Finding Love in an Arranged Marriage | Can Ask Meh?
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- Were you forced to marry a stranger? Do you believe in the idea of the one? Have you thought of divorce? Hear from these arranged marriage couples on how they stayed happily in love on this episode of Can Ask Meh?
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Her : "No he's not romantic"
Him : "I hope if there is a next life, I can still marry her as my wife"
Those words are more powerful than any gesture of love!!
Awwweeee
And, then she probably says, "that's a great compliment, but no thanks."
he's not in love with her in the conventional sense, but he feels that she is a good person to be with under the circumstances
@@aa-jm7js 😂
oh my the indian couple doesn't look like they were in an arranged marriage. they looked like bestfriends who got married to each other.
Marrying your best friend is one of the best things to do, you already have to much compatibility and will always be there for each other regardless.
That’s probably one of the best things you could do tbh.
How do arranged marriages look? Please enlighten me!
They might be childhood friends. That happens alot in old arranged marriage since parents want to partner they're child to a family they're close with.
@@seraby7151 I thought she was from Singapore and he's from India? They met because her sister in law's sister knew him?
Chinese auntie says her husband is not romantic but he said in the end if there’s a chance he would marry her again next life. Goals!
The way they lean towards each other. I found so cute!
That was so cute, I died.
also, 1K liker~ c;
proud to say that I was the 1000th like
The goals is if she said that she will marry the same person in next life. Come on now
Cuz its rare to find a girl that will not demand all she wants. She is very greatful on what his husband could give.
Honestly attitude is everything. These people didn't go into marriage expecting to always feel the warm fluttery feeling of infatuation, they went in intending to always make the choice every day to care for each other. And so their marriages worked.
That's the mind set I remind myself to be in for when I get into a romantic relationship/marriage.
I we can like each other but are we compatible? Will we take care of each other? And can we trust each other?
Yup. Love is a choice we make every day, especially when the feelings aren't there.
Well said! They were all actively working to get the marriage to work, not bailing on the other on the first obstacle they encounter.
I guess cause marriage is a promise and love is a commitment
“The warmth and butterflies” is a western concept.
Laughed alongside the Chinese lady when she said she hasn't received a blade of grass in 40 years. Her husband may not be affectionate in ways society glamorizes but she's patient and kind enough to accept him as he is.
Prosecutor what does that mean tho?
i want to eat your socks
That he doesn’t really give her gifts.
He said he wants to marry her in another life if it exists, like that alone is more romantic than any blade of grass or bouquet of flowers.
He was so sweet to her in every answer. Tolerating how much she speak for 40 years is a talent.
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I love how the Chinese lady isn't too positive about him but she's constantly leaning towards him. Clearly she is incredibly comfortable around him
It is a culture matter ... Chinesse don't praise too much their children neither, nor brag about themselves . She is clearly into him and he is into her no matter what .
old times. The 1 child policy children are all spoiled brats.
as they say “ say say only “ she needs him more than she care to admit “
I think theyre taiwanese ://
She never said he a bad guy. But is an okay guy. And you can feel comfortable around an okay guy.🤷♀️
This video is so important to clarify that arranged marriages aren't the same as forced marriages. Its like matchmaking - you have to really trust those who recommended the partner to you. These couples are so cute!
That is because they brought people who fell in love; where are those who did not? Oh wait those are forced marriages which will shutter the illusion here.
Deus Ex Machina imo it’s easy to fall in love with anyone really,, As long as you don’t feel forced to do it & you accept them the way they are, you’ll eventually find everything abt them their precious to you,, These people gave their consent to their marriage so they weren’t forced into it & they never expected anything grand from one another,, All they know is that they should always care for one another and their dynamics just worked bc of that
Deus Ex Machina no the ones that didn’t work divorced. All these people had the CHOICE to stay or go and they CHOSE to stay. It’s arranged because they didn’t go out find this person and say -
“Hey I wanna marry him!”
but they had the CHOICE to say no.
@@xalxvx consent and arranged marriage do not go hand in hand
@@kadejamckinzie3 still this is very much one-sided as only those who are happy are interviewed. what is the ratio of divorce to happy couples in arranged marriages? there are couples who cannot divorce due to tradition, pressures or responsibilities. traditional relationships are tricky as it is so excuse me if I do not buy into this.
I love how the chinese couple keeps on using "we" instead of an "I" when answering question.
It feels like they're naturally soulmate despite the question asking individual answer.
Glad to know we know the difference between Arranged and Forced!
Focal Crowd ❤️❤️❤️
preach
Many think that 2 of them are one of the same thing
yohanieca joseph they wouldn’t make a video about forced marriage
@@joeheller7581 and if they do they wouldn't romanticize it
Omg the Indian couple actually look better now! Aged really well!
I was literally thinking the same thing! They glowed up!
They also have beautiful chemistry
I think money did this for them, they both seem very highly educated.
The Indian man looks so good with the beard and glasses
Raerae IKR! They look even better today! They look beautiful... so full of love and happiness!
“ You cannot change the person, you have to first change yourself “
These ppl are too wise for my dumb 20 year old brain
best advice ever
petty ass kids wont understand this. they think the world should change for them. cant stand these kinds of people.
Definitely not the best advice ever -_- ....Sometimes no matter how much you change, it's never going to work. Following that advice kept me in a relationship with someone who was cruel to me for quite some time. I kept telling myself that "it takes two to tango" and "when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change" - advice like that.
I'm not saying it isn't good advice sometimes, but simply being determined to make things work, and accepting responsibility for everything under the sun because you have high expectations for yourself, but not others, is not going to work for you if you get snatched up by someone who is controlling and wants to use your morality against you.
Be careful who you date. A bad person can have a terrible affect on not only your self-esteem, but on your physical health. Luckily, I got out of my relationship much more quickly than some women. Other women I've talked to have serious health issues as a result of chronic stress and depression, and they can't get their health back.
Here's the lesson I've learned. Always take responsibility for yourself, and seek to change and grow. Be a good person, trust in others, and be honest. But give the other guy three serious strikes. If someone repeatedly proves to you that they don't deserve your compassion, support, and your willingness to change for the sake of the relationship, and if they don't demonstrate the same in return, then you need to be very firm with yourself and leave. No excuses. No looking back. No "I just need to try harder" or "I just need to wait this out because once x happens we'll be happy".
There's a lot of canned advice like that which ended up not working for me in the long run. There's some truth to all of it, but insofar as I've seen, none of it is universal.
Its missing a part. You gotta change but for yourself, because you want to grow and be better not for your partner.
@@AK-jt7kh the same happened to me but not in that extreme level. Some things just don't work. And trying to change yourself to make it work sometimes just hurts you and even the other person
the purple hijab auntie is so wise and i start crying when she talks about how marriage back then was full of love and patience. may Allah grant your husband a beautiful jannah auntie, and may you meet him in jannah with your beloved family :')
Umi Sarah
Ameen🤲🏾❤️
Ameen❤
Ameen
Goretti Ukuza Ye Jannah=heaven
@Goretti Ukuza close enough, but a good guess!! Well, heaven is like a paradise so I guess you got it right?
When u introduce someone to meat and he bought her frog legs...
Hahhahaha I love the Indian couple. So cheeky
cheeky bugger! HAHA hes keeping the marriage exciting LOL
I guess you could say she ate frog meat
Beginning level? EXPERT setting
Ikr? Like what the heck lmao? Who does that???? I'm so confused lol
When I saw that the age difference between the Muslim woman and her late husband was 20 years I prejudiced and I regret that because her relationship was truly beautiful.
Thanks for this comment. Really appreciate it🧕🏾
My grandmother on my mum's side is 18 years younger than my grandfather. Their relationship is so beautiful and he has so much respect for her. I thought huge age gaps were unacceptable until I learned about theirs and I'm glad now that i have good example in my life.
My parents are 17 years apart! And they're happy.
How lovely!
Naimah Khan
As long as one side isn't underaged, is should be fine. Two people can still love each other if they are many years apart, they just happened to be born in a different year is all.
The muslim lady. Oh gosh, I really can feel her love to her late husband.
Especially the part when she was talking about how she thinks of him when the children and grandchildren are together. So beautiful. 😢
@@nca4794 it is. a truly great example for all of us.
Anis Azziyati Juhari lol no Thanks
And look at her wedding photos, her husband is so handsome
Really? I suppose...but she talks like someone is holding a gun to her head and she looks scared and miserable. She can't stop fidgeting with her hands. I've never seen a woman her age act so timidly. Perhaps her husband was kind to her, but it seems like whoever lives with her now is probably not. I was too afraid to say anything, because it really does seem like someone abuses her. I don't want them reading the comment section and getting triggered by it.
Chinese Uncle lets her do most of the talking, but when he speaks he's worth listening to. I know so many older men like that. Okay, so they're not into all the hugs and kisses, they don't spend money on flowers that will wilt and die in a few days, but they might do things like go halfway across town to get the first good strawberries or whatever that he knows she really enjoys. I bet he quietly worked his heart out for her and the kids, without saying a word about it.
Gosh all of them so cute especially the Indian couple❣️😍
I like the Indian couple especially the guy said god telephone her " Oi, he's the right guy for you!" HAHAH!!!
how do u have no comments
"What will i NOT do for him/her".
That is true love.
No amount of saying "i love you" can measure to that belief.
maybe try ‘listening to her’ 😉 he did say in the heat of the moment he tells her to keep quiet ~
Shanaya Sarun yes that too 😂😂😂
but this one, his mother needs to take responsibility.
mothers who have sons - please teach your boys that they are equally responsible for house chores and they marry to have a life partner, not servant 😂😂😂
Shanaya Sarun exactly.. yet he doesn’t or didn’t know.. 😱😱😱
Can we talk about how stunning the Muslim lady looks in her wedding picture tho
she was so wise and kind too!
Beautiful ! Truly
she looked super cool too haha
I love how you got a representative from each race.
Vanitha Nair they scared prettipls post another roast video to roast them ma
No u Can we not bring her negativity her? Thank you!
@@iVengeancee what is this all about?
Who's roasting who?
Loin king
you mean, nationalities???
Did someone else realise that the two couples wore matching clothes ?
yep
yassss
this video shows the difference between an *arrange* marriage and *forced* marriage.
@Hasiger Hase for the time it was enough for her and for him and they were happy and had love for eachother the woman even addressed the changes through these years she was sweet
Tough looking hunk but soft and shy Indian guy by heart
14:10 My heart breaks for this auntie taking her photo alone :(((
Me too. Seeing her there compared to the others got me all emotional.
This is so sweet. I realized how generation has changes people.. the standards they have for other are sometimes unbelieable. They were able to tolerate each other because they knew patient is one of the traits they should have.. to be able to accept the partner and continue to love.. is just lovely
Anggie Aveneina love dis comment
I wish people simply knew this and had these traits nowadays ,ot would make marrige mich easier..
i cried while watching this, like honestly wow, deep respect, more humans like these need to exist
Anggie Aveneina Anggie Aveneina Tbh, I kind of understand why it is like that now. We've become a workaholic-culture who strives after more and more money, (therefore we work more and more hours and don't have much free time to date) so we can be stable and secure in our lifes later on (bec old people can't work). Also I feel like men and women have been divided and everything feels like we need to "one up" each other. Also people don't want longlasting relationships anymore bec = more stress and = more responsibility. I mean if I looked at it it from my perspective, I didn't want to "date" or even worse "marry" someone, bec I don't really feel secure in my own emotional lvl yet, or better worded; I don't feel like a real "grown up" yet. I don't know if I want to take the risk and date someone. I feel so overwhelmed by everything and I can't be the only one feeling like that. Also a lot people are scared of the opposite gender, either they are being "scary men who could do bad stuff" or "bad women who are gold diggers, who want to falsly accuse everyone". This world is scary and people are being more afraid of news and just everything. Everyone dislikes each other, but "flexes" at the same time bec of their new possessions. Also I feel like the new generation (the "new adults", starting at 18) are being pushed so hard, that literally all of them have that "melancholic blues" that they feel like giving up any moment (I saw a small comment section where literally 10 people were like "did you guys feel like after 2013 everything is turning more and more downwards?"). I don't even know anymore and maybe I'm being scared a lot, but god dear I hope some understands what I mean and I don't sound like a maniac.
Who ever reads this, I'm sorry and there you go with a bucket full of cookies.
The indian lady is so gorgeous I love her smile
Definitely because she eats nutritious meat ❤️
The Malay woman is do right. Do not tell other people of the problems y'all have going on. That is between the two of you only. If you go ranting and talking badly of your spouse, your family will do the same and when the problem is resolved, no matter what good your spouse does, they will only be evil continually in the eyes of others
!!!
Sometimes 'talking badly' is genuine criticism. Where do you go if your spouse refuses to listen?
Bluebee Majarimenna if a couple can’t resolve issues by being understanding with each other then... they might wanna look at other alternatives.
Bluebee Majarimenna A counselor. A religious leader. A therapist. But not your families.
I mostly agree but sometimes keeping things in and dealing with anger and frustration on one's own is quite harmful as well. So if the partner refuses to listen it can be healthier for the person that is frustrated to let it out. It is probably better to talk to someone unrelated (for examples on free hotlines related to mental health and understanding) to simply vent though.
Ohhh when the chinese couple posed and looked at each other ... thats full of love!!! when the indian couple posed and got kinda shy... thats amazing after years of marriage still shy.. love is one of best thing in the world to hav. Wishing everyone love and to be loved back!
All still deeply in love after all these years.
Especially the uncles... One says what will I not do for her, one says next life I still want her to be my wife. Wah.
The Indian couple! They're so funny and cute together, I ship! 😂
"I am not sure whether you can marry the one you love,but I'm damn sure that you can always love the one you marry".
13:45 something about his smile makes me so happy. You can tell that they're not the most conventional romantic couple yet that smile conveys all the happiness in the world. I wish nothing but more of that happiness for them in the future.
MiaØ you can definitely see that he was an awkward boy and still is.
Agree
The Muslim lady is a strong woman. She tries as hard as possible to hold her tears and speak carefully about her husband. She understands that women will always need men just as much as men need women. It's a collaboration not a fight.
Yep
The Indian clearly loves his wife but he has very high expectations of love. His idea of love may not be what we think it is, so he said he's not sure if he loves her. I'm glad his wife is so understanding and said, yes he loves me lol. They are so cute, like best friends.
Indian man was just joking
LOL he was a very playful man! he said it is easy to say you love someone but it is better to actually SHOW you love someone, personally i am hoping to have relationship like theres! lots of laughs and teasing between one another haha
He was clearly joking around... I hope to find a husband with this quality one day. Playing around.. Not serious all the time. Making me laugh...
vivien khoo y
He said that he doesn't know as a joke, like 'well duh!' kind of thing. He was joking throughout an entire video, for example when he said 'I am stuck with her'. He is just playful spirit. Despite what his mouth said it's basically engraved on his forehead how much he loves her.
He trolled his wife with frog legs and had the audacity to ask “Hows the chicken?” 😂 All of that to see his wifes reaction 😍
I can't believe the malay lady is 82??? I thought she was like, 65.
The indian couple seems like they have a fun marriage and i cant stop smiling watching them look so deeply in love even after all these years. They are goals!
Did not expect the Chinese man to be so tall when he stood up 😂
the aunty in hijab reminds me of my own aunty in Malaysia. everything she said made me tear up esp when she said she didn't need photo's to remember her husband, but just seeing the family together.
Love for God teaches us to love a human the right way. And she somehow met the love of her life and even in death. May God give her more blessings. She's too loyal :')
The Malay woman has a very forgiving, calm, kind and wise character
Walao the Chinese Uncle damn cute 🤣 So blur blur one...
Yan Yee Yip auntie also! Hahahaaha
Sometimes I think that "i can do better" western mentality harms us as we're all constantly telling ourselves we should "do better" in everything and that's holding us back from reaching true contentment with ourselves and live happy as we are, that being money, love and health. I really liked this video because these couples had made the best out of their circumstances and they truly love one another, they made lemonade out of their lemons.
This is so true! Alot of us fall into this mindset that wasnt around back then, ignoring feelings to feel independant and superior. We need to rediscover the true meaning of love as a generation and normalise patience and kindness instead of displaying our ability to be with the "richest or most successful" person
Arranged marriage isn't too different than online dating, the only difference is your family helps you look at different profiles. I met my fiancee from an internet match making site,we did the photo exchange, and met with the intent of marriage. We just didn't have family pick out the profile.
“I hope of there is a next life, I can still marry her as my Wife” so sweet 😍😍
Love the Indian guy, he's got a great sense of humor.
Arranged marriage, seems beautiful, if both sides are open
Faris Johari right?! I don’t understand why everyone is romanticizing it in the comments and missing out of the fact this was not free choice . In just ended up in love and happy but most of the time it doesn’t so we should not give people hope that they will be as happy as them , man and women should have free choice... why they not talk about that? It’s brushed over..
@@IOPE_ ugh seriously! Wait till these people end up in a crappy marriage they can't get out of. That is if they even have a choice in the first place, so many don't.
IOPE but some of these people had the chance to decline it, and thats the difference.
@@IOPE_ Not having a choice in the matter would be forced marriage which is obviously wrong. They're two different things
@@IOPE_ arranged marriages are not the same as forced marriages. Your Parents found some nice Person introduce him/her to you and you can decide if you'll say yes or no....to it is a free choice.
My elderly piano teacher, a divorcee, recently told me "there's something to be said for the way it used to be done; people married for good and practical reasons, and very often their marriages lasted better than those who married for love." It made me stop and think
Wow. Something to think about.
@misuzu9254 fair point. Although as they say in this video - if you think further down the line you might divorce this person, don't get married
During those times people who married for good and practical reasons was when the age expectancy was 50 and divorce was frowned upon so how do you know those marriages were happy to begin with?
Divorce is frowned upon, atleast in India so a lot of people aren't able to get out of arranged marriage even if they wanted to
@@adela3153 life expectancy was not 50. Most ppl lived into their 70s or more
But because people take into account infant mortality that bring the average life expectancy down
In a tedtalk I watched today in India 70% of divorce comes from love marriages rather than arranged marriages.
I think the problem is that we place our happiness in the other person and it's not about partnership anymore. It's not a person you're walking through life together with but a person responsible for your happiness and that can be very detrimental.
As a young person, I feel like young people have more trouble in their relationships now because they expect too much of their partners. They believe in trying to change them or control them, and in some cases are looking to just create a carbon copy of themselves.
I feel that we should choose to accept a person as they are if we truly love them. Obviously no one should stay in an abusive relationship, but you must go into a regular relationship with the intention of trying to make it work.
Some young people do, but keep in mind that not everyone is looking for a relationship
I could listen to the Malaysian lady for hours, her voice is so soft and gentle.
The indian couple is actual relationship goals 😭💖
I love how your content explores topics considered to be sensitive in a respectful and educative manner. You guys deserve more recognition for your work!
Can you do one on interracial couples and the struggles they go through with their everyday life and with family wise as well?
Me, a Indian , had a Chinese partner and he was the exact to the Chinese Uncle. He leaves his plates after eating..my pet peves..
And i nag and nag..he can win me with silence😂. I still remember how upset was i with him and we still had breakfast silently together.
My parents definitely had a tough time as an interacial couple. My mum is Indian and my dad is Russian. I am born in England, so I hope to not offend anyone by saying this, but I was always surprised that my Russian family was so much more accepting of their relationship than my Indian side. Still, my mum got spat on once.
@@llt6977 I'm a black person that lives in Russia and they do spit alot at me, I feel for your mother! They act like they don't care but behind your back they will say the most horrific things ever!! I hope all is well with your mother! 🙏
@@yoonginavy4967 Thank you! My mum has learnt to deal with lots over the years. I actually participate much more in Russian culture and visit every year, yet because I'm mixed-race I obviously look different and it's frustrating to be treated as inferior or to be automatically assumed to be more Asian because of my appearance (I actually ended up looking Filipina!). Best of luck in Russia, hope all is well :).
I’d like to see this too for some advice. I’m white and my boyfriend is Asian..we get stared at a lot and I’m terrified of meeting his family 💀
the chinese auntie & uncle lowkey matching sia damn cute
They're wearing matching colours.
It's beautiful ♥️
When the woman whose husband died said she remembered him when the family was together and hugging each other... I may have teared up a bit.
the malay woman is adorable. i want to hug her
the asian lady seemed a bit hard about her husband at times, but way she looked at him in the photo at the end, *pure love*. and he'd marry her again in the next life??? perfectlygorgeous!
Everyone is asian in this video lol
I think I understand why arranged marriages have a good reputation: because both the personal relationship and formal commitment start approximately at the same time. You get to know your spouse without the baggage of a shared past or the anxiety of whether marriage will result. So in a secure state such as this, you don't project as much judgment, worry, or distrust onto the other person.
These men are wonderful husbands. Talking about mutual respect and being there for their wives. So far, my husband and I show the same respect and love each other like best friends do. But I fight hard to avoid the tendency to behave the way my parents do with each other. Disrespectful and cruel to one another. I wish after all these years, they would be able to treat each other like these couples do. They seem like really wonderful people. I wish them all the happiness!
The moment he said " wat will i not do for her" awwww
Even my marriage was arranged and I really liked this video. When I was young I never believed in arranged marriage. But as I grew older I learnt to be more open and less rigid. Then I realized that my parents would definitely want the best for me so that was how I considered arranged marriage.
Match making is an aged old practice that influential families still use. It’s a joke how people have made a business out of that. Consider yourself fortunate
Hi, I'm quite curious after reading your comment and would love to learn more about your arranged marriage. So, I'm trying to find individuals who are from arranged marriages and get some insights. Would you be okay answering my questions and is there anyway I could contact you?
Oooh this is such a good point! Same, when I was younger (I grew up in the US) I always thought that arranged marriages were oppressive, regressive, and backwards...I thought that the only "open-minded" belief was to promote self-chosen marriages while bashing arranged marriages, even though I didn't even understand what arranged marriages were. (I thought they were all coercive, when in fact most are just family recommendations!) I'm also glad I'm gradually unlearning my Western prejudice and actually understanding what I've always been taught to see as "oppressive."
I saw many arranged marriage tend to be made to connect family with similar life styles or practice, if not just better reputation and/or financial wise or is known to have practice that generally generates success in said co-relation. Many I met tend to have little time to find someone themselves, near end of time clock or trust their parents to try to find someone who would prioritize and take care of them especially when they are gone.
The lady in the purple scarf is so adorable. My heart just filled with love and respect for her.
When the lady said he is not romantic and her husbant said that he wants to marry her in his next life. I was shot. That was too powerful.
"Nowadays, a lot of people are very fierce.
Now wives are fierce, husbands are fierce"
That right there, is the cause of many divorces today.
“When you argue, he won’t argue back” .... 👌🏿 he must have the most gentle temperament
I love how you got a representative of almost all races, ethnic groups, religions.. This is beautiful
Some "arranged" marriages do work out, although a lot are awful. Friends of mine had an arranged marriage; they hated each other for the first two years and then gradually started to bond. Today they are very happy, and as she has developed serious health problems, he takes very good care of her. The care that comes with love and devotion.
Omg blade of grass😂
My great grandmother's marriage was not so much arranged, as it was forced. He snuck into her room at night and laid next to her (without her knowing). Her parents found him in her room, thought they had sex, and forced her to marry him. They eventually fell in love, but I can't forget how creepy that was.
OMG THE INDIAN COUPLE 😭😭💕💕
At the end, Mr Xing said romantic words to Liying. He said he'd rather end up with her in the afterlife. Sweet.
Loved this. I think the idea stated that marriage should be a man's ultimate goal, that he'll have a more perfect life with a wife and family is NOT a popular thought for young men anymore.
Depends on the culture I suppose
This applies for women as well. Especially women in their younger years
It doesn‘t have to. It‘s a beautiful goal to have but not everybody wants to marry and have kids.
oh it's a very popular thought. Having other people suggest who you should or should not marry is rather unpopular for obvious reasons
@@majarimennamazerinth5753 idk i want to think so but i find that most men nowadays and from what ive even see online seems to view marriage and family as oh shes going to divorce him and take his "hard earned" money..... :( sad thought
I love this, the main take away for me is that there are many ways to express love and affection in a relationship. And a happy marriage can mean many things for many different people but mutual respect and communication seem to be a consistent foundation.
“Still have love, still remember him” i’m ugly crying
The part when she said I still remember him when I see the kids gathering.. not anphoto or sometuing physical I was tearing up too..
a love that is hard to find nowadays...
The Indian couple tho! The woman was wearing black top and gray bottom while it's the reverse for her husband. So cute❤
8:16 The Indian couple is wearing each others colors!!!!! Wife gray slacks black shirt, hubby black slacks gray shirt! That's the cutest thing I've ever seen.
“Oi, come here!” So classic 😂👍🏻
Damn they all give us marriage goals.. But most importantly they teach us to love each other no matter what
I want to be arranged with someone. People don’t like me by choice so might as well try
SuperDigitalDork bruh same. Maybe then they’ll give me a chance to show them who I am.
Same here...divorced and 4 kids later lol
Forced marriage- no say
Arranged marriage - basically The bachelor /bachelorette
Marriage is a commitment, not a feeling! These couples are such an inspiration :)))
The Indian guy @ 5:15 "What will I not do for her?". That pretty much sums up his definition of love.
My grandparents, they were an arranged marriage and it is one of the happiest, most loving, cooperative, equal relationships I’ve ever seen in my life.
It doesn’t work for everyone, and it probably doesn’t work in this generation but it’s just a personal story from my life
The Malay auntie is so adorable 😊😍!
Omg they were all so sweet.
so lovely to hear from the older generation. thanks OGS. they are the ones keeping our heritage alive. especially the ones at our local shops and hawker stalls.
So much wisdom from all these wonderful people who have shared their life experiences! Wishing them good health and loads of happiness.
Their advice is simple but it’s gold ! And they are definitely meant for each other. Everything is just beautiful.
My parents got married thru arranged marriage and they're still together after 38 years.
Same mine got an arranged marriage as well and saw each other for the first time when they went to sign the Marriage Papers. They fell in Love and still love each other. And it was war at that time so they escaped together which is their love story 😂😅
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I think that the biggest point wasn't their arranged marriages but how they handled them. When hearing the stories, there was something that most people seem to forget. Acceptance, patience, and understanding. Getting angry and having those shouting matches isn't the end, its a point where taking a step back and getting to the underlying issue is the most important. Whether it works out after or not depends on the efforts of both.
I like that the women said, as long he is honest and good to me. That’s enough. It’s like, maybe that’s all it really should be.
The Muslim widow is so lovely! "Chanting in our hearts" you can really tell she is full of love and patience.
I'm glad they state the difference between forced and arranged marriages. My grandparents from both sides had arranged marriages but they still lived good lives.
I had tears in my eyes as I was watching this. Wow their attitudes are so beautiful for an arranged marriage! I learned a lot and if I can only have half of the attitude and wisdom they have, my marriage would be much better. My husband's parents are Nigerian and their marriage was arranged. They've been married 50+ years. My parents didn't have an arranged marriage and they were married until my father died but the attitude was different. What the couples asked for in their marriage was very simple and very important in a relationship. I'm black American and my husband is Nigerian and we're nowhere close. :) I LOVED THIS SEGMENT. I took a lot from this. Thanks for posting!!!
this is amazing.... how they all carry each other and the way they talk about each other warm my heart...
when the Indian guy said the word love is toss around everywhere like I love this and I love that and then he told his meaning of love.....I felt that shit lol
Wah the malay couple looked so good!! The late encik ismail had a tough guy look to him but from his wife’s words guess it was only a front lol. Such a great video WHOLESOME AS HELL!
This muslim lady is so precious and so full of love! I would love to have her as my grandma or just mentor, I feel like she could teach me how to have a good life. Bless her!
I know right, me too