I appreciate cards for very special occasions (condolences for loss of loved one, wedding...) but otherwise, if it goes straight into the recycling bin, it was a waste of paper and not a good stewardship of Mother Nature. I would much rather get a text with a thank you if the gift was mailed, or a sincere thank you at the moment of receiving an in person gift. Otherwise, it just comes across as checking off savoir vivre rules instead of authentic gratitude. It seems too staged. Though I get this can be a cultural thing. It's not the norm in my culture, so that's my opinion.
As a 19 year old in this generation, I love to stand out by being as elegant as possible. I love watching your videos and checking things off in my mind thinking “Yes, I do this!” Being elegant, kind, and graceful is so much better than anything else now
Kaitlyn, I don't know you, but I admire your attitude. Most young women have no idea how to dress or carry themselves. A tip: a woman who follows Jesus Christ is saved by His grace and confident that He loves her. This Christian woman will dress to please the Lord. Inside and out, she's a head turner. As she walks in His will, everything she needs to glorify Him will be given in abundance. To know Christ and have your sins forgiven, please read John 3:16. From an 63-year-old to an upcoming beautiful woman, may God bless you.
@@rebamoon4965 Amen! Ever since I was a child I’ve walked with Jesus. Thankfully I’ve never been too far from Him to not be able to run back. Now as a young adult I’m trying to be as close to him as I was when I was very young, I used to see him and the angels. How I wish I could go back! May God bless you and keep spreading the word! Sending love!
Fantastic video! Another thing to note in modern times is an elegant woman isn’t always taking selfies! To me, that is extremely tacky. Or looking in a mirror on the wall or her image on her phone and primping. Elegant women do this in private. I’ve seen this recently in the airport more than once. Thank you for your great content Myka!!
@Lisa Mills and use a filter. That always bothers me. I do t have a problem when someone uses it to take an artful or creative photo but when it’s selfies, I don’t like it.
1. Their handbags are always appropriate to the occasion and never overstuffed 2. They don't show too much skin 3. Their manicure is in order 4. Arebl always polite 5. They move gracefully
I think always polite is so outdated and sexist. You should not be unprovoked aggressive but nice girls finish last. This village mentality that ladies should be nice at all time doesn’t work in circles of power. I am proud to be a mean girl to enforce my boundaries but I respect other peoples’ boundaries. In the 21rst century elegant ladies have boundaries and respect others boundaries. I don’t like aggressive ladies who put others down who never said a mean word to them, who never harmed anyone- that is insecure. I find for the 21rst century respecting boundaries and her own mental health and mental health of others comes first, and given that then has manners. There is nothing inelegant in defending yourself but everything inelegant in unprovoked attacks
@@mariaalmasaniroyalhouse9214 Your very response was unprovoked and aggressive, but go on with your mean girl self. I'm sure its gotten you very far in life.
@@LDM805 my response is assertive not aggressive because calling people wearing shoes that don’t destroy their feet or their evening downs and calling Asian ladies inelegant for being short and wanting to wear comfortable shoes is racist and aggressive. And where does being a nice doormat get you? PETA throws nasty shade at ladies who were fur, threw paint, were actually aggressive and got results. Being a nice doormat simply makes you a target for abuse. It’s not the 1950s where because women had no rights and were the property of men, the patriarchy and the church western ladies could afford to be extra polite because they completely outsourced violence and even assertiveness to men. Lady the 1950s are over and you are officially equal to men so you have to learn to be as disagreeable as a man if you want to keep your job and get married. You know what happens to nice girls in the secular feminist 21rst century? Men push them for free sex and they put out. If you are too nice, too polite and too agreeable in the 21rst century men think you are the town bicycle everyone rode on. If you think I am too aggressive so if I were a man and you were on a date with me and went super aggressive with negs, nice nails are they real, nice tatas are they real.. then a real woman would let a man walk her to her home, what’s wrong with you, you never had a man be a gentleman to walk you home? How can you ever get a boyfriend if you are such a prude? Listen my phone died and I am cold and it’s raining can I come upstairs? I am really tired, let’s have that bottle of wine over there & Netflix and Chill, it’s so rude to refuse me that bottle of wine. Yes my hand is in your bra, why are you such a prude, you should dye your hair the opposite colour. You know you have two grey hairs. Have another glass of wine. Stop complaining about my hands and stop being such a prude … Next day have you got bullied into bed he doesn’t call you and blocked his numbers. That is what happens to nice girls. If you think I am aggressive what do you think men think you are… I live in the 21rst century not 1950s though I am a married housewife.
@@LDM805 actually I have gotten very far, to Miss Universe, worked for the Canadian parliament, CNN agent of Change, won a few awards, married, haute couture designer and dating coach and my clients get engaged to multi millionaires. Yes it’s not the 1950s anyone, nice girls finish poor and last. Scientific studies show your standard of living and how much you make in the West is directly correlated to one factor being disagreeable. Being mean takes you places but being assertive and standing up for yourself takes you far. Being nice gets you taken advantage of and is a ticket to poverty. To nice peasant village girls everyone is mean but them & they are holier than thou in their poverty. Calling me a mean girl it’s self is a form of aggression. And I wondered what promoted that? That you are jealous I got to galas and you don’t? Stop being jealous and fake nice holier than thou - we all see through this village cunning - and level up your finances so you can also afford to go to a gala in a nice dress. Then you will be thankful that are one of the few in gala appropriate shoes whose feet are not hurting
This is not going to be a popular opinion but another thing elegant women do is maintain an elegant figure. Stay in shape. Be slender and carry yourself tall.
I am so guilty of the overstuffed purse! And I'm going to say that the man who said that wasn't rude. I mean, it technically WAS rude, lol. But to me it's all about who is saying it and what their intentions are, and how they said it. If he said your stuffed purse isn't elegant in front of people in a very eye rolly way, then that is rude. But if someone who knows fashion took a moment to take me aside, compliment me and tell me that I'm clearly someone who cares about fashion but wants to give me a tip on how to look flawless, and did it discretely, that is an act of kindness. He never would have bothered to tell you if you looked like a hot mess. He could see that you were elegant and classy but just that one thing needed correction. And look how long it stayed with you! And now you are passing this knowledge down to us! In a world full of fake people, I've grown to appreciate wisdom and constructive criticism from someone who just wants to help. Especially an older generation. Just another perspective on that event 😊 Great video!!!
With regards to manicures/pedicures... I always wear a beautiful red on my toes, however will wear a clear on my fingernails because I'm hard on my hands and they chip easily, so it's not so noticeable. And chips are ughhh. So that's my workaround which works for me.
Same for me = red/burgundy on the toes, but clear or the *palest* of pink or neutral tone on the nails due to general wear-n-tear. I buy quality nail lacquer and do all the things to make sure it lasts long. But still, my manicure is a chipped within three days .
I'm 63. I've been in a couple situations where some stranger's given me unasked for advice when I was in my 20s. It never even occurred to me they were being rude. I was just so happy to get great advice from someone I knew was trying to help and certainly knew more than I. I think the gentleman was kind and willing to take the chance that you'd be offended in hopes that you'd take it as the valuable gem it was. I guess it all depends on attitude and how to take constructive criticism, stranger or not.
Excellent as always. Re bags, I have always carried a small handbag which carries my purse, these days a phone, my keys, tissues and a pen. I then may carry a shopping bag, or my swims bag. When I was working a bag with my lunch etc. But if I am going out for a day, I change my handbag to a larger one to accommodate what I am likely to need during the day.
Great video Myka! An old toothbrush makes a great nail brush, finger nails and toe nails; just thought I add that tidbit in case anyone has a problem finding a ¨nail brush.¨ LOVE seeing a young person, such as yourself, drawing attention to elegance and etiquette. Many of the younger generation act as though they were raised by wolves which is sad to me. I am a southern woman, we take etiquette and appearance seriously, especially those of my generation and older. Younger woman need to pay attention. They need to ¨level up¨ themselves and RAISE their children rather than letting TV do it for them. Blessings!!
I am a mature woman who is just starting back to school to be a massage therapist. They told us no polish (not even clear) for the health of the potential client. However, I love your manicure advice. I can do that! And, it will look elegant and that I take care of myself, so I can take care of them with confidence!
I'm a massage therapist and I couldn't wear polish either and I loved my nails but it wasn't bad . I used this as my me time to trim file and use cuticle oil . I wish you much success and happiness in your new journey.
I love the look of bare healthy nails and rarely wear polish. My holy grail product is Burt’s Bees cuticle butter. Every night in the shower I push my cuticles back and then use the cuticle cream and hand lotion right at bedtime . It really helps to restore the moisture after washing hands a million times per day! I swear by it!
I bought a shellac manicure kit and the light machine for ~$45 on Amazon. While I still love going for professional manicures/pedicures, I've been doing my own for about 6 months. I absolutely love it!
These were five tips that are BRILLIANT! Not cookie-cutter “tips” - like “smile” or “stand up straight”. So thoughtful and USEFUL! The bag and manicure tips - wow!!
Great tips! I go to the local beauty school/ college for a $5.00 haircut and $ 5 manicure. I bring my own nail laquer. I use Essie's Allure. I heard Kate Middleton wore that color for her wedding.
These tips are fabulous especially the slowing down of your speech/gestures. Myka has such poise and elegance without compromising her liveliness. She’s so cute! I love her!
Thank you for this video! I agree on everything. As a busy woman living in Paris I often carry more than one bag, especially with my laptop etc. They are not overpacked but it’s never one bag during the day. I wonder how could I improve this thing…Thanks again for your pieces of advice, it’s always important to work on oneself ☺️🙏
A bag inside a bag, or multiple bags inside other bags. I laugh at my mom because she has an iPad bag, medicine bag, snack bag, wallet bag, hygiene bag, but they are all in one large bag. I'm trying to get her to understand that because she already has all those bags in her one big bag, she can leave the large one in the car and just bring her wallet into the store....
I carry a large tote bag for work, inside I have a leather wristlet, large leather wallet, or clutch with my phone, small card wallet, and a lipstick which I can place my car keys if needed. If you are running out for lunch or dinner all you need is the smaller handbag. For other essentials, you can use several zip cases to hold makeup, toiletries, or small office supplies to keep your larger tote bag organized. Though I have found small kits in my desk alleviates the need to carry everything. And make sure you clean out your tote bag and clutch weekly to rid yourself of receipts, trash, dirt, extra pens, lipsticks, etc.
I would be happy if someone - who is polished and classy - sincerely yet discreetly gave me that tip about my handbag! Otherwise, how many more months/years would I have kept walking around like that? And he started with an honest compliment - love it.
Elegance includes good grooming from head to toe, front and back. It’s as important to check your front view and back view. As my father taught me when I was a teen, use a mirror to check what you will look like as you approach and move past someone with a consistent image. A dishevelled rear view can leave a bad impression. Thank you @Myka Meier
Please keep the videos coming more regularly! You are my favorite classy girl teacher, and I learned so much from your modern etiquette book and videos.
Love these. Sooooo true. A stuffed bags buggy etc is a great sign of a disorganised mind :p I think he was right to HELP you by pointing it out. Up to you what you do with such a observation
I stumbled on your channel by accident and so glad I did. I am a new subscriber and I have already passed these 5 suggestions. I was raised by a very elegant mother and one of the kindest women you would ever want to meet! I can't wait to see what else you have for us! Thank you so much for sharing!
Dear Myka, i so much appreciate your generosity with sharing all those wonderful teachings!! I find that elegance has nothing to do with how much spendable finances someone has, and you and the Daily Connoisseur are the greatest cheerleaders of this concept. I love that!! I would also like to give you a compliment on your gorgeous silver hair, that is coming in a most striking shade and pattern! you look so royal and nobel ... like a Duchess! You just glow!!!
Hi Myka! I’ve always appreciated your tips immensely and am so happy to see your videos. ❤Thank you for your kindness and for sharing your tips and expertise with the world. Hugs from Georgia! 🤗❤️
I always learn so many things from your videos that I just sit with my back straight before I even begin to listen to what you have to say. You are amazing.🌹
I get a bit nervous when I speak sometimes, and have a habit of speaking fast and using a lot of large hand and arm movements. So, to help, if I'm standing if I can consciously keep my hands more together in front of me between chest and belly button, so I'm not flailing around, it helps me. Or, if I'm sitting, I try to keep my hands mostly together in my lap with just a little bit of hand/arm movement.
Love this Myka! When you talk style I’d love for you to touch on looking elegant in very cold weather - I find summer so much easier than winter! Also coats in particular and if you’re attending an event where you’re wearing long dresses, what outerwear do you pair with such things to maintain elegance?
I love your videos. My Producer noticed my calligraphy in a handwritten thank you note and now depends on me to do the same for her guests. I've met many wonderful people and have an extensive digital Rolodex because of it. Thank you.
Thank you for the video! I would love to see ideas for remaining elegant (as much as one can be) when you have younger kids and are out of the house. Sometimes it feels like it is impossible to pair the two.
Excellent. Good information to be comfortable among others. For manicures, Olive&June gives free online tutorials and have wonderful kits. Dior Nail Glow is the perfect clear "french manicure."
I agree with all this except for one thing-the matching mani/pedi. I think it also looks great to have hands or feet neutral and the opposite a pop of colors. I always have a white pedicure. What do you think?
Adore your tips especially the last one it’s life changing tip
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I find what you are saying about bags (that an elegant woman should carry only one bag at the time) very interesting! Could you, one day, go further on that subject please? How do you manage to carry only one bag when you go to work? For my part, I always carry a small handbag + a briefcase + a lunchbag. 😅
As a petite woman, I usually carry a small handbag. But I need just as much gear as a tall woman. So I put a sm. handbag in a larger tote bag. When going out for lunch, I can stow the large tote under my desk, and just take the small bag. If you need a lunch bag, and it doesn't fit into your tote (or whatever you choose -- backpack, tote, whatever?) just add it to what you carry, and choose a color that matches your tote. You have to do what you have to do. Just make the best of it by coordinating so it looks cohesive. The point is not to be weighed down with so many things to carry. Keep it simple and thought out.
Wonderful video. Posture, elegance is perhaps best practiced at home, even if you are alone, at least from time to time to automate it, right? Love and all the best!
Great tips! I need to practice #5. One of my pet peeves: Overly stuffed handbags, especially high-end designer bags. I cringe whenever I see a bottle of water sitting in an already-full bag that cost thousands of dollars 😩
Excellent points! One caution re matching your finger and toenails...men overwhelmingly say they detest red toenails because "your toes just look bloody.". Instead, men loooove bubblegum pink on toenails. So maybe red fingernails only in winter when you aren't showing off your tootsies!
Hello Myka, It's been a while since I've seen one of your videos. Thank you for posting and refreshing my attitude. I don't prefer the current trend of sweat shirts and appreciate affirmation to continue to look my best. Bless you! Denise
Question on the first tip - what is your suggestion when going to work? I have to carry a lot of work related items due to my profession (laptop, portable monitor, charger, extension cord, etc.) and I end up with a backpack, purse, and lunchbox. My work bag would look more stuffed if I tried to only use that 1 bag. Any thoughts?
Is it possible to keep your laptop, monitor, charger, cord , notebook etc locked in your workplace? That way you don't have to carry it everyday. You can just come with your handbag and lunchbox extra, if it looks overstffed.
I think you can look elegant if at least these items all coordinate and looks professional. Don’t use a lululemon bag for lunch, very Bradley backpack and then a manly looking black briefcase. I think a neutral color to match potential outfits is appropriate.
I have seen rolling cases in office supply stores. I think they could contain everything you need to bring with you while still looking polished and professional.
I don't think it was poor etiquette on the elegant gentleman's part. I feel it was a generous gesture on his part to help you AND he did ask for your permission first before he said it. He didn't just come up to you and give you his opinion without your consent.
Wonderful tips🙏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 btw I am talking very quickly because when I talk the other person see somewhere else so I thing that I have to finish quickly When I speak I also move my hands very quickly so sometimes me boyfriend say to me : why you are like this? But when his daughter do the same he just laugh with her jokes and he didn’t seems to be bothered by that 🤷🏼♀️
I think it's nice of the gentleman to point it out. He's that kind of friend that tells you that you have something on your teeth, rather than let you walk around all day like that. It was mortifying, he would rather you experience short term discomfort for long term benefits
Myka, you mention teaching people of various backgrounds. For those of us who dress modestly do you have any tips on how to look polished and put together please ❤️ Thanks! x
So glad I found you. I’ve been binging your videos, keeping tabs on the things that I need to work on the most. Love the information you share and just your amazing energy in general! Also, your blouse is just absolutely gorgeous too. Definitely going to continue to learn with you, and start your online courses soon. Thank you for being you! 💗
I'm always working with my hands at home. So I like to make my own press on nails where I pay a little extra to get GOOD quality blank nails that fit right and then design them in simple styles where I can wear them when I'm out doing regular things.
When it comes to grace and elegance, Jackie Kennedy Onassis always comes to mind. I think of an interview with her. I recall she kept her hands in her lap the entire time. Not like she was uncomfortable, but just at complete ease. And, of course, she had that trademark soft feminine voice.
Great video! You have a new subscriber. A lady from the Bronx can always benefit from these tips . I really need to pause when speaking. You have great content
thank you so much for this video. it's so useful and I love it, it remember me, that I'm quite elegant even sometimes I don't feel like that because I'm not so confident, but all you hve say it's what I do, so I think I'm not so bad ....thanks again for your lessons. are always so special and makes my life much more better.
To avoid travelling to and from work with packed bags or multiple bags (such as diaper, work, or gym bags, etc) requires planning and relatively close proximity to your destinations. This is something that is not always feasible without the assistance of others. Speaking of others, it seemed quite gentlemanly for the well-dressed man in your story to kindly request your permission before he offered advice that you didn't know you needed. Yes, in the moment, it was probably uncomfortable, but it saved you from immeasurable embarrassment later when it probably would have counted more. It seems to me that he did you a favour. Unfortunately, I think we sometimes can put protocol, political correctness, or social etiquette above the well-being of others, and in so doing, find ourselves unkind.
I agree. The whole point of a good neighbour is to assist those in help. You do not need to be drowning to be helped; sometimes just pointed. The great intention was there... #HeWasKind
We were raised writing thank you notes. Had to be sent within 24 hours of the event or receiving a gift. I still do it.
I appreciate cards for very special occasions (condolences for loss of loved one, wedding...) but otherwise, if it goes straight into the recycling bin, it was a waste of paper and not a good stewardship of Mother Nature. I would much rather get a text with a thank you if the gift was mailed, or a sincere thank you at the moment of receiving an in person gift. Otherwise, it just comes across as checking off savoir vivre rules instead of authentic gratitude. It seems too staged. Though I get this can be a cultural thing. It's not the norm in my culture, so that's my opinion.
As a 19 year old in this generation, I love to stand out by being as elegant as possible. I love watching your videos and checking things off in my mind thinking “Yes, I do this!” Being elegant, kind, and graceful is so much better than anything else now
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Kaitlyn, I don't know you, but I admire your attitude. Most young women have no idea how to dress or carry themselves. A tip: a woman who follows Jesus Christ is saved by His grace and confident that He loves her. This Christian woman will dress to please the Lord. Inside and out, she's a head turner. As she walks in His will, everything she needs to glorify Him will be given in abundance. To know Christ and have your sins forgiven, please read John 3:16. From an 63-year-old to an upcoming beautiful woman, may God bless you.
@@rebamoon4965 Amen! Ever since I was a child I’ve walked with Jesus. Thankfully I’ve never been too far from Him to not be able to run back. Now as a young adult I’m trying to be as close to him as I was when I was very young, I used to see him and the angels. How I wish I could go back! May God bless you and keep spreading the word! Sending love!
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Well done young lady. Keep it up. You will get far in life. Do not allow nay sayers to discourage you.
Fantastic video! Another thing to note in modern times is an elegant woman isn’t always taking selfies! To me, that is extremely tacky. Or looking in a mirror on the wall or her image on her phone and primping. Elegant women do this in private. I’ve seen this recently in the airport more than once. Thank you for your great content Myka!!
And to also be respectful of others privacy in the background and surrounding areas. Not everyone wants to be in your photo. 🌸
Thank you DM!
I also find it really distasteful when multiple pictures are taken at mealtime.
Can you make me understand abt mirror thing please, whenever I see a mirror I look at my face, is that tacky?
@Lisa Mills and use a filter. That always bothers me. I do t have a problem when someone uses it to take an artful or creative photo but when it’s selfies, I don’t like it.
1. Their handbags are always appropriate to the occasion and never overstuffed
2. They don't show too much skin
3. Their manicure is in order
4. Arebl always polite
5. They move gracefully
Overstuffed?
I think always polite is so outdated and sexist. You should not be unprovoked aggressive but nice girls finish last. This village mentality that ladies should be nice at all time doesn’t work in circles of power. I am proud to be a mean girl to enforce my boundaries but I respect other peoples’ boundaries. In the 21rst century elegant ladies have boundaries and respect others boundaries. I don’t like aggressive ladies who put others down who never said a mean word to them, who never harmed anyone- that is insecure. I find for the 21rst century respecting boundaries and her own mental health and mental health of others comes first, and given that then has manners. There is nothing inelegant in defending yourself but everything inelegant in unprovoked attacks
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Your very response was unprovoked and aggressive, but go on with your mean girl self. I'm sure its gotten you very far in life.
@@LDM805 my response is assertive not aggressive because calling people wearing shoes that don’t destroy their feet or their evening downs and calling Asian ladies inelegant for being short and wanting to wear comfortable shoes is racist and aggressive. And where does being a nice doormat get you? PETA throws nasty shade at ladies who were fur, threw paint, were actually aggressive and got results. Being a nice doormat simply makes you a target for abuse. It’s not the 1950s where because women had no rights and were the property of men, the patriarchy and the church western ladies could afford to be extra polite because they completely outsourced violence and even assertiveness to men.
Lady the 1950s are over and you are officially equal to men so you have to learn to be as disagreeable as a man if you want to keep your job and get married. You know what happens to nice girls in the secular feminist 21rst century? Men push them for free sex and they put out. If you are too nice, too polite and too agreeable in the 21rst century men think you are the town bicycle everyone rode on.
If you think I am too aggressive so if I were a man and you were on a date with me and went super aggressive with negs, nice nails are they real, nice tatas are they real.. then a real woman would let a man walk her to her home, what’s wrong with you, you never had a man be a gentleman to walk you home? How can you ever get a boyfriend if you are such a prude? Listen my phone died and I am cold and it’s raining can I come upstairs? I am really tired, let’s have that bottle of wine over there & Netflix and Chill, it’s so rude to refuse me that bottle of wine. Yes my hand is in your bra, why are you such a prude, you should dye your hair the opposite colour. You know you have two grey hairs. Have another glass of wine. Stop complaining about my hands and stop being such a prude …
Next day have you got bullied into bed he doesn’t call you and blocked his numbers. That is what happens to nice girls. If you think I am aggressive what do you think men think you are…
I live in the 21rst century not 1950s though I am a married housewife.
@@LDM805 actually I have gotten very far, to Miss Universe, worked for the Canadian parliament, CNN agent of Change, won a few awards, married, haute couture designer and dating coach and my clients get engaged to multi millionaires. Yes it’s not the 1950s anyone, nice girls finish poor and last. Scientific studies show your standard of living and how much you make in the West is directly correlated to one factor being disagreeable. Being mean takes you places but being assertive and standing up for yourself takes you far. Being nice gets you taken advantage of and is a ticket to poverty. To nice peasant village girls everyone is mean but them & they are holier than thou in their poverty. Calling me a mean girl it’s self is a form of aggression. And I wondered what promoted that? That you are jealous I got to galas and you don’t? Stop being jealous and fake nice holier than thou - we all see through this village cunning - and level up your finances so you can also afford to go to a gala in a nice dress.
Then you will be thankful that are one of the few in gala appropriate shoes whose feet are not hurting
This is not going to be a popular opinion but another thing elegant women do is maintain an elegant figure. Stay in shape. Be slender and carry yourself tall.
I am so guilty of the overstuffed purse! And I'm going to say that the man who said that wasn't rude. I mean, it technically WAS rude, lol. But to me it's all about who is saying it and what their intentions are, and how they said it. If he said your stuffed purse isn't elegant in front of people in a very eye rolly way, then that is rude. But if someone who knows fashion took a moment to take me aside, compliment me and tell me that I'm clearly someone who cares about fashion but wants to give me a tip on how to look flawless, and did it discretely, that is an act of kindness. He never would have bothered to tell you if you looked like a hot mess. He could see that you were elegant and classy but just that one thing needed correction.
And look how long it stayed with you! And now you are passing this knowledge down to us!
In a world full of fake people, I've grown to appreciate wisdom and constructive criticism from someone who just wants to help. Especially an older generation. Just another perspective on that event 😊
Great video!!!
I’m 61 and love this! Seems like our young ladies have lost or never learned elegance. 🙋🏻♀️
With regards to manicures/pedicures... I always wear a beautiful red on my toes, however will wear a clear on my fingernails because I'm hard on my hands and they chip easily, so it's not so noticeable. And chips are ughhh. So that's my workaround which works for me.
Same for me = red/burgundy on the toes, but clear or the *palest* of pink or neutral tone on the nails due to general wear-n-tear. I buy quality nail lacquer and do all the things to make sure it lasts long. But still, my manicure is a chipped within three days .
I do the same thing😀 I always wear clear on my hands and a color on my toes during sandal weather🤍
I'm 63. I've been in a couple situations where some stranger's given me unasked for advice when I was in my 20s. It never even occurred to me they were being rude. I was just so happy to get great advice from someone I knew was trying to help and certainly knew more than I. I think the gentleman was kind and willing to take the chance that you'd be offended in hopes that you'd take it as the valuable gem it was. I guess it all depends on attitude and how to take constructive criticism, stranger or not.
Excellent as always. Re bags, I have always carried a small handbag which carries my purse, these days a phone, my keys, tissues and a pen. I then may carry a shopping bag, or my swims bag. When I was working a bag with my lunch etc. But if I am going out for a day, I change my handbag to a larger one to accommodate what I am likely to need during the day.
Great video Myka! An old toothbrush makes a great nail brush, finger nails and toe nails; just thought I add that tidbit in case anyone has a problem finding a ¨nail brush.¨ LOVE seeing a young person, such as yourself, drawing attention to elegance and etiquette. Many of the younger generation act as though they were raised by wolves which is sad to me. I am a southern woman, we take etiquette and appearance seriously, especially those of my generation and older. Younger woman need to pay attention. They need to ¨level up¨ themselves and RAISE their children rather than letting TV do it for them. Blessings!!
That is such a lovely tip, thank you
I am a mature woman who is just starting back to school to be a massage therapist. They told us no polish (not even clear) for the health of the potential client. However, I love your manicure advice. I can do that! And, it will look elegant and that I take care of myself, so I can take care of them with confidence!
I'm a massage therapist and I couldn't wear polish either and I loved my nails but it wasn't bad . I used this as my me time to trim file and use cuticle oil . I wish you much success and happiness in your new journey.
I love the look of bare healthy nails and rarely wear polish. My holy grail product is Burt’s Bees cuticle butter. Every night in the shower I push my cuticles back and then use the cuticle cream and hand lotion right at bedtime . It really helps to restore the moisture after washing hands a million times per day! I swear by it!
i am massage therapist too. i wear transparent color. i love to see when my nail look shiney
One advantage is that the oil you use, will treat your hands too x
I bought a shellac manicure kit and the light machine for ~$45 on Amazon. While I still love going for professional manicures/pedicures, I've been doing my own for about 6 months. I absolutely love it!
Thank you for this recommendation! Smart investment.
So much good common sense. Thanks! Love the blouse!
These were five tips that are BRILLIANT! Not cookie-cutter “tips” - like “smile” or “stand up straight”. So thoughtful and USEFUL! The bag and manicure tips - wow!!
Finally someone who matches mani/pedi colors.
The rest is perfect. ❤
Great tips! I go to the local beauty school/ college for a $5.00 haircut and $ 5 manicure. I bring my own nail laquer. I use Essie's Allure. I heard Kate Middleton wore that color for her wedding.
Well said. I love a handwritten thank you note.
These tips are fabulous especially the slowing down of your speech/gestures. Myka has such poise and elegance without compromising her liveliness. She’s so cute! I love her!
Moderated facial expressions and tone of voice is important as well.
Thank you for this video! I agree on everything. As a busy woman living in Paris I often carry more than one bag, especially with my laptop etc. They are not overpacked but it’s never one bag during the day. I wonder how could I improve this thing…Thanks again for your pieces of advice, it’s always important to work on oneself ☺️🙏
One large bag/tote with a small purse in it? What do you think?
@@reneecailloux2573 Thank you! I have to find one now 😉☺️
A bag inside a bag, or multiple bags inside other bags. I laugh at my mom because she has an iPad bag, medicine bag, snack bag, wallet bag, hygiene bag, but they are all in one large bag. I'm trying to get her to understand that because she already has all those bags in her one big bag, she can leave the large one in the car and just bring her wallet into the store....
I carry a large tote bag for work, inside I have a leather wristlet, large leather wallet, or clutch with my phone, small card wallet, and a lipstick which I can place my car keys if needed. If you are running out for lunch or dinner all you need is the smaller handbag.
For other essentials, you can use several zip cases to hold makeup, toiletries, or small office supplies to keep your larger tote bag organized. Though I have found small kits in my desk alleviates the need to carry everything.
And make sure you clean out your tote bag and clutch weekly to rid yourself of receipts, trash, dirt, extra pens, lipsticks, etc.
@@angelapellino885 Oh zut ! More shopping to do 😏
I would be happy if someone - who is polished and classy - sincerely yet discreetly gave me that tip about my handbag! Otherwise, how many more months/years would I have kept walking around like that? And he started with an honest compliment - love it.
Elegance includes good grooming from head to toe, front and back. It’s as important to check your front view and back view. As my father taught me when I was a teen, use a mirror to check what you will look like as you approach and move past someone with a consistent image. A dishevelled rear view can leave a bad impression. Thank you @Myka Meier
Our dads were raised the same 🥰 I certainly do miss him.
Please keep the videos coming more regularly! You are my favorite classy girl teacher, and I learned so much from your modern etiquette book and videos.
I just love you and all your videos. So much grace, so much wisdom. What a a woman
So sweet - wishing you a lovely day!
I think good eye contact is important, it makes people know they have your full attention. Thank you for your fab informative videos.
Love these. Sooooo true. A stuffed bags buggy etc is a great sign of a disorganised mind :p
I think he was right to HELP you by pointing it out. Up to you what you do with such a observation
I absolutely love this video! Please create more of these videos. Thank you Myka! ❤
You got it! ❤️
I really love these tips! The bag and the slower gestures and speaking are newer to me and I will implement them immediately! Thank you! ♥️
I stumbled on your channel by accident and so glad I did. I am a new subscriber and I have already passed these 5 suggestions. I was raised by a very elegant mother and one of the kindest women you would ever want to meet! I can't wait to see what else you have for us! Thank you so much for sharing!
Dear Myka, i so much appreciate your generosity with sharing all those wonderful teachings!! I find that elegance has nothing to do with how much spendable finances someone has, and you and the Daily Connoisseur are the greatest cheerleaders of this concept. I love that!! I would also like to give you a compliment on your gorgeous silver hair, that is coming in a most striking shade and pattern! you look so royal and nobel ... like a Duchess! You just glow!!!
Very informative, I don't polish my nails but people always compliments my hands are so beautiful 😍 💕
Hi Myka!
I’ve always appreciated your tips immensely and am so happy to see your videos. ❤Thank you for your kindness and for sharing your tips and expertise with the world.
Hugs from Georgia! 🤗❤️
Just found your channel and have subscribed. As an older lady I love to be seen as elegant and confident. I will be binge watching you back videos.
This was such a lovely and insightful video. Thank you ❤
I always learn so many things from your videos that I just sit with my back straight before I even begin to listen to what you have to say. You are amazing.🌹
I get a bit nervous when I speak sometimes, and have a habit of speaking fast and using a lot of large hand and arm movements. So, to help, if I'm standing if I can consciously keep my hands more together in front of me between chest and belly button, so I'm not flailing around, it helps me. Or, if I'm sitting, I try to keep my hands mostly together in my lap with just a little bit of hand/arm movement.
Love this Myka! When you talk style I’d love for you to touch on looking elegant in very cold weather - I find summer so much easier than winter! Also coats in particular and if you’re attending an event where you’re wearing long dresses, what outerwear do you pair with such things to maintain elegance?
Good question x
With this I also ask for tips on extreme hot humid weather. Trying to stay elegant in humid weather is tough too!
I can't believe that I missed your chanel, I am a new follower and I am so happy to join your beautiful community 🎊
Great doable tips to start implementing! Thank you! ❤🙏🏼
Yesterday I had lunch with a dear friend, I am sending a thank you note and am sure she will love the detail. Thank you for the reminder Myka ❤
Love your video and your advice thank you🥰
This shade of red lipstick looks FANTASTIC with your skin tone ❤
I love your videos. My Producer noticed my calligraphy in a handwritten thank you note and now depends on me to do the same for her guests. I've met many wonderful people and have an extensive digital Rolodex because of it. Thank you.
I found you today and subscribe. I love having personal stationary because it’s definitely my special touch. I enjoyed your video. Thanks.
Thank you for the video! I would love to see ideas for remaining elegant (as much as one can be) when you have younger kids and are out of the house. Sometimes it feels like it is impossible to pair the two.
Manicure and pedicure is a must have for me 😊.
Please make more frequent videos! Love your energy and chatting while I'm doing chores :)
Adding to list: Elegant, well-mannered people do not cuss! Not ever!
Thank you Myka! :-) Tweezerman has a very precise, absolutely brilliant travel nail kit. :-)
Excellent. Good information to be comfortable among others.
For manicures, Olive&June gives free online tutorials and have wonderful kits. Dior Nail Glow is the perfect clear "french manicure."
Love your videos and advice...you speak to us as if talking to a friend 💖
I agree with all this except for one thing-the matching mani/pedi. I think it also looks great to have hands or feet neutral and the opposite a pop of colors. I always have a white pedicure. What do you think?
Adore your tips especially the last one it’s life changing tip
I find what you are saying about bags (that an elegant woman should carry only one bag at the time) very interesting! Could you, one day, go further on that subject please? How do you manage to carry only one bag when you go to work? For my part, I always carry a small handbag + a briefcase + a lunchbag. 😅
As a petite woman, I usually carry a small handbag. But I need just as much gear as a tall woman. So I put a sm. handbag in a larger tote bag. When going out for lunch, I can stow the large tote under my desk, and just take the small bag. If you need a lunch bag, and it doesn't fit into your tote (or whatever you choose -- backpack, tote, whatever?) just add it to what you carry, and choose a color that matches your tote. You have to do what you have to do. Just make the best of it by coordinating so it looks cohesive. The point is not to be weighed down with so many things to carry. Keep it simple and thought out.
Wonderful video. Posture, elegance is perhaps best practiced at home, even if you are alone, at least from time to time to automate it, right? Love and all the best!
Absolutely! Home is the best place to practice elegant habits. That’s how it becomes “real” and not an affectation
No mean girls. Love that!
I love buffed nails! Buffing is so healthy for nails, and never chips.
Great tips! I need to practice #5. One of my pet peeves: Overly stuffed handbags, especially high-end designer bags. I cringe whenever I see a bottle of water sitting in an already-full bag that cost thousands of dollars 😩
Excellent points! One caution re matching your finger and toenails...men overwhelmingly say they detest red toenails because "your toes just look bloody.". Instead, men loooove bubblegum pink on toenails. So maybe red fingernails only in winter when you aren't showing off your tootsies!
Hello Myka,
It's been a while since I've seen one of your videos. Thank you for posting and refreshing my attitude. I don't prefer the current trend of sweat shirts and appreciate affirmation to continue to look my best. Bless you!
Denise
I loved the manners part. parents used to teach those.
Question on the first tip - what is your suggestion when going to work? I have to carry a lot of work related items due to my profession (laptop, portable monitor, charger, extension cord, etc.) and I end up with a backpack, purse, and lunchbox. My work bag would look more stuffed if I tried to only use that 1 bag. Any thoughts?
Is it possible to keep your laptop, monitor, charger, cord , notebook etc locked in your workplace?
That way you don't have to carry it everyday. You can just come with your handbag and lunchbox extra, if it looks overstffed.
I think you can look elegant if at least these items all coordinate and looks professional. Don’t use a lululemon bag for lunch, very Bradley backpack and then a manly looking black briefcase. I think a neutral color to match potential outfits is appropriate.
I have seen rolling cases in office supply stores. I think they could contain everything you need to bring with you while still looking polished and professional.
I don't think it was poor etiquette on the elegant gentleman's part. I feel it was a generous gesture on his part to help you AND he did ask for your permission first before he said it. He didn't just come up to you and give you his opinion without your consent.
I agree. I think the fact that he was a stranger made it ok.
Wish I had this type of information 50 years ago, but will use it now.
Thank you so much for the video. I’m so glad you are doing more videos. I love your books!!
We are never loud. We remain contained. We wear very clean shoes. We smile and are polite.
Wonderful tips🙏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 btw I am talking very quickly because when I talk the other person see somewhere else so I thing that I have to finish quickly
When I speak I also move my hands very quickly so sometimes me boyfriend say to me : why you are like this? But when his daughter do the same he just laugh with her jokes and he didn’t seems to be bothered by that 🤷🏼♀️
I think French pedicures can go with a manicure in red also but I love it matching also both look clean and classy
Where have you been my whole life? These are wonderful tips. Thank you!
Thank you!! 💕
I think it's nice of the gentleman to point it out. He's that kind of friend that tells you that you have something on your teeth, rather than let you walk around all day like that. It was mortifying, he would rather you experience short term discomfort for long term benefits
Myka, you mention teaching people of various backgrounds. For those of us who dress modestly do you have any tips on how to look polished and put together please ❤️ Thanks! x
New subscriber, you are so elegant, you are an inspiration, we need such in Schools, thank you.
Thank you for the reminder and teaching me good maners
Love your comments, I’am New but Love good taste and Elegance , always Learning 😊
So glad I found you. I’ve been binging your videos, keeping tabs on the things that I need to work on the most. Love the information you share and just your amazing energy in general! Also, your blouse is just absolutely gorgeous too. Definitely going to continue to learn with you, and start your online courses soon. Thank you for being you! 💗
Wow, so helpful! Thank you 🌸
I'm always working with my hands at home. So I like to make my own press on nails where I pay a little extra to get GOOD quality blank nails that fit right and then design them in simple styles where I can wear them when I'm out doing regular things.
And I love the matching nail and lip!
When it comes to grace and elegance, Jackie Kennedy Onassis always comes to mind. I think of an interview with her. I recall she kept her hands in her lap the entire time. Not like she was uncomfortable, but just at complete ease. And, of course, she had that trademark soft feminine voice.
Great video, if you must carry a lunch tote, purse, and laptop- how can you carry it all?
Great video! You have a new subscriber. A lady from the Bronx can always benefit from these tips . I really need to pause when speaking. You have great content
I love your videos. I want to ask you where the earrings are from. I love them, they are so classy
Love it! Thank you for sharing ❤
Just found you. So glad I did. You also got me into a positive attitude
Great lesson, looking forward to many more.
#5 is huge. I completely agree.
thank you so much for this video. it's so useful and I love it, it remember me, that I'm quite elegant even sometimes I don't feel like that because I'm not so confident, but all you hve say it's what I do, so I think I'm not so bad ....thanks again for your lessons. are always so special and makes my life much more better.
I just love your work. I hope you know how fantastic your coaching is. Thank you.
Loved this Myka.
Love your red nails ❤
My grandmother behaves typically this way 🌷
Good tip with this overstuffed handbag thing. Which can easily happen in busy life but nobody's mention.
Thank you so much❤
It made me laugh your examples using the hands. Thanks for illustrating 😊💙
Good to know.
You have an influence and most times you are your brand. These days selfies are common and that's how you attract people
Great content. May I ask what lipstick are you wearing? I love classic reds
Obrigada 😊
I can't wait to say how lovely it is to see you.😚
To avoid travelling to and from work with packed bags or multiple bags (such as diaper, work, or gym bags, etc) requires planning and relatively close proximity to your destinations. This is something that is not always feasible without the assistance of others. Speaking of others, it seemed quite gentlemanly for the well-dressed man in your story to kindly request your permission before he offered advice that you didn't know you needed. Yes, in the moment, it was probably uncomfortable, but it saved you from immeasurable embarrassment later when it probably would have counted more. It seems to me that he did you a favour. Unfortunately, I think we sometimes can put protocol, political correctness, or social etiquette above the well-being of others, and in so doing, find ourselves unkind.
I agree. The whole point of a good neighbour is to assist those in help. You do not need to be drowning to be helped; sometimes just pointed. The great intention was there...
#HeWasKind
Very much agree!
The thing with sign though is you need a lot of gestures and expression to talk because theirs no quote on quote voice