HOW TO COME OUT TO YOUR PARENTS

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  • HOW DO I COME OUT TO MY PARENTS? 🌈 Don't worry bestie, I got you. Here's my advice for different ways on how to come out to parents as lesbian, bi, pansexual, genderfluid, nonbinary, etc. Share your coming out tips below, it might help a fellow gay!
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    10 THINGS TO DO BEFORE YOU COME OUT
    • 10 THINGS TO DO BEFORE...
    My Mum's Advice on Coming Out
    • ADVICE FOR COMING OUT ...
    0:00 Why I Made This
    1:12 -COMING OUT CHECKLIST-
    1:23 It's Safe
    1:47 You're Ready
    1:52 Parent's Aren't Homophobic
    2:13 Support Network
    2:31 Resources Gathered
    2:48 Prepared for Qs
    3:10 Back-up Plan
    3:30 Right Time
    3:45 -DIFFERENT WAYS TO COME OUT-
    3:52 Send Them This
    4:29 Tell Them Casually
    4:58 Drop Hints
    5:18 (((super secret)))
    5:58 Sit Down Convo
    6:55 Most Importantly !!!
    7:26 Write a Letter
    8:03 Bring Someone
    8:34 Do This Next
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  • @laurenelloise
    @laurenelloise  2 ปีที่แล้ว +124

    HAPPY 1ST DAY OF XMAS! I get asked this ALLL THE TIME so i truly hope this helps! If u have any tips, pls share! it might help a fellow gay out 🖤AND MERCH BAAABY ✨🌈 Every purchase goes towards creating MORE videos! shop.laurenelloise.com/

    • @its_sunweird8199
      @its_sunweird8199 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Ty I hope this hopes my dad knows I’m lesbian but I changed to bisexual but idk about my mum so ty I hope this helps i might still be scaerd

    • @its_sunweird8199
      @its_sunweird8199 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      You know when you said if I know what they think well my mum never answers me when I ask her so I’m scared the time I was lesbian I ask my mum what if I was lesbian and she said your not lesbian but never answered my question of what she think of it

    • @-sarah-4
      @-sarah-4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      i am a young age so im scared and ideas for young ppl?

    • @OrangesXx
      @OrangesXx ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Are you the lady in the sainsbury advert?

    • @OrangesXx
      @OrangesXx ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@bens2718 look, if your another one of those people that say they are christian (because i am christian) just because you dont support LGBTQA+ doesn’t mean you need to criticise other people.

  • @JT_vids
    @JT_vids 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +51

    I got the best outcome where my parents literally hit me with the "oh, i know", then completely accepted it and supported me. Super grateful to be in a situation where thats even possible

    • @snippzi
      @snippzi 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Dream scenario

    • @Jenna_G.
      @Jenna_G. 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      This is kind of off topic but
      I few months ago I had a dream I came out to my parents and she went I know I I said how long she said however long and then I was like “how I didn’t even know then!”

  • @mollyd95
    @mollyd95 2 ปีที่แล้ว +273

    My advice would be just to be honest and be patient. I came out to my parent's four years ago and it definitely took some time for them to get comfortable with my sexuality but now my girlfriend and I go to dinner every week at my parents' house and my mom calls us her girls!

    • @riah4597
      @riah4597 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      Awwwww this made my heart drop for your romance.....i want this in my life. So cute

  • @sunshine_salem5604
    @sunshine_salem5604 ปีที่แล้ว +103

    Something that hurts me the most is I gained the courage to come out to my mom and I did it on a car ride when it was just me and her. She did ask me questions, but she just wanted to understand it. Then I found out that she outed me to my dad, and I was so upset because of how ignorant and shallow my dad is. Even afterwards he'd make just- disgusting remarks about my sexuality right in front of me, and openly say the offensive words. And then he tells me that he isnt against being gay. and then last christmas, he outed me to his entire side of the family and I literally ran and cried in the bathroom. He talked about it as if it was a phase. All because for christmas my best friend got me a pan flag. And it hurts me everyday to live in a home with someone I know thinks that way.

    • @JoannaEaton2026
      @JoannaEaton2026 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Awe I’m so sorry I bet your awesome

    • @Katie_and_jamal
      @Katie_and_jamal 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Omg I’m so so so sorry! 😢

    • @BoredArtoast
      @BoredArtoast 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      My dad is like this too, I haven’t come out yet but this is exactly what I’m afraid of
      I’m sorry you got outed like that, that’s just horrible.

    • @edenelshtein8133
      @edenelshtein8133 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I'm really sorry you have to go through that, I hope that you are in a better place now ❤

    • @dragonfestus
      @dragonfestus 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I’m sooooooo sorry that happened to you! You seem like a nice person.
      I won’t pretend to know what you are going through, I’ll just let you know that there are people out there that might understand your situation.
      I might be able to, I told my sister I was Aroace then she outed me to my mom, who outed me to my dad, then they went on to act like it was a faze.

  • @claire_4387
    @claire_4387 2 ปีที่แล้ว +185

    PLEASE MY MOM SENT ME A TEXT AND WAS LIKE
    "hey claire, are you gay?"
    and i was like
    👍

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 ปีที่แล้ว +54

      😂😭 oh my gosh ahhaha what did she say next ?

    • @claire_4387
      @claire_4387 2 ปีที่แล้ว +48

      @@laurenelloise *"i see"*

    • @xxventiiiixx7028
      @xxventiiiixx7028 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      the only logical answer 😗💅🏼

    • @quinn8606
      @quinn8606 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      HAHHAHAH

    • @--asher--
      @--asher-- ปีที่แล้ว +2

      That was beautiful

  • @Chris_Diedericks
    @Chris_Diedericks 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    I came out to both of my parents on Christmas day lol after visiting my family and it went surprisingly well, they just listened to what I had to say and they accepted me for who I am

    • @oscurasignora
      @oscurasignora 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm so happy for you 💖

  • @Fai-Fai
    @Fai-Fai ปีที่แล้ว +118

    I'm coming out to my mom today at my own birthday with some friends from the church that are supportive. I hope all goes well.🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

    • @Koda905
      @Koda905 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      how'd it go???

    • @Fai-Fai
      @Fai-Fai 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      @@Koda905
      HEHE, I didn't.
      At the end of the day some adult friends told me it may not have been the best idea, and it was not that well prepared. But I did come out to her eventually (as pan and non-binary).
      Ofc, she didn't take it the best way, but we respectfully disagreed with each other, and clarified that this would not affect the good relationship we had. Well...she still makes me wear a dress to church, and didn't let me go to pride...and I don't think right now she would actually look for actual info on LGBT+ stuff, but at least I was able to talk it out to her, and now my shoulders weigh less.
      Ofc she doesn't let me do some stuff because I'm still 15, but I'll be independent eventually. At least I don't have to hide it when I watch LGBT content, because she already knows what I think.
      So it is not exactly a state of accepting it nor denying it. It feels more like we made a truce or something for some reason.

    • @widojay2048
      @widojay2048 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@Fai-Faithat sucks, but I hope that you have a decent relationship with with her. Oh yeah, and you’re valid

    • @Fai-Fai
      @Fai-Fai 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@widojay2048
      Thank you! Yeah, we have a decently good relationship. We do stuff together, I show her stuff I like and she enjoys it, it's more like a "We don't talk about bruno" (or in this case LGBT stuff) type of thing. I know it's not exactly healthy, but we are planning on going to a psycologist eventually some day when we have enough money to do so (We are still establishing ourselves here in the US).
      With pronouns and stuff there isn't really any problems or anything. Mostly because we speak mostly in spanish at home, and my pronouns in spanish are any, while in english are They/Them. So for now we are mostly ok, we just don't really talk about it

    • @Vivian_S
      @Vivian_S 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I hooe it went well

  • @mollyd95
    @mollyd95 2 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    I came out to my parents years ago but I still watched the whole thing. Gotta support the 12 gays of Christmas!

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      you are a legend molly!!! 🥺💗 thank you soo much!

    • @mollyd95
      @mollyd95 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@laurenelloise Of course! Also I love the merch!!

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      🥰 thank YOUUUUUU

  • @gumphrie2906
    @gumphrie2906 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    About 2 years ago i told my parents about my friend being bisexual and they said that she was going through a phase and that she can’t know things like that at her age. And then they asked if i was gay and i said i’m not sure yet (when i knew i definitely liked girls) and they started panicking so i just took it back and said i was straight. I’m still struggling to come out now. help

    • @vismaryashadowwalker7219
      @vismaryashadowwalker7219 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      welcome to my life

    • @Jenna_G.
      @Jenna_G. 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I’m so sorry I don’t know how my parents will react the only time lgbtqia+ has come up is after the jojo concert when I was little my mom explained gay to me because jojo said she was gay at the concert so idk

  • @justanothernobody1114
    @justanothernobody1114 2 ปีที่แล้ว +136

    I’m planning on coming out to my dad later today, when I told my mom it kind of just went over her head and she likes to talk to me about what she thinks of LGBTQ+ and it is almost never good, so I hope my dad is supportive
    Edit:it went good

    • @xxventiiiixx7028
      @xxventiiiixx7028 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      that's amazing!!! I'm glad he supports :D
      also, your username is awesome

    • @izabelaalskaff3016
      @izabelaalskaff3016 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      that’s great!!🫶🏼

    • @chilicheese1057
      @chilicheese1057 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Agreed ❤
      You go dude

    • @ChuuyasHusband_Dazai
      @ChuuyasHusband_Dazai ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I'm planning on coming out to my mom tomorrow (Monday Feb 6 2023)

    • @justanothernobody1114
      @justanothernobody1114 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@ChuuyasHusband_Dazai I hope it goes good

  • @vpuppyshadow9293
    @vpuppyshadow9293 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I've come out sexuality-wise but not gender-wise. I've never even said my gender online. I would just like to say this: If you are comfortable in the closet or too nervous about coming out, YOU DO NOT HAVE TO. It has been stated a million times, but I came out before I was ready and I was more comfortable in the closet. Just remember that it's ok.

  • @oceanfiregirl3346
    @oceanfiregirl3346 2 ปีที่แล้ว +121

    “The car is a good place to do it.. 1, she can’t escape-“
    What...what are you planin to do here Lauren.. 😳 🏳️‍🌈

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      This made me giggle 🤭

    • @luvvstayayay2623
      @luvvstayayay2623 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Lmao 😭😂😭😂😭😂😭😂

    • @sabriel_-
      @sabriel_- ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Timestamp?

    • @creative.cloudy
      @creative.cloudy ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@sabriel_- 3:40

    • @Jenna_G.
      @Jenna_G. 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I see a problem with that you can’t escape either if they don’t support

  • @ava.titanic9065
    @ava.titanic9065 2 ปีที่แล้ว +143

    I’ve been bisexual for about 4 months now, I’m so scared to come out and now am coming out in less then an hour! I’m so scared lol 😂 I’ll update you if they support! :)

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      I’m wishing you the best of luck 🖤🖤

    • @ava.titanic9065
      @ava.titanic9065 2 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      @@laurenelloise thank you so much for replying!! I’m so lucky to have supportive parents and just orderd a pride flag ahah

    • @kimber402
      @kimber402 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Good luck I hope they support you

    • @callmehmidniht8642
      @callmehmidniht8642 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Rule number 1. Always read the reply’s before you reply

    • @youngminds9279
      @youngminds9279 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      good for you its all nice to see new people discover themselves

  • @SomeRandomPunk
    @SomeRandomPunk 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    Case and point, my brother outed me out to my parents. I came out to them as aro 4 years ago and about a month ago they found out from my very very conservative and homophobic brother that I was bisexual. My mum has always been very supportive but my dad not so much so my brother has been threatened by my mum not to out me to my dad. The guys an absolute dick. Good luck on coming out to anyone who reads this🏳️‍🌈😊

    • @oscurasignora
      @oscurasignora 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I'm really sorry, it must be awful. Sending virtual love and support ❤️

  • @esmeschmidt1513
    @esmeschmidt1513 2 ปีที่แล้ว +440

    Realizing now how lucky I am to have such supportive parents 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 ปีที่แล้ว +72

      yeah, me too 💗 very very lucky

    • @touareggyal
      @touareggyal 2 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      I sadly don’t , but I’m lesbian af

    • @prashtv01
      @prashtv01 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@ange1.w4nn I hope your ok 😥

    • @gsse6629
      @gsse6629 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Can i steal your parents?

    • @franchescafletcher1069
      @franchescafletcher1069 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@ange1.w4nn i think my mok figured it out on her but she thinks im lesbian i am bisexual so we'll flear that up kater hiwever my father is as homiphobic as it gets so i plan on coming out to hom when i graduate ir start college either that or never

  • @ellet4227
    @ellet4227 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    I actually came out to my mum using a letter. I got the idea from last years 12 days of Christmas and it really helped a lot

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      :’) this is absolutely adorable! Proud of you!!

  • @Larissa-iq2sq
    @Larissa-iq2sq 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    last year i literally painted the lgbtq flag on my bag, and i have like rainbow beads on my converse, and recently i was sitting down with my mom and i said "hey mom i have never in my life liked a guy". and i keep dropping small hints, but she never gets it😻

  • @ameliepfeiffer7432
    @ameliepfeiffer7432 2 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    My coming out was me just about to say goodnight to my mum but then deciding to tell her I like girls. It went so well though, my family are so supportive and I even have a flag!!
    AND OHMIGOSH MERCH I MUST HAVE IT!!

  • @alexia_c_
    @alexia_c_ 2 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    1:29 my advice: tell your parents that your friend or someone you know came out as gay or something like that then if they had a positive reaction you can come out to them, but if they had a negative reaction, don't you can wait for some time before you come out. Do it whenever you feel comfortable and safe.

    • @emmabeck6642
      @emmabeck6642 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      That might actually be a really good idea for me to try. Thanks.

    • @madelynreecer2920
      @madelynreecer2920 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      That's what I did today! My mom was fine with it so I know I'm safe now!

    • @randomzpro
      @randomzpro ปีที่แล้ว

      Just don't say someone's gay if they aren't... that might lead to an interesting series of conversations...

    • @i_ate_the_context
      @i_ate_the_context ปีที่แล้ว

      @@randomzproell I think they mean someone who is actually part of the LGBTQ+ community. Or maybe you could make up the person entirely idk

  • @anonymous7987
    @anonymous7987 2 ปีที่แล้ว +81

    Omg, I needed this video so much! So thank you! I’m currently working up the courage to come out to my parents, and this was super helpful! Can’t wait for the rest of the series! 🧡🤍💖

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Awww I’m wishing you the best of luck 🖤🖤 you got this !!

    • @thebiguy9522
      @thebiguy9522 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same

  • @Owen0347
    @Owen0347 2 ปีที่แล้ว +299

    Omg been waiting for this… hope everyone finds the confidence to come out including myself 🥺🏳️‍🌈

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Aww ya ya!!! Also such sweet words! 🖤🖤

    • @lorrae8073
      @lorrae8073 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I know me to

    • @DevonIsHome
      @DevonIsHome 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@laurenelloise thanks for the advice. Loved dis video. O.o

    • @prashtv01
      @prashtv01 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I think I'm late but good luck 😁👍

    • @lilyhola7363
      @lilyhola7363 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I’m still scared to tell my parents🏳️‍🌈😩

  • @geek_angel8980
    @geek_angel8980 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I'm a 16 year old female and I am pansexual... I'm MORTIFIED to say anything to my parents. I did the mentioning it but not including myself and...my mom thinks it's a mental illness and it's a sin (she's religious) and my dad tho he's not religious he feels the same way about it... I'll probably tell them when I've moved out and can provide for myself..
    (I have a younger sister 13yo and she's a lesbian she's the only person that knows my sexuality and I'm the only person that knows her's. She's just as scared and says she's probably never telling them.. At least we have each other)
    Good luck to everyone else who has the courage to come out, you are SO strong and brave and you be you no matter what ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

  • @Emily-qr5du
    @Emily-qr5du 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    To anyone hasn't come out yet, never do it because someone else told you to/they did so you feel pressured to. I came out to my mum because my friend did it the same day and dared me to, but i never, and still dont, actually feel ready. So do it in your own time I promise it's much better that way

    • @Moonbunny061
      @Moonbunny061 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for the advice 💙😌I appreciate it. I only have online friends who are apart of the LGBTQ+ and are very helpful. They helped me figure out that I am Pansexual 😁 but I will keep your word in mind💙✨

  • @fearlessroo
    @fearlessroo 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    i'm watching this because i really want to come out to my mum. she's the only family i have (i'm an only child and my dad left when i was little and never was interested enough to call or see me so we aren't close). she's my best friend and i tell her everything and it hurts so much to keep something this important from her. she's an awesome person and the one i love the most. i've known for so long that i'm bi and i used to think taht she would be understanding, but i accidently came out to her once and she screamed to me really badly and then forgot about it with time. she's still 100% convinced i'm straight and i'm afraid to tell her otherwise. i don't think she would ever kick me out or anything like that but i really hate fighting with her or being in bad terms with her since i love her so much and she means so much to me. i don't know what to do because i don't feel like i can keep it in any longer. this helped me clear my thoughts a little bit so thank u

    • @LEGOPOTTERPRODUCTIONS
      @LEGOPOTTERPRODUCTIONS 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I’m in the exact same situation as you. I have no idea if I’m gay or bi as I do feel emotionally attracted towards women but primarily physically attracted towards men and I’m still so confused. I really want to come out to my mom, not because I have a same-sex partner that I want her to approve of but because I just want to know that she loves me no matter what I identify as. However, I’m terrified to tell her because I know she’s kind of homophobic, but I love her so much and can’t live without her, and I just have no idea what to do. I’ve been crying about this for so long and I just want my mom to accept me.

  • @amireal._.youdecide4559
    @amireal._.youdecide4559 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    My mom is very homophobic and believes being gay (she refers to everything involving lgbtqia+ is apparently "gay") a sin and i'm very scared to tell her, my dad i'm not so sure but i'm gonna make sure i check everything off the list and tell them in the best way they can understand, btw i'm coming out at pansexual, i'm just gonna say i'm attracted to humans regardless of their gender, and hope they support me. If anyone has any suggestions or advice pls share that with me. =) Everyone here is valid and deserves to be loved

    • @sweetcurls.
      @sweetcurls. 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Jesus loves you

    • @X_kikoki_X
      @X_kikoki_X 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Same.. She showed me an app she likes and it's where you take care of a bird, you can choose they/them as an option, she said I can't choose they/them or I would be in trouble.

    • @glosticcsx
      @glosticcsx หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@sweetcurls. :/

  • @Tezpovs
    @Tezpovs 2 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    Hi, so I’m well ‘straight’ that’s what I thought until I started looking at this girl a different way…and that way being more than friendly. I continuously look at her and smile and we are always joking with eachother, she is bisexual and asks me sometimes if I like girls or something, the reason for that is because I always call women pretty or hot or whatever (which they are). And basically sometimes when she laughs and we look at eachother she then grabs my arm and laughs into it or she leans her head on my shoulder or a part of my body. I mean every so often we lean our heads on one another’s and we also hug quite regularly, we have lots in common. Alsooo from what I’ve seen she doesn’t do any of this with anyone else in the friendship group but I’m still unsure and like I haven’t figured out who I am or what I am and so I’m really confused rn cuz well to everyone else I’m straight but deep down inside I feel as tho I may not be but I don’t have a clue. I just wanted to know if you could help me figure out if this girl likes me… I kinda held her waist yesterday and like we were there for a few mins but just I’m not sure. Hopefully you see this, I’ve only just seen your account and I’m very grateful for it :)

    • @riah4597
      @riah4597 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      You like her and she definitly likes u. Think about if u like men aswell u might be bi or just lesbian. U will figure it out i promise.

    • @MadelynIsCool
      @MadelynIsCool 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      If you like her go for it! It definitely sounds like you're special to her! Give us an update at some point?
      It's been SIX MONTHS! Did you tell her!?

    • @Tezpovs
      @Tezpovs ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@riah4597 thank you so much for the advice and everything and I did manage to figure it outttt I’m bi :)

    • @Tezpovs
      @Tezpovs ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@MadelynIsCool heyyy sooooo fun story I’m no longer friends with her cuz of like drama in the friend group and all that and she’s being a bitch and everything so that never worked out plus I started losing feelings idk why and now I have all these other feelings for this girl, she’s amazing, she truly is and she’s beautiful and is gay and is the kindest person ever sooooo that’s a little update 😂 tbh I never thought anyone would reply to this comment but thanku

    • @official_soupy_for_flavors
      @official_soupy_for_flavors ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Cool

  • @RAWRZIE_.
    @RAWRZIE_. 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    “my parents supported me as soon as i came out, im not scared to tell them anything!”
    you have something i want.

  • @florapurlas1307
    @florapurlas1307 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    You know Lauren since I was a 6 years old they already knew that I was a lesbian and it was ok with them that iwas like this as long as you were obedient to your parents and iwas doing the right thing.its up to you do the good or bad attitude.for me I'm simple not to over acting person.👍🌈🇵🇭

  • @meghalidutta3515
    @meghalidutta3515 2 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    Thank you so much for this! Have a nice day Lauren! Thanks for being my lesbian mentor and for making me feel like I'm part of this community! Lots of love from someone who isn't fully out.

  • @leanelepuillandre2011
    @leanelepuillandre2011 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you so much for this video !!!
    I already came out a few months ago but i always love to see all your videos! It's very very helpful ! Thanks a lot ! I'm lucky bc they're very supportative but it was hard and i was so nervous...
    I was'nt prepare at all and didn't want to do it at this moment but i had and have the heart broken bc of a girl and i was always crying... So they were asking why i was this way and i decided to tell them. I'm now very happy that they know it !
    So happy and can't wait of the others videos !!!

  • @gabriellambarathi
    @gabriellambarathi 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thank you this actually really helped me come out to my mom because I had to send this video to her that you made because I’m not ready to like have a conversation about it or something and you just made it easier for me and I appreciate you thank you so much

  • @canvas4708
    @canvas4708 39 นาทีที่ผ่านมา +1

    Ok, I'll be coming out today (or this week if I chicken out but whatevs) so I'll be using this as a checklist first. Thank You for making this video, it really helped ❤
    1) I am safe, as far as I know, they don't support the LGBTQ+ community but they'd never do something against me that would make me be unsafe
    2) I am ready, I'm just scared 🥲
    3) I've tested the waters and they usually say pretty stupid stuff about the LGBT community
    4) I have LGBT friends and my girlfriend is really supportive about all this
    5) Yes, I'm prepared, don't worry
    6) Again, I'm prepared. I've been preparing for a long time now and I think it's time I told them
    7) They'd never kick me out, but I DO have a backup plan just in case
    8) THAT'S the main reason why I haven't told her yet, CRAZY things have been happening lately and I just haven't found the right time to tell her yet
    OK:
    I've already told my mom in the past that I think I like the girl that I am now dating. We've been dating for two and a half weeks now and my mom still doesn't know. That's the main reason why I want to talk to her now. I'll let you all know how it goes! Byeeeee

  • @srmegha7989
    @srmegha7989 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank You so Much Lauren .This video helped me a lot .You cleared so much confusion in my mind. Can't wait for the coming videos

  • @bluecheshirecat8450
    @bluecheshirecat8450 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Finally!!! I’ve been looking forward to see this! Thank you so much for amazing videos ~

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Aww yay!!!! :') thank YOU so much

  • @Imakeedits68
    @Imakeedits68 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you very much for posting this I've been trying to come out and this is giving some ideas to help me come out

  • @ilike_splatoon
    @ilike_splatoon ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I know this is a year old when I’m commenting this, but tysm for making this video! I’ve been so anxious about coming out but I’m trying to write a letter and planning to give it to my parents when I have my partner round so she can just be there for me, this really made me feel a bit better and made me think of some things I can tell them, thanks again! :)

  • @LowkeyShort
    @LowkeyShort 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I recently came out to my whole family at a family reunion. I literally got on the table on told them all I had to say something important, I took out my bisexual flag and told them everything. Everyone was extremely accepting, except for my homophobic aunt but she can go f*ck off. I did use your tips and it helped a ton! Thank you!❤
    Edit: I know I shouldn’t have done it at a family reunion but I really wanted everyone to know who I was. I also just wanted to tell my parents I’m dating a girl (_ _).。o○

  • @A_Maull
    @A_Maull 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I feel my best advice to come out os tell your freinds first as they won’t freak out as much also watch videos from TH-camrs that could help you watching Lauren’s videos helped me so much not only to come out to my parents but helped me to be so much more confident and open with my sexuality

  • @pandadev2656
    @pandadev2656 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    All I did was ask in a hypothetical sounding way "would u accept me if I was gay" and my mom said yes so I just responded with" well good since in bisexual "

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      aww thats so good!! im happy for you!

  • @33dragongirl
    @33dragongirl ปีที่แล้ว +3

    When I was watching this video I realized that it was on speaker and my mom was listening, so... At least she knows..

  • @sturnioloplanet
    @sturnioloplanet 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you for this I'm struggling to come out I don't know if my parents are homophobic and I needed ways to come out again thank you so much 🏳️‍🌈💝💛💙

  • @accdeactivated4755
    @accdeactivated4755 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    My best friends are all either trans or lgbt. My girlfriend used this to come out to not only her parents but her aunt and uncle to.

  • @galpal
    @galpal 2 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    Such great advice!! Stay safe, and stay true to YOU ♡

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      thank u bby 🥰 and yes, so important. you’re valid no matter how you identify

  • @ashtimbo
    @ashtimbo ปีที่แล้ว

    I don't have any coming out stories but I'm glad to see the comments section so positive

  • @robin_1447
    @robin_1447 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I just came out to my brother like 5 minutes ago and as non supporting as he is, he took it surprisingly well. Now all I have to do is tell my non supporting parents.

  • @airyedits_
    @airyedits_ 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you Lauren!! This video gives me some ideas on coming out on my own time. I want to come out but I'm just not ready.

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yay!! I’m really happy to have created something helpful for you! And it’s great that you acknowledge you aren’t ready yet 🖤 take your time

  • @GentM2015
    @GentM2015 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Great video. Excited for this month's vids.

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you!! And yayayayayya !!!!

  • @OmatGeil
    @OmatGeil 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Lauren, I Loveeeeeee YOuuuuu. Thank you very much for this video. I finally outed myself to my family as gay becuase of the courage I gained from this video: Thank you very much again :))))))

  • @KaitheYoutuber-
    @KaitheYoutuber- 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    so i just transitioned into non-binary. Not ready yet, but I will when im in a safe spot. They're really supportive, but im kind of like...really not brave...some Im mostly scared of them being a little mad or disappointed or smth.

  • @alansteele7776
    @alansteele7776 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    OMG thank you so much, I now have enough confidence to come out you've help me sooooooooooooooo much !❤💕💖

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  ปีที่แล้ว

      Awww yayaya 🥰 I’m really happy to hear this.

  • @esperity
    @esperity ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is the best "Come out"-video! I will 100% show this to my parents! :D

  • @quinn8606
    @quinn8606 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    YALL I ACCIDENTALLY CAME OUT TO MY DAD THE OTHER DAY... DO BASICALLY WE WERE AT RAGSTOCK AND HE SAID “oh u should get a flannel shirt” AND I SAID “that would make me look lesbian” AND THEN I WAS LIKE “I mean I am but like still” IT WAS SO FUNNY AND HE IS HONNA TAKE ME TO A PRIDE PARADE SO YAYAY IM SO EXCITED

    • @quinn8606
      @quinn8606 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      now it’s just my mom I have to tell

    • @quinn8606
      @quinn8606 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      update: I am making some rainbow bracelets to see if she will notice anything

    • @The_big_prooooo
      @The_big_prooooo ปีที่แล้ว

      Damn I get to go to pride parades without having come out yet

  • @Louslife202
    @Louslife202 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I've wanted to come out for 2 years. I'm young and don't know how my mom and dad will react. But to all those out there that need this, no matter what a whole community is on your side. You have a voice. Im coming out soon, wish me luck and best of luck to whoever is reading this!

  • @ciberfire0138
    @ciberfire0138 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Helped me so much 😂😂😂. Thank you so much, because of yiu i can live truthfully under such lovely and upportive parents ❤❤❤

  • @katiesimcox7868
    @katiesimcox7868 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thank you, seriously this has helped me so much

  • @Sadieandhadley32
    @Sadieandhadley32 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I came out to my friends but never my parents maybe when I’m a little older I will. But I’ve only ever had a crush on my girl best friends. So I came out to my friends and said I was lesbian!!

  • @spirce-js9jz
    @spirce-js9jz 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This video has made me not completely dread coming out. Thank you so much, this is so helpful.

  • @marianaquesada1553
    @marianaquesada1553 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I’ve been waiting for this series!!!!

  • @TheInternetIsEternal
    @TheInternetIsEternal ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This helped for sure. I’ve been so stressed because my mom might be able to accept it but my dad is what I was worried about.

  • @ameliagrace8031
    @ameliagrace8031 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    FINALLY!!! The 12 Gays of Christmas 🌈

  • @blue.flame_6480
    @blue.flame_6480 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Yayyy! The first Video of the 12 Gays of Christmas. I love this Video! Can't wait for the other.

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Eeeeee !!!! glad u enjoyed !

  • @ulisesmarvels
    @ulisesmarvels 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Keep in mind that coming out in my opinion should be personalized based on your family. For some families you should have a one on one with them explaining it, for some you can bake a cake or do something funny if you live in a family like that, and for others it’s best not to come out at all if your not safe

  • @howclose320
    @howclose320 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I don’t want anything to change, I don’t want them to look at me differently.

  • @aslbykai8516
    @aslbykai8516 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    AHHHH I BEEN WAITING FOR THIS!!

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      YAAAAAAYYYY IM SO GLAD UR HERE

  • @cody7857
    @cody7857 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Woah ur so cool MERCH!! Proud of u and how u have grown :)

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      AWW CODY!!! Thank you soooo much!! likewise to you too though 🖤🖤

  • @ClazzRiot
    @ClazzRiot ปีที่แล้ว

    This is the only coming out video I genuinely found helpful, from lesbian to lesbian. Thank you❤🏳️‍🌈

  • @_.edit._.audios._
    @_.edit._.audios._ ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I'm not scared about telling my mum i'm lesbian i'm scared because i know i'll get a panic attack cuz they'll ask too much too fast and it hurts when your mum says "you know i love you sweetie, i'll always be here for you" i just can't handle it....

    • @Ravenclaw_Kitty1031
      @Ravenclaw_Kitty1031 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      same here. I get anxiety attacks when too man yquestions are asked or when there's too much stimuli around. I'm nonbinary and use they/them/

  • @BrianGeraghty77
    @BrianGeraghty77 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Hi Lauren
    I know that you posted these videos a couple of years back but I think they are really brilliant and you have got a great way of telling people that it’s ok to be gay or whatever you want to be
    They are extremely well thought out and made easy to understand
    Even for a person with disability, for example, like me, who used to leave a sexuality discussion group, you have made very sensitive subject easy to explain so thank you
    You have provided me with a safe space to express my feelings about this topic
    I have often wanted to have a conversation with my counsellor but I was afraid to because I didn’t want my mam to know about my preferences 😊 0:20

  • @giusepperesponte8077
    @giusepperesponte8077 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Tip for those wanting to come out to their parents but are worried about how they’ll react: don’t say something like “mom, I’m gay” because terms like “gay” or even “homosexual” might have baggage attached. People can, and often do have Pavlovian conditioning around those terms. In essence, even if real disapproval of homosexuality doesn’t authentically exist within them, using those terms can bring out any unwanted and harmful associations which may be present, so you simply avoid labels when you tell them.
    Instead, what you do is just describe your experience to them. Instead of telling them that you’re attracted to your same gender, tell them about how you’ve never been attracted to someone of the opposite gender - again - it’s just a far less loaded way of getting the important information across. Tell them about the confusion that came when you were growing up and never liking the same gender that your friends did, and how it felt to constantly wonder if there was something wrong with you. Make them understand that this isn’t some fashioned identity, and the person they’ve known this whole time is the same one who’s speaking now. The only difference is that they know the truth now. They need to understand this. They need to accept that the child they loved this whole time was the same person all along and nothing has, or needs to change.
    If you love your parent(s) and don’t want to risk them, but you also feel like denying who you are to those closest to you has become unbearable, this was absolutely the best advice I can give to maximize your chances of acceptance.

  • @Dancingaquakpop
    @Dancingaquakpop 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    TYSM😭♥️. I never realized that I had a supportive mom until today.

  • @harryraghunanan2439
    @harryraghunanan2439 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Im so happy that this vid was made because it does indeed give me all the imformation that i need to tell my parebts im gay

  • @EZRA_gacha_life
    @EZRA_gacha_life 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you this was so helpful ❤

  • @sofiarivard3783
    @sofiarivard3783 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Me watching this knowing damn well I've already come out to my parents lmao

  • @raydrawsbadly1533
    @raydrawsbadly1533 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thankyou!!! This helped! I think I'm going to use a letter to come out to my dad, not yet though because I'm not quite sure his view of the trans community but I think it's like "they're not bothering me why should I care" so yeah but thanks so much Lauren!!!

    • @tiredmama42
      @tiredmama42 ปีที่แล้ว

      yes! i qlso want to write a letter instead of talking because it's easier for me

  • @sweetlilweirdo
    @sweetlilweirdo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I wish it was safe for me to come out but it isn't. Many times I just wanna talk about my queer stories to my father but I can't so it feels suffocating sometimes YwY But!! I hope everyone here good luck! I'm cheering you all on ♡♡♡

  • @_jenduni_9305
    @_jenduni_9305 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you so much for your help I really needed this

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I’m so glad this found you at the right time 🖤

    • @_jenduni_9305
      @_jenduni_9305 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yes

  • @callmecherries7660
    @callmecherries7660 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you Lauren!! I was scared to come out as Pansexual to my parents but you made me proud of being a part of the LGBTQ+❤
    I love your videos so inspiring!👏Continue the great content.

  • @suckers0
    @suckers0 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    As I was wearing my Ally Hills merch this afternoon (how could I resist - it's logo is 'See you later Suckers') it reminds me of another alternative - send Ally's 'Comin Out' song to whoever you want to inform.

  • @riah4597
    @riah4597 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Hey guys.....my coming out story is pretty bizarre and to be honest this rollercoaster isnt even over yet. About a two year ago i told my brother then my sister that i was bisexual. I came out to my mom with thier help about a few weeks later. She was great about it. She started asking me about how i knew and at the time i didnt know how to answer. My mom eventually told my dad about a month later. I never got his full reaction because i wasnt there. Anyways i got the courage to ask my mom if i could tell the rest of my family and my friends...all i want to be is myself. She said no. This was the down hill part of my life....when she said no it changed EVERYTHING. Saying no was like not letting me be my true self because SHE was afraid of what others thought. Of course i tried again and she said no again. This lead to my saddness...and my self harm..and my mental health issues. My mom never found out about any of this. Its been a year and a half and i was doing better....but now all of this is overwelming again. I wanna come out to everyone i wanna be myself for rea. (note that im doing a little better) i need to tell my mom how i feel but i dont know when the right time is. It dosebt help the fact that alot of times they say eww when a girl or guy kiss .....and no they havent forgotten i was bi, i think there just avoiding it hoping its a phase. I think im in love with this girl in 2 of my classes. 2 years ago we started talking and i adneadtitly fell 4 her. We was going to date but my mom said no....which leads to now when we c eachother in school. But she has a girlfriend now and my heart breaks seeing them together. What do i do? (thinks for staying till the end if u did it really means alot.)
    This is my coming out story and its still going on a long journy. Thank u fellow listeners. (also if ur wondering im 15 years old and a girl)

    • @junetunes3797
      @junetunes3797 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I wish you luck on your journey!! (From a 29 year old bisexual woman who hasn't come out to her parents quite yet) You seem like a brave a strong person, keep going! There is a bright future ahead of you somewhere, even if it's difficult getting there and it's not perfect. I hope you will find/be able to build a close support system in due time. Take care of yourself and be true to yourself, even if it's in little ways! :D Love and support from a fellow LGBTQ friend. ❤️

  • @Sw3et_p0tato
    @Sw3et_p0tato 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I'm going to come out tomorrow but only to only my mom, bc i am scared of my dads reaction, every time i say stuff about me that he doesnt know abt, he always gives the same reaction, "no ur not" but besides that tysm for this vid it made me feel excites to come out ❤🏳️‍🌈

  • @TheSoulEater12345678
    @TheSoulEater12345678 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you this really gave me the courage to do it!!!

  • @zellalaing5439
    @zellalaing5439 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    My dad has always used neutral language when referring to a partner to me, I've had a boyfriend but now in my mid twenties I've come to realise I'm gay. I haven't come out but my dad will still say "life partner", "signicant other" or "someone special" and its started to make me wonder whether he's always known. I feel it would be so much easier to come out to him than with my rather religious mother, but I wouldn't want her to feel she knew second or was left out, I'd want to tell them together. I don't know what to do.

  • @HigizigsDESTINY
    @HigizigsDESTINY 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Lol I had been thinking about coming out to my family for the whole week before I came out and then on the Saturday that I came out I was watching TV with my brother and he started teasing me about liking a boy (I didn’t like him) and I was like “actually I like girls” and he immediately was like “so do you like (girls name) then?” (I did). Then I just went downstairs and came out to the rest of my family.

    • @makyd6275
      @makyd6275 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      so cute♥

  • @justr3n326
    @justr3n326 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    your videos are so amazing and give so much support :)))

  • @Lean-zj1nl
    @Lean-zj1nl 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    ..I might come out to my mom through a letter. I know she isn't very acceptive, but I think she has figured some stuff about my sexuality. Thanks to you, I might be able to overcome my fear of coming out as lesbian to my mom!

  • @bethelight2495
    @bethelight2495 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    this is so empowering. Thank you

  • @gloomygirl_0
    @gloomygirl_0 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    After my whole life of being bisexual I finally came out to my mom and her boyfriend. I was so scared because they aren't lgbtq supporters and they're christian, but they immediately hugged me and accepted me for who I am. Thank you so much for motivating me to come out

  • @Allyforlife2023
    @Allyforlife2023 ปีที่แล้ว

    I actually just came out today and my advice is just be honest and be careful what you say. I was worried but my parents are fully supportive

  • @d1n0s2
    @d1n0s2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is too helpful.. I needed this so much

  • @Ivy-Tellers
    @Ivy-Tellers ปีที่แล้ว +1

    5:15 I made a bracelet with the aromantic colors, they probably won't catch on since most people don't know what aromanticism is.
    (I also made the other side of the bracelet be the bi colors and, i was surprised when they didn't get that)

  • @loupelizzo2399
    @loupelizzo2399 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great advice and tips in this video and thank you so much and very logical tips. I love your videos and you

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      yay, you are so welcome! and thank you!! 🖤

  • @ananasdiefrucht3878
    @ananasdiefrucht3878 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    A few days ago my dad and I talked about my dance class (pair dance) and after my male partner basically just didn't appear to the lesson i danced with a really cute girl...my first and current crush :) After that my father asked me how it went with the girl and my damn blush outed me :) He's cool with it and i am so glad...but i didn't expect it to go like this, though i am happy that i don't have to start this conversation with him.

  • @Persiannn_
    @Persiannn_ ปีที่แล้ว

    I’m not planning coming out yet, because i still haven’t fully figured out who i am. But anyway thanks for the video, it might be helpful in the future!

  • @freddiemeyer4563
    @freddiemeyer4563 ปีที่แล้ว

    this is really helpful , thanku for making this video

  • @georgerpg6610
    @georgerpg6610 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I am a gay guy but I love your videos! You are so pretty by the way ❤❤❤

  • @BombFromII
    @BombFromII ปีที่แล้ว +4

    🏳️‍🌈❤🧡♡💖❤ thankyou, ive known i was lesbian since i was 7 and have always wanted to go by they/she pronouns. I have decided after years of keeping it in i want to come out today

  • @Aj_is_a_short_simp
    @Aj_is_a_short_simp ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much I am Pansexual and I have only one family member that supports lgbtq+ and I just needed to know how to tell them ( I think the sit down is the best for me) 🏳️‍🌈💖🏳️‍🌈

  • @subirbarat7244
    @subirbarat7244 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    your videos are so supporting :)

    • @laurenelloise
      @laurenelloise  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yay I’m glad to hear this 🥰🥺

  • @mattsmith4485
    @mattsmith4485 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Loved this, Slay!

  • @Platypus_King24
    @Platypus_King24 ปีที่แล้ว

    I am able to express myself better in writing I feel. Sometimes I hold my word back