@@armadillotoe This is an eff up kind of Blind Loyalty Girl Power relationship. If the girlfriend effed up her relationship by becoming a possessive jealous harpy, that's 100% on her..."My name is Wes, and that's none of my mess!," thus I'm not going to involve myself in crazy...for ANYONE!!! Just how often is a woman expected to support her girlfriend in this manner, especially if the girlfriend's behavior was foul and she's as toxic as the day is long?!!
Shr probably didn't see her friend as crazy because she was just as crazy as her, when OP realized Alba had no problem with how Kelly treated Jared he should have dumped her , not marry her.
My friend dated a girl who was nice, kind, generous. Once it was officially a bf gf relationship. She changed. Every time he went to work. She would follow him in her car. Constantly calling and texting where he is and what is he doing and when he will be home. She would drive to his work and follow him home. Even tell her friends, family, neighbors that he’s a cheater. She paid a stripper to try and seduce him. My friend didn’t fall for it because he’s loyal and faithful. Even with the video of that, yeah it was caught on video, she said he’s a cheater because she was there. Even though SHE paid HER to be there to seduce him. She broke into his home, trashed the place until his mom came there to drop off something and saw the door open. Mom saw her destroy everything like a madman and what does she do? Punch the mom. My friend is adopted… his mom is from South Korea and knows karate, Taekwondo and other martial arts… mom won that battle. Ex gf thought the mom was his lover. Until police came and she realized oh crap I hit his mom. She’s in jail for breaking and entering, destruction of property, assault, resistance of arrest, and 2 other counts… I think driving without insurance? Not sure. But yeah… My friend Jeff is better off dating a rock than her. He’s dating a girl from Singapore. 👍 Ex gf got out of jail, saw Jeff and his gf at a park. She cried her eyes out. Oh well.
@@dja3456 I remember he was always acting paranoid. Every time we worked together. His phone would be blowing up every few minutes. Where is he, why didn’t he text sooner , when will he be home, We work at a store and I remember seeing her car almost every day After weeks and weeks… he was just drained. Like I said he’s better off. His mom loves the girl he’s with now.
Christ on a bike what a loon! I’m glad your friend is ok. I’ve been in a similar situation although not as bad as your friend and it’s genuinely terrifying.
Story 1 Your wife does not realise Kelly was literally a stalker and had lost her reason she was obsessing to extremes over Jared if you love someone you do not try to totally control them and harass them or break into his apartment,Alba has gone to far by in taking Kellys side ,and trying to control you as Kelly had Jared if it was a female who was the victim she would have been horrified by the actions and I so sad that Alba actions led to the end of your marriage you can rebuild, but some women can not see men as victims
Once she started going at your brother the relationship was over. She was condoning her friend's 💩ty behavior. Now she can be with Kelly all she wants 😂
I came to say Exactly this! Grandma said it was OK for sis to be embarrassed by his actions BUT Who was the one who made it known? Sis could have second hand embarrassment all by herself in her room. When she goes to school or public No One Will Know about her embarrassment. She put it out there because she's a mean girl & Grandma's Favorite!
So Alba was so blinded she thought everyone was out to hurt Kelly even though it was Kelly who instigated all of it? Surprise surprise, things don't go her way and she actually ruined her marriage? What a shock. For real though, it seems like it's the common thing of how Alba just couldn't let go of Kelly because she's her childhood friend. She most likely wanted to only see the remaining friend she had instead of accepting she was gone long ago. Being separated from Kelly should do her some good once she reflects on how cutting off toxic relationships is hard but the best thing to do.
Ok, I shouldn’t have to explain this here but I guess I will. When you want to describe someone or something doing a complete opposite of the usual you say a 180 a 360 has the person doing opposite of their usual and back again to their usual. 360 is a full circle all the way around. 180 is half a circle.
Alex was bright, gifted and what-not. At his age though, everyone else has not only caught up to his level, but surpassed him. If he can't handle the three things important in life (roof over head, clothes on one's back. and food on the table), all that bright shiny future is gone and wasted.
Story 2 reminds me of my brother. He was always said, by my mother, to be the 'smartest' one of us 3 kids. In grade school he hardly had to study but got great marks + had a nasty attitude with other kids b/c he thought he was so much better than everyone therefore caused him to be beat up a lot + I being 1 yr older had to 'help' him with that or my mother would belt me that night. High school came along + I made sure I was going to a different one than him. I had a great time in high school, he on the other hand, stopped going to school 1/2 way through grade 9, due to inability to study so low grades + didn't make any friends, didn't finish high school. I went on to university + graduated. He remained a high school drop out who never had decent jobs when he actually did work, lived at home, living off my parents. I blame my mother for this.
I'm so sorry for what happened to you and your brother. Kids never turn out well after being expected to be a genius forever. I hope all of you get better, including your mom who needs to reassess what she just did to ALL of her children.
Story one: Should NOT have dropped the charges, people act this way because there are no consequences. Being made to pay for what they have done is the only way they learn. Otherwise it just gives them the green light to continue their horrific, unacceptable childish behavior. By the way, who raised these morons??!
Start of the Alex story sure sounds familiar. My parents didn't enable me, in fact they were always on my case about it, but I too could pull good grades without studying up until the last years of high school and crashed and burned in college. When I finally got serious about college ten years later I had to study on how to study before I started to take classes again. The book on time management and the one on how to take notes were invaluable.
Last story: OP is NTA. To the family berating OP, I hope to God you people stick up for your own kids and spouses when the man-child goes after them for being his inferiors.
Last story) the internet is a very twisted place for young children. Especially those looking for attention and followers and the ones who are trying to be famous.
Story 2: Inform your parents and Alex that when they are gone Alex won't be living with you, or financially supported by you, and none of the other relatives will take him in either, so the sooner he learns how to fend for himself, the better his life will be later on. After you tell them this go no contact for a while, as they are likely to try to engage in very angry conversations with you over this. Life is too short to put up with that. Telling them ahead of time that you won't support your deadbeat brother when they are gone is actually a kindness, as it gives the 3 of them time to prepare for Alex to one day be on his own. They can start by teaching him how to do house and yard work, and basic bookkeeping. Later on he can look for a job that doesn't involve much contact with other people. Maybe a remote, work from home job, or some web based business like web design, or a blog. There are options, so do including some suggestions when you tell them that you won't be supporting Alex. If your parents get your other relatives to start harassing you about this, just tell them that if they are so concerned about Alex's future welfare, then they can take care of him when your parents die. That should eventually get the flying monkeys to stop bothering you. It will also help to go no contact for a while with anyone who harasses you about this. In maintaining a relationship, it's also important to maintain strong boundaries. I hope my suggestions help you out. Have a great life!🤗
One does not get bailed out of prison. No one would get sent to prison for the sole reason of breaking a window of your home (as it would still be considered her home until she had established residence elsewhere.) She might not even be charged for trespassing. With a gap of 2ish years it is possible she went to prison for something unrelated. Unlikely but possible. Still neither parents nor anyone can Bail you out of prison. Bail is strictly a pre trial thing to get you out of jail while awaiting trial. Money paid for bail is returned to you when trial commences, of if you don't show it is then offered as a bounty to whomever brings you in. Going to prison means you were convicted of a felony or a serious misdemeanor Now to him he is pressing charges on his wife? For what crime? Sounds like everything she took would be considered marital property that she would have as much right to as he did. At worst the phone might be considered his but that would be small mall claim court. Of course he's the asshole, this read like a 14 yr olds first stab at writing a dramatic story. If you assume that is real his awful detail makes this story either entirely fictional or so many detail have been left out as to be meaningless to judge. Boo for bad writings and Boo! whom ever chose this one. I can't help but feel like a few like I lost IQ points just reading it
Story 2 Sadly your parents created Alex by their actions never seeing him as a bully and flawed , because if they had corrected him he might have succeeded,and he was bullying another person a teen and sadly your parents don't want to except that they created a forty years old failure who cannot even hold a job because the entire population of the earth are jealous
The moment Alba sided with Kelly, was the moment OP should have broken with her. She sided with an abusive stalker. Why marry her next? No nothing hit Alba. She just realized she was sent to prison, probably had to face charges and OP wanted to divorce her
what does Kelly have to do with the birthday party? thats just weird and the wife taking everything from the house without a word? thats so toxic and manipulative- she did that so he would miss the birthday. break up ASAP and continue with the legal thing
First story Alba and Kelly they're both nuts absolutely insane just get away from both of them they're crazy two Looney tunes belong together just be glad you got out young now you can get remarried have a nice wife you see I've been married twice it took me one bad marriage to learn how to treat women right and how to have a good marriage not that I treated my first wife bad but she used to beat me so I learned that's not the way a good marriage goes so you got out better than I did bro my divorce took over a year and a half so good on you
Story 2 - Being a gifted child means jack squat, the bar isn't that high when you're a kid, and being content with your current level of smarts means you're eventually going to be overtaken by the normies who have to actually work to keep on top of things. If I was OP but more spiteful, I'd look up some of his brother's classmates that he dismissed as his intellectual inferiors to find those that achieved academic and financial success later on, and rub his nose in the fact that they are probably twice as smart as him now.
You never should have hooked your brother up with your wifes friend. That was never going to work out. You should have been a better husband to your wife.
I think Kelly needed help long back when the relationship broke and alba as a friend instead of enabling her should have put her in therapy or something
Used to be a time that siblings could mock and even sometimes record embarrassing things they did with out the whole family needing emergency mental trauma therapy, you all need to get mentally stronger if your going to be living in the real world instead of the world that accommodates your thinskinned reactions to perfectly normal family, friend interaction, not everything is a social justice crime. But you all sure go out of your way to make life uncomfortable for the rest of the world with your insane social issues
When men break up with a woman they don't insist that all their friends have to hate that woman too, they don't encourage men to cheat if they are cheaters and they do not insist that none of their friends can have anything to do with people who they dislike, there are exceptions if there is something horrible like permanent injuries, major felonies and the like, but for the most part men do not expect men to be in lock step with them on every single relationship that they have. Despite this it is still far more common for women to take strong exception to men hanging out with their friends too much. Go figure. The Kelly's of the world have far too much influence on their friends behavior.
Nta. Your daughter is nasty bully. I am so glad ppl like these boys exist. I was waiting to hear they were mean and underhandedly mean to your son. But no they are good and kind boys. Boys that will become men and help make the world a better place. To those boys and their parents thank you. Thank you so much.
19:33, Abusive Brat, NTA. its natural for a child to be Embarrassed, HOWEVER when you RECORD people without their consent and POST IT in a attempt to Bully, Hurt, or Harass them, then its CYBER BULLYING and up to the parent to PUNISH PROPERLY. and not for GRAND MA TO CRITICIZE. Daughter should be Seriously thankful that you likely ONLY removed the Post Rather then DEACTIVATED HER ACCOUNT... Those sites like Facebook and TIC TOK require PARENTAL CONSENT and if its REMOVED (The Consent) then the site Suggest the parent REMOVE their pages as well. Daughter should be happy her Instagram, Facebook and TIC TOK weren't Deactivated by the time she Got Back.
Story 1: Op allowed his girlfriend to choose never to see his brother when his brother did nothing wrong. The relationship was over as soon as he did that. Never placate crazy. You have to firmly confront crazy behavior early otherwise it feeds on itself and grows out of control. He was also blind to how unreasonable and selfish it was of his then girlfriend to put him in a position that he felt he needed to make that sacrifice when his brother did nothing wrong. He is really lucky she went full on crazy though because otherwise he would have remained blind to her glaring faults. Never rugsweep selfish or crazy because those should be confronted to see how real they are so you can make good relationship decisions early.
Story 1: Delusional people seem to be breeding like flies. Kelly is worse, but they are both a few cards short of a full deck. As for Alba saying that your brother cheated by moving on with someone else, that's just plain nuts. If you have an official relationship, but also have a relationship with one or more other people, that is cheating. If you break up with your official partner, and then start seeing other people, you are NOT cheating on the old partner, because you are no longer in a relationship with the old partner. The fact that neither Alba or Kelly can grasp this simple and obvious fact is just further proof that they are both delusional. Kelly's obsessive and controlling behavior can lead to dangerous actions on her part, so the brother was right to end his relationship with her. The fact that Alba stole the car keys, phone, present, and even the car, just to keep OP from attending the first birthday party for Jared's son shows that Alba definitely has some screws loose between her ears. I'm not criticizing her friendship with Kelly, but rather with her also engaging in crazy and criminal behavior. I can't help wondering if these two are on something, but not necessarily illegal drugs. There are things that one can take legally, but that might cause mental problems in some people. I've wondered for a long time if maybe diet pills, or birth control pills might cause really weird reactions in some people. For the record, I'm female, and never took birth control pills. I briefly tried diet pills several decades ago, but they made my head feel like it was going to explode, and left me weak, in pain, and stuck in bed until they wore off. Haven't touched them since. I also wonder if maybe it's the fluoride in the water. This stuff is toxic, do the research if you don't believe me. For decades now, I rarely drink fluoridated water. I drink filtered water at home, and rarely go out, so I seldom need to drink fluoridated water. I also use toothpaste without fluoride in it. There are a number of non fluoride toothpastes out there, in several different flavors, so yes, you can mostly get away from fluoride. Another possiblity is the toxic coatings in fry pans and pots. I'm thinking that these coatings might possibly be scrambling people's brains. Although some of my cookware is coated, I stopped using them, and just use my uncoated cookware. Another possiblity is aluminum. That is also toxic when ingested, either in food, or through the skin. Stay away from deodorants that use it. Don't use aluminum cookware, as it can leach into the food. Also, use cooking parchment instead of aluminum foil, because again, it can leach into the food. I can't think of anything else that's legal, and widely used, that might explain the increase in crazy people. Just fluoride, birth control pills, diet pills, aluminum, and toxic coatings on cookware. Maybe others can think of things I have missed. I realize that I seem to have strayed off topic, but I haven't really gone that far off. Like everyone else, I'm trying to figure out what's making more and more people go nuts. They are a danger to themselves and others. If we can figure out what's causing this insanity epidemic, we might be able to help the crazy people, and can keep ourselves from going crazy too, so actually, in a slightly twisted way, my straying path is actually relevant. I'm sorry that OP and his brother had to go through this nutty circus show, but glad that no one got physically hurt. It's hard breaking up with someone you still care about, but if they won't get help with their crazy behavior then for safety's sake, it's sometimes necessary to go your separate ways.😟 All of you, have a great life going forward!🤗
Last story: The daughter needs to remove the video from the internet and her phone, with you standing over her to see that it's done. Then you need to put parental controls on all of her devices and accounts. Then your daughter needs to be grounded from the internet for a month, except for supervised school work sessions. She also needs to do a report on bullying. Several decades ago I bought my mother a cute, but weird looking stuffed bird thing. It was called a worry bird, and came with a tiny booklet explaining the name and purpose of the thing. After my mother passed away I kept the thing. I'm in my sixties now, and I don't see anything wrong with anyone of any age having stuffed animals. I also have something that I think is a stuffed woodchuck, that I got from my older brother, as an adult. I didn't really want it, but it is cute, so I kept it. My older brother has a weird habit of buying things he neither needs or wants, and then giving them to people who were not expecting them. The items can be food, clothes, or anything else. It could have been in sale, or at a garage sale, or at a thrift shop. A sale isn't a bargain if you don't need or want the item.😄 Anyway, I've gotten a number of things over the years from him this way, including some useless knick knacks. There is a small dog statue he got me just inside my front door. I neither need or want it but I've had it for about 17 years now. It was a help at my last home to keep a bedroom door propped open, but I did try to leave it behind when I moved several years ago. My brother made sure that the statue came too. A few years ago he gave our younger brother a brand new half zip sweatshirt that he picked up on sale. My younger brother didn't want it, so I ended up with it. My brother has often complained that my place was cluttered, but that never stopped him from buying more knick knacks for me.🙄 My current place is actually not really cluttered, as I have more room to have things arranged or stored better, but I don't want to add a lot of useless things to my home. A couple of years ago my older brother was helping our father and stepmom clear out their garage, in a house none of us siblings had ever lived in. He brought me a 5 gallon bucket loaded with Legos that I and my younger brother had and played with when we were kids and teens. I'm in my sixties now.😄 Our father had saved them and brought them with him through all of his moves. My older brother asked me if I wanted them. Turns out that I thought of several useful things I could make out of them, so I kept them. Anyway, I guess my older brother inherited this weird querk from our father. AAARG! I've strayed off topic, but getting back on track, you need to make it clear to your daughter that bullying people is bad, and unacceptable behavior, and that there will be consequences for such behavior. Also, there is nothing wrong with having stuffed animals, no matter your age or gender. My stepmom has a lovely, and very real looking stuffed cat in the ledge of her picture window. The first time I saw it I thought it was real until I got right up to it. Although I'm not into stuffed animals, I wouldn't mind having that lovely stuffed cat. I can tell that you are going to have your hands full with your daughter throughout her teen years. Hopefully, she will quickly outgrow this difficult phase. Now, go and have a great life!🤗
Hell I didn't even think about Alex and sultan my kid that would have got him a punch in the mouth oh my God I lost over that Alex you would have been unconscious if you said that to me maybe you should just stick with saying that to Little women because if you say that to a man Alex you're going to have no teeth you better shut up
Please do us all a favor, and STOP USING that voice to text app you use. It gets words wrong, totally blows punctuation, and is completely useless! Much as enjoy watching you, that will get me to give you thumbs down each time. Thanx...
Tell your family and alex. You do you we do us. You don't want to say anything about you don't talk about us. If nobody can handle that then it's best we just don't get involved in each other's lives. I would go LC if not NC. I would also tell all the flying monkeys if we want your opinion we'd be glad to ask.
Story 2. Sounds like another genius ruined by public school teaching at the speed and level of the slower students in the class. As a result the bright ones breeze through and never actually learn how to study. It's important to get gifted children into schools that will challenge them, or at least into advance placement classes if available. These days it's even possible to take college courses while in high school. Public schools will sometimes discourage, withhold information, and gaslight students about these options because the school district must foot much of the bill. I think OP was jealous during their early years and I suspect OP's characterizations are highly slanted. Oh, and Alex is right about school theater -- it's about as useful as school band.
It doesn't take genius level intellect to be bored to the point of crippling in public schools that teach to the lowest common denominators. I never "learned to study" in k-12, so I struggled in universities. Little bro that was held back early on due to reading problems, has a PHD in the same field as I have a BS in.
The mom in the story with the twins. Is a big problem of course 14 is too damn old to play with stuffed animals and yo allow a sleepover of 14 yr Olds who are dating??? Would mom allow daughters BF to spend the night?
Is playing with plushies going to lead to any real harm? Like addiction, violence or stalking? How does it hurt them or you? Get your head out of stereotypes and into letting people be who & what *they* want to be as long as it harms none. MYOB
S1: OP knew, before marrying her, that Alba was almost as crazy as Kelly and he still decided to marry her. Ignore red flags at your peril
She should have realized how crazy her friend was a long long-time ago. To let a friend help end your marriage is sickening.
It is very common. That is why you can judge your girlfriend by her friends.
@@armadillotoe This is an eff up kind of Blind Loyalty Girl Power relationship.
If the girlfriend effed up her relationship by becoming a possessive jealous harpy, that's 100% on her..."My name is Wes, and that's none of my mess!," thus I'm not going to involve myself in crazy...for ANYONE!!!
Just how often is a woman expected to support her girlfriend in this manner, especially if the girlfriend's behavior was foul and she's as toxic as the day is long?!!
Shr probably didn't see her friend as crazy because she was just as crazy as her, when OP realized Alba had no problem with how Kelly treated Jared he should have dumped her , not marry her.
My friend dated a girl who was nice, kind, generous. Once it was officially a bf gf relationship. She changed. Every time he went to work. She would follow him in her car. Constantly calling and texting where he is and what is he doing and when he will be home. She would drive to his work and follow him home. Even tell her friends, family, neighbors that he’s a cheater. She paid a stripper to try and seduce him. My friend didn’t fall for it because he’s loyal and faithful. Even with the video of that, yeah it was caught on video, she said he’s a cheater because she was there. Even though SHE paid HER to be there to seduce him.
She broke into his home, trashed the place until his mom came there to drop off something and saw the door open. Mom saw her destroy everything like a madman and what does she do? Punch the mom. My friend is adopted… his mom is from South Korea and knows karate, Taekwondo and other martial arts… mom won that battle. Ex gf thought the mom was his lover. Until police came and she realized oh crap I hit his mom. She’s in jail for breaking and entering, destruction of property, assault, resistance of arrest, and 2 other counts… I think driving without insurance? Not sure. But yeah…
My friend Jeff is better off dating a rock than her.
He’s dating a girl from Singapore. 👍
Ex gf got out of jail, saw Jeff and his gf at a park. She cried her eyes out. Oh well.
Yo that's wild
@@dja3456 I remember he was always acting paranoid. Every time we worked together. His phone would be blowing up every few minutes. Where is he, why didn’t he text sooner , when will he be home,
We work at a store and I remember seeing her car almost every day
After weeks and weeks… he was just drained. Like I said he’s better off. His mom loves the girl he’s with now.
Thanks for sharing!
@Timothy Robertson Careful Tim, if you are good looking enough even being single won't stop crazy!
Christ on a bike what a loon!
I’m glad your friend is ok.
I’ve been in a similar situation although not as bad as your friend and it’s genuinely terrifying.
Story 1
Your wife does not realise Kelly was literally a stalker and had lost her reason she was obsessing to extremes over Jared if you love someone you do not try to totally control them and harass them or break into his apartment,Alba has gone to far by in taking Kellys side ,and trying to control you as Kelly had Jared if it was a female who was the victim she would have been horrified by the actions and I so sad that Alba actions led to the end of your marriage you can rebuild, but some women can not see men as victims
Wow like alba ruined her own marraige just to please her crazy best friend.
Once she started going at your brother the relationship was over. She was condoning her friend's 💩ty behavior. Now she can be with Kelly all she wants 😂
why people keep saying "He/she took a 360 turn"? if you turn 360º you end exactly as you started.
That twin is not just bulling her brother but outing him to everyone in her insta.
I came to say Exactly this! Grandma said it was OK for sis to be embarrassed by his actions BUT Who was the one who made it known? Sis could have second hand embarrassment all by herself in her room. When she goes to school or public No One Will Know about her embarrassment. She put it out there because she's a mean girl & Grandma's Favorite!
3:19 Isn't a 360 a complete circle? Like she was exactly the same? I guess their college didn't require any junior high math skills.
So Alba was so blinded she thought everyone was out to hurt Kelly even though it was Kelly who instigated all of it? Surprise surprise, things don't go her way and she actually ruined her marriage? What a shock. For real though, it seems like it's the common thing of how Alba just couldn't let go of Kelly because she's her childhood friend. She most likely wanted to only see the remaining friend she had instead of accepting she was gone long ago. Being separated from Kelly should do her some good once she reflects on how cutting off toxic relationships is hard but the best thing to do.
Ok, I shouldn’t have to explain this here but I guess I will. When you want to describe someone or something doing a complete opposite of the usual you say a 180 a 360 has the person doing opposite of their usual and back again to their usual. 360 is a full circle all the way around. 180 is half a circle.
Alex was bright, gifted and what-not. At his age though, everyone else has not only caught up to his level, but surpassed him. If he can't handle the three things important in life (roof over head, clothes on one's back. and food on the table), all that bright shiny future is gone and wasted.
Story 2 reminds me of my brother. He was always said, by my mother, to be the 'smartest' one of us 3 kids. In grade school he hardly had to study but got great marks + had a nasty attitude with other kids b/c he thought he was so much better than everyone therefore caused him to be beat up a lot + I being 1 yr older had to 'help' him with that or my mother would belt me that night. High school came along + I made sure I was going to a different one than him. I had a great time in high school, he on the other hand, stopped going to school 1/2 way through grade 9, due to inability to study so low grades + didn't make any friends, didn't finish high school. I went on to university + graduated. He remained a high school drop out who never had decent jobs when he actually did work, lived at home, living off my parents. I blame my mother for this.
I'm so sorry for what happened to you and your brother. Kids never turn out well after being expected to be a genius forever. I hope all of you get better, including your mom who needs to reassess what she just did to ALL of her children.
Sounds like 2 sorority sisters who want to marry brothers but get upset when plans fall through.
Smart ass brother insult my little girl he's going home short a few teeth 😂.
WELL DONE OP FOR SWITCHING
ON TO PAPA-BEAR MODE
+DEFENDING YOUR DAUGHTER
CHRISTINA AGAINST YOUR
FAMILY SPECIALY YOUR
BROTHER.
Alba and Kelly kindred spirits.
Story 1. I hope OP didn't just drop the charges to be kind. Maybe a little leverage for the divorce settlement?
Story one: Should NOT have dropped the charges, people act this way because there are no consequences. Being made to pay for what they have done is the only way they learn. Otherwise it just gives them the green light to continue their horrific, unacceptable childish behavior. By the way, who raised these morons??!
As soon as I read the phrase "one of her fits," I wondered why the OP had married Alba.
Start of the Alex story sure sounds familiar. My parents didn't enable me, in fact they were always on my case about it, but I too could pull good grades without studying up until the last years of high school and crashed and burned in college. When I finally got serious about college ten years later I had to study on how to study before I started to take classes again. The book on time management and the one on how to take notes were invaluable.
I judge people quite hard by the friends they keep, and that lady failed that test early on.
I feel these two are feeding of and building up each others crazy ? They can't or won't see how toxic their co dependence is ? Truly awful people
Wife just got a heads up about marriage..Loyalty , honesty , are key in relationships..
Alba and Kelly have issues
Alba showed OP her values that she saw it acceptable to abuse men.
Op, I’m in my 60s & I STILL enjoy
Little Women, Little Men, Jo’s Boys, Rose in Bloom, the Little House series. These are classics.
They’re good books.
Shouldn't it be a 180? Not 360?
Last story: OP is NTA. To the family berating OP, I hope to God you people stick up for your own kids and spouses when the man-child goes after them for being his inferiors.
Last story) the internet is a very twisted place for young children. Especially those looking for attention and followers and the ones who are trying to be famous.
Story 2: Inform your parents and Alex that when they are gone Alex won't be living with you, or financially supported by you, and none of the other relatives will take him in either, so the sooner he learns how to fend for himself, the better his life will be later on. After you tell them this go no contact for a while, as they are likely to try to engage in very angry conversations with you over this. Life is too short to put up with that. Telling them ahead of time that you won't support your deadbeat brother when they are gone is actually a kindness, as it gives the 3 of them time to prepare for Alex to one day be on his own. They can start by teaching him how to do house and yard work, and basic bookkeeping. Later on he can look for a job that doesn't involve much contact with other people. Maybe a remote, work from home job, or some web based business like web design, or a blog. There are options, so do including some suggestions when you tell them that you won't be supporting Alex.
If your parents get your other relatives to start harassing you about this, just tell them that if they are so concerned about Alex's future welfare, then they can take care of him when your parents die. That should eventually get the flying monkeys to stop bothering you. It will also help to go no contact for a while with anyone who harasses you about this. In maintaining a relationship, it's also important to maintain strong boundaries.
I hope my suggestions help you out. Have a great life!🤗
Good morning, rGirl relationships!
Good morning!!!
You need to take a class on punctuation.
Two crazy women. How masochistic is this guy?
Kelly and Elba need growing up. They can't stay "gossip girls" all their lives.
Story 1 OP chose to ignore all the red flags before they got married.
One does not get bailed out of prison. No one would get sent to prison for the sole reason of breaking a window of your home (as it would still be considered her home until she had established residence elsewhere.) She might not even be charged for trespassing. With a gap of 2ish years it is possible she went to prison for something unrelated. Unlikely but possible. Still neither parents nor anyone can Bail you out of prison. Bail is strictly a pre trial thing to get you out of jail while awaiting trial. Money paid for bail is returned to you when trial commences, of if you don't show it is then offered as a bounty to whomever brings you in. Going to prison means you were convicted of a felony or a serious misdemeanor
Now to him he is pressing charges on his wife? For what crime? Sounds like everything she took would be considered marital property that she would have as much right to as he did. At worst the phone might be considered his but that would be small mall claim court.
Of course he's the asshole, this read like a 14 yr olds first stab at writing a dramatic story. If you assume that is real his awful detail makes this story either entirely fictional or so many detail have been left out as to be meaningless to judge. Boo for bad writings and Boo! whom ever chose this one. I can't help but feel like a few like I lost IQ points just reading it
Story 2
Sadly your parents created Alex by their actions never seeing him as a bully and flawed , because if they had corrected him he might have succeeded,and he was bullying another person a teen and sadly your parents don't want to except that they created a forty years old failure who cannot even hold a job because the entire population of the earth are jealous
The moment Alba sided with Kelly, was the moment OP should have broken with her. She sided with an abusive stalker. Why marry her next?
No nothing hit Alba. She just realized she was sent to prison, probably had to face charges and OP wanted to divorce her
Its not surprising to see this brothers being suckers in their relationships
Hope kelly was worth it
what does Kelly have to do with the birthday party? thats just weird
and the wife taking everything from the house without a word? thats so toxic and manipulative- she did that so he would miss the birthday. break up ASAP and continue with the legal thing
It would be interesting if Alex took a respected IQ test.
wait a minute you can't get bailed out of prison. you can from jail but not prison.
Nta. For not letting your gf treatbyiur brother like crap bc of her psycho friend kelly. But yta for staying with the toxic person. Kelly is nutso
First story Alba and Kelly they're both nuts absolutely insane just get away from both of them they're crazy two Looney tunes belong together just be glad you got out young now you can get remarried have a nice wife you see I've been married twice it took me one bad marriage to learn how to treat women right and how to have a good marriage not that I treated my first wife bad but she used to beat me so I learned that's not the way a good marriage goes so you got out better than I did bro my divorce took over a year and a half so good on you
Story 2 - Being a gifted child means jack squat, the bar isn't that high when you're a kid, and being content with your current level of smarts means you're eventually going to be overtaken by the normies who have to actually work to keep on top of things. If I was OP but more spiteful, I'd look up some of his brother's classmates that he dismissed as his intellectual inferiors to find those that achieved academic and financial success later on, and rub his nose in the fact that they are probably twice as smart as him now.
You never should have hooked your brother up with your wifes friend. That was never going to work out. You should have been a better husband to your wife.
I think Kelly needed help long back when the relationship broke and alba as a friend instead of enabling her should have put her in therapy or something
Charges divorce restraining order you’ve got a crazy who has crazy friends cut your losses dude
I love your story telling
You should have never dropped them
The good thing that came out of Story 1 is that Jared started eating at Subway and lost a bunch of weight...
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Then he started screwing children, lost everything, and is still in jail.
Used to be a time that siblings could mock and even sometimes record embarrassing things they did with out the whole family needing emergency mental trauma therapy, you all need to get mentally stronger if your going to be living in the real world instead of the world that accommodates your thinskinned reactions to perfectly normal family, friend interaction, not everything is a social justice crime. But you all sure go out of your way to make life uncomfortable for the rest of the world with your insane social issues
When men break up with a woman they don't insist that all their friends have to hate that woman too, they don't encourage men to cheat if they are cheaters and they do not insist that none of their friends can have anything to do with people who they dislike, there are exceptions if there is something horrible like permanent injuries, major felonies and the like, but for the most part men do not expect men to be in lock step with them on every single relationship that they have. Despite this it is still far more common for women to take strong exception to men hanging out with their friends too much. Go figure. The Kelly's of the world have far too much influence on their friends behavior.
Nta. Your daughter is nasty bully. I am so glad ppl like these boys exist. I was waiting to hear they were mean and underhandedly mean to your son. But no they are good and kind boys. Boys that will become men and help make the world a better place. To those boys and their parents thank you. Thank you so much.
It sounds like its time to go low contact and your I the right I want to know who is going to support his ass after they past away
Why do no one posts links to the original reddit thread?
Wasn’t their an update that Alba took her own life ? Maybe different story. Also running away to block u from family members is abuse and manipulating
19:33, Abusive Brat, NTA. its natural for a child to be Embarrassed, HOWEVER when you RECORD people without their consent and POST IT in a attempt to Bully, Hurt, or Harass them, then its CYBER BULLYING and up to the parent to PUNISH PROPERLY. and not for GRAND MA TO CRITICIZE.
Daughter should be Seriously thankful that you likely ONLY removed the Post Rather then DEACTIVATED HER ACCOUNT... Those sites like Facebook and TIC TOK require PARENTAL CONSENT and if its REMOVED (The Consent) then the site Suggest the parent REMOVE their pages as well. Daughter should be happy her Instagram, Facebook and TIC TOK weren't Deactivated by the time she Got Back.
Story 1: Op allowed his girlfriend to choose never to see his brother when his brother did nothing wrong. The relationship was over as soon as he did that. Never placate crazy. You have to firmly confront crazy behavior early otherwise it feeds on itself and grows out of control. He was also blind to how unreasonable and selfish it was of his then girlfriend to put him in a position that he felt he needed to make that sacrifice when his brother did nothing wrong. He is really lucky she went full on crazy though because otherwise he would have remained blind to her glaring faults. Never rugsweep selfish or crazy because those should be confronted to see how real they are so you can make good relationship decisions early.
Story 1: Delusional people seem to be breeding like flies. Kelly is worse, but they are both a few cards short of a full deck. As for Alba saying that your brother cheated by moving on with someone else, that's just plain nuts. If you have an official relationship, but also have a relationship with one or more other people, that is cheating. If you break up with your official partner, and then start seeing other people, you are NOT cheating on the old partner, because you are no longer in a relationship with the old partner. The fact that neither Alba or Kelly can grasp this simple and obvious fact is just further proof that they are both delusional. Kelly's obsessive and controlling behavior can lead to dangerous actions on her part, so the brother was right to end his relationship with her. The fact that Alba stole the car keys, phone, present, and even the car, just to keep OP from attending the first birthday party for Jared's son shows that Alba definitely has some screws loose between her ears. I'm not criticizing her friendship with Kelly, but rather with her also engaging in crazy and criminal behavior. I can't help wondering if these two are on something, but not necessarily illegal drugs. There are things that one can take legally, but that might cause mental problems in some people. I've wondered for a long time if maybe diet pills, or birth control pills might cause really weird reactions in some people. For the record, I'm female, and never took birth control pills. I briefly tried diet pills several decades ago, but they made my head feel like it was going to explode, and left me weak, in pain, and stuck in bed until they wore off. Haven't touched them since.
I also wonder if maybe it's the fluoride in the water. This stuff is toxic, do the research if you don't believe me. For decades now, I rarely drink fluoridated water. I drink filtered water at home, and rarely go out, so I seldom need to drink fluoridated water. I also use toothpaste without fluoride in it. There are a number of non fluoride toothpastes out there, in several different flavors, so yes, you can mostly get away from fluoride.
Another possiblity is the toxic coatings in fry pans and pots. I'm thinking that these coatings might possibly be scrambling people's brains. Although some of my cookware is coated, I stopped using them, and just use my uncoated cookware.
Another possiblity is aluminum. That is also toxic when ingested, either in food, or through the skin. Stay away from deodorants that use it. Don't use aluminum cookware, as it can leach into the food. Also, use cooking parchment instead of aluminum foil, because again, it can leach into the food.
I can't think of anything else that's legal, and widely used, that might explain the increase in crazy people. Just fluoride, birth control pills, diet pills, aluminum, and toxic coatings on cookware. Maybe others can think of things I have missed.
I realize that I seem to have strayed off topic, but I haven't really gone that far off. Like everyone else, I'm trying to figure out what's making more and more people go nuts. They are a danger to themselves and others. If we can figure out what's causing this insanity epidemic, we might be able to help the crazy people, and can keep ourselves from going crazy too, so actually, in a slightly twisted way, my straying path is actually relevant.
I'm sorry that OP and his brother had to go through this nutty circus show, but glad that no one got physically hurt. It's hard breaking up with someone you still care about, but if they won't get help with their crazy behavior then for safety's sake, it's sometimes necessary to go your separate ways.😟 All of you, have a great life going forward!🤗
Last story: The daughter needs to remove the video from the internet and her phone, with you standing over her to see that it's done. Then you need to put parental controls on all of her devices and accounts. Then your daughter needs to be grounded from the internet for a month, except for supervised school work sessions. She also needs to do a report on bullying.
Several decades ago I bought my mother a cute, but weird looking stuffed bird thing. It was called a worry bird, and came with a tiny booklet explaining the name and purpose of the thing. After my mother passed away I kept the thing. I'm in my sixties now, and I don't see anything wrong with anyone of any age having stuffed animals. I also have something that I think is a stuffed woodchuck, that I got from my older brother, as an adult. I didn't really want it, but it is cute, so I kept it. My older brother has a weird habit of buying things he neither needs or wants, and then giving them to people who were not expecting them. The items can be food, clothes, or anything else. It could have been in sale, or at a garage sale, or at a thrift shop. A sale isn't a bargain if you don't need or want the item.😄 Anyway, I've gotten a number of things over the years from him this way, including some useless knick knacks. There is a small dog statue he got me just inside my front door. I neither need or want it but I've had it for about 17 years now. It was a help at my last home to keep a bedroom door propped open, but I did try to leave it behind when I moved several years ago. My brother made sure that the statue came too. A few years ago he gave our younger brother a brand new half zip sweatshirt that he picked up on sale. My younger brother didn't want it, so I ended up with it. My brother has often complained that my place was cluttered, but that never stopped him from buying more knick knacks for me.🙄 My current place is actually not really cluttered, as I have more room to have things arranged or stored better, but I don't want to add a lot of useless things to my home.
A couple of years ago my older brother was helping our father and stepmom clear out their garage, in a house none of us siblings had ever lived in. He brought me a 5 gallon bucket loaded with Legos that I and my younger brother had and played with when we were kids and teens. I'm in my sixties now.😄 Our father had saved them and brought them with him through all of his moves. My older brother asked me if I wanted them. Turns out that I thought of several useful things I could make out of them, so I kept them. Anyway, I guess my older brother inherited this weird querk from our father.
AAARG! I've strayed off topic, but getting back on track, you need to make it clear to your daughter that bullying people is bad, and unacceptable behavior, and that there will be consequences for such behavior. Also, there is nothing wrong with having stuffed animals, no matter your age or gender. My stepmom has a lovely, and very real looking stuffed cat in the ledge of her picture window. The first time I saw it I thought it was real until I got right up to it. Although I'm not into stuffed animals, I wouldn't mind having that lovely stuffed cat.
I can tell that you are going to have your hands full with your daughter throughout her teen years. Hopefully, she will quickly outgrow this difficult phase.
Now, go and have a great life!🤗
Gifted kids are special needs
You are damaging your gay son by not toughening up his skin. Plushies at his age is a bad sign of immaturity. You should listen to your daughter.
She stole from you hello cops
I'm sorry. Fix the transcription.
This is better at 1.25 speed.
Right. I do that for all of the story telling videos.
Hell I didn't even think about Alex and sultan my kid that would have got him a punch in the mouth oh my God I lost over that Alex you would have been unconscious if you said that to me maybe you should just stick with saying that to Little women because if you say that to a man Alex you're going to have no teeth you better shut up
Last story is old
Please do us all a favor, and STOP USING that voice to text app you use. It gets words wrong, totally blows punctuation, and is completely useless! Much as enjoy watching you, that will get me to give you thumbs down each time. Thanx...
Tell your family and alex. You do you we do us. You don't want to say anything about you don't talk about us. If nobody can handle that then it's best we just don't get involved in each other's lives. I would go LC if not NC. I would also tell all the flying monkeys if we want your opinion we'd be glad to ask.
Story 2. Sounds like another genius ruined by public school teaching at the speed and level of the slower students in the class. As a result the bright ones breeze through and never actually learn how to study. It's important to get gifted children into schools that will challenge them, or at least into advance placement classes if available. These days it's even possible to take college courses while in high school. Public schools will sometimes discourage, withhold information, and gaslight students about these options because the school district must foot much of the bill.
I think OP was jealous during their early years and I suspect OP's characterizations are highly slanted.
Oh, and Alex is right about school theater -- it's about as useful as school band.
It doesn't take genius level intellect to be bored to the point of crippling in public schools that teach to the lowest common denominators. I never "learned to study" in k-12, so I struggled in universities. Little bro that was held back early on due to reading problems, has a PHD in the same field as I have a BS in.
The mom in the story with the twins. Is a big problem of course 14 is too damn old to play with stuffed animals and yo allow a sleepover of 14 yr Olds who are dating??? Would mom allow daughters BF to spend the night?
Is playing with plushies going to lead to any real harm? Like addiction, violence or stalking? How does it hurt them or you? Get your head out of stereotypes and into letting people be who & what *they* want to be as long as it harms none. MYOB
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You should really start doing intros, transitions, and outros. The videos just end out of nowhere.
Thank you, I am actually considering to add outros. I will start doing it very soon!