valuing someone based on his looks in normal .modeling agents objectify men and women . if you want more value then just your looks SHUT THE F** AND WORK ON YOURSELF
I love your view of women. Sadly, with the way our culture is, some women truly believe they are just objects to be used and forget how human they are. I personally struggle with this sometimes. I'm thankful that God reminds me that I'm His daughter and He made me beautiful every time I see a guy starring at my body like an object.
It was the same God who created men to be stimulated physically at first. Your physical look is what attracts a man but it takes your personality to keep that man with you...
@tackymoviesaboutlesbianwitches please provide proof that nearly every man alive commits objectification....or are you just pulling that sexist comment out of your ass
You are so right! I can see as an example that when i open Instagram all the girls you see are self prepared for men's view. Can tell by their make up, their dressing, even their face & body's plastic surgeries... It's really awful, sad and confusing for most of people like me who are still going through teenage. I'm already 19 yo tho but these stereotypes on women made me rly depressed about my body and face. It's hella tough not being able to accept your physical image.
Kyle Chermak yes, that's absolutely right. but the society makes it more difficult to get away from that. because such things get thrown on you. i am glad that god looks into our heart and sees that we really just want him to be in it!
This is eye opening and timely. When we think objectification of women we think "as long as I don't use her for sex I'm good." but it goes so much more deeper than that. This week's spiritual project is to constantly remind myself and see everyone as creatures who bear the image of God. Everyone including myself.
+NoName lol, thanks. Every week I give myself something to do to advance my spiritual life. Last week it was reminding myself of God's presence in and around me as much as possible. The week before that it was being as open and brutally honest with God as possible.
Goes perfectly with 6:22 Matthew 6:22-23 “The eye is the lamp of the body. So, if your eye is healthy, your whole body will be full of light, but if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light in you is darkness, how great is the darkness!
+Kris Kross Yeah...He is just about is loving as that abusing father that lives around the corner. He beats them up, if you do not adore him he gives you hell, he is worse than than the worst dictator ever since he wants to make people suffer for an eternity, And like that abusing dad...he can be so kind! And some think morality comes from the bible or kuran. Haha. We created god, allah when we were retarded when it comes to empathy and it shows. The most peaceful societies on Earth are in Europe and mostly northern Europe where 70-85% of the people are non religious,...
Serenoj69 Dude, that's not the truth. Thing is God is the good dad who takes care of you all the time. Satan is the thug that hurts you and tries to give you hell. He knows he can't be God so he'll try and beat you. All the crap in life is not from God, it's from Satan. There are a lot of Christians who'll talk about God without mentioning Satan, which is why it sometimes sounds like sugar-coated BS. God isn't your enemy, Satan is. As for the abusive father, it's a person who has allowed Satan to control them, temporarily or permanently. I can't imagine the pain someone feels being abused like that. Must be horrible. I hope you find peace and most of all, find the Truth.
Serenoj69, I see how peaceful China and North Korea are, they are non religious, but they have the record of kills, I think it was like 100 million or something like that, you should stop disrespecting other religions and saying that “we” created God or Allah, if you don’t believe then mind your own business, but deep down you know it’s the truth, but you were from those who took their desire as their lord.
This is amazing, I pray that this message reaches even further to more and more people and that it would speak life into them. Your messages give me so much hope and joy, you are truly a light in this generation. Thank you!!
Jeff thank you so much for this video. As a Christian and a part of the feminist movement it can sometimes be hard to be both; when often the religious modesty rhetoric is being blasted throughout the Christian community and the disdain toward those Christians within feminism. This is truly a life changing video and something I will refer back to for a long time.
I only recently found god. I was so lost. I always believed christianity = religion then a good friend of mine kindly directed me to your jesus versus religion video. since then I watch 2-3 of your videos daily and you really helped me see. I thank you and your beautiful wife for helping pave my way to the lord. p.s.this video was really good!
And we encourage you to search for Hod on your own as well, through his physical word (the bible) and through prayer. Find a church that you can grow in also. But nothing is more important and your personal search for him :)
+Sierra Woods the real shit is only getting started being a christian is no longer a bed of roses.Go check out christianmomthoughts for evolution,atheists and all that :D
I really respect what you said about how we shouldn't disrespectful to say that our minds aren't the problem bodies are just devious objects. I'm glad God never commodifies us.
Messianic Jews are Jews that believe Jesus is the messiah. He is usually referred to by Jews as Yeshua which is his original Hebrew name. The only difference is that we follow the instructions of the Torah. Not for our salvation, as Yeshua has kinda got that sorted! Haha but we do follow the Torah because Yeshua did and the apostles did all through the new testament. Some people will use certain bible verses to say that what we're doing is wrong, but its' usually out of context or just a little misunderstood really. And on the other side, some messianic Jews think that they are superior to christians because of what they do... That's not true either! Promise! We're all equally saved and redeemed. If you have any questions do ask! I'm really bored on my week off!
debs cooper i mean i didnt knew about that but all i know is if u dont believe that God came to this world in the flesh in the person of Yeshua died and rose from the dead, and if u dont have the Holy spirit in u, u arent saved. If u fulfill these conditions, God bless but if u dont u need to seek to brother
we believe Jesus is the messiah :) that's what messiah means... God coming to Earth to save us :) I believe he died for you and me brother! :D I agree totally, to get to heaven, Jesus is the way!
Thanks Jefferson, for your commitment to Christ! I pray that you never feel defeated or that you aren't making a difference! Because you are! Your a big influence on so many others. To God be the Glory.
Thanks! This was a beautiful, gospel-centered take on this subject that you took in a fresh direction. STRONG AGREE. And sometimes women commodify men as only how much money they make: I think dating culture is broken and women aren't given enough time or ability to build trust with men, so this becomes an unhealthy shortcut to choose a guy but just like exclusively eating fast-food; is not in anyone's best interest. I think the way we've been dating since the 50's should be entirely re-evaluated (since the results have been especially dangerous for women) and bring back match-makers in churches and/or communities. I don't want my dad to choose a guy for me, but neither do I feel safe/confident choosing which strangers to trust without some help getting a background check and setting expectations so we match expectations better at each stage of a building a new connection.
This video is so good, is one of those ones you send to the youth group group chat, one of those that impact your life so much you can't forget about it, you just carry those words around all the time, a complete switch of perspective, God bless you!
Would you ever consider closed captioning your videos? I love watching you but it's kind of hard to follow along without captions. It would open up your channel to the deaf/hard of hearing/attention deficit community and so many more people could hear the word!
+Blurb The captions are auto-generated, so they aren't super accurate. I challenge you to mute the video and try following along based on the captions alone, you'll see what I mean :)
The devil will never let it be easy for us as young Christians. For guys, we're force fed a message that girls are only worth to sleep with and stare at. For girls, you're told to wear less and more revealing clothing to be "worthy" or seen as "attractive". This is a product of our society. We should ALL strive to FLEE sexual immorality.
Job Nyangacha It's not about wearing less. It's about feeling free and dressing the way we want: beautiful. A skirt can be short or long, but both is beautiful. And women look at men too.
Me and my bf been dating for three years but we get into this constant fight. He’s a huge gamer. Spends a lot of his time and money on many different games, especially popular games like overwatch, apex, fortnight, halo, and for honor (his main games) there are a lot of games that I pointed out that don’t have much of nothing to do with sexualization. But when it comes across in a game like overwatch, I have this problem with it. I told him how I felt about it, and was ignored. The fights increased and he’s come to the point where he tells me “they look like that because thats how they are, it’s who they are” Now I’m scared. He honestly thinks that women’s proportions and clothes in games have a purpose. I understand it may be nice and pleasurable to see for a man. But as a women I see nothing but disrespect. Using women’s body to gain audience. Disturbing.
Excellent word, why is it I always attract men who just want sex when all I want is marriage, love and family, I don't dress sexy or come off that I want sex, when I feel a man wants this I shut down to that person. Thank you if you can answer, God bless🙏🏼
+Lena Coogan maybe try to talk to them!! they are human beings they can talk.. Say what you want and that they wont get what they want! This "shut down" is the kind of disrespect that hurts very much!
+TheTpointer your right on the shut down, I'm really bad at it, I've been told I need to be more clear on what I want from a man and just tell him but the sex thing is just a big put off for me?
Lena Coogan okey.. i just wanted to give a feedback on how i interpreted your comment! like jeff said: we should all look in our hearth to see if we promoting this pharao culture! Maybe you see the husband, father and friend in man that you "want" but dont see the whole person! A man can be a husband father and friend but he allways wants sex too! That probably the reason why god wants us to have sex in marrige only. So nobody get exploided. But its probably better if you keep distance from a man who only wants sex but explain why you do this! english is not my first language. i hope you understand what i mean :D
+Lena Coogan it might be that you are afraid of marriage, love and family. With me, I would always attract guys that were already in a relationship. The few guys who weren't already in a relationship I would always run away from. At a certain point, I realized this was because I wanted to know that guys found me attractive but I didn't want the commitment or vulnerability that happened in a relationship. I do eventually want to get married. Something that's helped me is praying to God to help prepare me for my husband and help my husband be prepared for me.
+luvs2playtennis I was with a man for 13 yrs who abused me in every way he could, I loved him so much it almost killed me, I am no longer with him and he tells me that all men want from me is sex, I think I'm hung up on that plus I think I still love him, I know I can't go back but would love to be in love again to someone who respects me for me and not my body etc, thanks for your feedback, I think thru all the hurt I've given up on God in away😥
This is so dope dude. I was literally writing a social issues speech for one of my college classes about how pornography affects our society and was feeling a little uneasy as to whether it was truly something important and worth talking about. This definitely convicted me man, I honestly can't wait to give this speech now.
I appreciate so much your holistic comment on important issues. It shows you have wisdom and discernment, and its a blessing for us viewers. You cover all ends of a subject and have the courage to expose some dogmas within our own christian environments. Even more importantly, you do it with love and a sound mind. Awesome video! Thank you
I LOVE EVERY SINGLE MOMENT OF THIS. You put words to what I've been trying to communicate for years. Thank you. The Lord has totally gifted you with wisdom and the power to communicate it to our culture. It's really incredible.
Thank you so much for this video, and especially for pointing out how sexual objectification leads to rape culture. You are a such an encouragement to me about men and Christianity -- that there are people who recognize these problems and are attempting to put things to right through Christ. Bless you!
I never had a prominent mother figure in my life...and never knew my father... i love God, and i've always been trying to follow Him closely...but sometimes i yearn for someone (especially near my age that i can relate to) to help guide me through things in life... in Jeff, Man....ugh, your videos are so awesome. Thanks for helping me without even knowing it bro... God bless you, you are definetly anointed by The Most High 🙏
Dating has caused me a lot of pain. It's hard Carrying a conversation with a man . And seeing in their eyes they are plotting. They tell you what they think you want to hear and in their hearts it means something different. I believe people need start viewing each other as humans first . And respect the souls within.
Goosebumps listening to this msg! Thank you, I really appreciate this. WOW. I honestly never thought about this topic, until I watched your video. Thank you! God Bless
I am a Sikh with weak english but I don't know how, I understood every single thing in this video. The guy was talking as fast as light in the starting but then I was able to connect to his statements. Maybe because he spoke from heart
Thank you so much for this video! All of this is so true! I was brought up in a more conservative religious background my sister and I struggled with our self image because we thought it was wrong to want to look pretty/look good. I have dealt with the "Modesty Police" that you were mentioning, and they make you feel like you are the worst Christian in the world because you were showing your knee. It is true that moment should not dress in a way that draws attention to her body so that men will see how good she looks, but I have had men at Christian college that objectified me and I was dressed in a super conservative manner. Thank you for your balanced videos that speak the truth in love. :)
This was one of the most inspiring talks Ive ever heard from you. Fantastic. I loved the background of scripture, the articles you researched and the wisdom you shown down on this. I would love to see a follow up video of you highlighting conversations that emerged from this video, I think there will be a lot!!!
Thank you so much for this video, it actually made it a lot easier to understand human minds, and todays society and culture and the way we think and communicate. Normally, I seem to misunderstand what I, myself, wants, and whether it makes sense, and you have made this so much easier.
Wow Jeff, great job on this one. This was something that desperately needed to be said and I'm glad you're bringing awareness to it! We need more talks like this which are real and bring the sin out of darkness :)
thank you for this video! this topic is so hard right now. i see the world falling apart more and more but i see that god is waiting for us in heaven! i often listen to the song "I'll Fly Away" by Attalus where it is "when i die, hallelujah, bye bye. i'll fly away" which always gives me joy for what's to come!
It's 1:30 am in South Africa Jeff it's Tuesday here lol 😊. Great subject, I love these topics, talking on the issues that affect us a society and may dilute our view and thinking
As a Muslim, I agree with a lot of the points you used and find parallels between Christianity and Islam. No, Islam does not abuse or mistreat women. It liberates them from what the over sexual culture expects of them. Thank you for the video and points brother. God bless
Jeff could you or your wife do a video about eating disorder and low self esteem??? I'm really struggling with it. I got to the point I don't even know how to eat like a normal person anymore and it's really getting between my relationship with God! I love Him so much but my mind just think about weight loss and food! =(((
There was stuff here I hadn't thought about before like the wallet example and the ruler to the knee doing the wrong thing - thank you so much for the time and effort you've put in to make this for us, great value shared, thank you :)
I want to thank you for saying this... since I have discussed this with my boyfriend. He watches porn a lot, yet he is less creative in bed than me and I do not watch porn. But he says that he watches it to get inspiration. I think that men are simply (I am dorry for saying this...) lazy. He also admited it, that porn and watching other women out is just the moment when he seeks energy for these women. I told him that he should work on himself and try to at least watch less porn. He told that he is just lazy and do not want to stop it.
Hahahaha that wallet analogy is my FAVOURITE thing that's amazing. "are you sure you didn't just give him your wallet, and now you're embarrassed about it?"
Honest Question Jeff: What about objectification of men in, as you said, porn, advertising and sextual objectification etc? I think there is a huge pressure on men (especially christian men) to meet those standards by women? Dont mean to say you are biased or anything, but i think you are missing out a percentage of vulnerable men who are objectified but not spoken for. Love you vids man, God bless and Cheers from England :)
I think he did when he was talking about how the base of the problem is that our culture has shifted to one that enable people to view others as commodities. Yes men do suffer from some of the same objectification but I think that it's become especially obvious to Jeff since the two most important people in his life at the moment are women, that women suffer from this disproportionately more than men do (although it's quickly getting worse for men as well).
I appreciate your perspective, Crystal, but I think Sam Gilbert was actually talking about a subject we all could support more. In a culture where men objectify women, the men unknowingly are victims of it, too. I put a link for a Ted talk in my original comment that expands on this more. It may even help reduce the objectification of women if we focus on the men who learn it but don't really know what it means. Some men just treat women this way because they think they're supposed to. By providing them with education about other ways to be a man they can also find happier lives. Women, I think, are targeted most often because of the nature of survival. That's why I think we need to focus on them so much, but at the same time men shouldn't be an afterthought. That could just increase the culture in the wrong direction.
What's up Jeff! Huge topic you've just bought up in this video! Loved the way you handle it. Just want you to know that I'm from Brazil and love to watch how you talk about our God and grace and Jesus and all good stuff. May God bless you. Peace!
I live in America, and at the age of 14 I can't walk home from school without men whistling, honking, or trying to "get my number". Some of these guys are in there 20's and up. I told my mom, and she bought me some pepper spray, and just recently a high voltage taser; and I've practiced using it, so the guys that approach me, are gonna get hit. It's crazy that I have to carry these things at 14 so I can feel safe walking home from school.
thank you dude, I needed to be reminded of this, at one point I let this truth and depth of it fade from my fellowship with Jesus. the beauty of this when we practice it, it's just amazing(:
This is so inspiring! And knowledgeable! Ive been watching your videos for a long time and this is my first comment. Great topic! I totally think this is opening my thoughts and making me think! In a good way! thanks for sharing👍
This is an issues very close to my heart, thank you for talking and sharing and opening up the conversation about it, particularly in relation to modest dress etc. I have had conversations with other women about this who just simply believe that the way it is and to move on, I not object and nor is a man.. but creations of God people with a soul who are so much more then physical..
Really love this video Jeff. Men's and women's intrinsic dignity is a beautiful theme in your videos. I like how you show how objectification/dehumanization comes in many forms and happens to both men and women. I love the ending conclusion when you challenges us Christians to create a culture that is influenced by God who values humanity than of the Pharaoh who commodifies others.
PREACH!!! This video is so true, I see this all the time,especially at school. My prayer is that those women wont have to go through that , and that I will never treat a woman like that
I am actually an athiest (former Catholic) but I fricking love you and your way of thinking, you bring up really interesting points and ideas that I really respect.
+Erik Hedberg Karlsson What is so disgusting? Why are you so judgemental of yourself? How about acceptance? I do not objectify women. I love how they look and get aroused by the female beauty and that is (also) with their cloths on. I can fancy many women in my bed far more thanthey fancy me of course ;-) I fail to see any harm in that at all. It does not prevent me for treating every person in this world equally kind, mindfull and empathic. Most people have many layers, in which all things together play a part but it varies per person. And one of it is also physical attraction, loving the opposite or same sex just for how they look. Sometimes also for who they are but sometimes not. And at least to me, that is fine. I am not going to deny my personallity cause some dogma tells me so.
yo. I like how he said what he said in such a quick way. some channels on youtube can say 4 or 5 minutes of content in 10 to 20 minutes and I thought it was cool the way you did it.
I have BDD and studies show that sufferers of this disorder do not see their image in a mirror as a whole (global) but as bits and pieces (local). It literally distorts your image. It causes so much damage to the human soul. Similar to the way woman are viewed in our culture based on the study you mentioned
I think as outsiders we try to justify why rape happens so that we can have peace of mind, sound intelligent, and move on. It takes selflessness to sit and greive with someone who was raped, much like we should treat those who have lost a loved one. I regret telling a best friend that she shouldn't have hung out with certain guys. Really, all the blame falls completely on the rapist.
I'm fighting my porn addiction right now, and it is difficult to win the fight. I want to have a strong relationship with one woman and not a digital screen.
Thank you Jeff for continuing to shed light on this issue. I would like to offer some practical advice for any Christian brothers (and sisters) who struggle with this. Turn to Jesus. Turn to Jesus as your rescuer. Turn to Jesus as your redeemer. Turn to Jesus as your reward. He is worth it all.
This video deals with this topic perfectly. It's so true that there are flip sides to objectification, and that objectification comes from the place of wanting to gain from other people. You've given me lots to think about, thank you.
Thank you Jeff for this, I do feel thought that we need to be mindful as Christian woman of what clothes we wear though Clothes made for woman today (Jeans, leggings, yoga pans, low cut tops, shorts, swimsuits) all reveal the woman's form in a way that draws attention to her so no matter how hard a guy tries to honor woman by not objectifying them, they have to almost look away. This isn't fare to the men, as one who wears skirts and dresses only, it's a honor for me to dress modestly to be mindful for my Christian brothers. It goes deeper though too, It's to honor God also and it changes the woman's mindset when you dress feminine.
when Jefferson startet to criticize women for the way women dress I was very dissappointed. I as a woman can dress as revealing as men do. Just because i have a female body it does not mean that i have to follow different rules. I am just fed up with the pressure, threaths and blame women get to pressure them wearing clothes that cover their "sinful" bodies. it has to stop!
This is one reason so many women are jealous, some of us feel like objects and if we’re not perfect objects we just get thrown away
Really, well, welcome to men's world.
@@McMahonHater bro shut up fr
valuing someone based on his looks in normal .modeling agents objectify men and women . if you want more value then just your looks SHUT THE F** AND WORK ON YOURSELF
This is one of the many reasons men are jealous, some of us feel like Wallets and if we’re not rich enough we just get thrown away
@@wolfstyle8945 Amen
I love your view of women. Sadly, with the way our culture is, some women truly believe they are just objects to be used and forget how human they are. I personally struggle with this sometimes. I'm thankful that God reminds me that I'm His daughter and He made me beautiful every time I see a guy starring at my body like an object.
It was the same God who created men to be stimulated physically at first. Your physical look is what attracts a man but it takes your personality to keep that man with you...
Have you read the Bible?? Lol.
@tackymoviesaboutlesbianwitches please provide proof that nearly every man alive commits objectification....or are you just pulling that sexist comment out of your ass
Jannie Schlüter same thing for girls
You are so right! I can see as an example that when i open Instagram all the girls you see are self prepared for men's view. Can tell by their make up, their dressing, even their face & body's plastic surgeries... It's really awful, sad and confusing for most of people like me who are still going through teenage. I'm already 19 yo tho but these stereotypes on women made me rly depressed about my body and face. It's hella tough not being able to accept your physical image.
I hate how lust saturated our world is right now. It's difficult as a young Christian guy. Thanks for going deeper with this issue Jeff!
+Benjamin Price I have the same problem, and suggestive commercials are not helping.
I can relate man.
yes! my thoughts, too!
Kyle Chermak yes, that's absolutely right. but the society makes it more difficult to get away from that. because such things get thrown on you.
i am glad that god looks into our heart and sees that we really just want him to be in it!
Ugh sex is just advertised everywhere! I hate it! I want to have a pure heart! It's really difficult for women too 😭
This is eye opening and timely. When we think objectification of women we think "as long as I don't use her for sex I'm good." but it goes so much more deeper than that. This week's spiritual project is to constantly remind myself and see everyone as creatures who bear the image of God. Everyone including myself.
+Groud Frank I like that you have spiritual projects! That's cool :)
+NoName lol, thanks. Every week I give myself something to do to advance my spiritual life. Last week it was reminding myself of God's presence in and around me as much as possible. The week before that it was being as open and brutally honest with God as possible.
I think I might work that into my life at some point. That must really help you round yourself. Thanks for sharing :)
"Women's bodies are not an inherent temptation" snaps snaps snaps 👌🏾
oh looks its an sjw...
Marah Madness So aren’t men's.
Every fucking person think only femifeminists hate getting objectified...think again 🙄
Yes they are. You know nothing.
@@Isaac-ji7or ....WHAT ????
this was needed on the internet
funny we definitely need more impossibly untrue cult teachings.
Goes perfectly with 6:22 Matthew 6:22-23 “The eye is the lamp of the body. So, if your eye is healthy, your whole body will be full of light, but if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light in you is darkness, how great is the darkness!
He didn't come to use us, he came to love us.
Great! Thanks so much!
+Kris Kross Yeah...He is just about is loving as that abusing father that lives around the corner. He beats them up, if you do not adore him he gives you hell, he is worse than than the worst dictator ever since he wants to make people suffer for an eternity, And like that abusing dad...he can be so kind! And some think morality comes from the bible or kuran. Haha. We created god, allah when we were retarded when it comes to empathy and it shows. The most peaceful societies on Earth are in Europe and mostly northern Europe where 70-85% of the people are non religious,...
Sounds like there is a lot of pain coming from you. I wish you only the best for the future :)
Serenoj69 Dude, that's not the truth. Thing is God is the good dad who takes care of you all the time. Satan is the thug that hurts you and tries to give you hell. He knows he can't be God so he'll try and beat you. All the crap in life is not from God, it's from Satan. There are a lot of Christians who'll talk about God without mentioning Satan, which is why it sometimes sounds like sugar-coated BS. God isn't your enemy, Satan is.
As for the abusive father, it's a person who has allowed Satan to control them, temporarily or permanently. I can't imagine the pain someone feels being abused like that. Must be horrible.
I hope you find peace and most of all, find the Truth.
Serenoj69, I see how peaceful China and North Korea are, they are non religious, but they have the record of kills, I think it was like 100 million or something like that, you should stop disrespecting other religions and saying that “we” created God or Allah, if you don’t believe then mind your own business, but deep down you know it’s the truth, but you were from those who took their desire as their lord.
This is amazing, I pray that this message reaches even further to more and more people and that it would speak life into them. Your messages give me so much hope and joy, you are truly a light in this generation. Thank you!!
So refreshing to hear a godly and Biblical based perspective on this.
Yeah like a religion that is intrinsically bigoted should be viewed as "refreshing."
@@alexanderhrabar3515 religion is man made. Garbage! Scam! Con!
Why don’t everyone view eachother as souls and not genders? That way it would be easier to treat eachother equally
Christine lemme at dat assss
This was beautiful.
Breeny ur talks r awesome!
As a high school student I find that your words really get through to me and I really want to thank you for what you do. :^)
Jeff thank you so much for this video. As a Christian and a part of the feminist movement it can sometimes be hard to be both; when often the religious modesty rhetoric is being blasted throughout the Christian community and the disdain toward those Christians within feminism. This is truly a life changing video and something I will refer back to for a long time.
+Olivia Hedderly Whats the message that your feminist movement is trying to get across?
+T. Best its mostely no sence arguments
most doesn't end with an e.
You cannot be a godly woman and a feminist at the same time.
@Robert Raghav Read in NLT Bible: Genesis 3:16
I only recently found god. I was so lost. I always believed christianity = religion then a good friend of mine kindly directed me to your jesus versus religion video. since then I watch 2-3 of your videos daily and you really helped me see. I thank you and your beautiful wife for helping pave my way to the lord.
p.s.this video was really good!
And we encourage you to search for Hod on your own as well, through his physical word (the bible) and through prayer. Find a church that you can grow in also. But nothing is more important and your personal search for him :)
amen!
+Sierra Woods Same boat as you!!
welcome to the family!
+Sierra Woods the real shit is only getting started being a christian is no longer a bed of roses.Go check out christianmomthoughts for evolution,atheists and all that :D
I really respect what you said about how we shouldn't disrespectful to say that our minds aren't the problem bodies are just devious objects.
I'm glad God never commodifies us.
I'm a messianic Jew and I agree with this so much! So nice to hear people talking about the Torah beyond just the word 'law'. Well said!
+debs cooper Whats the difference between a messianic jew and a christian?
Messianic Jews are Jews that believe Jesus is the messiah. He is usually referred to by Jews as Yeshua which is his original Hebrew name. The only difference is that we follow the instructions of the Torah. Not for our salvation, as Yeshua has kinda got that sorted! Haha but we do follow the Torah because Yeshua did and the apostles did all through the new testament. Some people will use certain bible verses to say that what we're doing is wrong, but its' usually out of context or just a little misunderstood really. And on the other side, some messianic Jews think that they are superior to christians because of what they do... That's not true either! Promise! We're all equally saved and redeemed. If you have any questions do ask! I'm really bored on my week off!
debs cooper
i mean i didnt knew about that but all i know is if u dont believe that God came to this world in the flesh in the person of Yeshua died and rose from the dead, and if u dont have the Holy spirit in u, u arent saved. If u fulfill these conditions, God bless but if u dont u need to seek to brother
we believe Jesus is the messiah :) that's what messiah means... God coming to Earth to save us :) I believe he died for you and me brother! :D I agree totally, to get to heaven, Jesus is the way!
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Nice great praises to God for that. But do you have the Holy spirit in u?
Thanks Jefferson, for your commitment to Christ! I pray that you never feel defeated or that you aren't making a difference! Because you are! Your a big influence on so many others. To God be the Glory.
Wow. this is so good. thank you for talking about this subject
As a woman you have no idea how sweet and reassuring this video is for me!
Thanks! This was a beautiful, gospel-centered take on this subject that you took in a fresh direction. STRONG AGREE.
And sometimes women commodify men as only how much money they make: I think dating culture is broken and women aren't given enough time or ability to build trust with men, so this becomes an unhealthy shortcut to choose a guy but just like exclusively eating fast-food; is not in anyone's best interest.
I think the way we've been dating since the 50's should be entirely re-evaluated (since the results have been especially dangerous for women) and bring back match-makers in churches and/or communities. I don't want my dad to choose a guy for me, but neither do I feel safe/confident choosing which strangers to trust without some help getting a background check and setting expectations so we match expectations better at each stage of a building a new connection.
THIS IS LITERALLY THE MOST LOGICAL VIDEO I HAVE SEEN
This video is so good, is one of those ones you send to the youth group group chat, one of those that impact your life so much you can't forget about it, you just carry those words around all the time, a complete switch of perspective, God bless you!
Would you ever consider closed captioning your videos? I love watching you but it's kind of hard to follow along without captions. It would open up your channel to the deaf/hard of hearing/attention deficit community and so many more people could hear the word!
good idea!:D
There are captions already.
okey dokey:D
+Blurb The captions are auto-generated, so they aren't super accurate. I challenge you to mute the video and try following along based on the captions alone, you'll see what I mean :)
The devil will never let it be easy for us as young Christians. For guys, we're force fed a message that girls are only worth to sleep with and stare at. For girls, you're told to wear less and more revealing clothing to be "worthy" or seen as "attractive". This is a product of our society. We should ALL strive to FLEE sexual immorality.
Job Nyangacha It's not about wearing less. It's about feeling free and dressing the way we want: beautiful. A skirt can be short or long, but both is beautiful.
And women look at men too.
This is what every man and woman needs to know! Thank you for sharing your wisdom Jefferson! Hello from the other side of the world! ☺😊
Me and my bf been dating for three years but we get into this constant fight. He’s a huge gamer. Spends a lot of his time and money on many different games, especially popular games like overwatch, apex, fortnight, halo, and for honor (his main games) there are a lot of games that I pointed out that don’t have much of nothing to do with sexualization. But when it comes across in a game like overwatch, I have this problem with it. I told him how I felt about it, and was ignored. The fights increased and he’s come to the point where he tells me “they look like that because thats how they are, it’s who they are” Now I’m scared. He honestly thinks that women’s proportions and clothes in games have a purpose. I understand it may be nice and pleasurable to see for a man. But as a women I see nothing but disrespect. Using women’s body to gain audience. Disturbing.
Excellent word, why is it I always attract men who just want sex when all I want is marriage, love and family, I don't dress sexy or come off that I want sex, when I feel a man wants this I shut down to that person. Thank you if you can answer, God bless🙏🏼
+Lena Coogan maybe try to talk to them!! they are human beings they can talk.. Say what you want and that they wont get what they want!
This "shut down" is the kind of disrespect that hurts very much!
+TheTpointer your right on the shut down, I'm really bad at it, I've been told I need to be more clear on what I want from a man and just tell him but the sex thing is just a big put off for me?
Lena Coogan okey.. i just wanted to give a feedback on how i interpreted your comment! like jeff said: we should all look in our hearth to see if we promoting this pharao culture!
Maybe you see the husband, father and friend in man that you "want" but dont see the whole person! A man can be a husband father and friend but he allways wants sex too!
That probably the reason why god wants us to have sex in marrige only. So nobody get exploided.
But its probably better if you keep distance from a man who only wants sex but explain why you do this!
english is not my first language. i hope you understand what i mean :D
+Lena Coogan it might be that you are afraid of marriage, love and family. With me, I would always attract guys that were already in a relationship. The few guys who weren't already in a relationship I would always run away from. At a certain point, I realized this was because I wanted to know that guys found me attractive but I didn't want the commitment or vulnerability that happened in a relationship. I do eventually want to get married. Something that's helped me is praying to God to help prepare me for my husband and help my husband be prepared for me.
+luvs2playtennis I was with a man for 13 yrs who abused me in every way he could, I loved him so much it almost killed me, I am no longer with him and he tells me that all men want from me is sex, I think I'm hung up on that plus I think I still love him, I know I can't go back but would love to be in love again to someone who respects me for me and not my body etc, thanks for your feedback, I think thru all the hurt I've given up on God in away😥
I seriously love how fast you talk. I feel accomplished for keeping up haha!! So awesoms you posted this, it's been on my heart lately!!
This is so dope dude. I was literally writing a social issues speech for one of my college classes about how pornography affects our society and was feeling a little uneasy as to whether it was truly something important and worth talking about. This definitely convicted me man, I honestly can't wait to give this speech now.
I appreciate so much your holistic comment on important issues. It shows you have wisdom and discernment, and its a blessing for us viewers. You cover all ends of a subject and have the courage to expose some dogmas within our own christian environments. Even more importantly, you do it with love and a sound mind. Awesome video! Thank you
I LOVE EVERY SINGLE MOMENT OF THIS. You put words to what I've been trying to communicate for years. Thank you. The Lord has totally gifted you with wisdom and the power to communicate it to our culture. It's really incredible.
Thank you so much for this video, and especially for pointing out how sexual objectification leads to rape culture. You are a such an encouragement to me about men and Christianity -- that there are people who recognize these problems and are attempting to put things to right through Christ. Bless you!
Don't women also play role in this objectification? Or only the Men are at fault always?
I never had a prominent mother figure in my life...and never knew my father...
i love God, and i've always been trying to follow Him closely...but sometimes i yearn for someone (especially near my age that i can relate to) to help guide me through things in life...
in Jeff, Man....ugh, your videos are so awesome.
Thanks for helping me without even knowing it bro...
God bless you, you are definetly anointed by The Most High 🙏
Dating has caused me a lot of pain. It's hard Carrying a conversation with a man . And seeing in their eyes they are plotting. They tell you what they think you want to hear and in their hearts it means something different.
I believe people need start viewing each other as humans first . And respect the souls within.
123gigiroxx yessss
Goosebumps listening to this msg! Thank you, I really appreciate this. WOW.
I honestly never thought about this topic, until I watched your video. Thank you! God Bless
I am a Sikh with weak english but I don't know how, I understood every single thing in this video. The guy was talking as fast as light in the starting but then I was able to connect to his statements. Maybe because he spoke from heart
Thats great God bless you :)
Thank you so much for this video! All of this is so true! I was brought up in a more conservative religious background my sister and I struggled with our self image because we thought it was wrong to want to look pretty/look good. I have dealt with the "Modesty Police" that you were mentioning, and they make you feel like you are the worst Christian in the world because you were showing your knee. It is true that moment should not dress in a way that draws attention to her body so that men will see how good she looks, but I have had men at Christian college that objectified me and I was dressed in a super conservative manner. Thank you for your balanced videos that speak the truth in love. :)
Awesome video Jefferson! The best talk that I've heard you give yet!
This was one of the most inspiring talks Ive ever heard from you. Fantastic. I loved the background of scripture, the articles you researched and the wisdom you shown down on this. I would love to see a follow up video of you highlighting conversations that emerged from this video, I think there will be a lot!!!
Wow! Thank you! Your words just breathed life in to me! I can't say how much I needed it now and how alive I feel now. Thank you! :)
Thank you so much for this video, it actually made it a lot easier to understand human minds, and todays society and culture and the way we think and communicate. Normally, I seem to misunderstand what I, myself, wants, and whether it makes sense, and you have made this so much easier.
Wow Jeff, great job on this one. This was something that desperately needed to be said and I'm glad you're bringing awareness to it! We need more talks like this which are real and bring the sin out of darkness :)
thank you for this video! this topic is so hard right now. i see the world falling apart more and more but i see that god is waiting for us in heaven!
i often listen to the song "I'll Fly Away" by Attalus where it is "when i die, hallelujah, bye bye. i'll fly away" which always gives me joy for what's to come!
I love Monday messages! Thanks Jeff :)
It's 1:30 am in South Africa Jeff it's Tuesday here lol 😊. Great subject, I love these topics, talking on the issues that affect us a society and may dilute our view and thinking
This was the best Monday message I've seen yet! Thanks Jeff!
I just finished the video, and I wanted to add that I feel love for you.
As a Muslim, I agree with a lot of the points you used and find parallels between Christianity and Islam. No, Islam does not abuse or mistreat women. It liberates them from what the over sexual culture expects of them. Thank you for the video and points brother. God bless
This is my new favorite video on the internet.
Fantastic message. Much needed.
Wow that's nice that you talked about this. Puts things in perspective and we should all learn this. Amen!
Jeff could you or your wife do a video about eating disorder and low self esteem??? I'm really struggling with it. I got to the point I don't even know how to eat like a normal person anymore and it's really getting between my relationship with God! I love Him so much but my mind just think about weight loss and food! =(((
Finally!!! Yes I've been waiting all day!
Seriously cheering during this whole video! THANK YOU!
Thank you so much for this video, Jeff! So full of love, wisdom and truth. God bless you!!
There was stuff here I hadn't thought about before like the wallet example and the ruler to the knee doing the wrong thing - thank you so much for the time and effort you've put in to make this for us, great value shared, thank you :)
I want to thank you for saying this... since I have discussed this with my boyfriend. He watches porn a lot, yet he is less creative in bed than me and I do not watch porn. But he says that he watches it to get inspiration. I think that men are simply (I am dorry for saying this...) lazy. He also admited it, that porn and watching other women out is just the moment when he seeks energy for these women. I told him that he should work on himself and try to at least watch less porn. He told that he is just lazy and do not want to stop it.
One year on, I hope you know you don’t deserve a lazy porn addicted boyfriend. I hope one day soon you have a husband who cherishes you
Tell bye bye.
Hahahaha that wallet analogy is my FAVOURITE thing that's amazing. "are you sure you didn't just give him your wallet, and now you're embarrassed about it?"
Honest Question Jeff: What about objectification of men in, as you said, porn, advertising and sextual objectification etc? I think there is a huge pressure on men (especially christian men) to meet those standards by women? Dont mean to say you are biased or anything, but i think you are missing out a percentage of vulnerable men who are objectified but not spoken for. Love you vids man, God bless and Cheers from England :)
I think he did when he was talking about how the base of the problem is that our culture has shifted to one that enable people to view others as commodities. Yes men do suffer from some of the same objectification but I think that it's become especially obvious to Jeff since the two most important people in his life at the moment are women, that women suffer from this disproportionately more than men do (although it's quickly getting worse for men as well).
I appreciate your perspective, Crystal, but I think Sam Gilbert was actually talking about a subject we all could support more. In a culture where men objectify women, the men unknowingly are victims of it, too. I put a link for a Ted talk in my original comment that expands on this more. It may even help reduce the objectification of women if we focus on the men who learn it but don't really know what it means. Some men just treat women this way because they think they're supposed to. By providing them with education about other ways to be a man they can also find happier lives. Women, I think, are targeted most often because of the nature of survival. That's why I think we need to focus on them so much, but at the same time men shouldn't be an afterthought. That could just increase the culture in the wrong direction.
What's up Jeff! Huge topic you've just bought up in this video! Loved the way you handle it. Just want you to know that I'm from Brazil and love to watch how you talk about our God and grace and Jesus and all good stuff. May God bless you. Peace!
I wish kids at my high school had this mentality. Love this message.
Chloe Woods I’d say the same but I’m not even in high school yet
But I wish everyone had this mentality
So appreciate the time and effort put into this video. I learned so much!
Thank you for making this video. I know it's a tough topic but I'm really impressed with how you addressed "both sides of the coin." Thanks!
I live in America, and at the age of 14 I can't walk home from school without men whistling, honking, or trying to "get my number". Some of these guys are in there 20's and up. I told my mom, and she bought me some pepper spray, and just recently a high voltage taser; and I've practiced using it, so the guys that approach me, are gonna get hit. It's crazy that I have to carry these things at 14 so I can feel safe walking home from school.
thank you dude, I needed to be reminded of this, at one point I let this truth and depth of it fade from my fellowship with Jesus. the beauty of this when we practice it, it's just amazing(:
This is so inspiring! And knowledgeable! Ive been watching your videos for a long time and this is my first comment. Great topic! I totally think this is opening my thoughts and making me think! In a good way! thanks for sharing👍
Thank you Jeff. We need this for the church!!
Amen! Thanks Jeff and Alyssa for your work in the kingdom of God! A lot of blessings
This is an issues very close to my heart, thank you for talking and sharing and opening up the conversation about it, particularly in relation to modest dress etc. I have had conversations with other women about this who just simply believe that the way it is and to move on, I not object and nor is a man.. but creations of God people with a soul who are so much more then physical..
Wow, this is spot on.
Really love this video Jeff. Men's and women's intrinsic dignity is a beautiful theme in your videos. I like how you show how objectification/dehumanization comes in many forms and happens to both men and women. I love the ending conclusion when you challenges us Christians to create a culture that is influenced by God who values humanity than of the Pharaoh who commodifies others.
PREACH!!! This video is so true, I see this all the time,especially at school. My prayer is that those women wont have to go through that , and that I will never treat a woman like that
Excellent video! I hadn't thought about the ways in which Pharaoh was the antithesis of Jehovah before. Great teaching! Thanks for posting it, Jeff.
I am actually an athiest (former Catholic) but I fricking love you and your way of thinking, you bring up really interesting points and ideas that I really respect.
YASSS Jeff !! 🙌🏽 thanks so much for this!
Man, fantastic, im a christian brazilian and vlogger to.
I knew your channel now and I subscriber here.
Congratulations.
"Commodification of image-bearers" wow this was really profound; thank you for the video (:
Thank you Jefferson. Your videos have really touched my soul and are opening my heart back up to God.
I love this video. So much to meditate about.
BLESS YOU brother for taking your time to talk about this topic!
I really want to be free from my old mindset. It disgusts me..
+Erik Hedberg Karlsson What is so disgusting? Why are you so judgemental of yourself? How about acceptance? I do not objectify women. I love how they look and get aroused by the female beauty and that is (also) with their cloths on. I can fancy many women in my bed far more thanthey fancy me of course ;-) I fail to see any harm in that at all. It does not prevent me for treating every person in this world equally kind, mindfull and empathic. Most people have many layers, in which all things together play a part but it varies per person. And one of it is also physical attraction, loving the opposite or same sex just for how they look. Sometimes also for who they are but sometimes not. And at least to me, that is fine. I am not going to deny my personallity cause some dogma tells me so.
thanks so much for sharing Jeff, really needed to hear this!
So much intense wisdom in 8min! Had to rewind twice to understand! Ouf!
yo. I like how he said what he said in such a quick way. some channels on youtube can say 4 or 5 minutes of content in 10 to 20 minutes and I thought it was cool the way you did it.
I have BDD and studies show that sufferers of this disorder do not see their image in a mirror as a whole (global) but as bits and pieces (local). It literally distorts your image. It causes so much damage to the human soul. Similar to the way woman are viewed in our culture based on the study you mentioned
It's so refreshing to hear a man say this. Thank you for posting.
A want to be a sex partner, not a sex object.
I think as outsiders we try to justify why rape happens so that we can have peace of mind, sound intelligent, and move on. It takes selflessness to sit and greive with someone who was raped, much like we should treat those who have lost a loved one. I regret telling a best friend that she shouldn't have hung out with certain guys. Really, all the blame falls completely on the rapist.
Jeff you nailed as usual, and the comparison between God and Pharaoh that is such a revelation! 👊🙌
I'm fighting my porn addiction right now, and it is difficult to win the fight. I want to have a strong relationship with one woman and not a digital screen.
When men are getting objectified, no ones getting butthurt. But when its a woman, its just illegal smh
5:39 nope. What you do really does define you
The commodification of people 💯so true that embodies the whole Fall
This is so awesome! You're so knowledgeable! I do miss the vlogs though!
Thank you Jeff for continuing to shed light on this issue. I would like to offer some practical advice for any Christian brothers (and sisters) who struggle with this. Turn to Jesus. Turn to Jesus as your rescuer. Turn to Jesus as your redeemer. Turn to Jesus as your reward. He is worth it all.
ITS MY B-DAY and this just pleased me today :)
As a Muslim woman i totally agree with u.
This video deals with this topic perfectly. It's so true that there are flip sides to objectification, and that objectification comes from the place of wanting to gain from other people. You've given me lots to think about, thank you.
Thank you Jeff for this, I do feel thought that we need to be mindful as Christian woman of what clothes we wear though Clothes made for woman today (Jeans, leggings, yoga pans, low cut tops, shorts, swimsuits) all reveal the woman's form in a way that draws attention to her so no matter how hard a guy tries to honor woman by not objectifying them, they have to almost look away. This isn't fare to the men, as one who wears skirts and dresses only, it's a honor for me to dress modestly to be mindful for my Christian brothers. It goes deeper though too, It's to honor God also and it changes the woman's mindset when you dress feminine.
I needed to hear this. This is fantastic.
when Jefferson startet to criticize women for the way women dress I was very dissappointed. I as a woman can dress as revealing as men do. Just because i have a female body it does not mean that i have to follow different rules. I am just fed up with the pressure, threaths and blame women get to pressure them wearing clothes that cover their "sinful" bodies. it has to stop!