What The Narcissist Fears Most After Discarding You

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  • @smugglednews7453
    @smugglednews7453 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +38

    Great episode brother!!! You are the FIRST of the narcissism commentators to discus Almighty God. This burgeoning vlogosphere is notorious for nearly never mentioning a higher power (God) that cares about the narcissistic victim and the narcissist. Thanks. Its like a vast wasteland of victims trying to figure out how to get even or get a leg up on a narcissist. You'd think the narcissists were reptiles and the crushed supply siders getting hurt were soulless drones scampering about for a crumb of wisdom.

  • @heavenslight3730
    @heavenslight3730 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +111

    So painful to think that you love them but in return they used you😔😢😭

    • @robynholliday4794
      @robynholliday4794 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Yes 2 of my adult daughters have discarded me…

    • @deannamartinez7233
      @deannamartinez7233 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ⁠​⁠@@robynholliday4794 Keep Praying for them❤
      Acts 26:18 KJV🙌❤️✝️

    • @jdubbya348
      @jdubbya348 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      All my narc wanted from me was a child. Now she's gone and I've never met my child (pretty sure she just turned one in the last few days). They don't care about anyone, even a daughter and her father.

    • @christinacouncill8037
      @christinacouncill8037 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      😢

    • @tracybirden4503
      @tracybirden4503 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I take it as I did charity work, it makes me feel better.😊 Thanks Dave!🎉🎉🎉

  • @ExecutiveProtection51
    @ExecutiveProtection51 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +43

    Even after a devastating destructive discard they have the audacity to ask if they can 'still be friends.' When our answer is no and followed by no contact, they will still pop up three years later acting as if nothing happened. They will ACT like the same person that they ACTED like when we initially met them. Such good actors!! But the most devastating discard a person may experience is what I call the 'reverse discard'. This is when the narcissist really wants the discard/divorce, but they want us to initiate it so that they can head out playing the victim. It's sickening!!

    • @Healinglove
      @Healinglove 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      "Friend's " 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @mayday802
      @mayday802 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      I got the "friends" and "olive branch" hooks as well. I got the brutal discards, post-discard hoover and triangulation attempt w/new supply. I recently got abruptly ghosted after rejecting a love bomb, benching, and he got the reverse discard tripping my anger. All boxes checked. God revealed it all and the bond bridge blown to smithereens. Amen!

    • @doranvee5944
      @doranvee5944 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I told her I wasn't going to be a Bruce Willis, along side of Demi and Ashton.
      Sick thought of being "friends" She even said she wanted me to meet her lover and thought we could be friends. Makes me want to vomit.

    • @doranvee5944
      @doranvee5944 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ​@mayday802 You said it all. I had the same from her. And yes I got angry, and self destructed. I wonder if I will ever recover

    • @ExecutiveProtection51
      @ExecutiveProtection51 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes, you WILL recover! The LORD rescued you and delivered you and HE will now protect you as HE Heals you! Your process of complete healing and recovery may take some time, but it has begun. The LORD Jesus Christ is there with you in the good days and the days of struggle. This is the time in your life when you must lean on HIM and trust HIM. Do not give into any thoughts of self-harm. I'm praying for you!! @@doranvee5944

  • @Thunder-lightning852
    @Thunder-lightning852 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    The problem with believing that you have been lied to, and brainwashed is the fact that you have been lied to, and brainwashed married to a narcissist, for 27 years took me eight months to realize this after I was discarded

  • @livinggood6876
    @livinggood6876 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    Whatever we go through after the breakup is worth it to get away from this evil.

    • @deksper
      @deksper 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      John 10:10The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I have come that they may have life, and have it in all its fullness.

  • @debbierockz1
    @debbierockz1 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

    I guess when there’s red flags and you know in your heart who that person is..but choose to see past it all you will pay the price.

    • @michaelmorgan7893
      @michaelmorgan7893 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      That's why, even though I'm disabled, and often rejected as anyone's choice for a "valid life partner", I quit exposing my emotional weaknesses to the first person who just happens by now, not out of fear, but out of knowledge they are like a turkey buzzard circling around looking for another weak person to "pick to pieces" until I have nothing left for even myself, while they're onto the next supply.
      I had to learn at great expense to not just simply "give the benefit of the doubt" to just everyone. Even if enough time has passed when I think I can earn their trust. You're right: it's a fatal mistake we make in doing so.

    • @Intelligencetaskforce
      @Intelligencetaskforce 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      It's not our fault for being mistreated. It's our fault continuing to be mistreated.

    • @lenihassveasphaug9634
      @lenihassveasphaug9634 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thats true, i did. At Grest cost. Tho Jesus is my Lord,. The only one i have in my life id Jesus.

  • @jesusitrustinyou6900
    @jesusitrustinyou6900 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    117 days today since I DISCARDED HIM.

    • @ingeborgwisseborn6928
      @ingeborgwisseborn6928 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Why do you count the days? Is it so hard to forget? So sorry!

    • @TammyLeeNicholls
      @TammyLeeNicholls 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      How are you going now I'm at 3 months

    • @freezyrachel5974
      @freezyrachel5974 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      126 days since I discarded my abusive ex narc. I am feeling better each day. I am gaining my sense of self back. It was 7 months of dating him and it was a hell of a ride.

  • @bethhull1132
    @bethhull1132 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    ONE of the things I love about you Dave, is that you re-married, found true happiness, that you deserve, but you still make videos on this subject to help those of us who are still hurting and confused. Thank you for that.

  • @vacationeyes6430
    @vacationeyes6430 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

    Their biggest fear is you will be happier without them 😂 So enjoy their absence. It will kill their ego.

    • @doranvee5944
      @doranvee5944 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Great mindset. I will try to approach life from a hopeful and adventurous perspective.

    • @Judysbayoubostons
      @Judysbayoubostons 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You are absolutely right! Some of them can't chance it. What if they hoover us and we don't respond? What if we are now living our best lives ever?!!! That would be devastating to them. Their egos feed off the misery of their victims but once we heal and are no longer a victim they don't know what to do with you. We've become bullet proof!!! We are impenetrable to them. We healed back with a skin that their bullets bounce off of. They are cowardly. Like a low to the ground revolting Komodo dragon they bite poison into us while following us around waiting to feast on our dead bodies. When we don't die, heal up and stay away from them they are defeated. We are no longer their victim we are our own victors!!!❤

  • @jannlewandowski5540
    @jannlewandowski5540 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

    When I left my narcissist, he looked shocked! I don't know if he had a back-up or not, but he did go bar hopping and met a RICH woman and married her 2 weeks later.
    Mind you, we were engaged for 5 years. Well, I wasn't rich enough, and obviously not as "easy" as the RICH woman he picked up. Haven't seen him in 12.9 years👍

    • @fainitesbarley2245
      @fainitesbarley2245 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      The narc will despise both the rich drunk and himself for being with her.

    • @ParalegalSolutions-b3y
      @ParalegalSolutions-b3y 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Girl he did you a favor 😊

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@ParalegalSolutions-b3y i know! 👍❤️

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @fainitesbarley2245 I can imagine! 🍺🍺

    • @arsenelupiniii8040
      @arsenelupiniii8040 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Seems like it comes down to money more than anything. Haven't seen mine in over 7years. My money is better, and my sanity has returned, lost myself for a minute though.

  • @InHisService772
    @InHisService772 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    When the narcissist betrayed me I just knew God would vindicate me in the court room. He didn’t vindicate me in the courtroom. I have often cried out in frustration. But I am reminded God’s rejection is his protection. I am moving forward with my life and I have firm boundaries in place to protect me from further abuse. I pray for the narcissist to move into the light and move forward with my life.

  • @lisamooney6297
    @lisamooney6297 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    They want your reaction. Don't give tjem qhat they want.

  • @breadoflife7535
    @breadoflife7535 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    A narc was the prop mgr here. She bullied and screamed at all the tenants, wrote us up for things she caused so we could lose our housing. This went on for 2 yrs. She ended up in a fight w one of the higher ups so she gave her notice. The day before she left she cornered me and got in my face, once again for something she created that I dared question. I had to ask her over and over to please step back. I stayed calm and when she backed off I called the police. They came out and wrote a police report on her for physical harassment, intimidation and bullying. She left the next day in shame, trying to make sure no one saw her leave. God did it. It was the perfect end to her narcissistic reign of terror.

  • @Intelligencetaskforce
    @Intelligencetaskforce 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    I'm going to start telling my narc boss, " I'm a Christian, we don't act like that. " every time he says something abusive.

    • @deannamartinez7233
      @deannamartinez7233 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      AMEN!!!❤ 👊🏼

    • @tiffanykilpatrick-winter165
      @tiffanykilpatrick-winter165 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Hardest betrayal because it's hard at first to stop loving the "fake" person with whom we fell in love. Halfway through every conversation you see the mask slip and discern the lies. You recognize that you are on to them and yet you keep listening 😢 God saved me from all the crazy 😊 loving God more than the Narc saved me

    • @tiffanykilpatrick-winter165
      @tiffanykilpatrick-winter165 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      1 Corinthians 13:4-8
      Revised Geneva Translation
      4 Love is patient. Love is kind. Love does not envy. Love does not boast and is not puffed up,
      5 It is not rude. It is not selfish. It is not provoked to anger. It thinks no evil:
      6 It does not rejoice in injustice but rejoices in the truth.
      7 It bears all things: It believes all things. It hopes all things. It endures all things.
      8 Love never fails; even though prophecies are ended, languages cease, and knowledge fades away.

    • @LindyLooo99
      @LindyLooo99 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Lol.... my boss claimed to be a Christian and tried to have Bible studies at work!! Yet he was constantly abusive to the point 9 of us quit. I would still be working there if he hadn't come on board.

    • @rochellet1333
      @rochellet1333 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Love that response!

  • @BrandonReid-j6u
    @BrandonReid-j6u 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Amen, I'm sorry for going after my narc-God please forgive me and the narc ❤by your amazing grace. Vengeance is mine

  • @flyawaybutterflyhealingchannel
    @flyawaybutterflyhealingchannel 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Codependent NO MORE!! Thx Dave

  • @jesusitrustinyou6900
    @jesusitrustinyou6900 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    I don't need anyone to help me ruin my LIFE bcuz I can do it alĺllll by myself.

  • @kylekimberlin1783
    @kylekimberlin1783 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    God has filled your heart with beautiful love of people. You're so encouraging to listen too!

  • @misskrasnopolsky5597
    @misskrasnopolsky5597 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Time for next level.

  • @law.c.6268
    @law.c.6268 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Silence...u want peace, remain silent, say what you need to, nothing more, even if you want to get a jab in, don't, they cannot hear you, they only hear when you are silent.

  • @dwddavidsway71159
    @dwddavidsway71159 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Haha Dave! I have to comment on being the last to know! My life was just saved in SICU from MRSA on my second shoulder replacement . . . And my wife drove me as far away as she could to Arizona, after not seeing me once on my death bed! Here’s the kicker! I still had to have another surgery to put the implant back in! Had to ride a bus for 12 hours to get back to the Salt Lake VA . . .
    Without faith in God someone could have died from this despicable discard . . .

    • @Shalom.4.4.
      @Shalom.4.4. 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      They pick the time when you’re at your most vulnerable to do the discard. It’s one of their dirtiest tactics. These creatures are pure evil!

    • @rochellet1333
      @rochellet1333 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You made it. We dont need abusers in our life. God has this!

  • @thaskew01
    @thaskew01 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I think my biggest problem was how she tried to destroy the life I gave her when she left. It wasn’t enough to cheat, live a double life, and love bomb me the last 6 months of our marriage to maximize the shock. She mismanaged the finances to the point there was 300$ in our bank and every bill was behind. She left the kids with me and didn’t reach out for weeks. Then they come back to act like they care, “need any help with Christmas for the kids?”…nope. She left in August and lives with her new supply in a single wide trailer she’s trying to decorate like the inside of our home. Same colors, same flooring and same narc…they never change but you can’t dress a 40 year old trailer like the 8 year old home you had built.

  • @heaven4life69
    @heaven4life69 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    This video is straight from the throne room!!! I'm grateful. Thank you for allowing the Holy Ghost to use you 🙏❤️

  • @xrppornstar9483
    @xrppornstar9483 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Does the pouring of the tea truly sound as robust and amazing as what the viewers actually hear?👂

  • @heathermixson1265
    @heathermixson1265 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    No, it is a compliment. It's nice TO be able to fall into rest peacefully after dealing with the diabolical mess of the reprobate.

  • @careerdiana
    @careerdiana 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    you are simply the best ❤ you helped me heal from the narc - after watching your videos, I feel like I have a PhD in Narcissism

  • @Shalom.4.4.
    @Shalom.4.4. 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I told my now ex husband, exactly what he was, when I first discovered what he was! How could I keep THAT to myself? 🤣 100 percent reprobates with legions of demons that they invited in.

    • @arsenelupiniii8040
      @arsenelupiniii8040 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      That is why it feels like a hive mind or the same playbook. Been calling them devils for a longtime.

  • @foxygayla
    @foxygayla 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Vengeance is mine. I will repay saith the Lord. I definitely thought about seeking revenge. Then I said they're not worth it.

    • @treelover1050
      @treelover1050 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      NO THEY ARE NOT. EMPTY AND EVIL.

  • @heatherkennedy8213
    @heatherkennedy8213 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Thank you SOOOO much for this. I needed to hear this badly! I'm still hurting but learning to put this down, trying to remind myself all the time God took my ex out of my life to protect me..even though I don't fully understand. Its been a year and a half since I got discarded. God bless you for helping remind those of us who have been hurt by these individuals that God will handle it.

    • @doranvee5944
      @doranvee5944 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      When I read your comment, I actually thought, "was this me? Did I accidently write it." It has been 1.5 years for me also.

  • @debrajatzinger4893
    @debrajatzinger4893 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I escaped from my ex in 2019. He nearly killed me several times and the last attack I almost lost my left leg. I didn’t understand why I had kept going back and why I couldn’t move forward until I found your videos. You have such a calling on your life. I was finally able to understand my trauma bond and the cognitive dissonance that drove my thoughts and emotions. By God’s grace and mercy I fully surrender to him and have slowly been healing over the past few years.

    • @debrajatzinger4893
      @debrajatzinger4893 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      To clarify I found your videos shortly after leaving him in 2019. Still watching your videos and still learning. Exodus 14:14 I pray 🙏 you keep creating content!Not only are you saving lives but bringing people to God.

    • @debrajatzinger4893
      @debrajatzinger4893 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      This entire video is speaking to me 😮 you have no idea God is so good!

  • @rosered6
    @rosered6 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This is 100% true guys, let God handle it. The situation was never out of his control, stay prayed up and trust God to deliver divine judgement once you are out of that situation.

  • @DeborahWhittington-i4h
    @DeborahWhittington-i4h 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    That's why I like this narc channel, because it makes me laugh 😁 thanks for that.

  • @maggietompkins5996
    @maggietompkins5996 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Wow Dave, I find it to be such a conundrum that you and I have both been single and celibate for 4years. I pray that God continues to bless you thru this Channel because I know during my isolation period between praying and receiving knowledge about narcissism I would not be saved by Grace. Thank you Father for sending us Dave a beloved 🙏🏾

  • @bl8680
    @bl8680 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Wow…I needed this brother ❤️ This is Gods fight and He’s been telling me to be silent. The enemy still tries to rile me up and tempt me. Thank you for your faithfulness.

  • @jesusitrustinyou6900
    @jesusitrustinyou6900 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Jesus will make your enemies a footstool.

    • @righteousdiva1130
      @righteousdiva1130 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I just read this scripture a few days ago. I opened my bible said whatever page I open God will talk to me through that message and this scripture you speak of was it.

    • @jesusitrustinyou6900
      @jesusitrustinyou6900 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😂

  • @heathermixson1265
    @heathermixson1265 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I've spoken "in tongues " a few times.....probably not what you are speaking of , Dave, but dealing with a narcissist will have you saying things that'd make a sailor AND trucker blush! 🤣🤷‍♀️

  • @doranvee5944
    @doranvee5944 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The "move on" mentality from friends, shows they don't understand or really care.

  • @lisamooney6297
    @lisamooney6297 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Amen Dave. Jesus has the nost power and will take care of the situation.

  • @deannamartinez7233
    @deannamartinez7233 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    A Prayer for The unsaved-
    Acts 26:18🙌❤️✝️
    These Words of Our Lord is Very Powerful.
    May GOD Bless All of you!!❤❤❤

    • @mvbigmagic4048
      @mvbigmagic4048 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you for this. I wasn't sure how to pray for my narcissistic mother with whom I am no contact since January 27, 2024. This helped. I cannot help her in person. Only God can. I understand that now.

    • @deannamartinez7233
      @deannamartinez7233 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@mvbigmagic4048 You’re welcome!😊 I’m Sorry about that, it’s been 7 years with No-Contact with my mother.
      Proverbs 3:5-6 KJV
      Have a Blessed Day and Weekend!! 🤗❤️❤️❤️
      Hugging you, tight right now…

  • @dynahmaranatha2954
    @dynahmaranatha2954 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Two wrongs do not make a right. Being a Mrs B and being a codependent and not paying attention to the red flags and ending up and more toxic relationships myself I can speak on this with learned experience... Go to the throne go to Jesus and work on yourselves. It is the only way that you can get stronger so that when the narcissist does hoover you or when you get a chance to be in another relationship that could be toxic that you will pay attention to the red flags and you will walk away your strength will come from the Lord.

  • @itisfinished137
    @itisfinished137 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    "Vengeance is mine" says the Lord.
    Indeed. But He will only move when you forgive them, pray for them and even do good to them. Don't agree? A kingdom has its own set of rules. You'll have to unlearn the ways of this world if you want to see the kingdom of God.
    Only when your heart is in the right place...
    When you don't desire vengeance, nor desire anyone...when you surrender He acts.
    Pray for that trust and surrender.
    Pray for a renewed mind and heart, a worthy and honorable temple for the Holy Spirit.
    That's His will. Everything else will be added unto you in due time.
    God bless you Dave, your family, this ministry and likewise to everyone reading this.

    • @Healinglove
      @Healinglove 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Question, what is the best Bible to have? Not the difficult one to read. ❤
      Thanks!

    • @itisfinished137
      @itisfinished137 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      NRSV, The C. S. Lewis Bible
      God bless.

  • @gymartist
    @gymartist 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Your comment about the children and how they get used really hit home for me. You’re the first person I heard talk about this, which is been the hardest thing to get over. More talk about this is needed on these narcissism recovery channels. Although I feel very recovered from the narcissist, leaving the children, still haunts me terribly to this day.

  • @mariogamez-r7r
    @mariogamez-r7r 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My friend, I want to thank you for your help with understanding how to handle this situation I am going through. I just feel sorry for my x's granddaughter. I was there on her birth and fell in love with her growing up.she would tell me you are the best grandpa in the whole wide world. I would buy her her pampers as a little baby. After 10 years with this woman, she leaves me for no reason me not knowing what was going on. Little did I know she was monkey branching behind my back. Anyway thank you for your support. I am alone but don't regret she left.i just miss my little friend that would call me grandpa. ❤

  • @houmanrm
    @houmanrm 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The true meaning of "putting hot coals on their head" in the bible is that in ancient times, there was no easy way to start a fire for cooking or heating up, thus villagers would maintain a single fire in the center of the village, and after having spent the day in the fields everyone would come and get a burning coal at dusk, that they would place on a metal tray, usually carrying it on top of their head, and off to their home they went to start their own fire for the evening. Putting hot coal on top of someone's head is a gesture of friendship, that you give them a possibility to maintain some warmth in their home, if the coal that they were carrying has burnt out, or they didn't get one in time, so that they can have warmth and cook, and keep living another day decently. It doesn't cost you much : only a coal. But your coal is warm with your love glowing in it. This little bit of love will carry another soul one more day in this life. Sometimes people are that desperate, even if they don't show it, so lonely and hurt that the smallest act of kindness can save them from total despair, going into addictions, etc. etc. Even narcissists who are full of shame internally. Even if they've hurt you.

  • @heathermixson1265
    @heathermixson1265 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    RIGHT ON NARC SLAYER
    They seem to be everywhere!!! No. Thank. You.

  • @micheledenardo2497
    @micheledenardo2497 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I was in shock the day i put it all together. It's like a bolt of lightning from God all in one day! But because of years of this abuse i'm just grateful to God for giving me the knowledge by opening my eyes to it all and putting a stop to it all!! Best thing i have ever done for myself.

  • @EyesFromAbove73
    @EyesFromAbove73 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    All praise to god for using you to help wake us all up to this 🙏🏾

  • @Karen-fx8ek
    @Karen-fx8ek 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great teaching Dave!
    I’m so grateful for your videos!
    We live in same complex; close buildings!
    I’m still co dependent but I’m asking God every day to heal me& give me the strength to stop my co dependency!
    A God wink arrived just a few months ago!
    His ex girlfriend who he was head over heels with and who broke his heart moved pretty close to his apt!
    I said to God- now that is what will do it for me…God knows I don’t want to be near him while he’s rolling the dice to get her back in!
    It’s EXACTLY what I needed to begin the “ being set free”!!!
    God knows what we need!
    Jesus I trust in You!
    Thanks Dave, keep up the great godly work!❤️💚🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @rebeccawhitney793
    @rebeccawhitney793 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Go Randy, that is a beautiful statement!!!Go Jesus!

  • @cam8619
    @cam8619 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I just love your soft spoken voice it just calms me thank you for all of your videos keep them coming please!

  • @deannamartinez7233
    @deannamartinez7233 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    AMEN!!!🙌❤️✝️ JESUS has Set Us Free!! Hallelujah🙌❤️🤗🥰 Love this Family Community And Yes, you are Not Alone!!!
    John 3:16 KJV❤😊

  • @AnimalAngel
    @AnimalAngel 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for your Spiritual Enlightenment, from the aspect of God's Plan, this truly shows You are a Brave Disciple of God ❤

  • @Painterman54
    @Painterman54 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you so much ❤
    I start feeling my spirits he’s coming back again after 20 years of abuse.
    Thank you for everything❤

  • @mickcrovo5238
    @mickcrovo5238 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    "She's going to have to be wearing long, brown socks because I don't leave my house. I have my groceries delivered. She's going to have to be a UPS driver." ROFLMAO I hear that!

  • @steves3032
    @steves3032 12 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    The story of Joseph is a great example of how God will use a seemingly horrific situation and use it for his purpose and to be a blessing.
    Genesis 50:18 And his brethren also went and fell down before his face; and they said, Behold, we be thy servants.
    Genesis 50:19 And Joseph said unto them, Fear not: for am I in the place of God?
    Genesis 50:20 But as for you, ye thought evil against me; but God meant it unto good, to bring to pass, as it is this day, to save much people alive.
    Genesis 50:21 Now therefore fear ye not: I will nourish you, and your little ones. And he comforted them, and spake kindly unto them.

  • @truthseeker_phoenix
    @truthseeker_phoenix 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yes I went through my ex using her teenage daughter as a reason for me to stay and put up with the abuse. When she felt her power over me wasn’t going to be enough, she threw in the kids mental health too and let me know in a subtle way that the kid was thinking about committing suicide also. This was to spark my empathy, to keep me stuck giving all I had within and without to two unappreciative beings. The daughter was so submissive to her abusive mother that she would go along with anything her mum said. Even that I did everything for the kid, she eventually turned against me to join in the smear campaign. Despite I looked after her in a way her mum could never. Now they are painting me as the bad one for leaving them without my financial support or heart care any longer to face the world alone, despite I wasn’t working and I left them my last 2000 USD to help them on their way to the narcs new supply.

  • @michaelmorgan7893
    @michaelmorgan7893 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Oh, as for using kids/grandkids against someone in a relationship: My first ex, was 30 years older than me, would weaponize her criminal adult grandson against me, every way shape and form she could, even sharing with him secret things I had told her about my life/health issues, to come at me with anytime I would say NO to giving her every dime I had, to enable that one grandson's criminal lifestyle.
    She would go so far as to tell me I could not retaliate against him, that - and I quote - that her grandson is "Yahweh" and he has some kind of anointing, etc. And how if I ever tried to defend myself, she would use the 5150 to have me put away"
    I went through this for 8 of the ten years we were together. I felt like I was in prison during that time, not being free to have and enjoy hobbies or anything else.
    In one of my other replies, I shared how that culminated almost seven years ago with having my head split open.
    But yes, I have experienced having my ex's family members being used as manipulation and or weaponization

  • @smarternow
    @smarternow 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Dave,
    this one hit home again.
    He used his daughter to smear me. Let his parents whom I really cared for know I cheated on him, (lie ) She became my enemy as she told them how she didn’t like me….this was directed by my narc. This was the little girl I helped to get enough credits to graduate. I helped in the dressing room for her prom. ! I was with her through thick and thin. He used her because he got a girlfriend. Our vows and the marriage were confidence builders for him to get online to date!
    He wasn’t going to be the bad guy. No accountability. He let me know basically I didn’t matter. He had someone else who was hot he said…Dust in the wind….thats what the wife who helped him through four surgeries got.
    When I see you on my feed I can’t wait to watch, see, learn and hear your words.i am not healed yet but trying.
    The devilish discard as he drop his ring in my hand saying he’d just been sexually satisfied by his girlfriend still stings.

  • @breathoflife8004
    @breathoflife8004 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I've watched your videos off and on for a while now and you have really set yourself apart with the content in this one. Over the years I can see your spiritual growth and development and it is both encouraging and exemplary. Your underlying anger and frustration used to seep through your presentation and the work of God in you has now taken its place with genuine care that the narcissist be saved and encouraging us to sell reflect reminding us that we are no better than they in terms of being part of God's creation... It now seems that you emanate a genuine Spirit of christ-like compassion and humility. I pray that God continues to heal your heart and bless your ministry. I'm grateful to the Lord for how you've impacted my life.

  • @katebueno191
    @katebueno191 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Narcissist never even had a job !! Starting with that !!!!!

  • @winterrose9070
    @winterrose9070 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Before I left, I told the narcissist that vengeance is the Lord’s! He said that I was putting a curse on him! 😂😂😂

  • @mckayla11012
    @mckayla11012 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Thank you God.

  • @jesusitrustinyou6900
    @jesusitrustinyou6900 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Yes, your heart, mind & body are broken.

  • @foxygayla
    @foxygayla 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Amen. My narcissist ex brought my son into the discard. My son had nothing to do with our relationship. He has a lot of nerve. Trying to turn me against my own child. No way that will ever happen. Bye forever.

  • @taneyat6_33
    @taneyat6_33 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This last discard I didnt want to destroy him. I was just angry at myself. He hoovered & love bombed me on a whole level. Gifts & time were awesome. I have no desire to contact anyone he knows. Im not a codependent, I was believing & standing for him in my marriage. I will still pray for him still, but from a distance. I did destroy the gifts as I do no want them & I felt like something demonic was associated with them. The point, Ive grown greatly since the last discard. We are still human & the bible says we are supposed to hate evil. Also we can be angry but dont sin.

  • @jillcallan
    @jillcallan 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Yes. Mine did this with my step daughter. Who I helped raise from age 9 til almost 16
    Heart breaking

  • @martymcfly5138
    @martymcfly5138 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Great to see you still helping so many people Dave. Last Xmas you posted a video and the very next day, it came true. Thank you for making us all aware of the patterns and behaviors of these people. Forewarned is forearmed. Checking in to your videos at this time of year to remain vigilant and aware. Thank you Dave 🙏

  • @blazelong3803
    @blazelong3803 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This spoke to me so much. I'm no doubt a co-dependent. I was discarded and she was engaged a week later and this is when I started to piece everything together. The cheating, lying, the manipulation and realizing she was the exact opposite of the women I thought she was. And when I'm wronged, I seek vengeance. I HAD to figure out everything so I talked to her past friends, ex's and everyone I could. I gathered up all the evidence I posted a blog that exposed her lying and cheating and sent it to her friends and family. I was brought up Christian but fell away from it and her reason for breaking up was the wanted to find a man of faith as she's a "Godly women" Yet, all of her actions didn't align with it and I was mad at God. It didn't make any sense to me and it still doesn't. Of course by me posting a blog her reaction was to file a protective order with a bunch of false allegations. I thought maybe she'd change for the new guy but after that I realized she won't. If I was a strong enough person I should have just walked away but I gave in to the voices telling me to out her and to get revenge.

    • @chiphan05
      @chiphan05 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I keep asking God why it is totally unfair to me. I’m broken into piece and that narc still is happy. I would like to disclose his identity to his friends and kids but I keep silence. I still believe in Karma and hope I can see his karma by my own eyes

    • @blazelong3803
      @blazelong3803 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@chiphan05 I was there and still kind of am. A narcissist is never going to be happy though. They may have moments of hapiness but their always suffering internally. All the smiles you see are an act.

  • @peppermint6253
    @peppermint6253 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Are you talking to me Dave? I don’t leave my house much and I usually never wear brown socks but today I am. 😊

  • @jorischj
    @jorischj 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you! Love your channel, God Bless you!!!

  • @shirlspark_stardust
    @shirlspark_stardust 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Good evening Dave cheers got my peach tea I keep seeing the narcissist Friday heading to work who stops his car to beep his horn and try to get my attention ,I looked for a minute turn my head and ignored went my way this isn’t the first time I thank God I’m out of that ungodly soul tie 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾.

  • @ChemBeforeTheStorm
    @ChemBeforeTheStorm หลายเดือนก่อน

    "Why are you sitting at the bar, I told you come to the thrown" -God

  • @reubenvalles917
    @reubenvalles917 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This one is amazing! Well done and very helpful.......Straight Truth!

  • @ChristinaStandsFirm
    @ChristinaStandsFirm 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Oh my gosh, I received a hover tonight, Christmas Eve Eve. This is after I did not respond to a hover 2 months ago. I have been no contact for 4 months. The call was blocked but I got a voicemail (android phones do that, ugh)... thank you Dave because I heard what you said in your last video "don't answer the hover"... I deleted the 3 minute voicemail without listening without hesitation! Celebrating today because I truly feel I am Mrs A status. Done, no demons allowed here, and Im at the pinnacle of indifference! Thank you Jesus, thank you Dave and thank you Narcology community!! ❤

  • @hassanadama
    @hassanadama 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    First class betrayal and l almost went mad being treated like shit and tellling your son to report me at school saying am beating him and twive the police came searching for me
    After walking away now am flying like the eagle

  • @G-Sagittastellium
    @G-Sagittastellium 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you Dave 🙏

  • @jasonsmith3594
    @jasonsmith3594 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    What the narcissist fears is you simple if they want to treat like shit it’s there loss there behind for a reason because that’s were they belong your moving forward not back ❤

  • @Healinglove
    @Healinglove 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I did go through raising the baby granddaughter, literally, mother on drug's, narcissist, never wanted her. Tried to be a good stepmother, always wondered "why" we could never bond? Like i said, she's exactly like her narcissist father. Granddaughter who was never wanted went right back to her narcissistic mother when the psychopath and i separated. I'll never see my baby again.
    The night before our divorce, IT got ingaged.
    This is NOT normal.

  • @kidrosskidrossproductions2906
    @kidrosskidrossproductions2906 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You have that pour down to a science … Fantastic !!

  • @doranvee5944
    @doranvee5944 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I need to replay this advice over and over again. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Im a bad Mrs. B too. I must leave it to the Lord.

  • @teresatheharvester144
    @teresatheharvester144 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Wonderful video bro. This was your best so far! Thank you!

  • @christinaholtzclaw2738
    @christinaholtzclaw2738 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Hello Dave! Great video. I’m on Christmas vacation until after the new year. I put the B In Mrs.B, lol! I did want to expose the narcissist at first. But no more. Always awesome to hear your voice. Hugs 💕

    • @Narcologyunscripted
      @Narcologyunscripted  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Ha ha! Merry Christmas Christina and have a blessed vacation!!

  • @richardmaropoulos9827
    @richardmaropoulos9827 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I've been binge watching a lot of older videos of yours because I'm a new watcher. And I just want to say keep up the good work because every day someone new is waking up to a reality that they've been betrayed and deceived and is hurting and feeling angry and lost and needs to know they're not alone and the Lord will see them through this and the pain will fade and they will not only survive this but grow from it in ways they can't yet see!

  • @heathermixson1265
    @heathermixson1265 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    No intimacy the past 6 years within a 30 year marriage, along with 5 1/2 years of a sikent treatment is more like hell on earth....BUT GOD.😌
    Thanks Dave.

  • @Roseannewaller
    @Roseannewaller 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I like the way you speak the scriptures to help others
    Gods words have power
    He has used you as an instrument
    It’s all about healing through Jesus
    Amen
    They want Christ without the cross
    Keep it up Dave

  • @narcslayerg2631
    @narcslayerg2631 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This was an amazing one Dave. These past few have been off the charts excellent. Thank you so much!!!

  • @TheDevineFempress
    @TheDevineFempress 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I woke up to you saying read duet 28 thank you

  • @kimberlyfloyd1009
    @kimberlyfloyd1009 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Dave, you were one of the first channels I found when I separated. I just want to say a huge thank you for giving me the confidence to block and move on - with peace, love and joy like you say! I have to remind myself that the Lord did say "vengeance is mine"... it's a seed, time, harvest life... I believe he was my karma, and I think that going silent and going in peace was easier to do because of you and Miss Telsha. Thanks again, and have a wonderful and Merry Christmas!

  • @amandabarrs3311
    @amandabarrs3311 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    BRAVO!!!!!

  • @heathermixson1265
    @heathermixson1265 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Listen to Dave, John......she's playing you for a fool.

  • @charleswilliams8971
    @charleswilliams8971 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you

  • @Cherps91
    @Cherps91 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am new here, but I gotta present a real dilemma for you. My 42 yr old daughter was killed Oct 21, 2023 by her abuser. How on God's green earth how is it possible to forgive him for taking the "apple of my eye" from me and our family. I am a momma, and he took my baby girl in a violent way. Facing each day is the hardest thing I have ever had to endure...we are left traumatized, shattered and broken. Please offer some relief.

  • @MissionForward3
    @MissionForward3 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Exceptional pour Dave!
    😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @richardmaropoulos9827
    @richardmaropoulos9827 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    👍A lot of good advice. I think the Lord did lead me to your channel. I don't even know why I originally clicked on it. But now I know it was so I'd realize I'm not crazy and I'm not alone in the thing's I've seen and experienced. 😁 And so I won't be fooled again!

  • @nells1971
    @nells1971 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I know it is painful to be discarded but the best is to simply walk away and stay away. Very far away. Don’t even think you will get closure from the narc. Just seek that from God and you will get it.

  • @cathleenlezynski
    @cathleenlezynski 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I wish I listened to u. I went back to my narc after no contact. He came over lovebombing and stole the engagement ring from me . He knew where I kept it. He started baiting me and I never thought he would steal from me . I am shocked. O of course he discarded me blocked me and when I did get to him, he said he did not steal the ring and to stop stalking him. I’m not stalking him. I just would like my ring back. I called the Sheriff and he said there’s not much he could do about it if he has receipts for the rings since we were not married, the ring is his he shouldn’t ring is his.
    I’m sure my Newark knows this because Therss probably isn’t the first time he’s uses engagement ring installing it back. I told him I would call the Sheriff. I got no response from him so I imagine he knows there’s nothing I can do. I just feel terrible that I let him back into my life to do something wicked .
    I am going no contact and keeping it that way .
    God has shown me his true character. We broken up, many many times and I’ve always taken him back as you know. But stealing is something that I cannot tolerate that is a total betrayal of trust. I don’t know how he lives with himself. I could never do anything like that to anyone. Thanks for listening.

  • @exodus1314
    @exodus1314 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Dave I figured it out! Next time I'll just find somebody I hate and buy them a house!

  • @MasterChief427
    @MasterChief427 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Good video Dave. When I said I was painted black, I meant in her eyes. Cluster Bs tend to see us as all good or all bad, and me leaving like I did most definitely made me bad. She said she couldn’t handle ghosting, which is what I did to her.
    The straw that broke the camel’s back was going on a virtual date with my replacement, asking me for an open relationship because she was convinced *I* would cheat while denying having anyone in mind, telling her best friend she wanted to $&@$ said replacement so badly, claiming she didn’t remember saying any of that to her, calling him a pos when she tried to prove she didn’t do anything by calling him and asking him while I was there and he wasn’t having it, sitting on the phone talking me in circles for 8 hours when I tried to break it off with her, and when I finally capitulated, immediately leaving the call to cry to him and sending me a screen capture where he said “He just sounds insecure, you’ve always been sweet to me.”
    He wasn’t even the only other party involved. The other player was the “abusive” ex who had treated her terribly and caused the argument between her and “the love of her life”, who ended up unaliving himself because of that argument. There is more to be told there but before I learned about the gentleman above, she told me that she was taking this abusive ex to a comic convention we had planned to go to, to make up for them not meeting up earlier in the year when she unilaterally decided to go visit him, and then decided not to to “save” our relationship.
    I don’t know how any sane person would expect their partner to deal with that or want to remain in their life in any capacity, but that was enough for me to cut her out and stand firm on keeping her out.

  • @donaldhicks6502
    @donaldhicks6502 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanks Dave.i was discarded in April of this year.the narcissist lives one mile from me in a small town.
    I wanted to let the world know what she was (NPD)and that demons are real.i was going to spray paint this outside her house on the road....
    thanks to your videos and asking for God's help I'm moving on.
    found an angel of a woman and I'm moving out of town in the next few months. things happen when we go to the lord.
    God bless

  • @SalamSinjab
    @SalamSinjab 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanks