You just have 'hold up, wait a minute, something ain't right' play in your head, you think of the answer, and then wonder how you knew the first answer was wrong.
My brain can achieve so much power. It can learn things very fast eg, I learned basic Programming in Python in less than 15 days, i can understand mechanics of games in few hours, i can solve physics problems of motions (linear, vector, projectile, everything) without using any formulas at all just by drawing graphs, i can learn things about space and time and much more but the worst thing is that whenever I start studying I just get distracted or fell asleep. The only subject that I can study without any fatigue is Computer Science.
I’ve been called “talented” my whole life, but now that I’m finishing college (art/graphic design), I’ve realized that my classmates who put in the most time and effort into their work have gotten better than me.
Ikr. Because im “gifted” I’m expected to do everything and be perfect at it but I’m in the corner wanting to get the fricking black plague so I don’t need to learn my state capitals (I can’t remember crap)
@@SpoopTheArtist-ru1lb I usually get full marks, but when a mock test was sprung on us, and I got 2 questions wrong, my teacher was telling me to be ashamed of myself 😂
I had always felt uncomfortable with being labelled "smart". I just did my homework and mostly never really studied -- and figured that if everyone else would just do that, they'd be fine, too! Of course, when it came to that homework ... yes, I *did* have a tendency to procrastinate and rush it ... but I managed to get it done, too, for the most part. While this didn't bite me, where I got hit hard was when I'd try to work after getting a PhD. For daily tasks, I wondered why it was so difficult to start them, why it so difficult to stop once I got going, and why I procrastinated so much before the task was due. I also wondered why I burned out so easily -- sometimes I burned out, sometimes the company burned out, sometimes we burned out together -- and it almost always took several months to find something new. Turns out I have ADHD -- which I had dismissed, because I could "focus" on so many things -- but I didn't know about ADHD hyperfocus ... which is reinforced by the autism I also have -- and that burnout? Turns out to be due to my inability to be social, along with the intense effort required to pretend to be social, along with sleepless nights trying to figure out how to better pretend to be social. No wonder I also felt intense "imposter syndrome" now and again! So, yeah. My life is in shambles, but I now know why, so I just need to pick up the pieces and figure out where to go from here.
Same here, i always have trouble starting homeworks or studing but when i do it and finish i have the sensation that the problem wasnt the difficult, good luck finding your way in life ❤
The worst is when many people call you smart, that you developed an ego and believe that you're truly smart, but in reality you are just as normal like everyone else
EXACTLY!!! When you start getting called a “gifted kid” everyone just assumes that you are all about learning and studying, but it’s often the opposite. Anyone who has interacted with me more than once knows I’m a HUGE procrastinator and almost always forget all the information at the end of the unit.
There's always a time when i think that i'm a gifted child which make my confident always goes sky high and making me turn arrogant. But when i look at the people around me now having the same knowledge as i do, it make me realise that i'm not gifted at all. I'm just an average person who got a headstart and took a sprint in a marathon, and only about halfway through the marathon i was exhausted and slowed down, letting everyone else pass by me in a normal pace. Having such an easy life without any hardwork in the beginning make me fall from such a high place without any preparation at all. Now that i've fallen to the ground, what i need to do is to keep reminding myself that everyone has their own "time" in life, and i had to get back up with my own two feet and start moving forward once again.
as a physics major, doing physics problems is 90% understanding the problem and 10% using formulas to actually solve the problem. You cant succeed in a "real" physics class by just memorizing the formulas.
nobody does that in my school, since 90% of my school is indian even though I am in america, we have to constantly outsmart each other in highschool for college apps. So no one is really gifted.
I really hated it when people said to me “you must be so bored being around dumb people like us”. It has always impeded my interactions with people and it still does.
If it was like my friends I could see how that could be annoying but when I’m sitting in a table with three people that can’t do 2x2 in seventh grade if they said that to me I would be like “ yeah I am upset that I have to be around you guys” but if it was my friends I would tell them that they are smarter than me
I think I speak for all “smart and gifted kids” kids when I say this People expect too much from a person as young as they are Just because we did very well doesn’t mean we’ll be the next Albert Einstein The expectation of doing well, the gaslighting that you’re the greatest and you have to stay that way, the worry of losing your “honour” as the gifted student It’s not helpful or uplifting
@arthur-godart might just be my problem, but the moment by grade drops below what it was previously, it doesn’t matter if the topic was far harder or not taught well enough. I’d get the blame for being lazy and that I should’ve done better and that I disappointed them
What's really bad about this is not just having your skills being linked to your "honour", but also your self-esteem. It gets bad when the material you're good at starts getting more difficult, and you're no longer "good" at it, lowering your self-esteem.
When your "gifted" and everything is free, you don't build up good study habits. Like others, I did very well in elementary, but started to struggle in middle and high school but couldn't figure out why. It was only until my last year of highschool that I finally caught myself up to pace. It's never too late to start building good habits.
@Inspired_by_Sarah The answer will be different for everyone. But in my case, in order to figure out good study habits, I had to learn my weaknesses and how to overcome them. I noticed that my bad study habits would be things like procrastination, laziness, and loss of focus when faced with a task. I noticed things like this happened at home. For me home and work don't mix well, I needed a deticated place to do my work. I eventually learned that the library was a great place to focus and do my work. Soon another problem arose, even though the library was a great place to work, sometimes I wouldn't go, even when I needed to. My solution? Have library time deticated into my schedule, so I go there whether I need to or not, like it or not. While seemingly simple, it took lots of trial and error across multiple years to come to that simple conclusion. Don't get demotivated if things don't work out right away. Takes time to find what works for you. Essentially find out how to set yourself up for success. Wish I could tell you more, but thats a struggle Im also currently overcoming.
honestly, it is good to learn of this ahead of time so you can get ready for the wall whether it will be next grade or in 20 years, if you start getting ready before that point it won't be nearly as bad when you get to it
In college calc all my classmates are praising how neat, legible, and efficient my homework is. They don't understand why it's that way. I'm not naturally organized; I've had to put so much effort into making it acceptable for my K-12 teachers. It's less a habit and more of a conditioned neurosis.
Wtf why is this so accurate. Throughout all of middle school I was viewed as one of if not the smartest kids in the entire grade. And often times when I didn't end up studying, I'd still get an A (usually minus) on the tests. And this quickly sets the expectation people have for smart kids and smart kids have for themselves, usually causing the smart/gifted kids to beat themselves up when they get a B or C or causing them to be a procrastinator, perfectionist, or someone who eitheir works too hard, or not enough.
@SCPlayz7000 , with all due respect (of which I have very little after reading your reply), the video in question is not a parody of Daniel's video. If it were, then that would make all videos made about a certain subject parodies of each other. Since that is not true, this video is not a parody. It is a different video that just happens to have an extremely similar title and subject of discussion. The delivery, talking points, and meaning of these videos, however, are different enough as to invalidate your accusation. If you do intend to reply to my reply, I highly suggest that you rewatch both videos before you do, as to prevent any more embarrassment on your part.
in grade 7 i got pulled into the consolers office because i had an anxiety attack when i got a grade in the 70s for the first time i didnt have parents strict on grades or anything i just hated my self so much as a kid and being smart was the only good quality i could accept that i had and getting a 70s grade challenged that.
I'm perfectionist myself and I HATE being that. I think that everything I do has to be perfect (I know that's what perfectionism says, right?) Anyways. When you think you constantly have to be perfect, you're not really enjoying, what you are actually doing. And that's BULLSHIT.
gifted program kid, tested and was in the top 30 in half our city area or whatever for my year group. barely passed high school, crawled through uni and kept changing courses, had to withdraw a couple of times due to health struggles and anxiety disorder.... and finally diagnosed as ADHD (and apparently had autism in there too lol)... what a rollercoaster. But yeh... never had to put much effort in to get decent results, so i never felt the need to work hard, which also meant... i have no idea how to actually work hard towards something. so i feel trapped by my own glass box of limitations, and that limitation is literally just... not knowing what to do AFTER instinctively getting the basics. i actually seem to have dyscalculia as well, keep mixing left and right and mental-blanking when i have to read an analog clock and just don't remember strings of numbers.. .so maths class was difficult... but my gut instinct in maths was creepy weird and actually accurate. so teachers were confused, how come i couldn't follow basic instructions, but somehow i made up my own method to answer stuff?!?!?! bleh. gifted kid IS a special needs kid... and schools aren't created for us. schools are literally for the benefit of adults and businesses, keeping kids out of society's way while adults make money, and training kids to mindlessly follow social norms and pointless hierarchies.... and i'm the misfit.
Yeah, in this school system being gifted is only good if you're around intelligent people I think. Some people would be way better off being more dumb lol
@@lour8862 can confirm, i'm also a "gifted kid" (mentally developed much quicker than my classmates) and yet im getting diagnosed for ADHD, cant even study -well- almost AT ALL anymore because of all the stress, anxiety, executive dysfunction, the depression, etc... but when i really NEED to get something done ASAP my ADHD gives me hyperfocus and i do it 10x faster than anyone else 💀, stressful asf though
your case seems impressive!! sad thing that schools really aren't adapted to harness student's true potential. they just wanna fit everybody into the same old mold 😭 hope you've been doing better nowadays tho!! if you can, you should def see a therapist to understand yourself and how you operate better (if you don't do that already) but if you want something on youtube, def check out HealthyGamerGG if you haven't yet!!! (the psychiatrist I mentioned in the video)
Exactly. I was just declared as "above average IQ", but what I ever did was to listen in the class and never needed to learn on my own. That resulted in me not ever learning how to learn and I fucked up everything for which I was missing in school. Was sick when we were learning probabilities? Too bad I can't learn it on my own. Now I'm failure that at least learned programming as hobby when I was still studying so I can survive. I was at the time excited that I can finally make something when I learned about programing. Kids should be given more opportunities to deep dive into complicated topics and get excited about it.
Saw this in a comment I can't find on another video, but it goes something like ''When you're a gifted kid you're a child with the mind of an adult, but then you grow up and you're just an adult with the mind of an adult'' which sums it up perfectly
>school was too easy so i barely even studied and got straight A's >didnt know how to really give it my all, because i never really did that (+ undiagnosed ADHD) >school got ACTUALLY hard >grades drop instantly mfw "Ohh you're so talented, if you only just applied yourself more!!" 😭 btw i just discovered your channel and you're really underrated, binging through ur videos rn lol, like the artstyle too! :3
Бляяяя, какая жиза... Однажды ко мне подошла наша классная и просила:"Ты вроде талантлив, так почему у тебя низкие оценки?", Я ответил:"Ну потому-что, уроки скучные... (Хнык)", после этого я зарыдал, от... я не знаю... Насколько я помню я в детстве мог зарыдать при малейшем давлении на меня... Translated: God-dahm... thats literally me, Once upon a time our class teacher came to, and asked:"You are talanted, so why do you have this bad grades?" , I answered:"What is because, lessons are sooo boring... (Whimp...)", after that I were crying, because of... i don't really know, why... As I remembered I could start crying with a smallest emotional pressure on me...
@@enumberfan oof, i get that. I really have trouble with mood swings and over-reacting to stuff too. I think thats especially common with people like us, sadly..
Oh my fucking god so true bruh I hate it so much, i were doing pretty well before grade 9 but then when middle school started i got punched really hard and i started struggling, no matter how much i tried explaining "its harder now" it was too late, my parents already had the bias that i were a really smart kid
The worrying of losing your “honour” of being “smart” and “perfect” to your peers surpassing you one day scares and annoys the heck out of me. MAN, the expectation just builds up not just by other people, but mainly yourself, especially when you don’t have the studying habits that you should have for later years.
Said worst fear actually came true for me. One thing led to another and that very year was the darkest, lowest point of my life. Yikes. Be careful as a "smart kid"😬
I have decided that since I only have one semester left and Im still on top academically, Im just gonna put in as much effort as I can, finish the end of my high school strong, and go into college with the understandings that I will not be the best, and that I still need to put in the work because otherwise I will be screwed, no matter what place in the class I am.
nobody does that in my school, since 90% of my school is indian even though I am in america, we have to constantly outsmart each other in highschool for college apps. So no one is really gifted.
I was the same way, parents hid it from me for so long until i finally found out during college, being gifted never really meant anything, it was just a way for parents and teachers to seperate you from the other kids without letting you know about any disabilities you had.
Ever since i was a kid, my family, friends and teachers said i had a gift when it came to music. Perfect Pitch, Soprano (as a kid) and learning the piano with ease. Turned out to be more of a curse than a blessing. For that mentality, i couldn't bear the idea of being less than perfect for others. Singing and playing in front of people became an anxiety inducing thing, feeling more like a dancing monkey than anything else. That if i missed one note i was dissapointing them. And maybe they wouldn't notice, but, with perfect pitch, I CERTAINLY NOTICED EVERY MISTAKE. Now? I Let myself go. Something that i loved so much became tainted. I still have Piano lessons, but i stagnated a long time ago. Worst part of all is the occasional "you have such a great gift and you're WASTING IT by not practicing"...
reminds me of my band director. The reason I left hs band was because of him :/ He made it really hard for me to leave by saying things like "you're so talented" and implying it would hurt the band if I left. He said it's a waste of time to NOT do band. But I'm glad I left because part of the reason I left was because I was having sulcldal thoughts and INTENSE sh thoughts- I didn't hurt myself though, I haven't for years. But if i stayed in band I think I would have I'm so so grateful to have supportive parents though. im really lucky
Aha, same. I consider myself a pretty good singer, but it's gotten to the point where I feel like I have to be perfect sometimes. If I hear someone else sing really well I feel like I'll never be that good, and if i ever am it'll take practically forever to get to that point. I see all these popstars who started singing professionally at the age of like 5 and I feel behind. I play off most if not every voice crack, and attempt to play it down or laugh it off when I hit the wrong notes. My family is super supportive, I just sometimes get in my head about it I guess. But from musician to musician, you aren't wasting your gift. You don't have to sing if you don't feel like it, or practice the piano. Music is something to be enjoyed, not forced into and hated. Try looking up random song lyrics sometime, some you've never heard of, and improv the melody(only if you want to though). You can do it alone, or with someone else, whichever makes you comfy. If it sounds a bit odd, it'll sound a bit odd. Nothing is perfect, so don't stress yourself out by trying to reach the unreachable. I'm sure your amazing at singing, and piano, believe me, I'm not trying to say you aren't. Just, have fun with it. Okay? And if it helps even a little, here's one internet stranger who just wants you to genuinely feel happy, whether that's doing music, or a new hobby. Or doing nothing at all. It's your life, so don't let other people try to dictate it for you. Have a nice day/night :)
@@PositiveTherapy1 wow…that…actually made my day…thank you.. I truly hope that one day the joy and happiness I had from singing and playing comes back, without such stupid fears and unnecessary comments. From the bottom of my heart, than you, and I wish the best to you too.
Thank you for this video. I'm 17, a gifted child, and I want to aim high, yet I am stuck in the cycle of procrastination to low-effort wins and I'm sick of not being able to fix my laziness. I love all of you gifted children. Let's break out of that spell.
I never saw improvement until I made a split second decision to become better. Don't plan, don't think, just the first thing that comes to mind to make your life better do it now and repeat that cycle, you'll form a plan while your doing things. If you think before you just start you'll think too far into it, get overwhelmed by your ambition and never do anything and that's because your procrastination has caused you to form the habit of 0 effort or 100% effort with no in-between and you automatically get good results so your plan wont consist of anything but the best result. when you think of doing something you'll always think about the most effective way to do it in the shortest amount of time possible and create something unrealistic. Life isn't efficient, and life is too short to try and do everything as fast as possible with the highest quality of outcome go waste some time not being perfectly efficient trying to become better instead of actually wasting your time thinking about how much you hate your procrastination. My bad if this advice isn't for you but its what worked for me and id rather lyk.
I suppose I can advise you to learn to _work hard_ if you haven't already, and be used to the boredom of it. Hard work is more important than smarts. Remember when you get into higher education, if you choose that path, you will no longer be an outlier within your school in terms of smart kid status, and the intellectual demands will be adjusted to match. It's the hard working students who will get through that with a lot of learning and skill under their belts. This should also be true for whatever other pursuits and interests you might have.
I feel the same!! Another thing that people just overlook is the fact that being considered a "smart kid" often makes you be labeled as a nerd, this makes me so sad bc come on, I'm more than good grades, I'm not just the definition of study. It's honestly disappointing to be shrink down to the word" study" 💀💀
I’m a legitimately AWSOME person nice has couple interests deep personality and has got lots of stuff going on in life but people just call me a smart kid like I’m not nerdy
@@letsreadtextbook1687 idiot it’s just not what we feel like Yk AND THEY DONT REALIZE WE HAVE A DAMN PERSINALITY AND THAT WE ARENT JUST GRADES AND WE AINT NERDY WE JUST DONT LIKE IT ITS NOT OUR PERSONA U BAKA
@@letsreadtextbook1687 ok first off imagine everybody just calling you a single word and not acknowledging your whole entire personality and SECCOND imagine people calling u somthing that u just dotn wanna be called like I like gardening soccer carting and chess I have also got quite the deep peronslaity but all people see is “smart kid” imagine just being seen as how smart you are you wouldn’t want that
“Gifted” is not something I take seriously because I was taught that I could always be better. That had changed my perspective of life and my education
I literally feel this exact way right now. Growing up, being gifted isn’t that great because I had trouble socializing when I was younger and it was hard for me to make friends because all of my teachers favorited me, and I always finished my work first, so people were jealous of me. I took the state math test a month ago for my grade, and apparently I got almost everything right when I didn’t even feel like I tried at all. My math teacher told me she wanted to tell me that I got the highest score in my grade, and I felt proud of myself. However, even with all of this, sometimes I feel like I don’t try enough or I’m not good enough because everyone I talk to complains about how hard the work is and I can’t relate to most of the things they say. I get so far without studying, then procrastinate all of my work so I don’t end up getting most of it done. Staying focused is so hard for me when all I want to do is something fun. Thank you for reading my rant I guess, lol
I don't consider myself gifted, but I get the part of trouble socialising. When I look back, it was just so easy all I had to do was give up. Give up feeling sad for no reason. Give up being sensitive. Gave up a lot of things and got so many things in that stead and now I am happy
And the worst part is that usually the things that you don't do are the ones that seem most useful and interesting. School is good and all that, but that's usually not really useful and you have to do it so you do, but smth like learning drawing or editing etc is interesting, but you aren't doing that because you don't have to.
You literally just like me, the only exception I've already messed things up. And now I'm jobless, without any experience, or any actual useable value, also without any friends. And now I have to force myself to do something actual useful, cuz' otherwise I would just watching videos and play Dark souls all day long. Now I may made a bit of progress, but it's still hard, cuz' of my lack of discipline and social skills. I'm not sure whether you need it or not, but my piece of advice would be that you have to find something real challenging, and try to achive it. Everyone has to learn how to put effort into things, and if school can't teach you, cuz' you are extraordinary, you have to make challenge for yourself. And also when teachers praise you for not learning is a really bad thing, my luck was that one of my teacher noticed that, and she started to raise the required points for a good grade(obviously only for me), and also sent me to a competition which for, I actually had to learn. Without this I would be entirely hopless right now. I'm sorry, I really don't want to lecture you, since I have no idea how old are you, or whats your situation, but I think that could be somewhat useful, if you are younger than me, or in situation in which I was in, or basically for anyone who can relate to this. And this for everyone: once you out of the school system, it could be really hard to get back into it and also to study again. So try to make choice, about which way you want continue, cuz' going to a break could be really harmful, and if your choice doesn't feels good, you can always change it. So always make a plan how to go further, which could be higher education, to start working, or simply just progress in you career and etc. and make it happen. Giving up on progressing or just delay important choices never turns out to be good. PS: just watched the video which was recommended in the video, and it's really helpful, and also kinda funny how much his monolog is similar to mine, especially the fact that he also mantioned dark souls
@@deadshark24 I'm seriously sorry about your situation. I think I might bring this up too much, but maybe try freelance work? Because some freelance jobs only require reliable WIFI and some sort of electronic, and since I'm seeing your comment at all, i'm guessing you have one. This might not help, but I really, REALLY hope this does! :3 Please, try to have a good day.
Dr.K nails it on the experience of being labelled as a gifted kid. Since you're doing well in school no one bothers to support you as well, since everything will turn out fine at the end.
I was tested with an IQ of 138 when I was 11. I was praised by everyone as the "smart kid" or the "gifted kid". Now I am about to finish secondary school and Im just one of those gifted burnout kids. Being smart or gifted doesn't mean you're absolutely going to be succesful in the future. Much of what you mentioned is true with me.
nobody does that in my school, since 90% of my school is indian even though I am in america, we have to constantly outsmart each other in highschool for college apps. So no one is really gifted. I feel like being a gifted kid is something americans do
138 is barely scratching by gifted, gifted is 135, could you tell me what IQ test you took in order to understand whether it’s evaluation wasn’t low or highballed.
This is so real... My brain really can figgure formulas out on the spot, just because I understand the logic behind processes, but I became really freaking lazy over that. Plus, to push the issue... LANGUAGES HAVE NO LOGIC BEHIND THEM PLEASE SAVE ME FROM THIS HELLSCAPE
@@rodrigoreismarinho9552welp same here I am good at english(english exams ease in my country never A+ but always A) but my own launage worst my spelling and grammer in tht hell nah weakest subject
Language has its own logic, just see language as a type of art/form of expression instead of language as "mathematical problems" (something that I don't do)
I've said it before and I'll say it again: most of us "gifted kids" have ADHD that doesn't get diagnosed until much later in life, mostly because there are different types of ADHD and if your parents/teacher are only looking for the "can't sit still" kind and not the "mind wanders A LOT but adjusted to it so now is really good at doing things last-minute" kind, you're just not going to get the support you need until long after it would have been most helpful. I just got diagnosed this past year, and even though I can't take my meds because of...other issues, it's honestly really helpful to be able to say "I know what's happening with my own mind, and I know that I'm not a failure or undeserving of my awards and praise. I'm just built a little differently." I'd really recommend that you guys at least get yourselves assessed, if you can afford it. It's like having a huge burden lifted off your chest.
Yeah, came here to say the same. Just been diagnosed this year and this video is the story of my life. I even had a college classmate be kinda mad that she studied A LOT and never could beat my grades in tests, even though I procrastinated a lot and only studied last minute. What she didn't know and me neither at the time was that I was simply activating my ADHD hiperfocus in the last possible time out of being in panic, which provided my brain with the right dose of chemicals to simply go into overdrive and learn a lot in minutes.
Agree. Straight-A minimal-effort high-schooler, academically crashed in university, learned I’m ADHD 20 years later after my kid got diagnosed. As she was talking about her procrastination habits here I was like, sounds like ADHD, m’dear.
Heyy kinda serious comment, and you don't have to answer, but how on EARTHH do you get diagnosed for ADHD?? cause I'm seriously convinced I have it, and I really don't want to self-diagnose ofc but I literally have almost all of the symptoms, and I feel like I'm going crazy every day because I'm not getting my work done on time even though I *know* I could, and I still get exceptionally good grades in school, but it's like a constant state of stress and anxiety because my grades are updated daily, and I keep thinking they're going to tank if I keep submitting my work late or just not submitting them at all. Like, what do you do? Do you like tell your parents first? Do you go to the school counselor? a doctor? How long does it take to get assessed? *How* do you get assessed? How do you get meds? I''ve tried researching this stuff but all of the answers are varied and I want answers from a real human person who has actually been diagnosed ykwim? Anyway, I'm sorry if this reads weird but I'm kind of desperate tbh😭😭 And also the fact that I could be wrong and I'm just not trying hard enough is eating my brain up omg. *MASSIVE* Thank you in advance to anyone who bothers to answer, sending love!!
That’s happend to me and I will accept this video as a flashback and reminder. I know that feeling and I just wanna change that last minit study or lazyness on this year and after and after again. Thank you so much for the reminder dude❤
bro, if i say that this was going to happen with me but this video saved me, i was literaly fighting with the thounght of "i am going to pass anyways, i do not need to study" a couple days ago and i was kinda surrendering to it, thank you so much
My social studies drawings look really good for my state project ONLY because I procrastinated and did it at 10 in the night thinking it’s due the next day, only to realize that it’s due next WEEK. another normal day!!!! 😅
10PM ? only I completed 4 big projects which was 20% of my grades at 12AM and submitted none because it was due the next week, but guess what? THE TEACHER DIDNT COME FOR THE NEXT WEEK. Then i submitted it 2 weeks later.
Same, but also on writting stories and poems. Thought I also had and have that bad habit of doing things quick. Only had It under control when I played chess. God I wish I had the attention span I could spend on chess when I was a kid now. I can no longer Focus like that.
THIS IS ME. Literally almost everything about this feels relatable. Putting in no work, never doing anything for school. We had to do a group project in social sciences where we had to prepare a speech. Naturally, we didn't prepare a speech. When it was our turn, I walked up to the front of the class and improvised it from three bullet points. They thought I just memorized it all. Or, well, the time I skipped a class. And no, I'm not talking about not attending school. I SKIPPED the first grade. I was too good in school and a psychologist assessed me to be at the mental capacity of a second grader. I will have my Abitur (the equivalent of a highschool degree) with 16 and enroll into the university with 17. But I really struggle with day-to-day stuff. I always forget to do homework, study vocabs or am just plain forgetful. I hate to commit too much. Anyway, great video. So far, I never actually had heard anything of someone else like me. Thank you.
Dang, that just summed up my entire school experience so far. I have been mentally forced to be a minimalist studying perfectionist. In elementary, since I was the "smart kid", if anyone beat me at anything academic, it was like an entire class celebration, with everyone but me. I'm in ninth grade now, and as classes get a bit harder, I have been telling myself over and over again to study, now I have begun to be able to increase my tedious study time to an entire 15 minutes. It's great to know that I'm not alone at all feeling like this. Starting a YT channel has been a great way to make a goal for myself. Great video!
It's good to be aware of it now and work on improving it. Everyone told me middle school would be harder than elementary school, but it wasn't. And then they told me high school would be harder than middle school, and it wasn't. I was in an AP physics class and got one of the best scores in the class without studying for it. I never developed any good habits for studying or working hard, only for procrastinating, which eventually led me to start doing poorly in classes due to not finishing assignments, and that seriously harmed me in college and even now later in life.
This was absolutely me in high school, and it still persists. I feel like I was probably even arrogant, getting A's and B's in AICE classes (I dunno if you had those, basically just hard mode classes that gave college credits) without even studying or doing homework half the time. Then... I didn't even go to college. Because I was going to be a solo indie game dev, because I'm cool and don't need a college education! Woohoo! So yeah, guy who couldn't study properly needs to learn game design, code, art, music, some marketing and even writing! I'm actually doing better now, but man there were so many mistakes I made and too many blessings I took for granted.
Bro I was kinda arrogant too ngl loll I’m glad I grew out of it. Mostly cuz life just slapped me in the face as I got older 😂😂 But yeah once you’re out on your own and school homework is not the hardest thing in your life anymore it’s quite difficult to adapt at the start 🥲 But good luck with your game project!! Hope it’s fun and please lmk about it when you publish it!! 💚💚💚
Oh. My. God. Please help me i think im on the same boat, but i wanna get a job as a game dev before trying to go indie cuz i want a stable income and to move from my parents home befote that but WHY EVERY ENTRY JOB ON LINKEDIN REQUIRES EXPERIENCE AND SO MUCH SPECIALIZATION??
@@monikaisdonewiththeinterne2039 Hmm, in my opinion I don't think you need to get a dev job at a studio before going indie, if indie is your goal. Getting a different kind of job is perfectly fine, and will lead to the time you work on game dev stuff to be more productive, even if they're less frequent. Game dev also has tons of sides, and as indie, you CAN use money from your job to pay for art, music, code, etc, and you could also flip that around to make money from any of those skills. I think the biggest mistake I made was not having a job as I learnt the basics. Sure, I got done quicker, but then I was broke! (If your parents wouldn't allow you to come back home, absolutely DO NOT become broke) Game dev is a marathon rather than a race, if you break your legs on mile 1 it's gonna be too hard to finish.
@@ganondorf2419 i know that, but it would obviously kill two birds with one stone if i had a job that already gets me experience with what i want to work with (god i fucking hate c# but i have no other choice), so i am just asking cuz it helps way more
I was somehow saved from this cycle. Me and some other gifted kids were sent to a gifted kid school. We were lucky that the teachers there were aware that gifted kids can’t study and they taught us how to study.
i was put in a class for gifted kids, but the teachers didnt teach us how to study. we just related with each other and suffered, but at least the people around me were also suffering
@@kenjiwilllive-1234 what gifted kids need is hard classes. in america u get to pick classes so u can excel a lot. thjat way no mmatter how gifted you are you are forced to study. you could say im gifted so i take hardest classeds i can, im taking ap calc bc and ap physcs c e and this semester and im a sophoomore. I have to study a crap ton but my entire class is like the smartest seniors. most gifted kids dont challenge themselves but i believe excelling in hard things is much better of a flex.
Your video popped up in my feed today, and I’m so glad I decided to watch it. Honestly, I relate to a lot of what you said. I’m considered a “gifted person” because I’m two years ahead of my age in the French school system (for context, I’m in 2nde). Growing up, I was always told that having a clear goal in life is essential, but it’s taken me some time to figure out what really matters to me. I’m a super creative person with ideas constantly running through my head, and I’ve channeled that energy into writing a fantasy novel. I’m currently at 65k words, and it’s been such a rewarding experience! Since I’m doing homeschooling, my schedule is pretty flexible, which has allowed me to focus on my true priority: finishing this book. My goal isn’t perfect scores on exams; it’s seeing my story come to life. Thanks for this video !
@@sun3ta Ah, je comprends totalement ce que tu veux dire avec ce terme… il peut être lourd à porter parfois, pas vrai ? Pour moi, ça a été une expérience un peu en dents de scie. D’un côté, j’ai apprécié la liberté intellectuelle et les opportunités qui venaient avec, mais de l’autre, il y avait cette attente constante de "performer" ou de toujours être à la hauteur, ce qui pouvait être épuisant. Ce qui m’a vraiment aidé, c’est de trouver des choses qui me passionnent, comme l’écriture, et de me concentrer là-dessus au lieu de vouloir répondre à toutes les attentes extérieures.
@@Phantagorax Le terme est terrible, il est vendeur d'espoir mais parfois on se sent plutôt comme Atlas. Je compatis à ce que tu dis, "une expérience en dent de scie" - ce coté hors norme est parfois tellement agréable mais il s'indexe souvent à un épanouissement, mais quand l'épanouissement n'est plus c'est une toute autre terrible sensation qui arrive. Tu ne trouves pas ? Comme si d'un coup on perdait toute valeurs. Je crois que le côté performé vint du regard que porte les autres sur nous, personnellement j'ai toujours voulu abuser de ma liberté mentale (si je peux nommer ça comme ça) mais à force je n'entrais pas le stéréotype du "surdoué", j'étais correct à l'école, moyens dans mes notes, nul en math excellent à l'oral. De plus le fait que l'on est été un phénomène de mode n'a vraiment pas aidé. Comme aujourd'hui dire à quelqu'un que l'on est comme ça sans qu'on nous ris au nez ? J'aime beaucoup le fait que tu écrives un roman de fantasy (j'adore ça, - c'est si doux d'écrire des mondes entiers) D'ailleurs j'y pense nombreux sont les gens ayant un cerveau différent de la norme essayent désespérément de vivre dans leur monde parfait Merci d'avoir pris le temps de dialoguer avec moi (si un jour tu publies ton livre fait le nous savoir hehe)
@@sun3ta Tu exprimes bien ce sentiment de vivre entre deux extrêmes, entre le poids des attentes et la richesse de l’imaginaire. Le parallèle avec Atlas est si parlant… On porte le monde, ou du moins ses attentes, sur nos épaules, mais parfois on rêve juste de s’échapper et de bâtir le nôtre. Je te rejoins totalement sur l’idée que ce terme de "surdoué" a été popularisé de manière presque déshumanisante, comme une étiquette figée qui oublie toutes les nuances derrière. Et oui, ne pas correspondre au stéréotype peut être libérateur, mais aussi frustrant face au jugement des autres. Au final, ce qui compte, c’est ce qu’on fait de cette "liberté mentale" que tu décris si bien. Merci pour tes encouragements sur mon roman ! J’adore l’idée que des personnes "différentes" essaient de vivre dans leur monde parfait, car c’est exactement ce que l’écriture me permet. Créer un monde entier, c’est un peu comme prendre une revanche sur la réalité parfois. Et toi, tu écris aussi ou tu crées dans un autre domaine ? Si tu veux, on peut rester en contact avec Discord ou Insta. Comme ça, dès que je publierai mon premier roman, tu seras informé. Ou même, si ça te dit, tu pourras lire le draft :) (car j'ai besoin d'avis, hehe).
I study in a gifted class. It's great in terms of the environment and challenge the other students present, but terrible in every other aspect. The only real difference between our class and others is that we're forced to take everything on the highest level with barely any choice. The teachers come to the class thinking we're a bunch of nerds who love and are great at studying, well, they're wrong. In fact many teachers have told us that we're one of the most difficult classes to teach. On the personal side, as someone who's great at maths and physics and the like but terrible at everything involving expression or memorizing details, the only thing people achieve by telling me I'm smart is to make me feel like I don't have the right to complain.
My teachers are always saying that the our gifted class talks louder than their standard classes, and that they expect better behavior from us. I'm always thinking about how being "smart" always has to correlate with behavior. I get that school may view gifted kids as an example for others to follow behind. However, that doesn't mean we have to be perfect angels or be the literal stereotype of a "teacher's pet". I'm just sick and tired of hearing the phrase, "You're too smart to be behaving this way!!". Another issue I have with this phrase is, it feels like they're implying that "dumb" kids are typically not well mannered, which, from my experience isn't even necessarily true. (Sorry if this comment is too long or too short, it's just that it isn't an often occurrence that I find these types of videos with so many gifted kids in the comments).
@@elena9310 Exactly. Some teachers ask to teach our class thinking they'll have a couple easy periods every week, not realizing we're actually special needs.
Another thing is going through all the grades like perfectly, you are confident, i never really studied, i was always fine, first time i study well to an exam, i fail it miserably, now i feel like dying
Sameeeee. I was known to be the math genius in my class because I can solve most things even just using paper. Everyone's struggling while I'm just writing my math down like it's the average day. First quarter exam went smooth, second quarter exam also went smooth, third quarter exam went smooth, then you would expect the last quarter exam to go smooth as well, but nah. I was overconfident and solved the equations so quickly like I was Albert Einstein. Wrote the formulas on paper, even heard the teacher say "you can use a calculator" but ignored it. Passed the paper, and that was it for the exam. Moments later while going home, I realized that I used the wrong way of multiplying and dividing decimals. I tried calming myself down that just a few items on the exam had decimals involved, but then my other braincells were like "... but the whole exam had decimals fully involved..."
I'm twelve years old and this video pretty much summed things up to the ACTUAL reality. I swear the procrastinating part was literally so true that I feel like we share one brain because of how relatable this is. Why do I feel like I'm different but the same as everyone else at the same time because we all relate to something.
Wow... this is exactly me. I saw somebody else comment that after we instinctively learn the basics, we don't know where to go from there. The number of assignments I've submitted at 11:59 on Sunday night is way to high. Even worse is I'm homeschooled so there isn't anything stopping me from sitting and watching youtube all day... like right now... Thanks for the video! Guess I should probably get to work...
I've been having similar scenarios when I was coursing the secondary. I still remember when my maths teacher didn't mind having a process to give you the whole mark and it was ok with just the right answer. My maths exams were basically 2 different sheets, the one with the exam's questions and the answers on boxes, and the one with operations everywhere and without apparently making any sense which only the one self in the precise moment of making the exam could understand. I perfectly remember seeing a problem and knowing exactly what was the answer straight away. And in more complex problems knowing which were the operations that I had to make to get the answer without visually applying a formula. I've just started to watch your content today and I have to say that I feel reflected in your stories, you've surely gained a new sub straight from Spain🇪🇸 (actually living in Australia though) so feel proud of your content. This is not connected but I'm getting into japanese but it's quite time demanding tbh. Adiós :)
"eventually the hard working people will surpass you" hit me hard, because thats exactly what my math teacher told me about high school, i didnt use to put any work in math, i just got straight A's without studying in high school, in the advanced math class, i had to change my habits and start studying math, because even though the first 2 tests went well, i felt like im gonna fall behind quickly... Now, i dont feel like im falling behind anymore, the new habits definetely helped, and also helped me to start learning new skills, like programming.
Actually, I consider myself a gifted kid and I made pretty much the same error as you. It was last year and i really didn't need to work at all to get everything we saw in class math, and since i got good grades without too much work, i started to work less and less, doing my homeworks at the beginning of the class, not studying for the tests (I even actually forgot there was a test a few times) but I still had 19 out 20 as medium grade in math and I was not even caring at this point so i got bad grades for some time and now I'm trying to vo back to work, but you're so right now i can't get to work because everything else is more fun and i get distracted really often, so now i work a little and i'm trying to get back to my old self when i could be serious more than 20 mins. Thank you for the message, i'll try to not do the same error as you. By the way you sounded a bit sad when you said you felt like a failure back then so i hope you're doing better.
This.....this exactly same thing happened to me. I did that mistake once....so I'm never doing it again. It really is hard to change back to your old self. I too am trying to change.😢
I used to think I was smart until I saw and compared my work with other students and saw that their work was more advanced than mine, leaving me questioning if the classes I took were dumbed down or too easy. People only thought I was smart because of my A average grades, 3.8-4.0 gpa, and high/distinguished honors, but all of that was just from doing my work. After graduating back in June, over 70% classmates were going to colleges, universities, trades, etc. I was happy for them for deciding to pursue their studies to follow their dreams and careers, but I was also envious of them for knowing what they wanted to do with their lives. Life after graduation got boring and lonely, I graduated as a doomer with little to no ambition for their future.
@@JamesDheartsUndertale pretty much, did shit in elementary and middle school because I was disobedient, peaked in high school, currently upset about not having a permit and stressed about driving school
fell into a very similar trap except i got kicked out of school at 15 and go a fulltime job in construction life since then has been 1000x better. still fucking procrastinating getting my GED though. Now that im 18 2025 is my last year at this job, getting my GED and becoming an electrician.
I watched this video, and it made me think of my best friend, and even though i have already known what she goes through since i have silently observed her over the years, i knew i could never TRULY understand but none the less, this video helped me interpret this better.
It's actually so relatable... I only started to realize that it's a problem for me a year ago or so, but before I often managed to succeed without really studying. I never said anything to people who performed worse than me, but I looked down on them, thinking I'm doing better, thinking I'll have a clear path in the life. Now I hardly force myself to study for an hour or take a shower, and I feel pathetic. I'm slowly working on rediscovering my identity again and finding things I really want to work towards to. Anyways, thank you for the video! I watched a bunch of your videos just now and liked them a lot, so I'm definitely subscribing!!
Finally! Someone who understands the struggle of being gifted! I swear I Thought I wouldn’t ever find anyone address this or even have some experience with this topic on the internet, thank you for making this video! Now more people will understand
Same... Literally me lol. I physically cannot study for more than 15 minutes without getting bored and despite being really smart, (I found out via IQ test that I'm a 'genius') I still got good grades. I definitely won't be falling behind later hehehe...
1:10 That's the definition of "smart/gifted" that I grew up with. I had a terrible childhood simply because I couldn't keep up with stuff but I was percieved as smart. In fact, I am smart, but only in certain areas (mainly programming and fixing computers), in others (like music, athletics, etc.) I'm far below the average.
I was having a small breakdown a couple of minutes ago, and then i found this video, and it both cheered me up and made me understand a few things about myself.
this is one the several videos that I've ever actually given a like to; the content is relatable, and your drawings are nice too as a gifted kid myself, I did, as a matter of fact, turn out to become a partially-perfectionistic burnout with depression, anxiety, unfulfilled expectations, and no real interests or goals, whose life was happily consumed by electronic media, and can't put in the effort to do hard work for prolonged periods of time without burning out quickly however, there is a way to be able to do hard work for prolonged periods of time anyway; if you find something that you're really passionate about, you'll be able to put a ton of consecutive hard work into it anyway without issue of course, you can't simply get that kinda thing by working a 9-5 job unless you're outrageously lucky, which I ain't, but if you're obsessed with some franchise of fiction, you could probably make a passion project out of it somehow if you had time for it, like maybe a fangame or fanfic or fanime, something like that
As a person who being called "smart kid" in my class i can confirm this is right. I remembered that one time i didn't study anything before science test which had manyyy things to learn . Somehow i got 10/10 only with things i remembered when i was in the class👽👽
Another thing is building all your self-worth on being called "smart". Everyone I had met as a kid claimed I was so smart (and I always felt like I was scamming them (and I still feel that way)), never anything else. So I literally saw it as my only quality. And then the anxiety of failing kicks in. (If I fail, my worth will hit rock bottom, since my only quality is literally my brain). This eventually results in a circle of anxiety and fear preventing you from focusing (together with other things (like adhd haha, but that is a whole different issue)), resulting in more anxiety and failure. And boom, you are trapped. And mentally ill.
As a “gifted person/child” the definition got me rolling its so relatable..I spend most of my time watching TH-cam and the other playing sports BARELY any studying..yet I still keep up my streak of straight A’s
I’ve watched this video 3 times and showed it to my mom. This is literally what I went through all of high school. Now I’m in college and only now realizing that other people are like me and I’m not lazy. Hoping I learn how to study, good luck to everyone going through this right now!
And I also begin to fall into that trap... I've started to get lower and lower grades (I remember that I got a 5/10 on a test about Spanish, My main language) I've begun to procrastinate My attention span is receding just the thought of schools drains my soul (doesn't help that I am going to another building) And yep, This happens to everyone that has lived into the thought of "smart" or "gifted"
When I was younger, I was very hyperactive so people wouldn't assume I would be smart, let alone gifted. Against all odds, I was recommended to get tested for the gifted program my third grade year. I flew past elementary and middle school with flying colors, not ever studying or doing much work. Things just made sense to me. I even auditioned and got accepted into talented music my fifth grade year because band was to easy for me, and it just made sense. But then I hit a wall. Spring semester my freshman year in Gifted English I. My gifted English teacher actually made me have to do work and put in effort. This was attacking my GPA like crazy. During this time I was talking to my teacher and I said, "there is something blocking me from actually getting started to do work." She told me to get treated for ADHD. But here's the crazy part. I was already diagnosed with ADHD back in elementary school, but it was never treated because my grades were not suffering. But now my grades were suffering, so it was race to get treatment that worked before the semester ends and I end up having to retake the class. I ended up passing with a 69 D on a 7 point grading scale. DAMN was that a horrible 4 months though.
1:31 can relate lol I got super worried about an upcoming physics test bc I missed some classes and just played minecraft all day, then when I saw the test I realized I just had to manipulate the definitions of velocity and acceleration with 8th grade algebra and got all the questions right. And about the issue of minimal effort, a friend of mine actually experienced the same things in middle school, so he became a calculus addict in highschool and I'm going down a similar path. Grades can be very misleading, I still have an arrogant side from the teachers constantly telling me I'm super smart, but my moral compass can mostly supress it. Also TH-cam just recommended me Dr. K's video, I had it saved in my watch later playlist for a long time, but never actually watched it, I'll do it now before I forget about it again. Thx for reminding me :)
being a perfect/smart/gifted kid made me cry over an 8/10 ❤ to all those "perfect grades" kids out there PLEASE remember that getting imperfect grades is fine 😭
I feel attacked because I am procrastinating for my thesis but I am watching your video right now.... LETS GOOO this is so relatable, please send help.
Ayoo what's the thesis about? I haven't done anything in that magnitude yet but I find planning what to write anywhere else than microsoft office on your laptop does wonders
I am honestly so blessed that this video showed up in my feed when it did, I haven’t studied my whole life and have been a straight A advanced student with a senior reading level, and because I procrastinated and didn’t study I got a 62/100 on said test. This was a slap in the face and a hard reminder that life is getting harder and if I don’t start doing stuff I am going to end up living in my moms basement till I’m 35 and doing drugs!🤣🤣
I'm finishing high school and have never studied seriously for any tests. However, this year for the first time I had to take make up exams in a subject, even tho it wasn't entirely my fault. The way the exams are graded is based on 3 tests, 2 of which are made by the teacher and another is centralized by the school system. Although I did very well in the latter it wasn't enough to compensate for my failiure in the others, partially because the teacher made awful exams. Even then, I can see my grades slowly losing momentum as the years pass, so I'm lucky to have realised that early on and somewhat chosen an objective for my future. If you're also a gifted kid, just pick the things you somewhat enjoy to base your career around them, in my case it was geography, history and philosophy to perhaps become a diplomat. I see being gifted as a huge boost on learning speed, so the earlier you start the better. Don't worry about school as you'll probably do just fine listening to the lessons, the hardest thing will likely be choosing your future, if you work on it early on you'll surely save a lot of studying in college, making it actually fun.
I used to not study and was considered gifted but then Calculus happened and it was so hard it had me on my hands and knee’s praying for at least a 60% before every test and I did end up passing pre-calc with a B+ by getting 100% on the last test. Then I got to Calculus and at the end of the semester had failed the class with a 70.35% (You needed a 73%) to pass the class. Calculus definitely humbled me and I would recommend you take it if you have trouble with procrastination because you can study for 2 weeks and feel like you don’t study enough. This class will make you never want to not study again.
I really needed this, I finally hit a wall when I actually need to put in the hard effort and I feel like a stupid failure that fumbled her way to a 4.0 gpa and its all crashing down. I had such unreasonable expectations from myself and others, that not easily getting 100% while learning Japanese from a really intense teacher feels like an existential failure I can never amend. I only started to pull my grade up by actually studying rather than cram literally 10 minutes before my test in simpler Japanese class and political science courses. I could just
I've never seen a video THIS relatable. The only difference between me and my peers was that I learnt multiplication and division from my parents. Because of my "advance" understanding of all things related to math, I was moved up a few grades. To say that I was average in those class is an understatement, but I was still considered "gifted" because I got ahead of my classmates by MAYBE two units at the start.
I wouldn't call them gifted, not because i dont agree they have something unique about them than others but because i think we all are gifted, this very life is a gift for us!!
I was labeled as gifted in math, so I was put with other gifted students. I hated it because I always performed average compared to all the other gifted students. Very frustrating XD Anyway excellent video 👍
haha thanks for watching again!!! always nice to see you here 🥺💚💚 ooo you were a math kid! haha me too! yeah it sucks cuz it's a never ending cycle of comparing yourself and feeling frustrated no matter which class you're put into 😭
This is literally my highschool experience 😭 Because i got in a good one my minimal studying grades became average. The top 3 overall grades of last year amongst 120 students were: 1) 99,5 2) 99,4 3) 99,3 I don't even know if I can pass them if I actually study this year...
I wouldn’t say I’m a gifted person as in intelligence,but during the first half of high school I put in half the effort barely passing and the second half I didn’t pay attention to anything, especially senior year where for some reason everything was so easy that I was actually bored out of my mind to the point where I’d fall asleep Luckily the time I spent not doing my work was not put into just doing nothing so now I have an actual goal in life
oh! that's so nice that you got to find a goal in life during high school! i finished hs and went off to college still unsure what the hell i was doing with my life hahah 💚
Damn that reminds me of me. Although I was labeled the opposite, I was the ADHD kid. When I was younger, I came to Germany with my family, and they said they found that I had ADHD and a small problem with learning. I lost 5 years in a terrible school, from which I came out with nothing, no degree, nothing. I almost even killed my own academic career because I bought what my teacher told me, and went to a sort place where they make you try multiple jobs, most of them are very narrow jobs, and if you're lucky you get your basic HS9, otherwise you'll be forever a mini jobber. I left it and decided to take everything back. I was obsessed for a while with being smart, I was vengeful, and I wanted justice for what was done to me. It turns out I didn't have ADHD, or at least that's what I think, I never double checked, but I did pass my two years (HS9 and HS10, basically 9th and 10th grade if you're wondering, they're not the same as in the U.S or Brittain though), without ANY effort or study. I didn't even feel the difference between my old school and the new. Eventually, it got harder a year later at my FOR, 11th grade. My reaction, though, was different. I was EXCITED. Because of my obsession with becoming smart and proving I could do it, I started studying obsessively to the point I actually became a passion... I didn't start hating it, I loved it. Soon, I made it a bit more healthy, and I took the math challenge by studying 2 hours a day for 6 days straight for a total of 12 hours for the first test. Now I'm at half the year, and I've got a 9 in math, an 8 in physics, and the rest for which I still never had to study. Not even now is insanely good, too. The only thing I study for is pharmacology , which is the profession I want to pursue. The fact that I don't need to study much this 3 years of school I made helped me focus on my chemistry and biology passion. I know 3 languages, and I never took a real IQ test. I remember taking one but not really taking it seriously at 14 (I'm 20 now, so that makes it 6 years ago) and they said I got 70IQ (virtually impossible). Later I made it on a Norway mensa test (not the complete one but still official), and it came 97, pretty average. Overall I'm satisfied with learning, reading politics, philosophy and science is my life and I love it, I grew out of my unhealthy obsession with intellect, though I still study it and seek some answers from time to time. Everyone still sees me (the ones who know me best) incredibly smart.
As a gifted person, doing a question wrong then getting it right with a gut feeling is so relatable.
I hate it.
"I hate being right"
-gifted people,probably
lollllll can relate
same
You just have 'hold up, wait a minute, something ain't right' play in your head, you think of the answer, and then wonder how you knew the first answer was wrong.
@@IcecoldbadjIkr
‘Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard’ one of my fav quotes
Yeeaaahhh
depends on the amount of talent
But the thing is, i wanna be on the game rn :(
Just started experiencing the drawbacks of not studying lol, I'm fairly cooked
My brain can achieve so much power. It can learn things very fast eg, I learned basic Programming in Python in less than 15 days, i can understand mechanics of games in few hours, i can solve physics problems of motions (linear, vector, projectile, everything) without using any formulas at all just by drawing graphs, i can learn things about space and time and much more but the worst thing is that whenever I start studying I just get distracted or fell asleep. The only subject that I can study without any fatigue is Computer Science.
I’ve been called “talented” my whole life, but now that I’m finishing college (art/graphic design), I’ve realized that my classmates who put in the most time and effort into their work have gotten better than me.
Not to mention that after a while of making good grades, nothing less than perfection is accepted.
Ikr. Because im “gifted” I’m expected to do everything and be perfect at it but I’m in the corner wanting to get the fricking black plague so I don’t need to learn my state capitals (I can’t remember crap)
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@@SpoopTheArtist-ru1lb I usually get full marks, but when a mock test was sprung on us, and I got 2 questions wrong, my teacher was telling me to be ashamed of myself 😂
I would get all As and one B and my parents would be disappointed. While my brothers would get Cs and they would be fine.
I had always felt uncomfortable with being labelled "smart". I just did my homework and mostly never really studied -- and figured that if everyone else would just do that, they'd be fine, too!
Of course, when it came to that homework ... yes, I *did* have a tendency to procrastinate and rush it ... but I managed to get it done, too, for the most part.
While this didn't bite me, where I got hit hard was when I'd try to work after getting a PhD. For daily tasks, I wondered why it was so difficult to start them, why it so difficult to stop once I got going, and why I procrastinated so much before the task was due. I also wondered why I burned out so easily -- sometimes I burned out, sometimes the company burned out, sometimes we burned out together -- and it almost always took several months to find something new.
Turns out I have ADHD -- which I had dismissed, because I could "focus" on so many things -- but I didn't know about ADHD hyperfocus ... which is reinforced by the autism I also have -- and that burnout? Turns out to be due to my inability to be social, along with the intense effort required to pretend to be social, along with sleepless nights trying to figure out how to better pretend to be social. No wonder I also felt intense "imposter syndrome" now and again!
So, yeah. My life is in shambles, but I now know why, so I just need to pick up the pieces and figure out where to go from here.
Same here, i always have trouble starting homeworks or studing but when i do it and finish i have the sensation that the problem wasnt the difficult, good luck finding your way in life ❤
Basically paragraphs 1-3 apply to me, so i think 4 applies too.
Gosh darn you just listed off my life minus the Ph :D
Maybe I should look to get diagnosed
Oh geez. I'm also putting things off too much. I resonate with alot that you're saying.
That's exactly my experience, I procrastinate until I have like 15 min to finish a task, then I manage to get it done literally last minute
The worst is when many people call you smart, that you developed an ego and believe that you're truly smart, but in reality you are just as normal like everyone else
Yeees. So true
And once you face defeat many times to someone who actually studied you feel depressed and a failure, idk, that's my personal experience
ego is good. BEing confident is what seperates
hehehe i feel you :)
@@MaxAdel_ikr
all gifted students holding hands and spinning in a circle.
I don't know why I cackled like the Minecraft witches at this comment
Where are all my gifted bitches at?
Hehehehehehe I love doing this with my friendssss (we’re pretty much all gifted)
I can hear the Mario music
Actually i'm no longer laughing i'm crying now bro lemme join y'all
can i join?
EXACTLY!!! When you start getting called a “gifted kid” everyone just assumes that you are all about learning and studying, but it’s often the opposite. Anyone who has interacted with me more than once knows I’m a HUGE procrastinator and almost always forget all the information at the end of the unit.
is so true though
Bro gifted literally means you dont have to do anything to be good
exactly me bro
@@anghme28ang11yes we know some people dotn kmow that and it adds pressure on to yoj
Reletible
There's always a time when i think that i'm a gifted child which make my confident always goes sky high and making me turn arrogant. But when i look at the people around me now having the same knowledge as i do, it make me realise that i'm not gifted at all. I'm just an average person who got a headstart and took a sprint in a marathon, and only about halfway through the marathon i was exhausted and slowed down, letting everyone else pass by me in a normal pace.
Having such an easy life without any hardwork in the beginning make me fall from such a high place without any preparation at all. Now that i've fallen to the ground, what i need to do is to keep reminding myself that everyone has their own "time" in life, and i had to get back up with my own two feet and start moving forward once again.
True, that's me
doing the equation in a way that feels right instead of the intended way is such a vibe
and then you get marked off for that
as a physics major, doing physics problems is 90% understanding the problem and 10% using formulas to actually solve the problem. You cant succeed in a "real" physics class by just memorizing the formulas.
Frrrrrrr
TELLLL ME ABOUT ITTTTT LIKE I CAN NEVER DESCRIBE A FORMULA, I JUST KINDA KNOW THE ANSWER.... SOMEHOW
I remembered on a math test I dont know how to solve the equation, but I somehow made my own formula and it worked... Somehow...
As a former gifted kid one of my greatest joys is shouting "I AM THE PINNACLE OF PUBLIC EDUCATION" before doing something absolutely moronic
nobody does that in my school, since 90% of my school is indian even though I am in america, we have to constantly outsmart each other in highschool for college apps. So no one is really gifted.
@@chai_chutney_dosa Nah,, there are some people who are actually gifted ( label it with whatever word you like ), just like Magnus carlsen.
@@XDRGr7 magnus carlsen was good at chess/general intelligence, but I am talking about studying for school
Former
I will be stealing this and using it in my everyday vocabulary
I really hated it when people said to me “you must be so bored being around dumb people like us”. It has always impeded my interactions with people and it still does.
Because they assumed you think you are better then them?
Mh
I can see how that is annoying
So real dude
If it was like my friends I could see how that could be annoying but when I’m sitting in a table with three people that can’t do 2x2 in seventh grade if they said that to me I would be like “ yeah I am upset that I have to be around you guys” but if it was my friends I would tell them that they are smarter than me
Real
@@dude9318idk why, but I think that the whole time
As a “gifted kid”, im glad that procrastination isnt a problem. Feeling like a failure when im on the phone for 1 minute is
I think I speak for all “smart and gifted kids” kids when I say this
People expect too much from a person as young as they are
Just because we did very well doesn’t mean we’ll be the next Albert Einstein
The expectation of doing well, the gaslighting that you’re the greatest and you have to stay that way, the worry of losing your “honour” as the gifted student
It’s not helpful or uplifting
@arthur-godart might just be my problem, but the moment by grade drops below what it was previously, it doesn’t matter if the topic was far harder or not taught well enough. I’d get the blame for being lazy and that I should’ve done better and that I disappointed them
@@Proxy606damn I totally agree
What's really bad about this is not just having your skills being linked to your "honour", but also your self-esteem. It gets bad when the material you're good at starts getting more difficult, and you're no longer "good" at it, lowering your self-esteem.
@@ElectricVan legit people just link ur value as a person to one thing
ty this is true.
When your "gifted" and everything is free, you don't build up good study habits. Like others, I did very well in elementary, but started to struggle in middle and high school but couldn't figure out why. It was only until my last year of highschool that I finally caught myself up to pace. It's never too late to start building good habits.
Slay
When *you're
Yea my study method was SHIT for the entire year n half for secondary, I’m only now js getting my shit tgt
The question now is: how do we do that?? How do we build those habits? 🥲
@Inspired_by_Sarah The answer will be different for everyone. But in my case, in order to figure out good study habits, I had to learn my weaknesses and how to overcome them. I noticed that my bad study habits would be things like procrastination, laziness, and loss of focus when faced with a task. I noticed things like this happened at home. For me home and work don't mix well, I needed a deticated place to do my work. I eventually learned that the library was a great place to focus and do my work. Soon another problem arose, even though the library was a great place to work, sometimes I wouldn't go, even when I needed to. My solution? Have library time deticated into my schedule, so I go there whether I need to or not, like it or not.
While seemingly simple, it took lots of trial and error across multiple years to come to that simple conclusion. Don't get demotivated if things don't work out right away. Takes time to find what works for you. Essentially find out how to set yourself up for success.
Wish I could tell you more, but thats a struggle Im also currently overcoming.
Every gifted child: **clicks the video**
I clicked becaus there is cellbit in the intro
can confirm that is why i clicked
that was literally me when i saw this
uhuh and we are procrastinating from all our hw:)
nah, i'm dumb as fu
Now I have existential dread that I’ll fail in life, thank you so much😭😭
honestly, it is good to learn of this ahead of time so you can get ready for the wall whether it will be next grade or in 20 years, if you start getting ready before that point it won't be nearly as bad when you get to it
"just show me your work next time" that one PHRASE, is my main difficulty on elementary/middle school math.
In college calc all my classmates are praising how neat, legible, and efficient my homework is. They don't understand why it's that way. I'm not naturally organized; I've had to put so much effort into making it acceptable for my K-12 teachers. It's less a habit and more of a conditioned neurosis.
Same
yhea becouse you dont have enough braincells to not ask chat gpt, AI dosnt make you anny smarter, nor dose it give you bragging rights.
The only think my teachers have ever said to me
This once got me a 6/10 when I answered EVERY SINGLE QUESTION CORRECTLY.
Why yes, I'm still a little annoyed by that.
Wtf why is this so accurate. Throughout all of middle school I was viewed as one of if not the smartest kids in the entire grade. And often times when I didn't end up studying, I'd still get an A (usually minus) on the tests. And this quickly sets the expectation people have for smart kids and smart kids have for themselves, usually causing the smart/gifted kids to beat themselves up when they get a B or C or causing them to be a procrastinator, perfectionist, or someone who eitheir works too hard, or not enough.
@SCPlayz7000 , with all due respect (of which I have very little after reading your reply), the video in question is not a parody of Daniel's video. If it were, then that would make all videos made about a certain subject parodies of each other. Since that is not true, this video is not a parody. It is a different video that just happens to have an extremely similar title and subject of discussion. The delivery, talking points, and meaning of these videos, however, are different enough as to invalidate your accusation.
If you do intend to reply to my reply, I highly suggest that you rewatch both videos before you do, as to prevent any more embarrassment on your part.
in grade 7 i got pulled into the consolers office because i had an anxiety attack when i got a grade in the 70s for the first time i didnt have parents strict on grades or anything i just hated my self so much as a kid and being smart was the only good quality i could accept that i had and getting a 70s grade challenged that.
1:21 is also super accurate lmao
I'm perfectionist myself and I HATE being that. I think that everything I do has to be perfect (I know that's what perfectionism says, right?) Anyways. When you think you constantly have to be perfect, you're not really enjoying, what you are actually doing. And that's BULLSHIT.
@@firefox1133 yeah it sucks, the only way i found to get over it in a sense is doing something you're absolutely horrible at but enjoy.
gifted program kid, tested and was in the top 30 in half our city area or whatever for my year group. barely passed high school, crawled through uni and kept changing courses, had to withdraw a couple of times due to health struggles and anxiety disorder.... and finally diagnosed as ADHD (and apparently had autism in there too lol)... what a rollercoaster.
But yeh... never had to put much effort in to get decent results, so i never felt the need to work hard, which also meant... i have no idea how to actually work hard towards something. so i feel trapped by my own glass box of limitations, and that limitation is literally just... not knowing what to do AFTER instinctively getting the basics.
i actually seem to have dyscalculia as well, keep mixing left and right and mental-blanking when i have to read an analog clock and just don't remember strings of numbers.. .so maths class was difficult... but my gut instinct in maths was creepy weird and actually accurate. so teachers were confused, how come i couldn't follow basic instructions, but somehow i made up my own method to answer stuff?!?!?! bleh.
gifted kid IS a special needs kid... and schools aren't created for us. schools are literally for the benefit of adults and businesses, keeping kids out of society's way while adults make money, and training kids to mindlessly follow social norms and pointless hierarchies.... and i'm the misfit.
I have never found a comment that describes me so perfectly. Your experiences mirror my own to a scary degree.
Yeah, in this school system being gifted is only good if you're around intelligent people I think. Some people would be way better off being more dumb lol
@@JadedMuse_ gifted kids and adhd go hand on hand
@@lour8862 can confirm, i'm also a "gifted kid" (mentally developed much quicker than my classmates) and yet im getting diagnosed for ADHD, cant even study -well- almost AT ALL anymore because of all the stress, anxiety, executive dysfunction, the depression, etc...
but when i really NEED to get something done ASAP my ADHD gives me hyperfocus and i do it 10x faster than anyone else 💀, stressful asf though
your case seems impressive!! sad thing that schools really aren't adapted to harness student's true potential. they just wanna fit everybody into the same old mold 😭 hope you've been doing better nowadays tho!!
if you can, you should def see a therapist to understand yourself and how you operate better (if you don't do that already) but if you want something on youtube, def check out HealthyGamerGG if you haven't yet!!! (the psychiatrist I mentioned in the video)
wish this video existed back then ... legit resumed my whole life in 10 minutes.
Exactly. I was just declared as "above average IQ", but what I ever did was to listen in the class and never needed to learn on my own. That resulted in me not ever learning how to learn and I fucked up everything for which I was missing in school. Was sick when we were learning probabilities? Too bad I can't learn it on my own. Now I'm failure that at least learned programming as hobby when I was still studying so I can survive. I was at the time excited that I can finally make something when I learned about programing. Kids should be given more opportunities to deep dive into complicated topics and get excited about it.
Exactly!
Saw this in a comment I can't find on another video, but it goes something like ''When you're a gifted kid you're a child with the mind of an adult, but then you grow up and you're just an adult with the mind of an adult'' which sums it up perfectly
fr, like im currently 17, and my mind and way of thinking has been the exact same ever since i was 7.
wait wtf thats actually so accurate....
Only 15, but already having a mid life crisis like I'm only 2 years away from socially dead lol
@@CutieAlysse dude im younger than that and ive already gone thru my mid life crisis lol. wait does that just mean im gonna die soon. (only a joke)
why is this so accurate 😭 i still think the exact same stuff I used to think when I was 8 'till now and now i'-.. I'M 21 YEARS OLD
>school was too easy so i barely even studied and got straight A's
>didnt know how to really give it my all, because i never really did that (+ undiagnosed ADHD)
>school got ACTUALLY hard
>grades drop instantly
mfw "Ohh you're so talented, if you only just applied yourself more!!" 😭
btw i just discovered your channel and you're really underrated, binging through ur videos rn lol, like the artstyle too! :3
Literally me
Бляяяя, какая жиза... Однажды ко мне подошла наша классная и просила:"Ты вроде талантлив, так почему у тебя низкие оценки?", Я ответил:"Ну потому-что, уроки скучные... (Хнык)", после этого я зарыдал, от... я не знаю... Насколько я помню я в детстве мог зарыдать при малейшем давлении на меня...
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God-dahm... thats literally me, Once upon a time our class teacher came to, and asked:"You are talanted, so why do you have this bad grades?" , I answered:"What is because, lessons are sooo boring... (Whimp...)", after that I were crying, because of... i don't really know, why... As I remembered I could start crying with a smallest emotional pressure on me...
@@enumberfan oof, i get that. I really have trouble with mood swings and over-reacting to stuff too. I think thats especially common with people like us, sadly..
@@Szajba1762 yeah...
Oh my fucking god so true bruh
I hate it so much, i were doing pretty well before grade 9 but then when middle school started i got punched really hard and i started struggling, no matter how much i tried explaining "its harder now" it was too late, my parents already had the bias that i were a really smart kid
The worrying of losing your “honour” of being “smart” and “perfect” to your peers surpassing you one day scares and annoys the heck out of me.
MAN, the expectation just builds up not just by other people, but mainly yourself, especially when you don’t have the studying habits that you should have for later years.
Yup, I just had a huge exam of calculi in college and i straight up didnt study. I got a good grade, but I doubt i will pass if i keep not studying
@ yeah man. Scary.
Said worst fear actually came true for me. One thing led to another and that very year was the darkest, lowest point of my life. Yikes. Be careful as a "smart kid"😬
I have decided that since I only have one semester left and Im still on top academically, Im just gonna put in as much effort as I can, finish the end of my high school strong, and go into college with the understandings that I will not be the best, and that I still need to put in the work because otherwise I will be screwed, no matter what place in the class I am.
Been literally looking everywhere to find some good gifted kid representation, I finally feel seen
0:45 It doesn't sound pretentious. Most people know that "gifted kid" is a label that's forced on to you as a child. Happened to me, too.
nobody does that in my school, since 90% of my school is indian even though I am in america, we have to constantly outsmart each other in highschool for college apps. So no one is really gifted.
you were forced because your parents were abusive not because you are smart.
@@That_random_Bacon My parents never told me that. My school district gave me that label.
@@That_random_Bacon You really shouldn't say shit like that
@@That_random_Baconahh yes every child is abuse
I realized as an adult that “gifted” is just a nice way of saying “special ED”
holy shit
WAT
💀
??? Wdym
I was the same way, parents hid it from me for so long until i finally found out during college, being gifted never really meant anything, it was just a way for parents and teachers to seperate you from the other kids without letting you know about any disabilities you had.
Ever since i was a kid, my family, friends and teachers said i had a gift when it came to music.
Perfect Pitch, Soprano (as a kid) and learning the piano with ease.
Turned out to be more of a curse than a blessing.
For that mentality, i couldn't bear the idea of being less than perfect for others. Singing and playing in front of people became an anxiety inducing thing, feeling more like a dancing monkey than anything else. That if i missed one note i was dissapointing them. And maybe they wouldn't notice, but, with perfect pitch, I CERTAINLY NOTICED EVERY MISTAKE.
Now? I Let myself go. Something that i loved so much became tainted. I still have Piano lessons, but i stagnated a long time ago.
Worst part of all is the occasional "you have such a great gift and you're WASTING IT by not practicing"...
The ocasional people sound mean
Wow, do we secretly have the same parents? Because the "you're WASTING your gifts" line sounds really familiar...
reminds me of my band director. The reason I left hs band was because of him :/
He made it really hard for me to leave by saying things like "you're so talented" and implying it would hurt the band if I left. He said it's a waste of time to NOT do band. But I'm glad I left because part of the reason I left was because I was having sulcldal thoughts and INTENSE sh thoughts- I didn't hurt myself though, I haven't for years. But if i stayed in band I think I would have
I'm so so grateful to have supportive parents though. im really lucky
Aha, same. I consider myself a pretty good singer, but it's gotten to the point where I feel like I have to be perfect sometimes. If I hear someone else sing really well I feel like I'll never be that good, and if i ever am it'll take practically forever to get to that point. I see all these popstars who started singing professionally at the age of like 5 and I feel behind. I play off most if not every voice crack, and attempt to play it down or laugh it off when I hit the wrong notes. My family is super supportive, I just sometimes get in my head about it I guess.
But from musician to musician, you aren't wasting your gift. You don't have to sing if you don't feel like it, or practice the piano. Music is something to be enjoyed, not forced into and hated. Try looking up random song lyrics sometime, some you've never heard of, and improv the melody(only if you want to though). You can do it alone, or with someone else, whichever makes you comfy. If it sounds a bit odd, it'll sound a bit odd. Nothing is perfect, so don't stress yourself out by trying to reach the unreachable. I'm sure your amazing at singing, and piano, believe me, I'm not trying to say you aren't. Just, have fun with it. Okay? And if it helps even a little, here's one internet stranger who just wants you to genuinely feel happy, whether that's doing music, or a new hobby. Or doing nothing at all. It's your life, so don't let other people try to dictate it for you. Have a nice day/night :)
@@PositiveTherapy1 wow…that…actually made my day…thank you..
I truly hope that one day the joy and happiness I had from singing and playing comes back, without such stupid fears and unnecessary comments.
From the bottom of my heart, than you, and I wish the best to you too.
That perfect meaning of gifted earned you a subscription lol, couldn't word it better
Thank you for this video. I'm 17, a gifted child, and I want to aim high, yet I am stuck in the cycle of procrastination to low-effort wins and I'm sick of not being able to fix my laziness. I love all of you gifted children. Let's break out of that spell.
I never saw improvement until I made a split second decision to become better. Don't plan, don't think, just the first thing that comes to mind to make your life better do it now and repeat that cycle, you'll form a plan while your doing things. If you think before you just start you'll think too far into it, get overwhelmed by your ambition and never do anything and that's because your procrastination has caused you to form the habit of 0 effort or 100% effort with no in-between and you automatically get good results so your plan wont consist of anything but the best result. when you think of doing something you'll always think about the most effective way to do it in the shortest amount of time possible and create something unrealistic. Life isn't efficient, and life is too short to try and do everything as fast as possible with the highest quality of outcome go waste some time not being perfectly efficient trying to become better instead of actually wasting your time thinking about how much you hate your procrastination. My bad if this advice isn't for you but its what worked for me and id rather lyk.
Yes procrastination is horrible
That will need to stop as the work will get harder and harder
I will pray for your success
God bless you
@@dude9318 thank you so much 😊
We can do this!!!
I suppose I can advise you to learn to _work hard_ if you haven't already, and be used to the boredom of it. Hard work is more important than smarts. Remember when you get into higher education, if you choose that path, you will no longer be an outlier within your school in terms of smart kid status, and the intellectual demands will be adjusted to match. It's the hard working students who will get through that with a lot of learning and skill under their belts. This should also be true for whatever other pursuits and interests you might have.
I feel the same!! Another thing that people just overlook is the fact that being considered a "smart kid" often makes you be labeled as a nerd, this makes me so sad bc come on, I'm more than good grades, I'm not just the definition of study. It's honestly disappointing to be shrink down to the word" study" 💀💀
I’m a legitimately AWSOME person nice has couple interests deep personality and has got lots of stuff going on in life but people just call me a smart kid like I’m not nerdy
What's wrong with nerdy? Or people having a word to describe you?
@@letsreadtextbook1687 idiot it’s just not what we feel like Yk AND THEY DONT REALIZE WE HAVE A DAMN PERSINALITY AND THAT WE ARENT JUST GRADES AND WE AINT NERDY WE JUST DONT LIKE IT ITS NOT OUR PERSONA U BAKA
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@@letsreadtextbook1687 ok first off imagine everybody just calling you a single word and not acknowledging your whole entire personality and SECCOND imagine people calling u somthing that u just dotn wanna be called like I like gardening soccer carting and chess I have also got quite the deep peronslaity but all people see is “smart kid” imagine just being seen as how smart you are you wouldn’t want that
“Gifted” is not something I take seriously because I was taught that I could always be better. That had changed my perspective of life and my education
I was never smart but seeing how you people were always encouraged I worked hard to be called 'smart'
I literally feel this exact way right now. Growing up, being gifted isn’t that great because I had trouble socializing when I was younger and it was hard for me to make friends because all of my teachers favorited me, and I always finished my work first, so people were jealous of me. I took the state math test a month ago for my grade, and apparently I got almost everything right when I didn’t even feel like I tried at all. My math teacher told me she wanted to tell me that I got the highest score in my grade, and I felt proud of myself. However, even with all of this, sometimes I feel like I don’t try enough or I’m not good enough because everyone I talk to complains about how hard the work is and I can’t relate to most of the things they say. I get so far without studying, then procrastinate all of my work so I don’t end up getting most of it done. Staying focused is so hard for me when all I want to do is something fun. Thank you for reading my rant I guess, lol
I don't consider myself gifted, but I get the part of trouble socialising. When I look back, it was just so easy all I had to do was give up. Give up feeling sad for no reason. Give up being sensitive. Gave up a lot of things and got so many things in that stead and now I am happy
And the worst part is that usually the things that you don't do are the ones that seem most useful and interesting. School is good and all that, but that's usually not really useful and you have to do it so you do, but smth like learning drawing or editing etc is interesting, but you aren't doing that because you don't have to.
I read it!
You literally just like me, the only exception I've already messed things up. And now I'm jobless, without any experience, or any actual useable value, also without any friends. And now I have to force myself to do something actual useful, cuz' otherwise I would just watching videos and play Dark souls all day long. Now I may made a bit of progress, but it's still hard, cuz' of my lack of discipline and social skills.
I'm not sure whether you need it or not, but my piece of advice would be that you have to find something real challenging, and try to achive it. Everyone has to learn how to put effort into things, and if school can't teach you, cuz' you are extraordinary, you have to make challenge for yourself. And also when teachers praise you for not learning is a really bad thing, my luck was that one of my teacher noticed that, and she started to raise the required points for a good grade(obviously only for me), and also sent me to a competition which for, I actually had to learn. Without this I would be entirely hopless right now.
I'm sorry, I really don't want to lecture you, since I have no idea how old are you, or whats your situation, but I think that could be somewhat useful, if you are younger than me, or in situation in which I was in, or basically for anyone who can relate to this.
And this for everyone: once you out of the school system, it could be really hard to get back into it and also to study again. So try to make choice, about which way you want continue, cuz' going to a break could be really harmful, and if your choice doesn't feels good, you can always change it. So always make a plan how to go further, which could be higher education, to start working, or simply just progress in you career and etc. and make it happen. Giving up on progressing or just delay important choices never turns out to be good.
PS: just watched the video which was recommended in the video, and it's really helpful, and also kinda funny how much his monolog is similar to mine, especially the fact that he also mantioned dark souls
@@deadshark24 I'm seriously sorry about your situation. I think I might bring this up too much, but maybe try freelance work? Because some freelance jobs only require reliable WIFI and some sort of electronic, and since I'm seeing your comment at all, i'm guessing you have one. This might not help, but I really, REALLY hope this does! :3 Please, try to have a good day.
Dr.K nails it on the experience of being labelled as a gifted kid. Since you're doing well in school no one bothers to support you as well, since everything will turn out fine at the end.
I was tested with an IQ of 138 when I was 11. I was praised by everyone as the "smart kid" or the "gifted kid". Now I am about to finish secondary school and Im just one of those gifted burnout kids. Being smart or gifted doesn't mean you're absolutely going to be succesful in the future. Much of what you mentioned is true with me.
same
Dang I think I got exactly 138 at 11 also
nobody does that in my school, since 90% of my school is indian even though I am in america, we have to constantly outsmart each other in highschool for college apps. So no one is really gifted. I feel like being a gifted kid is something americans do
138 is barely scratching by gifted, gifted is 135, could you tell me what IQ test you took in order to understand whether it’s evaluation wasn’t low or highballed.
@@Gelicianisn’t gifted at 130? Atleast that’s how it’s like in Switzerland
This video is TOO relatable! That’s why I despise labels SO MUCH! They cause more harm than good.
This is so real... My brain really can figgure formulas out on the spot, just because I understand the logic behind processes, but I became really freaking lazy over that. Plus, to push the issue... LANGUAGES HAVE NO LOGIC BEHIND THEM PLEASE SAVE ME FROM THIS HELLSCAPE
So fucking relatable...
Oh, i guess that answers why i am so bad at my own language 😅
That one thing you are bad at sucks. For me grammer is not that bad, but spelling sucks.
@@rodrigoreismarinho9552welp same here I am good at english(english exams ease in my country never A+ but always A) but my own launage worst my spelling and grammer in tht hell nah weakest subject
Language has its own logic, just see language as a type of art/form of expression instead of language as "mathematical problems" (something that I don't do)
I've said it before and I'll say it again: most of us "gifted kids" have ADHD that doesn't get diagnosed until much later in life, mostly because there are different types of ADHD and if your parents/teacher are only looking for the "can't sit still" kind and not the "mind wanders A LOT but adjusted to it so now is really good at doing things last-minute" kind, you're just not going to get the support you need until long after it would have been most helpful.
I just got diagnosed this past year, and even though I can't take my meds because of...other issues, it's honestly really helpful to be able to say "I know what's happening with my own mind, and I know that I'm not a failure or undeserving of my awards and praise. I'm just built a little differently."
I'd really recommend that you guys at least get yourselves assessed, if you can afford it. It's like having a huge burden lifted off your chest.
Yes thank you add the layer of self-diagnosed autism and you’ve written my life story
DANG
SO THATS WHY IM HYPERACTIVE AND DO THIS STUFF
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Yeah, came here to say the same. Just been diagnosed this year and this video is the story of my life. I even had a college classmate be kinda mad that she studied A LOT and never could beat my grades in tests, even though I procrastinated a lot and only studied last minute. What she didn't know and me neither at the time was that I was simply activating my ADHD hiperfocus in the last possible time out of being in panic, which provided my brain with the right dose of chemicals to simply go into overdrive and learn a lot in minutes.
Agree. Straight-A minimal-effort high-schooler, academically crashed in university, learned I’m ADHD 20 years later after my kid got diagnosed. As she was talking about her procrastination habits here I was like, sounds like ADHD, m’dear.
Heyy kinda serious comment, and you don't have to answer, but how on EARTHH do you get diagnosed for ADHD?? cause I'm seriously convinced I have it, and I really don't want to self-diagnose ofc but I literally have almost all of the symptoms, and I feel like I'm going crazy every day because I'm not getting my work done on time even though I *know* I could, and I still get exceptionally good grades in school, but it's like a constant state of stress and anxiety because my grades are updated daily, and I keep thinking they're going to tank if I keep submitting my work late or just not submitting them at all. Like, what do you do? Do you like tell your parents first? Do you go to the school counselor? a doctor? How long does it take to get assessed? *How* do you get assessed? How do you get meds? I''ve tried researching this stuff but all of the answers are varied and I want answers from a real human person who has actually been diagnosed ykwim? Anyway, I'm sorry if this reads weird but I'm kind of desperate tbh😭😭 And also the fact that I could be wrong and I'm just not trying hard enough is eating my brain up omg. *MASSIVE* Thank you in advance to anyone who bothers to answer, sending love!!
The pressure of showing that you are capable
The only people who presure me ar emy parenrs so not so bad
That’s happend to me and I will accept this video as a flashback and reminder. I know that feeling and I just wanna change that last minit study or lazyness on this year and after and after again. Thank you so much for the reminder dude❤
bro, if i say that this was going to happen with me but this video saved me, i was literaly fighting with the thounght of "i am going to pass anyways, i do not need to study" a couple days ago and i was kinda surrendering to it, thank you so much
I used to have ur pfp lol
@@JesseIsAnAngel777Hello uzi
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@@RaidenShogun.. Raiden!!!!
My social studies drawings look really good for my state project ONLY because I procrastinated and did it at 10 in the night thinking it’s due the next day, only to realize that it’s due next WEEK. another normal day!!!! 😅
Lmaooo you must’ve felt such a relief after finding out it wasn’t due so soon 😂😂💚💚💚
@@JyunaYTI still have to do an essay and I've only done 2 paragraphs
10PM ? only I completed 4 big projects which was 20% of my grades at 12AM and submitted none because it was due the next week, but guess what? THE TEACHER DIDNT COME FOR THE NEXT WEEK. Then i submitted it 2 weeks later.
Ah nice, i used to draw things, like Pokemon and fields and stuff, now i just sleep face down till i start to drown in drool
Same, but also on writting stories and poems.
Thought I also had and have that bad habit of doing things quick.
Only had It under control when I played chess. God I wish I had the attention span I could spend on chess when I was a kid now. I can no longer Focus like that.
*watches this video instead of doing overdue work*
"Man this'll be fun-"
fr me too 😭
TH-cam caught y'all (us) lol
teto pfp has been found
mesmerizer is just built different bro
and yes ur comment is astoundingly relatable lol
THIS EXPLAINS SO MUCH THANK YOUUU❤ MY future self will thank you!
THIS IS ME. Literally almost everything about this feels relatable. Putting in no work, never doing anything for school. We had to do a group project in social sciences where we had to prepare a speech. Naturally, we didn't prepare a speech. When it was our turn, I walked up to the front of the class and improvised it from three bullet points. They thought I just memorized it all.
Or, well, the time I skipped a class. And no, I'm not talking about not attending school. I SKIPPED the first grade. I was too good in school and a psychologist assessed me to be at the mental capacity of a second grader. I will have my Abitur (the equivalent of a highschool degree) with 16 and enroll into the university with 17. But I really struggle with day-to-day stuff. I always forget to do homework, study vocabs or am just plain forgetful. I hate to commit too much.
Anyway, great video. So far, I never actually had heard anything of someone else like me. Thank you.
Dang, that just summed up my entire school experience so far. I have been mentally forced to be a minimalist studying perfectionist. In elementary, since I was the "smart kid", if anyone beat me at anything academic, it was like an entire class celebration, with everyone but me. I'm in ninth grade now, and as classes get a bit harder, I have been telling myself over and over again to study, now I have begun to be able to increase my tedious study time to an entire 15 minutes. It's great to know that I'm not alone at all feeling like this. Starting a YT channel has been a great way to make a goal for myself. Great video!
stop the cap
It's good to be aware of it now and work on improving it. Everyone told me middle school would be harder than elementary school, but it wasn't. And then they told me high school would be harder than middle school, and it wasn't. I was in an AP physics class and got one of the best scores in the class without studying for it. I never developed any good habits for studying or working hard, only for procrastinating, which eventually led me to start doing poorly in classes due to not finishing assignments, and that seriously harmed me in college and even now later in life.
Same at the first part
This was absolutely me in high school, and it still persists. I feel like I was probably even arrogant, getting A's and B's in AICE classes (I dunno if you had those, basically just hard mode classes that gave college credits) without even studying or doing homework half the time. Then... I didn't even go to college. Because I was going to be a solo indie game dev, because I'm cool and don't need a college education! Woohoo! So yeah, guy who couldn't study properly needs to learn game design, code, art, music, some marketing and even writing!
I'm actually doing better now, but man there were so many mistakes I made and too many blessings I took for granted.
Bro I was kinda arrogant too ngl loll I’m glad I grew out of it. Mostly cuz life just slapped me in the face as I got older 😂😂
But yeah once you’re out on your own and school homework is not the hardest thing in your life anymore it’s quite difficult to adapt at the start 🥲
But good luck with your game project!! Hope it’s fun and please lmk about it when you publish it!! 💚💚💚
Oh. My. God. Please help me i think im on the same boat, but i wanna get a job as a game dev before trying to go indie cuz i want a stable income and to move from my parents home befote that but WHY EVERY ENTRY JOB ON LINKEDIN REQUIRES EXPERIENCE AND SO MUCH SPECIALIZATION??
Well not the arrogant part cuz my self esteem is non-existent
@@monikaisdonewiththeinterne2039 Hmm, in my opinion I don't think you need to get a dev job at a studio before going indie, if indie is your goal. Getting a different kind of job is perfectly fine, and will lead to the time you work on game dev stuff to be more productive, even if they're less frequent. Game dev also has tons of sides, and as indie, you CAN use money from your job to pay for art, music, code, etc, and you could also flip that around to make money from any of those skills.
I think the biggest mistake I made was not having a job as I learnt the basics. Sure, I got done quicker, but then I was broke! (If your parents wouldn't allow you to come back home, absolutely DO NOT become broke) Game dev is a marathon rather than a race, if you break your legs on mile 1 it's gonna be too hard to finish.
@@ganondorf2419 i know that, but it would obviously kill two birds with one stone if i had a job that already gets me experience with what i want to work with (god i fucking hate c# but i have no other choice), so i am just asking cuz it helps way more
Finding this video while procrastinating instead of studying hits hard, thank you
I was somehow saved from this cycle. Me and some other gifted kids were sent to a gifted kid school. We were lucky that the teachers there were aware that gifted kids can’t study and they taught us how to study.
i was put in a class for gifted kids, but the teachers didnt teach us how to study. we just related with each other and suffered, but at least the people around me were also suffering
@@kenjiwilllive-1234 what gifted kids need is hard classes. in america u get to pick classes so u can excel a lot. thjat way no mmatter how gifted you are you are forced to study. you could say im gifted so i take hardest classeds i can, im taking ap calc bc and ap physcs c e and this semester and im a sophoomore. I have to study a crap ton but my entire class is like the smartest seniors. most gifted kids dont challenge themselves but i believe excelling in hard things is much better of a flex.
Hi, do you remember where you went? Asking for a friend
lol the cellbit at the beggining I definitely wasn't expecting that
I’m glad people recognized him 🥺💚💚 I’ve watched him throughout my whole adolescence loll
@@JyunaYT Wait, so... you're brazillian? your english accent is just SOOO on point! congrats!!!
@@neoNickiyes I PROUDLY AM ☺️🇧🇷🇧🇷 Thank you!!!! 💚💚💚
@@JyunaYT greeting from portugal!
@@JyunaYTAI SIM PORRA 🇧🇷🇧🇷🇧🇷🇧🇷🇧🇷🇧🇷🇧🇷
Why is this so Relatable???
THIS CHANNEL IS UNDERRATED AS F-
Awww thank you!!!!! 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚
Your video popped up in my feed today, and I’m so glad I decided to watch it. Honestly, I relate to a lot of what you said. I’m considered a “gifted person” because I’m two years ahead of my age in the French school system (for context, I’m in 2nde). Growing up, I was always told that having a clear goal in life is essential, but it’s taken me some time to figure out what really matters to me.
I’m a super creative person with ideas constantly running through my head, and I’ve channeled that energy into writing a fantasy novel. I’m currently at 65k words, and it’s been such a rewarding experience! Since I’m doing homeschooling, my schedule is pretty flexible, which has allowed me to focus on my true priority: finishing this book. My goal isn’t perfect scores on exams; it’s seeing my story come to life.
Thanks for this video !
ohh étant moi même considéré comme """surdoué""" (je hais ce terme), je me demandais comment tu as vécu cette expérience ?
@@sun3ta Ah, je comprends totalement ce que tu veux dire avec ce terme… il peut être lourd à porter parfois, pas vrai ? Pour moi, ça a été une expérience un peu en dents de scie. D’un côté, j’ai apprécié la liberté intellectuelle et les opportunités qui venaient avec, mais de l’autre, il y avait cette attente constante de "performer" ou de toujours être à la hauteur, ce qui pouvait être épuisant.
Ce qui m’a vraiment aidé, c’est de trouver des choses qui me passionnent, comme l’écriture, et de me concentrer là-dessus au lieu de vouloir répondre à toutes les attentes extérieures.
@@Phantagorax Le terme est terrible, il est vendeur d'espoir mais parfois on se sent plutôt comme Atlas. Je compatis à ce que tu dis, "une expérience en dent de scie" - ce coté hors norme est parfois tellement agréable mais il s'indexe souvent à un épanouissement, mais quand l'épanouissement n'est plus c'est une toute autre terrible sensation qui arrive. Tu ne trouves pas ? Comme si d'un coup on perdait toute valeurs. Je crois que le côté performé vint du regard que porte les autres sur nous, personnellement j'ai toujours voulu abuser de ma liberté mentale (si je peux nommer ça comme ça) mais à force je n'entrais pas le stéréotype du "surdoué", j'étais correct à l'école, moyens dans mes notes, nul en math excellent à l'oral. De plus le fait que l'on est été un phénomène de mode n'a vraiment pas aidé.
Comme aujourd'hui dire à quelqu'un que l'on est comme ça sans qu'on nous ris au nez ?
J'aime beaucoup le fait que tu écrives un roman de fantasy (j'adore ça, - c'est si doux d'écrire des mondes entiers)
D'ailleurs j'y pense nombreux sont les gens ayant un cerveau différent de la norme essayent désespérément de vivre dans leur monde parfait
Merci d'avoir pris le temps de dialoguer avec moi (si un jour tu publies ton livre fait le nous savoir hehe)
@@sun3ta Tu exprimes bien ce sentiment de vivre entre deux extrêmes, entre le poids des attentes et la richesse de l’imaginaire. Le parallèle avec Atlas est si parlant… On porte le monde, ou du moins ses attentes, sur nos épaules, mais parfois on rêve juste de s’échapper et de bâtir le nôtre.
Je te rejoins totalement sur l’idée que ce terme de "surdoué" a été popularisé de manière presque déshumanisante, comme une étiquette figée qui oublie toutes les nuances derrière. Et oui, ne pas correspondre au stéréotype peut être libérateur, mais aussi frustrant face au jugement des autres. Au final, ce qui compte, c’est ce qu’on fait de cette "liberté mentale" que tu décris si bien.
Merci pour tes encouragements sur mon roman ! J’adore l’idée que des personnes "différentes" essaient de vivre dans leur monde parfait, car c’est exactement ce que l’écriture me permet. Créer un monde entier, c’est un peu comme prendre une revanche sur la réalité parfois.
Et toi, tu écris aussi ou tu crées dans un autre domaine ?
Si tu veux, on peut rester en contact avec Discord ou Insta. Comme ça, dès que je publierai mon premier roman, tu seras informé. Ou même, si ça te dit, tu pourras lire le draft :) (car j'ai besoin d'avis, hehe).
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Dropping your phone at your face is a true sign of a gifted kid.
I like to fall asleep in that position, not bothering with the phone...
I study in a gifted class. It's great in terms of the environment and challenge the other students present, but terrible in every other aspect. The only real difference between our class and others is that we're forced to take everything on the highest level with barely any choice. The teachers come to the class thinking we're a bunch of nerds who love and are great at studying, well, they're wrong. In fact many teachers have told us that we're one of the most difficult classes to teach. On the personal side, as someone who's great at maths and physics and the like but terrible at everything involving expression or memorizing details, the only thing people achieve by telling me I'm smart is to make me feel like I don't have the right to complain.
My teachers are always saying that the our gifted class talks louder than their standard classes, and that they expect better behavior from us. I'm always thinking about how being "smart" always has to correlate with behavior. I get that school may view gifted kids as an example for others to follow behind. However, that doesn't mean we have to be perfect angels or be the literal stereotype of a "teacher's pet". I'm just sick and tired of hearing the phrase, "You're too smart to be behaving this way!!". Another issue I have with this phrase is, it feels like they're implying that "dumb" kids are typically not well mannered, which, from my experience isn't even necessarily true. (Sorry if this comment is too long or too short, it's just that it isn't an often occurrence that I find these types of videos with so many gifted kids in the comments).
@@elena9310 Exactly. Some teachers ask to teach our class thinking they'll have a couple easy periods every week, not realizing we're actually special needs.
yapyty yap yap yap you are prob american just stop lying you are the WORST mathematicians in the world.
Another thing is going through all the grades like perfectly, you are confident, i never really studied, i was always fine, first time i study well to an exam, i fail it miserably, now i feel like dying
fr, now repeat for 3 years, me rn:
brooooooooo that was me taking college entrance exams 😭😭😭 i was so overconfident
So true
Sameeeee. I was known to be the math genius in my class because I can solve most things even just using paper. Everyone's struggling while I'm just writing my math down like it's the average day. First quarter exam went smooth, second quarter exam also went smooth, third quarter exam went smooth, then you would expect the last quarter exam to go smooth as well, but nah. I was overconfident and solved the equations so quickly like I was Albert Einstein. Wrote the formulas on paper, even heard the teacher say "you can use a calculator" but ignored it. Passed the paper, and that was it for the exam. Moments later while going home, I realized that I used the wrong way of multiplying and dividing decimals. I tried calming myself down that just a few items on the exam had decimals involved, but then my other braincells were like "... but the whole exam had decimals fully involved..."
I remember the other day having a science test, thinking I would ace it, didn't even try to study, and got ~73% and feeling dumb 🥲
this describes me to well. Sometimes when I'm solving a problem and don't remember the formula, I just make my own.
I'm twelve years old and this video pretty much summed things up to the ACTUAL reality. I swear the procrastinating part was literally so true that I feel like we share one brain because of how relatable this is. Why do I feel like I'm different but the same as everyone else at the same time because we all relate to something.
This is honestly so relatable as a “gifted” kid.
Wow... this is exactly me. I saw somebody else comment that after we instinctively learn the basics, we don't know where to go from there. The number of assignments I've submitted at 11:59 on Sunday night is way to high. Even worse is I'm homeschooled so there isn't anything stopping me from sitting and watching youtube all day... like right now... Thanks for the video! Guess I should probably get to work...
I've been having similar scenarios when I was coursing the secondary.
I still remember when my maths teacher didn't mind having a process to give you the whole mark and it was ok with just the right answer. My maths exams were basically 2 different sheets, the one with the exam's questions and the answers on boxes, and the one with operations everywhere and without apparently making any sense which only the one self in the precise moment of making the exam could understand.
I perfectly remember seeing a problem and knowing exactly what was the answer straight away. And in more complex problems knowing which were the operations that I had to make to get the answer without visually applying a formula.
I've just started to watch your content today and I have to say that I feel reflected in your stories, you've surely gained a new sub straight from Spain🇪🇸 (actually living in Australia though) so feel proud of your content.
This is not connected but I'm getting into japanese but it's quite time demanding tbh. Adiós :)
"eventually the hard working people will surpass you" hit me hard, because thats exactly what my math teacher told me about high school,
i didnt use to put any work in math, i just got straight A's without studying
in high school, in the advanced math class, i had to change my habits and start studying math, because even though the first 2 tests went well, i felt like im gonna fall behind quickly...
Now, i dont feel like im falling behind anymore, the new habits definetely helped, and also helped me to start learning new skills, like programming.
Actually, I consider myself a gifted kid and I made pretty much the same error as you. It was last year and i really didn't need to work at all to get everything we saw in class math, and since i got good grades without too much work, i started to work less and less, doing my homeworks at the beginning of the class, not studying for the tests (I even actually forgot there was a test a few times) but I still had 19 out 20 as medium grade in math and I was not even caring at this point so i got bad grades for some time and now I'm trying to vo back to work, but you're so right now i can't get to work because everything else is more fun and i get distracted really often, so now i work a little and i'm trying to get back to my old self when i could be serious more than 20 mins. Thank you for the message, i'll try to not do the same error as you. By the way you sounded a bit sad when you said you felt like a failure back then so i hope you're doing better.
This.....this exactly same thing happened to me.
I did that mistake once....so I'm never doing it again.
It really is hard to change back to your old self. I too am trying to change.😢
I used to think I was smart until I saw and compared my work with other students and saw that their work was more advanced than mine, leaving me questioning if the classes I took were dumbed down or too easy. People only thought I was smart because of my A average grades, 3.8-4.0 gpa, and high/distinguished honors, but all of that was just from doing my work. After graduating back in June, over 70% classmates were going to colleges, universities, trades, etc. I was happy for them for deciding to pursue their studies to follow their dreams and careers, but I was also envious of them for knowing what they wanted to do with their lives. Life after graduation got boring and lonely, I graduated as a doomer with little to no ambition for their future.
peaked in highschool lol
@@JamesDheartsUndertale pretty much, did shit in elementary and middle school because I was disobedient, peaked in high school, currently upset about not having a permit and stressed about driving school
i can relate with that last part
fell into a very similar trap except i got kicked out of school at 15 and go a fulltime job in construction life since then has been 1000x better. still fucking procrastinating getting my GED though. Now that im 18 2025 is my last year at this job, getting my GED and becoming an electrician.
I watched this video, and it made me think of my best friend, and even though i have already known what she goes through since i have silently observed her over the years, i knew i could never TRULY understand but none the less, this video helped me interpret this better.
It's actually so relatable... I only started to realize that it's a problem for me a year ago or so, but before I often managed to succeed without really studying. I never said anything to people who performed worse than me, but I looked down on them, thinking I'm doing better, thinking I'll have a clear path in the life. Now I hardly force myself to study for an hour or take a shower, and I feel pathetic. I'm slowly working on rediscovering my identity again and finding things I really want to work towards to. Anyways, thank you for the video! I watched a bunch of your videos just now and liked them a lot, so I'm definitely subscribing!!
Finally! Someone who understands the struggle of being gifted! I swear I
Thought I wouldn’t ever find anyone address this or even have some experience with this topic on the internet, thank you for making this video! Now more people will understand
Same... Literally me lol. I physically cannot study for more than 15 minutes without getting bored and despite being really smart, (I found out via IQ test that I'm a 'genius') I still got good grades. I definitely won't be falling behind later hehehe...
1:10 That's the definition of "smart/gifted" that I grew up with. I had a terrible childhood simply because I couldn't keep up with stuff but I was percieved as smart. In fact, I am smart, but only in certain areas (mainly programming and fixing computers), in others (like music, athletics, etc.) I'm far below the average.
I was having a small breakdown a couple of minutes ago, and then i found this video, and it both cheered me up and made me understand a few things about myself.
this is one the several videos that I've ever actually given a like to; the content is relatable, and your drawings are nice too
as a gifted kid myself, I did, as a matter of fact, turn out to become a partially-perfectionistic burnout with depression, anxiety, unfulfilled expectations, and no real interests or goals, whose life was happily consumed by electronic media, and can't put in the effort to do hard work for prolonged periods of time without burning out quickly
however, there is a way to be able to do hard work for prolonged periods of time anyway; if you find something that you're really passionate about, you'll be able to put a ton of consecutive hard work into it anyway without issue
of course, you can't simply get that kinda thing by working a 9-5 job unless you're outrageously lucky, which I ain't, but if you're obsessed with some franchise of fiction, you could probably make a passion project out of it somehow if you had time for it, like maybe a fangame or fanfic or fanime, something like that
that’s just you being an npc. Consuming anything that comes to you with no questions. Your brain was on autopilot during class
As a person who being called "smart kid" in my class i can confirm this is right. I remembered that one time i didn't study anything before science test which had manyyy things to learn . Somehow i got 10/10 only with things i remembered when i was in the class👽👽
calling old cellbit's content brain rot is actually a very precise description. it was incredible.
It's true the fact that being a "smart/gifted" child leaves you without goals or interests
0:25 if this is the smartest society is doomed
I agree
Quote of the day
Another thing is building all your self-worth on being called "smart". Everyone I had met as a kid claimed I was so smart (and I always felt like I was scamming them (and I still feel that way)), never anything else. So I literally saw it as my only quality.
And then the anxiety of failing kicks in. (If I fail, my worth will hit rock bottom, since my only quality is literally my brain). This eventually results in a circle of anxiety and fear preventing you from focusing (together with other things (like adhd haha, but that is a whole different issue)), resulting in more anxiety and failure. And boom, you are trapped. And mentally ill.
This was so relatable, the smart definition is spot on.
Also, I'm pretty sure the video you referenced is in my watch later list 💀
As a “gifted person/child” the definition got me rolling its so relatable..I spend most of my time watching TH-cam and the other playing sports BARELY any studying..yet I still keep up my streak of straight A’s
I’ve watched this video 3 times and showed it to my mom. This is literally what I went through all of high school. Now I’m in college and only now realizing that other people are like me and I’m not lazy. Hoping I learn how to study, good luck to everyone going through this right now!
(2:02) Total Concentration Breathing: Heightened information intake
Every gifted kid is screaming in joy and happiness from how relatable this video is to us
Yes
Real
as a gifted kid turned adult i can totally relate… also dr. k is the goat!!
And I also begin to fall into that trap...
I've started to get lower and lower grades (I remember that I got a 5/10 on a test about Spanish, My main language)
I've begun to procrastinate
My attention span is receding
just the thought of schools drains my soul (doesn't help that I am going to another building)
And yep, This happens to everyone that has lived into the thought of "smart" or "gifted"
That started happening to be but now happy to report ive fixed my shit, so yaaaayyyy
When I was younger, I was very hyperactive so people wouldn't assume I would be smart, let alone gifted. Against all odds, I was recommended to get tested for the gifted program my third grade year. I flew past elementary and middle school with flying colors, not ever studying or doing much work. Things just made sense to me. I even auditioned and got accepted into talented music my fifth grade year because band was to easy for me, and it just made sense. But then I hit a wall. Spring semester my freshman year in Gifted English I. My gifted English teacher actually made me have to do work and put in effort. This was attacking my GPA like crazy. During this time I was talking to my teacher and I said, "there is something blocking me from actually getting started to do work." She told me to get treated for ADHD. But here's the crazy part. I was already diagnosed with ADHD back in elementary school, but it was never treated because my grades were not suffering. But now my grades were suffering, so it was race to get treatment that worked before the semester ends and I end up having to retake the class. I ended up passing with a 69 D on a 7 point grading scale. DAMN was that a horrible 4 months though.
1:31 can relate lol
I got super worried about an upcoming physics test bc I missed some classes and just played minecraft all day, then when I saw the test I realized I just had to manipulate the definitions of velocity and acceleration with 8th grade algebra and got all the questions right.
And about the issue of minimal effort, a friend of mine actually experienced the same things in middle school, so he became a calculus addict in highschool and I'm going down a similar path. Grades can be very misleading, I still have an arrogant side from the teachers constantly telling me I'm super smart, but my moral compass can mostly supress it.
Also TH-cam just recommended me Dr. K's video, I had it saved in my watch later playlist for a long time, but never actually watched it, I'll do it now before I forget about it again. Thx for reminding me :)
being a perfect/smart/gifted kid made me cry over an 8/10 ❤ to all those "perfect grades" kids out there PLEASE remember that getting imperfect grades is fine 😭
I feel attacked because I am procrastinating for my thesis but I am watching your video right now.... LETS GOOO this is so relatable, please send help.
You aren’t the only one bruh 😭
Ayoo what's the thesis about? I haven't done anything in that magnitude yet but I find planning what to write anywhere else than microsoft office on your laptop does wonders
We all need help, it hurts. I feel nothing but pain every time I see an essay or test.
@@bignono2439 please do yourself a favor and write bigger papers (like a thesis) in LaTeX and not Word
How do people even study ???
You made it to the algorithm! Can't wait to see you on my front page again in 2-5 years with thousands of goddamn success numbers ♡
Yaaaay!!! thank you!! 💚💚💚💚💚 I'll try my best!
Woohoo
Ain't no way TH-cam recommended this to me
This is such a relatable video
I am honestly so blessed that this video showed up in my feed when it did, I haven’t studied my whole life and have been a straight A advanced student with a senior reading level, and because I procrastinated and didn’t study I got a 62/100 on said test. This was a slap in the face and a hard reminder that life is getting harder and if I don’t start doing stuff I am going to end up living in my moms basement till I’m 35 and doing drugs!🤣🤣
I'm finishing high school and have never studied seriously for any tests. However, this year for the first time I had to take make up exams in a subject, even tho it wasn't entirely my fault. The way the exams are graded is based on 3 tests, 2 of which are made by the teacher and another is centralized by the school system. Although I did very well in the latter it wasn't enough to compensate for my failiure in the others, partially because the teacher made awful exams. Even then, I can see my grades slowly losing momentum as the years pass, so I'm lucky to have realised that early on and somewhat chosen an objective for my future. If you're also a gifted kid, just pick the things you somewhat enjoy to base your career around them, in my case it was geography, history and philosophy to perhaps become a diplomat. I see being gifted as a huge boost on learning speed, so the earlier you start the better. Don't worry about school as you'll probably do just fine listening to the lessons, the hardest thing will likely be choosing your future, if you work on it early on you'll surely save a lot of studying in college, making it actually fun.
I just found this channel and i already love it :3
awww thank you so much!!! 🥺🥺💚💚💚
I used to not study and was considered gifted but then Calculus happened and it was so hard it had me on my hands and knee’s praying for at least a 60% before every test and I did end up passing pre-calc with a B+ by getting 100% on the last test. Then I got to Calculus and at the end of the semester had failed the class with a 70.35% (You needed a 73%) to pass the class. Calculus definitely humbled me and I would recommend you take it if you have trouble with procrastination because you can study for 2 weeks and feel like you don’t study enough. This class will make you never want to not study again.
I really needed this, I finally hit a wall when I actually need to put in the hard effort and I feel like a stupid failure that fumbled her way to a 4.0 gpa and its all crashing down. I had such unreasonable expectations from myself and others, that not easily getting 100% while learning Japanese from a really intense teacher feels like an existential failure I can never amend.
I only started to pull my grade up by actually studying rather than cram literally 10 minutes before my test in simpler Japanese class and political science courses. I could just
I've never seen a video THIS relatable. The only difference between me and my peers was that I learnt multiplication and division from my parents. Because of my "advance" understanding of all things related to math, I was moved up a few grades. To say that I was average in those class is an understatement, but I was still considered "gifted" because I got ahead of my classmates by MAYBE two units at the start.
Every 'gifted child's says that 2:52 .
Stop calling me out
I am considered "gifted", yet this is my situation. Never thought an internet video could be so relatable...
I wouldn't call them gifted, not because i dont agree they have something unique about them than others but because i think we all are gifted, this very life is a gift for us!!
she- she just like me- SHE JUST LIKE ME FOR REAL :sobbing:
I was labeled as gifted in math, so I was put with other gifted students. I hated it because I always performed average compared to all the other gifted students. Very frustrating XD
Anyway excellent video 👍
haha thanks for watching again!!! always nice to see you here 🥺💚💚
ooo you were a math kid! haha me too! yeah it sucks cuz it's a never ending cycle of comparing yourself and feeling frustrated no matter which class you're put into 😭
@@JyunaYT Yeah 😭
Literally have no idea why they thought i was good at math 💀
Same. It's really frustrating. But it at least gives some motivation to study. Not enough to actually make me study though...
This is literally my highschool experience 😭
Because i got in a good one my minimal studying grades became average. The top 3 overall grades of last year amongst 120 students were:
1) 99,5
2) 99,4
3) 99,3
I don't even know if I can pass them if I actually study this year...
So true. I'm in "The smart kids program" (magnet) and everyone is as "smart" as me, and I hate it... Is my ego too high?
I wouldn’t say I’m a gifted person as in intelligence,but during the first half of high school I put in half the effort barely passing and the second half I didn’t pay attention to anything, especially senior year where for some reason everything was so easy that I was actually bored out of my mind to the point where I’d fall asleep
Luckily the time I spent not doing my work was not put into just doing nothing so now I have an actual goal in life
oh! that's so nice that you got to find a goal in life during high school! i finished hs and went off to college still unsure what the hell i was doing with my life hahah 💚
Damn that reminds me of me. Although I was labeled the opposite, I was the ADHD kid. When I was younger, I came to Germany with my family, and they said they found that I had ADHD and a small problem with learning. I lost 5 years in a terrible school, from which I came out with nothing, no degree, nothing. I almost even killed my own academic career because I bought what my teacher told me, and went to a sort place where they make you try multiple jobs, most of them are very narrow jobs, and if you're lucky you get your basic HS9, otherwise you'll be forever a mini jobber. I left it and decided to take everything back. I was obsessed for a while with being smart, I was vengeful, and I wanted justice for what was done to me. It turns out I didn't have ADHD, or at least that's what I think, I never double checked, but I did pass my two years (HS9 and HS10, basically 9th and 10th grade if you're wondering, they're not the same as in the U.S or Brittain though), without ANY effort or study. I didn't even feel the difference between my old school and the new. Eventually, it got harder a year later at my FOR, 11th grade. My reaction, though, was different. I was EXCITED. Because of my obsession with becoming smart and proving I could do it, I started studying obsessively to the point I actually became a passion... I didn't start hating it, I loved it. Soon, I made it a bit more healthy, and I took the math challenge by studying 2 hours a day for 6 days straight for a total of 12 hours for the first test. Now I'm at half the year, and I've got a 9 in math, an 8 in physics, and the rest for which I still never had to study. Not even now is insanely good, too. The only thing I study for is pharmacology , which is the profession I want to pursue. The fact that I don't need to study much this 3 years of school I made helped me focus on my chemistry and biology passion. I know 3 languages, and I never took a real IQ test. I remember taking one but not really taking it seriously at 14 (I'm 20 now, so that makes it 6 years ago) and they said I got 70IQ (virtually impossible). Later I made it on a Norway mensa test (not the complete one but still official), and it came 97, pretty average. Overall I'm satisfied with learning, reading politics, philosophy and science is my life and I love it, I grew out of my unhealthy obsession with intellect, though I still study it and seek some answers from time to time. Everyone still sees me (the ones who know me best) incredibly smart.