Story 1: How would he ever be the jerk in this situation? She left willingly after disagreements, had hidden the deeds of the house (most likely theft/destruction of legal documents, a crime itself), and called the cops under false pretenses to gain entry into a property she did not own. In no way shape or form the jerk.
The mother sityation happened to me with my best friend of nearly 20 years. We haven't spoken in the decade since I evicted her. And I don't care. Her treating me and my home with such contempt killed everything I felt for her.
I love it when seniors use their time and sense of humor to give jerks a bit of payback. I noticed that there are two main groups of elderly you encounter, one is the "back in the days it was better" and "the youth is lazy" kind, the other is the exact opposite. The fun and intelligent once that have more than enough free time to make jerks get what they deserve. The kind of grandma that see that a cashier is a pain to their coworkers and decide to come 15 times to the store, each time only buying a single carrot, and then paying to the cent (which obviously takes ages, since they are old and can't see well) to waste the jerk's time.
@@NoThankUBeQuiethow wrong you are. Once someone tells you that they are also a customer but they insist you help them you are no longer obligated to be nice to them. If they don’t want to hear what you are saying and are rude to you what ever you do is just fine, they brought it on themselves.
The story of the sisters caring for their grandmother hit a nerve. My dad was having issues and died when i was in high-school. Im the oldest of 3, so i helped care for my siblings and helped him for years. Im in therapy now for things that happened before he passed. Helped with his medical issues, helped care for my siblings, youngest brother has autism... it was a lot. Ive struggled to come to terms with the fact that i will never know why he let this fall on me. There are somethings i understand he couldnt do anything about... but at some point he just gave up. This guy has no idea the kind of stress and trauma that comes from these situations.
Yea what I thought also, I’m sorry you had to have a burden like that at such a young age. taking care of a bed ridden person is a full time job and potentially soul killing for the care giver. I don’t see how OP’s sister could have done well in school with such a burden. You need time to mentally and physically recover from that kind of long term care giving.
@@a_paradoxfunction4156 And yet you just agree with the poster. They blame the father for being sick and then died! I feel bad for her being put in that position but it wasn't the father's fault or plan. I'm glad they are getting therapy because they need to work through this and realize that sometimes life sucks
Story 1: The mom was definitely in the wrong to justify her actions by saying "I'm your mother". Nor is she justified in demanding the keys to the house.
I will never understand parents who feel like their being a parent was some service they provided that demands gratitude bordering on obsequiousness rather than a responsibility that they took on when they made the decision to have a kid.
In story #5 she says that her husband made a comment on how the boss’s wives were both beautiful and are like works of art, that’s why she made him sleep on the couch.
Exactly. It wasn't the prank it was the comment he made. She even highlights that she told the mother-in-law that she wanted to see "what kind of man she raised".
My mom had keys to a house I was renting. I had been buying things for myself to set up housekeeping. She came in and saw I had 2 sets of new glasses and new, very nice flatware with all the extra things like a gravy ladle and desert server. She took them and replaced my nice glassware with jelly jar glasses and old silverware that was a jumble of silver plate and stainless. She was actually angry I had bought nice things and had not offered them to her and accepted her old things because that’s how children treat their parents “. I reminded her of how when she got married she had gotten a house full of things like living and bedroom furniture, silverware, dishes and glassware. My grandparents had to find money and totally refurnish their house in a 2 month period . Never saw that flatware or those glasses ever again.
It’s not the prank she was upset over. It was the fact the son said the women looked like pieces of art. Making the wife feel less than. That’s why she was upset. It wasn’t really the prank on the other women. She didn’t like it, but it was his “they are pieces of art” comment essentially. Just for those who didn’t get it 🤷🏼♀️
I agree, he completely missed that point, maybe he should actually pay attention to what he is reading and take it all in because she actually said that's what hurt her not the prank, she is not the jerk and neither is his father, the husband is the jerk for saying his bosses wifes are hot, how would he like it if she said her friends husbands were hotter than he is and wanted a picture of them
Even then tho her reaction was a bit much, would it have killed her to say how that comment hurt her feelings in the moment? And the answer is no obviously
About the college situation in story 6. Its deffintely possible that she might've had good results in that dream school even if she dropped out of community college. Motivation is one of the biggest parts about studying and if someone cant be fucked to care ofc they're going to fail, doesn't have to mean anything about talent or potential, just the lack of motivation to do a certain thing.
From my understanding the wife was upset about the prank but what drove her to put him out on the couch was him saying they were beautiful. Then the father in law made a joke in a way that could've been hurtful to both the husband and wife.
Yeah that makes sense there seems to be some weird jabs towards the wife and her appearance which seems like such a characteristic red flag from the father in law and family but also I do think it is odd that it did seem like the wife wanted to turn the parents on the husband in order to hurt him hiding behind an excuse of “I wanted to tell the truth” the husband said “you know how my parents are” which I’m sure the OP does so essentially turning potentially overly snobby, annoying, and attacking people against the husband is not something I really like about the OP although I somewhat understand
If you're in a toxic situation for a long time, it can become somewhat normalized, meaning it takes longer to realize that it _is_ a toxic situation. But it can eventually lead to a breaking point, as it did for OP.
Kenzi/Katie Story: So these two women were trapped in part because OP (who never had to live with gmom) controlled the checkbook. OP made his sisters free live in caretakers and then belittled the consequences. Yeah, he's a judgemental AH who can't see his part in his sisters' struggles.
Not to mention they were still teenagers. My mom got a rare auto-immune disease when I was fourteen, and it took away my childhood. She became cruel and vindictive. And to this day, I don't think I could ever forgive her for taking that from me and treating me badly for being tired of how she treated me because of it. I flunked my classes because I was CONSTANTLY taking care of her and my mentally handicapped sister. I have a feeling that that's why (I think it was) Kensi was having so much trouble in school.
I can also sympathize with the sisters, I gave up ten years of my life basically fresh out of high school to take care of her. I don’t regret it nor do I blame her, she couldn’t help her illnesses nor that we had such little family to fall back On, and she was the one who raised me when my mom died… but I was set back by it greatly, and no one who hasn’t been in that position of having to care for someone all the time can understand the burn out physically and mentally it can take on a person. Even more so when you love that person and remembered how they used to be like before their physical and mental illnesses set in so badly… to watch a woman who used to scrub the baseboards not even want to get a shower or rinse a cup. It breaks something in you. I feel for these guys and hope things go better for them in their lives going forward and that they can slowly get some normalcy and successes in their corners.
Story 2 - of course she’s being a jerk but they deserved it and sometimes you need to act a little jerkily to get through to some people. The way she led the couple around before saying Sit the F Down had me in stitches and I would love to have seen it. 😂
The last one hits me where it hurts. Reminds me so much of what I know of my father. I share the same house with him. But I don’t remember anything nice or caring he’s done for me. He’s always on his computer. Barely does anything around the house. Treats my mum like shit. Like her words don’t matter to him and the only way to get him to do anything is to threaten him with a divorce
Last story: Even if he is depressed, he still is responsible for his actions. He made everyone else's life harder. Worse yet, he isn't treating it and is making it worse by staying up late.
@@quantuman100 Actually, sleep hygiene is literally the most effective treatment. Poor sleep is closely linked to depression. It's more like treating pneumonia by taking someone off of immuno-suppressents.
@@SH-qs7ee and why not? unless you actually underwent the 10 years of study and a few more years of specialization, excuse me if I completely disregard your wholly unprofessional opinion. Considering that these trained and experienced people say that doing things you enjoy (something that very well can be any video game) is a good thing while depressed, i'ma go with them. maybe do some introspection as to why you feel so strongly about this, that you seem to believe yourself to know better than the medical community.
Story 2: SHE’S NOT UPSET ABOUT THE PRANK. She’s upset about the fact that the husband called two other MARRIED women beautiful while being MARRIED himself and then objectified them by saying they looked like pieces of art as though that’s all they are instead of the women they actually are.
Sounds like my wife who always says this “actor is hot” or “that’s my husband” and “she’s pretty”. I don’t mind but I feel it’s a slippery slope if I dare call another women beautiful, cute, or hot. I just don’t date test those waters lol
I'm kinda on the fence about that one, we are human beings and seeing beauty in others isn't wrong, it's human. Just because you think someone is pretty or beautiful doesn't mean you will act on it and cheat on your partner. It also doesn't mean you don't think you're wife or husband is ugly either. I suppose it depends on the type of relationship you have and how close you are and if you're comfortable enough to trust your partner. The part I do have a problem with is how he compared them to an art piece as if they were objects which felt kinda misogynistic. That's crossing a line, if I had a son I would 100% be disappointed in him for that type of thinking.
Story 1- It is YOUR HOUSE. Period. Whatever anyone else thinks, no matter who they are or think they are, does not matter. Last story - Ignore his BS excuses and get rid of the game or maybe the whole system. Treat him the same as a kid who is being an A-hole.
On the last story, as someone who is a gamer, a parent, and struggles with mental illness, the onus is on you to get the help you need so that you can be present in your significant other’s life and the life of your child. When you become a parent their needs need to be taken care of before you can get on a video game. If you’re using a video game to escape reality, if it becomes an issue don’t be shocked when you get called out on it and your relationships suffer.
Story 5: you got that wrong, man, the wife was upset that her husband was looking and complimenting at the other two women, so it wasn't only about the prank!! She was made feel less than the two "pieces of art"!!!
I actually picture water flowing in pipes to understand voltage, current, resistance, and amperage. The sink metaphor got through to her, so it was effective
for the first story I actually think the OP isnt a jerk at all and is exceedingly generous. the mom likely just has a history of dick head activity and he was fed up before she moved in lol
Then again, it's not her house, it's her son's house and he has every right to lock her out, she's a guest period and she should be treated like a guest.
She wasn't mad for the prank thing its because of what he said "" THEY ARE A PIECE OF ART "" That was disrespectful and she felt less than those women.
She says her MIL is nosy? OP is a Nosy Parker herself! She was listening in to her husband's conversation. He had nothing to do with the prank, but he thought it was funny, because it is funny. And I'll bet dollars to doughnuts that OP is also a SAHM, who didn't didn't buy that bed. Yet, Queen Nosy Parker, who has crowned herself the Arbiter of Cultivated Behavior has decided that she has the right to make her husband sleep on the sofa. Her FIL is the one, who made the remark that was a back-handed slight about her looks. I feel sorry for OP's husband. He could definitely do better. Looks are not everything--clearly, as the two beautiful ladies in the photo are evidence. Most men would rather have a wife who is just average in looks but has a great sense of humor and is pleasant and kind, rather than a looker, who is a sour puss with a faux sense of decorum. OP has neither looks, nor a sense of humor.
The story of the guy on the couch. What he did wrong was asking for the picture of the owners wife’s and saying it’s like having art. That last part is what hurt his wife. No woman wants a man to say they want a picture of some other woman as art
@@kawaibakaneko no, thats just an awfull joke in their opinion, bullying is when jokes are constantly being made at your expense and not in good faith like among friends or self depricating humor
This wasnt an over reaction. She wasnt mad about the prank but about what the guy said. Imagine your partner saying that other woman is a pieco of art. Sounds like to him she is not. But sure she souldnt tell his mother about it. Its their private mater and if she said not your business before then there shouldn't be a problem
15:04 he wasn't on the couch because of the prank. He was on the couch because he essentially said, in her mind, that he was a attracted to two other women and he wanted a photo of them for himself.
People like that are never embarrassed for the way they act, those two especially since they were giving his wife dirty looks. She told them that they were also waiting but got very arrogant about and continued to demand to be seated. So she did
Great video. I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me, i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her.
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If I ever run into a situation where someone thinks I work there, I don't think I will say "I don't work here". Instead I will say, "that's not my job."
The story with the grandmother could have had a compromise. They could have gotten a home support worker so the grandmother isn't "put in a home". That way the girls could have still progressed in life the way the wanted.
Yes. Expecting young adults to put their lives on hold to care for her was not fair. They needed help, whether that involved putting her in a nursing home or hiring some home care.
RE prank about 2 women wearing the same dress: She’s not upset enough about him laughing at the prank to make him sleep on the couch. She’s upset because he made the comment that having a picture of the 2 women would be like having a piece of art in his home cuz they’re so beautiful. Jealous? Yes! Depends on their relationship just how hurtful that was.
I had to stay with my eldest son...while I was there I cooked at times as my DIL was pregnant with my grandson, did laundry and when I worked I helped pay rent and helped watch my grandson....this woman is seriously in need of a wake up call...
The tech support story is sooo funny since I worked tech support myself and the stuff I heard has you in stitches at times. The other stories were interesting and funny at times tho a few made me wonder if there was more to the story or someone overreacting at that time. Which can happen when emotions r involved.
Final story: Even as a preteen kid, I still wouldn’t act like that if my mom needed me to do a chore, much less if I was a dad. He needs to get his stuff together
Why were 2 young women expected to put their life on hold? Op was the adult here. He should have taken care of the grandmother. She probably would have gotten better care in a nursing home.
#6 Poster does NOT understand how difficult it is to care for a dying loved one. To lay that one teenagers and then criticize them for wanting to start their lives is reprehensible.
Story 6: The brother is the jerk for dismissing how the sisters feel about living with the grandmother. As the grandmother got older, the brother should have hired someone to help out bc being verbally abused by the person you're taking care of does take a toll on one's mental health. Plus, not everyone can deal with taking care of someone practically 24/7 while going to school, whether it's high school or college.
Dude I agree. Plus he literally took away his sister's future. Like no one is talking about the opportunities she missed that she now never will have because of his selfishness. I'm honestly disgusted. It is never a teens job to care for a parent or grandparent unless they want to. They have their own lives to live. Grandma and Brother were expressly selfish and brother ignored obvious signs of abuse. Shame on him and I hope his sisters can make up time.
@@certifiedsoupmonkehe was power of attorney and financially responsible for her, which was stated. It WAS his responsibility to arrange care for her, rather than ruining his Sisters' futures
Parents would scream at you things like "My house my rules!" and "When you have your own house you can have your own rules!" and then be offended when you do exactly that.
I live with my son (helping him raise his daughter) I'm still his mother BUT his house, his rules, that goes for how the household runs to how is daughter is raised. Maybe I'm an exception but I love not having the responsibility of being in charge 😊
Honestly honestly this was just a choice of words on his part because what he meant was the situation was beautiful. It was a very funny situation to him, because these two women despise each other, and they’re wearing the exact same clothes women hate this in general. It was probably even worse cause they despise each other so what he meant to say was the situation was extremely funny, but he tried to make it sound poetic and that’s what got him in trouble.
@@MaxwellVrooman I don't think so, he literally said the GIRLS looked beautiful not the situation but if he did mena the situation then he shouldn't have worded it that way and he's still at fault.
@@ssjuicebox9700 he said it was like a work of art, referring to the situation of them fighting or resisting the urge to fight each other. Women don’t like it when they wear the same outfit when it’s unplanned, and the fact of these two women already don’t like each other they were either arguing, which was probably the plan or they had silent anger, which would also be pretty funny. The husband meant the situation was beautiful as in very funny it was just a very poor choice of words on the man’s part.
@@MaxwellVrooman You can't really make assumptions like that. But as I'm saying even if he did mean it that way he should've worded it differently and he's still at fault.
@@ssjuicebox9700 here’s the thing when a man says something more often than not, you have to take it at face value because there’s truly no subject to read. There’s no hidden message. A woman is the opposite when they say something more often than not you have to look for the subtext like if she says, I’m fine with that really means is I’m not fine, I got a problem in women think like that too they think men have some hitting meaning behind what they say, but in this case, and any case of cheating or what seems like cheating on women will see it at face value for once what she sees is called two women and a work of art not seeing the text of that situation was beautiful these two women who absolutely hate each other are wearing the same dress, which is something a lot of women do not like men even worse when the women already don’t like each other mean we could only imagine what happened to that party? It could be silent anger it could’ve been a verbal ass whooping from both of these womenWe don’t know, but he does and maybe it was funny as hell so he wanted something to remember that moment, which would be the picture I do where is coming from, but this wasn’t him cheating or even complimenting these women this was him finding the situation. funny again he just said it in a really stupid way.
The guy playing the video game to the exclusion of everything else is not ‘depressed’, he’s addicted. He needs the ultimatum to choose between his family and his video games…and mean it! This is classic addictive behavior. It will not get better on its own…
Story 1 just like my mom always makes that excuse "I'm your mother" just to justify her wrong and stupid doings for example I have filed a labor case to my former employer about giving my salary late for more than a month I won the case and got my salary with compensation after that my mom said to me "don't file again a labor case it's embarrassing" I told her so mom I'll be quiet if there's an employer taking advantage of me? Is that it rather than fight for my right not just an employee but as a person who worked hard to earn a living? Do you even know the whole story why I filed a labor case in the first place? That's the effects of watching too much stupid drama or being weak or afraid of fighting for what is right? My mom replied "don't talk to me like that I'm your mom" I answer yes your my mom but let me ask you this do you see me as a son for fighting my rights? You didn't wanna hear my side you just assumed I was wrong without knowing even my side if you really see me as a son you will support my rights or not being a one sided weak person and your excuse I'm your mother is invalid a mother wouldn't use that excuse for their wrong or stupid actions like what you are saying too me right now also don't influence me with your weak minded attitude if you can't fight for what is right that's ok with me but don't make me be like that I will fight my rights if I have to if you don't support me then stay quiet and don't lecture me about your weak attitude I'm not interested and I know I'm in the right. After that she walked away and give me dirty looks.
In the last one, I've been diagnosed with manic / depression. I took my medicine every day, even though my mom called me a druggie. Sorry, Pal. If you're depressed, it's up to you to get up and get help! Put your Big Boy pants on, turn off your game and stop using your 'illness' as an excuse to not doing anything. Ruts are easy to get into. I've read the same book so many times, I'm on my 9th copy. Even my hard cover books have been read until they were in 7 pieces. But damn, Brother. You've got to assume some responsibility! If I'd been the wife in this episode, I'd have left him to wallow in his dirty clothes and go hungry until he got off his butt and did something! She's an enabler if all she does is get angry, but still does everything for him.
To the first story: No definitely not a jerk, I would have gave her a lease & had her signed it before moving in to the side apartment & have a clause stating that she can not enter the main house without my permission & that she has her own separate side studio apartment with everything that the main house has minus her in control of my personal space & my own family’s property. She is my mother but she is a guest who is on a lease. She doesn’t have to pay rent or anything, the only rules are don’t go into the main house without my permission. Yes you are my mother but in this house you are a guest so you stay in our guest in my separate side studio apartment.❤️💝🥳😏😜🤪🎉😂😊
1) Not the jerk, and I'm happy for OP to be rid of this awful, entitled mother. 2) Kudos to the wife for how she handled this stupid and obnoxious couple. 3) Whatever it takes. 4) You snooze, you lose. Others had the opportunity but passed on it. Grand daughter accepted the position and so that's that. Not a jerk to give the job and business to the one person who was interested in it. 5) OMG what jerks, very unprofessional. And FIL so offensive. 6) What a huge jerk this guy is to discount how bad the situation was for his younger siblings, to force them to remain caregivers, and deprive them of opportunities, and to be smug and self righteous about it. OMG he disgusts me. 7) Husband is addicted to this game and has abdicated all responsibility. He needs therapy, and for this game to be gone. If he refuses to get help, then OP needs to get an attorney and get a divorce, she doesn't need this grown baby in her life being worse than worthless.
My brother made it clear, if my mother is ever in need, I am required to let her move in with me. I live in a one-bedroom apartment. My brother lives in a large 4-bedroom house. I live far away from my mother. My brother lives in the same city with her. He makes more money than I do, I still work, he is retired.
This brother sounds like a bit of an asshole. It seems like it would be no skin off his back to let mom in with him (unless there's an issue with her behavior), but instead he'd rather inconvenience the both of you. smh. You're clearly busting your ass to make ends meet and simply cannot accommodate your mother regardless of whether you love her or hate her. If you could both be nearby with accommodations to suit 2 or more people, that's a different matter where personal feelings can be the deciding factor (something the 3 of you should discuss regardless). But that's sadly not the case. The fact that your brother is more financially successful is reason for him compromise for this responsibility, not an excuse to dump an impossible burden on you. Don't think of yourself as a lesser person just because some family member happens to be wealthier than you, and don't be afraid to stand your ground and lay out the facts to him, or even take legal action if absolutely necessary!
Honestly, people who use "But we're family!", Or "I'm your [family member]!" just to get what they want just pisses me off. It's just basically their go-to excuse now whenever they don't get their way.
Third Story - not the jerk. As a trainer, I sometimes have to get creative with how I explain different processes. Everyone understands at their own pace. This story is truly hillarious.
First Story - not the jerk. Playing any type of family card is a cop-out. Your mother chose to raise you, and that's her obligation. That doesn't entitle her to rule your life and take your things. The rest of your family needs to take a step back and realize that you are an individual with your own life and set of boundaries. If they can't come to terms with this, perhaps they shouldn't be your family. The police filed charges against your mother because of an illegal act that she committed, not you. You don't owe her any support for breaking the law. Your family is basically telling you to lie about what she did. Oh, hellz no! Again, perhaps you should rethink keeping them as part of YOUR family. You'd be much better off without all their drama.
The second to last story: In what world is it acceptable to force two teenagers into the position of being the sole carers to a potentially abusive elderly person with high-risk care needs? OP was an adult (30's) and was power of attorney yet did nothing to actually help with the care of the grandmother, nor did he help his much younger sisters (16 year age gap between OP and the elder of the two girls and a 20 year age gap with the youngest) in their care. They were children taking care of a rapidly aging person on their own for crying out loud! They were in their early teens when they begged their 30+ year old brother to put the grandmother in a nursing home because they no doubt couldn't take care of her properly nor live their own lives (which they were entitled to!) and he just flat out refused to do so and expected them to continue doing everything, all because he didn't want to cover the financial cost. He didn't live in the same state as them, had no idea what this elderly woman's mental decline was like, nor if she had started being physically and verbally abusive to his child sisters, and on top of that he expected them to take on all the emotional and physical burden of being untrained carers, take care of all the housework, and all the cooking, plus somewhere in there keep up with their school work? At what point were they meant to have the opportunity to excel in their academic careers? Let alone at what point were they given the space to grow as teenagers? When were they meant to learn the basic emotional and mental milestones teenagers go through? Between cleaning up grandma's bathroom accidents? or getting into disagreements about her having to take her medications on time? About them having to basically bully her into eating something more substantial because all she'd eaten for two days running was half a sandwich and a cup of tea/coffee? He was 30 and he did nothing to protect or take care of any of them, especially his kid sisters. Yes, they probably did go through burnout, and they probably are bitter at their childhood being robbed from them, and they probably are emotionally stunted due to all they've gone through - because again, he did nothing to help them! They aren't his kids, but they are his much younger siblings and he abandoned them just the same as their parents did, and just the same as their older sister did. OP is the asshole for so many reasons, but one of the worst now is that he is an asshole being he continues to invalidate everything they say and actively denies their lived truth. They were the grandmother's carers, not him, yet he refuses to believe that what they went through was hard. He's a terrible big brother, and should never have been given power of attorney for the grandmother because he clearly didn't care about her enough to ensure she had appropriately trained adults taking care of her needs.
100% dudes the biggest ahole in history and tbh his sisters should go no contact with him. How tf do you make young adults in charge of full time caregiving.... If you think they're fit for that role. Then he should have stepped in.
Mhm yes the older brother is the jerk alright. I would like to see how his work performance would be if he had to juggle work and taking care of someone who is mentally abusive. He would feel exactly the same as his little sister, mentally and physically burned out.
Hell, even as a full grown ADULT, I was completely burned out juggling work and caring for my elderly mother who has been physically and verbally abusive to me throughout my life and was getting even worse because of her dementia. My much older and very well off half brother (different mother) washed his hands of us the moment my dad died (except of course to demand my mother pay nearly all of her meager SS as rent to continue living in the house that had been her home for almost 20 years at that point). And my sister had refused contact with our mother for decades at that point (understandably so). But that put ALL the pressure and responsibility on me, the youngest, least mentally or financially stable (so much debt, and taking out even more to cover mom's bills too...), with a full-time AND part-time job... All while caring for her physical and mental needs with no training. After the cancer hit hard and fast, it took years of therapy for me to come to terms with my feelings of guilt for the absolute relief that it was finally over completely overshadowing the grief of her passing... Having to do that as a CHILD? He's somehow an even bigger AH than my half-brother
@@mikoamaya134 What you and OP's younger sisters went through is horrendous. For the family to turn their back when you're actively asking for help. Your brother and sister didn't have to like your mother (especially due to her abuse prior to her mental decline), but it wouldn't have hurt them to put their feelings for you their baby sister, and your wellbeing at the forefront and help you when you needed them. I don't think it's selfish or that it makes you a terrible person to feel a great flood of relief when a situation or person that had been causing you tremendous stress, and anxiety, and was at the detriment of your mental health has suddenly lessened or gone altogether. The situation and person were causing you and those two (now) women mental, physical, and emotional turmoil. Also, isn't it kinder that time came for both people who were probably in a great deal of discomfort or pain? You did something not everyone in this world could do, and you should be proud of that fact. Although she may not have been the most pleasant person to you, you put your life on hold to care for someone else. It's a thankless job in many respects, but I genuinely hope that life showers you and all the other people who put their lives on hold to be unpaid carers of terminally unwell family members with the good karma you all deserve.
Story 6: no he wasn't literally he said the sisters were whatever to him before all i know was mean why couldn't they pay for it plus if she flunked in community college she would have no chance in her dream one where you have to actually be a lot better the community college so really that one I think he's not the jerk and your just not looking into the story properly
I thought that the sisters went to him saying how they want to put grandma in a home?🤔 So that the sisters can live their life (like OP has), and then OP was like no. So maybe the sisters thought since OP isn't able to help them financially and they don't have finances of their own, they just have to continue to look after her. And I'm guessing the reason why OPs sister Flunked college right away because of being a caregiver for an older person plus going to school full-time it ways on you a lot. OP didn't have to physically take care of the grandma like his siblings. So in a way OP is a kinda a jerk.
Story 2: all I'm gonna say Karen's will be Karen's all morons and self entitled monsters I love it when the wife knows how to handle Karen's especially in that kind of situations no surprised the wife is like me smart straight forward person and hates stupid Karen's I wish I have that kind of wife the OP in the story is extremely lucky to have a wife like that
story #5 you forgot about the part where he called two other women beautiful and made a simile comparing them to a piece of art. that's the main reason he slept on the couch.
Story 5 It wasn’t about the prank It was that the husband commented about wanting a picture of women that were not his wife claiming it would be a piece of art. FIL also gross
Exactly what I was going to say. It's not about the prank, she was hurt because he wanted a picture of two women who were apparently more attractive than his wife and called the picture a work of art.
I personally think that in story 5, the husband's comment about the wives looking beautiful was supposed to be a joke rather than an actual "Wow they are so hot," however, I, nor anyone else, can read the tone of voice from a reddit post recounting what someone said, nor do we know the husband's personality that much. I personally think the father in law is the worst one in this situation. I also believe that the wife should have made this an actual conversation rather than just get angry without any conversation at all. I also would like to believe the prank was to get the wives to kind of realize that their feud is kind of dumb after the argument is made fun of but idk I'm kinda dumb.
this video is really entertaining and well put together! your storytelling skills are top-notch. that said, i can't help but think that some people just take things way too far. calling the cops over something like this seems a bit extreme, don’t you think? it's kinda sad how entitlement can lead to such ridiculous situations.
"SHES YOUR MOTHER" had me rolling on the floor.
She's not his mother, a mother doesn't believe she's entitled to make a nuisance of herself to her children.
@@SH-qs7ee I meant how he said the name
These stories are not to be laughed at. People will think you are a narcissist.
What a beautiful woman 😵😱
lol same
The “iM YOuR mOtHEr” was hilarious the voice was so beautiful😂
Story 1: How would he ever be the jerk in this situation? She left willingly after disagreements, had hidden the deeds of the house (most likely theft/destruction of legal documents, a crime itself), and called the cops under false pretenses to gain entry into a property she did not own. In no way shape or form the jerk.
And this was in Germany. The Polizei there are pros. They are trained to see through BS. They also take no crap from anybody.
Exactly
Karens of all cultures are becoming a nightmare! Law give me power to at LEAST end them!!!!
Destruction of legal documents is a federal offense if I remember correctly
@@KronosOG-j9nit would be in America, but this story is from Germany
The mother sityation happened to me with my best friend of nearly 20 years. We haven't spoken in the decade since I evicted her. And I don't care. Her treating me and my home with such contempt killed everything I felt for her.
I can totally understand that
@@linaleblanc8288So can i
Love the senior woman’s sense of humor. Definitely not a jerk.
No kidding, love her.
I hope I’m like her when I’m older. She is my new idol lol
I love it when seniors use their time and sense of humor to give jerks a bit of payback.
I noticed that there are two main groups of elderly you encounter, one is the "back in the days it was better" and "the youth is lazy" kind, the other is the exact opposite. The fun and intelligent once that have more than enough free time to make jerks get what they deserve.
The kind of grandma that see that a cashier is a pain to their coworkers and decide to come 15 times to the store, each time only buying a single carrot, and then paying to the cent (which obviously takes ages, since they are old and can't see well) to waste the jerk's time.
Mmmm.. I don't know. They were rude but I think she was ruder.
@@NoThankUBeQuiethow wrong you are. Once someone tells you that they are also a customer but they insist you help them you are no longer obligated to be nice to them. If they don’t want to hear what you are saying and are rude to you what ever you do is just fine, they brought it on themselves.
The story of the sisters caring for their grandmother hit a nerve. My dad was having issues and died when i was in high-school. Im the oldest of 3, so i helped care for my siblings and helped him for years. Im in therapy now for things that happened before he passed. Helped with his medical issues, helped care for my siblings, youngest brother has autism... it was a lot. Ive struggled to come to terms with the fact that i will never know why he let this fall on me. There are somethings i understand he couldnt do anything about... but at some point he just gave up. This guy has no idea the kind of stress and trauma that comes from these situations.
Yea what I thought also, I’m sorry you had to have a burden like that at such a young age. taking care of a bed ridden person is a full time job and potentially soul killing for the care giver. I don’t see how OP’s sister could have done well in school with such a burden. You need time to mentally and physically recover from that kind of long term care giving.
@@a_paradoxfunction4156
And yet you just agree with the poster. They blame the father for being sick and then died! I feel bad for her being put in that position but it wasn't the father's fault or plan. I'm glad they are getting therapy because they need to work through this and realize that sometimes life sucks
@@kirkstinson7316nah dad also could have had his care in order. Money for a home.. etc you know being responsible for ur life. So life’s not fair
Story 1: The mom was definitely in the wrong to justify her actions by saying "I'm your mother". Nor is she justified in demanding the keys to the house.
If your in a country where mom's are loved too much , the first story will be justified
When I read I'm your mother, Mother by Megain Trainer played in my head.
I will never understand parents who feel like their being a parent was some service they provided that demands gratitude bordering on obsequiousness rather than a responsibility that they took on when they made the decision to have a kid.
@@Tewaz1 so funcking true
I heard that sentence many times over the years.
I’m your mother 😩
In story #5 she says that her husband made a comment on how the boss’s wives were both beautiful and are like works of art, that’s why she made him sleep on the couch.
Exactly. It wasn't the prank it was the comment he made. She even highlights that she told the mother-in-law that she wanted to see "what kind of man she raised".
Nah. It's obviously a joke. The woman is angry because whamen.
Ah yes, "because woman" truly Sven here has the fairer sex figured out lads. We can all go home.
@@svenjorgensenn8418 🤬
@@svenjorgensenn8418 not cool not cool
"NOT THE JERK" locking mother out the house!! So glad you stood up for your self! 👍👍
She is a nightmare
My mom had keys to a house I was renting. I had been buying things for myself to set up housekeeping. She came in and saw I had 2 sets of new glasses and new, very nice flatware with all the extra things like a gravy ladle and desert server. She took them and replaced my nice glassware with jelly jar glasses and old silverware that was a jumble of silver plate and stainless. She was actually angry I had bought nice things and had not offered them to her and accepted her old things because that’s how children treat their parents “. I reminded her of how when she got married she had gotten a house full of things like living and bedroom furniture, silverware, dishes and glassware. My grandparents had to find money and totally refurnish their house in a 2 month period . Never saw that flatware or those glasses ever again.
Should have reported her to the authorities honestly.
Yeah I would have done that too @Aidan_Neff.
Why didn't you press charges?
@@margaretwentz4568😅 because she's his mother 😂😂
I would've gone to her house n taken the items back. And change the locks. She wasn't a mother, she was a disrespectful thief 😠
The second story about the wife and husband I can see why he loves that wife so much, she's freaking phenomenal!
Loved how the wife handled that it was great
It’s not the prank she was upset over. It was the fact the son said the women looked like pieces of art. Making the wife feel less than. That’s why she was upset. It wasn’t really the prank on the other women. She didn’t like it, but it was his “they are pieces of art” comment essentially. Just for those who didn’t get it 🤷🏼♀️
In a guy pov I agree because he's basically drooling over them
I agree, he completely missed that point, maybe he should actually pay attention to what he is reading and take it all in because she actually said that's what hurt her not the prank, she is not the jerk and neither is his father, the husband is the jerk for saying his bosses wifes are hot, how would he like it if she said her friends husbands were hotter than he is and wanted a picture of them
I thought the context to the pieces of art was more about the sceptical of the prank more then committing on the wives
Exactly and the fact he said to send him a picture like come on now..
Even then tho her reaction was a bit much, would it have killed her to say how that comment hurt her feelings in the moment? And the answer is no obviously
About the college situation in story 6.
Its deffintely possible that she might've had good results in that dream school even if she dropped out of community college.
Motivation is one of the biggest parts about studying and if someone cant be fucked to care ofc they're going to fail, doesn't have to mean anything about talent or potential, just the lack of motivation to do a certain thing.
From my understanding the wife was upset about the prank but what drove her to put him out on the couch was him saying they were beautiful. Then the father in law made a joke in a way that could've been hurtful to both the husband and wife.
Meh. She is just an angry feminist.
Yeah that makes sense there seems to be some weird jabs towards the wife and her appearance which seems like such a characteristic red flag from the father in law and family but also I do think it is odd that it did seem like the wife wanted to turn the parents on the husband in order to hurt him hiding behind an excuse of “I wanted to tell the truth” the husband said “you know how my parents are” which I’m sure the OP does so essentially turning potentially overly snobby, annoying, and attacking people against the husband is not something I really like about the OP although I somewhat understand
@@svenjorgensenn8418 Yep, as per usual
It was sarcasm! She was just looking for something to have a fit over & found it!
Even as a woman, I find the prank funny.
You should have cut ties with the toxic mom way before that happened? Honestly you were doing her a favor and that's how you are treated
If you're in a toxic situation for a long time, it can become somewhat normalized, meaning it takes longer to realize that it _is_ a toxic situation. But it can eventually lead to a breaking point, as it did for OP.
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*BRUH*
I mean... Not all person know this and if they don't know then don't be mad. *BRUH*
She's a sweetheart ..Yikes 😬
@@ArethaN.A Oh yes let's defend ignorant malice to the actual victims of said malice because "they don't know better".
The senior citizen non-employee is my hero! Definitely not the jerk. She's awesome and showed those entitled doofuses!❤😂
Kenzi/Katie Story: So these two women were trapped in part because OP (who never had to live with gmom) controlled the checkbook. OP made his sisters free live in caretakers and then belittled the consequences. Yeah, he's a judgemental AH who can't see his part in his sisters' struggles.
Not to mention they were still teenagers. My mom got a rare auto-immune disease when I was fourteen, and it took away my childhood. She became cruel and vindictive. And to this day, I don't think I could ever forgive her for taking that from me and treating me badly for being tired of how she treated me because of it. I flunked my classes because I was CONSTANTLY taking care of her and my mentally handicapped sister. I have a feeling that that's why (I think it was) Kensi was having so much trouble in school.
I can also sympathize with the sisters, I gave up ten years of my life basically fresh out of high school to take care of her. I don’t regret it nor do I blame her, she couldn’t help her illnesses nor that we had such little family to fall back
On, and she was the one who raised me when my mom died… but I was set back by it greatly, and no one who hasn’t been in that position of having to care for someone all the time can understand the burn out physically and mentally it can take on a person. Even more so when you love that person and remembered how they used to be like before their physical and mental illnesses set in so badly… to watch a woman who used to scrub the baseboards not even want to get a shower or rinse a cup. It breaks something in you. I feel for these guys and hope things go better for them in their lives going forward and that they can slowly get some normalcy and successes in their corners.
Story 2 - of course she’s being a jerk but they deserved it and sometimes you need to act a little jerkily to get through to some people. The way she led the couple around before saying Sit the F Down had me in stitches and I would love to have seen it. 😂
She wasn't a jerk. They were for ASSuming!
Yeah agree with that , also I think the husband is a cuckold but I'm not 100% on that.
same is was K.O. LMAO
The last one hits me where it hurts. Reminds me so much of what I know of my father. I share the same house with him. But I don’t remember anything nice or caring he’s done for me. He’s always on his computer. Barely does anything around the house. Treats my mum like shit. Like her words don’t matter to him and the only way to get him to do anything is to threaten him with a divorce
1st story...absolutely loved your wife's response to that rude asshole. I hate unnecessary rudeness and usually return it twofold.
i'm sorry the wife in the first story
Last story: Even if he is depressed, he still is responsible for his actions. He made everyone else's life harder. Worse yet, he isn't treating it and is making it worse by staying up late.
you don't "treat" depression by not staying up late, that's akin to treating pneumonia with a cold pack.
@@quantuman100 Actually, sleep hygiene is literally the most effective treatment. Poor sleep is closely linked to depression.
It's more like treating pneumonia by taking someone off of immuno-suppressents.
And he'd still need to be professionally diagnosed if he even wants to use "depression" and even then it doesn't work
@@quantuman100 You certainly don't treat depression with 'Modern Warfare II'
@@SH-qs7ee and why not? unless you actually underwent the 10 years of study and a few more years of specialization, excuse me if I completely disregard your wholly unprofessional opinion.
Considering that these trained and experienced people say that doing things you enjoy (something that very well can be any video game) is a good thing while depressed, i'ma go with them.
maybe do some introspection as to why you feel so strongly about this, that you seem to believe yourself to know better than the medical community.
Story 2: SHE’S NOT UPSET ABOUT THE PRANK. She’s upset about the fact that the husband called two other MARRIED women beautiful while being MARRIED himself and then objectified them by saying they looked like pieces of art as though that’s all they are instead of the women they actually are.
Story 5?
Sounds like my wife who always says this “actor is hot” or “that’s my husband” and “she’s pretty”.
I don’t mind but I feel it’s a slippery slope if I dare call another women beautiful, cute, or hot. I just don’t date test those waters lol
I'm kinda on the fence about that one, we are human beings and seeing beauty in others isn't wrong, it's human. Just because you think someone is pretty or beautiful doesn't mean you will act on it and cheat on your partner. It also doesn't mean you don't think you're wife or husband is ugly either.
I suppose it depends on the type of relationship you have and how close you are and if you're comfortable enough to trust your partner.
The part I do have a problem with is how he compared them to an art piece as if they were objects which felt kinda misogynistic.
That's crossing a line, if I had a son I would 100% be disappointed in him for that type of thinking.
Story 1- It is YOUR HOUSE. Period. Whatever anyone else thinks, no matter who they are or think they are, does not matter.
Last story - Ignore his BS excuses and get rid of the game or maybe the whole system. Treat him the same as a kid who is being an A-hole.
I found the second story hilarious, if I was there I wouldn’t have been able to contain my laughter
I love what the wife did. She is my hero.
💯 EXACTLY
On the last story, as someone who is a gamer, a parent, and struggles with mental illness, the onus is on you to get the help you need so that you can be present in your significant other’s life and the life of your child. When you become a parent their needs need to be taken care of before you can get on a video game. If you’re using a video game to escape reality, if it becomes an issue don’t be shocked when you get called out on it and your relationships suffer.
Story 5: you got that wrong, man, the wife was upset that her husband was looking and complimenting at the other two women, so it wasn't only about the prank!! She was made feel less than the two "pieces of art"!!!
9:45 She probably spent those 10 seconds actually checking her kitchen sink.
The more I think about it, the funnier and actually believable that idea becomes 😂
I actually picture water flowing in pipes to understand voltage, current, resistance, and amperage. The sink metaphor got through to her, so it was effective
Apparently they didn't want to deal with her but they still wanted to pretend to loyal.
for the first story I actually think the OP isnt a jerk at all and is exceedingly generous. the mom likely just has a history of dick head activity and he was fed up before she moved in lol
Then again, it's not her house, it's her son's house and he has every right to lock her out, she's a guest period and she should be treated like a guest.
I love the older couple!! His wife is awesome!!
Can't wait to be older and have no filter
Right loved her reaction to that rude dude 😂
@@yourface7179me too, I really loved this response
I’m already like that at 56. My granddaughters 11,13 already working on it and are very good at it.❤❤❤
14 almost 15 here and im exactly like that
#1: You are not the jerk. It's time for Mother to go home.
She wasn't mad for the prank thing its because of what he said "" THEY ARE A PIECE OF ART "" That was disrespectful and she felt less than those women.
She says her MIL is nosy? OP is a Nosy Parker herself! She was listening in to her husband's conversation. He had nothing to do with the prank, but he thought it was funny, because it is funny. And I'll bet dollars to doughnuts that OP is also a SAHM, who didn't didn't buy that bed. Yet, Queen Nosy Parker, who has crowned herself the Arbiter of Cultivated Behavior has decided that she has the right to make her husband sleep on the sofa. Her FIL is the one, who made the remark that was a back-handed slight about her looks. I feel sorry for OP's husband. He could definitely do better. Looks are not everything--clearly, as the two beautiful ladies in the photo are evidence. Most men would rather have a wife who is just average in looks but has a great sense of humor and is pleasant and kind, rather than a looker, who is a sour puss with a faux sense of decorum. OP has neither looks, nor a sense of humor.
I absolutely love the way she handled crazy people.
The story of the guy on the couch. What he did wrong was asking for the picture of the owners wife’s and saying it’s like having art. That last part is what hurt his wife. No woman wants a man to say they want a picture of some other woman as art
Idk I thought that he was referring to the look on their faces. As in it being priceless making the prank all the more funny 😂
@@VelCroweBarIf a joke is insulting it's no longer a joke but bullying
@@kawaibakaneko no, thats just an awfull joke in their opinion, bullying is when jokes are constantly being made at your expense and not in good faith like among friends or self depricating humor
@@kawaibakaneko some one is all ways the butt of a joke
This wasnt an over reaction. She wasnt mad about the prank but about what the guy said. Imagine your partner saying that other woman is a pieco of art. Sounds like to him she is not. But sure she souldnt tell his mother about it. Its their private mater and if she said not your business before then there shouldn't be a problem
Story 3 is like drinking poison to kill someone else...
Lol
Story 1 made my blood boil! Why isn’t she in a retirement home of a sort instead? Seems like the mother needs to learn her kids are no longer kids.
His wife didn't overreact. I would have been on the floor laughing after she led them around the restaurant before telling them to sit on the bench.
This is the best podcast to listen to while cleaning, tysm
15:04 he wasn't on the couch because of the prank. He was on the couch because he essentially said, in her mind, that he was a attracted to two other women and he wanted a photo of them for himself.
Exactly he was basically making her feel like lesser than the other 2 women and passive aggressively making her feel like garbage
@@shadowfan115 not passive-aggressively, that implies that it was his intent lol
To him it was just a harmless joke, there was no meaning behind it.
People like that are never embarrassed for the way they act, those two especially since they were giving his wife dirty looks. She told them that they were also waiting but got very arrogant about and continued to demand to be seated. So she did
Great video. I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me, i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her.
@jay pritchett wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?
@jay pritchett Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.
Pretty sure I’ve seen this exact same exchange 5 times now on different videos, don’t be fooled
@@nicholaswilson1851 I've also seen this a lot too, I cant help but wonder if it's their way of advertising to desperate people on these places?
SHELLY RENEE WHITE spiritual advisor helped me fight off psychic aliens from the fifth dimension. SHELLY RENEE WHITE used a psychic tornado to banish them to the astral plane.
If I ever run into a situation where someone thinks I work there, I don't think I will say "I don't work here". Instead I will say, "that's not my job."
The story with the grandmother could have had a compromise. They could have gotten a home support worker so the grandmother isn't "put in a home". That way the girls could have still progressed in life the way the wanted.
Yes. Expecting young adults to put their lives on hold to care for her was not fair. They needed help, whether that involved putting her in a nursing home or hiring some home care.
#1 WIFE IS NOT THE AH!!! I LOVE your wife. She IS ME on a good day!!! I get every bit of her & her humor 🤩😍. They really do deserve your wife & I. 😄😁
RE prank about 2 women wearing the same dress: She’s not upset enough about him laughing at the prank to make him sleep on the couch. She’s upset because he made the comment that having a picture of the 2 women would be like having a piece of art in his home cuz they’re so beautiful. Jealous? Yes! Depends on their relationship just how hurtful that was.
No, she’s the AH. It’s YOUR house. Giving her the guest house was perfectly nice.
I had to stay with my eldest son...while I was there I cooked at times as my DIL was pregnant with my grandson, did laundry and when I worked I helped pay rent and helped watch my grandson....this woman is seriously in need of a wake up call...
Mother should have complied with her son's rules and be thankful that her son took her in.
The tech support story is sooo funny since I worked tech support myself and the stuff I heard has you in stitches at times. The other stories were interesting and funny at times tho a few made me wonder if there was more to the story or someone overreacting at that time. Which can happen when emotions r involved.
Not surprised you 2 old timers are still together a lady like that certainly keeps you on your toes
Final story: Even as a preteen kid, I still wouldn’t act like that if my mom needed me to do a chore, much less if I was a dad. He needs to get his stuff together
And your response would be, "I'm your son." Respect is a two-way street.
Why were 2 young women expected to put their life on hold? Op was the adult here. He should have taken care of the grandmother.
She probably would have gotten better care in a nursing home.
Story 2
Your wife is priceless
You obviously love her & her sense of fair play
Never let her go
#6 Poster does NOT understand how difficult it is to care for a dying loved one. To lay that one teenagers and then criticize them for wanting to start their lives is reprehensible.
9:45 LOL!😂 Love it!
Story 6: The brother is the jerk for dismissing how the sisters feel about living with the grandmother. As the grandmother got older, the brother should have hired someone to help out bc being verbally abused by the person you're taking care of does take a toll on one's mental health. Plus, not everyone can deal with taking care of someone practically 24/7 while going to school, whether it's high school or college.
it's story 5
sorry you were right
That's not his responsibility to hire someone to look after their grandmother because he had already moved out. Therefore not the jerk
Dude I agree. Plus he literally took away his sister's future. Like no one is talking about the opportunities she missed that she now never will have because of his selfishness. I'm honestly disgusted. It is never a teens job to care for a parent or grandparent unless they want to. They have their own lives to live. Grandma and Brother were expressly selfish and brother ignored obvious signs of abuse. Shame on him and I hope his sisters can make up time.
@@certifiedsoupmonkehe was power of attorney and financially responsible for her, which was stated. It WAS his responsibility to arrange care for her, rather than ruining his Sisters' futures
Parents would scream at you things like "My house my rules!" and "When you have your own house you can have your own rules!" and then be offended when you do exactly that.
I live with my son (helping him raise his daughter) I'm still his mother BUT his house, his rules, that goes for how the household runs to how is daughter is raised. Maybe I'm an exception but I love not having the responsibility of being in charge 😊
Story 5: its not the prank shes mad about the fact her HUSBAND asked for the picture of the two girls and said having it is like pieces of art.
Honestly honestly this was just a choice of words on his part because what he meant was the situation was beautiful. It was a very funny situation to him, because these two women despise each other, and they’re wearing the exact same clothes women hate this in general. It was probably even worse cause they despise each other so what he meant to say was the situation was extremely funny, but he tried to make it sound poetic and that’s what got him in trouble.
@@MaxwellVrooman I don't think so, he literally said the GIRLS looked beautiful not the situation but if he did mena the situation then he shouldn't have worded it that way and he's still at fault.
@@ssjuicebox9700 he said it was like a work of art, referring to the situation of them fighting or resisting the urge to fight each other. Women don’t like it when they wear the same outfit when it’s unplanned, and the fact of these two women already don’t like each other they were either arguing, which was probably the plan or they had silent anger, which would also be pretty funny. The husband meant the situation was beautiful as in very funny it was just a very poor choice of words on the man’s part.
@@MaxwellVrooman You can't really make assumptions like that. But as I'm saying even if he did mean it that way he should've worded it differently and he's still at fault.
@@ssjuicebox9700 here’s the thing when a man says something more often than not, you have to take it at face value because there’s truly no subject to read. There’s no hidden message. A woman is the opposite when they say something more often than not you have to look for the subtext like if she says, I’m fine with that really means is I’m not fine, I got a problem in women think like that too they think men have some hitting meaning behind what they say, but in this case, and any case of cheating or what seems like cheating on women will see it at face value for once what she sees is called two women and a work of art not seeing the text of that situation was beautiful these two women who absolutely hate each other are wearing the same dress, which is something a lot of women do not like men even worse when the women already don’t like each other mean we could only imagine what happened to that party? It could be silent anger it could’ve been a verbal ass whooping from both of these womenWe don’t know, but he does and maybe it was funny as hell so he wanted something to remember that moment, which would be the picture I do where is coming from, but this wasn’t him cheating or even complimenting these women this was him finding the situation. funny again he just said it in a really stupid way.
11:04 just because you offer someone a job doesn’t mean you’re absolutely 100% going to give it to them regardless if it’s family or not
The guy playing the video game to the exclusion of everything else is not ‘depressed’, he’s addicted. He needs the ultimatum to choose between his family and his video games…and mean it! This is classic addictive behavior. It will not get better on its own…
The tech support story: not the jerk. Trying to explain things by using offline examples is basically implementing accessibility.
Story 1 just like my mom always makes that excuse "I'm your mother" just to justify her wrong and stupid doings for example I have filed a labor case to my former employer about giving my salary late for more than a month I won the case and got my salary with compensation after that my mom said to me "don't file again a labor case it's embarrassing" I told her so mom I'll be quiet if there's an employer taking advantage of me? Is that it rather than fight for my right not just an employee but as a person who worked hard to earn a living? Do you even know the whole story why I filed a labor case in the first place? That's the effects of watching too much stupid drama or being weak or afraid of fighting for what is right? My mom replied "don't talk to me like that I'm your mom" I answer yes your my mom but let me ask you this do you see me as a son for fighting my rights? You didn't wanna hear my side you just assumed I was wrong without knowing even my side if you really see me as a son you will support my rights or not being a one sided weak person and your excuse I'm your mother is invalid a mother wouldn't use that excuse for their wrong or stupid actions like what you are saying too me right now also don't influence me with your weak minded attitude if you can't fight for what is right that's ok with me but don't make me be like that I will fight my rights if I have to if you don't support me then stay quiet and don't lecture me about your weak attitude I'm not interested and I know I'm in the right. After that she walked away and give me dirty looks.
In the last one, I've been diagnosed with manic / depression. I took my medicine every day, even though my mom called me a druggie.
Sorry, Pal. If you're depressed, it's up to you to get up and get help! Put your Big Boy pants on, turn off your game and stop using your 'illness' as an excuse to not doing anything.
Ruts are easy to get into. I've read the same book so many times, I'm on my 9th copy. Even my hard cover books have been read until they were in 7 pieces. But damn, Brother. You've got to assume some responsibility!
If I'd been the wife in this episode, I'd have left him to wallow in his dirty clothes and go hungry until he got off his butt and did something! She's an enabler if all she does is get angry, but still does everything for him.
Story 2: I think the wife was hilarious
To the first story:
No definitely not a jerk, I would have gave her a lease & had her signed it before moving in to the side apartment & have a clause stating that she can not enter the main house without my permission & that she has her own separate side studio apartment with everything that the main house has minus her in control of my personal space & my own family’s property. She is my mother but she is a guest who is on a lease. She doesn’t have to pay rent or anything, the only rules are don’t go into the main house without my permission. Yes you are my mother but in this house you are a guest so you stay in our guest in my separate side studio apartment.❤️💝🥳😏😜🤪🎉😂😊
1) Not the jerk, and I'm happy for OP to be rid of this awful, entitled mother.
2) Kudos to the wife for how she handled this stupid and obnoxious couple.
3) Whatever it takes.
4) You snooze, you lose. Others had the opportunity but passed on it. Grand daughter accepted the position and so that's that. Not a jerk to give the job and business to the one person who was interested in it.
5) OMG what jerks, very unprofessional. And FIL so offensive.
6) What a huge jerk this guy is to discount how bad the situation was for his younger siblings, to force them to remain caregivers, and deprive them of opportunities, and to be smug and self righteous about it. OMG he disgusts me.
7) Husband is addicted to this game and has abdicated all responsibility. He needs therapy, and for this game to be gone. If he refuses to get help, then OP needs to get an attorney and get a divorce, she doesn't need this grown baby in her life being worse than worthless.
Oh my I can see me getting along very well with the wife in the second story. I love her sense of humor very much indeed!!!
My brother made it clear, if my mother is ever in need, I am required to let her move in with me. I live in a one-bedroom apartment. My brother lives in a large 4-bedroom house. I live far away from my mother. My brother lives in the same city with her. He makes more money than I do, I still work, he is retired.
This brother sounds like a bit of an asshole. It seems like it would be no skin off his back to let mom in with him (unless there's an issue with her behavior), but instead he'd rather inconvenience the both of you. smh. You're clearly busting your ass to make ends meet and simply cannot accommodate your mother regardless of whether you love her or hate her.
If you could both be nearby with accommodations to suit 2 or more people, that's a different matter where personal feelings can be the deciding factor (something the 3 of you should discuss regardless). But that's sadly not the case. The fact that your brother is more financially successful is reason for him compromise for this responsibility, not an excuse to dump an impossible burden on you.
Don't think of yourself as a lesser person just because some family member happens to be wealthier than you, and don't be afraid to stand your ground and lay out the facts to him, or even take legal action if absolutely necessary!
Second story is brilliant, elderly lady had me laughing too hard
Honestly, people who use "But we're family!", Or "I'm your [family member]!" just to get what they want just pisses me off. It's just basically their go-to excuse now whenever they don't get their way.
Third Story - not the jerk. As a trainer, I sometimes have to get creative with how I explain different processes. Everyone understands at their own pace. This story is truly hillarious.
Hey! Something to sleep in to bc i am from germany and it's 2 am 😊 Thank you! :D
3 am sadly and from turkey :((
First Story - not the jerk. Playing any type of family card is a cop-out. Your mother chose to raise you, and that's her obligation. That doesn't entitle her to rule your life and take your things. The rest of your family needs to take a step back and realize that you are an individual with your own life and set of boundaries. If they can't come to terms with this, perhaps they shouldn't be your family. The police filed charges against your mother because of an illegal act that she committed, not you. You don't owe her any support for breaking the law. Your family is basically telling you to lie about what she did. Oh, hellz no! Again, perhaps you should rethink keeping them as part of YOUR family. You'd be much better off without all their drama.
The second to last story: In what world is it acceptable to force two teenagers into the position of being the sole carers to a potentially abusive elderly person with high-risk care needs? OP was an adult (30's) and was power of attorney yet did nothing to actually help with the care of the grandmother, nor did he help his much younger sisters (16 year age gap between OP and the elder of the two girls and a 20 year age gap with the youngest) in their care. They were children taking care of a rapidly aging person on their own for crying out loud! They were in their early teens when they begged their 30+ year old brother to put the grandmother in a nursing home because they no doubt couldn't take care of her properly nor live their own lives (which they were entitled to!) and he just flat out refused to do so and expected them to continue doing everything, all because he didn't want to cover the financial cost. He didn't live in the same state as them, had no idea what this elderly woman's mental decline was like, nor if she had started being physically and verbally abusive to his child sisters, and on top of that he expected them to take on all the emotional and physical burden of being untrained carers, take care of all the housework, and all the cooking, plus somewhere in there keep up with their school work? At what point were they meant to have the opportunity to excel in their academic careers? Let alone at what point were they given the space to grow as teenagers? When were they meant to learn the basic emotional and mental milestones teenagers go through? Between cleaning up grandma's bathroom accidents? or getting into disagreements about her having to take her medications on time? About them having to basically bully her into eating something more substantial because all she'd eaten for two days running was half a sandwich and a cup of tea/coffee? He was 30 and he did nothing to protect or take care of any of them, especially his kid sisters. Yes, they probably did go through burnout, and they probably are bitter at their childhood being robbed from them, and they probably are emotionally stunted due to all they've gone through - because again, he did nothing to help them! They aren't his kids, but they are his much younger siblings and he abandoned them just the same as their parents did, and just the same as their older sister did. OP is the asshole for so many reasons, but one of the worst now is that he is an asshole being he continues to invalidate everything they say and actively denies their lived truth. They were the grandmother's carers, not him, yet he refuses to believe that what they went through was hard. He's a terrible big brother, and should never have been given power of attorney for the grandmother because he clearly didn't care about her enough to ensure she had appropriately trained adults taking care of her needs.
100% dudes the biggest ahole in history and tbh his sisters should go no contact with him. How tf do you make young adults in charge of full time caregiving.... If you think they're fit for that role. Then he should have stepped in.
Mhm yes the older brother is the jerk alright. I would like to see how his work performance would be if he had to juggle work and taking care of someone who is mentally abusive. He would feel exactly the same as his little sister, mentally and physically burned out.
Hell, even as a full grown ADULT, I was completely burned out juggling work and caring for my elderly mother who has been physically and verbally abusive to me throughout my life and was getting even worse because of her dementia. My much older and very well off half brother (different mother) washed his hands of us the moment my dad died (except of course to demand my mother pay nearly all of her meager SS as rent to continue living in the house that had been her home for almost 20 years at that point). And my sister had refused contact with our mother for decades at that point (understandably so). But that put ALL the pressure and responsibility on me, the youngest, least mentally or financially stable (so much debt, and taking out even more to cover mom's bills too...), with a full-time AND part-time job... All while caring for her physical and mental needs with no training. After the cancer hit hard and fast, it took years of therapy for me to come to terms with my feelings of guilt for the absolute relief that it was finally over completely overshadowing the grief of her passing...
Having to do that as a CHILD? He's somehow an even bigger AH than my half-brother
@@mikoamaya134 What you and OP's younger sisters went through is horrendous. For the family to turn their back when you're actively asking for help. Your brother and sister didn't have to like your mother (especially due to her abuse prior to her mental decline), but it wouldn't have hurt them to put their feelings for you their baby sister, and your wellbeing at the forefront and help you when you needed them.
I don't think it's selfish or that it makes you a terrible person to feel a great flood of relief when a situation or person that had been causing you tremendous stress, and anxiety, and was at the detriment of your mental health has suddenly lessened or gone altogether. The situation and person were causing you and those two (now) women mental, physical, and emotional turmoil. Also, isn't it kinder that time came for both people who were probably in a great deal of discomfort or pain?
You did something not everyone in this world could do, and you should be proud of that fact. Although she may not have been the most pleasant person to you, you put your life on hold to care for someone else. It's a thankless job in many respects, but I genuinely hope that life showers you and all the other people who put their lives on hold to be unpaid carers of terminally unwell family members with the good karma you all deserve.
The characters are so well-developed and relatable. Great job!
Story 6: no he wasn't literally he said the sisters were whatever to him before all i know was mean why couldn't they pay for it plus if she flunked in community college she would have no chance in her dream one where you have to actually be a lot better the community college so really that one I think he's not the jerk and your just not looking into the story properly
I thought that the sisters went to him saying how they want to put grandma in a home?🤔
So that the sisters can live their life (like OP has), and then OP was like no. So maybe the sisters thought since OP isn't able to help them financially and they don't have finances of their own, they just have to continue to look after her.
And I'm guessing the reason why OPs sister Flunked college right away because of being a caregiver for an older person plus going to school full-time it ways on you a lot. OP didn't have to physically take care of the grandma like his siblings. So in a way OP is a kinda a jerk.
@@shoshannagreen9233 but they didnt care about him before
I listened to this story 4 times. And sorry to say but it doesn't say that they didn't care about him. 😕
@@shoshannagreen9233 o-o it says at a flipping bit that they said a word forgot it but its mean to him before they even asked the question
I mean, it's cool. Not my monkey, not my circus 🎪😅
I really wish parents would just come out and tell us the things they expected when having children
It is a great video keep up the great work 👍
Intitled mom had no right to do this in her kid's house even if she is your mom
Being depressed is not an excuse when you are a parent your child comes first
Agree "She's your Mother!" Is funny! You are not an evil person. The mother and other siblings should work things out
Love your videos❤❤❤❤
#2 Your wife is priceless. Love her.
Aww come-on
That is freaking hilarious. Walk around walk back outside. Sit the F down. I love it.
Story 2: all I'm gonna say Karen's will be Karen's all morons and self entitled monsters I love it when the wife knows how to handle Karen's especially in that kind of situations no surprised the wife is like me smart straight forward person and hates stupid Karen's I wish I have that kind of wife the OP in the story is extremely lucky to have a wife like that
❤❤❤❤❤ the 55 year old Lady who's twisted since of humor gave the people who thought she was a hostess what they asked for!!!!😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😅😅😅😅😅😅
story #5 you forgot about the part where he called two other women beautiful and made a simile comparing them to a piece of art. that's the main reason he slept on the couch.
I agree. Everyone should respect others' property. Even mother's . Everyone has boundaries
Story 5 It wasn’t about the prank
It was that the husband commented about wanting a picture of women that were not his wife claiming it would be a piece of art. FIL also gross
Exactly what I was going to say. It's not about the prank, she was hurt because he wanted a picture of two women who were apparently more attractive than his wife and called the picture a work of art.
He didn't make a comment he made a joke, while it is a small difference it still is worth noting
"Shes your mother" in the old lady voice was golden
I personally think that in story 5, the husband's comment about the wives looking beautiful was supposed to be a joke rather than an actual "Wow they are so hot," however, I, nor anyone else, can read the tone of voice from a reddit post recounting what someone said, nor do we know the husband's personality that much. I personally think the father in law is the worst one in this situation. I also believe that the wife should have made this an actual conversation rather than just get angry without any conversation at all. I also would like to believe the prank was to get the wives to kind of realize that their feud is kind of dumb after the argument is made fun of but idk I'm kinda dumb.
Story 6:
*Her:* "What's wrong with you?"
*Him:* "I'm depressed."
*Her:* "...yeah, cool, whatever. Can you just stop gaming?"
Hi
this video is really entertaining and well put together! your storytelling skills are top-notch. that said, i can't help but think that some people just take things way too far. calling the cops over something like this seems a bit extreme, don’t you think? it's kinda sad how entitlement can lead to such ridiculous situations.
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@@kinggodzillasaurusrex8468 your name saved you last minute 💀