I'm not out yet, but most of my friends are, and I HATE when I see this happen to them😡 Like we literally side-eye before having to act unbothered by it 😒
@@HangryRat dad probably worries because you're too young to be concerned with sexuality.....your dad is probably just doing his job, which is to love and protect you. The most precious thing in his life.
I just asked my girlfriend, who is trans, if she wants me to tell friends and family she is. She said yes, so I have. It’s her life, her choice and, more importantly, her story to tell. ❤️👊🏾
Imagine introducing your sister as “Hi this is my sister and she’s cis” 💀 Who cares if they’re trans or cis until if one of us will not date with them.
Cis is a reimagined term used to essentially say "natural" or "genuine" woman. Nobody who isn't trans uses such a dumb term to describe people. I have a real term, it'd basically be "man/woman" or "mentally deranged man/woman"
@@Yazzy560 “I know your parents just died but the world’s still spinning” Sure, that’s a very different and more extreme situation, but it’s the same sentiment 😭😭
@@ItsdatrealcassieIf God designed us then God made us trans and if God didn't want trans people to have surgeries, then God wouldn't have given doctors the idea of how to perform them. Hope this helps ✨
@@Itsdatrealcassie Did God make people to be murderers? To be thieves or criminals? Yes, I’m sure it’s fine to not try to change them because “that’s how god made them” 🥱🥱
fighting the urge to send this to my mom. always talking about how shes telling people im trans to bolster herself as an ally. all it does is give me a list of people i refuse to meet now.
@@Yazzy560its often unsafe to out someone to people they dont know bc you dont know if they will treat you badly bc of it. its also just a matter of respect its their personal business to tell others about not you
My sister used to do that to me dawg, frfr, she'd go "oh this is my little brother" "hi im-" "he's trans" JDJEKKEC i asked her to stop staying that cause nobody's business but ours unless I'm sleeping with the person lol, she just didn't realize. Mistakes that 100% come from not understanding entirely. That was years ago now, my sister would never do that to me now. She's always accepted me, just didn't know how to show it at first (:
I still remember the day my friend came out to me. I asked him if he wants me to use he/him and his new name when we're next to my mom and he wasn't sure about it. We know each other for 13 years and I still respect his wish 💗
Because they are predominantly biological women. And biological women do not have to talk about this, since they are not males (although some cis women are intersex men who are not biological women). And what's wrong with being special/being transgender. The only thing I agree with is that it is dangerous to speak up right away and trans people themselves must decide when to disclose information.
Because they are predominantly biological women. And biological women do not have to talk about this, since they are not males (although some cis women are intersex males who are not biological women). And what's wrong with being special/being transgender. The only thing I agree with is that it is dangerous to speak up right away and trans people themselves must decide when to disclose information.
BROO THIS HAPPENED TO ME So basically I’m a high school freshman and I was walking to 1st period with my friends plus this mutual friend I was yet to meet, so this friend, Friend A, was swooning over some boy she had a crush on, and she was swooning pretty hard, so I simply said, “You guys are boy crazy.” And then Friend A responded LOUDLY for EVERYONE to hear, “You can’t be talking (my name) because you like (p-word)! And then everyone laughed, including the mutual friend, and probably the first thing that that person knew about me was that I was gay because of that 😭
Fr thooo, I had this friend and he literally says to a bunch of older HOMOPHOBIC kids “this is my friend, SHE changed HER pronouns.” Like how are you going to out me and NOT USE THE CORRECT PRONOUNS EITHER?!?!? Needless to say, we aren’t friends anymore lmao
I hate that people do this! In a time where people are ostracized or even killed for being trans, outing someone like this can put them in real danger.
@@veilbreak5867 first of all, I’m not obligated to tell strangers that I’m trans. That’s none of their business. Let alone random men who are hitting on me. That’s literally dangerous af. F “traumatizing” I could literally lose my life. I’m ONLY obligated to tell men I’m trans that I’m interested in mutually dating or potentially being intimate with 🤦🏿♀️🙄 I was not interested in all the men that she was angry at for wanting me. I was only interested in one ( The Finest One ) - AND I told him I was trans n was still interested in dating me. That’s why she was really mad. You should try critical thinking more…
@@Zenith333E it’s crazy how people are worried about their egos more than a trans person’s life. “You need to tell them you’re trans!!1!1!” Not unless it gets serious 🙄
@@jessicachateau2565 being trans is not a choice it is who you are and it is very sensitive information just like being gay can be very sensitive information depending on where you are and who you're talking to
@@skye2011 I understand but yes, it’s still a choice. Just like it’s a choice who you tell your personal information to. Maybe people should have discernment and not share info they don’t want shared.
@@jessicachateau2565uh.. have you ever got an actual person you could count on? it sounds like everyone in your life is just not the greatest nor most reliable
@Hey_uni-cornz they are a man. I see you're just on this profile. OBSSED with trans people. Go outside. Touch grass. Breathe air. Just stop with the fucking echo chamber bullshit.
So true, i'm a lesbian, and my mother found out yesterday and inmediately told my father, and I was indeed not ready to come out. They told i was exagerating and that It wast that deep, but It hurted a lot really
FR like when I went to my friend’s house he introduced me to his parents like “this is my friend Ari, he’s trans by the way” KNOWING his parents were transphobic ;-;
I'm ftm and some cis people do NOT understand that even after transitioning, coming out as trans to new people is often a process and can still be hard. ALSO some of my cos friends make it my entire personality even though I'm trying to go stealth. Some people are really loud about it (IN A NICE WAY) whereas others don't like when it is a defining feature for them. Anyway I don't really know where I was going with this but thanks for reading if you got this far lol
Bruh same here, in a few friend groups I make some private jokes because there's other trans people in it but I've needed to tell multiple people that it's not okay to go up to someone and ask them if they're trans, and someone else has tried to loudly tell me I'm not a straight man because I'm trans. I don't know how it doesn't occur to cis people that outing someone or asking them publicly or privately about gender identity isn't ok- like it's not your information to give or know??
I feel weird telling people I’m trans because I’m in 8th grade and it’s so hard to tell if my classmates will start a rumor about me and bully me or if they’re actually cool and treat me the same as everyone else
Transphobic people: OMG stop make being trans your whole personality Also transphobic people: You don’t want people to introduce you as trans? Well maybe you shouldn’t have told them in the first place! Like bro pick a lane do you want it to be our whole personality or not 💀💀💀
My mom outed me to the rest of my family before I was ready 😭 to be fair my whole family is super accepting and I’m REALY lucky for that, but I like JUST came out to my parents and my siblings. And even then I think it was my mom who told my siblings 💀💀 Legit in one day all of my siblings periodically one by one entered my room and congratulated me on coming out as enby, it was kinda jarring. But also really nice. I definitely would have liked to keep it between me and my mom at first for a little while looking back though.
@Billy-rc7xgI think it more so comes down to wanting to be perceived as a boy Personally I'm a gender non-conforming trans masc person, so I want to be perceived as ambiguous (slightly more on the pretty boy side) no matter whether I'm wearing a dress one day or jeans and a masc jacket the next. Now, if someone then proceeded to out me as a trans masc person or referred to me by afab pronouns, then whoever I'm being outed to might now perceive me as a femme person despite my identity. Ofc, it's not the same situation as what the original commenter said (my heart goes out to them for that genuinely, having someone that "corrects" others when you want to be perceived the other way sucks) but hopefully it gives some insight!
@Billy-rc7xggender stereotypes are being reenforced more than ever before.... Absurd claims like: "I knew I was really a girl, cos I liked dolls and trying on dresses" .......like every little boy Ive ever met has. We've regressed 100 years
Me when I’m sitting at a table with 7 people who know me as 3 different names and they all start debating my gender cause one of them couldn’t keep their mouth shut 😍
What about danger to women ? Y'all forgetting about basic physics and biology? Even small things like what if someone thought a trans was a female and spoke to them about needing help for female problems, only to realize this person has no idea what they are talking about ? Omg imagine if it was a little girl , that's scary .
This happened to me in the worst way last week. A distant cousin introduced me to their husband as "the one who used to be [deadname]" when i say my heart dropped 😭
Me: *comes out to my mom* Mom: "this is (chosen name), my son 😌" Her bf of one month: *visible confusion* (he's met me before) Also keep in mind, i told her like literally ten minutes before her boyfriend came over 😭
And she didn’t out you I can barely remember to call my friend th right name after a month and your mom can remember in 10 minutes I’m trying to get better at it I feel really bad
@@ACTUALBillyKidZZZ I'm sure you'll get better with time, it's tricky getting used to a new name, my brother still calls me by my deadname a lot on accident lol (Also my comment wasn't meant to be a negative thing about my mom, just awkward for me and her boyfriend 😅)
My friend, who is currently out of the country, came out to be trans, and only the girls knew since she thought we would be more accepting of her, since we obviously went to school almost all our lives but when the boys found out, they made fun of her to the point she couldn't take it anymore, we would go through huge fights with the boys so she could earn her respect. Her parents took her out from school and she now does online schooling, we all are still in contact with each other including some boys who knew how to mind there own damn business, but she says she forgives them all because we were young that time and weren't used to this type of stuff, but now we all seemed to grow up and respect each other. I got so pissed when they used to do that, but now its normal and we hang out when (Friends name) used to have the time.😊😊❤
One of my friends introduced me to their friend like this: (My friend): "HEY! Meet *dead name*- wait no *Old preferred name*? No that's not right... *Different old preferred name*? Akai? Wait that's your friend... WAIT NO THAT'S YOU? Right?!" (Their friend): What's your name...? (Me): Akai... XD Then we explained to them my pronouns, gender identity... Yeah... Cis ppl are fun... >
Okay but if you're already out with most people and dressing as a woman why is it wrong to tell others? Same thing with putting in your dating profils so people know.
WE should be the ones opening up about it to anyone WE feel comfortable with , especially when unhappily there are still plenty lot of transphobes around . Also we don't see why our gender identity should matter in this kind of introductions . Dating is a completely different subject since it involves our bodies and not everyone is able to go through surgery Hope I answered your questions well !! Wish u a nice day 🫶
wait i'm new to this LGBTQ+ i'm not part of it but i want to understand does that mean you were a male at birth but you transitioned into a female i don't mean for it to sound mean or rude i just want to know
Yep, and it’s alright to ask questions if you don’t know something, if someone is rude about you asking a question in a respectful manner they’re just a bad person
Scotty: “i’m from the south” Natalie: “SHE RUNS THE SOUTH!” Btw she could she most def got Goddess energy my experience with people down south they are kind and homing but I suppose it depends on what part your in. The food is very fulfilling toooo like omg I know this has nothing to do with the actual scene but you gotta at least stop by a gas station for chicken on the stick 🥺😘✊🏽
This happens to me all the time but with being autistic, like people I know will make jokes about it or tell people I have it and it’s so annoying to have the agency to self disclose taken away. It would be cool to live in a world where being trans and being autistic didn’t mean being mistreated by many people, but that’s not the world we live in so the right to choose who and who not to tell is still very important.
Ngl I feel like you should ask before you tell or like just say for example: “this is my sister” without the trans part because like technically they are a woman now😭
@@Viincemp3 true I get it but the way I see it. It’s a faster way of knowing who’s really gonna be your friend or not like straight to the point you fuck with me or not up to you.
@@manny123957 i wish it weren’t the case but unfortunately trans women are at a horrifyingly high risk of experiencing violence and harassment for simply existing. it’s not like something will happen every time or even often, but you can’t always know people’s intentions so the risk will always be there. there’s nuance of course and maybe i’m too paranoid and untrusting due to past experiences but that’s why i said potentially. i’d love to be as optimistic as you but it can really be scary out there. hate often doesn’t care about beauty…
Some people *never* bring it up, especially if they're passing. It also should depend to the actual person themselves, for several reasons, one of which is outing people can put someones life or quality of life at risk
Isnt the whole thing with being trans that you dont want everyone to know instantaneously whats in your pants??? As if its anyone's business regardless. Let alone someone elses business to be telling! Like of alllll my friends the last one's genitals id be discussing with strangers is my trans friends'!!
@@aleiaalvarez7390 Yeah you're so right! We should out lgbt people to a society that has massacred older generations for thinking that it was okay to be out to everyone 💀
@@Blepinbeepyourbloop It’s not that goofy. It’s religion. Some people literally live by those words in the book. But in my opinion men could have altered that book multiple times. So at this point love and support all gods children
that's not the point?? the problem is that you shouldn't go telling that type of stuff around without consent. trans people are oppressed, you know? people could try to beat her up for it
There is literally no reason for a complete stranger to know that you're trans if they are a healthcare provider or someone you're romantically interested in those are important for them to know but other than that there is literally no reason cuz most of the time disrespectful people start asking what's in your pants 24/7 and ain't no way is that comfortable for any person on a day-to-day basis
Your friend also telling people without your permission isn’t cute either! Trans people don’t have to let people now. Because then people will be weird or disrespectful about it. They should only tell someone if they feel safe or are dating someone.
there's people out there getting harassed for being trans. she should only let people know if she feels safe enough to do so. that should NEVER happen without her permission
I was always introduced as the " bi friend " ... girls were always like " don't get a crush on me , hahaha " and boy were like " you do threes*omes then ? " I always answered with straight out mandarin and cut out the friends that introduced me like that.
I'm not out yet, but most of my friends are, and I HATE when I see this happen to them😡 Like we literally side-eye before having to act unbothered by it 😒
Literally because why even say that 😭 they make it sound like being trans is a job or something
Most of your friends are trans?
How is that even possible when it only affects The tiniest minority.
The odds are impossible.
REAL and W pfp
@@HangryRat dad probably worries because you're too young to be concerned with sexuality.....your dad is probably just doing his job, which is to love and protect you. The most precious thing in his life.
I take it family and friends don’t know your username for YT? If so, you’re out now 😂!!
I just asked my girlfriend, who is trans, if she wants me to tell friends and family she is. She said yes, so I have. It’s her life, her choice and, more importantly, her story to tell. ❤️👊🏾
How lovely, that warms my heart so much 💗
Are you bi?
@@Nesa_lewis Who? I presume the original commenter, not to be nosy 🙂
@@Nesa_lewis are you a troll? Either way, the answer is irrelevant in the grand scheme of things. 😉
@@Nesa_lewis what do you care?
That glare was personal😭💀
“this is [deadname], but she goes by [name], she’s a trans boy”
WHY IS MY GRANDPA LIKE THIS 😭
edit: y’all i told him a decade ago
Look at the bright side, at least he is kind of accepting even if he doesn't seems to get it completely😔
He’s in the right spirit at least? Help the old man a little
@@mnslittleeverything6361fr
i mean, it’s better than them refusing to use it at all. my parents would straight up not.
Eh he’s got the spirit 🤷♀️
My parents out me to everyone in a really unsafe area. I've given up trying to control it.
I'm so sorry, Godbless you I'm praying for your safety 🙏
You should go no contact
@@zainabzolita8436 yea she should get disown and get no inheritance
Sorry 😢
Unsafe?😂😂these comments have been hilarious there is actually people in our world who think like you??
Imagine introducing your sister as “Hi this is my sister and she’s cis” 💀 Who cares if they’re trans or cis until if one of us will not date with them.
Cis is a reimagined term used to essentially say "natural" or "genuine" woman. Nobody who isn't trans uses such a dumb term to describe people. I have a real term, it'd basically be "man/woman" or "mentally deranged man/woman"
EXACTLY. This comment needs to be pinned in my opinion.
Ong
If no one cares why are you making it a big deal that they're saying they're trans?
@@kuroneko334cause it's like saying someone has erectile dysfunction
MY FAMILY DOES THAT SHIT LIKE I'M BEING INTRODUCED TO SOMEONE NEW AND THEY BE ADDIN "She's a girl she just thinks she's a boy" AND IT BE ANNOYING ASF
@@Yazzy560do that somewhere where it actually makes sense you dunce
That must be so annoying-
@@Popcorn4free it is 😭
@@Yazzy560 “I know your parents just died but the world’s still spinning”
Sure, that’s a very different and more extreme situation, but it’s the same sentiment 😭😭
@@RAKU_AMETHYST I'm sry your family does that-
Like if they wanna tell ppl they r trans then let THEM do it?? ESPECIALLY when you’re JUST meeting people and you DONT KNOW THEM??? Hell naw
Welll then don't be it it's confusion to kids and people just be what GOD made u tbh
@@Itsdatrealcassie being trans isn't confusing to anyone, it's actually quite simple. You just want a reason to be a transphobe
@@ItsdatrealcassieIf God designed us then God made us trans and if God didn't want trans people to have surgeries, then God wouldn't have given doctors the idea of how to perform them. Hope this helps ✨
@@ItsdatrealcassieOnly one confused is you and your brain-dead nonsense.
@@Itsdatrealcassie Did God make people to be murderers? To be thieves or criminals? Yes, I’m sure it’s fine to not try to change them because “that’s how god made them” 🥱🥱
fighting the urge to send this to my mom. always talking about how shes telling people im trans to bolster herself as an ally. all it does is give me a list of people i refuse to meet now.
Why is that such a problem
@@Yazzy560its often unsafe to out someone to people they dont know bc you dont know if they will treat you badly bc of it. its also just a matter of respect its their personal business to tell others about not you
@@Yazzy560 trump is prez that is going to be a problem
@@zainabzolita8436what
My sister used to do that to me dawg, frfr, she'd go "oh this is my little brother" "hi im-" "he's trans" JDJEKKEC i asked her to stop staying that cause nobody's business but ours unless I'm sleeping with the person lol, she just didn't realize. Mistakes that 100% come from not understanding entirely. That was years ago now, my sister would never do that to me now. She's always accepted me, just didn't know how to show it at first (:
I still remember the day my friend came out to me. I asked him if he wants me to use he/him and his new name when we're next to my mom and he wasn't sure about it. We know each other for 13 years and I still respect his wish 💗
best response to a friend coming out, props to you for that!
U r awesome ❤
“This is my friend and they’re cis” doesn’t make sense so why would they have to say you’re trans 🥲
righttt
Because people have the right to fucking know that you are fucking mentally unstable.
@@LunaFlame no they don't? Unless they're a romantic partner then they have no need to know that information
Because they are predominantly biological women. And biological women do not have to talk about this, since they are not males (although some cis women are intersex men who are not biological women). And what's wrong with being special/being transgender. The only thing I agree with is that it is dangerous to speak up right away and trans people themselves must decide when to disclose information.
Because they are predominantly biological women. And biological women do not have to talk about this, since they are not males (although some cis women are intersex males who are not biological women). And what's wrong with being special/being transgender. The only thing I agree with is that it is dangerous to speak up right away and trans people themselves must decide when to disclose information.
Like fr YOU DO NKT FINNA BE TELLUN THEM 🙏🙏🙏
"you do not finna be tellin them"
U just saying what she said again? Like that don't make sense if you don't like the comment then just don't bother it
Uh... huh?
Does it matter?
Girl what…
My dyslexic ass read it as trains at first 😭
Me too 😂
"She's TRAINS"
"🚂🚂🚂🚂🚂🚂"
Me when I'm trains
BROO THIS HAPPENED TO ME
So basically I’m a high school freshman and I was walking to 1st period with my friends plus this mutual friend I was yet to meet, so this friend, Friend A, was swooning over some boy she had a crush on, and she was swooning pretty hard, so I simply said, “You guys are boy crazy.” And then Friend A responded LOUDLY for EVERYONE to hear, “You can’t be talking (my name) because you like (p-word)! And then everyone laughed, including the mutual friend, and probably the first thing that that person knew about me was that I was gay because of that 😭
And then people got the nerve to say "Oh yall make it your entire personality"
Glad he did (•_•)
I'm sorry that happened to you. Best thing to do is talk to them and anyone else in the future and let them know your comfort level.
@@chrisclark7805thanks and I’m ok, it was kinda funny but I also felt a little bit uncomfortable, so I’ll make sure to let them know that!!
@@Itsdatrealcassiewdym by that?
FR Im a lesbian girl and my friend is always like "This is my bestie and shes lesbian!" being lesbian isnt my whole personality😭
Fr thooo, I had this friend and he literally says to a bunch of older HOMOPHOBIC kids “this is my friend, SHE changed HER pronouns.” Like how are you going to out me and NOT USE THE CORRECT PRONOUNS EITHER?!?!? Needless to say, we aren’t friends anymore lmao
I hate that people do this! In a time where people are ostracized or even killed for being trans, outing someone like this can put them in real danger.
Oh, shut up. No one is being murdered for pretending to be the opposite sex.
@@JigloSmoothrs omg
God I fuckin felt that in my entire being😤
Sooo true an ex best friend outed me twice because she wanted the guys that were ATTEMPTING to court me 🙄
So you hadn't told the boys yourself?... That's not good. That's messing with their heads and could be traumatising.
@@veilbreak5867 first of all, I’m not obligated to tell strangers that I’m trans. That’s none of their business. Let alone random men who are hitting on me. That’s literally dangerous af. F “traumatizing” I could literally lose my life.
I’m ONLY obligated to tell men I’m trans that I’m interested in mutually dating or potentially being intimate with 🤦🏿♀️🙄
I was not interested in all the men that she was angry at for wanting me. I was only interested in one ( The Finest One ) - AND I told him I was trans n was still interested in dating me.
That’s why she was really mad. You should try critical thinking more…
Wtf @@veilbreak5867
I'm glad you dumped her ass. Shitty friend behavior will not be tolerated here
@@Zenith333E it’s crazy how people are worried about their egos more than a trans person’s life. “You need to tell them you’re trans!!1!1!” Not unless it gets serious 🙄
Thats just blatantly putting them in a situation thats uncomfortable but could be dangerous. Like wtf....
No, they put themselves there. No one made that decision for them but them.
@@jessicachateau2565No one "makes the decision" to have dysphoria. Literally no trans person wants this shit. Perish.
@@jessicachateau2565 being trans is not a choice it is who you are and it is very sensitive information just like being gay can be very sensitive information depending on where you are and who you're talking to
@@skye2011 I understand but yes, it’s still a choice. Just like it’s a choice who you tell your personal information to. Maybe people should have discernment and not share info they don’t want shared.
@@jessicachateau2565uh.. have you ever got an actual person you could count on? it sounds like everyone in your life is just not the greatest nor most reliable
The side eye got me 🎉
I don’t look like a trans man but when my friends tell people I get so HAHSHDHJSJWIDYHDNSMWKKW
I thought you said I get so hard 😨
Sigh why just be a man
@@Itsdatrealcassie u dumb asl 😂 a trans man is from woman to man
real and sorry that happens to you
@Hey_uni-cornz they are a man. I see you're just on this profile. OBSSED with trans people. Go outside. Touch grass. Breathe air. Just stop with the fucking echo chamber bullshit.
Off topic, that side eye was priceless 😭
So true, i'm a lesbian, and my mother found out yesterday and inmediately told my father, and I was indeed not ready to come out. They told i was exagerating and that It wast that deep, but It hurted a lot really
omg your so pretty 😭😭
FR like when I went to my friend’s house he introduced me to his parents like “this is my friend Ari, he’s trans by the way” KNOWING his parents were transphobic ;-;
I'm ftm and some cis people do NOT understand that even after transitioning, coming out as trans to new people is often a process and can still be hard. ALSO some of my cos friends make it my entire personality even though I'm trying to go stealth. Some people are really loud about it (IN A NICE WAY) whereas others don't like when it is a defining feature for them. Anyway I don't really know where I was going with this but thanks for reading if you got this far lol
Bruh same here, in a few friend groups I make some private jokes because there's other trans people in it but I've needed to tell multiple people that it's not okay to go up to someone and ask them if they're trans, and someone else has tried to loudly tell me I'm not a straight man because I'm trans. I don't know how it doesn't occur to cis people that outing someone or asking them publicly or privately about gender identity isn't ok- like it's not your information to give or know??
Every time my dad ALWAYS has to tell people im lesbian whenever im introducing myself
Who says something like that? Im a lil socially inept but I'd never introduce my friend by their medical history.
My cousins did the same thing. I don't really know why they did it either.
Exactly. My child is non binary trans male, but that is not how I introduce them. I just say this is my child [name] and leave it at that
Real like imagine someone introducing me and going “oh and they have epilepsy” like NO ONE DOES THAT 💀💀💀
My family does this😭 its honesty scary because some people in my family just shouldn't be told for my safety
I hate it when ppl spill my beans when literally nobody asked them to. Why do they gotta know???
SHES ALSO BEAUTIFUL
REAL!! ^_^
I'm trans too AAAAAAA
That hair is gorgeous
I feel weird telling people I’m trans because I’m in 8th grade and it’s so hard to tell if my classmates will start a rumor about me and bully me or if they’re actually cool and treat me the same as everyone else
TRUEEEE we’re in the same boat here
No but why are you actually one of the prettiest people I’ve ever seen❤
Transphobic people: OMG stop make being trans your whole personality
Also transphobic people: You don’t want people to introduce you as trans? Well maybe you shouldn’t have told them in the first place!
Like bro pick a lane do you want it to be our whole personality or not 💀💀💀
As a trans guy from the south, I see this video as an absolute win
Big, big difference. People love to tell your business.
This Happened With Me And My "Mom" Recently. She Outed Me To My Grandma. And Yes, I'm Still Mad At Her Fur (For) That. 🖤🐾
I hate when people out me as a atheist. Maybe it's not an issue but i live among intolerant conservative muslims, so it is a problem
me too omg, im sick of my family flaming me for it
okay you’re like really pretty omg
My mom outed me to the rest of my family before I was ready 😭 to be fair my whole family is super accepting and I’m REALY lucky for that, but I like JUST came out to my parents and my siblings. And even then I think it was my mom who told my siblings 💀💀
Legit in one day all of my siblings periodically one by one entered my room and congratulated me on coming out as enby, it was kinda jarring. But also really nice. I definitely would have liked to keep it between me and my mom at first for a little while looking back though.
Girl you are so pretty!!
I hate when my grandma says "Yeah this is my grand DAUGHTER SHE is my youngest" LIKE BRUH I WANT TO LOOK LIKE A BOY AND BE A BOY
@Billy-rc7xgI think it more so comes down to wanting to be perceived as a boy
Personally I'm a gender non-conforming trans masc person, so I want to be perceived as ambiguous (slightly more on the pretty boy side) no matter whether I'm wearing a dress one day or jeans and a masc jacket the next. Now, if someone then proceeded to out me as a trans masc person or referred to me by afab pronouns, then whoever I'm being outed to might now perceive me as a femme person despite my identity. Ofc, it's not the same situation as what the original commenter said (my heart goes out to them for that genuinely, having someone that "corrects" others when you want to be perceived the other way sucks) but hopefully it gives some insight!
@@THE_C0Y ok? Tell them then, you can't feel bad for yourself when you have the option to change it, if you don't wanna then that's your problem
@@LilTortilla2121it's dangerous to come out
@Billy-rc7xggender stereotypes are being reenforced more than ever before.... Absurd claims like:
"I knew I was really a girl, cos I liked dolls and trying on dresses" .......like every little boy Ive ever met has.
We've regressed 100 years
@@LilTortilla2121 you don’t know how their home life is. They could be kicked out for being trans.
I think you mean she’s GORGEOUS! I understand the pain
Me when I’m sitting at a table with 7 people who know me as 3 different names and they all start debating my gender cause one of them couldn’t keep their mouth shut 😍
That was literally my fear when a girl from friend group 2 who knows I’m trans was hanging out with us in friend group 1 who doesn’t know 💀
Ty darling we need more of you here
Gurl I would’ve never guessed
Girl ur so pretty tho >_
some people don’t realize the danger you out someone in by doing that
What about danger to women ? Y'all forgetting about basic physics and biology? Even small things like what if someone thought a trans was a female and spoke to them about needing help for female problems, only to realize this person has no idea what they are talking about ? Omg imagine if it was a little girl , that's scary .
This happened to me in the worst way last week. A distant cousin introduced me to their husband as "the one who used to be [deadname]" when i say my heart dropped 😭
Me: *comes out to my mom*
Mom: "this is (chosen name), my son 😌"
Her bf of one month: *visible confusion* (he's met me before)
Also keep in mind, i told her like literally ten minutes before her boyfriend came over 😭
And she didn’t out you
I can barely remember to call my friend th right name after a month and your mom can remember in 10 minutes
I’m trying to get better at it I feel really bad
@@ACTUALBillyKidZZZ I'm sure you'll get better with time, it's tricky getting used to a new name, my brother still calls me by my deadname a lot on accident lol
(Also my comment wasn't meant to be a negative thing about my mom, just awkward for me and her boyfriend 😅)
@ shit I forgot a part 💀💀💀 I’ll edit my comment
@@ACTUALBillyKidZZZ lol np
My friend, who is currently out of the country, came out to be trans, and only the girls knew since she thought we would be more accepting of her, since we obviously went to school almost all our lives but when the boys found out, they made fun of her to the point she couldn't take it anymore, we would go through huge fights with the boys so she could earn her respect.
Her parents took her out from school and she now does online schooling, we all are still in contact with each other including some boys who knew how to mind there own damn business, but she says she forgives them all because we were young that time and weren't used to this type of stuff, but now we all seemed to grow up and respect each other. I got so pissed when they used to do that, but now its normal and we hang out when
(Friends name) used to have the time.😊😊❤
One of my friends introduced me to their friend like this:
(My friend): "HEY! Meet *dead name*- wait no *Old preferred name*? No that's not right... *Different old preferred name*? Akai? Wait that's your friend... WAIT NO THAT'S YOU? Right?!"
(Their friend): What's your name...?
(Me): Akai... XD
Then we explained to them my pronouns, gender identity... Yeah... Cis ppl are fun... >
Be proud of yourself ❤ heal, love, forgive ❤
Okay but if you're already out with most people and dressing as a woman why is it wrong to tell others?
Same thing with putting in your dating profils so people know.
WE should be the ones opening up about it to anyone WE feel comfortable with , especially when unhappily there are still plenty lot of transphobes around . Also we don't see why our gender identity should matter in this kind of introductions . Dating is a completely different subject since it involves our bodies and not everyone is able to go through surgery
Hope I answered your questions well !! Wish u a nice day 🫶
YOU'RE PERFECT GURLLL
wait i'm new to this LGBTQ+ i'm not part of it but i want to understand does that mean you were a male at birth but you transitioned into a female i don't mean for it to sound mean or rude i just want to know
Correct 👍
Yep, ya got it right ✅️
yep
Yep, and it’s alright to ask questions if you don’t know something, if someone is rude about you asking a question in a respectful manner they’re just a bad person
@@Fade_NB It depends on how it's asked and the intention behind it, but this person seems to be cool and respectful about it
Like girlie.. it wasn’t important in the moment😭🙏
"This is my friend she wants he/him shes trans." 🤨🤨🤨
Scotty: “i’m from the south”
Natalie: “SHE RUNS THE SOUTH!”
Btw she could she most def got Goddess energy my experience with people down south they are kind and homing but I suppose it depends on what part your in. The food is very fulfilling toooo like omg I know this has nothing to do with the actual scene but you gotta at least stop by a gas station for chicken on the stick 🥺😘✊🏽
Shouldn’t tell ppl right away or unless they ask…
This happens to me all the time but with being autistic, like people I know will make jokes about it or tell people I have it and it’s so annoying to have the agency to self disclose taken away. It would be cool to live in a world where being trans and being autistic didn’t mean being mistreated by many people, but that’s not the world we live in so the right to choose who and who not to tell is still very important.
I love Trans Women 🫶🏾❣️🫶🏾
Me too, man. Me too.
MY 'FRIEND' TOLD A KID ON MY BUS THAT IM A TRANSFORMER AND THAT MY NAME IS NOAH🎀
Ngl I feel like you should ask before you tell or like just say for example: “this is my sister” without the trans part because like technically they are a woman now😭
My sister is exactly like this, its really hurtful and just unnecessary endangerment yall.
💀🤣💀no hate plss
my screen is severely broken and I read it as she trains💀
I don’t relate to this myself but I am so sorry to the ppl who do, it’s rlly not right that this happens to u
I mean baby you are gorgeous be proud to be who you are it weeds out the ones who aren’t truly your friends
She prolly is proud, it's just.. not everyone needs to know, especially when you just meeting them, it can be uncomfortable
it could also be potentially dangerous
@@melancholymercury9132 ain’t no one attacking a pretty girl like her. Unless she doesn’t tell a guy she’s trans and he gets really pissed off
@@Viincemp3 true I get it but the way I see it. It’s a faster way of knowing who’s really gonna be your friend or not like straight to the point you fuck with me or not up to you.
@@manny123957 i wish it weren’t the case but unfortunately trans women are at a horrifyingly high risk of experiencing violence and harassment for simply existing. it’s not like something will happen every time or even often, but you can’t always know people’s intentions so the risk will always be there. there’s nuance of course and maybe i’m too paranoid and untrusting due to past experiences but that’s why i said potentially. i’d love to be as optimistic as you but it can really be scary out there.
hate often doesn’t care about beauty…
I ask every time. Her comfort and respect is my priority. ❤
fr like, not everyone needs to know tf😭
Yeah cos fuck women's safety right 👍
@@thesoul2sqeeze lmao what. ☠️
@@SoutaYum .. very informative, educated comment..
@@thesoul2sqeeze 😈
@@SoutaYum 🤡
My mom talking about my girlfriend/telling people I have a gf:
Why is it a problem for ppl to say you’re trans when you are. Eventually it’s going to come up in conversation, so who cares?
Some people *never* bring it up, especially if they're passing. It also should depend to the actual person themselves, for several reasons, one of which is outing people can put someones life or quality of life at risk
fr though..
Think you won this trend! It’s the only one I’ve stopped to comment on - yours was funny, sad (and illuminating)!
Isnt the whole thing with being trans that you dont want everyone to know instantaneously whats in your pants??? As if its anyone's business regardless. Let alone someone elses business to be telling! Like of alllll my friends the last one's genitals id be discussing with strangers is my trans friends'!!
Yeaaaa...thats always a side eye moment- UNLESS they said specifically that they wanted you to say that
U trans I don't judge I support trans people
They did you dirty girl,also, you're SO pretty
Such a weird time we live in
Literally ! Everyone in the comments agreeing like no
@@aleiaalvarez7390 you mean yes❤, because you can stfu if you don't like it😊 you sensitive
I agree.
It’s weird that people think it’s socially appropriate to announce sexualities and gender identities for no actual reason.
@@aleiaalvarez7390 Agreeing with what?
That this habit of othering queer people
Is disrespectful?
@@aleiaalvarez7390 Yeah you're so right! We should out lgbt people to a society that has massacred older generations for thinking that it was okay to be out to everyone 💀
Omg you are so pretty /p :0
Weird.
You’re also pretty weird not gonna lie
when i first started watching ve'ondre i was so confused about her trans vids cuz i had no. freaking. idea.
I was shocked i was like "WHAAAA"
I don’t support trans people, but I can completely understand why this would be frustrating. I’m sorry you have to go through that.❤
God shut upppp
"I don't support trans people. BUTTT" mf either see what's wrong here or continue to be blind 😂
@@Blepinbeepyourbloop It’s not that goofy. It’s religion. Some people literally live by those words in the book. But in my opinion men could have altered that book multiple times. So at this point love and support all gods children
@nojoke449 I forgot what I said but are you saying trans is a religion or making God cry is a religion?
@@Blepinbeepyourbloop Do you have no Media Literacy? I compared the two I didn’t say they were the same. Trans is not a religion lol. It’s a lifestyle
You are literally so beautiful it’s crazy
TRUTH HURTS 😂😂😂
Truth hurts your a keyboard warrior stay in ur slimy hidey hole please I bet you have a bigger chest then me and are the size of jelly roll
It's not that?? Have you seen the amount of people that are very willing to beat trans people 😨
We're just trying not to die, you wackjob.
"hi, this is my sibling danielle, they have asthma and when they were 7 they struggled to make friends"
truth hurts
that's not the point?? the problem is that you shouldn't go telling that type of stuff around without consent. trans people are oppressed, you know? people could try to beat her up for it
Bruh, literally my ex friend outed me in class, which ended up by me being harrased for the last week of school❤
You have to let people know!! Hiding it is not cute
There is literally no reason for a complete stranger to know that you're trans if they are a healthcare provider or someone you're romantically interested in those are important for them to know but other than that there is literally no reason cuz most of the time disrespectful people start asking what's in your pants 24/7 and ain't no way is that comfortable for any person on a day-to-day basis
Your friend also telling people without your permission isn’t cute either! Trans people don’t have to let people now. Because then people will be weird or disrespectful about it. They should only tell someone if they feel safe or are dating someone.
there's people out there getting harassed for being trans. she should only let people know if she feels safe enough to do so. that should NEVER happen without her permission
My mum said “this is my daughter, he’s a trans boy” I’m ftm 😭
Mother you had one job
Can’t tell no one im trans anymore, no longer a free country :/
I HATE IT WHEN THIS HAPPENS (my bestie always does it😢) 😭😭
My friend introduced me to one of their friends once and they said, *”She’s* trans”
I’m transmasc(ftm)😭
No! 😭
You're so pretty!! ❤😊
That’s uncalled for. It does happen a lot because people that are close to you will tell your business. 😮😮
off topic but you are absolutely gorgeous
Like DO WE HAVE NOTHING ELSE TO TALK ABOUT? 😭
Accidentally outed my bi friend when talking about lgbt and I was like “OMG- WOOPS SRRY-“ she didn’t rlly care lol but I’ll never forget it ARGHHH
I was always introduced as the " bi friend " ... girls were always like " don't get a crush on me , hahaha " and boy were like " you do threes*omes then ? "
I always answered with straight out mandarin and cut out the friends that introduced me like that.
Happy Trans Awareness Week