When your always feeling like you’re walking on eggshells and in constant fighting over nothing and your constantly being blamed for everything and everything even if it’s the other person fault somehow you did something to make that person do it RUN !!!!
@@ggsotra-chanPush the guy away from you as soon as you possibly can hun, I'm assuming you already did since this comment was from like 3 months ago. And make sure his shii backfires at him. Be safe! You totally deserve better.
I'm experiencing some withdrawals from weaning off alcohol. I begged for help from my husband and got angry because he's too self-obsessed to care. He called be mentally sick, a loser and a reject among other lovely things. I got triggered to a point that I left my support group just because that reminded me of my weaknesses. I've always accepted and apologised for every mistake. I've always been aware of my wrongs and wanted to better myself. Only very recently I realised that no matter what I do or don't do, every single thing that goes wrong with this relationship will be my fault. I see very clearly now how the tables are turned. I wish it was just him doing this shit to me, it's his mother too. My parents get a call when I behave out of line but today he hit me on the head with his sandals and when I called my mom, my mother-in-law says "Youre taking it too hard on yourself. Take it easy". So here I am dealing with these narcissistic manipulative self-obsessed Gods while I'm only human. But one thing I'm never doing from now on is accepting a single fault of mine. I'll deflect, I'll get defensive, I'll effing turn the tables on them so fast, they won't even realise what hit them on their humongous heads!
I JUST ENDED THE RELATIONSHIP. No apology… no nothing. They’re thoroughly screwed up! And MOST IMPORTANTLY… NEVER TAKE THEM BACK UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES!
I was in a religion that was like this. Black people in purple that preach on the side of the street. Been going through this and other forms of manipulation for years but never realized it until I got extremely depressed
The abuser will hack your phone, listen to your conversation, get other people to do his dirty work, then whatever they heard you say in private, they repeat
I've had someone do this multiple times. Got new phones, went to a domestic violence shelter, he stole mail to get phone id, hacked the phone, and even got someone staying near the shelter to do his dirty work. Having pickup trucks follow me everywhere, even while staying at a domestic violence shelter, having people follow me around. There is a few men who all follow the same m.o. even a person who grew up in my neighborhood ended up being a covert religious narcissist.
There was a play called angel street in the 1930's that was made into a British movie around 1940 called gaslight which is how the term was coined. There may have been a 1944 remake in USA but the 1940 version was also re-released in 1952. There was also a Hollywood remake in recent years.
We all have good and bad days, just as we all may not always make good decisions or good calls on situations and over others. However, that does not give anyone the right to ridicule or make less of your choices or your mishaps. Not one of us is perfect any day of the year. Gaslighting is just an expression of what many these days have decided is acceptable behavior. As far as I'm concerned anyone who behaves in this way is truly the one in need of help. I know who I am, what my strengths and my weaknesses are, and I have accepted that. I do not need anyone else, who is also tainted, to tell me who I am or should be. Value yourself. Period.
I just wanted to add that it's not always name calling. For example. My ex would complain about something, in this instance let's say it's the homeless population. I would point out that we live in a poor city/state. He then would run with my statement saying I'm always negative, have nothing nice to say about City, that I just want to move away, that I'm always starting trouble or that I'm overreacting. When all I did was point out that we have an economic issue that maybe causing homelessness around here. A gaslighting abuser will literally make you feel like everything you say and do is wrong
What is it called if u mess with ur girl in a normal way like say something silly like ur dumb in a really nice joking way and she makes you feel like you are a mean person who needs to apologize even though she was never really mad and just wants to act mad
Just be honest with her and apologize for making her feel offended. Once you’ve done that, it doesn’t matter if she accepts your apology or not; you were sincere and you took accountability for something you did that made her upset. After that, give her time to get over it. But also, don’t be a door mat. If she’s going out of her way to stay offended about that, there could be a deeper reason why. A lot of times people act like that when they want to use the situation to justify something they’ve been wanting to do.
I have a question please: Sometimes people's perceptions are warped. Would giving different perspective to them to challenge their perception also be considered gaslighting?
My story has a villain who is a psychopath since a really early age but grew up in a quite abusive house which made her mentality worsen year by year. Although her mom wasn't abusive at all but she didn't got any full support from her mom and her mom herself was abused by the father and therefore was too scared to even say anything to her husband. Now the thing is I want my Villain to traumatise my main character and gaslight her into believing that the reason for the death of my main lead's older sister is she herself. But heres the problem I am facing. Why? Why does my Villain wants to traumatise her? What's the relationship between her and my main lead. I am so confised how to put sense into their relationship.
Honest questions: 🖐️ So, just expressing to someone how you think they’re acting, is gaslighting? If that’s the case, isn’t saying someone is gaslighting, a form of gaslighting in itself? Another thing i don’t understand from this lady’s definition is that she keeps saying “if this person make you think _____”. Why would you willingly allow someone to control how you think about yourself? I could see if she said “tries to” but she said “MAKE”.
This doesn’t just happen in relationships these individuals will gaslight anyone. Some girl in my class would gaslight me by saying why do you take everything I say seriously after saying who hurt you in previous abusive relationships. She would then give me her number and when I would say a simple good morning to her she would say can you stop ruining my day. Very confusing person and I’ve dated A BPD girl before but A Gaslighter is much more confusing !!!!
I'm surprised so many claim she is a gaslighter to Ron when all the signs were never her fault and she had to keep a secret from him and harry on how she was taking advantage of her studies. Only Dumbledore knew of thr truth and she still had no choice but to tell harry about the time turner due to the serious situation they were in. Also another thing, Ron was injured aaaaannnddddd this was to make up the time Hermione couldn't be with them when she was petrified in the second book, chamber of secrets. Being a victim from a gaslighter that questioned my self worth and isolated from everyone because they believed the abuser...ive seen enough to know who is the vicim and not. She was playing a lil fun with Ron at the end but this is NOT gaslighting.
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What if the "victim" is an abuser as well and they just taste their own medicine? What if the "victim" keep testing the "abuser" and it is just their way to defend themselves. What if the "victim" is making troubles out of nothing? Keep complaining about everything, suddenly becomes a domestic cancel culture? Victim mentality is the plague of this day and age!
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I was totally joking! You are doing a great job. My only opinion is that people are now using the term "gaslighting" too much in personal scenarios. Keep up the good work.
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That's... it's not that simple. I left a very mentally abusive relationship of 5 years a few years ago. It's complicated, especially when love is involved. Victims of gas lighting are often convinced that they are the problem in the relationship and stuff like their self esteem, self worth, etc break down and they don't quite understand how to leave or if they even should. Just because the victim struggles to escape an abusive relationship it does not remotely excuse the behavior of the abuser.
@@michelles1250 100% this. I am so glad you were able to leave that relationship! You are so strong, and I am sure you realize that now. Hindsight is 20/20. Keep shining 💫
When your always feeling like you’re walking on eggshells and in constant fighting over nothing and your constantly being blamed for everything and everything even if it’s the other person fault somehow you did something to make that person do it
RUN !!!!
My mother has done this ever since I can remember. I learned to shut down and not show any emotion/reaction.
Same
I’ve been in such a relationship as a victim, but didn’t know it had a fancy word
Same. I think he's jealous of me or something. No idea why because I'm a loser just like him. He's probably just 100% psycho.
@@ggsotra-chanPush the guy away from you as soon as you possibly can hun, I'm assuming you already did since this comment was from like 3 months ago.
And make sure his shii backfires at him. Be safe! You totally deserve better.
What would it be called if you’re the one convincing yourself that ur just sensitive
Lack of self-confidence! Know your worth and know that your feelings are 100% valid!
@@LenaNguyen it means you gaslight yourself far too much.
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I remember growing up I lived with really gaslighting parents
you’re crazy man
Man, our parents has every right to question every decision we made. We were kids, they have our best interest at heart.
"It didn't happen, but you had it coming," the turkish route of gaslighting
I’ve been getting gaslit for my entire life then
Very well said .
Thank you.
Yes and it’s important to know the signs.
As a girl who had a dad who always gaslit me, I've now become quite immune to it.
I'm experiencing some withdrawals from weaning off alcohol. I begged for help from my husband and got angry because he's too self-obsessed to care. He called be mentally sick, a loser and a reject among other lovely things. I got triggered to a point that I left my support group just because that reminded me of my weaknesses. I've always accepted and apologised for every mistake. I've always been aware of my wrongs and wanted to better myself. Only very recently I realised that no matter what I do or don't do, every single thing that goes wrong with this relationship will be my fault. I see very clearly now how the tables are turned. I wish it was just him doing this shit to me, it's his mother too. My parents get a call when I behave out of line but today he hit me on the head with his sandals and when I called my mom, my mother-in-law says "Youre taking it too hard on yourself. Take it easy". So here I am dealing with these narcissistic manipulative self-obsessed Gods while I'm only human. But one thing I'm never doing from now on is accepting a single fault of mine. I'll deflect, I'll get defensive, I'll effing turn the tables on them so fast, they won't even realise what hit them on their humongous heads!
Lol you go get it!!!
"You think that's how you feel, but that's not how you actually feel. I think you are confused." "You need to be institutionalized"
My sister does this all the time. She calls everyone fat then acts like we’re psycho when we get mad at her ugh
I JUST ENDED THE RELATIONSHIP. No apology… no nothing. They’re thoroughly screwed up! And MOST IMPORTANTLY… NEVER TAKE THEM BACK UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES!
This is what my boyfriend always does to me and tells me I am too emotional. But “he is a good dude”
Thank you this is what happens to me a lot
Ty for the knowledge
I was in a religion that was like this. Black people in purple that preach on the side of the street. Been going through this and other forms of manipulation for years but never realized it until I got extremely depressed
The abuser will hack your phone, listen to your conversation, get other people to do his dirty work, then whatever they heard you say in private, they repeat
I've had someone do this multiple times. Got new phones, went to a domestic violence shelter, he stole mail to get phone id, hacked the phone, and even got someone staying near the shelter to do his dirty work.
Having pickup trucks follow me everywhere, even while staying at a domestic violence shelter, having people follow me around.
There is a few men who all follow the same m.o. even a person who grew up in my neighborhood ended up being a covert religious narcissist.
There was a play called angel street in the 1930's that was made into a British movie around 1940 called gaslight which is how the term was coined. There may have been a 1944 remake in USA but the 1940 version was also re-released in 1952. There was also a Hollywood remake in recent years.
It doesn’t have to be an “abusive relationship”. Gaslighting is a verb and anybody could be doing it 🤦🏽♂️
Maha on fire … really moved by the authentic film makers passionate thoughts. Awesome interview.
my parents in a nutshell
Oh god. Don’t call me a bad name.
The humanity!
Literally anything can be gaslighting at this point. I’m so confused 🤦🏾♂️
We all have good and bad days, just as we all may not always make good decisions or good calls on situations and over others. However, that does not give anyone the right to ridicule or make less of your choices or your mishaps. Not one of us is perfect any day of the year. Gaslighting is just an expression of what many these days have decided is acceptable behavior. As far as I'm concerned anyone who behaves in this way is truly the one in need of help. I know who I am, what my strengths and my weaknesses are, and I have accepted that. I do not need anyone else, who is also tainted, to tell me who I am or should be. Value yourself. Period.
Straight to the point. Cool.
Yep...now I know I'm not the narc in this issue.
Wow thx it helped me alot
How can you project the way the victim will respond to gaslighting
What do I do when my court appointed lawyer is always gaslighting me?
I just wanted to add that it's not always name calling. For example. My ex would complain about something, in this instance let's say it's the homeless population. I would point out that we live in a poor city/state. He then would run with my statement saying I'm always negative, have nothing nice to say about City, that I just want to move away, that I'm always starting trouble or that I'm overreacting.
When all I did was point out that we have an economic issue that maybe causing homelessness around here.
A gaslighting abuser will literally make you feel like everything you say and do is wrong
What was his reasoning for saying that you’re always negative?
I have been like this for a long time. I am just tii sensitive
My gf did this whenever I did something stupid like push her friend down the stairs, I dunno
Thanks for explaining the meaning
bro walked backwards and still had good aim,,,,,,, HOW😭😭
How do we know who’s gaslighting who?
My brother does this to me 😤😢
Thank you for the tips
It actually comes from a 1940s movie called "Gaslight"
What is it called if u mess with ur girl in a normal way like say something silly like ur dumb in a really nice joking way and she makes you feel like you are a mean person who needs to apologize even though she was never really mad and just wants to act mad
Just because you're "joking" doesn't mean it's okay to say something if it hurts the other person.
Just be honest with her and apologize for making her feel offended.
Once you’ve done that, it doesn’t matter if she accepts your apology or not; you were sincere and you took accountability for something you did that made her upset. After that, give her time to get over it.
But also, don’t be a door mat. If she’s going out of her way to stay offended about that, there could be a deeper reason why. A lot of times people act like that when they want to use the situation to justify something they’ve been wanting to do.
bad name is subjective and dependent on context the "victim" has every right to leave a relationship if its "abusive".
I have a question please:
Sometimes people's perceptions are warped. Would giving different perspective to them to challenge their perception also be considered gaslighting?
Im still confused 😢
Trueee
MMM yes please
Didnt know it had a name. Ive done yhis gor years
How can we overcome this situation?!😢
Leave/ disassociate if you've addressed it and they don't stop 💯🤷🏽♀️
Don't give a shit
Come on, you know It dont play with us
My story has a villain who is a psychopath since a really early age but grew up in a quite abusive house which made her mentality worsen year by year. Although her mom wasn't abusive at all but she didn't got any full support from her mom and her mom herself was abused by the father and therefore was too scared to even say anything to her husband. Now the thing is I want my Villain to traumatise my main character and gaslight her into believing that the reason for the death of my main lead's older sister is she herself. But heres the problem I am facing. Why? Why does my Villain wants to traumatise her? What's the relationship between her and my main lead. I am so confised how to put sense into their relationship.
Honest questions: 🖐️
So, just expressing to someone how you think they’re acting, is gaslighting?
If that’s the case, isn’t saying someone is gaslighting, a form of gaslighting in itself?
Another thing i don’t understand from this lady’s definition is that she keeps saying “if this person make you think _____”. Why would you willingly allow someone to control how you think about yourself?
I could see if she said “tries to” but she said “MAKE”.
Gasligting is mostly and mainly done by Exclusively by Psycho/sociopaths. Is it right or not???
This doesn’t just happen in relationships these individuals will gaslight anyone. Some girl in my class would gaslight me by saying why do you take everything I say seriously after saying who hurt you in previous abusive relationships. She would then give me her number and when I would say a simple good morning to her she would say can you stop ruining my day. Very confusing person and I’ve dated A BPD girl before but A Gaslighter is much more confusing !!!!
For real?? Just realized someones been doing this… someone close
Parents be like 😂
Gaslighting is a type of manipulation that
that’s not true, gaslighting is lighting a stove on fire
I like to gaslight people in the game sea of thieves and then they go insane
I'm surprised so many claim she is a gaslighter to Ron when all the signs were never her fault and she had to keep a secret from him and harry on how she was taking advantage of her studies. Only Dumbledore knew of thr truth and she still had no choice but to tell harry about the time turner due to the serious situation they were in. Also another thing, Ron was injured aaaaannnddddd this was to make up the time Hermione couldn't be with them when she was petrified in the second book, chamber of secrets. Being a victim from a gaslighter that questioned my self worth and isolated from everyone because they believed the abuser...ive seen enough to know who is the vicim and not. She was playing a lil fun with Ron at the end but this is NOT gaslighting.
Gaslighting is clearly a myth even based on this definition.
If you want to know what gaslighting is then get a court appointed lawyer to help you with your case.
im not a gaslighter i dont belive in gas or lights.
Sounds like narcissism to me what is gas-lighting when it comes to technology though
Does this happen to men?
This is called gaslamping not gaslighting.
Now ~ Thats EXACTLY what Donald Rump is up To.
I clearly don't have sanity look at my pfp its Gordon Ramsey with killer queen
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Gaslighting is word used when you want to start drama but dont have a real reason
The word doesn't exist.
no it isnt
Gaslighting does not exist
Soooooo? Any argument with a woman is gaslighting?
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I could not agree with you more
That’s not gaslighting dude
Indonesian police
Obama is very good at this
What? gaslighting isn't real, what are you talking about?
What if the "victim" is an abuser as well and they just taste their own medicine?
What if the "victim" keep testing the "abuser" and it is just their way to defend themselves.
What if the "victim" is making troubles out of nothing? Keep complaining about everything, suddenly becomes a domestic cancel culture?
Victim mentality is the plague of this day and age!
Gaslighting doesn’t exist
You’re wrong that’s not what gaslighting is you’re trying to make people scared over something for no reason smh
You are gaslighting us into watching your video.
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No she isnt, you're just overthinking and being crazy.
I need to do a better job at gaslighting considering my view count is still low.
I was totally joking! You are doing a great job. My only opinion is that people are now using the term "gaslighting" too much in personal scenarios. Keep up the good work.
@@CoreyJFoley thank you! And I agree! People throw that term around very loosely!
It doesn't matter if you gaslight them if they still decide to stay it's there fault
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Telegram only to get him😎🤩
That's... it's not that simple. I left a very mentally abusive relationship of 5 years a few years ago. It's complicated, especially when love is involved. Victims of gas lighting are often convinced that they are the problem in the relationship and stuff like their self esteem, self worth, etc break down and they don't quite understand how to leave or if they even should. Just because the victim struggles to escape an abusive relationship it does not remotely excuse the behavior of the abuser.
@@michelles1250 100% this. I am so glad you were able to leave that relationship! You are so strong, and I am sure you realize that now. Hindsight is 20/20. Keep shining 💫
@@LenaNguyen Thank you, that really made my day 💖 Keep shining as well!!
youre being sensitive
Thin eye brow = woman look
Thick eye brow = man look
I love the masculine look. I’ll always choose a pant suit over a skirt suit.
@Vestibulando sorry
ew no
Youre makeup is off
Thank you!
sometimes the "victim" is fucking nuts and uses gaslighting as a defense.
I love gaslighting 💞💞💞
Jesus is the only way
As a girl who had a dad who always gaslit me, I've now become quite immune to it.
As a girl who had a dad who always gaslit me, I've now become quite immune to it.