I am grateful that you use the phrase “relationship” now. To expand your scope to give hope to those of us who are not married but committed to our partners.
My wife told me she wanted a 6 month separation just 2 months ago. Then my therapist wanted to meet her. After just 1 hour long meeting my therapist literally told her to “rip off the bandaid” and now she is in the process of filing for divorce. I know I haven’t been the perfect husband but I still love her and feel she is my soul mate. I’m in so much pain watching her walk away. I just don’t have any hope that she will come back. I wish I had a therapist that thought that my marriage was worth saving and not some disposable broken thing that just needs tossed in the trash. I’ve been practicing smart contact and working on my pies, but idk if I should just move on or if I should hold on to hope when there seemingly isn’t any
Communication issues - say what’s on your mind because no one is a mind reader BUT say it well and appropriately AND ensure your partner is COMPREHENDING your message correctly. Being on the same page is key.
Really interesting talk and statistics! I will say, when you guys were talking about traditional couples and “what makes men more qualified to work” and the answer was “patriarchy” I think the question could be reframed to “what makes women more qualified (than men) to be at home?” Both men and women can be stay at home parents, but generally women are more qualified or customarily the home maker role because they are the ones gestating the child. An infant in particular benefits from and requires maternal presence. It all comes down to basic biology. I think we think of this as an oppressive “patriarchy” in our modern age but the fact is traditional roles reflect the basic, undeniable biology of the man and woman in the couple.
Is there a guide/form/template/anything you recommend on how my wife or I can list out the good of our spouse? Like you said, we shouldn't only remember the wrongs in our relationship
Kimberly! I love your podcast and the marriage helper one I listen obsessively. I love what y'all do and the topics you cover, I have gained so much over the last few months. Greatly appreciate y'all❤ I have a thought about the traditional gender role discussion y'all were having... I know y'all decided to go forth with it being work/job outside home related. I think that is such a small minor piece of that, I know many many traditional gender role marriages humans and some of the wives work outside home some don't but the major piece in those is much more about the feminine masculine dynamic between the spouses in their personal interactions, in the home, ECT like even if the wife in her personal life as in working outside the home is maybe in her masculine at work, she is able and happy to be in her feminine in her home and with her husband/family!! Not in the toxic ways many speak of masculine feminine dynamic either but the actual and beautiful dynamic❤ I just thought I would throw that out there because even you felt working made you automatically not for in that role! Anyways happy Tuesday❤ love y'all
Oh no!! As i listen more I'm giggling, it's not a work thing at all it's so much about respect for been protection for women and not as because we need it but want to give it you know and appreciate it!!
I am grateful that you use the phrase “relationship” now. To expand your scope to give hope to those of us who are not married but committed to our partners.
My wife told me she wanted a 6 month separation just 2 months ago. Then my therapist wanted to meet her. After just 1 hour long meeting my therapist literally told her to “rip off the bandaid” and now she is in the process of filing for divorce. I know I haven’t been the perfect husband but I still love her and feel she is my soul mate. I’m in so much pain watching her walk away. I just don’t have any hope that she will come back. I wish I had a therapist that thought that my marriage was worth saving and not some disposable broken thing that just needs tossed in the trash. I’ve been practicing smart contact and working on my pies, but idk if I should just move on or if I should hold on to hope when there seemingly isn’t any
Did the therapist say there was things you could work on with yourself? What part did you have in the divorce?
Communication issues - say what’s on your mind because no one is a mind reader BUT say it well and appropriately AND ensure your partner is COMPREHENDING your message correctly. Being on the same page is key.
Really interesting talk and statistics! I will say, when you guys were talking about traditional couples and “what makes men more qualified to work” and the answer was “patriarchy” I think the question could be reframed to “what makes women more qualified (than men) to be at home?” Both men and women can be stay at home parents, but generally women are more qualified or customarily the home maker role because they are the ones gestating the child. An infant in particular benefits from and requires maternal presence. It all comes down to basic biology. I think we think of this as an oppressive “patriarchy” in our modern age but the fact is traditional roles reflect the basic, undeniable biology of the man and woman in the couple.
Is there a guide/form/template/anything you recommend on how my wife or I can list out the good of our spouse? Like you said, we shouldn't only remember the wrongs in our relationship
Have always enjoyed your podcasts. Thank you!
Kimberly! I love your podcast and the marriage helper one I listen obsessively. I love what y'all do and the topics you cover, I have gained so much over the last few months. Greatly appreciate y'all❤
I have a thought about the traditional gender role discussion y'all were having... I know y'all decided to go forth with it being work/job outside home related. I think that is such a small minor piece of that, I know many many traditional gender role marriages humans and some of the wives work outside home some don't but the major piece in those is much more about the feminine masculine dynamic between the spouses in their personal interactions, in the home, ECT like even if the wife in her personal life as in working outside the home is maybe in her masculine at work, she is able and happy to be in her feminine in her home and with her husband/family!! Not in the toxic ways many speak of masculine feminine dynamic either but the actual and beautiful dynamic❤
I just thought I would throw that out there because even you felt working made you automatically not for in that role!
Anyways happy Tuesday❤ love y'all
Oh no!! As i listen more I'm giggling, it's not a work thing at all it's so much about respect for been protection for women and not as because we need it but want to give it you know and appreciate it!!
I really appreciate your coaching program and videos, but this video was VERY long and did not make many valid points that I hoped it would have made.