OMG thank you so much for this Coach Victoria! My ex was doing this to me all of the time. He kept saying that now he needed “me time” “to learn to be him” or even “a down day” to avoid conversations, all of which started when he started seeing his therapist. I was confused as I have seen a few therapists in my lifetime and none of them ever said anything like that. I do think that he was using therapy-speak as a form of manipulation.
This is what she did to me, detached herself, started arguments then wouldn't discuss, completely blocked me out, said she needed space but didn't want to talk/make effort so i set my key down and left 4 weeks ago. Its so hard because I wanted to fight for our relationship.
this sounds just like the invisible man that I think blocked me to boot. It only occurred to me the past few months to realize he's a master avoidant. Everytime I wanted to talk about anything it was things like " you can talk about yourself,I'm not talking about me", I'm good(nothing else) ,I'm not feeling well, we'll talk about it later,and we never do. It becomes impossible to talk about things cause he hides,he even friend zoned me on the phone,text,not in person.I tried even two weeks ago to talk,not text,I always told him to talk to me about anything.Hes been very difficult to get him to open up for me,u guys are great thank you
Hey Craig, this video and you ultimatums vs boundaries videos I’ve recommended to viewers of mental healness. Yours and his channel has helped so so much over the last 18 months, I cannot describe! I’m always referring people to you! Love ya ❤
So true. My now ex was cheating with a crisis counselor. I noticed that she was saying certain statements in certain way. I thought it was word salad but I ultimately saw she was being couched by her affair partner what to say. Hate to be her at the end of that relationship.
hi.. good day! can I ask a question please..thank you in advance 😊 Do guys (men in particular) realize if they are hurting their ex-girlfriend by chatting with their ex-girlfriend friend and liking the friend post a week after the breakup?
I am so tired of watching ex back videos, I’m just so tired of it I just want to have my girlfriend back I want to go back to the way it was I don’t want to wake up sad have bad days like I’m having today I just wanna go back to seeing her name pop across my phone! I wanna change her name back from a 💔 to mahal (love in Tagalog)😩🥺😭
Yeah..five months exactly today...one month in NC. Kept breaking it every few weeks till she ghosted me completely. And the hurt is still as fresh as Day 1. I've watched hundreds, if not thousands, of videos by now and ....lost hope
@@SFragger100 see my ex girlfriend keeps telling me that she’s thinking about it I gave her every opportunity to tell me that it’s 100% over and she’s like no I’m thinking about it and then I tell her I’m going to therapy and I’m changing to control my anger she’s like I’m still thinking about it I’m thinking if we have a future together I want to be proud holding your hand and walking down the street not running away from you because you’re angry and you can’t control it! now I never hit her I barely cursed at her but I did say one thing I shouldn’t of said during an argument! But the more I think about it I mean yeah I said something I shouldn’t have said no doubt about it but I don’t think that one word was enough to break out Sub it w now I never hit her I barely cursed at her but I did say one thing I shouldn’t of said and during an argument! But the more I think about it I mean yeah I said something I shouldn’t of said no doubt about it but I don’t think that one word was enough to break us up... her attraction was dropping I was doing things wrong! We broke up May 13 I keep breaking no contact here and there but now I’m on day 10 of no contact and every morning it’s the worst I cry I miss her it just fucking sucks man but what am I gonna do! She told me she will text me when she is ready to talk about her decision
Unfortunately, though we broke up five months ago, I kept reaching out once every month or so till she ghosted me a few weeks back. Don't know if I've sunk the ship at this point (damn at all the confusing info out here in the internet! 7/30/60/90 bla bla) but at this point, indefinite NC and working on improving myself are the only paths left. Your workbooks are great, buddy. Wish I'd read them months ago. Dunno if I'll be able to save this, ball is entirely in her court now. And it's this uncertainty that gets you.
I met a Palestine guy who was raised in Germany from age 4 on n he liked me right away, wanted to marry me right away. But he is very oldshool n would have only accept his gf or wife to swim In long clothes n to wear long clothes. He texted me, Knowingly how I dress and then he wants to adjust it? He always had comments. To my hair length, my perfume, make-up.. He still wanted me Saturday and yesterday he ended it because he thinks it would fail. He was suddenly totally cold and strange
I was in similar situation. Not about clothing because I don't show much of my body anyways but about my diet - he asked me to give up pork. And because pork is no.1 in my country and our cuisine base on it (my mum's cooking is heaven), I said I could (potentially if I had a valid reason) but I don't want to. I also added "Just to remind you, I'm not Muslim." PS. He is. We are not together and this was one of his reasons.
I'll never understand all you non Muslim women dating Muslim men. If you know anything about Islam then you should know to avoid them like an STD. It's NEVER going to work unless you're willing to fully convert and become their submissive. And I went to college with dozens of Muslim guys. White women fall for them and think they can change them but 9 times out of 10, they're just using you for smash and dash batting practice. They have ZERO intention of committing to you. Learn and let go. Raise your standards and don't fall for looks for status. Date someone that will NEVER judge or disrespect you.
@@Aya1900-e5p my mum and whole family is more important to me than him. If I visit them, I'll eat what we all eaten our whole life- traditional dishes made of pork. If I met a vegan/vegetarian and they asked me to stop eating meat because they don't, I'd not followed their beliefs either.
OMG thank you so much for this Coach Victoria! My ex was doing this to me all of the time. He kept saying that now he needed “me time” “to learn to be him” or even “a down day” to avoid conversations, all of which started when he started seeing his therapist. I was confused as I have seen a few therapists in my lifetime and none of them ever said anything like that. I do think that he was using therapy-speak as a form of manipulation.
This is what she did to me, detached herself, started arguments then wouldn't discuss, completely blocked me out, said she needed space but didn't want to talk/make effort so i set my key down and left 4 weeks ago. Its so hard because I wanted to fight for our relationship.
Craig! When it comes to no comtact!! In the words of the righteous brothers...time goes by so slowly, and time can do so much!
This was a really good video. Thank you both!
My ex used the words “sovereign” and “sovereignty” a lot in order to break her codependency issues.
this sounds just like the invisible man that I think blocked me to boot. It only occurred to me the past few months to realize he's a master avoidant. Everytime I wanted to talk about anything it was things like " you can talk about yourself,I'm not talking about me", I'm good(nothing else) ,I'm not feeling well, we'll talk about it later,and we never do. It becomes impossible to talk about things cause he hides,he even friend zoned me on the phone,text,not in person.I tried even two weeks ago to talk,not text,I always told him to talk to me about anything.Hes been very difficult to get him to open up for me,u guys are great thank you
Hey Craig, this video and you ultimatums vs boundaries videos I’ve recommended to viewers of mental healness.
Yours and his channel has helped so so much over the last 18 months, I cannot describe!
I’m always referring people to you!
Love ya ❤
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When I see Victoria, I no longer care about my ex😂. Thanks for helping.
I missed more complex topics that approached relationships and break-ups from a unique angle. Thank you for your research Coach Victoria!
Holy shit that sounds exactly like my ex, so good at phrasing things in therapy terms that I couldn’t argue with hahahah
So true. My now ex was cheating with a crisis counselor. I noticed that she was saying certain statements in certain way. I thought it was word salad but I ultimately saw she was being couched by her affair partner what to say. Hate to be her at the end of that relationship.
hi.. good day! can I ask a question please..thank you in advance 😊
Do guys (men in particular) realize if they are hurting their ex-girlfriend by chatting with their ex-girlfriend friend and liking the friend post a week after the breakup?
I think labels can be used as a tool. HOW we use them is another story.
I am so tired of watching ex back videos, I’m just so tired of it I just want to have my girlfriend back I want to go back to the way it was I don’t want to wake up sad have bad days like I’m having today I just wanna go back to seeing her name pop across my phone! I wanna change her name back from a 💔 to mahal (love in Tagalog)😩🥺😭
We relate brother but until that time comes, work on you, do the work. It will come to your aid when she returns or in your new relationship.
Yeah..five months exactly today...one month in NC. Kept breaking it every few weeks till she ghosted me completely.
And the hurt is still as fresh as Day 1. I've watched hundreds, if not thousands, of videos by now and ....lost hope
@@SFragger100 see my ex girlfriend keeps telling me that she’s thinking about it I gave her every opportunity to tell me that it’s 100% over and she’s like no I’m thinking about it and then I tell her I’m going to therapy and I’m changing to control my anger she’s like I’m still thinking about it I’m thinking if we have a future together I want to be proud holding your hand and walking down the street not running away from you because you’re angry and you can’t control it! now I never hit her I barely cursed at her but I did say one thing I shouldn’t of said during an argument! But the more I think about it I mean yeah I said something I shouldn’t have said no doubt about it but I don’t think that one word was enough to break out Sub it w now I never hit her I barely cursed at her but I did say one thing I shouldn’t of said and during an argument! But the more I think about it I mean yeah I said something I shouldn’t of said no doubt about it but I don’t think that one word was enough to break us up... her attraction was dropping I was doing things wrong! We broke up May 13 I keep breaking no contact here and there but now I’m on day 10 of no contact and every morning it’s the worst I cry I miss her it just fucking sucks man but what am I gonna do! She told me she will text me when she is ready to talk about her decision
Another great video ❤
Supercalafredulisticexbealadoshish!😊
Awesome video 👍
Unfortunately, though we broke up five months ago, I kept reaching out once every month or so till she ghosted me a few weeks back.
Don't know if I've sunk the ship at this point (damn at all the confusing info out here in the internet! 7/30/60/90 bla bla) but at this point, indefinite NC and working on improving myself are the only paths left.
Your workbooks are great, buddy. Wish I'd read them months ago.
Dunno if I'll be able to save this, ball is entirely in her court now. And it's this uncertainty that gets you.
Disassociation
I met a Palestine guy who was raised in Germany from age 4 on n he liked me right away, wanted to marry me right away. But he is very oldshool n would have only accept his gf or wife to swim In long clothes n to wear long clothes. He texted me, Knowingly how I dress and then he wants to adjust it? He always had comments. To my hair length, my perfume, make-up.. He still wanted me Saturday and yesterday he ended it because he thinks it would fail. He was suddenly totally cold and strange
I was in similar situation. Not about clothing because I don't show much of my body anyways but about my diet - he asked me to give up pork. And because pork is no.1 in my country and our cuisine base on it (my mum's cooking is heaven), I said I could (potentially if I had a valid reason) but I don't want to. I also added "Just to remind you, I'm not Muslim." PS. He is. We are not together and this was one of his reasons.
I'll never understand all you non Muslim women dating Muslim men. If you know anything about Islam then you should know to avoid them like an STD. It's NEVER going to work unless you're willing to fully convert and become their submissive. And I went to college with dozens of Muslim guys. White women fall for them and think they can change them but 9 times out of 10, they're just using you for smash and dash batting practice. They have ZERO intention of committing to you. Learn and let go. Raise your standards and don't fall for looks for status. Date someone that will NEVER judge or disrespect you.
@@Aya1900-e5p my mum and whole family is more important to me than him. If I visit them, I'll eat what we all eaten our whole life- traditional dishes made of pork.
If I met a vegan/vegetarian and they asked me to stop eating meat because they don't, I'd not followed their beliefs either.
@@Aya1900-e5p nonsense. He grew up here n asked me if I want him to come back
@@Aya1900-e5p the thing is, they expect us to change to fit. But they won't change anything
I wish Craig could talk more... I skipped through like the entire video...
What?
@@themanman165 Victoria took over the entire vid... I come here for Craig and his thoughts but he barely got a word in.
@@EllieA-ko6sywell u trust him right? N if he is letting her talk that means he trust her on what she is saying