I find that I struggle with noticing different emotions. As an very anxious person I thought I knew when I was anxious but I realized in therapy I am anxious all the time. I had no clue I was anxious especially because it feels different based on different things. It is also hard to see when I am sad/depressed. It is also hard to see it coming. It is very annoying. I was diagnosed at 21 and have been trying by myself to understand it. It is really unfortunate that there are very little help for late diagnosed people
autistic partner here diagnosed with BPD, i feel like im on the complete opposite side of the spectrum compared to my autistic partner where he feels/experiences emotions so differently from i do. so im here to learn! :D
Absolutely the best videos I think I’ve found so far overall on TH-cam - you do a great job addressing things in a way NT people understand. And the humor in certain parts is really great because I feel overwhelmed sometimes trying to learn about autism. I have insane ADHD but I’m definitely not autistic. However I am ridiculously into a guy with autism, and I want to do the best I can to learn as much as possible.
I absolutely love your friendly energetic narration style and well composed thoughtful energy :) I enjoy so much the pacing as it allows time for information to be processed and with my adhd/autism I feel I can zone out of most videos. I find myself really appreciative and intensely relieved having found your content ages ago. Only now after seeing an Alexithymia explanation did I think perhaps I am not aware of my lack of expressing this. mentally I've prepared sentences many times before. Sometimes Its like it all disappears or the feeling fades. Either way Im so grateful you exist and make so much content :) It's made my life infinitely easier. learning from you in such an informal way has been very comforting :) also cool shirt :) I was thinking how much you look like a superhero through out this :)
Thank you so much my friend, I appreciate your compliments and time! I’m really glad… you know I think Alexithymia needs a lot more research, it’s possible it could cause significant negative impacts/differences. Thank you for writing this comment, would you be happy with me reading this on my next video?
To my knowledge, my bf is undiagnosed. I have been doing some research and info such as this seems to line up with what I’ve experienced with him. If we’re together, and I relax and go quiet, he will ask me repeatedly if I’m ok, am I sick, what’s wrong. Even if I tell him I’m ok he keeps on and then eventually curls up on my lap. I’m not sure what that’s about but it happens a lot. If he had a bad day, I never know about it until later on because he goes radio silent. He lets it ruin his whole day and it bleeds out into other areas. He says he knows he overthinks and he says “I have to tell myself it’s not the end of the world”
This is very interesting because the guy that I'm currently dating (he's on the spectrum) doesn't give any verbal / written expression that he likes me or has feelings for me. I tell him I care about him, and he just says "thanks"...but doesn't say he cares for me too. Honestly, I want to ask, but I feel like I'll just sound insecure, or worse he says no!
Hi MIMI Star, same here. My lovely ASD boyfriend of more than 2 years just says 'thank you for the nice compliments' or 'that's nice' when I tell him how wonderful he is or point out some of his qualities. Only very occasionally I might get 'you're a lovely women' :-)
My bf is undiagnosed to my knowledge. I’ve been doing some research and I feel like he could be on the spectrum. He has NEVER expressed any feelings or emotions for me. I walk around in the dark about his feelings and I feel like a fish out of water. If he has a really bad day, I never know because he goes radio silent. He will tell me the next day or next time he sees me. I finally broke down and told him I loved him. He said he’s working towards it (but he acts like he does) It’s been the most humbling experience, this relationship.
Great video. “You don’t have to stay with them bc they’re autistic, they could be an asshole too!” -Thomas Henley
Best quote ever😂
I find that I struggle with noticing different emotions. As an very anxious person I thought I knew when I was anxious but I realized in therapy I am anxious all the time. I had no clue I was anxious especially because it feels different based on different things. It is also hard to see when I am sad/depressed. It is also hard to see it coming. It is very annoying. I was diagnosed at 21 and have been trying by myself to understand it. It is really unfortunate that there are very little help for late diagnosed people
autistic partner here diagnosed with BPD, i feel like im on the complete opposite side of the spectrum compared to my autistic partner where he feels/experiences emotions so differently from i do. so im here to learn! :D
This is a big struggle for a NT with abandonment issues. Thanks for this. Can you do more videos
Yes, and I think I got trauma bonded to mine.
the constant feedback “I just can’t connect with you like a normal person” 😢 I feel all the things im just behind glass and unable to express it:(
Absolutely the best videos I think I’ve found so far overall on TH-cam - you do a great job addressing things in a way NT people understand. And the humor in certain parts is really great because I feel overwhelmed sometimes trying to learn about autism. I have insane ADHD but I’m definitely not autistic. However I am ridiculously into a guy with autism, and I want to do the best I can to learn as much as possible.
Best of luck because it’s a rollercoaster. This is a great video.
I absolutely love your friendly energetic narration style and well composed thoughtful energy :) I enjoy so much the pacing as it allows time for information to be processed and with my adhd/autism I feel I can zone out of most videos. I find myself really appreciative and intensely relieved having found your content ages ago. Only now after seeing an Alexithymia explanation did I think perhaps I am not aware of my lack of expressing this. mentally I've prepared sentences many times before. Sometimes Its like it all disappears or the feeling fades. Either way Im so grateful you exist and make so much content :) It's made my life infinitely easier. learning from you in such an informal way has been very comforting :) also cool shirt :) I was thinking how much you look like a superhero through out this :)
Thank you so much my friend, I appreciate your compliments and time! I’m really glad… you know I think Alexithymia needs a lot more research, it’s possible it could cause significant negative impacts/differences.
Thank you for writing this comment, would you be happy with me reading this on my next video?
To my knowledge, my bf is undiagnosed. I have been doing some research and info such as this seems to line up with what I’ve experienced with him. If we’re together, and I relax and go quiet, he will ask me repeatedly if I’m ok, am I sick, what’s wrong. Even if I tell him I’m ok he keeps on and then eventually curls up on my lap. I’m not sure what that’s about but it happens a lot.
If he had a bad day, I never know about it until later on because he goes radio silent. He lets it ruin his whole day and it bleeds out into other areas. He says he knows he overthinks and he says “I have to tell myself it’s not the end of the world”
Would you mind if I answered this in a Q&A video? 😊
@@ThomasHenley Go ahead! That would be awesome
Another excellent video to look back on and think on over again.
Great way to explain…. Very helpful… Thankyou
Thomas, you rock!!! 🤘 This was a terrific video. Thank you!
We're you looking for 'withdrawn'?
Thank you for your video
This is very interesting because the guy that I'm currently dating (he's on the spectrum) doesn't give any verbal / written expression that he likes me or has feelings for me. I tell him I care about him, and he just says "thanks"...but doesn't say he cares for me too. Honestly, I want to ask, but I feel like I'll just sound insecure, or worse he says no!
Hi MIMI Star, same here. My lovely ASD boyfriend of more than 2 years just says 'thank you for the nice compliments' or 'that's nice' when I tell him how wonderful he is or point out some of his qualities. Only very occasionally I might get 'you're a lovely women' :-)
My bf is undiagnosed to my knowledge. I’ve been doing some research and I feel like he could be on the spectrum. He has NEVER expressed any feelings or emotions for me. I walk around in the dark about his feelings and I feel like a fish out of water. If he has a really bad day, I never know because he goes radio silent. He will tell me the next day or next time he sees me. I finally broke down and told him I loved him. He said he’s working towards it (but he acts like he does) It’s been the most humbling experience, this relationship.
I am dating one too and cant get him to say or show he cares for me, but shows or says something very caring
Same here. I thought I was the only one! I’m glad it’s not abnormal.
You should ask. I also don't want to be needy but my Bf said I forgot girls need to hear the words. Who knows all relationships are difficult
I’ve never heard of Alexithymia before. But I do struggle with those things
Thank you!
What if both people have it?
Where do you get your statistic for 90% of autistic individuals? Everything that I've read including scientific studies say 50%.