The Narcissist love's the supply and control! They can't let go until they have another fuel source, once they find a suitable source your yesterday's trash, they always think the grass is greener on the other side! Its not greener its desolate just like them.
I wonder, If I am just a yesterdays trash, since he has new supply with who he is longer than he was with me, WHY he still even after 1 year keeps befriending people who used to be my close friends? He did this 4 x. He was never close friends with these ppl. The only thing there is - they were all close to me in past. (He befriended them ONLY AFTER I unfriended these friends or they unfriended me. And in 1 case he befriended my old fake friend who unfriended me like 9-10 months ago.)
The truth is hard to hear. We think they will miss us, regret doing what they did, feel bad, but that's because we are thinking from the point of view of a healthy mind. It's not easy to see it from their point of view, it's not easy to understand what is like to have no empathy. In the end, it's so depressing, I feel empty after watching your videos, but it's necessary.
🤣🤣🤣...The moment you are truly out of the loop these sick people put you through you will come out a stronger person. Not only that, somehow faith will bring you back up financially and you will strive in every aspect of your lives. It is actually a blessing after the storm guys. I remember how these videos intimidated me at first. I thought these narcs were so much stronger. I do come back to listen to this guy from time to time to remind myself how blind I was and how much my perspective has changed with time. If this message can help the people who are still suffering from cognitive dissonance than it struck the right cord. With enough time YOU guys will all be better for it and you will be able to look back and laugh with indifference and a subtle pleasure your ex narc will ALWAYS be stuck in that destructive loop. I don't particularly look forward to any hoover attempts from my ex narc. But when it happens the real justice will come to all of you just by smiling at their faces with indifference everytime they do come back. Good luck to all of you for a speedy recovery. It will take a few months of no contact before you will be able to reset and after a year it will just feel like a lesson learned...something that these people will never feel. Just think about that and understand who ultimately got the shit end of the stick! God bless people.
I’ve been saying this a lot to myself. I’m not perfect and I’m always trying to become a better version of myself, but I will heal once again, I do have a beautiful life and will continue to flourish. And while for karmic reasons I wish no ill will toward him, I truly believe he will always repeat these toxic cycles and will not be able to exit this loop.
To me it's not that simple. After breaking up with the nark I had to go through 10 years of serving my elderly narc mother, which severely injured my health. She squeezed me out like a lemon. So please don't be too optimistic about learning to escape from those kind of relationships, it takes a while.
Agreed, a little over a year out and feeling better than ever. The fog has cleared. The chemicals in the brain have cleared or regulated plus add taking care of self equals a good recipe for recovery.
My ex said he has never connected so deeply with someone like me and then contradicted himself saying he can connect with anyone and that I'm not that special. I believed him more when he said I wasn't special and somehow realized I dated a robot without emotions. The person I thought I dated never existed.
That was a brutal realization for me as well... "she never existed, I made it all up. There was nobody there". The shared fantasy is so devastating. Today I realized that not only she never existed, she died when she was a kid... I felt so much pitty for her, she could have been a wonderful human being, but she turned into a monster instead. She had me read Frankenstein, watch Coraline, and many other cluster B movies... it was her subconscious way of warning me. I think she was mildy aware of what she really was.
“We have no emotional empathy towards you for appearing out of nowhere after everything that we’ve done to you, which of course will be struck from the record, or never recognized in the first place” I got chills. This is exactly what he did to me. Completely destroyed me and left me heartbroken and unable to trust men completely- only to appear 8 years later and hoover me, denying all the turmoil he put me through before. Thank God I’m learning about all this stuff now. It’s scary how well you describe him in your videos, and that there’s so many people out there like this. This channel has been so helpful to me, thank you HG.
i know im asking the wrong place but does anybody know of a tool to get back into an Instagram account?? I somehow forgot my login password. I would appreciate any tips you can offer me!
Understanding that I was viewed as an object to be used for what I could provide has helped me realize that was why I felt as though I was an object. In the eyes of the narcissist I was an object and that was all. Logic prevails. No contact is maintained.
Yes...I understood that IMMEDIATELY after I married him...just an object! Had NEVER felt like that before him. At least I got to tell him that to his face, too...and I LEFT HIM!!! Such a monster he is! Can't believe the new victim is still with him. She must be SO DESPERATE for a man...even if he's a MONSTER.
@@floridagirl5250 thats what a friend told me "that I'm desperate for a man" but the truth for me is that I don't understand why I can't leave ... that's why I'm here watching these videos after 34 years and 2 children
@@crivsmum4820 Sorry I am french and maybe my English is not really good, still, I can undersand you as after 12 years but no kids nothing, I am still with him even if I have understood and scanned him since years. I would say that We were not prepared to this, as we did not know their "codes" and that is why it can take so long for us, for some people to know what to do with it, with them. If you were not raised this way, it means nothing to you in a first place so you are dealing with something you do not know at all. It's a surprise, day after day.....You know that something is not right, but you do not know what...so..you keep trying over and over, finding excuses..etc...
@@crivsmum4820 I was married 45 years, 2 wonderful daughters…learned of his secret life (last 7-8 years ) after he unexpectedly died in a helicopter crash with the mistress! Imagine the horrors we are currently trying to process. He profoundly lied to me for years when asked about this possibility. I falsely attributed all the behavior changes to his failing business and stress from 2 company lawsuits. I wish I had know about Narcissism and the meaning of patterns before this ! Such a nightmare . In trauma therapy now and probably for years.
@@beverlywilson3752 my narcissist boyfriend just died. He was found in a tub of water running for five days. So we don’t know the cause of death. I went no contact eight months ago. I have mixed feelings of course he died alone. Just like most narcissist do. When I found out about his death I had a sense of relief. No more Hoovers if I went back it would’ve been my death sentence. He told me once he was a serial killer when somebody says who they are believe them. I’m writing a book about our relationship or so-called relationship. When I went no contact it was the point of it was him or me so I chose me. Now he can’t hurt me anymore.
He doesn’t have a choice but to let it go cuz he can’t come back to me. I bigger and stronger than what is being said. I got my Heavenly Father on my side. No man walking on earth will have that much power over me.
In the blood of Jesus I plead the blood of the lamb I had to take it to the Bible to help cut and loose this demon in human form sucks saying this about someone who I thought loved me but hey it’s the truth
It’s to their advantage to pretend as tho nothing happened. They get to see your confusion and hurt when you realize that they “don’t even remember”what they’ve done. Save yourself some time and follow his advice. If you do...your narcissist will respect you. I promise.
I understand how you feel but get out of your victim mentality. It does not serve you. I was with one (actually his entire immediate family are narcs). I refuse to give NPDs anymore power in my life.
You are an empath they can tel by your behavior, your facial expressions even without talking to you thats why we attract them they recognise empaths easily
They can't let go, they move on cause they need supply to live but they can't let go of anyone they had in their life, every narc I know brings up every person they've been with...they hate being abandoned even if they got rid of some of them, they still think every person they've been with is their possession , even if they don't want you, they want to know that you are theirs when they need amd want us.
yeah they want to own you.my ex is so arrogant that he thinks he should be able to be welcome w open arms.he also was married the whole time(lied about it)because he is so sick even though hes on his 3rd "relationship" since her,not including the extras,he still wants to be in control of her.I even firmly believe his 7 kids,I have the 7th,is not by accident.This way in his head he owns you for good while still being able to do what he wants.Hes a sick puppy.
Yep mine mentioned all of hers and feels they. Got horrible partners and she is the best of them all and they all came begging back lies she hovered them and they fell and then eventually she found better supply at the moment and moved on Chile yet keeps updated on all their intimate partners crazy and weird now it all adds up thanks to master Tudor and all the others Tesla and lee thanks y’all
They're entitled, have no empathy and no boundaries. They feel no guilt about the pain they cause you when they violate and abuse you, but instead would choose to gaslight it away or blame you for it. Their huge sense of entitlement means they will just accost you whenever they feel like it just to piss you off. The narc in my life stalked me and turned up at my house when I didn't even give them my address. They think you will still have feelings of sentiment when they try to hoover you. The narc in my life allegedly made multiple attempts to end their life. Another manipulation tactic, but one I won't fall for.
Hmm... so once an appliance, forever an appliance, till death do us part. I picture the Narcissist’s shed with dozens of rusty appliances, some even obsolete...
Totally ridiculous its like any other relationship some come back some u never hear from again, same as every woman looked up her first BF when she got on fbook, doesnt mean they are all narcs,
HG almost always hits the nail square on the head. I have known for about 6 out of the past 8 years that I am involved with a narcissist who views me as his possession. I refuse to call it a relationship, it is an involvement. In my head, of course I know that I should have bolted after the 2nd discard, which was the point at which I did a lot of research and finally figured out what I was dealing with. But my (empathetic) heart did not allow it, and here I still am. At least it's not a daily thing that I must deal with face-to-face. But we do get together often enough for it to still feel like an out-of-control rollercoaster. I am not certain where I am in his fuel matrix at this point --- he is living in a rather remote location right now, with not many options for nearby female companionship, other than what I am sure he is making the most of virtually -- but for the majority of the time, I know I am the primary source (no applause, please). Here's some good news though: Recently, it has felt like I am getting stronger and stronger, and closer and closer to being able to walk away. Wish me luck!
@@simonswamy688thank you for your comments very kind, he's a narcissist doesn't see me as a person that's why, he covered it all up when he put me through the devaluation stage lied, got his friend ( one of his supplies) to lie and even his family knew i waz going to be dumped . All abusers !! 🤮🤮🤮🤮
@@avanellehansen4525 Narcs are genetic descendants of Cain and Esau. The serpent (upright reptilian humanoid fallen angel) is their original father. Genesis 3:15 is the basis of the entire story in the Bible. Without understanding this spiritual war between two separate seedlines (two different paternities), nothing truly makes sense, whether you are a believer or not. And the "churches" are ran by them so they are never gonna teach you the Truth. You have to find it yourself!
I listened to this video 5 times to fully absorb what it meant. And it is the final stage in the freedom from my emotional thinking. Once I truly understood that I meant nothing but a useful “object”to be utilized and then cast aside at the narcs discretion it freed me from any hope whatsoever that this could be a relationship on any level. Thank you HG. I spoke to you on the phone a couple of times a few years ago and you were extremely helpful then but I was unable to be receptive as my emotional thinking was through the roof. Now I listen to your videos with an entirely new insight. You HONESTLY are the best and only real source of understanding NPD and I thank you again, and again and again. (You get the point).
The best revenge is moving foward don't look back walk away with your honor pride and dignity let the last act of you being strong is what they will remember..you dont need them focus on your Creator and the lessons you learned from this experience..you are a wiser person now..peace n love
@@vincentybarra979 thank you it's true I did learn a hell of alot of lessons not to mention karma. He taught me my true self bless him and I taught him about karma. Next chapter I know exactly what to check for can't have the same mistakes again. 🙏🙏🙏✌️😘
@@NB-sq7ui Man made religions have been a deliberate ploy going back to ancient Babylon to throw you off & away from God. I agree, man made religions are deceitful, evil & utterly blindsiding humanity.... God is not. Jesus, God are very real - as is Satan - whether you believe or not, but when the crap hit's the fan, which is already beginning world wide, you WILL have to make a choice which side you're on.
I adore all this truth. I don’t feel depressed at all at the notion that I never meant anything to my ‘friend/hairdresser’. I feel an over whelming sense of relief to learn I have the freedom to drop her, unceremoniously. I’m relieved to be taught that I don’t have to be my usually over courteous self. To know that’s a sane & good tactic, completely sets me free of all the actions my father instilled. He generally knew best. But I think he missed the ball on how to treat an empty, cruel and pushy narcissist. I wish he had learned to stay away from his selfish stupid brother. Instead he took his crap and basically I learned to do the same thing. But NO NORE! I’m free and I love it. Thank you for this teaching. It was sent straight from God. My narc has called 11times, had someone else call and knocked on my door just recently. I have instituted no contact for about 3 months. I was just wondering how I should act when she inevitably catches up with me. And low and behold our videos popped up. So thank you 4 the breath of fresh air. I put up with her slights for 35 yrs, not realizing how deadly she was. Free at last, free at last, free at last!!!
You described my ex-husband to a tee. I kicked him out after two and a half years, divorced him, then moved far away, because I knew his criminal activities against me would not stop until I did. I wasn't about to keep subjecting myself to such misery. You have to cut the cord with these people, and not leave a stitch left.
I always viewed the N as a refrigerator, sure they will keep your feed cold, but as much as you love your refrigerator it will NEVER be capable of loving you back.
A midranger-foolishly made a very embarrassing video of himself and sent it to me, immediately telling me to delete it. I did not know what I was dealing with but decided NOT to delete it, but saved it on a thumb drive. When the inevitable smear campaign began, I told him I had it and unless he ceased his smear campaign, I would send it to the new supply and his family. He has never contacted me again, ending with “I thought you had a better heart.” Can I be assured he will never contact me again?
That is her own funeral, not letting go; I don't belong to nobody; I was married to a Narcissist and I'm so glad to have seen the back of here....2 kids and shit happen.
I think your videos have helped me more than any others have. Hearing explainations through your perspective has made me understand why he did what he did to me.
Yup happened to me as she lovebombed me again and ran off to sleep with somebody else right after I got discarded. I never felt so angry and betrayed in my life. Even when I took her back the relationship just wasn't ever the same.
The way I see this after listening to all the flesh tickling videos that blows smoke up my skirt, telling me that they’ll regret losing me because “I’m so awesome” and listening to these videos that tells me the cold hard facts that I m nothing special at all is that Narcs are Godless creatures. God is Love. Narcs are like little Anti-Christ’s running around doing Satans bidding. Any notion that the Narcs regard me as having any value at all or that they ever loved me is mere projections on my part or from the video content telling me so. Satan HATES me! He wants me DEAD! It felt good to listen to all of those videos at the time, but it didn’t help me in the long run. It keeps my emotions stirred up, frustrated and longing for a lost love that never existed. ALL of that Love was mine! I felt like a Stepford Wife, an emotional punching bag, a slave, and a puke bucket when I was with them. I felt like a piece of garbage when they left. I decree and declare that no Narc owns me! I belong to Jesus Christ. They USED Him to get to me which is worse than using little me! I appreciate these videos for telling the painful truth that I need to hear when my emotional thinking gets in the way. Narcs build up the Ego and Pride in their targets. I need to kill all of that and humble myself and face the cold hard facts every time my emotions start lying to me so I will not be fooled again! Not by another fake apology or Hoover. Thank you for calling me a toaster! 😂
I have met 2 crazy narcs and I notice that when you don’t respond at all the narc feels powerless the 3rd narc I married and he was cold as ice just a horrible human being. They really think that can get away with anything.
Okay, if a person has those empathic traits #1 they are special! #2 The reason why they are not utilizing FUEL from you because they are getting it from someone else!! #3 Remember this, when all fuel reserves are depleted (they slowly die). Frankly, we need more people with empathy, to balance out this crazy world..
He's so arrogant. He thought I'd always be there no matter what he does. Hope's to suck my money out of me or something else. He always likes his toy's to stay put until he's ready. I publicly humiliated him every time he friend me on Facebook. Believes his own lies. He thought I was still under control. I wasn't. He's blocked forever now every where.
Of course a narcissist cannot let their targets go because they are entitled beings. They NEED people and that alone makes “target” special. I am forever amazed that people seeking healing would come to these self proclaimed narc channels and buy into these messages. In reality, this is just a narc getting supply. Nobody belongs to a narcissist. The truth is the narcissist is a weak, feeble minded creature that is in desperate need of deliverance. The mere fact that a narcissist cannot let go is because of the demonic assignment that they are in. Matthew 16:18, “the gates of hell shall not prevail against the church” Never forget that this is a spiritual battle and the enemy and pride is what diminishes a person to an appliance. To think that someone who cannot regulate their own emotions has the audacity to tell people that they belong to him or are mere appliances 🤦🏽♀️ You are a life source.
Tudor, I’ve listened to a lot of your videos and they all seem very good, even though at the beginning it was hard to listen to them knowing they’re coming from a narcissist per se. But what better source than the main source indeed. The only issue I see is that you don’t, or almost never, portray the narcissist at a loss or broken or anything; however, the victims are always the ones in danger of losing either themselves, whether it might be their mental health or even their lives, unless they choose to get out and stay out with a very well stablished no contact regimen. Why if there is the possibility of an outrageously evil force at one end of the spectrum, in your perspective, there is not a possibility of comparable equal force and strength at the other end of the spectrum? i. e. good and truly strong people, that can break or potentially teach a life long lesson to the narcissist. I’ve seen narcissist in my lifetime become nothing, broken and pitiful, due to events in his/her life. They might recover and find new victims, potentially, but they sure will know who not to go back to mess around with. Also, how about President Trump, being treated like nothing, like a crazy person at the end of his term, for the whole world to watched. Even social media deactivating his means of communication. Pitiful and sad.. So in my eyes, narcissists can also lose and take big falls that might be hard to comeback from.
However, bottom line, I agree with your main message. Why empaths should waist their valuable time and strength staying around such low individuals? Get educated, get out and stay out! And spread the word so most people become aware and don’t let them in their life to begin with. Thanks Tutor for your education, it helps indeed, even if you do it just to build your legacy.
I understand what you are saying. some ppl aren't the exact victims the narc actually intended and think they are... meaning they don't suffer as much... not affected that much... strong and somewhat aware already of the bs and not dealing for long or not fully "fueling" them... they do suffer... more than we'll know... they just won't claim it.. like they claim nothing else
I just discussed this with my son today... I think depending on WHERE you are in this deep sick process of knowledge.... HE... his voice.. his 1st person narrative AS THE DEVIL... it COULD ABSOLUTELY be too much... !! Just know your limits? Sometimes I find myself shrinking literally as a video goes on.. mouth open and heart palpitating... Sometimes I can't get through a whole video and that's OK... BUT overall I think it's the BEST.. scariest but best for us to thoroughly understand and I firmly believe or pray 🙏that never again will we make this mistake 😔 nobody KNOWS THIS?! NOW WE KNOW... we knew SOMETHING WAS WRONG... for some of us.. there's finally a LEGITIMATE SOLID FACTUAL explanation to the deep rooted evil we endured??!! 🎯❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙈🙈🙈💀
@@lova9149 I think most of the people here are ensnared and he doesn’t want to encourage any hopes they will “win” and break the narcissist by continuing ANY sort of contact. If they were that strong, they probably would have avoided the narc but either way, why continue.
Let me just tell you, you are very useful, of course but soooooo entertaining. Since I heard the word appliance yesterday, well, I cannot stop laughing 😂
Hehe , mine just resurfaced to say he misses me followed by telling me he is in massive debt and can he move in with me but fuck other women?? Wow !! Immediately followed by rude insults lol. He’s not very suave
I wonder if it's pleasant being a narcissist? As a non-narcissist who has been up very close, I understand the content of these videos and instinctively I think they are spot-on. It doesn't sound like much fun being a narcissist, but that's from my perspective. It sounds tiring, but I guess if it comes naturally, it probably isn't.
My God, you are cold, calculating and Machiavellian! You have no heart ❤but a block of ice! I love listening to your explanations even if they are hard to accept! As they say in Portugal, a raw truth is better than living your whole life wrong! Thank you so much 🥰🥰🥰
Excellent. My x-fiance tried to bait me w/a voice mail about Valentine's Day & how that had been our engagement date. I didn't take the bait which could have been an angry response or sentimental. Thanks to my own inner work since the engagement 10 yrs ago, I'm indifferent and have no need to speak w/him right now, probably never.
This is why it is the objects self determination and the acknowledgement of the right to respect, honesty and love not from compliance and placation. The acceptance of one's own self then strengthens the resilience to the games. So despite any attempt to reopen it can be rebuke.
To me this was one of the most important statements. It feels like the complete truth and like everything that I have experienced in my complete relationship history. I do not know it any different. My mom treated me like her very arms and legs.
I was listening to this, and when he was saying, In our minds you belong to us... The song from Patience and Prudence crossed my mind. Tonight you belong to me.
Narc said to me “ I don’t want you but nobody else must have you” I said oh really 😳....wat must I do ? He said “ just sit there! ..... “ it’s not easy lady to leave you! , I can’t just leave you, it will kill me” Let me decode this narc speak, sit on the shelf n collect dust, I’m tired of playing with you now, I have a new shiny toy, when I’m tired n need to come back, I will...... it’s not easy to get grade A supply like you, you are so much of benefit to me.....to find n groom a new supply ....so much work ect ..... when I find my new supply, you will be thrown away!!!!
I ditched my narc 7 months ago he got with a new 1 8 weeks later she is now 5 months pregnant 🙈 I was out a walk earlier a horn beebed at me I turn round to see it's the ex he actually pulled over and asked me how I was and told I was looking great etc 🤷♀️ I was a bag of nerves after it these people really have no shame at all .
Because they are really and truly possessed with demons. They earned that...They got it. Because they will do what is wrong, immoral, abnormal...They attract and house demons which use them. They are a physical vessel which astral demons can work through for their pleasure. I have literally seen this in action.
@@annekerotterdam7499 No ! HG mentioned in a video that borderline is a soft name usually given to women by psychologists ( instead of mid range narcs ) who were severely abused as a child by narc parents, so their need to control through pity plays etc is greater and their fear of abandonment is higher. I hate you don't ever leave me is a borderline mantra, same as a narc, just to-mato tamato kind of difference .
What do they call a person who knows they are just a participation trophy and know they will be put on a shelf..and while theyre not watching the trophy says fuck it im not sitting here and leaves when they not looking..
I've been broken up with the ex since June of 2018. He was unappreciative, ungrateful, a liar, a druggie and possibly a down low. He claimed I didn't do nothing for him even though I supported him took him to work while I was going to school plus internship and working full-time and helping him. I finally threw in the towel June 2018 and he will not go away. I have blocked him I have told him many times that we're done I don't want to deal with them and he still finds another number to reach out to me. Now soon as I figure out it's him I just block. I think he's homeless I'm not sure but I've done enough for him and it's over. His so-called friends that has so much to say about me all of a sudden they can't help him. Well I wish him luck because this door is sealed shut.
Control is a big part of the narcissistic personality, it very much says what's going on with themselves, I'm currently going through a massive smear campaign, and this person trying to prevent my happiness, and career I worked for, I effect them so much that it hurts them to even think I could have a career and be happy, this was all premeditated, they use the community to harass,in order to do this took a lot of planning, harassment to get me to react the way they wanted, a lot of manipulated phone conversations,and things taken out of context, they had to remake my whole character, and now working on discrediting further so no one will listen,we know how this is achieved, usually through mental health, making me out paranoid, unstable, its not paranoid if you are experiencing someone trying to get to you,or smear you,but things are done with a lot of covert tactics, and deniability. I think their are always leaks,even with government, I don't believe its government, but their are good people out their and lots of people know what is happening in the communities,the narrative is the most important part, to get people to except that whatever I did is worth years of torment, and the ruining of my career, how that is possible, who knows, no one thinks its strange I guess that what's said is so secret, the way its all done should throw up red flags, I've had loved ones participate in the manipulation process, and they are so in group think they can't look at that and see the possibility that something isn't right about all this. What kind of people would believe its ok to ruin someones future, or take away a career someone worked for.The narcissistic people made that possible, to the point people will scream in defense of these people, but its not strange that their isn't confrontation about obviously something so severe you would ruin someones life, and the ability to care for ones self,if these people don't believe in group think, they really need to think about what's going on, but it will cause more resentment with them because the narrative is so engrained.
Known that fool since we were teenagers- popped back into my life a couple years back after many years- I actually finally blocked him- after about 3 yrs of the rollercoaster and revolving door bs
I'm not a victim I haven't been destroyed that's not the mindset I'm working with. Enlightenment the great suffer the death of my own ego. I was a codependent with empathy. I don't attach to anyone outside of myself for anything anymore. Take the L as in Lesson use them.
My narcissist ex has me trapped in the family court system, she won't even agree to her own terms. It's almost like she knows the out come but refuses any finalization. I think. There's nothing worse to a narc then discarding a supply only realizing that they were the best
@@amyjones1422 that’s ok if you want a pretty bland life but if you want to grow and really fly high and have a great life, we need to be open to having our buttons pressed otherwise that which holds us back remains hidden and we never grow or learn to fly or shine brightly, as is our birthright and purpose 🌟⭐️💫
Don’t see yourself as being left on the shelf. You’re still viewing yourself thru his eyes. Develop the attitude that you are indifferent to what he thinks or does. He should simply cease to exist in your mind. Then, live your own life well.
I'm pretty confident that the narcissist will be trying to control me until doomday.She is a child in an elderly body and anyone who waits 25years to buy the property next to me is seriously maladjusted in their thinking.The reason she wants to keep control is because I am creative.At her great age the only subject of interest to her is her garden.I automatically have ideas for mine and frequently redesign.She then tells everyone her son is designing a new garden for her.Unfortunately their binman popped into the garden and said,Good Lord who made this mess!The narcissist promptly berated the son and told him to make her a garden like mine.You wait 25 yrs for your dream and when you get it,it's still not enough.I will never understand her relatives in how they behave like her slaves and if they just behaved like normal people,she could not manipulate and harm to the degree she does.Why don't they stand up to her?I'm not slave material and that's what really bothers them.
Now you're getting me interested in your personal life HG. When I used to use a toaster, I always preferred the traditional toaster oven, and I would set it on a low setting, and then just keep lightly toasting it, each time a little bit more, until it was to my satisfaction. Cause you can always add a little more time, but if you toast it too much, too hard, then it gets burnt quickly. (I usually liked it blondly toasted, not charcoal)!
Violeta and What is Truth are well aware of the destruction these fools put others through. I myself realized I was giving narcissistic injuries without intent. It was all because I kept hold of my self respect…… Good Riddance.
If you change if you find a soul purpose and the Narcissist finds out you will know about it even if they show up somehow at some place. Changing routines go into place after that. If you are going up the ladder? You're going to raise the bar don't toast with them never forget what you allowed them to do to you.
Wow that first line you spoke confirms my empathy towards these videos. I felt like half of them are victims with bias and the others, as you said, are narcissistic themselves.
IF I'm a object .please let me be a sledge hammer
Flamethrowing Uzi with follow-up grenades for me...
😂😂😂
Loser; big talk for someone who falls for a narc
@@eagleeye2300 Ha, super nova event 😊
Said the psychopath a la Gilgo Beach.
You sure you're not a psychopath?
The narcissist is delusional. He has never owned me, and he never will own me. I belong to God!
Amen and Amen! But theses Nuts think in their mind that they do own people. The devil is a liar.
The thing is the narc sees himself as God lol 😆
Amen 🙏
@@whatistruth1155 same a damn lier
Magical thinking. Well done.
The Narcissist love's the supply and control! They can't let go until they have another fuel source, once they find a suitable source your yesterday's trash, they always think the grass is greener on the other side! Its not greener its desolate just like them.
I wonder, If I am just a yesterdays trash, since he has new supply with who he is longer than he was with me, WHY he still even after 1 year keeps befriending people who used to be my close friends? He did this 4 x. He was never close friends with these ppl. The only thing there is - they were all close to me in past. (He befriended them ONLY AFTER I unfriended these friends or they unfriended me. And in 1 case he befriended my old fake friend who unfriended me like 9-10 months ago.)
They don't throw anyone away they recycle..and will always show up.. can be years but they will be back.
@@intuitivevibes1818 He wants to take everything from you so that you have nothing. He wants to see you alone
I was in a shell almost 5 years 😪
His new supply is my cousin
I appreciate the truth even if it sucks.
And if I’m a “ toaster” my ex is a 🚽 toilet!!
My ex narc, Worst than that undecomposable poop 💩 , always floating in piss.
😂😂😂💀
Funny!
Lmaooo 😂😂😂
BEST COMMENT....EVER!👍
I grew up with '"PURE SHIT" though & have been ENGULFED with P.S. ALL OF MY LIFE!!!
So, wish I could be a TORCH!
The truth is hard to hear. We think they will miss us, regret doing what they did, feel bad, but that's because we are thinking from the point of view of a healthy mind. It's not easy to see it from their point of view, it's not easy to understand what is like to have no empathy. In the end, it's so depressing, I feel empty after watching your videos, but it's necessary.
🤣🤣🤣...The moment you are truly out of the loop these sick people put you through you will come out a stronger person. Not only that, somehow faith will bring you back up financially and you will strive in every aspect of your lives. It is actually a blessing after the storm guys. I remember how these videos intimidated me at first. I thought these narcs were so much stronger. I do come back to listen to this guy from time to time to remind myself how blind I was and how much my perspective has changed with time. If this message can help the people who are still suffering from cognitive dissonance than it struck the right cord. With enough time YOU guys will all be better for it and you will be able to look back and laugh with indifference and a subtle pleasure your ex narc will ALWAYS be stuck in that destructive loop. I don't particularly look forward to any hoover attempts from my ex narc. But when it happens the real justice will come to all of you just by smiling at their faces with indifference everytime they do come back. Good luck to all of you for a speedy recovery. It will take a few months of no contact before you will be able to reset and after a year it will just feel like a lesson learned...something that these people will never feel. Just think about that and understand who ultimately got the shit end of the stick! God bless people.
I’ve been saying this a lot to myself. I’m not perfect and I’m always trying to become a better version of myself, but I will heal once again, I do have a beautiful life and will continue to flourish. And while for karmic reasons I wish no ill will toward him, I truly believe he will always repeat these toxic cycles and will not be able to exit this loop.
Thanks
To me it's not that simple. After breaking up with the nark I had to go through 10 years of serving my elderly narc mother, which severely injured my health. She squeezed me out like a lemon. So please don't be too optimistic about learning to escape from those kind of relationships, it takes a while.
Agreed, a little over a year out and feeling better than ever. The fog has cleared. The chemicals in the brain have cleared or regulated plus add taking care of self equals a good recipe for recovery.
My ex said he has never connected so deeply with someone like me and then contradicted himself saying he can connect with anyone and that I'm not that special. I believed him more when he said I wasn't special and somehow realized I dated a robot without emotions. The person I thought I dated never existed.
They say whatever.... everything is not true
That was a brutal realization for me as well... "she never existed, I made it all up. There was nobody there". The shared fantasy is so devastating.
Today I realized that not only she never existed, she died when she was a kid... I felt so much pitty for her, she could have been a wonderful human being, but she turned into a monster instead.
She had me read Frankenstein, watch Coraline, and many other cluster B movies... it was her subconscious way of warning me. I think she was mildy aware of what she really was.
HG Tudor: Defence Against the Dark Arts teacher of 2021
😂👍 true
Bloody brilliant
thqnks
“We have no emotional empathy towards you for appearing out of nowhere after everything that we’ve done to you, which of course will be struck from the record, or never recognized in the first place”
I got chills. This is exactly what he did to me. Completely destroyed me and left me heartbroken and unable to trust men completely- only to appear 8 years later and hoover me, denying all the turmoil he put me through before. Thank God I’m learning about all this stuff now. It’s scary how well you describe him in your videos, and that there’s so many people out there like this. This channel has been so helpful to me, thank you HG.
SO TRUE!!!!
Gentle hugs
i know im asking the wrong place but does anybody know of a tool to get back into an Instagram account??
I somehow forgot my login password. I would appreciate any tips you can offer me!
Understanding that I was viewed as an object to be used for what I could provide has helped me realize that was why I felt as though I was an object. In the eyes of the narcissist I was an object and that was all. Logic prevails. No contact is maintained.
Yes...I understood that IMMEDIATELY after I married him...just an object! Had NEVER felt like that before him. At least I got to tell him that to his face, too...and I LEFT HIM!!! Such a monster he is! Can't believe the new victim is still with him. She must be SO DESPERATE for a man...even if he's a MONSTER.
@@floridagirl5250 thats what a friend told me "that I'm desperate for a man" but the truth for me is that I don't understand why I can't leave ... that's why I'm here watching these videos after 34 years and 2 children
@@crivsmum4820 Sorry I am french and maybe my English is not really good, still, I can undersand you as after 12 years but no kids nothing, I am still with him even if I have understood and scanned him since years. I would say that We were not prepared to this, as we did not know their "codes" and that is why it can take so long for us, for some people to know what to do with it, with them. If you were not raised this way, it means nothing to you in a first place so you are dealing with something you do not know at all. It's a surprise, day after day.....You know that something is not right, but you do not know what...so..you keep trying over and over, finding excuses..etc...
@@crivsmum4820 I was married 45 years, 2 wonderful daughters…learned of his secret life (last 7-8 years ) after he unexpectedly died in a helicopter crash with the mistress! Imagine the horrors we are currently trying to process. He profoundly lied to me for years when asked about this possibility. I falsely attributed all the behavior changes to his failing business and stress from 2 company lawsuits. I wish I had know about Narcissism and the meaning of patterns before this ! Such a nightmare . In trauma therapy now and probably for years.
@@beverlywilson3752 my narcissist boyfriend just died. He was found in a tub of water running for five days. So we don’t know the cause of death. I went no contact eight months ago. I have mixed feelings of course he died alone. Just like most narcissist do. When I found out about his death I had a sense of relief. No more Hoovers if I went back it would’ve been my death sentence. He told me once he was a serial killer when somebody says who they are believe them. I’m writing a book about our relationship or so-called relationship. When I went no contact it was the point of it was him or me so I chose me. Now he can’t hurt me anymore.
He doesn’t have a choice but to let it go cuz he can’t come back to me. I bigger and stronger than what is being said. I got my Heavenly Father on my side. No man walking on earth will have that much power over me.
Amen sister 🙌🏽✝️💛💯
Agreed. They just think they got that kind of power over people even this guy.
Enough with this Heavenly Father nonsense, funny how you religious nonsense people feel like that gives you any power; nice cope
In the blood of Jesus I plead the blood of the lamb I had to take it to the Bible to help cut and loose this demon in human form sucks saying this about someone who I thought loved me but hey it’s the truth
When he says “WE” it sends chills thru my spine.. It’s like hearing my ex finally admit to all he’s done
My experience: all NPD people use the word 'we' ...
@@annekerotterdam7499 in what context.. that makes no sense
Exactly. A return is only an attempt to regain control. Or to gloat.
Which is an assertion of control in itself.
Or revenge
It’s to their advantage to pretend as tho nothing happened. They get to see your confusion and hurt when you realize that they “don’t even remember”what they’ve done. Save yourself some time and follow his advice. If you do...your narcissist will respect you. I promise.
Like I'm looking for respect from a monstrosity like that!
Being a magnet for narcissistic women is sooooo much fun LoL.. thanks mom and dad!
I understand how you feel but get out of your victim mentality. It does not serve you. I was with one (actually his entire immediate family are narcs). I refuse to give NPDs anymore power in my life.
Hahahahahaha you are not alone :D
Me too
You are an empath they can tel by your behavior, your facial expressions even without talking to you thats why we attract them they recognise empaths easily
Yes, I've been dealing with narcissists since birth. That's why being with a narcissist feels comfortable. Love=pain.
Divorce is about to be the best thing that ever happened to me ✌
Now that is rawest explanation of narrissm I have ever heard....Wow
These people are truly NOT human
They can't let go, they move on cause they need supply to live but they can't let go of anyone they had in their life, every narc I know brings up every person they've been with...they hate being abandoned even if they got rid of some of them, they still think every person they've been with is their possession , even if they don't want you, they want to know that you are theirs when they need amd want us.
Furthermore, they want to know every person we have dated and every detail about them. They want to be sure they are the best of all of them.
@@wagendorf31 you are SO RIGHT!
yeah they want to own you.my ex is so arrogant that he thinks he should be able to be welcome w open arms.he also was married the whole time(lied about it)because he is so sick even though hes on his 3rd "relationship" since her,not including the extras,he still wants to be in control of her.I even firmly believe his 7 kids,I have the 7th,is not by accident.This way in his head he owns you for good while still being able to do what he wants.Hes a sick puppy.
This is so true wow! Especially what u wrote about them telling us about every person before - so so crazy
Yep mine mentioned all of hers and feels they. Got horrible partners and she is the best of them all and they all came begging back lies she hovered them and they fell and then eventually she found better supply at the moment and moved on Chile yet keeps updated on all their intimate partners crazy and weird now it all adds up thanks to master Tudor and all the others Tesla and lee thanks y’all
Thank you HG for helping me realize just how deplorable your kind actually is.
They're entitled, have no empathy and no boundaries. They feel no guilt about the pain they cause you when they violate and abuse you, but instead would choose to gaslight it away or blame you for it.
Their huge sense of entitlement means they will just accost you whenever they feel like it just to piss you off. The narc in my life stalked me and turned up at my house when I didn't even give them my address.
They think you will still have feelings of sentiment when they try to hoover you. The narc in my life allegedly made multiple attempts to end their life. Another manipulation tactic, but one I won't fall for.
It’s deterimental hurtful wicked and pathetic
Because to them whatever they dish out and do is justified and makes sense to them it’s crazy
This could've been summed up in far less words; "can't let go of what you can't replace."
One day a guy came to me and say he was moving in on someones territory . I turn to him and said . I am not any ones property .
Hmm... so once an appliance, forever an appliance, till death do us part. I picture the Narcissist’s shed with dozens of rusty appliances, some even obsolete...
Totally ridiculous its like any other relationship some come back some u never hear from again, same as every woman looked up her first BF when she got on fbook, doesnt mean they are all narcs,
Some broken beyond repair.
If I'm an appliance, let it be a waffle iron. 🧇🤤
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Yummy.....waffles!
😳...😂❤️. th-cam.com/video/LNIbhRufPQI/w-d-xo.html
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This is true. They don't let anyone go. Just keep recycling people once they enter the fuel matrix
HG almost always hits the nail square on the head. I have known for about 6 out of the past 8 years that I am involved with a narcissist who views me as his possession. I refuse to call it a relationship, it is an involvement. In my head, of course I know that I should have bolted after the 2nd discard, which was the point at which I did a lot of research and finally figured out what I was dealing with. But my (empathetic) heart did not allow it, and here I still am. At least it's not a daily thing that I must deal with face-to-face. But we do get together often enough for it to still feel like an out-of-control rollercoaster. I am not certain where I am in his fuel matrix at this point --- he is living in a rather remote location right now, with not many options for nearby female companionship, other than what I am sure he is making the most of virtually -- but for the majority of the time, I know I am the primary source (no applause, please). Here's some good news though: Recently, it has felt like I am getting stronger and stronger, and closer and closer to being able to walk away. Wish me luck!
It is really difficult to walk away. I don’t know what to do
The longer you stay the more difficult to leave...prayers for you
Best of luck! You can choose you over anyone wanting to hurt you!
No Hoover's and no contact for 7 months...he's busy with his new supplies H.g tudor ... #innerpeace 🙂👌🙏
Don't hold your breath. He WILL be back. Guaranteed. Been through so many hoovers even when I thought she would never return. But she did. EVERY TIME.
If I was him I wud have never left I mean who wants to leave a gorgeous woman like you come on give me a break
@@simonswamy688thank you for your comments very kind, he's a narcissist doesn't see me as a person that's why, he covered it all up when he put me through the devaluation stage lied, got his friend ( one of his supplies) to lie and even his family knew i waz going to be dumped . All abusers !! 🤮🤮🤮🤮
@@6time686 he won't i can assure you...and he can't contact me blocked blocked blocked and I'm moving in summer😁😁😁
@@cazz3031 he will. give it time.
What a horrible existence! Poor creatures
Where is the Narcissist school where they all learn this?
@@avanellehansen4525 Narcs are genetic descendants of Cain and Esau. The serpent (upright reptilian humanoid fallen angel) is their original father. Genesis 3:15 is the basis of the entire story in the Bible. Without understanding this spiritual war between two separate seedlines (two different paternities), nothing truly makes sense, whether you are a believer or not. And the "churches" are ran by them so they are never gonna teach you the Truth. You have to find it yourself!
I listened to this video 5 times to fully absorb what it meant. And it is the final stage in the freedom from my emotional thinking. Once I truly understood that I meant nothing but a useful “object”to be utilized and then cast aside at the narcs discretion it freed me from any hope whatsoever that this could be a relationship on any level. Thank you HG. I spoke to you on the phone a couple of times a few years ago and you were extremely helpful then but I was unable to be receptive as my emotional thinking was through the roof. Now I listen to your videos with an entirely new insight. You HONESTLY are the best and only real source of understanding NPD and I thank you again, and again and again. (You get the point).
Good to read and you’re most welcome.
I find it fascinating to hear you think that you are in control of people
narcs don't think it, they know it. they convince themselves of it
They all make me sick man wish it would be possible for revenge 😠
The best revenge is moving foward don't look back walk away with your honor pride and dignity let the last act of you being strong is what they will remember..you dont need them focus on your Creator and the lessons you learned from this experience..you are a wiser person now..peace n love
@@vincentybarra979 thank you it's true I did learn a hell of alot of lessons not to mention karma. He taught me my true self bless him and I taught him about karma. Next chapter I know exactly what to check for can't have the same mistakes again. 🙏🙏🙏✌️😘
Same!
Karma - they burn so many bridges. It will all come back to them when they are older. See how many “ objects” they have then! 🤣
I am a child of the Lord Jesus Christ most high and belong to only God.
Thank you HG for the fascinating intel.
Stop believing in man made religions..
@@NB-sq7ui Man made religions have been a deliberate ploy going back to ancient Babylon to throw you off & away from God.
I agree, man made religions are deceitful, evil & utterly blindsiding humanity.... God is not. Jesus, God are very real - as is Satan - whether you believe or not, but when the crap hit's the fan, which is already beginning world wide, you WILL have to make a choice which side you're on.
Amen!
Amen!
@@NB-sq7ui god n religion is two different things. .look it up learn something..
I adore all this truth. I don’t feel depressed at all at the notion that I never meant anything to my ‘friend/hairdresser’. I feel an over whelming sense of relief to learn I have the freedom to drop her, unceremoniously. I’m relieved to be taught that I don’t have to be my usually over courteous self. To know that’s a sane & good tactic, completely sets me free of all the actions my father instilled. He generally knew best. But I think he missed the ball on how to treat an empty, cruel and pushy narcissist. I wish he had learned to stay away from his selfish stupid brother. Instead he took his crap and basically I learned to do the same thing. But NO NORE! I’m free and I love it. Thank you for this teaching. It was sent straight from God. My narc has called 11times, had someone else call and knocked on my door just recently. I have instituted no contact for about 3 months. I was just wondering how I should act when she inevitably catches up with me. And low and behold our videos popped up. So thank you 4 the breath of fresh air. I put up with her slights for 35 yrs, not realizing how deadly she was. Free at last, free at last, free at last!!!
You described my ex-husband to a tee. I kicked him out after two and a half years, divorced him, then moved far away, because I knew his criminal activities against me would not stop until I did. I wasn't about to keep subjecting myself to such misery. You have to cut the cord with these people, and not leave a stitch left.
they just shelf you like you say, and on a rainy day call you up and see if you are available and the feeling are the same.
I always viewed the N as a refrigerator, sure they will keep your feed cold, but as much as you love your refrigerator it will NEVER be capable of loving you back.
A midranger-foolishly made a very embarrassing video of himself and sent it to me, immediately telling me to delete it. I did not know what I was dealing with but decided NOT to delete it, but saved it on a thumb drive. When the inevitable smear campaign began, I told him I had it and unless he ceased his smear campaign, I would send it to the new supply and his family. He has never contacted me again, ending with “I thought you had a better heart.” Can I be assured he will never contact me again?
Good for you.. 💞
Never say never.
He'll be back. These losers have no shame.
@no contact Sandy Williams no he’ll probably be back.
LMFAO. 😂🐍
You're such bad appliance, surely he won't... or who knows...
That is her own funeral, not letting go; I don't belong to nobody;
I was married to a Narcissist and I'm so glad to have seen the back of here....2 kids and shit happen.
Jokes on you for having 2 kids before realizing something so obvious
He said those exact words , I put you on the shelf .
He was thinking out loud! 🐍🤐
I told him that I was leaving him inside the scrap drawer, in a locked case of holy water. 😆
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That explains exactly what he did. He thought of me as an object that he owned !! Good God how did I escape such evil!
I think your videos have helped me more than any others have. Hearing explainations through your perspective has made me understand why he did what he did to me.
Scary. And it escalates as time goes on. Doesn’t matter that their online dating. Narc thinks you shouldn’t be dating and tells you so.
Omg that is so true!!!
Yup happened to me as she lovebombed me again and ran off to sleep with somebody else right after I got discarded. I never felt so angry and betrayed in my life. Even when I took her back the relationship just wasn't ever the same.
Online dating is a bad idea. It’s selling yourself short.
Yes .that is where I met mine on Eharmony. I despise all dating sites and apps. They get supply that they shouldn't have right too since they cruel.
Soooooo true
HG tudor is a blessing to all the people suffering from narcissistic abuse. More fuel to you😉
He isn't a blessing to the people he's abused
This pod cast helps me keep him blocked.
I am still amazed how these creatures have seemingly the exact same playbook. How can the human brain be wired like this?! It fascinates me
It's all fascinating until you live it and then it's just a nightmare.
Same spirit
The way I see this after listening to all the flesh tickling videos that blows smoke up my skirt, telling me that they’ll regret losing me because “I’m so awesome” and listening to these videos that tells me the cold hard facts that I m nothing special at all is that Narcs are Godless creatures. God is Love. Narcs are like little Anti-Christ’s running around doing Satans bidding. Any notion that the Narcs regard me as having any value at all or that they ever loved me is mere projections on my part or from the video content telling me so. Satan HATES me! He wants me DEAD! It felt good to listen to all of those videos at the time, but it didn’t help me in the long run. It keeps my emotions stirred up, frustrated and longing for a lost love that never existed. ALL of that Love was mine! I felt like a Stepford Wife, an emotional punching bag, a slave, and a puke bucket when I was with them. I felt like a piece of garbage when they left. I decree and declare that no Narc owns me! I belong to Jesus Christ. They USED Him to get to me which is worse than using little me! I appreciate these videos for telling the painful truth that I need to hear when my emotional thinking gets in the way. Narcs build up the Ego and Pride in their targets. I need to kill all of that and humble myself and face the cold hard facts every time my emotions start lying to me so I will not be fooled again! Not by another fake apology or Hoover. Thank you for calling me a toaster! 😂
True! And a narcissist (not always in a 'romantic'way) can't let go if they think/ believe you owe them something.
Your wording makes total sense. Makes it easier to understand. Ty
I have met 2 crazy narcs and I notice that when you don’t respond at all the narc feels powerless the 3rd narc I married and he was cold as ice just a horrible human being. They really think that can get away with anything.
Okay, if a person has those empathic traits #1 they are special! #2 The reason why they are not utilizing FUEL from you because they are getting it from someone else!! #3 Remember this, when all fuel reserves are depleted (they slowly die). Frankly, we need more people with empathy, to balance out this crazy world..
There are plenty of people with empathy, most of them are just useless though so you’d never know.
I'm 57 and not that shiny appliance anymore (I burned the toast). I inflicted a lot of injuries. Blocked! Bye Bye!
💪 = 🤕💩
He's so arrogant. He thought I'd always be there no matter what he does. Hope's to suck my money out of me or something else. He always likes his toy's to stay put until he's ready. I publicly humiliated him every time he friend me on Facebook. Believes his own lies. He thought I was still under control. I wasn't. He's blocked forever now every where.
I swear, the ground of all healthy thought is “you are not special“.
Of course a narcissist cannot let their targets go because they are entitled beings. They NEED people and that alone makes “target” special. I am forever amazed that people seeking healing would come to these self proclaimed narc channels and buy into these messages. In reality, this is just a narc getting supply.
Nobody belongs to a narcissist. The truth is the narcissist is a weak, feeble minded creature that is in desperate need of deliverance. The mere fact that a narcissist cannot let go is because of the demonic assignment that they are in.
Matthew 16:18, “the gates of hell shall not prevail against the church”
Never forget that this is a spiritual battle and the enemy and pride is what diminishes a person to an appliance. To think that someone who cannot regulate their own emotions has the audacity to tell people that they belong to him or are mere appliances 🤦🏽♀️
You are a life source.
Tudor, I’ve listened to a lot of your videos and they all seem very good, even though at the beginning it was hard to listen to them knowing they’re coming from a narcissist per se. But what better source than the main source indeed. The only issue I see is that you don’t, or almost never, portray the narcissist at a loss or broken or anything; however, the victims are always the ones in danger of losing either themselves, whether it might be their mental health or even their lives, unless they choose to get out and stay out with a very well stablished no contact regimen. Why if there is the possibility of an outrageously evil force at one end of the spectrum, in your perspective, there is not a possibility of comparable equal force and strength at the other end of the spectrum? i. e. good and truly strong people, that can break or potentially teach a life long lesson to the narcissist. I’ve seen narcissist in my lifetime become nothing, broken and pitiful, due to events in his/her life. They might recover and find new victims, potentially, but they sure will know who not to go back to mess around with. Also, how about President Trump, being treated like nothing, like a crazy person at the end of his term, for the whole world to watched. Even social media deactivating his means of communication. Pitiful and sad.. So in my eyes, narcissists can also lose and take big falls that might be hard to comeback from.
However, bottom line, I agree with your main message. Why empaths should waist their valuable time and strength staying around such low individuals? Get educated, get out and stay out! And spread the word so most people become aware and don’t let them in their life to begin with. Thanks Tutor for your education, it helps indeed, even if you do it just to build your legacy.
I understand what you are saying. some ppl aren't the exact victims the narc actually intended and think they are... meaning they don't suffer as much... not affected that much... strong and somewhat aware already of the bs and not dealing for long or not fully "fueling" them... they do suffer... more than we'll know... they just won't claim it.. like they claim nothing else
I agree with you. Narcs get their karma in the end, and I have been fortunate enough to see it first-hand with many.
I just discussed this with my son today... I think depending on WHERE you are in this deep sick process of knowledge.... HE... his voice.. his 1st person narrative AS THE DEVIL... it COULD ABSOLUTELY be too much... !! Just know your limits? Sometimes I find myself shrinking literally as a video goes on.. mouth open and heart palpitating... Sometimes I can't get through a whole video and that's OK... BUT overall I think it's the BEST.. scariest but best for us to thoroughly understand and I firmly believe or pray 🙏that never again will we make this mistake 😔 nobody KNOWS THIS?! NOW WE KNOW... we knew SOMETHING WAS WRONG... for some of us.. there's finally a LEGITIMATE SOLID FACTUAL explanation to the deep rooted evil we endured??!! 🎯❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙈🙈🙈💀
@@lova9149 I think most of the people here are ensnared and he doesn’t want to encourage any hopes they will “win” and break the narcissist by continuing ANY sort of contact. If they were that strong, they probably would have avoided the narc but either way, why continue.
Let me just tell you, you are very useful, of course but soooooo entertaining. Since I heard the word appliance yesterday, well, I cannot stop laughing 😂
You have to laugh to keep you from crying about it
HG Tudor is an appliance for US. 🤣🤣🤣
Such a pitiful, and irrational way to think. Informative video.
i asked the narc, what object would i be? A hoover!!!!! why a hoover i said. So you can pick up the crumbs 😳😕 straight up 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
My ex narcissist was just my imagination.
I had an imaginary person for 11 years.
He doesn't exist
He didn't exist
He will never exist
Hehe , mine just resurfaced to say he misses me followed by telling me he is in massive debt and can he move in with me but fuck other women?? Wow !! Immediately followed by rude insults lol. He’s not very suave
I wonder if it's pleasant being a narcissist? As a non-narcissist who has been up very close, I understand the content of these videos and instinctively I think they are spot-on. It doesn't sound like much fun being a narcissist, but that's from my perspective. It sounds tiring, but I guess if it comes naturally, it probably isn't.
It's all from anger and so exhaustive. They can't feel real happiness I've realised.
My God, you are cold, calculating and Machiavellian! You have no heart ❤but a block of ice! I love listening to your explanations even if they are hard to accept! As they say in Portugal, a raw truth is better than living your whole life wrong! Thank you so much 🥰🥰🥰
Excellent. My x-fiance tried to bait me w/a voice mail about Valentine's Day & how that had been our engagement date. I didn't take the bait which could have been an angry response or sentimental. Thanks to my own inner work since the engagement 10 yrs ago, I'm indifferent and have no need to speak w/him right now, probably never.
So they are emotional hoarders? They can't clean out the junk.
This is why it is the objects self determination and the acknowledgement of the right to respect, honesty and love not from compliance and placation. The acceptance of one's own self then strengthens the resilience to the games. So despite any attempt to reopen it can be rebuke.
To me this was one of the most important statements. It feels like the complete truth and like everything that I have experienced in my complete relationship history. I do not know it any different. My mom treated me like her very arms and legs.
I was listening to this, and when he was saying, In our minds you belong to us...
The song from Patience and Prudence crossed my mind.
Tonight you belong to me.
That’s pretty scary. But his analysis is so good. Thanks HG
And this is where the restraining order comes in, Because this is like a stalker or obsessive boyfriend or girlfriend that won't leave you alone...
That is the path I took.
Sad and pathetic
Narc said to me “ I don’t want you but nobody else must have you” I said oh really 😳....wat must I do ? He said “ just sit there! ..... “ it’s not easy lady to leave you! , I can’t just leave you, it will kill me”
Let me decode this narc speak, sit on the shelf n collect dust, I’m tired of playing with you now, I have a new shiny toy, when I’m tired n need to come back, I will...... it’s not easy to get grade A supply like you, you are so much of benefit to me.....to find n groom a new supply ....so much work ect ..... when I find my new supply, you will be thrown away!!!!
Mine told me if I ever get another man he will cripple him and make me live with the guilt
A toddler in a man's body.....pathetic
Welll I'm greatly grateful I haven't heard from my ex narcissist boyfriend. Thank God I made it out of that toxic relationship.🙏🏾
I ditched my narc 7 months ago he got with a new 1 8 weeks later she is now 5 months pregnant 🙈 I was out a walk earlier a horn beebed at me I turn round to see it's the ex he actually pulled over and asked me how I was and told I was looking great etc 🤷♀️ I was a bag of nerves after it these people really have no shame at all .
God, you should have laughed HARD and said "feck off"
Because they are really and truly possessed with demons. They earned that...They got it. Because they will do what is wrong, immoral, abnormal...They attract and house demons which use them. They are a physical vessel which astral demons can work through for their pleasure. I have literally seen this in action.
Narcs are the slaves of their own narcissism😎
Well it's because I'm a Borderline and highly emotionally reactive thats why this particular Narcissist keeps coming back to me.
In other words you are a Mid range narcissist.
Yeeeep that emotional fuel. I stopped it dead. LOL made him to mad
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@@goldenbubble1803 Why? Are you projecting?
@@annekerotterdam7499 No ! HG mentioned in a video that borderline is a soft name usually given to women by psychologists ( instead of mid range narcs ) who were severely abused as a child by narc parents, so their need to control through pity plays etc is greater and their fear of abandonment is higher. I hate you don't ever leave me is a borderline mantra, same as a narc, just to-mato tamato kind of difference .
What do they call a person who knows they are just a participation trophy and know they will be put on a shelf..and while theyre not watching the trophy says fuck it im not sitting here and leaves when they not looking..
Hahahaha. That was great
Did you got the smear campaign ? I did 😆. Happy new year darling. Oh, and one of his lieutenant got cornered...
Yeah it was hahah
Tell us?
It's so hurtful to hear this. Hurtful but necessary.
HG Tudor is our revenge. This is great.
I've been broken up with the ex since June of 2018. He was unappreciative, ungrateful, a liar, a druggie and possibly a down low. He claimed I didn't do nothing for him even though I supported him took him to work while I was going to school plus internship and working full-time and helping him. I finally threw in the towel June 2018 and he will not go away. I have blocked him I have told him many times that we're done I don't want to deal with them and he still finds another number to reach out to me. Now soon as I figure out it's him I just block. I think he's homeless I'm not sure but I've done enough for him and it's over. His so-called friends that has so much to say about me all of a sudden they can't help him. Well I wish him luck because this door is sealed shut.
You are so eloquent ...obviously educated I think you're either a writer or a criminal defense attorney
Control is a big part of the narcissistic personality, it very much says what's going on with themselves, I'm currently going through a massive smear campaign, and this person trying to prevent my happiness, and career I worked for, I effect them so much that it hurts them to even think I could have a career and be happy, this was all premeditated, they use the community to harass,in order to do this took a lot of planning, harassment to get me to react the way they wanted, a lot of manipulated phone conversations,and things taken out of context, they had to remake my whole character, and now working on discrediting further so no one will listen,we know how this is achieved, usually through mental health, making me out paranoid, unstable, its not paranoid if you are experiencing someone trying to get to you,or smear you,but things are done with a lot of covert tactics, and deniability. I think their are always leaks,even with government, I don't believe its government, but their are good people out their and lots of people know what is happening in the communities,the narrative is the most important part, to get people to except that whatever I did is worth years of torment, and the ruining of my career, how that is possible, who knows, no one thinks its strange I guess that what's said is so secret, the way its all done should throw up red flags, I've had loved ones participate in the manipulation process, and they are so in group think they can't look at that and see the possibility that something isn't right about all this. What kind of people would believe its ok to ruin someones future, or take away a career someone worked for.The narcissistic people made that possible, to the point people will scream in defense of these people, but its not strange that their isn't confrontation about obviously something so severe you would ruin someones life, and the ability to care for ones self,if these people don't believe in group think, they really need to think about what's going on, but it will cause more resentment with them because the narrative is so engrained.
01:56 he has a soft side
I like how H G can recognise the difference between right and wrong by utilising fact.
Yes most of those videos are a joke. After finding you I don't listen to them anymore.
You sound like a narc
@@flowersofthefield340 Your comments..... everytime you think people are/sound like a narc?!!
@@annekerotterdam7499 Do you not think Narcs are watching these videos?
@@lisahobbs6413 they are, obviously, but you missed the point.
Known that fool since we were teenagers- popped back into my life a couple years back after many years- I actually finally blocked him- after about 3 yrs of the rollercoaster and revolving door bs
Would this explain why a narcassist collects contact details for nearly everyone they interact with?
Once again Tudor proves a narcissist is a little bit of everything but really nothing
I'm not a victim I haven't been destroyed that's not the mindset I'm working with. Enlightenment the great suffer the death of my own ego. I was a codependent with empathy. I don't attach to anyone outside of myself for anything anymore. Take the L as in Lesson use them.
My narcissist ex has me trapped in the family court system, she won't even agree to her own terms. It's almost like she knows the out come but refuses any finalization.
I think. There's nothing worse to a narc then discarding a supply only realizing that they were the best
It's all me,me,I want.I don't see It from that perspective because I see and feel the thoughts below the surface.
I pray to God he finds a new shinier appliance to play with. I'll buy it!
My dad tried to hoover me 12 years after we last engaged in contact. I denied him. So don't get ur hopes up guys....
I'd like to be a microwave, thank you 😂
The washing machine for me the blue comfort is my favourite fabric softener😁🤣🙏
😂😂😂 I prefer being a lantern, it has no buttons than anyone can push! And it zaps bugs 🐛 that come fluttering around! 🤣🤣🤣
@@lookupyourredemptiondrawsn7285 😎
@@amyjones1422 that’s ok if you want a pretty bland life but if you want to grow and really fly high and have a great life, we need to be open to having our buttons pressed otherwise that which holds us back remains hidden and we never grow or learn to fly or shine brightly, as is our birthright and purpose 🌟⭐️💫
You ladies are a joke. Keep pretending to have some solace here
So how can we make sure they leave us on the shelf for ever.
Don’t see yourself as being left on the shelf. You’re still viewing yourself thru his eyes. Develop the attitude that you are indifferent to what he thinks or does. He should simply cease to exist in your mind. Then, live your own life well.
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Go No Contact
I'm pretty confident that the narcissist will be trying to control me until doomday.She is a child in an elderly body and anyone who waits 25years to buy the property next to me is seriously maladjusted in their thinking.The reason she wants to keep control is because I am creative.At her great age the only subject of interest to her is her garden.I automatically have ideas for mine and frequently redesign.She then tells everyone her son is designing a new garden for her.Unfortunately their binman popped into the garden and said,Good Lord who made this mess!The narcissist promptly berated the son and told him to make her a garden like mine.You wait 25 yrs for your dream and when you get it,it's still not enough.I will never understand her relatives in how they behave like her slaves and if they just behaved like normal people,she could not manipulate and harm to the degree she does.Why don't they stand up to her?I'm not slave material and that's what really bothers them.
Very messed up society how do we even get anything done with all.these personalities
Now you're getting me interested in your personal life HG.
When I used to use a toaster, I always preferred the traditional toaster oven, and I would set it on a low setting, and then just keep lightly toasting it, each time a little bit more, until it was to my satisfaction.
Cause you can always add a little more time, but if you toast it too much, too hard, then it gets burnt quickly.
(I usually liked it blondly toasted, not charcoal)!
Violeta and What is Truth are well aware of the destruction these fools put others through. I myself realized I was giving narcissistic injuries without intent. It was all because I kept hold of my self respect…… Good Riddance.
If you change if you find a soul purpose and the Narcissist finds out you will know about it even if they show up somehow at some place. Changing routines go into place after that. If you are going up the ladder? You're going to raise the bar don't toast with them never forget what you allowed them to do to you.
My favorite statement...only if I allow it!
Wow that first line you spoke confirms my empathy towards these videos. I felt like half of them are victims with bias and the others, as you said, are narcissistic themselves.