So the girl had the chance to become work besties with the frkn nephew of the CEO, virtually paving her way to the top, but she chose to bark at him, because.... she felt he was privileged? How dumb can people be? Isn't it taught anymore how priceless Vitamin B is?
That was also what came Into my mind. The network would be priceless. If not make friend don't make him ur enemy by being so salty. U could possibly get fired or biased ( so much possiblity if he was actually ahole he could do lot of damage)
@@frankcaggiano8282 so, just because you had a good connection with someone to help you get hired, you dont deserve the opportunity as much as the other person?
@@Cozy-Cooking mental development. A 23 year old is closer to complete mental agency than a hormonal, underdeveloped teen. The age gap isn't the problem, it's the gap in mental capacity. It's also why in some places drunk people can't consent i.e. can't sign contracts, can't do so sexually etc.
Just because his uncle is rich, doesn't mean his uncle actually gives him any of it. Most rich people I've met have been painfully cheap, stingy and down right mean spirited when it comes to money, specifically spending money. Don't assume rich people are generous with their money, 99% are not and that also applies to their family a lot of the time.
Because we hear all of this from one perspective, I find myself questioning her view of him. It sounds like she is characterizing him based on her perceived notions and it colors the while thing to the point where I don't know if I can trust that he is as bad as she says he is.
@@Destroyahx2 well snobby entitled better than rich kids who are not aware of their environment and privilege they do carried as well exist too. The difference is that this guy didn't paint himself better than just because he has a father that Is the CEO of a company. He tries to fit in and relate to people who he clearly relates and wants to befriend. She took it way above as if it was rub in her face of his privileges she doesn't have. She care about his status more than his character
@@melteddarkchocolate000 Yes, I was having a hard time explaining myself. I like the example of "he tries to act humble." When I hear that, I use how poisoned she is against him and think that maybe he isn't trying, just is. Stuff like that. You put it into words very well.
The major thing is that the op mentioned how hard the interview was yet the guy literally went into one late and hangover yet they still accepted him, showing that he gets special treatment due to his connection to the CEO.
@Science Is the truth I agree. That is an indicator he might have been given leanency when hiring. However, my biggest hangup is still the narrator. I could believe he was hungover and was late, but didn't actually tell the company that, instead giving a reasonable excuse. I do think he does have at least unconscious bias, though probably more conscious bias is directed towards him due to his uncle. And can probably get away with more. My biggest issue is that the narrator doesn't actually have any examples of how he is less competent, only that he is because of nepotism. This leads me to believe that he might not actually be the person the person described. My biggest evidence is the no expanles. In almost any story, when portraying someone as the antagonist, people will give any examples to show this, no matter how relevant it might be, especially when they are looking for validation in their own choice.
1.) For a 23y/o I wouldn’t go above 37y/o still a large age gap. But none of my biz. 2.) OP is rude and an idiot. Could’ve made a great connection to the CEO. 3.) She had reservations, but lied and stayed. They should’ve broken it off a long time ago. Still kinda sus, but the reaction is unwarranted after 10 years.
An age gap of 42 and 23 is 19. This means one of them already graduated high school when the other was being born. That’s a ridiculously large age gap, and it’s two completely different stages of life
That girl with the rich coworker sort of acted like she thinks life is a movie or something. You don't get to lash out at people at work because you don't like them, or because they're richer than you lol. Seems pretty immature.
Isn't it kind of obvious the younger girlfriend wasn't equipped to care for the child if she had to call the ex-wife to come over and deal with the son when he had a fever to begin with 'cause she didn't know what to do. It's written right there in the text. Certainly people can have their preferences and opinions on age gaps, but I do find it lowkey creepy for a 42 year old man to be going for a 23 year old girl who is still in school.
She had to go to school. She called for someone to watch the kid so she could go to school. If she hadn't had to go to school, I'm sure she would've been fine watching the child for the day. Watching a sick child isn't rocket science. The only person saying that the girlfriend couldn't handle it, is the clearly jealous ex wife.
@@existentialcrisis4884 Okay, I missed that part because it's downplayed. If it was just classes she could have not gone maybe, it doesn't say that she had something important, who knows...
I don’t think its creepy and in my experience dating i have never met a girl that was fine dating a guy her age or even close , as long as you mention you are the same age or only a year older the immediate reaction would be “i feel like he would be too immature or i will see him as a brother”. Women more often than not actively want older men, now that might be a big age gap for some women but alot out there are actually attracted to that. And tbh i find it ridiculous that a 23 year old grown adult isn’t able to handle a situation like that or at least try. I think alot of people these days aren’t taught how to take control or responsibility of unknown situations. And her being 23 or 29 won’t change that if she never tries to actively be a problem solving type of person. You really don’t want get training before you become a parent , once you have a child you are forced to learn everything by yourself.
By 'school', it's college. Big difference between the two. And I do agree that it's suspicious for the husband, however the matter of panicking can honestly be done by anyone, regardless of age, if they had no prior experience with babysitting or having their own children. Yes, she probably shouldn't be worrying over children at that age, however she's an adult that agreed to be in the relationship. If she bit more than she could chew, it'd be her own learning experience. Not unless the husband does anything out of bounds, she has all rights to be and end the relationship if she thought she learnt how to handle children that young, or realized it was too much.
While she probably shouldn't have said anything, it is weird that a 42 year old guy would go for someone still in college. And I think it's fine for her to be concerned that her children are with someone who can't take care of them, she shouldn't have brought up age and treated her like a kid. The girlfriend really shouldn't have to call her boyfriend's ex to deal with a kid's fever, she should be able to handle it herself.
It’s literally not weird at all tf there both grown and can do what they want, also you don’t know who wheat for who the chick probably could have hit him up you have no clue.
12:00 this one is the craziest. She'd be supporting her partner through every tough time if she truly loved him. A funeral gives a sense of closure and some kind of farewell. The fact that she would not only forbid him from that closure but also that she wouldn't even show empathy for his loss shows just how much she doesn't care about him. Besides, how does letting him go to his ex's funeral harm her in any way? It's like she's scared that the ex's ghost is going to steal him away from her. It's not the fact that she didn't like the ex (you're entitled to dislike anyone really) and it's not the fact that she was happy about the ex's death (but that's fucked up on a whole other level) it's the fact that she was so caught up in her own narcissism that she wouldn't do what is expected of any loving partner. I hope the husband finds somebody who will do what she failed to provide.
The problem is that she should have never tolerated the relationship in the first place. A spouse that puts a friend (any friend) above their spouse is not a good partner. Her quibbling over the funeral is pointless because what she is really mad about is him putting this friend above his marriage. I totally understand her relief at the woman being dead because she will no longer have to deal with it, though it may actually end up worse because his grief could extend for a very long time. Who wants to hear their spouse crying over their ex? That would get really uncomfortable and hurtful after a while. I think people are failing to recognize how hurtful this relationship has been to the wife for years, and she has put up with it because she loves her husband.
@@Karamarika there is absolutely no indication he put his ex above his marriage. The op just said that they did things friends do, and it bothered her. If it bothered her that much she should've had a conversation with him or she should have left if she wasn't comfortable. She decided she didn't like his ex simple because it was his ex and wanted to be salty that he still talked to her and she wanted to be petty about it
@KING SHIT THE TURD there was a clear indication that this friend was put above his wife. He very pointedly stated that he was going to remain friends with her no matter what and that if the wife had a problem with it, she could leave. That is him prioritizing a relationship with the ex over his marriage. He is even doing it after her death. The wife should have never tolerated that. It's not healthy for anyone involved.
@@Karamarika If the wife couldn't tolerate it, she should've left from the moment the husband's rule was stated. Instead, she chose to stay in the relationship and therefore, should've filled her role by supporting her husband through the tough time he was having. If she didn't want to fill that basic, partner expectation then once again she should've left. Preventing your husband from attending their friend's funeral just isn't right.
@Yasmine ♡ yes, she should have. But everyone agrees to terms in the beginning of a relationship that they think they can tolerate, only to later find that it's far worse than they thought. No one should have to take a back seat to someone else in their own marriage. The wife absolutely should have left, but the husband is just plain wrong for putting his ex on a pedestal and making her more important than his wife. If anyone is more wrong here, it's the husband. His behavior is disgusting. If his ex was so important to him, then he should have stayed with her.
jealous bc she wants to make sure her kid is well taking care of when they co parent. that's absolutely delusional for them to say, the child had a fever and fevers can kill kids, so how is she jealous?
23 and 42 is super weird. That’s a 20 year age gap!!! People have parents with that age gap. Do you know how different 20 year olds and 40 years are? What would a 40 year old see in a 20 year old besides sex or being able to easily manipulate them? I can’t agree with you on this one.
Literally. How many creepy old dudes dating 20 year olds does Pegasus know? 💀 I'm 20 and I can't imagine myself dating someone who's in their 40s or even 30s. To me they are old.
I personally wouldn't ask redditors to evaluate my character because they don't understand social interactions. On the other hand people that post on AITA seem to understand even less
If you don't think a 42 year and a 23 year dating is weird, think of it this way...the guy was 20 when the girl was a baby. He was going to college when she was learning to walk. They are adults so they can do what they want but it's still weird. Also if I was the mom, I'd be more concerned on the fact that the father didn't call me when my kid was sick but instead left the kid with the 23 year old who obviously didn't know what she was doing. Like...divorced or not, you should know who is watching your kids and if they are able to properly care for them.
Bro, I hate this minset of "well, she's over 18 so she's a legal adult so they can do whatever they want". It's just a crappy excuse for dudes to be creepy over much younger women. Because for f sake 42 years old man is WAY too old for a 23 year old. I am a 23 years old woman and if any of my friends started dating a 42 years old man with 2 kids and an ex wife I would immediately be concerned Also the wife in the story doesn't seem to be jealous at all, she does seem concerned about her kids AND the girl as well
I feel like your mindset of "women can't choose for themselves" is more harmful than just simply letting people figure it out for themselves in a safe manner. Obviously, man or woman, if you were groomed, that's a different story. But, saying that a 23 year old can't make the conscious decision to date a 42 year old, you're probably the one in the wrong.
Yeah..I sorta agree on this Although it's completely legal, its at least a little bit morally wrong since its completely different stages of life. Right now Im 16 and I can't imagine dating a 35 yr old..
It’s not 100% about the age, it’s at the stage of life she’s at rn. If she was 23 and already working and out of college that’s different. Still a huge age difference that makes me raise an eyebrow, but not necessarily wrong. She doesn’t know how to care for a child and the husband left her alone. Maybe y’all don’t have kids but when we are worried our kids aren’t getting care by a capable adult, it’s very concerning. I agree she shouldn’t have said what she said, but to simply dismiss the whole thing with a “she’s just jealous” is an oversimplification. Her CHILD is involved. That makes it her business. She should have raised her concerns with her ex and maybe dealt with the childcare in a different way, but her concern was not unwarranted.
right! like ofc its sort of her business, the woman is going to be around HER child! like it would be a different thing if the ex kept his girlfriend and family separate, but her ex left her son with a COLLEGE student who didn't know what to do.
I agree that it isn't about the age, since other than in America I think other countries age gaps are commonly know up until 20 yrs old, But the way she said it made it sound like it was the age. Yes if it was my child I'd be worried about him and want to get involved, however other than saying she called her for help when she needed to leave for college we don't really know if she's irresponsible. Being 23 is old is enough to take care of a child and I think she should not judge so quickly because of her age.
The first one. Pegasus had one of those moments when his opinion makes no sense. 23 is way too young for an almost 50 year old. They got divorced 4 years ago right. When the girl was freaking 19. He's old enough to be her father! I've dated older men before I realized it was wrong. The creep factor is there, society just refuses to acknowledge it after you turn 18. Would not recommend, it was very uncomfortable. Edit: If anyone wants to come after me as being a "modern feminist" with double standards, my opinion stands equally for anyone dating a person that much younger than them. If you could have babysat them, and now you're doing the frick with them, you need to get your shit together.
Nowadays, there is a lack of more mature men my age. So, I've been dating a man that is now 27 and I'm 19, turning 20 this year. I don't think you quite understand that some women are more attracted to a more mature looking and acting man. I don't think their relationship is for you to comment on as far as the age gap, nor was it the ex wife's.
@@cactus.man_Exactly, that's an entire three levels more of maturity. Not to talk of the fact that this 43 year old has two kids he's been taking care of longer than the 23 year old has been away from her own parent's house. It's incredibly worrying if these two are on the same maturity level, but some men like being mentors to their girlfriends so I can see the appeal. What works for them works for them.
23 y/o college student + 42 y/o financially independent man… I can’t see what could go wrong.. geez it’s a slippery slope into a toxic dynamic Also this girl is around the children. If you are the parent would you trust this girl, that you barely know, with your children?
@@austinlarrimore6542 but it's the fact that instead of calling his ex wife, the mother, to take care of her sick child cause he apparently can't, he leaves the kid home with the clueless 23 year old who obviously hasn't had much experience caring for kids.
@Banana the mom said the girl was very nervous. Also the mom says she left the house before the husband got home. So the 23 year old was still there and hadn't left for class. It may have been the combo of caring for a sick child that shes unsure how to care for and also that she might miss class.
That last story was the craziest thing i've heard this week....like how insecure can you be- also- ngl, i didn't expect this many people to find the 42-year-old and 23-year-old relationship to be weird 💀
For the third story...yeah, to me, I know it's the wife's fault for sucking it up, but I wished the husband would've been more understanding when it comes to explaining this friendship since from an outsider's view, they _definitely_ seem like two people who don't know are in love. I mean - imagine dating someone quite wonderful for months and then you start noticing their relationship, and then he hits you with the 'well, she's more important to me than you' - I very much understand that she's been with him much longer, but wow - That would...that might actually mess someone up. Honestly, even if that girlfriend was a guy. The fact is that if he had a past romantic relationship with this person (regardless of being a guy or girl), and although didn't work out - Still continuously have traditionally romantic outings with _just_ the two of them - Yes, that can feel incredibly disheartening. It's not about the gender I'd say, this is about the fact that he had a past relationship that seems so much deeper than a love that's meant to be deeper than that. I really can't judge his character, neither can I confirm if the relationship was actually platonic, but from this, although the wife should hold responsibility, I can't deny how messy it is. Fuck, as rational as I consider myself to be, I'd say this might make me consider being irrational that I can't even be mad at her myself. It's just sad. The argument she later presented was so out-of-bounds that it made me wonder how no one has noticed any contempt or dislike from her side since it's pretty obvious that she disliked the ex that badly. I'm _really_ wondering why no one has come out and at least bring up this concern, and comfort her. I'm surprised the husband didn't seem to have attempted that, when admittedly his relationship with the friend is incredibly unfamiliar for most people. Then again, this is just her story. Though I can't help but feel disheartened as well. I'm also gonna mention - Don't you think she's like this exactly because she's clearly not the better choice from the get-go? Again, just being told that you have less worth than someone, even contextually, just hurts. To be treated like you don't have anymore worth than someone else, someone that he potentially can leave you for the other, just hurts. Then again, it's also her fault for sticking by it without bringing up the concern, and then lashing it all out at the end, but I can't deny there's probably a psychology that lead up to that.
its not like the husband sprung it out of no where. he first clarified in the first month of the relationship, then multiple times afterwords. Clearly ex was never an issue otherwise, since this woman looked past such a big thing. Mind you, you can make this conclusion from the perspective of a heartless and jealous wife, i.e. in such a biased perspective, still the husband comes out clean. imagine a third party such as the husband of the ex who characterised her as a 'ghoul'. The mess is totally inside her head so much so that she cant let go of the ex WHO IS DEAD, that alone should point to the fact that it is totally inside this woman's head. A normal jealous person would gladly send her husband to the funeral because the problem is over but not this bitch.
You're right about all the pain but nobody made her marry a man she didn't trust, only an ahole does that. To feel relieved your husband's best friend died... omg I'd call exorcists to come cast the evil out. And if I meet this husband I'm blowing him out of spite. I'm queen ahole.
1. Honestly, I'd be worried about my kids too🙁 Like her not being able to take care of the kid CLEARLY means that she's still young and needs more experience. And if he's dating her just cuz she's attractive (&young) then... pretty weird. Like, looks should not be ur priority. As a divorced man he should know better. The age gap is very big💀 even if she's an adult...20 years ago gap???!!!! That's wild. 2. He probably has a crush on her. She took it the wrong way. 3. Both of them are in the wrong. He did warn her and she decided to stay. It's clearly a toxic relationship. Also, if ur partner told u that they'd choose their bff over u, who wouldn't be jealous???? And he said this multiple times. Like, if I'm in a relationship, I'd want to be in one where I feel loved. Not saying he can't love anyone else as much as me. Just saying that it seems like he doesn't love his wife. Which to me isn't right. She's ur WIFE, you should have trouble choosing between your bff and your wife, but he'd clearly choose his bff which is pretty messed up. I'd divorce real quick. I only think she's in the wrong becuz she decided to stay in this unhappy relationship. Actually, NVM, saying she's doesn't exist anymore is pretty messed up. I still think they're both the a-holes.
I also wonder about the first one if he's trying to use her as a free babysitter. Like he had to know she had classes and that she doesn't have much experience with kids but still chose to to dump the sick kid on her anyway. And he didn't tell the mom that her kid was sick or that he was leaving their kid with his girlfriend. I don't care how messy the divorce was, if you share custody, you should always let the other parent know who is watching your kids.
@3:45 “who sais shes not equipped to care for a child” bro i hate to say it but it literally SAIS in the article that shes not equipped to care for a child… if she was she would know what to do when the baby is sick. As a parent myself dude has a good f*ckin point. id be pissed too if my child was left with someone half my age who is too stupid to take care of a baby🤷♂️ as for her comments though it was definitely unnecessary
there is a world of difference between the maturity of a 24 year old and a 30 year old. there is a gap between a 30 year old and a 40+ year old. it's about control, they don't know any better and dude doesn't want to date his own age because people won't tolerate his shit
in college? i feel like if you're in your 40s dating a college girl that's gross. it's weird they both ignored she was in college and was like oh she said she's 23 and just hung onto that.
@@henryr.schrader7520 It's very different to a 55 year old dating a 75 year old. 55 & 75 is closer in maturity and are closer at where they're at in their life. Your brain is still maturing from 18 and onwards until you're around 25.
@@kalziez your brain is maturing your whole life, i'm 20 and i know very well what i'm doing, a 23 year old isn't a kid, she's a grown woman who knows what she is doing, yes there is a maturity gap but not enough for the women to be easily exploitable or anything like that.
@@shubhuman I meant that the brain takes about 25 years to fully develop, not to mature. I agree that she isn't a child and can't be easily exploited, but the age gap is still wrong in my eyes.
For the first story, I think that the op is not the ah because she seemed more mad that he was with someone who couldn't take care of her children rather than jealous. If the woman had time to freak out, call the ex, wait for her to come, etc, before she left for her college class, she had time to try to deal with it herself, but she didn't because she's incompetent. For the second story, the op is the ah because that's just extremely rude to say, even though he's trying to be nice and get to know everyone. His comment did not warrant the reaction that she had. The op is the ah. He literally told her that he would choose his friend over any partner he has. He's crying over the loss of his best friend, and she's relieved??? She doesn't want him to go to his friend's funeral??? Wtf
I disagree with the idea most girls like older men. it might just be cultural difference but as a girl myself who is friends with mostly girls. I have never wanted nor have any of my friends wanted to date an older man. The girls surrounding me to all date people there age or maybe only a few years older max. It uncommon to have a huge age gap difference to the point where when a girl does like older men or there is a huge age gap it’s seen as uncommon. Maybe where I am most people don’t view any benefits to dating an older guy. It’s more likely he already has kids of his own, more likely he’s already been divorced, less attractive, in a totally different stage of life, and if they are a lot older like 10-20 years they r going to reach old age and probably die way before you. The only benefit could be they have money if that’s what a girl is looking for, but I feel like generally around me girls find guys their age more attractive based off of looks as well as the idea of being in the same stage of life together and growing together and starting their own life and family rather than being with someone whose already been through that.
im a little shocked ??? i usually love your take on everything pegasus, but what ? 42 and 23 ? the man is twice her age. he has had 20 years ! of more life experience and maturity than this girl, who is just in college and nowhere near as ready to take care of kids than the average 40 year old woman. men being attracted to youth, is not an all excusing biological fact.. i mean if it were what would stop p.dophiles from using the same justification. yea shes been an adult for 5 years, he has been an adult for 25 years. thats an insane power dynamic, 100% a little creepy, and 100% selfish as its purely an attraction driven relationship, without considering that he is bringing a woman into the picture that simply cant be a mom to those kids. live out your daddy fetishes all you want, addressing both mature men and young women with this. but it should not involve kids. i mean do the math. if those were her own kids, that would be a 35 y.o. man getting an underage girl pregnant.. its creppy, end of the story.
I can't stop commenting about this, it's so weird. And then him saying she's just jealous???? No! She's telling that girl the truth and 9 times out of 10 the girl is going to mature more and realize how screwed up it is. Normally I agree with Pegasus but this ain't right.
@@jenperez3399 To each their own. Anyone can do anything they like. Doesn't make it right. Do you date people who were in diapers when you were in college?
Nah, you guys are wrong about the first one. From what's been told(since this is way too vague) the 23yr had class, didn't know how to treat the fever, the husband was MIA for who knows how long, and she panicked. Yeah, I'd say she's not old enough/experienced enough to be taking care of the wife's kids if this is how she responds to this type of situation. Not only that, but where tf is the husband? From the sounds of it, the girl either wasn't expecting to be left alone with the kid or the husband was taking longer than usual coming back. She's not a babysitter, why is she taking care of a kid that's not hers in the first place if they're only dating? She's not responsible for this kid, it's the father's and he's nowhere to be seen atm. Did he not know her schedule or did he ignore it/forget about it? Either one has some negative connotations and screams lazy/irresponsible to me. Idk anything about that part tho so I can't say much about it besides perosnal opinion. The only thing I agree with you guys about is that she's an adult and her choices are her own. Her consequences are hers to deal with, and the wife has no say about the relationship on its own. It's only if it negatively affects her kids, like current situation, does she get to say anything about it to them. He's sick and needs constant care because of his age. Do that, or give the kid to the mother, until the girl and husband can talk about how the kids will fit into the relationship going forward. That should've been discussed already if they haven't or they need to reassess what they spoke about when she did agree to date him after knowing he had kids.
On that last one, the woman was definitely in the wrong at the end but honestly she should have broken things off as soon as her future husband said he’d choose his friend over her
“if she JUST turned 18 that’s a bit weird.” this is the biggest red flag I’ve ever gotten from you, Pegasus. yuck. 23 and 42 is NOT normal, and a freshly 18 year old with a grown man is a HELL of a lot more than just “a bit weird”. I would still consider it grooming! there is an insanely large difference in mindset between anyone in their 20s (or below, of course) and anybody in their 40s or 50s. any old man who goes for a teenager or a young adult is simply a despicable predator. there are absolutely 0 good or innocent intentions in mind.
How are they a predator for liking younger people? It's not like he's dating a teenager. He's dating a grown woman who can choose what she wants. Didn't know that you are the almighty law creator. Grooming laws were made to protect MINORS not grown fucking adults.
Talk to the women if u have a problem lol. morally it may be wrong but it’s non of our business if a fully grown women and a fully grown man is in a relationship ship. I believe that age shouldn’t be a primary factor to be concerned about after 21. Im 18 and I believe myself to be aware of my surroundings and judgment. A fully grown adult can decide what they want to do, you’re not entitled to point fingers so openly.
Yeah, the woman in the last story is definitely an ahole. Also there's an update to the story and the husband did leave her. Yet she still is saying she's in the right.
@@badsaturnz23yeah like, imagine telling people that your husband goes on movie dates and dinner dates with his ex-wife (their friends though I promise) regularly and literally said that he would choose her over you. And then your next sentence is "we're still together" after.
23 and 42 is weird af, how is it "normal"? Legal but creepy and suspicious af. Casts serious doubt on the man's character and intentions, shows serious emotional and mental immaturity. He may just be using her as a substitute mommy/babysitter he can bang, which is often the case for recently divorced men who go for much younger girls. They realize they relied on the wife for childcare way more than they thought. It even says right in the story that he didnt come take care of his own sick child, and he didnt even call the mother, instead leaving two small children in the care of a 23 yr old new girlfriend that he barely knows (and has class that day/couldnt babysit, which they clearly didnt communicate). She clearly has zero experience caring for kids if she couldnt even handle a fever, although she did the right thing by calling the mother. He's not an responsible adult, he appears to have poor judgement in many things. The mother is right to be angry and not trust the children in their care.
Why doesn’t the woman complaining about her ex’s young girlfriend live her life, being 4 years divorced.. you’re 42 yourself, get a virile potent 23 yo man and stop complaining
She just insulted her once and wants to know if she was an asshole idk it doesn't mean she loses sleep because of it. And it's normal to feel hurt and like it isn't fair that your ex can just date someone who is prettier and more energetic because they're young :((
@@nonono777no fucking way you guys think its out of jealousy :( like you said its been 4 years, she didnt mind when her kids described the GF as young. But 23 is way too young. Literally could have had a daughter that age. Not calling it grooming but theyre clearly at different stages of life. Im sure OP just wanted to warn her as like women stick together yadayada its so creepy he dates a girl whos half her age.
@@leialliaasmr23 isn’t young and it’s definitely jealous, women out there get their jealous of their own daughters let alone their ex’s new gf. 23 is not in any way shape or form young, it’s ridiculous people are saying that, the perfect age to have children is early 20s and it has historically been so. Even biology agrees , once women reach the late 20s that’s the danger zone , fertility drops hard and birth complications rate go up. I am a guy, not married , and i can take care of kids the only difference is that i learned it since i was a kid myself and pretty much raised my younger sister and on top of that i babysitted so many of my relatives kids and i was barely like 13 at the time. 23 is plenty old enough, if you can drive, drink, travel, hell that’s old enough to drive an airplane , a tank or become a nuclear engineer. I am sure going to google and figuring out what to do when a kid has a fever is easy in comparison.
@@leialliaasmr right and if I understand correctly she just left the ex wife there to take care of the kids cuz she had to go to her classes? Her and the husband didn't arrange any childcare? She didn't even know how to take care of a fever? Clearly she isn't cut out to be dating someone with young kids.
First story; she wasn't claiming a fact. Yes, it's a fact that the girlfriend was twice as young as her boyfriend, however it's absolutely a claim of value to state that she _shouldn't_ be dating someone twice as old as her. And...my god, I personally think 24 year old is a fine age for people to babysit children. Others do it in their teenage years. I know the context here is more different, but I myself wouldn't mind so much if someone from college were to babysit my kids. And I mean, this whole assumption that this 24 year old wouldn't be able to care for the kids didn't come up until she _saw_ that person. So it would've been okay if it were an older person that panicked and called, but not someone younger? The end result would've been the same either way if that girlfriend was 34 or 24. The mother would've taught her how to feel less panicked around children, and the recipient would be mature enough to understand and withhold this information.
Not everyone is the same though. The fact that she was freaking out shows she shouldn't have been left to look after the kid. The father could have called the mother to look after the kid or arranged someone trained in childcare to do so. Also the fact that the girlfriend had called the mother to tell her that her own kid was sick and not the father gives me red flags about that Dad.
For the first story, it is very weird and a huge age gap. I think because you are guys you don’t quite get that older men who go for younger more inexperienced women are a red flag and can be predatory. It’s GROSS when a man who could be your father is sexually interested in you. And let’s not pretend that there’s anything else to that relationship. Men need to stick to their age and not date young girls who could be their DAUGHTERS.
As for the second story - I don't even think the guy was trying to be a butt...yeah, people can seem like a butt when they're ignorant and not very self-aware, but for the lady, don't you think you're just as ignorant as him when you're only thinking about your own perspective, and not his own perspective of why he must be this ignorant as well? He just wants to socialize with the people he plans to work with. He probably just wants to live a more relatable life with these people. What's wrong with that? Just, aside from his ignorance, at the very least he's using his ignorance for a more innocent reason.
I think in the first story she was TA, It's rude to make a comment about her relationships. Especially since she was self aware enough to know that she didn't know what to do with a sick child and invited the mother over for the first time ever to check on her own kid (which would have been awkward af, and I applaud her guts! 😁)
It is better that there should not be a difference of more than 10 years between the two partners. Everyone is in a different stage of life. Why would you go after someone who could be your daughter/son? It's disgusting when people are 40+ and think they can still behave like they were 20. It's like telling the woman you "loved" that she's too old and you will choose "something better". Especially women get angry because it's like saying you're expired, so I'll take you to the trash.
14:10well when you say "his friends with his ex" it sounds bad until you realize they were friends though they like each other enough to be a couple decided peacefully it's not working so they got divorced and went back to being friends, like she literally less of his ex and more of his best friend
Ok, I am in that relationship 23 & my fiancé is 42. I am not sure why people care so much, and of course in that story the ex is being an ass. At least she cared enough to ask the mother for help 🤷🏽♀️
*I was friends with one of my exs since I was 18, and I considered it completely platonic! Then I met my hubby when I was 25, and my hubby told me to get rid of him, because my ex was only my friend because he wanted to get back with me.* I told my hubby (then bf) that I didn’t have those type of feelings for him anymore, but my hubby said “yeah, but *he* has them for *you!”* I never thought of it that way, until my hubby was coming into town (long-distance relationship) and it was around my exs birthday. I called my ex, and told him I’d be busy for his birthday, so I was telling him happy birthday early. The day of my exs birthday, my hubby was in town and my ex called me and started yelling at me, wondering why we weren’t doing anything. I reminded him that I was busy with my bf, and we’d have to do something later. But, he wouldn’t stop yelling and cussing at me. So, my hubby took the phone out of my hand, told him “it’s over. Never call or talk to her again, or you’ll have to deal with me.” And he hung up. We blocked him on everything because he was slamming me on everything he could! After that, I realized my hubby was right. My ex was just trying to get back with me, so he was just hanging around, waiting for a chance. But, honestly, he was never gonna get one anyway because I didn’t have feelings for him anymore! 🤭 Lol
I'm not the most religious person ever but I think the age gap limit is 7 years. This relationship's age gap is of 19 years. When he's 50 she'll be 31. That's weird if I do say so myself.
She snatched defeat from the jaws of victory. All she had to do was get through the funeral and the grieving period. Why did she open her fking mouth..?
I would not trust that 23 year old girl with my children after this if I were OP. And I get that women tend to want an older man because they want a mature and intelligent partner but an older man does not usually want a younger woman for the same reason. An older man usually only wants a younger woman for her looks and for the fact that since she's younger she's much more easily manipulated. It's just a fact. And the problem is that her ex left a clueless 23 year old bimbo in charge of his children when she clearly has no idea what she's doing. They can both date who they want to but there are children involved. Once you and someone aren't together anymore on one hand it's not your business who they date but on the other hand it is because that person is going to be around your children. It's a matter of your children's safety and well-being.
Men take much much longer to reach emotional maturity than women, which is one of the many reasons that it's normal for women to date older men but NOT normal for them do date younger ones.
Yea the husband can date who he wants. But to leave your children with someone who doesn't know child care is irresponsible. And too leave your kids with someone new to child care and not be able to answer their call right away is irresponsible. The mom is right to be upset, shes probably upset for the wrong things but she is right to want her kids to not be left with a person who can't care for kids.
I don't agree with the last one being sus because there are relationships that can end in mature harmony. It says in the story it didn't last long and they got divorced, so one could assume they married quick and divorced even faster. They jumped the gun, backed out, and still felt that friendly connection they had as young people. I feel that as you mature, your body gets more used to identifying feelings, rather than jumping the gun of thinking you're in love with them on a romantic level, and not a friendly love you have for another human being. It isn't that unheard of and in my opinion is why there is nuance and in this scenario, this seems like the outcome because BOTH parties were willing to move on. Unfortunately for the guy, he chose the wrong one, but that is not here nor there.
I hate those people that are new to a workplace and start acting like they have all of the control. Like that woman for instance, it's not your place to say anything, you should be grateful you even landed the job. What's wrong with the guy wanting to fit in? Why does he need to be aware of his situation? Would you rather him talk about his rich CEO uncle 24/7? I don't get people like this and it sounds like borderline bullying to be honest.
The one with the "Disadvantaged" woman saying her coworker only got the job because his uncle runs it, and he said you might get somewhere if you chill out... She sounds like a very aggressive and difficult person. She might not get very far with that attitude and he was giving some inside advice.
Saw this in a comment's reply section about "Yet everyone thinks a 14 y/o can't date an 18 y/o." Which is a suspicious analogy if you ask me, but the reason that's weird, and illegal, is because one is too young and undeveloped mentally and even physically to be in a romantic and/or sexual relationship, while one is a whole ass consenting adult who pays taxes.
The nepotism baby hater, comes down to that she hates him because she had to work and he was lucky enough to have that as an option. Which he was right she needs to chill out because being bitter because you weren't luckier is never going to make you happier or advance in life.
That one where the ex dies, that doesn’t sit right. I’m sure if the husband lied and said that person was just a friend she wouldn’t have gone about it like that. She probably would’ve respected his right to grieve more. Of course I’m not one to talk about it, maybe I don’t understand but it just seems weird.
Right? I immediately got off vibes when that relationship was described cause thats exactly how one of my exes described his relationship with his 'best friend' (left me for her). That and the fact that he prioritized her wayy over the wife from the very beginning
In the last story that girl should have broken off the relationship with the guy from the beginning because being besties with your ex is extremely weird and honestly a red flag. Especially when he said he cared more about his relationship with his ex than his new relationship like wtf??? That guy sounds like a walking red flag. If my spouse cared more about their ex than me, and got food and movies together regularly I'd dump their ass
"Some people do a thing. Therefore, it's perfectly acceptable." That isn't an argument. This man is old enough to be his gf's father. On top of that, she doesn't know what to do to take care of a sick kid with a fever, yet he left the child in her care. This woman had every right to be upset about her ex-husband's poor choices and the potential negative effect on her children. Age gaps this large are not acceptable. There is a reason these relationships don't last (the larger the age gap, the more likelihood of failure). It creates a parent/child dynamic, they are at different stages of life, and it's just plain gross. It's frustrating that guys keep defending dirty old men. They act like women are upset because they can't compete with the younger woman. They aren't competing with the younger woman because no self-respecting woman would want a man that wants to date a child. They are simply disappointed because they expect better from men. This woman likely had a picture of who her ex was, and now he has trampled all over that and shown himself to be sleazy.
There’s no definitive right or wrong answer when it comes to adults and age gaps. (According to my knowledge at this point) It’s not always 100% right or 100% wrong. There are many valid reasons to consider such a huge age gaps a red flag, but it’s also entirely possible it’ll be fine and for some even ideal. Pointing out potential issues and risks in those situations is not a bad thing however. You should be aware and take things into consideration, which from my impression not enough people do. Issue concerning kids, needing help in old age and death are topics that really needs to be discussed with an age gap of 20+ years, specially when one of them is below 25. Which from reading several of these reddit stories people don’t bring up. These are still things for the couple themselves to discuss and consider, if they still choose to continue the relationship then that’s their choice. Commenting on “you’re too old/young and shouldn’t do this” definitely come across as rude when you don’t truly know the situation. Being skeptical is fine, bringing up the importance of truly considering the possible conflicts with age gaps is fine. They still have the right to choose what they want for themselves
If she was equipped to take care of that child, she wouldn't of needed to call anyone about a high fever. Don't date people with kids if you don't know how to handle/care for kids.
I don’t understand why she would date him in the first place. If I’m dating someone and they say that I’m less important to them then their ex who is their friend then I don’t see the reason to continue to have a relationship
Also when I first got hired at the company I work for even though my dad works there my boss said and I quote “ when you work here you no longer have a relationship with your father” meaning from 7Am-3:30 PM I’m an employee. Yeah maybe the uncle got him the job but if he’s busting his ass and doing a good job what’s the problem?
Well I mean her husband DID tell her that he’d choose his ex wife over her any day simply because he’s known her longer and is closer to her. To some point he was kind of like flexing his ex on his wife and she reasonably was upset about that. And when she said she was relieved, I at first thought she meant it like she was relieved that the girl will no longer be an issue but after everything else she said, it all just went to hell😭😭
Yeah I had a coworker who only got the job because he was the nephew of the boss. I didn’t judge him. He turned out to be nice, and seemed to know what he was doing at work. Nepotism is annoying, but as long as the person is nice and respectful to you and your coworkers, there’s no reason to pick a fight with them.
Second one. This person is filled with envy for the boss' relative. Nepotism is a common organizational bias, but a competent CEO would still put their relatives through their paces...
Not only are you a complete asshole, your not ready for love and marriage if your not able to empathize with your partner loosing a close friend nor the husband who lost his wife. I couldn't imagine morning a close friend and having my wife try to rush me past it AND try to keep me from any funeral/wakes.
Opinions on age gaps often change over time, but mostly they're based on our wildly different personal experiences and examples. I think the wife knows her husband well enough to decide if she ought to warn a girl away or not. The girl seems sensible though, always ask what the sick child's mother thinks is best, I love her because the kids are safe with her, I hope she never leaves.
The nephew if the CEO one: What she might not realize is that HE isn't the CEO just related, it might've made his way into the position easier but she has no idea how hard he might be on him since he would be representing him as the CEO so she definitely was a dumb a**hole.
So the girl had the chance to become work besties with the frkn nephew of the CEO, virtually paving her way to the top, but she chose to bark at him, because.... she felt he was privileged? How dumb can people be? Isn't it taught anymore how priceless Vitamin B is?
That was also what came Into my mind.
The network would be priceless.
If not make friend don't make him ur enemy by being so salty.
U could possibly get fired or biased ( so much possiblity if he was actually ahole he could do lot of damage)
If you got a job because you know someone, you took it from someone who probably worked for it and would have actually deserved it.
@@frankcaggiano8282 so, just because you had a good connection with someone to help you get hired, you dont deserve the opportunity as much as the other person?
what is wrong with u, YALL THINK a 23 year old can date a 43 year old but DON'T think a 14 year old can date an 18 year old
@@Cozy-Cooking mental development. A 23 year old is closer to complete mental agency than a hormonal, underdeveloped teen. The age gap isn't the problem, it's the gap in mental capacity. It's also why in some places drunk people can't consent i.e. can't sign contracts, can't do so sexually etc.
Just because his uncle is rich, doesn't mean his uncle actually gives him any of it.
Most rich people I've met have been painfully cheap, stingy and down right mean spirited when it comes to money, specifically spending money.
Don't assume rich people are generous with their money, 99% are not and that also applies to their family a lot of the time.
Because we hear all of this from one perspective, I find myself questioning her view of him. It sounds like she is characterizing him based on her perceived notions and it colors the while thing to the point where I don't know if I can trust that he is as bad as she says he is.
@@Destroyahx2 well snobby entitled better than rich kids who are not aware of their environment and privilege they do carried as well exist too. The difference is that this guy didn't paint himself better than just because he has a father that Is the CEO of a company. He tries to fit in and relate to people who he clearly relates and wants to befriend. She took it way above as if it was rub in her face of his privileges she doesn't have. She care about his status more than his character
@@melteddarkchocolate000 Yes, I was having a hard time explaining myself. I like the example of "he tries to act humble." When I hear that, I use how poisoned she is against him and think that maybe he isn't trying, just is. Stuff like that. You put it into words very well.
The major thing is that the op mentioned how hard the interview was yet the guy literally went into one late and hangover yet they still accepted him, showing that he gets special treatment due to his connection to the CEO.
@Science Is the truth I agree. That is an indicator he might have been given leanency when hiring. However, my biggest hangup is still the narrator. I could believe he was hungover and was late, but didn't actually tell the company that, instead giving a reasonable excuse.
I do think he does have at least unconscious bias, though probably more conscious bias is directed towards him due to his uncle. And can probably get away with more.
My biggest issue is that the narrator doesn't actually have any examples of how he is less competent, only that he is because of nepotism. This leads me to believe that he might not actually be the person the person described. My biggest evidence is the no expanles. In almost any story, when portraying someone as the antagonist, people will give any examples to show this, no matter how relevant it might be, especially when they are looking for validation in their own choice.
AITA is making me lose faith in humanity 😢
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Don’t worry babe
Same man
I already lost all my faith in humanity.
@@anaalicia5029 simp (agreed)
connor needs his own office or room, bro's roommate is in every video😭
the secret trio
pretty much like mario & luigi's brother
Needs to make the bed too .
@@lalaboards true asf bros bed looks like he fighting demons in his sleep ong.
1.) For a 23y/o I wouldn’t go above 37y/o still a large age gap. But none of my biz.
2.) OP is rude and an idiot. Could’ve made a great connection to the CEO.
3.) She had reservations, but lied and stayed. They should’ve broken it off a long time ago. Still kinda sus, but the reaction is unwarranted after 10 years.
An age gap of 42 and 23 is 19. This means one of them already graduated high school when the other was being born. That’s a ridiculously large age gap, and it’s two completely different stages of life
EXACTLY!!!!!! YET EVERYONE THINKS A 14 YO CANT DATE AN 18 YO
arent they both consetning adults? and they most likely also met as adults
@@ketchupdude3392 as long as it's consenting, it's usually okay
@@Cozy-Cooking 🤨
@@Cozy-Cookingwdym by that bru
That girl with the rich coworker sort of acted like she thinks life is a movie or something. You don't get to lash out at people at work because you don't like them, or because they're richer than you lol. Seems pretty immature.
Frr 😂
Isn't it kind of obvious the younger girlfriend wasn't equipped to care for the child if she had to call the ex-wife to come over and deal with the son when he had a fever to begin with 'cause she didn't know what to do. It's written right there in the text.
Certainly people can have their preferences and opinions on age gaps, but I do find it lowkey creepy for a 42 year old man to be going for a 23 year old girl who is still in school.
Yeah, I don't think it's immoral or grooming, but just not how things "should" be.
She had to go to school. She called for someone to watch the kid so she could go to school. If she hadn't had to go to school, I'm sure she would've been fine watching the child for the day. Watching a sick child isn't rocket science. The only person saying that the girlfriend couldn't handle it, is the clearly jealous ex wife.
@@existentialcrisis4884 Okay, I missed that part because it's downplayed. If it was just classes she could have not gone maybe, it doesn't say that she had something important, who knows...
I don’t think its creepy and in my experience dating i have never met a girl that was fine dating a guy her age or even close , as long as you mention you are the same age or only a year older the immediate reaction would be “i feel like he would be too immature or i will see him as a brother”.
Women more often than not actively want older men, now that might be a big age gap for some women but alot out there are actually attracted to that.
And tbh i find it ridiculous that a 23 year old grown adult isn’t able to handle a situation like that or at least try.
I think alot of people these days aren’t taught how to take control or responsibility of unknown situations.
And her being 23 or 29 won’t change that if she never tries to actively be a problem solving type of person.
You really don’t want get training before you become a parent , once you have a child you are forced to learn everything by yourself.
By 'school', it's college. Big difference between the two.
And I do agree that it's suspicious for the husband, however the matter of panicking can honestly be done by anyone, regardless of age, if they had no prior experience with babysitting or having their own children. Yes, she probably shouldn't be worrying over children at that age, however she's an adult that agreed to be in the relationship. If she bit more than she could chew, it'd be her own learning experience. Not unless the husband does anything out of bounds, she has all rights to be and end the relationship if she thought she learnt how to handle children that young, or realized it was too much.
While she probably shouldn't have said anything, it is weird that a 42 year old guy would go for someone still in college. And I think it's fine for her to be concerned that her children are with someone who can't take care of them, she shouldn't have brought up age and treated her like a kid. The girlfriend really shouldn't have to call her boyfriend's ex to deal with a kid's fever, she should be able to handle it herself.
Fr 😭
So people can’t be humble? 5:05
Or is he talking about people being fake.
exactly
It’s literally not weird at all tf there both grown and can do what they want, also you don’t know who wheat for who the chick probably could have hit him up you have no clue.
Sounded like she called because she had to go to class and didn’t know what to do with the kid😂it’s not hard to watch a sick kid
12:00 this one is the craziest.
She'd be supporting her partner through every tough time if she truly loved him. A funeral gives a sense of closure and some kind of farewell. The fact that she would not only forbid him from that closure but also that she wouldn't even show empathy for his loss shows just how much she doesn't care about him. Besides, how does letting him go to his ex's funeral harm her in any way? It's like she's scared that the ex's ghost is going to steal him away from her. It's not the fact that she didn't like the ex (you're entitled to dislike anyone really) and it's not the fact that she was happy about the ex's death (but that's fucked up on a whole other level) it's the fact that she was so caught up in her own narcissism that she wouldn't do what is expected of any loving partner. I hope the husband finds somebody who will do what she failed to provide.
The problem is that she should have never tolerated the relationship in the first place. A spouse that puts a friend (any friend) above their spouse is not a good partner. Her quibbling over the funeral is pointless because what she is really mad about is him putting this friend above his marriage. I totally understand her relief at the woman being dead because she will no longer have to deal with it, though it may actually end up worse because his grief could extend for a very long time. Who wants to hear their spouse crying over their ex? That would get really uncomfortable and hurtful after a while. I think people are failing to recognize how hurtful this relationship has been to the wife for years, and she has put up with it because she loves her husband.
@@Karamarika there is absolutely no indication he put his ex above his marriage. The op just said that they did things friends do, and it bothered her. If it bothered her that much she should've had a conversation with him or she should have left if she wasn't comfortable. She decided she didn't like his ex simple because it was his ex and wanted to be salty that he still talked to her and she wanted to be petty about it
@KING SHIT THE TURD there was a clear indication that this friend was put above his wife. He very pointedly stated that he was going to remain friends with her no matter what and that if the wife had a problem with it, she could leave. That is him prioritizing a relationship with the ex over his marriage. He is even doing it after her death. The wife should have never tolerated that. It's not healthy for anyone involved.
@@Karamarika If the wife couldn't tolerate it, she should've left from the moment the husband's rule was stated. Instead, she chose to stay in the relationship and therefore, should've filled her role by supporting her husband through the tough time he was having. If she didn't want to fill that basic, partner expectation then once again she should've left. Preventing your husband from attending their friend's funeral just isn't right.
@Yasmine ♡ yes, she should have. But everyone agrees to terms in the beginning of a relationship that they think they can tolerate, only to later find that it's far worse than they thought. No one should have to take a back seat to someone else in their own marriage. The wife absolutely should have left, but the husband is just plain wrong for putting his ex on a pedestal and making her more important than his wife. If anyone is more wrong here, it's the husband. His behavior is disgusting. If his ex was so important to him, then he should have stayed with her.
jealous bc she wants to make sure her kid is well taking care of when they co parent. that's absolutely delusional for them to say, the child had a fever and fevers can kill kids, so how is she jealous?
23 and 42 is super weird. That’s a 20 year age gap!!! People have parents with that age gap. Do you know how different 20 year olds and 40 years are? What would a 40 year old see in a 20 year old besides sex or being able to easily manipulate them? I can’t agree with you on this one.
Literally. How many creepy old dudes dating 20 year olds does Pegasus know? 💀 I'm 20 and I can't imagine myself dating someone who's in their 40s or even 30s. To me they are old.
Dude that's what I'm saying. Pegasus has some weird opinions sometimes.
@Joyce Strømfors do you find their age gap odd?
@Joyce Strømfors Sorry, but that just gave me goosebumps. That's literally my age and my dad's age.
My husband is 27 and I’m 46 🤷🏻♀️.
I personally wouldn't ask redditors to evaluate my character because they don't understand social interactions. On the other hand people that post on AITA seem to understand even less
If you don't think a 42 year and a 23 year dating is weird, think of it this way...the guy was 20 when the girl was a baby. He was going to college when she was learning to walk.
They are adults so they can do what they want but it's still weird.
Also if I was the mom, I'd be more concerned on the fact that the father didn't call me when my kid was sick but instead left the kid with the 23 year old who obviously didn't know what she was doing.
Like...divorced or not, you should know who is watching your kids and if they are able to properly care for them.
The woman can see the 23 year old as her daughter at that point
@@tmadjadon6951 exactly.
Bro, I hate this minset of "well, she's over 18 so she's a legal adult so they can do whatever they want". It's just a crappy excuse for dudes to be creepy over much younger women. Because for f sake 42 years old man is WAY too old for a 23 year old. I am a 23 years old woman and if any of my friends started dating a 42 years old man with 2 kids and an ex wife I would immediately be concerned
Also the wife in the story doesn't seem to be jealous at all, she does seem concerned about her kids AND the girl as well
Thank you!! I agreeeee!!!
I feel like your mindset of "women can't choose for themselves" is more harmful than just simply letting people figure it out for themselves in a safe manner.
Obviously, man or woman, if you were groomed, that's a different story. But, saying that a 23 year old can't make the conscious decision to date a 42 year old, you're probably the one in the wrong.
Techincally your brain is fully developed at 24 so why not let people start there?🧍♀️
Yeah..I sorta agree on this
Although it's completely legal, its at least a little bit morally wrong since its completely different stages of life. Right now Im 16 and I can't imagine dating a 35 yr old..
Isn’t it your body your choice
It’s not 100% about the age, it’s at the stage of life she’s at rn. If she was 23 and already working and out of college that’s different. Still a huge age difference that makes me raise an eyebrow, but not necessarily wrong. She doesn’t know how to care for a child and the husband left her alone. Maybe y’all don’t have kids but when we are worried our kids aren’t getting care by a capable adult, it’s very concerning. I agree she shouldn’t have said what she said, but to simply dismiss the whole thing with a “she’s just jealous” is an oversimplification. Her CHILD is involved. That makes it her business. She should have raised her concerns with her ex and maybe dealt with the childcare in a different way, but her concern was not unwarranted.
right! like ofc its sort of her business, the woman is going to be around HER child! like it would be a different thing if the ex kept his girlfriend and family separate, but her ex left her son with a COLLEGE student who didn't know what to do.
I agree that it isn't about the age, since other than in America I think other countries age gaps are commonly know up until 20 yrs old, But the way she said it made it sound like it was the age. Yes if it was my child I'd be worried about him and want to get involved, however other than saying she called her for help when she needed to leave for college we don't really know if she's irresponsible. Being 23 is old is enough to take care of a child and I think she should not judge so quickly because of her age.
The first one. Pegasus had one of those moments when his opinion makes no sense. 23 is way too young for an almost 50 year old. They got divorced 4 years ago right. When the girl was freaking 19. He's old enough to be her father! I've dated older men before I realized it was wrong. The creep factor is there, society just refuses to acknowledge it after you turn 18. Would not recommend, it was very uncomfortable.
Edit: If anyone wants to come after me as being a "modern feminist" with double standards, my opinion stands equally for anyone dating a person that much younger than them. If you could have babysat them, and now you're doing the frick with them, you need to get your shit together.
Right. I've heard the phrase before "if they could go younger they would" those are the vibes I get when older people go after barely adults.
@@ThePegasiPony Exactly! It's like, undercover pedo shit.
Nowadays, there is a lack of more mature men my age. So, I've been dating a man that is now 27 and I'm 19, turning 20 this year. I don't think you quite understand that some women are more attracted to a more mature looking and acting man. I don't think their relationship is for you to comment on as far as the age gap, nor was it the ex wife's.
@@beev5496 there's a pretty big difference between 27 and 43
@@cactus.man_Exactly, that's an entire three levels more of maturity. Not to talk of the fact that this 43 year old has two kids he's been taking care of longer than the 23 year old has been away from her own parent's house.
It's incredibly worrying if these two are on the same maturity level, but some men like being mentors to their girlfriends so I can see the appeal. What works for them works for them.
23 y/o college student + 42 y/o financially independent man… I can’t see what could go wrong.. geez it’s a slippery slope into a toxic dynamic
Also this girl is around the children. If you are the parent would you trust this girl, that you barely know, with your children?
So calling the ex was the responsible thing to do in that situation 😂
@@austinlarrimore6542 but it's the fact that instead of calling his ex wife, the mother, to take care of her sick child cause he apparently can't, he leaves the kid home with the clueless 23 year old who obviously hasn't had much experience caring for kids.
@@kpoppy9635 you don’t necessarily know she’s clueless. She called the mum because she was gonna be late for class
@Banana the mom said the girl was very nervous.
Also the mom says she left the house before the husband got home. So the 23 year old was still there and hadn't left for class. It may have been the combo of caring for a sick child that shes unsure how to care for and also that she might miss class.
@Banana also the fact that the father just dumped this child on his girlfriend who he knows has class says a lot about him.
That last story was the craziest thing i've heard this week....like how insecure can you be-
also- ngl, i didn't expect this many people to find the 42-year-old and 23-year-old relationship to be weird 💀
yeah it's not really weird at all. I get that it's not the average age gap, but it's not weird. sure if it's like 50-year difference then it's weird
what is wrong with u, YALL THINK a 23 year old can date a 43 year old but DON'T think a 14 year old can date an 18 year old
@@yunyun5118 what is wrong with u, YALL THINK a 23 year old can date a 43 year old but DON'T think a 14 year old can date an 18 year old
@@yunyun5118you’re so weird 🤨
19:45 "He's not groping the corpse anytime soon" - Connor 💀
For the third story...yeah, to me, I know it's the wife's fault for sucking it up, but I wished the husband would've been more understanding when it comes to explaining this friendship since from an outsider's view, they _definitely_ seem like two people who don't know are in love. I mean - imagine dating someone quite wonderful for months and then you start noticing their relationship, and then he hits you with the 'well, she's more important to me than you' - I very much understand that she's been with him much longer, but wow - That would...that might actually mess someone up. Honestly, even if that girlfriend was a guy. The fact is that if he had a past romantic relationship with this person (regardless of being a guy or girl), and although didn't work out - Still continuously have traditionally romantic outings with _just_ the two of them - Yes, that can feel incredibly disheartening. It's not about the gender I'd say, this is about the fact that he had a past relationship that seems so much deeper than a love that's meant to be deeper than that.
I really can't judge his character, neither can I confirm if the relationship was actually platonic, but from this, although the wife should hold responsibility, I can't deny how messy it is. Fuck, as rational as I consider myself to be, I'd say this might make me consider being irrational that I can't even be mad at her myself. It's just sad. The argument she later presented was so out-of-bounds that it made me wonder how no one has noticed any contempt or dislike from her side since it's pretty obvious that she disliked the ex that badly. I'm _really_ wondering why no one has come out and at least bring up this concern, and comfort her. I'm surprised the husband didn't seem to have attempted that, when admittedly his relationship with the friend is incredibly unfamiliar for most people.
Then again, this is just her story. Though I can't help but feel disheartened as well.
I'm also gonna mention - Don't you think she's like this exactly because she's clearly not the better choice from the get-go? Again, just being told that you have less worth than someone, even contextually, just hurts. To be treated like you don't have anymore worth than someone else, someone that he potentially can leave you for the other, just hurts. Then again, it's also her fault for sticking by it without bringing up the concern, and then lashing it all out at the end, but I can't deny there's probably a psychology that lead up to that.
its not like the husband sprung it out of no where. he first clarified in the first month of the relationship, then multiple times afterwords. Clearly ex was never an issue otherwise, since this woman looked past such a big thing. Mind you, you can make this conclusion from the perspective of a heartless and jealous wife, i.e. in such a biased perspective, still the husband comes out clean. imagine a third party such as the husband of the ex who characterised her as a 'ghoul'. The mess is totally inside her head so much so that she cant let go of the ex WHO IS DEAD, that alone should point to the fact that it is totally inside this woman's head. A normal jealous person would gladly send her husband to the funeral because the problem is over but not this bitch.
You're right about all the pain but nobody made her marry a man she didn't trust, only an ahole does that. To feel relieved your husband's best friend died... omg I'd call exorcists to come cast the evil out. And if I meet this husband I'm blowing him out of spite. I'm queen ahole.
Where are people getting the notion he cares more about the friend? I don't understand why multiple people are thinking this
1. Honestly, I'd be worried about my kids too🙁 Like her not being able to take care of the kid CLEARLY means that she's still young and needs more experience. And if he's dating her just cuz she's attractive (&young) then... pretty weird. Like, looks should not be ur priority. As a divorced man he should know better. The age gap is very big💀 even if she's an adult...20 years ago gap???!!!! That's wild.
2. He probably has a crush on her. She took it the wrong way.
3. Both of them are in the wrong. He did warn her and she decided to stay. It's clearly a toxic relationship. Also, if ur partner told u that they'd choose their bff over u, who wouldn't be jealous???? And he said this multiple times. Like, if I'm in a relationship, I'd want to be in one where I feel loved. Not saying he can't love anyone else as much as me. Just saying that it seems like he doesn't love his wife. Which to me isn't right. She's ur WIFE, you should have trouble choosing between your bff and your wife, but he'd clearly choose his bff which is pretty messed up. I'd divorce real quick. I only think she's in the wrong becuz she decided to stay in this unhappy relationship. Actually, NVM, saying she's doesn't exist anymore is pretty messed up. I still think they're both the a-holes.
I also wonder about the first one if he's trying to use her as a free babysitter.
Like he had to know she had classes and that she doesn't have much experience with kids but still chose to to dump the sick kid on her anyway. And he didn't tell the mom that her kid was sick or that he was leaving their kid with his girlfriend.
I don't care how messy the divorce was, if you share custody, you should always let the other parent know who is watching your kids.
@@kpoppy9635 exactly bruh!!!!
@3:45 “who sais shes not equipped to care for a child” bro i hate to say it but it literally SAIS in the article that shes not equipped to care for a child… if she was she would know what to do when the baby is sick. As a parent myself dude has a good f*ckin point. id be pissed too if my child was left with someone half my age who is too stupid to take care of a baby🤷♂️ as for her comments though it was definitely unnecessary
Connor has a very nice speaking voice
Feels like the privileged nephew actually has a crush on the girl and was hanging with the group of friends to get close to her 😂
CEO story sounds like an enemies to lovers arc
there is a world of difference between the maturity of a 24 year old and a 30 year old. there is a gap between a 30 year old and a 40+ year old. it's about control, they don't know any better and dude doesn't want to date his own age because people won't tolerate his shit
in college? i feel like if you're in your 40s dating a college girl that's gross. it's weird they both ignored she was in college and was like oh she said she's 23 and just hung onto that.
They're both fully grown consenting adults. Its like a 55 year old dating a 75 year old.
@@henryr.schrader7520 It's very different to a 55 year old dating a 75 year old. 55 & 75 is closer in maturity and are closer at where they're at in their life. Your brain is still maturing from 18 and onwards until you're around 25.
@@kalziez your brain is maturing your whole life, i'm 20 and i know very well what i'm doing, a 23 year old isn't a kid, she's a grown woman who knows what she is doing, yes there is a maturity gap but not enough for the women to be easily exploitable or anything like that.
@@shubhuman I meant that the brain takes about 25 years to fully develop, not to mature. I agree that she isn't a child and can't be easily exploited, but the age gap is still wrong in my eyes.
I was worried about the new wife in the first story. I thought the worst. But who really knows what is going on with them.
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For the first story, I think that the op is not the ah because she seemed more mad that he was with someone who couldn't take care of her children rather than jealous. If the woman had time to freak out, call the ex, wait for her to come, etc, before she left for her college class, she had time to try to deal with it herself, but she didn't because she's incompetent.
For the second story, the op is the ah because that's just extremely rude to say, even though he's trying to be nice and get to know everyone. His comment did not warrant the reaction that she had.
The op is the ah. He literally told her that he would choose his friend over any partner he has. He's crying over the loss of his best friend, and she's relieved??? She doesn't want him to go to his friend's funeral??? Wtf
She’s old enough to date whoever she wants….but she’s too young to have to deal with all that.
I disagree with the idea most girls like older men.
it might just be cultural difference but as a girl myself who is friends with mostly girls. I have never wanted nor have any of my friends wanted to date an older man. The girls surrounding me to all date people there age or maybe only a few years older max. It uncommon to have a huge age gap difference to the point where when a girl does like older men or there is a huge age gap it’s seen as uncommon.
Maybe where I am most people don’t view any benefits to dating an older guy. It’s more likely he already has kids of his own, more likely he’s already been divorced, less attractive, in a totally different stage of life, and if they are a lot older like 10-20 years they r going to reach old age and probably die way before you. The only benefit could be they have money if that’s what a girl is looking for, but I feel like generally around me girls find guys their age more attractive based off of looks as well as the idea of being in the same stage of life together and growing together and starting their own life and family rather than being with someone whose already been through that.
Yeah..as a girl myself, I do tend to like older guys, but its like a 1-3, maybe 4 yr gap. Not a whole 20 years!!
Yup. I’m in my late twenties and guys over 35 are still too old for me.
23 and 42 is nasty.
(Edit: nasty on the 42 y/o part. Especially to expose his kids to that. Gross.)
The fact she assumed hes privileged just because his uncle is rich is such a weird stretch of an assumption.
Personally, I think she should’ve left when he said he’d choose his friend over his wife.
Absolutely my opinion, dude basically implied he cares more for his ex than his own partner when he said that.
im a little shocked ??? i usually love your take on everything pegasus, but what ? 42 and 23 ?
the man is twice her age. he has had 20 years ! of more life experience and maturity than this girl, who is just in college and nowhere near as ready to take care of kids than the average 40 year old woman.
men being attracted to youth, is not an all excusing biological fact.. i mean if it were what would stop p.dophiles from using the same justification.
yea shes been an adult for 5 years, he has been an adult for 25 years. thats an insane power dynamic, 100% a little creepy,
and 100% selfish as its purely an attraction driven relationship, without considering that he is bringing a woman into the picture that simply cant be a mom to those kids.
live out your daddy fetishes all you want, addressing both mature men and young women with this. but it should not involve kids. i mean do the math. if those were her own kids, that would be a 35 y.o. man getting an underage girl pregnant..
its creppy, end of the story.
Yeah i dont understand how he supports it, so sick
Haha creppy
I can't stop commenting about this, it's so weird. And then him saying she's just jealous???? No! She's telling that girl the truth and 9 times out of 10 the girl is going to mature more and realize how screwed up it is. Normally I agree with Pegasus but this ain't right.
It’s weird to you, doesn’t mean it’s weird to all.
@@jenperez3399 To each their own. Anyone can do anything they like. Doesn't make it right. Do you date people who were in diapers when you were in college?
L take on the first one
Nah, you guys are wrong about the first one.
From what's been told(since this is way too vague) the 23yr had class, didn't know how to treat the fever, the husband was MIA for who knows how long, and she panicked. Yeah, I'd say she's not old enough/experienced enough to be taking care of the wife's kids if this is how she responds to this type of situation.
Not only that, but where tf is the husband? From the sounds of it, the girl either wasn't expecting to be left alone with the kid or the husband was taking longer than usual coming back. She's not a babysitter, why is she taking care of a kid that's not hers in the first place if they're only dating? She's not responsible for this kid, it's the father's and he's nowhere to be seen atm.
Did he not know her schedule or did he ignore it/forget about it? Either one has some negative connotations and screams lazy/irresponsible to me. Idk anything about that part tho so I can't say much about it besides perosnal opinion.
The only thing I agree with you guys about is that she's an adult and her choices are her own. Her consequences are hers to deal with, and the wife has no say about the relationship on its own. It's only if it negatively affects her kids, like current situation, does she get to say anything about it to them.
He's sick and needs constant care because of his age. Do that, or give the kid to the mother, until the girl and husband can talk about how the kids will fit into the relationship going forward. That should've been discussed already if they haven't or they need to reassess what they spoke about when she did agree to date him after knowing he had kids.
On that last one, the woman was definitely in the wrong at the end but honestly she should have broken things off as soon as her future husband said he’d choose his friend over her
the monthly aita videos are heavenly🙏🏾🙏🏾
“if she JUST turned 18 that’s a bit weird.” this is the biggest red flag I’ve ever gotten from you, Pegasus. yuck. 23 and 42 is NOT normal, and a freshly 18 year old with a grown man is a HELL of a lot more than just “a bit weird”. I would still consider it grooming! there is an insanely large difference in mindset between anyone in their 20s (or below, of course) and anybody in their 40s or 50s. any old man who goes for a teenager or a young adult is simply a despicable predator. there are absolutely 0 good or innocent intentions in mind.
How are they a predator for liking younger people? It's not like he's dating a teenager. He's dating a grown woman who can choose what she wants. Didn't know that you are the almighty law creator. Grooming laws were made to protect MINORS not grown fucking adults.
You also mentioned any old man. What about a 42 year old woman? Now don't change your opinion right now to align with your argument.
Bruh
Talk to the women if u have a problem lol. morally it may be wrong but it’s non of our business if a fully grown women and a fully grown man is in a relationship ship. I believe that age shouldn’t be a primary factor to be concerned about after 21. Im 18 and I believe myself to be aware of my surroundings and judgment. A fully grown adult can decide what they want to do, you’re not entitled to point fingers so openly.
It’s a totally different story if she was groomed. But I don’t think a 18 year old can be groomed.
Yeah, the woman in the last story is definitely an ahole. Also there's an update to the story and the husband did leave her. Yet she still is saying she's in the right.
I'll be real, she really should have left him when he said "I'd choose her over you".
@@badsaturnz23yeah like, imagine telling people that your husband goes on movie dates and dinner dates with his ex-wife (their friends though I promise) regularly and literally said that he would choose her over you.
And then your next sentence is "we're still together" after.
23 and 42 is weird af, how is it "normal"? Legal but creepy and suspicious af. Casts serious doubt on the man's character and intentions, shows serious emotional and mental immaturity. He may just be using her as a substitute mommy/babysitter he can bang, which is often the case for recently divorced men who go for much younger girls. They realize they relied on the wife for childcare way more than they thought. It even says right in the story that he didnt come take care of his own sick child, and he didnt even call the mother, instead leaving two small children in the care of a 23 yr old new girlfriend that he barely knows (and has class that day/couldnt babysit, which they clearly didnt communicate). She clearly has zero experience caring for kids if she couldnt even handle a fever, although she did the right thing by calling the mother. He's not an responsible adult, he appears to have poor judgement in many things. The mother is right to be angry and not trust the children in their care.
i can imagine her saying "shes not a factor anymore because she doesnt exist anymore" with wide eyes and a creepy smile
what is wrong with u, YALL THINK a 23 year old can date a 43 year old but DON'T think a 14 year old can date an 18 year old
Why doesn’t the woman complaining about her ex’s young girlfriend live her life, being 4 years divorced.. you’re 42 yourself, get a virile potent 23 yo man and stop complaining
She just insulted her once and wants to know if she was an asshole idk it doesn't mean she loses sleep because of it. And it's normal to feel hurt and like it isn't fair that your ex can just date someone who is prettier and more energetic because they're young :((
@@nonono777no fucking way you guys think its out of jealousy :( like you said its been 4 years, she didnt mind when her kids described the GF as young. But 23 is way too young. Literally could have had a daughter that age. Not calling it grooming but theyre clearly at different stages of life. Im sure OP just wanted to warn her as like women stick together yadayada its so creepy he dates a girl whos half her age.
@@leialliaasmr23 isn’t young and it’s definitely jealous, women out there get their jealous of their own daughters let alone their ex’s new gf.
23 is not in any way shape or form young, it’s ridiculous people are saying that, the perfect age to have children is early 20s and it has historically been so.
Even biology agrees , once women reach the late 20s that’s the danger zone , fertility drops hard and birth complications rate go up.
I am a guy, not married , and i can take care of kids the only difference is that i learned it since i was a kid myself and pretty much raised my younger sister and on top of that i babysitted so many of my relatives kids and i was barely like 13 at the time.
23 is plenty old enough, if you can drive, drink, travel, hell that’s old enough to drive an airplane , a tank or become a nuclear engineer.
I am sure going to google and figuring out what to do when a kid has a fever is easy in comparison.
@@leialliaasmr right and if I understand correctly she just left the ex wife there to take care of the kids cuz she had to go to her classes? Her and the husband didn't arrange any childcare? She didn't even know how to take care of a fever? Clearly she isn't cut out to be dating someone with young kids.
First story; she wasn't claiming a fact. Yes, it's a fact that the girlfriend was twice as young as her boyfriend, however it's absolutely a claim of value to state that she _shouldn't_ be dating someone twice as old as her.
And...my god, I personally think 24 year old is a fine age for people to babysit children. Others do it in their teenage years. I know the context here is more different, but I myself wouldn't mind so much if someone from college were to babysit my kids.
And I mean, this whole assumption that this 24 year old wouldn't be able to care for the kids didn't come up until she _saw_ that person. So it would've been okay if it were an older person that panicked and called, but not someone younger?
The end result would've been the same either way if that girlfriend was 34 or 24. The mother would've taught her how to feel less panicked around children, and the recipient would be mature enough to understand and withhold this information.
Not everyone is the same though. The fact that she was freaking out shows she shouldn't have been left to look after the kid. The father could have called the mother to look after the kid or arranged someone trained in childcare to do so.
Also the fact that the girlfriend had called the mother to tell her that her own kid was sick and not the father gives me red flags about that Dad.
For the first story, it is very weird and a huge age gap. I think because you are guys you don’t quite get that older men who go for younger more inexperienced women are a red flag and can be predatory.
It’s GROSS when a man who could be your father is sexually interested in you. And let’s not pretend that there’s anything else to that relationship. Men need to stick to their age and not date young girls who could be their DAUGHTERS.
As for the second story - I don't even think the guy was trying to be a butt...yeah, people can seem like a butt when they're ignorant and not very self-aware, but for the lady, don't you think you're just as ignorant as him when you're only thinking about your own perspective, and not his own perspective of why he must be this ignorant as well? He just wants to socialize with the people he plans to work with. He probably just wants to live a more relatable life with these people. What's wrong with that?
Just, aside from his ignorance, at the very least he's using his ignorance for a more innocent reason.
I think in the first story the ex wife was thinking she was 19 not 23 that's why she said it was odd but I don't know I'm not her
Damn pegass has been working nonstop.
Keep going Chad pegass don't stop the grind, you will be Arnold swechzcantsay in a year.
I think they were such good friends that they thought they might like like each other, but found out they didn't.
The last guy should probably leave his wife after some time.
I think in the first story she was TA, It's rude to make a comment about her relationships. Especially since she was self aware enough to know that she didn't know what to do with a sick child and invited the mother over for the first time ever to check on her own kid (which would have been awkward af, and I applaud her guts! 😁)
Yeah calling the actual parent is a pretty responsible thing to do
It is better that there should not be a difference of more than 10 years between the two partners. Everyone is in a different stage of life. Why would you go after someone who could be your daughter/son? It's disgusting when people are 40+ and think they can still behave like they were 20. It's like telling the woman you "loved" that she's too old and you will choose "something better". Especially women get angry because it's like saying you're expired, so I'll take you to the trash.
I can't believe we just got a pegasus cameo on another channel
14:10well when you say "his friends with his ex" it sounds bad until you realize they were friends though they like each other enough to be a couple decided peacefully it's not working so they got divorced and went back to being friends, like she literally less of his ex and more of his best friend
Wha-? Not normal at all ew
Ok, I am in that relationship 23 & my fiancé is 42. I am not sure why people care so much, and of course in that story the ex is being an ass. At least she cared enough to ask the mother for help 🤷🏽♀️
I fucking agree so if she was 32 and he was 52 would it be weird the it’s still the same age gap bit their older
Have u ever thought ur fiance is old enough to be ur father. The man ur smashing could have been the person who made u. Cuz thats hella weird cl
*I was friends with one of my exs since I was 18, and I considered it completely platonic! Then I met my hubby when I was 25, and my hubby told me to get rid of him, because my ex was only my friend because he wanted to get back with me.* I told my hubby (then bf) that I didn’t have those type of feelings for him anymore, but my hubby said “yeah, but *he* has them for *you!”*
I never thought of it that way, until my hubby was coming into town (long-distance relationship) and it was around my exs birthday. I called my ex, and told him I’d be busy for his birthday, so I was telling him happy birthday early.
The day of my exs birthday, my hubby was in town and my ex called me and started yelling at me, wondering why we weren’t doing anything. I reminded him that I was busy with my bf, and we’d have to do something later. But, he wouldn’t stop yelling and cussing at me. So, my hubby took the phone out of my hand, told him “it’s over. Never call or talk to her again, or you’ll have to deal with me.” And he hung up. We blocked him on everything because he was slamming me on everything he could!
After that, I realized my hubby was right. My ex was just trying to get back with me, so he was just hanging around, waiting for a chance. But, honestly, he was never gonna get one anyway because I didn’t have feelings for him anymore! 🤭 Lol
I'm not the most religious person ever but I think the age gap limit is 7 years. This relationship's age gap is of 19 years. When he's 50 she'll be 31. That's weird if I do say so myself.
I like how the dude whose never been in a relationship acts like advice jesus 😂
She snatched defeat from the jaws of victory. All she had to do was get through the funeral and the grieving period. Why did she open her fking mouth..?
I would not trust that 23 year old girl with my children after this if I were OP. And I get that women tend to want an older man because they want a mature and intelligent partner but an older man does not usually want a younger woman for the same reason. An older man usually only wants a younger woman for her looks and for the fact that since she's younger she's much more easily manipulated. It's just a fact. And the problem is that her ex left a clueless 23 year old bimbo in charge of his children when she clearly has no idea what she's doing. They can both date who they want to but there are children involved. Once you and someone aren't together anymore on one hand it's not your business who they date but on the other hand it is because that person is going to be around your children. It's a matter of your children's safety and well-being.
The insane part is she could've just gone to the funeral, been considerate of his grief, and then the entire thing would be behind her.
Men take much much longer to reach emotional maturity than women, which is one of the many reasons that it's normal for women to date older men but NOT normal for them do date younger ones.
Why does connor sound like a emotionless robot when he is reading the storys
Yea the husband can date who he wants. But to leave your children with someone who doesn't know child care is irresponsible. And too leave your kids with someone new to child care and not be able to answer their call right away is irresponsible. The mom is right to be upset, shes probably upset for the wrong things but she is right to want her kids to not be left with a person who can't care for kids.
your title made it sound like she was mad over her own ex gf 😭
3:08 clearly just jealousy lmao
I don't agree with the last one being sus because there are relationships that can end in mature harmony. It says in the story it didn't last long and they got divorced, so one could assume they married quick and divorced even faster. They jumped the gun, backed out, and still felt that friendly connection they had as young people.
I feel that as you mature, your body gets more used to identifying feelings, rather than jumping the gun of thinking you're in love with them on a romantic level, and not a friendly love you have for another human being.
It isn't that unheard of and in my opinion is why there is nuance and in this scenario, this seems like the outcome because BOTH parties were willing to move on. Unfortunately for the guy, he chose the wrong one, but that is not here nor there.
I hate those people that are new to a workplace and start acting like they have all of the control. Like that woman for instance, it's not your place to say anything, you should be grateful you even landed the job. What's wrong with the guy wanting to fit in? Why does he need to be aware of his situation? Would you rather him talk about his rich CEO uncle 24/7? I don't get people like this and it sounds like borderline bullying to be honest.
But yeah going into work hungover not the best idea maybe 😂😂
The one with the "Disadvantaged" woman saying her coworker only got the job because his uncle runs it, and he said you might get somewhere if you chill out... She sounds like a very aggressive and difficult person. She might not get very far with that attitude and he was giving some inside advice.
Off topic but Connor is hella cute
Saw this in a comment's reply section about "Yet everyone thinks a 14 y/o can't date an 18 y/o." Which is a suspicious analogy if you ask me, but the reason that's weird, and illegal, is because one is too young and undeveloped mentally and even physically to be in a romantic and/or sexual relationship, while one is a whole ass consenting adult who pays taxes.
Ya, there’s people on Reddit who say that adult drag shows are okay for kids. Definitely go with the opposite of the consensus on there
They say thanks because they are happy that people took the time out of their day to give them money....
The nepotism baby hater, comes down to that she hates him because she had to work and he was lucky enough to have that as an option. Which he was right she needs to chill out because being bitter because you weren't luckier is never going to make you happier or advance in life.
That one where the ex dies, that doesn’t sit right.
I’m sure if the husband lied and said that person was just a friend she wouldn’t have gone about it like that. She probably would’ve respected his right to grieve more.
Of course I’m not one to talk about it, maybe I don’t understand but it just seems weird.
Right? I immediately got off vibes when that relationship was described cause thats exactly how one of my exes described his relationship with his 'best friend' (left me for her). That and the fact that he prioritized her wayy over the wife from the very beginning
Pegasus lost some brain cells in this video 💀
My husband is 12 years older than me and I like it. People can do what they want
In the last story that girl should have broken off the relationship with the guy from the beginning because being besties with your ex is extremely weird and honestly a red flag. Especially when he said he cared more about his relationship with his ex than his new relationship like wtf??? That guy sounds like a walking red flag. If my spouse cared more about their ex than me, and got food and movies together regularly I'd dump their ass
As a 22 yr old no lol 42 is old.
There’s worse things than being single
"Some people do a thing. Therefore, it's perfectly acceptable." That isn't an argument. This man is old enough to be his gf's father. On top of that, she doesn't know what to do to take care of a sick kid with a fever, yet he left the child in her care. This woman had every right to be upset about her ex-husband's poor choices and the potential negative effect on her children.
Age gaps this large are not acceptable. There is a reason these relationships don't last (the larger the age gap, the more likelihood of failure). It creates a parent/child dynamic, they are at different stages of life, and it's just plain gross. It's frustrating that guys keep defending dirty old men. They act like women are upset because they can't compete with the younger woman. They aren't competing with the younger woman because no self-respecting woman would want a man that wants to date a child. They are simply disappointed because they expect better from men. This woman likely had a picture of who her ex was, and now he has trampled all over that and shown himself to be sleazy.
There’s no definitive right or wrong answer when it comes to adults and age gaps. (According to my knowledge at this point) It’s not always 100% right or 100% wrong. There are many valid reasons to consider such a huge age gaps a red flag, but it’s also entirely possible it’ll be fine and for some even ideal. Pointing out potential issues and risks in those situations is not a bad thing however. You should be aware and take things into consideration, which from my impression not enough people do. Issue concerning kids, needing help in old age and death are topics that really needs to be discussed with an age gap of 20+ years, specially when one of them is below 25. Which from reading several of these reddit stories people don’t bring up. These are still things for the couple themselves to discuss and consider, if they still choose to continue the relationship then that’s their choice. Commenting on “you’re too old/young and shouldn’t do this” definitely come across as rude when you don’t truly know the situation. Being skeptical is fine, bringing up the importance of truly considering the possible conflicts with age gaps is fine. They still have the right to choose what they want for themselves
But the 1st case, she was not equipped to care for the kids because she didn’t know what to do when the son had a fever.
If she was equipped to take care of that child, she wouldn't of needed to call anyone about a high fever. Don't date people with kids if you don't know how to handle/care for kids.
I don’t understand why she would date him in the first place. If I’m dating someone and they say that I’m less important to them then their ex who is their friend then I don’t see the reason to continue to have a relationship
Also when I first got hired at the company I work for even though my dad works there my boss said and I quote “ when you work here you no longer have a relationship with your father” meaning from 7Am-3:30 PM I’m an employee. Yeah maybe the uncle got him the job but if he’s busting his ass and doing a good job what’s the problem?
Well I mean her husband DID tell her that he’d choose his ex wife over her any day simply because he’s known her longer and is closer to her. To some point he was kind of like flexing his ex on his wife and she reasonably was upset about that. And when she said she was relieved, I at first thought she meant it like she was relieved that the girl will no longer be an issue but after everything else she said, it all just went to hell😭😭
Yeah I had a coworker who only got the job because he was the nephew of the boss. I didn’t judge him. He turned out to be nice, and seemed to know what he was doing at work. Nepotism is annoying, but as long as the person is nice and respectful to you and your coworkers, there’s no reason to pick a fight with them.
The crazy wife was probably the one who killed her.💀
Bro who entered conors room
Second one. This person is filled with envy for the boss' relative. Nepotism is a common organizational bias, but a competent CEO would still put their relatives through their paces...
Not only are you a complete asshole, your not ready for love and marriage if your not able to empathize with your partner loosing a close friend nor the husband who lost his wife. I couldn't imagine morning a close friend and having my wife try to rush me past it AND try to keep me from any funeral/wakes.
Opinions on age gaps often change over time, but mostly they're based on our wildly different personal experiences and examples. I think the wife knows her husband well enough to decide if she ought to warn a girl away or not. The girl seems sensible though, always ask what the sick child's mother thinks is best, I love her because the kids are safe with her, I hope she never leaves.
The nephew if the CEO one:
What she might not realize is that HE isn't the CEO just related, it might've made his way into the position easier but she has no idea how hard he might be on him since he would be representing him as the CEO so she definitely was a dumb a**hole.
Rule is to take your age divide by 2, then add 7. That is the minimum age you should go for. In his case 28 is the minimum