How To Never Get Angry - Anger Management For Everyone
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Do you want to know how to deal with anger? Do you want help with anger management? If so, you’re in the right place. This anger management video can really help.
Noah Elkrief
This video is about how to deal with anger, and is part of my anger management series. It may seem as though our anger is created by what others have done or said, but it’s really not. If someone did something and you didn’t know about it (couldn’t think about it), then you wouldn’t feel it. After someone committed an action, in any moment that you don’t think about it, you don’t feel anger.
How to deal with anger? How to approach anger management?
First, you have to recognize that your anger is created by your thoughts, and stop blaming your anger on others, and events.
How to deal with anger? How to approach anger management? The second thing to do is to look at whether you believe others' opinions about you. If you don't believe others' opinions about you, then your opinion of yourself won't worsen, and then you will have nothing to defend.
I hope you find this video of anger management techniques to bee helpful in showing you how to deal with anger.
I have been struggling with anger my entire life and I have done a lot of regrettable things because of it. I'm desperately searching for peace and I'm a step closer to it with these videos
Sister I'm the same I hope you are victorious if not hold the faith x
You may want to read about borderline personality disorder as well
@@annrichards9512 No .Don't do that if you aren't a doctor.
Same.
@@zechariyahgodschild7258 you are a champion for that. Good on you.
Ok I'm just a 12 year old kid who gets bullyed a lot and let me tell you I really feel great about myself after watching this video I really appreciate it thank you
are you 16 now ?
okay kid, you have got to learn to stand up for yourself. Start small, take small challenges...and then move on to flat out telling people to take their bullshit elsewhere. Its not an easy journey but when you make it, you're gonna feel so much great about yourself.
👍👏✋
Take pleasure in knowing that bullies are weak people who will grow up to have a miserable life. I was bullied 30 years ago and those people are losers now while I'm having a dream life. Don't despair.
Gg I’m 11 and I get bullied too
I need to make a change. I don't like the angry me
amen brother
God I'm only 13 and I can't handle my anger anymore I'm so pissed even my family says I'm always angry and I just scream and shout I need to change that
Never hate part of yourself unless you want to develop self-loathing issues or dissociative disorders.
Aiming to never get angry is a recipe for disappointment. It's part of the human experience and our biological makeup. Learning to be in charge of your anger is more important. Let anger be your friend, not your master.
If you try to deny/suppress it, it will eventually become your master and you will have utterly failed.
noni 7 same I after watching this I found out what I'm doing wrong and who I am
Carlos Tobar I also need to change
Noah just saved me from spending my first night in jail. Thanks Noah :)
We are happy for you
jail is a goo d experience. can get street cred lol make you safer in the long run.
nope, jail is for the birds. Don't ever want to be inside a jail cell ever. and I was born and raised in the hood lol, fuck street cred
JAYBIRD75961 It sucks but you will hear funny stories. not all criminal in jails are bad. just some misguided souls.
same here hahaha
I hate to be angry. I
want to be happy
Your anger at your anger is circular. Accept that sometimes anger arises, this is normal. It's how we respond and what we do with those feelings that arise where we have the power to choose. And as this video lays out. A lot of those feelings arise due to trying to defend an imaginary self image against opinions that do not matter.
Go forth with peace and love in your heart and know that you are not alone x
Hay I resonate with your anger, for a while i got to know that I'm mad at anything that is disturbing my peace, after getting this awareness, I understood that I have to start with this madness, to accept it and to agree to live in peace although I have madness sometimes, I had to start somewhere, I still have a long way to go but I start to see the light at the end of the tunnel, peace and love
@@saracenrush2010 Those who never get angry are either lying or are crazy.
gray flannels Or better yet are just Flat Out Delusional COWARDS!!!.
we never get taught to question the validity of others opinions, what a fab lesson
This is what I'm telling my kids, when I'll have them.
Hi Noah, I have been haunted for years with my mother's and others opinion about me. And I was desperately trying to convince myself that I am worthy,lovable,etc. Been through lots of loss and separation, therapy, spiritual retreits, workshops of emotional intelligence, self help books, you name it. After watching this I feel free, relieved, at peace. I will work hard to make this last. Thank you so, so much.
i came here because I was angry and now I dont know who I am anymore.
Thank You Noah X))))
"your anger is a cover-up for feeling powerless" - I will wait for the video on the topic too.
Noah,
I have struggle with my temper and anger since I was a child. I started by using my anger to make people afraid of me so that they would not pick on or tease me. Each time we moved to a new school I would end up in a fist fight to establish that I was not to me messed with. As time went on, I assumed this tactic worked because people "respected" when actually they "feared" me. I thought that my anger controlled how others acted towards me. Subconsciously I continued using similar tactics throughout my adult life. As expected, this has not only gotten me in many, many troublesome situations, but has caused me and people I loved a great deal of pain. I have spoke with a few different consolers and therapist, but never truly understood these feelings. I assumed the anger came a abused child that lacked a father, but never knew why I still reacted to stress with a quick explosion.
I am deeply grateful for the videos you made. You knowledge and ability to share it at a simple level has opened my mind. You have given me some tools to start working on myself and stop blaming others. These by far are the best, most informative video's I have ever watched. Thank you, AGAIN.. Jr
oh my god !!! Believe Me if you hear him clearly n understand what he says you are gonna live the best of your life......
I have literally changed myself..I was in suffering..anger..depression and when I met Noah on TH-cam listening to him ...I realized what I have been doing...I literally use to break myself in anger,cry ,hurt myself. I use to think I'm a loser..worthless for what ever I faced...
but there is nothing called loser or winner ..." I'm me tats all matters in life..."
N now I'm at my peace..I have no anger anymore....I just smile when someone criticize me..N I feel sorry for them tat they didn't actually realize who they are instead criticizing others...
Noah You made my life have a positive turning point...n may be for most of them suffering out there...
Thank you so much for your videos..
I recommend people to watch this video if you want to get rid of suffering , negativity n Anger.. It's worth watching.!!👍👍👍👍
I like the comment you wrote, I think it is so sweet.
You still feel fabulous if you are being bullied all day by others? I understand his message, but I dont enjoy being bullied by people.
By the way... I am happy to hear it works so well for you. Thats awesome!
This man is an absolute genius.
no,he isn't
That’s your opinion. ;)
Fully agree
@@psiheia1 why do you say that?
I have really been lost lately. Depressed, anxious, angry, barely hanging on. I am very grateful that i found this today. i have spent my evening watching your videos and feel better. Thank you so much for your dedication to helping people! :)
I have been insecure, angry and in victim mode since I can remember and your videos are extremely helpful to try to shift this old thinking of mine. Thank you for putting these videos out there for the world.
This now makes me understand why Jesus never defended himself against accusations. He didn't believe them, therefore no reason to defend against it.
Religion is a lie
Whatever YOU say , must be true. Hahahaha
AJ Steele I don't know what that means but I'm just trollin man. Do whatever makes ye happy
AJ Steele DABING IS _______
BreeBae Animations weird
it takes the weight off my shoulders, witch was just an imaginary weight, thank you Noah!
I envy your calmness... Why can't I be like this? I'm so depressive and bad-tempered... I hate it because I've hurt people I love. I don't know what to do :(
Edit: I actually made it to the end. I felt so relieved. I found coherence and eloquence in your words. Your voice is also so soft and soothing... Thank you very very much. I'm glad I found this video, I really appreciate that you took so much time to structure all the context and really explain with patience the point you wanted to make. I feel so much better now, thank you very much.
there was an ad before this video and i got very mad
Loll
Lol. I know right
Seeing the length of this video got me angry
Yifang Lai me too
I was going to post the same thing.
I kNOW God created me in His image, therefore I am worthy. I KNOW I make mistakes and fall short just like everyone else. So grateful that I have a savior that gave His life for me and rose again giving me freedom to be who I am. Thank you Lord. Thank you Noah for some excellent insights.
Lol
Yeah, anger is my emotion coming from my own reactions towards external events. Since It's matter of my perception, no point to expect external things to fix my internal emotions. This video is a sort of medicine for my tempers. Thank you Noah :)
One of your first examples was your boss thinking you're bad at your job. It's significant that that was one of your first examples, because it shows quite clearly where your model breaks down:
I believe that I'm good at my job. That's just a belief - it isn't real, it only exists in my mind.
My boss believes that I'm bad at my job. That's just a belief - it isn't real, it only exists in their mind.
I received a paycheck last week. It's real, the money and the things I exchange that money for are real and tangible.
If my boss continues to believe that I'm bad at my job, I'm not going to have a roof over my head next month.
Unless you're somehow entirely self-sufficient, yes you do need external validation - not for your self-worth, because self-worth isn't a need, but because external validation is how you get money, and money is how you get things like food, and heat to cook that food.
The problem with saying that opinions aren't real is that opinions inform behaviors, and behaviors have real consequences.
and that opinions are real and that its good to listen to other peoples opinions. we are often the worst estimators of ourselves.. why should we ignore everyones opinions. crazy
I don't like to think of myself as an angry person so when someone touches that part of me through an action or comment I do find myself trying desperately to defend myself and change their mind. If that doesn't work and they still have a bad opinion of me I do get angry and criticize them. I could never figure out why I work this way but you've explained this process clearly and I'm relieved to finally understand what's going on. It's going to take time but I hope to keep this realization in mind so I can be happy instead of entering the same old struggle that leaves me sad and confused. Thanks, Noah!
You have a really nice temperament and voice for this kind of thing :) Thanks so much for sharing this with us.
Yea! I believe our voice tone is our bodies tuner besides changing our thoughts and actions
I just want to say to those who are watching. You are worth it. If someone doesn't see your worth or have their own negative opinion about you or of something you did, don't waste your time trying to convince them otherwise. It's their lost, let them keep their sorted, negative opinion of you. Even if it's someone you admire or look up too. If anything, it should open your eyes to who that person really is and distance yourself because you are better than their thoughts of you.
Mz Nurú thanks. it helped me
This made me soo calm. Thank you. It really helped. I think now I am much better at anger management, but to be sure I need to practice it
Lol thanks please let me know when you get the info
Some times anger fills me with a lot of energy. I do feel that such energy is negative, but still... power is power.
What your feeling is a false sense of empowerment. You can be assertive and powerful without being angry. Anger is destructive.
Juli-Yashka Best feeling ever! In terms of amount of energy!
Solutionist ' the blast of energy you get may also arise from a blast of hormones: adrenaline and cortisol - it’s a physiological response to what you are thinking and feeling.
thanks bruh, this helped. I was having a mental breakdown and then I stumbled across your video. And it calmed me tf down. Thanks a lot, u the best.
This is an outstanding and insightful presentation of your overall thesis, I would like to broaden the scope from only anger (which comes from other/external) to include depression (which is self/internally focused) . That concept I understand began with Freud who hypothesized that "depression is anger turned inward". Thank you for your insights as expressed in this and other videos Noah as well as your book, they have helped me come closer to finding peace and happiness ☺
Wow, the last 10 minutes were a complete "aha" moment for me and tied everything together amazingly. Great, great lesson. Definitely worth the watch, thank you thank you!! I have always been trying to define myself as a "good" person and a "kind" person. Now I can have peace in being here, now, in reality. I can just be me.
Great video!
Thank you Noah, When I feel neglected or rejected it really plunges me into a deep depression, anger, and profound sadness. Your video really revealed to me why this happens. I feel better. I really appreciate you.
You're so welcome!
thank you
just your calm voice made me calmer
You're welcome John
Me too. I believe our voice tone is our bodies tuner besides changing our thoughts and actions
I'm not sure how my anger relates to this. I tend to get angry when I'm asked to do one thing, but I believe a different thing is what I should be doing. It has nothing to do with whether I'm being insulted or not. Sometimes, it is absolute; like arguing whether 1 + 1 = 2 or not. There's a right answer and I become angry when I'm told that's not the right answer. I get angry or stressed that they are not listening to me.
Thank you so much, Noah! These videos are amazing and they have helped me so much! You have a light coming from within you that is not of this world! Praising God for sending us an angel like you to spread the message of peace and wellbeing! I shared your videos on my Facebook so that others could benefit. Thank you!!!!
Though pretty long, it did enlighten and help me gain a better awareness of myself and my reactions to situations. When dealing on the topic of anger management, I was in much appreciation of the tone of your voice and the unhurried way in which you tried to get your message across. I found it constructive and healing. Many thanks. 🙏
What if the sources of my anger are inanimate objects, people being negative about someone I admire and idiots being cruel to folks who are not me?
what i understand after watching this video is that we are not out emotions . we can't judge people if they did something bad to us ,instead we have to ask ourselves : would the opposite be true ? were they raised in a bad environment so that's why their actions became that way? etc
and when he said that we are not good nor bad .we are just here, he meant that those are just believes and they are changeable . Any thought could pop in your minds but it is not necessarily true. some people think that they are totally great and they get angry whenever that get criticized .
no body is perfect we all have good and bad qualities in our life we have times they we feel helpless, unlovable ,and isolated but that doesn't mean we are always that unless we believe it and totally hold it in our mind.
All we had to do is not hold a believe and argue about it whenever we get criticized like if you think that you're attractive and you have references ,well that's okay but you are deluding yourself, you will suffer a lot because if someone ignored you and broke up with you , you will feel unlovable and unsettled..
But if you don't believe that you attractive nor unattractive then you could live serenely. .
And if someone told you that you are stupid because you did something wrong that's doesn't actually means you are stupid . it just means that you had a little information or experience about what you did and you can gain that knowledge from trying and learning .
thank you Noah for doing that video for us.
This really helped a lot! I listened to the whole thing. I feel like I was in a therapy session with a very genuine, kind person. thank you so much for doing this. I've felt stuck with anger for my entire life (32 years) because my father was a very angry person. now I have 4 children of my own and I very seriously do not want to pass it on to them and hurt them. I know I need to get help but I just don't have the money right now. but your videos are a very good start.!!!
Again with the crying, its just a releasing the grasp I've had on the OLD Belief Systems.
Thanks to all your energy given towards helping others, may you be blessed.
just watched this start to finish. I think it will change my life if I can apply it. wow. thanks.
I still come back to this every month. great lecture.
Back for another listen
Again
I've already accepted that I'm angry and live with it everyday.
with a face like that I cant blame you
I had a question, how do you get the angry person to watch this video
Well...You just changed my life..
I was really lucky....about a year ago When my life was filled with suffering...anger...loneliness..disappointment....I found your channel.....You changed my view....now I'm a totally different person.....
I want to thank you for sharing and showing the truth....I'm glad that your words are part of my life now.....
Thank you so much..
So i have one question, i have been able to get rid of my anger on almost every occasion but, when i play video games its different. If someone beats me at a race/kills me i get angry at them, and continue to rage and shout when i get killed/beat.
i know the answer to this is easy but i cant discover it for myself so do you have any suggestions? :P
+ScottishSwallow You are avoiding feeling helpless or worthless. In the moment, that you get angry, stop and ask yourself, "How does this make me feel about myself?" Then say to yourself in a very soft/sad way "I feel completely helpless/worthless" and see if it makes you feel those feelings. Then once you feel that, let yourself completely feel it, or see that it doesn't matter. I will be sharing a lot of new videos soon, and this will be covered.
+Noah Elkrief Ok thanks!
+ScottishSwallow Hahahaha somebody is trying to rank up :P
+Noah Elkrief Just get better at it (dont get beat / killed) and you be just fine;-)
+ScottishSwallow When somebody beats you they are saying "I'm better than you, you're bad" and all that. Then u ask am i bad? Then u say no i just won all those races/kills. Then you say I'm bad to some and good to some.
I used your videos to let go of some beliefs I had about myself. One of them is that I am "good at my job". I understood that it put a lot of pressure on me and i didnt give up until i was free of that belief.
I noticed that I had to really "work" on beliefs until they are gone. It is not half an hour work. Usually takes few days, even one week. Why is so hard to let them go? maybe I have
the belief "it is hard to let go of beliefs"?
So, thank you one more time.
What about new videos? you promised it one year ago.
This is another in an excellent series of videos by Noah Elkrief which may prove quite helpful for people suffering from anger problems. One should listen to the video several time, take notes, and make sure one understands. Then it's a matter of putting the understanding into practice.
Dr. Thomas Giles, Director
Westside Behavioral Care, Inc.
Denver, Colorado
Westside Behavioral Care, Inc. I find it to be complete nonsense
Noah. I love how you simplify things. Please keep doing what you are doing. You have changed my life.
I feel like I have two different persons living inside of me. the nice one and the angry one. I don't get along with others
Never get angry? Never get out control you mean👍 Anger is a natural feeling, don't supress, learn how to be assertive 🙏
this moment when u tab out of league of legends and search for this video xD ^^
Call of Duty for me
dirty bomb for me...
That is what i did XD
CS:GO for me
bf4!
You make alot of sense but when so many ppl feel the same negetive way about me, its hard not to believe.
Hi Noah. I want to say that your videos contain some of the most helpful advice I've ever come across. However, I have a question. You say that the only way to get angry or upset over a negative comment directed at you, is if you believe it. But I ran into a situation a while back where some coworkers were spreading a rumor about me. I knew the rumor wasn't true, but even though I knew what they were saying about me wasn't true, I still got very angry. The idea of someone having a negative opinion of me, even if I know it's false, still upsets me. Why is this?
+Cory Smith You're believing that if they believe something negative about you, they must view you as negative. And if they view you as negative, you must be negative.
+Noah Elkrief That makes sense. Thanks!
+Cory Smith There's another possible explanation. You may be getting angry because you believe that the rumor can hurt your reputation, which, in turn, will reduce your opportunities to get what you want. And that CAN, indeed, be so. Rumors CAN do that.
+humanyoda Good point but there is no good or bad right ? Hence your predicting the future.
Not necessarily. You might not believe something is negative but you know that if you rumours spread others might believe them and your reputation ruined. So how should one deal with those who spread rumours. Ignoring them would avoid conflict but is that a solution?
best book I ever read about anger is "how to overcome anger and frustration". the book has been around for decades and it's an excellent book I highly recommended.
Hola Noah,
Interesting video, though "interesting" is just my "illusionary" opinion, he he he!
This is the first video I watch from you, and though it is a bit long, I found it worth watching.
I think your logic of questioning other people's opinions (negative or positive) or criticism (negative) first, instead of right away giving them power to affect us and react to this is something that many therapists or psychologists in general recommend, not only in terms of anger, but also in terms of self-esteem.
But I tend to "cheat" about this reasoning, as I tend to be an optimist and prefer to focus only on the positive stuff in life. So I have no problem accepting the good stuff people tell me or think of me. I try to ignore the bad stuff, but of course it is not always easy. :)
But what I am actually not sure of, after watching your video, is how your reasoning applies to the area of emotions. That is, if we do not let other people's "feedback", whether good or bad, affect us, how do you handle things like love, solidarity, kindness, etc., which are closely related to mutual "feedback"?
Cheers,
Ivette
I'm curious about Noah's answer to that
ivecloptv he's talking more of your self image, the "self", the "you", your ego and how praise or insult both mean nothing about "you." The real you.
So it's ok to "be" kind, caring, loving, helpful, nice, funny, etc and feeling and expressing those feelings associated with those without believing that you are them or they are or anyone is "a Caring, a loving, a lovable, a good, a kind or a whatever person"
these are a different type of pleasure. It's more about "you" than them. Just being nice, good, kind, whatever just to convince/believe that "you're" a "good, nice or whatever" person rather than doing it for them. Its more selfish
If someone is getting angry at me, I don't respond to anger. I'm usually aloof, but when someone is annoying me or pushing me around I act cocky and sarcastic. If someone is bugging me I copy there voices and do imitations of them to their faces, they would back down.
I understand now. I shouldnt be angry at anything because we are all just existing. We have opinions but those opinions stem from the people around us and are not the truth because no one knows the truth. We just created a "false truth" that says how we are supposed to be when really no one knows what is bad or good because no one on earth can create the standard for those things. No one is above anyone else because we are all just living. We are all the same. (EX: if I have "grammar mistakes" in your opinion, it is not that I actually have grammar mistakes. Who created the standard for grammar mistakes? A human being. Why is that human being above everyone else, and get to tell others what they are doing is wrong? That human is not better. Everyone is on the same level, yet we put others on higher level based on our opinion. Just because you think I'm not writing correctly, doesn't mean I'm not writing corectly. 😝)
lol I have the same thought about how some complex words are pronounced. I'm a bit shocked about how alot of people will go out of their way to persuade you to say certain words traditionally to fit the mainstream communication. The same goes for fashion, ha!
I love this advice i will not get upset so easy again
I think this video is good. Does it mean it's good? No, there are people who thinks it's bad... LOL
+JUAN SINAAAAAAAAAAA It's ok. There isn't a one size fits all method. If it helps you, great!
there's no way to stop my anger when I'm angry I can't be stopped. I literally just
It is REALLY hard to be happy when your so call "friends" are always picking on you...........
KKSniper138 get new friends
One month of perpetual anger just got lifted off my shoulders. Thank you.
Hey Noah can you make a video about how to break free from a addiction, or just the topic of addictions in general and how to handle them.
ExplodingTrujillo Yes, I will
ExplodingTrujillo just believe in your self if you have an addiction try practicing with out using what ever substance your using that's how I stopped drinking and smoking I have over ten years with out smoking weed and 9 months with out drinking
Why am I only learning these things now, at age 25 after having anger for my whole life basically, when these simple life hacks and way of thinking could have helped me as a young girl? I am very grateful and especially cause I can use these explanation to answer life's difficult and crazy questions to my own kids, because jealousy and anger, anxiety and frustration are so destructive. Thank you so much for posting them!
-Faith
Hi Noah,
I've been watching your anger videos for a while now, and I need help, like serious help.
So my problem is gaming, I take it far too seriously and when something doesn't go my way, I break something, like my television, remote, etc. It starts to have chain effects, I need to repair it, which costs money, my parents get angry at me, I have suicidal thoughts, I need help.
Thanks.
Brad M Hey Brad, your anger is a cover-up for feeling powerless. I will make a video about that in the next couple of months.
Brad M The same of my bf..when he is angry or we have an argument, he wants always to win, it is like a child game for him, if he cannot he break things if he cannot break ppl...lol Take care and please be strong. Many people have problems, maybe everybody, don't think of suicide, your life is precious for many people! Watch all the videos of Noah, they are helping me a lot too..and his book is also very very helpful! have a nice day!
Brad M Hi,
This sounds pretty serious in my opinion. Having suicidal thoughts is not a good thing. Its VERY good that you understand your issue and want to fix it. It means you're already half way there! :) It is also very good that you realize your behaviour is hurting other people and yourself! This is a wonderful first step in achieving peace and clarity, and solving your problems.
Gaming might seem like a problem but perhaps it is not the game that is causing the anger, but what the game represents. Think about what it means for you to lose or for things to not go the right way? Have you felt this way in other situations outside of gaming? I can bet that you have.
So perhaps the issue here is not so much gaming as self esteem? Perhaps you need to learn to feel better about yourself, to not put yourself down and to not let anything or anyone else put you down either. Dig deeper and try to find out what can really be causing the anger. Do you feel bad about yourself when things don't go your way? Perhaps there is an answer hidden somewhere beyond gaming?
I don't know if this helped, but hang in there and keep trying to overcome this! Because you can!
I am and have been angry for a long time. Ever since my Mother and sister died, nearly 18 years ago, my first born baby was only 2 weeks old and I felt as if life was cheating on me.Last January I lost my dad and I have no one left of my family, I got even more angry. You have now made me see that actually those events have nothing to do with whom I am, I am still the same and death is part of life. Off course it is so much more complicated but for now this thought is really helpfull to me, so THANK YOU! My sadness/anger feels lighter already.
You're welcome Nicci. Best of luck moving forward!
what if i get angry because i think people are stupid? i know that isn't true! but i can't help it! i just can't stand certain people that i have to be every day with and everything they do or say i think it's stupid and it makes angry that i have to cope with that ¬¬ what do i do? :/
Same that's what happens with me
me 3 society if you let it can work your nerves.
Just trying to apply what I understood from Noah, it should make no difference if they think they are right or wrong. When we hear someone vocalizing their opinion then we accept That that is their opinion and a glimpse at what they are imagining...
Any insights Noah?
That's anger from believing "I am more intelligent". You are not more intelligent or
less intelligent. Don't defending it with anger. Those are just opinions not facts. If someone called you human would that make you angry? No, It's a fact. You are just here on Earth, living life.
Julieta Pusino you believe "you're better, good, smart etc" than them therefore they're "worst, bad, stupid etc" so you pick on them, judge them, whatever, to boost your self image("you"), your beliefs that you are "good, better, whatever"
Hey Noah x. I just finished watching ' how to never get angry',. Thank you! I'm not going to complement you because its only my opinion! You are you & I am me! We are. Just thank you xxxx
This guy doesn't play Overwatch Rank
You're right :)
Noah Elkrief I found your channel about 5 months ago and it has been a tremendous help to myself and my family. Will you be making more videos in the future on this channel? If not, are you currently releasing new videos like these on another channel? Thank you for your teachings!
My partner and I have gone through a hard patch recently, resulting in a seperation; it feels like I've had a hole ripped in my heart, only made worse because we have children together and i won't be able to see them; I have to work away. With a lot of sole searching i've come to the realisation that I have a problem with my anger; she also has her own issues to work through. I planned on seeing someone wherever I ended up.
I can't thank you enough Noah, your words have resonated with me, it's like you've shone a light and let me see how i've been and how others must have perceived me. I have a long way to go, but I'm glad it was your kind, calm words and tools that have started me on my journey.
Noah, this is simply profound!!! 😀 Thank yoy so much for this incredible video. I can finally breathe!!!
Really enjoyed your video. It works very well. I have been dealing with anger issues my whole life and most doctors would diagnose me with IED. Your words did wonders for me. Thank you. Be well and may peace be with you.
Anybody watching at 1.25 or 1.50 speed? hilarious..
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i was in a hurry so i decided to watch it fforwarded :) NHF
I love how he breaks this down. Makes it really easy to follow and jot down notes. Really gets this process of thinking into my head.
this helps so much I appreciate all your videos your such an inspiration for me thank you so much:)
When I first watched this video I thought, "Does this mean it would be better not to compliment people (in the same way that we shouldn't criticise), so that we don't contribute to the process of external validation?" But then I realised we can change our language to be congruent with our experience by exposing our own subjectivity. For example, instead of saying "Noah is amazing at making TH-cam videos," we could say "I really enjoyed this video." Thoughts?
I don't agree with the part that you must believe the negative gossip people might say about you, because even if you know it's not the truth and you don't believe it, but if the rumor is bad enogh where it can ruin your reputation and relationships than of course you will get mad and upset it's human nature that doesn't mean you believe it's the truth about yourself! You need to correct that part! Ths rest is good!
I don't think I've ever left a TH-cam comment. But I have to say this video is extremely helpful and came at the right time for me. It will take practice to change my thought patterns but when something is so simple and explained so well, it resonates and it has an impact. Thank You Noah.
You're crazy (in a good way)......
Lately I’ve been angry at myself for having health anxiety, for overthinking, for constantly comparing my story to everyone else’s, for making every feeling catastrophic.
This video pissed me off
Sorry
Noah Elkrief aww it's Ok
Austin Biro on me it do
Lol lol
Austin Biro omg his voice did as soon as it started.
noah, i have watch this video 3 times in three days each time i have watched it i heard something difrent. it gets better for me each time i watch it. i have written down a lot of what you said and using it to help me threw a divorce. the thoughts i have had since the start of the divorce and the thought i am forcing my self to have now have changed greatly just in those days. personally i think that sounds really strange but when i think about it. the thought of starting a new path makes me happy and becoming happy is a large goal of mine. a lot of your other material is helping me to understand i was never happy and helping me. addressing those things also is becoming a happy experience
thank you so much for putting this on youtube,
It makes me angry that you talk so slowly
Lol I actually thought something similar
cj07722 cuz you believe "you're" "powerless, weak or whatever" that your not able to control it/stop it
Your funny
Jeje lol
You can change the speed to make it slightly fasted !! Thats what i did bcz hes so slow
Hi Noah, Thank you so much for this amazing video. Just wanted to share about what I'm experiencing right now. In the society that I'm living in, plus size people always been objectified as slow, stupid or lazy. So when I'm growing up, I always need to work harder and faster to prove them wrong but at the same time I always feel bad about my achievements even though people think that I did great in everything and they always think I have everything I need in life but they did not see the struggles I've been through to get to where I am now. So as I maturing into adulthood, i managed to control my anger much more better but I always had problems to control my anger when working with other people because to me when I need to work with others, their performance will affect my performance too. If they are slow at their job, then my progress will be slow too. And this makes me feel so worried and anxious if people will say because I'm plus size so that I am slow, stupid and lazy. So I tend to get angry with my team mates. Do you have any tips to deal with this thinking or problem? Thank you so much.
It seems that you are still concerned about the opinion of others. You are defending it with anger. There opinion is not reality or a fact. Proof is some may find you a good worker while others may not. Neither is correct because you are neither "good" nor "bad" at what you do. Rather you are just here, living life.
Hi Ridhuam, you need to discover that your appearance and work performance means nothing about who you are.
I get mad at stupid people and I've had to push it down or else I would blow up
Chrisanna Fabela what is really a stupid person.?
I think that is just wrong.
Im trying to help my boyfriend of 6 years with his anger management. It's very difficult to be around him when he's hot headed. He is unable to control himself and gets verbally abusive. This has been an issue for most of our relationship. I'm very hurt by his behavior and try very hard with different techniques to help him. His behavior effects me and makes me feel very depressed. It keeps me up at night and stresses me out to a point where it affects my personal life. (School, family relations, work, etc.) I'll be showing him these videos and hope he takes it seriously because of coarse he doesn't think he has a problem. Wish me luck!
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You got me with the imagination exercise. Which is better? None of them because they are in the imagination. They don’t exist in reality.
Genius!!!
“Just be you the way you are. Nothing to protect. Nothing to worry. Nothing to fight about.” Love this!
Thank you very much Noah!
ain't nobody got time to watch a 1h video
Ziyed B true
You would rather use up all your time in life, the months, years, the decades in suffering than watch an hour video that can completely change your shit life right now
I hope that this helps me to stop hitting or fighting people once they comment about me
I need to learn how to not get heated when the trolls on the internet start name calling safely behind the anonymity of the internet. I prefer people who say on the internet the same thing they would say if they were in front of you. In the real world I don't have any issues.
Thank You Noah Elkrief! Priceless Words! I don’t know how you have done this but it has certainly made a huge positive difference!
im 67 and just learning this stuff? this is very helpful to my marriage , thank you
I’m here because i need to change my life. Starting today i am new and refined
Anyone looking for validity in the comments section- it works wonders. Never thought anyone could ever teach me anything or calm me down but this video did.
Writing this to let myself acknowledge that now I will not be affected by anyone’s opinion.
I find myself trying to change people's negative opinion of me and get angry and frustrated when I can't instead of realizing that I don't have the power to change anything in other people's minds
i watch it for 3 hours, whenever there is some part that i didn't understand i am returning it back, now i know how to never get angry, i will watch this once a week so that i wud refresh the ideas every time for my daily life... correct i just want to live in the moment and be happy... thank you sooo much noah elkrief... thumbs up to you (Y)
Self confidence is not setting yourself up for failure it is embracing failure and seeing past it.
Thank you for this video Noah. It makes a lot of sense and I need to watch it again. Can I ask for your help? I'm chronically angry at my family for not helping me with my handicapped mother. They all say she doesn't need help and I'm stuck taking care of her full time. I've lost several jobs trying to take care of her. How do I not get angry? They are saying she doesn't need help when she does. She will not acknowledge that she needs help because she is too proud, but she confides in me that she does. And I need them to participate, but they won't. I don't know how to stop getting angry about this. Thank you.
crepella4 Get help from Community/Social Services/and/or any Church that has a Ministry for disabled/aged, etc.
Pride is a SIN. You are enabling dysfunction, of her and the other family members are letting you be USED UP... I do understand loving and helping your mother, that is right. GOD BLESS YOU But you are being CONSUMED. (I have been in your shoes.) If you DIED what would SHE "do?" Just imagine...get the help your local services offers. Take care... (of you-too.)
Yes, this video helped me to organize my thoughts. When I am feeling angry, my thinking becomes unorganized. After watching this video, I can now ask myself questions about what has made me angry, what am I trying to defend, is what they are saying true, why is the situation hurting my feelings (?). These questions will help me to find organization in my thinking vs. sulking and being depressed.
All anger is based on violated expectations. So, I adjusted my expectations to reduce my anger. So now I do NOT EXPECT myself or others to always be what WE 'should' be. Of course we make mistakes, we even do bad things. We can maturely deal with reality with less angry motivation. Good book: Taking the War Out of Our Words.
Hello, I've been having a really tough time. I went through a long period of depression back to back after having my two children. I've beem trying to remove stress from my life and I've discovered in place of saddness I'm an extremely angry and an explosive person 'right now'...
Anyway, your videos have helped me find clairty. Anger coping mechanisms weren't helping me because I forgot to breathe in the heat of the moment, so really what I needed to do was adress my anger and stop getting angry all together. Its A LOT harder than it seemed at first but it IS working.
What I want to ask is... a lot of what I do, like buying my kids toys for example, feels like a way of improving myself. Example- I went shopping to get them toys to make them happy and if they are happy that means I'm a good mom. Why do nice things if it's just to reassure myself that I'm good? How can I let go and just do GOOD. Especially, as a religious person I strive to be GOOD. Will it work if I say I'm not bad... I'm not good... I'm just being bad/good right now? Is this the mindset I should have? That it's not a permanent fixture of MYSELF? I'm struggling and have a lot of mom guilt and it's hard to 'dispell' that idea of myself so I can let go of anger like you instructed in the video. I usually get angry because I feel powerless and like my job/mother work balance is off so I have to make up for both.
Sorry for the long-winded comment.
u dont need to buy them so much toys u need to be there for them if they need u