I love it. I hoping to get in better financial situation to get a coach as sooner as possible. Actually going through the greatest economic crises in the history of my country. Kind of very disturbing times here in the south.
Coach Craig Kenneth . Before finding ur videos my emotional anxiety after my girlfriend broke up with me (which, evidently she wasn't) was through the roof. Now that I listen to the both of u daily, those feelings of having an emotional cardiac arrest are starting to lessen. Though I know it will take some time to get through this. It is good to know and reassuring that I have the two of u to make that healing process and time, all the worth while. Thx
I cried and I cried when I started to realize how toxic I was in my last relationship. I began to realize I was guilt tripping my ex like my father use to guilt trip and manipulate me. It's like a light went on in my head. I can start fixing this now. In the next relationship (with my ex or some other great lady) I can do so much better. Margaret and Craig, you guys are underrated geniuses. I love you
Kudos to you for realizing your flaws and trying to be better.some people are in denial that they are have toxic behavior and if they are aware they don't care to change it and sulk in a corner enabling their bad behavior and worse they tell their friends that you are the toxic one when in reality they did not do anything to fix their relationship...did not verbalize their dissatisfaction in the relationship in a mature way which may cause the partner to act "anxious"... And instead of helping they stonewall the person.
I just got out of a relationship with a very manipulative girl, that I thought was toxic. This video actually makes me wonder if I'm the toxic one. Very interesting.
I understand being in a similar situation with a man I think was toxic some videos have made me feel like I’m the toxic one. But even if that’s the case, what’s good is where you see your own toxicity and you try to change it. Because we all have flaws there’s no getting around it but we have to go through it to get to the other side and that’s being a decent human being. At least that’s how I’m currently seeing. But I’m still improving and growing myself too.
Just got out of a toxic relationship. After years of not dating ended up with a person that everything I needed he took away. I wished I would have found your videos awhile ago. Finally after almost destroying me I took a month out. On January 1st I told him things were different. Now I had boundaries and he if didn't like them move on. It's taken a lot of tears but I am making it out of this. I have had no problems getting asked out on dates but had to figure out why I continued to stayed with him. Mine was an adult trauma and I am working through it. Before the trauma I was a secure relationship style and after anxious and he totally took advantage of it by playing games with my feelings. Your videos have helped me so much. Thank you to you both!
I love listening to you two! I find your advice and insight helpful for all relationships, whether professional, friends, family, and loved ones. I am not quite sure about the definition of toxic people, and I recognize myself in some of the attributes you describe in your video. I always thought of toxic people as those people with whom I spend time, when I want to feel badly about myself. When I think of toxic people I think of those who: act like my best friend while asking personal questions, give unsolicited advice on how I should live my life, smile while they insult me and say "I'm kidding", and spend hours telling me about how wonderful and full their lives are. I hope you do more videos on the subject, because I'd love to learn more about the characteristics of toxic personalities and understanding boundaries.
Thank you so much for this helpful video! I think this topic could even be extended a bit: 1) How to deal with toxic family members particularly? I often see my friends having issues with their intrusive narcissistic parents, or their partner's parents, which is even worse as you have a lot more trouble setting up the boundaries and your partner might not be willing to. 2) How to deal with people who have obvious mental disorders? I have a dude at work (40 y/o!) who just won't accept a no, it only fires him up if you try to set boundaries, he acts completely crazy, slamming doors, harassing you by sitting down in front of you and demanding you answer his question, he won't even shut up when everyone ignores him for an hour, he just talks to himself. It's beyond my understanding why the management still bears with him. But I'm out of clues how to deal with the crazy.
On the whole TH-cam comments section thing, I agree with keeping it positive. An Unmoderated comments section is the same as having no comments section.
Amazing Amazing Amazing!!! I’m so glad to have found Craig and Margaret 😊😊 I wish I had known sooner! But soooo much is clear to me now👍 and no more allowing others drag me down the rabbit hole of manipulation...... What Freedom😊😊 Thank you🙏 Can I ask if Toxic People are Attachment Avoidance or Anxiety, or is it more on a case by case basis?
Great video! I think that unfortunately i got toxic mother. She made it very hard to say no to her, because she is very aggresive during that time. Well, i set my boundries in regards of one situation and she still waits until i change my mind. She also tries to make me guilty. Said that im monster and if i wont change my mind then i dont belong to this family. Im very proud of myself because i answered calmy most of the time and did not let it escalate into big argument. Just said, ok i made my decision and if you think that becaue of that i dont belong to this family, then perhaps you are not good people for me anyway.
Hi Craig, Amazing channel. Thank you for doing this to you & Margaret. I have recommended your channel to many people as I truly believe it could offer them a lot of value in their life. I've watched most, maybe almost all videos & learned from them all. I didn't see a video yet on a scenario such as this one - both people like each other, are attracted to each other BUT because one person has a past history with someone close, they cannot get over it & be with them. (Ex. one person briefly dated the other person's best friend) - where does this insecurity come from, does it mean they just don't like the person enough, should a person's past relationships really have any impact in a current relationship. In a world where dating has become so easy with multiple ways to meet people, dating apps etc, every city is now like a small town & the degrees of separation between people knowing each other are small & you are bound to cross circles & date different people at different times that are in the same circle of friends with each other. It's become so prevalent now. I feel this may be a good topic to touch on for everyone dating out there, myself included. Thank you again for bringing your expertise & experience to share with all of us so we can all better our lives & relationships.
This helped me so much in dealing wirh my parents. My mom is so toxic which in turn malea my dad toxic. They heap so much bs on me i feel like my head will explode.
Hi Coach! Is there anyway you could do a video on passive aggressive personality disorder? I’ve read they don’t really respond to boundary setting and it’s difficult to even get 2 words in.
Thank you for this video.as always good content. Just a thought though... Kudos to those people who recognize their flaws and mistakes and try to change.. One thing I don't like is some people who easily label their partner or ex as someone who is toxic especially to those they think who have anxiety or depression without evaluating their own words and actions and its impact into the relationship and breakup. And especially those who confide in their friends and of course they would take his side without ever hearing or knowing the other person's story.they are just quick to jump to the conclusion that the other person is toxic and their friend who is complaining is not and advice him to just run away. Little do they know that their friend could be the real toxic one.so instead of taking that person's side.. If you are the friend... Ask him/her...what is your ex or partner's complaints?why do you think your partner acts or reacts like that?what actions or words did you think you said or did that may have cause this person to feel anxious or angry?what did you to fix this?how did you talk to your partner? Did you verbalize your dissatisfaction to that person in a mature,nonaggressive, non condescending way or you disregarded their feelings?did you stonewall this person when they are verbalizing their complaints? Did you keep your feelings of dissatisfaction to yourself and made your partner think that everything is Ok and they would just find out about it weeks or months or even years that you actually haven't moved past the faults and mistakes even if they already apologized? Some people are easily angered or annoyed or anxious because there is an underlying depression.rather than judge the person as toxic dig deeper to find the root of the emotions rather instantly concluding that that person is toxic. Evaluate oneself better before jumping to conclusions.if they do realize or their ex or partner tells them the hurt they have inflicted and they don't do anything about it but sulk in a corner and enable their bad behavior and make an excuse that this is their personality.these people are the worst.it is good to accept your flaws and not changing who you are..but if your words,behavior and attitude are hurting your relationship with people who actually cares about you and stood by you through thick and thin and your words,attitude,behavior and actions are sabotaging or hurting your job,health, family and your partner... It is better to take a step back and reevaluate how you think about yourself and change it rather than enable yourself to be an ass. Just an opinion.
Same question lie in my head.. it will be good if we can chit chat a lil here.. I was very calm in the starting of relationship. She had ups and downs in her life due to family issues. Then she went to college and she started giving me less time. I kept my patience first and slowly I started noticing that she isn't prioritizing me. Like she goes to movies with female friends.. but didn't have time for me,due to which my extreme anxious behaviour started to develop. I became very needy telling her to give me time or so , which resulted in loosing my respect and she started abusing and taking me lightly leading to breakup. After breakup I did many things which I think are ok to have her back like texting her , blowing her phone by many calls basically not letting her go so easily. Do am I toxic?
I dont like to say no much nether you remind me of my grandmother she passed away when I was 7 my dad says I'm real nice like that wonderful video it also helps remind me that I can only make so many happy
I sometimes get a bad vibe from people on first impression, assuming they have some toxicity- only to be pleasantly surprised as I get to know them and see they're actually pretty ok. But sometimes the gut is right, I meet a person for the first time and I can tell they are toxic.
Thank you Margaret and Craig. I actually have to deal with an at least covert narc,whom I can't leave just like that. He's been enjoying flirting with me,just to push me away to enjoy my pains. It took me some time to figure it out,but now it's clear to me. Still learning and so thankful for videos like this.👏🙋💕
What if, when you tell her "I'm here for you, but don't talk to me like that" she keeps interrupting by raising her voice and bringing the discussion back to her point? Multiple times? Will raising our voice "level" the discussion and put her in her place? Or is it destructive? Even if her behaviour is aggressive and abusive?
Same question lie in my head.. it will be good if we can chit chat a lil here.. I was very calm in the starting of relationship. She had ups and downs in her life due to family issues. Then she went to college and she started giving me less time. I kept my patience first and slowly I started noticing that she isn't prioritizing me. Like she goes to movies with female friends.. but didn't have time for me,due to which my extreme anxious behaviour started to develop. I became very needy telling her to give me time or so , which resulted in loosing my respect and she started abusing and taking me lightly leading to breakup. After breakup I did many things which I think are ok to have her back like texting her , blowing her phone by many calls basically not letting her go so easily. Do am I toxic?
my ex which i have been with for a year and 2 months has just left me for her Narc ex, he has now gone as low as saying he is not seeing the older kid anymore because he doesnt want to hear about the good life i have gave them. been NC for 3 weeks now and she has texted me 5 times in the 3 weeks i did reply but only to answer what she asked me then left it there when she left she told me that its not because she didnt love me because she does. also she self harmed herself by cutting her hand with a knife the day before she left. really not sure what to do. please help
Can anyone tell me toxic traits ? I was on little needy side when she didn't give me attendance or didnn't call me for days.. or didn't set me on priority
This is anxious attachment behavior, and yes, it can be counted as toxic if the other person is not liking how your behavior makes them feel. Even if your concerns are right, your method of addressing the concerns becomes toxic.
RIP Margaret. You truly worked hard for all us viewers. You were a very kind woman.
Make sure you like this video! Margaret did hours worth of research on this one for everyone!
I love it. I hoping to get in better financial situation to get a coach as sooner as possible. Actually going through the greatest economic crises in the history of my country. Kind of very disturbing times here in the south.
By the way, thank you for the generosity of publishing some of your great knowledge online. That is very kind from both of you.
Coach Craig Kenneth . Before finding ur videos my emotional anxiety after my girlfriend broke up with me (which, evidently she wasn't) was through the roof. Now that I listen to the both of u daily, those feelings of having an emotional cardiac arrest are starting to lessen. Though I know it will take some time to get through this. It is good to know and reassuring that I have the two of u to make that healing process and time, all the worth while. Thx
Please do more role-playing videos with each other on how to say no for us.
Thank you.
Saying no is really hard for me to do.
100 thumbs up for Margaret (she's fantastic!)
I cried and I cried when I started to realize how toxic I was in my last relationship. I began to realize I was guilt tripping my ex like my father use to guilt trip and manipulate me. It's like a light went on in my head. I can start fixing this now. In the next relationship (with my ex or some other great lady) I can do so much better. Margaret and Craig, you guys are underrated geniuses. I love you
Kudos to you for realizing your flaws and trying to be better.some people are in denial that they are have toxic behavior and if they are aware they don't care to change it and sulk in a corner enabling their bad behavior and worse they tell their friends that you are the toxic one when in reality they did not do anything to fix their relationship...did not verbalize their dissatisfaction in the relationship in a mature way which may cause the partner to act "anxious"... And instead of helping they stonewall the person.
We love coach Margaret 😊and of course you to Craig .
I just got out of a relationship with a very manipulative girl, that I thought was toxic. This video actually makes me wonder if I'm the toxic one. Very interesting.
Good on you for self reflecting. Most people would never do this and thus never improve.
I understand being in a similar situation with a man I think was toxic some videos have made me feel like I’m the toxic one. But even if that’s the case, what’s good is where you see your own toxicity and you try to change it. Because we all have flaws there’s no getting around it but we have to go through it to get to the other side and that’s being a decent human being. At least that’s how I’m currently seeing. But I’m still improving and growing myself too.
Work on yourself we all have our toxic moments.
Just got out of a toxic relationship. After years of not dating ended up with a person that everything I needed he took away. I wished I would have found your videos awhile ago. Finally after almost destroying me I took a month out. On January 1st I told him things were different. Now I had boundaries and he if didn't like them move on. It's taken a lot of tears but I am making it out of this. I have had no problems getting asked out on dates but had to figure out why I continued to stayed with him. Mine was an adult trauma and I am working through it. Before the trauma I was a secure relationship style and after anxious and he totally took advantage of it by playing games with my feelings. Your videos have helped me so much. Thank you to you both!
Margaret and Craig, you are awesome! So pleasant to hear your videos!
I love listening to you two! I find your advice and insight helpful for all relationships, whether professional, friends, family, and loved ones. I am not quite sure about the definition of toxic people, and I recognize myself in some of the attributes you describe in your video. I always thought of toxic people as those people with whom I spend time, when I want to feel badly about myself. When I think of toxic people I think of those who: act like my best friend while asking personal questions, give unsolicited advice on how I should live my life, smile while they insult me and say "I'm kidding", and spend hours telling me about how wonderful and full their lives are. I hope you do more videos on the subject, because I'd love to learn more about the characteristics of toxic personalities and understanding boundaries.
This makes me miss Margret so much…. I wish I could have had a chance to meet her.
You two are a dynamic duo! VERY valuable information and delivered in an entertaining way. Thank you, Margaret and Coach Craig!
Thank you so much for this helpful video! I think this topic could even be extended a bit:
1) How to deal with toxic family members particularly? I often see my friends having issues with their intrusive narcissistic parents, or their partner's parents, which is even worse as you have a lot more trouble setting up the boundaries and your partner might not be willing to.
2) How to deal with people who have obvious mental disorders? I have a dude at work (40 y/o!) who just won't accept a no, it only fires him up if you try to set boundaries, he acts completely crazy, slamming doors, harassing you by sitting down in front of you and demanding you answer his question, he won't even shut up when everyone ignores him for an hour, he just talks to himself. It's beyond my understanding why the management still bears with him. But I'm out of clues how to deal with the crazy.
What ended up happening with the guy at work? Do you know what his mental disorder is?
Great video by the dynamic duo. Your channel is the best keep up the good work!
Margaret is awesome!
Craig's not to shabby too ..lol
Love this channel
On the whole TH-cam comments section thing, I agree with keeping it positive. An Unmoderated comments section is the same as having no comments section.
You two are great together
Amazing Amazing Amazing!!!
I’m so glad to have found Craig and Margaret 😊😊
I wish I had known sooner! But soooo much is clear to me now👍 and no more allowing others drag me down the rabbit hole of manipulation......
What Freedom😊😊
Thank you🙏
Can I ask if Toxic People are Attachment Avoidance or Anxiety, or is it more on a case by case basis?
I love this. You go guys! I am going to write these down. Oh I see that's a question in The Knowledge. Awesome.
I'm going to watch this again. I think a video in the same vein but about how to handle criticism in a relationship would be good too.
Great video! I think that unfortunately i got toxic mother. She made it very hard to say no to her, because she is very aggresive during that time. Well, i set my boundries in regards of one situation and she still waits until i change my mind. She also tries to make me guilty. Said that im monster and if i wont change my mind then i dont belong to this family. Im very proud of myself because i answered calmy most of the time and did not let it escalate into big argument. Just said, ok i made my decision and if you think that becaue of that i dont belong to this family, then perhaps you are not good people for me anyway.
Thank you for such a great video you two! This is one of the many things I've struggled with in the past. This is amazing and great proactive advice.
Craig why are you so good at your videos I can't resist
Great video! I think everyone can use a reminder on how to deal with toxic people. Ignore them, don’t choke them. ✅ lol
I miss Coach Margaret she was the greatest. I had two sessions with her & it helped tremendously. She taught me how to coparent with my bpd ex.
I got some empowerment from this. Thank you.
I have really fell in love with Margaret and her deep Insight into relationship. Thanks Craig, for your great works
Hi Craig,
Amazing channel. Thank you for doing this to you & Margaret. I have recommended your channel to many people as I truly believe it could offer them a lot of value in their life. I've watched most, maybe almost all videos & learned from them all. I didn't see a video yet on a scenario such as this one - both people like each other, are attracted to each other BUT because one person has a past history with someone close, they cannot get over it & be with them. (Ex. one person briefly dated the other person's best friend) - where does this insecurity come from, does it mean they just don't like the person enough, should a person's past relationships really have any impact in a current relationship. In a world where dating has become so easy with multiple ways to meet people, dating apps etc, every city is now like a small town & the degrees of separation between people knowing each other are small & you are bound to cross circles & date different people at different times that are in the same circle of friends with each other. It's become so prevalent now. I feel this may be a good topic to touch on for everyone dating out there, myself included.
Thank you again for bringing your expertise & experience to share with all of us so we can all better our lives & relationships.
Great information ty u 2 r so amazing in every possible way
This helped me so much in dealing wirh my parents. My mom is so toxic which in turn malea my dad toxic. They heap so much bs on me i feel like my head will explode.
Hi Coach! Is there anyway you could do a video on passive aggressive personality disorder? I’ve read they don’t really respond to boundary setting and it’s difficult to even get 2 words in.
Thank you for this video.as always good content.
Just a thought though... Kudos to those people who recognize their flaws and mistakes and try to change..
One thing I don't like is some people who easily label their partner or ex as someone who is toxic especially to those they think who have anxiety or depression without evaluating their own words and actions and its impact into the relationship and breakup. And especially those who confide in their friends and of course they would take his side without ever hearing or knowing the other person's story.they are just quick to jump to the conclusion that the other person is toxic and their friend who is complaining is not and advice him to just run away. Little do they know that their friend could be the real toxic one.so instead of taking that person's side.. If you are the friend... Ask him/her...what is your ex or partner's complaints?why do you think your partner acts or reacts like that?what actions or words did you think you said or did that may have cause this person to feel anxious or angry?what did you to fix this?how did you talk to your partner? Did you verbalize your dissatisfaction to that person in a mature,nonaggressive, non condescending way or you disregarded their feelings?did you stonewall this person when they are verbalizing their complaints? Did you keep your feelings of dissatisfaction to yourself and made your partner think that everything is Ok and they would just find out about it weeks or months or even years that you actually haven't moved past the faults and mistakes even if they already apologized?
Some people are easily angered or annoyed or anxious because there is an underlying depression.rather than judge the person as toxic dig deeper to find the root of the emotions rather instantly concluding that that person is toxic. Evaluate oneself better before jumping to conclusions.if they do realize or their ex or partner tells them the hurt they have inflicted and they don't do anything about it but sulk in a corner and enable their bad behavior and make an excuse that this is their personality.these people are the worst.it is good to accept your flaws and not changing who you are..but if your words,behavior and attitude are hurting your relationship with people who actually cares about you and stood by you through thick and thin and your words,attitude,behavior and actions are sabotaging or hurting your job,health, family and your partner... It is better to take a step back and reevaluate how you think about yourself and change it rather than enable yourself to be an ass.
Just an opinion.
Same question lie in my head.. it will be good if we can chit chat a lil here..
I was very calm in the starting of relationship. She had ups and downs in her life due to family issues. Then she went to college and she started giving me less time. I kept my patience first and slowly I started noticing that she isn't prioritizing me. Like she goes to movies with female friends.. but didn't have time for me,due to which my extreme anxious behaviour started to develop. I became very needy telling her to give me time or so , which resulted in loosing my respect and she started abusing and taking me lightly leading to breakup. After breakup I did many things which I think are ok to have her back like texting her , blowing her phone by many calls basically not letting her go so easily.
Do am I toxic?
I dont like to say no much nether you remind me of my grandmother she passed away when I was 7 my dad says I'm real nice like that wonderful video it also helps remind me that I can only make so many happy
I sometimes get a bad vibe from people on first impression, assuming they have some toxicity- only to be pleasantly surprised as I get to know them and see they're actually pretty ok. But sometimes the gut is right, I meet a person for the first time and I can tell they are toxic.
Margaret is amazing !!! You both are. I am soooo impressed 💕 regards to you both from London
Thank you Margaret and Craig. I actually have to deal with an at least covert narc,whom I can't leave just like that. He's been enjoying flirting with me,just to push me away to enjoy my pains. It took me some time to figure it out,but now it's clear to me. Still learning and so thankful for videos like this.👏🙋💕
Yes, covert narcs are the absolute worst :(
What if, when you tell her "I'm here for you, but don't talk to me like that" she keeps interrupting by raising her voice and bringing the discussion back to her point? Multiple times? Will raising our voice "level" the discussion and put her in her place? Or is it destructive? Even if her behaviour is aggressive and abusive?
Would a person with an anxious attachment be classified as a toxic person because he/she is needy?
Same question lie in my head.. it will be good if we can chit chat a lil here..
I was very calm in the starting of relationship. She had ups and downs in her life due to family issues. Then she went to college and she started giving me less time. I kept my patience first and slowly I started noticing that she isn't prioritizing me. Like she goes to movies with female friends.. but didn't have time for me,due to which my extreme anxious behaviour started to develop. I became very needy telling her to give me time or so , which resulted in loosing my respect and she started abusing and taking me lightly leading to breakup. After breakup I did many things which I think are ok to have her back like texting her , blowing her phone by many calls basically not letting her go so easily.
Do am I toxic?
18th of january.2018.. this day we were so happy... i wouldnt know that i will be here....
True, some people here think they are the next Craig or Margaret.
my ex which i have been with for a year and 2 months has just left me for her Narc ex, he has now gone as low as saying he is not seeing the older kid anymore because he doesnt want to hear about the good life i have gave them. been NC for 3 weeks now and she has texted me 5 times in the 3 weeks i did reply but only to answer what she asked me then left it there when she left she told me that its not because she didnt love me because she does. also she self harmed herself by cutting her hand with a knife the day before she left. really not sure what to do. please help
Anyone else having trouble with this section in the workbook? Not all questions are addressed by angelic Margaret
Can anyone tell me toxic traits ? I was on little needy side when she didn't give me attendance or didnn't call me for days.. or didn't set me on priority
This is anxious attachment behavior, and yes, it can be counted as toxic if the other person is not liking how your behavior makes them feel. Even if your concerns are right, your method of addressing the concerns becomes toxic.
NO. NO I AM NOT DOING THAT. NOPE. NO. NAH. NOT. I HAVE TIME BUT NO. NO WAY. NOT AT ALL. NO CHANCE..
I’m always scared to say no especially to the boyfriend
Luv U 2
My ex narcissistic I like to stay for my son
Am i blocked?
Yes 🤓
When you realize you have toxic traits