When they yell or rage - it's narcisistic injury. They need to regulate their emotions. They gaslight themselves if they care about you so they won't discard you. Depends on the stadium of relationship. My thoughts only based on the experience. :)
They love drama. That lights up their little brains with dopamine. They 'devalue you", to get a reaction. So they can get their hit of dopamine. If you continue to allow them to do this, you will fall into "Trauma Bonding". It will become a habit. You will begin to except this behavior as normal. Example of childhood Trauma Bonding is: Child gets a spanking from Dad. Runs to Mom and she cuddles him. When they grow-up, they're just repeating, what they have been taught. If you try & act like everything is normal; then you give them a hug or cuddle them, they are just repeating what Mommy taught them. That's how they equate love.
Yes yes exactly like wtf? My ex would yell my name 10 times then when I answered loud enough for him to hear me I'd say what?? Super loud & he'd be like baby what's wrong. Insane. He's a liar, cheater, broke ass don't have a job and is a huge baby. I'm done being scared I have anxiety now from this twisted idiot.
Yes. It’s very bizarre. The one I was with got revenge on me for not allowing him to have a key to my place after I left, refused to pick our kids up on the day he originally agreed to when I had to work. Sent me hateful emails in all caps talking about how much he “doesn’t like me” and how if it doesn’t benefit him he’s not doing it. All this extreme rage. Then the next day HIS car broke down and he called me asking me for advice and started trying to chat with me in a calm tone about how strange it is that this happened to him and how he’s a nice loving person so he doesn’t know why bad things keep happening to him… it was complete insanity.
You have saved me from making stupid decisions...like believing him. Now, he is in hovering mode (5 attempts to contact) and thanks to you, I've blocked him at every turn and remained "no contact". My therapist never covered what I've learned from you - thank you Lee Appointment with attorney is progress, I had "no contact" included in my divorce. Again, your willingness to share opened my eyes to understand his disorder
Yes I used to get so pissed off when we go somewhere and everybody's swooing over him and talking about "awww yall such a cute couple" or "perfect couple" and he being his charming, funny self after he was just a monster in the car 🙄 I use to think "oh you can have him and my stress"... 🤣😩😂 Goes to show... you don't know what goes on behind the curtains before the show.
They try to get revenge on you for leaving them. Not because you actually did anything wrong to them in particular, just because you’re leaving. Then after they get revenge they act like them getting revenge is supposed to make you want to take them back. It’s like a toddler throwing a temper tantrum and thinking they’ll get what they want because they threw a temper tantrum.
I was married to my ex which quickly went down hill but I kept trying for 6 years! I knew during the first year I wanted out but I stayed 😑 I think it’s to keep up the facade.
They get in relationships to look normal and benefit from what their partner provides. They are never “committed” though. Just because they are married or living with a partner, doesn’t mean they are faithful. The majority of them are talking to multiple others and exes, as they rely on attention and interaction for supply. They don’t want normal committed relationships like a neurotypical does. They are unable to bond or attach as we are, and they can flip a switch and drop a spouse or partner for another person, and they will never reciprocate or love as we deserve.
This reenactment is right on point as far as my situation. I was cheated on, and mistreated in so many ways and when I tried to leave the relationship he threatened suicide and so I stayed with him longer than I should have. It's been over 4 months since I ended the relationship and went no contact and though it's been extremely hard I know it's the best thing that I could have done...I'm on the road to a better me!! Thanks Lee for all the encouragement and videos like this!!
Lee you crack me up when you say im gonna unlive myself lol my ex husband tried that twice. I still never let him come back. He wanted attention, and it was manipulation.
Lee, it seems like this is a different video than what you intended. It’s about whether narcissists know something is wrong with them & not about what to expect when breaking up with narcissists.
"The world gets the personality, you get the disorder" seems like a great description of how my ex would go out of her way with love towards family and siblings that consistently abused her, knowing they had flaws, while I tried my best to uplift her and instead took abuse and was discarded for my flaws.
Lee my ex also knew he was different and my ex is such a smart man, but didn't want to deal with the trauma. Your videos help me heal. U made me laugh with the Oprah move and the N word. Too funny. It is nice u put some humor in it. It is sometimes hard or serious enough. My ex knew he was different, but he felt ashamed. The world got his personality and i got the disorder. Narcassists can controle themselves in the outside world to keep the image , but when they come home...they cannot pretend anymore. It is sad. Now i decided to love him from a distance and have zero contact. As long as he doesn't deal with his disorder every form of contact is useless. No toxic shit anymore. No drama anymore. No stress. No tension. Just quiet. I wish him the best. I pray for him. And just live my life. Thx for being open! U helped me a lot. I understand much more.
Mine doesn’t want to leave our Son because on social media he’s father of the century, the ones that stay in the picture are horrible to the kids but use them as props. My Son has said, “ mom why is Dad nice to everyone but he’s mean to me”, “ my dad is half good and half evil” he’s 7. Its a co parenting situation
Do online background check's, for anyone that comes into your world. A Narcissist, could just be after your stuff. This could damage you financially and mentally for the rest of your life. Doing a Background check is cheap, compared to losing half of your life savings and your mental well being. They'll marry you, then devalue you, cheat on you and perhaps even hit you, when they're ready to start discarding you.
Mister Earl Not every person that is a narcissist has isues with the law Their for back round check is bs, We as ppl need to learn to READ RED FLAGS That it
@@NH-vp6qk I am female. I would be Ms Earl. I used this bio, to be on history sites. It's an old family peerage. Sorry, for the confusion. My experience with Narc's, happened over 40 years ago. I WISH, I would have known these techniques, "to spot a Narc". In my first marriage, he was able to keep that mask on tight for 3 years. Now, he is in prison for taking nude pictures of his High School students. And the other has fleeced 10 woman out of their life savings. He is currently living in Vegas, where there are lots of Divorcee's just waiting to be fleeced. Not against the law, to marry someone, then divorce them and take half of their net worth. Better to do a background check, than to be left hurt & penniless.
@@NH-vp6qk Continuing the story of the 2nd husband (Narc). (His own Mother, had a Master's in Psychology.) During the Love Bombing Stage: hHe took me out to the Ranch. Introduced me to the family and went to his HS reunion. Wanted me to see his picture hanging on the wall, for being the class Valedictorian. He hit me the day after we were married and started devaluing me. When I showed his mother the black-eye, she still kept defending him. He was calling her and telling her lies about me. During my encounter with her, she was repeating these made-up lies. Thank goodness, his brother was sitting there, and was on my side. I think, Rod was just trying to get attention from Mommy Dearest. She convinced him to move-out. But then he hoovered and would come kick down my front door and attack & rape me. Back then, the Cops wouldn't do anything b/c we were still technically married. I went to a lawyer b/c he gave me an STD, when he raped me. No laws yet, on the books to protect women of that either.
mine is ignoring me and acting like i dont exist after he shoved me, hit our toddler and pushed our teen so i called the police on him and his first concern was that he was worried about the fact that i called the police on him and he doesnt want to get into trouble. wow. not that he hurt us. just worried about himself. when i refused to engage, he then began to gaslight me pretending he didn't know what he had done wrong. when non of that worked and i still refused to engage, he started ignoring and devaluing me. he can't even hide his contempt even in front of our children. it's crazy. he will show fake over the top love and affection to our young children that he has no problem harming physically and screaming at and completely devalue me at the same time. i honestly am just coming to terms that he will always be like this and its even worst because his entire family enable him and make him the victim. horrible family. he refuses to take accountability for anything he does and will do something and act completely shocked and confused and say he doesn't know what you're talking about when confronted. i can't wait to get away with my children and just live in peace not worrying about any of us walking on eggshells. i am protecting my children from this person and his cult of a family
My ex has always said, that he's not like everyone, that he's a natural born leader and he can't communicate, unless you're a successful, natural leader, like him because common people don't get him 🙄. Everyone he's around are not at his level. He hinted me around that I was dumb,lol. I knew that he was just an ignorant narcissistic asshole. Nobody can ever talk around him because all he talked was about himself. I could tell people would avoid him and by their micro expression that they avoided him. I never told him because I was too dumb 🤣 to see how people would react to him. Plus, didn't want to hurt his ego. I would just go along with him that they were haters. 🙄
My ex is the same. He would even force me to change my principles on some things and told me that only smart people can fully understand why things had to be done the way he wants it done. Obviously if i didn't agree i'm the dumb one and he sure had the habit of verbalizing that during heated conversations. I felt drained and stressed every time we're talking about serious matters. he is a fun person to talk to as long as we keep it shallow, but when things become deep and serious, one way or another, he will be triggered by what i'll say and how i view things, i knew i was always an empath and pretty level headed and i have a clear undertsanding of what's right and wrong.
Wow. It's almost word to word what he says to me when I try to break up with him or bring up something upsetting to me that he has done. But I'm learning how to do it and promise myself that I will end it, no matter what. Ty for this vid 🙏
Yeah its difficult for empaths who are commited to healing and having selfcompassion and healthy boundaries and integrity to my inner child, and choosing safe enough others to navigate narcisistic people. I go to groups that are for trauma and there are a couple narcs there its difficult, the group has guidelines, but in any given moment the story of an empath thriver with healthy boundaries can trigger a narc so its something interesting and also something to navigate and stay speaking my truth and what works for me, and who i am. I had a narc parent, and my healing is in having selfcompassion healthy boundaries integrity to my inner child, saying and speaking my truth, and finding safe enough people after that. The narc parent is coercive and self-centered when they are untreated and unaware, they put their needs first and constantly recent the child for having needs. in my healing i needed to be selfcompassionate have healthy boundaries integrity to my inner child, and know my needs matter, advocate for them and try to take my space in the world , claim my seat, use my voice , shine who i am etc. For my healing i need to keep breaking the family rules of "dont talk dont trust dont feel" , be gentle on myself, have healthy boundaries, integrity to my inner child, share my truth, stay in my truth know my worth, and find safe enough people to connect with. Feeling my feelings too and trusting God and His guidance. And trying to keep gentle humorous loving and respectful, to myself and my inner child and true self. Selfcompassion and healthy boudnaries, integrity to my innerchild , playing and having fun, connecting with safe enough others and sharing my dreams , and gifts and talents with the world, and living this thing we call life having fun, going after dreams and goals, andtaking care of myself , and taking some healthy risks too eh, commited to having gentleness healthy boundaries integrity to my inner child and finding safe enough others, feeling my feelings going after dreams and goals and also an open mind, and listening to what my needs are, and my inner childs need apart from gentleness protection being his voice , and me attuning to him and finding safe enough others my inner child also has other needs for play and fun, and curiousity spontaneity that i am listening to and following through with them thats why im gonna finish watching this world cup game, thats on tv, and im rooting for croatia. God speed everyone, we keep healing , we deserve selfcompassion boundaries integrity to our inner child, and healthy relationships where our needs get met organically, reciprocally in a healthy way and theres accountability. :)
Kudos for you to be able to admit fault man. My narc wife is unable to have any level of self-reflection. It's maddening sometimes. I'm planning my exit now.
NO. laughing at your own jokes is the opposite of narcissism. It is connection. I laugh too. I always laugh at the same time you laugh. I get your humor. Then when you laugh too I feel connected to you. Why? Because that is the real YOU coming out. YOUR own sense of humor. it is beautiful.
I had the exact same conversation. Like out of a Script. Wow! Except that he additionally said "So you're just gonna throw me away like some garbage?" 😂 I love your Videos. Great that you are so self aware.
just broke up w my nex recently. been up n down w my emotions. luckily they’re not around me to hoover me in person but im seeing how they just want to have control over me and the relationship again n get me into the cycle of abuse :/
I tried to break up with her 5 times. Then she said she was leaving me. It made me cry. I didn’t want that even though I did. It wasn’t over until she said I was. No contact now for a week and half.
My ex is actually has abusive and toxic narcissist behaviors. He says he went to therapy and took a narcissist test and they told him he’s not a narcissist.. 1) they probably just put him off as not be grandiose….(he’s vulnerable)
I love Lee's hat towel. His jokes are the only thing walking me through this madman's stage play. You mean the climbing ball at recess. I liked the spinner where you run and jump on. Totally unsafe none around today.
I went NC blocked him and took down my social media.....He is stalking me at my house he pulls up and sits there ...he came for my birthday and just say there I was taking a picture with a male friend he pulled off after the pic was taken....Lee you was right ...I can't do anything because all he is doing is stalking thank you for the information
Lee what level of intellect do you need and what tools is required to deal with a narcissistic personality disorder? I’m curious as I feel that I might be a narcissist or at least have narcissistic tendencies and I’m not sure about methods I could use to deal with it.
omg thats what my ex said to me after i wrote thats i am done😮 he ask what me what is my problem and that i act crazy. that i dont care about him and that i do drama in the situation hes in where he would need my help.....
I thought this video was about " How Narcissist act when I break up with them" Respectfully... In the breakdown portion of this video I heard absolutely nothing about the video topic. Just you talking about you🤔.... Is it just me?
Im sorry but let me repeat??? How does a narcissist act when u break up r discard them???? U did not talk about anything dealing with yr title....u talked about everything else but what the title saids!!!??? Wow.....thanks for sharing yr childhood story and things about yr npd...aka a fitandfabulous BW....ladies (GET2AGYM)
You havef accptance, self awarenesesslf knowledge, awareness of how you infect, afect those close behinfd closed doors; This is not a total 100% narc. A full blown, addict narc does not care how they affect others, will behave toxicly to those they can manipulate, dominate and get away with behaving like shits. They do not own themselves. You are awakening, breakthroughs, recovering, striving, trying. A true narc does not strive, trys to never change, never takes ownership, till beyond their death.
Not to be mean or anything but it shows ur narcissist bc the question was “ how will you’re narcissist ex act when u break up with them” here you’re just explaining and talking about urself how you found out and stuff but nothing rlly about the subject. I mean u cool and shi but If I wanted to know about you, ur trauma, ur family is a bit clickbait from the titel uknow. U did make a great start but it went hella left.
I don't see why you say that. He brought himself up because he has the disorder so he can speak from his experiences on how it's like, least that's how i saw it.
The world gets the personality, you get the disorder, best words I ever heard about the supply
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Truth!
On. Point.
Great example 👍🏿💯 It's very true. They treat you horrible, but they expect for you to stay and treat them well. It's a nonreciprocal relationship.
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Preach!💯🙌
Yes I told mine I was tired of this one sided chit !
Sooooo true!!!!
"Just abandon me like everyone else" if i had 1$ for everytime i heard it. Dating a narc ends in tragedy.
omgggg this is so spot on. he would say i’m just giving up on the relationship and that i didn’t love him enough. crazy
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U can never love ppl that want atention 24/7 it’s insanity and impossible
Can you tell me why a narcissist can yell,scream and tear you down emotionally then talk to you like nothing happened 5 minutes later? It’s so bizarre
When they yell or rage - it's narcisistic injury. They need to regulate their emotions. They gaslight themselves if they care about you so they won't discard you. Depends on the stadium of relationship. My thoughts only based on the experience. :)
This!!
They love drama. That lights up their little brains with dopamine. They 'devalue you", to get a reaction. So they can get their hit of dopamine. If you continue to allow them to do this, you will fall into "Trauma Bonding". It will become a habit. You will begin to except this behavior as normal. Example of childhood Trauma Bonding is: Child gets a spanking from Dad. Runs to Mom and she cuddles him. When they grow-up, they're just repeating, what they have been taught. If you try & act like everything is normal; then you give them a hug or cuddle them, they are just repeating what Mommy taught them. That's how they equate love.
Yes yes exactly like wtf? My ex would yell my name 10 times then when I answered loud enough for him to hear me I'd say what?? Super loud & he'd be like baby what's wrong. Insane. He's a liar, cheater, broke ass don't have a job and is a huge baby. I'm done being scared I have anxiety now from this twisted idiot.
Yes. It’s very bizarre. The one I was with got revenge on me for not allowing him to have a key to my place after I left, refused to pick our kids up on the day he originally agreed to when I had to work. Sent me hateful emails in all caps talking about how much he “doesn’t like me” and how if it doesn’t benefit him he’s not doing it. All this extreme rage. Then the next day HIS car broke down and he called me asking me for advice and started trying to chat with me in a calm tone about how strange it is that this happened to him and how he’s a nice loving person so he doesn’t know why bad things keep happening to him… it was complete insanity.
You have saved me from making stupid decisions...like believing him. Now, he is in hovering mode (5 attempts to contact) and thanks to you, I've blocked him at every turn and remained "no contact". My therapist never covered what I've learned from you - thank you Lee Appointment with attorney is progress, I had "no contact" included in my divorce. Again, your willingness to share opened my eyes to understand his disorder
Stay strong
You might like The nameless narcissist too.
He's here on utube
He's sooooo honest and raw.
Goodluck ❤
Yes I used to get so pissed off when we go somewhere and everybody's swooing over him and talking about "awww yall such a cute couple" or "perfect couple" and he being his charming, funny self after he was just a monster in the car 🙄
I use to think "oh you can have him and my stress"... 🤣😩😂
Goes to show... you don't know what goes on behind the curtains before the show.
@@OneFaithFilledLady You’re absolutely right 💯
I left him i was tired
They try to get revenge on you for leaving them. Not because you actually did anything wrong to them in particular, just because you’re leaving. Then after they get revenge they act like them getting revenge is supposed to make you want to take them back. It’s like a toddler throwing a temper tantrum and thinking they’ll get what they want because they threw a temper tantrum.
Yup zero logic at all
Your empathy is growing. kudos to YOU!
Basically they just play the victim
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They know they can’t stay in relationships long but they want to be in these committed relationships, why?!
I was married to my ex which quickly went down hill but I kept trying for 6 years! I knew during the first year I wanted out but I stayed 😑 I think it’s to keep up the facade.
They get in relationships to look normal and benefit from what their partner provides. They are never “committed” though. Just because they are married or living with a partner, doesn’t mean they are faithful. The majority of them are talking to multiple others and exes, as they rely on attention and interaction for supply. They don’t want normal committed relationships like a neurotypical does. They are unable to bond or attach as we are, and they can flip a switch and drop a spouse or partner for another person, and they will never reciprocate or love as we deserve.
The narcissist often told me that he thinks upside down, that he thinks differently. Now I understand what he meant.
This reenactment is right on point as far as my situation. I was cheated on, and mistreated in so many ways and when I tried to leave the relationship he threatened suicide and so I stayed with him longer than I should have. It's been over 4 months since I ended the relationship and went no contact and though it's been extremely hard I know it's the best thing that I could have done...I'm on the road to a better me!! Thanks Lee for all the encouragement and videos like this!!
Same here
Lee you crack me up when you say im gonna unlive myself lol my ex husband tried that twice. I still never let him come back. He wanted attention, and it was manipulation.
Lee, it seems like this is a different video than what you intended. It’s about whether narcissists know something is wrong with them & not about what to expect when breaking up with narcissists.
"The world gets the personality, you get the disorder" seems like a great description of how my ex would go out of her way with love towards family and siblings that consistently abused her, knowing they had flaws, while I tried my best to uplift her and instead took abuse and was discarded for my flaws.
I’m sorry you went through that. I know how it feels. My ex-husband acted the same way.
@@lauradeskin3903 Thank you for your support. I hope you are doing well on your healing journey.
@@zbgb4339 Yw! the same to you
You are such an anomaly of the self-aware narcissist. I love your video Lee as they offer such a unique perspective.
Lee my ex also knew he was different and my ex is such a smart man, but didn't want to deal with the trauma. Your videos help me heal. U made me laugh with the Oprah move and the N word. Too funny. It is nice u put some humor in it. It is sometimes hard or serious enough. My ex knew he was different, but he felt ashamed. The world got his personality and i got the disorder. Narcassists can controle themselves in the outside world to keep the image , but when they come home...they cannot pretend anymore. It is sad. Now i decided to love him from a distance and have zero contact. As long as he doesn't deal with his disorder every form of contact is useless. No toxic shit anymore. No drama anymore. No stress. No tension. Just quiet. I wish him the best. I pray for him. And just live my life. Thx for being open! U helped me a lot. I understand much more.
They sleep around and abandon their kids
some definitely do
Mine doesn’t want to leave our Son because on social media he’s father of the century, the ones that stay in the picture are horrible to the kids but use them as props.
My Son has said, “ mom why is Dad nice to everyone but he’s mean to me”, “ my dad is half good and half evil” he’s 7.
Its a co parenting situation
Do online background check's, for anyone that comes into your world. A Narcissist, could just be after your stuff. This could damage you financially and mentally for the rest of your life. Doing a Background check is cheap, compared to losing half of your life savings and your mental well being. They'll marry you, then devalue you, cheat on you and perhaps even hit you, when they're ready to start discarding you.
Mister Earl
Not every person that is a narcissist has isues with the law
Their for back round check is bs,
We as ppl need to learn to READ RED FLAGS
That it
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@@NH-vp6qk I am female. I would be Ms Earl. I used this bio, to be on history sites. It's an old family peerage. Sorry, for the confusion. My experience with Narc's, happened over 40 years ago. I WISH, I would have known these techniques, "to spot a Narc". In my first marriage, he was able to keep that mask on tight for 3 years. Now, he is in prison for taking nude pictures of his High School students. And the other has fleeced 10 woman out of their life savings. He is currently living in Vegas, where there are lots of Divorcee's just waiting to be fleeced. Not against the law, to marry someone, then divorce them and take half of their net worth. Better to do a background check, than to be left hurt & penniless.
@@NH-vp6qk Continuing the story of the 2nd husband (Narc). (His own Mother, had a Master's in Psychology.) During the Love Bombing Stage: hHe took me out to the Ranch. Introduced me to the family and went to his HS reunion. Wanted me to see his picture hanging on the wall, for being the class Valedictorian. He hit me the day after we were married and started devaluing me. When I showed his mother the black-eye, she still kept defending him. He was calling her and telling her lies about me. During my encounter with her, she was repeating these made-up lies. Thank goodness, his brother was sitting there, and was on my side. I think, Rod was just trying to get attention from Mommy Dearest. She convinced him to move-out. But then he hoovered and would come kick down my front door and attack & rape me. Back then, the Cops wouldn't do anything b/c we were still technically married. I went to a lawyer b/c he gave me an STD, when he raped me. No laws yet, on the books to protect women of that either.
You ARE brave! Thank you for being you 🙏🏼
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mine is ignoring me and acting like i dont exist after he shoved me, hit our toddler and pushed our teen so i called the police on him and his first concern was that he was worried about the fact that i called the police on him and he doesnt want to get into trouble. wow. not that he hurt us. just worried about himself. when i refused to engage, he then began to gaslight me pretending he didn't know what he had done wrong. when non of that worked and i still refused to engage, he started ignoring and devaluing me. he can't even hide his contempt even in front of our children. it's crazy. he will show fake over the top love and affection to our young children that he has no problem harming physically and screaming at and completely devalue me at the same time. i honestly am just coming to terms that he will always be like this and its even worst because his entire family enable him and make him the victim. horrible family. he refuses to take accountability for anything he does and will do something and act completely shocked and confused and say he doesn't know what you're talking about when confronted. i can't wait to get away with my children and just live in peace not worrying about any of us walking on eggshells. i am protecting my children from this person and his cult of a family
My ex has always said, that he's not like everyone, that he's a natural born leader and he can't communicate, unless you're a successful, natural leader, like him because common people don't get him 🙄. Everyone he's around are not at his level. He hinted me around that I was dumb,lol. I knew that he was just an ignorant narcissistic asshole. Nobody can ever talk around him because all he talked was about himself. I could tell people would avoid him and by their micro expression that they avoided him. I never told him because I was too dumb 🤣 to see how people would react to him. Plus, didn't want to hurt his ego. I would just go along with him that they were haters. 🙄
Oh goodness! My ex would always say he’s a natural born leader lol
Your ex sounds just like my dad!! To a T! So sad how they just don’t seem to get it smh
My ex is the same. He would even force me to change my principles on some things and told me that only smart people can fully understand why things had to be done the way he wants it done. Obviously if i didn't agree i'm the dumb one and he sure had the habit of verbalizing that during heated conversations. I felt drained and stressed every time we're talking about serious matters. he is a fun person to talk to as long as we keep it shallow, but when things become deep and serious, one way or another, he will be triggered by what i'll say and how i view things, i knew i was always an empath and pretty level headed and i have a clear undertsanding of what's right and wrong.
Wow. It's almost word to word what he says to me when I try to break up with him or bring up something upsetting to me that he has done. But I'm learning how to do it and promise myself that I will end it, no matter what. Ty for this vid 🙏
Yeah its difficult for empaths who are commited to healing and having selfcompassion and healthy boundaries and integrity to my inner child, and choosing safe enough others to navigate narcisistic people. I go to groups that are for trauma and there are a couple narcs there its difficult, the group has guidelines, but in any given moment the story of an empath thriver with healthy boundaries can trigger a narc so its something interesting and also something to navigate and stay speaking my truth and what works for me, and who i am. I had a narc parent, and my healing is in having selfcompassion healthy boundaries integrity to my inner child, saying and speaking my truth, and finding safe enough people after that. The narc parent is coercive and self-centered when they are untreated and unaware, they put their needs first and constantly recent the child for having needs. in my healing i needed to be selfcompassionate have healthy boundaries integrity to my inner child, and know my needs matter, advocate for them and try to take my space in the world , claim my seat, use my voice , shine who i am etc. For my healing i need to keep breaking the family rules of "dont talk dont trust dont feel" , be gentle on myself, have healthy boundaries, integrity to my inner child, share my truth, stay in my truth know my worth, and find safe enough people to connect with. Feeling my feelings too and trusting God and His guidance. And trying to keep gentle humorous loving and respectful, to myself and my inner child and true self. Selfcompassion and healthy boudnaries, integrity to my innerchild , playing and having fun, connecting with safe enough others and sharing my dreams , and gifts and talents with the world, and living this thing we call life having fun, going after dreams and goals, andtaking care of myself , and taking some healthy risks too eh, commited to having gentleness healthy boundaries integrity to my inner child and finding safe enough others, feeling my feelings going after dreams and goals and also an open mind, and listening to what my needs are, and my inner childs need apart from gentleness protection being his voice , and me attuning to him and finding safe enough others my inner child also has other needs for play and fun, and curiousity spontaneity that i am listening to and following through with them thats why im gonna finish watching this world cup game, thats on tv, and im rooting for croatia. God speed everyone, we keep healing , we deserve selfcompassion boundaries integrity to our inner child, and healthy relationships where our needs get met organically, reciprocally in a healthy way and theres accountability. :)
Kudos for you to be able to admit fault man. My narc wife is unable to have any level of self-reflection. It's maddening sometimes. I'm planning my exit now.
My ex also felt like he was just different when he was younger.
Fight for us. Two narcissist exs said these exact words.
NO. laughing at your own jokes is the opposite of narcissism. It is connection. I laugh too. I always laugh at the same time you laugh. I get your humor. Then when you laugh too I feel connected to you. Why? Because that is the real YOU coming out. YOUR own sense of humor. it is beautiful.
I had the exact same conversation. Like out of a Script. Wow! Except that he additionally said "So you're just gonna throw me away like some garbage?" 😂
I love your Videos. Great that you are so self aware.
just broke up w my nex recently. been up n down w my emotions. luckily they’re not around me to hoover me in person but im seeing how they just want to have control over me and the relationship again n get me into the cycle of abuse :/
Same here my friend like in fresh fresh out. Been in and out for 6 yrs it's just a terrible cycle. I want out so I get it stay strong queen!
God bless you brother, You are doing an awesome job!
Greetings, Mr. Lee. I may miss the live, but will double back to catch your breakdown on this topic. ✌🏾
Thank you
I would like to thank you for sharing that it looked like it took a lot out of you 😢 I hope you do something nice for yourself today
you’re welcome
Does this mean every relationship they get into, they repeat the same cycle with their new supply?
Yes. My ex says he always has known he was different.
It was very informative to see that you didn't know what was going on. Thank you
I tried to break up with her 5 times. Then she said she was leaving me. It made me cry. I didn’t want that even though I did. It wasn’t over until she said I was. No contact now for a week and half.
You won if you broke up with the
That’s how they see it and narcissist can’t take an L
Story of my life 😅 So accurate
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“Gotta dig deep into these damn memories.”😅😂Great work and transparency Lee!✊🏽✊🏽
My ex is actually has abusive and toxic narcissist behaviors. He says he went to therapy and took a narcissist test and they told him he’s not a narcissist.. 1) they probably just put him off as not be grandiose….(he’s vulnerable)
I love Lee's hat towel. His jokes are the only thing walking me through this madman's stage play. You mean the climbing ball at recess. I liked the spinner where you run and jump on. Totally unsafe none around today.
I am an empath and yes we all
Do bad things alllllllllll
I went NC blocked him and took down my social media.....He is stalking me at my house he pulls up and sits there ...he came for my birthday and just say there I was taking a picture with a male friend he pulled off after the pic was taken....Lee you was right ...I can't do anything because all he is doing is stalking thank you for the information
Lee what level of intellect do you need and what tools is required to deal with a narcissistic personality disorder? I’m curious as I feel that I might be a narcissist or at least have narcissistic tendencies and I’m not sure about methods I could use to deal with it.
Mine always said he didn't have a conscience,never believed that oh but now i do
perfect breakdown!
That was a great explanation about the differences of NPD. Even though I had to replay it 3xs before fully understand it🙇
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It's like David Banner and the Hulk 😭😭😭
omg thats what my ex said to me after i wrote thats i am done😮 he ask what me what is my problem and that i act crazy. that i dont care about him and that i do drama in the situation hes in where he would need my help.....
Holy crap... this conversation is scaru familiar.
That Towel 😂😂
For the covert Narcissist
Hahaa you are besides serious on the inside very funny 😂
You have the intellect unlike Darrell brooks 😂😂. I like how you produce your videos
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I'm still waiting for you to say what the title of your video is.
I thought this video was about " How Narcissist act when I break up with them" Respectfully... In the breakdown portion of this video I heard absolutely nothing about the video topic. Just you talking about you🤔.... Is it just me?
Narcissist and Gemini man are the worse
Like a baby.
Hi there
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Im sorry but let me repeat??? How does a narcissist act when u break up r discard them???? U did not talk about anything dealing with yr title....u talked about everything else but what the title saids!!!??? Wow.....thanks for sharing yr childhood story and things about yr npd...aka a fitandfabulous BW....ladies (GET2AGYM)
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You havef accptance, self awarenesesslf knowledge, awareness of how you infect, afect those close behinfd closed doors; This is not a total 100% narc. A full blown, addict narc does not care how they affect others, will behave toxicly to those they can manipulate, dominate and get away with behaving like shits. They do not own themselves. You are awakening, breakthroughs, recovering, striving, trying. A true narc does not strive, trys to never change, never takes ownership, till beyond their death.
You always rush through “I have narcissistic personality disorder”. Almost like you don’t want to admit it.
You silly 😂🤣😂🤣
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Not to be mean or anything but it shows ur narcissist bc the question was “ how will you’re narcissist ex act when u break up with them” here you’re just explaining and talking about urself how you found out and stuff but nothing rlly about the subject. I mean u cool and shi but If I wanted to know about you, ur trauma, ur family is a bit clickbait from the titel uknow. U did make a great start but it went hella left.
I don't see why you say that.
He brought himself up because he has the disorder so he can speak from his experiences on how it's like, least that's how i saw it.
The towel 🤣😂🤣🤣🤣