I use pan to make it clear that I like androgenous appearances as much as I like very masculine and very femanine appearances. I don't do it to redefine bi and I am comfortable with people calling me bi. I don't care what people call me, I just use what I use for clarification because I feel that it helps others understand that I just am attracted to what I'm attracted to and it doesn't seem to be in any way affected by how masculine or feminine someone appears. I think this term came about for a similar reason. It's there mainly to make it easier to explain it to people who think bi means I like femanine girls and masculine men when, in reality, there is no preset preference and I am very attracted to androgeny as well. So for me it means, I'm bisexual and I am visually attracted to the spectrum of appearances between masculine man and femanine woman.
I think pansexual is the better description. Beyond masculine, feminine and androgynous appearances on traditional and opposing genders, the attraction could be any age group, any race, any personality. It’s vast and can shift from moment to moment. I can go through my day bouncing from attraction to attraction.
I’m terrified to be honest with my family, I want to tell them that I’m Pan but the way society ignores and denies us, I can’t help but feel that my family will react the same way
Its all from blindness. People only see what outside. Most of the problem is from livitious in the bible as well. But it also says that if a woman sits anywhere on her menstrual cycle she's unclean and she should get a sheep and cut its neck and pour the blood on the priest robe. Lol so I would say the church has failed badly by not doing that. It also says to Sacrfice a child in order to be close to god😂 and also it says masturbation on the ground is unclean. All these things are not literal and what gives them the right to pick and choose ? Good luck to you💟
I know it's 2 years later but I wanted to say that I really hope you were able to tell your family and get the loving support and respect you deserve and the freedom to share who you really are with them
As a struggling to-be-recognised-pansexual who has close a relationship with God, I really admire this! I'm glad she touched on the gender binary!! It wasn't all "hearts not parts" bull. Love this.
can I ask you a question?? how can you be pansexual and still have close relationship to God? I've been struggling with this a long time (I'm also pansexual) and it made me kind of distance from God rather than what you are experiencing..I would love to take some advice for that, cause I don't actually like to be in that sort of dilemma..it is very difficult..by the way I was raised by the seventh day adventists church..
+mrsliahen94 well I was raised by Roman Catholic parents and I've had periods of doubt and questioning. But when I pray I feel safe and God has been good to me so I think I'm more faithful to God than any specific religion but I go by catholic. That's just me, it's a personal journey for everyone. However we worship that other power in any religion or way is valid and you are loved even if for now you choose not to, it's your decision 💖
I like the video and understand the gender binary issue with the term bisexual. However I also feel this video makes the assumption that people who identify as bi don't believe in gender fluidity and loving all genders, which isn't nessisarily true. A lot of bisexual people (most) fit her pansexual discription and so I think to segregate the communities based on a term is splitting an already small and marginalized group of people.
Yeah. Given this way of defining pan involves redefining bisexuality and creates a replacement label for most bi people, on the grounds of a few bi people who don't want to date someone trans / genderqueer / etc ... surely for balance there need to be new labels to break down homo and hetero identities between the inclusive and the uptight. It's like bi is the least economically, sociologically, socially powerful of the "Big Three" so picked out as the easy one to be taken down.
Emmalyn Lindsey exactly, the reason why I identify as bisexual instead of pansexual is because pansexuality=bisexuality+gender blindness ie not really noticing/caring about the gender of a potential partner (its difficult to describe) in most cases, which I don't have. I would still be open to a relationship with someone who identifies outside of the gender binary :)
Preach! I find this approach which imposes an externally defined definition of bi passively dismisses bisexuality as transphobic or, as you said, not believing in gender fluidity and loving all genders. Ironic given the purpose and context of her talk.
Emmalyn Lindsey...All she said was that Bi is loving only male or female genders... Panromantic (yes, I'm more interested in the romance first and the term is used 😊...I'm Panromantic)...Is finding more than male or female attractive...She just said that Bi doesn't fit her and Panromantic/Pansexual does because she can be attracted to more than the standard male or female. I don't feel she was dogging on being Bi at all...In fact, in my thinking...Bi and Panromantic are all in the same community...Each just have a different attraction...Nothing wrong with that. 😎
Jesse, that was a fabulous presentation. You speak easily, clearly and from a point of strength. I was very moved by your talk and your openness and honesty.
This is literally the story of my life, except I didn't tell people I liked girls when I was young because I didn't know that was really a thing, when I came out at age 11 it was only to select people because I wanted to be sure my fragile self esteem wasn't hurt from people not accepting me. Thankfully, my sexuality wasn't once not accepted by anyone (at least so far)
I can so relate to what she is saying.! My childhood was a mess because I loved boys and girls. Even as an adult i couldn't undestand way my gauge wouldn't sat in the male area of my compass. I recently learned the term "Pansexuality" and had an "Aha Moment"! That term truly encompasses how I feel about myself. I'm doing all I can to try and learn as much as I can about it so that I can efficiently articulate its viability to others. Thank you Jesse for contnuing that journey for me ;)
Functionally, I'm Pan, but politically I describe myself as Bi, because there's no 'P' in LGBTQ--and it already has too many letters. However, the video brings up a slightly different concept which is Panagape rather than Paneros. Who you are attracted to is important to you, but how you treat other people, whether you're attracted to them or not, is more important to society, the world, and your soul. Not everybody is Pansexual, but everybody should be Panagape.
“Take my hand, and lead me to salvation Take my love, for love is everlasting And remember the truth that once was spoken To love another person is to see the face of God!” -Les Miserable “I'm in all of it. I'm the darkness and the light, I'm the sunshine and the storm. Yes, you're right. I was there in her laugh, but I'm also here now in your pain. I'm the reason for everything. I am the only ‘why.’" -Amy/Love(Keira Knightley: Collateral Beauty) For somethings words are insufficient; for somethings only poetry suffices.
This history is the same as mine I leave gymnast I am a boxer and since I was at elementary school I like girls ,boys, and guys without a identity and I felt so insecure,then in highschool I fall in love with a boy and then I thought I was fixed but now I am single and I am trying to love myself as I am.I know since the beginning but some months ago I realized am a pansexual.
This is the problem with fake people. They portray themselves as "pro-life" but don't let one live if they are LGBTQIA+ or doesn't fit their expectations. These are the people in constant dilemma and with least understanding (or they don't want to understand) of the world. Love is love. And that's the only thing that can save humanity
+Aaron Saltzer She showed them a slide that pictured both a frying pan, and Pan the satyr. Fortunately, I think in this case, the audience was laughing because she wanted them to chuckle, as a way of braking the ice and warming them up for the rest of her presentation.
I wasn't born pansexual, I mean, how can I be born something that only exists in society? Gender is something created by us, an idea that has meaning only among us... What is a woman? How a woman looks? Women are not born with makeup, high-heels, long hair and jewelry... Do you think an ''heterosexual'' man is born feeling atracted to long hair? Common... Men are not born with a certain hair style, liking heroes and being closed to people... and it's funny that when a male, who was born an blank paper, decides to have long hair and wear jewelry he is called transvestite or cross-dresser, when these words were invented by us such as these objects and the idea that this is woman stuff... During my childhood I saw a lot of men wearing high heels on mangas or on the internet, I grew up seeing man on lingerie, women with short hair, tranvestites, watching gay animations, romances, reading fanfics... The funny thing is that I watched gay romances and didn't even knew the meaning of gay... It was just ordinary romance for me. I didn't examined this close, it was there, right? So it was natural, I thought. So by the time I was a teenager all genders were ok, if you have short hair, an penis ,an vagina, both, muscles, freckles, long hair, if you are black, asian, white, yellow, or decide to have an vagina or a penis or use makeup (or not) it doesn't matter... I am not saying I don't have my preferences, I do, I just won't let such small details be a barrier for me in my sexual or love life... I think everyone is born with the potencial to be anything, just like an artist is born with the potencial to paint, a person is born with the potencial to love and feel attracted to anyone. If I had not been raised the way I did, I would problaby be heterosexual, or at least bisexual, only liking binary people, but seeing all these things that I did, and learning to love each one of them there is no way I could be different.
I identify as pansexual due to the fact that I am not attracted to people based on gender. I'm attracted to them and they happen to have a gender. I didn't find her definition or presentation to have much depth.
A nice little personal story and frustrating that it just starts to get into something that could be a chunky thought when it ends. But it's a shame it misdefines bisexual. "Only men and women" indeed. Ha. I guess it's the myth of "the bi must mean two". On which basis, what do you call the 12th month of the year again?
But, in what way? I'm serious. Love isn't just being nice to each other. Love is sacrifice. Love is defending the weak and the powerless. Love is fighting oppression. Among many other things. In what practical way should one apply this pan love? I'm all for it in principle, but if it's just "be nice to everyone" than it is going to be incoherent and weak. The forces of reaction will rise and crush it!
Dissapointed with that, I respect this is how she experinces things, but it felt like another sugar coated explination seeking approval. Not instead to inform.
I like the idea of pansexual love, but how could we have it recognized as a sexual orientation in society? I think the only way would be to ban the institution of marriage.
Leslie Clark First off you asked for an explanation and second I don’t care what you’re imaginary gender is just don’t force others to accept your beliefs
@@samzh.3481 i wasnt forcing anything I completley respect your opinion, but when you tell me ive been brainwashed and call what i personally identify as imaginary, im gonna get upset. Have a nice life
I loved the talk, but lost me on the "god" part, we atheists keep trying to protect LGBT people from religion, so please don't expose yourselves to that cancer and let us help you.
Rong Chavira...It's not wrong just because you don't personally believe in something. It's OK and cool that people have different views on life...No need to save anyone just for thinking differently than you do. 😊😎✌️🖖🤘🙏🏽☯️ 🕊️ ☮️
I use pan to make it clear that I like androgenous appearances as much as I like very masculine and very femanine appearances. I don't do it to redefine bi and I am comfortable with people calling me bi. I don't care what people call me, I just use what I use for clarification because I feel that it helps others understand that I just am attracted to what I'm attracted to and it doesn't seem to be in any way affected by how masculine or feminine someone appears. I think this term came about for a similar reason. It's there mainly to make it easier to explain it to people who think bi means I like femanine girls and masculine men when, in reality, there is no preset preference and I am very attracted to androgeny as well. So for me it means, I'm bisexual and I am visually attracted to the spectrum of appearances between masculine man and femanine woman.
Sir_Lucian...I agree! And as my dad says, "YOU CAN CALL ME WHATEVER YOU WANT...JUST DON'T CALL ME LATE FOR DINNER!" 🤣
I think pansexual is the better description. Beyond masculine, feminine and androgynous appearances on traditional and opposing genders, the attraction could be any age group, any race, any personality. It’s vast and can shift from moment to moment. I can go through my day bouncing from attraction to attraction.
Well goodness! I had no idea folks were watching my video. I'm happy that my video is helpful. Love and light!
Jesse Taylor Still being watched 4 years later. =D I love your idea of the Pan approach.
Thank you :)
people are still watching this 8 years later :D
I’m terrified to be honest with my family, I want to tell them that I’m Pan but the way society ignores and denies us, I can’t help but feel that my family will react the same way
Its all from blindness. People only see what outside. Most of the problem is from livitious in the bible as well. But it also says that if a woman sits anywhere on her menstrual cycle she's unclean and she should get a sheep and cut its neck and pour the blood on the priest robe. Lol so I would say the church has failed badly by not doing that. It also says to Sacrfice a child in order to be close to god😂 and also it says masturbation on the ground is unclean. All these things are not literal and what gives them the right to pick and choose ? Good luck to you💟
I know it's 2 years later but I wanted to say that I really hope you were able to tell your family and get the loving support and respect you deserve and the freedom to share who you really are with them
As a struggling to-be-recognised-pansexual who has close a relationship with God, I really admire this! I'm glad she touched on the gender binary!! It wasn't all "hearts not parts" bull. Love this.
can I ask you a question?? how can you be pansexual and still have close relationship to God? I've been struggling with this a long time (I'm also pansexual) and it made me kind of distance from God rather than what you are experiencing..I would love to take some advice for that, cause I don't actually like to be in that sort of dilemma..it is very difficult..by the way I was raised by the seventh day adventists church..
+mrsliahen94 well I was raised by Roman Catholic parents and I've had periods of doubt and questioning. But when I pray I feel safe and God has been good to me so I think I'm more faithful to God than any specific religion but I go by catholic. That's just me, it's a personal journey for everyone. However we worship that other power in any religion or way is valid and you are loved even if for now you choose not to, it's your decision 💖
ok, thanks...I have the same opinion about religion as you
John 14:6 ❤️
I know this is an old comment but I really appreciate it!
I like the video and understand the gender binary issue with the term bisexual. However I also feel this video makes the assumption that people who identify as bi don't believe in gender fluidity and loving all genders, which isn't nessisarily true. A lot of bisexual people (most) fit her pansexual discription and so I think to segregate the communities based on a term is splitting an already small and marginalized group of people.
Yeah. Given this way of defining pan involves redefining bisexuality and creates a replacement label for most bi people, on the grounds of a few bi people who don't want to date someone trans / genderqueer / etc ... surely for balance there need to be new labels to break down homo and hetero identities between the inclusive and the uptight. It's like bi is the least economically, sociologically, socially powerful of the "Big Three" so picked out as the easy one to be taken down.
Emmalyn Lindsey exactly, the reason why I identify as bisexual instead of pansexual is because pansexuality=bisexuality+gender blindness ie not really noticing/caring about the gender of a potential partner (its difficult to describe) in most cases, which I don't have. I would still be open to a relationship with someone who identifies outside of the gender binary :)
Emmalyn Lindsey don't be afraid of accurate terminology. That is all it is.
Preach! I find this approach which imposes an externally defined definition of bi passively dismisses bisexuality as transphobic or, as you said, not believing in gender fluidity and loving all genders. Ironic given the purpose and context of her talk.
Emmalyn Lindsey...All she said was that Bi is loving only male or female genders...
Panromantic (yes, I'm more interested in the romance first and the term is used 😊...I'm Panromantic)...Is finding more than male or female attractive...She just said that Bi doesn't fit her and Panromantic/Pansexual does because she can be attracted to more than the standard male or female. I don't feel she was dogging on being Bi at all...In fact, in my thinking...Bi and Panromantic are all in the same community...Each just have a different attraction...Nothing wrong with that. 😎
Jesse, that was a fabulous presentation. You speak easily, clearly and from a point of strength. I was very moved by your talk and your openness and honesty.
I'm so happy that this video exists. This is the best way to explain pansexuality to people whom I have a hard time telling. Thank you for this video!
Love and sexuality is not the same because humans love without sex
+EH CBunny that is why there is panromantic, biromantic etc.
+Sebastian Alanen stfu
Humans are born problems.
For themselves, some to others nearby and some to the whole world.
This is literally the story of my life, except I didn't tell people I liked girls when I was young because I didn't know that was really a thing, when I came out at age 11 it was only to select people because I wanted to be sure my fragile self esteem wasn't hurt from people not accepting me. Thankfully, my sexuality wasn't once not accepted by anyone (at least so far)
Great video! This is empowering, insightful, and beautiful. Unconditional love doesn't discriminate period!!!
I can so relate to what she is saying.! My childhood was a mess because I loved boys and girls. Even as an adult i couldn't undestand way my gauge wouldn't sat in the male area of my compass. I recently learned the term "Pansexuality" and had an "Aha Moment"!
That term truly encompasses how I feel about myself. I'm doing all I can to try and learn as much as I can about it so that I can efficiently articulate its viability to others. Thank you Jesse for contnuing that journey for me ;)
Functionally, I'm Pan, but politically I describe myself as Bi, because there's no 'P' in LGBTQ--and it already has too many letters. However, the video brings up a slightly different concept which is Panagape rather than Paneros. Who you are attracted to is important to you, but how you treat other people, whether you're attracted to them or not, is more important to society, the world, and your soul. Not everybody is Pansexual, but everybody should be Panagape.
What does Bi have to do with politics?
what's panagape mean ?.
@@johnathanballard1304
Means "pan love" because agape is Greek for love.
That's the only reason I know that.
what are paneros mean ?
@@johnathanballard1304
It's a bread store.
Powerful talk
thank u this helped me so much
Just. Wow. I love your video! Please dont delete this no matter what ok? :) youre amazing thank u for this ♥
“Take my hand, and lead me to salvation
Take my love, for love is everlasting
And remember the truth that once was spoken
To love another person is to see the face of God!”
-Les Miserable
“I'm in all of it.
I'm the darkness and the light,
I'm the sunshine and the storm.
Yes, you're right.
I was there in her laugh,
but I'm also here now in your pain.
I'm the reason for everything.
I am the only ‘why.’"
-Amy/Love(Keira Knightley: Collateral Beauty)
For somethings words are insufficient; for somethings only poetry suffices.
Ahh, I'm so glad you can relate! You're very welcome--I wish you well on your journey to love.
This history is the same as mine I leave gymnast I am a boxer and since I was at elementary school I like girls ,boys, and guys without a identity and I felt so insecure,then in highschool I fall in love with a boy and then I thought I was fixed but now I am single and I am trying to love myself as I am.I know since the beginning but some months ago I realized am a pansexual.
I think pansexuals need to look up Robyn Ochs before they make sweeping judgements about bisexuality
Wait... did she just say ppl easily accept bisexuality? Lol. Since when?
This is the problem with fake people. They portray themselves as "pro-life" but don't let one live if they are LGBTQIA+ or doesn't fit their expectations. These are the people in constant dilemma and with least understanding (or they don't want to understand) of the world. Love is love. And that's the only thing that can save humanity
You are a kindred spirit.
I don't understand why people laughed when she said she is pansexual. That's a little rude.
+Aaron Saltzer She showed them a slide that pictured both a frying pan, and Pan the satyr. Fortunately, I think in this case, the audience was laughing because she wanted them to chuckle, as a way of braking the ice and warming them up for the rest of her presentation.
+Alex B. okay. I didn't notice that.
It's because of her graphic
Annietown Show Oh.
Still waiting for them to include Toucansexuality. Smh so Toucanphobic
This was a great talk :) Well done.
I’m Pansexual
This makes me happy. Thank you!
When your mom forces you to watch something educational and inspiring but you still can't give up pansexual content -
I wasn't born pansexual, I mean, how can I be born something that only exists in society? Gender is something created by us, an idea that has meaning only among us... What is a woman? How a woman looks? Women are not born with makeup, high-heels, long hair and jewelry... Do you think an ''heterosexual'' man is born feeling atracted to long hair? Common... Men are not born with a certain hair style, liking heroes and being closed to people... and it's funny that when a male, who was born an blank paper, decides to have long hair and wear jewelry he is called transvestite or cross-dresser, when these words were invented by us such as these objects and the idea that this is woman stuff... During my childhood I saw a lot of men wearing high heels on mangas or on the internet, I grew up seeing man on lingerie, women with short hair, tranvestites, watching gay animations, romances, reading fanfics... The funny thing is that I watched gay romances and didn't even knew the meaning of gay... It was just ordinary romance for me. I didn't examined this close, it was there, right? So it was natural, I thought. So by the time I was a teenager all genders were ok, if you have short hair, an penis ,an vagina, both, muscles, freckles, long hair, if you are black, asian, white, yellow, or decide to have an vagina or a penis or use makeup (or not) it doesn't matter... I am not saying I don't have my preferences, I do, I just won't let such small details be a barrier for me in my sexual or love life... I think everyone is born with the potencial to be anything, just like an artist is born with the potencial to paint, a person is born with the potencial to love and feel attracted to anyone. If I had not been raised the way I did, I would problaby be heterosexual, or at least bisexual, only liking binary people, but seeing all these things that I did, and learning to love each one of them there is no way I could be different.
Being attracted to people that are androgynous and feminine regardless of their gender I assume makes me Pan.
You might be bi if you dont have an attraction to men
@@fnln7436 not certain, I'm not attracted to masculinity at all.
@@johnnj3858 being bi doesn't mean liking boys and girls it means liking two genders lol
@@fnln7436 define the genders, man, woman, trans, non binary what's your point
So many questions.
Woah is this a video about my not so common sexuality that I can show people! Thanks TED!
I identify as pansexual due to the fact that I am not attracted to people based on gender. I'm attracted to them and they happen to have a gender. I didn't find her definition or presentation to have much depth.
OMG! I can relate. Everything you said is like me. I think I could use your video to explain pansexuality to certain people!!!
What does the bible (she cited multiple times) think about pansexualism? Everyone should leave religion behind if we want to progress!
…. No…. Just no.
Yass
Thank you muchly--bet you're a hero too.
"J'entend ton coeur" from 'bitter sweat kimono Marrilion, Is it just me or can i hear here hart all the way tru her talk?
I am pansexual. 🖤😘
what is her background?
+namastein bella A TedTalk that includes the phrases "way more efficient" or "super important" probably isn't a professional.
Or is using accessible language for a "non-professional" audience.
So much gender & sexuality stuff fails that test.
A nice little personal story and frustrating that it just starts to get into something that could be a chunky thought when it ends.
But it's a shame it misdefines bisexual. "Only men and women" indeed. Ha.
I guess it's the myth of "the bi must mean two". On which basis, what do you call the 12th month of the year again?
But, in what way? I'm serious.
Love isn't just being nice to each other. Love is sacrifice. Love is defending the weak and the powerless. Love is fighting oppression. Among many other things.
In what practical way should one apply this pan love? I'm all for it in principle, but if it's just "be nice to everyone" than it is going to be incoherent and weak. The forces of reaction will rise and crush it!
Just do it.
Defend the weak, sacrifice yourself for others, that deserve it in your opinion.
Does not sound that hard to me 😅
You made your way to Chaka Khan?? :-S
Basically that's another talk about how cool being a bonobo is. I wish someone would care to develop that idea further.
Dissapointed with that, I respect this is how she experinces things, but it felt like another sugar coated explination seeking approval. Not instead to inform.
What more do you want??
Why is it called pansexuality?
because it just does
+Sean Suarez just does what?
+Aaron Saltzer pan is the Greek word for all, just like bi is means two or homo means the same in greek
SparksMayFly okay. That makes sense.
I think she explained it at the start of the video
I like the idea of pansexual love, but how could we have it recognized as a sexual orientation in society? I think the only way would be to ban the institution of marriage.
Pansexuality is Bisexuality. I'm not against pansexuality but it's just a choice of words
She looks and sounds like AOC.
Bi=Same and opposite
I kinda want to like, but there's 666 likes...
THERE'S ONLY 2 GENDERS
Then why am i here...?
Lmao explain please
Leslie Clark cause you were brainwashed by SJW’s
@@samzh.3481 oh my god finally
Im glad you figured out for me
Lmao get a life
Why are you worried about what i identify as?
Leslie Clark First off you asked for an explanation and second I don’t care what you’re imaginary gender is just don’t force others to accept your beliefs
@@samzh.3481 i wasnt forcing anything
I completley respect your opinion, but when you tell me ive been brainwashed and call what i personally identify as imaginary, im gonna get upset.
Have a nice life
I loved the talk, but lost me on the "god" part, we atheists keep trying to protect LGBT people from religion, so please don't expose yourselves to that cancer and let us help you.
Rude
Rong Chavira...It's not wrong just because you don't personally believe in something. It's OK and cool that people have different views on life...No need to save anyone just for thinking differently than you do. 😊😎✌️🖖🤘🙏🏽☯️ 🕊️ ☮️
Here we go, people who want to be accepted and respected but they don't accept the belief of others
Unlike what you believe, religion doesn't have to be about hate. Religion is about love and acceptance.
-An atheist with Satanic beliefs