Narcissist are not broken people. They brake people to use their pieces. They don’t have cure because they are not sick. We have to put effort in minimize the damage they create.
"They break people to take their pieces" wow - that struck a chord with me and is a very powerful take away - thank you - sorry if you paid a price to learn it
I don’t think my narcissistic stepmom will ever change. It’s been over 60 + years and she still follows the same MO . I went no contact 10 years ago. I was the truth teller in the family and was always hated by her. She crucified me. No one talks to me. My flying monkey sister baits me every once in awhile to see where I am. She reports back to mamma boss and gives her report and finds her value that way. I’m soooo tired of this. It makes me sick.
@@ginasmitasin479me too!!!!!!! my only regret but at the time I didn’t know what the heck I was looking at now I do no contact 10 years siblings, flying monkey cousin year and a half biggest challenge, dealing with their enablers and other well groomed flying monkeys that swoop down from time to time but I’m guarded and prepared
No she never will and so your sister will never change. Thats the grieve we have. Loosing our familiy because they can not bond with us. We have to choose for our self m our happinez and our live without family . And looking to what we have to love and to be what we need to be happy. Your not alone sweetheart. Be strong for you.💖✨
The worst narcissists I know don't isolate. In fact they are social butterflies. But I do agree they make sure to hide their vulnerabilities at all costs.
This comment is for the narcissists, not so much for their unfortunate victims, unless for insight. This video was one of the most helpful and hopeful for you! Childhood trauma can lead to many undesirable behaviors, including narcissism & empathy issues. Is this you? At time stamp 29:32 in this presentation by Brene (or AI, regardless), here’s the key to self transformation: “To recognize your own value and to find peace in who you are regardless of the external milestones.“ I was a self-absorbed, child trauma survivor, who spent a lifetime trying to rehabilitate. I failed to see my value to others for a very long time, because I always felt broken. It wasn’t until I thought long & hard about what I’ve overcome, and acknowledged everything and everyone that brought me to this point, that I began to heal, mentally. Now I try to help other trauma victims, especially children, where it all starts. Please never give up on yourself or those you love 💕
A narcissist generally does not acknowledge responsibility for their situation, projecting all the negative behaviours they have exhibited onto others. Sadly they are unlikely to be attracted to this video nor able to acknowledge their need to change. Consequently, I’m not sure who this video is for, though I enjoyed it.
After everything that I have been put through, I can certainly understand where this is coming from. For me I actually don't need validation, but confirmation. Not being allowed to be myself has been painful.
Who and how do they keep you (a sovereign being) from being yourself? If you don't want to take charge of your life, someone else will. Stand up for yourself. You only have this life to live. Talk to God daily. The Sacred Heart of Christ Jesus keeps us full of Love and Peace. Be whole. Their is only you. Your uniqueness makes you. Love God 1st, Your most valuable relationship is with God.
married 30 years of life w/ the highest achieving narcissist & it’s becoming 70 years for this individual & it’s painful to be behind the front door - Zebra never changes its stripes- lies with the mask still ; fake to others - still - wall is a prison ! Yes! still thinks perfection is what all see -
As I age I’m using my time to build a big wall to keep the narcissist out of my life. I am now choosing to grow old in peace. I had a hard time getting through this video, talking in circles & who is being addressed in this talk? The narcissist will never hear this and as they grow old I do not believe they will change & grow. Has Berne met a narcissist??
Thank you, I was wondering the same, I was the empathy in an abusive narcissistic relationship that has kicked to the curb, still climbing out. It sounds rehearsed, and I adore Brene, I think the mask is way off when dealing with a socio party.....love love❤
It’s painful to watch someone you truly love double down on their addiction to external validation and will do anything to keep the illusion. You need to love them even more by walking away from them…it’s up to them to want to try.
What are the victims of narcissistic abuse classified as I do a lot of these things to protect what little bit of heart I have left because the abuser killed most of my heart. A victim acts this way but are they a narcissist too?
My ex husband's narcissistic family - Sick, disgusting and pathetic! Taking my Children at a young age, making our relationship so hard to come back from, now In their 20's.. all that instability I have struggled with bcuz of all of it! I'm praying for anyone that's going through this! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 The sooner you can leave,do it!!!
Covert narcs always talk about the hurts, the let downs, their whole thing is they are victims and that’s why they don’t have to be accountable for being manipulative, neglectful and cruel… I mean it’s sad but you reap what you sow.
My mother described perfectly. No insight why NO ONE ever visits her or even calls her. I am it and I am very low contact. No more abuse from her. I just walk away.
Narcissist never change they end up alone because they push everyone away no one wants to be around people who make you feel like you’re opinion doesn’t count or your feelings it’s a horrible feeling!!!
I hate this channel. They fool and trick people into thinking they are listening to someone they admire but it’s all AI. I wish this channel would disappear and never come back. It should be illegal.
Okay, good reminders for those fighting narcissistic thought processes taught by narcissistic families, but it is so redundant. This video should be 3 minutes long.
This video is just another form of manipulation by narcissists trying to make you fall into their trap. I know this because I lived for 23 years with a narcissistic mother who did nothing but manipulate me, play the victim, and gaslight me. She made me realize how vulnerable one can be. I’m an autistic woman with ADHD, diagnosed at 50, and even though it’s been almost 30 years since I left that house, I’ve never seen any change in her. On the contrary, she doubles down more as she gets older. The relief came the day I decided to stay away for good. In the few times I thought things could change, I realized they couldn’t. The last time I saw her, she went out of her way to prove to me she could be the worst person ever, even though she was my biological mother. She tried to kill me at one point and tried to destroy me in every way she could, always using religion as an excuse to protect herself. She never acknowledged what she did, so why should I believe her? This video is just another manipulation to make you believe things can change when they can’t. Stay away from them as soon as you identify them. Your mental health is the most important thing.
And hearing this, Jesus *said to them, “It is not those who are healthy who need a physician, but those who are sick; I did not come to call the righteous, but sinners.”
The vulnerability isn’t just in showing genuine emotion. My narcissistic husband could turn on the tears, even genuinely sometimes, and so was convinced he was comfortable with vulnerability. Therefore in his mind Brene Brown’s message wasn’t relevant to him. But his vulnerability lay in being wrong and confessing it. It terrified him to take ownership of any wrongdoing. Sharing power also made him vulnerable. He refused to do it. He chose to abandon me rather than face these things. He ran, but is running from himself and he’s going to get caught in his own net. It’s happening already.
Yes, but you can't open up and be vulnerable to people who use the moment to their advantage, or save those tidbits only to smack you with them when you are down in the depths of despair or deep difficulty. THEY ARE NOT SAFE AND YOU CAN'T EXPOSE YOURSELF. So, avoid these people. I would rather be alone.
True Personality “hard core” Disordered aren’t capable. Toxic traits and Personality Disorders are apples and oranges. They are hardwired and stuck there forever.
I think you idea of narcissism is horribly confused. Check out the work of Dr Karen Mitchell of the Kalmor Institute, read her thesis that is the result of quantities and qualitative data collected from professionals and clinicians who work with this population outside of the justice system.
When narcissists get older, they do this... I listened to this its entirety, hoping for new info. Instead, I found this to be repetitive and without any new insights... in short, disappointing. Back to Ram Dass I go 🎉
I think this is AI talking. A few minutes in she says “adg-ing” instead of “aging.” Good content, maybe even her words, but I do not think this is truly BB narrating.
It requires honesty and humility, two things anyone too far down the spectrum of narcissism cannot tolerate.
Narcissist are not broken people. They brake people to use their pieces. They don’t have cure because they are not sick. We have to put effort in minimize the damage they create.
They are indeed broken people.
@@kaymuldoon3575yes, that's why they need to break you.
"They break people to take their pieces" wow - that struck a chord with me and is a very powerful take away - thank you - sorry if you paid a price to learn it
Narcissists never recognize that this is what they are. Why would they?? "They" are never in the wrong, never!
Narcissists don’t change. They remain broken, empty people until they check out.
The aging narcissist is a child inside, afraid of aging, afraid of dying. They are angry and die alone. And it's your fault.
I don’t think my narcissistic stepmom will ever change. It’s been over 60 + years and she still follows the same MO . I went no contact 10 years ago. I was the truth teller in the family and was always hated by her. She crucified me. No one talks to me. My flying monkey sister baits me every once in awhile to see where I am. She reports back to mamma boss and gives her report and finds her value that way. I’m soooo tired of this. It makes me sick.
I'm also the truth teller and have a couple flying monkey brothers similar to your situation.
I’ve found going no contact with most of my siblings has made life more peaceful, I should have done it with my mother thirty five years ago.
@@ginasmitasin479me too!!!!!!! my only regret but at the time I didn’t know what the heck I was looking at now I do no contact 10 years siblings, flying monkey cousin year and a half biggest challenge, dealing with their enablers and other well groomed flying monkeys that swoop down from time to time but I’m guarded and prepared
No she never will and so your sister will never change. Thats the grieve we have. Loosing our familiy because they can not bond with us. We have to choose for our self m our happinez and our live without family . And looking to what we have to love and to be what we need to be happy. Your not alone sweetheart. Be strong for you.💖✨
@ Thank you
This is another reason why she is one of my favorite speakers.
Nice work with the accompanying text.
The worst narcissists I know don't isolate. In fact they are social butterflies. But I do agree they make sure to hide their vulnerabilities at all costs.
This comment is for the narcissists, not so much for their unfortunate victims, unless for insight. This video was one of the most helpful and hopeful for you!
Childhood trauma can lead to many undesirable behaviors, including narcissism & empathy issues. Is this you? At time stamp 29:32 in this presentation by Brene (or AI, regardless), here’s the key to self transformation:
“To recognize your own value and to find peace in who you are regardless of the external milestones.“
I was a self-absorbed, child trauma survivor, who spent a lifetime trying to rehabilitate. I failed to see my value to others for a very long time, because I always felt broken. It wasn’t until I thought long & hard about what I’ve overcome, and acknowledged everything and everyone that brought me to this point, that I began to heal, mentally. Now I try to help other trauma victims, especially children, where it all starts. Please never give up on yourself or those you love 💕
A narcissist generally does not acknowledge responsibility for their situation, projecting all the negative behaviours they have exhibited onto others. Sadly they are unlikely to be attracted to this video nor able to acknowledge their need to change. Consequently, I’m not sure who this video is for, though I enjoyed it.
Narcissist are people whose soul didn't survive childhood trauma.
I’m not sure it’s really her reading or speaking, it’s suspiciously bot-like at points.
The way she pronounces the word "ageing" is a real give-away, isn't it?
Agree
She says narcissist wierd in one place too, and doesn’t show a very good understanding of what NPD even is by 2 mins in. Not buying it.
Completely agree. And no narcissist is listening to this much recognizing themselves
Agree
After everything that I have been put through, I can certainly understand where this is coming from. For me I actually don't need validation, but confirmation. Not being allowed to be myself has been painful.
🙏🏼✨ You will get there!
Yes. Confirmation not validation. I get you😊
Who and how do they keep you (a sovereign being) from being yourself?
If you don't want to take charge of your life, someone else will.
Stand up for yourself. You only have this life to live. Talk to God daily.
The Sacred Heart of Christ Jesus keeps us full of Love and Peace.
Be whole. Their is only you. Your uniqueness makes you. Love God 1st,
Your most valuable relationship is with God.
married 30 years of life w/ the highest achieving narcissist & it’s becoming 70 years for this individual & it’s painful to be behind the front door -
Zebra never changes its stripes-
lies with the mask still ; fake to others -
still -
wall is a prison ! Yes!
still thinks perfection is what all see -
Yup, no one's getting away with anything.
Great...another A I. recording.
As I age I’m using my time to build a big wall to keep the narcissist out of my life. I am now choosing to grow old in peace. I had a hard time getting through this video, talking in circles & who is being addressed in this talk? The narcissist will never hear this and as they grow old I do not believe they will change & grow. Has Berne met a narcissist??
I think this is AI.
@@kaymuldoon3575I agree, that was my first thought too.. AI
Thank you, I was wondering the same, I was the empathy in an abusive narcissistic relationship that has kicked to the curb, still climbing out. It sounds rehearsed, and I adore Brene, I think the mask is way off when dealing with a socio party.....love love❤
Sorry typo, she/or ai missed the mark!!!
I’m alone but I don’t feel empty or alone I feel safe.
It’s painful to watch someone you truly love double down on their addiction to external validation and will do anything to keep the illusion. You need to love them even more by walking away from them…it’s up to them to want to try.
Narcissist don’t change.
The cadence and message of this talk is a work of art. Thank you Brene Brown for your work
I thinks it’s AI sounding like her
It is.
What are the victims of narcissistic abuse classified as I do a lot of these things to protect what little bit of heart I have left because the abuser killed most of my heart. A victim acts this way but are they a narcissist too?
Where is this talk originally from?
My ex husband's narcissistic family - Sick, disgusting and pathetic! Taking my Children at a young age, making our relationship so hard to come back from, now In their 20's.. all that instability I have struggled with bcuz of all of it! I'm praying for anyone that's going through this! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 The sooner you can leave,do it!!!
This is not Brene Brown this is AI
Is this AI reading?
I noticed it in one word ..ai said "ajjing' instead of "ageing"
Love the authenticity of this share❤️❤️❤️
Covert narcs always talk about the hurts, the let downs, their whole thing is they are victims and that’s why they don’t have to be accountable for being manipulative, neglectful and cruel… I mean it’s sad but you reap what you sow.
My mother described perfectly. No insight why NO ONE ever visits her or even calls her. I am it and I am very low contact. No more abuse from her. I just walk away.
Narcissist never change they end up alone because they push everyone away no one wants to be around people who make you feel like you’re opinion doesn’t count or your feelings it’s a horrible feeling!!!
Right! 👍
I hate this channel. They fool and trick people into thinking they are listening to someone they admire but it’s all AI. I wish this channel would disappear and never come back. It should be illegal.
Ah, that explains this waste of time. I neglected to check the Channel! Fool me once...
For me, the brand and words still have meaning
Okay, good reminders for those fighting narcissistic thought processes taught by narcissistic families, but it is so redundant. This video should be 3 minutes long.
This video is just another form of manipulation by narcissists trying to make you fall into their trap. I know this because I lived for 23 years with a narcissistic mother who did nothing but manipulate me, play the victim, and gaslight me. She made me realize how vulnerable one can be. I’m an autistic woman with ADHD, diagnosed at 50, and even though it’s been almost 30 years since I left that house, I’ve never seen any change in her. On the contrary, she doubles down more as she gets older. The relief came the day I decided to stay away for good. In the few times I thought things could change, I realized they couldn’t. The last time I saw her, she went out of her way to prove to me she could be the worst person ever, even though she was my biological mother. She tried to kill me at one point and tried to destroy me in every way she could, always using religion as an excuse to protect herself. She never acknowledged what she did, so why should I believe her? This video is just another manipulation to make you believe things can change when they can’t. Stay away from them as soon as you identify them. Your mental health is the most important thing.
And hearing this, Jesus *said to them, “It is not those who are healthy who need a physician, but those who are sick; I did not come to call the righteous, but sinners.”
I think this is AI-generated. I don’t think Brené Brown would have issues pronouncing the word “narcissism”
The true narcissist, the mother I have, will NEVER be different. In her mid 80's I'd say she's worse.
The vulnerability isn’t just in showing genuine emotion. My narcissistic husband could turn on the tears, even genuinely sometimes, and so was convinced he was comfortable with vulnerability. Therefore in his mind Brene Brown’s message wasn’t relevant to him. But his vulnerability lay in being wrong and confessing it. It terrified him to take ownership of any wrongdoing. Sharing power also made him vulnerable. He refused to do it. He chose to abandon me rather than face these things. He ran, but is running from himself and he’s going to get caught in his own net. It’s happening already.
Yes, but you can't open up and be vulnerable to people who use the moment to their advantage, or save those tidbits only to smack you with them when you are down in the depths of despair or deep difficulty. THEY ARE NOT SAFE AND YOU CAN'T EXPOSE YOURSELF. So, avoid these people. I would rather be alone.
If you think about it engaging with the narcissist makes you pretty much alone anyway. So distancing yourself actually gives you power.
Narcissist have clutter free home and animals with no vet care, shots etc.
This is AI. NOT Brene Brown.
Speaking of narcissism...... itbwpuld be cool if it was Brenee speaking and not AI. Get off your high horse lady
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I don't think you understand the grandiose narcissists. Why should a narcissist want to grow when they are God? Time doesn't exist when you are God.
True Personality “hard core” Disordered aren’t capable. Toxic traits and Personality Disorders are apples and oranges. They are hardwired and stuck there forever.
Is this AI Brene?
Mispronounces “aging”
I think you idea of narcissism is horribly confused. Check out the work of Dr Karen Mitchell of the Kalmor Institute, read her thesis that is the result of quantities and qualitative data collected from professionals and clinicians who work with this population outside of the justice system.
AI
When narcissists get older, they do this... I listened to this its entirety, hoping for new info. Instead, I found this to be repetitive and without any new insights... in short, disappointing.
Back to Ram Dass I go 🎉
I think this is AI talking. A few minutes in she says “adg-ing” instead of “aging.” Good content, maybe even her words, but I do not think this is truly BB narrating.
Stop...Breathe....and stop Frying.
The one I know has no heart...does not self reflect...you have not accepted the hard reality...thrvpathological asapd does not change.
Please stop being a fake.
I hate this AI made up content. It repeats itself and contradicts itself. Ugh
This is garbage . . .
This is not Brene Brown this is AI