This Will Get The Narcissist To Come Back Begging

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  • @coffeegirl6854
    @coffeegirl6854 ปีที่แล้ว +65

    Do not ever beg people to love you.

  • @Ehuff
    @Ehuff ปีที่แล้ว +91

    “If you don’t kiss their butt for abusing you…” so true. Who laughs at someone who’s crying? It’s sick.

    • @josephjoejat9569
      @josephjoejat9569 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Know about that unfortunately... you tell them you love them and the face is blank with dilated pupils. No expression whatsoever....the facial expression suggests 'what do you mean....I cannot really believe you are saying something so nonsensical '...glad im out after 18 months.... but the hoovers keep on coming...now even from Vancouver 😩 where her sister lives and im in Manchester Uk...truly unbelievable....😩

    • @Ehuff
      @Ehuff ปีที่แล้ว

      @@josephjoejat9569 at least WE now have the power. Never will I ever respond in ANY WAY if that D-bag heat checks. So he can tell himself I care and use that delusional supply to be the one to discard me? Mmmmmzzzzznope.

    • @anjailbee
      @anjailbee 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I was with my narc for 18months
      Found out he has been married 25yrs now
      He discarded me after I called his wife 🤦🏿‍♀️

    • @debbier9555
      @debbier9555 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@anjailbee Shocking!

    • @jojo-vp7nh
      @jojo-vp7nh 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I was with the abusive narc for nearly 6 years give or take a few breaks. Took me over 3 years to find his double life Incliding a wife and child.... then took me 3 further more years to understand that I was being abusedin multiple ways ,gaslit and that he was still very much married despite the fake divorce application. Soul destroying and became a shell of my life before i met him . Thanks for these videos

  • @lisamooney6297
    @lisamooney6297 ปีที่แล้ว +122

    People who love you don't put you down or cheat on you. This is the best take 💯

    • @robynholliday4794
      @robynholliday4794 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Yes my eldest daughter has put me down in front of other people all her adult life.

    • @user-of9bx1uk3u
      @user-of9bx1uk3u 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@robynholliday4794Cut her off immediately! No contact!!

    • @gma729
      @gma729 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      So true !! I said the same thing. My X gf i was literally in shock at the effort she put fwd to destroy my life !! Literally DESTROY me. After watching a hoard of videos on this subject matter. I've diagnosed my X gf to a. T. She is without any a Malignant Narcissist 💯 positive. With a pure Demonic / Malevolent heart

    • @thunderpooch
      @thunderpooch 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@robynholliday4794 that's not necessarily narcissism. but if it is, narcissism never reflects well on the mother.
      narcissists are created by abusive mothers/primary caregivers. unless they had a brain absnormaility, the lack of good parenting/nurturing by the mother creates narcissists.
      all parents should tread very very cautiously anytime they're ready to start calling out their own child as a narcissist. it speaks volumes, and it isn't revealing good things about the parent.

    • @warriorforyah777
      @warriorforyah777 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Truth

  • @mickcrovo5238
    @mickcrovo5238 ปีที่แล้ว +111

    The second anniversary of the discard is in two days. Looking back to the discard, the first six months were brutal. I couldn't eat. I lost 25 lbs. I was getting 2-4 hours of sleep each night and was running on adrenaline and cortisol. Finally, two years later, my attraction for her has fallen below that of others. It was two years ago that I finally saw her for who she was, but it took nearly that time for my mind, body, and soul to reject her. I loved her. But she got over me in no time and went on a trip with the new supply just three days after discarding me. Ask yourself: "Does a person who is capable of love treat someone this way?" The answer is clearly, "No". This is a narcissist. Know and accept the ugly truth and it will eventually set you free.

    • @terencebyrd1067
      @terencebyrd1067 ปีที่แล้ว

      They're demons who thrive on hurting good people.

    • @yanceydavenport8657
      @yanceydavenport8657 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Yep,,, my two year mark is in a few weeks,,,, when this first happened to me,,, I didnt eat for months !!! I had to get anxiety meds !!! ... she was with the new supply within a week!!!,, Well,, publicly lol... she was engaged to him within months ,,, just like me,,, I feel sorry for the poor guy!!! Its about the hardest thing to deal with!!! "The final discard" out of the blue!!! ... I would never want her again !!!... I dont want any payback,,, nothing!!! Anger was the last emotion I finally let go of!!!! I felt like such a dumb ass!!!... Lol... LESSON LEARNED!¡!!

    • @peacefulself7848
      @peacefulself7848 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Very true! I thank GOD that who He has set free is free indeed!

    • @cheryljackson8223
      @cheryljackson8223 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Went thru Same thing. Sounds so familiar. They have a sick cycle of abuse. weird behaviors that you don't notice til you do. 😳 and then it's like... RUN. Don't respond to anything they do or say. Just don't. The confusion they create isn't worth the headache

    • @frankisebree8767
      @frankisebree8767 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      When you are no longer attracted then when you know you have truly healed 🙌🏼

  • @paulhernandez8373
    @paulhernandez8373 ปีที่แล้ว +96

    Why would you want a demon back in your life . They have no place in my life .

    • @stuarttacey
      @stuarttacey ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Exactly. I saw the demon fully come out during discard.

    • @coffeegirl6854
      @coffeegirl6854 ปีที่แล้ว

      They are outrightly following Satan. "They are doing the works of their father " The devil himself.

    • @SenSakura-dj6bq
      @SenSakura-dj6bq 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      The problem is when they try to come back, they present another face, and it takes a lot to see through their bullshit and tell them a plain and simple "no".

    • @alouise3557
      @alouise3557 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Paul, please read up on trauma bonding. And never ask a victim, "Why would you want that?"

    • @baldersn4474
      @baldersn4474 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@alouise3557 Yes exactly snd these people arnt , 'demons' either.. 'Demons' don't exist ...

  • @sdot6318
    @sdot6318 ปีที่แล้ว +161

    It's been 4 years since the reverse discard from the Covert Narc...I am still ruminating out loud to myself, as I am triggered occasionally. I hate that the demon lives rent free in my head, but it's getting less with time. Dave, you saved me from going back and your videos help me realize what's really going on....keep saving people Dave 🙏

    • @toniacompton1091
      @toniacompton1091 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      It’s been almost two years for me and I go through the same thing. The ruminatating.
      I wonder if it will ever truly end.
      It’s the craziest thing.

    • @killjoyredux8361
      @killjoyredux8361 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      ​@@toniacompton1091It's definitely crazy making... How long were you with them?

    • @Mocheesemoeugene
      @Mocheesemoeugene ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I'm delighted that you "get it" man. Unfortunately, for a lot of us emp paths, we just don't get it. There is no resolve with these demons. Once we accept that we're gone for good..BLEZZ # KEEP DA CHANGE

    • @DarkMetaOFFICIAL
      @DarkMetaOFFICIAL ปีที่แล้ว +17

      my ex contacted me after 5 years. it was like the day i left, crushed, instantly all over again. same here, mental infestation, i still don't wanna give up on her as a person i love. but we were never with them. it was a movie. it never happened. there was no person. we imagined the whole thing. but it still feels real because our love is true and deep. it's an unsolvable conundrum but yes, we go our own way and in time hopefully we can reconcile this and see the truth for what it is. i feel like this is a lifelong damage but we can be happy again maybe find someone real xD

    • @DarkMetaOFFICIAL
      @DarkMetaOFFICIAL ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@toniacompton1091 same. i need to talk about it. i am changing the way i see her. it was all an illusion. it never happened, there was never a relationship. i feel like she is family. a broken soul who has no one but me even if she is evil to me, i want her to be well. it will probably always hurt. idk. but i can't be in the pretend fantasy w her ever again. i know your pain.

  • @beckywauer2291
    @beckywauer2291 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    YOU ARE STILL ALONE WHEN THEY ARE WITH YOU! YOU'VE GAINED NOTHING, ONLY A TEMPORARY FIX.😮

  • @toniacompton1091
    @toniacompton1091 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    Mine always bragged about being able to walk away from anyone any time.

    • @Ggfgg-m2w
      @Ggfgg-m2w 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Same same...she was so.proud

    • @nicolabenjamin2661
      @nicolabenjamin2661 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Mine told me he was lucky and was NEVER without a girlfriend and only the best of the best. I was flattered into Stupidity. What a fool I was with a narcissist sized hole. He saw my lack of self esteem from the first moment.

  • @jaydee6710
    @jaydee6710 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Who would want them back begging? I’m trying so hard to keep distance, hoping they become someone else’s problem

  • @Sublimebutterflyy
    @Sublimebutterflyy ปีที่แล้ว +35

    They are horrible to people and expect the complete opposite! The most resentful and bitter hateful people in existence

  • @bl8680
    @bl8680 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    “They are enemies of love.” WOW! That’s an eye opener.
    Thank you for letting Holy Spirit work through you to show us Gods truth.

  • @happycare6999
    @happycare6999 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Why would anyone want Satan back in their lives?

  • @michaeliorio1115
    @michaeliorio1115 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    You saved my life. Just left a relationship with an Alcoholic Narcissist. Never in my 53 years on this Earth could i imagine i could be so stupid. Now in recovery. These videos help so much. She would of destroyed me. Everything in these videos is spot on. She was the most toxic human being i have ever met.

  • @stuarttacey
    @stuarttacey ปีที่แล้ว +28

    Coming up to 2 years with no hoover. She returned to the previous ex downgrade supply who is also a narc after i discarded her. I think i must have caused too much of a narc injury for her to ever bother me again. I did see them out at a bar and completely ignored her which visibly enraged her 😂😂.

    • @sloanmagnum5009
      @sloanmagnum5009 ปีที่แล้ว

      Bars and night clubs are a narcissists headquarters. Avoid them and avoid places the narc can or will be.

  • @naenaehuggins1726
    @naenaehuggins1726 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I did sacrifice my wants needs and desires....I totally lost me.

  • @thaskew01
    @thaskew01 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    Divine timing, this video dropped 45 seconds after my ex came by to drop of costume for kids, and I was feeling a bit weak. Thank you for posting these, saving one person at a time, and thank God for sending the messenger too.

  • @toniacompton1091
    @toniacompton1091 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    I remember him telling me after I moved in with him that I wasn’t what he wanted but I was what he needed.

    • @VeraOhiaer
      @VeraOhiaer ปีที่แล้ว

      Yesss

    • @user-of9bx1uk3u
      @user-of9bx1uk3u 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      That’s so soo rude that’s exactly how they’re I had one said to me right after sex that it wasn’t the best they’ve had but it was ok. A man who has a soft penis when erected he takes erectile medication and I didn’t en come he came twice might I add. Yet I was the one who wasn’t,t that good and painted himself to be the BEST. I kept quiet was mature about the situation didn’t show how upset I was by his belittling just smiled and act unbothered I didn’t even tell him how crap he was 😂. Yet the audacity!

    • @queenb3088
      @queenb3088 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​It's called projection. He knew he didn't do it for YOU so he tried to put you down so that you didn't focus on his weak performance. ​@@user-of9bx1uk3u

    • @ljOB510
      @ljOB510 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Wow! Mine wanted to move in with me because he said he " needed a place to RUN". Not because he loved me. SMH

  • @adolpheddie
    @adolpheddie 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I should have left when I found out about her open door policy for all men. What a fool i was!

  • @cajuncrackerranch7990
    @cajuncrackerranch7990 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Baby come back........brrrrpppfffffttttt scratch!
    That's my butt crack...the last thing she'll ever see cause I'm walking ahead in life without you... mmm mmm mmm mmm
    Good God almighty bless my soul I got the right key, but the wrong key hole!
    The Cluster B gonna fool ya' ooh!
    The Cluster B gonna fool ya' ooh!
    The flying monkey's gonna fool ya' ooh!
    The boys and girls who act like squirrels make your life Nucking Futz! ooh!
    Don't believe me just watch! uh!
    Call the police and the fireman!
    Take yo' keys and throw the frying pan!
    Steal yo' money with sleight of hand!
    Triangulate ya' with a ceiling fan!
    Ya' think it's steak, but it's really spam!
    🤣 I'm done. Thank Dave!
    The Narcissist and The Empath is a battle of the soul; Armor up!
    Stay alert! Stay alive! Stay strong! Peace✌

  • @stephaniewencek6618
    @stephaniewencek6618 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Wow you really explained the narcissist discard, no heart 💔

  • @lenilay1267
    @lenilay1267 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I ain't getting any more things for the narcissist. I thought they wanted to be loved. But I am feeling they don't want to receive it.😢😢😢😢

  • @dynahmaranatha2954
    @dynahmaranatha2954 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Whenever I talk about myself he's got something better to do all of sudden.😅. Can't get it through their head that you never ever cheated.... Let alone thought of it.

    • @user-of9bx1uk3u
      @user-of9bx1uk3u 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Yep. That’s how they behave always projecting. 😂😅

  • @erinr182
    @erinr182 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I’ll be fine, but it’s my children I share with him that I continually find myself worrying about.

  • @raunopakarinen4691
    @raunopakarinen4691 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Why would anybody want a narcissist to come back? 🤔 That's like wanting to re-experience a headache... 😑

  • @tommiehanson2678
    @tommiehanson2678 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    They hate those that love them..

  • @debbierockz1
    @debbierockz1 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I now know its better to be alone then be with a narcissist! That way when your alone you can heal better.After healing,you can then resume life in a healthy manner ..I still need time to heal from the drama bond and this isent my first either.I’m trying to figure out why I let these narcissist’s enter my life something I need to figure out and keep praying to God that he gives me the strength.

    • @josephjoejat9569
      @josephjoejat9569 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Be kind to yourself please....you never knew this person was a narcissist to start off... they are not branded on their foreheads...but they should be..😩

    • @helenbardakas1321
      @helenbardakas1321 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I used to call my ex narc toothless at the end cause he pulled all his teeth out 😅😅😊

  • @smarternow
    @smarternow ปีที่แล้ว +9

    It is 1 year and 2 months since the annulment. The ex narc husbands birthday is in 2 days. But who cares right? He said he loved me but hated me deeply. It is still hard to admit the words were cheap. No action but then the verbal abuse started, put downs, running out to the new supply. I took notes everyday. I prayed everyday. My help came in the form of two cop cars as he found it necessary to physically attack me. Wait the guy who said he had my back…my protector turned the switch and became my perpetrator? What’s going on. My dog is shaking and my brother takes me home for safety….so unreal…this isn’t marriage

    • @user-of9bx1uk3u
      @user-of9bx1uk3u 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You are right it’s not a health6 marriage. Hope your safe now. X 🤗

  • @Sunny74-
    @Sunny74- 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Very powerful message.

  • @KayeHolcomb
    @KayeHolcomb ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Just when I am doing great - it hits me again - no I’m not in contact - we were married a year then it’s been the back and forth like Dave explains. Fortunately I found Narcology - he abruptly ended it two months ago and the great thing is I’m functioning and I’m going to begin my new spiritual journey- sorry Devil - you’ve lived enough in my space and I am on to you

  • @onlyonce1707
    @onlyonce1707 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Don't want them to come back - hope they don't try. Prospect turns my stomach.

  • @angelpacheco1192
    @angelpacheco1192 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This helped me so much tonight. Thanks so very much God bless you. This gave me motivation to focus on God and stay away from people like this

  • @AnnieRiv-nn7ym
    @AnnieRiv-nn7ym 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Something led me to your video today and it’s everything i needed to hear. Thank you! 🙏🏼

  • @robertbaird5247
    @robertbaird5247 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Listening to this, does that mean there is hope? Hope of rebuilding myself??

  • @christopherjones2099
    @christopherjones2099 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    i ruminate all the time. she's constantly trying to hoover. it's difficult to avoid it, but i know it's the right thing to do. i need to find my purpose and not need her validation.

  • @Dorimiramor
    @Dorimiramor 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Will never forget waking from dream seeing a calloused patch and hearing audibly "( ) can't love", decades later learning this is a real thing. He also at the beginning asked me if I could learn to love him! I'm still reeling from an inability to discern any of this in my young naiveté. I only felt soft-hearted sorrow for him

  • @mariciamundle4339
    @mariciamundle4339 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    True. The Narc told me he doesn't love people like God love them, he love base on how you make him feel. He would also say everything have an expiring date.

  • @onlyonce1707
    @onlyonce1707 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    You helped me understand this Dave 2- 3 years ago, and I suspect you have helped so many other people - thank you!

  • @1111spiritualone
    @1111spiritualone 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I been in no contact for a year and 3 months. I have not been hoovered. I deleted social media so i don’t go to there social media. I didn’t realize how much chaos, anxiety, and drama the ex narc had caused in the relationship. All i have now is peace and calmness. I feel lucky my ex narc left me alone. The streets can have them

  • @Freethnkr
    @Freethnkr 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    My ex said there were only 2 women in his life that he had to deal with, his mother and his son's mother ( only until the kid turned 18)
    But any other woman is disposable. Translation: He doesn't care about anybody in his life he's dating . He will get rid of them if necessary.
    A wise man said one time, "Never let a man have to tell you more than once that he doesn't want you" ....
    Take the hint and move on...

  • @bridgettebianca2318
    @bridgettebianca2318 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Great take!! Great explanation of how he moved on so fast and how I couldn’t imagine just taking anyone to stand in the gap.

  • @rislani3
    @rislani3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    We missed you Dave! The question is why would you take a devil back?

  • @naenaehuggins1726
    @naenaehuggins1726 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Lol....🤣🤭
    Kiss their butt for abusing u. Absolute truth!!
    Reprobate indeed!! He use to tell me that I need deliverance. I finally agreed and responded with "yes I do! I need deliverance from u!
    And praise God i do!❤

  • @waggawaggaful
    @waggawaggaful 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Your relationship with a narcissist is never about you. It's about how you make them look to others. You're a mediator of their public image. A tool, a means to an end. They don't see you. They only see the value you bring to their public image. You can't lose someone if you never had them to begin with. There's no there, there. I'm pretty sure most celebrity relationships work this way.

  • @christinaholtzclaw2738
    @christinaholtzclaw2738 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Happy Monday Dave. My partner asked me if I feel that I can forget all the abuse. I can’t. I have moments of hearing a innocent phrase that the narc used. “Easy peasy” is such a phrase that brings a millisecond of an ick feeling. The narc used that when I was struggling with my blindness in some way trying to cook or struggle in sone way. I think those type things will surface for, maybe decades or longer as long as I push through that yuck feeling and keep going and not let it get in my head. Hugs 💕

  • @onedayatatime746
    @onedayatatime746 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I am thankful for your videos Dave and that you point us to the Lord. I have learned that I am at total peace being single, in fact I am blessed. But the most incredible thing I have learned through this horrific trip where I feel I actually was in physical presence of a demon, maybe many demons ….. that the purest love is love from Jesus. He is the true love of my life and He taught me through this that I can rely on Him. Keep spreading the truth !!! God bless you

  • @teresaclipston716
    @teresaclipston716 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thank you you’re keeping me strong

  • @tamerastone4732
    @tamerastone4732 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    God sent me so many warnings!! I ignored everything s I ngle one. Until I went thru dv, and trauma, did I got the heck out!! I'm so aware of red flags, and warnings!!!

  • @druidvw2088
    @druidvw2088 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Never again, isn't that what you said?
    We've been through this before.
    You swore, this time, you'd think with your head.
    No one would ever have you again.
    And if takin' was gonna get done, you'd decide where and when.
    Just when you think you got it down.
    Your heart securely tied and bound.
    They whisper promises in the dark...

  • @williamrobinson49
    @williamrobinson49 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I makes a great living, always have. Married 45 years and NEVER said no to her. Reward ??? She walked out......one comment has it right...why would a person want a narcissist demon back ??????

  • @WakingAngels
    @WakingAngels 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    “It didn’t come from the heart” so pivotal. That’s how they leave so easily. Seeing and feeling that is so freeing. Being hurt is better than never feeling.

  • @JesusIsLife-tf8pd
    @JesusIsLife-tf8pd ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Good man dave another day to be fresh on the ball don't forget people the narcissists don't stop so we don't grab your coffee and let's do this

  • @111mmgg
    @111mmgg ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Judas was a narc. Simply epic. Christ is KING. Judas went down in eternal history as the filthy money loving betrayer.

  • @Danzaxe69
    @Danzaxe69 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Totally agree with this take, Dave. You sir, rock!

  • @NextLevelTherapy
    @NextLevelTherapy 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Amen on the word on Judas. My experience was like that where it was supposed to happen the way it was.

  • @barbann675
    @barbann675 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    5 months now no contact; part of me is still in shock; part feels free; so many mixed feelings. I miss the man I thought he was but it was an illusion. The man that revealed himself behind the mask is very evil scary. Total Jezabel demon in his eyes....I could see the hate, greed, cold, empty, selfish pig that he really was...there is no way ever he is coming back and I think he knows that. 4 months after leaving him not a peep to me from him although he did hoover friends and family playing the hurt victim, he sent the most twisted letter to my elderly parents(for my birthday) so evil and saying they owed him an insane amount of money for landscaping help he did 7 yrs ago "because I left him"(he said "oh yah wish her a happy birthday"). What a creep. It was actually either a reverse discard or he was just trying to push me into mindless broken submission before I surprised him when he caught me with my last car load of stuff. He just laughed at me so cold and sly like "gotcha". I think back when I was bewildered when he would say he only loved me after sex, and if he didn't get enough then he hated me...I couldn't understand it then, but it makes sense now...what an evil empty greedy pig he ended up being. I believe I became the enemy and it was the end when his golden adult child moved back to town...it was all down hill from there. All I helped build with him for "us" he started handing to his son....I became the 3rd wheel, the forgotten, way more neglected than before and just kept getting worse. I have researched and I have found many other people who's relationship ended because of the adult children of their significant other becoming utmost top priority...I always thought how much I would love an instant family, but now I am spooked about dating a man with adult children; my ex and his Golden adult son were so traumatising...do you have any info on this situation? Is it a trend in today's narcissistic society that people my generation, mid 50's, let their millenial narcissistic adult children rule over everything? Even the parent's relationships? or is it just an example of the narcissistic family because his overbearing own uncle was trying to control our realtionship too. I just want a relationship with one man, and family can visit, but this was some sick whole family trying to dominate little me and I was supposed to be a slave to "the family". Am I alone in fearing to date someone with adult children now? Sorry it is so long. Thank you so much Dave.

  • @rebeccaconn389
    @rebeccaconn389 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I got with my narc boyfriend (for only 3 months, then I figured him out and ended the relationship) not because I was looking to be selfish or disobedient to God … it was because I was 2 years out from losing my husband to Covid … I thought I’d found a partner who was kind and attentive … he was lying to me and used my widowhood to take advantage of me.
    Luckily, because I’m a strong Christian and have self respect … once I saw his twisted behaviors … I got out immediately.

  • @stoplayin21
    @stoplayin21 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I was discarded after 2-3 weeks of knowing him and the love bombing was intense! Then he gave me the silent treatment because I spoke up for myself 😬 I get triggered when I’m put down. No way in hell I will be reaching out to him. He can kiss my ass. I guess I fell for it, being as though I was in a vulnerable position in the first place. He is trying to punish me, but to hell with him! 😂 I see right through him. I actually feel sorry for a wretched soul like him. Alls you can do is prayer for people. They are suffering beyond measures. God forgive me for being stupid and God show grace on his absolute wretched soul. 🙏🏽

    • @user-of9bx1uk3u
      @user-of9bx1uk3u 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      2-3 weeks sounds about right .. x

    • @alouise3557
      @alouise3557 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You can't know if someone is a Narcissist after 2-3 weeks.

    • @lindastone7419
      @lindastone7419 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@alouise3557actually you can tell after 5 days

  • @Jacqui-y7f
    @Jacqui-y7f ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I love this channel and you Dave!! You are the voice of reason and comfort for so many including me! Your videos are always so accurate. I ruminate regularly and then I'll go through days where I am free from too much concern. It's been a year and a half since I left my narcissist. It has been tough to say the least. That relationship took so much from me emotionally. I was a wreck with drinking and physically spent. It's funny I had a nightmare the other day about him and his new supply. The very next day he texted me saying that he wants to send me my photos which I have been requesting from day one. Is this technically a hoover?? I'm not sure if he is just feeling bad about not returning them to me in so long or if this was a half hearted attempt to come back. The conversation didn't extend beyond the photos and I'm glad he's sending them it was just so weird that I had the nightmare the night before and I am not someone who frequently dreams about anything at all. Would love some feedback. Thanks!

    • @peacefulself7848
      @peacefulself7848 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      My honest opinion to you is that he probably feels you're trying to stay in contact with him by asking for pictures constantly. He definitely sounds like he's toying with your emotions and still feel he has control over you because he knows that you will speak to him about pictures.
      The only way to prove your power is to go no contact and stop asking him about pictures that might honestly remind you of what was, which really wasn't.
      Or they could just be pictures that you really want but he's definitely looking at it as a control move over you. It's also definitely a hoover to check your temperature, to see if you'll still talk to him.

    • @Jacqui-y7f
      @Jacqui-y7f ปีที่แล้ว

      @@peacefulself7848 I haven't asked for my pictures once since I moved out. I asked for my photos years ago and he always put it off and I would forget. I have not contacted him pretty much since I left a year and a half now and I will never contact him again. He texted me recently saying that he found this album and that he wanted to send them to me so I had to give him my address - not good but I wanted these pics from childhood and as a teen. So, no I never ask him for anything and won't ever again. It was confusing to me why he is choosing now to contact me regarding this.

    • @alouise3557
      @alouise3557 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@peacefulself7848she didn't say she asks for the photos constantly. Maybe she meant "since day 1" of the relationship.

  • @raymondharrison7932
    @raymondharrison7932 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Currently distancing myself staying with family. I'm roominatating so much on the marriage I've lost my job searching again. Deep down I know they aren't healthy for me but having a hard time letting go.

    • @lindsay3793
      @lindsay3793 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Hi, I'm going through very similar. My fiance discarded me (he became so unnecessarily hostile and aggressive towards me, raging with pure hatred) and I'm back living with the parents 😱, ruminating like crazy. You are not alone.

    • @raymondharrison7932
      @raymondharrison7932 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @lindsay3793 I am super confused, hurt, angry, depressed and on the fence due to actions not matching words. I feel I communicate well however, her not able to take accountability and her gaslighting makes me get defensive then I blow my lid and thats not me but that's her focus. Our core values are on opposite spectrums which doesn't help either. To fix you have to communicate and that turns to blame shifting. When at our house I try to stay on the other side distancing which helps me think. She's my kriptonite though if close because she says the things I want to hear and crying makes me feel guilty. Crazy on how when she's not around so I can think I get stronger but weak at home. I know I love her but I know it's unhealthy.

    • @lindsay3793
      @lindsay3793 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@raymondharrison7932How has she responded or reacted to you taking distance?

    • @raymondharrison7932
      @raymondharrison7932 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @openmind5318 The spot that I'm in now is that we spoke of doing real marriage counseling together. We've had our own counselors for some time and have gone to each other's together before. (Me since 2020 her 1yr) I've mentioned together with a focused marriage counselor a long time ago and now that she's seeing I'm serious now she wants to do so. She feels this is sudden but I've always spoke up and when I'd say how I felt she really didn't want to hear it. I'm planning on no contact for a while to see how I feel. But how does that look to her being no contact and marriage counseling? I don't want to lead her on or give false hope.

    • @raymondharrison7932
      @raymondharrison7932 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I hope everyone sees this and replys. Truly lost and trying my best not to speak with my mom (bias) but I have no friends or support.

  • @char42keys33
    @char42keys33 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Fools Gold💯 Exactly Dave.

  • @polyjb1
    @polyjb1 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Dave, I went through banana splits ville for sure. LOL. I spit my drink. So true. I have watched your videos for 3+ years and they are always spot on. Just like the narc plants in the greenhouse. Thanks for the laughs

  • @amyt7378
    @amyt7378 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    For rumination I have been binding the spirit of rumination by the precious blood of Jesus I’ve been binding the spirit of rumination to the foot of the cross 🙏🙏🙏🙏 I say “by the precious blood of Jesus spirit of rumination I bind you to the foot of the cross to receive your sentence. You don’t belong here. Get out. You have no right here.” And say Come Holy Spirit” over and over. All I know is that after I say this I get out of the funk! I know this is diabolical. Thank you so much for your videos dave they have literally been life saving.

  • @margaretayambo1065
    @margaretayambo1065 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Your the only one put the word on the spot🙏🙏🙏🙌

  • @Inkironnrum
    @Inkironnrum หลายเดือนก่อน

    9:10 “They never forget when you drop the ball.”
    True. Narc and I are at a restaurant. Light is dimly lit. Menu was difficult for me to read. I was already feeling awkward around her. Was uncomfortable with asking her to help me read the menu.
    Server asks me what I want to order. I pointed to one of the dinners listed and to one of the listed wine choices. Server was confused. Awkward moment.
    The narc never offered to help me after I told the server my difficulty with reading the menu due to the darkened dining area. I then asked the server if she could assist me. The narc didn’t say anything about what just happened.
    Three weeks later, her and I are on the phone. She was furious because I didn’t answer right away. I didn’t answer because I was driving in Mexico, alone, and I didn’t know my way around. I was lost. Luckily, I had a friend on the phone guiding me to my destination.
    Finally arrive. She is calling me for the hundredth time. I answer. She is furious because I took too long to answer. After that she begins with, “You couldn’t even read the menu!!! Ahhhhhhh!!!” Yelling at me with disgust in her voice, followed with a frustrated scream. That was weird. She is weird. She is also a TH-camr who talks about NPD.
    Satin had me fooled. He played the biggest joke on me. There I was, thinking she was this amazing woman. A woman of God, (but who prayed to the saints), a woman who in my heart would never hurt me.
    Satin is fooling the masses with her act. A wolf in sheep’s clothing. She even convinced me of Dave (this channel) being a narcissist. Also, I was interviewed twice at her channel, however, both videos were removed by her.
    I have never met a disturbed woman like her before. Yuck.

  • @georgeengelbrecht1310
    @georgeengelbrecht1310 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Man, you definitely spoke to me in this one. If this is not God's work, I don't know what is.

  • @Cowboy19735
    @Cowboy19735 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

    My Narcissist Ex-Wife started thinking of replacing me the day we got married,
    I JUST DIDN'T KNOW IT!

  • @gaynapriest4366
    @gaynapriest4366 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I pray that God will help me, it's been 5 months since I was discarded and I seem to be getting worse. 😪

    • @debbier9555
      @debbier9555 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Pray and hang in there. Stay busy and focus on something other than your ex. Many times, when things feel worse our God given inner strength can lift us above to healthier ground. It is difficult but doable.

  • @bpawlosgobezie9082
    @bpawlosgobezie9082 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The devil sent a tall, dark and rich man to try and narc me. Thing is, God protects his children. Bless you all.

  • @terencebyrd1067
    @terencebyrd1067 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Bro you have the best analogies hands down. ❤

  • @JimmySmith-du7xz
    @JimmySmith-du7xz 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Sometimes the narc does a final discard. Believing they were sooooo far above their old supply that they simply walk away - and go no contact with the old supply. Ask me how I know this...
    Can you discuss what the old supply should heal in this doubly-insulting discard? Especially on how to deal with a huge sense of disappointment due to the lack of cosmic justice?

  • @michaelmorgan7893
    @michaelmorgan7893 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I have the feeling my narcissist isn't coming back.(it's been five years for Narc #2, and Narc #1 is passed away) On the other hand, if my ex is still a narcissist, why would I want them back?

    • @ChezzyCalenti-w7b
      @ChezzyCalenti-w7b ปีที่แล้ว

      Fr fr this all true

    • @debbier9555
      @debbier9555 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Not ' 20:12 IF they're STILL a narcissist', unfortunately, a true narcissist is formed in infancy and NEVER changes.

    • @michaelmorgan7893
      @michaelmorgan7893 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@debbier9555 excellent point.

  • @naenaehuggins1726
    @naenaehuggins1726 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I loved asking what do u/have u done for me?
    His reply...."I'm not going there".
    FACT...There was no THERE to go to!

  • @SerenaWilling-c9f
    @SerenaWilling-c9f 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I wish I was educated on this yrs ago I thought I was crazy , they all do the same thing it’s crazy thanks so much x

  • @tamerastone4732
    @tamerastone4732 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Every time I watch one of ur videos, I feel like I've been at church! I wish I had found u sooner. U don't seem to make as many current videos, as u used to. I always look forward to a fresh new video, from u!!! Thank u, and bless u!!!

  • @delfinorowe
    @delfinorowe 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My life perfectly. Thank you. So glad you're back.

  • @Costa-u3y
    @Costa-u3y 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I take comfort that they will never experience unconditional love… for you, their children or loved ones. Its a catch 22 as I wish my kids could experience a mother’s real love… very painful to witness.

  • @tboned1
    @tboned1 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    my narc wife came back for court..divorce proceedings...she asked me for sex no strings attached...she is still my wife so...4 nights of sex later and she went back to her new home down south. Now of course she is love bombing me...I'm never going back but I couldn't turn her down after no sex for 4 months...why do I feel guilty...we are still married.

    • @JOHN-ei2tn
      @JOHN-ei2tn ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Because you allowed the Spirt of Lust, to take over you .
      Despite Not yet being divorced.
      Living in the
      desires of the Flesh .
      Don’t allow it !
      Must walk in the Spirt 🔥🕊✌🏽..to inherit the Kingdom of God .

    • @jennifermoore4246
      @jennifermoore4246 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Maybe you feel guilty because you betrayed yourself by having sex with someone you know doesn't love you, someone who just used you. Or maybe you feel guilty that you used her too.

  • @sunnybajoras4364
    @sunnybajoras4364 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What a great laugh you gave me about banana splits Dave. Bananas have been, and continue to be the food he loves to buy for us. I don't know why except that in high school his classmates called him monkey. He said it was because he climbed coconut trees and knocked them to the ground. Strange actions for an Air Force Academy military student to do at night !

  • @naenaehuggins1726
    @naenaehuggins1726 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    He used the God card. He knew my love for the Lord.
    I wasn't attracted to him.
    I began to think I was shallow and maybe a bit above my rasings....so I determined myself to be humble/non shallow....it was terrible. He didn't shower for days, many times didn't brush teeth, no manners/respect....flattulating/belching eating like a wild boar....I kid u not!! I cut his hair washed his back trimmed his nails...cooked picked up after constantly...paid for all on and on. But now I know...I am not proud. I am humble. I can love selflessly and one day will give my love and attributes to a Godly loving deserving partner🙂🙃🙂 1:28

  • @anitanash7777
    @anitanash7777 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Omg this made me CRY. It’s HORRIFIC. I really didn’t know some people can’t love. It’s fucked. Hell is right here on earth.

  • @frankisebree8767
    @frankisebree8767 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Listening at work .. really helping me today as I accept my marriage is over..100% accurate

    • @user-of9bx1uk3u
      @user-of9bx1uk3u 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      You got this hope your coping.❤ x

  • @taniathomas7353
    @taniathomas7353 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I asked him why can’t he comfort me? He seen how distraught I was full of tears. His response was “No, that would be worse for you.” Because he knew he no longer loved me….

  • @Whateverbaylie
    @Whateverbaylie ปีที่แล้ว +3

    How can they come back if you’re doing the no contacts and block their phone number and block them on Instagram

  • @kristinahumphreys9982
    @kristinahumphreys9982 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My narc beat his disabled brother multiple times in the car with pipe and snow brush then he choked me for protection of his brother. Two weeks after I got diagnosed with Huntington’s disease.

  • @janetjones5087
    @janetjones5087 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I was discarded after 20 years he keeps telling me to move on,yet leaving gifts on my doorstep I feel ill ive got no idea whats going on

  • @blackgoldburton6129
    @blackgoldburton6129 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for this video I just got married to a narcissist not even a year now I regret everyday I over look all the red flags and now I I'm going file for my divorce. We met on a dating site he told me all the right things I wanted to hear I noticed he had a serious drinking problem he don't communicate well but I still go ahead and married this man we live in different countries after we got married I saw the real person he is after 3 months of marriage he stop taken my calls and text on my birthday he sent me a email outline the issues he's having with me and it over 6 months a have not heard from him. Last week he text asking what are we doing?

  • @Whymeahhh
    @Whymeahhh ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My narc still says “everyone does Renee’ because your a Renailen he’d text and not correct you’re to irritate me. Full of insults 😂. Gotta want that back 🤢 Jesus is the cure 🦉 and you Dave much wisdom indeed brother. Much needed today.

  • @kacibeaverwestbrook1744
    @kacibeaverwestbrook1744 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    No. . . I want to figure out a way to get him to "think im the cure" again and swirv the devil and be able to have my security back. I just want the upperhand after everything he put me thru. . I miss him. Im angry . Im confused. Im doing all the reseach i can to heal my brain...

  • @lenilay1267
    @lenilay1267 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi. I will be donating right before Christmas for the best TH-cam guy who has that gift to discern things. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @coffeegirl6854
    @coffeegirl6854 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    That lamb analogy is perfect.

  • @charmee4045
    @charmee4045 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    They love with abandon those they will discard for no reason

  • @JEEPBABYB
    @JEEPBABYB ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Literally after an amazing birthday dinnner he iced and ghosted me after a year together

  • @jessie8834
    @jessie8834 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Everything you are is so true. I married my narc twice. When he wanted remarriage, he had become everything i ever wanted and thought he had changed. The hadn't dried on the marriage certificate and he did an about face 180 turn that left me not only regretful but dumbfounded. Sadly out of 4 children now adults 2 are narcissistic one being pure evil. God forgive me because I love my child but I fear this child. How does one go about adult narcissistic children?

  • @amymoneypenny5629
    @amymoneypenny5629 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I'm trying to leave him now. I just lost my Mother and instead of being here for me he lead me around to places to meet him and was a no show at every one. I'm 19 years off and on in this relationship and STILL stuck for some reason, even though I know he's a narcissist. He's done such awful things to me and has my self esteem so low its awful.

  • @CarmenPerez-kz6rw
    @CarmenPerez-kz6rw 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Me and my narc never had sexual relations before marriage. I stayed abstinence and in the word every day for over a decade. I prayed at times two hours a day. My narc reads the Bible everyday. He prays. He has a church. He laughed at my pain. Kicked me in the face. Said the devil is trying to use him to kill me. I left and got a restraining order. This is so confusing.

  • @BrianSymington-w5k
    @BrianSymington-w5k 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    It's very good that you are helping many people. I personally very seldom hear the answer to the title

  • @Firstoneshere13
    @Firstoneshere13 ปีที่แล้ว

    Dave is so amazing, I love this....

  • @LadyJ70
    @LadyJ70 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Mine would always say Im done and leave the house. If i tried saying my side of things.

  • @LindyLooo99
    @LindyLooo99 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Yeah but I don't want them back sooooooooo. Yeah, never again.

  • @judithwilliams3147
    @judithwilliams3147 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    They wont beg. Even my poncing demonic nex has some pride. They need someone to believe their lies or you're gone.