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- Looking for deep conversation starters or tips on how to get someone to open up? You came to the right place.
Today, we're getting real about making genuine connections with a few deep talk conversation starters that go beyond the surface. If you're tired of small talk and craving those deep, meaningful conversations, you're in the right place! So, it doesn't matter if it's a romantic relationship, family or friendship, if you're ready to level up your social game and build relationships that truly matter, hit play and let's dive deep together.
#relationship #dating #advice
Writer: Clarisse Delos Reyes
Editor: Caitlin McColl & Kelly Soong
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Ashleigh
Animator: Naphia
TH-cam Manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
Duckworth, A. (2016). Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance. New York: Scribner.
Brown, B. (2012). Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. New York: Gotham Books.
Lyubomirsky, S. (2007). The How of Happiness: A Scientific Approach to Getting the Life You Want. New York: Penguin Press.
Gardner, H., Csikszentmihalyi, M., & Damon, W. (2001). Good work: When excellence and ethics meet. New York: Basic Books.
Lyubomirsky, S. (2008). The How of Happiness: A New Approach to Getting the Life You Want. New York: Penguin Books.
Some of you requested a topic on how to start a conversation with someone. Here's this video to help you out! Share your tips that has worked for you below!
Thanks!!!!!❤
Thank you
If they want to, they'll open up... If they don't, you should respect their choice... If you want people to open up to you, you have to be kind, respectful, honest and just generally a nice person to make them trust you! No matter how many tricks you perform, if you're not trustworthy it's not going to happen!
Emotions can seem to stem from the heart. Sharing them honestly, while still maintaining them independantly is a great way to grow more complex as a person.
Will you get rid of the god damn popping sound people havw hyperacusis or misophonia it causes pain and i cant even watch the video now
1. Facing challenges 0:25
2. Showing vulnerability 1:10
3. proudest moments 2:15
4. Personal values and beliefs 2:58
5. Influence and inspiration 3:41
Commenting to come back, thank you.
Thankss
thanks
As someone with social anxiety and socially awkward, this is what I need because I really need to work on my conversation skills. I don’t even know what to talk about most of the time, and always having those awkward silences, making us feel uncomfortable. I look at other people who are great conversationalists and they’re so comfortable in their own skin making it look as if they’re good friends with everyone they meet.
We hope this video can help you!
The anxiety is the vulnerability, the expression of it is how you show up in the conversation. Youre describing emotions and labels, not stable traits.
Push yourself to 80% tolerance and remain present with your partner(s).
Escapism and social lubricants build a network with particular traits, building your sense of identity over time.
Self is relative. Find the setting to build up the aspects of your most valued sense of self, then networking wont be hard.
Maybe. Tbh this is how im trying to navigate these self criticisms
Talking about books is also a great way to start conversations.
When talking about books, you should summarise the topic the book is about and then let the other person ask questions.
I spent a decade googling "how to small talk" every morning before work because I have a job where I meet new people every day. I still google it sometimes.... But also, I'm more comfortable with my silence now. I'm an introvert and that's ok. I don't exist to entertain people with conversations. Other people can put effort in as well... The pressure doesn't always have to be on you!!
@@nemofairlight some small talk feels so forced that i feel embarrassed for the speaker. Then i remember that im an introvert and the judgment isnt particularly insightful
yesss the komi cant communicate art *heart eyes*
WE LOVE KOMI
The first art I recognised on Psych2go😂
I see Komi, I click
@@me_justmeYESSS
Yea! And a little before two minutes in, there’s art of the main characters in the anime bocchi the rock (1:52 to be exact)
OMGGG KOMI CANT COMMUNICATE
THIS IS SO CUTEEE
IIIIKKKKRRRRRRR
@HewhotranscendsgodhoodIt's cutee
I needed this, cause every time I hear people say they want deep conversation, I always picture them and myself like that one scene in Barbie where she's dancing and just goes "You guys ever think about dying?"
As a introvert like me this is the video i need for comfort and commutation skills
As someone with a talking disorder I really like the Komi can't communicate thumbnail :D
Same!
hi, i'm just curious, what's it like living with your talking disorder? :)
@@meloneater715 Almost all of the time I can only talk very quietly, and if it's really bad I can only squeak. I thought I had Mutism, but apparently not. If it was Mutism I would know when I can talk and when not. And I could talk louder when I'm comfortable, like when I'm with my family. But that's not the case. Maybe the problem is that I'm always scared of saying something wrong.
@@meloneater715 Oh, I think I read the question wrong, sorry XD
I thought you were asking what disorder I have :')
Living with the disorder is pretty hard, but not extremely hard. Maybe because I got used to it. Almost everyone always has to ask countless times what i said. But sometimes I can write it down. I go to a Speech therapist. Sometimes we play Uno and I have to say the card I'm laying down. And sometimes I have to say a letter or a short word and he sees how loud I was. Last time I got 60 decibels at the letter A and 50 decibels at the word Ja (Yes)
Some time ago a person I barely met strated a conversation with me, and at the beggining it went surprisingly well (I'm kinda bad at talking with ppl unless I get to know them), but then they started asking these questions, like about my personal values and beliefs, and I completely freaked out and kept saying 'I don't know' 😭
I hate smalltalk, but these questions are too personal for me, especially as a conversation starter. I guess I struggle with talking about myself... I mean, give me 2 days to think about "what challenge made me grow" and then I'll give you an answer 😅
So what ARE your personal values and beliefs?
@@anderstermansen130 !remindme 48 hours hahaha. Let us wait out there response
I-is that Komi and Tadano on the Thumbnail?
I fucking love this channel
AND THE REFRENCES ITS SO CUTER FHSIAVVS
I LOVE THE ANIME OMG
As a depressed person that prioritises someone else’s emotions, this gave me advice to people which I suspect to have a mental illness. I plan on becoming a psychotherapist when I grow up. For now, I’m only 15.
Love the channel! I came back to this channel after some years and I’m glad it’s still popular. It brings tears to my eyes.
:)
I love people who can have these conversations with me. I was born a genius, (don't mean to brag) I found I think a lot deeper than a lot of the people I know, so people who can share that with me are respected highly
What kind of conversations are you usually into?
@Psych2go Being an author, I always found storytelling interesting, especially when delving into the psychology of characters my writer friends create. Most things I've learned from this channel
@@TheTrueAuthorMRS that sounds like me, I am a great storyteller
i mean i don't really think these can be used to _start_ conversation, as they feel really out of place, but that's just my opinion
also, thank you for that message at the end, it's not much because my mind interprets them as a bit empty as they're not aimed at me, but sometimes they really do brighten up my day
I know it's unfair to say - but whenever I start a video and it's not @amandasilvera doing the voiceover I cannot focus long enough or listen as close to what is said 😮
I'm a normal guy, I see Komi and Tadano and I'm excited!!! Nice video.
who
@@anderstermansen130 I really like Komi Can't Communicate, it's my favorite manga right now.
I am NOT good at small talk I am WONDERFUL at deep conversations.
you've summoned an entire fandom now
they really did with that thumbnail lol
You guys have the courage to walk up and talk to other people, like a normal human interacting with another human? How? Is it possible to learn this power?
Supposedly, it is simple: approach, greet, and start a small talk about your surroundings. It can be a situation going on in the coffee shop, a waiting line, or even the weather. Did you get a positive response? Personalize the conversation and move on gradually to deeper topics. Did you get a negative response? Leave them alone and move on. Rinse, repeat until you get good at it.
It's either that or wait until someone actually wants to talk to you, which hardly ever happens.
Unrelated but I really like your choice of thumbnails. They always seem to match the video's topic. Plus, great art.
Its cute how they used komi can't communicate
You always help when I have a bad day
We hope our videos brightens up your day. If there are any topics you'd like us to cover more on, feel free to share!
It can be scary for some to be vulnerable, feeling worried about how the other person might react. But when you are vulnerable and the other person responds favourably, that's how you know you're in good company.
you really do not want to be vulnerable at all cost. Its a powerfull and destructive weapon in the hands of any woman walking on this earth. Try being stonecold and dont show emotions. Its the eaiser way in life, just saying.
@@anderstermansen130 How was this ever about women? My guy, see a therapist for your pain & log off whatever losers corner of the internet telling you to hate women, it’s holding you back my guy.
Came as soon as I saw Shoko Komi and Hitohito Tadano‼‼🗣🗣🔥🔥💯💯✨
I LOVED this art style, pls do more
What is a favorite childhood moment?
What’s your funniest memory ever?
What’s a goal you want to reach? Is there a way I can help with that?
I think those are some good questions to act during a conversation. Especially if it’s your crush or just someone that caught your eye.
Oh look 👀 it’s your crown 👑
Ty
Not everyone can have a crown, because when they become commonplace,they lose all value.
i get that the point is to beyond surface level casual chitchat, but these questions, for some of us, directly or indirectly have to do with trauma!
Timestamps
1). Facing challenges 0:23
2). Showing vulnerability 1:08
3). Proudest moments 2:14
4). Personal values and beliefs 2:57
5). Influence and inspiration 3:37
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
These are great questions to ask, but also keep in mind, that not everyone will be willing to open up and share how an emotional vulnerability helped them grow in life. These questions will require a rapport beforehand, as it's usually not someting to share with a complete stranger.
Got my guy best friend to open up about his feelings. He trusts me a bunch; I trust him. He's told me things that he doesn't dare to even mention to other people. I love him bunches,
When you said that last bit(you matter) I almost cried. Thank you and you matter too
"You ever hear the tragedy of Darth Plagueis the wise? Darth Plagueis was a Dark Lord of the sith. He was so powerful, Yet so wise. He could use the force to influence the medi chlorians to create, Life. He had such a knowledge of the Dark side, He could even keep the ones he cared about, From dying. *The dark side of the force is a pathway to many abilities some consider to be unnatural.* Darth Plagueis became so powerful that the only thing he feared was losing his power, Which eventually of course he did. Unfortunately, He taught his apprentice everything he knew. Then his apprentice killed him in his sleep. Ironic, He could save others from death, But not himself."
Where can I learn this power?
@@caldog619 Not from a jedi.
That ought to generate some AMAZING conversations 😅
Hm, it will be hard for me to ask people these questions, because I would struggle to answer them myself. But can be useful at some moment, thanks!
Thank you, I thought I'm the only one. My answers to all of these would be "I don't know" or "That's too personal".
I was talking on the komi can't communicate server and someone shared the screenshot of this video and I was mind blown 🤯❤😊
ok chadano pfp dude
@@cloakey1036 chadano for life
Love the Komi Can't Communicate reference in the thumbnail. Was hoping to see more of Shoko in the video. Left feeling let down while watching it.
Honestly, I don't feel comfortable with sharing my vulnerability other than my diagnoses. Diagnoses can show something deeper to other helping us to understand others and later put them in confusion by showing them that I'm above their measurement, discouraging them. Although directly showing something on which they can keep an estimation on and explicit can be used again us as a weapon. This happened to me many occasions in the past and I'm not doing it any longer. I'm becoming prouder as I've already dumped religion.
I really need like this video because when i see someone i think they may refuse and don't wanna be a friend . That's why I have less friend at least i know they are real friends 💜💜💜
When I think about my proudest moment I can quote an saturday when I traveled to another city to celebrate the my friend's birthday. I went alone and i have impaired vision so when i went on this travel I felt very pround of myself for being able to manage on my own
The video I needed 😭
We hope this video helps you out!
Man the thumbnail,
Komi can't communicate
Vulnerability is the quickest way to lose a woman
Do not share it they will dig it out of you
They will embrace it. They will love it, and they will leave you.
Currently watching Komi anime. Perfect timing.
honestly when i meet new people i always find whats their hobbies or fav stuff like watching animes and shi.. i always get to know more things to like know everything so atleast we have something in common and starts to have a LOOONNGGGGG talk about it and sometimes even found out more things and stuff and it always so fun, when they stop talking like have nothing to talk and it kinda awkward, i always ask them stuff like “what is the craziest stuff happened in school u witnessed?” or “what was the most crazy thing ur teacher said?” stuff so they could open up more stories and i could do the same. we would talk for like hours 😭😭 im a very very really talkative person and i always find so many topics to talk about so most of my days are just talking to people.
(thats why im the popular kid at school, not about beauty but being funny lol)
ah yes, kcc is the perfect setting for this video
Depend on the person, this couldn’t applied to everyone
Of course :)
Komi thumbnail won me over lmao
This channel is keeping me alive.
These are super facts 👌👌👌👌👌
Thank you very much, I'll use these tips...
Fun fact: I'd not be happy if anybody would ask me all those questions in one setting. Seems exhausting to answer them
Every day moving forward with a better outlook on life.
Now where's that note pad I used for the topic the other day?
I thank you for your positive and outreaching content. And adorable animations.
I already do most of these naturally. That's why people like to open up to me so quickly and naturally ._.
They literally ask how I do it sometimes. Idk. Ig this video helps explain
Help me bruh how do u start a deep convo😭
@@cupid4010 It really depends. On if they're willin to open up to you or anyone. Different people have different ways of bein. Some don't want to open up to anyone while some may be willin. You must also be a more complete and risk takin person. Riskin bein vulnerable with those you wish to deeply converse with and what I mean by more complete is a mature, compassionate, understandin, humble, considerate and etc kind of person. You need a lot to be able to properly do this sort of thing. Start it and keep it goin. And what you may find when you go deeper with a person may not be somethin you like. Don't feel guilty about that. You are who you are. They are who they are. That's fine. Don't stick around if you can't see that. Explain that if it becomes necessary even though it's really hard. It's necessary. But if you do like what you see then that's good for you. Go even deeper. Discuss more things. Learn the person or persons. Take risks and you may find somethin greater. You may lose too but it's better than just bein there doin nothin. If you're ready then you got this 👍
@@Gaminghj tysm I read your comment and like the person I talk with he is a boy and I ask him too many questions in chat to keep the Convo going but really there is always an end to it so I am really thinking how would I make him interested in the talk and like he dosent open up to me much cuz we are online friends and I know him from school he don't know me tho I like him so but he wanna know more about me he asks questions but the problem is he don't open up to me like he just answers about himself in one sentence lmao and like talking all the time might make him get annoyed by me that's what I feel like....
Hey can you make a vid about social awkwardness and eye contact?
We have a video on Tips To Overcome Social Anxiety. It might not be exactly what you're looking for but it's very close! th-cam.com/video/X_ZKkvhXNJk/w-d-xo.html
@@Psych2go Ty!
OMG I NEEDED THIS THANKS SO MUCHHHHHH❤
Every day moving forward with a better outlook on life.
Thank you 💕 all
i love this drawing style
I have tried all these things and people reject me and get really mad at me for asking them about their beliefs and values
Try the less personal ones first on people that are close to you
Yay its Komi :D shes like me frfr :)
KOMMIIIII SO CUTEEE 🥺🥺🥺
I see this channel come up with a lot of excuses. That in no way betters a person. I can come up with excuses all day, just by myself. But will that fix the problem? It may even make it worse. Ask me how i know. this video actually seems to want to help you make a change. This video is a pretty good one
I really like this video, I crave sincere conversation.♥️❕
Hello Psych2go. I got rejected by the girl i loved so deeply a week ago. There is not a single moment that im NOT thinking about her, doing my hobbies or activities dont help anymore. How do i overcome this pain??
Try doing anything (excluding harmful things) that'll take your mind off of that, things you didn't do before, spend time with friends, talk to them about it (or someone you trust with such information and can offer you comfort, even if all they can do is listen without judgement, it's better than nothing)
It's okay to not be okay about this, but don't let such events tear you down. And don't beat yourself up if you do end up thinking about her or something similar.
It'll hurt at first, it always does, but it's up to you to choose how long you allow it to hurt. A week ago isn't a long time, so don't rush yourself. Take it slow and easy, you have plenty of time, but don't allow it to extend for months or even years.
@@zUltra3D thank you my friend...
I’m going to make more friends in real life I love this channel so much
May i ask what do i do if u confessed to ur crush(also a friend that mattered a lot to u) and rejected u (u already know that they'll reject u but still confessed to ease ur uneasiness) and made u awkward with each other and not talk anymore but u still want to talk and foget the past but cant because ur afraid you'll get rejected again.
I think the greatest achievement was making my own costume in 2020
Everyone talking about Komi and Tadano...
4:12 IS THAT HATSUNE MIKU?!?
Thankyou so much for this video.
I love that anime in the background it's called Komi can't communicate
Vulnerability is different from trauma bonding 😁💯
I have Schizophrenia, OCD, Trauma-Related issues. Does it cause for conversation barriers? Like difficulty at being together with others, talking friendly with others, sharing things without being afraid? I've a lot of them. The best thing out of all is, I don't trust the given diagnosis to be a 100% accurate one as well as the medications.
When I meet someone new, I wish that I would finish that interaction soon but I don't love being lonely.
I believe I need more drugs either with or without permission.
I love Komi!
I always relied on, "Did you see that ludicrous display last night?"
i crushed on a girl from class who i thought liked me but she just probably liked my friend whose always with me and when i got a chance to talk to her i messed up big time more than once , am not interested in her anymore but its a confusing thought i get since it makes me sad then angry then i just accept the truth and put it to rest
HALLO! :D
That's really helpful I may try one day! Thank you very much
But what's the best thing to do, to get the shyness out????
We have a video on Tips To Overcome Social Anxiety. It might not be exactly what you're looking for but it's very close! th-cam.com/video/X_ZKkvhXNJk/w-d-xo.html
That's a good friend recently pointed out from the help of a great town that I've lived in for many years new and old people like sitting there and helping to make change in my life and the people around me for the better of society
I want that...but noone will get to know me enough. Like idk, I have ahard time warming up to people too ya know. But I love a good conversation.
If Thats "Starters" I Think Im Gonna Die Alone!
When I am alone
I face myself
A mirror I can't or don't want to beat.
Thank you my friend
MIKUU AT THE END
Hey umm, i have this problem with one of my best friends, basically we used to talk a lot before, but now she started talking to my other friend more and she’s starting to talk to me less and less and less, it seems like she is like drifting away from me. That’s my only fear, losing my friends, especially if it’s my best friend. Is there anything i should do?
My proudest moment is when I ate 300 pounds of dry wall in one sitting.
Most influential person in my life: Ayn Rand.
#2 wasn't a question. It started as a question, but led into a sentence.
Ty
These are all important things to talk about, but can they really be used to start a conversation with someone? I would need to know them well, and feel comfortable with them, before I started on topics like these.
Hi, I know this is completely unrelated,but can you make a video on spd?
Our Frank can open
Deep conversations
this is kinda funny how 2 hours ago i complained about lack of this type of convos, one and half hour later this pops out. world is fcked
1:54 ha ha im The grey guy.
can I have some help... I don't know if I like this person and I don't know if I want to... can anyone tell me how you know?
also I don't know if he likes me... but he knows I'm interested in being friends... anyway, his friends always say stuff to me like, "hey (my name(female)), (the kid) likes you"; "hey, m/ n, t/k wants to message u every night" and "t/k look, points at me its ur wifey" but in the few instances when I had to speak to him... he would just back away and be all shy. I later found out he has anxiety so I was in the process of getting acquainted with him but that just kinda.... FAILED. One of my friends asked him if he likes me and he shaked his head (as no) and ran away and a month ago his friend asked me if I liked him and I said I'm not allowed to date but I was trying to get him to be part of my band and that failed too.
This whole thing is way to complicated and I don't what I should do. He's a nice kid but he's closed off.... anyway, I've decided to be a little "mysterious" and play along with his friend's comments BUT CAN THE TRAINED GODS HELP ΜΕ ?????!!!!!!!
is it just me or did their voice and art style change throughout the channel
Almost didn't watch the video because I saw that odd Komi character on the thumbnail😂
Somebody get their boo
I like saying "what's the one thing in your life that changed you the most"
I LOVE KOMI CANT COMMUNICATE. RAHHH
W video as always, Psych2Go team! ^^
Chadano is whom I strive to be. I have a loooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
Does this work for friends who speak in video reels? Cuz i have a friend all they do is send videos online. They never like have meaningful conversations unless its me initiating
She's struggling to say vulnerability as much as me lol
*asks then deep question* “idk”