Hey Dan I really love your idea about the behavior chart. If I make a date, I'll wait 15 minutes for tardiness and 30 minutes with a phone call and I leave after 30 minutes regardless. As she needs to reschedule with me. I don't permit disrespect. I think I might have a hard time on the chart such as rolling of the eyes and looking at the phone for more than a glance is no go. Most of these, I'll give a warning and after that the date is over. I'd rather be alone than to be disrespected.
It is critical to learn the culture of your significant other when you first meet, court, and marry. This is how you learn the norms of each other. Over time each spouse will be incorporating elements of the others culture without knowing it. This is key to a good relationship bounded by love, friendship, dignity, and respect. This is how to have a good stable relationship... regardless of culture. You need to learn to appreciate those differences, as they make things interesting...rather then dull. Sex will come, and will be beautiful when it occurs under these circumstances. This is part of what John Gottman PhD preaches on having good relationships. It is worth looking at what he has written, as it makes sense. I am an American gentleman married to a Vietnamese woman for 19 years, and we are still going strong.
all you saying is to be use to turn a 20s something to a sex slave for a 60 plus year old man or women. There is love relationship, once he turn 80s can shit in his pant, do you think this 20s something with change diaper 24/7. WTF nonsense is this.
My ex asian girl started to disrespect me about money, asking me more and more, as well for "family", telling me she wanted to use mine, that a man should support a lady, lies about her work, i never saw her working, despite she told me she had lot of money. So why do you want to use mine? But despite that she wanted to love and stay with me. I was feeling oppressed, and sucked and controlled, money could be the end of a relationship. Many men with good jobs and income dont care about this to pay and support a lady, i value these factors too sorry.
My behavior with women is very different from when I was 25 , today I am 67 ,, At 25 my behavior was not acceptable by today’s standards , now I am more mellow , but very much aware of red flags , which comes with experience,
My GF on occasion has stood me up when we had a planned date. She has many things she is doing and updates me as she goes but the fact that we agreed on a date, on-line as I live in the US and she is in the Philippines, doesn’t work for me. It has only happened a few times in the last several months but it is a lack of respect for me.
I think all your videos are worth watching, some have more value to me than others. I am considering dating a asian woman again and am interested in any tips for how a Buddhist lady is and what kinds of expectations and pit falls may exist.
I have a Thai wife. I am not religious and Buddhism seems to be very to be tolerant of westerners whatever their beliefs. Like any religion there will be Buddhist holidays, festivals, and requests for donations. Culturally I would say that the practice of “saving face” is hugely important and can lead to cultural misunderstandings, at least at first. Asian cultures are communitarian rather then individualistic. That leads to a dense web of social connections with friends and family. You have to figure out for yourself how to navigate the religious and cultural obstacles but it helps to be aware of the challenges beforehand.
If she's young, she may be able to correct bad behavior, but once in their 30s, the die is usually cast. Making a matrix is probably a bad idea though. The minute you start negotiating desire like that, the train has already left the station - she's not into you, move on and find another.
The whole chart of “punishing” your partner with spending weeks or a month apart is ludicrous. If you feel good while spending a month apart from your love, then you don’t have a love We’re happily married for 43 years. We’re miserable when we’re apart for more than 2-3 days in a row. You either love them and talk these things out, face to face, and deal with them like grown ups, Or they just aren’t for you. I can’t even imagine these chart making type relationships at all. Maybe pick compatibility over youth. Or deal with the childishness.
Since about 2016, people who believe conspiracy theories as alternate facts have disrespected those who don't believe the same conspiracy theories. At least back in the States, this has been a real problem. It's tearing apart families and relationships. You're so lucky to be overseas, when we have politicians openly talking about a national divorce, which is really their code for a civil war. The politics are toxic back home. Keep making videos guys, you two are a blessing!
Funny thing is, so many of those "conspiracy theories " have been revealed to be true. That's why all the clamoring for censorship. I never would have dreamed people would want that.
I do my best to stay away from Politics on this channel. There are enough channels covering politics but not many talking about the costs and benefits of retiring overseas. :-)
I've never achieved anything by discussing with girls their poor behavior or threatening consequences. If u make the mistake of taking them seriously and consequently try to punish them for their poor behavior, the only thing which seems to have any effect, is to stop seeing them for a period of time, long enough to make them think that they may have lost u. Unfortunately, if u do that, by the time u decide to end the punishment and start seeing them again, u often find out that they have been dicked by other men in the meantime. So by trying to punish them, u only punish yourself. Therefore IMHO the more rational thing to do is to accept women for what they are, namely beings who do not meet the personality standards men usually have and to therefore decide on a daily basis whether the pleasure u get from them still outweighs the headaches, mental stress and annoyance they cause and if not, to pull the plug on them and move on to the next one in the pipeline, exactly like women do.
I was giving thought to the weight thing maybe it's symbolism from a third party. You know if she is hitting the scales to prove she is a healthy weight you are probably seeing a doctor also..
SO thoughtful Dan. There is another side that all should consider. Think about this Dan ? Some day no tool. She's younger and still able. How to please her every time so your not wondering from time to time about her needs and age. This solves that. It all has to do with a woman god given biology. I'm 62 i found this out by accident. All i can say that its so awesome everybody should know about this that is open to learning. That's it . I'M NOT selling anything Dan. It's gift If your open to learning a more rich experience with your special lady, Feel free to find me on FB inbox and say hey this is Dan, we can set up a video call time be nice to meet you as well. A quick talk about this then i will send you a couple videos to learn from. There's no catch Dan just a long time subscriber. I'm not gay either. I have a awesome pinay. This would be very helpful to some of your subscribers. Have a good day and No hurries no worries.
Hi Michael Bare, Would you like to be a guest start on one of my videos? Here is an example guest star video: th-cam.com/video/ySM_2jAC4v4/w-d-xo.html Your interview could be just your voice or we could do a zoom call showing your face. If you would like to be a guest star and share your story please leave a personal message here: vagabondbuddha.com/contact/ Thank you for your comment. The detail of your comment makes this real for people. If you have a business, service, or TH-cam channel, you could share that on the interview. Best, Dan
@@Mexicobeanpole agreed what to do after 5 min sex for the old men..... there is no real love relationship can be created, that is just a pipe dream, because if this girl have money she will pissy all over this dirty old men. this is not to judge any one, since everyone involed is a full grown aldult. When time for to retire I will go for it with a 20year old young white women for the poor EU country like romania or poland. They are very yummy. I am a dog, I do not pretent to be a sheep to get into a relationship with a young 20s. lol
I liked your opening statement on sex, money and respect. Right up front. I have been told many times that I need to write a brook on how I met my now wife. Way too much work. I got the respect down right off the bat as she spoke better English better than I and that came over many conversations and meeting her mother. One down. I was a scientist with patents so had a few dollars. Found over time she was very well known as an actress and more. So money was off the table. Have no idea to this day how much she makes. She is very strict and supper conservative. This all came easy. Wife is Chinese/Malaysian. So with patients I let it all come together. I observed and learnt much from her from the start. So sex, money, respect came together as I took the time to put the picture together. That all started 27 years ago. Feb 1996. And for another story my wife was once married to a prince as her son is. Good job Dan The Man and Chung is quite The lady. Everything comes to he who has patience. So much turmoil today. Put the cell phone down (I designed them) and learn to communicate.
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Hey Dan I really love your idea about the behavior chart. If I make a date, I'll wait 15 minutes for tardiness and 30 minutes with a phone call and I leave after 30 minutes regardless. As she needs to reschedule with me. I don't permit disrespect. I think I might have a hard time on the chart such as rolling of the eyes and looking at the phone for more than a glance is no go. Most of these, I'll give a warning and after that the date is over. I'd rather be alone than to be disrespected.
It is critical to learn the culture of your significant other when you first meet, court, and marry. This is how you learn the norms of each other. Over time each spouse will be incorporating elements of the others culture without knowing it. This is key to a good relationship bounded by love, friendship, dignity, and respect. This is how to have a good stable relationship... regardless of culture. You need to learn to appreciate those differences, as they make things interesting...rather then dull. Sex will come, and will be beautiful when it occurs under these circumstances.
This is part of what John Gottman PhD preaches on having good relationships. It is worth looking at what he has written, as it makes sense.
I am an American gentleman married to a Vietnamese woman for 19 years, and we are still going strong.
all you saying is to be use to turn a 20s something to a sex slave for a 60 plus year old man or women. There is love relationship, once he turn 80s can shit in his pant, do you think this 20s something with change diaper 24/7. WTF nonsense is this.
My ex asian girl started to disrespect me about money, asking me more and more, as well for "family", telling me she wanted to use mine, that a man should support a lady, lies about her work, i never saw her working, despite she told me she had lot of money. So why do you want to use mine? But despite that she wanted to love and stay with me. I was feeling oppressed, and sucked and controlled, money could be the end of a relationship. Many men with good jobs and income dont care about this to pay and support a lady, i value these factors too sorry.
I went through that nightmare in 2020 with my ex. I filed for divorce weeks later !!
My behavior with women is very different from when I was 25 , today I am 67 ,, At 25 my behavior was not acceptable by today’s standards , now I am more mellow , but very much aware of red flags , which comes with experience,
Qiang always looks wonderful in those beach shots. So happy too.
Most excellent video. Communication is very important. Keep up the good work.
My GF on occasion has stood me up when we had a planned date. She has many things she is doing and updates me as she goes but the fact that we agreed on a date, on-line as I live in the US and she is in the Philippines, doesn’t work for me. It has only happened a few times in the last several months but it is a lack of respect for me.
Bummer
Dan you definitely are a role model for me
Thought provoking, deep and profound. Well said and deserves all the respect and attention the audience can muster - you have mine, Dan
I think all your videos are worth watching, some have more value to me than others. I am considering dating a asian woman again and am interested in any tips for how a Buddhist lady is and what kinds of expectations and pit falls may exist.
I have a Thai wife. I am not religious and Buddhism seems to be very to be tolerant of westerners whatever their beliefs. Like any religion there will be Buddhist holidays, festivals, and requests for donations. Culturally I would say that the practice of “saving face” is hugely important and can lead to cultural misunderstandings, at least at first. Asian cultures are communitarian rather then individualistic. That leads to a dense web of social connections with friends and family. You have to figure out for yourself how to navigate the religious and cultural obstacles but it helps to be aware of the challenges beforehand.
If she's young, she may be able to correct bad behavior, but once in their 30s, the die is usually cast. Making a matrix is probably a bad idea though. The minute you start negotiating desire like that, the train has already left the station - she's not into you, move on and find another.
Absolutely
The whole chart of “punishing” your partner with spending weeks or a month apart is ludicrous.
If you feel good while spending a month apart from your love, then you don’t have a love
We’re happily married for 43 years.
We’re miserable when we’re apart for more than 2-3 days in a row.
You either love them and talk these things out, face to face, and deal with them like grown ups, Or they just aren’t for you.
I can’t even imagine these chart making type relationships at all.
Maybe pick compatibility over youth. Or deal with the childishness.
Everybody’s situation is different.
Thanks for the feedback.
Since about 2016, people who believe conspiracy theories as alternate facts have disrespected those who don't believe the same conspiracy theories. At least back in the States, this has been a real problem. It's tearing apart families and relationships. You're so lucky to be overseas, when we have politicians openly talking about a national divorce, which is really their code for a civil war. The politics are toxic back home. Keep making videos guys, you two are a blessing!
So true.
Funny thing is, so many of those "conspiracy theories " have been revealed to be true. That's why all the clamoring for censorship. I never would have dreamed people would want that.
I do my best to stay away from Politics on this channel. There are enough channels covering politics but not many talking about the costs and benefits of retiring overseas. :-)
@@VagabondAwake probably a smart idea!
Thanks Dan. This is great!
Not your usual content and not for me but comment to help that algorithm!
Great video. Congrats to both of you.
Thank you so much 😀
Dan, your first video that made me blush. 🙃
Great video! Now I know why you two spend so much time at the beach. 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Thank you! 😃
This is a great way to stay on a best behavior towards a spouse. Thank you for this information.
Awesome video
There's a typo in "5 times in a week", should be a year.
Great ideas!
I've never achieved anything by discussing with girls their poor behavior or threatening consequences. If u make the mistake of taking them seriously and consequently try to punish them for their poor behavior, the only thing which seems to have any effect, is to stop seeing them for a period of time, long enough to make them think that they may have lost u. Unfortunately, if u do that, by the time u decide to end the punishment and start seeing them again, u often find out that they have been dicked by other men in the meantime. So by trying to punish them, u only punish yourself. Therefore IMHO the more rational thing to do is to accept women for what they are, namely beings who do not meet the personality standards men usually have and to therefore decide on a daily basis whether the pleasure u get from them still outweighs the headaches, mental stress and annoyance they cause and if not, to pull the plug on them and move on to the next one in the pipeline, exactly like women do.
We all need a strategy. Sounds like you have settled in on one. Thanks for your thoughts Mediterrano.
I was giving thought to the weight thing maybe it's symbolism from a third party. You know if she is hitting the scales to prove she is a healthy weight you are probably seeing a doctor also..
She is super healthy.
I love the theme
I don’t know Dan. You’re starting to sound a bit like the Gestapo. A little too rigid having set punishments.
Didn't the Gestapo use violence Tony?
@@VagabondAwakeI think they did Dan
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SO thoughtful Dan. There is another side that all should consider. Think about this Dan ? Some day no tool. She's younger and still able. How to please her every time so your not wondering from time to time about her needs and age. This solves that. It all has to do with a woman god given biology. I'm 62 i found this out by accident. All i can say that its so awesome everybody should know about this that is open to learning. That's it . I'M NOT selling anything Dan. It's gift If your open to learning a more rich experience with your special lady, Feel free to find me on FB inbox and say hey this is Dan, we can set up a video call time be nice to meet you as well. A quick talk about this then i will send you a couple videos to learn from. There's no catch Dan just a long time subscriber. I'm not gay either. I have a awesome pinay. This would be very helpful to some of your subscribers. Have a good day and No hurries no worries.
Hi Michael Bare, Would you like to be a guest start on one of my videos? Here is an example guest star video: th-cam.com/video/ySM_2jAC4v4/w-d-xo.html
Your interview could be just your voice or we could do a zoom call showing your face. If you would like to be a guest star and share your story please leave a personal message here: vagabondbuddha.com/contact/
Thank you for your comment. The detail of your comment makes this real for people. If you have a business, service, or TH-cam channel, you could share that on the interview. Best, Dan
no sex.... no relationship. silly. number one reason for an old to date a 20year young girl is purely sex.
Yeah, but what do you do with her the other 23 hours and 55 minutes a day? Lol.
But not the only reason!
@@Mexicobeanpole agreed what to do after 5 min sex for the old men..... there is no real love relationship can be created, that is just a pipe dream, because if this girl have money she will pissy all over this dirty old men. this is not to judge any one, since everyone involed is a full grown aldult. When time for to retire I will go for it with a 20year old young white women for the poor EU country like romania or poland. They are very yummy. I am a dog, I do not pretent to be a sheep to get into a relationship with a young 20s. lol
There are smart women (and men) of all ages.
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that approach is incredibly unrealistic
Thanks for your thoughts.
Nope
I liked your opening statement on sex, money and respect. Right up front. I have been told many times that I need to write a brook on how I met my now wife. Way too much work. I got the respect down right off the bat as she spoke better English better than I and that came over many conversations and meeting her mother. One down. I was a scientist with patents so had a few dollars. Found over time she was very well known as an actress and more. So money was off the table. Have no idea to this day how much she makes. She is very strict and supper conservative. This all came easy. Wife is Chinese/Malaysian. So with patients I let it all come together. I observed and learnt much from her from the start. So sex, money, respect came together as I took the time to put the picture together. That all started 27 years ago. Feb 1996. And for another story my wife was once married to a prince as her son is. Good job Dan The Man and Chung is quite The lady. Everything comes to he who has patience. So much turmoil today. Put the cell phone down (I designed them) and learn to communicate.
You have no idea how much your wife makes? This sounds phony to me do you file taxes where you live or are you a gangster like Al Capone?