Indeed. I'm an INTP and my best friend is an ESTP. He is smart as fuck, and is always in tune with the environment. He observes and notices things in the environment with such an incredible quickness that it often overwhelm me.
I'm an ESTP and it's hard for me to feel intimidated by others I don't know why. I also took a lot of risks in my life and never failed when it comes to that so far.
Bless Parco Rodriguez same lady, estp here i’ll straight up die before I punk out to someone who doesnt deserve my respect what are they gonna do force me? Good luck ya know.
I'm entirely convinced that my ESTP brother has psychic powers. He may not be traditionally smart but he always is able to know just the right thing to say or do to get what he wants. It's scary.
Sure but when you start observing them and you will find they are very predictable and whatever they do has a cause behind if some how you counter them with multiple possibilities and actions they will start worrying like scared rats.
An ESTP I lived with for two years: - drove home a 5 tonne digger from work to do some 'hedge grooming' (the hedge was gone) - negotiated a 30% discount in a shop with no discounts (happened multiple times) - bought himself a gold watch and a metal detector and dug up the entire garden doing 'testing'. The entire relationship was a chaos squared, with water pistol fights inside the house, no set sleeping times or places and military campaigns starting and finishing with the most passionate expressions of love. Such a crazy ride it was!
my Dad the ESTP, I'm INFJ - Dad loves everyone and everyone loves Dad. Dad loves life and life loves him back. Dad Loves me and I love my Dad... it's all good. Cheers from Australia!!
Cheers from "up above"...aka northern hemisphere. What I have observed over the years is that where there are ESTP family members, you will often find an INFJ, be it a parent/child or siblings. In my extended family network we several sets of ESTP/INFJ sibling pairs, myself included
Hahahahhahahaha im infj and i think my dad could get edtp after a test. And i got difficulties in the comunication, and most of the time we have fun, the funniest thing is that we use to laugh at a different things in the same conversation.
“ESTP’s can struggle to know what they actually want” Sat in a park, writing exactly “I don’t know what I want to do in the future” as I heard this rofl
I’m an ESTP, but I’m not a sporty person. I am a musician however and your claim that ESTP’s crave a dynamic environment where they can make quick decisions in response to changing circumstances makes as much sense of the improvising ESTP musician as it does that sportsperson.
The part where you said that ESTP’s can do whatever they want to, but not knowing what they want really hit me. I feel like I am not limited like certain people, but at the same time I don’t really have a passion.
I'm an INFJ and my brother is an ESTP, growing up together was a mess. He really brights up the room, winning everyone's heart; and while people starts getting comfortable in his presence, he decided if he wants to keep the good vibe or make things go turbulent. I always have to stop him when he chooses the second, although the times I let him be things are quite funny, even when he's calling someone out. He's just charming, gets excited with anything (most of the times crazy/potentialy dangerous things) and makes everyone around him excited too.
I (INFP) used to try to rein in my ESTP brothers chaotic actions but 1) he's a lot bigger than me and 2) despite how messed up some of his actions are, people seem to genuinely find him charming. I'm both terrified and envious of whatever dark magic he possesses.
Haha I'm a scientist ESTP. I am in college but I do a lot of research, I show up to classes I don't belong in, I'm in the sociology club. People know me, and I brighten a room. It makes me really happy.
cool! I am an entp scientist. science needs a variety of people like many other endeavors. some subfields or career paths may be unsuitable for Se (or Ne) doms but they nevertheless can have valuable skills and successful paths!
As an ESTP I definitely agree with a large portion of this video. I am extremely adept at noticing little things that most people don't even think about. Also, I get along with pretty well everyone. A lot of times when I go out with my friends to a party or something. they'll find me speaking with a bunch of strangers just having a great time. I will say that one thing you didn't touch on that is difficult for me as an ESTP to make a deep connection with someone. Whether that be with friendship or romantic relationships. It could be that I meet someone who is initially charmed by my personality, I then move on to the next thing rather quickly and will most likely never speak to them again. It could also be how I struggle to understand emotions and that of other's, I'm not entirely sure.
Another ESTP here, I pretty much experience the same thing! But I gotta say that there has yet to be a situation where I fail to form a closer bond with someone that I want to have a deeper connection with. Which doesn’t happen often as I too move on really quickly.
As a ESTP not knowing what i want to do with my live is so frustrating. I really felt that quick response concept, Studying 3,5 years just for a degree without any real experience feels so time waisting. Just sit me on the boss chair and let me make desicions god damn.
My husband(ESTP) gets infused with other peoples stories, lives , and how it happened etc etc. Ive told him that he looks so comfortably intense as if he's in the room with only that one person. He's friends with so many. He's a freakin magnet.
@@lucianabolissima923 i doubt it. lol We have been together since we were kids. Started to have our babies early in life and our marriage has surpassed ALL of my siblings...they use to make cracks on how things wouldn't last: we defied the odds on so many levels, because we had each other and were very resourceful when the years were lean. that taught us much. .We lacked for nothing because we had cultivated that life early on and that taught us how rich life is and many of the unhealthy ways to navigate. Also, have two adult children. Were not going anywhere. I think ppl may get the wrong idea on good friendly ppl. We know ourselves and each other too well.
@@lucianabolissima923 this is just my opinion, but I think it's a bit disrespectful to the op to assume that her husband cheats on her basing on his cognitive function...? (I'm not estp, I'm infp btw). I'm sorry that you may had bad experiences with estps (I don't know your experiences) but we don't know op's life either...
What you said in the video accurately describes my estp friend, he's scarily good at making deals and getting his way. He also has a soft heart and probably cares more than I(infj) do, estps also love to know that they're making their loved ones happy, showing appreciation makes their day :)
@@yxumi Wow are you sure you're an ESTP? I'm an ESTP and I only sacrifice my time and energy for the people I care about. I usually act plainly transactional with cashiers/janitors/waiters/waitresses, but never without respect though, unless they don't do their job.
I'm glad he didn't do that as well. My brother is ESTP and he's one of the most terrifyingly brilliant people I know. While he could have been an athlete due to his build, he uses his size more as a tool in his crazy schemes. I was seriously convinced growing up that he had psychic powers since he always knew the exact thing to say to get whatever response he was looking for. The only times it didn't work were when he failed to realize just how angry, sad, or stressed out his targets were... Which is actually very easy to happen with me (INFP)
@@Takisan111can you tell what your brother as an estp guy likes in a woman?? Or can he like a infp woman for himself. I have a estp crush so just wanted to know. If you could share anything.
@@Beyou0120 He doesn't date much (or simply hasn't told me about any) so I honestly could not tell you what his type is. However, he is able to become friends with just about anyone if they are up for a good time. He also has a habit of adopting introverts. I don't know your crush, what kind of person they are or what their specific values are, but if they are ESTP, then yeah I can see one there being room for them to be interested in INFPs. With my brother, he values honesty and authenticity, becoming annoyed when he notices people lying to him needlessly because that takes up his valuable time. He likes being suprised, especially if the person does something interesting he wasn't expecting. He enjoys people willing to be silly, the more doing it at once, the better. His big weak spot though is emotional reactions. He assumes far too often that people can tell when he's joking so, growing up, he was frequently caught off guard when people assumed the worst of him and his actions. He also forgot that not everyone had the same life experiences. Best example I can think of is that, when we were kids, he was often teasing me or pulling pranks on me like he would our brother or his friends but because I was bullied in school (unlike him), I saw it as targeted attacks and it made me kind of afraid of him. To him, it was a fun bonding thing and he somehow got the wrong idea I was a lot tougher than I actually was. It always seemed to genuinely confuse and/or upset him when I would either cry or get angry. The realization he got later in life when it finally dawned on him what was going on actually seemed to depress him a bit. He's not intentionally malicious, he just struggles with bigger picture things, especially if they are emotion related. Sorry if this is a bit rambly. Hope this helps a little.
My brother is a classic ESTP. he's truly a Renaissance man. He has been involved in numerous careers in just a decade or so, and has been successful at all of them.
I had such a huge crush on Aladdin as a child, he will forever be my ESTP poster boy!! But Sherlock Holmes, yeah that makes sense. I listened to a podcast about this burly ESTP hostage negotiator guy and he was exactly what you were describing with getting his "deals" it was super intense.
@@Gtjsn In socionics it would be considered normal for INFJ to match with ESTP really well as friends or romantically, but the key to a relationship is both parties would have to be mature enough. Especially in your younger years, the ESTP might not value Ni-style commitment yet and you might lack the Se to be bold enough in your communication. That's just a guess though, hope it works out for you in the future
There is something about estps that really disrupts my harmony. It's energetically felt like sharp prickly needles. They have a magnetism and you do indeed notice them quickly, they don't blend in at all. When I think of Sherlock I think of Benedict.
It is so interesting to me that you called out Sherlock Holmes as an ESTP, because I've been looking at the differences between ENTP and ESTP lately, and was actually thinking that Sherlock Holmes' style of combining all solid facts and ignoring any theorizing beyond them is very Se-Ti. Happy to have some secondary confirmation!
My sister is an ESTP and i remember when she was 7, she just get into the primary school (she was new) and suddenly everyone know her. And it still like this until now.
As an INFP, I find myself attracted to Se-doms quite often. I admire their ability to be so in the moment and active, which I definitely struggle with seeing as I have Blind Spot Se. Like you said, they always have an impact. Reading what ESTPs have to say about Fi doms like me, it seems they definitely shy away from the analysis of emotions and values, which makes lots of sense for Blind Spot Fi. I've also seen that Parent Ne can get overwhelming for them. For me, too much activity and focus on the physical isn't natural for me, and can be pretty overwhelming; I need time to simply exist to recharge, partly due to my neurodivergency. I like to take things at a slower pace, which can easily conflict with a Se dom's natural rhythm. With each other's dominant functions as the other's blind spot, this can make communication and bonding a challenge-but also very rewarding, and a learning experience for both people involved, If they are willing to put in the effort.
I’m an ESTP and though I’m an athlete and very adventurous, I really enjoy long conversations. I don’t shy away from emotions and philosophy. I can do both. Maybe that’s why I like INFJs
I typed my bf as an Estp, because of the fact that he would always put me back into reality whenever I discuss to him my outlandish , crazy ideas and most often he would join me on my adventures (tours) for as long as it is reasonable and doable...He lives in the moment, with no love for the future (compared to me) and not much interest with the past. He would always be grounded in terms of ideas but a daredevil for embracing the moment. -(i’m an ENFP)
I would be the one who came up with the idea of going to a place (let’s say a beach with a cliff) , and be so excited about it, for him (estp) not much reaction (do they even have any emotional reaction?), and then when the moment comes, he would be the first one cliff diving and I would be the one standing behind just falling in love with my idea coming into reality (but not so much with the present moment).
And also I still have a hard time typing him wether if he is as an ISTP or an ESTP... Whenever there is no immediate need for action especially when he is alone, he would always be busy with video games, word games, intellectual games, watching tv and be happy staying at home, (like an introvert). Not unless he is called by a friend to go out and socialize and drink which he will be happy with even at the most uninviting time of the night. Thanks for reading Nathan ~
@@lovewho Nathan, it's not good for romance. you will both be frustrated. It's better as amazing friends. I mean of course anything will work, but...it is very hard when you have conflict. Your processes are so different
Thank you sir, a lot of people stereotype ESTPs as dumb people who only want excitement and adventure in their life. A lot of the things you said accurately describes how I am as an ESTP. It's also hard to communicate to people what I'm thinking about and how I came up with my own conclusions. I communicate and connect to other people effortlessly, and sometimes I sense that that discourages other people who are making conscious efforts to connect. Thanks again, you are articulate with your words and I admire that.
I'm an ENTP and I've been a bit of a shooting star with no direction for most of my life. And I have an ESTP mate who's a bit older than me. He's had his own business for years and I've watched him grow it and he turns over millions of pounds now. He's exactly as you've described an ESTP to be in this video and in another video - and he's similar to me in a lot of ways - Very extroverted, charming, analytical, logical, chaotic and very argumentative. But there's a key difference between us. He wants quick results in anything he does and only ever considers the here and now with everything. Where as I like to plan, prepare and consider the future possibilities so I take more time to come to a decision. Therefore we've clashed in regards to this in the past. Also, I've got a bit of a trickster type personality in me but it's harmless, my pointing out of people's contradictions or irrational perspectives aren't directly offensive and I only tend to hit people with their contradictions or logical falicies. Where as he not only does this but he tends to insult people with really nasty observations about their personal character or their physical characteristics, which is too much for even me to tolerate tbh. I like him sometimes and at other times, I fuckin hate him because he's being an utter arse hole.
Intp here your introvert half and I feel the same way with a Estp coworker. I like to feel free but I notice I restrict myself with them. They can be a lose cannon sometimes.
I think both ENTPs and ESTPs will receive this insult at least once in their life of being an arse hole 😂. I guess this secondary Ti + tertiary Fe makes you very at ease with people and argumentative. You guys sadly usually give a bad rep to Fe users cause I feel like Tertiary Fe is really different. It's more used as a tool but not so authentically in a compassionate way. This creates a weird behavior of confident because of Ne/Se, but charming unsensitive arse holes. I think INTPs are more concerned about getting to the truth without wanting to look entertaining first or anything so people can take the criticizm more fairly while ExTPs just sound like they criticized you and mock you to no end, which is simply a despicable behavior let's be honest because people do care. I think criticizms and fun should just be disconnected cause the thing is it usually just comes off as incredibly disrespectful. I think that's just the reason why ExTPs are often rejected in social situations.
Estps can be better at telling who is lying and who's telling the truth better than anyone, the estp I know can easily tell when I lie even the simplest most believable white lies, nothing goes unnoticed and it's kinda scary for quite a while but you end up getting used to it
manager-nim its true man especially if I’m looking for it, when I hear or see a lie its like they have a neon sign above their heads that say they are lying, my b.s meter is very tuned- ESTP
I believe they'll pick up more the superficial signs. So body language & voice tone, for example. They make snap judgement of of it and can be often right. But I believe INFJ and ENFJ might be better at reading a person fully, they'll go into the deeper layer.
So....this is so true! My sister in law is an estp. I am trying to type my two daughters and my youngest who is only almost 2, reminds me so so much of her! I know I may get hate for trying to type my 2 year old, but make sure your a parent first before you judge ;) The reason I believe she is estp is how amazing she is at adapting and taking control of her environment but she also has a hard time sitting and focusing. She lives on reaction! She will bite anyone with a reaction. She is actually very physical and can be quite a bully. But I know it's because she thinks the reactions of other kids are funny. But she amazes me with how fast she seems to learn with how hyper she is. My oldest at 2 was a very calm baby and would spend hours looking at books and drawing. She never hit or bite me or anyone! In fact, if there was a group of kids she was too shy. I can go on and on as most parents can about their children lol. But, I truly believe personality can be determined as children.
One interesting observation I found myself is how drastic personality can fluctuate during different stages of life. As a kid I was a major book worm, spent hours playing with figures, building stuff, drawing etc. then as soon as puberty hit I became the exact opposite, onlyt ofind myself back over the course of like 6 years. Now I'm probably as nerdy again as I was as a kid, mixed with a small fraction of that "phase" or perhaps development I had as a teen
Im an entp and this is on point! Third slot Fe is really interesting because i usually figure ppl out fairly quickly. Though i rarely give ppl what they want. When i do its tongue-in-cheek and calculated though not because i want to be mean. I just really dont like to be manipulated/forced into giving a certain response. 😅😕 The very idea that someone could think they can control me in such a way is an insult to my intelligence lmao
YEP. INFJ here. Learnt the hard way to steer clear f ENTPs and ESTPs. They tend to pick me out on their radar very fast though. But now that I know them, I run away like hell. I know what you are upto.
ESTP is just an INFJ with reversed strengths and weaknesses. The Fe function means that if we meet in a bar it’s like two spies or detectives running into each other and not wanting to be noticed but noticing each other right away! (I’m INFJ)
Thank you. Getting to know types better really helps me understanding others and how different from me they are. I'm an INFP (or J, I'm in between) and my young son is an ESTP. It can be quite a challenge for me to raise him but since I figured his type out, it's easier for me to know what works and what doesn't and to accept him as he really is.
He collects plastic weapons and does push-ups although he's a skinny 8-years old, he can't undress without throwing his clothes across the room, he tries to sell stuff (drawings...) to people in the park to get cash, he's a funky dancer, he hates schools except for sciences and sports...
@@Gibil934 Sounds just like my 8 year old ESTP. He buys things with advance planning: who he will share with as a buddy, who he will share with to gain favor, who he will share with to reward, and who he will sell to in order to make a deal. He bursts on the scene in every situation in his vicinity. He cannot stand to be alone. He knows no strangers and loves to rally a team to get a job done, yet will gleefully play the protagonists to expose and weed out the weaklings. He will then feel sorry for the one he has humiliated and try to help them. I have to remind myself each day that he has to learn by action and hands on. And no he is not thinking before he dive bombs people, places, objects, and situations, acrobatically leaping, or immediately doing whatever he sees. But this is his learning style I again remind myself. I cringe and hold my breath constantly wondering what reaction will be unleashed on a moment to moment basis from random people, objects, and situations. I tell myself there is allot I can learn from him. And then see him do and say things for shock value and I shrink in embarrassment or scowl in indignation. Then there's the times we just cuddle after he is finally worn out, physically, not mentally, and I remember he just wants to have fun. And win. And that tommorow is a new day. And he will be the first one up in the morning ready to conquer it and whoever stands in his charming, lovable way.
Lmfao, so as an ESTP, when you mentioned Sherlock Holmes, I was like, holy heck, but how, and then I rememberd that I literally figured out from my friend telling me that she has some men clothes to give out, that her father was dead.
@@okbutwhatif9905 From what I remember from the books, ESTP does seem to fit. ESTPs have an uncanny ability to read people and tend to use reckless actions in pursuit of goals. There's also Book Sherlocks decent athletic abilities, his need to drugs to chill him out so he can think straight, and I'm pretty sure chasing Moriarty over a waterfall is not most peoples first choice. If anyone is the INTP, I'd say it's his brother.
My best dreams are where I basically have super reflexes and infinite mobility and My favorite sports are fighting and dodge ball thats when I realized I was an estp
ESTP here. I've typed as ESTP most consistently in my life. During life phases it's changed for short amounts of time; I've gotten ISTP during my angsty teen years, and ENTJ while really getting my shit together and making a plan. I'm super drawn to stimulation whether physical or mental. I left home after turning 18 hitchhiking west. I'm usually physically active, and I'm deep into study of linguistics/epistemology/theoretical quantum physics/cognitive science/human & planetery evolution. I'm currently canvassing remotely for several progressive senators/representatives. I've done a lot of door to door, and citizen lobbying. Didn't go to a college because the internet is free (perks of being an internet native). Worked at a marketing firm when I was 19, and have been running crews of community organizers since i turned 21. I was born 4/98. I've always loved other ESTPs, wild people who enjoy a meaningful, and stimulating life.
Maybe I've only met the highly unhealthy ESxPs but I personally find them quite self-serving, and yes they can be fun but they seem low on moral judgements and empathy on their route to having "fun".
My ESTP brother honestly scared me a little growing up. He can be funny and charming but behind closed doors he knows just the right thing to say to make me have a serious emotional reaction. Granted it's not very hard with me but I really didn't need someone actively pushing for it. He always knew what I was insecure about at the time and would make a big display for others to potentially see. I'm really not sure how so many people keep overlooking all the horrible things he's said over the years and still adore him so much. If I said even a fraction of the things he did, I'd never have friends again. What sort of dark magic is this and how do I make it go away? He's chilled a little recently due to meeting his match with our seriously unstable ENTP sister but it's clearly still there.
@@Takisan111 he said horrible things but it was all true isn't it? So why would people be mad for so long, people expect that from him not from you that's just him
I'd imagine ESTPs being great as spies. They can fit into any social situation, and exploit the weaknesses of others while still appearing to be on the same side. And if they are compromised, they can act quickly to cool down the situation and craft a plan B. Such smooth operators, they are...
I’m an INTJ-A and as shocking as this my sound, I like ESTP! They have such a fun outgoing personality but aren’t all about the feelings and stuff. Good combination. Well done ESTP I think you are the first type I might consider being friends with.
I really dig that last bit, that gem actually. Where you say everyone thinks an estp is "logical" though its actually "reason" they are confusing for the former. My type (estp) of day can be dominated by making decisions on my feelings one day and the next even be given to logic. Its the reason that matters in the end. Getting from point "A" to "B" and what it requires from the present moment dictates a lot to me
As an INFP I struggle to understand these types, sometimes assuming too quickly that they have nefarious motives. This video has been very helpful. Thanks, Nathan.
Great insights! I’m wondering if the animal stack would affect how Se is perceived. I definitely see what you mean about ESTPs having this sort of power that affects the room. I believe my husband has high blast/play. Quick story to use as an example --> my husband and I went out to eat last night and saw another couple that we occasionally hang out with. He sat down at their table and started chatting them up. Then, we walked over to the bar and my husband started speaking very loudly to the owner with small talk (asking about how his holidays were, how business has been, etc.). Then asks if he can change one of the dishes on the menu to be something he’d rather have. Of course, the owner will change things for him because he is a paying customer. My husband then starts yelling over to the couple we know seeing what they have planned this weekend. He asks if they’re available on Sunday to have a game night. At this point, I’m super annoyed because to me it feels like he’s forcing people to do things they may not want to do but agree to in the moment because they don’t have a good excuse. Being that I have play and blast low, I think I avoid these types of situations. I don’t like forcing anything. I prefer people to come to me. I think it’s so interesting how some of us “extroverts” can be shy/withdrawn. Lol. And vice versa.
Love Who Lol now that I’m reading this over again, I realize I’m sounding like a whiney lil b****. 😅 But, yeah, I definitely preserve a lot of energy because I get drained so quickly. My husband wakes up in a cheerful mood every morning ready to take on the day 😂. Whereas I have to get a workout in and consume a bunch of material (music, podcasts, YT, etc.) before I’m ready to start using play at work. Hope that makes sense! Are you and your husband different in that way??
I'm ENTP and I was watching this to understand better my ESTP father, and I understood better myself haha really you have to say in some ENTP video that about Fi blind that makes us able to do anything without knowing what we really want 😅😭
At 50 and a very busy life (now stuck at home after surgery to the knee- an horror for me),I came to this video while searching: "trying to solve problems all the time" and "overthinking about concepts and situations"...like my brain never stops trying to figure out why we are living and how we can improve the world...but also making lists of my own concepts of life. My job was counsellor for people starting their own business, then I had my own business too. I tried at least 10 business ideas and got bored each time just after starting it. I always have problems because I tell people 'the truth", even in my job. Changing is what I want to do all the time. I like to be the center of attention but with age, it tends to be more in small groups or with clients. I like to finish sentences of people in my head in advance and I am always right. I also spend a lot of time looking at animals and trying to figure out what they are thinking (I am sure they are). When I was a child, I was so overthinking that I could even faint from it. I guess I am not crazy, just an ESTP. Moins
don't tell the world that the guy im crushing on is an ESTP and this INFJ is here to find out more about his personality and then analyze him 🤫 edit : yeah um okay i got over him hihi :D
Female INTJ here married (and divorced) an older ESTP. Probably why the recently trained mbti coach suggested that we get typed. It really explained our lack of communication. Yep, he made a physical impact, had superficial charm, was highly observant which he used to manipulate people.He didn't settle down until late in life, he loved chaos, drinking, was great at making deals wo keeping any paperwork. He liked to "wing it" which was often frustrating., I managed & organized the business & the home & made him look good in society. He would harangue me for being quiet & modest, for not being able to always explain why I made my art the way I did... geez idk. Remember having to defend myself for wanting to nurse our baby in private. "What's wrong with you?" for not breast feeding in front of family & friends. He ridiculed my younger daughter, too. told her she was just like me. (she was later tested as an INTJ). too independent, too quiet & not social enough.
My ESTP father was very smart and used his entire cognitive function stack quiver in a pretty deadly manner. He was incredibly dynamic, mostly in a low key way, and could manage the energy of situations over extended periods of time. Life in his presence was always dramatic and never boring. I watched many people become addicted to his presence.
@@Peonies925 I meant that figuratively, but he was known to have a lot of conquests, if you know what I mean, both male and female. Plus, although I wouldn't call him the life of anything, he was often the center of attention at social gatherings. Strangers sometimes comment on the impact of his presence. He had well developed Ni for an ESTP, and it was fairly balanced with his Se. When he wanted to, he could be extremely present and engaging, even charming. He can focus very intently on another person, but this focus can go from what seems like a warm glow to a predatory stare in almost an instant. Then you may find out what he's really made of, which is bitterness, fear, and cruelty. Once he gets into a cruel mindset, he is obsessive and relentless. Of course, I do not believe that most ESTPs are cruel and obsessive.
@@RacerMMXXII ha ha yes… i knew you meant “deadly” in a figurative way. I was just thinking about the ESTP s ive known and they too had a lot of conquests. They were womanizers! And slick in manipulative ways!
As an ENTP, I am not at all interested in the 'thingness' of external reality. My Introverted Thinking is content with an abstract understanding of the sensory experience. Although I may enjoy the 'ah-hah' moment of sensory discovery, I am never captivated by it. Unlike Sherlock Holmes, who has to take his cocaine trip to find its personal meaning, I am satisfied with the validity of his report. If Homes wants to 'feel the burn', I wish him well and apply my energy to understanding the psychology of risk-taking. These Extroverted Perceiving functions make no 'apriori' judgments that limit the scope of the inquiry, but the subjective nature of the Introverted Thinking makes utilitarian demands for effectiveness and efficiency that no Feeling nature can.
I think Sherlock Holmes is a universally-known character. I’m 46, and I ravenously read all the SH books at my school library because I was drawn to the problem-solving. I remember wishing there were MORE to read-I think it was one of the few mentally-stimulating things to do in my life in 1985 (and it had to be free for me to have access to it), having come from a family of Sensors who just zoned out everyday on bad TV (and back then, it was a paltry selection of just VHF & UHF channels). At school, I was placed in the lowest track, where my classmates only wanted to socialize w/ one another. It was like being in a room full of headless chickens. Those books and that character (along w/ Watson) set such a high bar that I was bored by Nancy Drew and The Hardy Boys books, which were supposedly also good.
I am a long served ESTP - with many successes in my portfolio of lifetime achievements. What I will say that after many years, I still sometimes am unsure what I want to do. Dont get me wrong at this moment in time, I love the work I am in, but it has an expiry date, and I have no idea what I want to do next. For that bit I am sure that Amor Fati will show me the way.
@@markqq4487 I rose from the shop floor to senior management - and stayed there. I am often deployed, or employed in crisis situations to bring a stable head and hands to problems. I am also able to find unique solutions to things my peers often have yet to have dreamt up - trust me being the only ESTP in my line of business is really fun, or incredibly frustrating.
I'm an ESTP and I don't know what to with my life don't have a job sleep all day but I'm bored af I don't want an 8 hrs job my relationships always end because I can commit and they're not good in bed and that's important for me, I have zero friends by now can't stand people
I'm INFP, and think my sister could be ESTP. We always were at each other as kids, always fighting. She was always the popular girl, centre of attention. Till this day we don't have the closest relationship. With age we stopped fighting and disagreeing all the time. Don't get me wrong, I love my sister to the moon and back! I would do anything for her and always defend her! Although she is annoyed by my emotions and dreams, and I can't stand listening to her "debates", we have fun with joking around. I have learned that she wants to talk and be heard, so I just let her talk, and talk, and talk. And I listen, whether I agree with what she's saying or not.
I'm and INFP and my older brother is an ISTP. We have never been close, I can see how intuitives and sensors can repel each other because we filter the world so differently. We didn't hate each other and we did have laughing times as kids. Sounds like your sister wanted to persuade you a lot lol
How to figure out what you want? Its really a problem. Its one of the weaknesses and i should say it can fkup a life. The big qusstion - How to know? Btw great video and nice charm you have, very eye pleasing voice and mimics.
I'm an ENFP and one of my best friends is estp and we have the best spontaneous road trips we just have a time. Hehe. He's the only person that can party as have d as me lol.
Sherlock takes adventures with high Se. Yet his charming part is his speech with marvelous professional and accurate words. Therefore I regard him as a mixture of ENTP and ESTP. After all, he is a dramaitc person.
Not true man, we’re kinda fascinated by people who are fundamentally different than us. Just be confident and communicate directly your interest, he will definitely appreciate your honesty!
i am dating an ESTP. Let me tell you.. it is so FRUSTRATING. I am an ENTJ. I love him and i know he loves me A LOT.. but it is FRUSTRATING. He will call 2-3 weeks. but holy heavens.. i thought he was cheating on me. I was about to move on.. and this guy calls me.. I told him bluntly I'm not stupid.. there's probably another woman and i'm not taking any BS from him.. i was leaving. He raised his voice.. i raised my voice.. and then he kept repeating, "SOrry sorry.. i'm not a cheater! i'm working.. blah blah blah. USE YOUR HEAD.. I'm NOT CHEATING.. I TOLD YOU I LOVED YOU.. WHAT THE HELL IS YOUR PROBLEM?! You're CRAZY!" estp's CAN get emotional. they can cry when they realize they are about to lose something. but i didn't really care that he was in his uncomfortable zone.. i was about to gouge his eyes out when he told me to use my head. yeah our heated argument. So i just shut up out of frustration.. because he was adamant about not cheating. But see I'm a douchebag... i can be a big DOUCHE... I got a friend to spy on him for a month.... you know why? Not because i wanted to know if he was cheating.. but because i wanted to prove that I AM RIGHT.. yes, i'm sorry my ego is far up my butt... but he was right. he wasn't cheating.. He was working with cars. He could make love to cars if he could. He flips cars for a living.. if he goes out with the "boys" it's to drag race. So his nights.. he was spending DRIVING cars and DRAG RACING. He didnt' call.. because he had to take care of his "things" aka amp up cars. I really hate that he isn't consistent with communication.. doesn't care that people care for him. He has loved ones--- His mother complains about the same thing. I spend more time with his MOTHER than HIM!!!!!! He doesn't understand how DANGEROUS drag racing is. People LOVE him.. he has this presence.. that people really like him.. he's super friendly. but... no way of telling what he is going to do next. On top of all of this.. he wants children.. WTF.. he's batshit crazy.. he calls me crazy.. but clearly he's the effed up one.. thinking that i would bring HIS kids into this world.. while he's out and about putting his life in danger.
We like adrenaline don't tell him don't do it cuz he'll avoid you instead go with him and tell him be careful or ask him how it went after Don't use and ultimatum with an estp he will leave you Give him room to breathe and miss you Once an estp is in love then is In Love he's not gonna cheat When they have children they tone down their crazy antics
@@parkkooklietjeonjimeo6214 Yeah he doesn't cheat.. I learned that.. but man.. we can get at each other's throats. He hasn't left me.. and i haven't left him.. so so far it's okay
"its just occured to me that most of the people watching this are American and will probably have a different person in mind" not me thinking he was going to talk about Donald Trump T_T
Worst interview question for an ESTP. "Where do you see yourself in 5 years?" Not here, that's for sure. But the 'not knowing what you want', often has you over-staying you expiration date.
I sadly have no ESTPs close to me but I feel like I'd feel most comfortable and flourish and get spurred into action... I think we'd make a good team as I'm an INTP with endless ideas but difficulty getting an impulse to put them into action (but when it happens everyone has a great time lol)... Any advice from ESTPs here on how to approach you best? And whether you think I could have something to offer you as an INTP?
Dear ESTP, seek me out and we shall form the ultimate partnership of chaos and craziness. Sincerely, an ENFP..
We can totes do that! Everything will be in total chaos, this partnership will be awesome! Yes, I’m a fellow ESTP- 😂
ESTP here. Let's get it.
Woo!
xD
i wish I could come up with a good comment about this. I failed. -ISTP
Double interested 🌚🌝🌚🌝🌚🌝
ESTPs are crazy capable of noticing stuff.
Indeed. I'm an INTP and my best friend is an ESTP. He is smart as fuck, and is always in tune with the environment. He observes and notices things in the environment with such an incredible quickness that it often overwhelm me.
Agreed, it’s a cool superpower to have ~ Nathan
I’m an ESTP, and I am this way with music and history
Dude, easy peasy, but intuition is what we lack, it kinda bothers me...
@@Guts33 There are always trade offs. We INFJs can see around corners, ESTP s can actually see the corners
I'm an ESTP and it's hard for me to feel intimidated by others I don't know why. I also took a lot of risks in my life and never failed when it comes to that so far.
This is a very ESTP comment indeed ~ Nathan
Thanks :)
Bless Parco Rodriguez same lady, estp here i’ll straight up die before I punk out to someone who doesnt deserve my respect what are they gonna do force me? Good luck ya know.
@@nathanieljohnson5555 cool :)
What you said resonates extremely with me- that's what makes us quintessentially ESTP.
I'm entirely convinced that my ESTP brother has psychic powers. He may not be traditionally smart but he always is able to know just the right thing to say or do to get what he wants. It's scary.
i’m an ESTP and one of my old friends was always slightly paranoid that i could read their mind
Yep
i think this is true, i suspect myself a lot for years
@_Hudera_ 5w3 i think, but id have to double check to be sure
Sure but when you start observing them and you will find they are very predictable and whatever they do has a cause behind if some how you counter them with multiple possibilities and actions they will start worrying like scared rats.
I’m just gonna go ahead and stop at “everyone’s favorite”
Just lemme charm ya ;)
I think ESFP are more everyone's favorite. ESTP can be too be edgy and offensive lol.
Kati Bird ESTPs suck!😁
Bitches who don’t like us are just player haters 😂😂
Nicole Harris who hurt u ?
An ESTP I lived with for two years:
- drove home a 5 tonne digger from work to do some 'hedge grooming' (the hedge was gone)
- negotiated a 30% discount in a shop with no discounts (happened multiple times)
- bought himself a gold watch and a metal detector and dug up the entire garden doing 'testing'.
The entire relationship was a chaos squared, with water pistol fights inside the house, no set sleeping times or places and military campaigns starting and finishing with the most passionate expressions of love. Such a crazy ride it was!
I must say, that sounds like fun. ~ Nathan
Sounds like an amazing human and relationship!
@@lovewho whats your type? Please?
Sounds like fun
@@jaeloniala4672 he is an intj
my Dad the ESTP, I'm INFJ - Dad loves everyone and everyone loves Dad. Dad loves life and life loves him back. Dad Loves me and I love my Dad... it's all good. Cheers from Australia!!
Cheers from "up above"...aka northern hemisphere. What I have observed over the years is that where there are ESTP family members, you will often find an INFJ, be it a parent/child or siblings. In my extended family network we several sets of ESTP/INFJ sibling pairs, myself included
@@stevedavenport1202 Oh shit, I'm an ESTP and I have an INFJ little sister!
@@tjz6202 See what I mean? 😀
Hahahahhahahaha im infj and i think my dad could get edtp after a test. And i got difficulties in the comunication, and most of the time we have fun, the funniest thing is that we use to laugh at a different things in the same conversation.
“ESTP’s can struggle to know what they actually want” Sat in a park, writing exactly “I don’t know what I want to do in the future” as I heard this rofl
Estp here. Look at Alan watts
@@Gtjsn Aww your story makes me feel sentimental. I hope you find an even better man for yourself in the near future!
@@Gtjsn where ru from?
@@Gtjsn just curious, for more context
@@Gtjsn Gonna admit, I'm somewhat invested in your bitter sweet love story, so I kinda want to know just a little bit more, if you don't mind.
I’m an ESTP, but I’m not a sporty person. I am a musician however and your claim that ESTP’s crave a dynamic environment where they can make quick decisions in response to changing circumstances makes as much sense of the improvising ESTP musician as it does that sportsperson.
As a musician who also prefers to improvise, I agree with your comment! ~ Nathan
DUDE, that's exactly my position. Thank you
same!
i have an ESTP friend like that as well
estp (pretty sure LMAO) musician here. Accurate
The part where you said that ESTP’s can do whatever they want to, but not knowing what they want really hit me. I feel like I am not limited like certain people, but at the same time I don’t really have a passion.
SAME
I would say that isn't true,
You have to think outside of the societal spectrum of desire.
You're welcome.
No doubt an ESTP.
I relate to that. I've been longing to relate to something of mbti personalities for a few years
Thank you
I'm an INFJ and my brother is an ESTP, growing up together was a mess. He really brights up the room, winning everyone's heart; and while people starts getting comfortable in his presence, he decided if he wants to keep the good vibe or make things go turbulent. I always have to stop him when he chooses the second, although the times I let him be things are quite funny, even when he's calling someone out. He's just charming, gets excited with anything (most of the times crazy/potentialy dangerous things) and makes everyone around him excited too.
I (INFP) used to try to rein in my ESTP brothers chaotic actions but 1) he's a lot bigger than me and 2) despite how messed up some of his actions are, people seem to genuinely find him charming. I'm both terrified and envious of whatever dark magic he possesses.
@@Takisan111 hey, don't be jealous. you are charming in your own way. trust me.
@@dilki2627are you an estp? if yes what do you find charming about infp's. Please share 🙏
Haha I'm a scientist ESTP. I am in college but I do a lot of research, I show up to classes I don't belong in, I'm in the sociology club. People know me, and I brighten a room. It makes me really happy.
Agreed! I’m a comp sci and cog sci double graduate and love a good philosophical, drunken night 😁
What do you think of INTPs?
cool! I am an entp scientist. science needs a variety of people like many other endeavors. some subfields or career paths may be unsuitable for Se (or Ne) doms but they nevertheless can have valuable skills and successful paths!
As an ESTP I definitely agree with a large portion of this video. I am extremely adept at noticing little things that most people don't even think about. Also, I get along with pretty well everyone. A lot of times when I go out with my friends to a party or something. they'll find me speaking with a bunch of strangers just having a great time. I will say that one thing you didn't touch on that is difficult for me as an ESTP to make a deep connection with someone. Whether that be with friendship or romantic relationships. It could be that I meet someone who is initially charmed by my personality, I then move on to the next thing rather quickly and will most likely never speak to them again. It could also be how I struggle to understand emotions and that of other's, I'm not entirely sure.
Another ESTP here, I pretty much experience the same thing! But I gotta say that there has yet to be a situation where I fail to form a closer bond with someone that I want to have a deeper connection with. Which doesn’t happen often as I too move on really quickly.
Omg....so accurate
broo im an estp and i agree so much on the deep connection part, idk i just think opening up is hard and i would rather just have fun and chill
As a ESTP not knowing what i want to do with my live is so frustrating. I really felt that quick response concept, Studying 3,5 years just for a degree without any real experience feels so time waisting. Just sit me on the boss chair and let me make desicions god damn.
Hru doing now
@@markqq4487 I now Travel the World, making money online. Live is good, to all my ESTP fellows, keep chasing your dreams.
@@lukasschmidt5778 🙌
@@lukasschmidt5778ayeee good job!
My husband(ESTP) gets infused with other peoples stories, lives , and how it happened etc etc. Ive told him that he looks so comfortably intense as if he's in the room with only that one person. He's friends with so many. He's a freakin magnet.
Sounds pretty accurate! Hope you liked the video!
Your ESTP husband is probably cheating on you...
@@lucianabolissima923 i doubt it. lol We have been together since we were kids. Started to have our babies early in life and our marriage has surpassed ALL of my siblings...they use to make cracks on how things wouldn't last: we defied the odds on so many levels, because we had each other and were very resourceful when the years were lean. that taught us much. .We lacked for nothing because we had cultivated that life early on and that taught us how rich life is and many of the unhealthy ways to navigate. Also, have two adult children. Were not going anywhere. I think ppl may get the wrong idea on good friendly ppl. We know ourselves and each other too well.
@@lucianabolissima923 this is just my opinion, but I think it's a bit disrespectful to the op to assume that her husband cheats on her basing on his cognitive function...? (I'm not estp, I'm infp btw). I'm sorry that you may had bad experiences with estps (I don't know your experiences) but we don't know op's life either...
ESTPs are really honest and loyal. If they do make a mistake they'll usually be honest about it
What you said in the video accurately describes my estp friend, he's scarily good at making deals and getting his way. He also has a soft heart and probably cares more than I(infj) do, estps also love to know that they're making their loved ones happy, showing appreciation makes their day :)
Interesting!
Army👁👄👁
So true as an estp I try my best to make people day better like I actually go to a stranger and tell her or him she looks good💖🙏🏻
@@yxumi Wow are you sure you're an ESTP? I'm an ESTP and I only sacrifice my time and energy for the people I care about. I usually act plainly transactional with cashiers/janitors/waiters/waitresses, but never without respect though, unless they don't do their job.
@@tjz6202 What do you think of INTPs?
i’m an estp and i always forget to think before i talk and i’m very honest and harsh and regret what i say after lmao
same lol
Soooo trueee
Same here.
My brother is an ESTP, he a genius, extremely experienced in life! As an INFP i'm very grateful for that!
Thx for not tossing around the ESTP jock thing carelessly (INFJ)
I'm glad he didn't do that as well. My brother is ESTP and he's one of the most terrifyingly brilliant people I know. While he could have been an athlete due to his build, he uses his size more as a tool in his crazy schemes. I was seriously convinced growing up that he had psychic powers since he always knew the exact thing to say to get whatever response he was looking for. The only times it didn't work were when he failed to realize just how angry, sad, or stressed out his targets were... Which is actually very easy to happen with me (INFP)
@@Takisan111 i(infp) relate ,my bro(estp) does the same
@@Takisan111can you tell what your brother as an estp guy likes in a woman?? Or can he like a infp woman for himself. I have a estp crush so just wanted to know. If you could share anything.
@@Beyou0120 He doesn't date much (or simply hasn't told me about any) so I honestly could not tell you what his type is. However, he is able to become friends with just about anyone if they are up for a good time. He also has a habit of adopting introverts. I don't know your crush, what kind of person they are or what their specific values are, but if they are ESTP, then yeah I can see one there being room for them to be interested in INFPs. With my brother, he values honesty and authenticity, becoming annoyed when he notices people lying to him needlessly because that takes up his valuable time. He likes being suprised, especially if the person does something interesting he wasn't expecting. He enjoys people willing to be silly, the more doing it at once, the better.
His big weak spot though is emotional reactions. He assumes far too often that people can tell when he's joking so, growing up, he was frequently caught off guard when people assumed the worst of him and his actions. He also forgot that not everyone had the same life experiences. Best example I can think of is that, when we were kids, he was often teasing me or pulling pranks on me like he would our brother or his friends but because I was bullied in school (unlike him), I saw it as targeted attacks and it made me kind of afraid of him. To him, it was a fun bonding thing and he somehow got the wrong idea I was a lot tougher than I actually was. It always seemed to genuinely confuse and/or upset him when I would either cry or get angry. The realization he got later in life when it finally dawned on him what was going on actually seemed to depress him a bit. He's not intentionally malicious, he just struggles with bigger picture things, especially if they are emotion related.
Sorry if this is a bit rambly. Hope this helps a little.
@@Takisan111 thank you so much for replying🙏🙏
As an ISTP, I just wanna say that you ESTPs are really entertaining.
Another ISTP here, I wholeheartedly agree
My brother is a classic ESTP. he's truly a Renaissance man. He has been involved in numerous careers in just a decade or so, and has been successful at all of them.
I had such a huge crush on Aladdin as a child, he will forever be my ESTP poster boy!! But Sherlock Holmes, yeah that makes sense. I listened to a podcast about this burly ESTP hostage negotiator guy and he was exactly what you were describing with getting his "deals" it was super intense.
Ohh interesting. What was the podcast? ~ Nathan
@@lovewho It was Sam Harris's podcast with a guy named Chris Voss
@@Gtjsn In socionics it would be considered normal for INFJ to match with ESTP really well as friends or romantically, but the key to a relationship is both parties would have to be mature enough. Especially in your younger years, the ESTP might not value Ni-style commitment yet and you might lack the Se to be bold enough in your communication. That's just a guess though, hope it works out for you in the future
Me as an INFP fell in love with an ESTP and she told me I wasn't right for her and now I'm dying. Godspeed!
finally it’s my type's turn! so happy 😍😍😍
Hope it didn't disappoint ~ Nathan
There is something about estps that really disrupts my harmony. It's energetically felt like sharp prickly needles. They have a magnetism and you do indeed notice them quickly, they don't blend in at all. When I think of Sherlock I think of Benedict.
man, i love being an estp, i'm so fkin proud abt being one
Haha . They sound fun
Is there any ESTP who isn't ? 😄
If they could only feel one day the way we do, theyll understand it. How fun it is, how exciting
😂😂😂😂I almost screamed when you said Sherlock Holmes. He is my favorite character of all time. Makes sense.. cuz I'm ESTP
Good discussion as usual. Oh, and the cover photo for the video is spot on!
Thank you! Glad you liked it! ~ Nathan
It is so interesting to me that you called out Sherlock Holmes as an ESTP, because I've been looking at the differences between ENTP and ESTP lately, and was actually thinking that Sherlock Holmes' style of combining all solid facts and ignoring any theorizing beyond them is very Se-Ti. Happy to have some secondary confirmation!
My sister is an ESTP and i remember when she was 7, she just get into the primary school (she was new) and suddenly everyone know her. And it still like this until now.
This is fun to watch 3 years later ❤
As an INFP, I find myself attracted to Se-doms quite often. I admire their ability to be so in the moment and active, which I definitely struggle with seeing as I have Blind Spot Se. Like you said, they always have an impact.
Reading what ESTPs have to say about Fi doms like me, it seems they definitely shy away from the analysis of emotions and values, which makes lots of sense for Blind Spot Fi. I've also seen that Parent Ne can get overwhelming for them.
For me, too much activity and focus on the physical isn't natural for me, and can be pretty overwhelming; I need time to simply exist to recharge, partly due to my neurodivergency. I like to take things at a slower pace, which can easily conflict with a Se dom's natural rhythm.
With each other's dominant functions as the other's blind spot, this can make communication and bonding a challenge-but also very rewarding, and a learning experience for both people involved, If they are willing to put in the effort.
I’m an ESTP and though I’m an athlete and very adventurous, I really enjoy long conversations. I don’t shy away from emotions and philosophy. I can do both. Maybe that’s why I like INFJs
@@ofauvi2089do you like infp or what kind of woman do you like?? As an estp please share
Amazing how you explain this like you are estp yourself.Kinda wonder how is this possible someone can understand other like this?Amazing 👍🏼
I've always that that Sherlock Holmes sounded like an ESTP. I'm glad others agree
haha I love the vibe in thumbnail, edgey
Thank you! I asked my stepdad to give me a cigarette, everyone thought I'd taken up smoking as my New Years resolution ~ Nathan
Love Who 😂
I typed my bf as an Estp, because of the fact that he would always put me back into reality whenever I discuss to him my outlandish , crazy ideas and most often he would join me on my adventures (tours) for as long as it is reasonable and doable...He lives in the moment, with no love for the future (compared to me) and not much interest with the past. He would always be grounded in terms of ideas but a daredevil for embracing the moment. -(i’m an ENFP)
Thats a fascinating dynamic that I haven't thought of that much. Thank you for sharing your thoughts... feel free to share more! ~ Nathan
I would be the one who came up with the idea of going to a place (let’s say a beach with a cliff) , and be so excited about it, for him (estp) not much reaction (do they even have any emotional reaction?), and then when the moment comes, he would be the first one cliff diving and I would be the one standing behind just falling in love with my idea coming into reality (but not so much with the present moment).
And also I still have a hard time typing him wether if he is as an ISTP or an ESTP...
Whenever there is no immediate need for action especially when he is alone, he would always be busy with video games, word games, intellectual games, watching tv and be happy staying at home, (like an introvert). Not unless he is called by a friend to go out and socialize and drink which he will be happy with even at the most uninviting time of the night.
Thanks for reading Nathan ~
we are walking reality checks. Some types can't deal with it
@@lovewho Nathan, it's not good for romance. you will both be frustrated. It's better as amazing friends. I mean of course anything will work, but...it is very hard when you have conflict. Your processes are so different
Thank you sir, a lot of people stereotype ESTPs as dumb people who only want excitement and adventure in their life. A lot of the things you said accurately describes how I am as an ESTP. It's also hard to communicate to people what I'm thinking about and how I came up with my own conclusions. I communicate and connect to other people effortlessly, and sometimes I sense that that discourages other people who are making conscious efforts to connect. Thanks again, you are articulate with your words and I admire that.
I'm an ENTP and I've been a bit of a shooting star with no direction for most of my life. And I have an ESTP mate who's a bit older than me. He's had his own business for years and I've watched him grow it and he turns over millions of pounds now. He's exactly as you've described an ESTP to be in this video and in another video - and he's similar to me in a lot of ways - Very extroverted, charming, analytical, logical, chaotic and very argumentative. But there's a key difference between us. He wants quick results in anything he does and only ever considers the here and now with everything. Where as I like to plan, prepare and consider the future possibilities so I take more time to come to a decision. Therefore we've clashed in regards to this in the past. Also, I've got a bit of a trickster type personality in me but it's harmless, my pointing out of people's contradictions or irrational perspectives aren't directly offensive and I only tend to hit people with their contradictions or logical falicies. Where as he not only does this but he tends to insult people with really nasty observations about their personal character or their physical characteristics, which is too much for even me to tolerate tbh. I like him sometimes and at other times, I fuckin hate him because he's being an utter arse hole.
Lol true, ESTPs will notice every character trait of yours, and if you piss us off be prepared to know your worst
Intp here your introvert half and I feel the same way with a Estp coworker. I like to feel free but I notice I restrict myself with them. They can be a lose cannon sometimes.
I think both ENTPs and ESTPs will receive this insult at least once in their life of being an arse hole 😂. I guess this secondary Ti + tertiary Fe makes you very at ease with people and argumentative. You guys sadly usually give a bad rep to Fe users cause I feel like Tertiary Fe is really different. It's more used as a tool but not so authentically in a compassionate way. This creates a weird behavior of confident because of Ne/Se, but charming unsensitive arse holes.
I think INTPs are more concerned about getting to the truth without wanting to look entertaining first or anything so people can take the criticizm more fairly while ExTPs just sound like they criticized you and mock you to no end, which is simply a despicable behavior let's be honest because people do care. I think criticizms and fun should just be disconnected cause the thing is it usually just comes off as incredibly disrespectful.
I think that's just the reason why ExTPs are often rejected in social situations.
Estps can be better at telling who is lying and who's telling the truth better than anyone, the estp I know can easily tell when I lie even the simplest most believable white lies, nothing goes unnoticed and it's kinda scary for quite a while but you end up getting used to it
manager-nim its true man especially if I’m looking for it, when I hear or see a lie its like they have a neon sign above their heads that say they are lying, my b.s meter is very tuned- ESTP
I believe they'll pick up more the superficial signs. So body language & voice tone, for example. They make snap judgement of of it and can be often right. But I believe INFJ and ENFJ might be better at reading a person fully, they'll go into the deeper layer.
@@nathanieljohnson5555 you guys are the only ones who can freak me out with your super power
Our battle will be legendary!
@@RuthParodies true as an infj I just recognize patterns in people that help me figure them out on a deep level
@@manager-nim2623 I love you profile picture of wwh 💜
This is possibly the MOST accurate representation of my type I've seen thus far. Absolutely brilliant video man, keep it up!
So....this is so true! My sister in law is an estp. I am trying to type my two daughters and my youngest who is only almost 2, reminds me so so much of her! I know I may get hate for trying to type my 2 year old, but make sure your a parent first before you judge ;) The reason I believe she is estp is how amazing she is at adapting and taking control of her environment but she also has a hard time sitting and focusing. She lives on reaction! She will bite anyone with a reaction. She is actually very physical and can be quite a bully. But I know it's because she thinks the reactions of other kids are funny. But she amazes me with how fast she seems to learn with how hyper she is. My oldest at 2 was a very calm baby and would spend hours looking at books and drawing. She never hit or bite me or anyone! In fact, if there was a group of kids she was too shy. I can go on and on as most parents can about their children lol. But, I truly believe personality can be determined as children.
One interesting observation I found myself is how drastic personality can fluctuate during different stages of life. As a kid I was a major book worm, spent hours playing with figures, building stuff, drawing etc. then as soon as puberty hit I became the exact opposite, onlyt ofind myself back over the course of like 6 years. Now I'm probably as nerdy again as I was as a kid, mixed with a small fraction of that "phase" or perhaps development I had as a teen
ESTPs can be charming. ESTPs can also be trouble.
Im an entp and this is on point! Third slot Fe is really interesting because i usually figure ppl out fairly quickly. Though i rarely give ppl what they want. When i do its tongue-in-cheek and calculated though not because i want to be mean. I just really dont like to be manipulated/forced into giving a certain response. 😅😕 The very idea that someone could think they can control me in such a way is an insult to my intelligence lmao
I was thinking the same, but was to lazy to write it down :)))
YEP. INFJ here. Learnt the hard way to steer clear f ENTPs and ESTPs. They tend to pick me out on their radar very fast though. But now that I know them, I run away like hell. I know what you are upto.
@@jaeloniala4672 😅 but infjs are so nice!
@@taydupreez8555 yep. Thats why you love us. LOL
ESTP is just an INFJ with reversed strengths and weaknesses. The Fe function means that if we meet in a bar it’s like two spies or detectives running into each other and not wanting to be noticed but noticing each other right away! (I’m INFJ)
Thank you. Getting to know types better really helps me understanding others and how different from me they are. I'm an INFP (or J, I'm in between) and my young son is an ESTP. It can be quite a challenge for me to raise him but since I figured his type out, it's easier for me to know what works and what doesn't and to accept him as he really is.
He collects plastic weapons and does push-ups although he's a skinny 8-years old, he can't undress without throwing his clothes across the room, he tries to sell stuff (drawings...) to people in the park to get cash, he's a funky dancer, he hates schools except for sciences and sports...
@@Gibil934 Sounds just like my 8 year old ESTP. He buys things with advance planning: who he will share with as a buddy, who he will share with to gain favor, who he will share with to reward, and who he will sell to in order to make a deal. He bursts on the scene in every situation in his vicinity. He cannot stand to be alone. He knows no strangers and loves to rally a team to get a job done, yet will gleefully play the protagonists to expose and weed out the weaklings. He will then feel sorry for the one he has humiliated and try to help them. I have to remind myself each day that he has to learn by action and hands on. And no he is not thinking before he dive bombs people, places, objects, and situations, acrobatically leaping, or immediately doing whatever he sees. But this is his learning style I again remind myself. I cringe and hold my breath constantly wondering what reaction will be unleashed on a moment to moment basis from random people, objects, and situations. I tell myself there is allot I can learn from him. And then see him do and say things for shock value and I shrink in embarrassment or scowl in indignation. Then there's the times we just cuddle after he is finally worn out, physically, not mentally, and I remember he just wants to have fun. And win. And that tommorow is a new day. And he will be the first one up in the morning ready to conquer it and whoever stands in his charming, lovable way.
@@gabriellavictory3080 I guess I have to learn from mine too, especially to live in the moment :)
Lmfao, so as an ESTP, when you mentioned Sherlock Holmes, I was like, holy heck, but how, and then I rememberd that I literally figured out from my friend telling me that she has some men clothes to give out, that her father was dead.
Wow, that’s some serious deductive powers right there!! Hope you enjoyed the video ~Nathan
@@lovewho Sure did, it was awesome, also waaaay more accurate then some others I have seen. ;>
@@okbutwhatif9905 From what I remember from the books, ESTP does seem to fit. ESTPs have an uncanny ability to read people and tend to use reckless actions in pursuit of goals. There's also Book Sherlocks decent athletic abilities, his need to drugs to chill him out so he can think straight, and I'm pretty sure chasing Moriarty over a waterfall is not most peoples first choice. If anyone is the INTP, I'd say it's his brother.
My best dreams are where I basically have super reflexes and infinite mobility and My favorite sports are fighting and dodge ball thats when I realized I was an estp
I've always seen Sherlock typed as INTP so hearing you type him as ESTP was surprising but makes so much sense to me
ESTP here. I've typed as ESTP most consistently in my life. During life phases it's changed for short amounts of time; I've gotten ISTP during my angsty teen years, and ENTJ while really getting my shit together and making a plan.
I'm super drawn to stimulation whether physical or mental. I left home after turning 18 hitchhiking west. I'm usually physically active, and I'm deep into study of linguistics/epistemology/theoretical quantum physics/cognitive science/human & planetery evolution.
I'm currently canvassing remotely for several progressive senators/representatives. I've done a lot of door to door, and citizen lobbying. Didn't go to a college because the internet is free (perks of being an internet native). Worked at a marketing firm when I was 19, and have been running crews of community organizers since i turned 21. I was born 4/98.
I've always loved other ESTPs, wild people who enjoy a meaningful, and stimulating life.
Maybe I've only met the highly unhealthy ESxPs but I personally find them quite self-serving, and yes they can be fun but they seem low on moral judgements and empathy on their route to having "fun".
Busted...
Yes. Same.
My ESTP brother honestly scared me a little growing up. He can be funny and charming but behind closed doors he knows just the right thing to say to make me have a serious emotional reaction. Granted it's not very hard with me but I really didn't need someone actively pushing for it. He always knew what I was insecure about at the time and would make a big display for others to potentially see. I'm really not sure how so many people keep overlooking all the horrible things he's said over the years and still adore him so much. If I said even a fraction of the things he did, I'd never have friends again. What sort of dark magic is this and how do I make it go away? He's chilled a little recently due to meeting his match with our seriously unstable ENTP sister but it's clearly still there.
@@Takisan111 he said horrible things but it was all true isn't it? So why would people be mad for so long, people expect that from him not from you that's just him
Same ..
All hateable (Backstabbing, Opportunist) people I've encountered have been Estp.
Everytime I hear "ESTP" I think that personality is the best for being a soldier, isn't it?
Nope. getting ordered around wouldn't be fun... Maybe a squad leader would be good. a better choice😂😂
I'd imagine ESTPs being great as spies. They can fit into any social situation, and exploit the weaknesses of others while still appearing to be on the same side. And if they are compromised, they can act quickly to cool down the situation and craft a plan B. Such smooth operators, they are...
@@hasith_dissanayake can't they will burn everything
@@eva.1826 Only if it would help get the task done
@@hasith_dissanayake yeah but 😶i can't imagine us being in milatery
I’m an INTJ-A and as shocking as this my sound, I like ESTP! They have such a fun outgoing personality but aren’t all about the feelings and stuff. Good combination. Well done ESTP I think you are the first type I might consider being friends with.
Oh my goshhhh thanks!!!!
4:25 I think you might be on to something. Great insight
Your comment didn't get get a +1 from Nathan either?
Tsk tsk....
I really dig that last bit, that gem actually. Where you say everyone thinks an estp is "logical" though its actually "reason" they are confusing for the former.
My type (estp) of day can be dominated by making decisions on my feelings one day and the next even be given to logic.
Its the reason that matters in the end.
Getting from point "A" to "B" and what it requires from the present moment dictates a lot to me
Intuition through the use of brute force extroverted sensing and introverted thinking..that's crazy! And explains a lot.
As an INFP I struggle to understand these types, sometimes assuming too quickly that they have nefarious motives. This video has been very helpful. Thanks, Nathan.
Great insights! I’m wondering if the animal stack would affect how Se is perceived. I definitely see what you mean about ESTPs having this sort of power that affects the room. I believe my husband has high blast/play.
Quick story to use as an example --> my husband and I went out to eat last night and saw another couple that we occasionally hang out with. He sat down at their table and started chatting them up. Then, we walked over to the bar and my husband started speaking very loudly to the owner with small talk (asking about how his holidays were, how business has been, etc.). Then asks if he can change one of the dishes on the menu to be something he’d rather have. Of course, the owner will change things for him because he is a paying customer. My husband then starts yelling over to the couple we know seeing what they have planned this weekend. He asks if they’re available on Sunday to have a game night. At this point, I’m super annoyed because to me it feels like he’s forcing people to do things they may not want to do but agree to in the moment because they don’t have a good excuse.
Being that I have play and blast low, I think I avoid these types of situations. I don’t like forcing anything. I prefer people to come to me. I think it’s so interesting how some of us “extroverts” can be shy/withdrawn. Lol. And vice versa.
Ok this is fascinating!!! That two extraverts of a similar type can behave so differently. Love that story btw.
This is so interesting!
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Love Who Lol now that I’m reading this over again, I realize I’m sounding like a whiney lil b****. 😅 But, yeah, I definitely preserve a lot of energy because I get drained so quickly. My husband wakes up in a cheerful mood every morning ready to take on the day 😂. Whereas I have to get a workout in and consume a bunch of material (music, podcasts, YT, etc.) before I’m ready to start using play at work. Hope that makes sense! Are you and your husband different in that way??
thank youuu some one who finally acknowledges Sherlock Holmes as Ti-Se
I'm ENTP and I was watching this to understand better my ESTP father, and I understood better myself haha really you have to say in some ENTP video that about Fi blind that makes us able to do anything without knowing what we really want 😅😭
At 50 and a very busy life (now stuck at home after surgery to the knee- an horror for me),I came to this video while searching: "trying to solve problems all the time" and "overthinking about concepts and situations"...like my brain never stops trying to figure out why we are living and how we can improve the world...but also making lists of my own concepts of life. My job was counsellor for people starting their own business, then I had my own business too. I tried at least 10 business ideas and got bored each time just after starting it. I always have problems because I tell people 'the truth", even in my job. Changing is what I want to do all the time. I like to be the center of attention but with age, it tends to be more in small groups or with clients. I like to finish sentences of people in my head in advance and I am always right. I also spend a lot of time looking at animals and trying to figure out what they are thinking (I am sure they are). When I was a child, I was so overthinking that I could even faint from it. I guess I am not crazy, just an ESTP.
Moins
don't tell the world that the guy im crushing on is an ESTP and this INFJ is here to find out more about his personality and then analyze him 🤫
edit : yeah um okay i got over him hihi :D
same actually
same
PERSONALLY I LOVE INFJ’s
Run
OMG SAMEEEE
Love it!
Signed,
ESTP
@5:44
I love being wherever the action is taking place. I follow real estate's formula...
The closer you are to the asset, more valuable it'll be.
I’m amazed by how you elegantly deduce a type via its cognitive functions in a simple sentence.
Well I am Polish :)) So you are worldwide known MBTI expert ♥
Wow! Well...good to know ~ Nathan
I am from Greece 🇬🇷 ♥ You are amazing!
Glad you’re enjoying the videos and happy new year to Greece from us here in Wales in the UK! ~ Nathan
Female INTJ here married (and divorced) an older ESTP. Probably why the recently trained mbti coach suggested that we get typed. It really explained our lack of communication. Yep, he made a physical impact, had superficial charm, was highly observant which he used to manipulate people.He didn't settle down until late in life, he loved chaos, drinking, was great at making deals wo keeping any paperwork. He liked to "wing it" which was often frustrating., I managed & organized the business & the home & made him look good in society. He would harangue me for being quiet & modest, for not being able to always explain why I made my art the way I did... geez idk. Remember having to defend myself for wanting to nurse our baby in private. "What's wrong with you?" for not breast feeding in front of family & friends.
He ridiculed my younger daughter, too. told her she was just like me. (she was later tested as an INTJ). too independent, too quiet & not social enough.
Sorry for your pain Victoria...ESTP, becoming ghastly more aware of my many flaws! 😢
Victoria Nastav INTJs are very honest and direct while ESTPs are cunning liars and manipulative people...at least in my experience
He sounds moreso abusive than just ESTP. Hope you're in a happier place today ❤
“Seducing or offending in equal measure”
My God that is so me lol
Happy New Year!!
You too! ~ Nathan
Omg the whole third fe got me so hard. I took got to take an intro to law class in college and I fell in love 😍
My ESTP father was very smart and used his entire cognitive function stack quiver in a pretty deadly manner. He was incredibly dynamic, mostly in a low key way, and could manage the energy of situations over extended periods of time. Life in his presence was always dramatic and never boring. I watched many people become addicted to his presence.
How was he deadly? Ive known some charismatic ESTPs.
@@Peonies925 I meant that figuratively, but he was known to have a lot of conquests, if you know what I mean, both male and female. Plus, although I wouldn't call him the life of anything, he was often the center of attention at social gatherings. Strangers sometimes comment on the impact of his presence. He had well developed Ni for an ESTP, and it was fairly balanced with his Se. When he wanted to, he could be extremely present and engaging, even charming. He can focus very intently on another person, but this focus can go from what seems like a warm glow to a predatory stare in almost an instant. Then you may find out what he's really made of, which is bitterness, fear, and cruelty. Once he gets into a cruel mindset, he is obsessive and relentless. Of course, I do not believe that most ESTPs are cruel and obsessive.
@@RacerMMXXII ha ha yes… i knew you meant “deadly” in a figurative way. I was just thinking about the ESTP s ive known and they too had a lot of conquests. They were womanizers! And slick in manipulative ways!
As an ENTP, I am not at all interested in the 'thingness' of external reality. My Introverted Thinking is content with an abstract understanding of the sensory experience. Although I may enjoy the 'ah-hah' moment of sensory discovery, I am never captivated by it. Unlike Sherlock Holmes, who has to take his cocaine trip to find its personal meaning, I am satisfied with the validity of his report. If Homes wants to 'feel the burn', I wish him well and apply my energy to understanding the psychology of risk-taking. These Extroverted Perceiving functions make no 'apriori' judgments that limit the scope of the inquiry, but the subjective nature of the Introverted Thinking makes utilitarian demands for effectiveness and efficiency that no Feeling nature can.
I think Sherlock Holmes is a universally-known character. I’m 46, and I ravenously read all the SH books at my school library because I was drawn to the problem-solving. I remember wishing there were MORE to read-I think it was one of the few mentally-stimulating things to do in my life in 1985 (and it had to be free for me to have access to it), having come from a family of Sensors who just zoned out everyday on bad TV (and back then, it was a paltry selection of just VHF & UHF channels). At school, I was placed in the lowest track, where my classmates only wanted to socialize w/ one another. It was like being in a room full of headless chickens.
Those books and that character (along w/ Watson) set such a high bar that I was bored by Nancy Drew and The Hardy Boys books, which were supposedly also good.
Thank you for this video! Looking forward to ESTP in 20 words in the future! ★
I am a long served ESTP - with many successes in my portfolio of lifetime achievements.
What I will say that after many years, I still sometimes am unsure what I want to do. Dont get me wrong at this moment in time, I love the work I am in, but it has an expiry date, and I have no idea what I want to do next. For that bit I am sure that Amor Fati will show me the way.
Can I ask your successful achievements?
@@markqq4487 I rose from the shop floor to senior management - and stayed there. I am often deployed, or employed in crisis situations to bring a stable head and hands to problems. I am also able to find unique solutions to things my peers often have yet to have dreamt up - trust me being the only ESTP in my line of business is really fun, or incredibly frustrating.
I'm an ESTP and I don't know what to with my life don't have a job sleep all day but I'm bored af I don't want an 8 hrs job my relationships always end because I can commit and they're not good in bed and that's important for me, I have zero friends by now can't stand people
Ideal candidate for Jordan Peterson YT video binges till something comes to the forefront.
What kind of woman you like as an estp guy? Please share.
Also do you like infp?
1:27 that's me you're talking about, INTP haha and also INFPs are like that, polar Se is a bitch
Yep, INTPs and INFPs are exactly the types I had in mind!
I'm INFP, and think my sister could be ESTP. We always were at each other as kids, always fighting. She was always the popular girl, centre of attention. Till this day we don't have the closest relationship. With age we stopped fighting and disagreeing all the time. Don't get me wrong, I love my sister to the moon and back! I would do anything for her and always defend her! Although she is annoyed by my emotions and dreams, and I can't stand listening to her "debates", we have fun with joking around. I have learned that she wants to talk and be heard, so I just let her talk, and talk, and talk. And I listen, whether I agree with what she's saying or not.
I'm and INFP and my older brother is an ISTP. We have never been close, I can see how intuitives and sensors can repel each other because we filter the world so differently. We didn't hate each other and we did have laughing times as kids. Sounds like your sister wanted to persuade you a lot lol
The test show me that I have a 50% split in S and N. So 50% ESTP OR ENTP. However I think I’m more of a ESTP.
Same
Whichever you are, please try to use your dark magic for good.
How to figure out what you want? Its really a problem. Its one of the weaknesses and i should say it can fkup a life. The big qusstion - How to know? Btw great video and nice charm you have, very eye pleasing voice and mimics.
This resonates with me, good job sir spot on
7:12 "what's meaningful is alien to them" That strikes me as sad.
Very insightful.
Thank you! ~ Nathan
I'm an ENFP and one of my best friends is estp and we have the best spontaneous road trips we just have a time. Hehe. He's the only person that can party as have d as me lol.
Sherlock takes adventures with high Se. Yet his charming part is his speech with marvelous professional and accurate words. Therefore I regard him as a mixture of ENTP and ESTP. After all, he is a dramaitc person.
After reading Quora, I prefer to regard him as TP right now! Which means he is so good at Ti, Se and Ne.
He is likely an ESTP with a hero Ti-Ni sleep animal
I have a crush on an ESTP as an INTP god help me christ.
I absolutely adore him and his way of thinking about things however I know I have no chance.
Not true man, we’re kinda fascinated by people who are fundamentally different than us. Just be confident and communicate directly your interest, he will definitely appreciate your honesty!
I can’t tell if I’m a estp or I just admire them
Estp is definitely one of my favourite personality types next to Entjs. -Istj
Agreed! ~ Nathan
I’m pretty sure Eden Hazard ( a footballer ) is an ESTP even though I’d like him to be an ENTP just like me but apparently he’s ESTP.
sanzema no , hazard is esfp, zlatan is estp.
Hazard is istp 6w7
i am dating an ESTP. Let me tell you.. it is so FRUSTRATING. I am an ENTJ. I love him and i know he loves me A LOT.. but it is FRUSTRATING. He will call 2-3 weeks. but holy heavens.. i thought he was cheating on me. I was about to move on.. and this guy calls me.. I told him bluntly I'm not stupid.. there's probably another woman and i'm not taking any BS from him.. i was leaving. He raised his voice.. i raised my voice.. and then he kept repeating, "SOrry sorry.. i'm not a cheater! i'm working.. blah blah blah. USE YOUR HEAD.. I'm NOT CHEATING.. I TOLD YOU I LOVED YOU.. WHAT THE HELL IS YOUR PROBLEM?! You're CRAZY!" estp's CAN get emotional. they can cry when they realize they are about to lose something. but i didn't really care that he was in his uncomfortable zone.. i was about to gouge his eyes out when he told me to use my head.
yeah our heated argument. So i just shut up out of frustration.. because he was adamant about not cheating. But see I'm a douchebag... i can be a big DOUCHE... I got a friend to spy on him for a month.... you know why? Not because i wanted to know if he was cheating.. but because i wanted to prove that I AM RIGHT.. yes, i'm sorry my ego is far up my butt... but he was right. he wasn't cheating..
He was working with cars. He could make love to cars if he could. He flips cars for a living.. if he goes out with the "boys" it's to drag race. So his nights.. he was spending DRIVING cars and DRAG RACING. He didnt' call.. because he had to take care of his "things" aka amp up cars.
I really hate that he isn't consistent with communication.. doesn't care that people care for him. He has loved ones--- His mother complains about the same thing. I spend more time with his MOTHER than HIM!!!!!! He doesn't understand how DANGEROUS drag racing is. People LOVE him.. he has this presence.. that people really like him.. he's super friendly. but... no way of telling what he is going to do next.
On top of all of this.. he wants children.. WTF.. he's batshit crazy.. he calls me crazy.. but clearly he's the effed up one.. thinking that i would bring HIS kids into this world.. while he's out and about putting his life in danger.
We like adrenaline don't tell him don't do it cuz he'll avoid you instead go with him and tell him be careful or ask him how it went after
Don't use and ultimatum with an estp he will leave you
Give him room to breathe and miss you
Once an estp is in love then is In Love he's not gonna cheat
When they have children they tone down their crazy antics
@@parkkooklietjeonjimeo6214 Yeah he doesn't cheat.. I learned that.. but man.. we can get at each other's throats. He hasn't left me.. and i haven't left him.. so so far it's okay
@chimpanzee eagle true.
"its just occured to me that most of the people watching this are American and will probably have a different person in mind" not me thinking he was going to talk about Donald Trump T_T
Worst interview question for an ESTP.
"Where do you see yourself in 5 years?"
Not here, that's for sure.
But the 'not knowing what you want', often has you over-staying you expiration date.
I’m a quiet kid in class but when talking to friends it just so different
ESTP I think of renaissance man.
I had Holmes (from the stories) down as an ISTP, but I guess I can see ESTP.
I agree that it's between those two types!
Especially the book version.
I sadly have no ESTPs close to me but I feel like I'd feel most comfortable and flourish and get spurred into action... I think we'd make a good team as I'm an INTP with endless ideas but difficulty getting an impulse to put them into action (but when it happens everyone has a great time lol)... Any advice from ESTPs here on how to approach you best? And whether you think I could have something to offer you as an INTP?
ESTP here married to an INTJ. Someone should have warned us....
Why?
I just feel so understood lol
Thank You!!!
ESTP's are the "cool guys" if you're still wondering
We need to see those aviator glasses again in the videos