We Gotta Start Spanking the Kids Again
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- Why "Emotionally Sensitive Parenting" doesn't work
From my third special John Crist: Would Like To Release a Statement, filmed live at the Majestic Theater in Dallas, TX.
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I've always been against people who think spanking is abuse. Spanking is discipline, full on hitting a kid is abuse. There is a huge difference.
Abuse is a fiction created by the left.
Spanking is hitting
Same, as long as you're not spanking them for the littlest of things and it isn't leaving a negative mental or physical change then it's fine. I'm against gentle parenting, kids have no respect for anyone nowadays
Never got a spanking I didn’t deserve! I appreciate my parents. As a teacher I couldn’t help but laugh because this skit is SO ACCURATE. Parents, you’ve got to do better. You’ll be ok if you discipline your child, and your kid will grow up to respect you!
No they won't. If you respect your parents it's in spite of them losing their temper with you and assaulting you. Not because of it.
@@pastorofmuppets8834 I was NEVER assaulted. Grow up buttercup.
A spanking is much different than assault. 🙄
@@pastorofmuppets8834I am so sorry you had such an obviously terrible childhood with parents who lost their cool and hit you. Not everyone had a childhood like that, however. You shouldn't project.
@@nathanshaw9688 I had a fantastic childhood. I had loving parents. The problem with parents today is that they want to be children’s friends rather than their mentor and parent. I have a great career, and have confidence in myself. I didn’t need someone to coddle me to make me responsible. I needed structure which is what all children need. Don’t make assumptions when you don’t have the facts.
I'm a teacher. A parent last year told me if his child was misbehaving to throw the book at him. I was tempted at times, but never did. I felt completely supported and his parents continued to support me throughout the year. Parents like this are rare.
As a former school psychologist, I can say that the children of these types of (sadly all too rare) parents had a better prognosis
I remember when my oldest son told me "if you spank me I'm going to call social services", so I handed him the phone and told him "go ahead and make the call but before you do know that I can either give you a normal spanking for being disobedient or you can choose to call them and I can spank you from now until the time they get here. Your call, what would you like to do?". He opted for the normal spanking because he knew I never bluffed and I never lied to him. He grew up, went to university and became a mechanical engineer. Funny thing about discipline, it builds self discipline and self discipline builds self esteem. If you love your kids, you discipline them.
Thank you! (I'm 17 and completely agree)
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@@violetnorwen8491 I got spanked, I'm now over 60, was going to counciling a while ago, the councilor was in her 30's, when I mentioned getting spanked she said I was abused, she was dead serious!
My friend tried that with his Dad. 6'8 hands like a bears claw. His Dad told him go ahead and call it's 8 minutes before the cops can get here, and in those 8 minutes your ass is mine.
He didn't call
@@RJ1999x wow. That guy sounds like he probably beat his wife too.
“Skyler would never! Skyler would never!” The imitation with his movements is gold! I can’t stop watching it! 😂😂😂
I’m a grandparent now and I can’t say AMEN loud enough!!
Healthy "fear" /reverence of parents and God is what's missing.
It’s called respect.
@jackiefrisosky it's called narcissism 🤡
Proverbs 13:24
He who spares his rod hates his son
Like my Mom said, respect is 80 percent love and 20 percent fear.
@@DynamicGracernothing like cherry picking and changing the meaning. Do any of y'all actually read your Bible?
I remember when spanking was still allowed in schools...we had a rumor the principal had an electric paddle (whatever that is), but it was enough to keep us out of Mrs. Buckley's office 😂😂
Allegedly our principal had a paddle.
When my stepfather was in school the principal had a paddle hung on the wall with the words "THE BOARD OF EDUCATION" burned into the side!
And now Mrs Buckley is in jail for paedophilia
@@pastorofmuppets8834
Grow up.
I got paddled by my principal twice...in front of everyone! It was so humiliating that I avoided her like the plague for the next 3 years!
So many of those parents found out what their kids were truly like during lockdown…..and if it didn’t bother them then they’re the source of the problem because they are the role models.
By assaulting their children?
@pastorofmuppets8834 wow I'm really sorry if you were assaulted as a child. But a loving parent spanking their child as a form of discipline is not assault.
Pastor of muppets…I serve a warrior savior. God chastises those he loves. There is a difference between discipline and abuse. My parents loved me enough to do the hard work and I loved my children enough to do the same. We learned respect at the end of a belt or switch. I don’t remember the pain, but I live the lessons learned.
@@apriloverstreet2174 oh yes, blame God for this. Like a good minister who abuses their flock, using the Bible to justify their evil.
Is that how you justify you abusing your partner? They have to submit to you? Otherwise they asked for it, right?
@@pastorofmuppets8834 A short but firm spanking is an effective form of discipline. It’s not assault. I was only ever spanked once as a kid and it worked. I never again wanted to disrespect my parents. It made me feel ashamed for misbehaving, remorseful, and like I needed to grow up and wise up so I wouldn’t be treated like a misbehaving brat again.
It worked. And it’s FAR better for a child’s longterm development than letting them run riot or pandering to them like they’re princesses. We’ve run that social experiment for 30 years and the results were disastrous.
I've been a teacher for 19 years and I can tell you that so many parents don't hold their kids accountable and don't discipline their kids.
I've worked as a Walmart toys/pets/seasonal merchandise manager.
So
My favorite thing was parents just bringing their crotch goblins to Jesus if they tore up the toy dept.
Did I see anything? Nope! Some shitty kids around here, tore the area up, but sadly they left before their parents corralled them. Must have happened in another part of the store.
I had the parents back, you gotta do what you gotta do, parents. I don't speak for all Walmarts or managers, but from about 2002 to like 2014 if a kid got straight up pimp of the year backhanded, the parent was seen to be a angel from the highest heavens, and we knew them kids would be learnin that day.
Sadly, the number of times I'd hear "go to toys and play until I'm done with my shopping" which means, tear toys out of packaging and leave with a choice of toy
Hooooo boy thatd piss us all off
i've been learning just how bad it is recently in schools
Doesn't mean they should hit their kids
@@threadtapwhisperer5136that’s messed up. The store is not their personal playroom. My kid respects authority and understands general decency so if I wanted, I could let him look at toys and he would just look. Every age 2 or 3 tantrum was responded with logical explanation for why he couldn’t get his way. And if emotions were too high, he would get it later when he was calm. Not giving in to it. If he loved something so much that the addiction made him crazy, he just would just have to go cold turkey. Eventually I could give him screen time and he could turn it off himself without a tantrum. Teach limits/ say no when they are young and it makes it easier.
@@threadtapwhisperer5136 so what part of that story means you have to hit children?
I grew up with the "look" and the "chancla". My mom was a single mother with 3 kids in Mexico. She did the best that she could. It drives me crazy to see kids nowadays, no respect at all even in front of their parents.
Im white but spent all my time at the mexican kids houses growing up because the snacks were lit. 🤣 I too know the fear of the chancla. Their mamas didnt care who they hit, if you got caught in the crossfire, too bad. 🤣
@@brianas5624 😂🤣😁
You're right that your mom did the best she could - circumstances sounds very difficult.
It doesn't mean that spanking is a good form of parenting.
In the 80s, I was doing some research, and came across an article against corporal punishment in children. It cited a study published in a medical journal. I went to the study and read through it. What it basically was finding was physical pain creates new neurological pathways in the brain.
(The original article was making the case that you DIDN'T want corporal punishment because of these neurological pathways. )
But this is exactly what you do want.
You want obedience and discipline to be INSTINCTUAL, not based on logic.
If obedience and morality are taught logically, then a child can "reason" their way out of it.
On the other hand, if a neurological pathway has been created, they are going to have a bad feeling when they steal, hurt someone, disobey authority, or destroy property, even when they try to logic it away. They will have a moral compass.
HOWEVER, if you cannot discipline your child without anger, you should never use corporal punishment. Any kind of discipline, whether it is physical, emotional, or even conversational, if it is done in anger it is abusive.
When my daughter was beginning to crawl, I set up a (non toxic) plant, and the lower shelf of a bookshelf with unimportant books and magazines. These were my "training tools."
When my daughter discovered the training plant (it had long viney branches that hung down) and would put her hand out to touch, I'd say no, and move her hand away. I did this many times until she started giving me this look (you parents of toddlers know the look I'm talking about) and reaching her hand toward the plant while she glared at me.
I'd shake my head and say no, don't touch the plant, always in a regular conversational voice, not yelling, not angry, but if she touched it anyway, I gave her hand a little slap. She would cry, and at first when the cry was "why did you do that" I would pick her up and hold her and say, "Mama said no, you can't touch the plant. You have to obey Mama so I can keep you safe."
We would go round and round about that plant (and the training bookshelf) for the next two or three weeks.
My mom-in-law was visiting and watched one of our conflicts that ended up being the last one with the plant.
I sat on the floor near my daughter and every time she touched the plant, I'd patiently say, "no, don't touch the plant." Then when she would give me that look and touch the plant anyway, I'd give her little hand a slap. She would cry, but it would be anger. My mom-in-law kept giving me suggestions like, "I moved everything up so I didn't have to worry about my babies."
(I very much knew this - I was married to her son!)
My daughter and I did that (31 times according to my appalled mom-in-law) until she finally crawled off - not crying, btw - and I never had to get after her about the plant again.
I would occasionally see her crawl over there and reach her hand out, and I'd think, oh no, here we go again, but she would sit like that a moment - almost touching the plant - then pull her hand away and crawl away to one of her toys. That was the move from discipline to self- discipline. She wasn't yet one year old.
I did the majority of my daughter's physical discipline before she was four years old.
She was NEVER disciplined for mistakes - like spilling her milk - or when she was frightened. She was ONLY ever disciplined for disobedience - which means I had given her a rule about it, and she understood what I meant, and she purposely disobeyed.
You should NEVER discipline when you are angry.
When she was old enough to understand reasoning (4,5,6,7 years depending on the child and the depth of the cause and effect reasoning) I would explain that disobedience has consequences.
When she is little, I cause little consequences, because when she gets older the natural consequences for breaking rules can be horrible and life changing consequences that I have no control over as much as I would wish I did.
You have to explain these things almost every year, because children forget, and their understanding changes too, making it look different.
Every child is different. They have different temperaments, different levels of understanding, different motivations.
My son, unlike my very stubborn daughter, was easily disciplined. I could just say, "That was naughty." And he would cry like I'd broken his heart.
Regardless, my kids were never disciplined physically once they were older than 10. If you haven't instilled an instinct for obedience in them by then, you will have to use reason.
Around that time (10 or 12), if it was an issue that wasn't dangerous (like maybe homework or chores), they would say what they wanted to do and I would say, I don't want you to do that, but I'm going to let you decide. They would usually know why I didn't want them to do it and they would try to justify their decision to me anyway. I would say, it isn't going to work out that way, but if you want to try, go ahead, but tomorrow I'm going to say "I told you so, just to remind you that you made a bad decision."
I found that whenever I could, natural consequences at this age, were a much better teacher than me grounding them or trying to lecture them.
They learned pretty quickly to ask for my advice and reasoning when I would say, that's your decision. Lol
By the time my kids were 16 or 17, we had a pretty much adult relationship. I enjoyed their company and was sad in one way, proud of them in another, to see them going out into the world and succeeding.
Self-discipline is a gift you give to your kids.
@jeanjaz 😃 WoW!! TBH my only child is a Senior in College now so I'm VERY removed from this subject matter now. However, I REALLY liked reading about your methods. So much GOOD SOUND REASONING . I'll bet your kids will also be Superb parents as wel -l because of the ways in which you disciplined them - vs. how you punished them. Well done! 😊
You have amazing advice!! I have 4 children and can picture different ones at different points you are mentioning. Thank you for such a beautiful picture and wonderful advice and examples!
That is very amazing advice. I have a toddler now. And soon to be newborn. So I am figuring out my discipline style. Cause I don't want to spank I always feel bad. And my son knows it. 😅 so I have become more firm. Even though he is an amazing child when he is with his grandmother. (No tantrums, no fits or face lol) because I would send him to his room to cool off. And the first time I popped his butt is because he kicked me in the stomach while trying to change his diaper. (He did this out of anger ) and I am now 7 months pregnant so it happened two weeks ago. And I controlled my breath (I had told him to stop kicking in a calm tone at least 7 times) and he got a swift pop on the butt.
But I had to go to triage to monitor the baby cause I was heavily cramping and discharging (no blood thank God) since then my son has not kicked. Still fights the diaper change so we do potty training. I have him take off his diaper and he sprints his little behind to his toilet and once he's done he pats and says "bye bye" to his pee lol and once he washes his hands he lays down for his diaper.
I read this entire comment. Thank you for this amazing advice!
this was like a master class in 4 paragraphs.
i don't have kids, but i so agree with your point. for a toddler or a young child, the emphasis should be on training them to hear and respond to your voice immediately, and obey on command. people always say reason with toddlers. but no, not in the moment. when there's boiling water on the stove, i don't have time for explanations. NO, HOT, Don't Touch. if a car is heading in our direction, MOVE. do it NOW. don't question me when 4 tons of steel is barreling toward you. GO. i can explain later. first, avoid danger.
parenting should be about gradually relinquishing control for their decisions. at first, it is your duty to control your kids. not stifle them, but guide their natural tendencies. then to teach them to make good decisions and how to process that. otherwise, the kid will be emotionally crippled and unable to function successfully as they mature.
i don't even think the problem is parents not knowing how to parent, but not wanting the emotional burden of parenting and disciplining, and training. and not wanting to be responsible for how their child turns out. i'm not sure what they thought they were signing up for.
I can watch John’s stand up comedy over and over. So hilarious and spot on.😂
I was 21 years old and once talked back to my mom. I ended up on the floor with her giving me just one slap. Good Italian mom!! I certainly learned from that. 😅😊
I'm sad to hear that. What a shame to be losing your temper and assaulting any adult, let alone your own son
Sounds like they asked for it 🤷♀️
@@pastorofmuppets8834 Please stop. You have no idea what the difference is between discipline and abuse. Your ignorance is transparent.
@@chelseabarker2250 that's what abusive partners say to those they hit to justify their criminal actions
@pastorofmuppets8834 a relationship partner is not the same as a parent child relationship.
And as I said elsewhere, spanking is not hitting. You're implying a full grown man using his full strength to punch a child. I'm sorry if you were abused as a child in any such manner. That was not right. But that is not spanking either.
If a child has nothing to FEAR, they have nothing to LOSE.
This needs to be broadcast nationwide and shown in schools. Starting with the teachers!
Not really
It was teachers who first started telling kids they had rights (back in the 70s) to not be spanked. Now kids can do anything to themselves medically without parents knowing and at younger and younger ages. This is not safe.
@@hayleyferguson5284 what on earth has that got to do with assaulting children?
@pastorofmuppets8834 spanking is not assault
@@autumnd.3582 tell that to parents of kids that you hit. Or when an adult spanks you - It's even worse than that, hitting a small defenceless child! Yet you can get criminally charged for that when you do it to another adult.
So yes, it is assault.
My dad came down from the pulpit mid sermon once to spank me. I have sat still in church ever since. 😂😂😂
Just for not sitting still in church. Stuff like this is abuse! I went to a a small church group where one of the leaders would spank her children for falling asleep in church. A former sister-in-law said one son was whipped for not doing homework right.
@@marshahollings haha, I think it was for biting my brother.
@@ntme6506 That merits a spanking
For biting? Case settled.
I’m sure it was mortifying, but he learned an extremely valuable lesson! If more parents would be that way the world would be a totally different place! 😆
Spare the rod, spoil the child”
I'm thankful my parents disciplined me growing up. All it took was my Dad clearing his throat for me to straighten up.
He has described my childhood spankings to a tee!
😂My butt just had a flashback. - I am the youngest of 6 children. Once, before I was 10yrs. old, we actually had a 'spanking line' for whatever one of my older siblings did, so the rest of us would know what would happen if we did what he or she did. I am in my 50's now and I still do not know who did what, 'butt' I do remember being the last one getting spanked for it.
@@67MusicLover8 that's very sad to hear
warnings growing up.." I don't care if we do have company!" and the classic.."I'll give you something to cry about!"
Sounds like you had some pretty angry parents.
The timing of this video! I watched a 3 year old slap his mom in the face in the grocery store last night. Now I understand how the last 3 years was made possible.
My dad would have come home from work on that one dude!
I do ballet, and one girl in a lower class ... well, she's definitely not dissaplined 🥵 One time she was late for class by ,maybe 2 minutes, and she had a complete TANTRUM!!!! Like, shaking sobbing painful sounding cries, was yelling at her mom, and hitting her mom! She's like 11 or something! She's also very rude to her grandmother and our teacher. It was kinda scary to witness such lacking parental skills, and it's hard because I'm sure her mom is trying her best, but she doesn't realize she's hurting her daughter by not disaplining her
Proud mama of Corporally punished kids. They are the most well behaved kids on the planet. Also homeschool for the win!
MF facts, all around!
Louder for the people in the back
"Proud husband of unconsensually spanked wife and she is the most well behaved woman!" why is your comment somehow better? because it gets that same woman as a vulnerable, helpless little girl instead? if anything that's way way worse.
Your wife is not your child it is not your job to teach her how to behave. Your children are your responsibility. They have no idea how to behave God gave them to you to raise them up the way they should go. Sometimes children need more that a stern talking to.
I hope your wife is an adult therfore she has had a father and mother that hopefully got her butt whooped. I give my kids consequences so the world doesn't have too. My hand is far less scary than the worlds consequences.
@@worshiptimewithax Many millions of people will tell me, your wife is your responsibility and she is under the authority of her husband, he can corporally punish her at his discretion, this was common in countless cultures, including many in biblically times, much of it is condoned in the bible and it's still widely practised in the cultures it was written in until this day, are you concerned about that? do you wish to stop it in those cultures? glad it stopped in yours? if so why? who's to say she isn't the husbands responsibility, you? what do you know those millions don't? is God the authority? do you speak on behalf of him? what do you think about those passages in the bible?
How can a woman know right from wrong without a man's firm hand to guide her? it's not as bad as what the world would do to her etc, it's all BS of course but it's even worse when she's a vulnerable, helpless little girl and receiving the same from her ironically named "protector's/caregivers" who're multiple times her size and strength.
*Maybe 🤔 all the **_Switch Bushes_** went extinct?!?* 😂 😂 😂
My MIL could locate one!😉🤣🤣🤣
@@kerrymartin7557 I *_BET She Could!!!_* 😂😂😅
My brother and I got spanked and now that we're older we are THANKING OUR PARENTS FOR IT. you can seriously just look around and tell some kids didn't get hit
" you can seriously just look around and tell some kids didn't get hit" but oh boy, do they need it! 😐 I can't remember a time I haven't gone to the grocery store and thought to myself "Mmmmmmm. . . . that child needs spankin'!" in the last 20 years. . . [I'm about to be 30 this year but still!]
I can just turn to my twin sister while anywhere out in public and we both share a look.
Mostly my look says : "If that child doesn't quit, I'm gonna hit it and the parents!"
Mostly my sister's look says: "I agree with you, but I don't have enough money for your bail!"
John, YOU ARE TELLIN’ THE TRUTH & DON’T STOP🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂
Mom had a wooden spoon and dad just used his hand. I feared and respected the hand.
My mother had the fastest backhand slap. I'd be in front of her, smarting off. Next thing I know, both my cheeks stung being slapped; first forehand, then backhand. Never saw it coming.
That was my mom with flip flops. We could be in room, not even on the same floor, and we’d get beaned in the head it.
Man I can relate to this. One time I remember Mommy saying, “go up Mamaw’s and pick ye a switch”. I’m 33 years old now, I’ve never been in jail, I’ve had steady employment since I was 17, and now live in my own house with a wife and three children. Most people would think I’ve got my act together but the Left think I’m part of the problem.
This is exactly my argument. Show me the evidence. How am I and all 7 of my siblings decent, productive humans with no criminal record? Is that a coincidence?
Amen
Right? Your mama spanked your behind right away from the penitentiary and the welfare office ❤️
Being employed and not in jail is not a high bar of measurement.
Wouldn't you like to be in the same situation but have never resented your parents? Or never seen them lose their temper toward you?
I can't believe that people think you can't be firm without hitting a defenseless child.
@@Rosie_Cit's decades of reliable scientific research that shows you that you are like this in spite of being physically disciplined, rather than because of it.
"It was the cold War in my house dude." Yes! I remember that war! Then I learned the art of plugged nose.
What's WORSE, my mom says she never made us try a spoon of EVERYTHING. So sorta swallow, back up, gag, try again or sit there. You will eat what I serve in this house and be grateful! 🤣😂
I came to understand the saying, "like it or lump it." Foods I liked I savored. It was good, delicious food. Foods I did not like I chewed just a bit to be swallowed quick, sometimes whole (lumped it down) so I did not have to taste much of it. I also learned to "save the best for last". I 'lumped' down the vegetables or other food(liver) I did not like first, and then enjoyed the rest of my meal. Oh, and I got dessert! Oh, the times I sat at the table with peas or spinach (or liver) on my plate while everyone else was eating dessert.
Thankfully I never had that, but I wasn't the most picky eater. Chicken Mawkani has been my favorite food since I was like 3😂 (note, I'm a white girl with no sorta Indian ancestors ar all) 😂 My grandma loves to talk about how much I love it😅
Yes, me and my two brothers were spanked growing up, and look at us now! Married, have kids, jobs, doing great! 🥰😃😊💖
@beastbombshell3527: I’m not against spanking kids but taken to extreme it CAN cross the line into abuse.
In middle school we had a feminist teacher who LOVED to spank misbehaving boys. The girls she coddled but when she hit a boy she left welts; my friend Joe even had open wounds from the force. This is abuse.
@Kwildcat13 yes it is. If the OP is doing well it's despite the abuse, not because of it.
@@johnflorio3576 but Jon Crist would say that it's ok, because it's not done enough nowadays
In the words if my dad when us kids and cousins were clowning when we were supposed to be sleeping. “If I have to come up there someone’s gonna get a red hot heinie”! We still laugh about that night, 45 years later. Oh and we went to sleep cause we knew they would do it!
At a family funeral veiwing. My cousin sat down to eat a big plate of food, we were all farmers who worked all and do the chores to get to this viewing. The very moment he sat down his babysitter called his wife "Our kids are being bad, we gotta go." His face died, never even got a bite of food. I looked to my brother and said "If I got that call those boys would be getting a serious whopping witha switch when I got them home."
I was at a skating rink and there was a line in front of the concession, some preteen boy was acting a fool with filth streaming from his mouth, a lady in front of him turned around and slapped him, then the lady told off on herself to the owner. No cops were called it was a lesson that needed to be learned. Children don’t need to be allowed to act like criminals lest they become them. There is a line between acceptable discipline and abuse. I will say this lady was more a mom to that boy than his parents.
It’s so refreshing to hear him talking about spanking/whooping kids especially in this day & age!! You can definitely tell who got them & who didn’t 👀
Children know nothing about self-control other than that taught by parents and teachers.
Therefore, the mistakes children make in responding to life and their ups-and-downs, can only be accepted in good spirit by parents and teachers, since children have no understanding of what is driving them.
If children want something - they WANT something right away and wonder why they cannot have it. There is nothing more in the minds of children than this. Children see something they like - they want it.
It is cruel to tell children roughly: "No! You cannot have it," their entire system is insulted and assaulted. From earliest babyhood, the training process must be initiated by logic and reassurance - affirming the rights of children to feel secure within their environment. The sense of security of children should be developed by explaining the right way to express their wishes. UNCONDITIONAL LOVE - not irritation or anger, must choose the words which tell children why they cannot have what they want. Children will hear the message when given in unconditional love.
When delivered in anger, it provokes children and begins to take form as resentment - overt or hidden or a sense of deep seated frustration, reducing the natural sense of inner validity of children. Children need to possess this sense of personal validity and should not be subdued or destroyed.
It requires parents or teachers to point out, very clearly, that other people in the world also have their needs, their rights to their possessions, their desire for peace and pleasure. No one, not even children - or adult - has the right to offend another person in order to obtain their own satisfaction!
If another child hits your child and makes him cry, it is only natural for your child to want to fight back - he is programmed to defend himself against the other child.
It calls for parents and teachers to point out that "payback," revenge in conflict, only escalates, bringing more pain to children, and for this reason, "payback" is entirely pointless.
Better to LAUGH and turn away. And rather than allow the irritation and hurt in the mind to continue, better still to take the problem to CONSCIOUSNESS ("God") in prayer and ask for the hurt to be removed from the consciousness of children, and seek a means of reconciliation.
Children should also be taught to take time to understand that all children are equally children born of the Divine Moment. When children are spiritually receptive and can make this procedure of recognizing their spiritual kinship with all children and all living things, and the "rights of children equal with each other," into a habit, they will be given the greatest spiritual gift possible. In such a way, is the selfhood/personality (humanhood) weakened by the practical daily application of unconditional love, while the central "I"ness of children remains strong and self-confident.
Children should be taught the benefits of laughter.
Therefore, skilled and insightful teaching is absolutely necessary to steer children into an appreciation of the rights of all people - EQUAL WITH THEIR OWN RIGHTS.
This is the spiritual law which should dominate the home and the classroom. Any other law by which to judge circumstances is faulty and lacking in balance.
The best teaching will rely - not on the "because I say so" attitude - but on a systematic reference in every circumstance to "unconditional love" and the equal rights of all.
At the same time, children should not be indoctrinated in "self-sacrifice" since this type of caring must be willing and born only of the spiritual perceptions and goals of the individual.
Self-sacrifice is born of spiritual enlightenment, of a higher road to follow, of denial of the selfhood/personality (humanhood) to remove the barriers obstructing attunement with the universality of Consciousness ("God"). True enlightened Self-sacrifice brings a spiritual consciousness to the heights of joy. There is no sense of loss in any form.
100% facts! 😂👏 And all the teachers said *AMEN* 🙌
As someone who works with kids, I 100% agree with you 💯
You don't deserve to bear near children.
I work with kids. I can always tell which ones get spanked at home and which ones don't.
Snitches get Switches🤣😂
New Gen parents are so non-confrontational that they’ve conditioned themselves to believe they should not instill a sense of authority over their own children, and that parents are supposed to be friends.
That is straight up facts, I don't agree with this new parenting system that is going on at all
My Dad was a coal miner in Appalachia. I grew up in the fifties in a coal camp in Southwestern, Va. I got whippings, not spankings. I got whipped with a miner's belt by Dad and my Mom used a switch. I didn't like it at the time, but now I thank God for every whipping I got. It made me a better person. I learned respect for others, but also learned sometimes it takes a whipping given to mean and hateful people who are adults and hurting innocent people. Whippings made me stronger and also more caring. That's the thing people don't get. Growing up I never heard any of my friends disrespect an adult. They knew what respect meant. I do think it is what is wrong with today's young people.
Funny and true BUT I have seen the other side of this! For two years I had a chart and every time my son did certain wrong things he would go to time out or get a spanking etc. depending on what he did wrong. I was patient, not harsh, firm. The kid DIDN’T change. I am not kidding I did this 100% for 2 years TWO YEARS and he did not learn from it. Thank God we have a close, loving relationship because at age 10 I still have to put him in his place and give him consequences as well as goals and encouragement every single day. ADHD and other things are real and sometimes a kid who behaves badly doesn’t mean they have a negligent parent.
👏👏👏👏👏👏 you are an amazing mother! Never tell yourself you failed, because so long as your trying your hardest, you will always be the best mother for your kid❤
It's true, I have seen it. There have been good parents with strong-willed children. A strong-will just needs to be directed and disciplined like any other, but it requires the vigilance of a soldier.
Yep. My oldest literally LAUGHED during a spanking once. I promise, I'm giving a solid swat to the butt, it wasn't kitten gloves. I was like, "well, where do we escalate from here??" lol
My 2nd child also doesn't change his behavior easily, but we've gotten him to where the "pinch" and a threat of spanking/time out usually adjusts him.
(The pinch is a quick pinch/squeeze to his trapezoid muscle on his shoulder. It hurts, but it's not the end of the world. I use it if he tries ignoring me).
You might want to find out if he has Asperger's Syndrome (a form of autism). My older sister has it and so does my son. My son is way higher up on the spectrum so we didn't even realize until he was 39. It explained so much of why he was so hard-headed and yet tender-hearted at the same time. When we finally figured it out, my husband & I began working with him to help him in the areas he struggles with. And since he was almost 40, he gratefully worked with us.
True, but I still think parents are to blame at least 75% of the time. And imagine how terrible your kid would be if you didn't at least try to discipline him. He would be an out-of-control menace.
Growing up, my mom's friends were allowed to spank us. One time, i was over a friends house. They got in trouble, i laughed, i got spanked too.
I grew in the 70s and 80s my mum would give me a few whacks with what ever was close at hand wooden spoon, sandal etc. My dad never hit me or my brothers it was always mum . All the teachers at school carried thick leather straps do instill corporal punishment. A few whacks on the palm on a cold day taught you to not screw around any more. It didn't damage me for life.
Imagine rewarding disobedience and wondering why your kids fall away from truth
My kids each got One spanking.... not that i woukdnt have given them more if necessary, but they were quick learners and understood logic, so they didnt need a repeat after that first one. And "The Fonz" once explained, you dont have to go around beating people up all the time, but they need to Know that you Can and Will if necessary .
My dear friend was a gentle and understanding parent to her kids. She would have found even one spanking to be harsh and cruel. She and her husband are really nice people. All of their kids have done jail time, the oldest two have done prison time. Its like this- if you dont discipline your kids now Life will discipline them later.
One time my mom (a teacher) got mad at me (“I’m going to count to 3, and you better be over here” kind of mad) for using a lower-case i instead of an upper-case I. Can’t remember which grade, but it was sometime in Elementary School
I use that on my brother now😂
Best Crist bit yet😂😂😂
Spanking to get a child’s attention is acceptable. Causing pain and raising bloody welts is not. Discipline should never cross the line into abuse.
Yikes, I hope parents are not spanking kids like that. I only got spanked once as a kid, and I was thinking it would hurt a lot more than it did.
Good parents find that line very early and push their kids RIIIIIIGHT up to it but never over.
How do you spank without causing pain, lol. I feel like your version is probably not very effective…. 😂
No one said abuse your kids. Discipline has to be uncomfortable and sometimes painful in order to teach a lesson. It's all about knowing the child and adjusting the punishment to fit the crime as well as their personality/learning style. Some kids are extremely hard-headed (me and my son!) and need their ass kicked once in a while. Some kids are so tender-hearted you only need to look at them sternly. Some require the welts!
@@Mrs.T.Rusch25 exactly, lol. We had one daughter that you could look at sternly and she’d melt. Then we had one that would set her jaw and absolutely refuse to obey when she was a small child. I’m sure glad we left some marks, even though her daddy and I were in tears more than once. Now she’s a wonderful 21 year old who is SO glad we spanked her correctly and won those fights. She’s stubborn towards the right things now. God says that the bruise and welts (in discipline) cleanses away evil. He knows better than we do. 🥰
As a mother of 9, I agree. We took it to easy on our first one (dealing with big issues now as a teenager). The rest have been good old fashioned disciplined and they are much better.
This is so true. My uncle was upset in the car with my cousin and just reached into the back and smacked her, and then realized it was actually me he was hitting 😂 I am not traumatized.
When I was in grade school we moved to a different town for a few years. It was a small town, and we were outsiders. Because of this, I had one teacher that had it out for me. I’d get licks (spanked with a wooden paddle for the younger folks) on a regular basis for no reason at all other than the teacher not liking that we had moved to their town. Yet, despite that so called abuse, I’ve lived a happy successful life. It taught me that life isn’t always fair, and that’s a valuable lesson to know if you want to be happy and successful. Ironically and against his best efforts, he turned out to be a valuable teacher after all, lol.
@@Mountainhippiedudesad it didn't teach you how to stood up for yourselve and others. Blind obedience to authorities. This is what you teach people with spanking. This is not good long term
@@Lovecoffe506 oh believe me it did. That’s why I’m going to stand up to you right now. You would dare chastise someone because , when they were 8 years old, they were powerless against an adult who had complete power and control over them. You would dare to chastise that 8 year old boy because he took that horrible situation he was forced to endure and used it to achieve success in his life. Take good look at yourself! That abusive teacher that repeatedly hit that 8 year old boy? That is you. That is who you are. You want me to stand up for myself and others? I just did.
@@Mountainhippiedude I'm confused. I am against beating. Specially by strangers in schools. It looked to me that you were pro beatings after your first comment and replied to note that beatings does not teach important things. And now you write I am horrible because I want to beat little children... I was severely beaten myself. I am against it.
I was raised the same way. This is funny & true!!!
So accurate 🤣 my mom was a pro with swinging that pocketbook and hitting us in the backseat if she couldn't reach us didn't even wait for a red light or stop sign!! Single mom raised three respectful children on her own👍
Kids at Disney are the worst. After our 3rd trip, my husband said he wanted to start a business. He said parents don't want to spank their kids at Disney creating a bad memory. So his job would be to do it for you. 😂
Oh my goodness you are a good bit younger than I, but our lives sound almost the same especially where behavior and discipline come in! Gives a good laugh now they way you deliver it. Thank you for being open and sharing! Hilarious 😂
Having been a leader in my church youth group, I concur. I got spanked as a kid and I deserved every one of them. Kids these days don’t get any kind of discipline and it shows. They may not end up in jail but they’ll grow up to be the spoiled, entitled brats as adults.
It's pretty sad that as a spiritual leader to these children that you wish for their parents to physically assault them at home to make your job easier.
Firm and emotionally sensitive (authoritative) is the best parenting style. Decades of proper research shows us this.
You are probably describing permissive parenting, nothing more, nothing less.
@@asanokatana I never cited the author you're talking about. The concept of authoritative parenting is wider and more researched than just one person. I am challenging this toxic belief that bad behaving kids need to be physically beaten. Read through the comments here, it's disgusting what people think Jon Crist is advocating (of note I disagree with his points though he is saying it comically).
There may be, as you say, grounds for responsible physical discipline, but it would be very rare and an exception within the context of authoritative parenting.
@@asanokatana hmmmm a lot of assumptions there. Do you want to compare your training and education with mine? Without trying to boast I had been studying and training in science, medicine, psychiatry, and psychology since 1999. I am very familiar with baumrind's work. I work in the child and adolescent field and am the most senior clinician in both my work places in this space, where the are hundreds of others who also work.
To use your type criticism of me, your argument is like saying Freud did or said something, and therefore the whole of psychiatry supports that to this day.
Baumrind did her research in the 60s. She is not the authority. She used a lot of attachment theory, and many others in her work. Since then millions of hours of research has been done, my own included, and it is as clear as day that physical punishment is not good for children in any circumstances.
You clearly haven't seen the effects of it, otherwise you wouldn't be defending it by citing some researcher, no matter who they are, from the 60s.
To allow people to think they can justify what is often tantamount to child abuse is of grave concern.
It makes me wonder what you do and what level of training and education you have.
Please go and read the rest of the disgusting comments on this video and tell me that the awful loss of temper people are laughing off is ok. It's not. And MODERN research tells us that.
@@pastorofmuppets8834 not even close. A lot of the kids I’ve worked with don’t even get a stern talk. In case you didn’t read my entire comment, I said they don’t get ANY kind of discipline.
@@mcrchickenluvr yes I read that but I also read that you got spanked and deserved it. Inference is that you expect that to happen to the children to whom you are referring, and justifying your own experience with the fact that you behaved better than them.
Exactly! A family member of mine is a 2nd grade teacher and tries to address to the parents when a kid is acting up and they're like "no he's just fine, he's our precious baby angel" or something XD
Nothing is a better teacher than a little pain. I'd rather the sting of a spanking teach my children right from wrong than have much worse consequences teach them later on.
Whatever you views on spanking are, I think we can all agree that his spanking sound effect was hilarious! 😂
Honestly, I didn't spank my kids but I also didn't let them do whatever they wanted. They had to sit, or clean, or write me an essay, or they lost tech etc. if they acted up. And if we were in public and someone threw a fit while little, we were out! I've got 3 teens and they are all good kids.
Love this!
Lol that's cool :) I'm not anti-spank, but I believe it should be rare, quick, and done in private.
Thank you for your excellent example. It's so sad that people think that if you have a child that misbehaves they never were assaulted. You can remain in control and in charge as a parent without hitting your kids. This is what the actual research shows us.
Funny thing is,
I, as a kid, love to write essays, sit or clean.
Problem is I have exams now so I can't sit idle.
Oh how I wish to 😂
Btw my mother is not my authority, she is my guide and friend.
People have forgotten who a friend is.
Friends are those who stay with you during your toughest times and show they way from darkness to light.
I must really say make writing a habit. Don't make it like something bad.
My diary is perhaps the most precious thing I own
So you disciplined them without striking them. You did the right thing.
You described my childhood to a tee! There were 4 of us, we had to pull our own switches, strip the leaves, and if my mom didn't think we picked a good enough switch we had to start over again. We grew up to be crime-free, responsible, productive citizens. I spanked my son but I didn't use anything but my open hand. He's a responsible adult as well 👍
Never should have stopped.
Preach it!
wow--I can't find time to read ALL the comments.! I was spanked by my Dad and it hurt my feelings more than my butt!! It was like getting spanked by my superhero!! BTW I turned out pretty damn good. oh and just knowing I could be spanked by anyone allowed me to be the one the whole family wanted to take everywhere cuz I listened and was a joy to be around!!! I have to say that I never was beaten, slapped or anything done in anger. I always knew why and I learned to cowboy up and admit my mistakes at a very young age. GO John Christ!
Lol preach it!
Proverbs 23:13-14 “Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die. If you strike him with the rod you will save his soul from Sheol.”
I can relate to your childhood so much! This video was great lol
"Skyler would never!!!" is perfect
Personally knowing John's parents and immediate family for 30 years makes this even funnier to me!!
What a hoot John is!!
oh my gosh this is so accurate. I so appreciate this!! Snitches get switches! LOL
“I got woken up to be spanked” that right there 😂
It's about teaching consequences. Don't conflate spankings with beatings. We've recently dropped spankings because they've stopped being effective except as the last extreme. We've resorted to making our kids do planks. No matter what anyone says, I will always feel that it's more human and less cruel to take care of the consequence fast, like ripping off a band-aid. Give the kids a spanking (or whatever works best) and get it over with so they can be clean with the house and move on with life.
Every single word of it applied to my parents and myself when i had youngins.
I've gone through different phases with mine, but physical discipline does work for us... no one should be abusing their kids, but a small spanking is not that big of a deal. WILLFUL DISOBEDIENCE is really where they should get a spanking, because that can escalate quickly in a dangerous situation. My friend has kids who never get spankings, and she can't control them when we're out. Multiple times I've had to catch them after they've run into the road -- she's calling for them to stop and they dont listen at all. Meanwhile mine know exactly what they should do, and almost never meltdown in public.
I feel like the same people saying kids should never be spanked are also the ones who complain about kids being out of control in public spaces.
And some spankings should hurt -- kids could LITERALLY DIE if they don't listen in a critical situation. A spanking will not hurt them as much as getting hit by a truck.
Moreover, that's just life... you can love & respect your child, and respect their emotions and autonomy, while still teaching them that the world doesnt revolve around them and actions do often have consequences.
I always choose non-physical discipline first, but there are certain lines and they know where those lines are.
Grew up with 8 brothers and sisters all homeschooled driven around in the family 15 passenger ford van. And when he talked about the parents smacking behind and a friend catching some ,”family” fire I freaking lost it. Took me back 20 darn years 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣💀😝. And they are all more then welcome and happy to come to any family event to this day !!
Growing up, me and my siblings named the whooping belts. We all feared one belt in particular called "Papa smerf"
It was a beautiful, thick, baby blue belt... Let's just say I look at the smerfs movies differently now when papa is on stage.
LOUDER please for the people on the “gentle parenting” bandwagon.
We also got the group spankings if mom and dad were not certain who was guilty. And the “eat the food we made or go hungry.” They put our leftovers in the fridge and we had to eat it cold for breakfast the next day or go hungry. I choked down some hideous vegetable once at the dinner table and promptly vomited. They let that one slide. If you could keep it down, it was yours. If it came back up at the table, you got a pass. All 10 of us had dinner at the table every night, accompanied by the teaching of table manners. Cause like dad said, “you never know…you might be invited to eat with the President someday.” None of us ever were but we would have been great guests if we had.
I remember in school if you got in trouble the teacher would say I can call your parents or you take these 3 licks, which one you think we chose.
Refreshingly honest that he uses the word "hit."
Wait...spanking has been extinct? Naw I'm joking, I was spanked as a kid and it kills me to see my younger siblings get by with a lot
Dang I feel bad for your siblings
Agree
Same
Universal experience of the oldest 💀💀
Oldest siblings have it the strictest.
no pain - no gain funny how the warmed seat makes the kid be sweet
As a teacher and mom I approve this
Message.
I don't play either. My sister used to threaten my nieces and nephew with "I'm gonna call Auntie" when they wouldn't behave, and they straightened up. I was shocked that she did that. They knew Auntie loved them, but Auntie didn't play with bad kids. Still don't.
My brother and I after we grew up every time we would get together we would talk about all the times we got in trouble and got spanked and beat and we would laugh so hard til we cried 😂 Ah, those were the good 'ol days 😂
Disturbing, like wives in middle east all gathering around after their marriage to have a great laugh about all the times their husbands disciplined them with beating and laughing until their sides spilt just who is a second class citizen in scenario changed but of course all of us always are when young no matter culture since the world is misopaedic to it's core.
@@Mr.Goodkat Go back to playing your videogames, leave the mature discussions to the adults.
@@IWillHumbleMyself Not engaging the argument in favour of cheap insults or being dismissive or condescending is not a cool move but a douchebag one.
@@IWillHumbleMyself If "mature discussions" involve losing your self control to the point of enacting violence against the only person you've been entrusted to protect, exposing children to pain and violence and humiliation in the hopes of encouraging healthy emotional development and good behaviour, then I want to be banished from them, sounds like insanity to me.
@@Mr.Goodkat You can't be a social justice warrior and type words on a keyboard pretending to be an expert on something that you clearly know nothing about 😂 It's ludicrous. You should just stick to what you know -- videogames.
Instilling Fear into the children creates Adults in denial of the pain they harbor inside.
Believe the teacher and buy the good crayons
I am so glad my parents spanked me when I was growing up. I deserved each and every spanking I got, and it helped to teach me that my actions have consequences. It taught me respect. I actually thanked my parents for doing it once I grew up.
My parents did an amazing job raising us kids. All 4 of us went to college. All 3 of us girls are happily married. My brother is an orthodontist. We are all well-adjusted and doing very well in life. And being spanked was a contributing factor to that. My husband was also spanked, and he told me that it was the only thing that worked with him 😂. As an introvert he enjoyed time out and being sent to his room. He is extremely stubborn and strong willed. He said a spanking is the only thing that got his attention. It is the only thing that was able to teach him his actions have consequences.
Watched this twice. 😂 He's not wrong.
As a teacher, I second all of this. My30 year old son thanked me for spanking him!
Teachers tell me how good my kids are. I'm like well you don't see them at home. 😂😂😂
My grandparents and father were the only ones to spank me in my family. My grandfather used a leather belt. My mom was more stop or I'll say stop again. But never "tell me your feelings, you're valued" 😂
I think parenting depends on child. Some kids are rowdy and stubborn, may need to be yelled at but some kids are gentle. I don’t want to ever do corporal punishment but I also don’t want to be too loose
I can’t imagine what teachers go through. My grandfather taught from the late 50s to early 90s then substituted from the mid 90s until 2009. I miss that guy. Tons of good stories. Back when kids were scared of their teachers. Now it’s the other way around.
The fear of a spanking at school and more so at home was enough for me to never want to go rogue.
I freaking love this 🤣😂 hysterical and so honest! This took balls
"He is today! If he wants a ride home, he's in our family." Buffff 😂😅 I was that kid lmao.
Lack of discipline is why the generation of kids and young adults are running wild
I've seen an 8 year old yell at his parents and they just took it. The kid was an absolute monster, and they never pushed back. The dad even told us "we're considering taking him to a therapist, because we don't know what's wrong"
Do more complete shows plz I love watching
I know this is just a comedy show buttttt hot take, not every child needs to be spanked. I’ll admit there were moments where I did stupid things as a child but in those moments, what I needed was not a butt whooping but a clear explanation for why it was wrong and what I should do instead. Many parents let their anger get to them and excuse violence as discipline. Spanking isn’t necessary when your child doesn’t understand why it’s wrong what they’re doing and if they’re willing to listen. Personally, I’m someone who will listen the first time, and I think being strict is only beneficial when kids are being obstinate. Imagine getting hit all the time as a fairly innocent, gentle and honestly goody-two-shoes little girl. It is incredibly confusing. Spanking doesn’t makes sense for kids who aren’t obstinate. I’m only saying this because I have a lot of trauma surrounding this issue and I 100% think I would’ve turned out fine, if not better had I not been hit as often as I did.