I was married for 22 years to an abusive man. We raised 5 kids. I finally divorced him 20 years ago. Although I am SO glad I left that marriage, I can't deny there's a part of me that would love to have a loving relationship with a good man in my "golden years." When I talk to people that are still married after decades and are happy, I admit I get a little envious when I see their togetherness. Living alone isn't all that fun for me. Outside of the bad times in that marriage, we also had some great times, and I guess that's what I miss, good times with a man. Frankly, I'm sick of living alone, I don't find it enjoyable at all. I know there are women who love it, I'm not one of them. I like the companionship of a man. I stopped dating YEARS ago because I just couldn't find, "the one" and I got tired of the games. But, life goes on.
I was married for 26 years to my ex. I worked 65 hours a week. When I took naps, he would give me trouble. When I started dating my 2nd husband,I let him know, I was going to sleep whenever I felt like it. We’re going on 11 years and he has never said a word!
Stop kicking yourself because you didn’t realize/know things. All of us watching your videos consider you our friend. As friends we learn from each other. And yes, that’s where your channel is a blessing for for you, and us. I want to encourage you NOT to think of your ex’s mental abuse. My mother always told me to keep moving. Be active. Find things to do. Once you stop moving you “lose it” ( mobility) You’re not being “lazy”. We all need to rest. Just don’t stay there. Aldi is less expensive; however, they sell “off brands”. If you don’t care, it’ll be great. You’ll love it. To sum up your marriage advice, I would say to be together long enough for the rose colored glasses become clear. Take the time before marriage to have a lasting marriage. And yes, communication is EVERYTHING! I’m glad that you’re feeling better. 💕
Listening to you talk about your marriage and divorce is like talking about my experience...I turn 69 end of this month so we are the same age...I was married for 30 years before I divorced my ex-husband, we worked together in our own business for 20years, I love being creative but he made me feel guilty for doing what I love in my spare time...he tried to control me and I needed to end our marriage as it was affecting my health...the best thing I ever did...it has been a long journey, at first I couldn't be creative, I had this block, it took me 7 years to get my creativity back...from the day I left him my life became this magical journey, I met so many spiritual people that helped me heal myself and guide me to the magic life I live today...thank you for sharing your life with us ❤
Margaret listening to you makes me feel like you and I were married to the same man but I could only take it for 13 years. I’ll be 70 next month and have been single for 40 years and been happy not being married ( scared it would happen again)!! Dating a man is fine but never would want to live with one ever again!! So glad I found you it’s comforting listening to you. Sandy
I put up with mental abuse and constant belittling for thirteen years. I had to take a good, hard look at myself and ask why I allowed myself to be treated in such a hateful, demeaning way for so many years. I would never allow myself to be verbally attacked like that now. Thank goodness I finally woke up.
I completely understand how you feel about your marriage because of my brother. My husband and I married at 22 and 23. We have always felt the same way about things and we’ve had a wonderful marriage for the last 53 1/2 years. We really love each other and both our parents were similar in age and beliefs and had lifelong marriages. Both our sons are still married to their wives. Marriage takes working together. I’ve never had to endure verbal or physical abuse in my marriage. As verbally abusive as your husband was, I can’t believe you stayed with him for 33 years. One of my brothers is verbally abusive to almost everyone and he has no friends, his siblings tolerate him because we love him but don’t like him and his wife left after being married 20 years. I don’t know how she put up with him that long. Life is too short to live with someone belittling you or always making fun of you. How can you love someone and treat them that way? Sad 😢
I find a lot of doctors DON'T listen to women's complaints. I suffered from migraines for years until I got a female doctor who immediately gave me a script for a medicine which I take when I feel one coming on. It has been LIFE CHANGING. I used to miss whole days of work, now they barely impact me, as long as I have my meds, it usually goes away in 45 mins. All that to say, doctors are overworked, and often not proactive on things like allergies.
You nailed it on the head there with marriage Margaret! Morals are so important, and when you are young you don’t think about morals. (At least I didn’t.) I married again to a wonderful guy who is respectful and morally grounded, and in turn I respect him. Thanks for sharing so honestly.
Aldi is well worth shopping in regularly. If you’re so air sensitive in Oct, there’s lots more home air filters available including vacuum filters. Also masks for outdoors. Children of migrants are particularly sensitive to work ethic messages and worth being associated with achieving. When you enjoy working with people, it’s quality therapy for your guests they won’t get elsewhere and that’s a priceless value. A bad marriage is slow death by a thousand small cuts. A good partner will describe their childhood as very happy, secure and loving. Xxx
Good Lord dearest Margaret you just told the world you like to sleep with that door opened by your bed. Be careful what you put out there. N don't feel bad about not reading all that stuff. I didn't either. I have a plan with Medicare thru Humana if I'm saying that correctly. They sent me a book as well.that I filed. It wasn't until a friend told me regarding that benefit. I called Humana n was told yes I get $125. every 90 days. So I too did not use that for 4 years. N when you're working n running a household who wants to read all that crap. So now you have it n I'm glad I mentioned it to you. I see others did as well. I WONT read any of that info n I just call every time I have an issue or a question. Nobody reads all that so you're good 👍😊❤
I'm so very happy to hear you feel better and yes who would have thought it was allergies. Can't believe a doctor didn't mention to you. Just glad to hear you feel better yay❤
I am glad that your health got better and you got better and good advice. I've been divorced since 2000 and agree with you about marriage. I'll never get married again. I'm so happy on my own with my children and grandchildren. Love from South Africa xoxo
I'm the same with feeling guilty if I'm not doing something constantly. I don't take naps either for that reason...... I feel like I've given up (if I'm sick) or wasting my time, etc. I was even this way in my 20's and 30's... I was my own worst enemy. I even read a book once that was titled When I Relax I feel Guilty".. a very very very good book.. based on Christian beliefs so was good to hear that God wanted us to slow down and be quiet and listen and just "be"... so that helped me alot, but I still find myself feeling like I have to accomplish something worthwhile each day! I can't just relax! I don't know how.
It’s not easy to find a life partner. I don’t think it will happen for me at this time in my life. I’m 58 years old and I’ve been alone for so long now. It’s a MUST to be like minded and respectful to each other. I have couple envy of a few who I know as well.
Hi Margaret so well put and I bet your ex secretly watches you and kicks his ass every day, I love your brain I think we’re sisters , I am from Nova Scotia Canada and lucky to celebrate 40 years with a great man. I was able to retire at 55 and am celebrating my 60th this year by going to Portugal in April with 3 girlfriends so life is good and still busy and I know there is no slowing you down either I can’t wait to see what mischief and travels you get up to in your new life you rock! ❤
I’m so happy you’re feeling better Margaret I suffer a lot of allergies, earlier this year I was hospitalised with very bad vertigo , I still get very dizzy and will fall if I don’t sit , which was very hard for me I was always doing something. I’ve learnt to listen to my body and I’ve learnt so much about it . I’m 76 in January I’ve learnt a hard lesson this year, if I didn’t have my husband I’m not sure where I’d be we’ve been married 54 yrs this month and it’s not been easy, he never did anything to help in the home , but he’s had to learn to do all the things he’d never done , he still hangs washing out and I’ve had to learn to shut my mouth when I first saw how it was hung because I simply cannot look up and down to do it. Take care and look after yourself. See you next video . ✨🙌💐✨
It’s a hard lesson to learn that “good enough” really is good enough! Glad to hear that he is stepping up, it’s hard to change a lifetime of habits. Thanks for your post.
Who would have thunk allergies. Glad to see you're feeling better. My hubby and I were truly partners, we were respectful and very much in sync until the day he passed and we were married 53 years. It can be done but each has to be willing to work on it. Take care of yourself Margaret and close those doors and windows.
We have an Aldi two miles from our house and another Aldi’s two miles in the opposite direction. One of the Aldi’s is so much better than the other. We buy all our fruits, vegetables and some other items every week from the better Aldi. Aldi has better produce than our Jewel store. We get a senior discount on garbage pickup, a discount on our water bill and we get a refund on our municipal tax for our electric and gas bills. We also get a senior discount on our real estate taxes. We have Medicare through Atena and we get $90.00 a quarter. We found out by accident that we had this benefit. It is through CVS and we now get a catalog every year of what they offer. We order online and they ship to us. There are hundreds of items that we can order. It’s definitely a good benefit. I look forward to all your videos. Keep them coming. 🥰
Greetings Margaret! I have been in mentally abusive relationships, and I think we kind of carry that trauma in our bodies and minds. I totally get it! Love and blessings ♥️🙏
As a retired hairdresser myself... I have to say you are never lazy...dealing with all that comes with doing hair ! Im sure your ex-husband at the time was a great person somehow...but I call that bullying by him thinking you had a lame job...I've never worked so hard in my life as I did being a hairdresser . Being a mother and a wife and homeschooling my daughter and working!( My ex-husband and I divorced after 23 years) You're in such a better place now. I've met a much better man myself and after 7 years since we met we were married a week ago (October 20th 2023) and at 68! Im living the better days of my life. So happy I found your channel!😅 If I feel tired I go to sleep and then I wake up and get busy again. Napping is a refresher!
You never know what goes on behind closed doors do you Margaret, I have total empathy as to how it was for you when you were married. Glad to see you’re feeling a lot better Margaret, it’s amazing how much those pesky allergies can make you feel so dam rough isn’t it.
I left my husband just before our 30th wedding anniversary. I couldn't put up with his constant "jokes and teasing" about things that I didn't think were funny. We went to counseling and I spoke about the fact that I couldn't buy hard soled shoes because he couldn't stand the noise they made! He said I never said you couldn't buy hard soled shoes. But I said when I did, I would always have to deal with his comments. And I was done. After 2 1/2 years apart, we got back together. Our communication is much better. We have celebrated 48 years together (including the time apart). Things are better now because he does finally hear my side. Sorry this is so long. You bring up the best topics, Margaret! I'm so glad you have a handle on fall allergies! Thank goodness for you, Margaret! ❤you!
Dear Margaret ,so glad you're feeling better! I have learned so much from your channel reading most of the comments from your subscribers you can learn a lot. On the marriage subject , hearing you talk about the verbal abuse I don't think I would have made it 33 months much less 33 years. I have been married for 43 years , there were good times and bad as well ,I guess like every thing in life but I can't imagine life without my husband he is calm and patient as oppose to me I panic a lot. When I heard you talk about being verbally abused reminded me of when I was young being at home with my siblings I could never sit down I always needed to do things otherwise I would be called every name in the book , and you'll carry that with you for the rest of your life . Never knew we had so much in common maybe in a different way! but still .I'm always waiting for your next video !! Take care Dear Margaret and enjoy the rest of the week end. Lots of LOVE.
You have your sparkle back! So glad you feel better and it turned out to be something fairly manageable such as allergies. It's been a cold, rainy day here. Rather quiet in the neighborhood at the present time. I suppose everyone is downtown for Costume Capers which is the city's adult Halloween celebration. The city council recently decided to allow drinking alcoholic beverages on the streets downtown. Sounds like a recipe for trouble to me with a bunch of gun-toting people drinking and wandering around. I'm home where I belong. Have a great weekend, Margaret! I'm so glad you feel better! See you next time!
Love the sound of the festivities, agree that alcohol didn’t need to be introduced. Makes it way too easy to be stupid. (my opinion). Thanks for writing.
I am sorry that you were talked to like that when you were married. You didn’t deserve that. I was physically abused in my first marriage so I was pretty carefully choosing in my second marriage. I am glad that you are feeling better and that someone on here helped you figure out the problem and someone else helped you save money. We think so much of you that we want to help you if we can not that I helped you but others did. Take care my Friend.
We share February 😊I’ll be 75. Been married 56 years. Would never remarry. My mother in law lived 9 years after her husband died, never remarried. She always said “ those old farts just want a purse or a nurse.” Lol I was the same way, every September I got sick. Live near cotton fields. I take allergy meds daily for years so I’m not sick for 2 weeks!😖
👋 Margaret, Couple things,,, lonnnng ago, I was in what turned out to be physical abuse relationship. He beat me up. Big time. I have emotional scars, when my left side of face twitches, there he is. To all here, Do not put up with that. Next, so glad you know of allergies. Me? Only one I have is certain dirt. Likely why I'm a bit overboard with cleaning 4 hours a day, 6 days a week. I rebell on 7th day 😉 Marriage? Must have at least a few same interests but must have individual ones as well. Must appreciate each other, Must encourage each other, and for me, politics is huge, must be on same page politically. Love your posts, you're a breath of fresh air. Sending in 🤗
I totally get that you spent so much money at the store. When I’m sick, I do not care how much I spend at the store. I just want stuff so I don’t have to go back, and I want to get home. Do you have a dehumidifier in the basement? I realize you were talking about the outside mold, but my son had a mold problem in the basement and the dehumidifier made a significant difference!
I don’t have a dehumidifier in the basement. It is 150 year old fieldstone, I don’t know of any dehumidifier that could keep up. I do have a really good air purifier in the apartment and now that I’ve buttoned he place up it will do a great job. Thanks for your post!
I didn’t know about the over the counter benefit either. That would really help at my house. Thank you, I will check into it. See, you’re not the only one that missed it! 😊
I've only just found your channel, so you may have already addressed this .... if you're not feeling well, can you order groceries online and have them delivered?
Margaret, you are so right! Having similar morals, a little love and communication will help a marriage. Still having said that, marriage does have ups and downs that you ride out because you made a vow. I’m glad you got good information from your subscribers. It’s about time, because you have given us so much. Love your videos!❤
You mentioned you didn’t want anyone to think you are lazy. You live alone. Who is going to know if you sit for hours and do nothing. No one. Margaret needs to do whatever Margaret wants to do. No one can see you. Try doing nothing. It might feel good! Just a thought as I love your life! 💕
Hi Margaret, so so glad that you are feeling better and you may have solved your long standing annual illness. As for marriage I totally agree with you. My husband and I are in many ways different…our likes and dislikes etc but we have the same outlook ethically and morally and I don’t mean we take the moral high ground over what others believe just that we have our own moral code. Also both of us want the other to be happy and be themselves. Hubbys Mum always used to say to him ‘ happy wife, happy life’! 😻❤️🙏
October is my birth month and I love the cool crisp weather but LEAF MOLD is my worst enemy. I've learned to get those leaves raked and removed before it rains or pay a big price, lol. 🥰 Girl, take care😊
Margaret, I'm so sorry your ex husband did this to you. He sounded jealous that you loved your job and he wanted to make you feel bad about yourself. Hurt people hurt others. He sounded very unhappy with himself and projected all that onto you. You probably hear your husband's voice in your head about laziness. It's not all black and white....lazy or not lazy. You're retired. You don't answer to anyone about anything you do. You did your time working and if you want to take a nap in the middle of the day, that doesn't make you lazy. Be kind to yourself. Don't tell yourself things you wouldn't tell your best friend. Be your own best friend. The brain believes what it hears. Sending you love ♥
Glad you’re still here! Dang those Fall allergies! Didn’t realize you hadn’t thought of allergies. And yes, you need to keep up meds! Shop often at ALDIs. No sales. Low prices every day. ( so-so.) Got it about reading stuff! Feel the same. Too much info. Yes. Just bullet points needed! He was just jealous that you enjoyed your job! Narcissist. Good advice on marriage. Enjoy your calendars. 💕💕💕
Firstly, I, too did not know about the "October fungus, etc"! I'n so glad folks shared that with you (and us) and you're finally feeling better!! Who knew!! (Not Us!!🥴) Aldi and Walmart are my grocery shopping musts! The prices are so good at Aldi and I definitely save money between there and WM. I buy Aldi's fresh meat, (hamburger, chicken, chuck roast, salmon, pork chops in the assorted pack) and have not yet had any issues and the prices are great!! Do give them a try. I think you will be presently surprised!! Your thoughts on marriage are so very true....
I agree about not reading pages and pages of print. I just want to know the highlights. Sometimes I think they do it on purpose to save money by not giving it to us straight. Knowing we won’t read it. My father was a narcissist and to this day (64 years) there are things imprinted in my brain that are difficult to change. Good advice on marriage. Totally agree. Both people need to be on the same page. As far as a pound of butter goes, here in Ontario I’ve seen it go as high as $9.50. Great videos Margaret. Looking forward to future ones.
I didn't comment but my first thought was allergies. Closing the windows is a great start but an air purifier in your bedroom & living area can also help with mold spores or other allergens. I know it's another expense up front, but your health is worth every penny.
I, too, have never taken a nap..ever. My dad was career military and was insistent you get up and get going “don’t sleep your life away”…and resting was unheard of… so it never crosses my mind to lay down in the daytime 😱 And you seem to have opinions on marriage-/and you are able to give those opinions without dragging around gloom. You have a great outlook and can see the good in others relationships.😍 My 2 failed marriages told me it’s not for me!😂 I adore living alone. My 2 grown children are from husband #1 and I would never dream of speaking ill of him with them. He makes them crazy at times and we laugh. My issues with either marriage matter to no one…and I keep it that way. 🤐
I think it's common to underestimate allergies. I rarely suffer from allergies, but my husband, daughter, and grandchildren do. I keep windows shut nearly all the time. We do have fresh air being drawn in from the outside, but it is filtered. My husband's main difficulty now is if he goes bike riding on a trail in town. If there is ragweed pollen, he is an absolute mess. You would think he was quite ill. I'm so glad you found a solution through subscriber comments!
Thank you for answering my question!!!. I should've spent more time knowing my husband. When we got married we hadn't even been together for one year. Our first anniversary was a month after the wedding. I was so young and a lot of surprises ...sad ones...came with time. Thank you for sharing Margaret. I really appreciate it.
LOL. They count on you not bothering to read it. I've done the same, even through out mail that had cheques in them. It's a crazy world. Love your channel.
So glad you are feeling better, and for working out what the cause of the malady is! Your Octobers will never be the same again! Being married can be challenging… one begins to live with ‘a stranger’ esp if you marry at a young age (as many of us did in the early 70s) but you survived it all of 30+ years, you have your family and tomorrow is A FRESH DAY 💐
My dad was a farmer who worked hard all the time, and expected us to do the same as kids. And that way of thinking continued after I was married. One time I was laying on the couch when my husband came home so I immediately got up and acted busy. While we were chatting he asked what I'd been doing so I said this and this. He said " No you weren't , you were laying on the couch". I had the imprint of the tweed of the couch on my bare arm! I was embarrassed, but he thought it was hilarious that I would think he'd care if I was resting. Eventually I lost that jump up and get busy mentality. I'm so glad you're feeling better. Being sick is dreadful.
Margaret I'm sorry you don't have a partner now. I think you would have a ball, but don't be hard on yourself. You might find the next Mister right. I'm 84 now..met my now husband when I was 70. Did not marry till 80, We get along great. He went to high school with me! Funny how things happen. Take care and stay like you are!
That is true Margaret in my marriage we grew apart to the point we did not know each other anymore 43 years of marriage and I still look back at that and wonder at what point in my marriage did this happen. I felt it was from putting others before our marriage and this is how it ended. We both were to blame for this. Glad you are feeling much better.
I also have the OTC benefit with Tufts. I find that I use it to buy vitamins, contact lens stuff, bandaids and in the winter. cold and flu meds. I've also bought a blood pressure monitor with it, and a bathroom scale! Very good benefit. I agree with your thoughts about being on the same page with the person you decide to marry - although I have to say I have found that often time couples today aren't as willing to work on differences, and expect everything to be exactly as they want, without putting in the work . My own mother was married 5 times (very unusual in those days) and which was a source of major embarrassment for me, so maybe that influences my attitude. So glad you are feeling better - allergies can often become worse with age too, so its great you found a way to relieve your symptoms.
Good morning Margaret ,l am so happy for you that you are feeling somewhat better so onwards and upwards, this is proof that alot of time we can learn something from sharing certain things with others (within reason of course) and sometimes it is easier to understand certain aspects of our medical issues from a non medical person please believe me that I am not being disrespectful to our medical professionals as they are absolutely valuable and necessary.Margaret l hope your Fall Plaque continues to disappear and thanks for another great video 😊
So glad you are feeling better It's great how much we can learn from each other via these blogs A wonderful honest chatty video Carry on being wonderful you warts and all Hope you have a joyful Autumn the best you've had Take care
Hi Margaret - I'm so glad you're feeling better. Just a reminder of the double whammy that mold and fungus has on us with allergies as well as asthma - when those mold spores get into our lungs, it's horrible. Take your meds and inhalers as prescribed! I enjoy you being a part of my life through TH-cam.
I am so glad to hear that you're feeling better. Gosh, you must be relieved. And now I have to check my Medicare Supplement to see if I have that benefit for OTC stuff. I have that huge booklet you were talking about, and every year when it comes in the mail, I just groan, because I know I should read it, but I don't. Now I know I'm not the only one who feels that way!
Yay! Your keeping your windows closed. Oh the night air feels great, but can make us so sick. I have United Health Care as a Medicare supplement. It gives you $205.00/ month for over the counter pharmaceutical items and groceries. I don’t know what I would do without it Margaret. Prayers you get over the cough and feel 100% great. Also a cool mist humidifier is great for us, especially at night time. Hope you rest the rest of your weekend.
@@MargaretbeingMargaret yes. Walmart, Walgreens, CVS and dollar general I didn’t know that Dollar General was a store I could use it in. I used it there for the 1st time and it paid for everything, whereas Walmart doesn’t.
Aldi is great! I don’t have one in the town for a layoff, but there is one in the next town over. It’s worth the drive for me and I usually go about once a month and stock up on there really good buys.
We all go through that, meaning how it takes us so long to "get it". We learn from others, or a light bulb goes off. For me, my experience is I get a cough when it starts to get cold. Not a cough all summer. I know that I have drainage which starts when the weather changes. I notice that your glasses sit down on your nose, does that bother you? I know for me it would. I hope you get better and continue to keep learning and listening. We all have experiences.........get better please. You deserve a good life.
Recently saw a video of someone saying they are changing their mind set…instead of worrying about everything they are reminding themselves that they are excited to be doing such and such or excited to be going here and there….maybe start teaching/telling yourself that you’re excited to find an hour to sit and relax and do nothing…eventually I’m betting that subliminal voice that tells you you’re lazy will fade …best of luck😊
I was married to an alcoholic for 22 years. I finally filed for divorce and realized why I don’t earlier, it was a absolute terror even worse than being married to a drunk.
Margaret, thanks for the forum, we all have knowledge based on the life we have been in. On that thought, to all you ladies out there that had been married before & are now in retirement. If you were married for over ten years, you can claim on EX’s social security. So if he made more money, SS check could be larger. He can’t do dare thing about. Can’t hurt to check. ❤
I always tend to have allergies in October not in the spring and sometimes in December. I was married for almost 30 years and I divorced in 2012. I’ve been single ever since and not even dated. I would like a relationship where I don’t have to live under the same roof. I have no desire for drama ( which my x’s gave me plenty of) and cleaning up after a man, I can’t stomach it any more, I did plenty of that when I was married. Actually, my x’s used to get mad that I wouldn’t sit down and watch TV with him, I was always either cleaning or working in the yard. I’m 61 and I wish I knew than what I know now about relationships because if I did, I would never had married my X’s, but that’s life. Margret at least you built a career for yourself, I never did, because I put all my eggs in him and my children, that was my first mistake. I always had a job but non of the the jobs grew into a career. Right now, all I want is to receive some retired money when I turn 62 next year and cut my hours at work. Unfortunately, I will still have to work because my SS won’t be enough for a single woman to live on.
We could talk, I used to get the sniffles every August. Back in December I go a blood report of bad liver,bad prostate, and got Bales Paulsey for 3 weeks. I came through all of them, and now I'm attacking back. I'm eating better, working out, and hoping to become an old Tarzan. But we could really talk. take care.
I had a cousin who was an allergist. He said at least once in your life, everyone is allergic to something. If you need air circulation, turn on your AC as it also filters the air you are breathing.
That was a wonderful video today, but then again I don't know which one isn't of yours❤ I'm so glad you got help with all those allergies❤ I was thinking of the allotment of drug money you get I will have to check on that I have Medicare and a supplemental plan to AARP United Healthcare
If you stop the allergy when it is in the nose, it won’t go to your lungs. Benadryl may help for a short period of time to get over the hump. I take coq10 before i go outside, and I don’t have any problems. 😊
I think insurance companies make it confusing and tiresome on purpose because they know people won’t bother to delve deep to understand their benefits in order to take advantage of them . Insurance companies save money that way.
First I have to say (as a Canadian) paying $8 for butter is NOT the normal price .. if they live in an isolated area in Manitoba , then it would be a given for such a high price. When we lived in Holland (military) we were shocked at the price of living there ... buying a vehicle would be like a mortgage and most home owners ? could only afford to take on their relative's home .. it was passed on to the children or close relatives. Now please don't take this the wrong way ... but Americans usually don't understand their prices are heavily subsidized, so they are paying a lot less than the rest of the world .. we used to say they live in a "bubble" ... we were SHOCKED how cheap things were at the US commissary ? when as Canadians we were allowed to shop their. It was all a real eye opener from how expensive the European prices were ... to what Americans paid in their bubble community, while living in Europe. I worked, and was involved with our military community as a military wife for over 26 years .. I married at 20 and my husband was 23 ... we are married for 46+ years. We have seen so many military marriages blow up because of the extreme stress the military is as an employer, plus world circumstances (war zones, post war zones etc ..).. you literally sign your life over to them. They really didn't care much about how the spouses were doing unless there were public problems in the marriage ... But here we are ... battered, but not broken, from all of our experiences , good and bad ... if a marriage can survive the military ? it can survive just about anything else you could throw at it ! Wow ..... sorry .... I was on my way to writing a book again ... LOL Last thought ... it breaks my heart when women and children are exposed to cruelty and abuse ... there are men who suffer it as well.
You truly are a delight to watch and learn your stories. I think it’s in our best interest to be our best advocate in everything we do. It’s the world we now live in. As I’ve gotten older (71) and recently celebrated my 37 years of marriage (second time around) I can say with very strong convictions…I’m married for the last time in my life! Hubby has been diagnosed with a cognitive decline and although it’s an early diagnosis…he’s not the same man. However, not complaining…I’m probably right behind him! On a lighter note..I’m happy to hear you’re doing somewhat better with your cold. Hope I’m not sharing too much information. If so..pardon my honesty. However, knowing and sharing of information can sometimes be the best lesson in education. Take care and be blessed. xo
Well that's great news that you now know the cause of your October plague! People (on the internet from all over the place) can be so helpful and full of ideas and information. The good side of social media. Have a great weekend 🙂
You live by a river, have a damp basement (and it’s been incredibly wet in your area)… it’s no wonder you have mold allergies. Yes! $3 butter is a deal! Butter in Tampa Bay Area is around $6.99+. Good quality food is always worth it to me, after all, I’m putting it inside my body. Be well.
I live alone and spend more for groceries now. I only buy things that I'll eat. If you love Hannaford (like I do), you won't like Aldi's. I almost never take naps. Rather sleep better at night.
I'd give ANYTHING if I could nap at least once in awhile. But my mind won't let go and I can't fall asleep, even if I'm exhausted or sick for any reason. There are some days I am SO exhausted for whatever reason, I go lay down thinking, I'm gonna sleep, but it just doesn't happen. My sister naps almost daily and I envy her so much. She says she always feels better after a little nap.
Better late than never…to figure out the allergies and learn about the OTC benefit and recognize you (of all people) aren’t lazy. I know you don’t like going to the doctor but since the fall allergies are so bad, maybe getting tested and then having shots might be worth it. As I was typing that, I could hear you saying nope, no way Jose! 😉. I also don’t read those books and I recently recycled the 2024 one. So thank you for talking about the savings and thank you to those who told you! Don’t marry someone to “help” them become the person you think they can be. Any healthy and long lasting relationship requires mutual respect, trust, compromise and good communication. Don’t expect rainbows and unicorns because that’s not reality in any part of life.
I had no idea that there’s over-the-counter medicine coverage through Medicare and I’ve had Medicare for eight years. I guess I better get online and check it out. Nobody ever sent me any kind of extra card.
@@MargaretbeingMargaret I found out that the over-the-counter medicine coverage is not directly through Medicare. It’s through your Medicare Advantage Plan and my plan does not cover it. My friend has a different advantage plan so I checked hers also and hers doesn’t cover it either.
Medicare Advantage is tricky. I can't afford it due to co-payments. They offer some benefits I would like, but I don't have money for $40 specialist co-payments. My husband has 5 specialists, some he sees every month! REALLY LEARN about Advantage before trying it. Once you are in those plans, you often are stuck forever. And they do differ from state to state, and from one company choice to other company choice. Good luck to everyone in making their choices!
Thought it was fungal spores That's just how I feel Glad it works it's bloody awful ❤❤Rest and take care Don't forget Nose drops Keep windows shut Antihistamine 😂😂😂😂
I was married to my first husband at 18 he just turned 18 ..we were married for 13 years, and four children. I think our husbands were cut from the same cloth because he never held a job ever for more than three months.😮 I married my childhood sweetheart when I was in my 30s he basically raised my children and was like a father to them. He actually gave the 3 girls away at their weddings ❤ he was the one I was supposed to marry, but in high school he just didn’t think it would work and he was right. Anyways, he died in 2014 and now I am alone with my dog Otis which is OK.. he is my main man 😂😂I know I will never marry again or live with anybody, but I do ask the Lord if He wants me to be with somebody, he can drop him down in my lap😂 I had said this in another post I cannot open windows or doors. I am a mess with my allergies. I hope you feel better. God bless and have a blessed weekend. Your western Massachusetts Neighbor.😊
Yes on fall allergies! They are very common in my area. They can make a person feel horrible. I’m so glad you are feeling better! Another great episode! - Belinda PS: Yes on being on the same page or at least “chapter!” in marriage. Also, your hair is so pretty!! Are you growing it out? It’s adorable.
It’s funny about the allergies I have a friend from Natick Massachusetts, and for some odd reason, she always thought. allergies were a made up thing, and in peoples heads until she moved to the central valley of California, she learned quick that allergies are a real thing.
I am the wife that comments, but i must tell you and all suffer allergies of any kind, i am 68 and suffered allergies ever since i was alittle girl whether it was pollen from outside or anything else, About 10 years ago i started with a honeycomb regiment everyday, a half to full spoonful, and it has to be local in your area. I found a bee keeper that is local and i buy honeycomb wholesale btw honeycomb doesn’t go bad but i do keep in freezer. Anyway i don’t get any allergies anymore. None, I used to get so sick my nose sneezing and it would get so bad i would be sick to my stomach. It works but you have to eat everyday and it must be local. I have told so many people and they just don’t believe it but it s true!!
Just make sure its the honeycomb with the wax with it, just plain honey i don’t think does the trick. And you must take everyday, it might take sometime but it works.
I was married for 22 years to an abusive man. We raised 5 kids. I finally divorced him 20 years ago. Although I am SO glad I left that marriage, I can't deny there's a part of me that would love to have a loving relationship with a good man in my "golden years." When I talk to people that are still married after decades and are happy, I admit I get a little envious when I see their togetherness. Living alone isn't all that fun for me. Outside of the bad times in that marriage, we also had some great times, and I guess that's what I miss, good times with a man. Frankly, I'm sick of living alone, I don't find it enjoyable at all. I know there are women who love it, I'm not one of them. I like the companionship of a man. I stopped dating YEARS ago because I just couldn't find, "the one" and I got tired of the games. But, life goes on.
I get it. There’s no perfect path for any of us. Thanks for your post.
I get the plague twice a year. Allergies. Sinus infections.
You are one wonderful human being. God bless you.
I was married for 26 years to my ex. I worked 65 hours a week. When I took naps, he would give me trouble. When I started dating my 2nd husband,I let him know, I was going to sleep whenever I felt like it. We’re going on 11 years and he has never said a word!
Stop kicking yourself because you didn’t realize/know things. All of us watching your videos consider you our friend. As friends we learn from each other. And yes, that’s where your channel is a blessing for for you, and us. I want to encourage you NOT to think of your ex’s mental abuse. My mother always told me to keep moving. Be active. Find things to do. Once you stop moving you “lose it” ( mobility) You’re not being “lazy”. We all need to rest. Just don’t stay there. Aldi is less expensive; however, they sell “off brands”. If you don’t care, it’ll be great. You’ll love it. To sum up your marriage advice, I would say to be together long enough for the rose colored glasses become clear. Take the time before marriage to have a lasting marriage. And yes, communication is EVERYTHING! I’m glad that you’re feeling better. 💕
Great post. I love the analogy of the rose colored glasses.
Same here lady!!!! I am alone now too. Same Marriage Different ways but same. I hear you
Listening to you talk about your marriage and divorce is like talking about my experience...I turn 69 end of this month so we are the same age...I was married for 30 years before I divorced my ex-husband, we worked together in our own business for 20years, I love being creative but he made me feel guilty for doing what I love in my spare time...he tried to control me and I needed to end our marriage as it was affecting my health...the best thing I ever did...it has been a long journey, at first I couldn't be creative, I had this block, it took me 7 years to get my creativity back...from the day I left him my life became this magical journey, I met so many spiritual people that helped me heal myself and guide me to the magic life I live today...thank you for sharing your life with us ❤
Isn’t amazing the twists and turns life takes? Thanks for your post.
Margaret listening to you makes me feel like you and I were married to the same man but I could only take it for 13 years. I’ll be 70 next month and have been single for 40 years and been happy not being married ( scared it would happen again)!! Dating a man is fine but never would want to live with one ever again!! So glad I found you it’s comforting listening to you. Sandy
Thank you so much for sharing Sandy.
"Me, myself and I" that's the motto of the day.😂❤
I put up with mental abuse and constant belittling for thirteen years. I had to take a good, hard look at myself and ask why I allowed myself to be treated in such a hateful, demeaning way for so many years. I would never allow myself to be verbally attacked like that now. Thank goodness I finally woke up.
Well said.
I completely understand how you feel about your marriage because of my brother. My husband and I married at 22 and 23. We have always felt the same way about things and we’ve had a wonderful marriage for the last 53 1/2 years. We really love each other and both our parents were similar in age and beliefs and had lifelong marriages. Both our sons are still married to their wives. Marriage takes working together. I’ve never had to endure verbal or physical abuse in my marriage. As verbally abusive as your husband was, I can’t believe you stayed with him for 33 years. One of my brothers is verbally abusive to almost everyone and he has no friends, his siblings tolerate him because we love him but don’t like him and his wife left after being married 20 years. I don’t know how she put up with him that long. Life is too short to live with someone belittling you or always making fun of you. How can you love someone and treat them that way? Sad 😢
We all have crosses to bear and I own my part. I am thrilled to hear about you and your husband. Great post.
I find a lot of doctors DON'T listen to women's complaints. I suffered from migraines for years until I got a female doctor who immediately gave me a script for a medicine which I take when I feel one coming on. It has been LIFE CHANGING. I used to miss whole days of work, now they barely impact me, as long as I have my meds, it usually goes away in 45 mins. All that to say, doctors are overworked, and often not proactive on things like allergies.
Those benefits are only for those enrolled in a Medicare Advantage plan. Those on original Medicare do not get OTC meds as a benefit.
You nailed it on the head there with marriage Margaret! Morals are so important, and when you are young you don’t think about morals. (At least I didn’t.) I married again to a wonderful guy who is respectful and morally grounded, and in turn I respect him. Thanks for sharing so honestly.
Glad to hear that you found happiness with a like minded person!
Aldi is well worth shopping in regularly.
If you’re so air sensitive in Oct, there’s lots more home air filters available including vacuum filters. Also masks for outdoors.
Children of migrants are particularly sensitive to work ethic messages and worth being associated with achieving. When you enjoy working with people, it’s quality therapy for your guests they won’t get elsewhere and that’s a priceless value.
A bad marriage is slow death by a thousand small cuts. A good partner will describe their childhood as very happy, secure and loving. Xxx
This post is priceless. Thank you!
Good Lord dearest Margaret you just told the world you like to sleep with that door opened by your bed. Be careful what you put out there. N don't feel bad about not reading all that stuff. I didn't either. I have a plan with Medicare thru Humana if I'm saying that correctly. They sent me a book as well.that I filed. It wasn't until a friend told me regarding that benefit. I called Humana n was told yes I get $125. every 90 days. So I too did not use that for 4 years. N when you're working n running a household who wants to read all that crap. So now you have it n I'm glad I mentioned it to you. I see others did as well. I WONT read any of that info n I just call every time I have an issue or a question.
Nobody reads all that so you're good 👍😊❤
I'm so very happy to hear you feel better and yes who would have thought it was allergies. Can't believe a doctor didn't mention to you.
Just glad to hear you feel better yay❤
We are all so similar. Thanks for your posts. Keep good info coming!
I am glad that your health got better and you got better and good advice. I've been divorced since 2000 and agree with you about marriage. I'll never get married again. I'm so happy on my own with my children and grandchildren.
Love from South Africa xoxo
That’s where I am at too.
I'm the same with feeling guilty if I'm not doing something constantly. I don't take naps either for that reason...... I feel like I've given up (if I'm sick) or wasting my time, etc. I was even this way in my 20's and 30's... I was my own worst enemy. I even read a book once that was titled When I Relax I feel Guilty".. a very very very good book.. based on Christian beliefs so was good to hear that God wanted us to slow down and be quiet and listen and just "be"... so that helped me alot, but I still find myself feeling like I have to accomplish something worthwhile each day! I can't just relax! I don't know how.
Boy, does this resonate with me! Thanks for posting!
It’s not easy to find a life partner. I don’t think it will happen for me at this time in my life. I’m 58 years old and I’ve been alone for so long now. It’s a MUST to be like minded and respectful to each other. I have couple envy of a few who I know as well.
I am happiest alone. Not sad about that, it’s a great time of life for me. Thanks for posting.
Hi Margaret so well put and I bet your ex secretly watches you and kicks his ass every day, I love your brain I think we’re sisters , I am from Nova Scotia Canada and lucky to celebrate 40 years with a great man. I was able to retire at 55 and am celebrating my 60th this year by going to Portugal in April with 3 girlfriends so life is good and still busy and I know there is no slowing you down either I can’t wait to see what mischief and travels you get up to in your new life you rock! ❤
My ex couldn’t figure out how to turn a computer on! lol. Thanks for the post. Have a great trip!
I’m so happy you’re feeling better Margaret I suffer a lot of allergies, earlier this year I was hospitalised with very bad vertigo , I still get very dizzy and will fall if I don’t sit , which was very hard for me I was always doing something. I’ve learnt to listen to my body and I’ve learnt so much about it . I’m 76 in January I’ve learnt a hard lesson this year, if I didn’t have my husband I’m not sure where I’d be we’ve been married 54 yrs this month and it’s not been easy, he never did anything to help in the home , but he’s had to learn to do all the things he’d never done , he still hangs washing out and I’ve had to learn to shut my mouth when I first saw how it was hung because I simply cannot look up and down to do it.
Take care and look after yourself. See you next video . ✨🙌💐✨
It’s a hard lesson to learn that “good enough” really is good enough! Glad to hear that he is stepping up, it’s hard to change a lifetime of habits. Thanks for your post.
Being a hairdresser is hard work standing on your feet all day.
I was extremely lucky. It was a large salon which means I spent most of my time on advertising, marketing, and financials.
Remember you are loved by more people than you realize..💕
Thanks.
Who would have thunk allergies. Glad to see you're feeling better. My hubby and I were truly partners, we were respectful and very much in sync until the day he passed and we were married 53 years. It can be done but each has to be willing to work on it. Take care of yourself Margaret and close those doors and windows.
That is awesome! Thank you so much for your post!
We have an Aldi two miles from our house and another Aldi’s two miles in the opposite direction. One of the Aldi’s is so much better than the other. We buy all our fruits, vegetables and some other items every week from the better Aldi. Aldi has better produce than our Jewel store.
We get a senior discount on garbage pickup, a discount on our water bill and we get a refund on our municipal tax for our electric and gas bills. We also get a senior discount on our real estate taxes.
We have Medicare through Atena and we get $90.00 a quarter. We found out by accident that we had this benefit. It is through CVS and we now get a catalog every year of what they offer. We order online and they ship to us. There are hundreds of items that we can order. It’s definitely a good benefit.
I look forward to all your videos. Keep them coming. 🥰
Some of what you mention, others don’t kick in until 70 or older. I am so grateful to find out about the OTC benefit! Every little bit helps!
Greetings Margaret! I have been in mentally abusive relationships, and I think we kind of carry that trauma in our bodies and minds. I totally get it! Love and blessings ♥️🙏
It owns a tiny piece of real estate in my head…working on evicting it. Hope you can too.
Just found your channel. I'm 70 and can relate. Soo funny you give me the giggles, keep going. Love from Northern Ireland ❤
Thank you so much!! Welcome!
As a retired hairdresser myself... I have to say you are never lazy...dealing with all that comes with doing hair ! Im sure your ex-husband at the time was a great person somehow...but I call that bullying by him thinking you had a lame job...I've never worked so hard in my life as I did being a hairdresser . Being a mother and a wife and homeschooling my daughter and working!( My ex-husband and I divorced after 23 years) You're in such a better place now. I've met a much better man myself and after 7 years since we met we were married a week ago (October 20th 2023) and at 68!
Im living the better days of my life. So happy I found your channel!😅 If I feel tired I go to sleep and then I wake up and get busy again. Napping is a refresher!
Great post. Congratulations on the next season of your life!
You never know what goes on behind closed doors do you Margaret, I have total empathy as to how it was for you when you were married.
Glad to see you’re feeling a lot better Margaret, it’s amazing how much those pesky allergies can make you feel so dam rough isn’t it.
I am amazed that it’s allergies! Thanks for your post.
I left my husband just before our 30th wedding anniversary. I couldn't put up with his constant "jokes and teasing" about things that I didn't think were funny. We went to counseling and I spoke about the fact that I couldn't buy hard soled shoes because he couldn't stand the noise they made! He said I never said you couldn't buy hard soled shoes. But I said when I did, I would always have to deal with his comments. And I was done.
After 2 1/2 years apart, we got back together. Our communication is much better. We have celebrated 48 years together (including the time apart). Things are better now because he does finally hear my side.
Sorry this is so long. You bring up the best topics, Margaret! I'm so glad you have a handle on fall allergies! Thank goodness for you, Margaret! ❤you!
Very interesting comments. Thanks for posting.
Dear Margaret ,so glad you're feeling better! I have learned so much from your channel reading most of the comments from your subscribers you can learn a lot. On the marriage subject , hearing you talk about the verbal abuse I don't think I would have made it 33 months much less 33 years. I have been married for 43 years , there were good times and bad as well ,I guess like every thing in life but I can't imagine life without my husband he is calm and patient as oppose to me I panic a lot. When I heard you talk about being verbally abused reminded me of when I was young being at home with my siblings I could never sit down I always needed to do things otherwise I would be called every name in the book , and you'll carry that with you for the rest of your life . Never knew we had so much in common maybe in a different way! but still .I'm always waiting for your next video !! Take care Dear Margaret and enjoy the rest of the week end. Lots of LOVE.
Thanks for your post. You know I love reading all the comments. I am finding this channel very educational for me!
You have your sparkle back! So glad you feel better and it turned out to be something fairly manageable such as allergies. It's been a cold, rainy day here. Rather quiet in the neighborhood at the present time. I suppose everyone is downtown for Costume Capers which is the city's adult Halloween celebration. The city council recently decided to allow drinking alcoholic beverages on the streets downtown. Sounds like a recipe for trouble to me with a bunch of gun-toting people drinking and wandering around. I'm home where I belong. Have a great weekend, Margaret! I'm so glad you feel better! See you next time!
Love the sound of the festivities, agree that alcohol didn’t need to be introduced. Makes it way too easy to be stupid. (my opinion). Thanks for writing.
I am sorry that you were talked to like that when you were married. You didn’t deserve that. I was physically abused in my first marriage so I was pretty carefully choosing in my second marriage. I am glad that you are feeling better and that someone on here helped you figure out the problem and someone else helped you save money. We think so much of you that we want to help you if we can not that I helped you but others did. Take care my Friend.
this channel and everyone on it has become very special to me. Thanks for posting.
We share February 😊I’ll be 75. Been married 56 years. Would never remarry. My mother in law lived 9 years after her husband died, never remarried. She always said “ those old farts just want a purse or a nurse.” Lol I was the same way, every September I got sick. Live near cotton fields. I take allergy meds daily for years so I’m not sick for 2 weeks!😖
Great post. lol. Thanks for writing.
👋 Margaret,
Couple things,,, lonnnng ago, I was in what turned out to be physical abuse relationship. He beat me up. Big time. I have emotional scars, when my left side of face twitches, there he is. To all here, Do not put up with that.
Next, so glad you know of allergies. Me? Only one I have is certain dirt. Likely why I'm a bit overboard with cleaning 4 hours a day, 6 days a week. I rebell on 7th day 😉
Marriage? Must have at least a few same interests but must have individual ones as well. Must appreciate each other, Must encourage each other, and for me, politics is huge, must be on same page politically.
Love your posts, you're a breath of fresh air.
Sending in 🤗
Lots of good points. I put politics in my “morals category”
I totally get that you spent so much money at the store. When I’m sick, I do not care how much I spend at the store. I just want stuff so I don’t have to go back, and I want to get home. Do you have a dehumidifier in the basement? I realize you were talking about the outside mold, but my son had a mold problem in the basement and the dehumidifier made a significant difference!
I don’t have a dehumidifier in the basement. It is 150 year old fieldstone, I don’t know of any dehumidifier that could keep up. I do have a really good air purifier in the apartment and now that I’ve buttoned he place up it will do a great job. Thanks for your post!
I didn’t know about the over the counter benefit either. That would really help at my house. Thank you, I will check into it. See, you’re not the only one that missed it! 😊
I've only just found your channel, so you may have already addressed this .... if you're not feeling well, can you order groceries online and have them delivered?
Margaret, you are so right! Having similar morals, a little love and communication will help a marriage. Still having said that, marriage does have ups and downs that you ride out because you made a vow. I’m glad you got good information from your subscribers. It’s about time, because you have given us so much. Love your videos!❤
Thank you so much!
You mentioned you didn’t want anyone to think you are lazy. You live alone. Who is going to know if you sit for hours and do nothing. No one. Margaret needs to do whatever Margaret wants to do. No one can see you. Try doing nothing. It might feel good! Just a thought as I love your life! 💕
And I am my own biggest critic. 🤷♀️
Hi Margaret, so so glad that you are feeling better and you may have solved your long standing annual illness. As for marriage I totally agree with you. My husband and I are in many ways different…our likes and dislikes etc but we have the same outlook ethically and morally and I don’t mean we take the moral high ground over what others believe just that we have our own moral code. Also both of us want the other to be happy and be themselves. Hubbys Mum always used to say to him ‘ happy wife, happy life’! 😻❤️🙏
love this.
I am so glad you now got a handle on what’s been causing your Fall plague.☺️
I love what you had to say on marriage, “Communication”, very true.👍🏼☺️💗
Thank you, and thanks for posting.
October is my birth month and I love the cool crisp weather but LEAF MOLD is my worst enemy. I've learned to get those leaves raked and removed before it rains or pay a big price, lol. 🥰 Girl, take care😊
Lol. Thanks for your post. I get it!
Margaret, I'm so sorry your ex husband did this to you. He sounded jealous that you loved your job and he wanted to make you feel bad about yourself. Hurt people hurt others. He sounded very unhappy with himself and projected all that onto you. You probably hear your husband's voice in your head about laziness. It's not all black and white....lazy or not lazy. You're retired. You don't answer to anyone about anything you do. You did your time working and if you want to take a nap in the middle of the day, that doesn't make you lazy. Be kind to yourself. Don't tell yourself things you wouldn't tell your best friend. Be your own best friend. The brain believes what it hears. Sending you love ♥
love this!
Glad you’re still here! Dang those Fall allergies! Didn’t realize you hadn’t thought of allergies. And yes, you need to keep up meds! Shop often at ALDIs. No sales. Low prices every day. ( so-so.) Got it about reading stuff! Feel the same. Too much info. Yes. Just bullet points needed! He was just jealous that you enjoyed your job! Narcissist. Good advice on marriage. Enjoy your calendars. 💕💕💕
Love your post. Thanks for writing.
Definitely narcissistic and envious of the job she enjoyed!
Take care and thank you for sharing!
Firstly, I, too did not know about the "October fungus, etc"! I'n so glad folks shared that with you (and us) and you're finally feeling better!! Who knew!! (Not Us!!🥴) Aldi and Walmart are my grocery shopping musts! The prices are so good at Aldi and I definitely save money between there and WM. I buy Aldi's fresh meat, (hamburger, chicken, chuck roast, salmon, pork chops in the assorted pack) and have not yet had any issues and the prices are great!! Do give them a try. I think you will be presently surprised!! Your thoughts on marriage are so very true....
Glad it helped you too. Thanks for the info!
I agree about not reading pages and pages of print. I just want to know the highlights. Sometimes I think they do it on purpose to save money by not giving it to us straight. Knowing we won’t read it. My father was a narcissist and to this day (64 years) there are things imprinted in my brain that are difficult to change. Good advice on marriage. Totally agree. Both people need to be on the same page. As far as a pound of butter goes, here in Ontario I’ve seen it go as high as $9.50. Great videos Margaret. Looking forward to future ones.
Such a good post. $9.50!!!!
I didn't comment but my first thought was allergies. Closing the windows is a great start but an air purifier in your bedroom & living area can also help with mold spores or other allergens. I know it's another expense up front, but your health is worth every penny.
I do have and use a really efficient one because of my respiratory issues. Now that I buttoned up the house, it’s going full blast. Thanks!
I, too, have never taken a nap..ever. My dad was career military and was insistent you get up and get going “don’t sleep your life away”…and resting was unheard of… so it never crosses my mind to lay down in the daytime 😱
And you seem to have opinions on marriage-/and you are able to give those opinions without dragging around gloom. You have a great outlook and can see the good in others relationships.😍
My 2 failed marriages told me it’s not for me!😂 I adore living alone. My 2 grown children are from husband #1 and I would never dream of speaking ill of him with them. He makes them crazy at times and we laugh. My issues with either marriage matter to no one…and I keep it that way. 🤐
Great post.
I think it's common to underestimate allergies. I rarely suffer from allergies, but my husband, daughter, and grandchildren do. I keep windows shut nearly all the time. We do have fresh air being drawn in from the outside, but it is filtered. My husband's main difficulty now is if he goes bike riding on a trail in town. If there is ragweed pollen, he is an absolute mess. You would think he was quite ill. I'm so glad you found a solution through subscriber comments!
I am so lucky! Thanks for posting!
Thank you for answering my question!!!. I should've spent more time knowing my husband. When we got married we hadn't even been together for one year. Our first anniversary was a month after the wedding. I was so young and a lot of surprises ...sad ones...came with time. Thank you for sharing Margaret. I really appreciate it.
You're welcome!
LOL. They count on you not bothering to read it. I've done the same, even through out mail that had cheques in them. It's a crazy world. Love your channel.
Yes they do. Thanks for your post!
Happy you're feeling better. The allergy thing is so real. It's wonderful you figured it out. Stay wel,l stay safe.
Thank you!
So glad you are feeling better, and for working out what the cause of the malady is! Your Octobers will never be the same again!
Being married can be challenging… one begins to live with ‘a stranger’ esp if you marry at a young age (as many of us did in the early 70s) but you survived it all of 30+ years, you have your family and tomorrow is A FRESH DAY 💐
I LOVE my life. We have all lived, loved, and learned! Thanks for your post.
I'm coughing like you now. We went camping, I came home sick. I think it started then. Feeling better after 2 weeks. You take care.Allergy season
It’s miserable!
My dad was a farmer who worked hard all the time, and expected us to do the same as kids. And that way of thinking continued after I was married. One time I was laying on the couch when my husband came home so I immediately got up and acted busy. While we were chatting he asked what I'd been doing so I said this and this. He said " No you weren't , you were laying on the couch". I had the imprint of the tweed of the couch on my bare arm! I was embarrassed, but he thought it was hilarious that I would think he'd care if I was resting. Eventually I lost that jump up and get busy mentality.
I'm so glad you're feeling better. Being sick is dreadful.
Margaret I'm sorry you don't have a partner now. I think you would have a ball, but don't be hard on yourself. You might find the next Mister right. I'm 84 now..met my now husband when I was 70. Did not marry till 80, We get along great. He went to high school with me! Funny how things happen.
Take care and stay like you are!
Being called lazy was the height of embarrassment. Thanks for your post!
Thank u for validation of me I’m exactly like u I always feel stupid but like u that just who I am glad I’m not alone
We all have more in common than we realize
That is true Margaret in my marriage we grew apart to the point we did not know each other anymore 43 years of marriage and I still look back at that and wonder at what point in my marriage did this happen. I felt it was from putting others before our marriage and this is how it ended. We both were to blame for this. Glad you are feeling much better.
Great post.
I also have the OTC benefit with Tufts. I find that I use it to buy vitamins, contact lens stuff, bandaids and in the winter. cold and flu meds. I've also bought a blood pressure monitor with it, and a bathroom scale! Very good benefit. I agree with your thoughts about being on the same page with the person you decide to marry - although I have to say I have found that often time couples today aren't as willing to work on differences, and expect everything to be exactly as they want, without putting in the work . My own mother was married 5 times (very unusual in those days) and which was a source of major embarrassment for me, so maybe that influences my attitude. So glad you are feeling better - allergies can often become worse with age too, so its great you found a way to relieve your symptoms.
I have always thought marriage is too easy to throw away. Can’t have highs without lows.
You've got a great attitude and outlook on life! Bless you and your sense of humor!!🤣 🎃 🤣
thanks!
So glad you are feeling better. I love your TH-cam.
Thank you so much!
Good morning Margaret ,l am so happy for you that you are feeling somewhat better so onwards and upwards, this is proof that alot of time we can learn something from sharing certain things with others (within reason of course) and sometimes it is easier to understand certain aspects of our medical issues from a non medical person please believe me that I am not being disrespectful to our medical professionals as they are absolutely valuable and necessary.Margaret l hope your Fall Plaque continues to disappear and thanks for another great video 😊
So glad you are feeling better It's great how much we can learn from each other via these blogs A wonderful honest chatty video Carry on being wonderful you warts and all Hope you have a joyful Autumn the best you've had Take care
Thank you so much! Thanks for posting.
Hi Margaret - I'm so glad you're feeling better. Just a reminder of the double whammy that mold and fungus has on us with allergies as well as asthma - when those mold spores get into our lungs, it's horrible. Take your meds and inhalers as prescribed! I enjoy you being a part of my life through TH-cam.
Thanks for the tip!
I am so glad to hear that you're feeling better. Gosh, you must be relieved. And now I have to check my Medicare Supplement to see if I have that benefit for OTC stuff. I have that huge booklet you were talking about, and every year when it comes in the mail, I just groan, because I know I should read it, but I don't. Now I know I'm not the only one who feels that way!
Let me know if you have the OTC benefit. Would be nice to know that others are learning about something helpful too!
So glad you are better. I also have spring and fall allergies. I love the fall here but it doesn’t like me. Rest and keep the windows closed!
Thank you, I will
Yay! Your keeping your windows closed. Oh the night air feels great, but can make us so sick. I have United Health Care as a Medicare supplement. It gives you $205.00/ month for over the counter pharmaceutical items and groceries. I don’t know what I would do without it Margaret. Prayers you get over the cough and feel 100% great. Also a cool mist humidifier is great for us, especially at night time. Hope you rest the rest of your weekend.
I have a humidity counter on my table at all times. The humidifier comes out the minute it drops to 50%. WOW! 205 per month!
@@MargaretbeingMargaret yes. Walmart, Walgreens, CVS and dollar general I didn’t know that Dollar General was a store I could use it in. I used it there for the 1st time and it paid for everything, whereas Walmart doesn’t.
Love your wisdom and gentle but firm way of expressing yourself
LOL. That’s a kind description. Thanks!
Aldi is great! I don’t have one in the town for a layoff, but there is one in the next town over. It’s worth the drive for me and I usually go about once a month and stock up on there really good buys.
Thanks for the tip!
We all go through that, meaning how it takes us so long to "get it". We learn from others, or a light bulb goes off. For me, my experience is I get a cough when it starts to get cold. Not a cough all summer. I know that I have drainage which starts when the weather changes. I notice that your glasses sit down on your nose, does that bother you? I know for me it would. I hope you get better and continue to keep learning and listening. We all have experiences.........get better please. You deserve a good life.
My glasses don’t bother me. I tried bifocals for 3 weeks trying to get used to them. Never stopped vomiting.🤷♀️. Life is good. Thanks for your post
Recently saw a video of someone saying they are changing their mind set…instead of worrying about everything they are reminding themselves that they are excited to be doing such and such or excited to be going here and there….maybe start teaching/telling yourself that you’re excited to find an hour to sit and relax and do nothing…eventually I’m betting that subliminal voice that tells you you’re lazy will fade …best of luck😊
I am okay with where I’m at. Life is great! Thanks for your post!
I was married to an alcoholic for 22 years. I finally filed for divorce and realized why I don’t earlier, it was a absolute terror even worse than being married to a drunk.
It’s a hard road.
Margaret I have allergies as well. This year I bought an air purifier for the bedroom. I love it, and highly recommend one.❤
Mine is going full blast now that I closed the windows. 👍
Margaret, thanks for the forum, we all have knowledge based on the life we have been in. On that thought, to all you ladies out there that had been married before & are now in retirement. If you were married for over ten years, you can claim on EX’s social security. So if he made more money, SS check could be larger. He can’t do dare thing about. Can’t hurt to check. ❤
my understanding is not while he is living. hmmmmm. lol
Unsure, but father in law’s EX claims his. And thank the good Lord he is still with us. Can’t hurt to check
So glad you are feeling better👏👏😊
Thank you!!
So happy you’re feeling better Margaret!! I’m fortunate enough that I don’t have allergies of any kind…..but my kids do, go figure.
Thanks for sharing!!
Yay! Power in numbers!
I always tend to have allergies in October not in the spring and sometimes in December.
I was married for almost 30 years and I divorced in 2012. I’ve been single ever since and not even dated. I would like a relationship where I don’t have to live under the same roof. I have no desire for drama ( which my x’s gave me plenty of) and cleaning up after a man, I can’t stomach it any more, I did plenty of that when I was married. Actually, my x’s used to get mad that I wouldn’t sit down and watch TV with him, I was always either cleaning or working in the yard. I’m 61 and I wish I knew than what I know now about relationships because if I did, I would never had married my X’s, but that’s life. Margret at least you built a career for yourself, I never did, because I put all my eggs in him and my children, that was my first mistake. I always had a job but non of the the jobs grew into a career. Right now, all I want is to receive some retired money when I turn 62 next year and cut my hours at work. Unfortunately, I will still have to work because my SS won’t be enough for a single woman to live on.
Millions upon millions of us in the same boat. I hope we have done a better job for the next generation.
We could talk, I used to get the sniffles every August. Back in December I go a blood report of bad liver,bad prostate, and got Bales Paulsey for 3 weeks. I came through all of them, and now I'm attacking back. I'm eating better, working out, and hoping to become an old Tarzan.
But we could really talk. take care.
I had a cousin who was an allergist. He said at least once in your life, everyone is allergic to something. If you need air circulation, turn on your AC as it also filters the air you are breathing.
I may need my AC on. I am struggling with the house closed up.
I figured you had allergies. There is no way I would sleep with the windows open. To much stuff is in the air. 💕💕
I’m a little slow on the uptake!
That was a wonderful video today, but then again I don't know which one isn't of yours❤ I'm so glad you got help with all those allergies❤ I was thinking of the allotment of drug money you get I will have to check on that I have Medicare and a supplemental plan to AARP United Healthcare
Yes, check it out for sure!
I have United Healthcare too and definitely love having that benefit! I use mine at Walmart Pharmacy…..
@@hildatyburczy8221 I will call and find out if I can have that, that would be awesome ❤️
If you stop the allergy when it is in the nose, it won’t go to your lungs. Benadryl may help for a short period of time to get over the hump. I take coq10 before i go outside, and I don’t have any problems.
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thanks.
In addition to the Over the counter allowance, you can also get gift certificates for exercise, and also socializing, with medicare.
Nice!
I think insurance companies make it confusing and tiresome on purpose because they know people won’t bother to delve deep to understand their benefits in order to take advantage of them . Insurance companies save money that way.
You betcha!
8.99 regular price for 1 lb butter here on the East Coast of Canada .
wow.
Aldi’s carry pretty much carry their own brands so limited sales..but it is cheaper.
Thanks. Having their own brand is fine with me.
First I have to say (as a Canadian) paying $8 for butter is NOT the normal price .. if they live in an isolated area in Manitoba , then it would be a given for such a high price.
When we lived in Holland (military) we were shocked at the price of living there ... buying a vehicle would be like a mortgage and most home owners ? could only afford to take on their relative's home .. it was passed on to the children or close relatives.
Now please don't take this the wrong way ... but Americans usually don't understand their prices are heavily subsidized, so they are paying a lot less than the rest of the world .. we used to say they live in a "bubble" ... we were SHOCKED how cheap things were at the US commissary ? when as Canadians we were allowed to shop their.
It was all a real eye opener from how expensive the European prices were ... to what Americans paid in their bubble community, while living in Europe.
I worked, and was involved with our military community as a military wife for over 26 years .. I married at 20 and my husband was 23 ... we are married for 46+ years.
We have seen so many military marriages blow up because of the extreme stress the military is as an employer, plus world circumstances (war zones, post war zones etc ..).. you literally sign your life over to them.
They really didn't care much about how the spouses were doing unless there were public problems in the marriage ...
But here we are ... battered, but not broken, from all of our experiences , good and bad ... if a marriage can survive the military ? it can survive just about anything else you could throw at it !
Wow ..... sorry .... I was on my way to writing a book again ... LOL
Last thought ... it breaks my heart when women and children are exposed to cruelty and abuse ... there are men who suffer it as well.
Very interesting reading. Thanks so much for posting.
You truly are a delight to watch and learn your stories. I think it’s in our best interest to be our best advocate in everything we do. It’s the world we now live in. As I’ve gotten older (71) and recently celebrated my 37 years of marriage (second time around) I can say with very strong convictions…I’m married for the last time in my life! Hubby has been diagnosed with a cognitive decline and although it’s an early diagnosis…he’s not the same man. However, not complaining…I’m probably right behind him! On a lighter note..I’m happy to hear you’re doing somewhat better with your cold. Hope I’m not sharing too much information. If so..pardon my honesty. However, knowing and sharing of information can sometimes be the best lesson in education. Take care and be blessed. xo
Sharing information is a blessing and a lesson. Hope your path is as smooth as possible. It is a tough time. Remember to take care of yourself.
Aldi is great, I shop there weekly..Great Sangria, produce dairy products, you will like it.
Good to know!
Well that's great news that you now know the cause of your October plague! People (on the internet from all over the place) can be so helpful and full of ideas and information. The good side of social media. Have a great weekend 🙂
So true!
You live by a river, have a damp basement (and it’s been incredibly wet in your area)… it’s no wonder you have mold allergies. Yes! $3 butter is a deal! Butter in Tampa Bay Area is around $6.99+. Good quality food is always worth it to me, after all, I’m putting it inside my body. Be well.
Good point!
I live alone and spend more for groceries now. I only buy things that I'll eat. If you love Hannaford (like I do), you won't like Aldi's. I almost never take naps. Rather sleep better at night.
You’re not the first one to tell me that!
I'd give ANYTHING if I could nap at least once in awhile. But my mind won't let go and I can't fall asleep, even if I'm exhausted or sick for any reason. There are some days I am SO exhausted for whatever reason, I go lay down thinking, I'm gonna sleep, but it just doesn't happen. My sister naps almost daily and I envy her so much. She says she always feels better after a little nap.
Better late than never…to figure out the allergies and learn about the OTC benefit and recognize you (of all people) aren’t lazy. I know you don’t like going to the doctor but since the fall allergies are so bad, maybe getting tested and then having shots might be worth it. As I was typing that, I could hear you saying nope, no way Jose! 😉. I also don’t read those books and I recently recycled the 2024 one. So thank you for talking about the savings and thank you to those who told you! Don’t marry someone to “help” them become the person you think they can be. Any healthy and long lasting relationship requires mutual respect, trust, compromise and good communication. Don’t expect rainbows and unicorns because that’s not reality in any part of life.
Great post. And shots? No way Jose! lol
I had no idea that there’s over-the-counter medicine coverage through Medicare and I’ve had Medicare for eight years. I guess I better get online and check it out. Nobody ever sent me any kind of extra card.
Let us know what you find out.
@@MargaretbeingMargaret I found out that the over-the-counter medicine coverage is not directly through Medicare. It’s through your Medicare Advantage Plan and my plan does not cover it. My friend has a different advantage plan so I checked hers also and hers doesn’t cover it either.
Well check out which ones do. I found about half in my area have it. esp with it being open enrollment time. Good luck!
Medicare Advantage is tricky. I can't afford it due to co-payments. They offer some benefits I would like, but I don't have money for $40 specialist co-payments. My husband has 5 specialists, some he sees every month! REALLY LEARN about Advantage before trying it. Once you are in those plans, you often are stuck forever. And they do differ from state to state, and from one company choice to other company choice. Good luck to everyone in making their choices!
Thought it was fungal spores
That's just how I feel
Glad it works it's bloody awful ❤❤Rest and take care
Don't forget
Nose drops
Keep windows shut
Antihistamine
😂😂😂😂
It’s a lot of work to fight the plague!
Hi, new friend here from Florida.
Thanks for coming. Hope you stay awhile!
I was married to my first husband at 18 he just turned 18 ..we were married for 13 years, and four children. I think our husbands were cut from the same cloth because he never held a job ever for more than three months.😮 I married my childhood sweetheart when I was in my 30s he basically raised my children and was like a father to them. He actually gave the 3 girls away at their weddings ❤ he was the one I was supposed to marry, but in high school he just didn’t think it would work and he was right. Anyways, he died in 2014 and now I am alone with my dog Otis which is OK.. he is my main man 😂😂I know I will never marry again or live with anybody, but I do ask the Lord if He wants me to be with somebody, he can drop him down in my lap😂 I had said this in another post I cannot open windows or doors. I am a mess with my allergies. I hope you feel better. God bless and have a blessed weekend. Your western Massachusetts Neighbor.😊
love your post. Thanks,
Yes on fall allergies! They are very common in my area. They can make a person feel horrible. I’m so glad you are feeling better! Another great episode! - Belinda PS: Yes on being on the same page or at least “chapter!” in marriage. Also, your hair is so pretty!! Are you growing it out? It’s adorable.
Thanks. Not growing my hair out, just styled a bit different today.
It’s funny about the allergies I have a friend from Natick Massachusetts, and for some odd reason, she always thought. allergies were a made up thing, and in peoples heads until she moved to the central valley of California, she learned quick that allergies are a real thing.
lol
I am the wife that comments, but i must tell you and all suffer allergies of any kind, i am 68 and suffered allergies ever since i was alittle girl whether it was pollen from outside or anything else, About 10 years ago i started with a honeycomb regiment everyday, a half to full spoonful, and it has to be local in your area. I found a bee keeper that is local and i buy honeycomb wholesale btw honeycomb doesn’t go bad but i do keep in freezer. Anyway i don’t get any allergies anymore. None, I used to get so sick my nose sneezing and it would get so bad i would be sick to my stomach. It works but you have to eat everyday and it must be local. I have told so many people and they just don’t believe it but it s true!!
Second person who has said this. I know we have local honey nearby. I will definitely get some. Thanks.
Just make sure its the honeycomb with the wax with it, just plain honey i don’t think does the trick. And you must take everyday, it might take sometime but it works.
k. thanks!
Lots of people in my area have bee hives and sell honey but I’ve never seen honeycomb in any of them.
Sorry you have allergies. They are awful. I am glad your feeling better from closing the windows.
Thanks!
Your hair looks cute longer!
thanks. It’s funny, I just cut it the other day, but I styled it a bit different.