenager, at 30, 45, 72, or 106.. the human experience just isnt long enough. I love life and hope I live past 100.
My father passed away 4 years ago of Alzheimer’s, Lewy body dementia, and vascular dementia. I miss him so much every day. We could sit and talk for hours, but all that changed as his condition worsened. I am so happy to see her husband still took time with her. My mother and I were with my dad all the time with the exception when he got sick and had to be hospitalized. It was a great honor to care for him.
The late actor Robin Williams suffered from Lewy Body dementia. Terrible disease. Goes to show no amount of fame and fortune really matters. It's the love of family and close friends that sustain us in difficult times.
This makes me miss my grandma … she had dementia and Alzheimer’s… she passed away on august 13 2021 .. she was the most incredible woman I ever knew . She was the most loyal person ever in my life . I miss her dearly . Rest In Peace grandma I love you
I'm a nursing student and have been doing my clinical at a post acute center. It breaks my heart seeing the people with dementia and then see the pictures of them when they were younger.
Ohh good for you, do you want a cookie? What does you having to be a nursing student add to your opinion? Nothing, you just feel the need to include it for the recognition of others and the same goes for everyone else in this comment section that is doing the exact same thing.
Little Jimmy yet you feel the need to complain, how sad Edit: it also adds to their opinion because they have seen and heard and felt the pain coming from families and residents. When you’re an aide or nurse it hurts to watch someone lose themselves. While the average person may experience one or two persons with dementia, nurses may experience working with those affected on the daily.
@@ExcludedShadow This week I just began to think about the people who are caring for my 91-year-old father (in hospice) who is beginning to lose his grip on reality, and how that affects them because they spend so much time with him, must become attached to him somewhat, and have to watch him slowly go away. And they do this over and over and over with people day in day out, week after week, month after month, maybe year after year. During my last visit, Dad asked me to do something completely preposterous, and I of course could not and did not do it, and he was furious with me. I assume he treats them that way at times as well. How do they handle it?
In April 2009 my father had a bad stroke. He walked off and took the search team 2 days to find him. They said if they had not found him when they did a pack of coyotes would have killed him. He dint know where he was, who he was, what day it was or how he got to where he was at. He was sent to the hospital. The first walk in the room I knew something had happened to his brain. He was sitting on the side of the bed dangling his legs like a child. He had the most confused look on his face. It tore my brother up watching our father no longer able to write his own name. A few months later he had a second stroke. Almost died. Then a third one that made him become violent and verbally mean. He lost his memory of all of us and his family. He lived another 8 years after that. He could still walk up till the day he died. Due to the strokes half of his brain had no oxygen. After a stay in the senior mental facility I finally got the full detail of his health. 3 massive strokes. Any day could be the final blow. When he left the mental hospital hospital I had to drive him 12 hrs back home to his nursing home. The sadest part was he tried to offer me money to help pay for the ride. I just said it's ok daddy it's on me. So he sat back and about hr before we finally got to his new NH he started singing to an old song on the radio. That was the only time I ever heard him sing. He passed away March 15 2017. We believe a massive stroke in him sleep. We went to identify the body and was laying like he was sleeping. I love you daddy
My heart broke and smiled all at the same time..I love him for his love and devotion to her,what an example of a REAL MAN and awesome husband..And you can't help but love Chris,such a beautiful lady.. :)
What a nice and good person that woman must have been since she still looks positive and good-tempered even in the depth of her illness, when all checks on the deep personality are lost.
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I was an EMT for years. People ask "what's the worst thing you've seen?". Worst thing I saw was a man sitting next to his wife's bed in a nursing home, weeping, saying "Please tell me my name, please say you remember me". Brutal.
@Smithy18 voluntary euthanasia is a very slippery slope, while most agree with your belief (As do I) it takes only one case to fuck it all up
Having your spouse die is sad. Seeing your spouse react to you like they don't know you has got be even worse. Then they die too.
...They say "Don't commit suicide! It gets better!"
Forgetting everyone and everything, and the body deteriorating doesn't feel like "getting better" to me.
Getting old sucks, lol. It's becoming harder each year for me to hold out hope.
@@adu1991 There'll soon be a cure for it. Just hold out, use your strength.
@@mattatta not soon enough.
When the TH-cam algorithm doesn't think you're sad enough already
absolutely, gosh, this is heart breaking
LOL..doomer videos are not enough obviously
exactly! damn you youtube!
Ramen Noodles no kidding!!
I was riding a nice high after 40 minutes of ear wax removal videos.. then back down in the basement.
🙁🙁🙁🙁🙁
Yeah bro
"Do you know who I am?"
I cant even imagine the feeling when there is no response
You feel like they are dead and are only in the past...even though they are sitting right in front of you...
And he just takes it with such class. He is absolutely a beautiful human being
It must be hard to see glimpses of her true self and she remembers you and then doesn't. But, he sure did make the best of it and she did show love back. I wish him well, and sorry for his loss. RIP
That's selfish. Imagine how she feels. She doesn't know... can you imagine the torment? I'm sure he was accepting as he is an amazing human being and knows it isn't her, but it is a disease.
We all have a tendency to ask those with dementia such questions as "Do you know who I am?" or "Do you recognize me?" Dementia care experts encourage us not to ask these type of questions as they can be very difficult for those with dementia and make them feel worse. It is normally best simply to introduce ourselves in greeting, "Good morning, Beth. I am Nate, your husband, and I love you."
My wife had dementia for the last 6 months of her life. Fortunately, I was able to look after her, at home, and not in a nursing home. She was bed-ridden, so I didn't have worry about her wondering off. She was on a lot of meds, so when I went in to give her meds, she remembered me being her husband and fought with me on taking them. (I was the bad guy.) But when I joked around with her, she forgot I was her husband and thought I was her boyfriend. (The good guy.) So, every couple of weeks, as her "boyfriend", I would propose to her, asking her to leave her husband and marry me, instead. She would get this big grin on her face and said, "YES". Toward the end, she thought I was her doctor. And she would ask me every night (with a big look of concern on her face), if I could spend the night with her and I would tell her that I assigned all of my other patients to another doctor and that she was my only patient and YES, I would be sleeping right next to her. She would get this big look of relief on her face. We were married 34 years. Dear God, I miss that woman. I ask Jesus everyday to tell her that I love her and that I miss her.
I'm so sorry for what you went through and I'm deeply sorry for your loss. It sounds like you 2 had some pretty good days at the end. Do you mind me asking how old she was?
@@alexxxwtf Early 70's.
@@ricardcluter4765 so sorry to hear about this Ricard! You took such good care of her; I just know that she is appreciating all that you've done for her from heaven! I wish you a very healthy and happy rest of your life, and I hope you find inner peace. Sending my kindest regards ❤️
@@tithisings Thank you for your kind words.
I know this is very late, but her spirit has certainly known what you've done for her and I know she loves you to this day and knows the love you had and have for her. You are a good person.
I currently live with both my parents, who have dementia, my Dad is 87 and Mom is 80. Some days are really hard and humbling. I am 50 and people put me down for living with my parents, but they need help and protection, I do all the cleaning, cooking, yard work, etc., no support from my brother. I do the best I can, it is hard.
But God is with you
@@humanfirst7 Words like yours are offensive. If god was real, his parents would be cured of dementia.
God bless you Jake. 🙏🏻
@@jdtown6585 I know how you feel my brother. Things will get better with time
@@humanfirst7 haha my life is pretty darn good my friend. I'm talking about those who are really struggling.
When my Mom was diagnosed, I will never forget what the Doctor told me.
"Alzheimer's has the unique distinction of being the only disease that makes you say goodbye twice. First you say goodbye to the person you love, then you say goodbye to a stranger " 😔
darn, my fucking heart, you are ripping it apart...
well that's depressing as hell
My mom got it at 63 and today she is still alive at 75 but has no idea who I am. My husband does not understand my sadness as she is still alive.
My mum has it atm. She’s just turned 60 today. You broke my heart reading this because it’s so true. It’s the worst disease in the whole world. It’s so fucked up. I’m 29. Life is unfair.
Whoever that doctor was needs a re certification in bedside manners
43 YEARS OLD? That just not fair
Not right at any age!
Jesus that’s scary. My moms 47, I couldn’t imagine.
Seriously
I met a lady who told me her husband got Alzheimer’s at 36. She said one day he got lost coming home from work (he had worked there over 10 years) and by the time his diagnosis came, he was in an advanced stage. He passed away two years later and she said his parents and grandparents never had it.
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My wife and I were just arguing in the kitchen over stupid cat litter box, I came to the garage and utube took me here. When I finish crying I’m going back in and tell my wife how much I love her and cherish our moments. Life is too short.❤️
Kick her out mate.. Keep the cat but 😀
Damn that was deep lol
I love you, mate 😭 that's a good heart 👍👑
You should understand you are blessed to not only have her in your life but the cat as well. Non human animals live a very short life, stop causing so much discord in your house for her and the animals. Men like you are trash.
My girl seems to have a pretty bad memory as it is now and she’s 18 😂 so I know once we get old I’ll have this heart break. I jokingly say it now but I already know what typa timing it is
She's forgotten so much, but she still greets her husband with so much love.
nah. she was just on autopilot mode at the end . she didnt know who he was !
@@gamesthatmatter9374 wait, really?
@@sternumstabber Kind of...
Keep in mind that they dont realize how bad it is - for us, it's depressing to see but for them it isnt as bad! Stay safe everyone.
crist tamiel I disagree.
There are some little things that jog in the brain and she will have a brief memory of him, the active communication shows that. You can see when a person with dementia doesn’t recognise you, they are usually a little frightened like a very old person who can easily get upset.
My grandmother had it and didn’t know me at all (I’m the youngest and as an adult I look nothing like I did as a child). She would always look at me suspiciously and be very wary of me.
When she got to the stage of complete off with the fairies she was suspicious of everyone and scared of everyone.
Usually it seems if you recognise someone you’re warm to them, you’re not just warm naturally with dementia as it is a confusing and frightening state.
This disease is my worst fear. I’d rather be dead than to live with this and have my friends and family see me like that
@@MasteringSilence Would you really want dimentia to be the way your friends and family remember you? My grandmother has severe alzheimers and she can't even recognize her own son. She could be spending all day with my dad and she'd repeatedly ask him "who are you" in a suspicious tone. Once my aunt (who's house she was living at for a while) told her she can't dump hot ashes from the fireplace in the trash. My grandmother got very aggressive and made death threats against my aunt over this. The only semblance of the person she used to be is her annoying laugh and her still impressive skill at NYT crosswords. Alzheimers is terrifying and I'd rather be euthanized than live while my brain rots away and I don't know who anyone is and have no memory of anything more than 10 seconds ago. Any memories your family would make with you will be of sadness, as you cease to be the person they love.
Dustin Jolley he didn’t say what they rather have, he said what he wants
Why are you scared lol?
@@kennyg5235 , Medical Medium is a charlatan. Although heavy metal toxicity has been linked to neurological injury and may very well play a role in one's development of Alzheimer disease, Alzheimer disease is now clinically recognized as type -3 diabetes / insulin resistance of the brain. Anyone not acknowledging this fact at this point, has an agenda or is completely ignorant of the current facts and evidence . Either way, they are incompetent and shouldn't be taken seriously.
Zen Mind If science has “recognized” the true cause of Alzheimer’s disease then where are all the recovered people? If they figured it out then millions should be recovering right now, considering every 3 seconds someone develops the disease. Why does science and research not have a handle on this disease if they know what causes it? Claiming to know the cause or name of a disease doesn’t heal anyone. It’s just confusing. Just because someone doesn’t praise science doesn’t mean they are a huckster. Clearly Anthony has some knowledge considering there are thousands upon thousands of healing testimonials and photos. You are just going to say they are actors getting paid right? Lmao. Give me a break. No one gets the results Anthony does. Science just claims faulty genes and your own body attacking itself is what causes illness. What a joke medical science has become.
This is the truth about Alzheimer’s ~>
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The craziest thing is how quickly dementia is aging her
yeah i never realized how it effects you physically. mainly bc it occurs in much older people so much. so sad and crazy
@@hq2t554 Even in an older person you can see a rapid change. Our mom was in her early 70's when diagnosed, when we look back at the pictures we can see such a difference.
hmmm..... the template fades?
I feel distance....
Have you seen Biden lately?
As a current researcher in drugs against Alzheimer's disease I really feel that this is a field of research that deserves much more attention and focus from relevant institutions. AD is such a horrible disease for everyone around the patient. I have so much respect and compassion for everyone who have gone through something like this with someone they love.
I wish you luck in your research to fight this cruel, horrible condition.
I hope you ssuccseed in your research
Considering my own family history I wish you the best of luck and speedy progress.
glucose levels through life, ptsd, lack of nurturing at childhood and serotonin syndrome.
You guys are heroes
extremely sad, but cmon this dude needs a best husband award
One hell of a MAN for sure! She had her good looks and smile til the end;the end of a life cut way too short.
BS. If he is such a good husband, why can’t he keep her at home with some hired help to let her stay in her own home? He has to pay for her to live away from him. She goes all the way up to greet him when he come to visit while he doesn’t even advance 1 step to meet her. Best husband. What a laugh!
@@debbiejohnson2789 I hope this is a joke
@@debbiejohnson2789 Typical woman. Nothings ever good enough for you.
The Crusader, I wouldn’t joke about something as serious as this. I just think he could keep her at home instead of putting her away. He could take care of her himself. He looks young enough. He could hire some help so she could stay home instead of putting her in a place.!
My grandmother who passed last March, had this and it got to a point where my parents didn't even let me go because everytime I saw her I would nearly break down crying, one time I did and my grandmother said "Charlotte (she forgot my name) please don't cry, you're a lovely young lady, I don't want to see you cry" That just increased the tears so my parents drove me back home. I saw her 2 days before she passed just so I could say my goodbyes, the last words she said to me were "I don't know who you are, but I know that without a shadow of a doubt, I love you"
This made me cry. GOD bless you!
Her last essence inside her knew you were someone near and dear to her heart the love you was her confirmation sorry the tears in my eyes hurt so much ,😔🙏be well stay strong with love always you keep them close to your heart 😊 always blessed one...
I'm sorry for your pain and loss and I'm sure your grandmother thought the world of you until the end and knew that even without being able to place a name to your face.
Im really sad to hear this. Do you feel better now?
I can't stop crying after reading this. Must be hard for you to share something so intimate and dear. She will always be with you.
The way her husband handled this was absolutely incredible. With Alzheimers, it’s about the emotions you feel, not what you remember. As long as she’s comfortable, having someone that can give her the feelings of love and care is as much as you could ask for
We see what’s on camera and not what is on
You are right. This video was filmed ten years ago. I wonder what happened to her when she finally faded away.😥😥😥
100%
Chris Chan
I worked in an Emi dementia care home as an activities co-ordinator, you're so right about emotions etc. I had a visitor complain to me about playing the same songs alot ...but he didn't realise that most of the residents would react the best to those songs and be transported back in time, they would even get up and dance with eachother ...sometimes even the most 'far gone' would come to life .
To the husband who continues to give endless love to his wife while she deals with struggles like these, you are a man amongst mice sir.
For real ❤️
I'd prefer they'd kill me rather than let me rot away in such a pathetic way. At least spare my dignity and remember me the way I was, not as a blundering idiot. I truly don't understand why people cling so much to life when it's not worth it.
@@mrkiky It's your life, so your choice. But don't judge others for choosing differently. It's his wife, they've been together for half of their lives, of course he doesn't want to just end it all. He'd rather care for her, and see her smile, and go through this together, however long she may have left. I bet if it was somebody you loved with all your heart, you wouldn't be so cold-blooded about it.
@@BL00DYME55 I would definitely expect and hope someone who loves me to be exactly this cold blooded about it.
…he does? Looks like he’s paying others to care for her.
I'm still angry over losing my Dad to Alzheimer's in 2017. I watched this incredibly sharp, quick witted man fade away. I still can't talk about him without crying.
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Very sorry for what you and your family experienced. I hope you are feeling generally well..
Sorry for you loss man. It can be hard.
You make sure you keep looking after yourself my friend
@@jeepcj7909 What?
"Do you know who I am? Not so much today huh?"
My f'n heart, man.
@Forest Troll attention ho :)
@@jaktam8765 found the incel.
@@smokejc nowadays incel is a buzzword to use on a male you don't like, huh?
@@hestia165 I don't like nor dislike him, so no.
Seriously that just made me think of me and my gf and if she couldn’t remember who I was I’d be devastated :(
This aweful disease took my mom. In one year...just one year...i took care of her 24/7. Her last words to me..."thank you" 😢
Whimsy Meadows
wow I couldn’t even imagine
This might be a dumb question, but how can you pass away from this disease. I thought it was just memory loss.
@@Januarybla no...this is a horrible disease which causes a reverse effect on your cognitive abilities. Think of the persons brain shrinking, they become like a child then as helpless as a baby. Can hit a person at any age at any time. Its not just a memory loss like forgetting stuff...its a shutting down of the brain till the person can no longer think right. They eventually lose the ability to eat, drink, till finally...breathe. Everything just starts shutting down. I hope that answers your question.
sorry to hear it
Your mothers in a better place. You’re an amazing child to her and I hope you can be happy
My great grandmother is 96, and I went through this with her. I write short novels and when I was younger and she was still herself, I would always tell her stories. As her dementia worsened, I had to shorten them to help her remember, and then I started to realise that she had forgotten the story I told her two weeks ago (I would visit her on the weekend every two weeks). Because I knew that she would forget the story by the next time I came, I remembered which one she enjoyed the most and told her that same story every time I saw her. I did that for years. Unfortunately, she’s not in a state to understand me now so I can’t tell it anymore.
Eventually she forgot who I was, that I was related to her, but still remembers me as ‘the girl who tells stories’, and that made me so happy. I think she really enjoyed our time together, as much as I did.
I literally am in the same place. I'm here to say I'm sorry, i understand. Mine is around 93 years old but she's so cool no one truly know? I love her more than anyone else because she literally raised me. I wouldn't be alive without her. Shes the strongest and most beautiful human i know. My mother , grandmother, and by blood funnily enough, great-granma! Mi abuelita. I was her Bordon , her muñequita, preciosa. I slowly started to see her fade around 2016 , then in 2019 she broke her hip and has been bed ridden since. I break down so badly at the thought of losing her, it's hard even writing this. A year ago we had seen her reach her death bed, but just this year she went on and beat COVID by herself without infecting anyone and having complications.. she's just amazing. But i feel horribly lost without her. She only remembers me as a child and asks for me to be looked after constant. It sears Mt hear honestly I'm broken but seeing this here. I can face her now. I'm not a monster for hiding from this painful thing. I don't know how but I'll go sooner And start trying to build more idk. Something or maybe nothing ever gets better because i don't think it can but. I want to hold her. Christ i can't keep writing but it felt right. I'm so fucking sorry this is happening to us and i want to hug you like I'd hug myself . I'm here. I remember. I'll never forget.
Never forget. Their memories, their love, their wills, their dreams, their strength, and their hope it lives on through us now
So if she always remembers you as the girl who tells stories why did you stop telling stories is because you felt like she didn't realize it she just told you she realized it by calling you the girl who tells stories I'm sorry you gave up on telling stories you shouldn't have I'm not judging you I'm just saying you could have done better
@@GudJonnyCakes her dementia is so bad now that it’s hard to keep a conversation with her, most of what she says is just nonsense. If I begin to tell her her favourite story, by the second line she is already confused by what I’m saying, so I stopped in fear of confusing and scaring her. Thank you for your kind words ❤️
@@GudJonnyCakes seriously? your response is “you could have done better”? that’s really no way to respond to someone going through that situation. either be helpful or be quiet.
Her face, skin, hair completely changed within months. So young, SO SAD. She's so happy! ! Bless her hubby's faithfulness, and keeping his vows.
I'm sure she was dyeing hair before. He skins stayed luminous but her eyes started to lose their spark. It was most sad when she responded with "I love you," & she wasn't sure who he was. Wonder if she even knew what love means...she could be like a child and not even know the meaning of words, just hears them and repeats them. What a lovely man to stay by her side in all this.
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@z but he still visited her. If this happened to me, I would except it but hope the woman respected what my husband and I had and always treated him kind.
z Just Stop please..
@z but he can have a gf or not? He take care of his wife with AH but I don't think its unfaithful to feed the own needs.
Common, must he hump on his wife who's probably not even experiencing sexual needs anymore?
Just beeing realistic here no sugar no Disney endings
when she was speaking gibberish it broke my heart
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She never forgot that she loved him. I’m literally balling my eyes out.
Thats how powerful love is.
this guy balls
this nigga balling his eyes out mf shot at half court
*bawling
The amygdala at work signalling the emotional attachment with higher brain structures unable to provide a "complete picture".
What a sweet lady. This disease is so sad. Her husband is an angel for all the love, patience and care he showed her. And even though condition was deteriorating, you could still see so much love in her eyes when she looked at him.
I’m sorry how so? He out her in a home.
@@kaylabillings785 she needed help. Not everyone can take care of someone suffering so badly. It doesn’t mean they don’t care. He might be very busy with life and not be able to support her as much as she needs.
@@kaylabillings785 Wow he put her in a place where they can take care of her properly and he visits her daily how shocking 😱
@@kaylabillings785 Yep. Better to leave her in danger at home while he’s working to provide for her and the medical bills.
Although this is sad to watch her deterioration, he is so devoted, and her smiles show that he increased her quality of life in her darkest hours.
Hello how're you doing hope you're safe due to the covid 19 pandemic?
This breaks my heart. A cure for cancer, alzheimers/dementia are at the top of my list for wishes.
Gana Nader , all of those, and also HIV/AIDS.
Thankfully people with HIV/AIDS live longer these days due to better medications. I remember the fear people had in the 80s.
@@damienholland8103 , if you have money. Also the medicines dont work for everyone. Plus if you combine HIV/AIDS with something else like diabetes, or any other infection, they can decline fast. People still die from complications of Aids.
Yes, this is a cruel condition.
Smoke weed
THIS IS WRENCHING. I WAS DIAGNOSED - i DESCRIBE IT AS BEING IN THE MIDDLE OF A GAME BUT NOT KNOWING IF ITS BASKETBALL OR BASEBALL.
silentfades wow. That sounds rough sorry man
Oh dear ♡♡♡♡♡♡ I'm so sorry
Take care my dear man and hope you have better days than some
Life isn’t over! Keep your head up and play the hell out the game even if you don’t know what ball thrown at you
Im so sorry man
For those who have loved ones with dementia - this husband is a model example of how to treat those who have it. Correcting their word salad and asking them “don’t you remember this!?” is scary and unhelpful for them. The man in this video handled such a devastating illness with such love and grace. This is beautiful and devastating in equal measure. Thank you so much for sharing this 💗
In sickness and in health.
What an amazing man taking care of his lovely wife. Bless their souls.
Thugdog Nasty lol what
idk he kinda fucked up by putting her in a home
@@dubb9020 he can't take care of her 24/7 he probably has a job or something.
In sickness and in health till death do us part. This man truly committed to those words.
Lewis Burton what a wonderful husband, he was there to take care of her no matter what.👰👪😢
That was her son. Not her husband.
Lewis Burton Very very few men like him. God please bless this man!
Yea man props to him. Respect.
My wife left me 5 years ago because I lost my job , we had only been married 4 years , but while I was working and giving her 1000 bucks a week everything was fine , but one small bump in the road and oh I'm a loser pos , got to go , I tried to tell her that everything was going to be fine , I was only unemployed for about 5 months , she wouldn't hear it , well she told me to leave , I wound up sleeping on a cot in a rented room living out of a travel bag , but I found another job making more than I had ever made in my life and now I'm debt free except for living expenses , single and stacking cash , and minus one gold digging ex wife .
I love how he says “Do you know who I am? Not so much today, huh?” it’s so endearing and said with such love. I lost my Grandpa to Alzheimer’s and had to quickly get used to someone you love simply having no idea who you are at times.
It’s an absolute rollercoaster of an illness - sometimes even funny at times when they come out with odd and out-of-character behaviour (which is seen in this video), but overall an awful and cruel condition that rids people of their independence and personality. This video is great because it shows that often the most horrible circumstances can bring out the best in people❤️
I never, ever asked my grandmothers such a question. I popped in the doors of their respective rooms and announced myself by name and relation (Good morning. I'm ____ and I am your ______.) My visits went much smoother than those of our relatives who insisted on asking over and over again, "Do you know me?" Or "Do you know who I am ?"
Wow, even though her memory is disappearing you can still feel her character, the lovely person she is. She is radiant with love and loveliness.
My Mom died last month after her struggles with Dementia for 7 years. She hadn't known who I was for a long time. It's been hard to feel sorrow at her passing, yet the woman who was my mom left me years ago. I visited with her weekly at the care facility; for the past 18 months, she was coldly polite, or ignored me, or asked why I was bothering her. I used to take her a bag of her favorite M&M's every week, and she called me "the candy person". Then she started throwing the bag back, saying she didn't like M&M's and refused to eat them. Then, this woman who couldn't kill a fly, became violent, attacked an aide, began throwing things, and back-handed me. Dementia and Alzheimers are horrible diseases which rob us of our loved ones long before they die.
You lose them twice when they have Dementia.
How horrible this life can be. My heart goes out to you, but these diseases are truly cruel. Pray for a cure all of us must!
I'm so sorry for your experiences. My 86 yr old mother is getting forgetful, short tempered at times and often rude, but nothing like this. I'll count my blessings and pray you are healing at this point in time. It must be awful. Hugs and best wishes.
The woman was in her 40's. You read too much into it, Depression has no 'grand objective.'----@Mouseythegreat
@@Mouseythegreat There is no dispute the condition exists or that it could have evolutionary advantages. But to" think depression is a similar thing, an internal switch to cause someone to kill themselves when they aren't as effective towards supporting the group" [because women are post-reproductive] is just wild, unfalsifiable conjecture. Men aren't post-reproductive and they have roughly the same rate or early onset dementia as women do.
this is the definition of being a man. truly a sweetheart, both of them.
Sasha Del Grey Amen
I mean her face didnt MELT LOL she's stilla looker in my book so if that was my wife it wouldn't be hard to hold on
Alright Grandad No One Asked For Your Life's Story.
As a psychiatric nurse practitioner who specializes in treating persons with dementia, I thank you with all my heart for letting us into your life. This is a poignant video which truly demonstrates the long goodbye. You have helped others to understand this terrible disease.
Where do you work?
@@TheGamingJayM What you say to someone, often comes back earlier than you said to the person.
+ TheGamingJayM ... Learn some respect you little piece of shit, talk to people like that and one day you'll be swallowing your own teeth.
you are also a narcissist!!
@@TheGamingJayM lulz nice one you are a pretty cool guy.
I know this is heartbreaking, but she was loved and cared for. I worked in a nursing home for eight years, so many dementia patients not one family member came. She was blessed to have those that loved her, until the end. If she could watch herself as it happened, i’m sure she would feel so grateful and loved.
Because it is fucking hard for relatives to see this disease taking away their lived ones slowly.
@@leeeeni so just leave them there to rot
🤔🙄
@Ninnjette
Doesn't surprise me.
I bet the people that never visited were quick to come to see what they were getting off the wills.
Disgusting
@@Nthstar The really sad part is, they already took everything and then left them to rot in a nursing home. When you put a family member into a nursing home, a family member will get “ power of attorney”. That means even if you are still alive, you can no longer take care of yourself so all of your things and finances goes to the person that files for power of attorney for you. So they already got the money, so they just let them die. It’s absolutely heartbreaking and disgusting.
@@leeeeni So you just abandon them, because it’s hard? Something is wrong with you.
TH-cam: “Wanna cry?”
Me: “Not really.”
TH-cam: “What was that? You say that you’re taking everything you have for granted and need a reality check?”
Me: “What?”
Am.I.Thirsty Tho soooo sad!!!😭😭😭😢
Adrian Garcia YOOO 😭😭😭
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@Kelly SHOWELL not TH-cam, but the in your face reality of real life
great comment.
My mother was diagnosed at 58, I couldn't imagine this happening this early. This is a cruel and terrible disease, please pray for me and my mother.
My mom also died from early-onset frontotemporal dementia. Caregiving was the best and hardest work I ever took on. Our local chapter of the Alzheimers Foundation was extremely helpful with respite care, a support group for caregivers and other resources.
I think you must be a kind, loving daughter to her, you care so much.
My lovely mum has this cruel disease .She’s 83 I have to be strong for her .my family want to put her in a home . I’m saying NO. Please pray for me everyone that everything will be okay 🌸
My dad just turned 58 and he's had Alzheimer's since 50. They've been giving him medication for his memory and for some reason he can talk better as time goes on, before I had to translate almost everything.
He used to be a truck driver. I was in highschool when he started acting different. Burning food, laying on the couch all the time, asking the same questions over and over and over. He pissed me off soo many times until one morning I just stopped being mad and thought of the possibility that something was very wrong. I waited for him to act normal again so I could resume my anger, but it never stopped and kept getting worse. Family dismissed my concerns and blamed drugs. Neither of us were wrong, he had a spice addiction and probably other shit I didn't know about.
I'm the only daughter who visits him, along with my grandparents. Everyone else treats him as if he's already dead. I love my dad despite the things he's done, I just wish he made better choices.
Please have her eat a whole food plant based diet and take cbd oil
She may have forgotten exactly who you were at times.
But she never forgot she loved you 💔
Evil Gengar EXACTLY. This is what I say about my mother (11 years into goodbye): She may not know me but she knows she loves me.
She knows Love.
I was on the part where he asked her “do you know who I am?” And then she said “I love you”😩😩💔💔💔💔
My grandfathers the same he has no idea who we are anymore but he knows he loves his children and grandkids lol
💖
My dad passed in '91 after a 5-year battle with Alzheimer's Disease. Started with undeniable forgetfulness. Things like arriving home from work, but leaving the car running with the door open. Then progressed to not being able to put on a t-shirt. Several car accidents mistaking the accelerator for the brake. Talk about denial. We took care of him as long as we could before assisted living. Really makes you appreciate sanity and realize just how volatile it actually is. So sad, this poor woman was so young. Thanks for sharing the video.
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
Her husband is a saint. God love you forever. . . forever.
KKona
This is where the Notebook gets its script ideas
There is a certain place in heaven for them both where they will be together again
He's not a saint he is in love
God you mean that imaginary friend coming from a bronze age mythology and bullshit book? BWAHAHAHA
My opinion on the “Do you know who I am?” question and (lack of) answer: Based on watching her pawn over her husband through most of this video I think she knew EXACTLY who he was but just couldn’t verbalize it. Like a long day out drinking for us lucky ones. She obviously loved him but couldn’t verbalize WHO he was by name. Sad topic but such a GREAT video.
Reay sad because the last minute in the video she was losing her ability to speak
That's exactly why this disease is so nasty!
My mother-in-law had five months of it, going from normal every day to not knowing her son and daughter before finally forgetting how to eat and drink. We were I suppose lucky that it progressed so quickly as the doctor called us in to advise she had a few weeks or perhaps a month or so but she actually went to sleep that night and never awoke.
She had always said she didn't want a care home as we were to get the family home but at the end she couldn't look after herself and we weren't capable of supplying the required care so her last seven weeks were in a lovely care home at £1,000 a week. She got her wish that we would I inherit the house!
Exactly. My dad, who suffers from Alzheimers, knows who his grandchild is but he just cannot verbalise it 👍🏻
Nope. When she doesn't know who he is, she doesn't know who he is. That doesn't mean he doesn't represent the same things to her like comfort and caring for her. My mom has dementia and it's a profound learning experience to see someone going through it. It's not always horrible, but it is really hard and sad at times. 👍
@@guitarista67 Well in her five months my mother-in-law just went downhill quickly as two months in, she stopped recognising anyone in photographs be that grandchildren, friends or family. Especially hard on my wife and her brother as they would just sit with her trying to make conversation as she tugged and pulled at her clothing while constantly complaining about THIS, although she couldn't explain what THIS was.
She was being fed and changed after four months after which there were no more lucid moments ending up totally oblivious to her son and daughter.
Just one horrendous disease!
This guy's so wholesome, but the pain he must feel hurts my heart man
I suppose the only solace in this is knowing that they aren't physically hurting like with a cancer or ALS or something along those lines, this hurts those around the patient.
This man is the husband we all strive to be. God bless you and your family.
God bless? Don't be such a tit. After all, god created this disease, and chooses who gets it. Don't bless god, you should be bad at such a malevolent sky genie.
Luckily it's extremely unlikely he even exists.
Imagine thanking someone for giving you such a disease.
If only that were true😕
This is so incredibly sad and at the same time absolutely beautiful. What an amazing husband to be there for her and love her through the rest of her life. God bless you!!
Hello 👋
I agree. You can tell he loves this woman with all of his heart, very honorable husband
@@SureYoureRight hello dear how’re you doing today l, happy lovely new month
Lost my wife to cancer at 39, was diagnosed with MS when I was 45, and my older brother is 56 and has advanced alzheimers. It doesnt even run in our family. Life's full of trials, and even on best days, it's easy to feel robbed. But troubles also remind us to treasure what we have, because it can all be gone in an instant. Our 💘 is one of the few things over which we truly have control.
What's MS?
@@slaqualquercoisamemo5117 Multiple Sclerosis
Hang in there, brother
@@slaqualquercoisamemo5117 as Peter said, it's Multiple Sclerosis. It's a disease where the immune system eats away at the protective layer of nerves, which makes them much more susceptible to damage. You begin to lose feeling at the extremities, and you feel really tired. It generally gets worse over time.
I used to work as a nurse, and I worked in a home specifically for dementia and Alzheimer’s patients. I had a woman in her 40s who had early onset dementia and it was so sad. Her husband came to visit her every single day.
Frick that's so sad
U nurses dont help the sick u nurses just walk around make paychecks
God bless you, that would eat me alive seeing that every day.
Dementia took my grandpa really fast.... less than a month. He didn't know anyone except for me. We watched point break together and he was loving it.
RIP Gpa.... take care of my mom up there.
I lost my mom in June of 2017. I just watched as she slowly let us, and I couldn't do anything to help. These videos just bring the sadness back. I love you Mom.
@@JannelleCT I feel your pain. You can only enjoy the rest of your time with her and do a lot of crying. May God bless and help you.
Al Woody 😢
I’m so sorry for your loss😔
I feel your pain brother, but I don't know how to deal with it. My dad was diagnosed 2 years ago it still doesn't seem real, but the signs are really starting to show.
Thanks for sharing your story brother. God bless. 🙏🏻
I'm a social worker in a long term care home. Dementia is a nightmare. There are a few who are lucky and are "pleasantly confused" but the majority of dementia patients are constantly terrified, paranoid, angry, frustrated, confused and lost. They spend their days seeing and hearing things that are scary to them, they wander the halls like zombies looking for loved ones who they will never find, sitting on chairs waiting for buses to take them home that will never come or screaming and calling out in terror because they are confused about where they are.
Please, take it from me, if your country has a Medical Assistance in Death program, talk to your loved one early enough to sign up for it so that they can die with dignity when the time comes.
The slow death due to dementia is a torture and no way to spend your last days.
such a horrible collection of words but so true
I told my husband this that if I ever get to this point, I would want to die peacefully. While I live in a country where death with dignity exists, the person must take the medication themselves and I don’t know if that is possible when dementia is too far advanced nor do I know if dementia would qualify for medicated death to be an option. I’ll have to look into it once I’m older as I’m only in my 30s now. I watched my grandpa die from a related disease (Alzheimer’s) and it’s horrible both for the affected and those around them.
God bless you for the good work you do💞🙏
That's frightening. Just the possibility of going through that terrifies me...
@@TRC2002 Agreed
She is so adorable, so loving, many Alzheimer’s patients are not so happy. God Bless your family.
0:48 "God has blessed us together"
- pathetic; aside from 'god' being an invisible, unevidenced mythology book character...
- did it not therefore occur to you that if the sewer rat god 'blessed you together' it also GAVE HER DEMENTIA?!
- pathetic, uncritical, credulous mindset of the religious is ridiculous
You're only seeing the good times in this video
@@tendiesoffmyplate9085 This person is making reference to those good times, and how positive and loving she seemed, despite the situation. You are correct, we don’t get the full picture, but even then, you still make make inferences on these things.
My uncle that recently passed, had Alzheimer’s, he was on the last stage, didn’t remember anyone anymore but he was always so happy & welcoming to “new” faces, we miss him tremendously but know he lived a wonderful, fulfilling life 🤍
My father was diagnosed at 54. I was not even 20. It‘s such a hard goodbye. A death you cannot really grief for, as the person you love is still with you.
4:48 "Are you a beautiful girl?" "I am!" haha! She certainly is beautiful.
Man, this just broke my heart in little pieces I was arguing with my wife and looking at this just made me realize I have everything and there’s no enough reasons for fighting her, you mr you are a real man, hope god gives you a hand and a miracle happen to you.
3:48 I once looked after a patient in her early fifties, as a carer during my nursing degree, who exhibited the same level of functional ability in terms of mobility and speech. However, she was deeply unhappy - whatever trauma she suffered in her younger years meant she was always seeing people from her past. I still remember her incessant screaming to this day. She had been newly admitted to the acute medical unit. We tried all kinds of distraction therapies to help her; she did not respond to anything (she threw the radio across the room and broke it) and even her son could not console her. I still clearly remember her screaming and thrashing about in her wheelchair as the nurses and security team escorted her to the mental health unit. It was horrible and I felt so sad for her. Since meeting that lady I have had a deep fear of early-onset dementia. We really need to improve research funding for all forms of dementia.
I'm 15 and since 13 years old, my grandma is starting to lose all memory too. Last time I visited her, I broke down in tears because my whole family had to be re-introduced to her even though we've all been seeing her for as long as any of us can remember. Cherish your loved ones
This disease is some kind of horrifying, hope it doesn't run in your family
I lost my granda to it when i was the same age. I'll never forget going to visit her and she couldn't remember any of us. I remember the last days when she had lost her mind completely, and I could not go. I broke down in the car on my last visit. She would look after me while my mum was at work, take me to school and make homemade biscuits when i got back. For her to not even know who I was hurt so bad when I was young, that I never wanted to see her like that again. My thoughts are with you and your family.
My mom has dementia. And she doesn't talk a lot. But when she gets her medication she is more relaxed and THEN she talks.
So I took the opportunity and asked her if she knows who I am.
She said no.
So there's that.
I’m sorry
Well that's kind of a stupid question to ask a family member is it? That's what I always think when I talk to my alzheimers father it's all the normie ppl like you my mother that treat him like shit trying to test him and put on the spot in the hot seat. You'll get alzheimers too for your indiscretions bish
@@TheOne-tl6nj Wow you must be the biggest disrespectful fuckwit I have ever seen. Relatives ask this question to see if a family member still recognizes them. And here you are, talking shit about something like that. Just fuck off.
@@TheOne-tl6nj well arent you a ray of sunshine
@@TheOne-tl6nj funny how shitty people are when they hide behind a veil of anonymity. I'd like to see you say this is person to someone.
That's a real man, so sad......
LostNozz Yes i agree..A real MAN love him.
Like them or not, ALL men are 'real'!
Arguably the worst disease. Losing everything that made you, your memories.
MyTwoCents ALS is worse but i get it
I feel so sorry for this couple also it's making me depressed I don't want to get depressed and anxiety I'm being treated for that cuz my father suicide in 2015 and man I am so scared of getting Alzheimer's or dementia I just couldn't finish this video and I'm not going to watch anymore he knows shirt stuff cuz it bothers me
James Edwards the ignorance 🤦🏼♀️ It’s not a damn competition. They’re both equally devastating diseases, who are you to determine which is “worse” than the other?
I lost my mom to cancer. Obviously a very different disease, but the physical wasting and the distant, wandering stare remind me of her in her final month of life. It is so daunting to be a caregiver like this in the final stages of an incapacitating illness, but boy it teaches you the strength true love gives you. God bless this man and may her soul rest in peace.
What the mind forgets, the heart remembers. She doesnt remember him but tell him she loves him back♡
Yeah, that's not really true in a lot of cases. My uncle and aunt were a great couple but the more my aunt's dementia progressed, the more often she would get aggressive with my uncle when she didn't recognize him. Poor guy had to endure this till he died. Alzheimer's is worse than cancer in my opinion.
Coffee Drinker unfortunately the heart only pumps blood to your body
@@Muahaha651 The heart has more neurons than the brain - think about that.
B4its2L8guy doesn’t really control thoughts or memories, they help it to keep the heart beating which is sent from the brain
@@B4its2L8guy no, it doesn't. What neurons it has are in the peripheral nervous system, so no connection to cognition or conscious processing. I think you might be thinking of the enteric nervous system anyway, which is actually in the stomach. But again, that has no relation to your memory. Memory is mostly contained in "engrams" that are scattered throughout your cortex, the wrinkly layer on the outside of the brain.
So sad. Bless you for your dedication to your wife.
Thank God she had you by her side.
puppymamalisa Yes!!..Thank You Lord Amen.
@nordhorny read any religious book, and I guarantee you that that interpretation is incorrect
@nordhorny last time I checked, the Bible makes no mention saying God is doing control of your actions, after all it literally says that he gives us the power free will, he just knows your actions and knows what's going to happen according to the Bible, as well as the Quran and other religious texts so I don't know why you're trying to play the blame game
Augustine Daudu If your god knows everything before it even happens, why did he create a bunch of bad people (and regular people who disbelieve) knowing that they were destined for eternal fire and brimstone before the universe was even created? Why did he even bother placing the forbidden fruit in the garden of eden? If your god is real (100% improbable!) then he’s a complete asshole!
@@Izakokomarixyz all of that were people's choices. Why do you think people get murdered? Because people choose to do things like a murderer, you can't blame others 4 things that people decide to do. Literally everything that happens is because of people's choices. That is unless you're not choosing to write this comment to try and degrade people rather than focusing on the fact that a woman died from early onset dementia
I'll never get over watching my grandmother deteriorate from what was a bigger, healthier woman to a skeleton like figure, only her skeleton was destroying itself. She worked out daily, took care of herself yet she ended up getting PSP (Ik it's not dementia) One of the worst things I've ever had to witness, was her crying wanting to speak, wanting to get words out while we all were crying and saying goodbye for the last time. We gathered around telling stories, you can tell she remembered them, by her heart rate accelerating and her making noises trying to communicate. All she could do was react. It was so unbelievably depressing to witness. I'm so glad, she isn't suffering anymore. But God damnit I wish she was here still
I’m crying 😭😭😭 I cant imagine being in either of their shoes.
When he asked her if she knew who he was and said "not so much today." How hard that must have been and how sweet he is to her! That's the definition of love.
That man is an angel to his wife. Lots of men could learn some lessons from this video.
Maybe it would have been best if he didn't post this. Makes people feel real bad. Not nice. There's a lot of nasty illnesses out there with wonderful agencies trying to find cures worldwide without a hurtful delivery. Please help and contribute to find cures.
TH-cam has no mercy on how sad and depressed they make us daily with their "suggested videos" LOL
@@razoredge6476 agreed fully.
i work in a long term care facility on a ward that is only for people with dementia. Sadly 90% of my residents never have any visitors. It breaks my heart when the family just dumps them there and forgets about them.
My grandfather died of it and my mom is in early stages, it is a very hard thing to deal with and most people can only handle seeing a loved one decline for so long, while it is sad I don't blame people for not wanting to deal with watching this happen to someone you love and until you walk in those shoes...
they don't come because they hate seeing their love one like this, can't communicate with them. Families need help in dealing with and understanding the needs of patients. Hugs mean a lot, patient just can't express it. Sad, hope there's a cure soon.
they don't come because it does hurt. On the other hand it helps with the patents memory and improves their quality of life as well as their activates of daily living. You would be shocked how much one visit from a loved one who they seem to not remember will improve the rest of the day of them
yes, I do believe that, I worked at a place like that also. Patients do react to this by actions but can't express it with words, and that's what family members do not understand. Sad
Sometimes its not that they "forget". Some of these people, like my parents become violent, malicious and literally crazy. Plus some of these elderly people, even when they were healthy, weren't very good parents and were abusive. So some people just move on.
So sad. My dad was diagnosed about 15 years ago. I quit my job to take care of him full time, he had a good retirement as a fire captain so I could get by with that money coming in. My great wife worked full time and put her life with me on hold so I could do this for him. As my father went through all the stages of the disease I was so glad my mom was gone before him, I do not believe she could have watch it happen to him. It was the Hardest thing I ever had to do. There were days I felt as if my heart was going to stop with the unbearable weight of sadness that was upon me. I had my dad with me for 6 years before he was at rest with my mom. I remember the joy and sadness I felt when he went home. It took months for me not to wake up and run to see if he was ok after he was gone. I still feel guilt that maybe I could have done better for him but I did the best that I could. He was always feed, clean and cared for. But I guess we who have gone through such A horrible disease with our loved ones always feels that way. God Bless us who care for them.
Trust me, Peter. You definitely did all you could. He would not have lived for six years if you hadn't.
You were a good son and I'm sure you're Dad would've appreciated everything you did, though he could never tell you. I'm glad he's at rest with your Mum. Take care of yourself and enjoy your life. You've also earned it.
Im sure he was thankful for everything you've done, knowing it means really a lot, especially to him. I'm glad he wasn't left behind. Do you feel ok these days?
You did a great thing. My brother and I quit our jobs, willingly, to take care of our mom in her home 24/7 from January 2019 until her passing July 2021. Our dad passed away unexpectedly in Jan 2019. Seeing what happened to our mom would have killed our dad if he were still alive. My brother and I, months later, are still trying to adjust from the 24/7 monitoring we did to keep her in her home. I rented my house to pay for my bills and my brother worked part-time. I lived with mom, my brother came over every day for at least an hour to give me a break and he covered Sat to Mon mornings.
@@mobilehomelife4028 You and your brother are Amazing people!! Yes, I understand that was your parent but still it's a mammoth undertaking. One that requires a LOT of sacrifice and dedication. It's pure heart-driven love!!💜
I'm presently watching my mother go downhill with Alzheimer's. Our family doctor diagnosed it a year ago; I had taken Mom to see him due to some troubling issues like her memory and getting lost driving. He said she'd covered it up pretty well due to her intelligence but it was starting to really affect her life. I kept a close eye on her behavior over the next few months and sure enough, she stopped using tech (computer, tablet, texting on phone, dvd player, cable TV) and her driving habits got more erratic; she got lost trying to find my house (bad) and got lost trying to find the grocery store (worse), and even got lost several times in her own apartment complex (which I only found out about from another resident later). Then she forgot how to start her car.
It all came to a head when the cops called me one night to tell me that she was found wandering around downtown this past April, in freezing weather, only a thin sweater for warmth. They brought her back to the apartment and she was pretty incoherent. I don't know if she'd taken extra medication (she was on several things for other health issues) but husband and I ended up spending the night sitting in her apartment waiting for morning to call the doctor's office and get advice on what to do.
The doctor recommended that we take her to the hospital. But she couldn't be roused enough to be taken down to our vehicle, so we had to have an ambulance come get her. So she was in the hospital being stabilized for over a month while medicare/insurance red tape went on (I did NOT have financial power of attorney, only the healthcare variety, my mistake). She acted out in a feisty manner but still knew who I was. The hospital staff had to start giving her antipsychotic medications.
Finally we found her a spot at an Alzheimer's facility with secure doors. She has recently started thinking that I'm her sister, and she talks of the facility as if it were right across the street from a certain school she went to in junior high. While I was getting my guardianship over her and her estate, the court lawyer paid her a visit to determine if she could attend the court hearing. Nope. She wandered around her room with an article of clothing, trying to find where the (obvious, right there) closet was.
Mom had started forgetting to lock the wheels on her walker when sitting on it. They gave her a wheelchair instead so she would have less chance of falls. But she fell anyway a few days ago, and this time broke her hip. Back to the hospital for surgery (done 2 days ago). Doctor was kind and informative but also did not sugarcoat his prognosis for her. He said that typically Alzheimer's patients who have osteoporosis and break a hip, even after hip replacement surgery, have a survival outlook of perhaps a year.
This is going to hurt her next younger sister worse than me for sure. I've made my peace with it but my aunt's far away and unable to travel, so I dread the day I have to deal with Mom's demise.
What bothers me even more than seeing Mom's decline is knowing that it could happen to me/already be in there, doing slow damage until the day I get lost trying to find a totally familiar place. I really hate that the burden will be on my husband (we have no children). Or he might go first and I'd be at the mercy of whatever entity had to make decisions for me. I will need to look into writing a living will addressing these concerns.
Folks, tell your loved ones you love them. Every day if you can. If they get dementia, they might forget how to drive, what your name is, where they live, even who they are.... but they will remember love.
heartbreaking but I love that he never gives up on her ... That is true love
For real ❤️
sorry but at the end it was not here anymore. Just a mindless zombie with automatic responses . I love you she responded back was just an automatic response . She didnt knew who he was. He was just a sack of meat
@@gamesthatmatter9374 i totally agree and i find it pathetic when some people try to romanticize what is in fact a tragic loss.
Throwing her in a nursing home is giving up on her.
copper cassie Campbell agreed. Not sure why more people aren’t mentioning that.
Seems the dementia didn't affect the heart! What love!
Autumn Spring That's exactly what I realised. My friend's mum has had this disease for 15 years. Her husband adores her and she knows absolutely nobody but him and the love between them is incredible to witness. When he walks into the room she opens her arms to hold him close. She doesn't notice her children or her siblings.
Autumn Spring so true!! Even though this ladies brain forgot her heart sure didn't and thats so beautiful yet heartbreaking to me,these two people where robbed of a future together,jeez,life can be so cruel,what a dreadful condition this is!!
They say, The heart remembers what the mind forgets...
Then why is she in a new home???😭 😭
@@coppercassiecampbell6077
she needs 24 hour care.
And she always has a smile on her face. ❤
I know right? That is the best thing
Because she is loved so many are not 😭
Mil Els even loved some people become aggressive. My great gran was the sweetest person ever and then dementia attacked her. She became suspicious, and physically alternative. It was heartbreaking. Thankfully she didn’t get dementia until almost 90 and after breaking her femur. Most of my memories are they happy times.
Amanda Leigh How could you not smile feeling someone love you like that.
I worked in a community home. Definitely the most depressing place to work, but putting a smile on their faces always made my day.
Wow that is the definition of real love.
Tiffany Shadley Haul Kinda Girl are you single?
Depends. Does he have a relationship with someone else now?
this is so sad....
@@aky19832001
Really man? You use this to try to hit on someone? SMH.
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The notebook story.
My dad had this. I was too immature, inpatient and regrettably not understanding at times dealing with him. RIP dad.
A father forgives a daughter all keep love strong and positive in your heart always good healing process for you moving forward in life ,✌️🙏😔👍😊
If your father has forgiven you, and I'm sure he has because he understands. My belief is that no one can enter Heaven without first forgiving all the little wrongs that were done to them in life, just as they did little wrongs to others. He is most assuredly resting in peace and smiling down upon you.
I started crying watching this video. This breaks my heart. what a wonderful husband she has.
Watching how everything just slowly started to take over was quite heartbreaking. You are such a strong loving and wonderful husband to her!
Both my grandparents were a little over 90 when they passed away but they were just barely on the verge of Alzheimer’s: my grandma just a few weeks before her death started calling us random names and not finishing her sentences and also would start cooking at like 4 am thinking it was 7am, which was when she would usually cook my grandpa and us kids breakfast. My grandpa was still going very strong, he would occasionally forget our names but he still even drove to the same store and gym every other day with no problem. I hope that that will pass down to me and my siblings and we won’t have to go through this.
this is my night mare. every day i wonder how long until my mind leaves me. we can all only hope we will have someone with their faculties in place that will love and care for us like this woman has found. so many people with minds clouded by dementia and schizophrenia will lose themselves being a walking shadow of the person they once were. the long good bye. staring into that black pit. this video is encouraging thank you.
My thoughts exactly. I lost my brother suddenly last year at 32 years old. I'm 29. I know now I have no one to rely on but myself to take care of my parents when they get sick and pass. The full consequence of this hasn't fully set in because of grief, but I know. I am single, probably will be for the rest of my life, so it's all on my shoulders. A medication I'm taking has early onset dementia as one of the side effects, so if my parents die, who will take care of me, when I can't do it myself? Life is cruel.
dementia isnt something that just happens. not everyone will get alzhemiers.
it doesnt always happen to everyone. dont worry.
I think this is everyone’s nightmare 😥.
When he asked, 'do you know who I am?' You can tell by the way her face lights up, she knows full well who he is but just can't remember his name!
I've worked with elderly people suffering with various forms of dementia, including Alziemers and I can honestly say the person you once knew is still there, you just have to look a bit deeper.
At first it tends to be the very short term memory that is lost, so I use to work with their family and create a memory box using photos, of a fav pet, or wedding photos, holiday snaps, items of a fav place, fav possessions, a fav book etc etc
Use music as a tool, or did they play a musical instrument, singing, fav films etc
A person's past occupation or fav hobby could be another way to connect with them!
Often they'll be able to tell you all sorts about their life from years gone past and remember details like the day they got married, or what song was played at their wedding, or a child's birthday etc but forget where the loo is or what day of the week it is!
Just remember the person you loved has not gone anywhere, they are still there, it's just reconnecting with that person is a little more challenging.....
No that’s not true, my grandmother used to say I can’t remember what my memories are of or whom they’re of, she lost her sense of taste and smell and spiralled into depression because she knew that all the parts and memories of whom she was had fragmented and she couldn’t get them to fit, Alzheimer’s is cruel and vile and trying to pretty it up does no service to families trying to cope. It’s like the base board of a jigsaw puzzle the frame is there and so are some pieces but there isn’t enough to make a full picture and what is made makes little to no sense to either the person with Alzheimer’s or their families and friends
@@laurendeaves376 Just because a person can't remember things or gets confused, or can't make sense out of anything, doesn't make them any less of a person.
My point is still valid, that person is still there, it just becomes more challenging!
I'm not trying to 'pretty' it up as you suggest, it's not easy at all, it's very difficult for the families as well as the person suffering with dementia, it is a very cruel condition.
Agree I also work in hospital with dementia, I played football and bantered with an elderly gentleman who used to be a professional footballer. He at times was like a cabbage but others times he would banter and play really skillfully in the corridor.
Show love, make them laugh and comfortable.
@@paradisebreeze1705 Absolutely! I worked on a secure mental unit where the elderly guys had challenging behaviour and mental issues on top of also suffering with dementia.
My role included organising activities, keeping them busy, engaged and exercised, trips out and encouraging personal interests and hobbies.
So it was a very challenging role, before I arrived they did nothing but watch tv argue, bounce off the walls, smoke and were generally lazy and unfit. Plus they all looked miserable.
I'd get them out in the garden, we had a small net and football, we'd have kick abouts, penalty competitions, domino and card game tournaments, picnics, we did gardening, planted veg, grew our own tomatoes and peas, grew beautiful flowers, some of the guys were avid gardeners and enjoyed just watering, weeding and tending to plants etc
Trips out included trips to the pub, meals out, just feeding ducks by the river or lake etc
We even went to an airport and watched helicopters and planes landing and taking off from the cafe there, just simple things like thats, was really all they needed to keep them occupied etc
It would break my heart to see some families who would hardly ever visit, they'd hardly spend 10 mins with their loved one, sit there staring at each other barely a word spoken, I think often they expected their family member to be pleased to see them, strike up a conversation or engage with them in some way. Quite often they have lost that ability, I heard the wife of one chap say, 'It would be better if he was dead', like it was an inconvenience to visit him!
I just thought that was such a horrible thing to say, so uncaring!
Christmas time, I'd personally make sure everyone had a present 🎁 me and my wife would wrap up dozens of presents and purchase them out of my own pocket, funds were woefully inadequate at work for such things!
My wife would even bake cakes and make biscuits for me to take in!
One thing that really surprised me was how the guys enjoyed art and being creative, making stuff.
I'd set out tables with paints, coloured pens, pencils, paper, brushes etc and they'd sit and do their own thing or watch intrigued as I showed them how to print patterns, make flowers 💐 some just enjoyed colouring in with those intricate colouring books aimed at adults.
The creative part of the brain is one of the last affected by dementia.
They were all waiting for me to turn up and looking forward to my sessions with them.
Maybe it was the homemade cakes and biscuits? But I'd like to think they enjoyed my sessions with them!
A very rewarding job, not in terms of money, it was minimum wage, but I didn't do it for money, I did it to help others, do my bit..
It was super stressful sometimes but mostly it was a lot of fun, some of the conversations we'd have were incredible, some of the stories and life experiences they had were fascinating, I like all that stuff and always made it part of my job to find out about the person, their background, from family, from them and from their notes.
We had a guy who was a rear gunner in Lancaster bombers during ww2, a spitfire pilot, someone who had been working the landing craft on D-Day etc what a privilege to be amongst such men! 👍
@@pdtech4524It’s beautiful what you’re doing, god bless your soul and thank you brother
I'm depressed about normal things in life yet these people have serious problems and cope with them the best they can.
You're a good man, Andrew. That's a fact sir!
Depression is a mental illness. It can’t tell the difference from a terminal illness to a paper cut. It’s horrible. Help is out there though
Depression isn't rational or logical, but it is a real brain illness too. Don't ever feel guilty for having it
We all have our own challenges
Both my grandmother and grandfather suffered from Alzheimer's/Dementia but it was crazy too see how it affected them differently. My grandfather would forget who I was and constantly ask me the same question every few minutes or so. However, my grandmother would hide her belongings around the house and would end up in tears thinking that someone was stealing from her. The person who she thought who was stealing from her was me. She would write these notes that said that I would never have luck if I never returned the things she thought I had stolen and it was really heart-breaking for me but whenever I saw her in person she would be ecstatic. It was like the person who she thought was stealing from her was a different version of me. I miss them both a lot but man am I glad they both no longer have to go through that hell on earth.
Poor woman. Alzheimers at 43 is horrible, let alone any age.
getting younger and younger. All the toxic crap in our environment is responsible for that. Use Round-up ? STOP it...it will do this....and give you cancers......lots of crap in the atmosphere , in the food and in the vaccines. Also use your brain, a lot......both sides.....play an instrument, learn an extra language......Make the brain work out.
Indeed. What an onset.
This is exactly what "Everywhere at the end of time" represents. Its been a loooong while since a video made me this emotional, and I'm 9 years late to this. I wish peace for her and her family
Peace upon them.
I like caretaker
creepy but interesting album...
I listened to the album, not all the way through, but the beginning of each of the stages. It is creepy.
I'm in tears. So much love and devotion.
Kendra Lynne - New Life on a Homestead .....man.....what a wonderful amazing man. Loves her truly unconditionally. Very rare to see that kind of devotion anymore.
so much love and devotion yet he put her in a old persons home.....
du Bb at some stage this is kinder as she needs professional care please don’t judge as someday we all may be forced to make this same very difficult decision
+du Bb do you really think he wanted to do that ??
We aren't medical professionals / nurses, du Bb. At a certain point the needs of the person exceeds what their loved one can give.
I remember the last time I saw my grandfather, the first person close to me I ever lost. He died from cancer, and I think it was all the meds he was on that messed with his memory. He didn’t recognize my brothers, but when he saw me he said “Hey, you’re the ramen noodle girl!” Every time we would visit, he would make me ramen because I loved it so much. I cannot imagine watching your loved one slowly fade away over time, we only had to bear it during his final days. This disease is probably one of the most heartbreaking to experience/witness. I feel so deeply for everyone that has to live with or around this.
Seeing this video and now reading through all these comments from years past has me holding back tears. I work in a retirement community and I have seen my fair share of dementia and Alzheimer’s.
I will never forget when a few years back this could sat down in the dining room to have lunch and the wife started yelling and cussing out her husband when she didn’t remember him and the way he cried. He knew she was gone and she has never remembered him and they were the sweetest couple.
He would always visit her in memory care but she never remembered him. Never stoped him though. He is such a loving and brave soul. She passed away earlier this year. This all has just opened up old wounds and I can no longer hold back my tears while typing this.
Than you for your hardwork and kindness Claire
God protect that man he is the kindest human on this earth the amount of love he has for that woman
God doesn't protect kind ppl, he just tortures them.
God you speak for God ! How dare you bring an invisible sky ghost into the mix.
If God exists then he is nothing but evil and out to destroy our lives on earth.
Save it for your church.
@@1220b ...and satan, the true source of all misery and wickedness, laughs at another blind fool casting recriminations into the face of a gracious, yet just God! Well done deceiver, you caused another of His creations to never consider your hand in the whole lot.
There is no God(s). It is all fantasy rubbish. Worse than Harry Potter. It is promoted by ignorant people who cannot think themselves.
@@alexmorgan3435 cool opinion bro it was just a saying anyway. nobody thought that far into it
Thank you for sharing this! I really do appreciate you opening up your personal life to help educate others in the many stages of dementia.
I've taken care of well over a hundred alzheimers patients, one of which got an alzheimers diagnosis in their late 40's. This is a sad journey.
I'm happy to see she had a stalwart companion to the end.
great husband.. however that was probably the saddest thing I have ever watched.
This disease is often passed through mitochondrial DNA. I had my mother's done and we carry the Alzheimer's gene. Which is terrifying.
I hope the father's side can cancel it out, I doubt it will, however. That's why women can't get certain diseases which men can, as women have two X chromosomes, one to cancel out the other, whereas men have one X one Y.
Morte Vicious Scientists are looking into the possibility that Alzheimer’s can be passed via mitochondrial DNA, but so far there are no clear conclusions. However there are other types of diseases that definitely have been shown to pass this way.
Nagihan Göt Mitochondria are structures inside the cell that have their own DNA which is separate from the DNA in chromosomes in the cell nucleus. Mitochondrial DNA Is always 100% inherited from your mother.
I'd look into diet and lifestyle for preventing. Our overall lifestyle determines which certain genes will turn off or stay dormant.
The evil ones spraying chemtrails on us (aluminum & whatever else) should hang for crimes against humanity. Jesus come quickly.
I wish and hope to be 1/64th of a man that this GENTLEMAN IS!
God Bless you and your wife Sir!
I have a family member that’s in a very sever late stage. Little communication at all, but when she says things, it’s all coherent. She can’t walk at all at this point or do anything at all on her own.
Her 90 year old husband, Chaz, has been taking care of her through all this, still at their own home. He’s honestly the strongest man I know, and I’ve never told him that. I’ll change that tomorrow morning.
There’s so much to this story… he took her off some of her prescriptions a few years ago and literally everything about her improved. Note where I said she is now, the meds were making her worse, to an extent.
The two of them have been probably the most kind, companionate and down to earth humans I’ve ever know. It’s sad to see my great aunt lose most of her lively traits, but it’s nice that she still has her personality.
I worked in an Alzheimer's/dementia unit at a nursing home, I specialized with those people and I preferred them. They were such sweet and caring people, although watching them decline was so difficult for me, but knowing that I was the one to take care of them every day was so rewarding! I loved doing little extra things for each resident because they usually remembered that and remembered they're feelings towards me. Great video!!
thank you for your kind heart. god bless you
You're a special person!
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The human existence / experience is tragically depressing sometimes... 😔
Nah. Its beautiful. One can only hope he/she goes through the entire life cycle. My brother did 7 years in prison, and paroled out to a halfway house in December. He was out for 3 months (and in the halfway house the entire time) and died in a car wreck on the way to work. His girlfriend was driving, and shes basically a vegetable. Crazy. And even more crazy is that my brothers dad (we have the same mom but different dads) died in 1999 in a car wreck at the age of 31. Life is short. Doesnt matter if you're a stillborn, die of crib death at 7 months old, die as a teenager, at 30, 45, 72, or 106.. the human experience just isnt long enough. I love life and hope I live past 100.
My brother was only 30.. 02/15/1989 - 03/13/2019
It really is, you wonder what its all about sometimes ( this life)
@@joshuatraffanstedt2695 very rough times you are describing but your comment shows how wise it got you. Thanks for sharing.
My father passed away 4 years ago of Alzheimer’s, Lewy body dementia, and vascular dementia. I miss him so much every day. We could sit and talk for hours, but all that changed as his condition worsened. I am so happy to see her husband still took time with her. My mother and I were with my dad all the time with the exception when he got sick and had to be hospitalized. It was a great honor to care for him.
The late actor Robin Williams suffered from Lewy Body dementia. Terrible disease. Goes to show no amount of fame and fortune really matters. It's the love of family and close friends that sustain us in difficult times.
This makes me miss my grandma … she had dementia and Alzheimer’s… she passed away on august 13 2021 .. she was the most incredible woman I ever knew . She was the most loyal person ever in my life . I miss her dearly . Rest In Peace grandma I love you
I'm a nursing student and have been doing my clinical at a post acute center. It breaks my heart seeing the people with dementia and then see the pictures of them when they were younger.
Ohh good for you, do you want a cookie? What does you having to be a nursing student add to your opinion? Nothing, you just feel the need to include it for the recognition of others and the same goes for everyone else in this comment section that is doing the exact same thing.
Little Jimmy yet you feel the need to complain, how sad
Edit: it also adds to their opinion because they have seen and heard and felt the pain coming from families and residents. When you’re an aide or nurse it hurts to watch someone lose themselves. While the average person may experience one or two persons with dementia, nurses may experience working with those affected on the daily.
Excluded_Shadow ok 👌
@@ExcludedShadow This week I just began to think about the people who are caring for my 91-year-old father (in hospice) who is beginning to lose his grip on reality, and how that affects them because they spend so much time with him, must become attached to him somewhat, and have to watch him slowly go away. And they do this over and over and over with people day in day out, week after week, month after month, maybe year after year. During my last visit, Dad asked me to do something completely preposterous, and I of course could not and did not do it, and he was furious with me. I assume he treats them that way at times as well. How do they handle it?
Watch Dead Doctors Don't Lie. Dr Joel Wallach on youtube
In April 2009 my father had a bad stroke. He walked off and took the search team 2 days to find him. They said if they had not found him when they did a pack of coyotes would have killed him. He dint know where he was, who he was, what day it was or how he got to where he was at. He was sent to the hospital. The first walk in the room I knew something had happened to his brain. He was sitting on the side of the bed dangling his legs like a child. He had the most confused look on his face. It tore my brother up watching our father no longer able to write his own name. A few months later he had a second stroke. Almost died. Then a third one that made him become violent and verbally mean. He lost his memory of all of us and his family. He lived another 8 years after that. He could still walk up till the day he died. Due to the strokes half of his brain had no oxygen. After a stay in the senior mental facility I finally got the full detail of his health. 3 massive strokes. Any day could be the final blow. When he left the mental hospital hospital I had to drive him 12 hrs back home to his nursing home. The sadest part was he tried to offer me money to help pay for the ride. I just said it's ok daddy it's on me. So he sat back and about hr before we finally got to his new NH he started singing to an old song on the radio. That was the only time I ever heard him sing. He passed away March 15 2017. We believe a massive stroke in him sleep. We went to identify the body and was laying like he was sleeping. I love you daddy
Damn this actually made me cry
felicia mcgough This scares me, as my grandma had a stroke and was just diagnosed with Dementia. I’m so sorry for your loss:(
felicia mcgough my birthday
My heart broke and smiled all at the same time..I love him for his love and devotion to her,what an example of a REAL MAN and awesome husband..And you can't help but love Chris,such a beautiful lady.. :)
What a nice and good person that woman must have been since she still looks positive and good-tempered even in the depth of her illness, when all checks on the deep personality are lost.