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- Brother Got My Fiancée Pregnant Before Our Wedding. Now My Family Wants Me To....- Reddit Family
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Brother Got My Fiancée Pregnant Before Our Wedding. Now My Family Wants Me To Forgive Them, But I Told Them To F**k Off And Moved Away.
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A 32-year-old man was betrayed by his fiancée, Sarah, and his younger brother, Mike, who got her pregnant just before the wedding. Growing up, the man had always faced favoritism toward Mike by their parents, causing deep-seated resentment. Despite trying to maintain a relationship with his brother, Mike’s self-centered behavior persisted, culminating in an affair with Sarah, starting during the couple's engagement.
Upon learning about the betrayal, the man ended the relationship and confronted his brother, who blamed him for the situation. His parents, as usual, defended Mike, pressuring him to forgive both Sarah and Mike for the sake of family. Frustrated by his family's continued favoritism and gaslighting, the man told them all to leave him alone and cut ties. Despite attempting to distance himself, his family continued to harass him, showing up at his workplace and ambushing him with emotional pleas.
The man considered legal action, filing a restraining order against Mike and his parents, but Mike continued to break it. After a physical altercation with Mike, the family escalated the situation, further alienating the man. His former fiancée Sarah, now pregnant with Mike’s child, continued to reach out, suggesting reconciliation for the sake of the baby. Despite the emotional toll, the man decided to move away for a fresh start in Seattle.
Throughout this ordeal, he sought advice and support online, which helped him cope. Eventually, he chose to leave behind his family, legal battles, and emotional baggage to begin a new chapter in his life far from the toxic environment.
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Family doesn't mean shit. Not when you mean nothing to them
Yeah. The full quote is "the blood of the tribe is thicker than the water of the womb" after all.
@@patrickkirchner2254 "the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb" is also acceptable
It’s a reminder that sometimes, stepping away from toxic ties is the best path to healing.
And I'm tired of the he's blood he's blood he's family last time I checked blood is just a liquid that goes through my fans to keep me alive loyalty honor and respect is what makes you family other than that I can basically tell anybody with AB negative blood type that they're my family and technically I'm true
These stories are wild coz I can’t imagine my brother doing that to me and I’d never do it to him.
Well, I learned a lot about fancy cakes and pastries.
hahaha so ture
that was a good one
The fancy stuff used to make the ornate sculpted decorations on cakes is usually fondant; it looks great, but it's nowhere near as tasty as it looks. Better to stick with icing roses and sugar-pearls, if you want it pretty but delicious.
Same, i forgot to actually listen to the story
Yeah I kinda liked this video due to the cakes
The brother's relationship with his Ex will NEVER be truly happy they will not last
A relationship that started with cheating will not last
@@lmusima3275That’s Disney BS. 1/3 of men are currently raising a child that is not theirs. Cheating often goes undiscovered or ignored.
@@lmusima3275if they’ll cheat with you, they’ll cheat on you
@@deathshead556 they mean people who get into relationships with their affair partner. They never last, and make up a surprise number of divorce rates.
sorry to break the ice.. i think the marriage would last longer.. as of how manipulated the guy is.. Btw I am disgusted as hiw Sara Fucked her brother and didn't came for abortion. and pleaded for a sorry
His brother and ex won't stop rubbing their happiness in his face. I would have cut ties and fled the state as soon as she announced her pregnacy with Mike's baby and not let this drama role out for as long as it has. Little contact, is bliss.
Yeah, cause i think He didnt Push hard enough and No cause He actually tried. But should have called the cops everytime they broke the ro.
His ex constructed a whole imaginary world where she is not a whore but a happy future mother of a kid with great father and uncle, one big happy family. Pathetic and sad but understandable.
His brother found depraved and degenerative pleasure in torturing him.
The brother was terrible, his ex was just doubling down.
The OP is a loser and has been his entire life.
He pretty much brought all of this onto himself and he doesn't deserve one minute of happiness until he man's up and takes charge of his life rather than allowing everything and everyone to control him.
LOL what a loser.
I would file a restraining order against each one of them.
When the mother was in the lobby with the photo book, he should have just told the office to call the police and treat her like a crazy person.
People need to stop blaming Op. He was gaslit during his childhood.
I hope he breaks free
Once OP moves on and starts living a new life, Mike will probably abandon Sarah and the baby. He just wanted to cause his brother pain. What's the point of staying when it no longer bothers OP? Sarah will be a single parent, his own parents will be embarrassed and humiliated after they've thrown their support behind him, and hopefully OP will out there living his best life away from a shitty family like them.
If family is this important, what does it mean when you betray family?
He knows their relationship won't last, Mike doesn't want her he'll disappear at the first opportunity.
Exactly, he only did it becuase his brother got a new toy. so he went after it and took it. Narcissisms.
Yep Mine will grow bored, he only wanted her coz you had her. She clearly is choosing him as a second option coz you refused to take her back
I wouldn't be surprised if he leaves when the baby comes because "fatherhood is too much pressure"
Send the note to your lawyer and increase the scope of the restraining order to include her. Also fight misinformation in social media with the truth. Post this to all the community your parent, Mike and Sarah is in before privating your Social media and watch the backlash they get
I got type 2 diabetes watching the video
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I would NEVER speak to ANY of them EVER again
and tell them exactly like this
Call the cop's and put them in jail for violating the protective order
the whole thing about protective order it don't always work people break that all the time and courts to cops don't follow through with arrest they give them warnings and that's all
It makes me sick to see the double standards of OP's family
I just don't understand why OP's family wants to stay in contact with him so bad. They clearly don't care about him, so why aren't they happy that he made the decision to leave after being stabbed in the back?
They probably planned on using him as a babysitter and wallet for his brother
They want to keep a picture perfect family. Keeping up appearances
Keeping up appearances for one. The other reason is more sinister. Remember how Mike was just wasting money on his "business opportunities"? Whose money do you think he is wasting? Exactly. The parents see the writing on the wall. They do not want to work till the minute they die, just to pay for the whims of their golden child. So they need OP, to offload the burden on him.
Why does Sara want him involved? Cause deep down she knows Mike will kick her and the baby out eventually. She needs a captain SaveAHo to take her in.
And Mike... Mike is a narcissist. He caused OP pain and is delighted to see OP struggling. That is why he wants him close.
I think another reason is to be able to always say Mike is better through some fucked up and twisted logic to validate all of their bullshit no matter how obvious they are in the wrong or how stupid everyone actually knows they are. They are desperate for a scapegoat to unload on.
Dude couldn’t even defend himself or spread what actually happened, the other supporters also has no actual impact. This shit is just frustrating
Thank you!!! This op was such a pushover. And then, when he grew a backbone, he let his emotions take over and got in more trouble(fight with his brother). Honestly, he should have just cut ties when he was able to leave the first time. Him going to back his family when he knows they favor his brother is stupid.
Well, I think OP is the kind to wanna put up with dire situations instead of instantly avoiding them.
We can label this behavior as stupid, however I tend to describe it as some sort of "foolish bravery".
That kind of gig never leads to something good, and I hope OP actually figured that out for himself.
The way he tells his story portrays himself as someone without any backbone, just taking blow after blow, then hitting back at the worst possible moment and/or place.
With that being said, we can assume without much doubt that his calm demeanor hides a violent storm of pure, unadulterated rage, built over all these years of gaslighting and neglect. No wonder he can't keep his act together.
And now, we can also presume one can break a restraining order without any real consequence.
How fortunate for all the bastards that call themselves his "family", and are probably never gonna pay for all the harm they caused.
OP was conditioned by his family to "be the bigger person" and to "not make a fuss". You wouldn't insult an abuse victim for flinching, would ya? This is basically the same thing. The guy has no idea how to regulate his emotions and the only response he truly knows to being pushed around is taking it or avoiding the fight altogether.
And what would the other supporters do? Clearly none of them are willing to blow up their own families defending the guy, so all they can offer us thoughts and prayers. Tough shit, but it's not a moral obligation for someone to fight your battles. It is what it is.
These kinda of stories are the most believable to me to be honest, because they show people how they are instead of "So I kicked his ass, took all the money and everybody on the bus clapped". Quit being judgemental, bruh.
@@biggysmallz40 handled it better than I would have because golden boy would have been 12 feet deep and across multiple countries if it was me
Hope this guy was able to put those grudges away and start a new life. Family isn’t blood it’s those who want to see you succeed and be happy. Those loyal at all times. Glad he left his family. He never had one to begin with.
Yeah, i Sure Hope He Posts an Update in 4-5 years where he Just gotten married to the anti susan
Okay, I got to say, if you walk up behind someone who is doing a workout that consists of punching, and then you start antagonizing them, you shouldn't really be surprised about being punched
well I mean, "Mike" was his whole life behind his parents to prevent OP to give him a piece or two wich he deserved
he got cocky and get punched
Run from this whole toxic family. I’m thinking he may be a product of his mother’s affair and Mike is actually their child. Either that or the parents are narcissist and Mike is their golden child. He seems like the one normal one in that family.
Poor dude. I feel bad for him. No man of any kind should have to feel the pain of their partner cheating on them.
Can't wait until the older brother is caught cheating on OPs ex-girlfriend!
Was just thinking this. Mike is a self absorbed narcissist whose only interest in Sarah was that she was OP’s fiancée.
When the novelty of that wears off, and he has to start the monotony of early nights, diapers, pregnant wife, no more partying, and actually having to find a job, he will realize how un-fun it is. Then he will get bored and cheat. This entire relationship is built on a house of cards. No relationship that starts with cheating, deception, and betrayal has good chances of succeeding.
Something something 'getting with the affair partner opens up a vacancy'
@@estebanslavidastic4382 dude that relationship isn't built on a house of cards it built on a hay bail of malfunctioning atomic warheads
Who tf said he was the unstable one?
The brother literally violated a restraining order just to taunt him and harass him and he's the one out of line to you people?
I'd love to see how y'all react when put in a lose lose situation
Hmmmmm, betrayal is betrayal, no matter who does it. Those that support it are also betraying you. It hurts more coming from family, but it is still betrayal. Betrayal has many lessons to learn wrapped within it. Do not hesitate to cut off all of those, be they family or not, involved in the betrayal.
2:24 they always find a way to bring you back because you always keep accepting their backs. You could have stayed away the entire time and just lived your life but you kept going back because either get trip or family pressure which a lot of people have which is why people say they always bring you back because you don't know how to say no. And that's just a fact
You are a strong person don't do anything you don't want to
Bud Didn't Dodged A Bullet But A Whole Ass Missile💀...
The brother isn't the only one with narcissistic behavior. Op made right decisions, and left the narcissistic biomass behind and moved.
Why is the golden child brother in all these always mike?
OMG you're right it's always mike 😮
Someone once told my Mother, "The Archangel Michael expelled the Devil from Heaven. Now, the Devil tries to get every Michael back."
You do not need this family. Unreal how people can act. Good luck and you are worth more than that
He should have Ghosted them long ago.
Why do they always call them Sarah?😂😂😂
Its a common name so its an easy stand in for real names. Mightve originally come from a top 10 baby name list but now that its a trend people just keep reusing it lol
Forgiveness isnt demanded, its given. If I were OP, especially with how the clearly disrespected him and show zero remorse for their action in how they're just breezing along and letting Mike off the hook for such a betrayal, forgiveness might never happen. The kid is 100% not OP's responsibility or concern.
Its outrageous for people to try and crap on OP when his own brother was seducing his fiance and they ended up with a baby. He has every god damn right to be angry and not want them in his life anymore.
Cut ties and make it public the brother's betrayal.
That just sounds so stressful oh my god what terrible people. Good luck to op 🍀🍀🍀
I'm just impressed with the Winnie the Pooh cake. 🎂 🍰
About time you woke up and left
28:25
Some people cant handle seeing others happy😂😂
Woww
0:29 5 year old girlfriend 💀
I would've told her I hope the baby doesn't make it 😂
It’s not the child’s fault for the adults decision
@@theknight1919that’s true
@@theknight1919 bro she has more eggs
@@theknight1919 who cares
Godspeed, OP. May you find happiness after all.
The true test of a well written story is that moment when the reader or listener becomes involved, and follows the actions of the characters, with them coming alive. This story does that.
Who needs enemies when you have "family" like this? 😅
......so she was a short lived ex gf of your brother???? Yeah..... that was gonna be a problem from the beginning
She was the friend of his brother’s ex-girlfriend, if I remember correctly. Either way, this situation is messy
reading comprehension of a pebble
Son you can always rewind 5 seconds to hear him say FRIEND of the ex gf
Or read the transcript. 🙄
Your listening skills were a problem from the beginning.
OP needs to harden up and dish out some harsh lessons.
Good luck, I hope you win the case and have a long, happy life.
Please keep me updated with your new life😊
I think I’d be in prison for multiple murders if this happened to me.
OP is weak for not going scorched earth. He’s just so damn weak! It’s irritating to hear all this crap.
Let go of the pain. Go NC with your family and Sarah. See a therapist. Tell them to FO and concentrate on your own well-being. Get some distance.
You'll love Wa.
this video was really well put together, and it definitely caught my attention. it's so hard to navigate family dynamics, but honestly, i find it hard to believe that anyone would expect you to just forgive and forget in this situation. i mean, if your brother crossed that line, can relationships truly go back to "normal"? might be a hot take, but some lines just shouldn't be crossed.
13:40 "Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing." When the AI story generator fails and they don't spot the error O:
They want him to forgive his brother for impregnating his fiancee. To quote Jeffy from SML "ARE YOU F***ING HIGH?!?"
This is a stupid story. He says that he always been the poor "step", my word, child. Ignored, dismissed, belittled, whatever, yet the family keeps coming around? Shouldn't they be saying good riddance? Why does he keep putting up with it?
The reason is because whoever wrote that garbage has such a hard on to get it on Reddit, he didn’t bother to proofread for logic. That is a massive plot hole in that long diatribe of nonsense.
Also the restraining order makes no sense. They don't just hand those out to anybody who asks.
@@blender4464 well they don't always work either my brother had one on his ex wife she broke it so many times and the courts and cops did nothing the most they do is warn them or remove them from being near you unless its a bad case they wont try hard to enforce it
I’m happy you had a healthy childhood, but a lot of people in abusive families are gaslit and brainwashed to stay around so that the others can continue to abuse them for fun.
Trauma bonding is real.
"explaining that it was a mistake"
Yes, and you made it.
*So Mike's a soft, weak mommas boy who coasts through life at the end of the day.*
yep, and Sarah will find out. Or already has if that last update is anything to go by. People like her dont suddenly grow a conscience
You did the right thing!
Hope this guy is loving life right now, gotta control his anger even these very very tough times because nobody should be throwing their life away because of a punch and an assault charge but other than that I hope he finds peace and happiness
Despit everything you done for them eventuly they will hate you - a wise man
The thing I don't understand with the restraining order issue is why they seem to never have been properly punished by the law for violating it. I live in Wisconsin and here if you violate a restraining order the first time you'll get a $10,000 fine and 9 months in jail and with each additional violation the size of the fine and the length of jail time is increased.
Dear God I hope for this guys sake this is just a story from a really good story teller
After listening to this video, I want a piece of chocolate cake!!!
same
Why cheaters always use this line "I still love you" If they love why they cheat then
"the blood of the covenant is thicker than the waters of the womb"
The family you make is stronger than the bonds of that which you were given. I hope OP finds peace in their sorrow.
My favorite part of these stories is when the guy that shit on gets his life back together and all the people that wronged him feel like shit. Hope we get that kind of an update some day
"They've even dispatched flying monkeys"
I just came from a video where this Ex, named Sarah baby trapped her bf and had a miscarriage, And the baby wasn't even her bfs 💀 (worst summary ever dude lol)
I was literally shouting at the screen “DUDE DEFEND YOURSELF!!!!”
28:40 is literally the quote from Rick "your boo's mean nothing to me, because i saw what makes you cheer!
I personally would never be able to be intimate with a woman like this
Yeah dude it really sucks but you have to realize they are beneath you and do your best to be successful in life in spite of them.
great video, i really appreciate how you addressed such a complex situation. but honestly, i can't help but think that the family’s pressure to forgive the brother seems a bit unfair. shouldn't you prioritize your own feelings in a situation like this?
Bro, if they don’t eat all the cake or at least donate it I’m going to be so pissed
It sucks when the AP is your sibling and your family looks the other way. Leave your home and start fresh and don’t look back.
mike would be checking into the hospital after falling down some stairs....
This is the part where i would've said.. womp womp b, that baby and u can d word 😂
I feel like the ex wants OP to still be there because she still wants to be with him but is now stuck with the brother. With the way she keeps pestering him, it’s the only logical explanation I can think of
The pastries betray the mood of the story…
If this taught us one thing, Family is NOT everything, sometimes those we think are closest to us are in fact our enemies
if my brother did that he would be dead
I love the Pooh Bear cake.
this video really sheds light on some complicated family dynamics, and I appreciate how you navigated such a sensitive topic. but honestly, I can't help but feel like the family's pressure is a bit overstepping. shouldn't the focus be on what the couple wants instead of what everyone else thinks?
His ex sounds like a piece of work. OP dodged a bullet with that woman.
When family gaslights you and side ms with AP (i. e. your brother)…tell them to F off and disappear…I did and don’t regret it !!
Unfortunately, it takes something like this to discover who your real friends are, and who in your family is gonna love the hell out of you
What a weak B. Let others set the narrative. Then he ran away
Not really he just didn’t care, he just didn’t want to put in the effort
you are not wrong what so ever just leave them all behind at that point
This is either written by AI or someone who has never actually been around people.
Absolutely should get over them. Awful people especially Sarah.
You don't need any of that. I hope goes well for this man ^^
You dodged a bullet for her to lay with him says she has Bad character. Your parents are wrong but they are still your parents, feed them with a long handle spoon.Most of all don't let this Bad thing consume you, it takes too much energy. You can still find True Love.
post back a cheater has no right to say anything
I hope mike had a tough family life after he stole his brother's g/f. it's a shame of that family!
Mike was Griffith of the show
From personal experience, blood means nothing. A friend can be a real brother, more than a blood brother
Ce gâteau à l'air délicieux 😊
They wanted money from the very begining and a "victim" adjective for themselves. It's probably the lawyer telling them to do that to provoke and say whatever to start a lawsuit
U r not wrong 4 your actions and feelings.
When the note was left in his mailbox, he should have torn it in half, unopened, and mailed it back.
I hope your parents realize that he has to take care of them when there old
If i was you, I would move away and start over. Don't give up on maybe starting anew with someone else. Good luck man.
The cakes look so good, too bad I'm diabetic
Nta; get away from these people, theyre not your friends. You need to think of you and take care of you. It doesnt matter how silvertongued the brother is; the woman was engaged to you, and had chosen you. At some point, she shoulf have seen exactly what was going on. But no, she was too happy about having her ego stroked. Inmediate pleasures are all well and good, but they cost you what you didnt want to lose in the long run. She tried to have her cake and eat it, too. The only kind of point i can give her is that she eventually told you. Its almost immediately detracted from by the fact that it took her being preggo with someone elses kid to tell you. Disgusting. Take care of yourself, king