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You helped me alot these last few days, alot of negative advice out here. Yours gave me hope and a better outlook.

Really good video, particularly on the areas of fostering our own Physical & Intellectual attributes. Where it comes to Emotional Attraction, as defined by the PIES framework, it appears more as a relational practice than an internal attribute. Since the practice of PIES is first to become the best version of ourselves, with the HOPE that it improves a distressed marriage; it would be helpful to hear more practical applications to increase Emotional Attraction apart from interactions with others...I hope that was communicated clearly. I do believe that improvements in the P, I, and S. will enhance our ability to be emotional healthy to others. I hear your PhD work is within Performance Psychology, may I offer the work of Dr. Seligman, founder of Positive Psychology, his PERMA model I think offers good insights on how to foster Emotional Attractiveness. Thank you again for your work, I've been listening to your podcast now for over a year since my divorce and it has been so helpful in my journey of healing, I thank the LORD for MHI and your work!

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This guy has some very valid points, especially about having common goals and a Lifetime of maintaining cooperation, but he's a little too business oriented at times, and the evolution and social justice themes can distract from the objective, as well.

How do we work with marriage helper?

A wonderful therapist, I love to see her she’s great, I did my homework and got focused on my own mistakes, writing a lot and discovering new things to make my husband proud of me, now I’m so proud of him.

I will always believe that it Coulda Woulda Shoulda Worked out ....... road goes both ways ....... phone calls go both ways ....... texting goes both ways I have been told by two married females who knew her that she was just unhappy My pastor also said the same thing How sad We were at the next level of life with getting her children on their own Mine were already gone

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My wife has filed for divorce. Is it worth having hope still? 22 years, 7 children. Should i eaven try? Or am i just setting my self up for more heart ache?

New. Liked it very well. Subbed. Will be back. Keep up the Good Fight!! ❤

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Cool video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

32:55 That sounds like demand Avoidance. That's a terrible state of mind to be in especially when you're stressed or feeling an uncomfortable amount of shame.

Sorry to unload here. As I watch this video, I can’t help but feel discouraged. The reason is that I often lament about how intellectually jaded I have become. I think it began around the time my parents began their tumultuous road to divorce. I was in my fourth year of college at the time (2010). I used to be ambitious and hopeful about my creative endeavors. But gradually, I started to lose interest in applying myself in those pursuits. Now, I describe myself as emotionally/intellectually apathetic/unsatisfied. This is probably not healthy. Note: throughout this period I stopped going to church regularly, my friends/acquaintances vastly shrunk, my siblings, who I have always been very close with, got married and started families. So here I am and the only thing that keeps me sane is the adaptation of a stoic coping mechanism in my personality that shields me from negative thoughts. Would love some advice.

Let us know when that book comes out!

Great episode! Provided some new things to consider. Thank you both!

Audiobooks is how I got into reading. It's easier for me to take in information audibly since it's hard for me to retain information from a page.

My wife filed for divorce in mid August. I found out about it on our 9th wedding anniversary by way of a note. She hasn’t really spoken to me since and we live together. The papers were served to me on Halloween and I had to respond to the complaint 20 days later. Since mid August it’s been complete stonewalling and our 6 year old son is now starting to feel the vibes in this house. I don’t know how to restore it at this point. She doesn’t seem willing to do anything work towards a renewal.

I believe that social media combined with a few other issues contributed to the decline of my marriage, I suddenly became a narcissist in my wifes eyes and I found out that on one social media site so many posts were about how everyone's spouse was a narcissist.

How do you make changes when the other spouse won’t communicate what changes need to be made? Or when then other spouse is emotionally abusive? Or when you haven’t stopped what draws them close but they still pull away? Or when there is a hidden addiction but the other spouse refuses to communicate with you to identify the actual underlying issue? What do you do when the other spouse has always been closed off and kept a wall up from emotional connection because they are used to being and doing everything solo? What do you do and how do you save a marriage after you have kicked the other spouse out for emotional and domestic abuse, lying and cheating and refusal to tell the truth and then they change their number and refuse contact until divorce papers are signed? Even though that spouse hasn’t filed for divorce?

This is helpful . However I wish Really destructive behavior would be addressed when a couple is going through hell...ex my husband watches porn, now I have to say, please don't relate this religiously I mean please no scripture etc He started porn young to stay celibate because of his religion. Religion reinforced his embarrassment of communicating about being physically intimate, so I'm his frustration turned to porn. That was 50 yrs ago? We've been married 35yrs. To say I'm fed up hurt and feeling betrayed though he disagrees Anyway I Really want to overcome this but he Doesn't know how to communicate and ends up saying too much and hurting me He's seeing a counselor trained in this However it's expensive, so we're on our own a lot it's tough. Ty.

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Lovely. Thank you😊

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So, that man being controlling, his wife had the right to betray his trust, sleeping with another man. Crazy

I don’t have 1-3 yrs I have 4 months

So in your example around 37 minutes, how do you accept your spouse if she won't listen to your complaint of taking too many trips and just want to keep going with the status quo? You would feel unheard and not cared for. How do you accept that person?

I feel like I'm a 8 or 9 on calmness. That's not to say I didn't panic and a absolutely feel all the things -especially because how she left was pretty cold, but I didn't do or say anything stupid yet. In the past one of her issues was that I wasn't emotional enough. I feel like maybe she wants me to freak out and chase her down as a display of her worth. Can regulating myself emotionally this much be a bad thing?

I appreciate the openness on the Spiritual aspect! I also believe that The Spiritual aspect is crucial important . Or fundamental for our foundation.. Jesus was the second Adam miraculous created from the breath of God speaking life into existence to redeem us from the sins of the First Adam.. I feel like Our Spiritual journey can easily be tainted with lack of exposure to all the truth mixed with surrounding ourselves with people lacking biblical faith.. Not staggering at the promises of God. But seeing or hearing the Spiritual truth revealed in scripture 1st . Like before us as mankind began introducing our alternative suggestions… Example of Baptism for example is part of the Spiritual journey. Every experience of baptism in the Bible was specific to the Pattern of 1 God. All that you do in word or deed to all in the name of Jesus.. Peter was given the keys to the kingdom by Jesus.. Being told by Jesus that this knowledge was Divinely revealed. Acts 2:38 was the first message of Peter describing Jesus message. The Apostles were obviously supporting the same message without controversy or confusion. Repent be baptized in Jesus name and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost… Our situation can be different if we allow ourselves to drift away from the basic principles or fundamentals that the apostles taught. Into a newer alternative context or message that the nice Nicean Creed interpreted differently oor introduced in 325 Ad an alternative doctrine.. I want to real deal not another group of political whatever..

I enjoy this attorney so much … in a world with so much stress and hustle and bustle - I really am learning from this very blessed man. “Thank you sir”😊

You both are incredible bb thank you for your humble, openhearted service nsight

Chandra is most certainly inspirational!

Good stuff and so applicable to people in our situation. Pray for it, believe it and Trust God

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I thank God every day for this channel. May God continue to bless the team for us. You guys are awesome. Following from Ghana. West Africa

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I can especially appreciate your insight at this time in my life. The essence of knowing nothing is forever while we can live our lives unaware of what is right in front of us and who we are in the eyes of others. Looking back this may have been the missing 'awareness ingredient' in the early and formative years of our marriage and young family. Twenty years later resentments have been formed and embedded in 2 of our 3 adult children who aren't interested in hearing about how we as parents did what we thought at the time was for their best. Simply not knowing any differently than how we thought at the time. Our family is intact yet painfully fragmented while seeming pointless. I've also learned that what I think doesn't matter to them. Not a good sign.

Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.

My husband needs down time also. I don't, ha ha! Well, not like him. We are all different.

Now that we know what Rob did for a living, we can understand how his mind works, there's a mission, go and take care of it. So brave and intelligent. Thank you for your service Rob.

This skill is crucial with today’s news being very much fake. Thanks for sharing!

If people believed all the research that ever existed then we wouldn't eat or drink anything, including water from the earth.

Great primer video on research, thank you! As one of my professors would continually say, "be a responsible consumer of the information you take in". Google Scholar is a good resource, I would advocate as well to join your local library (as they will often have access to other research engines for full articles) and if you are an alumni, they often will grant you limited access as well to their research websites. When I see or hear "the research shows/says" I take caution of everything that follows. Thank you again and best of luck in completing your dissertation!

Excellent message. It can definitely help to check the scholarly articles for yourself, because media reports may underrepresent or misrepresent the results. I've found that if a study that I'm interested in is behind a paywall, I can try one of the following tactics: • Check if the journal is available through my public library membership. [This seems to work about 10% of the time.] • Check the academic or research institution website where the researchers work. (A lot of organizations like you toot their own horn. This information will likely just be the basic findings, not the full paper.) • Find scholarly articles or studies which cite the study, and which ARE publicly available. Then read what those articles say the study says. [This works much more often, but tends to reveal limited findings from the study that I was interested in.] - This is also a great way to look for more information and more research papers on the research topic. I've also heard a recommendation for another way to get a copy of the study so that you can read it: Contact one of the researchers who conducted the study. It's their work, so they can very often share at least something about it freely.

Amazing Duo, you two!!