It doesn't have anything to do with you mate. It's all on her poor decision making. My ex wife did a similar thing. I worked too much. She was lonely. He was there for her. So on and so forth. He had no job. Came to me after I moved out asking for money to pay the light bill. I slowly shut the door in her face.
This reminds me of a dude who used to come into the bar I worked at. He had like two kids, two step kids, and like 4 adopted kids. Made good money, great dad. Wife runs off to fool around. He says he wants custody of all the kids and for her to never bother them again. She says okay, but I want that classic car you rebuilt. He didn't even hesitate. Said it was the best trade he's ever made. She traded her kids for a car.
@@bargainbin6162 yeah she was also coked out I think. Like I said, he didn't hesitate, called it the best trade he ever made. As I recall she tried to get something later but once the judge heard that she had traded her kids for a car, she was deemed unfit.
"Great dad", yeah sure. Look at the mother he gave his kids. I'm tired of men getting away with marrying trash women. Imagination if your sister leased a room in her house out to a single guy with twins. The guy worked at McDonald's part time and said he was trying to get back on his feet. He'd been sober for 6 months, so your sister thinks he's good to go. He's also tall and attractive. She marries him. Bro, she'd have to eat that decision. Nobody would feel sorry for her.
Let me guess...she got greedy but later realized that the grass wasn't greener on the other side, and that she threw away a good relationship and a nice life over basically nothing... Classic cheaters, they mostly end up regreting their cheating once they realize how good their life with the betrayed partner actually was.
And when she used suicide as a means to manipulate and hurt OP?...Honestly, I think that people that do that do deserve the forbidden phrase "Do it, then". They're so selfish and such cowards that until the end they want their situation and issues be someone else's problem.They try to beat into submission those with good hearts by making it seem like "any attempt at my life was because of you" rather than "any attempt at my life is because I feel miserable and can't must strength to deal with it". Pricks.They *DO* deserve to be told to "DO IT THEN".
I feel so bad for the kids. Imagine having a father figure that loves you can can support you but you’ve gotta go live with your trailer trash mom and her disgusting boyfriend in a dirty car and can’t even go to school because she ‘gAvE bIrTh tO yOU’. Blood doesn’t mean shit. Emotions are everything!
That's the system for you. They'll always assume that the mother is more fit for raising children than the father. The media only wants to hear about the Deadbeat Dads, not knowing there are just as many Moms who are Deadbeats.
The irony of it compared to cases of paternity fraud, or putting someone on the hook for child support just because they've "taken on a parental role", yet here is a cut and dry case of an unstable junkie unfit mother and he's at her whim because "reasons".
@@RefRed_KingBecause just as there are incredibly intelligent people who may not have been afforded the luxury of an education, there is the reverse, incredibly stupid people who have been educated past their intelligence. The latter just so happen to be the people who make all the decisions, as we live in a society where a piece of paper is more valuable than actual ability.
I feel bad for the kids. The step kids had to be homeless for weeks and witness their mom doing drugs and getting hit by someone. Not ONCE the wife had an interaction with her 4 y.o Truly disgusting and I hope OP will be able to keep all of them
Unless the judge has some screws loose and some wires frayed, it should be an easy custody battle because that bitch absolutely cannot provide for them courtesy of her horrible decisions.
Same here. But if he doesn't, placement in foster care will be the best thing for OP's stepkids. And hopefully, social services will find other families to adopt them; families who are good people and will love them, just like OP does.
72 red flags in 3 minutes. An attractive single mom with 2 kids thats homeless, a weed smoker, that you met drunk at a party instead of trying to fix her living situation, sleeps with you without knowing you, her ex is "abusive", shes a stay at home mom but also bored and in need of excitement, constantly smokes weed but doesnt have a job to pay for weed? Bro was literally begging for a bad ending by ignoring all of these red flags.
this is your daily reminder to all men: do NOT try to be Captain Save-A-Hoe or a white knight. the biggest mistake this guy made was putting her on a pedestal and talking about her like she was some kind of god. OP, if her other kids are underage and she has them with her, do those kids a favor and call child services because they shouldn't be living out of a car. if possible, get in touch with someone from either her family or their father's/s family to take the kids in so at least they are safe
@danacarter9147 And rarely is it a good alternative, maybe financially, but there's often the chance they'll wind up with someone who wants kids for all the wrong reasons.
This is the 2nd story I've seen today about a man who meets and falls in love with a homeless woman, saves her life, builds her up, and she cheats. People are trash.
@@crowfather0249As much as I hate to admit it, I’ve got to agree. I know that they’re people too, but it’s so not worth the risk of having beautiful kids who end up in some dirty car with a disgusting stepdad and not being allowed to go to school. It’s just not worth it. Don’t date trailer park trash
Is he though? I see this "prime example of a provider man" a lot in these stories and honestly, I would probably leave him too if I was the women. (Not defending her actions, just in general). I meanseriously, having a provider husband might be practical, but there's absolutely no spark there, no romance, no love. It's just a dead marriage. Obviously, the woman is the one in the wrong here. It's just, if everything you bring to a relationship is money, don't be surprised if you get yourself a gold digger.
@@XMaster340 Well, there's one thing you might've forgotten about in this story; He only worked so many hours because his lazy ass wife didn't want to work to support their three kids. You don't have the right to complain about the relationship if you choose to be a stay-at-home wife with three kids that need a lot of money to support. Get a job, and you'll be able to see your husband/wife more often at home. More people working means less of a need to stay overtime at work to support your family's financial health. Edit, but, in my honest opinion, the fault for this situation is probably more on OP's side for marrying a person who's homeless that wants to be a 'stay-at-home wife'. That shit reeks of entitlement.
@@UifonExactly my point. I would never marry a woman who won't pull her own weight. These kinds of stories seem to happen mostly to men who go for traditional marriages where the man works while the woman stays at home and cares for the children. Just the power imbalance this creates should be a huge red flag. That's not partnership, that's one sided dependence.
Emergency custody should've been the first thing he filed when he managed to get the kids back. The Ring should provide evidence of drug abuse, and grab a couple of the people who've seen them begging around town, along with the kids describing how and where they were living, plus the child abandonment of the youngest, it should be a solid case for her as an unfit parent.
That comment she said to OP, "You work too much and don't have time for me", well I'm very F*CKING SORRY about me working so the house is kept clean, the kids safe and well fed and for you not to worry about finances. People today should be grateful that their partners are working hard, so the house is well maintained. But I guess people think differently. Also, why didn't she talk about her wants and needs? Because women still think that we men can f*cking read minds like Professor X. Something that bothers me, is that when women say shit like, "You don't spend time with me", "You're always gone for days", or my favorite "You are not as affectionate as before", well if you don't want him to work as much then how about you get a part time job or a full time job and help him release some of his tension thag he has about finances. Oh but she said she wants to be a SAHW/M (Stay at home wife/mom), well you can start a online business, or like OP said she can teach people how to cook, because let me tell you a lot of people need that experience these days. Thankfully, my parents both taught me more than enough about cooking and life lessons even though they are separate. And we should learn from their mistakes and put it towards something meaningful.
How do people not learn how to cook? It is the first thing I learned when I moved out, otherwise I'd die of starvation. *The equation is real easy, but look up recipes for further instructions. Just remember, to keep the pointy and sharp end of a knife away from yourself and others. * Get a pot, put food in pot, put water in pot, put pot on stove, turn on the stove, stir and wait, if it becomes black you waited too long, try it again. * When you succeed you graduate to a pan, get a pan, put oil in pan, put food in pan, stirr and wait, if it becomes black you waited too long, try again. * When you succeed you graduate to the oven, get an oven form, get oven paper, put oven paper on the oven form, put food on the paper in the oven form, put the form into the middle of the oven at about 175-225 Celsius, higher heat does not mean faster. wait about 30 minutes, stirr and wait, if it becomes black try again.
Because a large part of women want you to be exactly what they want. If you become who they want by them explaining you what that is then they won’t trust your transformation. They will feel like you are changing only for them instead of being who you are at your core and they won’t trust you because of it.
She's a horrible mother and an absolute self-centred narcissist who lives in a fantasy land, she doesn't want to get divorced because she wants to keep OP around as her husband so she can continue using him, I'm surprised she didn't ask OP if her and the new boyfriend could both move in and for all of them to live together.
He's not "fighting tooth and nail", he's letting her decide everything about the kids. This dude needed to *immediately* file emergency custody orders like 5 minutes after she took off with them.
@@serenajoy9060 That depends on the person. Some people are amazing actors and can keep it up for months or years. I know someone who tried to murder their kid and even managed to get a "mother of the year" award from a radio station.
@tanepukenga1421 oh yes I know. I'm just repeating what the manosphere says to women all the time. You don't mind if I copy this for the next man I hear say that ignorant line, do you?
Instead of her communicating with her husband and telling him how she feels, she decides to go and screw a mechanic and take her 2 children with her that are basically struggling with her. Now she's basically using the kids as leverage to get what she wants. And not only that, she's not even using the money. He does send her for food and gas using it. To get her nails done!!! I'm glad OP called CPS. Because the condition they're living in is completely inappropriate and so bad. I wouldn't be surprised if she went to jail for it.
I’m pretty sure I commented this on the original posts. But the whole situation screams bipolar. OPs ex sounds very similar to my friend’s ex. His ex was bipolar but had always taken medicine for it. At some point she stopped and soon after she left him for a literal homeless man she met on her way home from work. She immediately started posting pictures on Instagram and Facebook of them kissing and talking about how in love they were. It was bizarre. She was gone for a few months and eventually showed back up begging for my friend to take her back. He never did. I’m not sure where she is now but I honestly hope she’s doing okay. She was an incredibly sweet person when she was medicated but off her meds she was a completely different person.
i really ask myself WHY we see this so often in this days. what is maybe the cose of it? maybe the pill f the hormon level soo harf that so many woman this days sounds exact like this.
i just love to see how western standards rationalize everything with mental disorders. Oh no a person commit mass murder. MENTAL ISSUES. That doesnt make it ok? A borderline personality disorder will sleep with anyone and cheats all the time but that doesnt give them pardon for their heinous behaviors.
No, she's just abusive. She picked out op at a party because he was wealthy and wormed her way into his life. There's some telling info in how he's afraid to confront her at the beginning of this. As soon as she was presented with someone she felt have her another one of her needs, she bounced. The wife's kids were used to blackmail him into money so she could have both at once. That's why she didn't grab his biokid, the law would fuck her up quick for kidnapping, and he'd probably get awarded emergency custody. Ops mistake was not changing locks and filing for emergency custody immediately when both came back
I don't know, I suspect Borderline PD over BiPolar... The suicide threats, the attempt to guilt him/manipulation, impulsivity and severe emotion-based decision making all seem to be consistent. She sounds she has a lot of energy, even when she's "sad," so I don't think she's got full-on depressive episodes...
Yeah, I think she realllllllllly missed doing the durgs. She got to play housewife and it wasn't everything she imagined. Her old life was terrible, but also had a lot more freedom. I have to wonder if her mechanic friend was homeless before she knew him... She probably ruined him too.
"She said I sound more and more harsh with her." Well yes OP's wife, you cheated on him, took the kids, dumped the kids and wants to take the kids back like they're some sort of toys in a box and have been hounding him for money etc and showing up whenever you need something, she needs to get over him being harsh on her.
I think the ex-wife got mental/attachment issues. First, she found OP, attached to him and basically never let go Then, she found the mechanic, literally abandoned everything she had and attached to that guy
Ops wife is just abusive and knew he actually cared about the kids. Look at how she dropped the one kid he had a legal claim to. She never loved them. She saw op as a meal ticket and thought her kids would let him pay for her forever
I think she realllllllllly missed doing the durgs. She got to play housewife and it wasn't everything she imagined. Her old life was bad, but also had more freedom. An attractive stoner with a well-paying job (she assumed well paying, but obviously not as much as she thought) must have looked irresistible. I have to wonder if her mechanic friend was homeless before she knew him... She probably ruined him too.
Yo they do be shagging high af in that car in front of em’, would’ve literally destroyed me forever and left me traumatized. What a garbage human being.
man the only thing this guy did wrong was be a bad judge of character, he saw a homeless woman with 2 kids that he met at a house party and decided this seems like a person who makes good life decisions
He's an ass. Imagine a woman doing the same thing. We'd be called out for it. We'd get no sympathy. Men need to deal with the same shame. That's the mother of his child.
one thing I've learned this year is you cant change a person who's addicted to mind altering substances. Matter o fact you cant fix/change anyone. Its neither your job/responsibility to, nor your place to. Just stay in your own lane and keep peace w it, much love x
Agreed. You cannot fix anyone as far as I'm concerned. Most people can't even fix themselves. People seem to barely change throughout their lives and usually when they do change, it's very slowly over long periods of time and they are not even in control of it.
i came to the very same conclusion. however imho the drugs are secondary, the primary problem is unwillingness to take responsibility for your own actions or lack thereof, facing your own problems and emotions, victimizing yourself, blaming others, deflecting, lying, cheating, deceiving, manipulating etc. and those patterns of behaviour are present before substance consumption I don't think drugs fundamentally changes you, but then all i base my judgment is my own (past ?) alcohol consumption and some friends weed consumption. Hopefully gone for good (almost no alcohol consumption in 2 months). And others can 100% NOT make the changes for you.
@@josephmbimbi in one way or other, you are right. There are just many situations one can possibly experience.Sometimes, It comes from within, eg not taking accountability, having parental problems, narcissism etc. But in other cases, many good people with high morales are ruined due to drugs, usually dragged down by others (beliefs/opinions). You can find more on this subject if you were to judge about america's drug situations, life stories of those recovering/stil addicts, those trying to get better but unfortunately, relapses.You can see it in their eyes/body language that they wanna get out but the influence is just too much. And one last thing, Im proud of you for being 2 month clean, my 14yrs of life has been ridden with alc so it would be great if you were to find help within yourself and get better, remember its for yourself.. not others. You can do it:) good job.
When you have them in your house thats sanctuary. Tell them "if the police or mom take you out of this house I can't protect you. But I'm giving you both a free pass to fight anyone who wants to make you leave my house"
in my country if a parent abandon their kids, the other parent, bio or not, will legally automatically get full custody, it has pros & cons ofc, but in this situation OP wouldn't have to worry about her taking the kids away since he would be their legal guardians by default the moment she left them
And it’s only vvomen thinking and behaving this CHILDISH and who actually cannot decide anything for once. Oh her feelings about something changed seconds after? Guess what, it’s opposite day now and all you do is wrong. Ugh.
@@serenajoy9060 Mate, are you really willing to kill someone simply because they keep complaining? That may have been the case back then, but this is NOW.
@@gabrielsanandres537 guess you've never been beat bloody because someone bigger than you chose to get drunk and got angry at being told anything he didn't want to hear
Well,i dont even need to continue this story pass the part he says she had 2 kids before he met her. Nothing good(most of the time) can come up from a situation like that, of a single mother of 2 looking for a man to supposedly love. Call me heartless or an asshole but thats just reality speaking.
Definitely has some mental issues or a personality disorder. Whenever I hear someone thinks having a job is “beneath “ them, I instantly think they have some kind of personality disorder.
It used to be a punishable offense for both unfaithful men and women in many cultures, then we became more "civilized". In divorce court, infidelity had a bearing on who got the kids and got an alimony payout, that was until some time in the 80s, when "no-fault divorce" became a thing, if I remember correctly. Can you guess who pushed for that?... Starts with an "f" and ends with "ists".
I hope Atleast 1 of those kids are yours. Otherwise, that women is telling you straight to your face that you don’t deserve your own children and only good for taking care of someone else’s kids.
People need to realize that after a couple years love isn’t bubbly and fun and sexy it’s hard work and dedication and staying true to one person no matter how hard it gets. She wasn’t in love. She was in lust and greed
Yeah, I think she realllllllllly missed doing the durgs. She got to play housewife and it wasn't everything she imagined. Her old life was bad, but also had more freedom. I have to wonder if her mechanic friend was homeless before she knew him... She probably ruined him too.
All the Things I learned from these Stories: -Never Play Hero -Only Play Hero when Family Member is being ab*sed -Never Drink -Never date a Girl -Stay Gay -Never Trust an Attractive Red Flag (Red Flags like the Mechanic) -Never Leave a Partner that gave you Everything he had and helped you through thick and Thin for years and just communicate your needs and wants -Always Date a Yandere (Yandere = Keeper)
after listening to these stories, I just feel hopeless and think it is better to be alone instead of having someone to rely on and never knowing when they will betray me, I envy the time my parents lived in when these things did not exist, I really wish i would go back and live in those times rather than living in this time and age
@@ultrajorge yeah basically, having had body counts (especially high ones) is a good sign of being incapable of marriage longevity plus I guess you could consider me irrationally high in disgust but the thought of marrying a woman that I will want to keep as my wife for the rest of my existence that has even so much as had a single sexual encounter with another man actually makes me want to puke to be honest
@@allsoover yeah it's the same for me i think all the problems have started to occur since people have made sex a priority, if you only think of ex as a way of reproduce there would be no cheating in the first place, now people get bored by having sex with only one person and then go along and cheat, if love and family would be prioritized more cheating and many things wouldn't happen and there wouldn't be many broken families like there are now, it literally breaks my heart to see polygamies relationships are normal just because a person wants it and there are no moral barriers and once someone tries to initiate one they are told to just stop butting head in others lives which destroys the society and also teaches no decency or morals to the upcoming generations
@@ultrajorge yeah that's the only option, it better to go and marry a girl from a third world country who are educated like them but have morals and decency and actually have a life with them
Shes pretty, had children with someone else, easily falls in love, the answer was right infront of you. Her whole life she had to do nothing but stay pretty, and people will fawn over her. She uses that as her advantage. When you weren't giving her attention. She felt she wasn't wanted cos her only currency is people's attention.
It’s the kids I worry most about and I get why OP didn’t cut contact 100%. I have a stepson and I’ve been in his life since he was 2 but fortunately he has an active bio father and my wife who’d kill for all of our kids but if this ever happened to me emergency custody would be my first act and then file for divorce. Fortunately this part of Texas has judges with common sense but damn OP God bless you sir Edit: There’s a lot of people here who seem to hate women or anyone who’s had hardships. The wife is one example of a terrible human being. Not a terrible woman or homeless person. Just a terrible person
People are saying that it wasnt op's fault, but i disagree. This is why its important to have standards as a man. If you get with a chick that has more red flags than a russian parade, then this is what happens.
And this is why you ( the man ) TAKE YOUR TIME. When it comes to marriage/relationships in general. At this point you dont gotta look for red flags. You have DIG them up
It was so hard for me to not cry while listening to this, this story is shockingly similar to what has been going on with my parents for the last few years.
Plot twist: he's a vampire lord in disguise and she's become his thrall/spawn/childe/whatever. That's why she started acting weird all of a sudden and why she can't leave him.
op is lucky since at least he has his biological child with him which spares him having to pay child support and which he could use to buy a better house .
The wife wants the kids with her b/c she doesn’t wanna be alone. Not b/c they aren’t OP’s biological kids, but b/c she can’t stand the idea/thought/feeling of being alone. She doesn’t care about the kids. She only cares about them filling her lonely void. That’s why whenever her partner comes back to her she doesn’t mind the kids being with OP cause she isn’t alone 🙄
So your soon-to-be ex-wife is a weed addict. And for anybody that has anything to say about that yes weed is addictive. If you cannot go an entire day without smoking, if you yearn for that feeling it gives you, if you have to smoke to be able to function properly it has changed your brain chemistry which means you have an addiction.
@@ThePopo543 not to mention constantly getting high like on a daily basis changes your brain chemistry just like alcohol to make you think you cannot function properly without getting high
Probably damaged early in life. It's the most damaging to teenagers. Quite a few of my friends in highschool changed overnight for the worse. I was oblivious at the time but the reasons are pretty obvious in retrospect. I even knew they were smoking, but didn't connect it to personality change...
So she called a man who she know like a week her "soulmate", leave her husband and mentally destroyed him, never interact with her youngest daughter, leave her older children and have the audacity to told OP that he is too "harsh on her? Bruh, this woman is something else
You shoulda blocked her because she would constantly try to manipulate you one way or the other. And you should've blocked her right after she dropped off the kids as you only wanted the kids with you
To the man who works their ass off to pay all bills and have no kind of troubles reach their family, "does she appreciate you putting all the hard work? Or does she only complain about what you can't provide/sacrifice in order to provide what is needed? What does she say to the kids when they ask where's dad or why does dad work so much?" The gap in maturity is often blinded by love because the one in love will always make up reasons to hide/excuse the other's flaws which eventually will turn up to be harmful to the family
She let the son use the phone to tell you happy birthday and hopes that it would suck on your heart strings enough since she knows how much you love those kids
If it wasnt the work hours, it would've been any other issue. If it wasn't the mechanic, it would've been anyone else. The reality is that she was always the problem, and never would've dealt with her issues. Even when threatening self ending, she just blamed everyone else. No accountability, no care for others. Just whatever her interest in that very moment is.
Scorched earth! Many moons ago my uncle was much like this. He worked alot and his wife was a stay at home wife who cheated fairly regularly. They bought a new trans am back in the 90s. One day while at work a friend of his came up and asked when he got back. He asked him what he meant as he has been there all morning. His friend tells him that's weird he just saw his wife with another man he assumed was my uncle driving around in that new car. My uncle called the bank and told them to come get the car right now because he wasn't making another fricken payment. He should do the same, call the bank and tell them he isn't making another payment. Come get it if they want it. Her living is her problem.
those kids are going through it -- their words make that clear, but it seems that the way they are reacting shows that they understand on some level the depth of whats going on
5:30 i tell you what she wanted. To have a rich husband who is also only ever at home, and money is not an issue. Nice dream... unrealistic but for a DREAM it is nice. I bet everyone would love to have a rich bff with benefits.
get a divorce, that's what happened to me... my wife never worked, was always bored. cheated on me, got half my shit. and left. i worked 90 hours a week.
I don’t understand he sounds like a really good man where she could be stable and give her kids a better life but she’s a selfish person that only puts herself first.
All the " good men" are getting their dicks sucked by meth heads. How long will it take to reverse all the bad decisions you folks have made? That little girl problem has a disability from her mom's drug use.
Another of the thousands of single mother stories ending in disaster at some point you would think people would learn to not risk dating single mothers. The OP dodged a bullet though and should learn from this experience.
sounds like a clear cut case of abandonment, take out an ad in the paper saying you're divorcing her then actually divorce her, also file for sole custody of your daughter and refuse to pay alimony unless ordered to by a judge
SIMP. Marries a single mother with two children and doesn't even bother to find out basic information about the ex -- talk with him, talk to his family, read their custody agreement (or insist one is in place), ensure child support is being paid, see about visits with his family, etc. Then she leaves and he takes his time getting a lawyer, doesn't file, doesn't call CPS, doesn't get his car back, doesn't file for abandonment, doesn't get a restraining order, doesn't ask the court for drug testing, doesn't block her, doesn't have his lawyer require she go through him, doesn't stop paying for her phone, doesn't require the kids to have nightly check-ins, etc.
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It doesn't have anything to do with you mate. It's all on her poor decision making. My ex wife did a similar thing. I worked too much. She was lonely. He was there for her. So on and so forth. He had no job. Came to me after I moved out asking for money to pay the light bill. I slowly shut the door in her face.
I'm so sorry that happened to you.😔
Did the hinges on the door need oil or something? Close it faster, man!
...why slowly? Would that not have merited your raucous laughter and a hard slam?
@@wolfehologram3539ay I rather doing the jokers laugh with eye contact as I slowly close that door
if it wasnt good for the last guy(considering he wasnt x or that) then it isnt good for you
This reminds me of a dude who used to come into the bar I worked at. He had like two kids, two step kids, and like 4 adopted kids. Made good money, great dad. Wife runs off to fool around. He says he wants custody of all the kids and for her to never bother them again. She says okay, but I want that classic car you rebuilt. He didn't even hesitate. Said it was the best trade he's ever made. She traded her kids for a car.
Bro got lucky. Good thing she only went for the car otherwise that guy could've struggled trying to get custody.
@@bargainbin6162 yeah she was also coked out I think. Like I said, he didn't hesitate, called it the best trade he ever made. As I recall she tried to get something later but once the judge heard that she had traded her kids for a car, she was deemed unfit.
What a witch
Very lucky outcome from a horrible situation.
"Great dad", yeah sure. Look at the mother he gave his kids. I'm tired of men getting away with marrying trash women.
Imagination if your sister leased a room in her house out to a single guy with twins. The guy worked at McDonald's part time and said he was trying to get back on his feet. He'd been sober for 6 months, so your sister thinks he's good to go. He's also tall and attractive. She marries him. Bro, she'd have to eat that decision. Nobody would feel sorry for her.
Let me guess...she got greedy but later realized that the grass wasn't greener on the other side, and that she threw away a good relationship and a nice life over basically nothing...
Classic cheaters, they mostly end up regreting their cheating once they realize how good their life with the betrayed partner actually was.
And when she used suicide as a means to manipulate and hurt OP?...Honestly, I think that people that do that do deserve the forbidden phrase "Do it, then".
They're so selfish and such cowards that until the end they want their situation and issues be someone else's problem.They try to beat into submission those with good hearts by making it seem like "any attempt at my life was because of you" rather than "any attempt at my life is because I feel miserable and can't must strength to deal with it".
Pricks.They *DO* deserve to be told to "DO IT THEN".
@@FlipTheBardI did one better, I knew she was lying but I sent the cops to do a “welfare check” and they put her into a 72 hour hold at the hospital 😂
@@3adgamd3r🤣🤣🤣
@@FlipTheBarddo it then is sometimes the right response to suicide threats
@@3adgamd3r That's also good for a custody battle. ^^
I feel so bad for the kids. Imagine having a father figure that loves you can can support you but you’ve gotta go live with your trailer trash mom and her disgusting boyfriend in a dirty car and can’t even go to school because she ‘gAvE bIrTh tO yOU’. Blood doesn’t mean shit. Emotions are everything!
I agree, blood means nothing in some cases
That's the system for you. They'll always assume that the mother is more fit for raising children than the father. The media only wants to hear about the Deadbeat Dads, not knowing there are just as many Moms who are Deadbeats.
The irony of it compared to cases of paternity fraud, or putting someone on the hook for child support just because they've "taken on a parental role", yet here is a cut and dry case of an unstable junkie unfit mother and he's at her whim because "reasons".
Why does she even have custody????
@@RefRed_KingBecause just as there are incredibly intelligent people who may not have been afforded the luxury of an education, there is the reverse, incredibly stupid people who have been educated past their intelligence. The latter just so happen to be the people who make all the decisions, as we live in a society where a piece of paper is more valuable than actual ability.
I feel bad for the kids.
The step kids had to be homeless for weeks and witness their mom doing drugs and getting hit by someone.
Not ONCE the wife had an interaction with her 4 y.o
Truly disgusting and I hope OP will be able to keep all of them
Unless the judge has some screws loose and some wires frayed, it should be an easy custody battle because that bitch absolutely cannot provide for them courtesy of her horrible decisions.
Same here. But if he doesn't, placement in foster care will be the best thing for OP's stepkids. And hopefully, social services will find other families to adopt them; families who are good people and will love them, just like OP does.
Probably also saw and witnessed them shagging 24/7 :( they are beyond traumatized and they don’t even know it yet…
What an unfair thing to do to his daughter. She was doomed from the moment she was born. He gave his kid a mother like that. He's selfish.
@@danacarter9147 Foster families abuse kids and more frequently than you'd want to think so I wouldnt have high hopes
72 red flags in 3 minutes. An attractive single mom with 2 kids thats homeless, a weed smoker, that you met drunk at a party instead of trying to fix her living situation, sleeps with you without knowing you, her ex is "abusive", shes a stay at home mom but also bored and in need of excitement, constantly smokes weed but doesnt have a job to pay for weed? Bro was literally begging for a bad ending by ignoring all of these red flags.
this is your daily reminder to all men: do NOT try to be Captain Save-A-Hoe or a white knight. the biggest mistake this guy made was putting her on a pedestal and talking about her like she was some kind of god. OP, if her other kids are underage and she has them with her, do those kids a favor and call child services because they shouldn't be living out of a car. if possible, get in touch with someone from either her family or their father's/s family to take the kids in so at least they are safe
Well said. But if OP can't, the foster care system will be the kids' only alternative.
@danacarter9147 And rarely is it a good alternative, maybe financially, but there's often the chance they'll wind up with someone who wants kids for all the wrong reasons.
@@Zavitor"I'm just here for a cupcake 🧁"
@@redskull378
EDP behavior.
@@danacarter9147 Don't a large majority in the foster care system end up homeless?
This is the 2nd story I've seen today about a man who meets and falls in love with a homeless woman, saves her life, builds her up, and she cheats.
People are trash.
Long story short, don't date homeless people. Especially if you think you "can fix them."
@@crowfather0249 Hooking up with them fine but never get serious and especially never marry them.
@@JamesL0717nah not even hooking up with them. They’re the most likely to carry STDS with them!!!
@@crowfather0249As much as I hate to admit it, I’ve got to agree. I know that they’re people too, but it’s so not worth the risk of having beautiful kids who end up in some dirty car with a disgusting stepdad and not being allowed to go to school. It’s just not worth it. Don’t date trailer park trash
Honestly moral of the story never get with someone who you have to ''fix'' to be with them it never ends well
Moral of the Story? Never get involved with the strung out homeless just because they're physically attractive.
Are homeless people attractive?lmfao😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
lol that's what I thought too. He just wanted some hot tail that would be dependent on him. Or he is captain save a hoe.
So all homeless people are the same and don't deserve love? - Very interesting view.
@@Chuck_vs._The_Comment_Sectionno child he obviously means dont marry someone just because theyre attractive
or you know dont be a piece of cheating shit
Okay but we not gonna talk about how good of a man he is? Can we give him a round of applause?
He's a simp
Is he though? I see this "prime example of a provider man" a lot in these stories and honestly, I would probably leave him too if I was the women. (Not defending her actions, just in general). I meanseriously, having a provider husband might be practical, but there's absolutely no spark there, no romance, no love. It's just a dead marriage.
Obviously, the woman is the one in the wrong here. It's just, if everything you bring to a relationship is money, don't be surprised if you get yourself a gold digger.
@@XMaster340 Well, there's one thing you might've forgotten about in this story; He only worked so many hours because his lazy ass wife didn't want to work to support their three kids. You don't have the right to complain about the relationship if you choose to be a stay-at-home wife with three kids that need a lot of money to support. Get a job, and you'll be able to see your husband/wife more often at home. More people working means less of a need to stay overtime at work to support your family's financial health.
Edit, but, in my honest opinion, the fault for this situation is probably more on OP's side for marrying a person who's homeless that wants to be a 'stay-at-home wife'. That shit reeks of entitlement.
@@UifonExactly my point. I would never marry a woman who won't pull her own weight. These kinds of stories seem to happen mostly to men who go for traditional marriages where the man works while the woman stays at home and cares for the children. Just the power imbalance this creates should be a huge red flag. That's not partnership, that's one sided dependence.
@@XMaster340 I hope you marry someone exactly like yourelf
This is so sad. I hope he ends up getting custody of the kids.
Same here. But if he doesn't, the kids' only alternative is either, the foster care system or a youth home.
Emergency custody should've been the first thing he filed when he managed to get the kids back. The Ring should provide evidence of drug abuse, and grab a couple of the people who've seen them begging around town, along with the kids describing how and where they were living, plus the child abandonment of the youngest, it should be a solid case for her as an unfit parent.
Oh god no. The ring would show that the kids are in danger being there. They would end up in foster care
@@jordanwardle11 Based on what exactly? Seems like a real stretch.
@@Vipre- mums endangering the kids even if she isn't there. So that would end up with neither parent being safe
That comment she said to OP, "You work too much and don't have time for me", well I'm very F*CKING SORRY about me working so the house is kept clean, the kids safe and well fed and for you not to worry about finances.
People today should be grateful that their partners are working hard, so the house is well maintained. But I guess people think differently.
Also, why didn't she talk about her wants and needs? Because women still think that we men can f*cking read minds like Professor X.
Something that bothers me, is that when women say shit like, "You don't spend time with me", "You're always gone for days", or my favorite "You are not as affectionate as before", well if you don't want him to work as much then how about you get a part time job or a full time job and help him release some of his tension thag he has about finances. Oh but she said she wants to be a SAHW/M (Stay at home wife/mom), well you can start a online business, or like OP said she can teach people how to cook, because let me tell you a lot of people need that experience these days.
Thankfully, my parents both taught me more than enough about cooking and life lessons even though they are separate. And we should learn from their mistakes and put it towards something meaningful.
How do people not learn how to cook? It is the first thing I learned when I moved out, otherwise I'd die of starvation.
*The equation is real easy, but look up recipes for further instructions. Just remember, to keep the pointy and sharp end of a knife away from yourself and others.
* Get a pot, put food in pot, put water in pot, put pot on stove, turn on the stove, stir and wait, if it becomes black you waited too long, try it again.
* When you succeed you graduate to a pan, get a pan, put oil in pan, put food in pan, stirr and wait, if it becomes black you waited too long, try again.
* When you succeed you graduate to the oven, get an oven form, get oven paper, put oven paper on the oven form, put food on the paper in the oven form, put the form into the middle of the oven at about 175-225 Celsius, higher heat does not mean faster. wait about 30 minutes, stirr and wait, if it becomes black try again.
@@mrblackkai you'd be surprised at how many people can't cook
Got to take accountability for your choices. She was clearly an immature woman who didn't have it together and he still stayed with her.
Because a large part of women want you to be exactly what they want. If you become who they want by them explaining you what that is then they won’t trust your transformation. They will feel like you are changing only for them instead of being who you are at your core and they won’t trust you because of it.
@@goddessrick8734some of that is probably just how people are when they’re in love can’t see the red flags
She's a horrible mother and an absolute self-centred narcissist who lives in a fantasy land, she doesn't want to get divorced because she wants to keep OP around as her husband so she can continue using him, I'm surprised she didn't ask OP if her and the new boyfriend could both move in and for all of them to live together.
I was going to say yeah, he described her as a good mother… then immediately describes a terrible mother.
Sneako
@@L-edits_2.0what
Remember guys, she is a single mom and she found her "nice guy provider" and latched on.
@@JJ40555Had to be said.
Good on op for fighting tooth and nail for the kids.
He's not "fighting tooth and nail", he's letting her decide everything about the kids. This dude needed to *immediately* file emergency custody orders like 5 minutes after she took off with them.
she gunna come back one day to ask for forgiveness i can feel it
She did twice already
"My wife is so beautiful I thought i was lucky." I'm betting he ignored a ton of red flags.
He chose her. Chose to get her pregnant. Chose to marry her. Should have Chose better
@serenajoy9060 yup. Its unfortunately the reality but he shouldve vetted better.
What is the background song plz ? I know it's from Undertale but is it remix ?
@@serenajoy9060 That depends on the person. Some people are amazing actors and can keep it up for months or years.
I know someone who tried to murder their kid and even managed to get a "mother of the year" award from a radio station.
@tanepukenga1421 oh yes I know. I'm just repeating what the manosphere says to women all the time. You don't mind if I copy this for the next man I hear say that ignorant line, do you?
This man handled everything perfectly.No alcohol,no drugs,no uncontrolled anger,just pure love for the kids and perfect handling of every situation
He chose her as a mother for his children. Big L. He's lucky.
@@Poodle_Gun people arent always whom they portray themselves as
@@goldenbardand some people are *really* good at hiding who they really are.
And how it usually goes she will still find a way to victimize herself and make him seem like the bad guy to the children
Instead of her communicating with her husband and telling him how she feels, she decides to go and screw a mechanic and take her 2 children with her that are basically struggling with her. Now she's basically using the kids as leverage to get what she wants. And not only that, she's not even using the money. He does send her for food and gas using it. To get her nails done!!! I'm glad OP called CPS. Because the condition they're living in is completely inappropriate and so bad. I wouldn't be surprised if she went to jail for it.
This hurts, because it reminds me of my own childhood. Thanks, mom.
I’m pretty sure I commented this on the original posts. But the whole situation screams bipolar. OPs ex sounds very similar to my friend’s ex. His ex was bipolar but had always taken medicine for it. At some point she stopped and soon after she left him for a literal homeless man she met on her way home from work. She immediately started posting pictures on Instagram and Facebook of them kissing and talking about how in love they were. It was bizarre. She was gone for a few months and eventually showed back up begging for my friend to take her back. He never did. I’m not sure where she is now but I honestly hope she’s doing okay. She was an incredibly sweet person when she was medicated but off her meds she was a completely different person.
i really ask myself WHY we see this so often in this days. what is maybe the cose of it? maybe the pill f the hormon level soo harf that so many woman this days sounds exact like this.
i just love to see how western standards rationalize everything with mental disorders. Oh no a person commit mass murder. MENTAL ISSUES. That doesnt make it ok? A borderline personality disorder will sleep with anyone and cheats all the time but that doesnt give them pardon for their heinous behaviors.
No, she's just abusive. She picked out op at a party because he was wealthy and wormed her way into his life.
There's some telling info in how he's afraid to confront her at the beginning of this.
As soon as she was presented with someone she felt have her another one of her needs, she bounced. The wife's kids were used to blackmail him into money so she could have both at once. That's why she didn't grab his biokid, the law would fuck her up quick for kidnapping, and he'd probably get awarded emergency custody.
Ops mistake was not changing locks and filing for emergency custody immediately when both came back
@@Barlmorouh... What?
I don't know, I suspect Borderline PD over BiPolar... The suicide threats, the attempt to guilt him/manipulation, impulsivity and severe emotion-based decision making all seem to be consistent. She sounds she has a lot of energy, even when she's "sad," so I don't think she's got full-on depressive episodes...
ok she's borderline/ covert narc 100%
how she talks about her boredom/unfulfillment and how she just abandoned everything with 0 remorse..
OP’s nothing more than girl that’s not over her teen years. Who switches guys every now and then and thinks this is my soulmate.
*OP’s wife
@@user-yg2uy8bc8qyou know you can edit your own comments
I hate it when cheaters try and guilt people with suicide and try to put the blame on the actual victim, taking the easy way out is pure garbage
She just wanted someone who would enable her lazy life and fuel her weed addiction
Yeah, I think she realllllllllly missed doing the durgs.
She got to play housewife and it wasn't everything she imagined. Her old life was terrible, but also had a lot more freedom.
I have to wonder if her mechanic friend was homeless before she knew him... She probably ruined him too.
"She said I sound more and more harsh with her."
Well yes OP's wife, you cheated on him, took the kids, dumped the kids and wants to take the kids back like they're some sort of toys in a box and have been hounding him for money etc and showing up whenever you need something, she needs to get over him being harsh on her.
Women like this will never appreciate your struggles or the effort you put in, everything is all for them.
I don't mean to be that guy, but not marrying a single mother is just the way to go.
Agreed, unless the father is dead, there's a reason she's single and that reason will still be there when she's with you
Feels cruel to the kids, but yeah; single mothers are usually bad decision makers
@@potatoheadpokemario1931those are called widows not single mothers, words exist for a reason so use the right words.
@@sasi5841 pretty sure Widows are within the category of single mother
@@potatoheadpokemario1931😂facts
I think the ex-wife got mental/attachment issues.
First, she found OP, attached to him and basically never let go
Then, she found the mechanic, literally abandoned everything she had and attached to that guy
Ops wife is just abusive and knew he actually cared about the kids.
Look at how she dropped the one kid he had a legal claim to. She never loved them. She saw op as a meal ticket and thought her kids would let him pay for her forever
I think she realllllllllly missed doing the durgs.
She got to play housewife and it wasn't everything she imagined. Her old life was bad, but also had more freedom.
An attractive stoner with a well-paying job (she assumed well paying, but obviously not as much as she thought) must have looked irresistible.
I have to wonder if her mechanic friend was homeless before she knew him... She probably ruined him too.
I'm the same age as those twins, and I can't even imagine this. What a horrible woman.
Yo they do be shagging high af in that car in front of em’, would’ve literally destroyed me forever and left me traumatized. What a garbage human being.
man the only thing this guy did wrong was be a bad judge of character, he saw a homeless woman with 2 kids that he met at a house party and decided this seems like a person who makes good life decisions
He's an ass. Imagine a woman doing the same thing. We'd be called out for it. We'd get no sympathy. Men need to deal with the same shame. That's the mother of his child.
one thing I've learned this year is you cant change a person who's addicted to mind altering substances. Matter o fact you cant fix/change anyone. Its neither your job/responsibility to, nor your place to. Just stay in your own lane and keep peace w it, much love x
Agreed. You cannot fix anyone as far as I'm concerned. Most people can't even fix themselves. People seem to barely change throughout their lives and usually when they do change, it's very slowly over long periods of time and they are not even in control of it.
i came to the very same conclusion. however imho the drugs are secondary, the primary problem is unwillingness to take responsibility for your own actions or lack thereof, facing your own problems and emotions, victimizing yourself, blaming others, deflecting, lying, cheating, deceiving, manipulating etc. and those patterns of behaviour are present before substance consumption
I don't think drugs fundamentally changes you, but then all i base my judgment is my own (past ?) alcohol consumption and some friends weed consumption. Hopefully gone for good (almost no alcohol consumption in 2 months).
And others can 100% NOT make the changes for you.
@josephmbimbi you're going to learn the hard way about the effects drugs have on people lmao
@@Poodle_Gun maybe i will, hopefully i can get away before being dragged by others.
@@josephmbimbi in one way or other, you are right. There are just many situations one can possibly experience.Sometimes, It comes from within, eg not taking accountability, having parental problems, narcissism etc. But in other cases, many good people with high morales are ruined due to drugs, usually dragged down by others (beliefs/opinions). You can find more on this subject if you were to judge about america's drug situations, life stories of those recovering/stil addicts, those trying to get better but unfortunately, relapses.You can see it in their eyes/body language that they wanna get out but the influence is just too much. And one last thing, Im proud of you for being 2 month clean, my 14yrs of life has been ridden with alc so it would be great if you were to find help within yourself and get better, remember its for yourself.. not others. You can do it:) good job.
the patience this guy has...
When you have them in your house thats sanctuary. Tell them "if the police or mom take you out of this house I can't protect you. But I'm giving you both a free pass to fight anyone who wants to make you leave my house"
in my country if a parent abandon their kids, the other parent, bio or not, will legally automatically get full custody, it has pros & cons ofc, but in this situation OP wouldn't have to worry about her taking the kids away since he would be their legal guardians by default the moment she left them
Work a lot, and they say you're never home. Try to make time, and they say you never work. You just can't win.
It truly is an evil world we live in. 😭
And it’s only vvomen thinking and behaving this CHILDISH and who actually cannot decide anything for once.
Oh her feelings about something changed seconds after? Guess what, it’s opposite day now and all you do is wrong. Ugh.
@LastKingLKArthur yep. Because no man has ever beat or killed a woman because she "made him mad". That's never happened
@@serenajoy9060 Mate, are you really willing to kill someone simply because they keep complaining? That may have been the case back then, but this is NOW.
@@gabrielsanandres537 guess you've never been beat bloody because someone bigger than you chose to get drunk and got angry at being told anything he didn't want to hear
@@gabrielsanandres537 it truly is an evil world when good people do nothing.
Moral of the Story - never get with someone you have to fix to be with them
Well,i dont even need to continue this story pass the part he says she had 2 kids before he met her. Nothing good(most of the time)
can come up from a situation like that, of a single mother of 2 looking for a man to supposedly love.
Call me heartless or an asshole but thats just reality speaking.
It's like playing someone else's saved game. 😂😂😂😂😂😂
You car you get the car back
i really really hope he managed to get custody of the kids
I hope and im praying OP can get his step kids away from stbxw
Definitely has some mental issues or a personality disorder. Whenever I hear someone thinks having a job is “beneath “ them, I instantly think they have some kind of personality disorder.
>man accepts a whamz that's not his into his life
>whamz leaves him for another man
Story as old as the species.
The courts will happily work with this man.
Just first 22 seconds gave me everything I could have possibly known about that woman 🤣
cheating in a marriage should be a criminal offense to begin with
It used to be a punishable offense for both unfaithful men and women in many cultures, then we became more "civilized". In divorce court, infidelity had a bearing on who got the kids and got an alimony payout, that was until some time in the 80s, when "no-fault divorce" became a thing, if I remember correctly.
Can you guess who pushed for that?... Starts with an "f" and ends with "ists".
The ancient egyptians and greeks got that right. Adultery was a crime punishable by death or exile back then
In sharia it is also punished with death
I hope Atleast 1 of those kids are yours. Otherwise, that women is telling you straight to your face that you don’t deserve your own children and only good for taking care of someone else’s kids.
The fact you still are going is an inspiration. Keep fighting.
People need to realize that after a couple years love isn’t bubbly and fun and sexy it’s hard work and dedication and staying true to one person no matter how hard it gets. She wasn’t in love. She was in lust and greed
So she was super sweet and huggy when they met AND she's a stoner. I suspect some correlation here.
Yeah, I think she realllllllllly missed doing the durgs.
She got to play housewife and it wasn't everything she imagined. Her old life was bad, but also had more freedom.
I have to wonder if her mechanic friend was homeless before she knew him... She probably ruined him too.
All the Things I learned from these Stories:
-Never Play Hero
-Only Play Hero when Family Member is being ab*sed
-Never Drink
-Never date a Girl
-Stay Gay
-Never Trust an Attractive Red Flag (Red Flags like the Mechanic)
-Never Leave a Partner that gave you Everything he had and helped you through thick and Thin for years and just communicate your needs and wants
-Always Date a Yandere (Yandere = Keeper)
Tf is this BS. You gotta be joking gurl.
Aren't you a funny one? Har har har har har.
Only the first two ones and the 7th affirmations are realistic, the others are quite.... argueable.
So she latched on and didn't let go until she had enough... like a literal leech?
Yup, you got that right.
I should include this new species in my study for parasitology
Call it "Exosoma moochicus"
after listening to these stories, I just feel hopeless and think it is better to be alone instead of having someone to rely on and never knowing when they will betray me, I envy the time my parents lived in when these things did not exist, I really wish i would go back and live in those times rather than living in this time and age
Just don't marry anyone that is not a virgin and that is actually single (not "divorced") and you should be good. This guy practically asked for this
@@ultrajorge yeah basically, having had body counts (especially high ones) is a good sign of being incapable of marriage longevity
plus I guess you could consider me irrationally high in disgust but the thought of marrying a woman that I will want to keep as my wife for the rest of my existence that has even so much as had a single sexual encounter with another man actually makes me want to puke to be honest
Ok but humans have acted like total pieces of sh* t to each other since the beginning of the human race
@@allsoover yeah it's the same for me i think all the problems have started to occur since people have made sex a priority, if you only think of ex as a way of reproduce there would be no cheating in the first place, now people get bored by having sex with only one person and then go along and cheat, if love and family would be prioritized more cheating and many things wouldn't happen and there wouldn't be many broken families like there are now, it literally breaks my heart to see polygamies relationships are normal just because a person wants it and there are no moral barriers and once someone tries to initiate one they are told to just stop butting head in others lives which destroys the society and also teaches no decency or morals to the upcoming generations
@@ultrajorge yeah that's the only option, it better to go and marry a girl from a third world country who are educated like them but have morals and decency and actually have a life with them
Shes pretty, had children with someone else, easily falls in love, the answer was right infront of you. Her whole life she had to do nothing but stay pretty, and people will fawn over her. She uses that as her advantage. When you weren't giving her attention. She felt she wasn't wanted cos her only currency is people's attention.
Yeah, this. I'll bet the drugs were great in the bedroom. No thought of his future kids.
@@Poodle_Gunwhat?
It’s the kids I worry most about and I get why OP didn’t cut contact 100%. I have a stepson and I’ve been in his life since he was 2 but fortunately he has an active bio father and my wife who’d kill for all of our kids but if this ever happened to me emergency custody would be my first act and then file for divorce. Fortunately this part of Texas has judges with common sense but damn OP God bless you sir
Edit: There’s a lot of people here who seem to hate women or anyone who’s had hardships. The wife is one example of a terrible human being. Not a terrible woman or homeless person. Just a terrible person
People are saying that it wasnt op's fault, but i disagree. This is why its important to have standards as a man. If you get with a chick that has more red flags than a russian parade, then this is what happens.
She is beautiful. That's all that matters. 🤷♀️
Speak for yourself! Your complete and utter lack of empathy is itself a red flag that makes a Russian parade look like a red speck in comparison!
@@serenajoy9060 cuck
More red flags than a Chinese* parade.
And this is why you ( the man ) TAKE YOUR TIME. When it comes to marriage/relationships in general. At this point you dont gotta look for red flags. You have DIG them up
It was so hard for me to not cry while listening to this, this story is shockingly similar to what has been going on with my parents for the last few years.
My god the mechanic is 2324 years old 💀
Plot twist: he's a vampire lord in disguise and she's become his thrall/spawn/childe/whatever. That's why she started acting weird all of a sudden and why she can't leave him.
op is lucky since at least he has his biological child with him which spares him having to pay child support and which he could use to buy a better house .
The wife wants the kids with her b/c she doesn’t wanna be alone. Not b/c they aren’t OP’s biological kids, but b/c she can’t stand the idea/thought/feeling of being alone. She doesn’t care about the kids. She only cares about them filling her lonely void. That’s why whenever her partner comes back to her she doesn’t mind the kids being with OP cause she isn’t alone 🙄
Your average family court would look at a situation like this and still give the wife custody
So many options and so many options to save her kids with so much evidence, op DOES NOT try hard enough at all
So your soon-to-be ex-wife is a weed addict. And for anybody that has anything to say about that yes weed is addictive. If you cannot go an entire day without smoking, if you yearn for that feeling it gives you, if you have to smoke to be able to function properly it has changed your brain chemistry which means you have an addiction.
Dealers usually lace it with other hard drvgs to so that their customers keep on coming back for more.
@@ThePopo543 not to mention constantly getting high like on a daily basis changes your brain chemistry just like alcohol to make you think you cannot function properly without getting high
Probably damaged early in life. It's the most damaging to teenagers. Quite a few of my friends in highschool changed overnight for the worse. I was oblivious at the time but the reasons are pretty obvious in retrospect. I even knew they were smoking, but didn't connect it to personality change...
Can we talk about how this asshole got her pregnant?
Wa-it. Why would she leave her husband but not divorce him? 🤨
Reason #53752 why marrying a single mother is a horrible idea:
Dear OP (if you ever actually sees this somehow) know this: You're a good man and an even better father. That is all.
So she called a man who she know like a week her "soulmate", leave her husband and mentally destroyed him, never interact with her youngest daughter, leave her older children and have the audacity to told OP that he is too "harsh on her? Bruh, this woman is something else
You shoulda blocked her because she would constantly try to manipulate you one way or the other. And you should've blocked her right after she dropped off the kids as you only wanted the kids with you
To the man who works their ass off to pay all bills and have no kind of troubles reach their family, "does she appreciate you putting all the hard work? Or does she only complain about what you can't provide/sacrifice in order to provide what is needed? What does she say to the kids when they ask where's dad or why does dad work so much?" The gap in maturity is often blinded by love because the one in love will always make up reasons to hide/excuse the other's flaws which eventually will turn up to be harmful to the family
Having a previous a marriage is a bad sign in a partner, second marriages have higher divorce rate than first marriages, and it does not get better
She let the son use the phone to tell you happy birthday and hopes that it would suck on your heart strings enough since she knows how much you love those kids
This man is a hero, and I honestly wish him the best and his kids
This is so sad. Some people are so messed up and they go around destroying others without a care.
If it wasnt the work hours, it would've been any other issue. If it wasn't the mechanic, it would've been anyone else.
The reality is that she was always the problem, and never would've dealt with her issues. Even when threatening self ending, she just blamed everyone else. No accountability, no care for others. Just whatever her interest in that very moment is.
Scorched earth! Many moons ago my uncle was much like this. He worked alot and his wife was a stay at home wife who cheated fairly regularly. They bought a new trans am back in the 90s. One day while at work a friend of his came up and asked when he got back. He asked him what he meant as he has been there all morning. His friend tells him that's weird he just saw his wife with another man he assumed was my uncle driving around in that new car. My uncle called the bank and told them to come get the car right now because he wasn't making another fricken payment. He should do the same, call the bank and tell them he isn't making another payment. Come get it if they want it. Her living is her problem.
those kids are going through it -- their words make that clear, but it seems that the way they are reacting shows that they understand on some level the depth of whats going on
5:30 i tell you what she wanted. To have a rich husband who is also only ever at home, and money is not an issue. Nice dream... unrealistic but for a DREAM it is nice. I bet everyone would love to have a rich bff with benefits.
A better dream would've been that she herself could be rich without needing anyone else, but of course parasites will always need a host.
So if the car is in your name...that's theft so get the cops
get a divorce, that's what happened to me...
my wife never worked, was always bored. cheated on me, got half my shit. and left.
i worked 90 hours a week.
That weed man would deeply regret showing up at my door.
Homeless, single mom, smokes weed, etc. "Looking back I can see the red flags." People astound me with the decisions they make.
People always see the red flags, they just ignore them until it becomes a problem.
Classic example of hindsight is always 20/20, ain't it? 😂
No, a homeless, drug addicted, single mom of 2 is not something you need hindsight to understand
She was hot so he wasn't thinking clearly, it happens to the best of us!
Some people need Captain Hindsight in their lives
You did nothing wrong except for giving a single mother the time, never ever save a hoe and never marry someone else’s baby momma
She gonna take him to the cleaners in court, sadly
No she won't. She has dug her own grave and the courts will rule in favor of what is best for the kid.
I don’t understand he sounds like a really good man where she could be stable and give her kids a better life but she’s a selfish person that only puts herself first.
When women ask where all the good men are, they all dealt with situations like this and went splinter cell afterwards.
All the " good men" are getting their dicks sucked by meth heads. How long will it take to reverse all the bad decisions you folks have made? That little girl problem has a disability from her mom's drug use.
Get a lawyer. File for divorce and full custody. (Hoping you've already done this. If not, do it tomorrow!)
OP also needs to call CPS on the ex wife too.
Restraining order against the wife and get the ball moving on adoption as soon as possible.
Ages:
OP 39
Wife 35
Mechanic guy 2324
Maybe she's with him to gain the secret to immortality 😅
Another of the thousands of single mother stories ending in disaster at some point you would think people would learn to not risk dating single mothers. The OP dodged a bullet though and should learn from this experience.
If you're working more than at home, do not ever marry
should have told the cops: good that you are here. i am pressing charges for child abandonment. she left our 4 yo at home alone to run off.
sounds like a clear cut case of abandonment, take out an ad in the paper saying you're divorcing her then actually divorce her, also file for sole custody of your daughter and refuse to pay alimony unless ordered to by a judge
I hear your son worried about dad that is so nice and kids
The kids and OP all need therapy, like yesterday
SIMP.
Marries a single mother with two children and doesn't even bother to find out basic information about the ex -- talk with him, talk to his family, read their custody agreement (or insist one is in place), ensure child support is being paid, see about visits with his family, etc.
Then she leaves and he takes his time getting a lawyer, doesn't file, doesn't call CPS, doesn't get his car back, doesn't file for abandonment, doesn't get a restraining order, doesn't ask the court for drug testing, doesn't block her, doesn't have his lawyer require she go through him, doesn't stop paying for her phone, doesn't require the kids to have nightly check-ins, etc.